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over. Text “I love your laugh” to a friend.
Collaborate—it’s another way to play.
Experiment, even if it blows up in your face.
Smile, it’s a renewable resource. Cover copy by Nikki Hardin, art by Julia Breckenreid
“Forget love—I’d rather fall in chocolate!” attributed to Sandra J. Dykes
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from the tailgate... On Erin: Emma Graham Designs Ashley skirt $98, Black Nikibiki tank $44, Jack Rogers Black Slim Flat $198, Gold and Black beaded hoop earrings $40 On Penny: Elliott Lauren Charcoal Sweater $175, Citizens of Humanity straight leg jean $158, Tolani printed scarf $78, Gentle Souls Joyous in Antique Pewter $195 On Melissa: Tulle Cropped Jacket in Emberglow $68,Tolani Printed Tunic $128, Citizens of Humanity Ava straight leg jean $168, Corso Como Quest Leather Boot $279, Gold plated hoop earrings $30 On Jaclyn: 525 America Black Cashmere Sweater $218, Citizens of Humanity Avedon jeggings in Dark Ivy $165, Corso Como Rhonda Black Leather Riding Boot $198, Red Cashmere Pashmina $38, Maslo Designs Gold Rake earrings $58 (from left to right)
...to cocktails On Jaclyn: Trina Turk River Dress in Ruby $218, Kate Spade Kathy Black ruffle bootie $335, Maslo Designs Gold and Black drop earrings $48 On Erin: Trina Turk Coda Dress $298, Jack Rogers Black Slim Flats $198, Gold and Pearl filigree earrings $38, Dark Blue envelope clutch in Pewter $45 On Penny: Kay Unger Charcoal & Black Sheath Dress $176, Kate Spade Bloom Eggplant Suede Pumps $315, Kissaka Black Crystal and Pearl stranded necklace $55, Black Crystal drop earring $35, Deep Blue Black envelope clutch $45 On Melissa: Tibi Genevieve Silk Chiffon Draped Dress $348, Pour La Victoire Irina Grey Patent Pumps $245, Red and Gold filigree earrings $38 (from left to right)
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Join Dr. Hahm and the Hot Pink Hotties! susan g. komen race for the cure saturday • october 16 • 2010 daniel island, sc For more information, log onto
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Thank You, Vincent Sheheen Candidate for Governor of South Carolina
Photo by Jack Alterman
For Celebrating 90 Years of Women’s Voting Rights*
Shown with Senator Vincent and Amy Sheheen are some of the nearly 300 nonpartisan, Charleston women who celebrated the 90th anniversary of the ratification of the 19th Amendment in early September. Please join us in supporting Vincent Sheheen, the only gubernatorial candidate who has pledged to appoint qualified women to state boards and commissions. **
SPECIAL THANKS TO THE 90 WOMEN FOR 90 YEARS HOST COMMITTEE More than 110 Percent Strong Joan Hitt Algar Jennet Robinson Alterman Marguerite Archie-Hudson Pearl Ascue Linda Bakker Nella G. Barkley Laura Dukes Beck Gloria Murray Bell Margaret P. Blackmer Nancy Bloodgood Suzan Boyd Gwendolyn Brown Tamara Brown-Boone Barbara Burgess Alys Campaigne
Kay Kittrell Chitty Elizabeth Colbert-Busch Lica Colwell Norma Davis Elise Davis-McFarland Laura Deaton Sallie M. Duell Gerry Dukes Barbara Kelley Duncan Susan K. Dunn Nathalie Dupree Mollie Curtis Fair Thuane B. Fielding Carol H. Fishman
Lynne E. Ford Julia Forster Joan Warshauer Fox Diane Fox Dorothy Benton Frank Barbara Fry Suzanne Galloway F. Renee Gaters Laura Gates Vanessa White Goodwin Sharon Graci Miriam C. Green Toya Green Leah Greenberg Jamee Haley
Nikki Hardin Dorothy G. Harrison Shirley Hendrix Amanda Hollinger Stephanie Hunt Andresa Jackson Cathy Jenrette Beth Kerrigan Linda L. Lader Mattese Lecque Emily Wade Legare Mary Legare Jan P. Lipov Tish Lynn
* African-American women were made to wait an additional 15 years for this right.
Catherine Malloy Catherine McCullough Gwen A. McCurdy Madeleine McGee Georgette C. McKenzie Rhetta A. Mendelsohn Alicia Mendicino Mary Alice Monroe Valerie B. Morris Kate Nevin Catherine O’Brien Paula Orr Noele Pace Anne Darby Parker Susan Pearlstine
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**South Carolina ranks a dismal 50th in the nation in number of women holding elected office.
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about skirt! Publisher Nikki Hardin publisher@skirt.com
features Hey Lady!
Art Director Caitilin McPhillips caitilin.mcphillips@skirt.com
Amy C. Balfour ......................................................................................34
Editor/Charleston Margaret Pilarski margaret.pilarski@skirt.com
The Car Cart
Advertising Staff Catherine Lambert cat.lambert@skirt.com Julie Perretta-McCarthy julie.perretta@skirt.com
Robyn Passante .....................................................................................40
Pro Kiters Jami Bonyun .............................................................................................48
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The Cat Lady Bree Barton ...........................................................................................62
Dating for Dummies Jen Rognerud ..........................................................................................72
Eat, Pay, Leave Stacy Appel ............................................................................................80
F-Word: “Have We Forgotten the Ladies?” Jennet Robinson Alterman .............................................................82
ineveryissue Letters...........................................................................................................26 He’s So Original......................................................................................36 Calendar......................................................................................................43 She Said, He Said....................................................................................44 Skirt of the Month................................................................................51
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O What’s C T Happening O B E R CELEBRATING 20 YEARS OF HELPING WOMEN! 4-WEEK EMPOWERMENT GROUPS
WOMEN WRITERS FORUM
Flash Fiction
The Book in You
Hone your writing skills through short, short fiction.
How to decide the right genre for the story that’s in you!
Facilitated by Lisa Chewning, Write-It Right
Signe Pike, Penguin USA Editor and Author, Faery Tale
Saturdays, October 2 - 30 10:00am–Noon
Saturday, October 9 10:00am–12:00 Noon
Registration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members
Managing Your Life by Managing Your $
Registration required: $25 C4W Members; $50 Non-members
Uncover self-sabotaging money habits. Learn new tools & take control!
YOU CAN DO IT! SERIES
Facilitated by Diane Blackwelder, CFP, Charleston Financial Advisors
I Love Chocolate: Truffle Making
Mondays, October 4-25 6:00pm–8:00pm
Registration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members
Learn the basic ganache recipe for truffles and other treats. Take home samples!
Lauren Mitterer, WildFlour Pastry
Separation and Divorce
Thursday, October 21 6:00pm–8:00pm
Facilitated by Elise Richard, LPC, CACII, Ashley Therapy Associates
Location: WildFlour Pastry, 73 Spring St, Downtown Charleston
Exchange ideas and practice new solutions. Find comfort without criticism.
Wednesdays, October 6-27 5:30pm–7:30pm
Registration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members
ENTREPRENEURIAL WOMAN SERIES
Registration required: $20 C4W Members; $40 Non-members
Business Sponsors: Care for Life, Eldercare Experts, Mary Peters Financial Management Group, Danna Helms, Financial Advisor
T I C K E T S G O I N G FA S T !
“We Can Do It!”
Cause Marketing
You’ll be talking about this party all weekend!
How to develop successful revenue-generating partnerships among non-profits & businesses. Examples given.
Founders Hall, Charlestowne Landing in West Ashley
6pm to 9pm $75 C4W members before Oct 5
Lee Deas, Obviouslee Marketing
$100 Non-members and after Oct 5 To order tickets, go to www.c4women.org
Tuesday, October 12 6:00pm–8:00pm
Registration required: $20 C4W Members; $40 Non-members Business Sponsors: SunTrust Media Sponsor: Charleston Regional Business Journal
SUMMERVILLE SERIES Fundamentals of Room Design
Learn the basics & bring your questions. Free consultations after program.
BROWN BAG LUNCH SERIES Newcomers to Charleston Get the inside scoop on what groups and activities to get involved with.
Jennifer Buddin, The Little Black Book for every busy woman Allyson Bird, The Post & Courier Thursday, October 14 at Noon • FREE
Working from Home
Adrian Sims & Ivie Parker, Parker-Sims Interiors Sandra Gaylord, Gaylord Design Wednesday, October 27 Program 6:00pm to 7:30pm Refreshments & networking 5:30pm –6:00pm Registration required: $20 Location & Partner: Greater Summerville Chamber of Commerce & Visitor Center Business Sponsor: AllCare Living Services Food & Beverage Sponsor: Dish & Design Catering and Events
Hear how these business women make their home offices really work!
Katie Kern, CircaPR Amanda Moreno Duke, Cutie Pa Tutu Thursday, October 21 at Noon • FREE
JOB COUNSELING Power Resume Workshop
Turn your resume into a powerful marketing tool that really sells you! Jane Perdue, CEO, Braithewaite Group
Title Sponsor: Merrill Lynch Mary Helen Condon Moore, CFM & Lynn Anne Gillen, CIMA Business Sponsor: Belk Department Store Media Sponsor: Little Black Book for every busy woman
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ALLCARE ALL A CARE A LIVING LI IVING SERVICES, SERVI ER RVIICES, Inc. Inc.
Unless noted, all events are held at 129 Cannon St. (between Ashley Ave. & President St.) For daytime parking, one hour street parking is available or consult our website for close-by parking garages. Parking is free nights and weekends at 30 Bee St. To phone us, call (843) 763-7333.
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being influenced by women; 55% of spending on consumer electronics coming from women; and the fact that 64% of women plan to use the Internet to find sales and compare prices. Women love the process of buying as much—if not more—than the transaction itself. And that leads me to my secret source for marketing to women: skirt! Magazine. skirt! is the brainchild of Nikki Hardin, and she has created editions in several markets. It’s also available online at skirt.com. September’s cover quote says it all: “The score never interested me, only the game.” – Mae West
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Join us for a fun-filled weekend. live music, children’s activities, an around the world party, and more.
Friday, October 8th
6:00 to 9:00 p.m. Join us for a free live concert by Plane Jane. Bring a picnic. The best-dressed picnic wins a Freshfields gift certificate.
Saturday, October 9th
10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. Farmer’s Market, children’s activities, art demonstrations, live music. 5:00 to 8:00 p.m. Participating stores will host an Around the World Party. Enjoy snacks and beverages from countries around the world and shop your favorites stores to receive special gifts, promotions, and sales.
Sunday, October 10th
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That we all know who Snooki is. I’m particularly sad that knowledge is now in my brain. Ashton Kutcher playing Ashton Kutcher being cool in the Nikon ads. The fact that anyone would use 60 minutes of their allotted lifespan to watch Bristol Palin on Dancing with the Stars. Wedding parties still dancing down the aisle long after the original viral video. Are they getting married or auditioning for Glee? That BP thinks viewers believe their concerned-citizen TV ads. The ubiquitous lardon. A sophisticated name for pork chunks in your salad. Etsy crafts that feature creature faces that seem to say “I’m part squirrel, part girl.” Whoever started this should have their felt taken away. And when you’re through venting, you suddenly feel much, much better. Almost smiley-faced, in fact.
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...sometimes a Southern gal has to work things out for herself.
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Hey Lady!
As a travel writer, I have several phrases I never want uttered in my presence: “About the bed bugs...” and “We seem to be losing altitude...” spring to mind. But there’s no clearer indication that my day is about to be ruined than hearing “Hey lady!” yelled from afar. Like the glimpse of an iceberg on a cold April night, “Hey lady!” is a simple but ominous warning, one that sends an immediate chill to the depths of my soul. Or it would, if not for the fact that I’m always momentarily confused, never immediately aware that I am, in fact, the “lady” in question. Why the fear? Because “Hey lady!” often precedes a horrible announcement: “Hey lady! Your dress is tucked into your underwear!” or “Hey lady! You know you just drove over a kitten!” Discretion prevents further elaboration. Although, most of the time “Hey lady!” means someone is gearing up for a sales pitch. And whether it’s a finger puppet in Nassau or spiced turkey jerky in Temecula, I can assure you, I never want it. I do not want it on a plane, I do not want it on a train. I do not want it in my purse, don’t ask again, I might just curse. The problem is that I’m incapable of ignoring the person yelling “Hey lady!”—I’ll always approach, like a dog sniffing a porcupine. A child reaching for a hot burner. John McCain sitting down with the ladies of the The View. Curious, optimistic, stupid. I don’t want the turkey jerky, but here I come. My excuse? The last gasping throes of manners and civility in a world that no longer cares. Raised in Virginia, I’m a master of the Southern mode of communication. If someone tries to sell a Southern woman something she doesn’t want, there’s a procedure for polite refusal based on generations of passive-aggressive behavior. Cliché, yes. But a cliché implicitly understood by all parties. For 200 years, the world has misunderstood Southern ways. I will now explain in four paragraphs how we think, using a typical scenario at the Virginia Junior League Arts & Crafts Fair: Amy wanders the booths. She pauses, mesmerized by an unusual purse. The Pursemaker smiles, “Each one’s made of 15 MoonPie wrappers. Amy takes a closer look, concluding that if this was the last handbag on Earth, she would henceforth carry her money in her shoe. “Adorable! How’d you come up with that?” “Cute, right? It just came to me, looking at all the wrappers sitting there in the trash. And then, voilà!” Amy smiles, “Voilà! But you know what? My niece made me one out of Frito bags just last week, bless her heart, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by buying one so similar. But I love your stuff. You have a card?” Can you see the mastery of this exchange? Pursemaker understands her goods have been refused, but there are no hurt feelings because I have complimented said purse, blamed an absent 10-year-old and expressed future interest. Everyone feels good about herself. Toasts all around. And I can assure you, she never hollered, “Hey lady!” I have found on my travels, however, that most people do not understand this delicate art of refusal. Outside the perimeters of the Mason-Dixon, a polite expression of admiration before a refusal is perceived to be actual interest, which results in a harder sell. Recent efforts to toughen up have failed. While researching a guidebook in Los Angeles, foraddress. example, I spent a morning checking out restaurants on gritty Just need to drop in my Hollywood Boulevard. On the sidewalk, a wild-haired ruffian approached. He The Shops of Mount Pleasant zeroed in, targeting 320 West Coleman Blvd Unitme A with a pointed “Hey lady!” I stopped, deciding it was time to take charge of my life. No more passiveMount Pleasant, SC 29464 aggressive waffling. I looked him in the eye and proclaimed: “I don’t have any!” 843-216-1911 Any what, I cannot tell you. Money? Breath mints? Common sense? I paused. The ruffian paused. The world stopped on its axis. And then the ruffian realized he was offended. He snapped back: “I ain’t even asked you for nuthin’ yet!” How true. My apologies. Here’s a dollar. Since social interaction is an inevitable part of my job, I’ve decided to try a new approach. One that I hope will minimize frustration for all involved. It came to me recently as I trudged toward a fish market on a distant tropical isle, just moments after “Hey lady! You wanna be my girlfriend?” I paused. His audacity was compelling. Forget manners. Forget propriety. Why not say yes? I could live my life by the tenets of the improv handbook where the first rule is: “Never deny anyone’s offer.” Say yes. Keep the show flowing. Carpe diem y’all! So that’s my plan. In the future, if a guy on the side of the road yells, “Hey lady!” then asks me to be his girlfriend, instead of blurting a flustered no, I’ll just say yes. After a few seconds of celebration, I’ll then ask him how I look in my jeans. I’ve kept the show going and upped the ante. Depending on his answer, I’ll counter or simply walk away. And yes, I realize that this strategy is known worldwide as “negotiation,” but sometimes a Southern gal has to work things out for herself.
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...I’m absolutely sure this godforsaken thing was not designed by a mother, or anyone with kids, or anyone who shops for more than one day’s worth of food.
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efore I had kids, I scoffed at any mother I saw wheeling around one of those ridiculously large car-shaped grocery carts. She always looked frazzled with a vague sense of forced oblivion, as though since she couldn’t see her children at the moment, then she didn’t have to mind them. (She sure could hear them, though; there’s something about being in those plastic cages that makes kids scream like banshees.) Now that I’m a work-from-home mom with a two-year-old and a two-month-old whose job it is to get the groceries each week, I am the frazzled one pushing the car cart. A typical grocery store visit for us goes something like this: Entrance: The baby sleeps blissfully in his car seat perched on the back of the cart while I manage to get a wiggly toddler through a plastic window and belted in against his will. Then I realize there’s toddler goo all over the horn and crumbs on the seat. The conveniently placed canister of sanitized wipes near the doorway is empty. Produce: It’s impossible to keep the car cart out of everyone’s way as I bag my fruit. So I plod through produce like I’m lost, backtracking and apologizing as I go. That’s when I see a kindred spirit—another mom huffing behind one of these stupid red carts. She’s got two kids, both in the “car,” and they’re arguing. I see my future, and I don’t like it. Aisle 2: Every time I stop the cart, my two-year-old sticks his head out the side and asks if he can walk now. This will continue for the next nine aisles. Every single time I stop the cart. Aisle 5: I’m pushing the cart slowly, looking for the needle-in-a-haystack kind of bread my husband likes when I feel a thump. I’ve knocked over an entire display stand of individually wrapped Hostess cupcakes. The stand seems like it’s 10 feet away from where I’m standing but then again, so is the front of my cart. A nice woman stoops to help pick them all up. For the next 15 aisles I will pat myself on the back—and sigh with remorse—for not putting any cupcakes in my cart. Aisle 11: My son stops asking if he can walk and instead tries to escape. He manages to get his head, shoulders and chest out the side window despite being buckled in. I’m tempted to let his determined little noggin “tap” the cereal boxes on the bottom shelf as we pass. The image makes me giggle.
Aisle 12: I remember the taco seasoning but forget the refried beans. I cannot turn around in the aisle, especially with people behind me, so I have to cruise up Aisle 13 to return to Aisle 12. Aisle 12 redux: This thing has more blind spots than a semi. I almost bump into an old lady with a mini-cart. As I swerve to avoid her, the stack of coupons sitting on the baby’s legs flutters to the floor. I won’t realize I didn’t find them all until I’m checking out. Aisle 14: Another run-in with the same old lady, only this time I hit her cart. Oops. Quick, boys, look cute. Aisle 15: My toddler has begun chanting. “Mama, mama, mama, mama, mama, mama...” At first I try to answer him, but soon realize he is not expecting an answer. This is some type of song. Or rhetorical statement. Or form of torture. Meat counter: At this point I’m absolutely sure this godforsaken thing was not designed by a mother, or anyone with kids, or anyone who shops for more than one day’s worth of food. The engineers shrank the size of the basket to compensate for the size of the car attached to it. This makes very little sense since the people who use these carts have more than one mouth to feed. My basket is full and I’ve still got six aisles to go! I try to perch my stack of fresh meat packages on top of the car. Five seconds later, they fall off. Aisle 19: The woman with the car cart and bickering siblings is at the other end of the aisle. As we approach one another I give her the “Isn’t this a pain in the butt?” eye roll-slash-smile and she gives me the “Oh God, I hear ya sister” grin and I answer with an “I used to vow I’d never push one of these friggin’ things” face and she nods with an “I wish they gave out samples of wine here” look that makes me want to hug her. Then we heave our carts in opposite directions, but mine feels a little lighter. There is strength in numbers. Aisle 20: There’s a giant delivery cart filled with boxes of eggs taking up half the aisle. It’s in the way of the yogurt I need to get, and I begin to huff at the stock boy before realizing that my car cart is actually slightly bigger. And the way I feel about him right now is how everyone else has felt about me for the last hour when they saw me coming up the aisle. Checkout: My son yells the entire time we’re in line. Not words, just “Aaaaah!!!! Aaaaahhh!!! Aaaahhhh!!!” at the top of his lungs, a wordless “I’m mad as hell and I’m not gonna take it anymore” tirade. I try to talk to him. Scold him. Bribe him. Finally, I push the cart into the tiny checkout aisle and, since I can no longer see or reach him, I ignore him. Forced oblivion. Ahhhhh.
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Virginia Postrel speaks on “The Role of Glamour in Political Economy” in the Wachovia Auditorium in the Beatty Center (5 Liberty Street, downtown). Free, 3:30-4:30pm.
Ina Garten’s new Barefoot Contessa book, How Easy Is That? comes out on the 26th. She promises it’s full of easy-peasy recipes with few ingredients, while still maintaining wow-factor.
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The MOMS Clubs of Mt. Pleasant hosts a Mom-toMom Thrift Sale at the National Guard Armory, 245 Mathis Ferry Rd., in Mt. Pleasant. Proceeds will go to Camp Happy Days. m2msale.webs.com
Do you remember Celia’s on Archdale Street? Then you won’t want to miss An Evening with Celia to benefit Saint John Catholic School. Tickets $20/person, 744.3901.
It’s Louie’s Kids’ 7th Annual Yoga Marathon today! Salute the sun from 12-3pm in Marion Square with 108 sun salutations. louieskids.org/yoga
The Halsey Institute brings the 2010-2011 Southern Circuit Tour of Independent Filmmakers to Charleston. Free, 8pm, Simons Center for the Arts, room 309.
“Edgar Allan Poe: Back from the Grave” takes you into Poe’s mind in an original performance art event. Poe’s characters come to life within the passageways of Fort Moultrie. creativespark.org
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Tonight top Charleston chefs provide gourmet samplings at the 11th Annual Signature Chefs Auction to support the March of Dimes. marchofdimes.com/ southcarolina
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The Women at Work Professional Networking Group holds their luncheon at the Harbour Clubon the 2nd Wednesday of each month, 11:45am-1pm. Or catch 4th Wednesday coffees at Panera Bread, 5070 International Blvd., 8:30am-9:30am. info@womenatworkcharleston.com
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A string of orange hand-thrown ceramic lights from Pigeon Toe Ceramics in Portland is perfectly at home on Halloween and every other night of the year. (More colors on pigeontoeceramics.com.)
We’ll be at Third Wednesdays: Caveman Masculinity: Pop-Darwinist Constructions of Manhood. Why do we seem determined to believe that men are the way they are because of what happened in caveman times? Third Wednesday events are informal conversational salons and are open to the public. Noon, on campus in Stern Center 409.
Only 1 in 3 workers has paid sick leave to care for their children.
The Friends of the Library’s biggest annual fundraiser—That BIG Book Sale— is back! Over the weekend of October 8-10, get books, DVDs, CDs, books on CDs and tapes, LPs,VHS, sheet music and maps at the Gaillard Auditorium. Admission is free. Friday 9am-7pm, Saturday 9am-5pm, Sunday 10am-3pm. charlestonlibraryfriends.org or ccpl.org
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Florence Crittenton Programs of South Carolina hosts the inaugural Sugar & Spice Soiree tonight from 6:30pm-9:30pm at Alhambra Hall. Enjoy cocktails, hors d’oeuvres and dancing. Tickets $75/individuals, $125/couple and can be purchased by visiting florencecrittentonsc.org.
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Wanna try something new? How about a beginners fly fishing class with Capt. John Irwin of Fly Right Charters. $75 fee includes lunch and materials. Call 571.3899 or email chrisulmer@ thecharlestonangler.com. Lisa Chewning, of Write-It-Right, facilitates Saturday Flash Fiction workshops. A cross between a short story and a prose poem, flash fiction can help you hone your writing skills. 10am-12pm, $40/members, $70/ non-members. c4women.org
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The Avondale Business Association and Triangle Char and Bar host a 5K Run and Walk to benefit The Charles Webb Center. Register before the 20th and $30 gets you a t-shirt, entry to the after party. active.com
It’s that time again!
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“If he already knows what pleases him, and he can please himself, then why am I in the picture?” Christine O’Donnell
“God created sex. Priests created marriage.” Voltaire
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“Have you tried snorkeling?”
Jami Bonyun
The day before my husband,
Jeff, and I fly to Hawaii to begin our stint as kiteboarders, it occurs to us that knowing how to fly a kite might be useful.“Oh well,” I say,“I suspect we will both be naturals.” We spend the entire 10-hour flight speculating as to what awe-inspiring tricks we will have mastered after six days of lessons. After landing in Maui, we check into the hotel and take a quick glance at the beach and pool area. We scoff at the tourists sipping cocktails from coconuts, reading trashy magazines between naps, and staring at the water from underneath their oversized umbrellas. “How cliché,” I say, shaking my head. “Imagine how boring their postcards must be! ‘Today, I avoided any new life experiences and drowned myself in weak piña coladas. Tomorrow, if I feel up to it, I may dip my toe into the swimming pool. What an adventurous life I lead!’” Jeff nods in agreement. “It’s like they’re not even trying to impress their friends and family.”
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Pro Kiters
It’s true that Jeff and I are competitive when it comes to acquiring life experiences. Lately, it’s become increasingly difficult to top our more adventurous friends. A few years ago, it was scuba diving, elephant training in Thailand, and psy-trance parties in India. These days, it’s spelunking, Arctic dog sled expeditions, and illegal base jumping. We arrive at Kite Beach for our first lesson and gawk at the kiters effortlessly maneuvering their giant kites while gliding across the water on their tiny boards, doing back flips and 360s, and jumping 30 feet into the air. Our private instructor, Dylan, skips over to introduce himself. Sporting a floppy sun hat and a permanent smile, he’s one of those overly cheerful individuals who I find unnerving since you can never figure out why they’re so damn happy (usually Jesus or drugs). He is ecstatic to get us fitted with equipment. He offers us helmets, but we adamantly refuse; helmets are intended for fearful, unathletic beginners who will inevitably injure themselves or others. We sign a series of waivers, and I try to ignore the fact that their world-class kiteboarding school is operated out of the back of a van. Suited up in harnesses that attach us to the kite, we spend day one on land, learning the basics of kite flying. Since Jeff and I are sharing a kite, we take turns trying to impress Dylan and secure star-pupil status. At one point, another beginner shreds a thousand-dollar kite on some bushes, much to the frustration of his instructor. I snap a quick photo to document his failure. On day two, we graduate to body-dragging in the water. One at a time, Dylan sends us into the ocean to fly the kite back and forth while simply holding onto the board. It sounds easy enough, but the kite has a mind of its own, and it proves challenging to maintain your grasp on the board while being violently dragged face-first through the water. After my second turn, I vomit salt water and immediately update my Facebook status to explain how hardcore I am. On day three, I quit twice before noon, but I’m only half-serious. We practice putting the board on our feet while floating on our backs and simultaneously flying the kite with one hand. Once our feet are secured into the footstraps, the idea is to dive the kite with enough force to yank us into a standing position. The sheer elation that comes from standing is abruptly followed by an unpleasant and disorienting crash as the kite changes course. I finally see the point of those helmets. By the end of the lesson, I have perfected the face plant and ridden maybe 20 feet standing up on the board. That’s still 10 feet further than Jeff, who pouts incessantly and complains to Dylan that I am receiving an unfair amount of instruction time. On day four, Dylan quits, claiming that we are “bumming him out” with our negative attitudes. He accuses us of “not having fun” and suggests we pursue a less demanding activity. “Have you tried snorkeling?” he asks with a deadpan expression. I struggle to keep my composure after such a slap in the face. “Does anyone actually have fun climbing Mount Everest?” I argue. Dylan eventually agrees to continue with the lesson, but only if we promise to be more laid-back. I show up on day five flaunting my new mellow attitude, responding to everything with a shrug and a “whatever, man.” I keep this up until I lose control of my kite on a bad run and hurtle past the designated safe area toward the rocks. Under duress, I revert to my true nature, alternating between crying and yelling profanities as I trail helplessly behind my stubborn kite. Dylan, the optimist, continues to smile at me from the beach and initiates a series of nonsensical hand gestures. I consider giving him the finger. Jeff, on the other hand, recognizes my hysteria and dives into the ocean to rescue me. Although I appreciate the gesture, my white knight swims at an agonizingly slow pace. After watching him doggy-paddle in my general direction for a few interminable seconds, I take matters into my own hands and pull the emergency cord to cut myself loose. The kite, freed from its screaming six-foot anchor, crashes onto the rocks. I swim back to shore and stomp through the crowd of concerned onlookers. One of them snaps a photo to document my failure. Although Dylan manages to recover our kite, my near-death experience puts a damper on the rest of the lesson. On day six, the wind dies, and all lessons are canceled. Jeff and I are both relieved, although neither of us will admit it. We spend the day on the beach, drinking piña coladas and doing absolutely nothing. Drunk and happy, I fall asleep and dream about our next big trip...tracking chimpanzees in Tanzania.
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Fall Festival Saturday November 6, 2010 10am - 2pm
A Tail or Two. And Noses Too! JusT in TiMe for Halloween...aniMal THeMeD Mask & Tail seTs
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Vendors will offer children’s books, handmade jewelry and crafts, toys, and other exciting gifts that will dress up the coming holidays. Admission is Free or $20 buys a kid’s meal and unlimited games. 50 cent tickets for games and food. Prizes awarded for games!
Where your child loves learning
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The Sophia Institute 2010 Programs • Lectures • Retreats Please see our website for additional program listings and details. OCT ricK BroWN • Getting the Love You Want: Imago Relationship Therapy 16-17 Saturday 8:30am-8pm & Sunday 8:30am-6pm NOV aNDrEW HarVEY • Sacred Activism: Passion in Action 12-14 Friday Evening Lecture ~ 6:30pm
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NOV Erica ariEl fox • Deeper Wisdom and the Art of Negotiation 15-19 Friday Evening Lecture ~ 6:30pm
October 1-3, 2010 We are grateful for the tremendous support from the following sponsors: Corporate Sponsors Bonnie Yon
Visiting Angels Sponsors
Kyra Morris, Morris Financial Concepts, Inc. Collaborating Sponsors Beth Briggs, Creative Philanthropy • Tuti Scott, Imagine Philanthropy Center for Women • Stillpoint Center
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Ask your friends and relatives who worked hardest for them. Ask about credentials. See who is respected and taken most seriously in the legal community. When you do this you will hire
Stirling & O’Connell
We want to help you through these difficult transitional times with hope, support and strong representation. Call us today.
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smartgirl Lions and Tigers and Drama, Oh My! High school hallways can be the stage for the world’s most ridiculous theatrical productions. SmartGirl shows you how to drop the curtain on drama. Betsy Cribb
Rumor Mill:
“Rosa told me that Elizabeth said that Aasha said that Suki said...” That’s how rumors get started. This gossipy game of telephone can do serious damage to girls’ reputations or destroy people’s friendships. If you hear a story that’s too crazy to be true, it probably is. Don’t spread the rumor by sharing your skewed version of the story. How to set the story straight? Go to the source, get the facts and then keep your lips sealed. Mean Girls:
These witches don’t limit their mischief-making to Halloween. You probably know a Regina George: beautiful, popular and mean as a snake. She spreads vicious rumors, betrays her friends or terrorizes girls who are
too terrified to do or say anything about it. How to deal with a Queen Bee? As long as she’s uncontested, she’ll keep ruling the roost. Confront her and let her know you don’t stand for her behavior. Stand firm, hold your head up high and show the Queen Bee that you’re no easy target. The Go-Between:
Malia and Kim are fighting and Elena is stuck in the middle. It’s tough to be the mediator when two of your friends are on the outs.Your friendships with the girls are compromised because you are trying to remain loyal to both. How to keep the peace? Sit down with your feuding friends and make them work it out. Explain to them how hard it is to be their go-between, and they may be more willing to make amends. Sit down, chat it up and your work is done.
When Things Get Hairy:
You can’t always do it alone. High school can be really scary. When violence, depression or eating disorders are involved, it’s not up to you to handle the situation anymore. How to cope with the big stuff? Tell a trusted adult. You’re not being a tattletale; you’re being a friend.
“You’re not being a tattletale; you’re being a friend.
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Maudell Grayson | Deli Dame College grub ain’t what it used to be, at least not since Dell came along. Now, heaping helpings of organic veggies, healthy proteins and other lunch and late-night yummies—at non-heaping prices— keep students and hungry downtown professionals heading over to the corner of King and Cannon for mega-wraps and Dell’s multivitamin warmth. “This is my dream. It’s what I do, I cook. I’m all about health; everything here is good for you. I just love it,” says Dell, who moved to Charleston from Kansas City five years ago and has been waiting for the right time and place to realize her dream of opening Dell’z Deli. She loves catering to the college crowd. “They’re working hard, and I take care of them,” says Dell, who has four kids— including two college students—of her own. “People don’t just come here for the food, they come for Dell. I make people smile.” Photo by Alice Keeney
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a yoga community
Meditation Immersion
Weekend - October 2 - 3
deepening your relationship to yourself
LouieÕs Kids - Yoga Marathon
October 9 at Marion Square 108 sun salutes for childhood obesity
YOGA CENTER
Evening Kirtan - October 30 coming together in song
Yoga Retreat at Yogaville -
November 5 -7
10 Windermere Blvd
Charleston, SC 29407 843-769-2269
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Don’t want to cook? Don’t want to go out? Let Everyday Gourmet prepare fresh homemade meals for you.
Chef Services Available Pick-up or Delivery Available
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dinner parties ~ corporate lunches
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A gift and home decor boutique featuring handmade treasures for each season. New Fall Arrivals!
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Are you “thankful” that autumn has finally arrived. Does the idea of the holidays give you a “fright”? Relax...we can help you find the perfect gift to give to a cherished friend or item to enhance your home or adorn your table setting.
Finally! A back to school special for Mom. Put yourself back on the list! Today’s women are considering breast augmentation to enhance body contour, to restore breast volume following pregnancy, or to balance a difference in breast size.
Patients who have breast augmentation between September 1 - October 31, 2010 will receive a $100 gift card to Victoria’s Secret! To schedule a consultation with Dr. Widenhouse, please contact our office.
So before you “fall back” into the same holiday routine, stop in and see what enchantments can be harvested from our “Boo-tiful” and “Bountiful” Boutiques!
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Lillian Smalls | Oncology Aesthetician “I call it skin therapy. It’s beyond fluff and buff; it’s about a connection between what’s inside and outside,” says Lillian, who directs the aesthetics program at Miller-Motte Technical College and is a certified oncology aesthetics educator and practitioner. Her interest in oncology-related care evolved after realizing that many clients were cancer patients or survivors who had unique skin care needs. “I had to relearn what products to use, and what not to use,” says Lillian, a working mom who left a marketing and advertising career for the flexibility of cosmetology. She’s also studied Reiki and massage to better understand the mind/body/spirit health connection. “For an hour I’m invited into their life; I offer an escape from thinking about illness or pain. It’s satisfying to help someone who’s lost eyebrows or eyelashes put them on without looking awkward,” she says. “When a woman feels good about herself, it gives a different outlook on everything.” Photo by Marni Rothschild Durlach
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Lisa Perrett | Retro-Candy Queen Lisa was a children’s book illustrator and graphic designer by day and a retail wannabe by night, or at least in her dreams. “My pipe dream was to have a store on King Street,” says Lisa, whose wish came true this past July when she and husband David opened Robot Candy Company. The inspiration for their funky, fun throwback to all things bad-for-your-teeth and good-for-your-soul came from a year hiatus in New York City, when Lisa would take her two young daughters downtown to explore “kooky little shops.” Back in Charleston she thought, “why not a mix of crazy candy and toys, unusual, fun stuff you can’t find elsewhere? I’m a sucker for things I haven’t seen since I was a little kid.” The clean, white interior is a futuristic foil for 1920s cartoons, wind-up toys and sugary nostalgia, with some mod Japanese toys thrown in. “I love that different generations can come introduce things to each other.” Photo by Marni Rothschild Durlach
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She is “The Carolina Girl.”
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Camille Keil is Director of Operations of one of the fastest growing and unique venues in Charleston. Her job title says it all. She is in charge of detailing every event on “The Carolina Girl”to execute the many varied needs of each group. The reviews at the culmination of each event say it all. Camille is a professional in every way. Her ultimate attention to detail and needs of each outing add up to a flawless experience. She is Charleston’s “Carolina Girl!”
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Normal is a dirty little word.
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A boy walks into a bar,
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Aruna Reddy, M.D. At night, you eat Mexican food and watch Frasier with your mom. You get on her computer to check out this thing called the World Wide Web. Everyone’s talking about it. Maybe it’s time to get on board. You end up in a chat room. You talk to a few guys—a young accountant who loves Britney Spears, an “unhappily married” newlywed who’s eager to talk dirty and an IHOP waiter from Branson, Missouri, who also happens to be in L.A. visiting his folks. You’d like to meet this guy from the country music capital of the world, but unfortunately, you’ve told him that you look like Tiffani-Amber Thiessen. The one picture you scanned and sent was taken by a skilled photography student who shot you from the top rung of a tall ladder. The flattering shot from above (which will eventually become ubiquitous on something called Facebook), has given him a mighty tall glass of false hope. Back in Boston, you go balls out and decide to try actual internet dating. The first guy you meet is Perry, who invites you to his place for a drink. A few years from now this will all seem really shady, but for now there are no Dateline specials on internet predators. This isn’t even considered pathetic. Not quite; not yet. Perry has a large piece of antique film equipment in his living room. He calls it “a really sexy machine.” Brother. Good thing you brought Yahtzee. You have decided that you will bring Yahtzee on your dates with strangers, to shake things up if there’s a lull in conversation. Next is Jordan, who you eagerly meet at a North End bakery for cappuccino and biscotti. His long bangs are pushed back with what is clearly a girl’s headband, and he talks slowly and endlessly about Chinese astrology. Even though you’re drinking espresso, you fall asleep. He nudges you awake and says, “So Jen, what inspires you?” Enough said. You communicate with Sean by phone for about a month before you meet. He’s funny and natural and you feel optimistic. You even leave Yahtzee at home for the first date. Things are just as easy in person as they were on the phone, but you spend the majority of the night trying to figure out if you’re attracted to him. You notice that his glasses are crooked—broken, actually. Maybe it’s the dim neon lighting of the dive bar, but you could swear that they’re also mauve. He confesses that he’s wearing his mom’s. And they’re taped. Jen, I know that you’re lonely, but do not kiss the guy who shows up to meet you with his mom’s glasses—taped. Okay? Have another Guinness. That’s probably wise. Three beers later and you’re making out in the corner booth. You’ve managed to convince yourself that you like him and you keep up this act for three more dates. He shows up in the lady glasses every time and inevitably, the two of you play a lot of Yahtzee. You return to the chat rooms and strike up a friendship with Stephen King. Not that Stephen King, Stephen King the software developer from the U.K. He calls you Tiggy and sends pink roses on your birthday. While planning a business trip to Florida, Stephen asks you if he should “pop up to Boston for a week to give it a go.” You must admit it’s a pretty picture—knocking around Manchester with this bloke, eating fish and chips and adopting a sloppy accent. You know, like Madonna, or Gwyneth. You meet him at the airport and escort him back to his hotel. Stupid, stupid girl. You’re lucky that he’s a nice guy. You’re lucky that your big life story doesn’t end with you chopped up into little bits. Later that afternoon, good old stinky Aaron gives you a call. He wants you to come over to help him make chutney. You fight it by holding hands with the Brit and playing Yahtzee ‘til your fingers chafe. In desperation, you take things to the next level: Scattergories. Stephen leaves the U.S. with one friendly kiss and a heartbroken slouch. Before he goes, he buys you a Nintendo. You shouldn’t take it. It will make you feel guilty for years. But you really love video games… After you’ve played Mario Kart for about five hours, you call Aaron’s work. Naturally, he works at an arcade. You make plans for later that night. In his slanted bedroom with the bright yellow walls, you wear clown wigs, roll pennies and meow along to songs. The moon is full, of course, and you’ve never seen it so close. Aaron turns off the lights and you stand at the window, tucked safely into his toxic armpit. He starts talking about science and phenomenon. He tries to explain why the moon is alarmingly big tonight, why it takes up the whole sky. Then he asks how your roommate is doing. Shoot, fool moon. Makes you give in to this weirdo every time. Baby girl, this can only end badly, and it will. But hey—you’ll be okay. Someday, you may even laugh. Jen Rognerud lives in Minnesota with her two kids, a cat named Georgie, and a man who smells quite nice. She is currently working on her first novel.
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The 2010 elections are coming up, and we have a number of women running for office in South Carolina. Below is a list compiled by the Southeastern Institute of Women in Politics of female candidates from across the state and the offices for which they are running. See the candidates’ profiles at scelectswomen.com/candidates,
and don’t forget to vote! U.S. House of Representatives
Mary Bernsdorff (D) for District 45 Lancaster Co.
Jenny Horne (R) for District 94 Dorchester Co.
Faye Walters (G) for District 4
Deborah Long (R) for District 45 Lancaster Co.
Patsy Knight (D) for District 97 Dorchester Co.
Statewide
Holly Cooper (D) for District 46 York Co.
Christine Jackson (D) for District 98 Dorchester Co.
Marjorie Johnson (D) for Secretary of State
Laurie Slade Funderburk (D) for District 52 Kershaw Co.
Barbara W. Mishoe (R) for District 101 Williamsburg Co.
Doretha Bull (G) for State Superintendent of Education
Elizabeth R. Munnerlyn (D) for District 54 Marlboro Co.
Vida Miller (D) for District 108 Georgetown Co.
Leslie Minerd (G) for Attorney General
Denny W. Neilson (D) for District 56 Darlington Co.
Anne Peterson-Hutto (D) for District 115 Charleston Co.
S.C. House of Representatives
Sheila Gallagher (D) for District 63 Florence Co.
Shannon Erickson (R) for District 124 Beaufort Co.
Jane Dyer (D) for District 3
Nikki Haley (R) for Governor
Anne Thayer (R) for District 9 Anderson Co. Anne Parks (D) for District 12 Greenwood Co. Wendy Nanney (R) for District 22 Greenville Co. Chandra Dillard (D) for District 23 Greenville Co. Judy Gilstrap (D) for District 26 Pickens Co. Ines Alvarez (D) for District 28 Greenville Co. Honorable Rita Allison (R) for District 36 Spartanburg Co. Delores Frazer (D) for District 37 Spartanburg Co.
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Cathy Harvin (D) for District 64 Clarendon Co.
County/Municipal
Gilda Cobb-Hunter (D) for District 66 Orangeburg Co.
Amy Fabri (D, WF), Charleston County Council
Jan Steensen Crangle (D) for District 69 Lexington Co.
Amy McCulloch (D), Richland County Probate Judge
Joan Brady (R) for District 78 Richland Co.
Carolyn Rogers (R), York County Probate Judge
Paige Blair George (D) for District 78 Richland Co. Mia Butler (D) for District 79 Richland Co. Sheri Few (R) for District 79 Richland Co. Beverly Diane Frierson (D) for District 79 Richland Co.
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The confounding secret known to waitpersons everywhere is that while a small portion of the population actually comes to a restaurant intending to enjoy a meal, the rest arrive armed with an arsenal of unresolved stuff that should have been brought up in therapy. Stacy Appel
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t this very moment, a blonde toddler in a day care center somewhere in America cries inconsolably because Billy blacked out the eye of her new Barbie doll with a Magic Marker and Sasha got apple juice at snack time while she got pineapple instead. In a sun-drenched backyard, a four-year-old in a lopsided baseball cap is having a meltdown because the tip of his squirt gun just broke and his mother couldn’t find his Batman t-shirt in the clean laundry this morning. And in a bustling city, at a linen-covered table in a pleasantly crowded bistro in the nicer section of town, a businessman revs himself into a full-blown tantrum because the patrons next to him got their Caesars and breadsticks before he did. Dining out, like flying, has a mysterious effect on previously civilized Homo sapiens. Earlier in the day, they were reviewing important policy memos with colleagues or mesmerizing audiences in an auditorium or changing their oil and paying their phone bills like reasonable adults. But mere moments after exchanging pleasantries with the maitre d’, the same people can be observed wailing, red-faced, because the much-anticipated Chilean sea bass arrived with a side of potato gratin instead of mashed.
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The confounding secret known to waitpersons everywhere is that while a small portion of the population actually comes to a restaurant intending to enjoy a meal, the rest arrive armed with an arsenal of unresolved stuff that should have been brought up in therapy. They wish to be coddled, instructed and left alone, all at the same time. They want to fight, be noticed and be invisible. They long to impress and humiliate. They want to eat dessert without actually eating dessert. They would love to get drunk, get famous, or at the very least, have the chef write off their check because the medium-rare steak had a few peppercorns on top. I’m amazed when I remember my parents instructing me as a teenager not to overtip. “It’s a sign of poor breeding,” said my mother. “Waiters look down on you. Overtipping is offensive—they resent it.” By age 21, when I’d waited tables on and off for five years, I knew I’d never heard such a preposterous lie in all my life. There is no such thing as too large a tip unless someone plans to leave you the entire family inheritance after he eats. A waitress or waiter must be so much more than a server. She must hear the lonely confession of the guy who was just stood up by his date at table nine and grant him absolution. She must play umpire to the two children throwing drinking straws, napkins and wood-backed menus at one another while their parents sip martinis. No matter how busy the dining room, she must find time to act as a marriage counselor to the silent couple in the corner who glare at each other over bowls of French onion soup, and referee the three guys wrestling one another for the onion rings without getting her arm broken. She must hasten with bar towels and soda water to soothe the hysterical matron whose blouse is now covered with Burgundy “accidentally” spilled on her by her daughter-in-law. A competent waitperson must produce Band-Aids, Tylenol, crayons, Prozac, ice chips and extra Béarnaise sauce on a moment’s notice. She must call upon the saints to help her conjure up a graceful smile as the leering bachelor party who filled her section all night leaves her 10 bucks on a $200 dinner tab. As pleasant as it might be to get divorced and fly off to Italy, India, and Bali, á la Elizabeth Gilbert, one needn’t invest all that time and expense in the name of spiritual development, especially if one doesn’t have a book contract in hand. For every devotee sitting cross-legged on a mat in a Buddhist ashram or hiking up a Tibetan mountainside, her counterpart in America is right now balancing four hot entrees on a tray and wondering how to break it to table 12 that another diner just got the last order of mahi-mahi. Waiting tables offers an accelerated spiritual path for those courageous enough to embark upon it, besides which there are almost always free leftovers after your shift. As a waitress, you will discover within yourself reserves of patience, restraint, and kindness, when the loudmouth CEO sends his pasta back twice, just for fun, and you refrain from stabbing him with a fork. You will examine aspects of your own nature against the intriguing backdrop of a culture of greedy gluttons who can’t believe you actually expect them to choose between a salad and two sides with their filet mignons and baked potato. You will marvel at the complexity and diversity of human nature before you, including those persons who believe “quiche” is pronounced “quickie” and others who would like a doggie bag in which to stow the remains of their hot fudge sundae, the leftover butter, as well as all the unused packets of Sweet ‘n Low. Restaurant employment will teach you the art of balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence, once you realize that the dashingly handsome man who cornered you near the cash register was only flirting with you to make his girlfriend furious. Your faith in God will be restored when the cranky old lady at table two, who threatened to complain about you to the manager, mistakenly leaves you a 30 percent tip because she couldn’t find her reading glasses. When you come to the end of your path waiting tables, or to the end of your wits, or both, you will have gained an inner wealth that can never be taken away—which is a marvelous thing since the paycheck just really will not cut it. And you, unlike so many others, will have inside your heart the secret key to being welcomed no matter where you find yourself in the world, a truth at once simple and profound: Eat. Pay. Leave.
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Have We Forgotten the Ladies? Jennet Robinson Alterman
Women must work more than 16 months to earn what men make in 12 months—
“Remember the ladies…If particular care and attention is not paid to the ladies, we are determined to foment a rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any laws in which we have no voice or representation.” Abigail Adams, in a letter to husband John Adams, Second President of the United States
I don’t know about you, but I think we could use some ‘fomenting’ right about now in our country. I know that the economy and wars and natural disasters are hugely important; however, I’m not feeling the love for the whole issue of women’s equality these days. I applaud the regular attention being given to women in countries like Afghanistan and the Congo, but am saddened that here in the United States, we seem to have backed off of the fight for treating women equally. What happened to the Equal Rights Amendment? Why has the Paycheck Fairness Act not passed in the Senate? Lawmakers in the House said it would strengthen the Equal Pay Act of 1963 and also allow women to receive the same benefits for sex-based pay discrimination that are currently available to those discriminated against based on race and national origin. Women now make up half the American workforce, but they still haven’t managed to achieve pay equity. Women must work more than 16 months to earn what men make in 12 months—for the same job. They earn 77 cents for every dollar earned by their male counterparts. According to the AAUW, over a working lifetime, the disparity between men’s and women’s wages costs the average woman and her family $700,000 to $2 million in lost pay. Paycheck discrimination hurts families who lose out on badly needed income. With so many women now supporting their families, unequal pay leads to unequal wealth in ways that affect the entire family. There is less money to pay bills, less income to qualify for a mortgage, less money available to send children to college. The effects ripple through our culture. What about having a voice and representation? Only 17 percent of the US Congress is female, compared to 42 percent in Nordic countries, or in Rwanda where more than 50 percent of the national parliament is female! Worldwide, the US is ranked 90th in women elected to national bodies… tying us with Turkmenistan. (Fun fact: in my home state of South Carolina, we are ranked 50th in the nation in terms of the number of women elected to our state legislature.) Here’s the real kick in all of this—according to a 2007 Catalyst study of women on boards and commissions—women held 15 percent of corporate officer positions. The study also stated that Fortune 500 companies with the highest representation of women board directors attained significantly higher financial performance than those with the lowest representation of women board directors. It’s the economy, stupid. Recent research shows that stronger than average results prevail at companies where at least three women serve on the board of directors. According to a report published by the National Association of Corporate Directors, when at least three women serve on a board or commission, “People talk differently when there are more women. It is much more conversational and less hierarchical, and as a result, all of the directors get better information. Having three women is ‘like three legs on a stool.’ Strong. It is clear you are not there because of gender but because of your talent.” So let’s get out there and foment—for better pay, more representation, and most importantly, a voice. We can do it for Abigail.
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the same job. They earn 77 cents for every dollar earned by their male counterparts.
Jennet Robinson Alterman has been the Executive Director of the Center for Women in Charleston, SC, since 2001. Ms. Alterman has worked in television broadcasting, state and federal government and the non-profit sector. She has an extensive background in international women’s issues, having served as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Afghanistan and subsequently on Peace Corps Senior Staff. She is married to noted photographer Jack Alterman, and lives in her hometown of Charleston. 82 octoberw2010
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The latest winner of our skirt! scholarship is one busy bee. This senior history major is also getting a minor in Women’s and Gender Studies and has been a campus mentor, a former volunteer coordinator for the Charleston Women’s Medical Clinic, has co-chaired multiple
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Signature scent: I wear Kiehl’s Musk 1921, Frederic Malle’s En Passant, or Comme des Garcons Sequoia. I still can’t get the hang of: Hanging up my clothes. Ironic, right? If I could live anywhere: Paris; Tuscany; Sun Valley, Idaho; Havana, Cuba. I’d like to learn to: How to fly a plane, kiteboard, and speak Japanese. My mother always said: “Never get married and have children.” She seriously said that. I think it was on the bad days. Photo by Marni Rothschild Durlach
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