September 2012 (Premiere Issue)

Sista’s Keeper

I AM my Sista’s Keeper

September 2012

Back to School Skin Care Tips

Premiere Issue

Spotlight: Miss Teen USA Logan West

Claressa Shields & Lia Neal

7 Habits Series: Be Proactive

Back To School Fashion Guide

Gabrielle Douglas

Olympic Gymnast Gets the GOLD

In This Issue 28

Start The School Year Off Right 30

7 Habits Series: Be Proactive

2012 Fall Fashion Guide

Clothes, hair, nails, shoes, & accessories

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32 Back To School Fashion: Senior Year

Spotlight: Miss Teen USA Logan West

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2012 Olympics: “Golden Girl” Gabrielle Douglas Plus: boxer Claressa Shields & swimmer Lia Neal

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On the Cover:

Gabrielle Douglas 2x Gold Medalist 2012 US Olympic Women’s Gymnastics Team Photo: Google Images

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LaPorsha Lowry Owner/Publisher Shontrece Brandon Beauty Contributor Katra Cunningham Intern/Online Contributor Taris Easterling Contributor Yani Long Intern/Contributor Bianca Sanders Fashion Contributor Noma Vilane Contributor Special Thanks Dr. Leeya F. Pinder, MD Dr. Tanya S. McLeod, MD Patricia Atlman Breast Cancer Research Foundation Gabrielle Douglas Jessica Lichtenberg Shade Global Claressa Shields Lia Neal Ziggy Chau Logan West Miss Teen USA Miss USA Pageant Period Packs Inc. Theresa Williamson Polish and Company Ma Mocha Naturals International Minute Press Daniel Lee Lowry Dottie Benjamin Margaret M. Thomas Vee Seward Ohh Snaps! Premiere Photography Jonathan Strayhorn

I AM my Sista’s Keeper

In Every Issue Promotions & Giveaways

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Health: Taking Care of Your Period At School

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Beauty: 10 Do-It-Yourself Skin Care

Entertainment: Fall TV: What To Watch/Glee 13

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Entertainment: Finding Nemo: 3D

Fashion: Jeans For 14 Your Body Type Health: Exercises You Can Do 16 In Class

Furaha: Building Your 20 Relationship with God 21

Jando: Going to College

Maua: Baby Steps

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23 Choosing the Military Ndege:

Black Women In History: Madame CJ Walker 40

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What’s going on & what to do this month

Calendar

Uniquely YOU 15 Summit for Girls Philadelphia University, Philadelphia, PA Registration ends 9/10; Apply at uniquelyyousummit.org

Lil’ Sistas 26 Field Day Bette Rae Thomas Center, Charlotte, NC 6:30-8:30pm

The Steve & Marjorie Harvey 28 Foundation Girls Who Rule the World Mentoring Weekend September 28-30 Stone Mountain, GA

For October events & more updates, view the calendar on our website:

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Contributors

What does it mean to be your sista’s keeper?

Katra Cunningham

Taris Easterling

Yani Long

Noma Vilane

ONLINE: “Beauty Supplies For Your Locker” (Beauty), Healthy Snacks (Health), & Making New Friends (Relationships)

“Finding Nemo 3D” (pg. 13) & “Show Him That You’re Interested” (pg. 18)

What Is Love? (pg. 19) & Personal Relationship with God (pg. 20)

Fall TV preview, Glee (pg. 12)

Easterling is currently a freshman at North Carolina Central University. She’s an avid reader and writer so you will usually find her doing one or the other.

She’s the lead host on her very own personal radio show, Unscripted Radio.

Long began writing at the young age of 11 with journals that evolved into poetry. In 2008, she attended Guilford Technical Community College and then transferred to A&T in 2010.

She enjoys creating jewelry, spending time with her loved ones, watching her favorite TV shows, and playing cards.

Cunningham is currently a junior journalism major at Winthrop University in Rock Hill, SC. She serves as the editor in chief of the Roddey McMillan Record, Winthrop University’s Multicultural Newspaper. @Kat_Woman__

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“My definition of a “sista’s keeper” is one who upholds the better and greater movement of women of all color, shapes and sizes.

@TarisUnscripted

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“Being a responsible leader and a guide to my sister & others that need the guidance and support they deserve. Helping them to be the women they should be to better themselves.”

Vilane is a senior journalism major at North Carolina A&T State University.

Her hobbies include reading, writing fiction, and spending time with friends and family.

“Being your sista’s keeper is forming a bond that helps you put your sister, cousin, & friend’s interests in the forefront and helping them to grow in general & succeed in life.”

@SomebodysNoma

What Does it mean to be our “Sista’s Keeper”?

Editor’s Letter

Hey sistas! Welcome to Sista’s Keeper, a magazine just for YOU!!!!!

This has been my dream since I was in the 6th grade. I remember reading teen magazines and thinking, “I don’t see myself.” So I began writing & studying magazines so that I could start my own one day...& here it is!

As I got older, I realized that we as black women have to build each other up and not break each other down. I chose the name “Sista’s Keeper” because I want to send a message that we are all responsible for each other.

When Cain asked the question “Am I my brother’s keeper?” in Genesis 4:9, I believe that he didn’t want that responsibility because he was jealous of his brother. He did not know his own worth & so he took his brother’s life to somehow feel worthy.

That’s the purpose of Sista’s Keeper: to build you up as young women so you can be comfortable enough in yourself to help your sisters, cousins, friends, etc. I spent my summer attending events like the YOUth EmpowHERment Summit in July (below) speaking to girls about the magazine & I’m glad to finally get it out there to you.

The main topic of this issue is “back to school” so the stories include things that you can take with you; beauty supplies for your locker (online), back to school skincare (pg. 10), taking care of your period at school (pg. 15), & workouts that you can do in class (pg. 16).

As we all watched during the 2012 Olympic Games, you can be young and make history just like Gabrielle Douglas and Claressa Shields did. Gabby was the 1st African-American woman to win gold in the all-around comeptition and Claressa was the 1st woman to win gold in the women’s boxing middleweight class (75kg).

Even Lia Neal became only the 2nd African American woman on the US Women’s Swimming team (she won bronze).

If you want to contact me or have any questions about the magazine, email me at sistaskeepermag@ yahoo.com ot visit our website: www.sistaskeepermagazine.com I hope that you enjoy the magazine & remember: “I AM my Sista’s Keeper” Photo By: Jonathan Strayhorn

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Join the conversation... #SistasKeeper

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Spotlight

Miss Teen USA Logan West

By: LaPorsha Lowry

Logan West’s life changed forever on July 28th when she was crowned Miss Teen USA. The Connecticut contestant jumped for joy after her name was announced as the winner. She had just graduated from Greater Hartford Academy months earlier and was planning to attend Pace University to study dance. Now she has the chance to go to New York Film Academy on a Miss Teen USA scholarship to study acting and dance.

On her platform (anti-bullying): “I was bullied for the first time in 7th grade. Girls would curse at, spit at, and hit me because they said that I did not ‘act my race’. I was the victim of this ‘black girl standard’ but the day that I responded, I got suspended. During my suspension, I was inspired to help young people who are bullied and started “BullyProof” when I was 14.” West has spoken to 20,000 students in Connecticut elementary and middle schools to help them with confidence.

On being biracial: “I have never identified myself as a certain race. I can’t be anyone else than me; I can only be Logan. I have to be in control of how I see myself so I don’t lose myself.”

Best moment of the pageant: “The best part, of course, was when I won & was crowned Miss Teen USA. I was so excited that I jumped up and down and then looked for my mother.”

Pageant experience: “I loved every minute of the pageant experience. You would think that there would be a lot of catty drama but it was nothing like that.

We had fun and enjoyed the company of the other contestants. We got along great!”

Hobbies: “I enjoy baking and dancing. I’ve been dancing for 16 years and want to earn a BFA degree in commercial dance.”

Siblings: “I have a younger sister named Sydney (15) who is a high school junior. I am just here to help her along and be there for her. Our parents always helped us with growing up and made us feel confident.

They wanted us to appreciate our beauty and our flaws.”

How she will balance school and her reign: “Nothing is set in stone yet. It’s about knowing my limits. There will be a media tour and I’m willing to speak to whoever wants me.

I’m ready to put in some hard-work between school, my reign, and working with “BullyProof”. It will test my time management skills because I don’t want to miss school or vice versa.”

What it means to be my “sista’s keeper”: “To me, it means being a good role model and looking out for each other. We have to be 100% mindful of ourselves, each other and our example.

The Official Miss Teen USA

@MissTeenUSA

Photo Courtesy of Miss Teen USA Facebook Page

About Miss Teen USA Name: Logan West Age: 18 Hometown: Southington, CT Birthday: June 20

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Beauty

Back-To-School Skincare Tips

By: LaPorsha Lowry

Remember the golden rules...

Cleanse, Moisterize, Protect & Exfoliate The old addage, "Beauty is only skin deep", that we have so often heard is a standard that we should adopt.

Our inner beauty and how we behave, treat people and respond in our daily lives is what is most important. However, this same addage speaks to what we reflect to the world with our skin.

Our skin is the largest organ of the body which helps us regulate our body temperatures, provides the first defense for our bodies from our environment and also performs many other biological functions.

As the first defense, our skin is the first thing that we display and reflect to society, therefore highlighting the importance of keeping your skin healthy, clear and glowing.

Dr. Tanya S. McLeod, MD, MPH, MBA Dermatologist Charlotte, NC

Dr. McLeod’s Tips: 1. Know your skin type: oily, dry or combination 2. Based on your skin type choose a cleanser and moisterizer that suits your skin and will not leave you with excessive oils or over dry you 3. Protect your skin daily with sunscreen: excessive exposure to sun causes pre-mature aging and increases your risk of skin cancer

Little Known Fact: Sunscreen helps prevent uneven skin tone & dark spots

4. Exfoliate your skin on a regular basis that is tolerable for your skin type

Rx For Brown Skin Age Block UV Shield SPF 15 $29.95 (1 oz.)

Straight From Dr. McLeod “Not everyone can acheive healthy, clear, glowing skin on their own. Knowing when to consult with the right professional is always key.

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Television

Entertainment

Fall TV Preview

By: Noma Vilane

When you turn on your TV this fall, you will find both new shows and returning ones featuring some of our favorite black actresses. So pick up your remote & tune in...

The New Normal This new comedy from Ryan Murphy, creator of Glee, is about a same-sex couple (played by Andrew Rannells and Justin Bartha) who find a surrogate to help them begin their family. The couple also have to deal with their bigoted mother and other quirky family members. The show also stars Nene Leakes (left).

• Premieres Tuesday, September 11th at 9:30pm on NBC

Reality Shows: Tamar & Vince The spin-off of the Braxton Family Values follows Tamar Braxton (right) and her music-executive husband Vincent Herbert on issues like Tamar’s solo album and the couple having kids. The show will be filled with lots of laughs, love and Tamar antics.

Any fans of BFV will enjoy this show.

• Premieres Thursday, September 20th at 10pm on WeTV

New Cast Members on ‘Glee’

By: Noma Vilane

Many of the New Directions have graduated, but don’t worry; Ryan Murphy told reporters that all the previous series regulars would be returning to Glee as regulars.

Glee also returns with several new faces in McKinley High. Jacob Artist plays the half brother of Noah Puckerman. Melissa Benoist plays a newcomer named Marley, who was shown in the McKinley High choir room in the trailer for season 4.

Other newcomers include those appearing in NYADA (New York Academy of Dramatic Arts), the college that Rachel Berry will attend.

Dean Geyer, who was on season four of Australian Idol, plays Brody while both Kate Hudson and Whoopi Goldberg have been confirmed as guest stars.

Several “Glee Project” contestants will have roles on the show this season. Season 1 winners Samuel Larsen and Damian McGinty are among those who will return. Season 1 contestant Alex Newell will also be returning to the show. Newell plays Wade Adams, who is a transgender named Unique. The role has caused slight controversy from Glee fans, who weren’t too happy to learn that he would be returning.

Newell responded by tweeting: “Hey y’all...it’s official...Wade ‘Unique’ Adams will be spreading fierceness and love to you all!!! Yay!!!!”

Newell told the Boston Globe that he had dreamed of being on Glee

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since its very first episode. “I fell in love with all the characters (and) the music.” Newell, who auditioned and made it to top four, talked about his love for acting. “I want to be onstage- on TV, in film, on Broadway. I want to be happy. I realize you don’t need fame and fortune to be happy, just to do what you love.”

Class will be in session again when Glee returns on Thursday, Sept.

13 at 9 p.m. on FOX.

Wade “Unique” Adams will have a new role on “Glee”.

Entertainment

Fall TV: Returning Shows Editor’s Pick: Scandal

Music

Olivia Pope (played by Kerry Washington, right) makes the problems and secrets of the nation’s elite go away. Each week, she and her team work around the clock to defuse potential crises situations.

• Returns September 27th at 10pm on ABC

Back to School Playlist

Person of Interest

Jill Scott-“Blessed” Mary Mary“Go Get It” Rihanna- “Where Have You Been” Elle Varner- “Refill”

This is a television crime drama that revolves around a former CIA agent hired by a computer genius who developed a machine for the government to detect crimes before they happen & prevent them. It stars Taraji P. Henson (left).

• Season 2 premieres September 27th at 9pm on CBS

Grey’s Anatomy

The show follows the doctors of the fictional Seattle Grace Mercy West Hospital. The season opener jumps to a couple of months after the plane crash that the several of the doctors were in. Chandra Wilson (right) stars.

• Returns September 27th at pm on ABC

Movies

In Theaters: Finding Nemo 3D

By: Taris Easterling Pixar is re-releasing the hit animation movie Finding Nemo but this time it's coming to you in 3-D! Finding Nemo is all about a over-protective clownfish named Marlon who has somehow lost his hyper and outof-this-world son Nemo.

Marlon, voiced by Albert Brooks, embarks on a journey across the seas with a dim-witted yet unusually smart fish named Dory, voiced by Ellen DeGeneres.

The two journey thru sharks, pelicans, and other dangerous perils of the deep blue sea. This 3D version will make the movie an even more spectacular sight! Make you take the whole family out and enjoy!

2-week limited engagement starts September 14th!!!!!

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Fashion By: Bianca Sanders

For Your Body Type: Jeans When picking out the perfect pair of jeans, it’s best to know what type of jeans fit your body type and will be most flattering.

High Rise Denim

Bootcut Denim

This style is mainly for the tall & slim. I wouldn't suggest this style for the Petite & Curvy. It can make you look short & frumpy NOT very flattering for the body at all.

Having larger hips & thighs work best to pull these off.

Definitely give you a more flattering silhouette.

Low Rise Denim

Straight Leg Denim

This style is more flattering for a smaller frame girl/ woman to make for a great silhouette. Curvier ladies stay away!

Have thicker hips & thighs or even if you don’t this style of denim is a great fit for anyone.

Giving the illusion of long legs a great flattering denim style.

Boyfriend Jeans

Skinny Jeans

GREAT for all shapes and sizes. They're so very comfy, always wear them tighter inside of extra loose with simple tops.

I recommend this style more for the tall & petite, with a great pair of heels, flats or tucked into those knee high boots (HOT FALL TREND). It’s flattering on any body shape.

Top 3 Denim Websites

Check out these 3 great websites to find the Best Fit Denim For YOU 1) www.us.levis.com They have a great new tool to help you find your denim, it's called Curve ID the denim ranges from $46 to $78.

Colored denim can be found here as well.

2) www.Express.com They have a wide variety of colored and printed denim. Great deals on woman's denim, their denim usually ranges from $59.90 to $79.90.

The usual special that they have running on their denim is Buy one, get one 1/2 off.

3) www.Gap.com Home of the no fade denim, with their denim going up to a size 20 this makes this brand great for all sizes and shapes.

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Prices range from $59.95 to $89.95.

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Dr. Leeya F. Pinder OB/GYN Charlotte, NC

Time of the Month: Dealing With Your Period

Health By: LaPorsha Lowry

Starting your period can be a scary experience, so Dr. Pinder answers questions that were submitted by Ajayda, an 11-year-old 6th grader from Charlotte, NC.

Q: I’m 11 & I just started my period. Is this normal?

The start of a young girls menstrual cycle (period) is a very normal part of growing up. It is part of puberty, which is when your body changes to become more like and adult. For most girls their menstrual cycle starts between ages 12-14, but some girls start earlier.

Q: I’m embarrassed and scared for my period to come on at school. What do I do?

A menstrual period usually lasts between 3-5 days, but can be as long as 7 days. So unless you are on summer break, you will have a period during school time. You are not alone. In your school there are many girls who are dealing with their periods every day.

Most girls handle their cycles without anyone knowing they are having a period.

The key to managing your period during school time is preparation. Knowing when your cycle will occur and having the

proper tools for good hygiene, will make this easier for you, so there is no need to be embarrassed or afraid while at school.

Q: I don’t want to mess up my pants. How can I keep from doing that?

In order to avoid “accidents” or soiling your clothes during your period, it is important to know when your cycle is coming and also which days your flow is the heaviest. For most girls their menstrual flow is heaviest around the second day.

On the heaviest days, you may have to change you pads/tampons more frequently – usually every 2 hours. On your heaviest days, if you can’t change as frequently, you may need to get Super pads/tampons to absorb more menstrual blood.

A normal menstrual cycle is once a month or it’s starts every 28 days. Get a calendar and every month mark the 1st day of your period.

This will help you to know around what day your next period will

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The Student Athlete and Their Monthly Challenger Being a student athlete is an exciting, yet sometimes challenging time in a young persons’ life. It can be pretty hard to balance schoolwork, homework, practices and games with the complicated balancing act that happens just trying to be a normal teen.

One of the biggest challenges for a female athlete is her period, and this occurs every month.

The menstrual period becomes a regular part of life for females usually beginning between the ages of 12-14, but sometimes earlier.

A menstrual period usually lasts 3-7 days and comes once a month around every 28 days.

When you first start your period, this may come sooner or later than every 28 days, but it will become more regular the older that you get. The menstrual blood flow varies for each person and can be light, regular, heavy, or some combination of all three.

It can be truly bothersome having your period during the season. It can make you feel self-conscious, uncomfortable, and sometimes unhygienic.

Here are some useful tips to help you conquer you menstrual cycle-just like you conquer your sport!

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Mark the 1st day of each menstrual period on a calendar so you’ll know when to expect your period.

Change your pad or tampon just before practice or competition begins, and shower and change it just after it ends.

If you can’t take a shower immediately after, when you change your pad/tampon, consider using cleansing cloths instead (example: Always cleansing wipes).

Consider using or learning how to use

tampons, so you won’t have the bulk of a pad and the feeling of wetness as you practice or participate in competition. a) Tampons can seem pretty scary when you’ve never used them before, but they go in easily and you don’t feel them on the inside while your doing your activities. b) Talk to your Mom or your Pediatrician about how to insert/use a tampon correctly in order to avoid unnecessary discomfort or other risks c) Tampons are small and soft and they really allow you freedom from worry especially if you are a swimmer, a volleyball player, or a runner. d) Plastic applicators are more comfortable than cardboard applicators (example: Platex gentle glide) e) Always make sure you are changing your tampons/pads at least every 4-6 hours and it is usually best not to sleep overnight in tampons.

There are a variety of absorbencies for pads and tampons, use the type that is appropriate for your daily flow so that you will be comfortable and able to focus on your activity.

5. If you have menstrual cramps, use over the counter medications like Midol, Pamprin, or Motrin to help alleviate the cramping, so you can concentrate and be at your best.

6. Talk to your doctor. The Internet can be a great place to connect with your friends, but it can also be a great place to get the WRONG

information.

Have a safe season athletes. Don’t let your menstrual period keep you from being your best.

Olympians don’t!

Disclaimer: I have no affiliation with any of the products mentioned, nor do I endorse one brand over another.

Use these tips to kick your period’s butt!

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Health By: LaPorsha Lowry

Workouts You Can Do In Class!!!!!

School takes up most of your time, but here are some exercises that you can do right in the classroom...they are easy, don’t take up too much time, and will be little disruption.

Arm circles (2 sets x 20 each direction)

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Stand with feet shoulder-width apart, arms extended straight out to sides at shoulder height 2.

Keeping shoulders down, do 20 small backward circles 3.

Switch directions; do 20 forward circles

Calf raises (2 sets x 10 raises)

1. Stand straight with your legs shoulder-width apart 2. Raise your heels up and hold on your toes for 10 seconds

*5 Workout Tips*

Wall sits (2 sets x 60 seconds)

1. Stand in front of a wall & lean against it 2. Slide down until your knees are at about 90-degree angles (like you are sitting in a chair) and hold for 60 seconds

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1. Stay HYDRATED Take a water bottle to school with you 2. Protect Your Hair Wrap it & still get your workout on 3. Stretch Before and After Easiest way to prevent injury 4. Power Walk Between Classes Instead of socializing, swing those arms 5. Take Gym Class Seriously Go all out...whether it’s basketball or jump rope

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Wall Push-ups (2 sets x 10 push-ups)

Place your hands on a wall shoulder-width apart Lean towards the wall while bending your arms Push your body away from the wall

Lunges (2 sets x 10 lunges)

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Place your hands on your waist and keep your upper body straight, with your shoulders back and relaxed and chin up 2.

Step forward with one leg, lowering your hips until both knees are bent at about a 90-degree angle 3.

Make sure your front knee is directly above your ankle, not pushed out too far, and make sure your other knee doesn’t touch the floor

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Show Him You’re Interested

Relationships

By: Taris Easterling

Sistas, it’s about that time again to start preparing yourself for another year of school. You have everything you could possibly need: books, pencils, book bags...but one thing is missing.

And that one thing reminds you that’s it’s missing every time you turn on Pandora and hear your favorite slow songs which immediately puts you in your feelings. Here are some tips for you that will cure the loneliness & help you find a boyfriend.

Follow him on Twitter/ Friend him on Facebook

Sit Next To Him In Class

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There’s nothing wrong with sitting next to him.

Establishing a connection early on will ease you into getting him to open up and talk to you.

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Make sure you keep with his “hilarity” but don’t overdo it by cyber stalking him. That’s just not a good luck.

Be In His Group For a Project Be BOLD! Volunteer to help him and do a group project together. Working with him will guarantee you the time to get closer and “invade” his space.

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Talk to him Communication is the foundation to every relationship. Phone calls, text messages, Skype/OoVoo dates are the key to making it work!

Meet Him in the Lunchroom Sashay your way into his heart the old-fashioned way: FOOD and FRIENDS! Chill with him and his friends at lunch and mingle and blend in.

A girl that can hang with home and them his friends is the best girlfriend EVER! Text him “Good morning”

A good morning text or tweet will turn his day into a smile quick. Let him know that he was on your mind in the AM or PM. That’s a surefire way into the top spot.

7 These tips are only foundations and guiding steps to help you win the heart of your beloved. The rest, ladies, is up to you!

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Go to his game (if he plays football or fall sports) Showing him that you support him and is his #1 fan will most definitely earn you a top spot on his roster. A little face paint and decorated t-shirts go a long way.

Do You Know What Love Is?

Relationships

By: Yani Long

You hear about it in songs and movies , but do you REALLY know what it means? It’s more than just a word...

Love can be defined in more than one way. It can be shared between a man and a woman, a girl and a boy, sister and brother, other immediate family, and amongst friends. Each individual has an idea of what love entails, but does he or she really know what love is?

Love first begins with you.

Loving yourself is one of the most important, if not the most important, asset that you can acquire. Before you can love anyone else you have to learn how to love yourself.

Loving yourself gives you the opportunity to learn your worth, allow you to think rationally while coming to understand what is best for you.

Only you know what is best for you, but in doing so you have to put yourself first. The first step in learning how to love yourself is to look in the mirror, know that you are beautiful because you are a child of God, and first and foremost God loves you.

In order to develop your own definition of what love is you have to understand what love is not. The Bible says that love does not boast, it does not envy, and it does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth, love is not easily angered, keeps no record

of wrongs, is not proud, and does not dishonor others. With that being said, love should be understood as more than just a word.

Love is not just a word because it is an action. Through life experiences you will soon come to understand that to feel love you have to see love. The saying “actions speak louder than words,” stays true to its meaning.

Someone cannot tell you that he or she loves you if he or she does not show you. For example, if someone tells you that he or

she loves you but you never see him or her, wouldn’t you begin to question his or her love?

Love without action does not exist. Jesus died for our sins and that is the largest act of love there is.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

-John 3:16 (NIV)

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Furaha “Joy”

By: Yani Long

Building Your Relationship with God

When times get tough and the people around you (familly, friends, boyfriend) cannot help or are not there, who do you turn to? Having a relationship with God often makes things better.

As a young adult, it is important to build strong healthy relationships with close friends and relatives, teachers, and other individuals that have a positive influence in your life.

The importance of building those types of relationships is to earn and gain trust, develop character, to love, care, and support. The key to building strong healthy relationships is first building a relationship with God. The first question that may come to mind is: Who is God? God is the creator of all things. The second question may be why is building a relationship with God a key factor in building relationships with others. The answer has to do with the knowledge of what God has written in the bible.

If anyone should believe in anything at all, God is thought to be the best. His word teaches you how to love and guides you on the path that will lead you to growth and righteousness.

No one wants to be led astray and mostly everyone wants to do the right thing. The Bible is known to be your guide. Your guide to worshipping him and learning how to live on earth as you would in heaven. Is anyone perfect? No, but the point of it all is to get you to live the life that you deserve.

There is so much knowledge to gain by allowing yourself to open your heart to the Lord your Christ. With all the ups and downs and curve balls that life throws at you, God has all the answers and power to turn whatever pain there is into joy.

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learn how to keep a positive mind throughout any hardship that you may encounter as you develop into the strong, confident, intelligent woman that you are destined to be.

If you choose God to be the power you believe in, the progression that takes place within you furthers your thought process.

For example, instead of committing a kind act for self gratification, you would be glad and grateful that you were even given the opportunity to help someone in need. While being there for someone in need you allow others to trust you and in turn it builds your character.

God said love your neighbor as yourself, which is found in the book of Mark in the 12th chapter verse thirty-one. This is just one example

of the other commandments that God asks you to do. The scripture also defines what love is which gives you a great bit of knowledge about what type of relationship may be the right one for you. You are allowed to pick and choose your battles, and of those battles are choosing the right relationships for you. In choosing the right relationships you learn how to maintain those relationships.

Strong, healthy relationships create for abundant benefits and first building a relationship with God shows you how far you can go mentally and spiritually.

If you’re not sure who to go to or where to start, just pray. God will answer and show you what you need to do.

Jando “Initiation”

College Bound!!!!!

Sista’s Keeper writer Taris Easterling shares how she felt when she found out that she was going to college & what she looks forward to when she attends North Carolina Central University this fall. on my own journey.

Do you have any friends going to the same school as you?

YES! I always keep a team with me.

Do you have any extracurricular activities that you want to get involved in?

I want to get involved with the student body so Student Government is a MUST! Also, I have my own online radio show so I intend to expand to the campus radio.

How do you plan to stay focused on school & not get distracted?

I plan on surrounding myself with good people and hard workers that's wanting the same achievement as myself.

Age: 18 College You Are Attending: North Carolina Central University (Eagle Pride, AMPLIFIED!) High School Attended: Harding University High School Hometown: Miami Bred, North Carolina raised What is the one thing that you are MOST looking forward to about college?

I'm most looking forward to the new experiences as a young adult. I'm also looking forward to the independence of living away from home.

What do you plan on majoring in?

I plan on majoring in Mass Communications with a concentration in Broadcast Media What is one thing (if any) that you are nervous about?

I'm most nervous about keeping focused and being

What are some good things that you've heard about the school you're going to?

I've heard that its a good fun school to attend and that the expectations are right where I need to be.

How did you feel when you received your acceptance letter?

I was ESTATIC! I think I slid across the entire house while my mom laughed LOL! What made you select NCCU? People say my older brother had a biased influence but I think the joy of being in that particular HBCU had me sold, signed, and delivered.

What other schools did you apply to?

I applied to NC A&T, Univ of Miami, JCSU, Shaw, Virginia State, and UNCG.

Editor’s Note: LaPorsha Lowry graduated from North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University. AGGIE PRIDE!!!!!!!!!!

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“Blossom”

Baby Steps

Baby steps are small steps towards a goal. You want to accomplish something but it can’t happen overnight...you have to WORK for it! Think of these tips as “baby steps” to go along with the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens feature. Go to pg. 34 and read it first, then come back to this page. Use this worksheet in your daily life.

Paradigms & Principles •

Look in the mirror & say something POSITIVE about yourself

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Think of a limiting paradigm that you have of yourself; do something that contradicts it

When you have nothing to do, what is it that occupies your thoughts, time & energy?

Habit 1: Be Proactive •

Listen to the words that you use today. Count how many times you use reactive words (“I have to…”, “You make me…”, “I can’t…”, “Why can’t they…”)

Reactive language I use most: __________________________________________________________

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Use the GOLDEN RULE: Treat others the way that you want them to treat YOU

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Listen carefully to the music that you listen to the most; Evaluate if it goes along with the principles that you believe in

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Keep promises to yourself: Take one task (laundry, homework, etc.) & give yourself a time to do it, then get it done

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Do random acts of service: Write a thank-you note, take out the trash, do the dishes, etc.

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Tap into your talents: list a talent that you want to develop & write down steps to get there

Talent I want to develop: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ Steps to get there: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ •

Be gentle with yourself: Try to go a whole day WITHOUT negative self talk; replace negative thought about yourself with positive ones

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Renew yourself: Complete a FUN activity that will lift your spirits (music, dancing, etc.)

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Be honest: For one day, try not to exaggerate or embellish

Paradigm- the way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference, or belief Reactive- acting in response to a situation rather than creating or controlling it

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Do something today that you always wanted to do but didn’t; get out of your comfort zone & go for it (ask someone out, raise your hand in class, try out for a team)

Write yourself a Post-It note: “I will not let _______________________ __________________________________________________________ decide how I’m going to feel.” Put it on your mirror, in your locker, in your planner & refer to it often •

When you go to a party, don’t just sit against the wall. Find someone to talk to, dance, or walk up & introduce yourself to someone new

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If you get into a fight with a parent or friend, be the first to apologize

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Identify something in your life that you have no control over that you always worry about & decide how to drop it

Things that I always worry about but have NO control over: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ •

Stop yourself before you react to someone who bumps you in the hallway, calls you a name or cuts in line

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Ask yourself, “What is my most unhealthy habit?” Do something about it

Most unhealthy habit: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ What I’m going to do about it: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________

BIG Decisions: Ndege Joining the Military

“Flight”

Most people settle into their career after college, but others begin a career in the military after completing the ROTC program. You can get experience for your career as well as these benefits from ROTC.com.

Aquia Chambers, a 14-year-old 9th grader at in Charlotte, NC, plans to participate in Air Force ROTC in college. Chambers says that she wants to do it in order to help pay for college. “I want to be a lawyer,”, Chambers says, “and I know that it will take a lot of education.”

There are many benefit to enlisting in the Armed Forces after high school or in college:

Enjoy College Joining ROTC does not mean you have to stop being a normal college student or enjoying extra-curricular activities.

Photo: Mecklenburg SAR website

Start Ahead of the Game After graduation and upon completion of ROTC, each member who goes active duty starts at a management level, or as an officer in other cases.

This allows members to take what they have learned and apply it in their respective career fields. How many other jobs can you be hired for that don’t make you start at the bottom?

Aside from attending a meeting each week and wearing your ROTC uniform at special events or meeting days, members carry on with a regular college schedule. Aside from an advanced education, you are also gaining job experience at the same time.

Career Choices Have a special interest or skill?

The military is helpful placing personnel in career areas that both utilize specific interests, training and skills.

Even if you do decide not to join the military, the hands-on experience through ROTC is an advantage that is not given to just everyone. If you do opt for active duty, or if it is required, these valuable skills will ensure you get that choice of career.

Leadership Skills Skills learned in ROTC are extremely valuable whether you continue on in the respective military branch, or just take what you have learned into the civilian life.

Each member of ROTC learns the fundamental rules of involved in managing positions and gains knowledge in what it takes to be in charge.

Tuition Assistance The ROTC offers tuition assistance to all members as well as gives numerous scholarships to members who qualify.

This assistance can help pay for college tuition and miscellaneous fees, textbooks or other school expenses.

So, the skills and education gained through an ROTC program can be helpful and exciting. In the process, you can make college a much more fulfilling experience and ensure the best jump of future career choices and possibilities.

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D E L O N G GIR L

By: LaPorsha Lowry

When Gabrielle Douglas flipped, flew and vaulted her way to become the first African-American woman to win the Olympic gymnastics all-around, she inspired an entire generation of young black girls.

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abrielle Douglas was not favored to win gold at the London Olympics. In fact, she wasn’t even supposed to be the best one on her team. However, when this 4-foot-11-inch black girl looked up and saw her name as first in the Women’s Gymnastics allaround, she instantly became the one on top, fulfilling her dream since she was younger.

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Gabrielle Douglas leaped her way to a Olympic gold medal...and right into our hearts.

That dream was to compete in the Olympics, and she would work hard and make great sacrifices to achieve it. Facing adversity at every turn, she can now tell the story of how it all paid off, and how she became America’s sweetheart.

Leap of Faith

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ould you imagine leaving your family, moving away from home with complete strangers just to complete your dreams? That’s exactly what Gabrielle Douglas did when she moved from Virgina to Iowa to train with Olympic gymnastics coach Liang Chow.

“I made a lot of sacrifices: moving to Iowa, not being with my dad whenever I want to or hang out with my friends but in the end, it would all pay off. I had a BIG dream,” she told Fox Sports’ Dominque

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Dawes earlier this year, who was her inspiration to get into gymanstics.

That dream would take her from her home in Virgina, to Iowa, and eventually to London, where she would be able to silence critics and qualify for the individual all-around final.

She was an underdog, who many thought would not even make the finals, because only two people from each team make it. Many had predicted that teammates Jordan Weiber and Aly Raisman would make

“I want to inspire

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it instead. But it was Gabrielle who would advance and take the gold.

Making History

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hen I first heard about Gabrielle Douglas, I had a great feeling about her: not only to cover her for this magazine but I felt that she would be a great ambassador for gymnastics. However, at the time I had no idea the impact that she would make by winning the gold medal.

At the very moment that she secured her place in history as the first African-American woman to win the Women’s Olympic gold, she lit up the faces of every young black girl in America, and probably the world.

Back when she spoke to Dominique Dawes, she said that she really hoped to make history.

“This isn’t a black sport. I want everyone to say ‘Wow, she’s African-American. They can’t do that!’

I want to say, ‘Yes we can!’”

And that’s exactly what she did: broke down barriers that were in her sport for decades. She not only won the gold medal, but she inspired an entire generation of young girls, who are probably only a few years younger than her.

Douglas is only 16, but she is looking forward to the 2016 Olympics to defend her title, as well as completing high school and going to college.

She wants all of her fans to take what she has done and be inspired. “ I want to inspire young girls & let them know everything is possible if you put your mind to it,” she says. “If Gabby can do it, I can do it!”

Douglas has been everywhere since her historc win: (top left) interview with Oprah, meeting her inspiration Dominique Dawes, & talking with First Lady Michelle Obama (bottom)

1-on-1: 2012 Olympic Sistas

Name: Claressa Shields Age: 17 Sport: Boxing Medal: GOLD Event: Women’s Middle (75kg)

Photo Courtesy of Claressa Shields’ Twitter page

Sista’s Keeper : How does it feel to be the first woman to win an Olympic boxing medal in your weight class?

Claressa Shields: It feels great! It’s a little unbelievable.

SK: What was it like to compete in the Olympics and represent the USA at age 17?

CS: It was very exciting. You have to know how to focus because it’s so easy to get distracted.

SK:Do you have any sisters?

CS: Yes I do have a sister. I have a younger one, and 2 older ones.

SK:What does being your “sista’s keeper”?

CS: To be there when she needs me, as in giving advice, a helping hand, guidance...just being there for them. They are my keepers too!

Name: Lia Neal Age: 17 Sport: Swimming Medal: BRONZE Event: 4x100 relay Sista’s Keeper: How was it to compete in the Olympics at 17 for the 1st time in London & win a bronze medal?

Lia Neal: It was an experience unlike anything that I’ve ever experienced before.

To win a bronze medal too is something that I’m so grateful for.

SK: You are the 2nd African-American woman to make the US Olympic swim team. What does that mean to you?

LN: It’s means that we’re taking a step towards the right direction of diversifying the sport. If I can serve as a role model to encourages other girls who look like me to strive to accomplish the goals that they’ve set out for, then I’m glad that I could help.

SK: What high school do you go to? Do you have plans for college?

LN: I am a senior at Convent of the Sacred Heart. I have a few college trips planned for this September and October so I’m looking forward to those. It’s weird that in a few months I’ll know where I’ll be going to college.

SK: What does it mean to you to be your “Sista’s Keeper”?

LN: To be a person that someone else can confide in and to be there for them.

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Be Effective!!!!!

Habit 1: Be Proactive

This first habit is the key to unlocking all the other habits in later issues. Taking initiative & making moves is the first step toward achieving a victory!

Proactive vs. Reactive: the choice is yours

Situation: You find out that another girl is spreading a nasty rumor about you

Becoming a Change Agent

Reactive: make choices based on impulse • You are like a bottle of soda (if life shakes you up, the pressure builds & you suddenly EXPLODE!!!!!

“I’m gonna beat you down! You don’t know who you’re messing with!”

WHO ARE YOUR ROLE MODELS? • •

Be the FIRST to do something Don’t let your past or family history discourage you

We Can Control Only One Thing • How we respond to what happens

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Proactive: make choices based on values • Think before you act; you can’t control everything but you control what you do about it “I know the truth & I’m not going to let this bother me.”

“I am the force. I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver’s seat of my destiny, not just a passenger.”

Turning Setbacks Into Triumphs

A setback is an opportunity to turn it into triumph

Proactive= puts control back into your hands

“I’ll try” vs “I’ll do it”

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Get control & think about how you want to respond 4 Human Tools: 1. Self-awareness 2. Conscience 3. Imagination 4. Willpower

Rising Above Abuse •

If you’ve been abused, it’s not your fault...don’t keep it a secret! Tell someone to help you make it better so the healing & forgiving process

Victimitus

Listen to Your Language

Reactive= takes power away from you & gives it to something or someone else

Just Push Pause

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Believe that everyone is out to get you or owes you something

Reactive=easily offended, blame others, get angry & say things that you’ll regret, whine & complain, wait for things to happen, change only when you have to

Proactive= not easily offended, take responsibility, think before you act, bounce back from something bad, find a way to make it happen, change what you can & don’t worry about what you can’t

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Paradigms & Principles A paradigm is the way you see something, your point, frame of reference, or belief.

If you believe you’re dumb, that will make you dumb! You will look for evidence to support your belief & when you find it, you will keep believing it. If you believe you’re smart, that will help you to feel better Paradigm of self

Is your view of yourself helping or hindering you?

Paradigm shift-seeing things in a new way Negative=limitations Positive=bring out the best

How can I fix it?

Spend time with someone who believes in you and builds you up (family, friends, coach, teacher). It only takes one person & don’t be afraid to lean on them. Go to them for advice and see yourself the way they see you Paradigm of others Seeing things from a different point of view helps to understand why people act the way they do. We too often judge people without having all the facts.

Seeing things from another point of view can make a difference in our attitude towards others.

Paradigms are often incomplete, inaccurate, or completely messed up; shouldn’t be quick to judge, label, or form

opinions of others or ourselves; we rarely have all the facts or see the whole picture Open your mind to new information, ideas, and points of view & be willing to change them when they’re wrong Most problems (friends, relationships, attitude, self-esteem) are the result of messed up paradigms Paradigm of life • What is the driving force of my life?

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What do I spend my time thinking about?

• What or who is my obsession?

Whatever is most important to you will become your paradigm

Be PRINCIPLE-driven

Examples of Principles 1.

Friends-don’t base your identity on having friends, being accepted, and being popular; don’t compromise your standard or change them to accommodate 2. Stuff-Nothing wrong with having things, but don’t center your life on things that have no lasting value; confidence should come from within 3. Relationship- The more you center your life on someone, the more attractive you become to that person; it’s irritating when someone builds their entire emotional life around you; you will be a better girlfriend if you’re not centered on your partner 4. School-Education is vital & should be a priority; but don’t let GPA & AP classes take over your life; purpose of school is to learn 5. Parent-greatest source of love & guidance (respect & honor them) but you should not live just to please them 6. Sports/hobbies- don’t make your identity center around playing a sport or hobbies like dance, drama, music, or clubs; be well-rounded 7. Hero- don’t worship someone (famous or not) or revolve your life around them or what they do (wear what they wear, etc.)

8. Enemy- don’t build your life around hating a person, group or idea (being a mean girl or hating a clique) 9. Work-don’t be driven by the want for more stuff (money, clothes, shoes, etc.)

10. Self-don’t think the world revolves around you & your problems

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Most stable foundation that you can build on Putting principles first builds character Decide which principles you can use in a situation

“What is the principle that I can use here?”

Personal Bank Account

Inside Out- if you want to make a change in your life, start with yourself PBA Deposits-keep promises to yourself, do small acts of kindness, Be gentle with yourself, be honest, renew yourself, tap into your talents PBA Withdrawls- Break personal promises, keep to yourself, beat yourself up, be dishonest, wear yourself out, neglect your talents Keep promises to yourself- commit to yourself; focus on the things you can control Do small acts of kindness-speak to a lonely person; write a thank-you note to someone who makes a difference in your life

Be gentle with yourself-you don’t have to be perfect; don’t pressure yourself; be patient & give yourself time to grow; forgive yourself when you mess up; learn from mistakes Be honest-self-honesty; honesty in our actions Renew yourself-take time for yourself; find a place to escape to; music, dancing, exercising Tap into your talents-find & develop a talent; it’s exciting; selfexpression builds self-esteem

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Education Feature

Start the School

This college prep timeline provided by http://www.getreadyforcollege.org/ will show you what you need to do to get ready for college.

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Take interest and skills assessments to help you explore careers options

Begin thinking about the high • school classes that will prepare you for college.

Take the most • difficult classes you can handle • Develop good study habits Practice setting and reaching goals

Talk with your school counselor about career options and the education required for those careers Talk with your parents about saving and paying for college Talk with friends, teachers, counselors and your parents about college

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Check if your school requires 10th graders to take the PLAN to prepare for the ACT

Volunteer in your • community Take interest and skills assessments to help you think about possible career options

Talk with your school counselor and parents about careers that interest you

Create a tentative high school class plan Enroll in a summer enrichment program

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Review your high school class plan.

Take the most difficult classes you can handle. Stay focused on your schoolwork

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Sign up for classes that will earn college credit during your junior year through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the Schools

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Explore internships and apprenticeships

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Enroll in a summer enrichment program

Junior Year

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Attend college and financial aid events

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Mentor others and have a mentor for yourself

Schools

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Register for and take the ACT and/or SAT in the spring

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Review your high school class plan.

Take the most difficult classes you can handle. Stay focused on your schoolwork. Make sure you are meeting your high school graduation requirements

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Arrange campus visits to those schools that interest you

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Participate in extracurricular activities

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Request admissions and financial aid forms

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Enroll in a summer enrichment program

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Sign up for classes that will earn college credit during your senior year through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the

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Get a job to earn and save money for college, or explore your skills through an internship or apprenticeship.

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Research private scholarship options.

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Year Off RIGHT

By: LaPorsha Lowry

Senior Year •

Sign up for classes that will earStay focused on your schoolwork and take the most difficult classes you can handle

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Take career interest assessments and determine the education needed for careers that interest you

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Participate in extracurricular activities

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Volunteer in the community.

ATTENTION SENIORS!!!!!

Here is a month-by-month breakdown of what you need to do during your last year of high school to make sure that you are ready for college & beyond.

September-November

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Apply for scholarships offered by the colleges to which you have applied.

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Apply for financial aid by completing the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) as soon as possible after January 1. You and your parents will need the previous year’s income tax information to complete the it

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Review you Student Aid Report (SAR) for accuracy.

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Arrange campus visits to those schools that interest you. It’s okay to go more than once

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Take or retake the ACT and/or SAT in the fall

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Meet with your school counselor to review your high school class plan

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Select the schools to which you will apply. Make a list of deadlines for each school

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Create a resume of your academic, athletic and work activities as well as other achievements. Prepare a portfolio if you’re interested in the arts

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Have your final high school transcript sent to the colleges to which you’ve applied.

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Ask for recommendations (if required) from teachers, counselors and others who can comment on your abilities and talents

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Choose a college and notify in writing those you don’t plan to attend.

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Attend a financial aid event. Review a copy of Paying for College

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Send in any required forms or deposits.

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Check if there is still time to sign up for spring classes that will earn college credit through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the Schools

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Get a job to earn money for college.

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Review orientation materials from the college you selected.

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Apply to four or more colleges that interest you.

Some may have earlier or later deadlines. (Make copies of each application.)

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If living on campus, check with the college for a list of what’s provided by the school and what the school expects the student to provide.

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Attend a financial aid event if you haven’t already done so. Review a copy of Paying for College

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Contact your roommate.

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Back to School Fashion:

School is back in session and we want to know where School in Charlotte, NC shop to look cute for their first

Senior Year

Natassiah, 17 12th grade “These are my favorirte heels that I got from Rainbow”

these ladies from Harding University High t week.

Dashunta, 17 12th grade “My pants are from Forever 21 & my jewelry is from Charlotte Russe.”

Brianna, 17 12th grade “I put together my outfit from Old Navy, Rainbow, and Body Central”

Back To School By: Shontrece Brandon, LaPorsha Lowry & Bianca Sanders

Hair

From natural and effortlessly gorgeous to wet and slick: regardless your hair type and length, embrace easy fall styling with free-flowing natural locks, ponytails, braids and messy buns. If you want to reinvent your hair and have fun this season, recreate the latest trends, fresh from the runways.

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The bun is a classic up do that is stylish and simple. It can be worn as shown neat with trending fishtail braids or it can be worn “messy”, either is great for day or night.

When it comes to hair color in 2012, blonde hair ranks among the trendiest on the scale. Whether platinum, caramel, golden, strawberry, or dashes of pink, blonde hair is sticking to its reputation of being “more fun” Retro styles of the 60’s and 70’s has gained popularity among the celebrities photographed on the red carpet.

The deep and lasting influence of the natural hair community on the hair industry is evident everywhere you look.

Hair color trends that are hot right now run the range of light to dark, so what ever your personality is you can find the right hair-color for you.

Sugar Rush (Black/Grey)

$60.00

This sneaker can be paired with a t-shirt & a cool pair of leopart-print leggings.

Sire Espadrille Mid (Black)

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Try this shoe with a pair of khakis & a collered or button-up shirt for a splash.

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Fashion Guide Clothes

The Trend Report Well its definitely that time of year again time to put away those sun dresses, shorts, flip flops, sandals and who could forget those amazing trips to the beach.

Into fall we go, one of the best times of year if you ask me the change of colors, climate of weather, the thought of winter lurking in the distance and not to mention all the awesome fall fashions!!!

Top Patterns For Fall

HOT ITEMS TO HAVE FOR FALL • • • • • • • • • •

Over the Knee Boots Fitted Leather Jackets Wool Shirts Bright Knits Fur Accents Blanket Coats Feathers Statement Hats Strong Collars Lots of Leather

1) Fun Patterns (i.e. Funky abstracts, Color Geometric Patterns) 2) Handwork (i.e. Hand Knit & Crocheted pieces) 3) Wild Animal Prints 4) West Indian & Tribal Prints 5) Bold Brocade 6) Delicate Mini Floral

Hot Fall Combos Fall is all about the layers, mixing and matching it up. Think outside the box! Doing a lot of textured combos is a plus this season.

Layering Combos Wearing faux fur with every & anything is key: rich knits layered with sheer chiffon or shiny satin partnered with dapper tweed.

Hottest Fall Color Combos

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• Black & Blue • Winter Whites Military-inspired color pieces • Shimmer & Lace

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$54.99 These are perfect if you like the rocker style or are looking for something different; they also come in black and pink

Featuring...

Shoes

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Fashion Guide

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Forever 21 + Pastry = Fall Fashion Must Haves 2

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Never Look Back Sweater $22.80 Relaxed High-Low Shirt $19.80 Black & White Striped Pants $29.80

Nevermind Sweater $19.80 Animal Print Denim Skinnies $24.80

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Metallic Coated Denim Vest $24.80 Color Blocked Panel Top $17.80 Paneled Metallic Animal Leggings $13.80

Beaded Headwrap $3.80

Faceted Bead Necklace Crystal Cluster Knuckles Ring $6.80

$9.80

Rhinedstoned Cross Rosary Necklace $8.80

Shoes Sugar Rush New Blk $60.00

Sire Espadrille Mid Black $59.99

Makeup

Glam Pie Foil Cheetah $54.99

These trends are inspired by those shown at the Fall 2012 New York Fashion Week...

Courtesy: Essence.com

1) BOLD Bright Lips Bright red lips with very little other makeup will give a great contrast your fall outfit.

2) Smoky Eye & Rosy Cheeks Keep it natural with light blush and a nude lips to go with the dramatic smoky eye.

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Fashion Guide

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Accessories

Embellished Flower Earrings $6.80

Dark Apply two layers of this color for a take-charge effect...

Eggplant Parmesean ($12)

Geo Ring Set $4.80 H&M purse $17.95

Bright This eyecatching shade is a deep breath of fresh air Text or Email for fall... ($12) Bold

H&M Cap $12.95

Spiked Trim Clutch $24.80

This deep color will bring an edge...

Craft ($12)

GO TO WEBSITES FOR FALL SHOPPING

Nails

1) www.Forever21.com 2) www.HM.com (H&M) 3) www.TopShop.com 4) www.UrbanOutfitters.com 5) www.LovePastry.com

These websites have it all from earrings to shoes.

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Resources Period Packs Inc. www.periodpacks.com Steve & Marjorie Harvey Foundation www.smharveyfoundation.org Uniquely YOU Summit for Girls www.uniquelyyousummit.org Minnesota Office of Higher Education http://www.getreadyforcollege.org/ ROTC Program www.ROTC.com Dr. Tonya McLeod www.ppsd.com

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Light pains in the lower part of your belly may come each month around the time of your menstrual period.

This is also known as period cramps or menstrual cramps. These cramps can also signal you to the start of your menses and you can have pads/tampons available and be prepared.

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Q: I don’t want to get picked on for being on my period.

We unfortunately can’t make people be nice all the time. The good news is almost all the girls in your school have their period. So they understand what you are going through. You can always be discrete about your menstrual period. Ask your Mom to buy you a cute/ stylish make-up bag or pouch to keep your pads/ tampons, that way others don’t know that it’s that time of the month for you.

Most tampons are now so compact, that they fit in your pocket! Also, you can get some personal hygiene cloths to wipe off every time you change your pad/ tampon. This reduces the risk of any odor associated with your period. The biggest way to reduce the risk of an odor from your period is to change your pads/ tampon as often as you can - especially on your heaviest days.

Can’t talk to her friends or trust others Starting your period is a frightening thing, but everyone has had some fear associated with it. If you can’t talk to your friends about what you’re going through, your Mom is a great resource. She probably went through all the same things you’re going through right now!

Also, older sisters, Aunts, and Grandmothers can be of help as well. If there are no family members you feel comfortable with, there is always the school nurse or your Pediatrician. They will have great useful information for you as well.

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Black Women In History

Madame CJ Walker

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One of the first female AfricanAmerican entrepreneurs • Began experimenting with different hair care treatments & products • 1905: Invented a method for straightening African-Americans' "kinky" hair • Promoted her method & products by traveling about the country giving lectures & demonstrations • Established Madame C. J. Walker Laboratories to manufacture cosmetics and train her sales beauticians.

• Her method involved her own formula for a pomade, much brushing, and the use of heated combs.

• Her business became so successful that she opened an office in Pittsburgh in 1908 • 1910: Established the headquarters of Madame C. J. Walker Laboratories to manufacture cosmetics and train her sales beauticians • At the time of her death, she was sole owner of her business, which was valued at more than $1 million 40

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Born: Sarah Breedlove December 23, 1867 Delta, Louisiana Died: May 25, 1919 Irvington-on-Hudson, New York

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