Loss Of A PetHow To Help Your Child Cope When

A Beloved Animal Dies

The death of a pet is an emotional and challenging experience for children (and let’s be honest their parents too). Here are some strategies to help children cope.

Be Honest and Age-Appropriate

- When explaining the death of a pet to a child, be honest and use age-appropriate language. Avoid using euphemisms or confusing explanations.

Encourage Expression of Feelings

- Allow children to express their feelings openly. Encourage them to talk about their emotions, ask questions, or share memories of their pet. Listen attentively and validate their feelings. Let them know that grief is natural and that you are there to support them.

Create a Memorial or Ritual –This can provide closure. Create a memory box with photos, drawings, or written messages. Plant a tree or flowers to serve as a physical reminder of their beloved companion. You might hold a small ceremony or ritual to say goodbye.

Answer Questions Truthfully

- Provide age-appropriate explanations. Avoid giving excessive details or speculating. It's okay if you don't have all the answers; let them know that some things are uncertain or beyond our control.

Maintain Routine - This can provide stability and a sense of security during a time of loss. Stick to regular mealtimes, bedtimes, and engage in normal activities.

Keeping familiar routines can help children feel grounded during this period of adjustment.

Encourage Expression through Art or Writing - Art and writing can be therapeutic outlets for children to express their emotions. Encourage them to draw pictures, write stories or poems, or create a scrapbook dedicated to their pet.

Support Decision-MakingInvolve the child in any decisions regarding burial or cremation. Give them a sense of involvement to provide a sense of closure and allow them to say goodbye in a meaningful way. Offer choices, such as where to bury their pet, or whether they’d like a marker.

Be Patient - Grief takes time, and each child processes loss differently. Be patient and understanding with their emotions. Provide comfort and reassurance by offering hugs, cuddles, or simply being present when they need someone to lean on.

When to consider getting a new pet - Deciding when to introduce a new pet into the family is a personal choice. Some children (and adults) find comfort and healing in welcoming a new pet, while others may need more time. If the family decides to adopt a new pet, involve the child in the process, and help them understand that the new pet will not replace their beloved companion but will bring new joy and love.

By Sarah Davey