Evince Magazine May 2013

Stacey Moreau Following Her Mother’s Advice Page 3

Dr. Judith Ostrowski Helping Others to Hear Here Page 6

May 2013

Photo by Michelle Dalton Photography

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Editor’s Note

This issue of Evince, The Voice of Dignity, can be summarized in one sentence from the last paragraph of Linda Lemery’s Reflecting Forward on page 19.

(Don’t overlook the picture of her wearing a Viking helmet. It’s priceless.) She explains that being dignified means making decisions that are appropriate to location and circumstance.

With that in mind, who better to feature on the cover than Judge Stacey Moreau: Following Her Mother’s Advice, page 3. From her mother, she learned selfrespect, poise and decorum. It has served her well as a judge and a mother of two sons. Kim Clifton thinks her mother is dignity personified in Second Thoughts, May Day on page 9. Of course, with her selfdeprecating humor, she doesn’t believe it’s hereditary.

A trio of writers has suggestions on nurturing self-respect through physical fitness on page 20 Gaining Dignity & Good Health.

Also, Mac Williams writes about The Dignity That Is Danville on page 21. He compares our architecture to the classics in Europe.

If you know someone whose dignity is suffering because that person doesn’t hear well, read Dr. Judith Ostrowski – Helping Others to Hear Here on page 6.

It would be difficult to find a more compassionate advocate for the hearing impaired. Finally, Diane Adkins addresses a difficult subject in her review of My Mother, Your Mother on page 22.

May Contents

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Editor’s Note

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Stacey Moreau / Following Her Mother’s Advice

by Joyce Wilburn

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OICE OF DIGNITY

CEO / Publisher Andrew Scott Brooks

Dr. Jeff The Family Vet

by Dr. Jeff Smith

President Larry Oldham (434.728.3713) larry@evincemagazine.com

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She Said He Said / To Play or Not to Play

by Dena Hill & Larry Oldham

Editor Joyce Wilburn (434.799.3160) joycewilburn@gmail.com

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The Voice of Readers

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May is Better Speach & Hearing Month

by Judith Ostrowski

Associate Editors Larry G. Aaron (434.792.8695) larry.aaron@gmail.com Jeanette Taylor

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Dr. Judith Ostrowski / Helping Others to Hear Here

by Joyce Wilburn

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Second Thoughts / May Day by Kim Clifton

10 Performance Points by Kristina Barkhouser 11 Spotting Exceptional Customer Service

by Danny Scism Where Can I Find an Evince?

12 Mother’s Day / Fiction by Telisha Moore Leigg 14 Calendar Clips

Contributing Writers

Diane Adkins, Kristina Barksdale, Kirk Bidgood, Kim Clifton, Patsi Compton, Mary Franklin, Dave Gluhareff, Dena Hill, Telisha Moore Leigg, Linda Lemery, Jacob McCain, Ciji Moore, Larry Oldham, Judith Ostrowski, Danny Scism, Barbara Seamster, Jeff Smith, Suzanne Stowe, Melanie Vaughan, Joyce Wilburn, Larry Wilburn, Patrice Wilkerson, Annelle Williams, Mack Williams, Sonya Wolen

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16 Calendar 17 Spring Is Here / Poem by Patrice Wilkerson 19 Reflecting Forward / The Voice of Dignity—Not!

by Linda Lemery

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21 The Dignity That Is Danville by Mack Williams 22 Book Clubbing / My Mother, Your Mother a review by Diane Adkins 23 Around the Table / A Mother’s Day Coconut Cake

by Annelle Williams

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or 22nd Judicial Circuit Court Judge, Stacey Moreau, memories of growing up in Danville include an image of her mother at the ironing board and a discussion that took place one day in the early 1970s. Five-yearold Stacey told her mom, LuRae Williams, that she wanted to be an attorney like her dad, Ron Williams, but she had been informed that girls weren’t allowed to study law. Even decades later, one can almost see the fire in her mom’s eyes as her mother put the iron down, looked at her daughter and replied emphatically, “You can do anything you want and if you want to do what your daddy does, you can.” That short inspirational talk was all it took for Stacey to start the journey that would eventually lead to an historic event on July 1, 2012, when she became the first female judge to be appointed to the Danville, Pittsylvania County and Franklin County Circuit Court.

It might be argued that becoming an attorney was in her genes. “My dad is in his 51st year of being an attorney and brother Mark is an attorney here in town,” says the 1990 graduate of the University of Richmond T. C. Williams School of Law. Before law school, Stacey studied at RandolphMacon College in Ashland, Virginia, and earned a degree in political science with a minor in classical studies. Academic knowledge was augmented with practical experience gained during her Tunstall High School years while working in her dad’s office answering the phone and occasionally shadowing him.

“Talking to dad and listening to conversations after a case was concluded reinforced the idea that I wanted to be a lawyer. Mom also had such an impact. Sometimes she would load all five children into the station wagon and drive us to the Chatham Courthouse so we could listen to Dad’s closing arguments” she says, remembering the politically active teacher who was tragically killed in an accident in 1994.

Those experiences nurtured Stacey’s goals—go to law school, graduate, practice law with dad— until cupid shot his love arrow. “I met Charlie (Moreau) in law school.

He was a year behind me,” she says, a smile spreading across her face. “In 1991, we married and moved to Louisiana, where Charlie was from.” She explains that the return to Danville in 1994 was precipitated by her mother’s death and “I think God was bringing me back home for the family’s sake.

Judge Stacey Moreau Following Her Mother’s Advice

by Joyce Wilburn

Photo by Michelle Dalton Photography

My father, my brother, my husband and I went into practice together with John Light, Bob Morrison and Lee Stilwell. It was a good fit.”

Stacey would need the support of family and friends when Charlie died of melanoma cancer in 2005 at the age of 42. Since then, she has been a single mom for their two sons, Marshall, a freshman at the University of Mary Washington, and Miller, a sophomore at Tunstall High School.

Although being a judge in the Juvenile and Domestic Relations District Court for the 10 years prior to her current appointment showed Stacey some of people’s worst actions, Charlie’s death showed her the best. “Other people’s prayers got us through it.

Family, friends and especially our church families were and still are so important,” says the member of Mt. Olivet United Methodist Church, remembering their cards and

numerous acts of kindness during his illness.

It’s not a surprise that Stacey describes the dual jobs of being a single mom with a full-time job as tough. Speaking as a judge who has seen a lot in the courtroom and a mom who knows about raising children by herself, she can quickly list a few parenting tips: You are not your children’s friend; you are a parent. Act like one.

Set rules and boundaries. Don’t beat yourself up when things go wrong. Put family first. Be active in a church. When you leave work, don’t mentally carry the day home with you. Enjoy dinner together at a table, not in front of the TV, and talk about the day during dinner.

And, of course, she’d probably add the advice her mother told her more than four decades ago: When you grow up, you can be anything you want to be.

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SHE SAID

HE SAID

by Dena Hill

by Larry Oldham

To Play or Not to Play Fourteen years ago, I moved to Danville.

I’ve loved becoming involved in everything: working at a new school and attending our church, earning a M.Ed. at Averett, going to events like Art on the Lawn, plays, Crop Walks, and walking and riding on the Riverwalk Trail.

Let me see, I give up six weeks of my life to direct a play that you wanted me to do; I am out of your hair for six weeks giving you plenty of me time (whatever that is) and you had more time with your dog. What is wrong with this picture?

From a guy’s perspective (and that would be me), your statements seem to be thanking me for being away.

Yes, you did brag about the show and the actresses and yes, you did recognize the hard work and long hours put into the production.

What I thought you might say is, “Honey, I sure did miss you while you were away.” I thought I did something that would please you in some small way and that is exactly what happened. I pleased you only in some small way. This just proves my point.

The Dixie You cannot Swim Club was please a woman, awesome. I no matter how Photo by really enjoyed hard you work.

Michelle Dalton Photography. seeing your So when I come talent at work back from my and the actresses you chose were caveman’s efforts and weeks of hard superb. What I didn’t expect was the work, I am greeted with the proverbial amount of time you had to commit woman’s list of things for the man to to it for six weeks-- nearly every night do. The way I see it is-- if I work real including weekends. Don’t get me hard for six weeks to accomplish a task wrong, I got a lot of work done while that you ask me to do, I should have you were rehearsing and I had plenty at least six weeks of make-up time to of me time. Sophie and I became redo the things that I want to do without acquainted so she’s happy. having to go back to the drudgery of routine chores.

The only down side to your being gone Think about it. I have the rest of for six weeks is that you are now behind my life to clean my room and pack in your household chores. So instead books. Shouldn’t we spend comfort of making you a list of the things you time together, getting to know each have not done, I’m going to let you other once again after my being settle back into your old routine. I’m away? Shouldn’t I have time to bond not talking about sitting on the porch with Sophie, the dog? Where is your drinking iced tea or going shopping sympathy for a man who has been away every night. I’m talking about doing working with five women to entertain things around the house like cleaning the masses? Are you just a woman who your room and picking up all the books is heartless and cares little for mankind you collect. and the dangerous elements out in the world? Do you think my returning Anyway, thank you for directing the to the acting and directing scene has play and entertaining me and the other made me a little too dramatic? Don’t patrons. You really should do more you want the old soft-spoken, gentle, theater along with drawing and painting tea-drinking, resting-on-the-porch guy more pictures--but don’t forget to work back into your life? Well do you? I just on my list of chores at home. know you do.

I had heard from several people about your acting and directing prowess, but had never had the opportunity to see you in action.

I asked you many times to participate and you always said you were too busy. A couple of months ago, you told me that you wanted to direct a play. I told you about the play I had seen in Greensboro and it ignited a spark of interest in you. I am happy to say that you took the bait and ran with it. You did an outstanding job!

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The Voice of Readers To the Editor: bin Joatnethse Ro Thank You so much for Winingby the Dan Mackenzie Vintages the great job on the article Osad Changi chuk Images intong Negative Positive One s (Kimberleigh Forrester: Opening the Door to Opportunity March 2013 page 7). The Celtic Fringe has had a lot of new visitors this month. Everyone has been so nice and spoke very highly of you.

Thanks again and we look forward to seeing you and your friends again at TCF! Kimberleigh Forrester Celtic Fringe Eclectic Irish Bistro To the Editor: Reidsville, NC I want to thank you personally and on behalf of the Luncheon Pilot Club of It was a pleasure. Thanks for the Danville for the Calendar Clips you ran nice comments. on our People, Pets & Pilot Fundraiser and Exhibit (March and April 2013).

This is a first-time event for our club To the Editor: and all money raised benefits those The Office of Economic with brain-related disorders and Development and the City of disabilities in Danville and Pittsylvania Danville are extremely grateful for County. the feature story in the April issue We had such a strong response of Evince. (Mackenzie Osadchuk: from our feature in Evince! We have Turning Negative Images into 43 registrants whose pet pictures Positive Ones page 3). It is hard to were taken by Del Cid Photography, imagine a small project that began including 10 adorable adoptable dogs after a conversation during a weekly and cats from the Humane Society. staff meeting has sparked such The photographic exhibit will run great interest. We hope to continue through Friday, May 10, in the lobby to receive new entries for the photo of American National Bank, 638 Main contest throughout the year and Street, Monday through Friday plan to create a great collection of 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Donation/ images that this City can be proud voting hours are 11:00 a.m. of! to 2:00 p.m. If someone cannot make We are so honored to be part of the donation time, a vote-check can this comeback and constantly look be mailed, payable to Luncheon Pilot for new ways to improve the quality Club of Danville with the name and of life in Danville. Please look for number of the favorite picture. The new images to be posted the second winner is determined by the most week in May and remember the “cash votes”. All donations are tax August 2 and November 1 deadlines. deductible. We invite everyone to see We will have a complete calendar at the exhibit – there are photos of dogs, the end of this year. cats, horses, chickens, pot -bellied Thank you again for your pigs and more. article and support for Danville. I Sincerely, appreciate the time you spent with Luncheon Pilot Club me and thank Michelle Dalton for Melanie Vaughan her wonderful photographs. I have 235 West Main Street received endless compliments Danville, VA 24541 on the article and images! I look 434-709-0695 forward to working with you both again soon.

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To the Editor: We would like to thank all race participants and facilitators, volunteers and sponsors for helping to make the 4th Annual Bridge to Bridge 5K/10K Race to benefit the Danville Cancer Association a success (Calendar Clips April, 2013 page 14).

More than 350 individuals either ran or walked. We watched families enjoy an hour of healthy exercise or share the joy of watching a loved one finish their first 10K race. Several families honored a loved one affected by cancer with T-shirts dedicated to their family member. It was inspiring to see our community come together and enjoy each others’ company.

Once again, we are amazed at the financial support our local businesses give to the Danville Cancer Association. We sincerely appreciate our major sponsors, The George and Sarah Buchanan Foundation and Danville Regional Medical Center, whose generous donations help make a difference in our community.

We also thank our many sponsors for their continued support. We are honored that you continue to be so generous.

Our race volunteers are awesome and we could not put on this race without you. We are grateful to everyone who assisted, who participated, and who is a cancer survivor. Please mark your calendars for the 5th Annual Bridge to Bridge 5K/10K Race to be held on Saturday, April 12, 2014. We look forward to seeing you next year.

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May is Better Speech and Hearing Month During this month we encourage people to be aware of their hearing, protect it and have it evaluated.

Some hearing loss is unavoidable but one type of hearing loss is avoidable. That is Noise-Induced Hearing Loss (NIHL). Loud noise, either a sudden noise such as from a firearm or continuous noise such as machinery can damage the cells of the inner ear. Damaged inner ear cells can cause ringing in the ears (tinnitus), decreased hearing and decreased clarity.

Below are common sounds and their typical loudness level in dB (deciBels - a level of loudness): • Typical conversation = 60 dB • Radio, TV or Vacuum cleaner = 70 dB • Power Mower = 90 dB - exposure can cause progressive hearing loss • Motorcycle = 95 dB - exposure can cause progressive hearing loss • Wood shop= 100 dB - after 15 minutes cell damage can occur • Rock concert, MP3 player, at max volume = 110 dB – exposure of more than 1 minute, on a regular basis, can cause permanent hearing loss You can easily avoid NIHL by limiting your exposure to loud noise and wearing hearing protection. Custom-made hearing protection is the best.

To make an appointment for a comprehensive audiological evaluation or to obtain custom made hearing protection please call Danville ENT Hearing Center at (434) 792-0830.

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Dr. Judith Ostrowski

Helping Others Hear Here

by Joyce Wilburn Danville Audiologist Dr. Judith Ostrowski was just a youngster when she made her first diagnosis.

“I thought no one in my family could hear me,” she says, laughing at the memory. The youngest of six children born to Polish/Irish parents, Judith realized later that the problem wasn’t that they couldn’t hear her; they just weren’t listening!

The cure was simple-- acknowledge her position in the birth order that spanned 14 years and try to keep up.

The Schenectady, New York, native grew up in a language-based family. “My father was bilingual.

He spoke Polish and English and all my siblings studied Polish except me,” says the 1988 linguistics graduate of State University of New York (SUNY) at Albany and then adds, “In 1990, I earned a master’s degree in linguistics at Louisiana State University in Baton Rouge.” Following graduation, Judith travelled to South Korea to teach English as a Foreign Language (EFL) for four years. “I didn’t know Korean when I moved there, and therefore, experienced firsthand how frustrating and stressful it is to not understand what people say,” she comments.

International travels in 20 different nations augmented that perspective. “Throughout my life I’ve experienced how difficult it is to hear but not understand and

to speak and not be understood,” explains the woman, who had a lisp and spoke rapidly when she was a child and sometimes couldn’t be understood—problems that were resolved with speech therapy.

Judith left South Korea in 1994 and moved to Albany, New York, to teach English to international students at the College of St. Rose. “Then I decided to return to graduate school at SUNY at Buffalo and study speech language pathology,” she says, explaining that it seemed like a logical choice for someone with her academic background.

“Before I was accepted, I had to take an undergraduate course in audiology. I didn’t want to take it because it would delay my plan and be a waste of time and money,” she remembers thinking.

Contrary to her preconceived ideas, two weeks into the class, she experienced a life-defining moment. “Studying the physical structures of hearing, the parts of the ear and how sound is processed in the brain was so exciting. It was about communication, something I’d always studied and was very important to me, but from a completely different viewpoint. I was looking at it in a scientific way. It opened up a whole new world,” she says, her face radiating enthusiasm.

Her work culminated in a master’s degree in audiology that was

conferred in 1998 followed by a job offer in Rochester, New York. After five years, a move south seemed like a great idea. “I couldn’t take the weather any more. That last winter in 2003 was so cold even people who love to go out in cold weather stayed home,” says the Danville resident.

bad; it’s not noisy and of course it has the Riverwalk Trail.”

Working at ENT Associates on Executive Drive since 2004 has been a perfect fit. “The physicians are very honest. There is no pressure to sell overpriced hearing instruments.

I can keep true to myself with the focus being to help others communicate better. Here, it’s not a business to sell, which unfortunately, is how some places look at it,” says the 2006 Doctor of Audiology graduate from Salus University.

Sound Advice: • Custom-made earbuds fit snugly into the ear and the sound can be delivered directly to the ears.

Therefore, music doesn’t need to be loud to be heard. If music can be heard from someone’s earphones or earbuds from two feet away, it is too loud.

• Bass notes that can be felt in your chest are an indication that the music is too loud and hearing is being damaged.

• Drilling holes into motorcycle pipes to make the sound louder can damage hearing. People who ride on motorcycles or in convertibles at 65mph can have hearing loss because of wind noise.

• Children must always wear earplugs at car races. They don’t have the ability to tell adults that damage is being done.

• Musicians should wear custommade earplugs that make all sounds softer with no distortion.

• For more information about Danville ENT Associates, Inc., see the ad on page 5.

Judith loves where she works and her historic home. Danville’s architecture is high on her list of the city’s admirable attributes. “A friend of mine is a world traveler. When he came to visit, he was so impressed with the buildings and especially the train station. It reminded him of the little stations in Europe,” she says. “Danville is a gem and its history is phenomenal. So many things have happened in this small city that have impacted the world.”

After a moment of reflection, she continues her list of likes: “Danville is conveniently located to many other places; it’s low-key, the traffic isn’t

Dr. Judith Ostrowski is pleased to have found a place to live and work where she can help others hear and communicate, and unlike her childhood siblings, they pay attention.

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May Day Andrew and Phillip. While I have been to my share of parent-teacher conferences and bought more than one set of tires for cars that I didn’t own, that setup worked best for me. I got to play mom all day and come home to a quiet house at night. I bet I’d make a fine granny.

This year I’m lucky to even share this day with my mom...too many of my (L to R) Diane Ryan Shelton, Ella Frances Ryan friends are experiencing and Kimberly Ryan Clifton a first year without theirs.

My birthday has always been What’s more, it’s been an overlooked, but I wouldn’t have especially tough time for my own it any other way. A free brownie mother as she’s faced her share of smothered in ice cream isn’t worth the health issues and stood in too many embarrassment of being surrounded visitation lines for family and close by singing waiters. friends. You’d never know it to see her.

I can honestly only remember a This tiny, gentle soul gets up every day handful of times where a birthday and dresses to the nines. She finds weekend belonged only to me. For 10 something to do or somewhere to go years in a row, I sat in a hot auditorium even if it’s just to the Dollar General for watching my sister’s tap routine during a roll of paper towels. Her appearance the Anne Boyer School of Dance’s is everything to her and she is widely Spring Recital. I hated those shows known for her matching outfits, jewelry mainly because of the silly outfits. Not and pocketbooks. I’m lucky to find theirs, mine. I always had to wear my something that’s clean and still fits.

Sunday best which was nothing short Even as an outpatient receiving IV of pure torture. I can still feel the back treatments four hours a day, seven of my legs sticking to the wooden seat days a week for six weeks, my mother and the scratchy crinoline scraping never complained. She just hoped on my thighs. I was such a tomboy that Thursdays they’d hang her drip bag first being seen sporting patent leather so she wouldn’t be late meeting her shoes and lacy anklets only added mall buddies for lunch at Belk. insult to injury.

My mother must spray with Teflon Even toys like Barbie celebrate every morning because any problems birthdays more than I do. Barbie and she faces just roll down her back. I I are the same age, but when she worry about everything. She worries turned 50, the media was all over about nothing. All my life I’ve heard her it. Thank goodness they didn’t make end conversations with, “It’ll all work comparisons to me since she wore her out,” or “Tomorrow this time it’ll all be half-of-a-century-old better than I did. over.” It isn’t just talk. She lives it. While It’s not fair that the only underwire most of us wouldn’t have been able she’s ever needed was a frame to to nibble a saltine, last month she ate stand her up. pizza at Joe & Mimma’s before heading Last year, my nephew Phillip stole to Duke to schedule a pancreas biopsy. my thunder by graduating with honors Almost a decade later, I am still amazed on the same day I was born. He had at how soundly she went to sleep on the a catered event with a tent-covered same night and in the very same bed celebration on the lawn with visitors where my father had passed away that from all over the country. No one afternoon. noticed that while it was my birthday, This woman deserves more he got the party. My present was recognition than I do. Fifty-four years seeing him successfully launch a new ago, I just moved from indoors to career path that was better suited to outdoors, while she did all the work. his interests and skills.

Besides, honoring me instead of Because events bigger than my her would be like admiring a prize birthday are the norm, it comes as no watermelon while ignoring the poor surprise that this is the 11th time I’ve farmer who toiled all summer to grow shared it with Mother’s Day. The irony it. On May 12, I’m not looking for cards is that I’m not a mother to anybody, or presents or any mention about my except to a spoiled Tonkinese cat birthday. I already have my gift--a named Reesie. Some insist that I’m mother who took care of me and still a second mom to my twin nephews, shows me how to roll with the punches.

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Evince Magazine To encourage exceptional customer service, the Business Development Committee of the Danville Pittsylvania County Chamber of Commerce and Evince will recognize those who give it. When you experience exceptional customer service, tell us about it in 300 words or less. Include your name and phone number. Email your story to joycewilburn@gmail.com or visit www.dpchamber.org; click What’s New - Customer Service Award Nomination.

Spotting Exceptional Customer Service

by Danny Scism

Courteous customer service and genuine hospitality envelopes visitors when entering the club house at Southern Hills Golf Course,188 Stokesland Avenue Extension, in Danville. Not only do we feel welcomed as we enter, there is a feeling of satisfaction when we leave. From the first days of bush hogging the fairways to the present, Mark Hopkins and his staff have made customer service their first priority.

Whether I come by for a chat or decide to play golf, there is always a smile and a pleasant greeting waiting for me. Southern Hills is my home away from home. Customer service goes hand-in-hand with the immaculate job the groundskeepers perform on the course. If a player is on a hole and workers are mowing, the workers stop and wait until the players continue to the next hole. If a club or special head cover is misplaced, the groundskeepers will ride the course to find it.

A great round of golf with exceptional customer service--that is a great experience!

Periodically, the Danville Pittsylvania County Chamber of Commerce conducts customer service training mainly for frontline staff. If you would like to attend a training session or are interested in having the Chamber conduct the training at your place of business, please email chamber@dpchamber.org or call 434.836.6990.

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American National Bank Comcast on Patton Street Danville Museum of Fine Arts & History Danville Public Library on Patton Street Danville Regional Medical Center on South Main Street Danville Science Center on Craghead Street Main Street Coffee Emporium Midtown Market on Chambers Street YMCA

Piney Forest Road Area

Commonwealth Pharmacy ERA Holley & Gibson Realty Company Mary’s Diner Piedmont Credit Union

Other

Danville Welcome Center on River Park Drive URW Credit Union on Arnett Boulevard

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here you been, boy?” Darla said in the darkness of her living room; she wiped a hand over her face as she talked to her 16-year-old and oldest child. He didn’t stop moving with his back to her, as he closed the screen door. She knew anger would drive him away, so she held her tongue, thought of what Tim, her lover, would say. The same Tim, who at 10 p.m. was long since gone driving Laurel, his daughter, to her friend’s after making sure she saw her mother first.

Inside the house, a rerun of Soul Train played on the television, muted but still casting bright colors on the dark walls.

Outside it was warm in May but raining in soft bunches; Mother’s Day Sunday was almost gone. The little ones, Cameron and Kondra, were in bed asleep and Darla, still in her church dress, sat in the living room, the dying and brown-edged petals of her white Mother’s Day rose crumbling onto her Sunday suit lapel.

“I back, Ma,” Tyrion Wilston said. He still hadn’t turned to her completely, was still half in the shadow of darkness and the living room’s artificial light. As always, she was glad to see him; It didn’t matter that she found the Marine brochures under his bed; she knew he wanted to leave her, and she knew that he saw Tim as making him a third arm too weak to hold weight. What he never knew was that he was her forever boy. And Darla just then remembered the first rush of love when she held him as an infant, his first minutes of shock and rapid breathing beating rhythm with her own heart as the nurse laid him to breast. In her heart, Darla knew that Tyrion thought he loved her more than she loved him, but it wasn’t so. “Yeah, I see you, Ty. Come sit with me?” Darla thought he would refuse.

She wouldn’t really blame him.

She had been 15, poor, embarrassed at the process of his being born with the doctor and nurses around; her mama was working third shift and trying to get there in the snow and not making it. Darla was scared then, and throughout most of the boy’s life she had always been scared. Darla thought Tyrion knew it too.

But Darla never told her boy of how that feeling of her first holding him was one of the truest things she ever knew, how love for her baby was like coming back to a house and for once finding it warm.

Folks didn’t think it, but Darla knew love deep.

When he sat on the couch, she saw the key chain, its letters alternately silverwhite and yellow, reflective. “This Yellow Rose of Texas beats for you” was the slogan. “I couldn’t find no flowers,” and his fingers trembled while his lips made a terrible angry line, like he thought his offering wasn’t right. He still hadn’t let it go from his hand to hers. If she wasn’t a mother, she would have told him that there wasn’t a rule for yellow roses for your mother, could have mistaken the hard plastic for a hard heart, could have thrown love and not-enough in his face.

But Darla even in the darkness saw his hope.

He should know that his first five days Darla could do nothing but touch him, smoothing hair, loving on him like he was a doll, but one that moved and breathed. When they let her go home, she carried him in the wheelchair proud and careful like he was gold and glass and heart. Overall, Darla Wilston thought life was a red-dirt, gravel road on tender feet, but on that day she knew she had some prayer answered that probably shouldn’t have been.

“It’s just some old...” Tyrion began. And Darla felt the prick of joy and heartache too. She could never say it, but she would never be more mother than to this one, the one she would always fail most as she learned her way. God, she thought, if spit and hope could pull together a dream, then she could do it.

“Shh, Soul Train’s on,” Darla said. And he calmed as they watched the show.

Somewhere during the next-to-last commercials, he tried to hand her the key chain, but dropped it. Outside the rain tapped out a sad tune around them.

“I got it,” was all Darla said as she picked it up. In the process, Darla took his hand and he let her. What she wanted to say but did not was Here hold my love; I hope it burns, melts you down. Child of my childhood, you bright and shiny joy.

I have always loved you.

The author welcomes your reactions at telishamooreleigg@gmail.com.

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Calendar Clips Clip it. Post it. Do it.

For more activities, see the calendar on page 16-17.

Wednesday, May 1 – Friday, May 17

Averett U. Alumni & Friends Cruise Sign-Up

Join this group of fun-loving people on a seven-night New England/Canada Fall Foliage Cruise leaving on Sunday, September 22, from Boston aboard the Royal Caribbean Brilliance of the Seas. Ports of call include: Halifax, Nova Scotia; St. John, New Brunswick; Bar Harbor, Maine and Portland, Maine.

American literature instructor, Toni Gazda, will present two pre-departure informal lectures and one on-board optional lecture. Cost is $1,545 double occupancy and includes cruise, all meals, airfare, transfers and some gratuities.

Seats are limited. For more information, call 434.770.3285 or email lwilburn@averett.edu. (submitted by Dr. Larry Wilburn)

Saturday, May 4

Danville Farmers’ Market Opening

Over 60 vendors will be selling Danville’s largest selection of fresh, locally grown produce, homemade baked goods, gifts and more from 7:30 a.m. until noon at the Crossing at the Dan on Craghead Street. The first 800 shoppers on May 4th will receive a free tomato plant. For more information, call 434.797.8961 or visit www.playdanvilleva.com. (submitted by Jacob McCain)

Saturday, May 4

Art on the Lawn

This annual juried art show at the Danville Museum of Fine Arts & History, 975 Main Street, offers works by regional artists from 10:00 a.m. until 4:00 p.m. It is free and open to the public. Rain date is Sunday, May 5, from noon to 4:00 p.m. (submitted by Patsi Compton)

May 4 thru September 14 River District Rhythms at the Market

The Danville Harvest Jubilee Board has revamped Fridays at the Crossing, rebranding the popular series River District Rhythms at the Market. The events will take place on Saturdays from 6:00-10:30 p.m. in the Community Market parking lot and will include genres ranging from beach to disco to bluegrass. The first event will take place on May 4 and will be Beach Night featuring Steve Owens & Summertime. The June 1 event is Disco Night featuring Groove Train. Also during the June 1 event, the Harvest Jubilee Board will announce the Summer Concert Series. This year’s lineup includes several top-10 artists. The other dates for River District Rhythms at the Market include August 3 and September 14. Themes and artist will be announced soon. Sponsors for this year are: Budweiser, City of Danville, Copa, Danville Regional Medical Center, The Homeplace Vineyard, Pepsi, Texas Steakhouse & Saloon & URW Community Federal Credit Union. For information, contact Russell Carter at 434.799.5200. (Submitted by Gina Craig)

Tuesday, May 7

Eat Out to Help Out

This fun event will be held all day.

Local restaurants donate 10% of their total proceeds for one day to God’s Storehouse. As the need for help with food increases among many of our neighbors, this is an opportunity for the rest of the community to help the less fortunate by eating at the participating restaurants. Look for signs at the participating businesses that bear the logo

depicted here and visit www.godsstorehouse.org for a complete list. For more information, call 434.793.3663. (submitted by Kirk Bidgood)

Friday- Sunday, May 17-19 Festival in the Park

Pepsi presents this 39th annual event in Ballou Park on West Main Street. There is no entry fee and the entertainment is free. Highlights include bands (country, Celtic, gospel, and more) and live entertainment every day. There are fun areas for the kids sponsored

by URW Community Federal Credit Union and over 100 artisans will offer handmade arts and crafts for sale. The Nestle 5K Run/ Walk/Wheelchair and Children’s One-Mile Fun Run is Saturday morning. The Saturday Cruzin by the Park will be held in the Ballou Park Shopping Center parking lot. It’s open to all makes and models of cars and trucks. Pre-register by May 10. The Health Fair Saturday sponsored by Sam’s Club will be held in the Senior Center downstairs. Food will be for sale by numerous vendors including Big Boned BBQ and a variety of concession stands. For more information call 434.793.4636 or visit www.playdanvilleva.com. (submitted by Barbara Seamster)

Saturday, May 18

Danville Symphony Orchestra Concert

John Robinson III will be one of the featured soloists for the DSO’s Spring Pops Concert, Rhapsody. John gained the position of Principal Second Violinist three years ago when he was 14 years old and is playing his last regular concert with DSO before heading to Dartmouth this fall. He will be the featured violin soloist in Zigeunerweisen, Op 20 (Gypsy Airs) by Pablo de Sarasate.

This concert takes on a more serious tone than most of the past pops concerts with pieces such as: Moldau by Bedrich Smetana, Rumanian Rhapsody No. 1

by Georges Enesco, and Concierto de Aranjuez for Guitar and Orchestra by Joaquin Rodrigo, featuring Adam Kossler as guitar soloist. The familiar Fiddler on the Roof will add a light-hearted tone. The concert starts at 8:00 p.m. at George Washington High School Auditorium, 701 Broad Street. There is no admission charge, but the suggested donation is two items of non-perishable food for God’s Storehouse. Cash donations for the food bank are also accepted. (submitted by Mary Franklin)

Friday, May 24 – Monday, September 2 Raise the Roof

Travel to great heights and distant ages to investigate the foundations of architecture and engineering at the Danville Science Center, 677 Craghead Street. Take a lively look at structure.

Hands-on activities, interactive components and vivid images challenge visitors to examine their interactions with these everyday wonders. Step into a demolition site and view the work of implosion experts. Enter a dome to explore early arched construction.

Witness principles involved in establishing, sustaining, and living in buildings of all kinds. This exhibit, suitable for all ages, was produced by the Science Museum Visitors are challenged to explore the physics of column strength of Minnesota and was made possible through a full-body experience. with support from the National Science Foundation and the Community Foundation of the Dan River Region. For more information on admission fees and hours of operation, call 434.791.5160 or visit www.dsc.smv.org. (submitted by Sonya Wolen)

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Guided Walking Tour – Millionaires Row & Holbrook Street. See ad page 11.

Classes at the Centre – Chair Aerobics, Aerobics, Zumba & Yoga. Times/Days Vary.

Spencer-Penn Centre (SPC) – 276.957.5757. www.thecentreatspencerpenn.com.

In The Know. 10am. SPC – 276.957.5757.

Boogie Mondays - Learn new dances, make new friends, and have loads of fun.

7-8:30pm. Ballou Center. - 434.799.5216.

Open Computer Lab. MTH 10am-5pm.

SPC – 276.957.5757.

Aerobics. 5:30-6:30pm. Chatham Community Center (CCC) – 434.432.3115.

Cardio Step Class – Up-tempo, high energy class. TTH 8:15-9:15am, 12-1pm or 4-5pm. City Auditorium. 434.797.8848.

Baby Boomer Style Work Out. TTH 9-10:30am. City Auditorium. 434.797.8848.

Ladies, It’s Time to Work It Out. TTH 10am-12pm. City Auditorium.

434.797.8848.

15/15/15 Fitness. TTH 5:30-6:30pm.

City Auditorium. 434.797.8848.

Art with Flo – Wet-on-wet technique.

W. Times/Location vary. 434.797.8848.

African Dance by Nguzo Saba – Learning West African dance technique to live drumming. W 6pm. City Auditorium. 434.797.8848.

Kuumba-West African Dance Co. – Live drumming and energetic dancing.

Must pre-register. TH Kuumba Kids 6pm; Adults 6:30pm-7:45pm. City Auditorium.

434.797.8848.

Through May 5

Playing with Time – Use time manipulating tools to explore nature from the growth and development of plants and animals to eraspanning geologic events. Danville Science Center (DSC) – 434.791.5160.

Through May 10

People, Pets & Pilot Exhibit. 11am-2pm weekdays. American National Bank Lobby.

434.709.0695.

Through May 19

The Actor’s Image Exhibit. The JapanVirginia Society Collection of Prints. Ukiyo-e prints produced between 1820-1865.

Danville Museum of Fine Arts & History (DMFAH). 434.793.5644.

Through June 2

Elizabeth Austin Exhibit – Multi-media poetic evocations of nature. DMFAH – 434.793.5644.

Through June 9

Nano Mini – Interactive exhibit on the basics of nanoscience and engineering.

DSC – 434.791.5160.

Through June 28

Expressions Exhibit – Eclectic mix of styles and media by local and regional artists. Piedmont Arts Association (PAA), Martinsville – 276.632.3221.

Through June 30

Danny’s Brush with Nature – Paintings of flowers, trees and flowing water by Danville native Danny Ricketts. The works reflect his many encounters with the natural world and his desire to recycle and reuse materials.

His work will inspire you to view nature with a new, more colorful perspective. Danville Science Center (DSC) – 434.791.5160.

Through August 25

Dinosaurs Exhibit. Virginia Museum of Natural History (VMNH) – 276.634.4185.

Through October 12

Butterfly Station & Garden.

DSC – 434.791.5160.

May 1

Homeschool Wednesdays – Engineering, Technology, and Applications of Science: Engineering and Society. Ages 6-9 & 10-15.

10-11:15am & 3- 4pm. VMNH – 276.634.4185.

Myths and Truths of American Health Care – Interactive discussion that examines the sound bites that on their surface seemed perfectly reasonable – but were not completely true in topics such as Medicare, health care and the economy. 12-1:30pm.

The Institute for Advanced Learning and Research – 434.766.6700.

Sirens Of Spring Tour – An intimate evening of great music with Mama’s Black Sheep & Christine Havrilla. 8pm. BISTRO 1888, South Boston. seeyou@bistro1888.com.

May 1 (thru 17)

Cruise Sign-Up – Averett U. Alumni & Friends. See story page 14.

May 1 (thru 31)

Art Exhibit – Works by the Art guild.

Kirby Gallery, Roxboro. 336.597.1709.

May 2

Bob Ross Technique Workshop – Daiseis at Dawn. 9am-3:30pm.

PAA – 276.632.3221.

Book Discussion. 3pm.

SPC – 276.957.5757.

Photography Club Meeting – Digital photography for amateurs.

6:30pm. SPC – 276.957.5757.

Bluegrass - Local Band Down 2 Earth.

7pm. Donation. CCC - 434.432.3115.

May 2 & 3

URW Grand Opening Celebration.

See ad page 21.

May 2 (thru 23)

Afternoon with the Masters - Discover the great masters of art, employ a variety of techniques and mediums, create a version of the artists’ masterpieces. Ages 6-8.

TH 4-5pm. DMFAH – 434.793.5644.

Southside Master Gardener Plant Sale – All types of plants available including annuals, herbs, perennials, vegetables, shrubs and trees. The sale will offer some special features such as hypertufa containers, rain barrels, herbal vinegars and a bake sale. 7:30-11am. Halifax County Extension Office Parking Lot. 434.476.2147.

Art on the Lawn. See story page 14.

Invasive Species Removal Day – Help remove plant species along the Riverwalk that are endangering indigenous plants and learn firsthand how to employ techniques for total eradication of viral plant species. 9am-12pm. Dan Daniel Memorial Park. 434.799.5215.

DRBA’s First Saturday Outing – Eden’s Draper Landing Access. 10am.

336.547.1903. www.danriver.org.

March of Dimes – Help raise funds to give all babies a healthy start. Registration 9am; march 10am. Martinsville Speedway. www.marchofdimes.com/virginia.

Derby Day Wine Festival - Wine tastings from five SOVA Wineries, food, Derby Race at the Racing Room Attire, live music, contests and prizes for best Derby hat and southern garden party attire. 1pm. Bright Meadows Farm. 434.349.9463.

River District Rhythms at the Market Beach Night featuring Steve Owens & Summertime. Escape the workweek by gathering with family and friends.

6-10:30pm. The Crossing at the Dan. 434.793.4636. See ad page 9 and story page 14.

Artfelt Expressions of Bob Ross Complete a painting, Daisies at Dawn, in a day. 10:30am-3:30pm. Ballou Annex Building - 434.797.8848.

Danville Farmers’ Market Opening Day. See story page 14.

May 7

Eat Out to Help Out. See story page 14.

Human Plumbing – An overview of urology, covering the most common urological and nephritic problems followed by a questions and answers period. 6:30pm. DSC – 434.791.5160.

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Fine Arts Program – Students grades K-6 will be performing. 7pm. Sacred Heart School – 434.793.2656.

Stand Up Paddle Boarding – The ultimate exercise to begin developing mind/body coordination. 6-8pm. Abreu-Grogan Park.

434.799.5215.

Howl of a Time - Four-legged friends spend a day of playing and socializing, while handlers talk with local pet friendly vendors. Ages 9+. 6-7:30pm. Coates Bark Park. 434.799.5150.

May 10

Movies on Main - Free family-friendly movies shown on “the green” across from BISTRO 1888. Dusk. Downtown South Boston. 434.575.4209. www.downtownsobo.com.

Music Night – Sue Nester & Friends, TenBrooks, Skyline. Concessions.

Open Mic 5:30pm. Bands 6:20pm.

SPC – 276.957.5757.

Michigan Men’s Glee Club - One of the oldest collegiate chorus in the US and the oldest continually-run student organization on the Michigan campus.

7:30pm. Prizery - 434.572.8339.

May 11

Southside’s Toughest 5K - Benefit for Gretna’s Downtown Beautification Project.

7-11:45am. Gretna Elementary School.

434.656.2925.

Canoe and Kayakalon – Test of endurance with participants racing canoes and kayaks along the shores of Mayo Park (2.5 miles) then running along the Mayo Park Trail System approx three miles. 10am. Mayo Lake, Roxboro. 336.597.7806.

Noland Day – Guided tour of 4 old homes and old Halifax Church, Civil War Encampment with firing of cannons, parade of old tractors and cars, childrens petting zoo, craft booths, food. 10am.

434.476.6655.

Spring River Clean Up – Bring family, civic, church or community groups to help clean up the shores of the Dan. Participants will receive a signed letter of appreciation from the Governor of Virginia. 11am1pm. Pepsi Building. 434.791.5160 or 434.799.5215.

Gretna Strawberry & Wine Festival – Live music, strawberry dishes, and wine tasting from six wineries. 12-6pm. www. facebook.com/GretnaStrawberryWineFest.

Auto Racing – ASS Super Late Model Race. 5pm. South Boston Speedway – 877.440.1540.

Magic of the Masters Magic Show – Starring celebrity magician and World Champion Illusionist Wayne Alan. North Theatre – 434.793.7469.

Fridays on Main - Shop until you drop at this extended hours event. Businesses open until 8pm. Win a trip to Myrtle Beach.

Downtown South Boston. 434.575.4209. www.downtownsobo.com.

First Friday Art Walk. 5-7pm. Studio 107, Martinsville. 276.638.2107.

Wine Tasting - Quentin Beery will present fun wine choices for the spring and summer. 5:30-7pm. Vintages by the Dan. SHS Benefit Golf Tournament –18-holes, four-player, captain’s choice tournament.

1pm. Goodyear Golf Club. 434.793.2656.

Polliwogs & Science Stars – Turn trash into treasure, learn to reduce, reuse, and recycle, go on a litter walk to find inspiration for recycled sculptures. Ages 3–4, 1–2pm. Ages 5–7, 3:30–4:30pm.

DSC - 434.791.5160.

Macaroni Craft. Ages 6-10. 3:30-4:30pm.

Danville Public Library (DPL), Westover Branch – 434.799.5195.

Art For Sale - Working with Retailers Learn why pricing, commission, competition, seasonal considerations, proximity, time management, co-branding, marketing, and inventory/point of sale restrictions are so important to the bottom line. 6-9pm. Artisan Center – 276.656.5461.

May 3 (thru 5)

May 8 (thru 29)

Watercolor Class – Technique, Design and Expression. W 2-4pm.

PAA – 276.632.3221.

Photographing Pets - Learn all the tricks of photographing furry friends such as getting light source from window; camera strobes & studio lighting to capture action; use lighting to portray the texture and colors of fur; various ways to grab the pet’s attention and more. 9am. SPCA of Martinsville-Henry County – 276.638.PAWS.

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May 3

Heritage & Antique Macinery Festival – Highlighting rural & agricultural heritage in Halifax County with tractor pulls, display of old farm machinery, exhibits, music, entertainment and food. Times Vary.

Halifax County Fairgrounds. 434.349.3349.

May 3 (thru 31)

Friday Night Dances - Music by the City Limits Band. 7:30-10:30pm. Ballou Rec. 434.799.5216.

May 4

Danville Pickers – Indoor spring yard sale.

7am-12pm. Glenwood Community Center.

434.799.5150.

Homeschooler Program – Community Leader Day. Panel of community leaders discussing their work in the community.

Q & A will follow. 10am. Person County Public Library. 336.597.7881.

Senior Movie Day – Showing Lincoln.

11am. DPL – 434.799.5195.

Teen Movie Night – Popcorn and lemonade will be served. Showing 10 Things I Hate About You. Ages 13+.

4pm. DPL – 434.799.5195.

May 13

yPod with Dr. Tiffany Franks - Young Professionals Open Dialogue is a new program that the Young Professionals of Danville and Pittsylvania County kicked off in late 2012. 12-1:30pm. Averett University.

434.836.6990.

Women Only Golf Lessons - Sessions will be taught by certified PGA instructors, Mark Hopkins and Brian Robinette. Ages 19+. 6-7pm. Southern Hills Country Club 434.799.5214.

Evince Magazine Stained Glass Restoration - History of stained glass, proper ways to care for it, and the process of restoring these fabulous pieces of art. 7-8:30pm. Danville Historical Society. 434.799 2323.

May 16

Sky Watchers – View the constellations “Coma Berenices” and Virgo, planets Venus, Jupiter and Mercury and lunar observations, since the Moon will be close to its First Quarter. Nightfall. DSC – 434.791.5160.

Alive After Five – The Mason Lovette Band will be playing country favorites and rock classics. 5:30-9:30pm. Merritt Commons, Roxboro. 336.597.2689.

Enchanted Evenings the Park – Bring a chair, blanket and picnic basket for a relaxing evening in the Park. This month Mel Melton will be having a Cajun cooking demonstration from 6-7pm with the concert starting at 7pm with Melton Melton and the Wicked Mojos. Ballou Park. 434.793.4636.

Kayaking on Moving Water - Learn to catch eddies, surf standing waves, ferry and maneuver through rapids and around obstacles. 5:30-8pm. Abreu-Grogan Park.

434.799.5215.

May 17 (thru 19)

Festival in the Park. See story page 14 and ad page 13.

Caught in the Net – Hilarious sequel to the popular Run For Your Wife. See ad page 12.

May 18

Climbing on Hagers Crag - Travel to Hager Mountain and spend the day climbing for the first time or building upon previous skills and experiences. Ages 12-adult. 8am5pm. Ballou Nature Center. 434.799.5215.

Basket Making Class. 9:30am.

SPC – 276.957.5757.

Painting Workshop – Bob Ross instruction.

10am-4pm. SPC – 276.957.5757.

Family Movie Matinee – Movies, popcorn & lemonade. Showing Wreck-It Ralph.

10:30am. DPL – 434.799.5195.

Angelman Syndrome Foundation Walk – Walk to raise AS awareness and funds for research, education, information, advocacy and individuals/family support. Registration 8am. Walk 10:30am. Anglers Park. susan. daniel@us.nestle.com or hid83@yahoo.com.

Antique Appraisal Fair – Antique experts will examine items and tell you if you are setting on a gold mine or saving a sentimental keepsake. Bring in jewelry, vintage books, guns, musical instruments, art, toys and coins. 11am.

SBHC Museum – 434.572.9200.

Grapes & Grains Fundraising Gala – Delicious food, wine, specialty beers, and spirits samples, a scotch tasting, silent auction and more. 6:30-9:30pm.

VMNH – 276.634.4185.

Danville Symphony Orchestra Concert.

See story page 14.

May 20

Medicare: Simple as A B C & D – This course explains Medicare and the coverage options available including: Supplements, Advantage Plans and Part D Prescription Drug Coverage. Recommended for anyone on or soon to be on Medicare, as well as caregivers of those on Medicare. 11am.

Ballou Rec. Center. 540.725.7416.

May 21

Biltmore Estate Trip - Bring the family to visit America’s biggest privately owned home. 6am-9pm. Ballou Rec. Center.

434.799.5216.

May 24

All About Herbs-Basil - Explore the history and folklore of some common, discuss their properties and possible uses, make dishes and/or preparations for personal use. 5:30-8:30pm.

Artisan Center – 276.656.5461.

TGIF Concert Series – I’m With The Band, live karaoke band that provides the lyrics and music, you provide the entertainment.

7-10:30pm. Uptown Farmers’ Market, Martinsville - 276.632.5688.

Raise the Roof. Danville Science Center.

See story page 14.

May 24 (thru 26)

Intro to Portrait Painting - Oils or acrylics. DMFAH – 434.793.5644. www.allaparsons.com.

Beach Music Festival. Willow Oak Music Park, Roxboro. See ad page 11.

May 25

Chemical-Free Farms Field Day/Open House – Farm tour, drip irrigation and grafting demonstrations, discussion on starting an organic garden, and much more.

12-4pm. Strawberry Creek Farm, Chatham.

434.432.1133. strawberrycreekfarm. wordpress.com.

Boating Demo Clinic - Great opportunity for those interested in trying kayaking, canoeing or stand up paddle boarding.

2-5pm. Abreu-Grogan Park. 434.799.5215.

Hopkins and Brian Robinette. Ages 19+.

6-7pm. Southern Hills Country Club 434.799.5214.

May 30

Kayaking Scenic Tour - Strengthen paddling skills as well as take great pictures of a beautiful section of this recently designated Virginia Scenic River. 5:30-8pm.

Abreu-Grogan Park. 434.799.5215.

University of Richmond Info Session – Learn how to earn a bachelor’s degree in liberal arts. 6:30-8pm. DCC Student Center.

804.289.8137.

May 31

Summer Concert Series - Bluegrass in the Square featuring Hi Grass and Lawson Creek Grass. 7:30-11:30pm. Downtown South Boston. 434.575.4209. www.downtownsobo.com.

June 7

Cantaloupe Festival – Entertainment, food, music & cantaloupe. 5-10pm. Berry Hill Resort, South Boston. 434.572.3085. www.valopefest.com.

Movies in the Park – Relax under a canopy of stars while being entertained by popular family movies. This month - Hotel Transylvania. 9-11pm. Ballou Park.

434.799.5215.

June 8

Bark in the Park – Dog-owner play day with activities including contests for the best dressed, best singer, and look-alike; bobbing for hotdogs; and the perennial favorite canine disc Hyperflite Skyhoundz competition. Browse the displays and join in the fellowship with other dog owners.

10am-1pm. Dan Daniel Memorial Park.

434.799.5215.

June 7 & 8

Upcoming June 1

Hogs for Dogs Charity Ride. Registration 11:30am, ride 1pm. SPCA of MartinsvilleHenry County – 276.638.PAWS. Ride the Wind Summer Zip Line – Experience the thrill of the new 400-foot Zip Line. 3-4:30pm. Dan Daniel Memorial Park.

434.799.5215.

River District Rhythms at the Market.

See ad page 9, story page 14.

June 1 (thru 30)

Art Exhibit – Works by Michele Hehenberger. Kirby Gallery, Roxboro.

336.597.1709.

June 6

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Bob Ross Technique Workshop – Gold Glow of Morning. 9am-3:30pm.

PAA – 276.632.3221.

Kayaking for Beginners - Learn basic skills and gain additional experience.

6-8pm. Abreu-Grogan Park. 434.799.5215.

Quilt Show – Rags to Riches in Many Stitches. New and antique quilts, vendors, boutique, door prizes, raffle quilt, viewer’s choice awards. 9am-5pm. Cherrystone Missionary Baptist Association Center.

June 10 (thru 14)

Children’s Theatre Workshop – Instructor Rex Stephenson of “Jack Tales” fame. Grades 2-6. 10am-2pm. Must preregister. SPC – 276.957.5757.

June 14 (thru 16)

Music from MGM Musical Little Theatre of Danville. See ad page 17.

June 15

Mad Men Martini Mixer - ‘60s themed party for all ages. Dress the part and cast your vote for the area’s best martini.

Guest can also participate in a silent jewelry auction with work by local artisans.

7-10pm. Piedmont Arts, Martinsville 276.632.3221.

May 26 (thru Sept. 1)

Summer Discovery – Enjoy Sunday openings, discounted new VMNH Memberships, and behind-the-scenes tours. 1-5pm. VMNH – 276.634.4185.

May 28 & 29

Stock Car Open Test Days - See the biggest names in stock car racing as they test in preparation for NASCAR’s road race circuits. 8am. Virginia International Raceway - 434.822.7700.

May 28 & 30

Adult Golf Lessons - Sessions will be taught by certified PGA instructors, Mark

If you’d like to submit an item for the Evince calendar, email it to calendar@evincemagazine.com. The deadline for the June issue is Wednesday, May 15, at 5:00 p.m. Please send just the basic information following the format on these pages.

Photo by Michelle Dalton Photography

Spring Is Here

by Patrice D. Wilkerson I am so excited that spring is finally here.

I have been looking forward to this all year.

I love smelling the fresh air and seeing the children playing without a care.

The beautiful flowers are what I long for and hearing the birds sing is what I adore.

I also love gazing at the colorful butterflies; it brings me great cheer.

Oh, I’m so glad that spring is here.

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May 2013

Evince Magazine

Reflecting Forward The Voice of Dignity (Not!)

by Linda Lemery When I heard that this month’s theme of Evince would be The Voice of Dignity, I thought, “Hoo boy, what am I going to say about this?”

Because the problem is, I don’t have any. Dignity, I mean.

It’s not that I don’t try. It’s just that being dignified just doesn’t seem to be consistent with the way I live. I have a lot of fun, but it’s not dignified fun. For example, one time I wore a plastic Viking helmet with a holiday ornament dangling from one horn to my dentist’s office for my routine dental cleaning. The staff couldn’t stop laughing and the dentist himself was in a peculiar state of left-brained shock. (We actually have three Viking helmets, but my husband and son won’t wear theirs outside the house.

I cannot imagine why.)

Another time I decided to take a shortcut when I was walking with the kids and the dog. It had been raining for four days. I made it most of the way up the hill before the mudslide started; you can guess what happened then. And how about the time I drank prune juice when I was hiking up the switchbacks in the Grand Canyon with my then husband-to-be? It was really hot and I was thirsty from hours and hours of hiking. It wasn’t that there weren’t other choices; of course there were.

The prune juice just sounded good to me. You don’t have to guess this time; you know what happened next.

As long as we’re strolling through the old memory palace, what about all those high school soccer games we went to? All those kids were like our own children. We knew them all. When any one of them even got a foot within striking distance of the ball, let alone connected, I would forget myself and shriek, “Go, Honey!” I called every kid on that team Honey because in the heat of the action, I was so excited I forgot all their names. The saving grace was that there was another mother who was even more rabidly overcome, so we sat together and cheered on (screamed to encourage) the team.

This is one of the many reasons (like the fact that I know almost none of the rules) that I don’t watch sports at

home. I would yell myself into long-term laryngitis.

My husband married me despite knowing that I was dignityimpaired.

He fondly (or maybe wickedly) reminds me of our being out at dinner and my being fascinated by the kitchen tool that lifted the deep-dish pizza pan. Though I don’t remember any of this, apparently I tried the gadget on my glass of water.

There was a flood. End of story.

My mother didn’t raise me to be this way. She was dignity personified and was a great role model and mother. I just somehow failed to learn the lessons. She set meals on the table at predictable hours. She wore clothes that matched and knew how to put on a face (makeup). She didn’t complain about the evil nature of pantyhose. She belonged to card clubs and actually entertained at home (as opposed to buying carryout and telling the deli people to put it into my bowl like I do). Mom passed away last year. I miss her and think of her daily, especially during this month of celebrating mothers.

Because Mom’s not here to ask, I consulted my neighbor/good friend/ best-yard-sale buddy about this topic of dignity impairment. She charged me with failing to see the synchronicity in life, then peered at me expectantly. I must have looked baffled. As a former English teacher, she’s a great speller and she spelled it out. She said that decisions have to be appropriate to location and circumstance because everything is interrelated. In other words: Use your brain; think about the consequences of your actions and don’t drink prune juice when you’re hiking in the Grand Canyon. That last sentence is an adage to live by. It’s good advice, especially for the dignity-challenged.

Happy Mother’s Day! About the author: When she’s not cogitating on her many flaws, including her lack of dignity, Linda Lemery llemery@averett. edu serves as Circulation Manager at Averett University Library and lives, works, and writes in Danville, VA. She welcomes reader comments.

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Gaining Dignity & Good Health: Three Views

by Dave Gluhareff Train with Dave Actively participating in a healthy lifestyle is dignifying to our bodies, mind and spirit. Self-respect and self-esteem are needed to take care of the body God gave us. It’s necessary to be involved in healthy activities, exercise, practice proper nutrition and rest, so that our bodies can run as efficiently as possible. It’s disrespectful to be lazy, take no action, feed ourselves junk food and not get adequate sleep. Once priorities are skewed and structure falls apart, we become unhealthy, sick, lethargic, stressed, grumpy, irritable, tired, overweight and weak. If good health isn’t on the top tier of the priority list, then other areas of our lives fall apart. We cannot successfully take care of others, work smart, study in school or have successful careers until we take care of ourselves first. Good health, self respect, fitness and dignity are all choices.

by Suzanne Stowe Train with Suzanne “I wish I had more energy.

I wish I could lose 10 pounds.

I wish my house were clean. I wish I had time to work out.

I wish I could be more involved with community events. I wish I knew more about... I wish I spent more time with...”

A trusted friend recently told me to stop wanting something to be different and to “start making decisions that bring dignity.” Dignity is a choice. Our choices put us on a path to positive or negative outcomes. Dignity is more than how you treat others. It begins with how you treat yourself. The choices that bring about desired changes may be difficult at first, but the benefits will leave you feeling stronger, healthier and more confident about yourself and your life, physically and emotionally.

Stop wanting and wishing, and start doing. Try something new; take your

family to the RiverWalk Trail, kayak or try the zip line at Dan Daniel Park. Remove junk foods from the house and restock with healthy food options. Join a workout group; set a goal to run the next local 5K; clean your house; read a book, take your family to church; eat dinner at home as a family; listen to your child’s jokes; speak in softer tones. The results will have you squaring your shoulders, smiling more often and sleeping more peacefully.

Proverbs 31 describes a woman who is “clothed with strength and dignity.” The description is based on choices this biblical person has made in taking care of herself, her husband, family, home and her business. She made it happen not by simply wanting it but by doing it. The end result was strength and dignity.

by Ciji Moore Get Fit Dan River Region Exercise can be fun and it doesn’t have to be hard. You can move your body anywhere any time and it doesn’t involve spending money on a gym membership or buying expensive equipment—unless that is what you prefer. If you want to move your body in an inexpensive and fun way, here are a few tips: 1. Simply stretching your body is movement, especially if you are sitting for long periods of time.

It helps keep the muscles warm and limber. Stretching is easy, no equipment is needed and it’s cheap. If you are sitting for more than 30 minutes, get up and move.

2. Move your body for 30 minutes each day. It doesn’t have to be done all at one time; break it up over the course of the day. What activities can you do? Jumping rope, hula hooping, dancing, jumping jacks, walking and jogging are just a few activities.

Do them with your family or friends and make it fun.

3. Moving your body is very important, but getting eight hours of rest is equally important to your health. Sleep provides time for the body to adjust and prepare for the upcoming busy day.

Interested in other ways to get moving? Tune into “What’s Cooking on the Dan,” on Get Fit Dan River Region’s YouTube page. We feature healthy cooking, exercise moves and exciting events going on in our community.

Evince Magazine

The Dignity That Is Danville

by Mack Williams Danville Science Center Natural History Educator Danville has a wealth of dignity displayed in its architecture, cemeteries, people and nature.

Its architectural dignity is seen in many places including Millionaire’s Row, the Old West End Historic District, Holbrook Street and Avenue, West Main Street and every place marked with Danville Historical Society’s leaves of gold in the sidewalks.* First Presbyterian Church’s columns typify the glory that was Greece and the grandeur that was Rome. Mt. Vernon United Methodist Church has the same stateliness as the old Potsdam Garrison Church in Germany with its massive steeple dwarfing the sanctuary. First Baptist Church evinces a proper sense of value with its great copper steeple looking mysterious, when uplit at night with an area below the steeple appearing to be a scattering of stars with an accompanying moon.

Decorum in death stands in the noble monuments of our cemeteries: Grove Street, Green Hill, Aetz Chayim, Freedman’s, Schoolfield, Mountain View, Danville National Cemetery and others. Dignity is expressed in the mausoleums, great obelisks and statues, but even the most common markers remember with respect the ones who lie below.

Additional melancholy dignity can be seen in Schoolfield Mill’s crumbling battlements (man being the architect of destruction as well as construction). Even a flat of carefully recovered and stacked Schoolfield bricks has dignity, when one reflects on from whence they came and on

where they will be used again.

An example of human dignity, Mayor Harry Wooding is remembered with a statue in front of City Hall on Patton Street. The adjacent James Ingram Justice Center remembers the dignity of a former judge and the 40 years of work by Commonwealth’s Attorney, William Fuller, III. Both men labored throughout their lives to ensure that justice would prevail.

Finally, there is the dignity of nature displayed by the Dan River (although completely horizontal, not soaring like a column, obelisk, or statue).

Just like another famous river, the Mississippi, the Dan could be ascribed with having the dignity of an “ol’ man.” Another example of natural distinction are the two massive illuminated trees in a West Main Street yard seen after sunset that resemble Doric columns holding up the night as in some ancient myth.

It is true that once we had the glory that was Greece and the grandeur that was Rome, but certainly not to be left out, is the dignity that is Danville. *Brass tobacco leaves are embedded in the sidewalks in the 700-1000 blocks of Main Street, on Broad Street and on Holbrook Street from the corner of Ross Street to Gay Street to mark DHS’s Heritage Trail and used on the guided and self-guided tours. The path winds through the neighborhoods of the tobacco and textile barons of the late 1800s and the professional African Americans community from the late 19th century to the late 1960s.

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Book Clubbing A review by Diane Adkins

My Mother, Your Mother

by Dennis McCullough

Aging with dignity. That term describes what we want for our loved ones and for ourselves as we grow older.

Achieving it is far more difficult than we would like to admit. This book provides a road map for a compassionate way of caring for the aging.

McCullough writes as a physician with years of experience as a geriatrician, but also as a son who had to make the same difficult choices many of us do as we face the deficits aging brings to our loved ones. He walks the reader through eight stages of late life—stability, compromise, crisis, recovery, decline, prelude to dying, death and grieving/legacy. At each of these points, he intersperses solid advice, both medical and personal, with reflections from his time shepherding his mother through her end-of-life experiences. Those reflections serve as a reminder that no one escapes these stages and it is best to be prepared for them.

The real benefit of this book and what sets it apart from others is its emphasis on slow medicine. In using this term, McCullough is referencing the popularity of the slow food movement, which stresses the benefits of fresh, unprocessed food, purchased in season and often prepared at home.

This type of eating takes much longer than going through the drive-through for fries, but it is unquestionably better for us in the long run. In the same way, slow medicine takes a step back from our highly technological medical interventions to ask the questions, “Why? Why are we putting Mother through another series of tests? What outcome do we expect? Is this step necessary for her well-being?” McCullough suggests we might be better off at the end of life with a family-centered approach that often has the added benefit of being less expensive and surely less invasive. As McCullough reminds us, it is the close family member who can tell, just by the sound of the voice, how a parent is doing. “No one,” Dr. McCullough says, “can be a bigger expert on a parent’s voice than a former teenager trained in the same household.”

This approach is undoubtedly more time-consuming for family members. It requires that we do not outsource decisions about medical interventions to others. For anyone in this situation with a parent or relative, McCullough’s book gives hope. It shows how important a family member can be in planning care, assembling a team of compassionate people to help and in negotiating with the medical community to create an approach that works for patients and their families. The book is a reminder that things will not always be easy, but if there is a plan, the quality of life at the end can be much better than it would be otherwise. With informed judgment, support, and above all, attention, the end of life can be approached with dignity.

Send information about what you or your book club is reading to joycewilburn@gmail.com.

Evince Magazine

A Mother’s Day Coconut Cake

by Annelle Williams

What’s the perfect cake for Mother’s Day? It has to be coconut. It’s one of the most beautiful cakes that can be made in a home kitchen and certainly one of the most delicious. When I recently read the description of a coconut cake and the chef talked about trying to recreate the coconut cake of his childhood, I knew the effort he spoke of was worthy. When he said that he felt he had succeeded, I could hardly wait to try it. My only change in his recipe is adding the lemon filling. I knew it would be a wonderful combination, and sure enough, it is. I think I’ve found my Mother’s Day Cake. I’ll never know if it’s as good as his mother’s, but we’re all very happy about it in this house.

Coconut Cake with Lemon Curd Filling (adapted from Alex Hitz Coconut Cake found in House Beautiful) Cake 6 T cold butter 2 1⁄4 cups sugar 1 1⁄2 T vanilla extract (I used almond extract.)

1 stick melted butter, cooled 5 egg yolks, beaten 3 whole eggs, beaten 3⁄4 cup heavy cream 1⁄2 cup buttermilk 2 1⁄2 cups cake flour 1 tsp. salt 1 T baking powder Glaze 1⁄2 cup canned coconut milk (stir before measuring) 2 T confectioners’ sugar

Filling (Hitz used coconut icing between layers.)

8 oz. cream cheese, room temperature 10 oz. lemon curd pinch salt 3⁄4 cup confectioners’ sugar 1 cup sweetened flaked coconut Coconut Icing 12 oz. cream cheese, room temp.

12 T butter, room temperature 1 1⁄2 T vanilla extract (I used almond extract.)

4 cups confectioners’ sugar 4 T canned coconut milk (Stir before measuring.)

4 cups sweetened flaked coconut, plus 2 more cups for sprinkling on top and sides after frosting

Preheat oven to 325°. Butter and flour (3) 9-inch pans. Make parchment rounds for each; place in pans. Butter and flour them. Beat cold butter for about 5 minutes until it is very light. Add sugar slowly while continuing to beat. Add vanilla and beat 5 more minutes. Turn the beater to low and add the melted butter. When combined, add the egg yolks and eggs. Continue to beat on low only until eggs are mixed-in. Turn mixer off. Sift together flour, salt and baking soda. Mix buttermilk and cream. With mixer on low, add half the flour and half the liquid. Then add remaining flour and liquid. Scrape the bowl as needed. Do not overbeat or cake will be tough. Pour batter evenly into pans and tap each pan on counter to remove any air bubbles. Bake for 25-30 minutes until toothpick or cake tester comes out clean. Cool cakes for 10 minutes. Turn out onto baking sheet.

For more pictures and recipes, visit my blog: http://aroundannellestable.blogspot.com.

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