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25 Years of San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus Home for the Holidays Concerts

25 Years and Counting!

The San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus holiday concerts mean so much to us here at the SF Bay Times, as they likely do to you as well. The emotional connections differ, however. Some of us have lost loved ones to HIV/AIDS or other illnesses, and find a sense of welcoming community at the events that helps to combat isolation and loneliness at this time of year. Others moved to San Francisco, far away from familiar places and, as a result, cannot always be with friends and family during the holidays. Still others have a December tradition of bringing along the whole clan—aunts, uncles, kids, friends, you name it—to the concerts.

And then there are those of us who simply love the events because they are always so beautifully done.

Whatever the reasons, we come together at Home for the Holidays and truly feel at home. San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus Artistic Director Dr. Tim Seelig and the Chorus members put so much heart into the performances that the good energy radiates back onto audiences like a big, warm embrace. The space in those moments, whether it’s the Nourse Theater or our beloved Castro Theatre, feels sacred to us. Like the powerful and harmonious voices of the talented Chorus, it reveals our collective potential.

Our thanks go to Dr. Tim Seelig, Peter Zimmerman, John Alecca, and to all of the SFGMC members who helped in the preparation of this special section for the San Francisco Bay Times.

“Dancers, Prancers & Vixens!” is SFGMC’s holiday show, Dec 12 & 13 at the Nourse Theater with special guests Well-Strung the Singing String Quartet. Tickets at sfgmc.org or 415-392-4400.

“We’ll laugh. We’ll cry. We’ll remember…”

By Dr. Tim Seelig

As the current Artistic Director of the Chorus, I was asked to write an article about this momentous celebration. But I’ve only been here for four Christmas Eves. I thought it better to ask some of the singers who were there in 1990— and have sung all 25! Here are just some of their comments. If you have been at one or all 25 yourself, this will bring back wonderful memories.

“In 1990, my partner, who has since passed, worked for the Blumenfeld Family, owners of Castro Theatre.

Front: SFGMC members who sang at the f irst “Home for the Holidays” performance in 1990 and Dr. Tim Seeling, Artistic Director/Conductor, gathered for an exclusive photo in front of the historic Castro Theatre. They created the photo, featured on our cover, especially for this issue of the San Francisco Bay Times. Left to right they are John Trompeter, Clint Johnson, Gary Richards, Joe Castrovinci, Cecil Johnson, Marty O’Connell (obstructed view, but he’s shown in the center of the below photo), Brian Weart, Robert Rufo, Jim Munson, Dominc Viterbo, Tom Burtch and Dr. Seelig.

With his persistence and that of his roommate, SFGMC Artistic Director Dr. Stan Hill, he convinced the family to break the long-held tradition of the Castro Theatre being closed on Christmas Eve. That year, the marquee proudly displayed “Christmas Eve with The San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus” as it has for 25 Christmas Eves in a row.” Brian “We were in the middle of the worst of the AIDS epidemic. People were losing their jobs, apartments and, most of all, families as a result of fear and paranoia surrounding the disease. The Chorus itself was also suffering staggering losses. In an effort to provide comfort and a little happiness, we decided to sing at the Castro Theatre on Christmas Eve. The doors opened and people flooded in: healthy people, sick people, people pulling their oxygen tanks and leaning on the arms of friends and neighbors. When the organ started to play holiday carols, the theater erupted with joy, acceptance and love. We were one.” Tom “I remember as the singers entered from the lobby and walked down the aisles; the audience went wild and thunderously applauded. It was electric! I felt giddy as we got onto the makeshift risers! It was such a feeling of affirmation. They loved us and we loved them. That feeling has been repeated for me 25 times.” David “Nothing like this had ever been done before at the Castro Theater. I remember wondering if anyone would even show up. I was also concerned about the mood of the audience, given the tremendous loss that was happening all over the Castro. But as soon as we began singing, I realized music was going to work its usual magic. It gave us all a much-needed sense of

“For that very first concert, Mark Fotopoulos sang “Christmas is for Cowboys.” Everyone just melted because he was so cute. It was to be Mark’s last concert, as he became ill and passed away shortly thereafter. I know Mark lives on in many people’s memories as the handsome cowboy with the droll smile, languid voice and relaxed style.

He is missed.” David “Early on, we began taking pictures with Santa before each of the shows to raise money for our Scholarship Fund. One year, I volunteered to be Santa. Before the 5pm show, it was mostly children who wanted to sit on Santa’s lap. By 7pm, there were more adults who wanted to tell Santa if they’d been naughty or nice. By the 9:00 o’clock show, with the crowds full of “Christmas cheer” provided by local establishments, the audience was a hot mess—and so much fun!

With each show, they became more generous to the fund!” Rick “We were filling two shows, but everyone had doubts that a third show would fill, and the singers had doubts they could sustain the energy to do three shows in a row. We took the leap of faith and never looked back.

Patrons also started lining up earlier and earlier so as not to be on the back row of the balcony!” Gary

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ment during a time when such moments were few and far between. As for our shared, staggering losses, the Chorus has now lost over 300 singers.

good fight. On December 24, we will once again be one.

Hopefully this has given you a sense of what it was like at the beginning of this remarkable tradition. Each year, the Chorus prepares its very best for Christmas Eve with delight and anticipation.

The San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus, now in its 37th Season, has always been there for our community.

From its beginning in 1978 as a joyful outpouring of gay pride to this year when we celebrate this incredible milestone, we never dared dream this all would come true.

The members of this Chorus give tirelessly of their time, money and talent for many reasons. Chief among those is the burning desire to make the world a better place for all who hear.

On Christmas Eve, 1990, the members of the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus made the world a much, much better place for those who gathered in the Castro Theatre. From all accounts, they created a joyful mo-

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But here we are performing our 25th annual Christmas Eve concerts at the Castro Theatre, “Home for the Holidays.” It is a remarkable passing of time. On that evening 25 years ago, no one knew if there would be a second or third, much less twenty-fifth.

PHOTOS BY SHAWN NORTHCUTT

One of the things that we all tend to do is count the passing of time in round numbers. Five years of this, or ten years since that. It is mostly done in hindsight. We don’t spend much time looking down the road pondering how things will be when we have done something for 15 years, or 20, or certainly 25. That was definitely the feeling for everyone in the gay community in 1990. Thinking 25 years ahead was unthinkable.

hope and belonging—something the chorus does to this day.” Joe

Twenty-five years later, we continue the work those brave men began. Yes, times have changed. But we still use our music to bring people together, reminding us of those we have lost and inspiring us all to do better, be better and to continue fighting the

We’ll laugh. We’ll cry. We’ll remember. And we will celebrate being together—again!

Don’t miss it. And, who knows? Maybe there will be a 50th Annual Home for the Holidays one day.

Dr. Tim Seelig is the proud and humbled Artistic Director of the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus.

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25 Years of San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus Home for the Holidays Concerts

Highlights from “Home For The Holidays” 1990 - The first “Home For The Holidays” is performed at the Castro Theatre. There were two shows.

1991 - Donna Sachet joins the Chorus. The rest is history.

1992 - “Silent Night” is signed for deaf audience members.

1996 - A third show is added at 5:00pm. Broadway star Lisa Vroman appears.

1999 - Nuns perform the “Hallelujah Chorus.”

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2002 - Because of growth, the Chorus can no longer fit on the stage with the organ. Audiences are disappointed no longer to hear carols played before the show, but are thrilled with the larger number of singers participating.

2003 - “Fruitcake” featuring our own Martha Stewart debuts.

2005 - “Nutcracker Jingles” is performed with singers in tutus. Randy Newman’s “Louisiana 1927” is performed in memory of those who suffered in Hurricane Katrina.

2009 - “Not In Our Town” describes the bullying of a Jewish boy.

2011 - “Favorite One” stops the show with synchronized Elves and Reindeer.

2012 - The entire Chorus dresses as Santas with an outrageous appearance of Mrs. Santa, who attempts to sing.

Auctioning the Conductor’s Baton

2014 - SFGMC celebrates 25 years of “Home for the Holidays” with shows at both the Nourse Theater and the Castro Theatre.

25 Christmas Eves (And Counting) San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus’ 25th Annual Home for the Holidays “Dancers, Prancers & Vixens” Featuring Well-Strung, the Singing String Quartet

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Nourse Theater, 275 Hayes Street, San Francisco Friday, December 12 @ 8pm Saturday, December 13 @ 2:30pm & 8pm Castro Theatre, 429 Castro Street, San Francisco Featuring Donna Sachet and Lisa Vroman Wednesday, December 24 @ 5pm, 7pm & 9pm

A favorite “Home for the Holidays” memory was when SFGMC’s Michael Tate auctioned off the conductor’s baton, thereby identifying a member of the audience who was willing to pay for the opportunity to conduct the singing of “Deck the Halls,” “The Christmas Song” (Chestnuts Roasting on an Open Fire), or another holiday favorite.

The auctions have raised Thom Cook thousands of dollars, and many happy guest conductors have come away with unforgettable memories and their own concertused baton. A must-see moment occurred in 2009, when Outlook Video executive producer Kim Larson won the auction and his husband Thom Cook conducted.

To be transported to that very moment, use the search phrase on YouTube “Christmas HamMaestro Wannabe Conducts the San Francsico Gay Men’s Chorus” or go to: https://www. youtube.com/watch?v=Zo5QK_ Rhpl0 Michael Tate

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SFGMC Holiday Shows Through the Years The first “Home for the Holidays!” show at the historic Castro Theatre was presented by the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus, under the direction of Dr. Stan Hill, on Christmas Eve, December 24, 1990. The tradition of Christmas Eve shows at the Castro has continued since then, and the San Francisco Bay Times is proud to have been there for many of them with our own Sister Dana often volunteering.

Even earlier than 1990, SFGMC participated in holiday season concerts dating all the way back to December 20, 1978, when director Jon Sims and conductors Richard Kramer and Sondra “Sonni” Zambino presented a program at Everett Junior High School that included performances by the SF Gay Freedom Day Marching Band, Women’s Chorus, and Brass Choir, in addition to SFGMC.

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In 1981, under the direction of conductor Dick Kramer, SFGMC joined with the SF Lesbian and Gay Men’s Community Chorus, conducted by Robin Kay, to present a holiday celebration entitled “Now Sing Again with Hearts Aglow,” held on Sunday, December 20, and Thursday, December 24, at the Nourse Theater in San Francisco. Concerts of a similar title were held at the same location in 1983 and 1984.

SFGMC holiday programs have been presented in other San Francisco venues, including the Masonic Auditorium, Mission High School, Herbst Theatre/SF War Memorial & Performing Arts Center, Center for the Arts Theater at Yerba Buena Gardens, Palace of Fine Arts and Davies Symphony Hall.

The holiday shows have also gone on the road to be presented throughout the Bay Area and beyond. Venues have included the First Congregational Church, Santa Cruz; Thomas Downey High School, Modesto High School and Modesto Junior College, Modesto; Sonoma Country Day School and Center for Spiritual Living, Santa Rosa; and Lafayette-Orinda Presbyterian Church, Lafayette, CA. A number of featured guests have joined SFGMC on stage for holiday season shows. Among these have been Claudia White, Meg Mackay, Melody Moore, Jan Wahl, Kim Kuzma, Dr. Yvette Flunder, Marina Harris, and Jason Victor Serinus.

The Chorus’ own Donna Sachet has returned repeatedly as a featured guest.

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Home for the Holidays Conductors 1990-2014 Dr. Stan Hill, Conductor Emeritus, July 1989 – July 2000 Joseph Jennings, Guest Conductor, Sept. – Dec. 1998 Dr. Kathleen McGuire, Conductor Laureate, Aug. 2000 – Dec. 2010 Dr. Timothy Seelig, Guest Conductor, Feb. – June 2009; Artistic Director & Conductor, Jan. 2011 – Present SFGMC Holiday Music Discography Our Gay Apparel (September 1995, December 2003) Home for the Holidays – Live at the Castro Theatre (June 2005)

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Round About - Harvey Milk Memorial March 2014

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“This year we remember the unbelievable gift that Harvey Milk was to San Francisco and the LGBT community, and we are filled with gratitude,” organizers wrote on the event web page. “Grateful for a life lived authentically, grateful for the many lives Harvey touched with his words and his advocacy, grateful for the community he worked so hard to organize and lift up, grateful for the hope he inspired in us all.”

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The Harvey Milk Memorial March, held annually on November 27, fell on Thanksgiving Day this year. The event is held in remembrance of the deaths of Supervisor Harvey Milk and Mayor George Moscone and includes remarks at a selected gathering point and a candlelit walk through the streets of the Castro. Organizers included the Harvey Milk LGBT Democratic Club, Assemblyman Tom Ammiano, former Supervisor Harry Britt, activist Cleve Jones and community members.

Fortnight in Review

By Ann Rostrow Tis The Season Uh oh. It’s that time again. The holiday vortex when our GLBT news bin mysteriously empties while our obligation to GLBT readers remains binding. I don’t know why it happens, but it does. Yet this year, I assumed the endless marriage equality news would span the dead zone from Thanksgiving to early January. Surely there’s another brief to parse, another state politician to excoriate, another court to muse about?

But yes and no. In the last week, a federal court in Arkansas ruled against the Razorback antigay marriage amendment. That case will head to the Eighth Circuit. And in Mississippi, another federal judge tossed the Double Letter State’s marriage ban in a case that may now join two others before the Fifth Circuit.

The University of Arkansas has a razorback mascot named “Tusk.” Cute.

I like mascots. Here in Austin, ours is “Bevo,” the huge longhorn who sits on the sidelines at Texas games. Legend has it that he was once branded with the score of a victory by our rivals, Texas A&M. The score, “13–0,” was then altered to form the name “BEVO” in order to undermine the prank. In a horrifying aside, that particular Bevo was also reportedly served as the main course at the 1920 football banquet.

Seriously!

There was a time when two federal court decisions in favor of marriage equality in the space of one week would have qualified as a groundbreaking development in GLBT news. That time was less than a year ago. Now, not only has the ground been broken, but we’ve almost built the, um, Marriage Equality Tower? Indeed, many of the condominiums are under contract, and the final touches are pending in the Sky’s the Limit rooftop bar and infinity pool.

Ruth’s Crisis I should mention that we are still waiting for a ruling from the Arkansas Supreme Court that could legalize marriage in Feral Hog Country without delay. But, as you know, the main game continues in Washington, where we have just learned that the High Court plans to consider whether or not to take up the Michigan marriage case during its January 9 conference. There are several other petitions in progress, including three others stemming from our recent losses at the Sixth Circuit. In two other cases, lawyers are planning to ask the Supreme Court to step in prior to an appellate court decision. Those are cases out of Louisiana and South Carolina. Louisiana has just replied, agreeing that the High Court should grant review. But given the fact that Michigan has gone through the lower courts, let’s assume that the Mitten State is more likely to make the docket.

That said, now that we see Deboer v Snyder on the January 9 calendar, it’s possible that some of these other appeals could be rushed into line.

I have great admiration for the octogenarian Justice Ginsburg, who survived two bouts of cancer treatment without missing a day of work. Now, she’s managed to undergo emergency heart surgery during the Thanksgiving vacation and still show up for arguments on Monday.

But can I just say that this feline ability to land on her feet is as frightening as it is admirable? Let’s get marriage on the High Court’s agenda this year, and let’s finish it up by next June before Justice Ginsburg is required to jump through any more medical hoops. After all, a four-four tie from a diminished Court

goes to the winner at the lower court.

Thanks to Judge Sutton at the Sixth Circuit, that is not us. So indeed, a nightmare scenario still lurks at the margins of what is possible, and delay is our enemy.

Sore Losers Keep Fighting During a battlefield rout, the rear guard lags the retreating army to set traps and take pot shots at the advancing victors. Sure enough, we are dealing with several rear guard skirmishes as marriage sweeps over the nation.

One obvious area is Kansas, where state authorities have lost in federal court and state court. They are also operating under binding law from the Tenth Circuit, where marriage bans have been struck. Yet officials continue to nitpick, state agencies continue to reject marriage rights, and some counties continue to resist same-sex couples. The Tenth Circuit has recently denied a ridiculous request from the state to put the issue of marriage equality before the full court. (For Christ’s sake, the Supreme Court has already weighed in on this.) And the ACLU has now launched yet another lawsuit that is designed to close the imaginary loopholes that conservative Jayhawks have been trying to unravel.

In Florida, a federal ruling in favor of equality has been stayed pending review by the Eleventh Circuit, and several state rulings are also on hold. So technically, the Beach State is under no obligation to tie our knots. But listen to this one: Two men got married in New York and changed their names through the Social Security Administration. Their new, combined, name was then reflected on their New York marriage license.

Returning to Florida, one man got a new driver’s license, but his husband had problems and wound up going to another county to get his new license.

When the two of them talked to the press about the needless hassle, the Florida DMV cancelled both their licenses, explaining that since Florida doesn’t recognize same-sex marriage, the New York documentation was improperly given effect.

I don’t know where to begin. First, the bureaucrat who heard about the media interview could have easily ignored it. Who cares? The issue of marriage equality has already been litigated throughout Florida and we’re all waiting for appellate review. What is gained by messing with these guys on a technicality?

Second, this name change was linked to a marriage, but a name change in itself is not a feature of marriage. You can change your name for any reason.

You can get married and keep your name. The fact that these guys went through a federal agency seems like it should be enough for a state DMV. It’s just petty, nasty and mean. It’s infuriating when public officials behave like bullies, and the men are already suing the officials at Motor Vehicles to get their credentials restored. One man re-filed for his license under his own name, while the other has decided to walk and ride busses until the matter is resolved.

Elsewhere, conservative gadf lies are trying to convince gullible clerks that they can stand their ground and refuse to issue marriage licenses to gay couples based on religious objections.

But, hello! These people work for a government office. County officials? If you want to defend a federal lawsuit, go ahead and tell your clerks to pick and choose just whom they deem worthy of official paperwork. If not, tell them to serve the citizens on an equal basis.

The Welcome Mat Oh, there are lots of other snipers in the bushes. And I’m sure we’ll have our fill of recalcitrant florists and bakers before our story is finished. Speaking of having our fill, we are just beginning the annual barrage of Christmas commercials. As usual, to my annoyance, we’re seeing a lot of the old commercials being recycled for another year. Like the red and white cars that Santa is sending to the naughty and nice people on his list. Like the grotesque “chocolate” diamonds. (Why not battleship grey rubies, or olive green sapphires?) Soon we’ll get the guy who can’t ice skate very well who proposes to his girlfriend. Eventually, we’ll probably even get the company that produces floor mats for cars openly suggesting that we send rubber mats to the special loved ones on our Christmas lists. Surely you remember that from last year?

Can you imagine the scene around the tree on Christmas morning? Everyone in their pajamas. The kids pulling wrapping paper off as fast as they can rip.

“Dad! This one’s for you!”

“My my. Thanks Timmy! What could this be?”

“Open it, Dad! It’s from Mom!” “Um. I’m not sure…”

“What is it Dad?!”

“Darling, I was just tired of the mess in the Camry…”

“Floor mats?”

“What is it, Dad?” “I read that these are the best mats on the market…Don? Come back and join the family!”

I remember one Christmas when my brother was in his early 20s. He sent us all an official Christmas list consisting mostly of auto parts. When I asked if there was a) anything other that auto parts or b) anything less than $100 on his wish list, he said no, better just skip a Christmas present altogether. I think I split the cost of a tire with my father.

What the Helsinki?

So, it seems marriage is legal in Finland. Somehow, I thought it was already legal in Finland. Not only that, but I also vaguely thought that marriage was legalized in Finland some time ago, and I thought that I thought at that time that marriage was already legal in Finland. What’s going on!

(Cue: Theme from X Files.)

I think the truth must be that I have been ignoring Finland, allowing quick headlines to flit in and out of my brain on occasion, but lumping the country in with Scandinavia as a general rule.

Now, I read that the parliament put Finland on the equality map with a 105–92 vote, making the country the twelfth in Europe to offer marriage rights.

Roughly 8,000 people reportedly quit the Lutheran church in protest after the head of the church came out in favor of marriage rights as November came to a close. I gather the Lutheran church is the main religion in the country and depends on member contributions for revenue. So, that’s not great for the church.

Did any of you see Babette’s Feast? That’s my image of Finland. Quiet, cold and still. Salted dried fish hanging in the kitchen. Nothing to do unless you win the lottery.

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Keith Haring, Untitled, 1982. Enamel and Day-Glo paint on metal. Collection of the Keith Haring Foundation. Keith Haring artwork © Keith Haring Foundation

Through his graffiti-inspired drawings, paintings, sculptures, and murals, Keith Haring created an immediately recognizable iconography that speaks to a diverse population. Making its US premiere at the de Young with more than 130 works of art, The Political Line lends gravitas to the artist’s career by focusing on his political activism. Exuberant, profane, witty, and provocative, the works in this exhibition trace Haring’s creative development and his historical significance as an advocate for social justice.

November 8, 2014–February 16, 2015 This exhibition is organized by the Fine Arts Museums of San Francisco. Director’s Circle: Penny and James George Coulter. Curator’s Circle: Sloan and Roger Barnett, Ray and Dagmar Dolby Family Fund, Holly Johnson Harris and Parker Harris, and the Shimmon Family. Conservator’s Circle: The Buena Vista Fund of Horizons Foundation. Supporter’s Circle: Nancy and Joachim Bechtle, Juliet de Baubigny, and Richard and Peggy Greenfield. Community Partner: WEBCOR Builders. The exhibition is supported by an indemnity from the Federal Council on the Arts and the Humanities.

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Round About - Light in the Grove 2014 Photos by Rink Light in the Grove, held this year on the evening of Sunday, November 30, is a one-of-a-kind experience held annually on the eve of World AIDS Day. Described as an evening of remembrance, renewal and reunion, the event happens at the AIDS Memorial Grove in Golden Gate Park and includes lighting of memory candles at the Circle of Friends site, unique performances, brilliant displays of creative lighting and a sumptuous buffet. Honorees this year included Ken Henderson & Joe Seiler from the Richmond/Ermet AIDS Foundation. Velocity Circus’ Miguel and Shannon entertained, appearing as forest spirits. Congresswoman Nancy Pelosi was a surprise guest.

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Gertrude Stein: Icon of Modernity

Rainbow Honor Walk Dr. Bill Lipsky In English or in French, Gertrude Stein’s native and adopted languages, the word to describe her was the same: formidable. She possessed one of the most creative and inf luential minds of the 20 th century, such that her

Born in Allegheny, Pennsylvania, in 1874, Gertrude Stein was raised in Oakland, California.

She attended Radcliffe College and Johns Hopkins University before moving to Paris in 1903. Her father’s success as a businessman— among other interests, he was a director of San Francisco’s Market Street Railway—gave her the financial independence to make France her home, which she did for the rest of her life. She returned to the United States only once. It was with Toklas in October 1934 for a six-month visit and lecture tour.

Stein and Toklas, a native San Franciscan born in 1877, met in Paris through a mutual friend in the fall of 1907. By the following summer, they were deeply in love, and their lives then entwined in every conceivable way until Stein’s death in 1946. Stein often said that the stability of their home life, fashioned

by Toklas, who took on all domestic responsibilities, enabled her to make her

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far-reaching contributions to the literary arts. They became the most famous openly lesbian couple in the world, and their 38-year relationship was a role model of what was possible for generations of women who love women.

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Stein simply was one of the most revolutionary experimenters with language of the last 100 years, challenging literary tradition at every turn. Why must stories, she asked, have beginnings, middles, and ends? Why must plays have acts of equal length? Why can autobiography be written only by the person whose life is being told? Why must key words not be repeated in a sentence or a paragraph? Why must they be used only in their usual ways?

Even when she used traditional forms, she broke their rules. Written in 1911, but not published until 1922, “Miss Furr and Miss Skeene” tells a story with a beginning, middle, and end, although it reads unlike any story before it. In barely 2100 words, Stein creates two vivid personalities, describes their world in detail, and unfolds the discovery of their love for one another, while at the same time portraying one of the first lesbian couples in English literature as “regular” and completely normal.

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brilliance mystified and confounded many, including, at times, herself. “It will take her years to understand the things she’s said tonight,” Alice Toklas, never known for cattiness, remarked after one soirée.

Thoroughly involved with the avantgarde in Paris, Stein became a patron of Pablo Picasso, Henri Matisse and other major artists when they were still unknown. Her intent was to do for language what they did for visual arts, and she brought cubism to writing, deconstructing everyday images and ideas first by separating words from their usual meanings, and then rearranging the traditional elements, forms, and patterns of expression.

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She does this with plain, direct language, using simple words over and over to invent a different way to express thought. The word “gay” appears 136 times, becoming one of the first instances in print where the word “gay” describes a homosexual relationship.

Juxtaposing it with other words, she creates its modern meaning and a new understanding of the love of two women for each other.

Three years later she published Tender Buttons. One of the great avant-garde experiments in verse, the work uses everyday words— like those in its wonder(continued on page 26) David Perry oversees the Rainbow Honor Walk series. He is co-founder and cochair of the nonprofit R a inbow Honor Walk, which has created a landmark memorial in the Castro to heroes and heroines of the LGBT community.

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Exchange Guidelines: 4 Basic Requirements ment property is held. For example, John Doe is on title to the relinquished property, but would like to take title to the replacement property in an LLC.

Real Estate America Foy At my open house this past weekend, a couple came through who were going through what’s known as a “1031 exchange.” In a nutshell, a 1031 exchange is a swap of one business, property or other investment asset for another. Each party can then change the form of their investment without cashing out. They can also defer their capital gains taxes, so long as the other property, or properties, is held as an investment. “1031” derives from Section 1031 of the Internal Revenue Code, which deals with this matter.

We got into a nice discussion about 1031 exchanges at the open house.

Others who came weren’t very familiar with them, so I thought I would share more information with you, as provided by Leonard Spoto from the Asset Exchange Company.

Spoto clarifies that the taxpayer who sells relinquished property must be the same taxpayer who buys replacement property. This usually means that the vesting is the same for both the relinquished and the replacement properties. For example, John Doe’s name is on title to both properties involved in the 1031 exchange. However, there may be times when the party involved in the 1031 would like to make a change in how the replace-

This is only allowable if the LLC is treated as a pass through entity, disregarded for tax purposes. The tax ID for the LLC will be the taxpayer’s social security number, and there will be no need to file a separate return for the LLC. This not only works for an LLC, but also for a revocable living trust, since living trusts are also pass through entities for tax purposes.

The rule of thumb regarding a 1031 exchange is to maintain the same taxpayer. The taxpayer who sells relinquished property needs to be the same taxpayer who buys replacement property, regardless of the vesting. Strict adherence to the legal requirements of Section 1031 of the Internal Revenue Code is required for a successful exchange. Investors should be aware of four basic requirements when entering into a delayed exchange, and should seek the advice of a tax accountant or attorney to ensure proper adherence to the tax code. The four basic requirements for a successful exchange are: 1. Property Qualifications The internal revenue code states that the properties involved in an exchange must be held for productive use in trade or business or for investment, and they must be “like-kind.”

2. Timeline The IRS provides a maximum of 180 days to complete an exchange. The timeline begins upon the close of escrow (COE) of the relinquished property. The new property (or properties) must be acquired on or before midnight of the 180th day. No exceptions!

In addition, the IRS requires that all

potential replacement properties be identified by midnight of the 45th day of the exchange.

3. Identification Identification of all potential replacement properties is required on day 45 of the exchange. Identification must be in writing, and the description of the properties must be unambiguous.

The IRS provides two rules for identifying replacement property: The 3 Property Rule - The 3 Property Rule allows for identification of any three properties, of any price, anywhere in the United States.

The 200% Rule - The 200% Rule is an option for identifying more than three properties. With the 200% Rule, four or more properties can be identified. However, the combined value of all properties identified cannot exceed 200% of the property sold.

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4. Tax Deferral To defer 100% of the capital gains tax liability, two requirements must be met: a. Reinvest all the cash. All the cash that was generated from the sale of the relinquished property must be reinvested into the new property or properties. b. Exchange for a property that is of equal or greater value. The new property (or properties) must be equal or greater in value to the property sold.

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Round About - World AIDS Day Ceremony Photos by Rink Held on Monday, December 1, at the National AIDS Memorial Grove, the ceremony honored Paul Boneberg as this year’s Thom Weyand Unsung Hero and Judith Light as the National Leadership Recognition Award recipient. Executive Director Joel Stevens welcomed guests and vocalist Parris Lane received a standing ovation for her performance. Panels from the Names Project were on display and AIDS Life/Cycle cyclists rode 14 miles to reach the site of the ceremony.

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Can We Make an Open Relationship Work? relationships, some open, and some monogamous. Both kinds of relationships can work, as long as it’s what both parties really want, and provided that the basics of honesty, mutual respect, trust, and affection are there.

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Tom Moon, MFT Q: My boyfriend and I have been monogamous for four years, and now we’re considering having an open relationship. We’re both a little worried about it. Could this endanger our relationship? When I talked about it with one of my friends, he said f lat out, “Well, that’s the beginning of the end.” But other guys say, “What took you so long? No male relationships are monogamous for long.” What do you think?

A: This is a subject on which everyone seems to have a passionate opinion.

I don’t agree with either of the statements of your friends. I’m personally acquainted with many gay men who are thriving in long-term, successful

Which brings me to my first question: Do you both want an open relationship, or is one of you considering doing it to accommodate the other? In my experience, some men seem made for monogamy and some for non-monogamy, and both camps have a hard time understanding the other. Some people only enjoy sex within an intimate relationship, and have a hard time not seeing their partners’ outside sex as betrayal and abandonment, no matter how much the partners assure them that “it’s just sex.”

On the other hand, those who prefer non-monogamy tend to feel confined and straitjacketed when they agree to be exclusive with their partners, no matter how sincere their commitment.

Many of the men I’ve seen in couple’s counseling come in because they’re essentially mismatched on the issue, and their struggle is over who’s going to accommodate the other. In my admittedly limited experience, most couples with this basic disagreement have ultimately separated. This is an issue where it’s best to be sure you’re both

on the same page before you make a commitment.

But assuming you both want to open the relationship, the next question is: What do each of you mean by “open relationship?” If, for one of you, it means an occasional hook-up and, for the other, it means having other boyfriends, you might be headed for conflict. I would suggest that you both write out a detailed description of the kind of arrangement you think would work best for you, and then compare notes. See how much overlap there is.

If you want to have a look at what has worked for others, you can access a great 2010 study by Blake Spears and Lanz Lowen at www.thecouplesstudy. com Blake and Lanz have themselves been in an open relationship for close to forty years, and they wanted to see how non-monogamy was successful in other long-term relationships. Their study is an intimate look into the lives of 85 couples who have each been together for a minimum of 8 years.

It’s a fascinating read because the authors avoid speculation and let the participants speak for themselves.

One finding concerned the many varieties of “openness” that the couples practiced. Some only played together, some only separately, and some did both. Some only allowed anonymous

outside encounters, while others allowed “friends with benefits.” Still others built polyamorous families with multiple partners. Some (about ten percent) had no rules at all governing outside sex, while at the other end of the spectrum, the couples created detailed ground rules and contracts.

Every imaginable kind of “openness” seemed to work for someone.

This study will reassure you that, as the authors state, “…it is reasonable to conclude that non-monogamy for gay male couples is a viable option. When partners find enough common ground in their inclinations and perspectives toward non-monogamy, sanctioned outside sex is a sustainable and satisfying possibility. If a couple is willing to be forthright and to problem-solve as needed, non-monogamy isn’t by nature de-stabilizing. In fact, the results of this study would suggest the opposite—many study couples said non-monogamy enabled them to stay together. The average length of relationship for interviewed couples was 16 years—double our minimum requirement…it destroys the myth that opening the relationship is the ‘beginning of the end.’”

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Sister Dana sez, “It must be the holidaze - I’m already hearing Xmas carols in all the stores, and I’ve barely finished eating my Thanksgiving leftovers!”

During the early days of the AIDS crisis in San Francisco, SHANTI PROJECT volunteers provided courageous love at the darkest of times; they exemplified the heartfelt response San Francisco is known for providing. To commemorate 40 years of service, Shanti Project hosted GRATITUDE IN THE GROVE, an evening of reflection, connection, gratitude, and dancing for former volunteers and HIV/AIDS volunteer caregivers (“the heroes of the AIDS epidemic”) at the National AIDS Memorial Grove in Golden Gate Park. Under the weather-

Speaking of Thanksgiving (or what I prefer to call “ThanksGAYing”), we SF SISTERS OF PERPETUA L INDULGENCE spent T-day at TENDERLOIN TESSIE’S HOLI­ DAY DINNER at the First Unitarian Church giving service to our most vulnerable and needy during the holiday season. My volunteer job was punching people. Now don’t go calling the abuse hotline, cuz I was just pouring punch for the people. And letting folks take selfies with us in nun drag was a delight.

As we all have seen - over the years many organizations have joined the fight for LGBTQ rights. THE SALVATION ARMY does not appear to be terribly interested in anything other than denying that our Community has any rights at all. Please support Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence in San Francisco, Dallas, San Diego, St Louis, and the Capital City Sisters (as well as others TBD) to ring in a new era of Yuletide giving.

The EssEff Sisters will be holding SALVATION SISTERS: ARMY OF NUN on Saturday, December 20th at 6pm to Sunday, December 21st at 8pm on 18th & Castro Street corners. This is just a simple plea to skip the homophobic red buckets of Salvation Army, and save your pennies for the Salvation Sisters. Money raised will go to GLIDE MEMORIAL CHURCH charities.

The annual HARVEY MILK & GEORGE MOSCONE MEMO­ RIAL MARCH AND VIGIL was a night of remembrance of the lives and untimely deaths of Supervisor Harvey Milk and Mayor George Moscone on the anniversary of their assassinations. Marchers gathered at Harvey Milk Plaza where thoughts were given by community leaders on Milk’s legacy. A gorgeous mural of fresh flowers framed a big black & white blow-up photo of Milk, attached to the Castro Station fence. People carried giant caricatures of Milk’s head on poles in remembrance. This was followed by a candlelight march through the Castro and up to the former site of Milk’s old camera shop (a place of fervent gay activism back in the day) at the Human Rights Campaign activist center and store to hear politicos and friends of Harvey give rousing speeches and to fondly reminisce.

GOOD VIBRATIONS, the legendary San Francisco-based sex toy retailer, sex educator, and fundraiser for more than three decades, hosted a HOLIDAY LAUNCH PARTY at its Valencia Street Store. I was introduced to several fine products as great gifts or stocking stuffers for men. The Original Magic Wand is the Cadillac of vibrators and Good Vibrations’ most popu-

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Then it was off to Terrence & Cameron’s lovely home in the SOMA for their annual SPANKS­GIVING party - gobbling way way waaaaaay too much Turkey, trimmings, and a bazillion sides, plus a lovely bar stocked with everything. I am just thankful I did NOT have a hangover the next day!

proof, heated, transparent tent we enjoyed fine food and drink, with celebratory dancing with DJ Page Hodel following a short program.

On the eve of World AIDS Day, the NATIONAL AIDS MEMORIAL GROVE held its annual LIGHT IN THE GROVE fundraising gala, a celebration of life and remembrance of those we have lost to the epidemic. This iconic event offered a nighttime journey through darkness and light, loss and hope. The Grove in Golden Gate Park provided mystical music and performance art in the woods, and brilliantly evocative, surreal, and technical displays of light. Indoors a transparentlytented celebration featured Tim Hockenberry singing and on keyboards. This year’s honorees were Ken Henderson, Executive Director, and Joe Seiler, Board Chair, of THE RICHMOND/ERMET A IDS FOUNDATION (REAF). Under Ken and Joe’s leadership and unwavering dedication, REAF has raised millions of dollars for Bay Area AIDS charities over the past twenty years.

Co-chairs Dan Bernal & Tom Raffin introduced Executive Director John Cunningham, who proudly spoke of the history of the Grove and its plans for perpetual maintenance.

Representative Nancy Pelosi told of her very early support for Congress to make the Grove a National Monument.

Celebrants joined the MERCHANTS OF UPPER MARK ET AND CASTRO for their annual CASTRO HOLIDAY TREE LIGHTING CEREMONY at Castro and 18th Streets. There was holiday music and fun hosted by the fabulous Donna Sachet as Mrs. Santa Claus, with a blessing by the ever glittery Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, and a visit by Santa Claus and his elves. Ho ho!

R AINBOW WORLD FUND presented the 9th Annual WORLD TREE OF HOPE OFFICIAL TREE LIGHTING CELEBRATION in

Grace Cathedral featuring a concert by the Grammy winning San Francisco Boys Chorus; emcee Cheryl Jennings, Mayor Ed Lee and Consul General of Japan Masato Watanabe who exchanged peace cranes, Cleve Jones delivered a message of hope; singer Veronica Klaus with pianist Tammy Hall performed, and The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence blessed the tree of a thousand white origami cranes, each containing written notes of hope and peace from children and individuals from around the world.

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CUMMING UP! From the holiday traditions of meaningful, thoughtful, and morally inspiring tales comes the heroic story of a 46-year-old boozer, user, and loser that must set aside all of her personal beliefs of nothing, and open her heart to the wrong and sexy feelings of Christmas.

Stroll down the halls of Flat Point High as Jerri Blank finds the reasons for the seasons. This live rewrite play, STRANGERS WITH XXXMAS CANDY, is directed by Dani Spinks with an original script by Ralph Hoy, Bob McIntyre and Spinks. Loosely based on Comedy Central’s Strangers with Candy, this hilarious takeoff stars Bob McIntyre, Lauren Davidson, Sadie Fenton, Kelly Fitzgerald, Ralph Hoy, Lonnie Haley, Becky Hirschfeld, Derek Lozupone, Layla Rudy, Ricky Sakow, Jaime San Felippo, Alexia Staniotes, and Adam Vogel. Performed at The EXIT Theatre, 156 Eddy Street. Show opens December 4th, and runs Thursdays-Saturdays, 8pm through December 20th. facebook.com/strangerswithcandysf The Girls have landed safely from Miami and are all settled in - back at the beautiful Victoria Theater, 2961 16th Street @ Mission/Capp. I›m talking about THE GOLDEN GIRLS in THE CHRISTMAS EPISODES with all new sets and costumes.

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Exemplifying the Band’s mission, for 29 years, the Dance-Along Nutcracker has been bringing together the community with a show that takes children, families, couples, and singles on a magical holiday journey. This year’s fun-filled, zany dance-along concert will take the audience on a musical excursion to a tropical paradise – so grab your tutu and your lei – we’re heading to Hawaii!

Matinee shows – all ages, Saturday, December 13th at 2:30 pm (Preview Show), Children (12 & under) $10, Adults $20; Sunday, December 14th at 11 am & 3 pm, Children, Students & Seniors $18, Adults $30. Evening Gala Show – Adults Only: Saturday, December 13th at 7 pm, Adults $50.

Buy tickets online or call the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts Box Office at (415) 978-ARTS (2787). dancealongnutcracker.org Sister Dana sez, “I am disappointed, disillusioned, and downright disgusted regarding the Ferguson Grand Jury’s senseless decision of NO INDICTMENT of that awful cop, but please don’t destroy our City in retaliation! Thank gawd the cowardly cop has resigned. I was so proud of the Mission District’s first peaceful protest, but then agitators went and broke windows in Union Square and elsewhere. Yes, we want justice, but please keep the demonstrations peaceful!”

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Money Considerations When Assessing Officients

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good fit. I will be upfront stating a typical range of fees. We are fortunate in that San Francisco City Hall is an architectural marvel, and it is one of the least expensive venues. It costs $76 to get married in City Hall. However, the ceremony cannot be changed at all, and only six guests are allowed (including children and photographer).

While I don’t think of myself as a vendor, officiants are grouped as such by companies that sell in the wedding market. I laughed to myself when I opened an e-mail that started: “Everyone secretly agrees that great food and cocktails are the best part of a wedding. As you sit through the ceremony, your mind almost always wanders over to the reception and tries to guess just what might land on your plate. The best wedding cuisine beautifully represents the bride & groom and allows their guests to experience some of the things they love in a tasty way!”

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I had never read anything that so blatantly stated that the ceremony pales in comparison with the party. I immediately thought: What about couples who get married, but who don’t have lavish (or even simple) receptions? My mind also flashed on the title of the book “Putting God on the Guest List: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning.”

The e-mail reminded me that the wedding industry is just that: an industry. I have always recognized that my participation was not based on what I could get from the people I worked with: my fee, aka honorarium. As I wrote in my website, it’s my soul that gets filled by this work, not my wallet.

Money is often an important consideration when planning an event.

However, I suggest to people who contact me that it is more important to feel a good connection with an offici-

Weddings Howard Steiermann ant rather than base selection primarily on fee. As Elizabeth River wrote in her column last month, “Your wedding is so important that you want to be sure you feel right about the person who is to marry you.”

In addition to the connection you feel, there are questions you can ask a potential officiant. Your needs and the provided services can influence how much the officiant will charge. These, in turn, can be assessed during the Q&A. For example: How much time, if any, will the officiant spend with you to customize your ceremony? Is a rehearsal included? Is the officiant comfortable enough with strangers so as to have your guests feel warm and welcomed, or will the officiant come across as formal, cold or distant?

I let people know that I don’t want money to get in the way of our working together if we all feel there is a

Officiants in the Bay Area typically charge from $250 to $1,800. I suggest you ask for references. When I meet a couple who are considering me for their wedding, I explain that I see our first meeting like a first date. We are getting to know one another to see how well we all get along. If you are comfortable with me in my living room as we are discussing your wedding plans, then you will most likely feel comfortable with me standing in front of you as you recite your vows.

Life cycle events can be significant markers in our lives. I am not advocating that a good officiant is the most important element. I am advocating that a good officiant can enhance the experience so that the love and joy a couple brings to a wedding can shine through. Then go eat, drink and dance the night away!

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Federal Judge Carlton W. Reeves in his eloquent opinion striking down Mississippi’s marriage equality ban noted William Faulkner’s famous observation: “The past is never dead. It’s not even past.” Judge Reeves then went on to apply his indepth knowledge of the history of prejudice against LGBT Americans to support his holding that Mississippi’s marriage ban violates the U.S. Constitution.

Judge Reeves focused particularly on discrimination during the 1960s civil rights movement to illuminate “the long tradition of Americans from all walks of life uniting to discriminate against homosexuals. It did not matter if one was liberal or conservative, segregationist or civil rights leader, Democrat or Republican; homosexuals were ‘the other.’” Judge Reeves highlighted especially the struggle of Bayard Rustin: Another person targeted for his homosexuality was longtime civil rights organizer Bayard Rustin.

Rustin, an African American, had been active in the Communist movement, was a conscious objector to World War II, and helped guide the Montgomery bus boycott – all of which made him suspect.

When he drew attention in Mississippi, the Clarion-Ledger called him a “sex criminal” owing to a 1953 conviction for being caught in a gay sex encounter in California.

The most interesting part of Rustin’s story, though—and the reason why he merits more discussion here—is that he was subjected to anti-gay discrimination by both white and black people, majority and minority alike.

Congressman Adam Clayton Powell, a black Democrat, threat-

which in particular would offend J. Edgar Hoover.” The group ultimately “decided Randolph would be in charge of the march, that Rustin would be the principal organizer, but that he would stay somewhat in the background.”

Marriage Equality John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney, Marriage Equality USA ened to feed the media a false story that Rustin was having an affair with Martin Luther King, Jr., unless Dr. King canceled a protest at the Democratic National Convention. “The mere assertion would be extremely damaging.”

“King, however, held steady, and vowed that the picketing would go on as planned, which it did.”

Other persons within the civil rights movement were similarly “put off by Rustin’s homosexuality.” Roy Wilkins, an NAACP executive, “was particularly nasty to Bayard Rustin—very hostile,” in part because he “was very nervous about Bayard’s homosexuality.”

Dr. King eventually had Rustin resign “because of persistent criticism of Rustin’s homosexuality and Communist ties and because of Congressman Adam Clayton Powell’s threat.”

Rustin reemerged years later as one of the principal organizers of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. A. Philip Randolph and Dr. King wanted Rustin as the march’s chief organizer, but Wilkins pushed back “because [Rustin] was gay…something

The concern about offending Hoover was prescient, as the FBI Director and other top officials soon moved to use Rustin’s homosexuality against him. In August 1963, FBI Director J. Edgar Hoover, Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy, and President John F. Kennedy urgently reviewed the transcript of an FBI wiretap in which Dr. King acknowledged Rustin’s homosexuality. A day later, Senator Strom Thurmond of South Carolina “rose in the Senate to denounce Rustin for sexual perversion, vagrancy, and lewdness.”

FBI “headquarters badgered the field offices for new details” of Rustin’s sex life for months.

In November 2013, President Obama bestowed the nation’s highest civilian honor, the Presidential Medal of Freedom, on Bayard Rustin posthumously. In November 2014, the struggle Rustin endured fifty years ago contributed to Judge Reeves’ advancing marriage equality for LGBT Americans today. Indeed: “The past is never dead. It’s not even past.”

John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney, together for nearly three decades, were plaintiffs in the California case for equal marriage rights decided by the California Supreme Court in 2008.

They are leaders in the nationwide grassroots organization Marriage Equality USA

Hanging In To Win

The KiAi Way Jamie Zimron Sensei Wow, we’re in December again already!

Sports enthusiasts love drama and victory, and Bay Area fans were treated to good doses of both in recent weeks—in ways that I think we can not only enjoy, but also learn from as we move into the last month of yet another year. Even if your inner-athlete is still in the closet, and sports results aren’t your passion, please read on! These stories are true, fun, current and inspiring. The miracles that happen, the ecstasies and agonies and back to ecstasies, are enough to encourage anyone. And messages such as “never give up,” “keep giving it your all,” “you win some, you lose some,” and “it ain’t over til it’s over” are vital for everyone.

We have almost a full month of 2014 to go, and many surprises and good things may still be in store, if we’re up for them!

So here goes: One month ago, the San Francisco Giants clinched the 2014 World Series with a tight 3–2 win in the last game of the best-of-seven series. Victory wasn’t assured until the last inning, the last out, and the last pitch by SF ace Madison Bumgarner.

At a home game on November 17th, the Stanford women’s basketball team

won a shocking overtime thriller against top-ranked rival University of Connecticut. Stanford tied the game in the last 2 seconds with a miraculous 3-point shot, then won in the last second of overtime to break UConn’s historic 47-game winning streak. Just days later, the women from Texas shocked Stanford when they hit a jump-shot as regular time expired to tie the game, then scored big in overtime to win. Both games epitomized spine-tingling turnarounds, all in the last minutes and moments.

On November 9th, quarterback Colin Kaepernick led the San Francisco 49ers all the way downfield to the 1-yard line for the go-ahead touchdown in the closing minutes against the St. Louis Rams, only to lose the ball and game on a goal line fumble. It was an agony felt all around town and by the league.

The very next week, in a must-win game against the New Orleans Saints, the 49ers were trailing by 3 points in the last 2 minutes, stuck deep in their own territory on 4th down. Kaepernick was chased all over the backfield and almost out-of-bounds when he somehow launched a 50-yard bomb-throw that was miraculously caught close enough for a game-tying field goal! Then, in overtime, a Niner’s defender managed to strip the ball from the New Orleans’ quarterback and propel San Francisco to overtime victory, keeping playoff hopes alive.

A friend emailed this report from the November 20th football game at the Oakland Coliseum: “Raiders win! 2420! With 5-mins left & behind 17–20, Oakland drives the f ield to score.

With 1:42 left, the Chiefs make a go of it down to the 30-yd line, but were stopped by the Raiders. Good soaking of rain in the 2nd qtr then drizzle. Everyone stood up the whole game; I don’t think anyone left the stadium til it was over. (I’ll dry out in a day or two.)”

LPGA Tour player Christina Kim, who hails from San Jose, won her first tournament since 2005 on the 2nd hole of a sudden-death playoff at the Lorena Ochoa Invitational in Mexico. She led the golf tournament from the start, but lost her 5-stroke last-day lead on the 17th hole to the stunning play of Chinese star ShenShen Feng. Kim missed a short winning putt on the 18th green, then made a clutch putt on the first playoff hole and two great shots the next hole to seal her win. Kim’s victorious perseverance far transcended golf, as she has publicly shared her struggles in recent years overcoming the depths of suicidal depression.

With these great stories in mind, and as 2014 is nearing closure, let’s take a little time out to ask: Is there somewhere or way in my life that I’m thinking it’s too late, or never going to happen, or impossible to turn things around, or there’s not enough time left? Sometimes we run out of steam nearing the finish line, or get discouraged and give up before the game’s over. So, for this December, I suggest that instead of the usual look at year-end reviews and New Year’s resolutions, let’s focus on what more amazing things might still happen!

Jamie Zimron Sensei began Aikido training in 1975 at Stanford University and founded the Aikido Arts Center of San Francisco 1980– 1994. She helped introduce Aikido in Russia, and to establish the Israel Women’s Martial Arts Federation. She is a co-founder of the Association of Women Martial Arts Instructors and Middle East Aikido Project, and board member of Aiki Extensions. An LPGA Golf Pro, she won 3 gold medals in the 2009 and 2013 Maccabiah Games. Jamie Sensei is a psychologist, corporate leadership speaker, and peak performance trainer through her company The KiAi Way Inc. Her passion is spreading the Peaceful Power principles and practices of Aikido to bring positive change in people’s lives and in the world. Contact her at jamiesensei@ thekiaiway.com

The LGBT Bar Scene’s Only Organized Sport In the current season, there are 6 divisions of 6 teams each. The divisions are mixed in skill and are not ranked. There are 4 to 7 players on any given team.

Games start at 7:30pm on Tuesdays, with an hour of practice beforehand.

They end at around 10:30pm with 16 games a night. The schedule is posted online. The playoffs are underway now, as they run from late November through December. A new season begins Tuesday, February 3rd.

Sports Tony Jasinski Only one organized sport takes place in our bar scene. That sport is pool table play, and there is a strong organization in San Francisco that sponsors tournaments and related events. It’s the San Francisco Pool Association (SFPA at www.sfpapool.org). Play is on Tuesday nights with 2 seasons a year. The association’s theme is “unity in sportsmanship,” and it is a nonprofit entity.

The organization has been around since 1978. It currently houses pool play at about 20 different venues. There are around 215 players in the association, and it only costs $60 for one season. With that cost, all games are free, and you also get a membership in the West Coast Challenge (WCC) and Billiard Congress of America (BCA). WCC consists of gay pool associations from San Diego, San Francisco, Long Beach, and Los Angeles. Collectively, they host 2 tournaments a year. Expansion to include Sacramento and Portland is being considered. In January, there will be the 70th anniversary event in San Francisco at the Hyatt Embarcadero. San Diego will be hosting the one after that next July.

Because the games take place in local bars, spectators are encouraged to cheer on the players. Certainly there are strong social aspects to the sport, and people can enjoy alcoholic beverages during the play.

Not all events are held in bars, as the Hyatt and the Billiard Palacade in the Mission are also used for competitions.

tournaments, a nine-ball tournament, and other types of competitions.

I recently spoke with current SFPA president Ray Smith. He said that he participates because he loves going to the different venues and meeting and spending time with the players. I could tell he takes great pride in the quality and breadth of this long-running organization.

There is probably not a more easygoing and pleasant group of players in any sport compared to pool play. If you are looking for something that often fits into the bar scene and is not too strenuous, but requires skills and a competitive nature, then consider trying out the SFPA to see if it fits your interests.

Tony Jasinski is the former president of the San Francisco Gay Basketball League.

It is easy and cheap to go onto the website and enroll in the association. Women are encouraged to participate as much as men. One team is exclusively women, and there is a local tournament just for women. In fact, one local player won the women’s national championship in the BCA in Las Vegas last year. (Note that the BCA is not a gay players association.)

Several association members participate in the Las Vegas event annually.

There are a variety of types of games sponsored by the SFPA. One type is called a Hi-Lo tournament, where the higher-ranked players get paired with lower-ranked players for a competition involving 2-person teams with alternating shots called “Scotch Doubles.” One fun game is called a Turkey Shoot, where all signed-up people get to take one shot on a rotating basis. If you miss 3 consecutive shots, the player is eliminated, and this continues until there is a champion.

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San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band presents...

Artistic Director Pete Nowlen Created by June Bonacich Director Flynn DeMarco Choreographer Carolyn Carvajal

Saturday, December 13 2:30pm Preview • 7pm Adult Gala

Sunday, December 14 11am & 3pm

Yerba Buena Center for the Arts 701 Mission Street at Third, San Francisco Box Office: 415.978.2787 The San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band is proud to be sponsored in part by the Grants for the Arts of the San Francisco Hotel Tax Fund, Jon Sims Endowment Fund for the Performing Arts, SF LGBT Pride Committee, Betty’s List, Cummings Properties and Castro Lions Club. www.DanceAlongNutcracker.org Mahalo to 2014 Dance-Along Nutcracker Media Sponsors!

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#KateClinton2014 Thanksgiving Thursday. Black Friday. Cyber Monday. Giving Tuesday. Sunday is the Lord and the NFL’s day. Let’s auction off Saturday and Wednesday and use the proceeds for a Tuition Forgiveness Fund!

Arts & Entertainment Dance-Along Nutcracker ‘Goes Don Ho-Ho-Ho’ This Year with Hawaiian Theme

PHOTO BY JANE PHILOMEN-CLELAND

By Heidi Beeler

The production features both new and familiar DanceAlong faces. Flynn DeMarco directs the cast and plays Father Stahlbaum in this year’s show. DeMarco first joined the Dance-Along Nutcracker for 2011’s Clara’s Magical Mystery Tour! and directed last year’s Nutcrackers of the Caribbean. He recently won a Best of Theater Bay Area Award

PHOTO BY JANE PHILOMEN-CLELAND

New to the show this year are 2014 Best of Theater Bay Area winner Noah Haydon, playing Fritz Stahlbaum, and Zelda Koznofski, playing Clara. Kathy Hennig, a longtime member of the clarinet section, plays Mrs. Stahlbaum. Also joining the cast are Kelly Collins and the Lesbian/Gay Chorus of San Francisco.

The Saturday evening Gala goes tropical with a preshow cocktail reception, holiday nosh and classic Hawaiian music performed by White Ginger Lei, featuring interpretations of beloved songs by artists such as Bing Crosby, Elvis, Keola & Kapona Beamer and Israel “IZ” Kamakawiwo’ole. They even travel with dancer Christiana Maffei performing traditional hula interpretations.

So pull out your grass skirt, your lei necklace and your toe shoes! You’ll have a tropical time!

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Created by June Bonacich, this year’s show goes all Don Ho-ho-ho with a mashup of holiday and Hawaiianthemed music like “Aloha Oe Waltz,” “Mele Kalikimaka” and the “Hawaiian War Chant.” The Merry Ukuladies, a trio performing in the Bay Area since 2007, add the strum of ukuleles to the musical mix. When Frosty breaks out of an enchanted gift, the snow-white sands turn snowy, and Clara and Fritz have to think fast to restore the tropical climate.

Carolyn Carvajal, veteran of the San Francisco Opera Ballet, has choreographed many of the DAN’s most memorable moments, including the Swan Lake Hershey’s Kisses.

She’s back with her dancers, providing dance numbers like the Holiday Airport Pas De Deux and Frosty’s Hawaiian Tap Dance.

Trumpet player Heidi Beeler has been a member of the San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band since 1991. She is also a founding member of the Dixieland Dykes +3. For more information, please visit www.sflg fb.org or www.facebook.com/sflg fb PHOTO BY JANE PHILOMEN-CLELAND

Only the “Suite” portion of Tchaikovsky’s ballet (the fairyland dances prominent in Fantasia) is arranged for concert band. So the show is rounded out each year with music on a theme. In between dance-along numbers, actors and dancers tell the story, sing a song or dance in cast feature numbers.

Joe Wicht (aka Trauma Flintstone) is back this year to play the role of Uncle Drosselmeyer. Wicht has been a DanceAlong Nutcracker institution since he sang “Hannukkah in Santa Monica” in 1999. Wicht is a prominent figure in the local cabaret scene, tickling the ivories for what’s billed as the Last Piano Bar at Martuni’s, and co-producing the Cabaret Showcase Showdown with Katya Smirnoff-Skyy.

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Conducted by Artistic Director Pete Nowlen, the DanceAlong Nutcracker is the Freedom Band’s annual DIY holiday bash. Since 1985, costumed audiences have stormed the dance f loor of Yerba Buena Center for the Arts for this Bay Area holiday lollapaloooza, making it a contender for first flashmob in history. Imagine a mosh-pit with tutus, fairy wands and ballet music, and you’ve got the picture.

Anyone with a yen for a good plié can strap on a tutu from the Tutus R Us Boutique in the back and leap onto the dance floor while the Band performs Nutcracker faves like “Waltz of the Flowers,” “Russian Trepak” and “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy.”

for costume design for the Thrillpeddlers’ Pearls Over Shanghai and has performed in productions at San Francisco theaters like Theatre Rhino, Artful Circle Theatre and the Hypnodrome.

PHOTO BY RICH STADTMILLER

Next weekend, the San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band whisks Sugar Plum wannabes away for a tropical island vacation for its 2014 Dance-Along Nutcracker®: Frosty’s Hawaiian Holiday. The island getaway takes place next Saturday and Sunday, December 13–14.

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Gay DVD Gift Guide The holidays are upon us and you either want to give or receive, or just unwind by watching a GLBT video.

Here are six suggestions.

member Jonah. Thiedeman employs ambient, atmospheric sounds—including birds, rain and a train whistle—to heighten the unspoken emotions. The filmmaker also uses light and shadow as well as various reflections, to emphasize the elegiac mood. As Jonah and Luke express their sentiments about love and each other, they truly resonate. Last Summer is an extraordinary, beautifully realized film.

Wr iter/d i rector Rob Williams’ delightfully naughty Film romantic mystery Out to Kill offers Gary Kramer eye-candy galore.

Justin Jaymes (the terrific Tom Goss) is first seen naked in the pool of his development, but he soon turns up dead in it. To get to the bottom of the killing, newcomer Jim Noble (Scott Sell) is hired by Gene (Rob Moretti) to investigate his murder. As Jim meets and interrogates the suspects, which include doctor Vic Barnaby (Mark Strano) among others, he is seduced, and perhaps in over his head. Out to Kill features a clever twist that will keep viewers intrigued as the crime is solved.

Sell makes for a sexy private dick, and the film is filled with hunks who fill out their Speedos.

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In the gay thriller The Dark Place, Keegan Dark (Blaise Embry) takes his boyfriend Wil (Timo Descamps) to his mother Celeste’s (Shannon Day) vineyard. Keegan has not seen his mother in years, so he is surprised to discover she has remarried Adrian (Andy Copeland) and that he has a stepbrother, Jake (Sean Paul Lockhart aka porn star Brent Corrigan, who keeps his pants on here). However, Keegan, who has a form of total recall, doesn’t quite trust the new men in his mother’s life; he suspects something nefarious is going on. As the various plot twists and turns unfold, The Dark Place is enjoyable, even if the film gets a bit ludicrous in the last reel.

A scorching Mex ican t it le is I Am Happiness on Earth by Julián Hernández, a filmmaker who eroticizes nude men l i ke no other filmmaker. His camera practically caresses the actors’ bodies in this hypnotic f ilm.

This romantic d ra ma boast s magnif icent cinematography and highly sensual scenes as it chronicles a love triangle that features Emiliano (Hugo Catalán), a filmmaker, at its apex. Hernández’s distinctive style and uninhibited view of sexual desire (as well as sex itself) envelops viewers. The emotional power of the characters passionately expressing themselves as they experience longing, betrayal, and heartbreak is as palpable as the sexy bodies on display

For something serious, Mark Thiedeman’s evocative, impressionistic drama, Last Summer concerns two teenage boys in Arkansas. Luke (Samuel Pettit) is in summer school, while his boyfriend, Jonah (Sean Rose), is about to head off to college. Thiedeman conveys the boys’ emotions through tangible images of their sneakers rubbing together, or the way they grasp hands, or even eat a sandwich. These delicate moments are fleeting as Jonah plans to leave for school, but like a series of snapshots, Luke hopes to preserve and re-

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For something extremely silly, The Gays is a crudely made comedy, full of crude content, and over-the-top antics. Alex Gay (the adorable Mike Russnak) talks about his queer family—trans Mom (Chris Tanner), Dad (Frank Holliday) and brother Tommy Flip Jorgensen)—to a stranger at a West Hollywood bar. This episodic comedy, which features everything from a bloody pussy board game to an Exorcist anal birth scene, has something to offend everyone. The humor stems mostly from wordplay and song parodies and less from “outrageous” behavior, such as forcing guys to have sex in a sling or perform blowjobs. While the film is amateur hour, it is also as camp as Christmas.

For fans of “classic” cinema, Robert Altman’s justly celebrated film, Come Back to the 5 & Dime, Jimmy Dean, Jimmy Dean has just been released on Blu-Ray. It is based on Ed Graczyk’s play about the twentieth reunion of a James Dean fan club that meets in Juanita’s (Sudie Bond) dime store. Sissy (Cher) and Mona (Sandy Dennis), among others are taken aback when Joanne (Karen Black), a stranger, arrives and forces everyone to confront the secrets and lies in their lives.

Graczyk’s play is admittedly creaky, but the themes in the film about façades people present, the cult of celebrity/notoriety, as well as issues of shame and change still resonate.

Much of the film’s power comes from director Robert Altman using the dime store’s mirror to “flashback” to 1955.

It is a very effective cinematic device, and it keeps the film’s staginess from being claustrophobic. The acting is also impressive. Mona’s big monologue is riveting as spoken by Dennis. Cher’s performance masks the deep pain her character feels because things never quite turned out the way she hoped they would be. Black is indelible in the showiest role.

The performances elevate the mediocre material. © 2014 Gary M. Kramer Gary M. Kramer is the author of “Independent Queer Cinema: Reviews and Interviews,” and the co-editor of “Directory of World Cinema: Argentina.” Follow him on Twitter @garymkramer

Dream Big and Sail On

Astrology Linda Amburgey Renowned poet David Whyte eloquently wrote, “Some things can not be spoken or discovered until we have been stuck, incapacitated, or blown off course for awhile. Plain sailing is pleasant, but you are not going to explore many unknown realms that way.”

Leave your navigation systems behind, sally your ship, and set your sights on the horizon and beyond. New inspiration, wider perspectives, and an entirely different inner landscape are your only destinations.

ARIES (March 21–April 19) New inspiration is gained only as you muster up your birth plan to express your courage. Speaking your truth without censorship is the missing link for the needed changes that have left you longing for a different life.

that keeps getting displaced by the whoosh of the collective movement right now. No one seems to be tuning into the emotional realm, and this has you longing for the touch of a warm clear puddle to land and float. It’s okay to hold your breath for a bit.

TAURUS (April 20–May 20) Against your native style, life is moving swiftly right now. Fear not, as you will enjoy the rapidly gained reward of new insights into yourself. The tunnel may get dark and narrow at times. However, you will move through all fears faster than the speed of light.

no need to travel off to distant lands when all the inspiration you need right now is in your own back yard. The Universe is downloading an expansive virtual reality in between your own two ears.

Just open your mind a little wider!

sive and growing ideas are still in the incubator. Resist your growing urge to pick the fruit before it has fully ripened. When it is time to come out of gestation, you will be delighted by the magnitude of your creation.

LEO (July 23–August 22) Finally you have come to a moment where the doctor has prescribed a long and regular dose of play. Don’t hesitate to share this medicinal drug, as it is your role to warm and entertain your clan. Your audience will grow your enthusiasm tenfold.

SCORPIO (October 23– November 21)Your selfconfidence is on fire, and you are ready to have something to show for it. Just don’t go too fast trying to pin your dreams down, as they are still in the whirlwind of growing inspiration. Time will allow the forms of these creations to become more tangible.

GEMINI (May 21–June 20) There are important life events culminating. Such closures are a direct result of you speaking your mind. The Universe is carrying the echoes of your voice like a song over the hills of the horizon and into the light.

Find your truth and do not waver.

VIRGO (August 23– September 22) Stopping to master the details is not recommended right now, as it will block you from the rapid flowing currents surrounding you. You can get all the hangers in your closet facing the same direction next month. For now, enjoy the wild ride!

SAGITTARIUS (November 22–December 21) Wowza!

You are the expanding Universe Theory this month. This much-needed freedom is opening a portal into the unknown of your not-yet-manifest reality. You were born to do this, and it is an extraordinary time to stuff yourself with life!

AQUARIUS (January 20– February 18) Repeat the words “initiate” and “launch” as your daily mantra. You often find yourself selling what others do not yet realize they need. Therefore, it is imperative that you align with the current of confidence that charges through your sensitive nervous system. If you do this, no one will hesitate to buy what you are selling.

CANCER (June 21–July 22) You are a bit like the leaf

LIBRA (September 23– October 22) There will be

CAPRICORN (December 22–January 19) Your mas-

PISCES (February 19–March 20) Take the fork in the road that you have never taken before. You will meet Gods, Saints, Shamans, and Guides that inspire and applaud your farreaching visions. You were born to embrace the mystery in order to realize there is one true home that is never anywhere but right under your feet.

Linda Amburgey has owned Crystal Way Metaphysical Center for 11 years, and has been an Intuitive Reader for 20 years.

To book readings, on-going counseling for couples or individuals, events and parties, please e-mail her at ConsciousCounsel@gmail.com or call 415-218-5096. Mention this column for a $10 discount.

As Heard on the Street . . .

What are you looking forward to most over the holidays? compiled by Rink

Monte Lou Lomicka

Robert Bernardo

Melinda Adams

Dana Hopkins

Richard Shadoian

“I look forward to traditions that bring back childhood memories. I love the feeling of warmth and sharing, and to be with people I love.”

“This holiday season, I would like to do the things that matter most - like spending quality time with my family and friends.”

“Going to a Last Gasp party and Hell’s Angel party”

“Visiting my oldest son in Portland, touring the decorations at Union Square, and hanging out at Cliffs”

“Gathering my friends together at my annual Epiphany party to share our holiday experience”

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Dazzle 2014 – Salle Gallery. $75+. 6 pm to 9 pm. (1632 Market St.) Celebrate Lyon-Martin’s successes of the past year, and help kick-off another year in 2015. www.lyon-martin.org

Ryan Hemsworth – The Independent. $20. 8 pm. (628 Divisadero St.) Hemsworth is a young producer from Canada with a remarkably productive output and a unique approach to hip hop and R&B production. www.theindependentsf.com

Disney in Concert – Davies Symphony Hall. $35+. 7:30 pm. (201 Van Ness Ave.) Experience the magic of Disney with the excitement of live music. Watch scenes from your favorite Disney movies. www.sfsymphony.org

Holiday Bazaar Nightlife – California Academy of Sciences. $12.

6 pm to 10 pm. (55 Music Concourse Dr.) Celebrate the season of giving (and receiving!) as you explore a holiday marketplace with local makers. www.noisepop.com

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The MeshugaNutcracker – Marines’ Memorial Theatre. $54+.

7:30 pm. (609 Sutter St.) The MeshugaNutcracker is a full-length musical comedy that features the wonderfully silly sensibilities of the folklore of Chelm (the fictional town of fools). Through Dec. 14. www.marinesmemorialtheatre.com

Mary Poppins – Berkeley Playhouse. $38. 7 pm. (2640 College Ave., Berkeley) This Tony Awardwinning musical includes a score filled with timeless classics such as “Feed the Birds,” and the Academy Award-winning “Chim-Chim Cheree.” Through December 8. www.berkeleyplahouse.org Beloved Strangers – Un-script Theater. $10-$20. 8 pm. (533 Sutter St.) Beloved Strangers is a completely improvised three-act play celebrating the dynamic of family.

Through December 20. www.un-scripted.com Jack London Square Tree Lighting Ceremony – Jack London Square. Free. 5 pm.

A Voice from the Underworld – City Lights Books. Free. 7 pm.

(261 Columbus Ave.) Celebrating the release of ‘A Voice From the Underworld: Crime, Labor, Power, and the end of the Barbary Coast.’ www.citylights.com

The annual Christmas Tree viewing party of Tom Taylor and Jerry Goldstein will take place outside of their Noe Valley home December 10.

(Broadway and Embarcadero, Oakland) Enjoy the annual tree lighting ceremony set against the Oakland waterfront. www.jacklondonsquare.com

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Our Paths of Color – A Woman’s Eye Gallery. Free. 12 pm to 5 pm. (678 Portola Dr.) In this exhibit, three artists, Patricia O’Connell, Kinya Matsuno and Gail Block, follow diverse paths in their search for color.Through February 1. www.awegallery.com

The Velveteen Rabbit – Yerba Buena Center for the Arts Theater. $20+. 11 am & 2 pm. (701 Mission St.) The Velveteen Rabbit celebrates the unique relationship between a little boy and his stuffed rabbit, and the enduring power of love.

December 6 is LGBTQ Family Day. Through December 14. www.odcdance.org Holiday Open Studio – Susan Sternau Studios. Free. 1 pm. (403-A Napa St., Sausalito) Sausalito artist Susan Sternau opens her studio to share her new landscape paintings.

Also December 7. www.susansternau.com

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Mary Watkin’s 75th Birthday Party – R. Kassman Pianos. $20 suggested donation.

5 pm. (843 Gilman St., Berkeley) Part of the Sunday Piano Concert Series with post-concert artist’s reception. www.rkassman.com Golden Girls Christmas Show – The Victoria Theatre. $25. 7 pm.

(2961 16th St.) See your favorite Christmas episodes recreated live, in drag. Through 21. www.victoriatheatre.org La Boheme – San Francisco Opera House. $80. 2 pm. (301 Van Ness Ave.) When an aspiring poet falls in love with a fragile seamstress, their intense passion is only matched by their youthful idealism. www.sfopera.com

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Help Is On the Way for the Holidays XII – Marines’ Memorial. $120+. 7:30 pm. (550 Geary St.) A star-studded AIDS Benefit Holiday Concert & Gala, with the Broadway touring cast of Kinky Boots. www.richmondermet.org Motown Monday – Madrone Art Bar. Free. 6 pm. (500 Divisadero St.) Dance the night away to your favorite Motown songs and remixes. www.madroneartbar.com 24

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Piano Bar 101 – Martuni’s. Free.

9 pm. (4 Valencia St.) Sing along to your favorite songs with friends and patrons. www.dragatmartunis.com

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December Make Contact – The McLoughlin Gallery. Free for members/$20 non-members. (49 Geary St., Suite 200) Make contact and connect with LGBT & Allied business professionals at this month’s Make Contact event, held at a different member business location each month. www.ggba.com Thunder from Down Under – Cobb’s Comedy Club. $32. 8 pm.

(915 Columbus Ave.) Also December 10. The men of Thunder from Down Under deliver an unforgettable male revue. www.cobbscomedyclub.com Beach Blanket Babylon – Club Fugazi. $25-$130. 8 pm. (678 Green St.) Enjoy Steve Silver’s famous musical revue packed with hilarious pop culture and political antics. www.beachblanketbabylon.com

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It’s A Wonderful Life – Broadway West Theatre Company. $25. 1 pm. (4000 Bay St.) This American classic is brought to life by the talented cast of Broadway West Theatre Company. Through December 13. www.broadwaywest.org San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus – Nourse Theatre. $25+.

8 pm. (275 Hayes St.) The San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus presents a special holiday performance with a festive twist. www.sfgmc.com The Christmas Revels 2014 – Oakland Scottish Rite Theater. $20.

8 pm. (337 17th St.) Filled with Cajun music, Appalachian clogging, old folk tales and holiday rituals.

Also December 12, 14 & 19-21. www.californiarevels.org

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Holiday Dance – La Peña Cultural Center. $15-$20. 8 pm.

(3105 Shattuck Ave., Berkeley) Dance the night away with Leave it to Diva (formerly knows as the Average Dyke Band). www.leaveittodivaband.com Shamanic Arts and Crafts – SF LGBT Center. Free. (1800 Market St.) A free class teaching Shamanism. Please bring a project to work on during class. www.sfcenter.org

Tom and Jerry Christmas Tree Party – Home of Tom Taylor and Jerry Goldstein. Free.

6:30 pm to 9:30 pm. (3560 21st St.) What has become a San Francisco Holiday Tradition begins its second decade as a gift to the Bay Area by local residents Tom Taylor and Jerry Goldstein. www.tinyurl.com/mhh98vz

Great Dickens Christmas Fair & Victorian Holiday Party – Cow Palace Exhibition Halls. $25. 7 pm. (2600 Geneva Ave.) The Great Dickens Christmas Fair is a one-of-a-kind holiday adventure into Victorian London.

Through December 21. www.dickensfair.com

Trivia with Miss Kitty – Wild Side West. Free. 7 pm (424 Cortland Ave.) A weekly trivia with fun prizes and free to play. www.wildsidewest.com

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Dream Queens Revue – Aunt Charlie’s Lounge. Free. 9:30 pm to 11:30 pm. (133 Turk St.) A fabulous drag show featuring Collette LeGrande, Ruby Slippers, Sophilya Leggz and more. www.dreamqueensrevue.com

PFLAG Support Meeting – St. Francis Lutheran Church. Free. 3:15 pm to 4:15 pm. (152 Church St.) The program will be a combination of the usual support, a review of this past year’s activities, plans for the new year, and Annual Meeting. www.pflag.org White Christmas – Hillbarn Theatre. $20. 8 pm. (1285 East

Hillsdale Blvd., Foster City) Celebrate the magic of the holidays with Irving Berlin’s White Christmas.

Through December 21. www.hillbarnthetre.org Dance-Along Nutcracker – Yerba Buena Center for the Arts. $20. 2:30 pm. (701 Mission St.) One of San Francisco’s most endeared holiday events, exemplifying the San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band. Also December 13. www.dancealongnutcracker.org

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Safeway Holiday Ice Rink – Union Square. $10. 10 am to 11:30 pm. (Union Square) Celebrate the holiday season with a skate at the Safeway Holiday Ice Rink. Through January 19. www.unionsquareicerink.com Nutcracker – War Memorial Opera House. $25+. 2 pm. (401 Van Ness Ave.) This holiday season, experience the beauty and athleticism of SF Ballet’s international cast of world-class dancers in Nutcracker. Through December 29. www.sfballet.org LGBTQ Parents’ Book Group – Alley Cat Books. Free. 6 pm. (3036 24th St.) A bimonthly, LGBTQ-parent-curated group to connect with other LGBTQ parents over a shared love of books touching on or illuminating parenting. www.alleycatbookshop.com

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Women of Fact and Fiction – Overcast Theater Company. $10. 8 pm. (2940 16th St.) The Overcast Theater Company of San Francisco, will present Women of Fact and Fiction, a festival of staged readings December 17-20 featuring two new plays by Bay Area playwrights. www.overcasttheatre.com

Colors of Christmas – Davies Symphony Hall. $36+. 8 pm. (201 Van Ness Ave.) An unforgettable evening of pop hits and holiday favorites with the Orchestra. www. sfsymphony.org

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Smack Dab Open Mic Night – Magnet. Free. 8 pm. (4122 18th St.) An open mic night for all with host Larry-bob Roberts. www.magnetsf.org

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Kinky Boots – Orpheum Theatre. $75. 8 pm. (1192 Market St.) The exhilarating Broadway musical that will lift your spirits to new highheeled heights. Through Dec. 28. www.shnsf.com Promises, Promises – San Francisco Playhouse. $30+. 7 pm.

(450 Post St.) A tale of a lovelorn young executive and a romantically troubled waitress, knotted in a twist of sexual affairs and corporate shenanigans. Through Jan.10. www.sfplayhouse.org Beach Blanket Babylon – Club Fugazi. $25-$130. 8 pm. (678 Green St.) Enjoy Steve Silver’s famous musical revue packed with hilarious pop culture and political antics. www.beachblanketbabylon.com

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Dec. 17: The market closes for the season. We're going out with lots of activities on this last day carnival games, reusable market bag giveaway, and kids' seasonal coloring.

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ROSTOW (continued from page 7) equality. I couldn’t do it! Okay, the Netherlands and Belgium are easy, because they were the first. Then you have the three other Scandinavian countries: Sweden, Denmark and Norway. So that’s five. (I think I was confusing Norway and Finland earlier. Hvem byr seg!) We also remember Britain and France, because those were a big deal at the time. Seven.

It’s not too hard to visualize a map and realize that, of course, Spain and Portugal are also on the list. Nine. But eleven? Turns out you have to add LichSTEIN (continued from page 10 ) ful punning title—put together in ways to challenge their usual meanings and create new ones for them. Critics variously called it “a masterpiece of verbal Cubism, a modernist triumph, a spectacular failure, a collection of confusing gibberish, and an intentional hoax.”

Stein insisted her work was completely realistic. She once explained, “I used to take objects on a table…and create a word relationship between the word and the things seen.” It was therefore a challenging process to answer her simple, underlying question: How does language actually construct the world we know? Those who found the writings of Edgar Guest demanding did not

tenstein. Is that a country? Fine. And, naturally, Iceland counts as “Europe,” even though it sounds far far away.

I Vant To Donate Your Blood Let’s see what else. A major league baseball umpire came out of the closet the other day. Good call, Dale Scott.

And I guess gay men will soon be allowed to give blood under a new FDA proposal under consideration. Of course, I decry discrimination in any and all its forms, but I’ve never quite understand the campaign for the right to give blood. Color me squeamish.

care for Stein’s, which included novels, plays, poetry, libretti, detective stories, film scripts, magazine articles, and even theoretical text.

A third traditional literary form Stein reinvented was autobiography. Writing the life story of her wife from her point of view and in her voice, The Autobiography of Alice B. Toklas created another new genre. One of her most accessible works, it became a best seller when it was published in 1933; it is still in print.

Only Wars I Have Seen (1945), her memoir of the Second World War, was more widely read during her lifetime, even becoming a selection of the Book-ofthe-Month-Club.

Round About - All Over Town

Castro Community on Patrol presented its Patroller of the Year award to Alex Upchurch at the group’s annual event held at Magnet.

To be clear, the category of men banned from giving blood is not “gay men,” but men who have had sex with another man within a year, or something like that. I gather that this definition bans a lot more people, assuming they are honest in their blood interviews. The bottom line is that we’ll have more blood available, which is good, and I’m guessing that there will be less call for middle-aged lesbians to report to the blood bank. arostow@aol.com

Seen as an important thinker almost from the beginning of her long and influential career, Stein continues to be under-read in the fragmented, deconstructed, cubist civilization that she recognized existed years before it did.

Whether read or simply read about, however, she remains one of the most original and inf luential minds of the last 100 years, a formidable figure who helped to shape the spirit and expression of our world of now.

Bill Lipsky, Ph.D., author of “Gay and Lesbian San Francisco” (2006), is a member of the Rainbow Honor Walk board of directors.

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Officers Tuipulotu and Finan staffed a toy drive during the SF International Auto Show.

California Highway Patrol Recruitment Officer Ribergaard at the 57th SF International Auto Show held at Moscone Center.

Magnet’s Smack Dab co-emcees Larry Roberts and Dana Hopkins with feminist cartoon and performer Tyler Cohen (center)

Deputy Chief of Patrol Ken Craig spoke at the 8th annual event of Castro Community Patrol. Magnet received a City Pillar plaque presented by Castro Community Patrol during the event.

A character known as “Tree” performed as a member of the troupe entertaining guests at the pre-event supporting the 4th Annual Two Spirits Pow Wow. 26

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Chris James Walker and Bobby Blue of the Promised Kings entertained guests at Magnet’s Smack Dab event.

SFPD Recruitment and Retention Officers Tuipulotu and Finan at the 57th SF International Auto Show.

Round About - Castro Tree Lighting Ceremony

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Castro Merchants Association president Daniel Bergerac welcomed the large crowd, as did City and State elected officials, gathered on Monday evening, December 1, for the annual lighting ceremony held at the site of the tree near the intersection of Castro and 18th Streets. Members of the Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band performed and emcee Donna Sachet was on hand to make sure the festive evening was enjoyed by all. The beautiful tree was lit and will remain in place throughout the holiday season. Castro Merchants Association members are encouraging all to come back to shop in the neighborhood and see the completed results of the Castro Improvement Project.

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