SEEMA February 2024

FEBRUARY 2024

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The Grammy-winning artist turned her passion into a successful career in music

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Song of Abundance & Sustainability

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s we step into this special leap year month of February and prepare for the Grammy Awards and Super Bowl (and root for Taylor and Travis), I am also rooting for our cover star Falu, a Grammy winning artist who’s been nominated once again this year for her song “Abundance in Millets.”

It underscored how millets, with their resilience and adaptability, prove to be a dependable crop, needing minimal water and flourishing in various climates. That’s why the United Nations declared 2023 the International Year of the Millets, an idea brought forward by the Government of India, to celebrate their role and to encourage their cultivation, which is declining and being edged out by Western preferences for corn and wheat.

What is “Abundance in Millets” about? I asked Falu during my interview with her on Sundays with SEEMA. Millet—Bajra, Ragi, Jowar in Hindi—a hardy grain widely grown in desert climates in poor soil, have been integral to sustenance in arid climes in India and Sub-Saharan Africa, a climate-resistant and nutritious alternative to rice and wheat and important in addressing food security and climate change. While rice and wheat took the spotlight as staple foods, millet lingered in the background, offering filling nutrition. As a young girl, I didn’t fully appreciate the importance of millets beyond their health benefits.

South Asians, have always spearheaded the promotion of sustainable practices, which serve as a bridge between traditional wisdom and modern environmental consciousness. Falu took this connection a step further by composing a song inspired by Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi, “Abundance in Millets,” a song that secured a Grammy nomination this year.

My conversation with our cover star Falu reminded me of lessons I had learned in school and the abundance millets bring to both farmers and the environment.

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During my attendance at COP28 (UN Climate Change Summit) in Dubai last December, I was happy to see a significant new focus on human health, a shift from previous COP meetings. For the first time in 28 years, the summit dedicated an entire day to health, emphasizing the profound interconnectedness of our well-being with the environment. This brings us back to

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the understanding that our health at a microscopic level is intricately linked to the environment at a macroscopic level.

In the grand narrative, the humble millet takes center stage, completing the story’s circle. As Falu beautifully articulates, embracing the abundance of millets requires us to acknowledge the symbiotic relationship between our dietary choices, cultural heritage, and the well-being of our planet. Transitioning from a modest staple to a global symbol of abundance showcases the transformative impact of conscientious choices.

Let us relish the richness of millets not only for their nutritional advantages but also for the harmony they infuse into our health, culture, and the environment.

Falu’s words resonate as a powerful reminder of the profound connections we share with the choices we make in our lives. Falu’s song is beautiful and whether it wins Grammy glory, it will be a song that has and will create huge social impact.

Wishing you a month filled with abundance, health, and mindful connections.

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New Culinary Delights Hit New York City

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EXPERIENCE 10 Love in Every Frame 12

Reward for Courage

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Sikh in America

26 Tips for Negotiating a Solid Severance 28 Finding Magic in the Mess

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A Musical Odyssey How Grammy-winning artist Falu turned her passion into a successful career in music

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Love in Every Frame

Bring on the Bollywood for a Desi dash of romance this Valentines Day

Reward for Courage Documentary film To Kill a Tiger gets an Oscar nod and brings a spotlight on rape culture

Sikh in America

An animated film depicts the fight for identity and culture among the Sikh community

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Love in Every Frame Bring on the Bollywood for a Desi dash of romance this Valentines Day

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f your significant other is alien to the charms and passion of Bollywood, introduce them to the romance, dance, music, and drama this Valentine’s Day. Together, embark on a cinematic journey and lay the foundation for your unending exploration of the bottomless abyss that is the Hindi film industry.

Start with these carefully selected gems that span various ages, showcasing diverse eras and filmmaking styles. The list encompasses movies from megastars and directors who have dominated the box office at different junctures in time. It’s a comprehensive introduction to the rich and colorful world of Bollywood.

Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge The long title of the film is now just known as DDLJ. The film is without a doubt a part of Bollywood’s rich history and a must watch Bollywood movie of all time. It has all the big names, the heavy weights of

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the Indian film industry. Boasting one of the finest onscreen chemistry between Shah Rukh Khan and Kajol, foreign locations, scintillating music and a superb storyline. The story depicts themes of personal choice versus family responsibility, of the dilemma between western upbringing and the Indian culture and of forbidden love.

Dil Chahta Hai This film is considered one of the milestones in the history of Bollywood. Directed by Farhan Akhtar, who swerved the industry into a new direction with his fresh style. Dil Chahta Hai showcases a style of storytelling that was absolutely new to the audiences at the time. Everything about the film reflects subtlety and gives a realistic portrayal of the lives of the young. This movie has it all—romance, fresh comedy, drama and fantastic music. It is the heartwarming story of three friends and their struggles in navigating life and love. The cast includes Aamir Khan, Saif Ali Khan, Akshaye Khanna, and Preity Zinta.

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Kal Ho Naa Ho You maybe have to bring the tissues for this one.

Kal Ho Naa Ho features memorable performances and a touching storyline. Set in New York City, the film is a masterpiece directed by Karan Johar featuring Shahrukh Khan, Preity Zinta, and Saif Ali Khan in the lead. The film is truly enchanting, encompassing elements of comedy, romance, and profound emotions. Brace yourself; it’s a tearjerker.

The film is a reminder to embrace the present and not fret about tomorrow.

Queen This movie is a true treasure, skillfully depicting the exciting solo journey of a young girl to Paris and Amsterdam. It’s an adventure filled with joy, as she discovers the world and gains insights into diverse cultures. While the beginning of the movie may seem typical for Bollywood enthusiasts, it becomes enchanting and captivating as you delve further into its storyline. The film tells the story of Rani (Queen in Hindi), a naive young bride from Delhi who is devastated when her fiancé calls things off, but decides to take her European honeymoon trip anyway, on her own.

Hum Tum This refreshing look at the battle of the sexes follows the lives of Karan and Rhea, played by Saif Ali Khan and Rani Mukerji. Karan, a cartoonist, encounters Rhea on a flight to New York. Their connection deepens during a 6-hour layover in Amsterdam. After a falling out, they part ways upon reaching New York. The narrative unfolds through chance meetings over the next few years, portraying the development of their friendship and the subtle realization of falling in love.

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Reward for Courage Documentary film To Kill a Tiger gets an Oscar nod and brings a spotlight on rape culture

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ndian-born Canadian filmmaker Nisha Pahuja’s award-winning documentary To Kill a Tiger earned an Oscar nomination for Best Documentary Film.

The film tells the story of Indian farmer Ranjit, as he fights for justice for his 13-year-old daughter who was gang raped in rural India in 2017. The documentary chronicles the young girl’s family

being ostracized for fighting back as many villagers side with the accused perpatrators.

Pahuja is partnering with the women’s rights organization Equality Now to reform laws and create “a just world for women and girls.” “This film has work to do in the world,” Pahuja told The Hollywood Reporter. “Their story, their struggle, their commitment to justice, the fact that as a man, he (Ranjit) stood by his daughter, which is so rare. The film is about the underdog, a David vs. Goliath story, and it’s a film about love.”

India’s rape-related crime rate rose 70.7% over the last two decades from 11.6 per 100,000 women and girls in 2001 to 19.8 in 2018 —Public Health Foundation of India

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Sikh in America

An animated film depicts the fight for identity and culture among the Sikh community in American Sikh

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enowned chef and filmmaker Vikas Khanna and Oscar-winning producer Guneet Monga Kapoor (Elephant Whisperer) recently co-produced an animated short film centered around Sikh identity and community in the United States.

American Sikh is a poignant exploration of the community’s experience, highlighting their contributions, struggles, and the vibrant cultural amalgamation within the country. The short film beautifully captures the essence of Sikhism, showcasing the resilience, spirituality, and generosity of the community members. Through a captivating narrative and visually stunning cinematography, the film takes viewers on a journey that goes beyond

stereotypes, offering a glimpse into the lives of American Sikhs as they navigate their unique place in society.

The film has won best short animation at Sidewalk Film Festival in Birmingham, AL, best animation at San Diego International Film Festival, the grand jury award for best short documentary and the audience choice award at the Tasveer Film Festival in Seattle, a special mention at Chicago International Film Festival and an honorable mention at Tallgrass Film Festival.

For more information on the film, visit americansikhfilm.com.

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New Culinary Delights Hit NYC

Five new Indian restaurants brighten up the Big Apple

The Butter Chicken Battle

Two different restaurant chains in Delhi are claiming to be the inventor of the popular Indian dish

Two for Tea

India’s drink of choice is gaining steam around the world

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New Culinary Delights Hit New York City Five new Indian restaurants brighten up the Big Apple

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ood enthusiasts and lovers of Indian cuisine in New York City have reason to rejoice as five exciting new Indian restaurants join the diverse culinary landscape of the city. Each one of them brings a unique flavor, showcasing the rich and varied tapestry of Indian gastronomy. These restaurants promise to offer a unique and delectable experience for food enthusiasts across the city.

Jazba: Jazba is a tribute and celebration of India’s spirited roadside eateries, bringing India’s beloved hawker culture to the heart of East Village. Jazba aims to tantalize taste buds with its innovative menu, inviting patrons to embark on a culinary journey.

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Lore: Inspired by the coastal flavors of

GupShup: Inspired by Bombay, GupShup a

Kebab Aur Sharab: True to its name, Kebab Aur

Kuttanadan: For those craving the vibrant and

Mangalore, Lore in Brooklyn promises a seafood extravaganza with a menu rooted in the region’s culinary traditions. With its cozy ambiance and fresh seafood offerings, Lore is set to become a go-to spot for those craving coastal delicacies.

Sharab is a haven for lovers of succulent kebabs and exquisite beverages. Situated in a vibrant neighborhood, this restaurant aims to create an immersive dining experience with a menu that celebrates the art of grilling and pairing.

melding of traditional Indian flavors and ingredients with contemporary techniques and global creativity. GupShup arrives on the scene with a promise to bring the era of romance from Bombay to the Big Apple.

spicy flavors of Kerala cuisine, Kuttanadan in Queens is the place to be. Bringing the essence of Kerala to the city, this restaurant offers an array of dishes that capture the essence of South Indian gastronomy.

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The Butter Chicken Battle

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ne of the most popular Indian dishes in the world—the mild, velvety butter chicken—is the center of a fiery dispute in India. Two popular Indian restaurant chains are fighting for the right to claim butter chicken as their original creation. The family behind Delhi’s Moti Mahal restaurant brand brought the lawsuit in January, contending that restaurant founder Kundan Lal Gujral originally created the dish in the 1930s in Peshawar before it moved to Delhi.

Two different restaurant chains in Delhi are claiming to be the inventor of the popular Indian dish

The Gujral family is seeking nearly a quarter million dollars for the “false claim” and also for copying the layout of its restaurants, according to the suit. On the other side of the case, Daryaganj says Kundan Lal Jaggi, a late family member, originally partnered with Gujral to open the Delhi restaurant in 1947. To prove that claim, Daryaganj shared with Reuters a hand-written partnership document registered in 1949.

The lawsuit targets Daryaganj, a restaurant rival, for anointing itself as the inventors of butter chicken as well as the dish dal makhani, another popular Indian dish that contains lentils, butter, and cream.

OFTEN OVERLOOKED If you’ve never heard of or cooked with asafetida, this spice will add authenticity to your butter chicken. This spice comes from ferula root (often used as a digestive aid) is known for its strong unami flavors. While you can make delicious butter chicken without it, its addition brings a richness and pungence to the dish that is unmistakably

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Two for Tea India’s drink of choice is gaining steam around the world

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here’s nothing quite like a mug of hot, spicy masala chai to lift the spirits, and the world is taking notice. The online food and beverage guide Taste Atlas recently ranked the world’s most-loved alcohol-free beverages, and masala chai scored a strong second behind Mexico’s Aguas Frescas.

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On its Instagram page, Taste Atlas lauded chai, saying: “Chai masala is an aromatic beverage originating from India. It is made with a combination of sweetened black tea and milk that is spiced with a masala mix - which typically includes cardamom, ground ginger, cloves, cinnamon, and black peppercorns.”

“ Early detection allowed us to take control of the situation and make a plan together.”

If you’re noticing changes, it could be Alzheimer’s.

Talk about visiting a doctor together.

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Balancing Dreams

The inspiring journey of Miss India USA 2024

Negotiate a Solid Severance

Don’t leave value on the table when negotiating your job offer

Finding Magic in the Mess

Author and entrepreneur Dr. Neeta Bhushan gets real about failure in her new book

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Balancing Dreams The inspiring journey of Miss India USA 2024

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s the newly crowned Miss India-USA 2024, Rijul Maini stands as a beacon of inspiration, challenging stereotypes and proving that one can excel in both the artistic and scientific realms. As a thirdyear medical student aiming to be a dedicated future surgeon, the 24-year-old talked with us about balance, beauty, and breaking barriers.

A Journey of Passion and Balance Born and raised in the vibrant city of Detroit, MI, Rijul pursued a delicate balance between her artistic endeavors, including modeling and portrait drawing, and her scientific career. “I had a passion for the arts as well as the sciences,” she says. “I worked very hard to balance both my artistic interests as well as my scientific career endeavors.”

At the age of 18, she started modeling, despite the common perception that medical school leaves little room for other interests. “I feel blessed and grateful that I’ve been able to balance both and do both,” she says.

She credits meticulous planning for her success in both balancing her studies and the success in the pageant. “It has been really difficult, but I will say it’s planning, planning, planning,” she says. “Any free time, I allocated prepping for this pageant.”

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Family Support and Overcoming Stereotypes Rijul’s journey was not without its challenges.

Initially met with disapproval from her mother, who expressed concerns about perceptions in the medical field, Rijul persisted. “She didn’t feel that it would bode well for me. She wondered if people would want to see photos like that of their future doctor,” she says. “For me, I didn’t feel my femininity and my expression had anything to do with my intellect.”

Involving her parents in her journey, she showcased her commitment and passion, eventually earning their support. Her mother eventually became a driving force and a passionate advocate for Rijul’s participation in the pageant.

Empowering Women in Surgery Beyond her recent pageant triumph, Rijul envisions a future as a surgeon, aiming to challenge the male-dominated landscape. Armed with recent

studies showcasing better patient outcomes under female surgeons, she sees an opportunity to be a strong representation for women in surgery. “Not only am I passionate about surgery, I feel that I could be a really strong representation for women in that field just to show that we’re capable of so much,” she says. “We can do just as much as a male counterpart if not more.”

Favorite Moments and Words of Wisdom Reflecting on her Miss India USA journey, Rijul shares a cherished moment walking alongside fellow contestants on day one. The sense of camaraderie and shared passion among these women left a lasting impact on her. For young South Asian women aspiring to participate in beauty pageants, Rijul offers empowering advice—dream big, trust your capabilities, and let your voice be heard. She urges them not to sell themselves short and emphasizes the importance of confidence and self-belief.

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Negotiate a Solid Severance Don’t leave value on the table when negotiating your job offer

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he last thing you may think of when starting a new job is leaving that same job — but according to experts, you may be leaving big money and security on the table. As layoffs continue to rise across industries, it is worth negotiating a severance package upfront to ensure that you receive the full value of your job offer.

Healthcare Benefits. Finding another role may take time. Ensure your health is covered by negotiating the continuation of healthcare benefits for longer than the standard period of time. This will alleviate a significant concern, especially if you currently experience challenges around health.

To find out how, we spoke to Devika Brij, a former Big Tech exec turned career and leadership coach, and Founder/CEO of Brij the Gap Consulting, where she works with Fortune 500 companies to aid them in developing, advancing, and retaining their underrepresented employees. If you have a job offer on the table, especially at the executive level, corporations expect you to negotiate your severance.

Here are a few things she recommends you always negotiate:

Reputation management. The higher in seniority you are, it’s more likely that your prospective new employer will vet you with previous employers.

Ensure you agree on how your company will respond to reference checks to ensure your brand and reputation is protected.

Severance pay and bonuses. Ask what the general severance formula is for your specific corporation.

Some organizations will pay x amount of weeks for x amount of years served. Understand what that formula is and open up a discussion to receive more.

Additionally, request that any incentive compensation like commissions and bonuses that you would have had access to if you remained employed be paid out.

Equity. Discuss stock options, RSUs and other equity awards and negotiate for accelerated vesting or even a longer exercise period for stock options.

Advisory agreements or consulting. If you are leaving the company on good terms and desire to remain connected to the organization, you can negotiate the possibility of consulting or advising the organization for compensation.

This will ensure your continued connection and contribution while enabling you to create income.

Timing of transition period. Negotiate the length of your transition period so it suits your needs. Do you need to stay on a little longer to buy more time or leave your team in a more successful state? Do you want to leave earlier to take some time off before starting your next opportunity? Be clear on the timing that serves you and be firm around your boundaries.

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Finding Magic in the Mess

Author and entrepreneur Dr. Neeta Bhushan gets real about failure in her new book

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rom being orphaned at a young age to surviving an abusive marriage, Dr. Neeta Bhushan knows what it’s like to endure extreme adversity. But in her new book That Sucked, Now What? she describes surviving those moments as profound opportunities for change and transformation.

Based on her years of research in human behavior and watching them in their best and worst moments, she shares what it takes for people to get back up after being knocked down.

Here are a few tips to get through a messy moment.

1. Recognize the Reality.

If you’re in a tough place in your life in a relationship or a job, it can be helpful to just name that. When you can recognize where you are, you can often spot patterns from your past or experiences that may have led you here.

2. Take Action.

If you want change, you’ll need to light the spark to do something different. This can be the most challenging part of the journey, but taking that leap of faith can open up new opportunities you didn’t even see coming.

3. Stay Unstuck.

Sometimes it can be helpful to do the opposite of what we want to do. When we want to stay in bed, sometimes all it takes is choosing to take a shower or a bath can be enough to change the trajectory of our day. These small steps build confidence over time and help you manage your on-going self-care.

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LISTEN Dr. Neeta Bhushan also hosts a podcast called “The Brave Table,” where she has unfiltered conversations with guests on the unpredictable moments throughout life, and how embracing the notalways-perfect reality can be the best balm for becoming your biggest self..

Available on Apple Podcasts.

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How one influencer transformed her color correcting hack into the first South Asian brand sold at Ulta

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5 indulgences for this year’s V-day

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Flower Power The South-Asian-owned brand reinventing the floral industry

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hen Sunny Chadha sent his new girlfriend Seema Bansal lackluster Valentine’s Day roses, he was mortified. The flowers were of poor quality and faded fast— hardly the impressive gesture he intended. For the young couple, the experience encapsulated ongoing disappointments with the floral industry. But this disenchanting moment planted the seed for their eventual success together.

Motivated to transform floral gifting, Seema and Sunny founded Venus et Fleur less than six months into dating.

Their mission? To redefine flowers as luxury keepsakes built to last thanks to innovative preservation techniques. The result? Stunning rose arrangements that maintain their beauty and fragrance for up to a year, aptly dubbed “Eternity” flowers.

The brand’s blooms begin their journey at solarpowered farms in Ecuador, the world’s leading rose exporter. The flower farms are predominantly female-owned and are dedicated to socially sustainable practices. While Venus et Fleur debuted with French-inspired hat boxes brimming with forever roses, its arrangements now span a full botanical garden of eternity flowers styled in posh vases and boxes.

Order at venusetfleur.com

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Skintone-Savvy Shapewear What you should wear under there

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ith Valentine’s Day fast approaching, February may be the month where we think just as much about what we wear under our clothes as our clothes itself.

From sexy lingerie to smoothing shapewear, it can be challenging to find brands that are truly inclusive.

But Skims, the shapewear-brand co-founded by Kim Kardashian, was built on the pillars of inclusivity when it comes to both size and skin tone. Kim was frustrated that she could never find shapewear that matched her skin, so she created her own, which launched with nine different skin tones right out of the gate. The brand frequently features South Asian models wearing the clothes and lingerie, and also features its South Asian employees on Skims’ LinkedIn page.

Valued now at more than $4 billion, the brand has now expanded to include all kinds of lingerie, sleeping essentials, and shapewear, and even features its own Valentine’s Day shop. We love the line-up of cute colors and patterns, and especially the red-ready shapewear, which stretches up to twice its size to offer accessible compression.

“I grew up around women who were bold and had the confidence to shape the conversation, whether it was in a professional setting or within the family.”

Marya Husain, Skims VP of Accounting

Here are a few of our favorite picks for the sexy season ahead.

Lace Long Dress $108

Short Sleeve Button Up Sleep Set $80

Picot Trim Square Neck Bodysuit $64

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indulgences for this year’s V-day Whether you’re paired off or flying solo this Valentine’s Day, everyone deserves a little indulgence this season. We picked out some of our favorite buys that bring out the love, inside and out.

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DIOR LIP GLOW OIL This hi-def gloss doesn’t feel at all sticky, but leaves behind the perfect hydrating glisten.

The colors are subtle, making for perfect post kiss-touchups. $40; dior.com

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Amaaya Sofi Dangling Earrings This first-generation Indianowned brand makes beautiful necklaces, rings, and earrings. We love this set which can be dressed up or down, with the chains or just the flirty floral stud. $75; amaayajewelry.com

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Kiramoon Moon Globes Whether you’re battling puffiness, redness, or other types of inflammation, these freezable globes bring cooling relief to the most irritated skin. After 30 minutes of freeze time, each globe is ready to be rolled under the eyes, forehead, cheeks and neck. $42; kiramoon.com

3 Gisou Honey Infused Hair Perfume Wild Rose For a subtle but romantic scent that’s safe for your hair, this rose blend earns raves for its warm, not overly floral scent.

The softness and shine left behind on strands is only an added bonus. $44; gisou.com

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Brooklinen Love Note Candle With scents of freesia, rose, caramel, cedar, this lovethemed candle can set any mood. The clean burning soy and coconut wax blend also burns clean for up to 60 hours, making it last for many romantic nights ahead. $30; brooklinen.com F E B R U A R Y

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A new study shows the benefits of shaking it ‘till you make it

Well Fed

A dietitian shares her secrets for healthier and more mindful eating

The Heart-Diet Connection

Conscious choices can better protect your health

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A new study shows the benefits of shaking it ‘till you make it

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f you’re looking to stay fit while also having fun, a new study points to the surprising mental and physical benefits of dance. Researchers in China found that dancing regularly provided meaningful improvements in body mass, waist size, and fat levels. Groovers also benefited from lower blood pressure and better mental health compared to non-dancers.

“Dance is effective for fat loss in people with overweight and obesity, and has a significant improvement on body composition and morphology,” says study co-author Yaya Zhang, whose work was recently published in the journal PLOS ONE. She noted dance offers an enjoyable and sustainable form of exercise that’s easier to stick with longterm versus intense gym sessions.

Dance can burn anywhere from

The study reviewed 10 previous trials including over 600 participants. The more creative and energetic the dance style, the greater the health perks, researchers found.

hour depending on the style and your body weight.

Unlike boring treadmill trots, dance provides a full-body jam session that’s less likely to cause quick fatigue. So grab your

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gal pals and let loose to hip hop, Zumba, classical Indian, bhangra, Bollywood, or fiery flamenco dancing a few evenings a week. Just be sure to check with your doctor first if you have injuries or medical issues.

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Well Fed A dietitian shares her secrets for healthier and more mindful eating

by Abhijit Masih

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e all live hectic lifestyles, and eating well can often fall to the bottom of the priority list.

But by making small tweaks, we can amp up our habits to live a more balanced life.

To uncover some of these impactful lifestyle changes, we spoke to Priyanka Jonnalagadda MS, RD, a registered dietitian with Culina Health, to get her advice on what steps to take for better nutrition.

1. Perfect Your Portions

When creating a nutritious meal, focus on the right combination of nutrients. A good mix of protein, healthy fats, and fiber can help you feel full and satisfied while also preventing blood sugar spikes. Start by filling 1/4 of your plate with a lean source of protein, such as lentils, beans, chicken, fish, or tofu. Another 1/4 of the plate can be filled with high-fiber grains or starches, like quinoa, brown rice, or sweet potato. The remaining half of the plate should be filled with non-starchy vegetables, such as spinach, cucumber, or tomatoes.

prone to cravings later in the day. In our fast-paced world, convenient foods can be a lifesaver when it comes to planning meals and snacks. For example, opting for precut fruits and vegetables, frozen fruits and vegetables, and shelf-stable microwaveable grains can make meal prep much more manageable.

3. Track With Tech

Some individuals may find it beneficial to record their meals in a food diary or by using an app like MyFitnessPal. This approach can raise awareness and accountability about daily eating habits. Meal tracking enables people to identify patterns and areas where they can improve and develop a more balanced diet.

While tracking apps can be helpful, consulting with a Registered Dietitian can provide individualized care toward recognizing opportunities for support, building sustainable habits, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Lastly, add a golf ball size of a healthy fat source on the side or to cook your meals, such as avocado oil or almonds. For example, using avocado oil, you could prepare one whole wheat roti, 1/4 plate daal, 1/4 plate palak paneer, and 1/4 plate gobi masala. As a bonus, adding some dahi or Greek yogurt on the side will provide additional protein.

2. Never Skip a Meal

Eating breakfast within 1-2 hours of waking up, along with or before your coffee or tea, is essential to balance your blood sugar effectively. To start your day on the right foot, have a well-balanced breakfast that includes protein, fiber, and healthy fats. If you skip meals throughout the day, you may find yourself feeling hungrier and more F E B R U A R Y

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The Heart-Diet Connection Conscious choices can better protect your health

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ebruary reminds us to take care of our heart— not just romantically, but also physically. South Asians in particular face increased risk of heart disease due to the way fat is stored in the body and higher levels of a certain type of cholesterol called lipoprotein(a) or Lp(a).

The good news is the South Asian diet can actually promote heart health when prepared mindfully, according to the National Lipid Association. That means keeping a high ratio of vegetables in the diet, eating plenty of lentils and legumes, and choosing non-tropical vegetable oils. Here are other ways the organization suggests to eat well with your heart in mind: Select whole grains. Choose brown rice or 100% whole wheat flour or ragi (pearl millet) flour. Add ground oatmeal or soy flour or amaranth flour to your flour.

» 3 oz. fish or chicken or 1 cup

Choose plant-based protein. Tofu is a good source of high-quality protein. Use tofu in place of paneer.

Lentils (dal) or legumes (beans) e.g. chickpeas and black-eyed beans are also good choices

» 1 cup shredded carrot/vegetable

Eat foods low in saturated and trans fats. Avoid ghee, vanaspati, butter, cream,palm oil and coconut oil in food preparation and in processed foods. For a creamy texture, use pureed almonds (nut butters) or non-fat yogurt.

Enjoy healthful foods when dining out. Choose fish and chicken entrees cooked in a tandoor. Ask for foods to be made with unsaturated oils like canola and olive and naan to be made without butter. Avoid food made with added cream or butter (makhani), coconut oil, and fried foods. Choose appetizers cooked in a tandoor, fruit chaat, and roasted

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A GO-TO HEART HEALTHY MEAL RATIO

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» 1 cup vegetable curry salad with lemon juice

» ½ cup non-fat plain yogurt for lassi or raitha

» 2/3 cup cooked brown rice or 2 small whole-wheat chapatis

» 1 TBSP oil (canola, olive, sunflower, or soy bean oil for cooking)

» 1 serving fresh fruit Source: lipid.org

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alu’s musical journey is a testament to the power of dedication, passion, and the pursuit of one’s dreams. From the time she was 6 years old, she received the best training available due to her mother’s understanding of her unique musical sensibilities. Her unwavering dedication to music led her to practice for up to 16 hours a day, turning her passion into a profound pursuit. The Grammy-winning artist, who is nominated once again this year, shared insights into her musical journey, discussing the influence of family, dedication, collaborations, and the fusion of diverse musical genres.

FAMILY ROOTS AND TRAINING

The Grammy-winning artist emphasizes the importance of a support system which she found within her family and the role it played in her success. “I was born in a very musical family. My mother is a singer as well. And the minute she saw, as a two and a half year old that I could sing, she started my training,” she recalled. She received training from stalwarts of Indian classical music like Kishori Amonkar, Ustad Sultan Khan, Kaumudi Munshi and Uday Mazumdar. Reflecting upon this early chapter of her life, Falu acknowledged the profound impact of such an upbringing. The confluence of access, support, and love has admittedly shaped her identity

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ARRIVING IN AMERICA AND FACING CHALLENGES

Falu’s transition to a professional musician in the U.S. was marked by the challenges of making a living in a foreign country. She narrates how love led her to the United States, where her musical journey took a collaborative turn with her spouse. Alongside her husband, a musician himself, she worked tirelessly as a student to pursue her musical ambitions. The pressures of an International student were surmounted with the challenges of finding gigs, making contacts, and struggling to establish herself in the music industry. “It’s never easy to start making money in a different country that you don’t know anything about,” she reflected on the challenges faced as a student in the U.S. Their joint efforts included touring, writing, recording, and overcoming the hurdles of starting anew in a different cultural landscape.

GRAMMY GLORY

Earning a Grammy nomination is the ultimate validation and the sweet fruit of success for all the labors of the past. Falu’s first album—”Falu’s Bazaar,” was nominated in 2022, for the most coveted award in the music industry. She did not win that year.

The following year her second album ‘A Colorful World’ was selected again in the category for Best Children’s Music album.

“I FEEL LIKE IN MUSIC THERE ARE NO DESTINATIONS, BUT THERE’S THE JOURNEY. THAT’S WHAT I ENJOY THE MOST.”

“The first time I got nominated, I didn’t win. So when I went for the second album I had no expectation. I also follow Gita where it says that ‘karm karo, phal ki chinta mat karo’ (Do your duty without thinking about results). So I try to follow that and went with no expectation and having fun as a nominee,” she reflected on the significance of being nominated and the surreal experience of winning a Grammy, citing it as a pivotal moment in her career. “For that minute, I think my heartbeat stopped,” she remembered the moment when her name was announced. “That was an unimaginable, beautiful and blissful moment for any artist in their life when they win their first Grammy,” she says.

TRUE VALUE OF THE RECOGNITION

For her, the true worth of the award lies in more than just the applause of music enthusiasts or passive listeners. It emanates from those who, like her, breathe life into melodies as their livelihood. Knowing that your musical peers, individuals immersed in the very craft, have not only heard but appreciated your work adds a layer of profound satisfaction for the singer.

In my extensive experience in the music industry, I’ve observed singers hesitating to perform spontaneously, particularly when they are being recorded on camera. The mark of a skilled singer lies in their confidence to effortlessly break into song, showcasing a surety in their abilities and talent. A quality that Falu possesses and demonstrated with singing a verse from her Grammy

nominated song this year. “Abundance in Millets,” which is nominated in the Best Global Music performance category incidentally also includes a speech written and delivered by the Prime Minister of India Narendra Modi.

MEETING MODI

Falu shared the remarkable encounter with the Prime Minister who inspired her to use her music for social change, leading to a collaboration with him on a campaign promoting healthy living.

“I had an invitation to go and meet him at his residence in Delhi, which I did. And for 20 minutes we talked about the power of music and he said to me, ‘Beta, why don’t you use music as a powerhouse to help farmers and help spread awareness of millets.’

So I asked him very innocently, would you want to write it with me?” Falu recalled the meeting with Modi and his acceptance to be part of the song. Falu, her husband and their son were one of the few people that Prime Minister Modi met during his state visit to the US last summer.

COLLABORATION WITH INFLUENTIAL FIGURES

Over time, the talented singer has learnt to create music that skillfully extracts and blends diverse elements. She recognizes the harsh truth that not every song emerges as a chart-topper but that each song is a journey that embraces a spirit of experimentation and pours all her emotions into the creative process. Falu’s F EJ A B R NU A R Y

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collaborations with various musicians, including experiences with renowned personalities like A.R. Rahman, Yo-Yo Ma, Wyclef Jean, and Ricky Martin, showcase her adaptability and openness to different genres. “Every collaboration is great and you learn so much from them. My first collaboration was with Yo-Yo Ma and his humility and his approach on how to hold a note or how to look at a note was something I learned,” she shared her experience which gave her music a new perspective.

In her forthcoming ventures, which include collaborating on an album with the American Patchwork Quartet, she showcases her dedication to delving into varied musical terrains. Scheduled for release on the 9th of this month, the album features a reinterpretation of American folk songs, peppered with a touch of Indian influence. “We have re-imagined American folk songs from the Appalachian region and gave it a little pinch of Indian,” she describes the upcoming album.

EMBRACING SPONTANEITY AND EMOTION

Asked about her approach to fusing different music cultures, Falu dismisses the idea of a predefined process. “No, there’s no process,” she explains. “A melody line will come to me walking on the street. And on the subway, the beat will come. The most important thing for me is the emotion of the song.” Her creative process is organic, driven by inspiration that strikes unexpectedly. The spontaneity of these musical moments becomes the foundation for her compositions, with the emotion of the song taking precedence.

“I was born in a very musical family. My mother is a singer as well. And the minute she saw, as a two and a half year old that I could sing, she started my training.”

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NAVIGATING TRADITION AND TECHNOLOGY

In the ever-evolving classical music scene, where tradition meets innovation, Falu emerges as a force with a nuanced perspective.

Addressing the advancements of technology, she embraces its role in shaping classical music while staunchly emphasizing the irreplaceable essence of the human voice and traditional instruments. “Classical music doesn’t need technology,” Falu asserts. “You can always take a little bit of technology but you can never replace a voice or an instrument. I embrace technology but not in a way that hurts the purity,” she added. Her words echo a sentiment that technology and classical music work together, improving things without losing the genuine human expression.

ADVICE FOR ASPIRING MUSICIANS

Offering advice to aspiring musicians, Falu urges them to explore fusion and to connect with their emotions. “Music is all about the feeling. It’s not just notes, but the emotions and feelings that it portrays. If the artist is feeling it themselves then that will transcend into others also. So, it’s important that they feel it first.” Her words resonate with a profound understanding that transcends musical genres – the core of music lies in the emotional connection. Falu offers advice to aspiring musicians, urging them to explore fusion and embrace their feelings and emotions in their musical journey.

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“CLASSICAL MUSIC DOESN’T NEED TECHNOLOGY, YOU CAN ALWAYS TAKE A LITTLE BIT OF TECHNOLOGY BUT YOU CAN NEVER REPLACE A VOICE OR AN INSTRUMENT. I EMBRACE TECHNOLOGY BUT NOT IN A WAY THAT HURTS THE PURITY.”

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FALU’S F AV O R I T E S FAVORITE MUSICIAN Bono MOST MEMORABLE MOMENT - Singing at the White House for President Obama FAVORITE FAN GIRL MOMENT - Meeting Michelle Obama FAVORITE INDIAN SONG “Raina Beeti Jaaye” from Amar Prem.

FAVORITE COLLABORATION Yet to come FAVORITE PERFORMANCE VENUE - Carnegie Hall PRE-SHOW RITUAL I meditate FAVORITE DRINK Ginger Ale FAVORITE PLACE TO VACATION - Tahiti PERSON LIVING OR DEAD YOU’D LIKE TO HAVE DINNER WITH - Mahatma Gandhi FAVORITE BOOK War and Peace

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BEYOND AWARDS

What can be the next goal for a Grammy winner? As the conversation shifts to her aspirations, Falu responded with a philosophical perspective. “I feel like in music there are no destinations, but there’s the journey. That’s what I enjoy the most.” Her focus is not on achieving specific milestones but on relishing the daily process of creating music. “I don’t think about the destiny because every day is a new day to make music,” she shared. Falu’s philosophy mirrors the essence of her musical creations – a seamless blend of tradition and technology, guided by emotion and an unwavering commitment to the journey. Falu’s approach serves as a reminder that, in music, the human touch and emotional depth remain unparalleled.

AMERICAN PATCHWORK QUARTET

American Patchwork Quartet, a collective of award-winning musicians from across artistic and cultural backgrounds. Featuring vocals from a pair of recent GRAMMY winners - Clay Ross (a recipient of two Best Regional Roots Album awards) and Falu (the first Indianborn female singer-songwriter to win; and once-again a nominee in 2024) - APQ have reworked “Lazy John” into a celebration of all we have in common. With a mission to reclaim the immigrant soul of

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American roots music, the group reinterpret the country’s centuries-old folk songbook by uplifting its underrepresented voices infusing these standards with elements like classical Hindustani vocal work. Throughout the debut album’s tracklist, we find potent symbols of unity in diversity, exploring universal truths through a range of musical languages and cultural lenses - themes like longing, heartbreak, desire, fulfillment, tranquility and love...ultimately revealing the joys, sorrows, and unwavering hope of a nation crafted by shared dreams and diverse histories.

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Side Bar 1: American Patchwork Quartet American Patchwork Quartet, a collective of awardwinning musicians from across artistic and cultural backgrounds. Featuring vocals from a pair of recent GRAMMY winners - Clay Ross (a recipient of two Best Regional Roots Album awards) and Falu (the first Indian-born female singer-songwriter to win; and onceagain a nominee in 2024) - APQ have reworked “Lazy John” into a celebration of all we have in common. With a mission to reclaim the immigrant soul of American roots music, the group reinterpret the country’s centuries-old folk songbook by uplifting its underrepresented voices - infusing these standards with elements like classical Hindustani vocal work. Throughout the debut album’s tracklist, we find potent symbols of unity in diversity, exploring universal truths through a range of musical languages and cultural lenses - themes like longing, heartbreak, desire, fulfillment, tranquility and love... ultimately revealing the joys, sorrows, and unwavering hope of a nation crafted by shared dreams and diverse histories.

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The first time I got nominated, I didn’t win. So when I went for the second album I had no expectation. I also follow Gita where it says that ‘karm karo, phal ki chinta mat karo’ (Do your duty without thinking about results). So I try to follow that and went with no expectation and having fun as a nominee.”

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hazia Rafi is a trailblazing advocate for air quality in Asia. As President and Convenor of AirQualityAsia, she emerges as a distinguished figure in addressing air quality issues in Asia. Earlier she served as the first female Secretary-General of Parliamentarians for Global Action, emerging as a distinguished figure in parliamentary diplomacy focused on the UN’s Sustainable Development Goals. Her leadership established strong relations with the United Nation, the World Bank, the World Economic Forum, and major international NGOs. Born in Lahore in Pakistan and educated at Jesus and Mary School, Rafi excelled in her studies, earning a Commonwealth scholarship for higher education in the United Kingdom. However, due to Pakistan briefly leaving the Commonwealth, she recalibrated her plans.

She secured admission and a scholarship to Bryn Mawr College in Pennsylvania, where she delved into political science and international relations. “I was interested in diplomacy. Generally, the only path open to diplomacy at the time, was to join Foreign Service and work for the government,” she recalls.

Her interest in international relations and diplomacy led her to work with NGOs focused on women’s empowerment. “I always grew up thinking of the globe as one entity. When I took that first flight out of Pakistan in 1975, flying over South Asia, Middle East, Egypt etc, I realized that the boundaries that keep us apart are manmade. And that we have to come up with ways of working together,” Rafi explained her guiding principle. A turning point in her career occurred when she collaborated with Bella Abzug, a congresswoman from New York, on the Women’s Environment and Development Organization. This experience introduced Rafi to the realm of inter-parliamentary organizations, where elected officials collaborate to strengthen the UN agenda.

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Rafi’s global perspective, instilled by her father’s passion for astronomy, fueled her commitment to addressing trans-boundary challenges. Her dedication to women’s networks and inter-parliamentary diplomacy led her to become the Secretary General of Parliamentarians for Global Action, making her the first woman in that role. During her tenure, she pioneered diplomatic efforts by involving elected officials in conflict resolution, earning acknowledgment from the UN. “I started working with the UN’s peacekeeping programs and used the diplomacy track to have members of parliament, with experience in their own legislatures, on resolving issues between government and opposition,” she surmised her role.

Rafi’s commitment to addressing air quality issues in Asia reflects her proactive approach to global challenges. She played a pivotal role in recognizing the economic impact of air pollution on GDP. “This was originated during the Sustainable Development Goals negotiation in 2014/15. We formed a parliamentary working group on clean air and proposed just four words to be added to the UN Declaration which is the ‘right to clean air.’ That clean air is the right to life.

Then the parliamentary working group worked to get specific targets that would make it clear as to what we mean when we talk about getting clean air. And those targets relate to reducing air pollution, reducing the number of deaths, reducing the number of mortalities and they talk about how cities can be more sustainable with better air quality,” she said. Her work underscores the need for recognition, national plans, and budget allocation to combat air pollution effectively.

Rafi highlights the challenges faced by women aspiring for leadership roles, emphasizing the importance of women supporting each other and overcoming stereotypes. “Women who have managed to put their foot in the door into a position of authority need to be the ones who will argue for the ones who are still

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“I was interested in diplomacy.

Generally, the only path open to diplomacy at the time, was to join Foreign Service and work for the government.”

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I always grew up thinking of the globe as one entity.

When I took that first flight out of Pakistan in 1975, flying over South Asia, Middle East, Egypt etc, I realized that the boundaries that keep us apart are manmade. And that we have to come up with ways of working together.”

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outside the door and they in turn need to come in and support the women who let them in. One of the issues that you do often see is that women aren’t as supportive of each other. The other is that when you’re given an opportunity we tend to hesitate.” She advocates for creating systems that provide childcare support, acknowledging the role that women play in both professional and domestic spheres.

As a founding member of the campaign to elect a woman Secretary General of the UN, Rafi acknowledges the systemic challenges and biases. “Misogyny is baked into the system. It’s not an easy thing because power is a zero sum game. Power is in the hands of the men in the system. They have to see that you are capable, that you are more than capable and that it will be a positive thing for them. Those are not easy things to get done. So I don’t know whether we will see it in our generation, I hope so,” she said. While progress has been made, she stresses the importance of valuing women’s contributions and incorporating care-giving into national GDP calculations.

Rafi’s journey from Lahore, serving in the UN and to becoming a trailblazing advocate for air quality in Asia, highlights her commitment to global causes through diplomacy and dedication.

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Women who have managed to put their foot in the door into a position of authority need to be the ones who will argue for the ones who are still outside the door and they in turn need to come in and support the women who let them in. One of the issues that you do often see is that women aren’t as supportive of each other. The other is that when you’re given an opportunity we tend to hesitate.”

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Lost in Translation Why South Asian women face an uphill battle finding quality healthcare—and five ways to advocate for yourself.

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rom awkward silences to drastic misdiagnoses, many South Asian women have bumped up against the limits of a healthcare system not built with their needs, backgrounds or bodies in mind. Navigating health literacy, cultural stigma, and doctors untrained to recognize higher baseline risks can be an exhausting endeavor, and one that requires persistence and self-advocacy.

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It’s challenging enough for South Asian women to seek out quality care in the first place. “Women of Indian descent in the U.S. carry a sense of shame when it comes to any health conditions or needing to seek attention,” says Shruthi Mahalingaiah, Assistant Professor of Environmental Reproductive and Women’s Health at Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health in Massachusetts. “That might be within the cultural

context of the concept that the woman is there to serve the family, the husband, the children.”

Figuring out how to get intelligent, informed care, in a system which has become increasingly digitized, is a herculean project for even tech savvy native English speakers. But for those not fluent in English, with different customs and restricted by various stigmas, the ability to find the right place for their own problems is daunting. Given the frustration involved, it’s no wonder that what might seem like the sanest choice is to stay away from doctors altogether.

Yet obstacles to healthcare can and must be overcome.

Although the barriers to access include inadequate cultural understanding, poor communication, limited social support, costs of care, lack of awareness about available services, and limited health education, there are ways to befriend the system and benefit from it.

So how do you find the right care at the right time at the right place? Here are five strategies for learning how to take your health into your own hands—and get the kind of care you deserve.

1. KNOW YOUR RISKS South Asians are predisposed to getting cardiometabolic syndrome, says Dr. Rachna Saxena, MBBS, DCH, MPH, and Deputy Director of Public Health Policy & Strategy in Lackawanna County, Department of Health, in Pennsylvania. In India, cardiovascular disease remains the leading cause of death. A growing body of research suggests that South Asians develop heart disease 10 years earlier, on average, than other groups. A stunning 50 percent of South Asians will have heart attacks before the age of fifty, and 25 percent of heart attacks occur under age 40 for young South Asians. These are statistics worth noting. Cardiometabolic syndrome includes a cluster of conditions, such as high blood pressure, high blood sugar levels, excess body fat around the waist, and abnormal cholesterol levels.

But diagnosis can be tricky. Take being overweight, as in body mass index (BMI). There is growing evidence that Asian Americans develop diabetes at lower BMI levels than other racial/ethnic groups.

Asian Americans may not be considered overweight

by American standards, but they carry more of their weight in their abdomen. This concentrated, visceral fat is more likely to lead to a cardiovascular event. The World Health Organization recommends using lower BMI intervention thresholds, 23 versus the standard 25, for Asians to identify those with a weight-related risk for cardiometabolic disorders. If you didn’t know this, you might not realize how big your cardiovascular risk is. Hint: Your doctor may not realize it either.

TRY: One of your most important jobs is to propose to your doctor that as a South Asian between the ages of 20 to 60, you should be screened for cardiovascular risk factors. That way, anything suspect can be identified and treated before heart disease sets in.

2. MIND HOW MENTAL HEALTH PRESENTS PHYSICALLY Mental health issues can present as physical symptoms, and the phenomenon is more common than you would think, especially because South Asian culture sometimes stigmatizes mental health concerns. As an unconscious workaround, South Asian Americans can somaticize psychological distress as physical symptoms, such as anxiety presenting as indigestion, poor appetite, and heart palpitations. Or, as Saxena puts it, “You may feel tired all the time because you are actually depressed.” South Asians may be more comfortable seeking treatment for physical ailments rather than for underlying psychological issues.

The pressures to maintain model minority status are intense; in fact, that pressure causes a debilitating internalized disconnect. The familiar “log kya kahenge?”

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meaning “What will people say?” is a vehicle of repression, a way to shame actions or words that do not align with the cultural norms of the South Asian community. “Family and friends might tell you to get over it,” says Saxena, “but you cannot simply get over it.”

TRY: If you have difficulty recognizing and expressing emotions, you may be a prime candidate for a somatic disorder. Experiment with deepening your emotional intelligence by accepting whatever emotion is arising in you, even rage or grief. If this assignment seems a titch threatening, you might want to investigate therapy or counseling as a more conducive environment for this kind of exploration.

3. BE VOCAL AND PERSISTENT South Asian women are not always taught how to get their medical needs known and therefore met.

The major contributors that hinder getting help among Asian American women are feelings of shame, stigmatization, an unwillingness to burden others, sense of failure, and misconceptions about causes.

On the other hand, some South Asians are accused of taking up too much space. One study based in England showed that doctors perceive their South Asian patients to need longer consultations, be less compliant, and make excessive and inappropriate use of health services. Also in England, there is a racist and sexist stereotype called “Mrs. Bibi syndrome”, which describes a make-believe syndrome where an elderly, [non-English speaking] South Asian woman

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exaggerates her health complaints despite having minimal signs of ill health. Confronted with medical racism and gender bias all across the spectrum, it can be very hard to find your voice and have it heard.

TRY: The more specific you can be about your health concerns, the better, says Saxena. “You have to explain what is going on, not just saying pain.” Saxena also suggests bringing your documents with you to doctor’s appointments, along with planning your questions in advance. Ask questions. Inquire about treatment options. In addition to seeing a medical professional, you can also seek advice or help from a family member or friend who works in health care, or from others who have a similar health condition as you.

4. CURATE CLEAR COMMUNICATION CHANNELS Mary Archana Fernandez, LMSW, the director of Family Support Services at the South Asian Council for Social Service (SACSS) based in Flushing, NY, says together the staff of her organization speaks 19 languages. “The language piece is crucial for healthcare. Very often there are women with very little formal education who may not even be able to read or write. The healthcare system in America is much more complex than what they might be facing in Asia.”

Many of the people she works with don’t even know that they have the right to an interpreter. Given the number of languages and dialects, getting an accurate translator may prove to be difficult. Yet the communication piece is essential, as it forms the basis of trust between doctor and patient, helps the

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clear exchange of information, and supports making informed treatment related decisions that patients will feel motivated to adhere to.

TRY: Make sure you understand what your doctor is saying to you. If you can, take along a friend or family member who can help ask clarifying questions, especially if you are dealing with a major issue. As tempting as it may be, don’t rely on your child for this. Asking children to serve as ad hoc interpreters for patients with limited English proficiency is both harmful to your outcome and unfair to the child.

Repeat back to the doctor what you have understood about the plan for your treatment to make sure you’re on the same page.

5. SEEK OUT CULTURALLY COMPETENT PROVIDERS There is a growing movement amongst healthcare networks to train their doctors in cultural competency.

For example, in 2020 the Cigna Group launched new initiatives aimed explicitly at the South Asian community. Doctors familiar with dietary norms in Indian cooking, religious observances such as fasting and how that might impact health, and lifestyle norms are more likely to be trusted. Don’t settle for a doctor dismissive of cultural differences; seek out a doctor who can treat differences as strengths that can be leveraged to design an effective treatment plan (for help finding one, see the sidebar “Doctor Diligence”).

Ultimately, says Fernandez, “even if your providers don’t have cultural competency, they can aim for cultural humility.” Cultural humility means understanding the complex nature of identity—where we as humans are similar and where there is difference. A clinician can never be fully competent about the dynamic nature of a patient’s experiences; it is an ongoing exploration.

It means recognizing that all South Asians are not the same. It means “treating each patient as human, listening with interest and curiosity, and being willing to learn from their patients,” says Fernandez.

DOCTOR DILIGENCE Finding a healthcare provider who understands your cultural background and values can make a huge difference in the quality of care you receive. But finding them can be challenging in the least. Here are a few steps that can help.

→ Ask friends, family members, and

community organizations for recommendations of doctors with experience treating South Asian patients. → Find health systems that have built programs and research specifically around the South Asian community, like Stanford and the University of California. → Check credentials, hospital affiliations, and bios to look for indicators of cultural competency such as studying/working experience in South Asia, languages spoken, community service and outreach. → Ask prospective doctors directly about their experience with and approach to treating South Asian patients. A culturally sensitive provider will welcome this question. → During appointments, clearly communicate your beliefs, values and expectations upfront to assess if your outlooks align.

Over time, determine if your provider listens without judgment, answers all questions, and involves you in customized treatment plans.

TRY: Express your beliefs and values as they pertain to healthcare. If you feel certain foods are important traditions, ask for help with modifications. Discuss your expectations and how your health concerns and religious beliefs might intersect. Be willing to share your lifestyle practices and how you might adjust them to be more aligned with your health focus. To get a personalized, empathetic response, you might have to take the risk of getting a little personal with your doctor.

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My Big, Fat Desi Wedding

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rerna Picket’s South Asian anthology, My Big, Fat, Desi Wedding, is a genre-bending YA romance collection of linked stories celebrating desi weddings.

“All of the stories will warm your heart and are beautifully written. I’m so grateful I get to be a part of such an incredible lineup of authors and honored that they trusted me to edit their stories,” says Prerna.

In this collection that centers hope, love, and family, readers will enjoy eight stories from both award-winning and debut authors. Drama, food, fashion and more drama - these elements are a must-have for any Desi wedding, inclusive of people indigenous to India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Nepal, and Sri Lanka. In this anthology, authors from various parts of the Desi community share genre-bending stories that explore the lush traditions of their region, translating that universal language through the familiar lens of the ultimate family gathering. Both award-winning and debut authors share stories of broken hearts, rekindled flames, unlikely romances, and one particular auntie who loves to meddle.

SEEMA’S VIEW: A delightful and mostly fluffy exploration of young love amidst the chaos and joy of a Desi wedding. Whether you’re familiar with the traditions or discovering them for the first time, the stories resonate with emotion, making it a delightful read for anyone seeking a heartwarming escape into the magic of romance and family ties.

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EDIBLE LANGUAGE OF LOVE Come February and love is in the air, well after all with Valentine’s Day around the corner, it is time to whip up a meal with aphrodisiac ingredients that will give your day a love boost. dishes with a twist.

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Fresh figs, pistachio and amaranth malt courtesy Owais Ahmed, Junior Sous Chef, The Oberoi, Bengaluru.

The recipe in itself is packed with protein and minerals. Each ingredient has unique benefits as well. For example, figs, pistachio, and almonds are best aphrodisiacs and mood elevators. Amaranth and cardamom are great in keeping the body temperature cool and help in reducing inflammation. Not to mention, it tastes great as well.Mumbai.

INGREDIENTS Amaranth flour 200 grams Milk 1500 ml Almond Powder 100 grams Cardamom Powder 5 grams Jaggery 200 grams Water 200 ml Fresh figs (chopped) 200 grams Toasted pistachio sliced 150 grams ●

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Add jaggery and cardamom powder and give a boil.

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Avocado Tartare courtesy Sajid Patel, Executive Chef, Sheraton Grand Bangalore Hotel at Brigade Gateway

Make baked potatoes full of flavor with these Chili-Topped Baked Potatoes with serrano chili, butter, and cream toppings perfect for your chilly winter nights.

INGREDIENTS 2 ripe avocados, diced 1 small red onion, finely chopped 1 small jalapeno, finely diced 2 tablespoons of ponzu sauce 1 slice of fennel stem 1 teaspoon bubu arare (rice crackers) 4 rocket leaves ●

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Combine Ingredients. In a mixing bowl, gently combine the diced avocados, red onion, jalapeños,

and ponzu sauce. Garnish on top with a slice of fennel stem, bubu arare, and rocket leaves.

Methi Murgh courtesy D Prakash Kumar, Executive Chef, Brigade Hospitality

Elevate comfort with Smashed Potatoes with Chive Butter – a symphony of crispy exteriors, fluffy interiors, and the richness of chiveinfused butter. This delightful side dish marries the earthy goodness of potatoes with the freshness of chives. Crafted for easy replication, it is a perfect addition to any home cook’s repertoire, offering a harmonious blend of textures and tastes in a delectable treat.

INGREDIENTS Oil 100 ml Cumin Seeds 5 grams Green Cardamom 4 nos Cloves 4-5 nos Black Cardamom 1 no Black Peppercorns 10 no Green Chilies (chopped) 3 grams Onion (finely chopped) 450 grams Chicken (bone-in cut into medium sized pieces) 1kg Garlic Paste 15 grams Ginger Paste 5 grams Tomatoes (sliced or chopped) 300 grams Yogurt (whisked well) 200 grams Kashmiri Red Chili Powder 8 grams Coriander Powder 8 grams Turmeric Powder 3 grams ●

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Lower the flame, add whisked yogurt, and stir until well combined.

Add red chili powder, coriander powder, turmeric powder, cumin powder, and salt and cook till the masala separates from the oil.

Add water, cover, and cook on low heat until the chicken is tender.

Add chopped fenugreek leaves, lemon juice and mix.

Cook for 2-3 minutes.

Add cream, garam masala powder and cook for another 1-2 minutes Serve hot

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