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or many of us who’ve spent a considerable amount of time away from India, engaging in conversations in our native language can pose a challenge. English, now the predominant language, even within the confines of our homes, often supersedes the languages we grew up with. As I packed my bags for a family wedding in India, there lingered a sense of apprehension— anticipating potential awkward moments where the discourse might stray from English.

Interestingly, upon arrival, the fear dissolved as swiftly as it had emerged. Stepping into the well-appointed car at the Indian airport, the language that I thought I might struggle with flowed back effortlessly. What initially began as a hesitant attempt to navigate Hindi, and Tamil transformed into an easy conversational dance. That was especially true during the wedding festivities where the groom’s family hailed from Punjab, and the bride’s side represented South India.

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In a spontaneous twist, I found myself assuming the role of a linguistic bridge, navigating between Hindi, Punjabi, and English. I took on the role of a host, offering chai and samosas, creating an atmosphere that put everyone at ease.

It was a humorous revelation to witness how language and culture, once feared to have slipped away, resurfaced with such natural fluency, connecting disparate corners of memories and the celebration. I realized that our native language and culture lies dormant within us, archived in the brain, and downloaded and emerging spontaneously when the situation and environment demand. It just needs a spark for it to come blazingly back.

On the cover this month we delve into the remarkable journey of Emmy award-winning producer Falguni Lakhani Adams who is also intricately connected to her Indian roots. Falguni’s narrative stands as a testament to the power of pursuing one’s passion against societal expectations. Settling in the United States, she found herself immersed in a lively Indian community, fostering

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a strong bond with her cultural heritage. Falguni’s cultural upbringing provided the foundation for her future endeavors in the world of television.

To follow her passion profession, she had to start from scratch as a production assistant. The skilled writer and director recounted her extraordinary path, navigating from the disillusionment of her early career to emerging as an Emmy-winning powerhouse in the television industry.

In the December issue of SEEMA, we embark on yet another journey through diverse sections, encapsulating the spirit of the season and the close

of yet another transformative year. We bring you inspiring stories, insightful interviews, and thoughtprovoking features and celebration of achievements from varying fields. As the year draws to a close, we wish you and your family the joy and warmth of the holiday season.

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Diwali Lights Up Disney

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Media Maven

From her early years in Mumbai to

her unexpected path into the world of television, Emmy award-winning

producer Falguni Lakhani Adams’ story is a testament to following one’s passion, even in the face of societal expectations.

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Diwali Lights Up DisneyS The Orlando theme park celebrated the festival of lights with a brilliant three-day event

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Diwali Lights Up Disney The Orlando theme park celebrated the festival of lights with a brilliant three-day event

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different kind of magic enveloped the enchanting world of Disney in Florida—it was time for Diwali, the festival of lights.

In a first of its kind, Disney World in Orlando, FL hosted an unforgettable celebration that seamlessly weaved together the enchantment of the park with the rich traditions of the ancient festival.

The inaugural Diwali festivities at Walt Disney World Resort in Florida this year were a spectacular threeday event that showcased the vibrant culture of India. Hosted by Jashn Productions, the celebration

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brought together more than 400 dancers who performed across various Disney locations. The event, spanning from October 26 to 29, marked a significant milestone as Diwali was joyously embraced within the magical realm of Disney.

To add a touch of Disney magic to the festivities, the event was inaugurated by the iconic characters Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse, who were joined by specially abled children, creating heartwarming moments and emphasizing the inclusive spirit of the celebration.

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ndian women’s cricket captain, 34-year-old Harmanpreet Kaur is closing a year in which she was the first woman to be named one of Wisden’s five Cricketers of the Year, one of 2023’s TIME 100, and one of BBC 100 Women 2023. Last year she led her team to a silver-medal finish at the Commonwealth Games, and in Indian cricket, she led Mumbai Indians to win the inaugural Women’s Premier League last March.

As she closes out the extraordinary year, the athlete from Moga, India will embark on two home Tests after a grueling Women’s Big Bash League campaign in which she is the only Indian player.

“The Test series is something which we are really looking forward to because I haven’t played in front of a home crowd [since 2014], so I’m really excited for that,” Harmanpreet told ESPNcricinfo.

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Growing the Culture Tree The Minority Women Business Enterprise promotes education, awareness, and knowledge of South Asian culture

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ed by its founder, Anu Sehgal, the Culture Tree promotes South Asian culture through educational and enrichment programs by partnering with museums, galleries, schools, and libraries to implement education programming.

For Diwali, the company held numerous events, which included puppet shows, dance performances and arts and crafts to promote cultural literacy. The imperative stemmed from a prevalent misperception in America, where the prevailing notion often reduced Indian culture to a singular dimension.

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The endeavor extended beyond mere representation, venturing into the establishment of programs that were meticulously crafted and structured. A primary focus emerged in the realm of language, recognizing the importance of imparting language literacy to South Asian children residing in the United States. This ambitious initiative is laying the foundation for a more comprehensive understanding of the rich and intricate tapestry that is South Asian heritage. While the initial emphasis was on language, the Culture Tree has since broadened the scope to include cultural events, cooking classes, and fostering a sense of community.

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Food Network star Maneet Chauhan’s new restaurant is opening in Disney Springs this month

Air Fry Your Holidays

Aneesha Gupta, shared one of her favorite air fryer recipes to share with your guests this holiday season.

Bust Out the Bubbly

Champagne flutes we love this holiday season

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Food Network star Maneet Chauhan’s new restaurant is opening in Disney Springs this month

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ames Beard award-winning chef, restauranteur, author, and consummate Food Network star Maneet Chauhan is on the cusp of opening a new fast-casual restaurant located in the Marketplace section at Disney Springs in Lake Buena Vista, FL. The 47-yearold executive chef has notable restaurants in Chicago, Nashville, and New York. Chauhan was born in Punjab, India and working in some of India’s finest hotels before moving to the United States to attend the Culinary Institute of America.

Menu Fave Crispy semolina puffs, black garbanzo beans, potatoes, tamarind, date chutney, mint cilantro water

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Air Fry Your Holidays Who doesn’t want the crispiness of fried food without all the oily fat that often comes with it? Air fryers are a handy tool to help you accomplish that. These kitchen appliances work by circulating hot air around a food item to create the same texture as in traditional fried foods. By using that technique, air fryers can remove high-fat and high-calorie oils from the cooking process. Food blogger, author, and self-proclaimed foodie from birth, Aneesha Gupta, shared one of her favorite air fryer recipes to share with your guests this holiday season.

Samosa Chaat Phyllo Cups This bite-size version of the popular Indian street food, includes potatoes, onions, chili, peas, and spices are filled into delicate Phyllo cups and baked until golden brown and crisp in the air fryer These vibrant little bites are packed with tons of flavor, and the best part is that they are finger food—no extra plates or flatware required!

Ingredients Frozen Phyllo shells: You can find pre-made frozen phyllo shells in the freezer section of most grocery stores today.

Each box comes with 15 shells, the amount required for this recipe.

Potatoes: I specify two gold potatoes for their creamy, buttery texture, but feel free to use one large russet potato if that is all you have on hand.

Avocado oil: Either avocado or olive oil will do. You want a mild-flavored vegetable oil.

Cumin seeds: Whole cumin seeds impart a natural, smokey flavor that makes a classic samosa filling. When you begin to hear the cumin seeds sizzle in the oil, you know they’re ready.

Onion: Either a white or yellow onion will do. You will only need about 1/3 of the onion for this recipe.

Jalapeño: Make sure to deseed the jalapeno prior to

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chopping. However, if you would like the potato filling a bit spicy, leave the seeds and ribs intact.

Ginger: Fresh ginger works best for this recipe. Peel the ginger root with the edge of a spoon and grate the 2 teaspoons needed. If you can’t find fresh ginger, you can also use thawed frozen ginger cubes from the frozen food section.

Frozen peas: Remove 1/3 cup frozen peas from the freezer while you are prepping the remaining ingredients. This gives the peas enough time to thaw to room temperature.

Meet Aneesha Gupta

Aneesha is the author of the Electric Pressure Cooker Curry Cookbook and the creator of Spice Cravings (spicecravings.com) where she shares easy and healthy weeknight recipes. These recipes are inspired by her North-Indian roots, world travels, and life as a working mom.

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Cilantro: Fresh cilantro is needed in both the filling and the garnish. Chop extra and reserve it for sprinkling at the end.

Spices for the samosa filling: Salt Ground coriander Garam Masala Red chili powder (or cayenne) Amchur (dried mango powder) Chaat Masala Garnish: This includes both cilantro and tamarind chutneys, thin sev (bhujiva), fresh cilantro, and pomegranate seeds.

Step 1: Boil or microwave potatoes until soft.

Step 2: Heat a non-stick pan on medium-high heat for 30-45 seconds. Add oil and cumin seeds.

When you hear the cumin seeds begin to sizzle, add chopped onion and jalapeno. Sauté for 2-3 minutes.

Stir in finely chopped ginger, salt, coriander, garam masala, red chili powder and Amchur Turn off the heat. Add mashed potatoes and mix everything to combine. Then, add thawed peas and chopped cilantro. Add Chaat Masala. Mix well and set aside.

Step 3: Remove the phyllo cups from the freezer, fill each one with 1.5-2 teaspoons of filling and bake them in one of three ways until golden brown. Spread them in the fryer basket in a single layer and air fry at 350°F for 5-6 mins.

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Bust Out the Bubbly

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hatever you’re pouring to ring in the New Year, you want to celebrate in style. Whether you prefer coupe, trumpet, flute, or tulip, you want to choose vessels that enhance the aroma of your bubbly. Here are some of our favorite glasses to ring in 2024 with plenty of flavor and flair.

Champagne flutes we love for this festive holiday season

Fferrone Revolution Champagne Flute $220, Set of 2 Handcrafted in the Czech Republic by master glassblowers, this artful set is simple yet sophisticated.

2modern.com/ collections/fferrone Crate & Barrel Lunette Iridescent Champagne Glasses $35, Set of 4 Add some shimmer and whimsy to your tabletop and your beverage with fire-polished, iridescent champagne flutes. crateandbarrel.com

LSA Gems Champagne/Cocktail glass 8 oz $75, Set of 4 Add a splash of color and sheer elegance to your celebrations with this textured, hand-painted glasses. lsa-international.com

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Weaving Stories on Stage Shubhra Prakash’s new play speaks to her lifelong love of technology and culture

The New Face of Motherhood Why the label “stay-at-home mom” needs an update for today’s working women

British Flour Ad Gets Representation Right

A new ad shows why it’s so important to be authentically inclusive

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Weaving Stories on Stage Shubhra Prakash’s new play speaks to her lifelong love of technology and culture

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n the bustling sphere of theater, where spotlights dim and glow, Shubhra Prakash emerges as a unique force, blending her STEM roots with a passion to unfold narratives on stage. Shubhra’s journey is not only a testament to her resilience but also an exploration of cultural identity and the everevolving intersection of technology and the arts.

Prakash’s theater roots run deep, stemming from her early days in India.

“I was always part of school plays,” she says. “I was always part of anything that had to do with being onstage— speaking, singing, performing.” Her connection to theater became a refuge, a place where she could truly be herself, a sentiment that carried her through the challenges of high school and beyond.

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to fit a language like Hindi on a Roman keyboard, which has limited characters—that was a very compelling story,” she says.

While she moved to the United States as a teenager, she still found solace in the world of theater. “When I started high school, I realized it was in theater where I felt like I could belong,” she says. Her journey continued through college in Silicon Valley, where she intertwined her STEM background with her theatrical pursuits.

She eventually found her way to New York where she not only continued performing but also cofounded a theater company providing a platform for South Asian artists. Prakash took a plunge into playwriting, crafting a narrative that delves into the intersection of technology and culture.

Inspired by her uncle, a visionary designer who brought Indian scripts to the computer, Prakash’s play, “Fontwala,” intricately weaves the story of navigating language on the digital stage. “Through a series of events, he ended up designing a keyboard that would allow for Hindi to be typed on an English keyboard,” she narrates with a gleam of pride.

Prakash delves into the challenge her uncle faced, attempting to encapsulate the richness of Hindi on a Roman keyboard. “The mere act of trying

In telling her uncle’s story, she seeks to unravel the layers of his artistic mind and the profound impact of his work on the intersection of technology and culture. “I wanted to talk about him as an artist, the very first artist that I ever knew,” she says. Her play, originally envisioned in Hindi, took shape in both English and Hindi, and is performed in diverse spaces from traditional theaters to bookbinding workshops and creative writing classes.

In her ongoing exploration, Prakash seeks to bring theater to non-traditional spaces, bridging the gap between diverse audiences and the stage. With dreams of seeing “Fontwala” performed by other South Asian actors and envisioning a Hindi version embraced in the U.S., Shubhra Prakash continues to push boundaries, creating a space where art, culture, and technology unite.

FINDING FONTWALA Fontwala is a story inspired by the life and work of Rajeev Prakash Khare a typographer, font designer and calligrapher of Indian scripts. He designed one of the first keyboards, The Anglo Nagari Keyboard, that allowed for Indian scripts to be typed on a Latin-based keyboard.

Shubhra Prakash, his niece and New York-based theatre artist began interviewing him in 2017 to write this story of innovation. The story has become a solo theatre play in English, an ensemble play in Hindi, a digital exhibition and is on its way to become a documentary.

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The New Face of Motherhood Why the label “stay-at-home mom” needs an update for today’s working women

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motherhood and careers. “Every mother is mothering,” she says. “Every mother is working.”

Ruch wants to modernize what SAHM means, moving beyond stereotypes of isolation. She advocates showing the spectrum of choices for women and men.

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fter a decade in corporate America, Neha Ruch pressed pause on her career when she became a mom in 2017. She found herself frustrated by the stereotypes and narrow labels put on “stay-at-home moms,” instead finding the career-to-motherhood (and back again) journey much more complex. To create a more inclusive community around this life stage, she founded the digital community Mother Untitled in an effort to challenge outdated stereotypes of stayat-home moms.

“We need to dismantle these old static titles,” she said to Fortune magazine. To spark discussion, Mother Untitled surveyed 1,200 college-educated SAHMs on their experiences. The results show how rarely women today fit “traditionalist tropes” of stay-at-home moms.

Almost 40% regularly volunteer, work side businesses, or pursue passions outside the home.

They’re also likely to dip in and out of work as needed. “What we see is people making the right choice for right now,” says Ruch. “But people are dialing up and dialing down all the time.”

Being a SAHM is not permanent. Previous research found over 90% of highly qualified women who pause careers plan to return to work, valuing flexibility. The survey provides unique insight into an overlooked group, says Ruch. She aims to expand dialogues on

Labels like “stay-at-home mom” fail to capture the complexity of women’s lives today. Ruch’s survey and advocacy work shine light on this diversity, empowering women to craft their own narratives.

Mother Untitled’s Mission “An ambitious woman choosing to pause or shift her career to make room for family life, while also discovering space for herself along the way.” Learn more at motheruntitled.com.

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A new ad shows why it’s so important to be authentically inclusive

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ven though South Asians make up the second largest ethnic group in the UK, they’re still rarely represented in advertising. It’s rarer still to see an authentic portrayal of the South Asian experience. But one recent ad made waves for only its warm representation and also for a progressive view of gender in the home.

The ad by Elephant Atta, a popular flour brand, showcases a number of joyful families, coming together to cook traditional foods and teach the youngest generation all the techniques, while allowing room for everyone’s unique interpretation. Unlike other stereotypes might suggest, the ad shows men of all ages and young boys pitching in to carry the flour in the house and try their hand at cooking themselves.

The ad also accurately depicted the diversity within the South Asian community. Through subtle fashion and food choices, Hindu, Muslim and Sikh families were all portrayed, yet still celebrated for their commonalities. As Sadia Siddiqui said in an analysis of the ad, “Irrespective of who we pray to, we all want perfectly round rotis.”

View the ad on youtube.com @elephantattaflour.

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$1.3 TRILLION The estimated purchasing power of South Asians living in the United States.

Source: FrontAd Media

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My Big, Colorful Desi Wedding Hybrid weddings celebrate dual identities with flair

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eddings can be a tale of two cultures, a mashup of cherished traditions, modernized into a unique, custom hybrid.

“In the last decade, there has been a rise of the fusion wedding,” says Elizabeth Priya Kumar, who runs Premini, a luxury event planning company based in New York City, “whether it be IndianAmerican, Indian-Chinese, Hindu-Jewish (Hinjew). Plus, many first generation South Asian Americans don’t have a strong tether to the India of their parents.”

They want a wedding to reflect their braided roots, that nods to tradition with just the right amount of reverence—and irreverence. In this brave new weddingscape, the sandeep might be called a rave, the mandap might be adorned with personal artwork, and the baraat may fall by the wayside.

For a growing number of couples, the idea of entwining two cultures in bespoke ways brings welcome novelty.

“We wanted to keep many of the Indian cultural traditions alive but have the freedom to make choices about what was important to us and what wasn’t,” says Kris Jadhav, social media editor for SEEMA and a recent bride. For them, this meant editing down the three-hour Hindu ceremony to one hour.

the lehenga, the palette may undergo a subtle revision.

The typical fiery reds, worn by traditional Hindu brides, might morph into a Western-inflected color palette, featuring ivories, pinks and pastels. Wedding fashion can also serve as a cultural bridge, such as by the bride choosing to wear traditional Indian attire for the ceremony, then slip into a Western outfit for the reception, as Jadhav did. She wore a red lehenga then opted for a sleek, elegant white silk dress paired with a red dupatta for the evening festivities.

Bridging generations Despite the fun of creating ad hoc rituals, the challenge of a fusion wedding is honoring the wishes of your parents while staying true to yourselves, says Kumar. Typically, this could mean letting Jyotish astrology dictate the most auspicious time and day for the wedding ceremony.

Where are you willing to compromise, and where does it behoove you to assert your own aesthetic preferences?

Kumar recommends honoring your parents’ wishes when you can, “because the other 80 percent of the wedding is yours to manage,” she says, “Parents are throwing you the wedding they never had. The wedding celebrates the village it took for the parents, as well as their son or daughter, to get to this point.”

A South Indian wedding has three main elements: the religious ceremony, the luscious spreads, and the gorgeous outfits. In a hybrid wedding, often those hallmarks will be there, but they might look—and taste–slightly different. Here are some of the tells that something multicultural is afoot.

Religious customs Although the havan will have a prominent place in most South Asian fusion weddings, other aspects may be envisioned with a modern twist. The couple may circumambulate the havan but also read personal vows, exchange garlands and exchange rings.

For example, Jadhav had a traditional mehndi ceremony, which the groom playfully ended up crashing.

Culinary traditions While a traditional South Asian wedding will feature many sumptuous Indian feasts over the course of several days, a fusion wedding may opt for one deluxe Indian spread (Kumar likes to incorporate plated thalis to elevate the meal), then branch out into other cuisines.

Wedding attire Although many South Asian brides will wear a version of D E C E M B E R

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Reshaping the Fashion Landscape South Asian designers and retailers are making their mark on the industry A new wave of South Asian designers and retailers are bringing vibrant colors, intricate embroidery, and flowing silhouettes to a wider audience. More than ever, these brands are branching into the mainstream, and expanding access to traditional outfits through modern methods. Here are a few of the brands and entrepreneurs making fashion waves.

Sani Sisters Niki and Ritika Shamdasani founded Sani after struggling to find traditional outfits as young South Asian Americans living in North Carolina.

The brand puts a modern twist on styles like lehengas and saris, with easy-to-wear touches like built-in hooks. “It gives our perspective as multidimensional people,” said Ritika Shamdasani in an interview with Garden and Gun magazine.

The Shamdasanis focus on small-batch production and source deadstock fabrics to limit waste. Even as they partner with major retailers like Nordstrom, they remain hands-on in designing and connecting with customers on social media.

Both companies were founded by daughters of immigrants aiming to fuse South Asian culture with an American lifestyle. The accessible e-commerce experiences and global reach have enabled the brands to thrive. As Ritika states, “Culture is made to be shared.” @sani $480; nordstrom.com Zian Drape Saree

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KYNAH Founder Aisha Rawji drew inspiration from her mother’s home business selling contemporary Indian clothing shipped from trips back to India.

Rawji formalized this model for the digital age, personally vetting manufacturers and designers to curate high-end pieces on her e-commerce site. She focuses on quality and fit so the heirloom pieces can be passed down generations in the South Asian diaspora community.

“I don’t want it to be a onewear item, you wear it once and that’s it,” said Rawji in a recent interview with Forbes. “I see Indian clothes as generational.”

The company has grown from a passion project to dressing celebrities and expanding to retail stores. Rawji credits the pivot to selling protective masks during pandemic uncertainties with keeping her dream alive. “It not only kept me busy, but it also kept the business and brand name afloat,” she says @shopkynah Shanaya Lehenga $750

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4 LUSH CHRISTMAS BUDS ADVENT CALENDAR No one does holiday gift sets quite as unique and festive as Lush. This year, we’re loving the holidaythemed advent calendar featuring 25 fun bath bombs, bath melts, and bubble bars. $220, lush.com

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earning that your child has a diagnosis of autism may not only be met with despair, but sometimes also with denial. Instead of seeking treatment, many South Asians revert to a fix-it-at-home mentality.

“At first, when your child gets a diagnosis, there’s a lot of anxiety and fear. It’s not uncommon for South Asian Americans to dismiss autism as a ‘white people thing’, a condition that Americans overblow,” says Tahira Benevelli, an Austinbased educational consultant who specializes in neurodiversity.

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An autism diagnosis carries extra pressure among South Asians

Benevelli knows firsthand, as all three of her children have diagnoses that span the spectrum, including ADHD, sensory processing, autism, anxiety, and giftedness.

“The pressures of the model minority myth dictate a very linear path of what success looks like for the South Asian American child,” she says. With such a narrow definition of success, a diagnosis that stands in the way of its realization will cause profound fear. In many cases, the trope is “my child will never be normal.”

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In the collectivist-minded South Asian community, the tendency is to see any difference as deficit, she says. But Benevelli has noticed this attitude slowly shifting, with more pride in diversity seeping through the status quo. Her suggestion to parents is to cultivate curiosity about autism, focusing on its gifts alongside its challenges. This enables a shift from a shame response to a strengthsbased perspective.

As parents move to acceptance, a willingness to implement supportive accommodations follows. For many kids, this may mean consistent routines and a structured environment. For others, it might entail sensory-friendly conditions and a variety of sensory tools, such as earplugs or preferential seating, to help them self-regulate. Benevelli discovered that sensitive, thoughtful accommodations were the key to her oldest son’s healthy self-esteem. “Accommodations allowed us to adapt the world to meet his needs, so that he was allowed to thrive.”

STIGMA AND THE MODEL MINORITY Asian Americans are 50 percent less likely than other racial groups to seek mental health services. In the schools, this disparity is even more stark. Up to 20 percent of public-school students are served under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, but only 7 percent of Asian Americans are, the lowest of any group. If you’re looking for extra cultural-based support, visit the SAAAC Autism Centre at saaac.org.

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It’s Showtime, Arusha The girl who helped inspire the latest American Girl gets her due American Girl made history this year by introducing Kavi Sharma as the Girl of the Year for 2023, the first South Asian American Girl Doll.

But it’s Arusha Bhargava, a middle school student in New Jersey, who is the true show stealer.

Bhargava made a significant contribution to Kavi’s backstory.

She dedicated herself to shaping Kavi’s cultural background and identity and providing commentary and edits to the two books that accompany Kavi, a paperback journal and a hardcover novel titled “It’s Showtime, Kavi,” written by best-selling author Varsha Bajaj.

Bhargava was recently honored by the Hillsborough Township Committee in New Jersey, issuing a townwide proclamation and congratulating Bhargava for her achievements and wishing her success in her future endeavors. Like Kavi, Arusha is an Indian American girl who takes classical Indian and Bollywood dance lessons. She was thrilled with the opportunity to help represent Indian culture and reflect the reality of what it’s like growing up in America with dual identities.

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A Season for Giving Make a difference this year and donate to one of these organizations fighting for justice The holiday season is a time for joy, togetherness, and reflection on how we can spread more goodness in the world. Even small acts of kindness can uplift entire communities, and giving back to the organizations doing good in the world can be one way to do that. Here are a few of the organizations worth considering donating to this season:

rights. Their efforts include freeing unjustly imprisoned people, abolishing the death penalty, and battling discrimination against women, minorities, refugees and indigenous communities. amnestyusa.org

Human Rights Watch A global nonprofit fighting for equality and justice for all, Human Rights watch advocates for the urgent crises impacting marginalized groups around the world. Donations enable them to give more voice to religious minorities, imprisoned activists, abused migrant workers or victimized women. donate.hrw.org Doctors Without Borders Heroically aiding vulnerable communities facing violence, disease, malnutrition and natural disasters, these medical teams work selflessly in over 70 countries, providing lifesaving emergency care. donate. doctorswithoutborders.org Amnesty International This Nobel Peace Prize winning global movement campaigns for international human

World Animal Protection This international welfare charity fights to end animal cruelty across the globe. Their major campaigns aim to end street dog culling, stop wildlife exploitation as tourist attractions, and improve farm animal welfare. With teams operating across Asia, a donation enables their boots-on-the-ground rescue and vaccination efforts for suffering street dogs and captive wildlife. worldanimalprotection.us D E C E M B E R

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desire to make a difference. Her career took an unexpected turn when a friend recognized her interviewing skills and suggested she could be the next Barbara Walters. “I met this friend and he said, ‘I really feel like you are not in the right profession. You can get anyone to tell you anything in an interview.’ And I had never thought about that. I’m not one to love being in front of the camera, I get super shy,” she recollected. Adams decided to pivot away from a career in law. She reached out to media outlets, cold-calling MSNBC to gain experience in the field.

After moving to the United States, her memories of growing up in New York are colored by a vibrant and tight-knit Indian community. People frequently visited their house sharing chai and creating a sense of community. “We lived in Jackson Heights, it was Little India still, and I have a lot of fond memories. We would always have the community rolling in and out of my house,” she said. These early experiences helped her maintain a deep connection to her culture while growing up in the United States.

Her persistence paid off when she was hired as a production assistant at MSNBC, just as the network was rising in popularity. This opportunity marked the beginning of her journey into the world of television.

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Her family’s expectations had pushed her toward a traditional profession like law, medicine, or engineering. She opted for law, thinking it was the closest to a creative field within her choices.

Passionate about making a positive impact on the world, she initially pursued a career in international law. “I thought if I’m going to be a lawyer, I want to be an international lawyer, because I wrote a lot of papers in college around international human rights, and especially in India. I was very passionate about it,’ she recalls. She worked for the United Nations and for SAKHI for South Asian Women during her summers and dedicated herself to causes such as women’s rights in South Asia. However, her time at law school and an opportunity to work as a prosecutor in Brooklyn made her realize that she wanted to create change in a different way. “One day, I thought, I don’t want to try first time marijuana cases. That’s not how I want to make a change in the world,” she explained her decision to quit law.

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Adams’ path into the world of writing and directing was far from traditional. With a background in law, she started as a production assistant at MSNBC, transitioning from prosecuting cases to crafting scripts. Her entry into the industry was met with challenges, as it was predominantly white and often unforgiving to those without prior experience. “I think today, with social media you can definitely elevate yourself and elevate your career. Back then, it was me showing up to work in a business suit and being told your heels are too loud in the newsroom. But I didn’t know any better. I went from prosecuting cases in a courtroom to printing a script and handing it to the talent,” she recalled her initial days at MSNBC. Her unwavering belief in hard work and her upbringing’s strong work ethic drove her forward. She learned to navigate a new world.

FROM DISENCHANTMENT TO EMMY TRIUMPH

The former persecutor had to start from scratch as a production assistant which would have undoubtedly stirred feelings of disenchantment. The talented writer and director shared her remarkable journey from the disillusionment of her early career to becoming an Emmy-winning force in the television industry.

“I think a big newsroom is a very complicated place. But part of the excitement for me being there was feeling the energy around me. And there were a lot of really big stories going.

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That’s when I actually met Joe Biden. He was Senator Biden at the time and I got to meet Hillary Clinton and John Kerry, and it was really exciting to go to colleges. I just remember feeling wow, what I’m doing right now is educating college students on the importance of politics, and it was something that I had never learned,” she said.

FROM CHAOS TO CALM

Adams’ career trajectory took a significant turn after the tragic events of September 11, 2001. With only three months into her role at MSNBC, she found herself in the midst of one of the most critical news events of our time. Her unique background in law and experience at the Department of Homeland Security allowed her to step up during the chaotic situation. “The morning 9/11 happened, I was starting to train in the control room. All I remember, when the plane hit, was everyone screaming. Everyone got in the control room, the seniors, the executives, they were all looking at all the screens and the phones were ringing off the hook. It was chaos. And because I was calm, I was answering calls, and I was just able to help everybody navigate a very complicated and layered situation,’ she recalled the fateful day. This extraordinary moment catapulted her career to new heights, showcasing her ability to remain calm and effective under immense pressure.

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“I went from prosecuting cases in a courtroom to printing a script and handing it to the talent.”

Over time, she became disillusioned with her job due to her concerns about how the network was covering the Iraq War. However, she found an unexpected connection in the very same control room. “A guy that liked me would come around my desk. He was not Indian, but he came to give me a sandwich. And I said, ‘I don’t eat meat.’ And he said, ‘Oh, are you Jain? And I just remember looking at him and thinking, how do you know about that religion? He may be good looking but he knew about my culture. I’m sold,” she reminisced the serendipitous moment that marked the beginning of a blossoming romance with Richard, who later became her husband.

Adams’ career journey took a more fulfilling turn when she began working with MSNBC’s legal correspondent at that time, Dan Abrams, who hired her to produce his show. This role allowed her to combine her knowledge of law and media, which resonated with her parents, who wanted her law degree to be put to good use. Her career further blossomed as she covered major trials and stories such as Kobe Bryant, Michael Jackson, and Scott Peterson. “I would say the Michael Jackson trial, for me was the pinnacle of my career at MSNBC. I learned true investigative reporting, I had a lot of sources and I had gotten a lot of the first interviews for NBC with Michael Jackson’s attorney. So I really helped keep NBC afloat,” she recalls with pride.

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FALGUNI’S F AV O R I T E F E W MEAL THAT YOU CAN EAT EVERY DAY? Fresh pasta with homemade tomato sauce and cheese.

ONE VICE THAT YOU WON’T GIVE UP I’m gonna say my phone. I just have to be truthful with you.

WHAT’S THE NEXT BIG THING FOR YOU? I am working with a group on a very beautiful film. It’s actually South Asian based film. It’s about death and it’s about life. I just feel like that’s the season we’re all in right now.

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE MOVIE OF ALL TIMES? Room with a View. I have the VHS tape. That’s how much I’ve loved that movie.

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE INDIAN MOVIE? I would probably say either Qurbani, Naseeb or Kuch Kuch Hota Hai WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE KIND OF MUSIC? I like a lot of Latin music and power ballads. I will say because I’ve been spending a lot of time with my mom lately. I’ve been playing a lot of Lata Mangeshkar, Mukesh and Kishore Kumar songs with her.

But listen, I’m a Pop music girl at the end of the day.

WHAT YOUR FAVORITE TV SHOW OR SERIES? I loved The Wire. I thought that was a brilliant show. I love Madmen. It was probably one of the most brilliant shows ever made, just in terms of its acting and aesthetics and cleverness.

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO TRAVEL? If I’m doing a beach vacation - Corsica, France. That was just so stunning and beautiful. If I’m having a cultural vacation, Italy always wins my heart over and over again.

WHAT’S THE FAVORITE ASPECT OF YOUR JOB? I love the fact that I get to shape the shows and I get rewrite. I love writing so much. I also get to go on shoots whenever I want. So if it is a Cyndi Lauper, I get to show up on set or if it’s IndyCar, I get to go sit in the car and take a spin around the track.

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that deserved recognition. One of her proudest achievements was an Emmy-winning episode for CNN’s “United Shades of America with W. Kamau Bell.” The episode, titled “Six in America,” tackled important social issues and received critical acclaim. Adams’ commitment to shedding light on underrepresented stories and communities resonated with her audience and earned her two Emmy awards. Adams also highlighted her work on a documentary titled “The Neglected Pandemic,” which commemorated the 50th anniversary of HIV’s discovery in the United States. “We call it the neglected pandemic, because there’s so much that the communities have faced. For me, it’s always about the underdog.

And those are the pieces that I feel warrant Emmys,” she explained the struggles faced by affected communities.

SHAPING COMPELLING NARRATIVES AT VICE TV

Falguni Lakhani Adams current role as an executive producer at VICE TV is a dynamic one.

Her responsibilities span two essential aspects: shaping and overseeing in-house developed shows and collaborating with production companies to bring these projects to life. “We hire production companies to make shows that we develop in-house and I oversee those shows. That means I go through the outlines, what shape we want the show or the series, from start to finish,” she gives a snapshot of her role at VICE TV. Currently, she manages five shows that are in various stages of production. One of her projects, “Dark Side of Comedy,” explores the complex lives of comedians like Joan Rivers, Robin Williams, and Norm Macdonald, who brought laughter to the

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world while concealing their own inner struggles.

She admittedly is drawn to the dichotomy in life and relishes exploring the nuanced layers of society through her work.

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Besides doing award-winning work on television, Adams devotes a lot of time and effort in community focused ventures. Together with her friend Kruti, Adams founded “Getting Hotter Official,” a platform dedicated to discussing women’s health, menopause, and aging. The initiative emerged from their personal experiences of navigating menopause silently, despite their close friendship. “Kruti and I started it because while we both went through menopause at an early age, we were the best of friends and didn’t say a word to each other. Until one day, I was grumpy and depressed. I told her I was sorry that I was being a jerk of a friend, I’m going through menopause. And she said so am I,” Adams recalled the conversation and the reason to create a safe community place for South Asian women. She acknowledged that the conversation surrounding menopause, and health, in general, often excludes South Asian women and “Getting Hotter Official” aims to change that narrative and is committed to telling essential stories in the realm of women’s health.

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In her free time, Adams indulges in a variety of activities to unwind and continue personal growth.

Yoga and meditation hold a prominent place in her daily routine, helping her find balance and inner peace. “I do a lot of yoga and meditation. I became a mindfulness coach, because, you know, we’re South Asian, we can’t just take a course, I have to become a teacher, right? That’s just how it goes,” she said.

Her commitment to continuous learning extends beyond her career. Whether it’s learning to play a musical instrument, travel, or dance, she constantly challenges herself to explore new horizons.

Adams’ path may not have been straightforward, but it has been uniquely hers, leading her to a fulfilling career in television where she continues to make a positive impact on the world. In her 20-year career, Adams has transformed from a disillusioned newcomer into an Emmy-winning writer and director. Her story is a testament to the power of perseverance, passion, and a commitment to bringing underrepresented stories to the forefront of public consciousness. Her work continues to inspire and make a meaningful impact.

Adams offers valuable advice to young women aspiring to succeed in the media industry. Her guidance centers on several key principles: 1. Stay Informed and Adapt: you have to flow with what is going on, you have to really keep up like, keep an eye on what’s happening around you 2. Seek Mentorship: When I decided I wanted to make the transition from law to media, I knew nothing about media.

But I had the gall to call people and tell them through vulnerability, that I don’t know anything about this, but I really do want to learn. Can you meet with me?

3. Approach with Humility: When seeking advice or connections, approach individuals with humility and genuine curiosity. Instead of sending a resume, aim to engage in a meaningful conversation, expressing a desire to learn and grow.

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s the creator of the Culture Tree, Anu Sehgal is dedicated to fostering cultural literacy about South Asia through language, educational initiatives, and cultural programs. Although she has resided in the United States for 25 years, her deep-seated roots remain firmly planted in India. As a visionary, Anu identified a significant gap in authentic Indian experiences and community connections in the U.S. This realization intensified when motherhood beckoned, fueling her unwavering passion for preserving and sharing the rich beauty of Indian heritage. Anu underscores the significance of creating a legacy imbued with cultural enrichment. Her commendable efforts have effectively sown the seeds for a more diverse and interconnected world, reflecting a lasting impact on the cultural landscape.

Can you tell us the inspiration behind the Culture Tree and the mission behind the organization?

Once I had my own children, I realized there was a real need. First of all, reflecting the Indian cultures, because people in America think there’s just one dimension to Indian culture. That’s when I really felt the need for reflecting the different aspects of Indian cultures. Also having some sort of programs that were really buttoned up, especially in terms of language literacy. That was the start of the Culture Tree. The mission is for the South Asian American children to interact with their heritage in different ways. Initially, we started with just a language program, but now we have dance programs and this year, we have started an interactive program for teens so that they can get involved with their cultures. The second pillar is just cultural literacy, in which we create custom made educational programs.

What are some of the key initiatives to promote Indian culture and heritage?

I have actually created puppet shows. Those two words, open doors automatically. It not just makes my life easier in selling up programs, but puppet shows are an art form in most Asian cultures. So it’s using these popular stories to tell people about the cultural aspects of a specific festival. So we have four puppet shows. One is Ramlila, which is about Diwali. We have Colors of Krishna’s Love, which is a popular story of Holi. It also goes deeper because we talk about colorism through that puppet show.

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we do. Then we have created another puppet show about Eid. And the last one is called Climate warriors. It’s about stories from India about how people have led environmental movement.

Can you share some success stories and memorable moments from your work with The Culture Tree?

An extremely memorable moment was when Mayor Eric Adams actually recognized the work that I’ve been doing in furthering cultural literacy about South Asia. He recognized me at Gracie Mansion this year and it was just an amazing event. I think that was the most memorable moment so far. But I think each and every event that I do and the interaction

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that I have with children and their families, when they are excited to learn about a new culture, is a very rewarding experience. I just feel this is a revolution and this is the way our kids should feel about their heritage cultures.

What have been some of the challenges that you have faced in promoting Indian culture in the West?

It has gone through its own challenging times but I think it’s getting easier, the more you’re seeing our culture in every aspect of life. Initially, when I started this seven years ago, it was a hard sell.

There were very few books that were written about different different cultures from South Asia. For example, I had gone to this event at a museum, it was a Holi event and since there were no books on Holi for kids, they were reading a Diwali book.

That was challenging maybe seven years ago. I am seeing such a big change now. Also, I built my credibility with these institutions, museums, libraries, that they let me do whatever I want to do.

So it is getting easier. It’s all about educating them.

I feel people are much more accepting now.

In your view, why is it important for people of Indian descent, living here in the U.S., to stay connected with their cultural roots?

It’s very important for the expat community to connect with their culture in different aspects

of their lives. That is the foundation for first gen people like me, we came from there. So it is the sense of belonging that we feel, and get from our community and our culture. It is also extremely important for children who are born here to be connected with their heritage culture. I tell them all the time that once you know your culture, there will be opportunities that will happen in South Asia, especially job opportunities in India. But more than that, it’s just making them feel proud about their culture and give them that confidence that it’s a gift to be multicultural, it’s a gift to know different languages and different dances. I feel it’s fulfilling for a human being and it’s also very grounding for all of us.

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Tidings Across Time Zones Near and far, the holidays bring out special traditions to keep families connected across continents. Here’s how our readers do it, and how you can do the same.

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he twinkling lights are up, the festive music is playing, and the aroma of your favorite holiday treats fills the house. But something still feels like it’s missing—the laughter and chatter of your closest family members.

If members of your family live overseas or simply can’t make it home for the holidays this year, it can put a damper on tradition and leave you feeling disconnected.

However, there are plenty of ways you can bridge the physical gap between loved ones and still feel a sense of togetherness. We put together some of our favorite ways to stay connected through the season, and talked to some of our readers to find out how you stay close during this special time of year.

SCHEDULE VIDEO CALLS TO OPEN GIFTS TOGETHER. If you traditionally exchange gifts in person, keep this ritual going by arranging a video call to open presents at the same time. Share reactions in real-time as you unwrap, making it almost as good as being in the same room. Video chats are the next best thing to celebrating holidays in person.

COOK THE SAME DISHES WHILE YOU CATCH UP. Prepare beloved family recipes—like your mom’s mouthwatering biryani or your aunt’s rich kheer—while chatting over speakerphone or video. Share cooking tips and secrets as you work or enjoy the finished meal together.

It’s not the same as going elbow-to-elbow in the kitchen, but making treasured dishes keeps tradition alive.

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READERS SOUND OFF: ASTIKA GUPTA, PRODUCT COACH & ENTREPRENEUR, FOUNDER & CEO, MULTINOVA INC. “I don’t have my immediate family in the USA. They all live in India, except my brother who recently moved to Boston for his masters. We exchange gifts with family between USA and India by sending boxes of sweets, gift cards, etc. through courier.

SUNAINA RAMISETTY PAKSHA, JEWELRY FOUNDER “Holidays are all about laughter and connection for us. I firmly believe in the power of gatherings and delicious food to bring people together. Our festive tradition includes not just in-person dinners, but also I make it a point to make sure that even if we can’t physically gather, we stay connected virtually.

Our holiday celebrations kick off with warm, in-person dinners. These gatherings become a time to catch up, reminisce, and make new memories, all while savoring the joy that comes with simply being together.

We have friends and family all over. We make a conscious effort to bridge the gap virtually through video calls. It’s a wonderful way to include those who we love no matter where we are. We can still share the holiday spirit and feel close to one another.

At the end of the day, it’s all about connection and belonging. We try to create that through these shared experiences. Happy Holidays.

Cheers!” @sunainaramisetty

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We also have video chats on the day of festivities to wish each other. I take the time to connect with others in the south Asian community by attending south Asian events and celebrations in New York and virtually.

For the exchange of sweets, I have a long discussion with my parents as to what they should be sending. I say a big no to Indian sweets and instead opt for a variety of nuts, Indian snacks, chocolate bars including dark chocolates, candles, and other tangible home decor. @astika_gupta

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SHARE PHOTOS AND VIDEOS. Don’t just wait until the holiday itself, but share your favorite shots regularly leading up to and during the holidays.

Upload special moments big and small through the season—decorating, baking, visits from relatives or friends, religious celebrations, New Year’s countdowns—to a shared family chat or cloud album everyone can access. Viewing visual snippets of how each of you spends the season fosters connection.

DO AN ONLINE GIFT EXCHANGE. Instead of mailing gifts internationally or not exchanging at all, organize a virtual gift swap. Draw names, set a budget, and exchange thoughtful presents by mail.

Then gather extended family online to open gifts together and react in real time, sharing gratitude and thoughtful words about each item.

ASTIKA GUPTA A few pics of the box that I received from my parents this Diwali. It had a cute rattan basket, which I am going to repurpose, a scented candle (candles are a good substitute for ‘diyas’ which are small earthen lamp—lit on Diwali), a box of dark chocolate covered almond nutties, two dark chocolate bars, two packets of nuts.

Over the years, my family has nailed the perfect combo of chocolate and nuts that I am willing to consume. Indian sweets are very high in sugar and I always feel guilty after gulping over the entire box in a few days!

Embracing creative ways to connect from afar ensures no one misses out on the most magical family moments. Distance can never dilute the joy of cherished rituals when you celebrate collectively in spirit.

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Priya Malhotra

Woman of An Uncertain Age

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or over two decades, Priya Malhotra has pursued a career as a writer and journalist based in New York. Her contributions have graced the pages of publications such as Newsday, Time Out New York, The Times of India, The Japan Times, Asian Art News, Cosmopolitan, and News India Times.

About the book: When fifty-something Naina Mehta’s husband dies of a heart attack, she transforms herself from a suburban wife into a bold woman thirsty for new experiences. A far cry from the classic image of the aging Indian widow who dresses in subdued colors and focuses solely on her children and God. Naina moves to New York City, takes up a lowpaying job in a contemporary art gallery, and becomes besotted by Jai, her daughter’s boyfriend.

But that’s only the beginning of her journey into this new world that allows her to explore the possibilities of being who she wants to be.

As Naina becomes more empowered, she dips her toes into the world of dating for the first time in her life.

Maybe the possibility of love still exists for a woman of her age. But what happens if the man in question is Muslim and stirs generational wounds and the wrath of her conservative son?

Woman of an Uncertain Age explores the rocky, uncertain terrain of female midlife during a time when the parameters and ideas of midlife are being challenged. What does it mean to be a fifty-plus woman with grown children in such an environment? Especially for Naina, who comes from a culture where life is expected to follow a strict traditional course.

SEEMA’S VIEW:

Woman of an Uncertain Age keenly observes and skillfully highlights the unique anxieties and hurdles associated with the aging process, immigration, and discovering love in the most unforeseen situations. A well crafted exploration of the complexities that come with aging, immigration, and unexpected love.

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SIP ON SOUPS As the nip in the air gets stronger, you need to stay warm, and there is no better way than with a warm bowl of soup.

• Bindu Gopal Rao •

It is officially the winter season, and there is a need to keep warm and get good, warm food. Soups are a great way to enjoy the winter, as they can help you beat the cold while satiating your taste buds. Here are some recipes for you to try.

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Murgh Badam Shorba, or Roasted Almond and Coriander Chicken Soup, courtesy Neeraj Rana, Executive Chef, Bombay Bungalow Dubai

INGREDIENTS Chicken bone 1 kg Oil 40 grams Ginger crushed 20 grams Garlic crushed 40 grams Green chili slit 8 grams Coriander roots 100 grams Cinnamon 5 grams Cardamom 2 grams Black pepper 2 grams Bay leaf 2 grams Salt 20 grams

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Turmeric powder 5 grams Coriander powder 15 grams Cumin seed 10 grams Almond 150 grams Cream 50 grams Lemon 10 grams

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spices, and powder spices with coriander roots, and add water to bring to a boil.

Add chicken and cook for at least one hour, then strain through a conical strainer.

Cook again with roasted almond milk and saffron to a boil.

Strain and serve with chicken cubes, lemon, and fresh coriander.

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Roasted Bell Peppers and Smoked Tomato Soup, courtesy, Vinayak Patil, Chef Butterfly High, Mumbai

“During cold winter days, this roasted bell pepper and smoked tomato soup not only warms the body but also brings a comforting symphony of flavors. The smokiness adds depth, making it a perfect companion to cozy up and enjoy the heartiness of the season.”

INGREDIENTS Red bell peppers 100 grams Tomatoes 100 grams Garlic 30 grams Olive oil 20 ml Salt 10 grams Pepper 10 grams Basil 5 grams Cream 10 grams ●

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METHOD Roast the bell peppers and tomatoes in the oven until tender.

Peel and deseed the roasted bell peppers and tomatoes.

Smoke them with coal for a smoky flavor.

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In a pan, heat olive oil and sauté garlic until golden.

Add the paste to the pan and stir well.

Season the mixture with salt and pepper, to taste.

Add a little fresh cream, and garnish with basil.

Serve this rich soup warm.

Truffle Alba, courtesy Bablu Bhandari, Chef de Partie, Taj Fort Aguada Resort & Spa

Nature knows best when which of the ingredients are to be used. This soup is made of mushrooms (except button mushrooms) that bloom in winter only. To keep you warm and build your immunity against cold.

INGREDIENTS Shimeji mushrooms 200 grams Enoki mushrooms 100 grams Shiitake mushrooms 50 grams Porcini mushrooms 50 grams Button mushrooms 1000 grams Thyme 100 grams Garlic 100 grams Cream 250 grams Butter 500 grams Onion 500 grams Truffle oil 10 ml Sea salt 50 grams Pepper 50 grams ●

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METHOD Boil all the mushrooms, mainly the button, porcini, shitake, enoki, and shimeji trimmings, with garlic, onion, thyme, and pepper, for about three hours on a slow flame for the utmost flavor.

Strain the broth and reserve it.

The leftover boiled mushroom is to be made into a paste with the addition of cold butter and cream.

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cold butter and cream for a smooth paste and emulsion.

Season well and blend.

Assemble the soup with truffle oil, wild mushrooms (Enoki sprig and Shimeji sprig), and black garlic. Put the mousse in a bowl, and garnish well in the bowl.

Season the broth poured into the bowl.

Mix well and enjoy the hot soup in the winter.

Serve hot.

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