Sublimated eroticism: The Differences between Erotic Massage and Tantric Massage

Sublimated eroticism: The Differences between Erotic Massage and Tantric Massage From Eroticism to Tantrism: Massage and its Differences Our 5 senses are the primary source of pleasure and happiness.

Each of them is a powerful engine of exaltation: gastronomy, music, dance, the spectacle of nature, well-being massages, shopping, sport are all opportunities to get pleasure and enjoyment. '' forget the stress and the obsessive projection towards more pleasure, more intense pleasures.

I would therefore like, first of all, to focus my attention on the wellness massage. But also and especially on erotic massage, as well as on tantric massage.

Define Eroticism to Differentiate it from Tantra In the confusion that reigns today, it seems very important to me to clearly define eroticism and the growing place it occupies in our society and in our romantic behavior.

"We will find out how to choose by distinguishing between erotic massage and tantric massage to be able to live the tantric experience by elevating eroticism on the way to ecstasy. "

Massage is the Pleasure of Touch Massage is an Attempt to Reconcile Body and Mind Why has massage taken such an important place nowadays?

Quite simply because it meets the essential need for touch, a need neglected since childhood.

The baby or infant is surrounded by caresses.

Touch is therefore an integral part of their life and of their first experiences of deep pleasure.

Just as much as taste and smell are with breastfeeding.

Over the years, the pleasure of touching fades away, giving way to sight and hearing.

He reappears in adolescence, precisely during the first sexual feelings.

The Place of Contemporary Massage Today, massage has taken on a very important place.

It has become a privileged way to put down your body, disarticulated by stress (engine of productivity but real poison for the body and the whole being).

This is why the estrangement from nature and its energies disharmonized the body.

This is why it is then placed in the hands of a person responsible, according to the practices implemented, with: ● ● ●

relieve muscle and nerve tension put energy back into circulation reduce emotional or sexual blockages.

The massage then becomes the opportunity to return to oneself. Show affection and kindness to yourself.

We know well - even if we almost always forget it - that the body is not the only matter.

Indeed, it is also emotion, and energy.

Touch, a meaning largely neglected since early childhood, is here a link between body and mind.

To receive a massage is to learn to inhabit your body in the present moment.

Every Massage is Important We are fortunate to have easy access to a multitude of massages.

They offer various practices from very different cultures and traditions, from Californian massage to Ayurvedic, Thai, Tibetan or shiatsu massage to name only the most famous.

Some use force, others softness or sensuality, others sometimes a mixture of different approaches.

In body language, then, we can say that there is no better practice than the other.

Performed according to the rules of the art by well-trained professionals, all massages are intended as a remedy for various ailments of the body and soul.

There is just a more or less perfect match between: ● ●

what the massé wishes to receive (without always being able to define or express it himself) and what the masseur can offer.

What is important is the return to oneself, to the unconscious buried in the depths of being at the very time of its birth and the first emotions of life.

Was the body floating? From now on, it is taken in the tender hands of the mother.

After leaving his belly, he finds his hands, his fingers, his palms which guide him in the new world.

He is never alone.

Exist in Love It is in Love that he finds this wonderful feeling of totally existing and that he will find it or seek to find it.

Thus, the person seeking a massage must learn to have confidence when with his body it is his whole being that he comes to place in the hands of the other.

She must be asking herself, "What does my body want to hear here and now?" Who will know how to understand it? " She will put herself in a state of receiving without controlling, without acting, just feeling, listening to what is happening on the physical, emotional and spiritual levels.

Erotic Massage: a Practice That has its Place and its Importance The Erotic System is an Admirable Creation We know that the human body, and even more so the ui of the woman, by the multitude of erogenous places and of the bundles that connect them, including the most unexpected, the most secret, the most hidden zones, constitute an infinite field of experiences of eroticism.

"The human body is made for Love and the pleasure of love games. " I mean Love and not just Sex! We will come back to that.

Eroticism is an endless source of enjoyment and joy.

Its power is such that it even allows access through orgasm, to a modified level of consciousness, a path of ecstasy.

The mere sight of a naked body immediately stirs our emotions, the delicately chosen sensual scents excite us, deep music takes us far from reality, and a subtle touch soaked in sweetness breaks this barrier posed to self-abandonment.

Eroticism provides total, infinite pleasure.

Everyone can access it, so much the senses and the psyche rejoice in the erotic pleasure in which the whole being can immerse himself.

Yet no pleasure is so rich. Sensuality exerts an irresistible attraction. It intoxicates, soothes, and transports.

So why not harness this tremendous potential as a tool to let go in a massage session?

Fears, an Obstacle to Erotic Pleasure Physical or emotional tensions are recognized and admitted, openly.

However, sexual tensions remain taboo although omnipresent.

Long despised and obscured by religions, eroticism has become omnipresent: ● ● ● ●

highly eroticized ads sex shop on every street corner ostentatious pornography one-click accessibility on the internet.

We have gone from one extreme to the other, from rejection to over-arousal of the senses.

What teenager, boy or girl, has not frequented pornographic sites looking for erotic arousal, unable to distinguish between violent and often degrading images of the body and erotic reality or, I dare not write it down, in love?

Separate Pleasures The collective unconscious, however, persists in establishing a separation between erotic pleasure on the one hand, and other pleasures.

In fact, he cannot fully assume it.

He fosters fears. The consequence is that: ● ●

for some this separation leads to a brutal rejection by assimilating any erotic practice to prostitution for others, it will arouse an obsessive need to satisfy the multiple fantasies of an insatiable ego, masturbatory sex addiction in all its forms and its most hallucinatory practices.

The Ambiguities of Erotic Massage as an Alternative to Prostitution Since the dawn of time, prostitution has been an integral part of society. Erotic massage, which in some cultures is very closely linked to it, is a universe belonging to well-being.

His approach to the body is without taboos, considering sexual tensions as much as muscular or emotional tensions.

This is why I believe it is essential to make some clarifications. ●

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The traditional massage is practiced wearing a white jumpsuit or an outfit representing the establishment.The body is completely massaged, with the exception of the private parts. erotic massage is almost always practiced naked or in underwear. All the senses of the massaged are exalted, facilitating the release of endorphin conducive to letting go. some establishments include private parts in the massage others exclude them, although the massaged is completely naked

In France, unlike other European countries, any employer offering a full massage provided by an employee is considered a pimp Yet erotic massage is not a practice of prostitution, since there is in principle no sexual intercourse.

The massage person is in a state of welcome, receptivity, and letting go. The vision of the body is more integral than in a traditional massage, but does not have sexual intercourse as its goal.

The use by a prostitute of the term erotic masseuse, lead into error.

Indeed, it is only a sexual practice specific to prostitution, that is to say an integral sexual act.

Erotic massage will here be a means used by the prostitute to induce her client to relax as a prelude to sexual intimacy.

She can also use a more traditional massage. Or any other practice allowing him to put his client at his ease ...

But the End is not the Massage. It’s the Sexual act.

This brings me to the finish.

The goal of certain massage practices offered with a finishing touch: to bring the patient to an orgasm through ejaculation, marked

So I Come to the Finish The goal of certain massage practices proposed with finishing: to bring the massaged to an orgasm by ejaculation, thus marking an ambiguity with the prostitute is then more marked.

Even if it is possible to ejaculate by simple visual excitement, even before the massage begins.

Suffering from premature ejaculation, some sometimes ejaculate during a traditional massage, just by being touched. And yet there was no assertive sexual dimension.

The Limit of Erotic Massage: a World of Fantasies We recall ! The liveliness of the child who discovers experiences without projection or analysis, who runs in the sun with the naked body in its pure spontaneity: what an inexhaustible source of energy and vivacity!

However, the freedom to be oneself remains locked in by prohibitions, channeled by taboos.

The child must learn to stimulate his mind in order to create a place for himself in society.

The more he grows, the more the child is cut off from his essence. He puts on masks, necessary for life in society to be accepted by others. This cutoff from the basic human essence strengthens the ego.

The company pushes to build strong egos to learn to live alone, to produce and to increase consumption in all its forms.

The relationship with the other then comes down to the single question: what does he bring to me?

It is essentially limited to a specific moment whose essential function is to evacuate stress by trying to satisfy fantasies.

These have their roots in the tension of a “liberated” sex but which: ● ● ● ●

is not free is still prohibited stimulated by pornography polluted by the glut of ubiquitous erotic images.

We come to the point that the true love quest becomes perilous because it makes us vulnerable . However, vulnerability in a world where everything goes very quickly is a weakness.

To hide this vulnerability, the carnal is constantly stimulated, moving the being a little further away from any experience of Love.

The erotic massage that targets only the carnal appears the solution to this disaster.

But When is it the Next Day? What About the Soul?

In this duality of body and mind, of the carnal and the emotional, erotic massage was only concerned with the body.

How to access a total erotic experience , that is to say encompassing the being in its entirety, embracing even its spiritual dimension to find this amorous bliss?

There is very little chance that it will be through erotic massage ! So now I have a tantric massage.

Affectionate sensual couple making love. They are sitting face to face and embracing each other. They are unrecognizable

Tantric Massage: The Quest for Ecstasy Like the musician, tending towards a state of plenitude or bliss through the channel of the most subtle sound experiences he creates, tantric massage seeks the same goal through the highest refinements of touch.

The sexual excitement is so powerful that it causes a wave of vibrations to the smallest cells of the being and makes the whole body-mind-soul network tremble.

The massé then frees himself from his thoughts, because the tantric massage builds this bridge which unites flesh, emotion and spirit.

The Erotic Dimension of Tantric Massage At first glance, tantric massage resembles an erotic massage since, by the sensuality of its approach, it focuses on the awakening of sexual energy.

But this erotic universe is only a springboard to dive into a much deeper universe, which will only be reached through total self-abandonment.

The appearance seems to bring the two messages closer together, but their meaning is radically different, I would say even opposite.

Indeed, unlike erotic massage , the body gathered in tantric massage does not undergo any separation.

Each part of the body is touched, massaged, enveloped.

The simple letting go that we discover in erotic massage only touches the sensual tantric universe which is, him centered on emptiness and nudity.

These are the two key words of tantric massage.

Tantric Massage is a Spiritual Practice Emptiness is emptiness: I am nothing, I am all parties. To dive into this void, you have to accept detachment from everything that binds me to the ego, that is to say my own identity.

We sometimes feel that there is a kind of barrier which hinders all experience: it is the barrier of thought which judges, which analyzes; one that prevents abandonment by all the fears it generates.

The ego, of course, can protect us from emotional suffering by preventing us from being vulnerable.

But it is the very vulnerability that plunges us into Love and the state of bliss.

If I am nothing, then anything is possible!

Each sensation will release an emotion that will be experienced in an available and receptive body. It will be experienced in all its intensity.

The emptiness can create space for the subtle energy. It is this which will animate desire and guide it towards the infinite pleasure in which the soul rises to Love.

This created space changes our state of consciousness and plunges us into an experience so strong that we can call it ecstatic .

Beyond Eroticism, Nudity Leads to the Primordial Why be Naked in a Tantric Massage ?

Because nudity is deeply linked to the search for emptiness. Detaching ourselves from our identity is essential to allow the being to fully live the experience.

Thus, the space created in the body is that which one seeks to create in the mind . Body nudity expresses and symbolizes emotional and psychic nakedness .

We drop the masks! No seduction is exerted on each other. No role play is undertaken towards each other.

Far from a desire to show off your naked body to the gaze or lust of others, being naked means returning to the primordial state.

This in order to immerse oneself in the source, to cross the bank which separates control from abandonment, the gross real from the subtle energy, the primitive from the primordial.

Masseur and masseur must dive into this emptiness , stripped of everything, naked.

The Importance of the Massage Therapist Relationship The sacred dimension of pleasure comes from the quality that it confers on the relationship with the other, a connection as much of the flesh as of the soul.

Massage is the medium to convey tantric practice. But the experience goes beyond just touching .

Masseur and massaged, stripped, naked must plunge into this emptiness and create the space so that the energy circulates from one to the other.

The only difference that remains between them is that the masseur guides and that the masseur lets himself be guided.

The masseur's nudity is then essential since it marks the masseur's willingness to dive together with the masseur in the experience.

There is no duality.

Only the emptiness and the nudity of the two protagonists can lead to a real tantric experience. This is where the practice differs from any massage, traditional or erotic.

Masseur and masseur are deeply committed on a common path.

The choice of masseur is therefore very important.

Not only will he have to master the art of touch , but above all he will have to be able to guide the massé towards the abandonment of himself and towards the opening of the heart .

His gift of self and his ability to spread unconditional Love is his mark.

Tantric Massage is Part of an Approach The massage leads to discovering the tantric experience as the relationship of trust is forged between masseur and massé.

Only this allows the total abandonment essential to the tantric principle.

Because the abandonment of the body brings us to a vulnerable state , this state of vulnerability frightens us on a daily basis.

The vulnerability is a weakness, a real fragility. The door is open to all emotions, whether it is: ● ● ●

most intense caused by: the state of love Passion

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or on the contrary the most destructive, such as those generated by: ○ abandonment ○ the treason ○ jealousy ○ the rejection

The ego then suddenly regains all its strength in these wounds to lock up the vulnerable state and control its emotions.

And yet, the doors of vulnerability opened by tantric practice are indispensable.

This vulnerability is indeed the source that leads us to Love.

By its benevolent touch and the framework of serenity in which it is exercised, the tantric massage guides the massaged towards the state of vulnerability in order to live an infinite experience which will nourish him for days and days, even a long time after the session of massage.

I take this opportunity to emphasize that a single session only awakens the sensual and carnal dimension of the body, in a cocoon of great security.

Orgasm Without Ejaculation One of the most surprising and original facets of tantra : raising sexual energy to achieve altered states of consciousness.

The Tantra makes us aware of our original power and amplifies our vital energy.

In this practice, although the private parts are massaged, there is no finishing or ejaculation .

Detachment from the quest for orgasm opens a path to a much more intense and, one could say infinite form of pleasure!

A knowledge of tantric yoga , in particular by the breath, allows the sexual energy to be mobilized to raise the vibrations of the body and to live an experience of ecstasy.

But without opening the heart, without this state of emptiness and nudity , without this feeling of vulnerability , no performance of retention or sexual mastery will lead to this experience of ecstasy.

The Question is not Whether or not to Ejaculate.

It is to go deep into vulnerability .

Thus, we can feel that ejaculatory pleasure has no place in the tantric process. Indeed, he would break the union formed between the two people, in order to walk on the loving path that has opened.

The ephemeral ejaculatory pleasure would be experienced as a violent throwback to erotic fantasies and their prison. A return to erotic massage !

The tantric massage means reuniting body and spirit, carnal and emotional to become only with itself but also with everything that surrounds us.

The Tantra is unity. So here we are, far from the fantasies of sex that the notion of tantric massage often arouses !

Conclusion on the Differences Between Tantric Massage and Erotic Massage In a whirlwind of events, the practice of well-being massage is a bubble out of time, where we learn to put body and mind in order to feel that there is a universe to explore behind all these material and social constructions.

Eroticism offers a bubble that allows us to experience pleasure in all its forms, without feeling guilty.

Tantra is a journey towards our essence, with the will to gradually dissolve the ego and its devouring possessiveness to find oneself, to dive into a source called Love.