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Photographer and mother Yumi Matsuo on crafting her child’s room to meet them where they are, and where they’re going
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May in Motion, NY Style
May always feels like a turning point. The days are now warmer (Yay!). We’re leaning more into summer planning, and some of us have big questions about how our kids are growing and what they need next.
This month, we’re looking closely at spaces and finding what works for our family.
We step into a bright story with our May cover with photographer and mother Yumi Matsuo (page 34), who, along with design firm Knock Twice, crafted a room for her daughter that is not fixed in one moment but built to evolve. It is a space that meets her child where she is today and where she is heading next.
If you have a highly sensitive child, turn to page 12 for supportive strategies to better understand them and practical tips
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for handling the tougher moments. We also chatted with an expert about what many parents quietly carry: measuring motherhood against an impossible standard (page 32)?
Summer is SO near, and we share some fun specialty camps and summer programs (page 22) as well as top preschools and Montessori schools (page 26).
For families staying close to the city, we also round up the best zoos near NYC (page 18) and, as always, our calendar of familyfriendly events happening this month. And in honor of American 250, we bring history into the present with a walking tour (page 38) that brings the Revolution to life for families today.
Happy May, and to all who celebrate, Happy Mother’s Day!
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Tips for Setting Boundaries as Moms
How to say no without guilt
BY SOE KABBABE
Most moms don’t struggle with boundaries because they don’t care enough. They struggle because they care too much. We’re taught, explicitly or subtly, that good mothers are endlessly available. That putting ourselves last is just part of the job— the sweetest yet hardest job, as I like to call it. That saying yes equals love. But love shouldn’t mean losing yourself, right? Right.
Over time, those yeses pile up, and when they’re not aligned with what you actually have the capacity for, they turn into burnout. Setting boundaries as a mom means recognizing that your limits matter, even when they’re inconvenient.
The truth is, mothers aren’t just tired. We are bone tired. The kind of tired that sleep
doesn’t fix. Tired of making every decision, of anticipating everyone’s needs; of being the default: default parent, default planner, default problem-solver. And most of all, we’re tired of how invisible our own needs have become.
What Boundaries Really Are (and Aren’t) & the Power of Saying No
Let’s clear something up.
Boundaries Are:
A way to honor your needs
A form of emotional honesty
A model of self-respect for your kids
A path to more sustainable motherhood
Boundaries Are Not: Punishment Rejection
Lack of love
Failure as a mom
Boundaries don’t make you cold. They make it clear. One of the hardest parts of
boundaries for moms is saying no—especially when you could technically say yes. But “I can” doesn’t always mean “I should.” This is where, if we were to put it in more psychological terms, we need to “reparent” ourselves to practice simple, loving no’s. You don’t need a long explanation. You don’t need to justify your exhaustion. Just be clear on your wants and needs, and be gentle to yourself and to others. When you stop over-explaining, you teach everyone, and yourself, that your needs are valid.
The trick (albeit a tricky one if we’re not used to saying no) is to check in with yourself before you commit. Ask yourself, “Do I actually want to do this”? “Do I have the energy for this today”? “Will saying yes lead to resentment later”? Before you say yes, pause. This moment of mindfulness can change everything. It isn’t selfishness. It’s self-awareness.
Mindfulness for moms doesn’t have to mean meditation or silence. Sometimes it’s
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just noticing the tight feeling in your chest when you agree to something you don’t want. Just as in dating or business, that feeling is information.
Setting Boundaries with Your Kids
Many moms worry that boundaries will hurt their children. In reality, boundaries make kids feel safer. They show kids what’s okay and what’s not; how to respect others’ limits, and that adults have needs too. I made the mistake of prioritizing my kids’ wants and requests over mine on an everyday basis, and it’s precisely in those mundane chores where gentle boundaries matter the most!
A calm but firm “I can help you after I finish my coffee” or “I’m not available for play right now, but I will be later,” is a life lesson that both mothers and children need to learn. You’re not ignoring your child’s feelings—you’re holding space for them without abandoning yourself.
Boundaries for moms aren’t walls— they’re bridges. They connect you back to your needs, your body, and your sense of self. In fact, limits make you a better mom! When
you protect your energy, you become more patient and less reactive, and when you feel grounded, your whole family benefits. In a nutshell, it’s self-care that goes beyond bubble baths or quiet mornings. For many moms, it starts with boundaries. You can’t rest if you’re constantly on call. You can’t recharge or, yeah, reassess your thoughts, feelings, and goals, if you’re always available.
The Guilt Will Show Up. Let It Pass Anyway
Guilt often appears when you start setting boundaries. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means you’re doing something new. As moms, what helps is simply reminding yourself that boundaries are healthy (just as you tell your kids broccoli is a magical little tree that makes them grow). Fake it until you make it!
Don’t let that feeling of guilt take you down the burnout route once again. Remember, your kids are watching how you treat yourself—they learn how to set boundaries by watching you set yours.
Small Steps to Start Setting Boundaries Today
You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight, fellow mom. Start small. When you set boundaries, you’re choosing longterm well-being over short-term approval. Make the promise to be true to yourself and your needs and say no to one thing you don’t want to do.
Today, try saying this out loud:
“That doesn’t work for me.”
“I’m going to pass this time.”
“I need rest right now.”
“Can you please unload the dishwasher tonight”?
“Mommy needs ‘alone time’ to recharge.”
“Not right now.”
If these statements still feel too foreign to you, take a five-minute pause before responding to a request. Ask for help instead of pushing through (ask exactly for what YOU need, even if it feels uncomfortable). Take a pause, stay quiet, breathe. Boundaries are built through repetition, not perfection, as with any other good habit you’re trying to build into your routine. You got this!
Parenting Strategies for Highly Sensitive Children
BY SOE KABBABE
If your child cries at loud birthday parties, melts down after school, notices every subtle shift in your mood, or asks big questions that seem far beyond their years, you may be parenting a highly sensitive child. If you are, you’ve likely heard that “they’ll toughen up” at some point. But here’s what many parents quietly discover: highly sensitive children don’t need to toughen up. They need to be understood.
In general, children are thought to have a more sensitive nervous system. That sensitivity isn’t a flaw; it’s a temperament trait. These kids often feel deeply, think deeply, and process the world in a richly layered way. The challenge is that their nervous systems can become overwhelmed more easily.
Parenting highly sensitive children requires patience. It’s less about fixing behavior and more about building regulation skills— gently, consistently, and with respect for how their brains are wired.
Before diving into strategies, it helps to clarify what high sensitivity is and what it isn’t. A highly sensitive child may:
• Be deeply empathetic and emotionally intuitive
• React strongly to loud sounds, scratchy clothing, or crowded spaces like airports or public events
• Need extra time to warm up in new environments
• Feel hurt by criticism more intensely than peers
• Struggle after long school days due to sensory overload
• Notice subtle details others miss, especially when it comes to emotional reactions or mannerisms
This isn’t the same as anxiety, though the two can overlap. Highly sensitive children have nervous systems that process things and feelings more thoroughly. That depth is often a gift, but it requires skillful support. The goal, as parents, isn’t to eliminate sensitivity from their personality. It’s to teach your child how to live comfortably inside it.
Strategies to Help Highly Sensitive Children Build Resilience
Validate First, Problem-Solve Second . When your child is overwhelmed, your instinct may be to reason with them. But logic doesn’t land when the nervous system is overwhelmed. So, start with validation: “That was really loud in there;” “It makes sense that your feelings got
hurt”; “You had a big day. Your body looks tired.” Perhaps my personal favorite, and one that I use often with my daughter: “It’s okay; you are just tired and overstimulated”.
Validation doesn’t mean you agree with every reaction. It means you acknowledge the experience. Once your child feels understood, their nervous system begins to settle, and then problem-solving becomes possible.
Create Predictable Transitions for Highly Sensitive Children . Highly sensitive children struggle most with sudden shifts like leaving the house, ending screen time, walking into a new classroom, or meeting new people. Transitions may be hard for them, so the best approach would be to build some predictability: give 10-minute and 5-minute warnings; use visual schedules for younger kids (we have a fridge calendar and a household chore list, so my kids are aware of what needs to be done), or rely on small rituals, like a goodbye hug routine or quick breathwork when you wait for the school bus.
Build a “Decompression Ritual” After School
Many sensitive children appear “fine” all day and then unravel at home. This isn’t manipulation, it’s a nervous system release in their safest space. Instead of jumping straight into homework or questions, offer decompression—quiet time alone in their room; a snack in silence; a bath or shower; reading under a blanket or time with headphones and calming music.
Think of it as an emotional pressure
release. The more regulated they feel at home, the more resilient they become outside it.
Teach Emotional Vocabulary Early. Highly sensitive children feel deeply but may not yet have the language to describe what’s happening internally. Help them build it!
“That sounds like disappointment;” “is that frustration or embarrassment?”; “does your body feel buzzy or heavy right now?.”
When children can name feelings, they are less controlled by them. Emotional literacy is one of the most protective skills you can offer. This can also apply to parents, but that’s a topic for another time!
Model Regulation Yourself. This may be the hardest one. Highly sensitive children are exquisitely attuned to parental tone, facial expression, and stress levels. They often absorb your emotional state before you speak. As a parent, I can assure you it’s been one of the hardest lessons motherhood has taught me, and perhaps one I haven’t mastered yet, but as with everything kids-related, we learn as we go.
When you say, “I’m feeling frustrated, so I’m going to take a few breaths,” you normalize regulation. When you apologize for snapping, you teach repair. Cliche but leading by example is the way to start!
Body-Based Regulation Tools . Coping skills should be practiced when your child is calm, not only during meltdowns. Just as moms need sensory techniques to calm their nervous system, kiddos do so as well. Teach them to slow breath—my daughter and I have this “game” that helps her regulate her emotions: “smell the flowers” and “blow the birthday candle” (as in, inhale and exhale for several times). You can also give them a small sensory object (smooth stone, fidget, soft fabric). Anything to help them stop and focus.
When to Seek Expert Support for Highly Sensitive Children
High sensitivity is not a diagnosis. However, there are times when additional support is important. Sometimes a few sessions focused on coping skills can make an enormous difference. Consider consulting a pediatrician,
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• Avoids school consistently due to distress
• Experiences panic attacks or severe anxiety
• Has persistent sleep disturbances
• Struggles to maintain friendships
• Shows signs of depression (withdrawal, hopelessness, loss of interest)
• Has frequent meltdowns that interfere significantly with daily life
Parenting a highly sensitive child can feel intense in the early years. You may worry whether the world will be too harsh, too loud, too fast. But many sensitive children grow into deeply compassionate adults. They become thoughtful leaders, creative thinkers, loyal friends, and intuitive partners.
Your role is not to toughen them. It’s to help them understand their wiring and build tools to navigate it. That means patience on hard days or boundaries when needed. Remember, you’re not raising a fragile child, but a perceptive one, and with the right support, that perception can become one of their greatest gifts!
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Think You’re Too Young for Menopause?
BY DANIELLE RAMOS
Afew years ago, I went with a friend to the pharmacy after we dropped off our middle schoolers. Staring at the pregnancy tests, I could feel her nerves. At age 42, she hadn’t been pregnant in more than a decade and thought her days of raising babies were over for good, but not having had a period in eight weeks could only mean one thing. The test was negative, so she bought another a few days later, which was also negative. Then a trip to her doctor brought her news she simply was not ready to hear.
“ ‘You may be menopausal.’ That’s what my doctor told me, and I thought she was surely joking,” she told me later that week. “I’m young. My period has always been like clockwork, and I feel fine.”
My friend’s doctor was right, and her period never returned. To make things more confusing, one of the moms in our circle was unexpectedly pregnant at 46. We all spent a lot of time outside the school that year talking about how entirely strange fertility can be, and how just when you think you know what to expect from your body, you can easily get a surprise in more ways than one.
Average Age of Menopause
According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), the average age in the United States is 51, but menopause can occur between 40 and 60. It happens when your ovaries stop making estrogen, your periods stop, and your body moves out of its reproductive years. When this happens between 40 and 45, it’s considered early menopause, and before age 40, it’s known as premature menopause.
According to Yale Medicine, approxiamtely 5% of women experience early menopause, and about 1% of women go through premature menopause, which can happen in their 30s and in some rare cases, even earlier.
“There are certain genetic reasons and autoimmune conditions that can lead to early or premature menopause, but sometimes we never really quite know why it happens,” says
Causes of Early and Premature Menopause
Possible causes include
• Autoimmune disease
• Chemotherapy treatment
• Hysterectomy (which sends a woman into instant menopause)
• Smoking
• Genetic component
• History in the family
There isn’t a single test that definitively diagnoses menopause. Instead, doctors officially diagnose it after you’ve gone 12 straight months without a period. The stretch of time leading up to that point, when symptoms start popping up and cycles become unpredictable, is called perimenopause. It can last a few months or stretch out for years, with most people spending about four years in this transition.
Still, it’s a good idea to have certain hormones tested at your annual visit. The Mayo Clinic recommends that women test folliclestimulating hormone, estrogen, and thyroidstimulating hormone. Follicle-stimulating hormone levels increase and estradiol levels decrease as menopause occurs, while an underactive thyroid (hypothyroidism) can cause similar symptoms.
Signs and Symptoms
Signs and symptoms that you may be headed
toward menopause include:
• Irregular periods (very heavy, longer, or shorter than usual)
• Vaginal dryness
• Hot flashes
• Night sweats
• Sleep problems
• Mood changes
• Stubborn weight gain
The vast majority of women report symptoms, and up to 70 percent of women experience hot flashes for years, but there are those who do not. Some women experience no symptoms other than the absence of a monthly period. Others can have unusual symptoms like urgent and painful urination, brain fog, shoulder pain, bone and muscle aches, and dry skin.
“I felt fine throughout,” my friend recently told me. She has not had a period in three years and is considered post-menopausal now. “Once I knew I wasn’t pregnant and got over the shock of what was happening, I was actually relieved. I didn’t have any debilitating symptoms, and I honestly don’t miss my period at all!”
If your periods are changing or you’re noticing symptoms that could point to menopause, look for a gynecologist who specializes in hormone testing and menopause care, bring a list of questions, and get clear answers. You’ll feel so much better knowing what’s actually going on instead of wondering.
Hugh Taylor, MD, chair of Yale Medicine Obstetrics, Gynecology & Reproductive Sciences.
Best Zoos Near NYC for Families
BY DANIELLE RAMOS
Spend a day with your family discovering zoos throughout New York City, Long Island, Westchester, Orange County, and Fairfield. These destinations offer a chance to see a wide range of exotic and native animals, and are perfect for little (and big) animal lovers. There is nothing quite like being close to animals and watching them in person. Many locations also offer interactive experiences like animal feedings, touch tanks, and children’s areas, perfect for a fun, hands-on day with the kids.
Whether you’re staying local or turning it into a mini day trip, these zoos make for the kind of outing everyone can get excited about!
Best Zoos in Manhattan Central Park Zoo
64th Street and Fifth Avenue, Central Park (212) 439-6500
Closest subway stops: N, R, W at 5th Avenue59th Street station
Stop by the iconic Central Park Zoo to see its famous sea lions, visit the grizzly bears or the snow leopards, and be amazed by several types of penguins. The zoo also hosts community events, has a Children’s Zoo perfect for little ones, and offers programming that is sure to get kids excited about animals, nature, and protecting both.
Best Zoos in the Bronx Bronx Zoo
2300 Southern Blvd, Bronx (718) 220-5100
Closest subway stops: 2 and 5 – Bronx Park East station
Recommended ages: All ages
The Bronx Zoo is the Wildlife Conservation Society’s flagship zoo. Explore more than 265 acres and meet more than 8,000 animals, including gorillas in the Congo Gorilla Forest exhibit, lions and tigers, giraffes, the animals of North America, and so many more. The Bug Carousel, nature trek, and up-close-and-personal Wild
Encounters are open, too, which will help you and the kids maximize your day at this famous zoo.
Best Zoos in Brooklyn
Prospect Park Zoo
450 Flatbush Ave., Prospect Heights (718) 399-7339
Closest subway stops: B, Q, S – Prospect Park station
Recommended ages: All ages
Some of Prospect Park Zoo’s coolest animal inhabitants include sea lions, dingoes, emus, and the fluffy Pallas Cat. Take a winding walk along the Discovery Trail to visit red pandas and tufted deer, or visit the zoo’s smallest species in the Hall of Animals. The zoo’s barn and garden are the perfect places for little ones to explore, too!
Best Zoos in Queens
Alley Pond Environmental Center
229-10 Northern Blvd, Queens (718) 229-4000
Closest bus stop: Q 12: Northern Blvd/Morgan St; Douglaston Station on the Long Island Rail Road (LIRR)
Alley Pond is dedicated to educating kids (and parents!) about animals, open spaces, and waterbodies, and to protecting and preserving nature. Some of the Animal Ambassadors you can visit include rabbits, chinchillas, turtles, snakes, and birds. APEC hosts a variety of programming for kids, including the Summer SENSES science exploration program and other summer camp sessions, holiday-themed weekend programming, and the Vet Tech 101 program. And, you can always explore the center’s beautiful trails, too.
Queens Zoo
53-51 111th St, Corona (718) 271-1500
Closest subway stops: 7: 111th St
If you’re looking for a family-friendly zoo in New York, the Queens Zoo is such a lovely place to spend the day because it’s full of friendly animals, walking trails, and peaceful spots to explore at your own pace. Besides being home to a wide variety of wildlife— from alligators, to mountain lions, to Andean bears—that visitors can view at their leisure, the zoo also offers a walk-through aviary, an animal trail, and several very cool domestic animals such as Flemish great rabbits and Texas longhorns! Several educational programs are available for kids, including wildlife school, professional development programs, and school break programs. Visit the zoo’s website to learn more.
Best Zoos in Staten Island Staten Island Zoo
614 Broadway, Staten Island (718) 442-3101
The Staten Island Zoo has everything kids could want in a zoo, including a children’s center, horse barn, the Honey Bee Apiary, an exhibit that showcases cuddly otters, a reptile wing, and several dinosaur sculptures!
Best Zoos in Long Island Suffolk County Farm and Education Center
350 Yaphank Ave, Yaphank (631) 852-4600
Suffolk County Farm is open every day, weather permitting. The kids can meet countless farm animals, including horses, sheep, and cows, and can participate in programming such as winter wildlife clinics and winter adventures. Follow the farm’s Facebook and Instagram pages for updates on the animals.
Long Island Game Farm Wildlife and Children’s Zoo
489 Chapman Blvd, Manorville (631) 878-6644
The Long Island Game Farm is home to zebras, giraffes, alpacas, donkeys, wild mustangs, African serval cats, emus, wallabies, lemurs, alligators, foxes, and more!
Best Zoos in Westchester County Muscoot Farm
51 Route 100, Katonah (914) 864-7286
Muscoot has more than 50 animals to visit, including donkeys, cows, horses, goats,
chickens, and turkeys, and several historic buildings that make it a quaint and familyfriendly place to explore. There are more than six miles of trails to hike with the kids, several programs for kids in the summer and winter, and awesome maple sugaring events happening safely and soon.
The Wolf Conservation Center
7 Buck Run, South Salem (914) 763-2373
The Wolf Conservation Center is committed to protecting, celebrating, and educating people about wolves. Ambassador Wolves Silas and Nikai teach people not to fear wolves; beyond the Ambassadors, guests can visit red wolves and Mexican gray wolves. Special programming includes a summer wolf camp for kids, the Sleeping with Wolves overnight program, and several virtual opportunities to meet the wolves.
Best Zoos in Orange County
Hudson Highlands Nature Museum
Outdoor Discovery Center: 120 Muser Drive (across from 174 Angola Road), Cornwall (845) 534-5506
Wildlife Education Center: 25 Boulevard, Cornwall-on-Hudson (845) 534-7781
The Hudson Highlands Nature Museum’s mission is to help kids become responsible caretakers of the natural world through educational programming, several places to play, and miles of hiking trails. Visit the Grasshopper Grove in the spring, summer, and fall, explore the expansive grounds, or download a trail map and hike one of the two stroller-
accessible trails or into Black Rock Forest. Maple sugaring events are also happening this spring—visit the website for details.
Best Zoos in Fairfield County, CT Connecticut’s Beardsley Zoo 1875 Noble Ave, Bridgeport (203) 394-6565
Located just outside NYC, Beardsley Zoo is the perfect choice for a short zoo visit, full of rare animals and easy to reach. Many exotic and fantastic animals call the Beardsley Zoo home. From rare Amur leopards and tigers to maned and Mexican wolves, your kids are sure to find an animal they’ll fall in love with.
The zoo also offers Zoo Patrol programming for kids, plenty of virtual educational events, birthday parties, and scavenger hunts. Keep an eye out for the peacocks who roam freely around the zoo grounds!
Zoo Live Streams
Bring the zoo to you with these experiences!
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The Bronx Zoo, New York Aquarium, Central Park Zoo, Queens Zoo, and Prospect Park Zoo are sharing animal content like videos, virtual learning, and Instagram stories, featuring animals to bring the zoo to you. Visit this page to stay updated.
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Uti-kaZoo: Utica Zoo Kid’s Academy—Learn about alligators, crocodiles, Waylon, and more through videos and activities.
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The Kids’ Corner offers videos and fun printouts, games, quizzes, and more
The Benefits of a Specialty Camp
BY ZLATA FAERMAN
As summer approaches, both parents and kids begin thinking about how to spend those long, sunny days. For many families, summer camp offers the perfect opportunity for children to explore new interests, build friendships, and grow in confidence.
So, for parents who are considering camp, the big question becomes: Which type is the right fit? Will you choose a day camp that offers a varied program of outdoorsy fun like swimming, sports, hiking, games, and arts and crafts, or a sleepaway camp? Or is this the summer for a specialty camp or two?
What are specialty camps?
Some specialty camps are intended for a specific group of kids—such as those with rare skin conditions, campers with cancer, gifted
and talented children, at-risk youth, kids with certain health conditions, or individuals with intellectual or physical disabilities. There are also specialty camps for children who want to focus on a particular interest and learn to master a skill, like a specific sport (tennis, soccer, baseball, and more), STEAM, dance, art, academics, and pretty much anything your child shows an interest in.
There are also specialty camps for kids who want to travel—either to experience different cultures or to pursue a passion. For example, there are camps in Costa Rica where campers help save sea turtles.
No matter what your children’s interests are, there is likely a specialty camp out there for them.
The Benefits of a Specialty Camp Specialty camps allow children (and their parents) to come together around a
mutual interest and give kids the chance to meet others with the same passion. These relationships foster a sense of community and encourage kids’ growth and confidence.
Specialty camps provide an opportunity for children to focus deeply on one interest for a short period of time, allowing them to build skills and make meaningful progress.
These camps are also often shorter (one week as opposed to several), which means they can fill in the gaps between other summer plans like traditional day camp, sleepaway camp, or a family vacation.
For families navigating the many camp options available, combining different types of experiences can offer a well-rounded summer. A mix of traditional and specialty programming allows children to explore broadly while also investing time in what excites them most, creating a summer that feels both enriching and memorable.
SPECIALTY CAMPS & SUMMER PROGRAMS
Summer is near, and you may still be figuring out camp, which is why a speciality camp is a great consideration. How these camps work is they are crafted around what your kid is into, such as sports, STEM, arts, creativity, movement, and everything in between. Specialty camps give them space to build confidence, and connect with kids who are on their wavelength. Campers get all the summer essentials like structure and new friendships, but with way more purpose. Less one-size-fits-all, more “this feels like me.”
We’ve rounded up a list of these camps and standout summer programs that are worth a look. Because the best summers are about being meaningful and fun!
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Art Lab
1000 Richmond Terrace, Staten Island, NY 10301 718-447-8667, info@artlabsi.org artlabsi.com
Located on the grounds of Snug Harbor Cultural Center, Art Lab’s Camp Picasso and Camp Kandinsky are led by professional teaching artists in a relaxed, friendly art studio environment. Campers enjoy hands-on art activities in drawing, painting, sculpture, collage, and more, creating exciting take-home artwork. Children explore the grounds of Snug Harbor during snack and lunch times, where they have time to socialize and play. Sessions run all summer long, starting June 29 with Special Week and ending Encore Week on September 4. Full and half days available three days a week for children ages 6-12, and two days a week for ages 3-5. Multiple session discounts available. Find yourself at Art Lab this Summer!
Summer Sports at the J 1466 Manor Road, Staten Island, NY 10314 718-475-5200, eabi@sijcc.com, aquatics@sijcc.com sijcc.org/summersports
At the JCC’s “Summer Sports at the J” programs, kids stay active, learn sports skills, and make new friends. Start the day with Morning Splash Club and enjoy outdoor swim lessons for kids ages 6-12 or sign up for Summer Sports Academy for a full day of basketball or flag football drills for kids ages 6-14. Swimmers can extend their day at the JCC with an afternoon of sports. New for 2026, the JCC also offers a Summer Soccer & STEAM Clinic by Soccer Stars for children ages 3-14. All Summer Sports at the J participants enjoy daily time in the pool. The programs offer flexible scheduling options and instruction for kids at all skill levels.
Staten Island Skating Pavilion Learn to Skate & Learn to Play Hockey Summer Camp
3080 Arthur Kill Road, SI NY 10309 718-948-4800, skateschool@thepavilion.org thepavilion.org/learntoskatesummercamp
The Staten Island Skating Pavilion Learn to Skate / Learn to Play Hockey Summer Camp offers a fun, active, and enriching experience designed for young skaters ages 4–7. Campers enjoy daily on-ice instruction with experienced skating and hockey coaches, helping build confidence, coordination, and foundational skills in a supportive environment. Each day also includes off-ice activities such as movement, stretching, and engaging obstacle courses that promote agility and balance. Creative weekly themes add excitement and keep children engaged. The program fosters physical development, teamwork, and perseverance, making it an ideal introduction to skating and hockey while providing a memorable and rewarding summer experience.
Wagner College Lifelong Learning
631 Howard Avenue, Staten Island, New York 10301 718-390-3221, lifelong-learning@wagner.edu wagner.edu/lifelong-learning/youth-programs/ It’s time for summer camp fun! Wagner College Lifelong Learning has a great lineup of camps and specialty programs for kids and teens on campus this summer atop the beautiful Grymes Hill. Specialized camps for children and teens include performing arts production of Alice in Wonderland, LEGO robotics, video game design, Roblox, Minecraft, action movie and Pokemon flix, RPG role play games, space adventure at the Planetarium, chess, art, and more! The programs are designed to harness passion and encourage imagination while learning and having fun.
United Activities Unlimited Summer Camp College of Staten Island, 2800 Victory Blvd, Staten Island, NY 10314
929-556-2630, summercamp@unitedactivities.org uausummercamps.org/united-activities-unlimited-summercamp-at-csi-2026/
Ready for the island’s ultimate summer camp experience? Centrally located at the College of Staten Island, fully air-conditioned with access to collegiate fields and gyms and so much more. UAU has been serving Staten Island for over 30 years; it’s time to experience what summer camp should be. Sports, arts & crafts, food truck visits, carnivals and so much more, and the best part – it’s at a price that you can actually afford! Join an open house and see for yourself. Doesn’t your child deserve to have a great summer?
YMCA of Greater New York Summer Day Camps 20+ Locations Across All 5 Boroughs in NYC 212-630-9720, rho@ymcanyc.org ymcanyc.org/camp
Awesome starts here at Y Summer Camp! Every kid finds a summer designed for them, and friends and memories are made every day. The Y is a playground for imagination, adventure, and learning new things. The Y’s expert counselors help unlock the awesome inside every kid. Sessions are filling up fast! Register today!
Baby Names Inspired by Astrology
BY SOE KABBABE
Whether you’re a devoted horoscope reader or simply love the personality clues astrology offers, choosing a zodiac baby name adds a little cosmic magic to your child’s story. From fiery Aries leaders to dreamy Pisces creatives, every sun sign carries distinct traits—and we’ve paired each with names that reflect its energy, symbolism, and celestial roots.
Aries-Inspired Baby Names
People under the sign of Aries are bold, fearless, energetic, and natural leaders. Aries babies are known for their confidence, courage, and trailblazing spirit. They tend to be independent, passionate, and never afraid to take the lead.
• Blaze
• Scarlett
• Phoenix
• Leo
• Ember
Taurus-Inspired Baby Names
Rounded, loyal, sensory-loving, and strong-
willed people. Taurus babies often crave comfort and stability. They’re dependable, affectionate, and deeply connected to beauty, nature, and the senses.
• Flora
• Jasper
• Ivy
• Rowan
• Rose
Gemini-Inspired Baby Names
Curious, social, expressive, and quickwitted—Gemini babies are chatterboxes in the making. They’re bright, adaptable, and naturally communicative, often showing early signs of creativity and curiosity.
• Aria
• Felix
• Luna
• Milo
• Nova
Cancer-Inspired Baby Names
They’re nurturing, intuitive, protective, and emotional. Cancer babies are sensitive souls with big hearts. Deeply attached to family, they often show strong empathy and
imagination from a young age.
• Pearl
• River
• Julian
• Marina
• Noah
Leo-Inspired Baby Names
Confident, creative, magnetic, and warm—
Leo people love the spotlight, and they tend to shine naturally. They’re expressive, dramatic (in the best way), and often command attention with their charm and bold personalities.
• Aurora
• Atlas
• Soleil
• Zara
• Maximus
Virgo-Inspired Baby Names
Virgo babies tend to be observant and quietly intelligent. They often show early independence and a love for routines, as a result, they’re very detail-oriented, analytical, and organized.
• Clara
• Theo
• Eliza
• Felix
• Wren
Libra-Inspired Baby Names
Libra babies thrive on harmony. They’re social, graceful, and often drawn to beauty, art, and fairness. Their personalities are often balanced—very charming, yet diplomatic and tactful.
• Valentina
• Juliet
• Adrian
• Celeste
• Roman
Scorpio-Inspired Baby Names
One of the most determined, passionate, and intense people. Scorpio babies may be quiet observers at first, but they feel everything deeply. They’re strong-willed, magnetic, and fiercely loyal.
• Raven
• Sebastian
• Lilith
• Orion
• Seraphina
Sagittarius-Inspired Baby Names
Adventurous, optimistic, independent, and philosophical—that’s Saggy in a nutshell! Sagittarius babies are explorers at heart. Curious and spirited, they often grow into big thinkers and free spirits.
• Atlas
• Skye
• Sage
• Archer
• Juno
Capricorn-Inspired Baby Names
Capricorn babies can seem wise beyond their years. They’re determined, practical, and quietly driven. Ambitious, responsible, mature, and steady, Cappy kiddos are the epitome of old souls in a kid’s body!
• August
• Eleanor
• Everett
• Margot
• Holden
Aquarius-Inspired Baby Names
Aquarius babies are original thinkers and tend to be innovative, independent, visionary, and unique in their ideas and way of living. They often grow into creative, humanitarianminded individuals who march to their own beat.
• Indigo
• Jasper
• Lyra
• Atlas
• Winter
Pisces-Inspired Baby Names
Pisces babies are imaginative and emotionally aware. They’re often creative spirits with strong empathy and gentle personalities. A mix of compassionate, artistic, and intuitive traits—unlike Cancer, who’s very emotional; Pisces is more about the inner mind, the potential or idea of, and dreams.
• Ocean
• Iris
• Caspian
• Willow
• Aurora
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Preschools & Montessori Schools
Thinking about preschool? It’s a big move, and a really good one. For your little one, it’s the start of something exciting. For you… it’s maybe your first hot coffee in peace. From play-based programs to Montessori classrooms, New York preschools are full of energy, curiosity, and those magical “firsts.” These early years are about more than the ABCs, they also learn to socialize, share more while building confidence, strengthen their motor skills, and get comfortable in a structured, joyful environment. Think of it as their launchpad: one small, proud moment at a time. We’ve rounded up some of the top preschools and Montessori programs to help you find the right fit, for them and for you.
Catholic Charities of Staten Island - Tender Care Preschool
6581 Hylan Boulevard, Staten Island, New York 10309
718-317 2849, Lmazzo@cc-si.org cc-si.org/tender-care-preschool Tender Care Preschool offers an engaging early education experience that nurtures each child’s social, emotional, physical, and cognitive growth. It is a warm and welcoming environment for both children and their families. The preschool is dedicated to supporting children in areas where they need assistance while also providing challenges when they are ready to advance. At Tender Care Preschool, children become lifelong learners with a strong foundation who are wellprepared for their educational journey. It offers a full-day 2-yearold program and a free full-day 3- and 4-year-old program with extended hours.
Big Birds Play House 1859 Richmond Avenue, Staten Island NY 10314 718-982-0550, info@bigbirdsplayhouse.com bigbirdsplayhouse.com
Big Bird’s Playhouse has been serving parents in Staten Island since 1991, providing them with a safe environment where children feel loved, respected and safe in a place where kids learn, grow, and build a foundation for their future. Big Bird’s Playhouse believes that children can learn from play, stories and arts and crafts at their daily centers. Their staff is warm and caring, and sensitive to each child’s specific needs. The school serves children from 3 months to 12 years old. Pre-K and Pre-K3 are free full days of instruction for 6 hours 20 minutes; before and after care is available for a fee. Extended hours are available; open from 6:30am to 6:30pm.
JCC of Staten Island Early Childhood Education Center
Bernikow JCC: 1466 Manor Road
Avis/South Shore JCC: 1297 Arthur Kill Road Berman Early Childhood Education Center: 2221 Richmond Ave. JCC Early Childhood Center at Temple Israel: 10 Gregg Place 718-475-5100, dgallis@sijcc.com sijcc.org/ece
The JCC of Staten Island offers a daycare program and 3-K and Pre-K for All. Teachers create fun, hands-on learning opportunities that provide children with a strong educational foundation. The JCC offers flexible schedules at four convenient locations, including schools on the North Shore, South Shore, and Mid-Island. The JCC also offers First Foot Forward, a preschool program for children with disabilities. Extended hours and free lunch are available. Programs are staffed with caring and experienced professionals. Teachers are certified by the State Education Department of New York. The JCC is licensed by the Department of Health’s Bureau of Day Care.
Most Terrific Child Center
555 Tompkins Avenue, Staten Island, NY 10305
718-273-0334, mtcdaycare@yahoo.com mtcdaycare.com
Most Terrific Child Center, located in Rosebank, Staten Island, has proudly served the community since 2009. The center nurtures young minds through engaging, age-appropriate learning experiences that inspire curiosity and growth. Its certified professionals work closely with each child to support development in a caring environment. The center promotes open communication between families and staff, encouraging strong relationships and active parent involvement. They offer free PreK3 and Pre-K programs focused on early literacy, social skills, and structured play. Through hands-on activities and guided learning, children build a strong academic foundation. The curriculum supports emotional, cognitive, and physical growth, preparing students for kindergarten and fostering confident, independent learners ready for future success.
New Generation Learning Center and Daycare 389 Seaver Avenue, Staten Island, NY 10305 718-987-7596, newgenerationlearningcenter.com newgenerationlcsi@gmail.com
New Generation Daycare in Staten Island brings over 20 years of trusted childcare experience to families seeking quality, care, and connection. Thoughtfully designed for both children and parents, the center offers 24/7 live camera access, providing full transparency and peace of mind throughout the day. Children enjoy five fresh, homemade meals daily while learning through a strong, age-appropriate curriculum that supports social, emotional, and academic growth. Small classroom sizes ensure personalized attention and a warm, nurturing environment. With extended hours from 6:30 AM to 6:30 PM, the program fits busy family lifestyles. Now enrolling children ages 2–5 and summer camp participants, with infant care coming soon.
New Dorp Christian Academy
259 Rose Ave, Staten Island, NY 10306
718-351-4442, admissions@newdorpchristianacademy.com newdorpchristianacademy.com
New Dorp Christian Academy’s preschool program provides a nurturing, faith-centered environment where young learners grow academically, socially, and spiritually. Designed for children at an early stage of development, the program blends structured learning with creative play to build strong foundations in literacy, math, and critical thinking. Experienced, caring teachers guide each child with individualized attention, fostering confidence and curiosity. Daily activities include hands-on exploration, music, art, and outdoor play, all within a safe and supportive setting. With an emphasis on character development and Christian values, New Dorp Christian Academy prepares students not only for kindergarten, but for a lifelong love of learning and positive personal growth.
Prodigy Preschool at the Staten Island Skating Pavilion 3080 Arthur Kill Road 718-948-4800, lesleylawrence@thepavilion.org thepavilion.org/prodigypreschool
Prodigy Preschool provides a warm, engaging early childhood experience where learning, creativity, and movement come together. Designed for young learners, the program nurtures social, emotional, and cognitive growth through hands-on activities and structured play. A standout feature is the inclusion of free ice skating lessons during the preschool day, offering children a fun and unique opportunity to build confidence, coordination, and a love for physical activity. With experienced educators and a thoughtfully designed curriculum, Prodigy Preschool encourages independence, curiosity, and a strong foundation for future learning—creating a joyful, enriching environment where every child can thrive.
St. Clare Parochial School
151 Lindenwood Road, Staten Island New York 10308 718-984-7091, acontino@stclaresi.com school.stclaresi.com
St. Clare Parochial School offers a dynamic, faith-centered education rooted in Catholic values and academic excellence. Serving students from Pre-K 3 through 8th grade, our two-class-per-grade structure fosters a close-knit, supportive community. The curriculum includes science, technology, math, English language arts, and religious studies, forming both mind and spirit. Beyond the classroom, students enjoy a rich variety of opportunities in the arts and athletics, including music, art, physical education, basketball, track, swimming, cheerleading, and scouting programs for both boys and girls. Our Aftercare Program supports busy families, while the “Leader in Me” program develops confident, faith-guided student leaders prepared for high school success.
Staten Island Academy
715 Todt Hill Road, Staten Island, NY 10304
718-303-7853, rshaps@statenislandacademy.org statenislandacademy.org
Staten Island Academy’s PreK program provides a warm, joyful introduction to school where young children are known, supported, and inspired each day. In a small class size, teachers build meaningful connections and tailor instruction to each child’s pace and interests, helping them grow in confidence and independence. Children learn through engaging, hands-on experiences across art, music, science, technology, and sign language, encouraging creativity, communication, and curiosity. Set on a vibrant 13-acre campus, students have room to explore, play, and learn in thoughtfully designed spaces, including a dedicated PreK building with a secure, inviting playground that invites active discovery. Together, these experiences create a strong, joyful foundation for lifelong learning.
7 of the Best Dating Apps for Single Parents
and where to connect IRL, too
BY SOE KABBABE
Dating as a single parent can feel like navigating two full-time jobs at once. Between school pickups, work schedules, and bedtime routines, finding time—and the right people—to date isn’t always easy.
That’s where niche dating apps and platforms come in. Many single moms and dads prefer apps designed specifically for people raising kids. These communities prioritize meaningful relationships, flexible schedules, and people who understand the realities of parenting.
Today there are more dating apps for single parents than ever, including platforms that focus on serious relationships, parenting lifestyles, and even building community among solo parents.
Here’s a guide to the best dating apps for single parents, including platforms built just for parents and niche options that align with different lifestyles, plus where to meet people in real life if swiping isn’t your thing—because it’s never too late to give love another chance!
Dating Apps for Single Parents: Built Specifically with Parents in Mind Stir (stir.com)
Launched by Match Group, Stir is one of the fastest-growing dating apps built specifically for single parents. Because everyone on the app is either a parent or open to dating one— and filters and profile prompts are based on parenting status, family goals, and parenting life—conversations often start from a place of shared understanding.
PlayDate (goplaydate.com)
Created by a single mom, PlayDate focuses on helping parents find meaningful relationships while balancing real-life logistics, like integration with childcare planning tools. The app’s biggest strength is how it reflects real parenting life—schedules, babysitting, and all.
Even (avail Google apps)
Even is a newer dating platform designed specifically for single parents looking for relationships with others in similar life stages. The app emphasizes on compatibility and shared values; thoughtful matching, and a slower, more intentional dating experience
Dating Apps for Single Parents with Specific Lifestyles
Some single parents want to date within a specific lifestyle—whether that’s family goals, career alignment, or parenting philosophy.
Frolo (frolo.com)
Frolo blends single parent community, parenting styles, and dating into one platform. It’s especially helpful for parents who want to build connections before jumping into dating.
heybaby (avail Apple apps)
Heybaby is designed for people who want kids or already have them. Family life isn’t an afterthought—it’s central to the app. Which is why matches are done based on desire for children while featuring prompts about parenting approaches and values.
EliteSingles (elitesingles.com)
EliteSingles caters to professionals, including many single parents balancing jobs and family. Ideal for those parents who are looking for a full-committed, long-term relationship—users are typically over 30 and the algorithm matches based on personality
and career or family goals.
Dating Apps for Single Parents of Special Needs Kids
Special Hearts (facebook.com/ special.hearts)
Special Hearts is one of the only dating apps specifically designed for people with disabilities and parents of children with special needs. It’s inclusive of caregivers and special needs families, while focusing on empathy and understanding. It’s a very niche app, but the highly aligned user base makes it worth it!
Frolo (frolo.com)
Frolo also works well for parents of children with special needs because of its strong community features. For families with special needs kiddos, it builds support systems first while connecting with other parents—this allows them to go slow and transition into dating without rushing.
Skip the Apps: In-Person Meetups for Single Parents in NYC
Not every single parent wants to swipe. In New York City, many moms and dads are skipping dating apps altogether and choosing something that feels more natural: meeting in real life.
From stroller walks in Central Park to casual coffee meetups in Brooklyn, NYC offers a strong network of low-pressure spaces where single parents connect organically— often starting as friendships that move into something more.
Local Parenting Communities That Host Real-Life Meetups
Single Parent Resource CenterMidtown East, (singleparentusa.com) 228 E 45th St, 5th Floor
This long-standing NYC organization offers support services, workshops, and community-building opportunities for single parents. You can find parenting workshops and support groups; occasional in-person gatherings and networking events, and even resources for navigating single parent life in NYC.
Meetup Groups for Single Parents (meetup.com/singleparent)
Meetup is the ultimate place to find local gatherings near you. Regardless of what you’re looking for, there’s always a group waiting for you! Some events for single parents may include Central Park walks; Brooklyn Bridge Park outings; 80s or 90s Dance Nights, weekend brunch groups, and even coffee or tea over Zoom. These options help create repeat interactions— and that’s often where connection builds naturally. It focuses on real conversation and chemistry without the pressure of apps.
FA Qs: Dating apps for single parents
Are dating apps safe for single parents?
They can be as long as you follow these recommendations: don’t share your child’s personal information; keep routines and locations private; use reputable platforms with verified ID profiles, if possible. And take your time before meeting! Never rush a connection, especially if it seems too good to be true.
When should you introduce a partner to your kids?
Wait until the relationship is stable and serious. There’s no need to make it a priority until you fully know someone’s intentions.
If Apps and Meetups Aren’t Your Thing, NYC Is Your Playground… Literally!
Here’s the truth: in New York City, you don’t actually need an app—or even a formal meetup—to meet someone. Between parks, schools, classes, and neighborhood routines, you’re already surrounded by people living
How can single parents protect themselves and their kids while on dating apps?
Meet in public the first few times and make sure to tell a friend about your plans. Be upfront about having children, but never reveal more than necessary (this includes your kiddos’ names, ages, schools, routines, where do you live, etc. Many single parents also prefer to wait to exchange phone numbers or social media channels, too.). And lastly, look for partners who respect your priorities, boundaries, and listen to your instincts—you can never be too careful!
lives that look like yours.
For single parents, that means seeing the same faces regularly; building familiarity over time; forming friendships or connections that can evolve naturally. Sometimes, the best relationships start with something simple—like a conversation at the playground you go to every week.
How to Stop MEASURING Your MOTHERHOOD
In achievement-driven communities, parenting can feel like a performance. An expert explains the cost of constant comparison
BY DONNA DUARTE-LADD
There’s this pressure that many moms, at least the moms I know, feel the moment they start spending time in the outside world, especially in high-achievement cities like New York. It’s that subtle but constant question humming in the background: Am I a good mother?
It shows up early. The baby who cries more than the others. The feeling that your child is that baby on the plane. Or your little one is having their third meltdown, while it seems like every other child is chilling and sharing snacks and taking turns, as if no other kid has ever had a tantrum before. There is nothing wrong with any of this, but there can be a pull that comes with it. Then the pressure grows legs. Schedules fill up. Playdates become social currency. There are activities and milestones to meet, and the list starts to feel endless, and all this is being shared on WhatsApp after you have finished your long day.
If you are spiraling under that “Good Mother” pressure and invisible standards, you are not alone. I have been there and still have to catch myself when I am focusing on not being organized enough, not calm enough, or on how well my child behavesand adjusts. Because somewhere along the way, motherhood may quietly shift from being a relationship to being something that feels evaluated, and that is something we need to just say “I’m going to pass” on this pressure. So, how can we get back to not measuring ourselves and giving ourselves grace? We spoke with psychologist and executive coach Dr. Anne Welsh, author of the upcoming book Ambitious Mother, who says this quiet sense of being constantly measured is something she hears from mothers all the time.
-We, moms, raise our kids in a great city bit it is also a pretty high-achievement, at the park, education, how does this environment shape moms’ expectations of themselves?
It often leads mothers to believe they have to do and be everything, all at once. High-achievement environments tend to amplify perfectionism, not because moms are unrealistic or ungrateful, but because the bar feels impossibly high and constantly moving.
I see this show up with clients who are doing an extraordinary amount, deeply engaged, thoughtful parents, yet who feel like they’re failing because someone else’s version of motherhood looks more polished, more resourced, or more impressive. When other families appear to be doing more, spending more, or optimizing every aspect of their child’s life, it can quietly erode a mother’s confidence, even when she’s doing the most important things well.
What’s painful is that what looks like “not enough” from the inside is often more than enough in reality. But it’s very hard to hold onto that perspective when you’re immersed in a culture that equates good parenting with relentless investment and visible achievement.
-Why do so many of us moms feel that sinking feeling that we are failing when we are exhausted and are doing our best?
Because modern motherhood has become a no-win situation. Expectations have escalated dramatically, and they’re often contradictory. Mothers are expected to be endlessly present, emotionally regulated, and attuned, while also being ambitious, productive, and self-actualized, often with very little support.
Parenting is also one of the most judgment-filled spaces many women will ever inhabit. No matter what choices you make,
how you feed your baby, how your child sleeps, whether you work, how much you work, what school your child attends, there’s almost always criticism waiting on the other side. You’re told to push your child, but not too much. To protect them from stress, but also prepare them for a competitive world.
I often say to clients: You’re not failing. You’re navigating an impossible set of expectations. When you’re constantly trying to thread an impossibly thin needle, feeling like you’re failing isn’t a personal flaw, it’s a predictable outcome.
-How can one know when their parenting has turned into unhealthy perfectionism or burnout?
One of the clearest signals is when a child’s behavior or success starts to feel like a verdict on a mother’s worth. When a parent’s happiness feels contingent on how well a child is doing, or when kids start to feel like a project to manage rather than a person to know, that’s a heavy burden for both sides.
Healthy involvement is responsive and attuned. Unhealthy perfectionism often shows up as rigid thinking: It has to be this way or everything falls apart. It’s driven by fear, fear of making mistakes, fear of being judged, fear of failing your child. I see this when moms feel intense shame over very normal parenting moments, like losing their patience, which then makes it harder to repair and reconnect.
Burnout can be quieter but just as important to notice. Chronic exhaustion, cynicism, emotional numbness, or a sense that nothing you do really matters anymore are all red flags. Many mothers tell me they think they should be enjoying their kids more, but can’t access that feeling. That’s not a parenting problem, it’s a depletion problem.
-What does “good enough parenting” realistically look like, especially for New York moms?
At its core, good enough parenting looks the same everywhere: being responsive, attuned, and willing to see the child in front of you for who they are. It’s about helping children get their needs met, not shaping
them into who you think they should be, or who the environment seems to reward most.
What’s harder in high-achievement cultures is holding onto that clarity when the noise is loud. I work with parents who make very intentional choices that run counter to the dominant culture, whether that’s changing schools, pulling back on
activities, or prioritizing mental health over prestige. Often, those decisions are hard precisely because they require trusting your own knowing in a culture that rewards comparison.
Good enough parenting also means keeping yourself in the equation. A mother’s mental health matters deeply to her children. Kids benefit from having a parent who is present and regulated, not one who is constantly depleted or stretched beyond capacity. Caring for yourself isn’t separate from good parenting; it’s part of it.
-What’s one shift that can help moms move from comparing themselves to others and circumstances to feeling confident in their parenting choices?
Letting go of the idea that parenting, or motherhood itself, is one-size-fits-all.
Each child has unique needs, and each mother has her own values, limits, and desires. When we focus too much on what everyone else is doing, we slowly disconnect from our own intuition, and that’s where confidence erodes.
I often think about it like wearing clothes that don’t fit. You can spend all day adjusting and second-guessing yourself, or you can choose something that actually fits your body and your life. Motherhood works the same way. You are at your best in a version of motherhood that fits you and your family, not one borrowed from someone else.
This is also why I love running groups for ambitious mothers. When women come together and see, in real time, that there are many valid ways to be both ambitious and loving, something softens. The mother who loves her work and could never stay home. The mother who chooses daycare, a nanny, or flexible work. The mother working sixty hours a week and the mother working two. All of those paths can be thoughtful, intentional, and deeply loving. Comparison loses its grip when we see that fit, not uniformity, is the goal.
Dr. Anne Welsh is a clinical psychologist and executive coach who works with ambitious mothers navigating parenting, identity, and high-pressure environments. She is the founder of the Ambitious Mother’s Mastermind and the author of the upcoming book, Ambitious Mother: From Surviving to Thriving in Your Career and at Home (Bloomsbury, 8/6/26). , where women come together to move from burnout and perfectionism toward more sustainable, aligned ways of living and leading.
A Room of Her Own
This mother was determined to design a space that meets her child where she is, and where she’s going
BY DONNA DUARTE-LADD
There’s a nesting urgency that comes with having kids. First, there is the nursery room or, in some New York living cases, a large nook. Of course, once you have that space and it becomes everything, as your child grows, you also realize that the things they love now will not always be the things they reach for later.
For Brooklyn-based photographer Yumi Matsuo, looking at her three-year-old daughter Saya’s room, she knew she needed to update it. She did not just see a space that needed reimagining. She saw an opportunity to hold onto what she loved while also shaping it with more intention.
So she turned to friends.
Rodrigo Miguel and Matt Little of Knock Twice had long been the people their friend circle relied on for the kind of design questions that do not come with clear answers. How do you make a small space feel considered? How do you adapt a home as a child grows into it? How do you create something functional without losing beauty? They had been talking about formalizing their studio when Yumi mentioned the room and her timeline. Eight weeks, start to finish.
It would be their first children’s space. They said yes.
Yumi’s work as a photographer has shaped how she sees space, from light to composition to what feels natural versus what feels placed. Her images have appeared in campaigns for Baby Björn and UPPAbaby, but at home, her focus is closer in.
Saya, at three, is in that fully expressive, deeply specific stage of childhood. She knows what she likes. She moves through a room with intention, even if she does not yet have the language for it. Yumi wanted the room to meet her there. Not overstimulating, not overly precious, but responsive. A space where textures, colors, and objects feel
approachable, where she could engage at her own pace.
During installation, she explored everything. What stayed with her were the smallest, most tactile things. A bright orange measuring tape that felt endlessly fascinating, and the soft, sculptural pretzel knot pillows made just for her.
Rodrigo’s background in industrial design shapes the way he approaches interiors. Function comes first, how something works and how it is used, followed closely by feeling. Aesthetics are what hold those two things together.
In a child’s room, that balance matters even more, especially when the goal is to create something sensory-friendly without losing visual warmth.
The palette draws from Saya’s world: butter yellow, strawberry red, and sky blue. Colors that could easily feel overly bright are softened and slightly muted, paired with grounding neutrals that give the room a sense of ease.
Materials were chosen with the same care. Soft where they need to be, durable where they should be, and inviting to touch. The room encourages interaction, but never demands it.
The goal was not to create a kid’s room. It was to create Saya’s room.
What defines the space most is not what was found, but what was made.
An IKEA bench that only fit half the window nook became the starting point. Instead of replacing it, a second was sourced, both were painted, and custom cushions were sewn, transforming an in-between space into something whole. A place that works now for play, and later, for quiet.
There is a subtle kind of restraint in every decision. Nothing overly loud. Nothing unnecessary.
Yumi’s photographs are framed in a way that lets them belong to the room, not just
NOTES ON DESIGNING FOR CHILDREN
On stripes: Before painting stripes, seal the tape with your base wall color. It keeps lines clean and sharp.
On color : Slightly muting tones allows color to exist without overwhelming the senses.
On pattern : Balance is key. Larger patterns draw attention, while smaller ones soften the overall feel.
On shape: Soft geometry introduces a sense of ease and breaks up the rigidity of a room.
On mixing : Consistency, whether in tone, scale, or color, creates cohesion, even in a layered space.
hang within it. A metal utility door, once something to work around, became a magnetic wall, giving Saya a place to see her own work reflected back to her.
The room holds space for both expression and calm. For movement, and for pause. It is not designed for a fixed version of childhood. It is designed to shift alongside it.
Some pieces arrived already holding that same philosophy, such as Oeuf, a Brooklynbased brand that has long approached children’s furniture with longevity in mind. Design that feels at home in a space, not temporary within it. Their pieces, including the small bunny nightlight, bring a simplicity that complements the room’s quieter tone.
Gooselings added another layer of softness. Their bedding, made in Europe from natural materials, leans into comfort in a way that feels understated but essential. It is the kind of bedding that becomes part of a child’s rhythm, familiar, calming, and constant.
Everything else was found slowly or made by hand.
Rodrigo and Matt of Knock Twice helped Yumi transform Saya's small room into the perfect space, where function and feeling meet aesthetics.
Photos by Sidney Scheinberg Photography
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2026 Carousel Opening Day
Willowbrook Park, Ashworth
Avenue and Forest Hill Road
Saturday, May 2, noon – 4 pm
All ages
Free
Join the Greenbelt Conservancy in celebrating the opening day of the Carousel for All Children in Willowbrook Park. There will be music, puppet show, rides on the Carousel and Music with Patrick.
Spooky Staten Island History and Nature Night Hike
Conference House Park, 298 Satterlee Street
Sunday, May 3, 7 pm – 8 pm
All ages
Free
On National Paranormal Day, join the Rangers to explore the weird, spooky and strange in Staten Island’s history and nature. They will debunk some myths about creatures that are considered “creepy” or “spooky’ and discuss some local lore.
Staten Island Anti-Prom 2026
St. George Library Center, 5 Central Avenue
Friday, May 8, 6:30 pm – 9 pm
Ages 12-18
Free
Join Staten Island Anti-Prom for fashion, music, books, snacks, and much more! Get ready to dance the night away and hang out at The New York Public Library’s free annual summer party. AntiProm welcomes and celebrates young people of all sexualities and gender identities and expressions.
Farm Day
Staten Island Zoo, 614 Broadway
THINGS TO DO IN MAY
Saturday - Sunday, May 9 – 10, 11
am – 2 pm
All ages
Free with admission
Get up close for sheep shearing thrills and uncover the secrets behind how the zoo cares for animals that call Children’s Center home. Join for a fantastic day packed with woolly wonders as professional sheep shearer Pete Sepe of Sepe Farms demonstrates how the wool is expertly sheared.
Modern Marionette: Where the Wild Things Are
Staten Island Children’s Museum, 1000 Richmond Terrace
Saturday, May 9, 4 pm – 4:45 pm
All ages
Free with admission
Join the Modern Marionette Company for a fun retelling of this favorite tale, based on the 1963 children’s book about a boy who sails to an island that is home to creatures called “Wild Things.” Learn all about marionettes as you follow Max on his adventures
and his surprising discovery.
Mother’s Day Basic Canoeing
Wolfe’s Pond Park, Cornelia Ave. and Chester Ave.
Sunday, May 10, 11 am – 12:30 pm
Ages 8+
Free
Few experiences compare with being on the open water in New York City. Trained Urban Park Rangers will lead you on canoe adventures that range from the gentle waters of protected lakes to the challenging open waters of rivers and bays. First come, first served.
Mike Super: Magic & Illusion
St. George Theatre, 35 Hyatt St. Friday, May 15, 7 pm
All ages
$35-$69
Audiences can experience the magic and illusion of Mike Super live on stage in an unforgettable family-friendly performance. His
show combines jaw-dropping illusions, side-splitting humor, energetic music, and full audience participation, creating an immersive experience that leaves every audience member feeling part of the magic.
Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star
New Dorp Moravian Church, 2205 Richmond Rd.
Saturday, May 16, 11 am & 2 pm and May 17, 11 am
Ages 0-5
$14 adults, $10 children
IlluminArt Productions presents Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star, a gentle, interactive theatre experience created especially for children ages 0-5. Through music, movement, and sensory play little ones go on a journey that reminds all of us that mistakes happen, but no problem is too big if you ask for help.
New Dorp Comic Con
New Dorp High School, 465 New
Yankee Peddler Day at Historic Richmond Town.
Dorp Lane
Saturday, May 16, noon – 5 pm
All ages
$10 general; $5 students
New Dorp Comic Con is back for another year, featuring over 40 vendors, artist alley, panelists, cosplay contests and more!
5 Boroughs Music Festival
Staten Island Museum, 1000 Richmond Terrace
Saturday, May 16, 2 pm – 3 pm
All ages
Free
Orchestra of St. Luke’s, joined by baritone Joseph Parrish, celebrates the friendship between Harry T. Burleigh, the pioneering Black American composer, and Antonín Dvořák, the renowned Czech composer. Their collaboration, rooted in spirituals and folk music, helped shape a distinctly American sound that continues to inspire us today.
Grand Falloons: What a Gas!
Staten Island Children’s Museum, 1000 Richmond Terrace
Saturday, May 16, 4 pm – 4:45 pm
All ages
Free with admission
Participate in a program focused on the elements of our atmosphere, the importance of waste reduction, and actionable energy conservation methods. Through life-sized puppetry, juggling, live music, and comedy, they will investigate all things gaseous– where does it come from, where does it go, and why is this important?
Asian Pacific American Heritage Month: Birds of Eastern Culture
Clove Lakes Park, Forest Ave. and Clove Rd.
Sunday, May 17, 9 am – 10:30 am
All ages
Free
Join the Urban Park Rangers during spring migration in search of birds that are significant to east Asian culture and folklore. Rangers will discuss influential birders and ornithologists as well as the role of birds in different
cultures. Binoculars will be provided.
Yankee Peddler Day
Historic Richmond Town, 441 Clarke Ave.
Sunday, May 17, 9:30 am – 3:30 pm
All ages
$3
Explore a world of treasures at the annual Yankee Peddler Day. Discover antiques, collectibles, handmade crafts, and one-of-akind finds from local vendors. Whether you’re a collector or just love browsing for unique items, there’s something for everyone.
America250: Staten Island
Philharmonic: Honoring Those Who Served Conference House, 7455 Hylan Blvd.
Sunday, May 24, 4 pm – 6 pm
All ages
Free
Join the Staten Island Philharmonic for a powerful Memorial Day concert honoring the service and sacrifice of America’s military members throughout history. As part of the America250 commemoration, the program reflects on themes of freedom, patriotism, and remembrance through a selection of patriotic works, orchestral favorites, and reflective pieces.
Saturday, May 30, 10 am – 11:30 am
All ages
Free
Celebrate the migration of fish and observe this Billion Oyster project site. Help to monitor the cages that these oysters live in, and record what types of fish and macro-invertebrates that use these cages as a habitat.
Pride
Festival
Snug Harbor Cultural Center, 1000 Richmond Terrace
Saturday, May 30, noon – 5 pm
All ages
Free
This exciting festival will feature live music, artists, craft vendors, food, activities and performers celebrating the LGBTQIA+ and allied community.
Family Camping: Staten Island
Blue Heron Nature Center, 222 Poillon Ave.
Sunday - Monday, May 24, 6 pm –
May 25, 7 am
All ages
Free
We camp to create lasting memories, connect with the natural world, and bond with our families. The Urban Park Rangers celebrate the tradition of camping and look forward to welcoming your family. Families are chosen by lottery and registration opens on May 11.
Binx the Reptile Guy –Dino Scales & Tails
Staten Island Children’s Museum, 1000 Richmond Terrace
Wednesday, May 27, 4 pm – 4:45 pm
All ages Free with admission
Join Binx the Reptile Guy and a live cast of real reptiles – like sulcata and Russian tortoises, bearded dragons, leopard geckos, and pythons Ed & Eddie – for a fun, educational, and interactive experience.
World Fish Migration Day
Coastal Ecology
Stapleton Waterfront Park, Water St.
Chinese Theatre Works: Music and Dance Workshop
Staten Island Children’s Museum, 1000 Richmond Terrace
Saturday, May 30, 4 pm – 4:45 pm
All ages
Free with admission
Join as the Chinese Theatre Works presents Traditional Music & Ribbon Dance. Experience this interactive celebration of music, dance, and Chinese culture. Grab a ribbon, a percussive instrument, or just enjoy the show – this program is fun for the whole family!
ACT presents Shrek, Jr
Wagner College Main Hall Theatre, One Campus Rd
Saturday, May 30, 7 pm – 8:30 pm
All ages
$25
Join Shrek on his quest to rescue Princess Fiona and free his swamp!
Freshwater Fishing
Bradys Pond Park, Narrows Road
South and Hylan Blvd
Sunday, May 31, 11 am – 12:30 pm
Ages 8+
Free
Calling anglers of all skill levels and experience. Join the Rangers for a wonderful day of fishing. All equipment provided.
Farm Day at the Staten Island Zoo
Walking Tour Brings Revolution to Life
BY DANIELLE RAMOS
If you’ve ever done the Freedom Trail in Boston or walked around Philly hitting the big Revolutionary sites, you know how much easier it is for kids to feel like they’re part of history when they follow a simple route. Now, New York is getting its own version. The NYC Revolutionary Trail, a new 90-minute, 3-mile downtown Manhattan tour, uses augmented reality and Assassin’s Creed visuals to bring Revolutionary-era New York to life—just in time for America’s 250th anniversary.
Launching next month, the NYC Revolutionary Trail: Echoes of Revolution is a free, 90-minute, 3-mile walking tour through Lower Manhattan that uses augmented reality (AR) and geolocation to recreate Revolutionary-era New York right in today’s city streets.
The part kids are most likely to care about is that it uses visuals and characters from Ubisoft’s Assassin’s Creed world. It’s meant to feel like stepping into the story, keeping it interesting and fun for kids who so easily tune out when adults start talking about historical significance.
America’s 250th anniversary is coming in 2026, and cities all over the country are gearing up for commemorations. Find out all that is going on in New York and beyond in America’s 250th Birthday: An NYC Family Guide.
New York Played a Big Role in the Revolution
Boston and Philadelphia usually get top billing when we talk about the American Revolution. But according to the team behind the project, that leaves out something major: New York City was central to the war.
The creators point out that New York saw both the war’s first big battle and the British evacuation, events that bookend the conflict in a way most people don’t realize. The trail is meant to set that record straight and show New York as a central part of the country’s founding story.
What the Walking Tour Will Look Like
Echoes of Revolution begins at The Battery and finishes at Federal Hall, winding through
Lower Manhattan with stops that include Bowling Green, Wall Street, and other key sites where important Revolutionary-era events took place
Over the course of the walk, there will be:
• Audio narration that tells the story of each site
• Character profiles that make history feel like a story
• Videos and links for those who want to learn more
• A digital overlay showing colonial New York on top of today’s streets
The tour is mobile and uses geolocation, so content appears as you reach each spot, designed to feel like you’re walking through the story. Echoes of Revolution will also connect with the Museum of the City of New York’s upcoming exhibit “The Occupied City.”
If you’ve got kids who are even slightly into history, tech, gaming, or New York itself, this trail can be a fun and educational weekend event, and since it’s free, you can go as many times as you like!
Learn more at nycrevolutionarytrail.org.
Ages 4-7
Camp runs Monday - Thursday 9:00am - 2:30pm
from July 6 - August 6. Campers can register for two, three or four days per week.
Our summer programs are open to all levels skating and learn to play hockey.
https://www.thepavilion.org/ learntoskatesummercamp
