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COMMUNITY AS A BALM SEEKING CLARITY THROUGH BLIND SPOTS

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DESIGNING BY HEART

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CONTENTS 6

Seeking Clarity Through Blind Spots

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Tiffany Birch: Designing by Heart

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Simple Exercises for Your Body This Holiday Season

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Community as a Balm

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Neighbors to the Rescue

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Herd Immunity

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Coffee-Cardamom Banana Bread

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The Precarious Mental Health of Children and Adolescents During COVID-19

Seeking Clarity Through Blind Spots

by Michelle Winters

Photo by Tara Winstead

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lind spots. We’ve all got them. Oftentimes, these occur within the bounds of love, either for someone or something. Our emotions get in the way of seeing things with the clarity that others may have.

are those personal traits that can be most harmful to us because we don’t even know they exist, therefore we’re unable to identify what they are. A blind spot is the polar opposite of clarity.

For some parents, it might be an inability to see their own children’s behavior objectively. For teenagers and young adults, it can be a failure to see consequences on the other side of bad decisions. For many leaders, it often presents as a disconnect from subordinates or students. Blind spots

It’s human nature to search for clarity in things we don’t understand. I feel like I’ve spent my entire life seeking it in one form or another — as a girl trying to understand the world around me, as a mother trying not to screw up my two daughters, as a leader, as a teacher, as an activist. It’s

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become a part of me, this seeking. I know it can create a feeling of anxiety in some people, the need to have everything figured out and in order. But for me, the actual pursuit of clarity is a warm blanket on a cold day — it’s my comfort zone.

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It’s taken many years to realize this and to acknowledge that despite clarity itself being a beautiful thing, for me, the figuring it out — the solving — is what feels good on my skin. Every Sunday when I pick up the New York Times crossword and my pen, I am awash in that same innervation. Nothing is clear, but the thrill of seeing it come together is where it’s at, baby!

Once a month, my family gathers to solve a murder mystery after the children are all tucked up. Not a real one — nobody panic! — but a well-thought-out crime that just requires a bit of brain work (and a few drinks) to solve.

We may spend three hours laboring over the evidence, piecing each clue together until we figure out the whodun-it. Then everybody celebrates, high-fives, and pats themselves on the back. We see the entire crime scene with the clarity of cut glass. Great. Perfect. Why, then, am I feeling something akin to disappointment? Ah yes — because the seeking is over.

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Knowing this about myself has made my life better in many ways. When something doesn’t make sense, there is no hand-wringing. I’m never tempted to just ignore it and move on. I want to dive into it, swish all the colors around, turn the kaleidoscope until a clear picture forms.

Make no mistake, this can also be a curse. There will always be people and situations that cannot be made sense of or explained. When that happens, clarity wins in the ongoing game of hide-and-seek. But more often than not, this love of seeking is a gift. I liken it to the adage, “enjoy the journey.”

jigsaw puzzles together. Every time she’s over at my house, she asks if we can sit and work the puzzle for a bit. These have been some of my favorite hours spent with her quietly talking as we work, watching the picture of the finished masterpiece come together. But alas, while enjoying this pastime of solving a puzzle, it has given me time to ruminate on a potential new blind spot of my own. Could she be one of them? Is it ever possible for grandparents to see these wee babes with any clarity at all?

So, then, wouldn’t a blind spot simply be an opportunity to delve into and revel in that searching? But how can one seek clarity in something they might not even know exists?

In my mind’s eye, I see that flashing light warning me that there is someone in my blind spot. The question remains, will I seek clarity or let this one be?

I recently bought a new car after more than a decade driving my old five-speed Jetta. It’s taken me a couple of months to get used to one of the new car’s features that my old one didn’t have: the passenger-side mirror that flashes a warning when there’s something in my blind spot. This got me thinking: Wouldn’t it be handy if we all had a feature that flashes a warning when we need to clear a blind spot?

While in our COVID bubble, my five-year-old granddaughter and I started working on 1,000-piece

Michelle Winters was born and raised in Illinois, but has lived in three countries, six states, and nine different cities before landing in Ann Arbor in 2014. She spends much of her time on the dance floor teaching fitness classes to women of all ages. Michelle is also a tennis hack, an avid cook and foodie, and loves frequenting restaurants in and around A2 with her husband, Jeff. Her grown children live nearby and she gets to enjoy Michigan with her two young grandchildren. She and Jeff currently spend an inordinate amount of time chasing around their newly-adopted puppy, Dex.

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Tiffany Birch: Designing by Heart

by Marji Wisniewski

The Psychology of Home Design Right away, I felt at ease speaking with Tiffany Birch, the owner of Birch Design Associates.

We found common ground over an admiration of a mutual friend and the paint color, Naval.

It was as if I had known Tiffany for a long time, even though we were only a few minutes into our interview. That’s one of her strengths as a designer. She loves people, and it shows.

Tiffany aims to have each interaction with her clients be personable, enjoyable, and most importantly, fun. She’s Ann Arbor’s own Design Star, winning multiple accolades for her vintage and unique style and inviting personality.

Adding a Bit of Zip I always do the same thing whenever I put together a plan to share with a client. I sit there in my home design studio and take a step back to critique my work. It’s classic, timeless, and a little vintage. But in the back of my mind, I think of my mom, and hear her say: “Time to zip it up!”

My mom passed away a number of years ago, but she still inspires my design work today. Although she wasn’t professionally trained in design, I loved getting her opinion on projects. She had a unique eye that I didn’t appreciate until I was older.

As a teen, I remember asking her with curiosity — and a bit of criticism — what kind of wallpaper she had just put up. She replied, “It’s grass cloth.” I thought it was weird because none of my friends had walls like that. I find this ironic now, as this is one of my favorite textures to use for wall coverings. My mom just patiently looked and

me and said, “Trust me, it’s cool.” She was also huge fan of animal prints. Back in the ‘80s I thought this was so tacky. Yet again, it’s something I find myself gravitating towards today.

I like to insert these prints, sparingly, where I can to add a different interest, texture, or layer. I’m thankful to have her risk-taking spirit with me as a guide and know she’d be proud whenever I add a little zip.

Designing a Career Path My mom and dad were both successful entrepreneurs in our small town of Adrian, Michigan. My mom owned two beauty salons and my dad owned a roofing company. I learned so much from observing their work ethic. But it was really in a high school elective class that my love for interior design was born.

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I attended Michigan State University and majored in interior design for the first two years. I learned all of the basics of design, but when the class moved away from hand-drawing and onto drafting using CAD, I freaked out. I did all my design work by hand (and still do today).

I felt overwhelmed because I’m not a computer person.

Since I had taken just as many psychology classes as design classes, I swapped my major and minor and went on to pursue a career in therapy. This made my dad happy, as he felt I couldn’t support myself with a degree in interior design. I continued on in school to earn a

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master’s degree in social work, followed by a ten-year career as a child therapist.

After my dad passed away, I realized that I was a therapist just to appease him. We had such a close relationship, but after he was gone, I realized that making him happy wasn’t making me happy. I decided it was time to make the switch back to design.

With much excitement, I opened my own business in my hometown of Adrian. Those around me were

About Birch Design Associates Vintage. Unique.

Inviting. Birch Design Associates is an interior design firm based in Ann Arbor, Michigan. We specialize in creating spaces you love for residential and commercial properties.

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overnight. In 2002, I opened a storefront that sold luxury goods alongside my design studio. I wanted to offer shoppers in Adrian a place they could get luxury items, like fancy soaps and soft pajamas, without having to drive to Ann Arbor. The shop was affectionately named Persnickety, after one of my Grandma Burch’s favorite words. To her that term meant particular, specific in what one does, says, or even wears. I thought that was a fun and fitting name for my store. Whether it’s buying the perfect gift or picking out the right trim for a pillow, you have to be persnickety about it.

When the recession came around 2008, I closed the storefront. However, my design service was busier than ever with people using what money they had to make their house feel more like home (which would later be remarkably similar to the COVID era). There were times where I actually had to turn down potential work.

I hated to say no to projects out of fear that there wouldn’t be another job. But an artist friend of mine once said to me, “Tiffany, there’s always going to be a next job; you just have to trust it.” And she’s been right.

The jobs always come in at the right time. It’s about trusting that it will happen.

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About ten years ago, I faced one of my biggest challenges. After nearly 20 years of marriage, my husband and I got divorced. That may not sound like a big challenge to some these days, but to me it was a mountain I had to climb. I had married at 21 years old. I basically moved from my family home to my husband’s home. I needed to learn how to be independent from my ex-husband, who is an accountant and had previously taken care of everything. I had to be 100% reliant on my own abilities to pay all the bills, pack the lunches, and get the girls to and from school, all while renovating an old, vacant home I had purchased in the Burns Park neighborhood. It was a very overwhelming year, filled with growth and change.

• 2020 Detroit Design Award Winner • 2020 Hour Detroit September Feature • 2021 Michigan Blue Magazine Winter Issue Feature (Treetops Resort) surprised when I said I wanted to start my own design business. They didn’t know how I was going to do that and make money. But because I had grown up in a home with two entrepreneurs, I knew what was possible. I didn’t know how I was going to do everything, but I knew I could find my way.

Homegrown Business The only interior designer in Adrian retired the year I started my business, so I had a built-in client base

I found peace and strength in my home renovation.

It was very cathartic for me and allowed me to grow beyond the boundaries of my small hometown in so many ways. After the renovations and subsequent healing were complete, I restarted my design business.

I found that after my move, the name Persnickety just didn’t seem to fit with my goals and vision anymore.

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How to Make a House a Home Print photos from your phone.

An easy place to start is to update family photos around the house.

Having moved recently, I realized that I only had photos of my daughters from when they were babies or school-aged. They are now 19 and 17, so printing photos of how they look now really made the house feel more like our home.

Everything has a place. My daughter and I are both Virgos, and we like to have things orderly. In our old house we knew where everything was, down to the superglue and batteries. I have a goal to get to this level of organization again at our new home by Christmas. Having order in a home is comforting.

Personalized items. One of the most treasured items I have in my home is a custom pillow with the name of my very first dog, Winnie, a beloved Golden Retriever, stitched on it. Every time I see that pillow, I think of our sweet girl. Finding ways to bring personalization to items in your home can make a home feel warm and inviting.

Art and collections. I love art.

I actually did a wall collage in my cottage with vintage art from Treasure Mart (now sadly closed) and painted all the frames black. I think the whole wall cost me $100.

But mixing and matching high-end and low-end art can work as well. If art’s not your thing, you can display a different collection that interests you, like books.

Don’t forget the exterior. I also think showing your personality on the exterior of the home is important as well. I like to make my own wreaths, even though I’m not much of a crafter. Planting flowers or adding flower boxes can add a lot of character.

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last name, Burch, as inspiration and founded Birch Design Associates. I felt that the name not only gave me a more level playing field in the bidding process, but it also allowed me to keep the nod to my grandma.

I liked it so much that I legally changed my last name to Birch a few years ago.

Though that season of my life was filled with adversity, now I know that I can handle so much more than I thought I ever could. Today, I get birthday cards and Mother’s Day cards from my girls that say, “You’re so strong, you’re the strongest person I know.” They’re so proud of me for running my own business. I’m a real badass to them! They appreciate my entrepreneurial spirit, and because of that, they see what’s possible for themselves — and that they can accomplish whatever they dream.

My daughters are 19 and 17, so I’m one year away from being an empty-nester. However, I’m not feeling sad about that prospect. Instead, I’m excited because I love having adult children. The relationship with adult children is so much more open and it’s fun to do adult things with them. I’m looking forward to this next chapter.

A Foundation in Psychology My approach to a design project is similar to my approach in a therapy session. When I first walk into a home or commercial space, I don’t see the room that’s in front of me as-is; I see it as it can be. I can visualize the finished project at the first meeting. This was how I helped

people in therapy. I’d see their potential and work towards getting them to that end goal.

My strength is being able to see things complete in my mind and then work backwards, in an orderly way, to complete them in real life.

I have clients that come to me full of anxiety. Some have just purchased their dream home and they’re afraid to mess it up. I work at the client’s pace to bring peace of mind and fun into the project, and remind them it’s just paint. I believe my calm demeanor and accessibility help build trust over time.

Another way I inspire confidence in the process is by using the open book business model. Some people tend to not trust designers with their budget. They feel that if they give their budget up front, the designer will just carelessly spend it all. However, knowing the budget really helps to guide the scope of the project and saves a lot of time in the end. Working from an open book model allows my clients to see what I pay for things and builds trust through complete transparency. It’s a very reassuring way of doing business. Because of this, many of my clients have become friends, and about 80% of my customers are repeat customers. Word of mouth is key for this line of business, and the reason why I’ve been able to stay busy even during challenging economic times.

Back to My Roots One of my favorite projects was a full-circle moment for

me. My first job as a teenager was at Devil’s Lake Yacht Club, scooping ice cream alongside my one sister who lifeguarded and my other sister who was a server there. We have such fond memories of summers at my family’s cottage on Devil’s Lake. So, when the opportunity arose to bid on the design for the clubhouse remodel, I jumped at the chance!

As I was presenting my ideas to the board, a member asked what I had planned for the current dance floor.

I responded that I would like to keep it, but just move it slightly. That answer helped me win the project.

I knew from growing up there that the dance floor was the heart of the club. Again, knowing how the client uses a space is key to the success of the project.

The project was completed in two phases. The first phase showed the members just how spectacular the club would look when the entire project was completed, allowing them to embark on a two-year campaign to raise funds to complete the second phase. The entire Devil’s Lake Yacht Club was reborn about a year ago, and the community could not have been more pleased.

What’s Behind the Next Front Door Working on the Yacht Club project was so rewarding. I would love to expand my portfolio and design a small, inviting restaurant space in downtown Ann Arbor. The creativity needed for a project like that would be a welcome challenge. I have found that people in Ann Arbor are willing to take design risks, so I know it would be a thrilling project.

When I dream even bigger, I envision designing an entire boutique hotel, from the lobby and bar area down to each individual guest room. I would

create each room with a similar look and feel, yet each would be different in a fun, unique way.

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Early on in my career, I struggled to think beyond the county lines of my small town. I just didn’t have the vision to see past where I was planted. Now I have clients in and around Ann Arbor, in other states, and even beyond.

With the help of technology, I can collaborate with people outside of my geographical limits.

pandemic changed how a lot of us live and use the space in our homes.

I call this current trend “The Return of the Dining Room.” For decades, people have been requesting the HGTV-coined phrase “open concept.” But over time, homeowners have realized they need a place to get away and close the door, whether that be somewhere for an adult dinner away from the kids, focusing on a hobby, or just quietly reading a book. People are longing for their own space.

If there’s one lesson that I’ve learned in this business, it’s to not judge a book by its cover. I remind myself of this when meeting new people or starting projects. There have been times when I’ve pulled up to a home and wondered what I’m getting myself into. But then I’ve gone on to discover the coolest nooks and crannies that inspire a one-of-a-kind design. In allowing myself to be open-minded, I’ve found extraordinary people and treasures in the most unexpected places. I can’t wait to see what’s behind the next front door.

Find out more: www. birchdesignassociates.com With a passion for marketing that started as a young girl, Marji Wisniewski created her own marketing and communications organization in 2017. As owner of Blue Zebra Marketing Solutions, she helps local and regional businesses and non-profits tell their story through branding, graphic design, content creation, and PR, focusing on customized solutions for each client that are more unique than a zebra’s stripes.

A Michigan native, Marji received her bachelor's from Western Michigan University and master’s from Wayne State University. When not working you can find her gardening, doing Pilates, listening to podcasts, and spending time with her family and two dogs.

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Color Trends. Gray has definitely been a homeowner favorite for many years. Although it’s neutral, it can also make a room feel cold. I find that cream paint colors go with a lot of other colors, and look especially great when showcasing artwork.

When thinking about colors to add to your home, think about the colors you like and/or don’t like. If you’re still struggling, head to your closet and see what colors you tend to wear. This can guide your color preferences since you keep buying and wearing these colors.

I’m a fan of blush, so I hope that doesn’t go away for a few years, as I’m painting my own dining room that color right now!

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Simple Exercises for Your Body This Holiday Season

by Adrianne Madias

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ello! I'm Adrianne Madias, owner of The Barre Code Ann Arbor, here to help you stay healthy through this holiday season.

We all know how stressful this time of year can be, and we often put aside healthy habits until the new year because we’re just so busy. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Here are a few tips to keep you moving as you prepare the turkey, set up the tree, and count down to the new year. Put on your favorite holiday jams and let's get you rockin' around your living room!

1. Rear Raisers Go down to all fours, point your right leg straight behind you, cross it behind your supporting left leg, and tap the floor with a pointed toe. Squeeze your glute to lift your right leg up and out so it's in line with your right hip and parallel to the floor. Lower the leg to return to the floor. Be sure to keep your tailbone slightly tucked throughout the movement to avoid arching your back. Also, keep your core strong so your hips don't rock side to side; they should stay stable and centered throughout this movement.

2. Quad Lifts Stand with one hip facing a kitchen counter or a railing/ banister (or anything at hip height) to give you stability. Slide your outside leg forward, point the toe and squeeze through your quad to lift the leg in line with your hip and slowly bring it back down with control. You can do this with a flexed foot as well to target your hamstring a little more. Engage your core and exhale on the lift, making sure your back stays flat. Flip around and repeat on the other side.

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3. Ab Twists Lay on your back with your knees in a tabletop position, directly above your hips. With your hands behind your head, twist your right elbow towards your left knee while extending your right leg with a pointed toe. Come back to table top position and repeat. Do the right side then left side. Exhale on the twist.

It’s best to perform 20-30 reps per side and then repeat from the beginning for a total of two rounds per side. There’s no need to rest in between.

Follow this plan three or more times per week or more. For even better results, add a cardio move in between each exercise to get your heart rate up, like the one suggested below.

Mountain Climbers Stand in a plank position or at a 45-degree angle and place your hands in line with your shoulders on the back side of a couch, table, countertop, or railing. Start to draw your knees in, right then left, at your fastest pace — like you're sprinting up a staircase while lifting from the lower abdominals. Do this for 30 seconds in between your core exercises. Don't forget to breathe!

A good stretch is always welcome! Take a few moments to settle into a nice stretch.

Child's Pose Kneel on all fours, pull your toes in so they touch, and bring your knees wide. Drop your chest to the floor and extend your arms in front of you. Take five or more deep, long breaths to release any tension you may be holding on to; let it go with each breath. Set an intention for the rest of your day.

Now go forth refreshed and ready to bring your Thanksgiving bounty together and bake cookies for Santa. Happy Holidays!

Ann Arbor native Adrianne Madias is the owner of The Barre Code Ann Arbor. After graduating from Arizona State University with a BS in Supply Chain Management, she moved back to the area and worked in the corporate world for nearly a decade. She decided to change her career path because her true passion is fitness; she enjoys contributing to other women’s lives by helping them gain confidence in their health and strength from the inside out. She began training in Chicago the summer of 2011 and opened in August of that year near central campus. The studio is now located on the North Side of town at 2793 Plymouth Road.

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Community as a Balm

by Maria Sylvester, MSW, CPC

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he powerful energy of community has saved me during these challenging times. Perhaps it has for you as well?

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What a blessing, the many forms of belonging I’ve recently had the privilege to experience — from rich professional and neighborhood rendezvous to the online Midlife Magnificence Facebook group I created, I’ve managed to relish the soothing, satisfying balm of us humans meaningfully coming together. They’ve been times richly-laden with the sharing of stories, struggles, support, and successes. Miraculous things have occurred during these beautiful, simple moments of connection.

Author Brene Brown once shared a story about a village where all the women would go down to the river to wash clothes together. When they all got washing machines, there was an outbreak of depression because of the absence of doing things together. It was the absence of community.

I believe in the magic of community, and the cozy comfort it offers, as an experience worth pursuing in as many forms as possible. Community matters, especially as we navigate times of increased isolation, because these times can also merge into periods of acute loneliness. We are wired for connection. We long to belong. When we have such, we are all the better for it. Our hearts, minds, and souls are fed. This is because thriving happens in community. We feel seen, heard, and understood.

Perhaps too frequently, our desire to feel like a valuable part of a group remains unconscious until we find our special community. Experiencing this ignites awareness of how much we’ve missed and needed it. We discover with great delight the personal impact of being part of a group.

There’s truly nothing better than the energy of inclusion and of developing meaningful relationships.

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conversation. Wine and treats were the backdrop, yes.

However, it was our curiosity of spirit and openness to listen, share, and learn from each other that really juiced me up. In other words, one valuable aspect of allowing oneself to experience community is the pleasure of personal expansion it brings each participant. To feel and be felt in relationship with others is no small thing!

Community with Purpose

I’m writing this piece the morning after a deeply satisfying evening spent on my front porch with two of my neighbors. As a sweet little community of three, we communed for four delicious, heart-opening hours.

We were three vibrant, interesting, visionary women of different ages and backgrounds brought together, in part, because our houses rest side-by-side.

During these turbulent times we are living through, the opportunity to be part of a group experience organized around a given topic or specific purpose is a deeply empowering example of community. Anchoring oneself amidst a gathering of like-minded souls is a great way to describe the entrepreneurial mastermind group I’ve enjoyed this past year. Imagine it: ten powerful, spiritually-centered female business leaders from all over the USA virtually coming together every week for an entire year. We’re women committed to up-leveling and growing our practices. Talk about being incredibly inspired and supported!

Yet, living on the same street is only one small aspect of what brought us together and super- charged our

I must additionally mention the sweet joy and generosity of spirit I experienced while being part of this team

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of dedicated, professional goddesses. We truly got to know each other. We shared business aspirations. We cheered and celebrated each other every step of the way — every little win or courageous personal stretch recognized and appreciated.

The work momentum that was created, especially during days when the isolation of COVID-19 realities kept us physically apart, was truly invaluable. We profoundly impacted each others’ lives as we shared our expertise and business wisdom. We had many laughs and great fun, too, in the process of furthering careers.

Here’s a special shout-out of appreciation here to our Femme Genius Mastermind leader, Carla Samson, who was brilliantly instrumental in creating our group and guiding us ever-forward in our growth. Sometimes a community evolves from the desire one individual has to call others of similar mindset together.

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thoughts, and feelings too. Together we make our way, supporting each other to dare greatly during this precious time in our lives. We cheer each other on, and commiserate when necessary. Most importantly, we remind each other of all that’s yet to come. We nudge each other toward dreams yet realized, toward standing powerful and radiant in our full magnificence. For there is still so much more music ready to be played inside each of us!

And as icing on the cake, our little group was finally able to come together in person at a summer retreat to mark the close of our year-long partnership. What an absolute joy to meet off-screen at a beautiful cottage on a lake in Brooklyn, MI. We savored a long weekend playing together while also masterminding on our businesses. Pleasures included meditation and movement practices, delicious food, paddle boarding, swimming, a long walk, moviewatching, a beginner’s rapping lesson, time in the sauna, and toasting with glasses of prosecco while watching the sunset. Community at its finest!

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Maria Sylvester, MSW, CPC is a certified Life Coach in Ann Arbor, MI who loves empowering adolescents, adults, and couples to live from the HEART of what really matters to them so that they can bring their fully expressed, vibrant selves into the world.

She has a special gift for helping women reclaim their feminine power, and embrace their radiant, sensual, sexy spirits. Their lives transform. They soar into their mid-life magnificence!

I can’t resist also mentioning here a Facebook community — my Midlife Magnificence Group — I started a year ago.

I had a deep desire for women like myself to have a place to come together and share notes on this unique time in our lives. I believe that we discover more about ourselves when we vulnerably and courageously share personal realities and stories.

In this group, I offer posts to facilitate discussions and wisdom about midlife. The group members share posts,

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We are not meant to go it alone, dear ones! Time spent in community is time well spent. The experience of community is an opportunity to have some of our most essential needs met. Our need for love, support, encouragement, recognition, and fun is part of coming together. We ache to be seen, heard, and to feel we belong. We need to let ourselves have this pleasure tenfold, this pleasurable balm of community!

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Neighbors to the Rescue

by Marilyn A. Pellini Photo by Julia M. Cameron

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ears ago, we had a little fire scare in the middle of the night. My neighbor, who was with the volunteer fire department, got the call immediately. He knew from the house number given over his scanner that it was our house, right next door. He ran over, grabbed one of my children in each arm, and trudged across our yards though twelve inches of falling snow to the safety of his home. My neighbor came back along with the other firemen and discovered that a button on the stereo was slightly depressed, so the whole set overheated and had spewed a slight grey smoke throughout the house. We threw open all the windows and doors and they carried the stereo components out to the driveway to cool off and later be discarded.

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By dawn, we were back in our snug beds without a thought of going to either work or school the next day. The tenseness of the situation and the early hour had left us exhausted. We were so happy to have had our neighbors and community members come to our rescue. We always made our annual contribution to the fire company, but this heroic effort demanded more. We sent another check, a note of thanks, and I also went by on their meeting night to drop off some homemade cookies. That was the least we could do for our devoted community workers.

When I first moved to this little town from a big city, I was not at all sure I was going to like the rural atmosphere. It

only took me three days to be certain that this was where I always wanted to live. Not even the lure of returning to the state where both my husband and I were born could get me to move. Establishing somewhere you have never lived before is so difficult, and we had already lived in four states during our first six years of marriage. Now my first child was going to start school, and I just hoped our family would stay throughout my children’s school years.

On my first morning in this new town, the gentleman next door came over to introduce himself. My husband and children had gone off to visit the grandparents while I got some unpacking done, so he did not get to meet them. His wife Jean appeared at my door next and announced, “While your family is away, you will take your meals with us — breakfast is at nine, lunch at noon, and dinner at six.” I tried to protest by saying I had a car and could go out to grab a bite, but Jean insisted. I was well-fed until my children and husband returned. They came home on the evening of Labor Day, since my son Michael was to start school as a kindergartener that coming Wednesday. Their bedrooms were all set up, the bathroom completed, and the kitchen ready to go for our meals. My neighbors’ help had saved me hours of time so I could continue my unpacking.

When my first spring here in our new house arrived, this same neighbor came to my door with a huge bouquet of lilacs. “Are these for me?” I asked in amazement, as lilacs were one of my favorite flowers.

“No,” he replied. “These are for Michael to bring to his teacher.” I looked at him quizzically, and he explained that it was a local tradition to bring the teacher flowers on May Day, and that was followed by a lovely little dance ceremony around the May Pole out on the school grounds.

I walked down to watch the proceedings with my little one, Lynn, and it was so beautiful. Small town living was for me, I concluded. My only question was, how many vases must each teacher have to accommodate all the flowers she received that day?! I found the neighborly cheer all the more charming and heart-warming, and on that day I was so grateful to have found such a community. With time that tradition faded away, but it was so joyful while it lasted.

This small-town ambience not only made settling here all the more pleasant, but it has really come in handy as I have aged. More recently, I was out cutting some shrubs when I scraped my leg on a thick branch that I had just lopped off. I did not even look down at my leg to investigate, as it did not hurt at all. Going on with my yardwork, I suddenly wondered why one of my Croc shoes seemed wet, only to discover it was filled with blood. I cleaned off under the hose and ran in to bandage the rather long scrape. The bleeding stopped when I put my leg up, but started again each time I put it down.

None of my neighbors were home, as it was one of those absolutely beautiful summer days. Yet, I was hesitant to call the Ambulance Corps, as it did not seem all that

serious. I had made friends with a lovely young woman named Kathy at my town pool just after my husband had passed away. I thought perhaps she could help.

When I explained my situation, she and her husband, Tim, were at my house in minutes. Kathy cleaned up the mess on my kitchen floor with an old towel, and upon seeing I had taken out a TV dinner, she popped that into the microwave and served me my dinner. They kept me company for a while, with strict instructions to keep my leg up for at least one more hour and made me promise to call the ambulance if the bleeding did not stop. Before leaving they made sure I had my phone, water, and a snack by my side so I would not have to move. When the hour had passed, the bleeding had not. The ambulance was at my place in minutes, and they could not stop the bleeding either, so they had to take me to the hospital.

When the EMTs arrived, Nick, my young, kind neighbor from across the street, came out and asked if he could do anything for me. After explaining what had happened, and that it was not that serious a situation, he asked the volunteers if I would have to spend the night at the hospital. When they said they did not think so, he gave them his phone number and told them to have me call him and he would come to get me. Although I ended up not being discharged until 12:00 AM and he had work the next day, he was there to assist me in my time of need.

In one of my previous articles I told you about Lisa, another young neighbor just across the street who did my grocery shopping for the whole year of Coronavirus shutdown. When I finally called her to say that I had gotten both shots and she was now off the hook, she still offered to pick up water or detergent for me, as those are so heavy.

Dean, who lives diagonally across the street, was one of my students as a boy. He drove me to the hospital when I had awful stomach pain. It turned out to be an intestinal blockage, and I was in the hospital for five days.

I live alone, my husband is gone. We would have attacked all of these problems together, but that cannot be now. My children live far away, and eventually I will have to move nearer to one of them. In the meantime, however, I have wonderful caring friends and neighbors in this town who are backed up by extraordinary community workers. Who could ask for anything more from a town I grew to love as soon as I moved here?

Marilyn Pellini published her first book, Dear Al, A Widow’s Struggles and Remembrances, in 2018. That same year, she won the first place prize in the New York State Federation of Women’s Club writing contest. In the past, she’s had poetry and articles published in magazines such as On the Water, Westchester Parent, Balanced Rock, and others.

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Coffee-Cardamom Banana Bread

by Tanja Rohn MacKenzie

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can rarely follow a recipe. I can’t help but browse through a few, get inspired, and adapt. I don’t know where I picked up this baking methodology, but there it is.

Raising two school-age kids gave me the opportunity to get creative with afterschool snacks. They didn’t like that too much.

Chunks of nuts in the banana bread? “Yuck!” Chocolate chunks instead of chips?

“What is this?” Flaky salt on top? “Too crunchy.”

No matter. My solo tea-time was delicious. Enjoy this treat all by yourself while the littles are at school, or in any peaceful moment that presents itself.

Ingredients

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3 very ripe bananas

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1/3

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1 egg, beaten

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1 tsp vanilla extract

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1 tsp orange extract

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3 tbsp brewed coffee

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1½ tsp cardamom powder

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Big pinch of cinnamon

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Big pinch of nutmeg

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¾ cup sugar

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½ tsp kosher salt

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1 tsp baking soda

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1½ cup all-purpose flour

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Big handful of walnut pieces

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Big handful of dark chocolate chunks

cup butter, melted (plus more to butter the pan)

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Great news: only one bowl is required!

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Preheat oven to 350. Line a 4” x 8” loaf pan with parchment paper. Butter the paper.

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In a large bowl, mash the banana as smoothly as possible. Add the melted butter and stir. Pour in the beaten egg, sugar, vanilla, orange extract, and coffee.

Mix well. Add baking soda and salt. Mix well. Add flour and spices. Mix until just combined. Add walnuts and chocolate chunks. Mix lightly.

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Pour into the loaf pan, top with flaky salt and a few more chocolate chunks. Get fancy with another banana sliced lengthwise and laid on top.

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Bake on the middle rack for 1 hour.

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Test for doneness with a wooden skewer inserted in the center of the loaf. If it comes out clean, it’s done!

Let it rest as long as you can possibly stand it. Just above room temperature is best.

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Herd Immunity

by Lisa Profera, MD

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ou’ve probably heard about herd immunity more than ever over the last 20 months. But what is it exactly? According to the Oxford Dictionary, herd immunity is a “resistance to the spread of an infectious disease within a population that is based on pre-existing immunity of a high proportion of individuals as a result of previous infection or vaccination."

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When we refer to a “herd” of humans, we generally mean a portion of our community — this can be local, regional, national, or even global. When a large portion of the community is protected from a disease, then the disease essentially has nowhere to go, no one to infect. As a result, those that are immune and those that are not immune are both protected. Herd immunity is community immunity.

There are basically two ways to achieve herd immunity: natural infection and acquired immunity through vaccination. After recovering from natural infection, the individual will produce antibodies and have immune memory against that disease. Ideally, that fully-recovered person will have immunity for life, but this is not guaranteed. Our immune system is in constant flux and it tends to weaken as we age no matter how healthy we are. Vaccination offers similar protection from the disease. Typically, vaccines trick your immune system into thinking there’s an infection, thus allowing the immune system to recognize and fight that offending agent in the future. There has recently been a lot of debate over which type of immunity is most effective for different situations.

What does it take to achieve herd immunity? This varies by disease. For a highly contagious disease like the measles, 94% of the population would need to be immune to prevent its spread. With COVID-19, the number is closer to 70%, but we won’t really know this for sure. The numbers have changed as different variants have emerged.

The reproduction number, or R0 (pronounced “R-naught”), refers to the average number of people who can become infected by the virus when they come in contact with someone who is contagious. For example, measles is a highly transmissible disease and has an R0 of 18. That means that one person with measles can be expected to infect 18 other people on average. If a disease has R0 of 1 or less than 1, it will likely wear itself out and certainly won’t spread to pandemic levels. For the swine flu outbreak of 2009, the R0 was about 1.5.

The calculation of the R0 for a particular disease depends upon several factors: incubation period, infectious period, modes of transmission, and contact rate. The calculation of R0 also assumes that the entire population is vulnerable (natural immunity and vaccines do not exist and there is no way to contain the spread). This was the case at the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic when we didn’t know what we were dealing with. The R0 of original COVID was thought to be between 2 and 3. Upon further study and more evolving data, that number was increased to 5.7 by the CDC back in July of 2020. An incremental increase in R0 represents an exponential increase in transmissibility. Respiratory viruses (COVID-19, chicken-pox, and measles) tend to have a higher R0 compared to those transmitted through blood or bodily fluids (such as HIV, ebola, and hepatitis C).

What we do know is that the R0 for COVID-19 is not fixed; it’s a moving target. Now with the delta variant, the R0 is estimated to be as high as 6 to 8, according to some calculations. This means that the vulnerable are in more danger from the disease. This is not as contagious as chicken-pox (which has an R0 of 10), but it’s quite concerning. With an R0 of 6-8, about 85% of the community would need to be protected (naturally immune or vaccinated) in order to achieve herd immunity.

What does this mean in terms of COVID-19 and our community? As of the writing of this article (early September 2021), approximately 50.8% of people in Michigan have been vaccinated (with almost 60% in Washtenaw County). We don’t really know how many people have natural immunity. Unfortunately, we don’t have good testing or data on this. The conservative “guesstimate” is about 20%.

Another conundrum is mutations and variants; these seem to be developing quickly. Recently, the delta variant has been dominant in the US, but this may (and probably will) shift again. Re-infection or “breakthrough infection” can also happen in people who have recovered from COVID or have been vaccinated, and this complicates things as well.

Although that individual might not get as sick, they still may be able to transmit the virus to someone who may be at risk.

It seems that COVID is here to stay, but hopefully sometime soon, it will become endemic rather than pandemic. As of the end of the summer, calculations of herd immunity levels in the US may be as high as 80%.

We can look forward to the days when severe illness from COVID will no longer be such a threat, and subsequent seasonal waves of this virus will just cause the “common cold,” just like the older versions of coronavirus that have been circulating the planet for many decades.!

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The Precarious Mental Health of Children and Adolescents During COVID-19

by Alon Kahana, MD, PhD

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he theme for our November issue of The Brick Magazine is “community.” In that spirit, this column will be the first of several on the topic of mental health, focusing this time on the mental of health of adolescents and young adults — our children and grandchildren.

Stating that adolescents face complex social and emotional challenges is an understatement. From the pre-teen years to adulthood, our personality and sense of self are realized based on our genetics, environment, and upbringing. This is driven home to me especially when I take care of children with congenital disorders of the eyes and face — kids born without eyes or with deformed eye sockets or noses, or facial clefting syndromes that involve much more than just the lip and palate. I typically have a conversation with the parents of the young patient that goes something like this:

Your child has an abnormality from birth that affects their appearance (or interferes with their visual function). You and I note that your child is different from normal. But as far as your young child is concerned, they have no problem. They were born that way — they never knew anything different.

(If they have no eyes): Sight is something they never had, so they can’t miss it.

(If they have a facial deformity): The appearance of their face is something that a young child is not concerned with — they’re looking at your face, not their own face.

Their response to their own congenital condition will be dictated primarily by the response of the people around them. Young children see themselves through their parents’ eyes. If their parents are upset, then they will be upset.

Adolescents and developing young adults see themselves through their peers’ eyes. If their friends are upset, then they will be upset.

Eventually, we reach a point of maturity — “true adulthood” — which I define as the ability to see ourselves through our own eyes. We know who we are, and see ourselves for what we truly are, not caring about what other people think of us. Getting to the point of seeing ourselves through our own eyes requires a level of strength and maturity that is derived from the prior two

stages — seeing ourselves through our parents’ and our peers’ eyes. If you want your child to be strong and able to withstand the trials and tribulations of peer opinion during adolescence, you need to give them the inner strength and confidence by helping them see themselves for what they have, not for what they presumably lost.

Parents usually respond very well to such a conversation, thank me for giving them the bigger picture, and feel reassured that their young child is not suffering.

The peak period of adolescence — middle school, high school, and college — is a time of tremendous pressure.

This has been particularly true in the age of COVID. My own family has dealt with mental health issues related to COVID isolation. I work with a nurse whose son had to take a leave of absence from medical school because of isolation-induced depression. Unfortunately, he was too old to be on her family health insurance plan, and had an ACA-associated Medicaid insurance policy that provided very minimal support for mental health.

Why is it that the public safety-net insurance policy for our poorest and most vulnerable is so wanting for support of the mental health issues that keep such people in poor and vulnerable conditions? Oftentimes, a mental health issue is the underlying cause of persistent poverty and vulnerability. Medicaid will cover the costs associated with treating diabetes or heart disease, but not those associated with treating depression.

Universities realize that many of their students are intellectually brilliant but emotionally fragile. At many universities, programs have been created to provide emotional and mental health support beyond typical mental health counseling and therapy. At the University of Michigan, for instance, "Wolverine Wellness," a program within the University Health Service, fosters holistic community and personal wellbeing through mentorship, coaching, and workshops that support the physical, emotional/mental, spiritual, social, intellectual, and other dimensions of students' well-being. A strong sense of belonging in their campus community also supports young adults' emotional and mental health. According to Christine Modey, PhD, director of the Michigan Community Scholars Program (one of several residential learning communities at the University of Michigan), learning communities allow

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students to live and learn together in a campus residence hall, with mentorship from older students and support from dedicated faculty and staff. Such programs provide students with the social and emotional support they need to navigate the transition between high school and college, between home and campus.

who purport to have Tourette’s Syndrome. Social media and its effects on young adults will be a topic for a future column.

The COVID pandemic has added yet another stressor to the already stressed mindset of adolescents and young adults.

The lockdown-induced isolation, the virtual classrooms with unapproachable professors, the facemasks that block facial expressions, and the compensatory explosion of activity on social media have all fueled a high level of anxiety that may lead to depression and drug use, particularly alcohol and cannabis. All of us are susceptible to isolation-induced anxiety. But studies show that adolescents are particularly prone to such anxiety, presumably because they are in the most socially active and mobile period of their lives.

Dr. Alon Kahana is a professor of oculoplastic surgery at Oakland University’s William Beaumont School of Medicine. He was born in Ramat Gan, Israel, and grew up in Connecticut. He completed his undergraduate studies in biochemistry at Brandeis University and received his MD and PhD in molecular genetics and cell biology from the University of Chicago Pritzker School of Medicine.

In my opinion, one of the worst manifestations of the COVID-induced isolation has been the increased use of social media. I just read an article about a contagion of facial tics in teenage girls who engage in social media with “influencers”

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In the meantime, heed the needs of your children and grandchildren. Let them know that we’re all here for them.

In 2007, Dr. Kahana was recruited to the University of Michigan Kellogg Eye Center, where he rose up the ranks to become tenured faculty with an international reputation in orbital surgery.

He has authored over 80 peer-reviewed publications, multiple book chapters and reviews, and has given 100+ lectures throughout the United States and internationally.

Dr. Kahana sees patients in Ann Arbor, Livonia, and Flint, and operates at multiple locations throughout Southeast Michigan.

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