THE NAKED TRUTH

Santa Fe Wine Festival

Saturday, July 2 & Sunday, July 3, 12:00–6:00 pm

Sample wine from 15 New Mexico Wineries  Live Music, Food Trucks and Vendors

Adult Admission: $18  Teens (13–18): $5  12 and under: free! Advance tickets required—no tickets will be sold at the door! Go to golondrinas.org to purchase tickets.

Las Golondrinas Members are free but must reserve member tickets in advance. Member ID required for entry. Valid ID for 21 and over mandatory in order to purchase or consume alcoholic beverages.

505-471-2261  golondrinas.org  334 Los Pinos Road  Santa Fe, NM

PARTIALLY FUNDED BY THE CITY OF SANTA FE ARTS COMMISSION AND THE 1% LODGERS’ TAX, COUNTY OF SANTA FE LODGERS’ TAX, AND NEW MEXICO ARTS

BY LAYLA ASHER

BLOWJOBS GET A BAD RAP

If you caught SFR’s Love & Sex issue earlier this year, you already know a bit about who I am—your friendly local sex worker, a radical self-love enthusiast and now, occasional writer.

Although the work I do varies daily, the goal is to open a dialogue with my community. Sometimes the conversations are about serious things like legalizing consensual sex work or paying for porn. Other times, when the world is feeling a bit too heavy, it’s about breaking down stigmas in a fun and silly way. A dickstraction if you will…

So, let’s talk about blowjobs.

What’s sillier than that? Just the name alone is silly and...misleading. More like a suckjob, that, like, totally should not suck, OK?! A lot of us have sucked dick or had our dicks sucked, let’s keep it real, but how many of us are having a truly connected and enjoyable experience while doing it? Maybe, “they don’t call it a job for nothin’!” comes to mind?

It’s hard (ahem) to get statistics on blowjobs specifically, but according to a March 2020 survey from New York City’s Bespoke Surgical (the office of the highly respected surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein) dubbed “The State of Oral Sex in America,” Americans engage in oral sex five times a month on average. The same survey states that even though 80% of those surveyed take pleasure in oral sex, over 25% said it makes them feel selfconscious, 13.5% said it’s uncomfortable, and more than 11% said it makes them feel dirty.

Clearly, oral sex means different things to different people, but does it have to mean anything? Many of us still carry around this imaginary rulebook for sex of all kinds, and it’s chock full of unhelpful tidbits about how women take no pleasure in sex, or how it can be weaponized and conditional. Society has made some real headway in that department, especially in the sex-positive community, but have we made any real headway in the head department?

My opinion has always been that a first-rate blowjob happens when the blower takes almost as much pleasure as the blowee. Sometimes that’s because it’s an expression of love, other times it’s just a fun and creative outlet. If we are approaching beezers with conditions like expected reciprocity or as a reward—or if we’re trying not to give too soon (for fear of being stuck in the dreaded blowjobzone) or only giving if we’re committed /in love, are we still open enough to take pleasure in the act?

Let me interject that the blowjobzone is a real-ass thing, and trust me—it’s much worse than the friendzone. It can happen early on in a relation/situationship when you give some really fantastic head and suddenly that’s all your partner wants anymore. The only way to break the cycle is to end things. This is by no means the giver’s fault, it’s more a strange combination of BJ coveting and ego on the receiver’s part. Receivers, please don’t do this—it’s weird and dehumanizing.

If you are out there rockin’ a cock, it’s time to start rockin’ some stellar BJ etiquette as well. It’s been time, but if you aren’t communicating and checking in with your partner in the moment, start now. I promise it won’t take away any magic. I mean, it can’t possibly take away any more than pushing our heads down. (Stop. With. This. Shit. Already!) I completely get and subscribe to the fact that a phenomenal BJ is sloppy and full of skull-fucking and deepthroating, all of which can and should be done with consent and communication. But take a beat and give your partner a chance to show you what they can do and enjoy doing. Nobody likes a pusher.

Some, meanwhile, may be so paralyzed by all the perceived rules to the point blowjobs are off the table. Relax. Breathe. Think. Your awareness and sensitivity can make you an amazing lover, so if you feel comfortable enough, try, try again. And, hey, if they just aren’t your thing, that’s completely valid and OK, too! I’m Team Blowjob all the way, but slobbin’ on a knob is not for everyone.

Which is to say that our issues around sex and intimacy can be so heavy, right? Let’s rewind and tackle one thing at a time. Clear your mind of conditions and forget what you think you learned from mainstream porn. Get silly and communicative. Blowjobs can be such a beautiful and intimate way to express love, so full of eye contact and primal desire. They can also be full of spit, watery eyes, gagging and have absolutely nothing to do with love whatsoever, and those are great, too.

Layla Asher is a local sex worker on a mission to spread radical self love to her community and the world. Have further questions about blowjobs after reading this? Want to ask your local sex worker their expert opinion on something? Let’s start a sex-positive conversation that keeps respect and confidentiality at the forefront and judgment a thing of the past. Please submit your questions to thenakedlayla@gmail.com and include an alias that protects your anonymity.

SFAI140

The Santa Fe Art Institute 1600 St. Michael’s Drive (505) 424-5050 A dynamic presentation highlighting the inspiration and work of artists-in-residence. 6 pm, free

A BIRD IN HAND

The Bat and The Buffalo Gallery 821 Canyon Road (505) 629-3059 An eclectic group show featuring the works of Priyanka Kumar, Roark Griffith and others. 6 pm, free

BOOKS/LECTURES

RICHARD VARGAS, MARGARET RANDALL AND DEMETRIA MARTINEZ

Teatro Paraguas 3205 Calle Marie (505) 424-1601 Three poets. It's about to get wild. Wild words, we mean. 5 pm, free

THE DEVIL'S HIGHWAY

Obscura Gallery 1405 Paseo De Peralta (505) 577-6708 Joan Myers signs copies of her photography book. 5-7 pm, free

DANCE

INVADERS OF THE HEART 2022: THE BIRTH OF VENUS

National Dance Institute of New Mexico 1140 Alto St. tinyurl.com/ycxx6xrh Through mythology, archetype and storytelling, this show explores the divine feminine. 7 pm, $25

EVENTS

HORMIGAS AT FUEGO

Fort Marcy Park 490 Washington Ave. tinyurl.com/vd7cbt83 Weimar Hormigas' mascot is a fire ant looking angry, whilst holding a baseball bat. Ants aren't good at baseball. God, the opposing teams make this so easy for us. 6 pm, $8

JOB FAIR: ENTRY LEVEL AUTISM PARAPROFESSIONALS

CARD Center Santa Fe 4001 Office Court Dr., Ste. 706 (505) 395-9611 CARD is looking for people interested in entry level roles to support clients in the autism community. No experience required, only a passion to work with children. 3-5:30 pm, free

PRIDE POSTER MAKING

Main Library 145 Washington Ave. (505) 955-6780 Stop by the Main Library to make posters for the Library’s Pride Parade float. All supplies provided, they just need your extreme talents. 3:30-5:30 pm, free

VAMANOS! SANTA FE COMMUNITY WALKS

Bicentennial Park 1121 Alto St. sfct.org/vamonos Walk with community members on an ADA-accessible trail. It's nice out there, but don’t forget water and sunscreen. 10-11 am, free

FILM

BLESS THEIR LITTLE HEARTS + THE TRUCKER + IN THE STREET

No Name Cinema 2013 Pinon St. nonamecinema.org Billy Woodberry's 1984 LA Rebellion masterpiece with opening shorts: The Trucker (2021) and In The Street (1948). 7 pm, free (but please donate)

FOOD

DISTILLERY TOUR AND TASTING

Santa Fe Spirits Distillery 7505 Mallard Way, Ste. 1 tinyurl.com/ym8jaej5 Spirits. We love 'em. But we don't know how to make 'em. Santa Fe Spirits do, and they'll show us how they do. RSVP in advance and learn the stuff. 3 pm, $25

COURTESY SMOKE THE MOON

“Distillation of Life II” by GL Richardson, part of 22 Fables opening Friday, June 24 at Smoke the Moon.

MUSIC

JOHNNY LLOYD AND HILARY SCHACHT

Beer Creek Brewing Company 3810 Hwy. 14 (505) 471-9271 Hotbox plays together again at Beer Creek Brewing Co's 4th Anniversary Celebration. 6-7 pm, free

LIDO PIMIENTA

Railyard Plaza Market and Alcaldesa Streets ampconcerts.org Songs that boldly celebrate Pimienta's ecstatic musical hybridity of electronic-meets-cumbia. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 7 pm, free

ROBERT FOX TRIO

Club Legato 125 E Palace Ave. lacasasena.com/clublegato Jazz jams. 6-9 pm, free THEATER

EVERYBODY

Santa Fe Playhouse 142 E De Vargas St. (505) 988-4262 You can expect an allegorical examination of salvation that celebrates mortality and the importance of love. Here, characters are literally states of being, like kinship and evil. Yeah, it’s deep stuff. 7:30 pm, $30-$75

SPRING AWAKENING

New Mexico Actors Lab 1213 Parkway Drive tinyurl.com/yc6b97zd Starring a dynamic company of local singers, actors and dancers, Spring Awakening is a coming-of-age rock musical that, we must admit, has got a lot of musical bangers in there. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 7 pm, $15-$30 WORKSHOP

TOUR OF MAKE SANTA FE

MAKE Santa Fe 2879 All Trades Road (505) 819-3502 Drop by if you're interested in checking out the MAKE Santa Fe labs. It's where cool things happen, so we hear. 6-8 pm, free

SAT/25

ART

ARTWALK SANTA FE

Allan Houser Art Park 125 Lincoln Ave., Ste. 112 (505) 982-4705 An outdoor arts and crafts market in IAIA's MoCNA Allan Houser Art Park, featuring local and emerging artists from Santa Fe and surrounding communities. Noon-4 pm, free

PAULA & IRVING KLAW: VINTAGE PRINTS (CLOSING RECEPTION)

No Name Cinema 2013 Pinon St. nonamecinema.org Closing reception for the exhibition of 20 vintage prints from the Klaw "bizarre fetish underground" archive. Final copies of the 2nd printing of the exhibition's accompanying book will be available. 6-9 pm, free (but always donate)

QUARANTINE DIARY

Galisteo Community Center 35 Avenida Vieja Photos and watercolors from Corey McGillicuddy. What more could you need? 10 am-5 pm, free

SANTA FE ARTISTS MARKET

In the West Casitas 1612 Alcaldesa St. (505) 310-8766 Local arts and crafts. Jewelry, furniture, paintings, you name it, they (probably) have it. Plus, it feels good to support local makers rather than imported tourist stuff. 8 am-2 pm, free BOOKS/LECTURES

NATURAL HEALTH TALKS: PRINCIPLES OF PERMACULTURE

Fruit Of The Earth Natural Health 909 Early St. tinyurl.com/55dtb6bt Explore the ethics and principles of permaculture with a hands-on planting experience with permaculturist Nelson Denman. 1:30-3 pm, free

DANCE

CREATIVE MOVEMENT FOR CHILDREN (AGES 3-6)

Reunity Resources 1829 San Ysidro Crossing reunityresources.com Creative Movement engages children in gross and fine motor skills as well as cognitive development through movement. 10-10:45 am, $5

DANCES IN THE PARKS: THE POWER OF PLACE

Monica Lucero Park 850 Camino Consuelo movewest.org The first in a series of four pop-up children’s performances celebrating the culture and land. 10:30-11 am, free

CONTRA DANCE

Odd Fellows Hall 1125 Cerrillos Road Jake Turin calling and Santa Fe Megaband playing. No partner needed. 7 pm, $10

EVENTS

HORMIGAS AT FUEGO

Fort Marcy Park 490 Washington Ave. tinyurl.com/vd7cbt83 Stick ball. 6 pm, $8

PRIDE PARADE/PRIDE DRIVE & PRIDE ON THE PLAZA

Santa Fe Plaza 63 Lincoln Ave. tinyurl.com/347566rr Pride, vehicular-style. Starts at the PERA Building and goes from there. Post-Pride Plaza activities included. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 11 am-5 pm, free

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PRIDE

Meow Wolf 1352 Rufina Circle (505) 395-6369 Quinn Alexander Fontaine and Saints Ball. (see 3Qs, page 24) 10 pm, $25

SAND PLAY SATURDAY

Railyard Park 740 Cerrillos Road (505) 316-3596 The kids can play in sand and learn about engineering. 10 am-noon, free

SPRINGER SUMMER ARTS AND CRAFTS FAIR

Santa Fe Trail Museum Park 602 Maxwell Ave., Springer tinyurl.com/yp6z8dws 30+ vendors, plus live music with singer-songwriter Riley Ross Walker and JD's DJ Entertainment. 9 am-4 pm, free

TOUR OF THE BATTLE AT GLORIETA PASS

Agora Center 7 Avenida Vista Grande, Eldorado tinyurl.com/4xrnjknj A walking tour of the historic Civil War battle that occurred in Glorieta. Meet at The Agora Center then branch out to the various sites. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 10 am-2 pm, free (but tip the historian and the site)

RAILYARD SUMMER MOVIE SERIES: MAMMA MIA!

Railyard Park 740 Cerrillos Road ampconcerts.org Ya'll know it. Mamma Mia! haters beware, this is not a safe space for you. Sponsored by Santa Fe Pride, note there's even pre-movie ABBA karaoke. 8 pm, free

FARMERS MARKET

Santa Fe Farmers Market Pavilion 1607 Paseo De Peralta (505) 983-4098 The best stuff that's grown all around town. Plus that fancy bread stand. 8 am-1 pm, free

PLANTITA VEGAN BAKERY POP-UP

Plantita Vegan Bakery 1704 Lena St. Unit B4 (505) 603-0897 Stop by the kitchen for a variety of organic vegan baked goods. 10 am-noon, free

FINE WATER TASTING

REMIX Audio Bar 101 W Marcy St., Ste. 201 (505) 803-7949 Fancy water with Marti Mills. (see Food, page 31) 11 am, $35

MUSIC

ELI YOUNG BAND: LOVE TALKING TOUR

Buffalo Thunder Resort and Casino 20 Buffalo Thunder Trail (505) 455-5555 Country quartet band. 11 am, $62-$122

PRIDE AFTER DARK

Tumbleroot Brewery & Distillery 2791 Agua Fría St. (505) 303-3808 The official PRIDE Santa Fe after party featuring special guest performer ICON Crystal Waters. 8:30 pm, $25

ROBERT FOX TRIO

Club Legato 125 E Palace Ave. lacasasena.com/clublegato The Charlie Parker vibes are gonna be strong, we think. 6-9 pm, free

THEATER

EVERYBODY

Santa Fe Playhouse 142 E De Vargas St. (505) 988-4262 In this mordantly witty 2018 Pulitzer Prize finalist, characters are moral concepts. They probably fight a ton. That’s theater. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 2 pm, $30-$75

RUTH ZAPORAH WITH THE INTERNATIONAL ACTION THEATER ENSEMBLE

Railyard Performance Center 1611 Paseo de Peralta (505) 982-8309 Zaporah is recognized throughout the world as a dynamic, inventive physical theater performer. She's got her own Wikipedia page, so you know she's important. Theater fans can't miss out on this showcase. 8 pm, $20

SANTA FE FOR ARTS SAKE: THE SANTA FE SURVEY

Center for Contemporary Arts 1050 Old Pecos Trail A 10 min pop-up performance as an absurdist vision of social media’s iconic information gathering tool. 1, 2 and 3 pm, free

SPRING AWAKENING

New Mexico Actors Lab 1213 Parkway Drive (505) 466-3533 This large-cast modern classic features a timely story about what faces our youth as they mature. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 7 pm, $15-$30

WHEN STARS ALIGN

Wise Fool New Mexico 1131 Siler Road, Ste. B tinyurl.com/mrx5vnkn Quiver & Tempt Society embark on an astrology odyssey, where lusty Leo meets kinky Capricorn, sprinkled with Aquarian glitz. Join headliner Carey seeking love on this dazzling burlesque journey. 4 pm, $20-$25

WORKSHOP

ART OF DECORATIVE KNOT TYING WORKSHOP

MAKE Santa Fe 2879 All Trades Road (505) 819-3502 Learn to identify and tie functional knots. It’s like scouting, but without all the terror about bear attacks. 3 pm, $55

CYANOPRINT ON PAPER WORKSHOP

Pushpin Collaborative Co 1925 Rosina St., Ste. D (505) 372-7728 Learn to make your own cyanotype cards and prints. 10 am-2 pm, $80

SUN/26

ART

RAILYARD ARTISAN MARKET

Railyard Artisan Market 1607 Paseo de Peralta (505) 983-4098 See what the artisans are making these days. 10 am-3 pm, free

EVENTS

HORMIGAS AT FUEGO

Fort Marcy Park 490 Washington Ave. tinyurl.com/vd7cbt83 Le base, le ball. 6 pm, $8

PRIDE AFTER BURN: CLOSING T-DANCE

Tumbleroot Brewery & Distillery 2791 Agua Fría St. (505) 303-3808 Post-Pride party. 1-5 pm, $15

MUSIC

DOUG MONTGOMERY

Rio Chama Steakhouse 414 Old Santa Fe Trail (505) 955-0765 Tunes from a master pianist. 6:30-9:30 pm, free

NAKEDMAN

Lensic Performing Arts Center 211 W San Francisco St. (505) 988-1234 A 16-movement song cycle about gay men’s lives. 3 pm, $20-$45

OWEN COOK

La Reina at El Rey Court 1862 Cerrillos Road (505) 982-1931 American folk and country. 7-9 pm, free

THE SANTA FE SYMPHONY: THE SOLDIER'S TALE (VIRTUAL EVENT)

Online tinyurl.com/2prvpu5m Igor Stravinsky's magnificent L'Histoire du soldat (The Soldier's Tale). Streaming all day, $20

THEATER

EVERYBODY

Santa Fe Playhouse 142 E De Vargas St. (505) 988-4262 An allegorical examination of salvation that celebrates mortality and the importance of love. 2 pm, $30-$75

RUTH ZAPORAH WITH THE INTERNATIONAL ACTION THEATER ENSEMBLE

Railyard Performance Center 1611 Paseo de Peralta, (505) 982-8309 Inventive physical theater. 8 pm, $20

SPRING AWAKENING

New Mexico Actors Lab 1213 Parkway Drive tinyurl.com/yc6b97zd Sad and singing German teens. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 2 pm, $15-$30

WORKSHOP

ELECTRICITY & CIRCUITS

MAKE Santa Fe 2879 All Trades Road tinyurl.com/2p8s63ns A glimpse into basic robotics and electronics-based art. 3 pm, $40

YOGA IN THE PARK

Bicentennial Alto Park 1121 Alto St. 60-minute Vinyasa flow class. 10 am, $10-$15

MON/27

BOOKS/LECTURES

WOMEN OF BEARS EARS

Santa Fe Women's Club 1616 Old Pecos Trail tinyurl.com/3bx3cuxu Regina Lopez-Whiteskunk (Ute) discusses Bears Ears. 6 pm, $20

MUSEUMS

DANCE

SANTA FE SWING

Odd Fellows Hall 1125 Cerrillos Road Weekly swing dancing. 7 pm, $3 open dance, $8 open dance + the class

MUSIC

FELECIA FORD

Santa Fe Plaza 100 Old Santa Fe Trail ampconcerts.org Ford's rock career has taken her across seas and to almost every state in the US. Now we’ve got her, and we might not let go. (see SFR picks, pages 18-19) 6 pm, free

TUE/28

ART

ART EXPLORED! STORY TIME AT THE NEW MEXICO MUSEUM OF ART

New Mexico Museum of Art 107 W Palace Ave. (505) 476-5072 Bring the kiddos to hear works on famous artists. 11 am, free

PORTALS

Wild Hearts Gallery 221 B Highway 165, Placitas (505) 867-2450 Oil and watercolor paintings by Colleen Z Gregoire are on display. A sense of home always inspires Gregoire's works. 10 am-4 pm, free

BOOKS/LECTURES

STORYTIME AND CRAFT

Santa Fe Public Library Southside 6599 Jaguar Drive (505) 955-2820 Crafts. Books. Activities. Joy. The possibilities are endless. 10:30 am, free

MUSIC

BOOMROOTS

Santa Fe Plaza 100 Old Santa Fe Trail ampconcerts.org The Boomroots Collective brings high level progressive Reggae and hip-hop music, which has been described as "Jamaican funk with New Mexican soul." 6 pm, free

IAIA MUSEUM OF CONTEMPORARY NATIVE ARTS

108 Cathedral Place (505) 983-8900 Athena LaTocha: Mesabi Redux. Art of Indigenous Fashion. 10 am-4 pm, Wed-Sat, Mon 11 am-4 pm, Sun, $5-$10

MUSEUM OF INDIAN ARTS AND CULTURE

706 Camino Lejo (505) 476-1200 Painted Reflections: Isomeric Design in Ancestral Pueblo Pottery. ReVOlution. 10 am-5 pm, Tues-Sun, $3-$9

MUSEUM OF INTERNATIONAL FOLK ART

706 Camino Lejo (505) 476-1200 Yokai: Ghosts and Demons of Japan. Música Buena. 10 am-5 pm, Tues-Sun, $3-$12

NEW MEXICO HISTORY MUSEUM

113 Lincoln Ave. (505) 476-5200 Setting the Standard: The Fred Harvey Company and Its Legacy. The First World War. WORDS on the Edge. 10 am-5 pm, Tues-Sun, $7-$12, NM residents free 5-7 pm first Fri of the month

MUSEUM OF ENCAUSTIC ART

18 General Goodwin Road (505) 424-6487 Juried encaustic wax exhibition. 11 am-4 pm, Fri-Sun, $10

COURTESY OF THE MUSEUM OF ENCAUSTIC ART

Achong by Alicia Nathai, currently in the Museum of Encaustic Art’s Juried Wax Exhibition.

MUSEUM OF SPANISH COLONIAL ART

750 Camino Lejo (505) 982-2226 Pueblo-Spanish Revival Style: The Director’s Residence and the Architecture of John Gaw Meem. Trails, Rails, and Highways: How Trade Transformed New Mexico. 1-4 pm, Wed-Fri, $5-$12

NEW MEXICO MUSEUM OF ART

107 W Palace Ave. (505) 476-5063 Selections from the 20th Century Collection. 10 am-5 pm, Tues-Sun, $7-12

POEH CULTURAL CENTER

78 Cities of Gold Road (505) 455-5041 Di Wae Powa: A Partnership With the Smithsonian. Nah Poeh Meng: The Continuous Path. 9 am-5 pm, Tues-Sun, $7-$10

WHEELWRIGHT MUSEUM OF THE AMERICAN INDIAN

704 Camino Lejo (505) 982-4636 Beads: A Universe of Meaning. Portraits: Peoples, Places, and Perspectives. Laughter and Resilience: Humor in Native American Art 10 am-4 pm, Tues-Sat, $8