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Factors To Consider When Determining The Cause Of A Breakup

Granted, that subheading sounds more like a section title for a thesis paper, but that’s actually a good thing. Dissecting a failed relationship is a painful process, but you need to find a way to move on from what happened – to see the bigger picture and learn from your mistakes in order to get your ex back…for good.

Honesty

This is the make-or-break factor when determining the cause of a break up. When emotions are running high and you’re too close to the situation, it’s hard to be honest and objective about what really happened. Keep in mind that understanding what made you and your partner break up does not mean you have to play the blame game. It’s not that at all. It’s not about determining who was wrong. Rather, being honest about the true and real cause of your breakup means thinking about what you can do better the second time around.

Of course, it takes two to tango, so obviously what your partner can do to make you a stronger couple will also come up. You need to be honest about which role your partner will be taking, but – again –remember to put a positive spin on things.