BIZ Discussions (April 2023 issue)

Fighting The Urge to Quit….

TSHOLOFELO PEETERS

TPee Active

Using fitness as a vessel to transform people’s lives holistically

Editor's note

Anelile Mandisa Dlamini-Gibixego

Editor

One often wonders about the timing and when to start and if the time is right for this, or this or that The answer is that The time is always perfect when YOU are ready.

When YOU start to jump and take that leap of faith the universe gets itself ready to follow you Everything will either follow you or crumble around you, as it would have done in any case However, when we fix ourselves and change our mindset we see the world through a different lens

This month we have Tsholo Peeters who preaches a holistic approach to our lives, do check if you have environmental, financial, occupational, physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and family fitness How can you get there? What tools do you need?

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any

Alice Walker

Perhaps you need services from L&D Partners? Or RZD Coaching? Perhaps a scrumptious meal by Chef Linda? Have a read through Zakithi’s ‘fighting the urge to quit’ and be inspired to do better in 2023. It is always within you.

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Fighting The Fighting The Urge to Quit… Urge to Quit…

For many of us, the beginning of the year presents us with an opportunity to review the current state of our personal affairs, reconsider our life choices, commit to new goals, start afresh and put some work in, to reach the destination we desire.

I recently reflected on the fact that we are just over the first quarter of the year, and my thoughts quickly drew me to the fact that there are some matters that I thought by now I would have managed to improve or achieve in my life.

Despite all the efforts I have implored, I have realized that in some areas of my life I have come to a point where I experienced resistance – where I’ve gotten into a place where seems like there is just a force that stops me from progressing

The reality is that it is the nature of life itself that no matter how much planning we can do life will bring us to a point where we experience constant roadblocks – a feeling whereby no matter how much effort we put in, somehow, we feel exhausted and defeated.

One thing that is fairly common in human nature when we are faced with resistance, we sometimes feel the urge to quit. Although it is a normal human reactive response, it does not mean that we should entertain the urge to quit

The truth is if we do not quit, we draw ourselves closer to a place of more opportunities, joy, abundance, peace and fulfilment of our dreams. This reflective moment made me look deeper within and review alternate ways or options as such:

1. Decide that you are going to stay on course; when the going gets tough you’re allowed to pause, reflect, rest, get back up and keep going. Like a toddler who is still learning to walk, they fall, and get bruised but they insist, they get up again until they can walk and find their feet.

2. Check for Self-sabotaging behaviours: these actions which we do or don’t to ourselves that potentially block us from making progress or changes we desire in life. It could simply be that we are failing to prioritize, to plan and follow through

3. Allow yourself to Fail Well – When you allow yourself to fail well, this is when you acknowledge that you have not succeeded in something which you had planned to achieve. Failing well means that you are not making excuses but you’re opening yourself to deeply feel all the emotions that come with that disappointment; as you allow these emotions to run their course, you bring yourself into a new world of thinking differently and exploring some of the contributing factors that could have caused you to fail

4. Have a Sense of Resilience; Understand that resistance is not going to break you but it is presenting you with an opportunity to bounce back, realize that you have the capacity to break barriers and fight towards reaching greater heights. Adopt a strong sense of belief in yourself and your capabilities as you manifest the life you desire.

5. Build Momentum – I found that during the period of resistance, we are challenged to think more, our thought patterns are strengthened and as we rise we are no longer the same but a better version of who we need to be Do not shy away from the right principles you have set for your life.

I would like to leave you with these words of encouragement by one of my favourite authors, whose words have had a major impact on my critical thinking. She says that when we face resistance, we have to continuously speak to ourselves positively and not succumb to negativity that could be surrounding us -

About the author:

Zakithi G Shezi is a Social Worker in Private Practice; Child and Family Consultant and Inspirational Speaker Her private practice is based in Richards Bay, KZN Zakithi has extensive professional experience working with children, teens, adults couples, families and groups.

The practice offers professional services such as Trauma Counselling; Grief/ Bereavement Counselling, Anger management, Life Adjustment Issues, Anxiety, Depression & Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Substance Abuse , Marital Counselling, Parental Guidance, Divorce Counselling, Workplace Critical Incident Stress Debriefing Sessions. Mediation for Parenting Plans, Investigations on matters involving children and Professional Report services for the Courts.

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“You have to believe that this moment is preparing you for something amazing that has not happened yet, so keep going” Mel Robbins

TPee Active - Using fitness as a vessel to transform people’s lives holistically

Whenwethinkoffitness,weoftenthink of a big muscular guy, smelly sweat, pain, discomfort and disgusting green drinks.

Itisbecausethereissuchaterriblegymculturein mainstream media that is fixated on extreme diets,exerciseandsuffering.

How many of us pick up weight without thinking and when we have to do some work at losing it, often pick up a gym membership andleaveitafterafewattempts?

Well, TPee’s Tsholo believes in not only physical body work but follows a holistic understanding of your body so that you can fully embrace the change, and gain true empowerment and happiness in your own body

Fitnespreneure, wife and mother of three TsholoPeetersisnotonlyafitnessinfluencer, and Mrs SA finalist but uses all of the hats she wears to build change to transform women, and her voice to speak for the less fortunate andmostvulnerableinsociety.

Black woman in science

Our fave fitness hun is not only teaching us how to be extraordinary in our own lives but also lives it herself; she is taking up space in corporate as one of the telecoms industryleading systems engineers with over 16 years of experience. With a computer engineering foundation then later furthered her studies into more business solutions, products and business analysis to suit her personality she is leading teams on products for innovative solutions.Howinspiring!

“Passion leads to purpose”

Buildingherfitnessbrandovertenyears ago,overthisverydemandingjob,beinga youngmom,wifewithsmallkidswas difficultbutitwas“organic”.

Itbeganwithhersimplypostingher normalworkoutsandrunsjugglingher actuallife.Betweenbeingthekindof momwholovedtowearcostumesforher children,baking,planningparties,and workingfulltimeandyetstillwantingto beactivewithworkoutsandkeeping active.

Shegainedmorefollowersandthey neededhertipsandtricks.Thatishowher onlinegroupwasformed,withnormal peoplewholikedherauthenticityand concistency.Thiswastenyearsagoandthe grouphasbecomeafamily,athriving businessandasourceofincome.

Shehassincedoneapersonaltrainingcourseandlearned howtoassistmorepeopleinaconstructiveway Sheis alwaysinspiredbythestoriesofpositivefeedbackand people’stestimoniesoffightingdiabetes,mentalhealthand generallyfeelinggoodaboutthemselves.

Now that your eyes are open, make the sun jealous with your burning passion to start the day. Make the sun jealous or stay in bed.

Becoming Mrs SA… a top 10 finalist

Modelling is one of those things little girls dream and think about, this was the case for Tsholo especially because of her striking resemblance with BasetsanaKhumalo

When the Mrs South Africa competition was brought to her attention, she thought well “There is only one crown, but it is a good avenue to model with a purpose ” . She entered for the fun and ended up learning so much more. Mrs South Africa is not about the crown, it is about serving your community.Itisalsoexpensivetobeapartofitand a lot of investment is needed, but the benefits and networksareworthit.

The pageant teaches you how to be a businesswoman, and how to allocate funds for yourself and for your cause. It teaches you how to use the Miss SA finalist sash to open doors for others. How to write a proposal. There are many groups and individuals that need you to be a bridge for them and fight for them. Tsholo is still running community events, and negotiating for certain children’ssportskitsandschoolshoes.

Beauty? How do I define it…

Being content with one ’ s true self is true beauty. Understanding growth comes from within. Appreciation of growth. You become beautiful, by being content with your imperfections. Understanding that I have imperfections and being vulnerable

What do you do with your beauty? Do you use it in advocating for real issues? Advocating for human rights. Against gender-based violence, standing up for others. That is true beauty.

Tpeeactive: TransformEmpower-Give Back

Tpee Active offers a range of fitness services, namely personal training, 6week programmes, online/live/outdoor consultations and groups. There is also fitness apparel structurally suited for all bodies. The transformation has various aspects to offer holistic wellness: environmental, financial, occupational, physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual.

The pillars are to transform, empower and give back. Collaboration with other coaches allows this dream to be a reality. This allows full enrichment and total health and empowerment.

Milestones

Over and above everything. Listening to and hearing the testimonies from the people that we have helped is amazing and really affirms the truepurposeofwhatwearedoingatTPeeActive.

Tsholo speaks of true Internal fulfilment while doing this work. As a person who has been diagnosed with anxiety, being in a good state of fulfilment and having control while helping others with their mental health troubles is amazing This is a good space To be a wellness ambassador at her corporate workspace is also a positive affirmation, that recognition is meaningfulandisanhonour.

Tips from our Fitness Fave

Don’tmarryresults.Marrytheprocess.

When you fixate on the process and learn to concentrate on it, you will not be hurt when your body responds differently. All bodies are different.Thebodythanksyoueventually.

Dowhatyoucankeepdoingforalongtime

Canyoukeepitup?Makedecisionsthatyoucan keepupwithandthatyouenjoy

Lessons along the way

When Tsholo entered the fitness industry, a lot was going on and she felt that the market was congested. She asked herself, “ everyone is doing this, why me? Why will people support me?” but her brand was authentic and lifestyle based, people relatedtoherreallifeexperiencessomuch more. There are no shortcuts. There are many products in the market but she has keptherselfauthenticandtrue.

Thereisalwayscompetitionandanewkid on the block, especially online with social media platforms like Tik Tok. One always needs new ways of thinking and innovation.

With apparel, finding the perfect fit, for boobs,andbumsthatprovidesupportand comfort for her target market She needed to try a lot and do a lot of research to get theidealproduct.

Tips from our Fitness Fave

They are currently developing an app which will be an online fitness with a mentalhealthmanagementelement

Especiallywiththefood.Keeptruetoyourbody especiallywhennooneislooking.

StayTruetoyourself, Surround yourself with good people and like-mindedpeople.

When you have an accountability group and partner,everythingisbetter.

Lydia Salt Director

L&D Salt and Partners are SAGE & XERO

Certified Consultants and a Certified Training Centre based in Pinetown with over 33 years of experience The business was founded in 1990 by Dylan Salt, who had a vision that computers would be dominant in the future, indeed they were as the software evolved in the information age as well as the fourth industrial revolution that followed. They have been able to assist in integrating computer systems into various businesses with their software and training This allows business owners peace of mind knowing that their business ticks all the necessary boxes.

Their team of made up of four highly trained & experienced individuals who offer collaboration, authentic communication, accountability and making a difference in the partnership. They specialise in Sage Pastel Payroll, Accounting, VIP and Xero Software - Sales, installations and training They also do Payroll Outsourcing and are a certified classroom training company. They assess business processes and operational requirements and advise the best way forward.

What is the secret of success after 33 years?

Wehavebeenabletoretainclients.Themajor milestone is that we have conducted our businessfor33yearswithmanyclientsstillwith usfromourbeginningyears Thisisbecausewe treat all clients equally and with the same respectandimportance.“Nojobhasbeenthe biggestorsmallest-weapproacheachclientas ifitisourbiggestjob”.

Oursuccesshasprimarilybeenthroughwordof mouth,whenclientsfeelwelltakencareof,they naturallyreferustotheirnetworks,andthatis how our business has grown. We do value networking via various business networks and tradeorindustryevents Wealsohaveawebsite as well as social media like Facebook and an Instagrampresence.

L&D Salt and Partners promises to provide key solutions for your business in modern times

“No job has been the biggest or smallest - we approach each client as if it is our biggest job”.

What advice do you have for upcoming business owners?

Don’t ever assume going on your own is a walk in the park

Do your due diligence because if you don’t succeed you stand to lose everything. Hard work and integrity is very important. Challenges are always immense in any business, from finance, systems, premises, staff, pandemics, staying relevant in a constantly changing environment

After33years,L&Dplanstocontinueservicing their clients and expand further The future is verypositiveastherewillalwaysbebusinesses inneedofourservices.ThroughGodandJesus Christ, the business will continue to soar and flourish. The founders have high integrity and runtheirbusinesswithgoodprinciples,ahigh regardfortheircustomersandhonesty.Always goingtheextramilefortheclients.Wefreely givealotofadvicetoourclientsandlovetosee theirbusinessesgrow.

What is next for L&D?

Dylan Salt Director

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Recipe Alert

Chef Linda’s Creamy Samp with Meaty Beef Bones and Green Beans

Feeds: 6pax Cooking And Preparation Time: 3hrs

IINGREDIENTS NGREDIENTS

500g Samp

1kg Beef bones

1 whole white onion (chopped)

100ml cooking oil

1 Tsp garlic and ginger

Pinch salt and pepper

1 tsp coriander powder

1 tsp garam masala

1 cup beef stock

1 cup pouring cream

200 g green beans

METHOD METHOD

1Rinse Samp properly and cook it with beef bones in salted water on medium heat until soft Set aside

2On medium heat In a separate pot add oil and when it ’ s hot, add chopped onion, garlic, ginger, green beans, and all spices Sauté until a bit golden brown

3Add Samp and bones to the onion mixture and mix well Add beef stock and cream, and reduce the heat to simmer for 10 min correct the seasoning by adding a pinch of salt and pepper

4Serve immediately because Samp dries out very quickly, garnish with fresh chopped parsley or coriander

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