Larissa Martin

What is a Luxury to Society During this Pandemic? From a Person with a Disability’s Perspective

By Larissa Martin

By definition, luxury is a state of great comfort and extravagant living.

During this pandemic, I have noticed a lot of people complaining on social media about not being able to go anywhere or do anything — how they cannot get their hair cut or see family and friends, etc. I get that they are frustrated. I really do. Though for me, a person with a disability, who has cerebral palsy, is an amputee and is a wheelchair user, it is not all that different from every day. I already consider these basic things as luxuries to begin with; all the activities that everyone has been craving and wanting to go back to so badly. Someone like me can’t have those things and I’m okay with that, but how and why? Why am I okay with not having these things everyone else is privileged to have? The simple explanation is, I rarely get to have them, if ever on a normal day. So, I’m not as upset as a lot of people are. You could say, it’s normal for me and many others with disabilities. Don’t get me wrong, I miss the luxuries I did have. But it’s not the luxuries everyone thinks. Not vacations, not driving, because I can’t drive. I miss seeing my chosen family as I call them, my best friends. I miss them like crazy. I normally see them once a month or sometimes, due to life being crazy, I go months and months without seeing one of them. That’s just life and what happens. I’m so grateful and thankful for Zoom and other apps which help me stay connected to all of them during this time.

As a society, we need to understand and grasp the concept that luxuries are things we think we need, or we feel that we’re entitled to certain luxuries just like celebrities do because they’re famous and think, “We have them at our disposal so why not take them for granted? What if people didn’t have them?"

For me and other people in the disability community, we don’t have a lot of luxuries the rest of society does. We’re excluded from having these things not by choice rather by our circumstances of whatever disability that person may have. I think if you asked people with disabilities what luxury looks like for them, you’d get different answers because every person is different — maybe that could be a little bit of privacy without aid or a family member for a bit. Whatever it looks like for you, no matter what your disability looks like, visible or invisible, there are different luxuries for everyone. For me personally, the big luxury I’m missing right now is my chosen family — they help me in so many ways. They help me experience things I don’t get to that a lot of people do.

I think when all this is done, society needs to consider what is a luxury and what isn’t and think about including people with disabilities in the conversation. At the end of the day, we as a disability community understand and value luxuries and what they are to us more than most. They are just things and experiences that

we can complain about not having right now. Luxuries are things we do not actually need. We should see luxuries as tiny things, like a conversation with someone, some self-care to better yourself, or just an appreciation of all the things and people in your life. All these tiny things are the luxuries we need to cherish and truly appreciate. They are the things that are more important luxuries and we can’t afford to lose them. At the end of the day, that’s what matters — not the luxuries we can go out and get or experience. I do and will continue to cherish these small luxuries I have and maybe the rest of the world can do the same, not just for me but for the disability community as a whole. I think the world would be in a better place once we realized this.

Larissa Martin is an inspirational non-fiction writer self-published author. Her goal writing is for people who read her work see things from a different perspective.