Cosmopolitan Liza Soberano July 2016

do what

you

LovE And Make Serious Money From It!

The 6 Guys you Meet on

TInDEr

aduLtINg aNXIEty?

you’re So Not alone

SLEEK on FLEEK Straight Hair Solutions Sexy Fashion Gymspo ● Get a Ballerina Bod ● ●

lIza SoBErano “Hope” Springs

Phenomenal

CoSMo’S PaSSIon ISSuE

Follow your Dream Be your own Boss Save the World STarT HErE.

BaSIC INSimple BEd? Sex Can Be Super Hot!

Is your Man “Emotionally unavailable”?

Why That’s Such B.S.

July

Fun, Fearless life 15 25 tHingS to do tHiS montH

Everything you need to eat, see, have, and do!

32 CoSmo Convo

Do you know what your passion is?

33 Hot debate

Would you give up a career for your dreams?

34 ConFeSSionS

Fun, Fearless Celebs 36 CoSmo girl WatCH

Style your sneaks like these cool AF celebs

37 CoSmo guy

Enrique Gil tells us why dancers are better in bed

38 guy WatCH

These guys have moves that scream sexy

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“Hope” SpringS pHenomenal

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18 liza Soberano 43 Sexy gymspo Fashion 62 basic in bed? make Simple Sex Hot again 68 if your man emotionally unavailable?

70 the 6 guys you meet on tinder 76 adulting anxiety?

80 do What you love (and make Serious money From it!)

104 Straight Hair Solutions 115 get a ballerina bod

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(PHOTO) sHaira luna. (Dress) bOOm sasOn.

Cover Stories

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Fun, Fearless Style 41 taSSel trove

A tiny detail can add infinite chic

42 look Hot in metalliC Bring on the bling

48 aSk Happy 49 trend teSt Work coordinates like a pro 50 WHat’S Hot

Fun, Fearless beauty

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Inject your look with gorgeous brights

54 beauty neWS

73 Sex Q&a

56 p500, topS!

74 aSk Him anytHing

Fashion and beauty

57 mad matte The lip trend you have to try

you, you, you

92 Find your SWeet Spot

58 aSk merm 59 tHe Skinny on Sugar FaCe

Why your sweet tooth might be making you look older

60 beauty 101

How to get a nearradioactive glow?

Exfoliate!

love, lust & other Stuff 66 WHy you need to Have tHe mini-talk An alternative way to DTR 70 mantHropology 72 HiS point oF vieW When the spark fizzes out

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76 anxiety and gen y

Why we’re the most ngarag generation yet

78 Cool Career

The journey to your dream job

82 need to knoW

What they don’t tell you about making a change in the world

86 6 girlS, 6 StartupS And how they turned their passions into successful businesses on their own 90 SeCret to being Happy Kiana Valenciano gets out of her comfort zone 91 CoSmo CommandmentS

Pastels that are anything but saccharine

98 get grapHiC

Bold, desaturated prints spell effortless cool

Hot & Healthy 111 Find a Sport you love

Make working out fun again!

113 Food buZZ

120 travel

Adventure and Southern chill come together in Davao

122 at your plaCe: abbey Sy

Style your space like an artist

124 WHip it up

Spice up your life with Sriracha!

regular Features 6 CliCk into CoSmo

114 body neWS

10 ContributorS

116 HealtH report

14 it’S a CoSmo World

Work on your willpower

live it up 119 So you Wanna get a pet?

What it actually takes

18 Happy liSt 125 SHopping direCtory 126 CoSmo aStrologer 128 CoSmo QuiZ

Are you petiks?

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53 pretty SWeet

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11 times You’re being emotionally Abused

13 pinay lesbians Reveal how they Came out

15 makeup hacks to make Your lips bigger, better

All the songs You need to listen to this July!

QUIZ: what Your lipstick Color says About You

QUIZ: Does Your Coworker have A Crush on You?

Just because your boyfriend doesn’t hit you, doesn’t mean he doesn’t abuse you in some other way.

Add these songs to your Spotify playlist—stat!

how I Confronted my husband’s mistress One woman comes out.

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Hilariously awkward but sweet—these stories will melt your heart.

Are you a red, pink, or a nude kind of girl?

QUIZ: Are You Dating A F*ckboy?

If he wants to find a job that will support his “party boy lifestyle,” you are dating a f*ckboy—get out.

Sans lip fillers.

Take this quiz and decode his landi style!

why smart-shaming has Got to stop

Saying “E di wow!” and “Ikaw na!” is derogatory and does more harm than good.

Here’s why.

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aya aBesamis was one of Cosmo’s 8 Sexiest Models in 2013. She models for “Straight Shooter,” on p. 104. The uST Fine Arts graduate says, “Modeling is definitely a passion of mine. Having been exposed to the world of fashion at a young age (both her parents were once fashion models), I see it as another form of art with myself as a canvas that portrays different images.” Aya is also passionate about painting and baking—she’s joining some exhibits later this year, and has a baking business with her mom called Sucre Palette.

“To the Cosmo Girl: Believe in yourself and pursue your dreams with passion. Never push for something without throwing your heart and soul into it. Always dream big!” is a freelance writer and freshman at the uP College of law.

The former Cosmo intern and former NGO worker wrote “When Change is Coming (From you),” p.86 because she believed she had an important story to tell her fellow Cosmo girls. “Writing it was a good reminder that even ordinary citizens are capable of making a difference, although it comes with sacrifices. A lot of us want to see positive changes in our country but aren’t sure how to be part of it or where to look. Our responsibility to help goes beyond our basic duties such as voting and paying taxes. We need to go the extra mile, too.”

“We Cosmo Girls are in the best position to help uplift the lives of our fellow Filipinos. If you’re reading this right now, it means you’re definitely more #blessed than most. Change doesn’t happen overnight or come from just one person. It should definitely begin with each of us because we are still a developing country, and there’s no better time to start than now.”

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maika Bernardo, who’s behind “25

Things to Do This Month” p.15 says, “Since my breakup late last year, I’ve resolved to be more game and open-minded about anything. A rule I now live by is this: Try anything once and finish it.

If you like it, do it again. If you don’t like it, then at least you’re sure you really don’t. Trying new things is a great way to put that principle in practice—you get to know yourself better and grow. Working on this feature made me feel like a little kid again who’s discovering new things—it’s been one of the best ways to move on and move forward.”

“When you’re way too deep into this adulting thing, you won’t want to regret not pursuing your passions. It’s never too late to start, but why not start now? Sign up for classes. look for mentors. Practice. Now na!”

sharon Que co-wrote “Making Cash Out of

Nothing At All,” p.80, with Clarissa de la Paz, with whom she wrote I Wish They Taught Money in High School. She believes anyone can make money out of their passion. “I’m living testimony!” she insists.

“Now’s the easiest time because of the Internet! you just have to know how monetize your talent, passion, or skill. Today, anyone can have an international business overnight, be a writer via blogging, a singer on youtube, or a graphic artist/web designer/virtual assistant/English teacher/medical transcriptionist— all online, in the comforts of their bedroom!”

“We Pinays should all pursue—and monetize—our passions because we can! We’ll love our lives even more and find deeper fulfillment in doing so. Today, the opportunities are limitless, and everything’s within reach, we just need enough motivation and creativity to make it happen.”

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Editor’s Letter

PASSION SENSE

Myrza Sison, Editorial Director

IG, Twitter @myrzasison email myrza@cosmo.ph

Cover girl Liza Soberano simply glowed!

Get to know the real her, p.18.

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In the early years of Cosmopolitan Philippines, “pursuing your passion” was definitely not the buzz-phrase that it is today. Even if it was already the late 90s, it seemed that young women then didn’t have the freedom (or didn’t think they did, even if the power to own it was really in their hands, as we at Cosmo always rallied to tell them) to follow their dreams, and this included things like choosing the college course they really wanted or applying for the job that would make them happy.

Torn between leading a life to please others and living life on her own terms, the Cosmo Girl struggled with going for careers in non-traditional fields which were either not held in high regard or deemed stable enough.

While Pinays were familiar with the maxim that “you can be whatever you want to be,” it wasn’t really something they were raised to believe in.

Almost two decades later, so much ground has been broken. Role models and life pegs to inspire you now abound. These days, there is no field you cannot study or pursue. The range of opportunities seems limitless, with the internet making so many different paths accessible to everyone. Gen Y has never had it better. So, lucky, lucky you, right? Or are you? Why do we hear about so many still grappling with their goals, or lack thereof? Why isn’t everyone availing of all these wonderful options now within reach?

July’s Passion Issue can nudge (or push, depending on how seriously you take it) you in the direction you need. Start with “Anxiety and Generation Y” on p.76 to help you deal. But “What If You have No Idea What Your Passion Is?” Turn to p.32. Explore “The Path to Finding True Career Love,” p.78, then decide if you “Would You Leave a Stable Career to Pursue Your Passion?” (p.33). Is “Making Cash Out of Nothing at All” possible? (Yes, p.80!) “6 Girls, 6 Startups” (p.86) prove just that. What if your goals are of the loftier, saving-theworld kind? “When Change Is Coming (From You),” p. 82, tells you what it entails. Whatever passion or path you choose to pursue, Cosmo’s behind you all the way. Just promise us one thing: Don’t go through coasting through life just by petiks (p.128). Sayang! You owe it to yourself to partake of the very best that life has to offer. As they say, “You didn’t come this far to only come this far.”

n assio But p t is no h! g enou this: Read

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It was next to impossible to pin down workaholic duo LizQuien for their Cosmo July shoots, but so worth it, especially “seeing Enrique’s luscious lips, badass poses, and dance moves in person!” gushed interviewer and sittings editor Patricia Era. P.37!

passion moDEl! We were floored and moved by top photog and Cosmo favorite Shaira Luna when she spoke at Cosmo’s Fun

Fearless Life event in Cebu recently. The former child prodigy (she was one of the genius Promil Kids who rose to fame in the mid-90s) told us her touching story about how she struggled to break free from from her parents’ and society’s expectations. Groomed since childhood to become the country’s youngest doctor, she bravely dropped out of college to do what she really wanted—to become a photographer.

Shaira inspired our Cebu readers that day to simply forge their own paths in pursuit of their dreams for a happier and more fulfilling life.

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@jeancyu Happy 19th anniversary, @cosmopolitan_ philippines and congratulations on yesterday’s successful event! I’m pretty sure my fellow Cosmo girls and I learned a thing or two from yesterday’s speakers at #CosmoFunFearlessLife!

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Spotted @misspopquiz, my fave interior designer and blogger in the May issue of @cosmo_ph. @JilBarcenas Had a blast today at #CosmoFunFearlessLife with @cosmo_ph. The event definitely got me motivated and inspired. @jannallison It’s a good time to believe in your own beauty. Thank you @cosmo_ ph! #CosmoFunFearlessLife @BBungcayao Happy 19th Anniversary @cosmo_ph! Thanks for putting @coleengarcia on your cover. More stunning covers to come!

Rogelio Villanueva OrotLim-Uy One word to describe the May issue of Cosmo: #EXPLOSIVE. Tinarie Malicdem The cover looks really nice!

I must say this was the best so far...

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Happy 19th anniversary! I’m thrilled that you guys featured local body positive warriors not only in your Fun Fearless Female Awards, but in a fashion editorial as well! Seeing Rona Samson-Tai embracing her curves and radiating confidence was truly inspiring.

Your “Yes, You Could Be HIV+” article was an eye-opener too. Keep it up! —Lorna, 25

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DOWN the Unleaded Cucumber, the signature drink of the Gourmet Bar at Novotel Manila Araneta Center. We love that they use organic produce.

Must-tries: tapas and mozza dishes, and the Pizza Lungga.

9. CATCH Selena Gomez live in Manila when her Revival Tour heats up the Mall of Asia Arena on July 31 (smtickets.com).

10. BUY this budget fashion find: a multiway dress from Twist Convertible Clothing (twist.manila@gmail. com, @twist.manila on Instagram) for all those weddings you’ll be attending—or for each of your own bridesmaids.

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LAUGH OUT LOUD when you watch the Ghostbusters reboot (in theaters July 20). This supernatural comedy is girlpowered—Melissa McCarthy and Kirsten Wiig lead the cast. There’s eye candy, too (oh hi, Chris Hemsworth!).

14 GRAB this gorgeous Vivienne Tam + Starbucks mug, inspired by Tam’s iconic “Bird and Flora” print (P1,295, includes a Starbucks card and tote bag.) Available at all Starbucks outlets until the end of this month.

15. GET FIT and download the KFit app (free, App Store and Google Play Store). It helps you discover, plan, and book different fitness, wellness, and even beauty activities for just P999 a month. Now, sticking to a fitness routine doesn’t have to be boring.

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The Cosmo Interview

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Faith, Love, and

Liza Soberano wants you to know that she is more than skin-deep.

By Sasha Lim-Uy Photographs by BJ Pascual

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“ When people say I’m pretty, I always wonder if I’m pretty lang.

I don’t like that feeling,.”

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A meeting with Hope Elizabeth “Liza” Soberano feels like a special occasion.

As the Philippines’ leading lady du jour, free time isn’t something she can always afford, so when she does have a spare moment, it’s worthy of celebration.

It’s her second—and consecutive—day off in a busy month and you can tell that the break, which she spent with family, has rejuvenated her. “I cook for them! Last night, I cooked dinner. I cooked penne alfredo,” she informs us enthusiastically. Today, Liza, as she often does during lighter work projects, brings her younger brother, Justin, along. It’s a crude form of hanging out, but the tightly bonded pair takes what they can get.

Days right now are a marathon: a grueling schedule of whole-day tapings for her teleserye Dolce Amore (where she describes 1 a.m. as an early wrap-up), rehearsals, and endorsements commitments.

“I get tired, everybody gets tired,” she shares pragmatically. She gives us a small smile. “I just cry it away for the night and the next day, I feel all right. It doesn’t mean anything; it’s just my way to release stress.” Liza, whose kind reputation off-cam has widely been

publicized, hardly ever complains. Last year, at the peak of her breakout soap opera Forevermore, she was hospitalized for five days. They later found out that she had pneumonia brought on by over-fatigue.

Forevermore was a workout. The cast shuttled back and forth between Baguio and Manila, and unbeknownst to Liza, the traveling and temperature shifts weakened her immune system. When the cast had to shoot a physically strenuous episode, her body gave up. She couldn’t breathe and collapsed at the staff standby area. Still, the young actress continued working.

The next day, she promptly attended a commercial shoot, where even a threehour nap couldn’t revive her spirits. The team eventually took her to a clinic; she was put on dextrose, but then sent home.

It was her makeup artist, Mickey See, who drove her to the hospital some time after that. “Tito Mickey tricked me into going because he knew I didn’t want to go,” she exclaims.

After she had checked out, Liza was confined to only three hours of work a day.

This wasn’t what Liza imagined for herself. She didn’t spend her life waiting for the moment her face would be splattered all over major thoroughfares and appearing on TV every half an hour. She may have only become an official adult early this year, but she has a very clear picture of what could’ve been: jeans, sneakers, college (perhaps pre-law?), sports. But she’s here and, quite remarkably, on top of the world. Right below her, pushing her to heights she never imagined, is her family.

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“Where’s Justin?” Liza calls out. The people in the dressing room shrug, as if to gesture that he was all over the studio. “Pwedeng paki tawag siya?” Justin, her tall, gangly brother, rolls in about 10 minutes later. “What is it?” he asks.

“Can you just stay here na lang? It’s getting dark out and I don’t want you to keep walking around,” she intones, her voice maintaining its usual gentle pace but tinged with finality. It’s barely 6 p.m. and Justin opens his mouth to protest, but sits back on the couch anyway.

Liza is all of one year and six months older, but this has always been their dynamic.

The Everyday I Love You star alternates between ate and mother roles.

She respectfully declines to elaborate on her family life, but ever the doting sister, she lights up when she talks about her brother.

“We didn’t grow up with our biological parents talaga, so we were always stuck together. I grew up with my lolo and lola whom I call Mommy and Daddy. My dad naman, I didn’t see him till I was one year old because he moved here to the Philippines,” she narrates.

“It was just us [me and Justin] all the time.” Amid a rather shaky childhood, her brother was her constant— and vice versa—as well as her driving force.

Dreams, she tells us, keep her motivated. At 18, Liza is allowed to dream as wildly as she wants, but her goals are surprisingly forthright—albeit much more arduous to achieve.

“I have so much to accomplish for the future.”

You pause to expect the usual desire for awards and status, but Liza continues

without missing a beat. “I still have to get a house for my mommy in the States.

I have a lot of siblings— there are eight of us—so I have to make a life for them too.”

She ponders on her words for a moment. “[This job] is tiring and draining, and it takes a lot of time…

Time away from my family, time away from things I want to do, but I’m grateful that I’m here. It’s done a lot for me…for us,” she says, glancing over at her brother.

Liza started modeling when she was around 12. “It was all print, no commercials. I was really shy,” she says with a chuckle, as if wondering how she ended up where she is now. “I wouldn’t even talk to people unless they talked to me. That was how shy I was!”

The rest of her show biz beginnings was a whirlwind: she signed up with manager Ogie Diaz within a week of their first meeting, then auditioned for and won her first teleserye role (for 2012’s Kung Ako’y Iiwan Mo with Jake Cuenca and Shaina Magdayao) a month after that. A year later, she was comanaged with ABS-CBN’s talent pool Star Magic.

The speed with which things happened barely gave the self-confessed over-thinker time to mull things over. When she does now though, she does so ruefully. “It’s bad when you think about it. I don’t get to live my life like other teenagers. When my best friends hang out, I’m not able to go.” Liza flashes her signature girlish grin. “Then I think about it again, and I’m very blessed. I’m able to provide for my family

The Cosmo Interview every day, I’m able to buy the things that other people can’t, for my family and also for myself.”

Despite initial reservations to join the industry full time, Liza got over her stage fright—though she admits still feeling nervous before production numbers for A.S.A.P. (“I’m really not a dancer!”). “I started enjoying what I was doing because I wanted to help my family. Moneywise, I thought it would be a good opportunity to be able to help.”

“I’m sweet naman talaga, I’m very serene, there’s nothing bad about me, but I’m not really a girly-girl.”

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Liza’s beauty has been welldocumented. She has, after all, ranked and dominated several international Most Beautiful lists. But now only a few feet away, no one can seem to look at her. It’s a sudden and strange inability, especially with someone who is probably used to being ogled at. Maybe because a glimpse simply isn’t enough; a glance would lead to a stare, and a stare is still, in most cultures, rude. Maybe because it’s all too much and everyone’s afraid that if they look too hard, she might turn out to be a mirage.

But Liza is the real deal, and yes, she’s hardened to people leering. “All the time!” she yelps in a tone that is dripping with humility and genuine astonishment. The The Bet headliner understands the impact of her looks all too well—her fans remind her with praises on social media on a daily basis—but she uses that knowledge to fight against it.

What surprises her is people’s fascination with her looks alone.

Liza gives out a resigned sigh, like a comedian who has busted out every joke in his arsenal but only garnered laughs for a single gag. “When people say I’m pretty, I always wonder if I’m pretty lang. I don’t like that feeling,” says. “I try my best—at acting, dancing. I work hard to be good at all those things so they can say that okay, she’s pretty, but she’s also talented.”

Liza is glaringly uncomfortable with this topic, but her quiet modesty is enough to be her spokesperson.

Indeed, her stylist and friend Perry Tabora considers it an even bigger asset. “Liza is one of the most humble people I know,” he shares. “Regardless of how beautiful she is and how far

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Every day is a persistent battle to be more than just a face—and her angelic features are the type that comes with expectations.

Liza can accept the so-called consequences of being beautiful, but she doesn’t sit on it simply because it’s possible to be more.

“Audrey Hepburn,” she squeals. “She’s the most beautiful person and she was nice inside-out. She did a lot of charity work in Africa and because she was a United Nations ambassador.”

The teen queen has never had it easy in life, she’s not about to start now, and she’s especially not going to use her beauty to take shortcuts.

Liza is a bad ass, even though no one knows about it.

“I have this image that I’m a good girl who likes princesses, flowers, and butterflies, but I’m not,” she confesses. Liza considers her answer for a moment. “I mean, I’m sweet naman talaga, I’m very serene, there’s nothing bad about me, but I’m not really a girly-girl.”

If we weren’t having this conversation, she’d most likely be at home, playing Call of Duty Infinite Warfare, a first-person shooter video game. She is also currently obsessed with the more hardcore Plants vs. Zombies: Garden Warfare 2. “I love video games. I remember playing Special Force (another first-person shooter game online) on the computer when I was 12.”

“I try not to allow anyone to dictate who I am.”

Watching the sweetfaced ingénue speak animatedly about shooting up digital bad guys and her love for American—“as in the tackling kind”— football feels like watching an oddly dubbed Korean show on a local channel, but Liza isn’t done talking.

She’s kept this side of her in for far too long, and now she’s bursting to let it out.

She loves the Ultimate Fighting Championships (“My favorite is Georges StPierre and, of course, Ronda Rousey. I was sad when she lost, but I think she let it get to her head kasi she kept winning, ‘di ba? She didn’t train as hard as she used

to.”). She hates wrestling (“It’s fake. I don’t like it.”).

She loves rap (“I’m starting to warm up to Kanye West.

He can’t really sing, but he’s great at improv.”). She loves boys’ clothing (“My brother used to dress me up as a guy and we’d take photo shoots at home.”).

Her eyes widen as she mentions her wish to do action films. “I want to do something na parang The Walking Dead. That’s my favorite show.”

Liza was somewhat of a gremlin growing up. She was always outdoors with her bike and hoverboard and she was always moving. She points to a

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scar on her knee, which she got from running around when she was seven or eight. “I fell and cut my knee. It got hooked on to a nail and the skin came off,” she recalls. “It was gross!” she adds gleefully.

Now that she’s old enough to do things alone, Liza is itching for some serious adventure. She launches into another barrage—this time of her plans, her eyes once again sparkling with anticipation. “I want to try scuba

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diving, bungee jumping. I want to jump off a plane with a parachute, paragliding, snorkeling,” she ticks them off with her finger. “I want to go to Sagada, too, but I don’t know if I can…yet.”

She doesn’t have time for these things now, but ironically, it’s her sense for adventure that brought her to the limelight. “I love trying things out. That’s why I tried being an artista. It was something so new to me.”

Hope for the future

Liza starts talking to us about investments, thinking aloud about what financial opportunities she could look into. Right now, all of her savings are in a bank account, but she’s keen on putting them to good use.

“I’m trying to look for a good investment. I also want to buy land because it doesn’t depreciate quickly.”

An earnest shadow crosses her eyes.

“I want to have businesses. Lots of businesses…para my family, in the future, okay na sila kahit wala na ako dito. I can’t do this forever. I don’t see myself taping 24 hours a day forever.”

It’s hard to believe that Liza was technically a kid several months ago, but the industry has always been known to push people to grow up fast.

“It’s hard right now when you’re at a stage when you’re trying to figure out who you are. You can’t do that when people are controlling you and telling you what you should be,” she says nonchalantly. “I try not to allow anyone to dictate who I am.”

Soft-spoken but always outspoken, Liza, for example, is known for replying to social media comments— despite warnings from her friends to let them slide. At the beginning of her career, an impassioned fan of a famous love team (Liza played a third party role in their teleserye) told her to kill herself.

But while she could ignore comments about herself, scathing remarks about her mother got her going. “I try to be respectful. I just told them that they don’t even know her.”

“I am being who I am and telling them how I feel,” she declares firmly. “It’s important to remind these people that I’m human. What they’re saying affects me and I’m allowed to show that.”

For someone supposedly in her formative years, Liza is unflappable.

“I discovered that I’m a really strong woman. I don’t let things bring me down.”

She shakes her head in earnest disbelief. “This generation is so overpowered by media,” she starts, saying it as though she’s removed from it—and emotionally, she definitely is. “It’s nonsense.” ■

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“I discovered that I’m a really strong woman. I don’t let things bring me down.”

Trust Cosmo to bring the fabulous life wherever you are!

Cosmopolitan inspired Cebu’s Cosmo Girls to dream big and pursue their passions at the Fun Fearless Life event held recently at the Cebu I.T. Park. Cosmo EIC Myrza Sison, fashion list Kat photographer Shaira Luna, celebrity stylist Cruz, and Summit Books EIC and authorr Marla cal Miniano gave inspiring as well as practical ives. talks to help Cosmo Girls live their best lives. yed Before and between the talks, CGs enjoyed ge visiting the booths there: the Avida lounge where they tried the Avida condo living app on Facebook, Skin White’s all-pink ball pit, and Beauty Butter’s mini-manicure salon.

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What if You have no idea What Your passion is?

Take my case, for example: I’ve been

working for practically a decade now and I’m currently on my eighth job.

Clearly, I have not really defined what my passion is, save for knowing that I don’t want the typical desk gig. I don’t want to be stuck in a 9-to-5 (or longer) just sitting in front of my computer. I want the opportunity to travel, attend social events, meet people—just be exposed to different people, places, things, ideas. I actually found my dream job— twice. I held both for a couple of years before I let money issues take me elsewhere, and I have to admit, there are days when I regret that decision. I have tried getting back into that industry without much

success, save for the occasional writing contribution, so if there’s one thing I learned from those experiences, it’s to never let money be the deciding factor. The long hours, the occasional headaches, the lack of financial compensation— all those things don’t really matter so much if you actually love what you’re doing.

So how do you find this so-called passion? I’ve realized while writing this piece that you either find your passion or it finds you.

There’s always something that dominates your free time, your conversations, etc., and it dominates them without your even being conscious of it. You already know this to be true—

hint: What dominates your free time and your conversations?

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you’re just ignoring it because you may not think it’s anything worth spending time on or that it’s even—gasp—a viable job option.

But why not? You don’t really need to set the goal of making money by primarily doing what you love. You could take on a “normal” job and pursue your passion during your free time. It’s not such a bad idea because, like I said earlier, even “dream jobs” suck sometimes. So set aside the expectation that you will love every second of a job you pursued because it’s your passion, because let’s be realistic, you won’t. Don’t allow yourself to be limited just because you have an idea of what success is and what you’re supposed to do to achieve it.

Despite this, if you’re passionate about something, it’ll feel right doing it. It will be so

ingrained into your life that you don’t even have to think about it. It’s fun and it feels natural, even if some people might think otherwise. I believe that if you have to look for what you’re passionate about, then you’re probably not passionate about anything. But more often than not, you’re probably already passionate about something.

In fact, you could be passionate about a great many things, but maybe you’re just looking the other way. A child doesn’t go to the playground wondering how to find fun.

The child simply goes and has fun. It should be the same with your passion. So go ahead and pursue that dream project, switch to the career you’ve always wanted, dare to be brave, but don’t expect that it’ll be smooth-sailing all the way. Still, you’ll find that if you try and do what you love and then do it really well, the rewards will be well worth it. ◼ WWW.COSMO.PH

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“Do what you love and you’ll never have to work a single day,” we hear time and again. yes, your passion can have a place in your life, whether as a job or as a hobby. you just need to open your eyes to find it.

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DEBATE

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Businesswoman There are many justifiable reasons to leave a job— growth, opportunity, convenience, etc.—but there are only a few valid reasons to leave a stable career. It takes blood, sweat, and tears to reach a point of security, and in this day and age, it would be irresponsible and naïve to completely abandon that to chase after uncertainty.

I have absolutely nothing against pursuing passions, but you can be creative and be smart about it. Instead of starting from scratch, build on what you already have and know, and use the benefits of a stable career, such as options, flexibility, opportunities, connections, and resources. If that means finding another job within your field that will give you more time or capital to invest in your passion, do it. If it means gearing your career towards a direction that merges your expertise and passion, go for it!

Letting go of your stability is not a prerequisite to achieving your dreams; there are endless ways to make stability work for you.

Instead of leaving an established career with reckless abandon, I’d use it to get to where I really wanted to go.

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Would You Leave a Stable Career to Pursue Your Passion?

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Eira Gemanil, 26 Graphic designer I’m not a fan of settling. Working eight hours a day, five days a week, all while feeling miserable and unfulfilled is not how I want to spend my life. I strongly believe in the idea of pursuing one’s passion and dreams, because why else would we be here?

To me, pursuing your passion is pursuing happiness, contentment, and personal growth. And so, if the work you currently have is not the dream, or is not in any way bringing you closer to it, why be there in the first place? Working just for money’s sake will never be enough if you hate every moment of your work life. Or if you spend every day dreaming of another life. Financial gains don’t necessarily equal success, especially if your heart has never been into it.

Having a stable job should not be a reason to keep you from pursuing your passion.

I believe in pursuing your passion, and I believe in pursuing it responsibly. If you cannot leave your job now, at least do something, anything, to help you propel yourself closer to where your true passion lies. Keep doing these things until you save enough money and courage to leave your unfulfilling job and finally go for what you really want. Just don’t settle.

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Cosmo readers share their steamiest secrets and embarrassing experiences.

“I have memorized, word for word, the entire first episode of Gilmore Girls.

Not ashamed.” —SaSha, 22

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“a guy picked me up in his car, and it started to smell. I’d stepped in dog poop and smeared it on the floor of his car!

Oops.” —Steph, 23

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“My boyfriend and I decided to try anal, and I was Googling some things before we got to it. Later that day, his cousin asked to borrow my phone. His face went white—I’d forgotten that my last search was anal-sex tips.

He will never use my phone again.” —robyN, 18

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Beer Bed “Some friends and I slept over at the house of a guy I had a thing with. I slept in the bed with him, woke up early, and noticed I had peed on the bed! I quickly got up and changed. when he woke up, he thought someone spilled a beer on him, so I said another girl had.”

—Kath, 19

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darInG drIver “When I was 14, I would steal my mom’s car, pick up all my friends, and drive us to Mcdonald’s. I didn’t even have my license yet. When we brought the car back, we’d spray perfume, so my mom wouldn’t smell the food. We thought we were so badass.” —daNI, 24

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“A guard caught me on campus without my ID. Instead of giving him my student number, I ran and he chased me until I hid in the girls’ bathroom! I had to call a friend and get her to switch clothes with me, since he was still waiting outside.” —MaIta, 18 WWW.COSMO.PH

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Phone FAIl

Fun, Fearless Confessions

‘‘

elevator party

I like to dance when I’m alone in the elevator in my building. once, it got stuck and I did some crazy dancing.

When it started up again and I got out, the guard was there. he told me he’d seen all my moves on the security camera. —aNNa, 26

TrIck or TreAT

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Oops!

“I was walking my dog past a gourmet shop, and the saleswoman came out and gave me a free sample. I ate it and it was nasty— turns out, it was for the dog.”

—lINdSay, 27 9

PoWder PuFF GIrL “My live-in boyfriend and I were fighting, when he suddenly decided to go to sleep. I was so angry, I sprinkled baby powder in his hair and made snipping sounds next to his ear with scissors.” —Mara, 23

Guy CoNFeSSIoNS

his shameless scams and juiciest secrets revealed.

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Sneeze AnD run “WhIle I WAS DrIvIng, I SuDDenly FelT lIke SneezIng, AnD I DIDn’T hAve Any TISSue, So I SneezeD ouT The WInDoW. My SnoT lAnDeD on The cheek oF The guy In The jeePney nexT To Me, AnD he lookeD So ShockeD! I juST SPeD oFF.” – MarK, 25

1 Strobe FetISh

“I’m so turned on by strobe lights. They just make me want to get it on!”

—daryl, 23

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FrIendzoned “I found an amazing girl on tinder. we met up, and she wound up being a drag queen instead of the girl pictured. we had a great lunch…but it wasn’t in the books for us romantically.”

—Jay, 21

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Fun, Fearless Celebs

Choker, P995, mango

+ Loose sh irt i + in m r le at h e sn e ak e rs = ol o effort le ss c

Top, P599, H&m

Get on -t r wit h a c h e n d an d jog ge rok e r s t h is ye ar’sin Pan t on e c olor .

Sunglasses, P399, H&m

Sneakers, P2,495, mango Skirt, P2,995, Zara

Sneakers, P4,995, nike

Bella Hadid

COSMO GIRL WATCH

pumped up kicks These girls rock sneakers like nobody’s business.

Top, P1,295, mango

jacket, P2,295, mango

Gigi Hadid

BEAUTY TIP

Complete your look with lustrous locks and luminous lids.

Drawing crayon, P1,400 each, shu uemura

A grun ge look goes great with wh ite sn eake rs!

Ye s, you can pair sn eake rs with a sweet, girly outfit!

maggie Wilson Skirt, P2,595, Zara

Sneakers, P1,299, something Borrowed at Zalora.com Head band, P299, H&m

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Jan aranilla

necklace, P1,795, mango

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(TEXT) AngEliCA guTiErrEz. (PAlmolivE, SHu uEmurA) louiE AguinAlDo. (gArCiA, yAng, lAzArEvA, PoE) CourTESy of STylEbiblE.PH/CHArlES roDulfo. (H&m, mAngo, zArA, zAlorA) CourTESy of rESPECTivE brAnDS.

Small Talk texturizer, P1.300, Bed Head

Fun, Fearless Celebs the best thing about playing tenten is… “i had to learn how to do welding and construction. We film in tondo and the everyday experience there is really humbling and eye-opening. nakakatuwa din na people with speech impediments are empowered by tenten’s character. at first, i was hesitant— baka may ma-offend. but instead na mahiya, they’re proud they can finally relate to a leading character.”

the biggest misconception about me is that… “i play around and enjoy myself too much. mana kasi ako sa Dad ko na palabiro, nagpapatawa, nagma-magic. people don’t know i also have a build-and-sell business. i just don’t believe that the older you get, the more serious you should be—the older you get, the less time you have in life. enjoy it. that’s how i live.”

iF i WeRen’t an actoR, i ‘D be… “…studying marine biology in spain (where most of my relatives live), then work here: We have so many beautiful, unexplored oceans and beautiful marine life. i’m so amazed when nat geo features them. ang ganda talaga!”

the most special thing i love about liza is…“her simplicity. it’s rare to find someone as simple as her in this industry.”

(photo) CYruS pAngAniBAn. (SittingS editor, interview) pAtriCiA erA. (StYling) ton lAo with MACkY CoMBe & rYAn viloriA of wMl StYleStudio (grooMing) eMAn de leon (hAir) JuliuS villAnuevA

the secRet paRa #mayFoReveR is…

cosmo guy

enrique gil Dolce amore’s tenten gets real about his struggles, our cover girl this month, and his concept of #mayForever.

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“Having a lot of similarities is nice: Liza and I have both loved monkeys since we were kids, and I hate vinegar and she’s allergic to it. But it’s our differences that matter most.

I need a girl who will balance me and make me want to be a better person. That’s when you find forever.”

i think DanceRs aRe betteR in beD because…

“Dancing is not just about yourself; it’s about connecting with your partner and feeling the groove of her moves. And let’s face it, dancers are way more flexible than others! All the grinding and stuff like that!”

my best Dating aDvice FoR cosmo giRls is…

“Eat! When you’re on a date, never order a salad. I enjoy being with a girl who likes to eat, because I love to eat. Happy tummy, happy life, happy you!”

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ADAM SEVANI This adorable dude showed off his bad-ass moves in the Step Up movies.

GIO GAHOL This cutie choreographed PETA’s awardwinning musical comedy, Rak of Aegis, and danced in Hidden Nikki’s “Gabi ng Sayawan” music video.

BRIAN PUSPOS This Fil-Am dance instructor from Texas could definitely teach us a thing or two!

GUY WATCH

ZEUS COLLINS This former PBB housemate definitely lit up the stage at last year’s Cosmo Carnival!

There’s nothing hotter than a dancer who just oozes confidence and sex appeal!

IAN EASTWOOD MTV’s proclaimed this cutie the “next superstar choreographer,” and it’s not hard to see why—he’s choreographed for the likes of Justin Bieber, Zendaya, and SHINee!

MICHAEL ARDA This hottie heads the A-Team, one of the Philippines’ most prestigious hip-hop dance groups.

(phoTos) coUrTesY of Users’ respecTive insTagram accoUnTs. (swaYze) coUrTesY of vesTron picTUres. (TravoLTa, bacon) coUrTesY of paramoUnT picTUres.

CHANNING TATUM Magic Mike.

Enough said.

DUDES WITH MOVES

THROWBACk HOTTIES PATRICk SWAyZE Dirty Dancing

JOHN TRAVOLTA Grease

kEVIN BACON Footloose

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HUNK OF THE MONTH “I’d fall for a girl who has the passion and drive to help people. Someone who wants to make a change in the world.”

Name: Alexander Dione Myers Height: 6’2” Age: 25 Ethnicity: American/Spanish/ French/Filipino

(photo) gerry robinson.

Hunk on Instagram: @the.alexmyers

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Necklace, H&M, P599.

Top, Mango, P1,295.

Style Skirt, H&M, P1,190.

Shorts, Mango, P1,495.

Loafers, Zara, P2,595.

Pants, Zara, P2,295.

tassel trove Bag, Charles & Keith, P3,199.

This trendy detail gives any look a chic and classy feel.

Skirt, Zara, P1,995.

Belt, Mango, P995.

(STYLING) HAPPY LOPEZ. (mANGO, H&m, ZArA, CHArLES & KEITH) COUrTESY OF rESPECTIVE BrANDS.

Top, Mango, P1,995.

Shirt, H&M, P899.

Shoes, Zara, P1,795.

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Clutch, Mango, P1,795.

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Fun, Fearless Style

outfit advice

look hot tonight Shine isn’t just for the party - wear it everywhere like the queen you are.

Bae time

office hours

wedding guest

Top, Mango, P795.

Dress, Mango, P5,995.

netflix & chill

Jacket, Stradivarius, P1,290.

Blouse, Ever New, P1,990.

Earrings, Zara, P995.

Skirt, Missguided at Zalora.com.ph, P1,949.

Earrings, H&M, P299.

Clutch, Ever New, P1,290.

Tee, H&M, P899.

Bracelet, Stradivarius, P495.

Pumps, Charles & Keith, P3,250.

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Clutch, Parfois, P1,490.

Rings, H&M, P499 per set.

Choker, Zara, P1,495.

Sneakers, Zara, P3,495.

Heels, Dorothy Perkins, price available upon request.

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Watch, Parfois, P1,990.

Bag, Charles & Keith, P4,799.

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Heels, Charles & Keith, P2,399.

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(STylING) HAPPy lOPEZ. (CHArlES & KEITH, EvEr NEw, dOrOTHy PErKINS, H&M, MANGO, STrAdIvArIUS, ZArA, PArfOIS) COUrTESy Of rESPECTIvE BrANdS. (MISSGUIdEd) COUrTESy Of ZAlOrA.COM.PH.

Skirt, Mango, P2,295.

Shorts, Mango, P1,995.

Fun, Fearless Style

Work It out Planning a sweat sesh?

Activewear’s new look gives major gymspo.

Toss your ratty t-shirt, and get a second wind in spandex (and more) for any fitness routine…or Starbucks run.

JACKET, Adidas NEO. SPORTS BRA, Koché. SHORTS, Danskin. SNEAKERS, New Balance.

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Fun, Fearless Style Jacket, Something Borrowed at Zalora.com. ph, P1,799.

Leggings, Nike at Zalora.com. ph, P6,795.

boxIng

JACKET, Les Copains. SPORTS BRA, Athleta.

SHORTS, Rebecca Minkoff.

SNEAKERS, Nike. BOXING GLOVES, Elisabeth Weinstock.

(PHOTOS) TURE LILLEGRAVEN. (FASHION EDITOR) ADAM MANSURGLU. (EDITED BY) KATIE L. CONNOR AND SARAH CONLY. (STILLS STYLING) HAPPY LOPEz. (H&M) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS. (NIKE, SOMETHING BORROwED) COURTESY OF zALORA.COM.PH.

Punch up a pair of highwaisted shorts with high-intensity color pops, from bra tops to killer kicks.

Sports bra, Nike at Zalora.com. ph, P2,395.

Sneakers, Nike at Zalora.com. ph, P6,295.

Shorts, H&M, P999.

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barre

Bag, NIke at Zalora.com. ph, P3,595.

JACKET, Calvin Klein. BRA TOP, Olympia Activewear.

LEGGINGS, Splits59.

SNEAKERS, Reebok.

(PHOTOS) TURE LILLEGRAVEN. (FASHION EDITOR) ADAM MANSURGLU. (EDITED BY) KATIE L. CONNOR AND SARAH CONLY. (STILLS STYLING) HAPPY LOPEz. (zARA) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS. (NIKE, IVY PARK) COURTESY OF zALORA.COM.PH. (TOESOx) COURTESY OF CERTIFIED CALM.

Look ballerina lean in long sleeves, streamlined leggings, and strappy flats.

Grip socks, Toesox, P950.

Sports bra, Ivy Park at Zalora.com. ph, P1,599.

Sweatshirt, Zara, P1,495.

Leggings, Nike at Zalora.com. ph, P3,295.

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Sunglasses, H&M, P399.

fakIng It

Hoodie, Ivy Park at Zalora.com. ph, P2,199.

Jacket, H&M, P3,990.

Joggers, Cotton On Body at Zalora.com. ph, P999.

Your new caffeine fix uniform? Don’t sweat it. Sport a silk bomber, joggers, and major shades.

JACKET, Adidas Originals. TANK, Express.

SPORTS BRA, Under Armour. PANTS, Parker.

Sunglasses, Ray-Ban. Sneakers, Zara, P3,495.

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(PHOTOS) TURE LILLEGRAVEN. (FASHION EDITOR) ADAM MANSURGLU. (EDITED BY) KATIE L. CONNOR AND SARAH CONLY. (STILLS STYLING) HAPPY LOPEz. (H&M, zARA) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS. (ATSUI, COTTON ON BODY, IVY PARK) COURTESY OF zALORA.COM.PH.

Sports bra, Atsui at Zalora.com. ph, P499.75.

Fun, Fearless Style Yoga mat, Manduka at Certified Calm, P4,350.

Espadrilles.

Flossy at Zalora.com. ph, P3,990.

(PHOTOS) TURE LILLEGRAVEN. (FASHION EDITOR) ADAM MANSURGLU. (EDITED BY) KATIE L. CONNOR AND SARAH CONLY. (STILLS STYLING) HAPPY LOPEz. (UNDER ARMOUR, ADIDAS) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS. (FLOSSY, EMBELLISH, IVY PARK) COURTESY OF zALORA.COM.PH. (MANDUKA) COURTESY OF CERTIFIED CALM.

Yoga

Top, Under Armour, P2,195.

Leggings, Ivy Park at Zalora.com. ph, P3,449.

Ohm, yeah. Strike a pose in a mix of printed separates paired with slipons and sunnies for extra zen.

Sports bra, adidas, P1,995.

SPORTS BRA, Cynthia Rowley.

LEGGINGS, Mara Hoffman.

Sunglasses, Embellish at Zalora.com. ph, P695.

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Fun, Fearless Style Be Amaz1ng

ask happy Cosmo fashion editor Happy Lopez fixes your fashion probs and shares her new obsessions.

Check out body image warrior and plus-size model Rownita SamsonTai’s line of trendy workout clothes called Be Amaz1ing. They’re not just stylish, affordable, and functional—sizes run from XS to 3XL, catering to all shapes and body types. Go to @beamaz1ng on Instagram to order.

Forever 21

❝I’m no fashion

expert and shopping can sometimes be a struggle. How can I make shopping easier?❞

Don’t we all wish we had personal stylists to help us put our outfits together or be with us on every shopping spree? Good news: Forever 21 now has Style Insider personal styling and shopping service—for free, no purchase required. Now you don’t have to worry about being clueless on your next shopping trip.

I have too many white sneakers already! Any colored options I should look out for?❞

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worth investing in for a commuter like me who has to brave the rainy weather?❞

I suggest a waterproof and hooded parka—it’s functional and stylish at the same time. My personal pick is a chic military green version with lots of pockets— pretty much goes with any outfit while keeping your valuables like your mobile phone or MRT card within reach.

❝I’m a sneakerhead but

We love the new release from Saucony’s Jazz Originals line called the Chicago Dog. Inspired by the famous hotdog from the Windy City, you’re going to want to trade your white sneakers for this dusty rose retro style. It’s the perfect pair to spice up an all-black or navy outfit.

❝What kind of jacket is

Saucony

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(TEXT) HAPPY LOPEZ. (BE AMAZ1NG, FOREVER 21, JOE FRESH, SAUCONY) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS.

❝I’m looking for cute workout clothes that will fit my XL frame. Most brands only carry up to Size L. Any suggestions?❞

Fun, Fearless Style

TREND TEST

How do I wear...

coordinates Real women, real shapes, really helpful advice.

kyla laceda 19, intern

top, p1,449, and skirt, p1,859, both sfera. bangle, parfois, p790. heels, parisian, p999.75.

Elongate a petite frame with a flowy shorts-and-top combo that shows off your legs.

sasha lim uy

A matching croppedtop-and-pencilskirt pairing shows off sexy curves.

26, food editor top, p1,190, and skirt, p2,690, both h&m. bangle, What Women Want at sm department store, p349.75. heels, parisian, p899.75.

Pearl bacasmas 23, producer

(photos) gerry robinson. (text and styling) happy lopez. (assisted by) carie aguila and april lozada. (makeup) christine laviÑa and meg serranilla. (hair) nhot bituin and dave grona for cynos inside hair care.

top, p1,490, and skirt, p1,790, both ever new. bangle, What Women Want at sm department store, p379.75. heels, parisian, p899.75.

A cool print giving the illusion of vertical lines is a great alternative to the usual stripes.

For a change, wear multi-colored lace instead of the usual black or white to a dressy event.

Contrasting, multi-directional stripes work well together.

alexandra ortigas

35, interior design consultant

ysa singson

25, editorial assistant

top, p1,999, and skirt, p2,799, both sfera. bracelet, parfois, p1,199.75. heels, parisian, p1,199.75.

top, p1,799, and skirt, p2,450, both florence fling. bangle, parfois, p490. heels, parisian, p999.75.

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Wearable art

This year, Freeway’s National Artist Series features pieces inspired by the late Abdulmari Imao’s sculptures and paintings. Check out the collection’s graphic tops and vibrant dresses with traditional Muslim motifs.

WHAT’S HOT Get your fresh fashion fix with this month’s finds.

FAB FLORALS Kiana Valenciano’s taken on the reins as style curator of Save My Bag, and her collaboration with artist Daryl Feril is TDF! The brand’s ultralightweight, rainproof bags are crafted in Bergamo, Italy, and are available at the Little White Box Pop-Up store in SM Megamall.

RETURN OF THE FLARE

HAPPY FEET We’re loving Skechers’ slim and sleek Go Step sneakers. With their memory foam insoles, we can totally see ourselves wearing them on hectic days when you just want to be comfortable yet stylish.

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GENDER BENDER Just because it’s from the men’s collection doesn’t mean we girls can’t grab it for ourselves! Check out this messenger bag from Pedro’s Spring/ Summer 2016 line—it’s great for taking your laptop to a lunch meeting.

HAPPY’S TIP

Need to break in new, too-stiff shoes, stat?

Put them on with socks and blast them with a hair dryer until they feel comfy enough to wear.

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(TEXT) ANGELICA GUTIERREZ. (PHOTOS) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS.

That’s right CGs, flared jeans are back.

Our fave? This pair from Italian denim brand GAS—it’s made with 98% cotton and 2% elastic, perfect for the unpredictable, humid Manila weather.

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beauty

maC X Chris Chang Cream Colour Base in Peony Pavilion, P1,540.

Clinique Cheek Pop in Peach Pop, P1,550.

inglot Freedom System Eye Shadow in 315, P425, and l’oréal Velvet Pinks in Camelia, P400.

sleek makeup Face Form Contouring & Blush Palette, P875.

max Factor Creme Puff Blush in Gorgeous Berries, P675, and maC Pro Longwear Paint Pot in Vintage Selection, P1,400.

Ever Bilena Advance Matic Lipstick in Plush Petal and Fuchsia Fantasy, P185 each.

(TEXT & ART DIRECTION) MERIAM AHARI. (PHOTO) DIX PEREZ. (CUPCAKES) THE FLOUR GIRL.

Revlon PhotoReady Kajal Matte Eye Pencil in Matte Lemon and Matte Marine, P575 each.

PRETTY SWEET

Want to switch up your everyday makeup routine?

Try one of these bright little numbers for eye-catching— but still pretty—makeup. you’ll look good enough to eat!

maybelline Vivid Matte Lipstick in Scarlet Red, P299.

l’oréal Velvet Pinks Lipstick in Rose Lotus, P400, and maybelline Vivid Matte Lipstick in Violet Pink, P299.

All Glitter from make Up For Ever: Metal Powder in Olive Gold, P1,400, Strass in Midnight Glow, P1,600, Graphic Glitters in Fiber and Round, P1,050 each, Glitters Pink, Violet, and Blue, P900 each.

See Shopping Directory for details.

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p with Wake u oured a cont xion! comple

DOES LENGTH MATTER?

pixi H20 skindrink, P1,180. e.l.f.

Contour Brush, P270.

Our minds were blown when we heard about permanent contouring. The idea: applying self tanner just like you would your contouring makeup, letting it sit overnight, and washing off the next morning to wake up to chiseled features (and a sunkissed glow) without wearing one ounce of makeup. Can you say, #WokeUpLikeThis? Here’s what you’ll need: self tanning lotion (dark brown, green, or even black based—stay away from anything orangey), moisturizer, and a blending makeup brush.

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Start with a freshly washed face and apply your usual moisturizer.

This keeps self tanner from soaking into drier areas more than others.

Using a blending makeup brush, apply self tanner exactly where you would contour—sides of nose, sides of forehead (brushing back into the hairline), below cheekbones (blending up toward your temple), under the jawline, and neck.

Sleep with the self tanner on and wash away in the morning. Good morning, J.Lo!

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Benefit soft matte liquid Bronzer, P1,600.

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(TEXT) MERIAM AHARI. (PHOTO) STEPHANE CARDINALE - CORBIS/GETTY. (BENEFIT, ELF, PIXI) COURTESY OF RESPECTIvE BRANDS. (OTHER STILLS) LOUIE AGUINALDO. (MERM’S HEADSHOT) SARAH BLACK.

tantoURinG: tHE nEW pERma-ContoUR

The answer to this age-old question is smashbox telephoto debatable, but when 3-in-1 Face Brush, P2,250, lets you choose talking makeup? your coverage.

Apparently, it’s yes.

Turns out, you can control the amount of coverage by the length of the hairs on your makeup brush. For example, the kabuki brush—a flat-tipped tool used for buffing on liquid foundation—is a popular go-to because of its densely packed, shorter hairs that easily deposit foundation on your face.

So, leave your long-haired brushes for natural daytime coverage, and short-haired brushes for nighttime.

WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW ABOUT STROBING We’ve learned to apply where the sun hits our face—nose bridge, cheekbones, chin. But try shedding light on these additional hot spots—laugh lines, brow bone, above eyebrows and center of lower lip. “It makes you look younger. These features recede with age. Light reflects off the highlighter, bringing your features forward,” says makeup artist Pamm Merrera of Make Up For Ever.

mERm’s tip

Happy skin Glisten Up! strobing Kit, P1,299 for 2-piece kit.

artdeco sunshine Glow Fluid, P725.

Lashes won’t hold a curl? After using an eyelash curler, sweep on a coat of waterproof (instead of regular) mascara. The waterproof formula locks in the shape like hairspray.

Bobbi Brown Glow Highlighting powder in nude, P2,650.

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Fun, Fearless Beauty smEll tHE RosEs Lather up with soap made of organic roses. the Body shop British Rose petal soap, p300.

oil in all Mattify oily skin with this totable blotting powder. theFaceshop oil Clear Blotting powder, p395.

no moRE niCKs Replacing your razor after five uses means a closer, better shave. tony moly Body shaver, p58.

P500, ToPs!

look and feel like a million bucks (without paying the price). No buyer’s remorse here!

GiVE anD taKE Remove makeup while infusing skin with anti-aging ingredients.

Fs make-Up Remover, p350.

YoUR Jam Who wouldn’t want to kiss a strawberry scented pucker?

Etude House Berry Delicious strawberry lip Jam treatment, p428.

UltimatE masK-HaVE Look like you’ve had your beauty sleep—even if you just pulled an all-nighter. tony moly pure Farm pig Collagen mask, p298.

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smootH opERatoR Lightweight, blendable coverage for flawless skin. maybelline Clear smooth BB stick, p289.

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poRE oVER This cleanser removes dirt and oil so pores are less visible and skin stays blemish free.

Holika Holika Dodo Cat trans-foam Cleanser, p385.

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(TEXT) NICOlE lIMOS & MERIAM AHARI. (STIllS) COuRTESy OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS. (NAIl POlISH BlOB) JON PATERSON/STuDIO D.

toUGH Coat Get salon-quality nails right at home with polish that stays put for a week.

Revlon Colorstay Gel Envy in Full House, p325.

BEaUtY BoostER A pre-date facial is a must. Try this exfoliating sheet mask.

Holika Holika Before mask sheet in Date, p95.

Fun,Fearless Beauty

mad matte

We’re seriously crushing on the new matte textures that will be gracing our pouts in 3…2…now!

Matte lipsticks have been around long enough to kick the ‘just a fad’ status to the curb and become a firm beauty favorite. If you haven’t tried this bold, statement-making texture, now is the time—it’s smooth, moisturizing, longlasting and addictive.

The HD Matte

Traditionally, matte lipsticks have a dry consistency, so you need to be accurate with application. The applicator of the new liquid matte texture helps give more control than a traditional lipstick, and the finish is crack-free.

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The Creamy Matte

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The Matte Powder

It looks like a powder shadow, but this powdery lip pen by L’Oréal turns into a smooth, matte, creamy lip color when applied.

The spongy applicator allows you to build color from light to intense (making ombré lips incredibly easy to perfect) with a pretty, stained effect. cOlOR it RiGHt Dreamy pinks and corals work well with this texture—the result is soft and blurred.

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This texture is like butter, creating a matte finish that’s very comfortable on lips.

One layer is enough for full coverage. When set, it’s stays flexible—so you can pout as much as you want without any cracks showing up on dry lips. cOlOR it RiGHt We like nudes best for creamy mattes—perfect for an understated, effortlessly sexy look.

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The Matte That Stays

Come on over to the dark side and get the kind of staying power that laughs in the face of nights out and mornings after. Look for formulas that settle into a soft, dry finish and leave a highly pigmented stain. cOlOR it RiGHt Intense reds and deep, dark shades look very elegant in matte—and they’re lower-maintenance than their high-shine counterparts.

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The Classic Matte

Mix textures: matte lips can be beautifully complemented by other textures, such as sheer shimmer on eyelids and cheeks.

cOlOR it RiGHt The brighter the color choice, the more noticeable it is when you don’t get the perfect shape. If your hand is not the steadiest, apply lip liner first to define the lip shape and to act as a guide.

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cOlOR it RiGHt Every woman needs a matte nude and a matte red in her lipstick arsenal for an undeniably chic look.

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Got a beauty dilemma? Get expert advice from Cosmo’s beauty editor who has seen and tried it all!

Use protection when things heat up!

Does shaving with shower gel cause razor burn?

❝ It’s okay to use a moisturizing shower gel when shaving. In fact, what really causes those red bumps is using a dull razor (razors should be replaced every five to six shaves), shaving against the direction that hair grows (try shaving downward toward your ankles), and pressing the razor too hard against skin. ❞

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Bioderma Atoderm Gel Douche, 100 ml, P628.

What is the most natural product to use on sparse brows?

eva•nyc Therapy Session Hair Mask, P895.

Is it bad that I blowdry my hair every day?

Phytokératine Repairing Thermal Protectant Spray, P1,250.

❝ The more you use a blow dryer or iron on your hair, the more you will damage it.

But you can style responsibly to minimize destruction. For example, spritz strands with a pre-styling heat protectant before blow drying. Use a repairing conditioner meant for damaged hair and treat strands to a weekly nourishing hair mask. ❞

Clinique Superfine Liner for Brows, P1,100.

❝Brow powders and gels can look too heavy on sparse brows. For the most natural look, opt for finetipped pencils and pens that allow you to draw on thin, quick strokes that resemble hair strands. To beef up barely-there brows, use a fiber mascara which will coat each strand with little fibers to create the appearance of thicker, fuller brows. ❞ Benefit Gimme Brow, P1,400.

Tresemmé Platinum Strength Conditioner, 170 ml, P200.

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OOC breakouts? Fine lines rolling deep?

A sweet tooth could be to blame.

Indulge and counteract carbs’ side effects with these secrets.

1. Murad Anti-Aging Moisturizer Broad Spectrum SPF 30/PA+++ for blemish-prone skin, P2,550.

2. Pixi Rose Oil Blend, P1,280. 3. Clinique S culptwear Lift and Contour Serum for Face and Neck, P3,450. 4. OriGinS Make A Difference Plus+ Rejuvenating Treatment, P2,550. 5. The BOdy ShOP Drops of Light Pure Healthy Brightening Cream, P1,595.

cookies and cake aren’t just bad news for skinny jeans. in a process called glycation, sugar binds to skin’s proteins and lipids, altering them to form advanced glycation endproducts (or AGes)— mutant molecules that warp your collagen and elastin, responsible for giving skin its dewiness and bounce, says nicholas perricone, MD, who studies the impact of food on aging. they also hitch onto blood vessels, preventing nutrients from nourishing skin, says dermatologist Macrene Alexiades-Armenakas, MD. in the end, “skin

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Sweet Spot starts to wrinkle, look dull, and lose tone,” says Dr. perricone. AGes, indeed. premature aging isn’t the only concern. “High carb intake is associated with a spike in oil, increasing your chances of adult acne,” says Dr. Alexiades-Armenakas.

SuGAR cRASH A few cookies won’t kill your complexion. But your body has memory, and glycation is cumulative, says Dr. perricone, who pinpoints the late 20s as the time we start noticing its effects. not only does the damage compound, it gets worse the older you get. think about it like this: “when you’re 21, you can drink a lot and not get a headache the next morning,” says Dr. AlexiadesArmenakas. But it’s harder to rally when you near 30. “You don’t have the same ability to process the toxic content.… it’s the same situation with your skin.”

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Both docs subscribe to the “everything in moderation” philosophy but recommend cutting back on refined (aka white) sugars. to indulge without feeling sugar-shamed: “one treat a day is fine,” says Dr. AlexiadesArmenakas. the recommendation is around six teaspoons of (or 100 calories from) sugar. Read nutrition labels, and download the MyFitnesspal app—it’s an amazing resource.

You’ll find innocuous foods, like a storebought green smoothie, can have up to ten teaspoons of sugar. (For context, a typical burrito bowl can have under two teaspoons.)

Swap sugary cocktails for red wine—compared to white and rosé, it has the least amount of sugar and highest amount of resveratrol, which can fight the signs of aging, says Dr. AlexiadesArmenakas.

Fill up on antioxidantrich veggies and fruits (blueberries are particularly powerful). even better, incorporate an antioxidant-rich skin treatment (like the ones below), meant to protect, and in some cases spur, collagen and elastin.

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ExfoliatE Your facE Right now, thousands of dead skin cells are getting in the way of your glow. Do something about it!

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Fun, Fearless Beauty Some of uS think we’re too sensitive for a scrub. And if you’re acne-prone, a peel just seems insane. But exfoliation can benefit every skin type. “In addition to revealing fresh skin cells, exfoliating removes dead cells from pores, making them appear smaller,” says derma Rachel Nazarian, MD. Makeup also looks better, says aesthetician Stalina Glot. “It’s like sanding a wall before you paint.” The other major perk: “Removing the buildup enhances your skin’s ability to absorb everything else, from acne medicine to antiaging serum,” says Dr. Nazarian. Find the routine that’s right for your type and get glowing.

mY skin’s DrY. Will Exfoliating strip it?

No—in fact, flakes inhibit the full penetration of moisturizer. “Oil gets trapped, causing tiny, pimple-like bumps,” says Glot. Your best bet: gentle chemical exfoliators (an AHA-rich serum dissolves bonds between dead cells) or a light facial scrub (Doll Face’s [1] uses jojoba beads). Follow with a hydrating lotion, every two or three days. weekly treatment: Transform skin from dull to dewy with this Kiehl’s mask [2] that exfoliates with crushed cranberry seeds while turmeric extract leaves skin brighter and glowier.

But i’m oilY anD acnEpronE! Will i BrEak out?

Stay away from rough scrubs, which contribute

to breakouts. Chemical versions—such as a face wash with glycolic or salicylic (the latter of which is in Pixi [3])—remove grime and penetrate oil to break down pore-clogging dead skin cells. weekly treatment: Clay and charcoal masks absorb excess oil. Try Bobbi Brown’s mask [4].

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Gritty scrubs are definitely off limits, but most people can benefit from a mild, short-contact exfoliating product. Consider a cleanser or toner rich in fruit or plant enzymes, twice a week, to deep clean gently, like Mario Badescu’s toner [5]. weekly treatment: Use a cool, wet washcloth in circular motions to loosen and sweep away dead skin cells.

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What shoulD i Do for mY normal skin?

Normal usually means combo—an oily T-zone and dry cheeks—which can benefit from the Goldilocks of exfoliators: baking soda. In a waterless, powder-cleanser form like Murad’s [6], it’s easy to adjust the strength: Add less water for a stronger scrub (perfect for the T-zone) and more for a gentler one (ideal for the cheeks). Do this two or three times a week. weekly treatment: Home peels are an option for problem-free skin. Start with a glycolic-acid concentration below 10 percent and slowly work your way up to stronger products. Try Altchek MD [7], which help diminish fine lines and fade spots.

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noW, thE nittY grittY ShoulD i exfoliate in the morning or night?

either is fine, but if you use treatments at night like retinol, you may want to exfoliate before bed, as your skin will be more receptive once dead surface cells have been removed, says Dr. engelman.

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what if i have a baD reaction?

use a one percent hydrocortisone cream on the area to reduce inflammation, says derma heidi waldorf, mD. and switch to a gentle cleanser and moisturizer, like those from avène or cetaphil, until skin calms down.

are microbeaDS baD for the planet?

plastic beads, often found in scrubs, go down the drain

and can eventually pollute rivers, lakes, and oceans. in December, president obama signed a bill into law that bans the manufacture of cosmetic products containing microbeads in the u.S. as of July 2017. many major companies, such as unilever, procter and gamble, Johnson and Johnson, and l’oréal, have already eliminated or are in the process of phasing out the beads, opting for biodegradable, natural alternatives, such as rice, wax, and bamboo extracts.

ShoulD i avoiD my eye area?

Some exfoliators (such as Dermalogica Daily microfoliant, p2,550) are specifically made for the delicate eye tissue. always check the label, and never use a scrub.

can’t i JuSt uSe my boDy Scrub?

no. body scrubs often have harsher, larger granules, made to even out the thicker, tougher skin below the neck.

can i get a DermgraDe peel at home?

the pros often use superpotent formulas, which require medical supervision. a close alternative: using a peel pad system (try kiehl’s over-night biological peel, p2,895, or philosophy microdelivery in-home vitamin c peptide peel, p3,995). the cumulative effects create a surface similar to a low-grade medical peel over time.

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GO AHEAD, BE BASIC IN BED. HERE’S WHY THE HOTTEST SEX YOU’LL EVER HAVE MIGHT ALSO BE THE SIMPLEST.

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my preferred sexual positions can skew toward the ambitiously acrobatic.

Should you care to look inside my bedside drawer, you’d find more accessories than an HSN host’s forearm—handcuffs, black rubber tape, and electrically charged fingertip vibes, to name a few. The only aspect of sex that I’m unfussy about is gender—my own and my partners’. I actually chronicle my crazy experiences in my new book, Action: A Book About Sex. So here’s a fact you might not expect from me: Some of the hottest encounters I’ve ever had were regulardegular, conventional-as-air vanilla sex.

Yes, here I am championing the most basic way of going at it. But toys are great, you say! Or, what about that insecure voice in the back of my head that says the way I fuck is not sexy enough?

Well, that voice can borrow my electrical tape for its mouth.

When I think of the best sex I’ve ever had, I recall how it felt, both in my body and in my brain. I’m picturing how one dude traced my body with his hand sooo slowly or the girl who liked to leave in the middle of parties to go home together, right then. Skipping out on all the extras makes it easier to be present and focus on how bad I really want my partner. I mean, think of the steamiest movie sex scenes, like in Blue Is the Warmest Color or Cruel Intentions. Save for a bed, all the characters need to have extremely hot-looking sex is each other—urgently.

My current boyfriend, J., isn’t really into fetishistic sex. For the most part, J. is steadfastly vanilla—and he’s excellent in bed. Relationships thrive when there’s sexual openness, and that means not just his willingness to test out my kinky tendencies but my acknowledgment that his unfussy preferences are worthy of respect too. This agreement will do more for your sex life than forced boundary pushing. It also leads you to the kind of gotta-have-you, nowhips-required sex that’s technically vanilla but feels anything but. Here’s why.

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2 You can really focus on the feelings.

1 it highlights a sense of urgency.

If you’re in such dire need of tearing each other’s clothing off right now, you’re probably not pausing to dress up in fishnets/break out the sex swing/come up with a crazy role-play scenario. What could be sexier than wanting—and being wanted by—another person so fervidly that it’s all you can do to get to the bedroom? Here and there, I find that needing to bone a person ASAP doesn’t even allow for positions beyond missionary.

Immediacy leads to sex that won’t leave anyone wishing it had been anything but what it was. Hot, passionate, and perfect.

When you do without contraptions, you and your partner will be focused on each other’s nuances—instead of worrying about whether you’re cycling through all the buzz modes on your vibe. When I’m having the best-ever sex with J., I’m rarely planning my next move. Instead, I’m zeroed in on the rad things we’re actually doing and responding accordingly. I can take stock of how he reacts when I touch harder or more lightly, slower or faster, or in a particular place. Our bodies are our toys!

Just pay attention to how your boo breathes, moves, and reacts to get him to an amazing O.

Vanilla Sex PoSitionS— With a tWiSt!

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in missionary, hold his shoulders, and wrap your legs around his waist. Use that leverage to swing upward, transitioning to girl-on-top. the quick change means he’ll be hitting new spots inside you. once you’re on top, you can get your grind on.

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kneel with your feet under your body, and reach forward with your hands in front of you, like in child’s pose. arch your hips as high as you can as he enters you from behind. the position seems typical, but the direct action with your G-spot is anything but. and bonus: He’ll love the view.

With WhiPPed Cream

place two pillows under your booty while in missionary. the altered point of entry will make you feel like you’ve invented a whole new kind of action. take away one of the pillows for a new feel.

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3 it reminds you that hot sex doesn’t have to be kinky.

If you’re just getting comfortable in bed together, you don’t need to doubledown on dirty talk or pretzel-like positions to feel incredible.

Just saying “I love it when you touch me like that” is insanely hot. It’s also a vote of confidence: It makes me feel even closer to J. knowing that we can be so into each other without (literally) bending over backward in bed.

4 if you’re usually into a different kind of sex, going back to basics can be a nice diversion.

If you’re into being experimental and naked at the same time, choosing to have sex in its most stripped-down format is one of the most transgressive and surprising things you can do for yourself and your partner(s).

I like having conventional sex because, after years of freakydeaky behavior, it

Get in a sexy state of mind now feels more subversive than entanglements that necessitate a trip to a sex shop first. (And let’s be real—that shit can get really expensive.) It’s refreshing to take a breather from reaching into the nightstand drawer every time I want to have interesting, intimate, standout sex. It even increases my appreciation for those times when I do want to break out those electrically charged fingertip vibes.

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Go back and think of three mind-blowing, super steamy sessions from your past, and compare them to three meh ones, suggests Emily Nagoski, PhD, author of Come As You Are . Consider the who, what, when, where, and why of each, then focus on all the “that was awesome” parts to bring out your inner horndog. alter your enVironment

Making your environment sex-positive helps your brain feel that way too. Worried about your roommate walking in on you? Lock the door, or pick a time when you know she’s away. Nervous that Mom might call? Set your cell to “do not disturb.” That way, all you have to think about is the good feels between you and your lovah. dreSS the Part

We all know that wearing a hot pair of cheekies will make you feel sexy AF. And a 2011 survey shows that some women who wore fug undies (you know, the ones with the broken elastic that you’ve had since…high school?) said it actually busted their mood. Opting for a G-string can prime your brain for some booty.

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why you need to have the mini talk

Forget having the talk. here’s why lowerpressure convos are the new road to committed.

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you meet up, and you keep hooking up, until one day, after months of text deciphering and friend consults, you have the big Define the Relationship Talk.

Then you’ve passed Go—you have an Official Boyfriend.

That may be how relationships traditionally go, but lately, more women are forgoing one DTR talk and instead having several mini talks about relationship status on the way to coupledom. “I’ve had mini talks going into my last six relation-

ships,” says Chelsea, a 27-year-old public-health scientist. “I don’t rush straight to boyfriend and girlfriend. I’ve had smaller talks about whether we want to keep seeing each other, if we’re sleeping with anyone else, and if we should deactivate our online-dating accounts, all before we made it official.

Breaking it down into smaller steps means that final convo isn’t so scary.”

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Smaller steps make that final boyfriend/ girlfriend convo less scary.”

casual about relationships. In my field research, I find people have all kinds of smaller talks with their partners, about whether they’re exclusive or what their label is,” confirms Ellen Lamont, PhD, an assistant professor of sociology at Appalachian State University, who studies gender norms in relationships. “These mini talks allow people to negotiate some type of commitment without being official right away.”

For a generation that craves novelty and

validation (think of the buzzy high we get from Insta Likes and Tinder matches) and often side-eyes the notion of real commitment, there are compelling reasons to opt for the slow roll. “Having mini talks keeps things lower-stakes—it’s easier for you to get out if you want,” Lamont says.

“Millennials seem to prefer exploring their options when they start seeing each other—not because they only want to hook up but because they reject the idea of

putting constraints on dating.”

Women are often painted as indiscriminately pining for commitment. But in reality, plenty of women would never give up their options right away. When you have zillions of guys at your fingertips, it can seem nuts to jump into a DTR talk until you’re positive a dude is worth it.

Counterintuitive as it may seem, casual dating is actually an indicator that you care a lot about a relationship’s quality and stability. When

you’re the slow-todecide one stressing over whether a fling has a future, mini talks give you time to evaluate your feelings. It’s not about sitting around while he figures his shit out—it’s about having clarity on where the relationship is going for you. “Having any kind of conversation about your status, instead of waiting for what he’s thinking, is empowering,” Lamont says, adding, “There’s a narrative that men drive relationship progression, but in my research, it’s often the women. They’re very proactive.”

And if you’re dealing with a garden-variety commitmentphobe, mini talks help you manage him.

After all, if you ask a guy to be your BF and he gets scared and ghosts you, well, that’s that.

But if you casually suggest deactivating OkCupid accounts or ask if he’s hooked up with anyone else, you can figure out a middle ground even when your answers don’t match up. “You

probably don’t want to say, ‘I want you to be my boyfriend’ if he hasn’t even deleted Tinder. But by talking only about where he’s at with his Tinder, you better protect yourself,” points out Emma Tessler, cofounder of The Dating Ring, an online matchmaking service. Happily, mini talks let you do all that without the awkward confrontation of The Talk.

Checking in with a guy about where you stand is also… kind of sexy. “When I have mini talks, I’m elongating that excitement when you first get into a relationship. It means we have even more firsts, and I get an extra flutter when, say, I find out he doesn’t want to sleep with anyone else either,” Chelsea says. Given how much we love validation, that’s a plus. “It’s nice to have repeated conversations that confirm your feelings,” Tessler says.

Lauren, a 22-yearold student, credits mini talks with giving her current relationship a great foundation. Unlike her previous BF, who asked to get serious after the first date, Lauren loved how this relationship built gradually and how she had a voice in it. “All those mini talks made it so much easier to dive in once we were ready.” ■

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the Biggest exCuse We make for men

“Emotionally unavailablE” is thE buzzy tErm EvEryonE usEs whEn dudEs won’t commit. but rEally, it’s total bs.

the other Weekend, my friend had a drunken bar make-out with a dude who turned out to have a “sort of” girlfriend. Before that, she spent a few months dating a man who—dickhead alert—was secretly married with a child. “My therapist thinks I’m only attracted to emotionally unavailable men,” she told me afterward. This pissed me off, because people used to suggest that to me too, judgmentally, like I was broken and masochistically handpicking guys who’d poke at my wounds.

Now that I’m in a healthy relationship, I look back at all my past relationships and realize what BS that “emotionally unavailable” pronouncement is.

Blame-y and 1 it’s Baseless The idea that we go after emotionally unavailable partners is a put-down used to shame and blame single women. It puts the onus on us to choose more wisely next time: You idiot, get it together. You’re never going to find a man if you keep chasing after emotionally unavailable ones.

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When really, my friend isn’t single because she was attracted to two men who weren’t ready to commit to her. She’s single because she hasn’t met the right guy yet.

And yet most women who are actively dating have had the accusation lobbed their way. “The first time I heard it was my sophomore year of college, when I kept falling for guy friends who were more interested in building relationships with their new frat bros than with me,” recalls Elizabeth, a 31-year-old editor.

But isn’t falling for people who aren’t quite right for you just…dating? “If women are looking for a long-term commitment, they might have to date a lot of guys first before they find one who’s in the same place,” points out Joanne Davila, PhD, a professor of clinical psychology at Stony Brook University who studies healthy relationship skills and is coauthor of The Thinking Girl’s Guide to the Right Guy. “Some guys can be perceived as emotionally unavailable when, really, they’re just looking for different things.”

Then there are the guys who actively take advantage of your emotions and seek out turbulence in a relationship. But unless a

guy is kicking puppies or otherwise exerting overtly asshole-ish behavior when you first lay eyes on him, you can’t instantly tell he’s an asshole. (The scary truth: Assholes look just like the rest of us!)

“When you first meet somebody, typically there aren’t huge warning signs—people are on their best behavior,” Davila says.

“It takes a little while to see someone’s true colors and to find the right person.”

And BTW: No one is asking men to open up and become more emotionally available. And you know what? Those sweet, friendly, emotionally available men you passed up because they had weird mannerisms or bad facial hair or a resemblance to your ex—they probably think you’re emotionally unavailable. Mind blown.

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sounds less aggressive and more adult to label the person emotionally unavailable.” But it’s a cipher…and meaningless.

Look, some men really are emotionally unintelligent—bad at expressing their feelings and hopeless at caring about yours.

(Our collective definition of masculinity might be partly to blame. “In our culture, there are different rules about displaying emotions for men and women,” Slotter points out.) And if you keep spending time with these kinds of emotionally stupid partners and (this is key) it bothers you and you’d rather be with someone empathetic, it’s worth defining what you want: a partner who’s caring, emotionally intelligent, and into you (and not afraid to show it). Breaking down exactly what you weren’t getting from past relationships—those all-important capital-N Needs—can help you weed out the losers and find your catch. Explaining away the whole mess by saying he’s emotionally unavailable? Slightly less empowering.

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place. “People like to see themselves positively,” says Erica Slotter, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at Villanova University who researches identity and relationships.

“Sometimes we use emotionally unavailable as a scapegoat at the end of the relationship. We say the demise was the other person’s fault, allowing us to feel good about ourselves.”

Just ask Michelle, a 33year-old optometrist: “When a relationship didn’t work out, I used to tell people ‘He screwed me over’ when actually we just weren’t right for each other,” she says. “After a split, the guy usually says the girl is crazy. I think it’s a similar attitude, only it

it makes us stick 3 around When We should move on

it sounds adult to say emotionally unavailable, but it’s meaningless.”

When I was younger and newly single, I dated a spate of men who cited episodic depression as the reason they couldn’t hang out. They mentioned it in soft, apologetic e-mails using figurative language. One said he’d been “in a cocoon.” The other explained he gets “buried under life.” Around that time, a friend’s love interest told her he’d been MIA because “when life gets crazy, I just hit stop.” We listened and felt empathy, and we carried these reasons to our nay-saying

girlfriends, the ones furrowing their brows and going “You haven’t seen him in how long?” Of course, in every case, the episodic depression actually wound up being due to “feeling things out with a new woman.” But those e-mails had given us hope!

A change in the status of their emotional availability seemed days away.

Now, of course, I can’t stop face-palming. These dudes were literally telling us they were not about to meet our needs, and we used it to justify sticking around! This is all too common, says Davila: “People spend a lot of time hoping other people are going to change,” she says. “When you keep making excuses for why something’s not working, it’s disastrous.”

A danger with this term is that it’s inherently a temporary thing. He’s emotionally unavailable right now, but if I just wait it out until he gets over his ex or breaks up with his girlfriend, he’ll finally become available! But it usually doesn’t work that way. We attribute his unwillingness to commit to outside circumstances (rather than to his own choice, which is what it is—if he wanted to be with you, he would) and waste so much time waiting around for a man’s emotional availability to change. “I still have guys in my life who I feel will ‘pull out of it’ and realize I’m the best thing ever and come running,” Michelle admits. “A girl can dream.”

Even more fun than dreaming? Continuing to meet people who might delight or challenge or adore you, until you meet the one whose emotional availability is in line with yours. Get it, girl. ■ JUly 2016 | Cosmopolitan

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4 WaYs To Tell iF he’s inVesTed in YoU

dating expert Matthew Hussey’s golden rule? don’t invest your energy in a guy based on how much you like him... do it based on how much he invests in you. look for these all-in signs.

His Gifts show That He Really Knows You

He Makes Plans for the Future

He Wants all His Closest People to Meet You

a man who is invested takes the time to get to know you well, and his gifts will be a testament to his expert grasp of your likes and dislikes. The reason he bought you that travel guide to hong Kong even though you only mentioned offhand that you want to visit? Because he pays attention, that’s why.

if he makes arrangements for a winter ski trip in May, you can be sure that he plans on having you in his life for some time yet. Commitmentphobes will be scared of making plans for the next weekend, let alone six months from now!

You know he’s invested when he doesn’t treat his “friend time” and “girlfriend time” as mutually exclusive. if he wants you over for the holidays or can’t wait for you to have dinner with his buddies, it’s a sign he wants them to love you as much as he does.

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He Posts Pics of You on His instagram instagram has become an unofficial dating profile, which means if he’s advertising that he’s taken, he really doesn’t mind everyone knowing. and unlike planning a vacation, social media is a public declaration of his devotion.

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The 6 GUYs YoU MeeT on Tinder

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His Pictures: Generally a balanced, attractive mix, similar to the Classic Bro’s. elicit the reaction “Uy, puwede,” but these look kinda...old?

Conversation Topics: interestingly neutral enough to merit a move to another app that requires your phone number and your last name. he will definitely ask you out on a date.

Your First Date: You will blurt out the phrase “You don’t look like your pictures!” sorry.

Chances of a Dick Pic: low.

His Pictures Usually taken while mountaineering, during a surf trip, on tour of sagada/ Cambodia/amsterdam... expect lots of beach-atsunset shots.

Conversation Topics how eyeopening and life-changing his last trip was—especially true if he’s the backpacking, The Beach type. Will definitely ask you where you’ve been (“You’ve never seen angkor Wat?? You’re missing half your life!”) and judge you for your answers.

Your First Date: some indie film viewing at a hole-in-the-wall art gallery.

Chances of a Dick Pic: slim to none.

The ClassiC Bro His Pictures: Usually taken during clubbing nights, are “stolen” shots of him playing sports, or while chilling at the beach.

Conversation Topics: Where you hang out (he’s geolocating you, to gauge convenience), what you do, sports, favorite movies/ bands (The Godfather and John Mayer, probs)...y’know, the basics, because he’s “super chill lang talaga.” Will ask to move to Viber/Whatsapp because he “really doesn’t use Tinder lol.”

Your First Date: at a gastropub, a trendy new restaurant, or a specialty coffee shop.

Chances of a Dick Pic: likely none, especially if you have common friends.

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If you swipe long and hard enough, you’ll realize that most guys you’ll find on the dating app fit some sort of category. here, some of the most common Tinder tropes we’ve come across.

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WhaT GUYs reallY ThinK aBoUT WeddinGs

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WhY do GUYs… haVe The WorsT BeddinG?

do dudes love the free drinks or recoil at the small talk? here’s what goes through their minds when they open that invite.

To us, a bed is purely utilitarian. it’s a platform for sleeping, having sex, and often enough, eating dinner and burning through some netflix. The bedding is merely a drop cloth, and we feel silly if we think too much about how it looks, like critiquing a tuxedo on a dog. after all the time and thought we put into dressing ourselves well enough so that you might think of coming into our bedrooms, when it comes to decorating the bed itself, we’re creatively tapped out. so what if my sheets don’t match my pillowcases? or if i don’t have a sham? (seriously, what is that even and why am i less of a person for not having it?) i’m going to fall asleep either way, whether i’m nestled in between white egyptian cotton or a mismatched set of navy poly-blend sheets. in fact, give me the navy. it hides those stains better. —MaTT GoUleT

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“They’ll be together forever? i can’t even commit to a spotify playlist.”

—Jon s., 24

“it’s a great party with family and friends…plus the hors d’oeuvres are usually awesome!”

—BillY h., 23

The aFaM His Pictures: doing something “local” (e.g. eating balut, exploring intramuros, or riding a trike). Must always include a photo of him having drinks after a day at his current job (usually in finance, tech, or an nGo).

Conversation Topics asks for your thoughts on the things he needs to do,i.e. the perfect segue to asking you out. douchier types may utter the phrase “You’re so different from other Filipino girls."

Your First Date: some place frequented by foreigners, like an irish pub, a sports bar, or an establishment part-owned by one of his friends.

Chances of a Dick Pic high. also, “are you dTF?”

The MeGaJeJ (Pala) His Pictures: angles, alllll the angles—from below the chin, while lying down, in a dirty bathroom mirror with a Monobloc chair. Must always be grainy, feature handsigns, be taken in fluorescent light, and include at least one group photo (Panx nat ded).

Conversation Topics: “Taga wer u powhz?”...seriously, was this a misswipe?

Your First Date: not gonna happen.

Chances of a Dick Pic: high, and he’ll ask for photos of you, so oMGBloCKhiMnoWna.

The UniCorn His Pictures: show off different facets of his personality without following a formula. Cute. Very cute. screencap-and-send-toyour-friends cute. and, omg, look! he has a dog!

Conversation Topics: shared interests, how your day went, his industry (which you may know nothing about), dating histories, insights about life and love, and all the things you’re both passionate about. a back and forth na saktong landi, and it feels like you could really like this guy, y’know?

Your First Date: Will be awesome.

Will be the first of many.

Chances of a Dick Pic: n/a

“Each wedding i go to gives me some secret ideas for my own.”

—zaCh z., 20

“For me, it’s a jail sentence.”

—Brian a., 23

“They’re expensive. Honestly, i’m only hyped about the live band and alcohol.”

—sTeVe r., 23

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HIS POINT OF VIEW

When the passion dies What happens when the spark in a relationship fizzes out? And why does it even happen?

If it takes two people to fall in love, it takes two people to fall out of it.

Falling in love is so easy. Too easy, right?

You think it would be like that forever. But as the months go on you find it’s just so much easier to become the bad guy. It’s easier to ignore, to hurt, to bear a grudge, to dwell on resentment, to think of what-could-havebeens, to think of other people, to think only of ourselves, to not think at all; to do all the things that draw out, slowly, the blood from those passions, to kill a love with a death of a thousand cuts.

It’s tiring to be in love all the time.

I should know—by the tail end of our relationship, my now-ex was looking pretty peaked. She wasn’t just tired, per se.

She was also tired of me.

Maybe I was too busy for her. Work was tough. I’d gotten promoted, which meant a metric ton of new work, requisite panic attacks, and waking up in the morning still wearing my office clothes because I’d been too exhausted to change the night before. I’d promised to call her every day, even during overtime; somehow that always got rescheduled.

Maybe her dad’s attitude was rubbing off on her.

Tito hated my guts, hated them ever since I had one of my first dinners over

To look back when nothing remains is to wonder where it all went wrong.

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at their place, hated them even more when he found out that his little girl, her beautiful chin jutting forward, told him that I was her boyfriend and there was nothing he could do about that. But the dad’s dislike never really waned, and that chin jutted out a little less each year, it seemed.

Maybe our attitudes about religion were ultimately incompatible.

Maybe I wasn’t ambitious enough about getting money to really invest in any sort of future. Maybe I did think about other people too much. Maybe I’d truly become less and less easy to love, and harder and harder to forgive.

But then again, I could turn the blame around,

and fixate on everything that she did wrong, and conveniently transform self-pity into righteous fury. This was on her. I was the one who’d gotten tired of her. It was my passion that had died, and she’d been the one to deliver the icy execution.

That’s really how these kinds of relationship post-mortems go: a weighing-scale blame game trivia show of whofell-out-of-love-withwhom-and-why. Those first few months (or years, or decades, depending on your constitution) of love feel like such a vibrant, living thing—to look back at them when nothing remains but white ashes is to wonder where it all went wrong.

My ex and I, we’re still friends. Not good ones, but we’re cordial. When we see each other, there’s good-natured bantering about what used to be, and why I was the worst, and why she was the worst, and boy were we smart or what about getting out of that nightmare.

Sometimes the laughs are forced. Sometimes the passion that we’d so effectively and easily euthanized sits between us like a corpse.

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SEX Q&A No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo

Q I get super sleepy after I orgasm. I thought this happened only to dudes!

What’s the deal?

Nodding off?

Totally normal!

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While the lore goes that men morph into hibernating grizzlies 10 seconds after sex, it’s not totally unheard of for you to feel like snoozing too. “When you orgasm, several hormones are released that have a relaxing effect,” say ob-gyn Lee Ellen Morrone, MD. So that crazy rush of oxytocin and vasopressin that come along with your O is probably what’s making you all sleepy-bear too. Or depending on the friskiness of your sex, it could just be that your body is beat. “If you’re using muscles you don’t typically use, sex can be an intense workout,” Dr. Morrone says. Either way, it doesn’t mean that the sex was so boring, it lulled you both into a deep slumber. In fact, it probably means that the sex was amazzzzzzz-ing…and that you’re bound to have some sweet, sweet dreams.

Q I’m straight, but I always get turned on by lesbian GIF porn. Does that mean I’m not actually as straight as I thought I was?

A Nope! “A woman can be turned on by women, and it

doesn’t make her a lesbian,” says sex therapist Diana Wiley, PhD. Lesbian porn tends to have plotlines that involve women getting pleasured, which is probably why you find it more erotic, says Wiley. If girl-on-girl makes you hot, it could be that it just helps you understand your desires, whether you’re with a girl, a guy, or a GIF.

Q Do I still need to ask A Even if you’ve known your brother’s super smokin’ friend forever and ever or you realize that you and your swipe-right took chem my guy about STIs if together in college, there’s still no way you can tell if he’s STI-free just I’ve known him for a by looking at him. In fact, a 2015 study in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality found that when someone seems familiar to us, we while before we subconsciously see that person as being more similar to ourselves. started hooking up? I And if you’re fairly sure you don’t have an STI, you assume the other person doesn’t have one either. The point is, the only way you’ll find mean…I’d know by out is if you ask or suggest you both get tested. Ease the awkwardness by making it an “I’ll show you my results if you show me yours” game. now, right?

Then you can stop looking and get to touching!

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AsK HIm AnYtHInG Advice from cosmo’s very own guy guru

Nope, not into that.

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I’d recommend dropping a few casual “but that’s not me” hints when something kinky comes on TV. As in, “I’m all for sexy movies, but the spanking in Fifty Shades doesn’t do it for me.” Just remember there’s no shame in your game. You’re not a prude. You have preferences and are that much cooler for owning them.

Q I went on a fantastic date with this

girl. After hours of great conversation, she mentioned that she’s “not a big texter.” It was only the first date, and we’ve barely texted at all. Is she already making excuses for being a bad communicator? Is this a warning sign?

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A IMHO you

shouldn’t read too much into this. You had “hours of great conversation” on your first date. If those IRL sparks are real, who cares if her emoji game is off point?

Q I met these brothers and hooked up with one of them. I thought I picked right, but now I feel like I effed up. the other guy is hotter and funnier. Is it too late to switch?

A Oh, brother. If

you’ve been with one, it’s too late to go with his bro. You can try (ASAP!) but there will likely be consequences. Better to move on…maybe to an only child.

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Q I’m starting to feel like every guy I date expects crazy, out-of-the-box sex—to the point where I feel like a freak for only being into vanilla stuff. Is there a way I can let dudes know that ahead of time, before we even make it into the bedroom, while still seeming sexy and not like a wet blanket?

Drive & Dash Put the brakes on car-related anxiety by knowing exactly what these warning lights mean.

ENGINE WARNING LIGHT

BRAKE SYSTEM/FLUID WARNING LIGHT If it’s still on after disengaging your handbrake, it can mean that your car’s out of brake fluid or your brake system is malfunctioning.

Get your car checked right away!

Driving around any longer can lead to further—and potentially irreparable—damage.

BATTERY CHARGE WARNING LIGHT There may be something wrong with your car’s electrical system if this light stays on.

Tip: Take note of the last time you had your batteries replaced— your car may suddenly die on you when you need it the most!

GAS LIGHT This means you’re already using your car’s reserve fuel, so make sure to gas up ASAP.

OIL WARNING LIGHT You need to avoid low oil level and pressure at all costs. If left unattended, this can lead to very expensive engine damage.

POWER STEERING WARNING LIGHT This will most likely be accompanied by difficulty in moving your steering wheel.

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Tip: To know which side your gas tank is on, check which direction the arrow beside the light is pointing toward.

DOOR OPEN WARNING LIGHT For your own safety, make sure all your doors are closed (and locked!).

AIRBAG WARNING LIGHT A faulty airbag can either deploy without any impact (which can cause an accident) or not deploy during an accident (which can cause further injuries).

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You, You, You “I NEvER kNEw GROwING up wOulD bE sO hARD.” At 23, Candice* has a degree in drama and performance studies, and a string of acclaimed productions on her CV, but she’s battling to survive between bit parts in professional productions.

Even teaching odd classes “when I can find them” can’t cover rent and put food on the table. This year, after yet another unsuccessful audition, she had an anxiety attack.

“I collapsed,” she says. “I couldn’t breathe; I was hyperventilating and had chills.” A frightened roommate rushed her to the hospital where doctors got her to breathe slowly.

The attack passed—but she’s moved back home. “I can’t believe I’m back...But lots of my friends never left home and it’s amazing how many I’ve discovered are on antidepressants, now that I am too—even those doing engineering.

There’s just so much pressure and stress.”

Anxiety among Generation Y—those born between 1980 and 2000— is reportedly soaring. “I see too many Gen Ys at my practice,” says psychologist Lisa Grant-Stuart.

According to a UK charity YouthNet, one in three Gen Y women and one in 10 men have panic attacks, and in a 2013 US survey by the American College Health Association, 57% of female students and 40% of male students reported an episode in the past year of being so anxious and depressed, they struggled to function. Writing in Psychology Today, psychology professor Gregg Henriques says that evidence suggests that college students today have greater levels of psychopathology and stress than ever before.

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ANXIETY

AND GENERATION

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The biggest danger of anxiety and depression is risk of suicide. Excessive worry has also been linked to cardiovascular disease, depression, OCD, panic attacks, hypochondria, and general anxiety disorder.

“Excessive worry produces unrealistic and irrational anxieties about what should not make a ‘normal’ person worry,” says psychologist Hanan Bushkin. “It brings loss of a sense of control, which can lead to the development of an anxiety disorder.”

So, what’s behind it— and what can you do?

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The tough economic climate around the world has brought fierce competition for scarce jobs and other resources, and worries of an uncertain future.

Earlier generations could count on a job after high

It’s been dubbed “Generation Anxious”.

Why? And what can you do about it?

school and certainly after tertiary qualification, but today, even degrees may not be enough.

“The vast majority of graduates continue to find a spot in a skills-hungry labor market, but some degrees are less easily marketable than others,” says researcher Hendrik van Broekhuizen of Stellenbosch University’s economics department.

Hard technical skills such as engineering and the sciences are still the most marketable.

Fight the Anxiety Stay positive. Study further: if you have an arts degree, add an MBA or a teaching qualification, but be sure you’re in a field you’re interested in, says Van Broekhuizen, because lack of passion shows. Change direction, transferring what credits you can.

Cultivate flexibility and let go of perfection: expecting your life to be a specific

way can set you up for anxiety, disappointment, and depression.

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Xenophobic attacks, reported terrorist threats, soaring crime statistics, corruption, crumbling power and other infrastructure, troubled education and health systems...numerous worries face Gen Y. Fight the Anxiety “Don’t waste energy trying to control what you can’t,” says Bushkin. “Focus on doing what you can to make a difference.”

“Doing” is therapeutic— studies show we’re happiest when fully engaged in the moment, and feeling we’re making a positive difference makes it even better.

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your sense of insecurity and continues the cycle.

Ask yourself: If someone has such an awesome life, why are they wasting so much of it uploading pictures to Facebook every few minutes?

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this can help reduce anxiety,” says Stergianos.

Anxious about crime? Take sensible steps to protect and insure yourself and your possessions, then do something to help counter underlying problems such as poverty.

Share your skills, mentor someone, give time to shelters. Resist the urge to escape in alcohol, drugs, or unsafe sex, which are on the rise and make anxiety worse.

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For Gen Y, technology is an integral part of life—last year, a US study found female students spend,

on average, 10 hours a day on cellphones, and men, eight. Constant connectivity breeds comparisons and pressure to compete and keep up not just with friends but with the likes of Kylie and Kendall. It also breeds fear of missing out.

Fight the Anxiety Remind yourself that people are projecting their carefully edited ‘best selves’ on social media and the reality of their lives, including their happiness, can be far different. Don’t get into a FOMO arms race—when others update their status, don’t try to retaliate, as this heightens

Anxiety can be genetic and part of your temperament, but upbringing plays a role too. If your parents, like many of Gen Y, constantly praised you to build selfesteem, you may worry about letting them down by not fulfilling their expectations. If they were overprotective or neglected or abused you, you may feel unable to cope on your own.

Fight the Anxiety Unburden with sympathetic friends— preferably in real (not screen) time. Loving touch promotes the release of oxytocin, which counters the negative effects of stress hormone cortisol and leads to feelings of contentment and calm, decreasing anxiety, says psychologist Elise Fourie.

Develop pastimes you enjoy, and get active— exercise releases feel-good endorphins and helps you be in the ‘now’, as does meditation.

siGns of the times General anXiety disorder ❏ you are unable to relax ❏ you struggle to concentrate or your mind goes blank ❏ you feel anxious much of the time ❏ you can’t stop revisiting the same worries ❏ you endlessly examine the negative “what if” outcomes of a situation ❏ you feel restless or on edge ❏ you feel tired ❏ you feel irritable ❏ you have muscle tension and aches ❏ you have problems falling or staying asleep ❏ your worrying interferes with your daily life See your doctor or a psychologist; contact the Philippine Mental health Association (pmha.org.ph; +632 921 4958) or the natasha goulbourn Foundation (ngf-hope. org; +63917 558 4673). therapy and meditation can help.

paniC attaCk ❏ you battle to breathe, or breathe rapidly and shallowly (hyperventilating) ❏ your heart races ❏ you have chest pain or tightness ❏ you experience a choking feeling ❏ you feel weak, dizzy, and lightheaded (from lack of oxygen) ❏ you have numbness or tingling sensations ❏ you have hot or cold flushes and sweat ❏ you feel nauseous ❏ you feel unreal, detached from your surroundings ❏ you fear losing control or going crazy or dying of a heart attack Consciously breathe slowly and deeply, and relax. Focus on something beautiful nearby— leaves on a tree, pictures on a wall. Be fully in the moment; then let go and grasp the next with equal focus. See your doctor for a check-up to rule out heart, blood-sugar, or thyroid problems. you may be referred for psychological treatment.

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COOL CAREER

the path to finding true

Career

love No one lands their dream job straight out of college—but doing ones that suck will give you vital skills and experience

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ou know that phenomenon where you look at a clock, then look away for at least an hour, then you look back—but the time’s only changed by five minutes? That’s the kind of thing that happens when you’re in a crap job. Time. Stands. Still.

Other signs? You’ve used up your sick leave on what you deem “mental health days,” you’ve invented “games” to keep you amused during the nine to five (wastepaper basket basketball,

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anyone?), and your Sundayitis lasts until Thursday. But crap jobs are crucial to your climb up the career ladder—here’s how they can help you land your dream role...

the soul-suCking Customer serviCe Job Whether it’s taking calls for the customer service line at a bank, working in retail, or manning the front desk as a receptionist, chances are your working life started with a role that meant serving (and trying to be polite to) cranky customers.

This type of job is a rite of passage

for most of us, and if nothing else, it pays the bills, right?

“President Ronald Regan used to say that if you come upon a room full of horse manure, start shovelling, because there’s probably a pony in there somewhere. The same is true of a crap job—if you dig, you’ll probably find at least one good thing,” says Michele Woodward, career strategist and author of I Am Not Superwoman: Further Essays on Happier Living.

This role’s no different—it teaches you skills for every subsequent job. “You learn patience and what works when you have to deal with customer service people down the road,” says Woodward.

But the Soul-Sucking Customer Service Job can also take a toll on your sanity. So when you find yourself hating every single customer on sight, it’s time for you to move on.

the good-on-paper Job This crap job is a bit like that guy you broke up with last year: he’s perfect—in theory. He’s cute, funny, and clever, but the spark isn’t there. This job is much the same. It ticks all, or at least most of the boxes (it’s in a field you studied for, impressive job title, decent pay...), but in reality, it’s boring and doesn’t leave you fulfilled or motivated. It’s easy to feel guilty for classifying the Good-On-Paper Job as a crap one, but if it’s not for you, don’t feel pressured to settle.

“The good thing is that in a job like this, you learn to balance your life,” says Woodward. “Because if the job is a bore, you don’t have to work 10-hour days. You could take an art class at night, or an exercise class in the morning. Or find a new job!”

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business development section interests you. To explore a move, grow your network by being there for others. “The best way to grow a network is to be of service to people. So if you want to be an event planner, volunteer to help an event planner staff a key event,” says Woodward.

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the stepping-stone Job Often you’ll have made contacts in your Good-On-Paper job that lead to the Stepping-Stone Job— usually the role you’ll have before your dream job. You like it, you get to use your skills, and you feel great about your contribution, but there’s no room to grow. The only place to go is out the door (with great references) to somewhere where you can continue to thrive.

The other upside? “You could meet a mentor who will help you through your entire carreer,” says Woodward. “Identify people who currently hold your dream role and learn about them. What skills are vital? What training, certification, or experience is key? Then assess yourself to discover where any gaps might be, ask questions, and work on filling those gaps.”

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“All work revolves around three things: people, learning, and money,” says Woodward. “If you take a crap job, make sure that at least one of those three are completely satisfying. For instance, maybe you hate your coworkers and the money is horrible, but if you’re learning some skill or task which is vital to your dream job, then you can stick it out.” solenn If none of the three things heussaff bartender satisfies, it’s time to quit—but don’t burn bridges. “Be upbeat, even if what you’d like to do is tell off the organization. You never know who will come back around in your life, in what kind of role, so act with dignity and magnanimity.”

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How many times have you heard someone tell you to follow your heart? And how realistic is that given the need to survive financially? Financial experts and authors of I Wish They Taught Money in High School Sharon Que and Clarissa De La Paz show you how you can make these two seemingly opposing ideals work.

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Let’s all agree on something first— we are all born with a passion and a burning desire to do something, something that excites us and gives us a natural high. Whether it’s a personal interest or a hobby, there is always something we are willing to do for free.

The good news is, we can also make money out of our passions.

You can begin earning money right now. You can do it either full time or part-time. Some jump into it full time, either starting a business focused on it or finding a job involving their passion. Some work it in from the sidelines. One friend built a home-based baking business that eventually led to her putting up her own macaron cafe when she saw the demand. Another friend wanted to put up her own school, so she first got a job as an elementary teacher, learned the ropes, then finally put up a pre-school of her own.

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SHARON: I discovered I had a gift for sales when I was still in school. As soon as I realized I had this talent, I grabbed every opportunity that presented itself, selling all sorts of things like shoes, shirts, toys, supplements, even firecrackers!

CLARISSA: For me, it was teaching and sing-

ing, but I also loved my job in advertising. So I sang and taught part-time. I had a full-time job from Monday to Friday. Then,on Saturdays, I taught at the university I graduated from. And when I had free time, I accepted singing gigs.

Once your vision is clear, start right away.

Start small. Start simple. Just start.

DO

● Create a business plan

and a marketing plan. ● Study your competition. ● Get a mentor who is an expert in the field you want to pursue. ● Continuously improve your craft.

DON’T

Stop analysis paralysis. Don't get trapped trying to perfect your plan. A perfect plan will always be in beta mode. Start, then rework your plans along the way.

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We are advocates of financial literacy, and it was out of this mission that our book was born. Advocacy aside, we earn passive income from sales from our online store and orders from bookstores.

More good news: You can start with minimal, or even zero capital. Whether it’s a product or a service you'd like to offer, challenge yourself to make money out of nothing.

As soon as you begin your venture and actually start earning money from it, the gains are priceless: enjoying the journey, pursuing what you’re passionate about, and living a fulfilling, joyful life.

SHARON: Sheer passion and a burning desire

SHARON: From selling toys and shirts, my

CLARISSA: Skills and talent are capital enough.

Since mine were service-oriented, all I needed to do was market and sell myself to potential clients.

CLARISSA: I need my creative outlet and I feel I am in my element every time I teach, speak in public, or perform on stage. I feel great when I touch lives by sharing my gifts. I know I’m living my purpose when I see our readers and followers learn a thing or two and completely change their money mindset. And of course, it doesn’t hurt to make money from doing the things you love.

were my only capital. I sourced out suppliers who did business on a consignment basis.

There are a lot of them out there who are willing to do this.

DO

● If you do need a larger

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and meet quotas, because I want to do these out of love and fun. It’s really important to be clear about why you’re doing this and to what extent you’re willing to monetize your passion.

capital, consider using other people’s money by getting an investor or a bank loan. ● Make sure you have a sound business plan and make calculated risks. ● While following your heart will surely get you excited, you need to sit down and really think things through.

DON’T

If you seriously want your backyard business to evolve into a full-blown one, restrain yourself from spending your earnings right away.

Save, come up with a business model, let your funds circulate.

Your business will need you to have good money habits.

●

SHARON: It is very important to be clear about

why you are doing this, and that it’s a business even if it started as a hobby and just for fun.

Know that while you spend on a hobby, business should bring in money.

CLARISSA:There’s a part of me that’s still scared to make the things I’m passionate about my only source of income. I have days when I’m not as inspired and don't like to be forced into doing things I love just because I need the money. I don’t want to feel pressured to beat deadlines

passion grew to include real estate, billboard advertising, and publishing. Although I’m still on my way to achieving all my dreams and business goals, I am loving this journey.

However, these things do not come without any challenges. Your biggest obstacle is not believing that you can put a price tag on your skills, talents, and passions. Do not shortchange yourself. Know your worth and learn to ask for a fair price.

Another common drawback is not wanting to or claiming that you don’t know how to sell your products or services. Every day, you need to sell yourself, whether for your job or in your relationships. So, get over the fear of selling. Finally, you will need to be moneysavvy. The big bucks won’t come at once.

You will need to persevere as there will be birthing pains and rough edges at the onset. However, getting through them will be a reward in itself.

There will always be challenges and obstacles—in business, in your career, and in life in general. But if you are passionate about what you’re doing, the rough ride can also be a joyride. ◼

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When

CHANGE IS COMING (FROM YOU)

WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU ABOUT WORKING TO CHANGE THE WORLD Always dreamed of making a difference? No other generation has been more driven to improve the plight of others than millennials. Former Cosmo intern Amie Perez joined an NGO to do just that. Here, she delivers the lowdown on everything you need to know to handle your expectations vs. reality.

A woman pounds on her keyboard at the speed of light. Her earphones do the talking for her: Don’t talk to me, I’m busy. In the next room are three young professionals. One of them sorts out office supplies and cuts up pieces of paper. The second counts condoms. I'm the third, and I take a step back and observe everyone. I tell myself, This is change. This is where it starts, this is where it all happens.

It's been going on long before we had the most divisive, meme-fuelled national elections. More than one person being expected to bring change, thousands of tireless, hardworking people have been in the business of bringing positive change to a country that badly needs it. None of us had to wear Spandex and capes; none of us had to wield weapons chasing bad guys around town. And neither do you, if you want to go down the path of changing the world.

Three years ago, I decided to move to Puerto Princesa, Palawan, to work for a non-government organization (NGO) called Roots of Health, locally known as Ugat ng Kalusugan. My job description entailed teaching young girls and boys about sexual and reproductive health, in response to the high teen pregnancy rates and the growing number of cases of sexually transmitted infections in the area.

Whatever cause you wish to champion, working for it can be fulfilling yet frustrating, challenging yet sometimes mind-numbing, inspiring yet disillusioning. Here are a few lessons I learned while trying to be a full-time modern-day rank-andfile superhero.

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CHANGE IS BORING… UNLESS YOU CAN SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE.

A typical day in the life of a humanitarian worker doesn’t always look as glamorously gritty as it does in political ad montages. It’s not always as theatrical as people taking to the streets to overthrow an oppressive regime. It’s not as photo-op-worthy as Angelina Jolie hanging out with refugee kids, or Emma Watson making a rousing speech for the United Nations. It can, at times, be just as boring as any other office job, since most projects are planned, developed, and evaluated at conference tables, regular office desks, or next to a

photocopying machine.

In nonprofit work, especially in smaller, grassroots organizations, one’s job isn’t always limited to whatever you signed up for. I signed up to teach sex education, which I always thought was super cool. However, I also ended up watching over and teaching toddlers while their mothers attended maternal health classes. I also taught financial literacy classes, presented in a conference, produced a radio show, figured out how to input formulas on spreadsheets, photocopied and cut questionnaires, dealt with brownouts and water shortages, answered text messages, received the occasional sermon from my bosses…the list went on.

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Be the change you wish to see!

be less materialistic, and I tried to live below my means as much as I could. I bought clothes at the ukay-ukay. I made up for lost income by doing freelance work on the side. Contrary to what a lot of middle- to upper-class people might believe, our poorest kababayans don’t always want handouts—they want opportunities. And if they are capable of making the most out of the opportunities they’re given, no matter how limited, then so can any of us.

Money was hard, yes. But by the end of my first year in Palawan, I was able to save enough to take my first trip abroad—a month-long backpacking trip around Southeast Asia—something I never had the chance to do when I was working in high-paying jobs.

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CHANGE CAN BE A HATE-MAGNET…

Half the time, especially when I was in the classroom and witnessed students getting that lightbulb moment upon learning something new, I felt the most alive I’d ever been. As for the other half, it was a conscious, constant effort to remind myself why I even bothered with the most mundane, painful tasks.

“The things I do for love” would be my mantra.

CHANGE IS EXPENSIVE…

There’s a misconception that working to change the world means resigning yourself to a life of poverty. Money was actually one of the major factors that held me back from pursuing development work for the longest time.

To a certain extent, yes, development work doesn’t pay as much as corporate jobs do. After working in well-paying jobs in call centers, tech, digital marketing and media, I had to take a huge pay cut when I took my first NGO job in Manila. Provincial rates were even lower. Sure, fulfillment is good; doing something meaningful is good.

But fulfillment and meaning won’t pay the bills or for that next trip abroad.

Until they did.

…UNLESS YOU CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY.

My experience working with those who aren’t as financially #blessed helped me redefine my views on what poverty and prosperity really meant. It taught me to

Reproductive health and gender issues are one of the most polarizing issues in the country. In a forum we conducted for out-of-school youths, someone asked a question about whether homosexuality was contagious or not. My colleagues and I answered the question in a non-discriminatory way, and told them that no, it’s not contagious, and yes, it’s okay to be gay.

Unfortunately, our answer invited a religious rebuttal, Leviticus verses and all, from another educator.

On another occasion, we held a youth health fair in a school outside the city.

We taught hundreds of high school students about safe sex, consent, healthy relationships and gender identity issues. It was a success; the students and teachers were enthusiastic and receptive. A few weeks later, we saw photos from the event, meme-fied in an anti-RH Facebook page, along with false accusations that our “sex ed caravan” was distributing condoms to minors.

…BUT YOU’LL BE FINE IF YOU KNOW YOU’RE FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT.

A lot of the change we want for this country, on the surface, seems to involve changing people’s behavior.

We want to stop crime, stop drugs, stop littering, stop corruption, stop poverty, and stop those douchebags from driving on the wrong lane or parking in the wrong spots. But before we can change how people act, we first have to change not only how people think, but also their perceptions of JULY 2016 | COSMOPOLITAN

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the superhero Cheat Sheet

think you have what it takes to change the world? your mission starts here.

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eDuCate yourselF. Read up on the issues. Learn the jargon. Take an advanced degree if you can.

Good intentions are usually not enough; efficient, sustainable development is made of equal parts theory and practice. volunteer. Check out opportunities at your local barangay hall, church, or community center. These are all good places to get your feet wet. establish your support group.

Maintain good relationships outside work, and surround yourself with people who believe in the cause you’re fighting for, who’ll pick you up and remind you of your mission when things get rough. explore. Check out job openings at online job portals and Facebook groups. The Development Sector Jobs group has postings from NGOs that don’t usually advertise on paid job boards. (www.facebook.com/groups/dsjobs/)

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Change is sloW…

People are often resistant to new ideas, new ways of thinking, or new ways of doing things, especially if these contradict strongly held beliefs and long-persistent practices. This is especially true for people who have been denied their rights and access to opportunities such as education and jobs.

Despite knowing that we did our best to help our clients, there will always be that occasional case where we’d ask ourselves where we went wrong or where we fell short. This is what makes development work particularly challenging. Most of the time, the impact of what we do isn’t immediately measured or felt, not only by our clients, but also by ourselves.

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…but remember: #WalangForever.

How do you know if it’s a worthy cause?

Bear in mind that the ultimate goal of a nonprofit organization should be to close shop, because real change happens when communities become less and less dependent on external assistance or coercion and more selfsufficient and empowered to make wise decisions about their lives. In other words, you’ll know you’ve done a good job when people stop needing your help.

Three years ago, I set out on an adventure to Palawan to teach and empower. I left, learning more about myself and what more I could do to help those in the fringes of society.

My frustrations and joys doing development work eventually led me to decide to revisit a childhood dream I abandoned after I left university and life happened: I decided to go to law school, so I can be better equipped to fight for the rights of those who cannot do it for themselves.

I set out to change the world, one barangay and one classroom at a time.

But in the end, it was the world, every barangay, and every classroom that I taught in, that ultimately changed me. ◼

Life Pegs

these stars are definitely making the world brighter in different and meaningful ways.

ANGEL LOCSiN

Years before #StopLumadKillings became a battle-cry against injustice towards indigenous people, Angel herself went to Lanao del Sur and spent two nights with the Lumad communities, then later on told their story.

As one of the special envoys for the UN Refugee Agency, Angelina is about to take on the task of teaching grad school students at the Centre for Women, Peace and ANGELiNA Security of the prestigious London School of Economics.

JOLiEPiTT This human rights lawyer and former development worker fought for the rights of farmers and provided legal assistance to those least capable of affording it. Her bottom-up, participatory approach to governance captured the imagination of millions LENi RObREDO of Filipinos who catapulted her from the laylayan to the Vice-Presidency.

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what is acceptable and what is normal.

Changing people’s minds about deeplyrooted, potentially harmful beliefs and traditions is a tough job, indeed.

While listening to criticism and opposition can be helpful, you have to know the difference between the voices that oppress and the voices that are unjustly suppressed. Be that voice for the latter, and you’ll be all right.

Fun & Fearless

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Angelique Uy, 29

Janine Chiong, 24

ninya Flavio, 29

Tapping into a wealth of experience in commerce, Angelique and her team helm their own loyalty and marketing platform that’s poised to shake up the local retail landscape out of its doldrums.

Proof that businesses can do well and do good, Janine’s social enterprise offers fashionable footwear crafted by local artisans.

This “Chief Cheerleader” is a master storyteller, pooling expertise in creative fields to craft compelling concepts for a growing client base.

THE START OF MY STARTUP: “After college, I worked for a US commerce site selling promotional products to businesses in the US—back when the industry was virtually non-existent here.

Intrigued by optimizing websites based on data, I wanted to take an online discipline and apply it to the offline world. For over a year, my co-founders and I met every Sunday to plan and strategize— listing possible clients, working on our minimum viable product, and sourcing suppliers.” #GIRlbOSS lIFE lESSOnS: “being your own boss means more accountability. It presupposes that you’ve thought about all the angles (and

THE START OF MY STARTUP: “In college, I volunteered for Musmos, an urban poor organization. I saw a different side of social development and realized that if we look beyond the charity or dole-out concept of helping, we can pave the way for them.

After graduation, I just couldn’t let this end and decided to form a full-fledged business out of their rag-weaving skills!” #GIRlbOSS lIFE lESSOnS: “It’s not enough to love your business, you have to equip yourselves to do business well. It’s easy to forget to see your own shortcomings, so

THE START OF MY STARTUP:“My college thesis, an advocacy campaign on street children, made such an impact on me, I knew that from then on, I wanted to tell stories. So I created an AVP of my portfolio. Every day, from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m., I went door-to-door to ad agencies and SMEs and submitted it. I also promoted it on Facebook and made my profile visible on all social networking accounts.” #GIRlbOSS lIFE lESSOnS: “I’ve learned that consistency is everything. To find magic, you work hard. I am also a product of my company—I am the brand. I ’ve learned that

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being your own boss is harder than it seems, but these power players in the local startup scene make the round-the-clock hustle look easy.

Mariliese Tan, 30

Valenice balace, 27

She’s revolutionizing the remittances industry with an online platform that skirts the conventional money transfer, empowering hard-working OFWs in the process.

With online dating now the norm, she created an app by women, for women—empowering this generation of young, independent Pinays to take their love lives in their own hands.

THE START OF MY STARTUP: “I studied and worked in Canada and Singapore where I experienced first-hand the problems OFWs face. I realized I was sitting on a huge market opportunity. So, using the gift certificate concept to deliver money to recipients’ mobile phones, I convinced a supermarket chain to work with us, and encouraged people in my network to buy grocery vouchers as gifts.

It’s a simpler, cheaper, and more convenient alternative to sending remittances. The current remittance process empowers the recipient, we want to make a shift and

THE START OF MY STARTUP: “I had a problem to solve (my friends’ and my own dating problems), money, and a love for apps. I wanted to help women meet other people without the judgment and pressure. So I designed the website, hired a freelancer to work on my designs, and invited people to use our prototype. I got the numbers, which were promising, and decided to turn it into a business!” #GIRlbOSS lIFE lESSOnS: “I’m the captain.

Without me there’s no direction and no motivation. If I’m gone too long, work slows down, which in effect, slows down the

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Roxy navarro, 24

Managing creative Officer, Works of Heart PH Marrying art and advocacy, her design company has a carefully curated client base and lends its skills to purposeful passion projects, collaborating with cause-driven organizations.

THE START OF MY STARTUP: “When we were about to graduate from college, my friends and I wanted to find a way to make our passions and being of service meet. We realized it would be meaningful to focus on stories from the development sector which are seldom heard.

With a small capital of P500, we bought a domain to launch a portfolio. before we knew it, our passion project had turned into a company.” #GIRlbOSS lIFE lESSOnS: “Make deliberate choices. Say ‘no’ often. In this generation, people who make the most things and say

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Fun & Fearless Angelique Uy stakeholders involved) before reaching a fair and just decision. being the boss doesn’t mean you’re always right. And it’s okay to admit you’re wrong. You never really stop learning— from your co-founders, employees, clients, mentors, investors. It’s a humbling experience.” bEST THInG AbOUT A STARTUP: “Sharing a big idea with a group of like-minded people and working together to make the idea happen. We’re learning together and we’re making commerce more intelligent and rewarding for all parties .” bIGGEST MIlESTOnES: “Getting investors. It means people believe in the value of our product.

We’ve also helped over 600 stores here deliver rewarding experiences to over 250,000 end-users.”

PRO TIPS FOR THE COSMO GIRl: “Just remember to deliver value to your customers. If you think you have a product or service that gives value to others, then by all means, launch it. Dream big—big enough to include others, and get the best people on your side. There is no 100% surefire way to success, so buckle up and keep on hustling.”

Mariliese Tan empower OFWs, the ones working hard to support their families.” #GIRlbOSS lIFE lESSOnS: “I have a boss—I am accountable to our customers and to the team. There are no maps and no handbooks to follow—you have to let the customers determine your direction. I learned to be a good listener, be open to suggestions, and analyze data to better come up with what the customer needs.” bEST THInG AbOUT A STARTUP: “The sense of fulfillment and achievement in making a positive difference in the lives of others.” bIGGEST MIlESTOnES: “Going from zero to more than 80,000 users in a year is our greatest achievement. This signifies that we’re actually solving a real problem that has a huge potential to uplift our customers from poverty.”

PRO TIPS FOR COSMO GIRlS: “Do your research, but trust your instincts too. Make sure you’re solving a real problem and addressing a bigenough market. be willing to learn. Actively seek advice and feedback. Start something you’re passionate about, have an intense desire to succeed and work really hard. The ones who make it are the ones who keep trying until they do.”

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Janine Chiong discipline is very important. ” bEST THInG AbOUT A STARTUP: “Experience is the best teacher, and mistakes are your ‘tuition fee.’ So for me, learning from the grassroots is the best thing about running a startup. Whenever we get a chance to share milestones with our communities, it further validates that we’re fighting the good fight against poverty.” bIGGEST MIlESTOnES: “We won as champions in the biD network Challenge in 2012 and received P100,000 in grants, which helped us continue our business after college.

We also closed our first ever international corporate client, SAP Asia, in 2015.”

PRO TIPS FOR THE COSMO GIRl: “Don’t be afraid to go after what you want.

It’s just a matter of grit and hustle. Just start and see where it takes you. Don’t be afraid to consult and pick the brains of those who’ve done it too. Always listen.

Always learn.”

Valenice balace whole company. I learned to detach, and I constantly set meetings with myself to clear my mind and structure the noise inside my head.” bEST THInG AbOUT A STARTUP: “There’s no right or wrong strategy, no guidelines, no rules we don’t set ourselves. We learn new things every day. We can implement things without waiting for approval. We learn very quickly since we fail and succeed very quickly as well.” bIGGEST MIlESTOnES: “being part of Forbes’ ‘30 Under 30 Asia’ list and the only Filipino under 30 for Consumer Technology. Since we started in June 2013, we’ve raised $605,000 in investments. We announced in Forbes Asia that we were recently funded $500,000 by Mingle, a San Francisco-based company, to continue making wholesome dating and social apps.”

PRO TIPS FOR COSMO GIRlS: “Repeat this: ‘You were made for greater things.’ We are alive and we have to experience being alive and do the thing that will make us happy. There won’t be any other time to do what you love other than the time you have now. You just really need to believe in what you’re doing and what it’s for.”

ninya Flavio managing people takes years of learning.

You need to trust your team. You’re never really the boss; the boss has a boss. In my case, my boss is my client.” bEST THInG AbOUT A STARTUP: “You wake up every day excited to grow, to learn, to be bigger—it’s never boring at this stage. There’s always a new opportunity, a new challenge. I get to use the hashtags #GIRlbOSS and #FUnFEARlESS. And there are times when afternoon sangria can be an option.” bIGGEST MIlESTOnES :“We consistently acquire corporate accounts mainly from SMEs, but we now work with top agencies as their production suppliers. I’ve surpassed my financial goals in just under a year. I’ve proven I can be fun, candid, young, and still be able to gain the trust of conservative and traditional companies.”

PRO TIPS FOR THE COSMO GIRl:“Anna Wintour said, ‘People respond well to people who are sure of what they want.’ And from How I Met Your Mother: ‘Don’t postpone joy.’”

Roxy navarro yes to a lot of things seem like the successful ones.

It’s easy to say yes because the world tells us we can do so many things. but deliberate choices means we say no, too. Time to go for a more discerned, purposeful, and focused life.” bEST THInG AbOUT A STARTUP: “You work directly with clients and customers—the ‘why’ of your company. You get to engage with them in a way that allows you to give them what they need and deserve. The communication and collaboration is more genuine and effective.” bIGGEST MIlESTOnES: “Seeing our clients happy with our work, and more importantly, seeing them learning to believe in themselves more. These things are big for them, because they feel and become more credible. It’s part of the reason why we believe in making design more accessible.”

PRO TIPS FOR COSMO GIRlS:“Ask yourself, ‘How much do I want to go into business? How ready am I for it?’ Starting is one thing, pushing through is a another story. More importantly, ask, ‘Is this business meaningful to me or the people around me? If yes, to whom and how?’ The answer to the latter question will be your anchor.”

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the secret to being happy

kiana valenciano This 23-year-old singer/fashion designer/blogger talks about the joys of getting out of your comfort zone.

Happiness is…

Her chow-chow Chewie! <3

I’m working on my EP, but I don’t want to make anything that sounds rushed. It takes time to write songs from experience, and I don’t want to release anything that isn’t me, so I’m taking my time. My music is influenced by R&B, electronic music, and the ‘80s. I’m just putting together all these different sounds. I don’t even care about being unique anymore, I just want to show people who I am and see how they take it.

leTTinG YoUR HaiR DoWn

I think the best thing about being at the beach is just that I feel like a kid when I’m there. I don’t wear any makeup, and my hair’s so curly but I just leave it be and nobody cares. I can be completely myself. My friends say, “You look so happy,” and I’m like, “I am!” And it’s funny because I’m allergic to saltwater. But when I’m there, I’m just so carefree—and I’m not exactly a low-maintenance girl.

Sarap eh!

Kiana’s happy place? The beach.

Philippine Popular Music Festival (PhilPOP) and asked me to sing it. At first, I felt like it wasn’t my thing because I wanted my first single to be something I wrote. It was a challenge for me to connect with PhilPOP’s market since I’m more into indie. But I knew PhilPOP would reach many more people than my usual listeners, so I decided to try it and see where it would take me. And it was fun—I met new people, such as songwriters who I would love to work with. It was a good experience, all in all.

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I like getting lost in a foreign city. It’s really scary, but when you find your way back it’s such a relief and it’s so rewarding. While you’re lost, you’re not looking for anything, then you come across a nice café or boutique TRYinG SoMeTHinG neW you wouldn’t have noticed otherwise.

Back in 2014, composer Mike When I travel for work, I have a Villegas wrote a song for the translator with me. But when I get lost by myself, I just have to be like, “Hi, English, anyone?” It’s fun because it’s like a social challenge. I used to have a really hard time introducing myself to strangers and starting a conversation. Traveling really helped me with that because if you’re on your own, you can’t rely on others to start a conversation with Kiana is th e style Goofing around you. You have to push yourself to get curator for Save My Bag with her at SM’s Little Wh ite Box! brother Gab

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Kiana studied fashion at Central Saint Martins, Lon don!

to know them or to get where you want to go.

killinG HaTeRS WiTH kinDneSS

Some people diss my skin color, and it’s fine since I We love like standing up for morenas. I don’t let it get Kiana’s soulful to me ’cause when I travel, people say, “I love singing! your skin color! I love your hair!” Haters know nothing about you, and they’d probably want to be your friend if they got to know you. Why would you feel bad about someone who clearly has so much hate in them? Sometimes I even fire back. But I don’t say anything mean.

I PM them something like, “Hate brews hate, love brews love. What’s the point of your message? What are you trying to prove? Anyway, I hope you don’t say this to anyone else.

Just have a good day, God bless you.”

Why Being at the Beach Makes You Happy

Marine biologist Wallace J. Nichols coined the term Blue Mind, “a mildly meditative state characterized by calm, peacefulness, unity, and a sense of general happiness and satisfaction with life in the moment,” which we experience any time we’re near a body of water.

SOURCE: Why OUR bRainS lOvE thE OCEan: SCiEnCE ExplainS What dRaWS hUmanS tO thE SEa by WallaCE J. niChOlS On SalOn.COm

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COSMO COMMANDMENTS

10 Reasons

You Should take up a hobbY 1

You’ll be less stressed. Or, alternately, eustressed, the good, I-love-life kind of stressed.

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You’ll actually be better at your day job, because you’ll be able to recalibrate your focus by taking time away from work.

2 You’ll make new friends.

You might even meet someone cute.

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You’ll live longer. Science SaYS engaging in enjoYable activitieS increaSeS cardiac health, helpS You loSe weight, lowerS blood preSSure, and more.

You could make money.

6 Think: selling your handcrafted artisanal jam,

taking photos for brands, or getting commissions for prints with your own lettering.

5 You’ll either learn a new skill or improve an existing one.

7 You’ll get

exercise, if you take up a new sport.

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You’ll be forced to make time for Yourself. this is important.

You’ll find purpose in your life.

You’ll be doing Something You love.

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Jacket and dress, Hilfiger Collection. Belt, Etro. Bag, Fendi, Shoes, Aquazzura.

Coat, top, and shorts, Emporio Armani. Shoes, Christian Louboutin. Bag, Michino.

Umbrella, Totes.

Dress, Gucci.

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Jacket, bra top, shorts, and shoes all Genny.

Bag, Todâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s.

Umbrella, Kate Spade New York.

find your sweet spot Dress, Mango, P1,495.

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Sunglasses, H&M, P499.

Necklace, H&M, P699.

Bomber jacket, Zara, P2,995.

Heels, Charles & Keith, P2,499.

Top, Ever New, P1,490.

Bag, Queen Street at Zalora.com. ph, P895.

Heels, Zara, P3,495.

Dress, Ever New, P4,990.

Bag, Zara, P3,995.

Top, Bershka, P495.

Bracelet, Mango, P695.

Jacket, Zara, P2,995.

Skirt, Ever New, P2,490.

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get graphic Bold prints and patterns in chic black and white make a strong and stylish impact.

Dress, H&M, P2,990. Bracelet, Parfois, P990.

Wedges, Charles & Keith, P3,950.

Earrings, P290, and bracelet, P490, both Parfois. Dress, Florence Fling, P2,799. Mules, H&M, P1,990.

Dress, Florence Fling, P4,150.

Shoes, Charles & Keith, P3,950.

Dress, Gucci.

Top, Promod, P995. Skirt, Ever New, P2,490.

Heels, Charles & Keith, P3,650.

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Jacket, bra top, shorts,Dress, Ica Serafica, and shoes P12,000.

Top, Forever 21, all Genny.

P395. Cuff, Bag, Tod’s.

Parfois, P490.

Umbrella, KateClutch, SpadeCharles & Keith, P3,199.

New York.

Mules, H&M, P1,990.

Button-down, Forever 21, P805. Jumpsuit, Promod, P2,995. Rings, Parfois, P390 per set. Heels, Charles & Keith, P3,650.

GIVE YOURSELF A LIFT Fine hair can really fall flat, especially if it’s longer.

Hair Trick: Crimp roots underneath the top layer of hair to add lift and bounce.

Top, Mango.

Jumpsuit, John Rufo.

Choker, John Rufo.

Jumpsuit and Choker, John Rufo.

STRAIGHT SHOOTER Limp, lifeless, flat—if these words describe your #HOTD then listen up. We’ve got five quick and easy tips to add oomph to super-straight strands.

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TWISTED AROUND YOUR LITTLE FINGER Tired of the same delivery from your limp locks?

Hair Trick: Natural, loose curls create instant bodyâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;No curling iron required!

Dress, John Rufo.

THE ILLUSIONIST When your â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;do deflates midday, fake volume!

Hair Trick: Pin back the sides of hair to create the illusion of thicker roots.

Jumpsuit, Mango.

Necklace, Firma.

SUCH A TEASE Need to spruce up stringy strands?

Hair Trick: Get thicker looking locks by ‘teasing’ hair, focusing at the roots.

Top, Zara.

MAKE WAVES Creating texture adds dimension to thin hair.

Hair Trick: Cut styling time in half with these easy-to-do waves.

Necklace, AC+632.

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quick-andeasy styling tips every girl with straight hair should know!

1. AEROSOL TEXTURIZING SPRAY

goody Start Style Finish Comb and Creeper, P700 for 2-piece set.

Create a new part next to your natural one. Using a crimper, like JML 3 In 1 hair straightener professional, p2,500, crimp the section closest to roots (about three inches in width). “Don’t crimp hairs near the hairline since they will be visible,” says hair stylist Mark Familara of Kiehl’s.

Let the top layer of hair conceal the crimps.

THE ILLUSIONIST

Trace your hairline from the center part, down four inches. Grab this section of hair and pull away from your head. Twist slightly and when placing back against your head, push forward slightly to create a ‘lift’ and pin.

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MAKE WAVES

Separate dry hair into four to six sections. Braid each section. Flat iron each braid, starting from the top and moving downward. If you don’t have an iron, you can sleep in wet braids overnight. Beauty tip: Need volume now? Bend over, dropping your head upside down and flip hair back up. Or, switch up your hair part.

TWISTED AROUND YOUR LITTLE FINGER

Separate hair into four to six sections. Twist each section around your finger and blow dry until completely dry.

eva nyc Surf’s Up! Texturizing Spray, P795.

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CLARIFYING SHAMPOO

2. TEASING COMB

SUCH A TEASE

Use a fine tooth comb to brush hair ‘backwards,’ starting from the middle of the strands and moving downward toward the roots (aka ‘teasing’).

best CUt & CoLor for fINe haIr? “Longer lengths are heavier which can make hair fall flat.

Shoulder length (or shorter) blunt cuts with graduated layers provide the most body, volume, and movement.

For color, try thin, woven sections of highlights or lowlights. Longer hairstyles can benefit from balayage since the graduating color gives the illusion of lightness.”

—Jude Hipolito & Rose Velasco, the tag-team duo behind JuRo Exclusif Salon

human Nature Clarifying Shampoo, P150.

4. DRY SHAMPOO

Keratin Complex Volumizing Dry Shampoo, P1,095.

Build-up from styling products can weigh hair down . Use a clarifying shampoo weekly.

GAMECHANGER Cosmo’s Beauty Editor Meriam Ahari swears by park Jun beauty Lab’s Digital perm, P5K to 9K. “My hair is naturally fine and stick-straight. I started getting annual body waves to add volume to my thin hair.

It’s an investment, but so worth it!”

Your favorite dishes made healthier â&#x20AC;&#x201C; without sacrificing flavor

Eat healthily at home without having to spend on pricey ingredients. Healthy at home shows you how comfort food doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t necessarily come with extra calories and unwanted pounds.

Available in bookstores and on newsstands nationwide for P150.

For a digital copy, log on to summitnewsstand.com.ph or download the Buqo app, available on iOS and Android.

HOt&HealtHy FIND A SPORT YOU LOVE

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Is exercise a chore to you? Do you often have to force yourself to work out? Try this: Find a sport you can fall in love with and be so passionate about that all you can think about is how to get better at it. When your sport’s fat-burning and muscle-toning benefits become a nice side effect rather than the goal, you’ll be surprised by how you’ll never lose motivation to get your heart pumping! Five fun, fit females show us how they did it.

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WHAT SPORT SUITS YOU?

these women found their sport and fell in love with it! More than the fitness benefits they get (hello, abs!), they say having a sport helps them deal with everyday stress and gives them a fresh perspective on life.

sport Jiu Jitsu what it does “My body became stronger and firmer, my reflexes improved, and my mind got sharper. It also taught me to release stress KAtS SIOzON, creative director, 29 and anger on the mats but to exercise control,” says Kats.

Calories BUrned (per hour per pound of body weight) 3.25 to 4.87 calories mUsCles worKed Triceps, biceps, deltoids, back, forearms, abs, quadriceps. where Kas trains with DEFTAC Pilipinas, an

organization led by pioneers of Philippine Jiu Jitsu. The coaches instruct in gyms around and outside Metro Manila so you can pick the schedule most convenient for you. deftacphilippines.com

sport Hiking what it does “Hiking makes me feel stronger and more energized both physically and mentally,” says Cathy. “It also reminds me how small human CAtHy beings are and how vast and HeRMOgeNeS, petroleum retailer, 29 wonderful the world is.”

Calories BUrned (per hour per pound of body weight) 2.86 (cross country) to 3.35 calories (up hills) mUsCles worKed Quadriceps, glutes, hamstring, tibialis anterior.

where Check out www.trailadventures. com, which specializes in hiking tours around the Philippines or contact them at (+632) 8023401.

sport Surfing what it does “Surfing calms the mind. Out in the ocean, the silence is a welcome relief,” says Brei. “Being in nature humbles you and gives you perspective on what should matter in life.”

Calories BUrned (per hour per pound of body weight) At least 2.64 calories mUsCles worKed Triceps, biceps, deltoids, trapezius, rectus abdominis, obliques, latissimus dorsi.

where Check out Aliyah Surf Camp (aliyahsurfcamp. com) in Baler, Quezon, and the San Juan Surf School (sanjuansurfresort.ph) in San Fernando, La Union, where teaching instructors can get you started on the basics.

sport Running what it does “I love how running is so simple. You can do it anytime, anywhere.

It’s also very mental. It’s a lot of me-time so I learn more about myself when I run,” Ian explains.

Calories BUrned (per hour per pound of body weight) 4.54 (jog) to 8.17 (fast mile) calories mUsCles worKed Quadriceps, hamstrings, glutes, hip flexors, abs, calves, tibialis anterior.

where Ian is a Nike Coach and trains at the Nike + Run Club (go.nike. com/3mhv3) every Tuesday and Thursday at 7:30 p.m. in front of Nike Stadium at the BGC. Choose from 3k, 5k, or 10k runs.

Women’s Team to the 2016 World Ultimate and Guts Championship in London.

Calories BUrned (per hour per pound of body weight) At least 3.12 calories mUsCles worKed Triceps, biceps, hamstrings, glutes.

where Check out the Philippine Ultimate Association’s Ultimate Frisbee Beginners’ Night Mondays, 7:45 p.m. at the Meralco All-Purpose Field, Ortigas. Facebook: pUaBeginners-nite

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sport Ultimate Frisbee what it does “It’s empowering! It gives women equal footing with men and the opportunity to go all-out and head-on with the boys,” MItzIe De leON, says Mitzie. Fun Fact: The creative director, 30 Philippines sent our All

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Jiu Jitsu requires a lot of movement so make sure you have proper support. Try the adidas techfit molded Bra, which features compression technology and reinforced straps that eliminate bounce.

Look for something sturdy and comfy like the prana lennox leggings, Its wide waist band is super flattering and its moisture-wicking stretch fabric minimalizes sweating, keeping you looking and feeling fresh as you hike up for the perfect selfie.

Rashes and chafing are painful AF so make sure you’re protected.

This super cute roxy rash vest which has protective sleeves and comes in a comfy, stretchy swim fabric.

Get a shoe specially designed for running, like the nike Free rn Flyknit, which supports your natural motion. It moulds to your feet, is lightweight, and is super comfortable. Plus, it also comes in lots of cute colors.

This Under armour Fly By allover printed mesh long sleeve protects you from the sun (and weird tan lines!) while its signature moisture transport system keeps you dry and light.

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GOING GLUTEN-FREE: BETTER FOR PINOYS?

Go! Salads

PRodUCTS & PRiCE RaNGE

Salads: P220 (half) to P380 (regular) Wraps: P220 Smoothies: P165-P210 Pressed Juices: P150 to P200 Pasta: P240 Rice Bowls: P260

Salads: P260 to P350 Wraps: P250 to P340

Salads: P120 Smoothies:P120 Sandwiches: P140

CoSmo mUST TRy!

Crispy Catfish, a refreshing and tangy salad made of cilantro, green mango, green papaya, cashew nuts, and onions.

Tuna San, a filling salad made of romaine lettuce, avocado, seared tuna, edamame— perfect for a quick Japanese fix.

The Breakfast Smoothie, a mix of apple, banana, cinnamon, chia seeds, rolled oats, coco sugar, and greens.

CoSmo TiP!

EAT HEALTHY ANYWHERE

Salad Stop

Check out their famous Juju Cleanse line.

Their gluten-free snacks great for the munchies!

All their smoothies are a must-try.

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The Tuna San at Salad Stop

Juju Eats

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6 outlets in BGC, Makati, Greenhills

8 outlets in QC, Makati, Pasig, Mandaluyong

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Gluten, the naturally occurring protein in wheat, barley and rye, currently has a bad rep for supposedly causing, among other serious health issues, bloat and weight gain—backed up by bestselling books like Wheat Belly.

US-certified fitness nutritionist and weight loss specialist Nadine Tengco says these claims are not without merit, more so for Filipinos. She says, “Wheat is not indigenous to the Philippines, and Pinoys have not developed the ability to process wheat as efficiently. We are more efficient at eating rice [since it is native to us]. So while we may not be allergic to gluten on a cellular level, we are definitely intolerant to it.”

Want to try going gluten-free? Local alternatives now abound in weekend markets and bazaars. We like Cocogreen’s Evolve Gluten-free baked goods that use, instead of gluten, dairy, eggs, and refined sugar, ingredients like teff (the Ethiopian version of quinoa), naturally sweet dates, figs, cacao nibs, and pili butter. Try their bagels (2 for P100), baguettes (P170), cookies (6 for P200) and shortbread (P350). www.cocogreen.ph.

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(L-R:) Go! Salads Breakfast Smoothie and Juju Eats’ Crispy Catfish Salad

Thank goodness the word “salad” has ceased to connote sadness and suffering when it comes to the Pinay palate. as more and more of us make an effort to eat healthy on a daily basis, salad chains like these three continue to mushroom all over the metro. So convenient for Cosmo girls on the go!

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bodY news

condoms that make sex better the female condom: it’s mostly been a joke or a mystery. but with a growing market and the likelihood of new brands—right now, Fc2 is the only one in the u.s. and in the philippines (try lazada.com.ph and fc2femalecondom.com)—it might be time to try it. here’s why: It maY Incre ase Your ple asure

You put it in your body, so there’s no relying on him. the oblong pouch has flexible rings at each end. squeeze the inner one and slide it to your cervix, where it will expand; the outer ring sits on the vulva.

“the [outer ring] may stimulate the clitoris,” says sex therapist nan wise, phd, adding that vaginal sensations come mostly from pressure—which isn’t lessened by a condom.

I have weird bumps that look like whiteheads on my vulva. what could these be?

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You no longer have to hear complaints that condoms are constricting or inhibit stimulation. dude with a latex allergy?

Female condoms are made from a type of rubber called nitrile.

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It can add spontaneIt Y

It can be inserted up to eight hours before intercourse.

You may feel it, although not in an uncomfortable way. now, go enjoy your foreplay. it’s about 82% eFFective with Normal use (same as his kiNd), so use iN combo with aNother Form oF bc.

If you’re seeing a lot of very small bumps that are all over the pubic area (across both sides of the vulva) that never get larger, most likely it’s a common skin condition called keratosis pilaris. It’s not anything to be concerned about. Fewer, larger red or white lumps that are not spread consistently may be folliculitis, an infection of the hair follicle that often occurs after waxing or shaving. Either way, don’t pick. Folliculitis will likely go away in a few days.

Moisturizers and Rx creams can improve the look of KP. source: jeNNiFer ashtoN, md, ob-gyN aNd abc News chieF womeN’s health correspoNdeNt

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It won’t reduce hIs

It puts You In control

If you’re a head case while waiting for a big reveal— did I get into grad school?

Is he going to propose on my birthday?—you might be doing yourself a favor.

“Keeping only a positive outlook can backfire,” says Kate sweeny, phd, whose research was published recently in the journal emotion. “If the news is good, it will feel underwhelming. If it’s bad, you’ll be unprepared, which can be overwhelming.” to wait right, spend the time distracting yourself (seek out absorbing activities, like reading all of Jane austen’s novels) and prepping for both outcomes. creating a game plan, such as scheduling dinner with a friend to celebrate or commiserate, will get you ready to accept any news.

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Get a Ballerina Bod at Home Barre studios are having a serious moment—and with good reason. The technique is an all-over toner that does a particularly good job of whittling the waist, lifting the butt, and improving your posture. This routine, designed

by Andrea Rogers, founder and creator of Xtend Barre, can be done anywhere there’s the back of a chair.

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tHiGH toner

Stand to the right of a chair, feet together, holding back of chair with left hand, right arm in a half circle at chest. Lift heels, and bend knees slightly. Bend left knee more as you slide right leg to side [shown]. Reverse motion.

Do 16 reps. On the last rep, keep leg extended and pulse up 16 times.

Switch sides to complete set.

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BeGinners Welcome don’t be intimidated by rogers’ perfect technique. she’s a former dancer, but you don’t have to be. “our tagline is no tutus required!”

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Stand to the right of a chair, feet wider than shoulder width and turned out.

Hold back of chair with left hand, right arm extended out to side, elbow soft. Bend knees. Straighten left leg as you lift right leg, sweeping right arm and leg in a circle toward center of body and up [shown] and back to side. Do 16 reps, then switch sides.

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Balance Booster

Stand to the right of a chair, right foot forward, left foot back, holding back of chair with left hand, and right arm extended out to side, elbow soft.

Lift heels and bend knees [A]. In one motion, straighten legs and rotate body to face chair, bringing arm in front of you [B]. Reverse motion. Do 16 reps, then switch sides.

Burn more calories don’t pause between reps. instead, rogers recommends flowing continuously from front to side, front to side. this will raise your heart rate, adding a cardio element.

Barre Workouts are Great for at-Home sWeatin’: tHere aren’t WeiGHts to Be dropped or noisY jumps (for You apartmentdWellers), and tHeY require minimal space.

test Yourself leg circles feeling easy? rise up on the ball of your foot with each rep. this will fire up your abs and the calf and glute muscles of your standing leg.

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for an even Better Butt, keep Your WorkinG leG lifted after tHe last rep on eacH side and pulse up 16 times.

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Stand an arm’s length away from the back of a chair, facing it with feet together. Bend forward at hips, and rest forearms on top of chair. Bend left knee as you extend right leg to hip height behind you [shown]. Lower leg so that toes tap floor. Do 16 reps, then switch sides.

dress tHe part snag yourself a pair of “grippy” or “no-slip” socks. standard socks don’t offer any control, and going barefoot (unless you’re on plush carpeting) could give you blisters.

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Crush Your Goals! you already have more willpower than you think. but who doesn’t need a little extra?

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Your #GoALS Are manifold: eat better, drink less, learn French, run a half marathon, save money.

If only you had superhuman willpower, right?

You’re not giving yourself enough credit, says Katharina Bernecker, PhD, a university of Zurich postdoctoral student who studies willpower. Most of us show a decent amount of selfcontrol daily: getting out of bed on time, not snapping at petty colleagues, taking care of annoying tasks. Those things might not seem like accomplishments, but “any conscious act in favor of a long-term goal, like earning money, over satisfying immediate needs, like staying in bed, is willpower,” she explains.

That said, no one has as much self-control as they want—which is why researchers are working to figure out exactly what willpower is and how to get more of it. What happens in our head that stops us from hitting snooze again or reaching for that doughnut is unclear. Willpower is a concept invented by psychologists; neuroscientists, on the other hand, tend WWW.COSMO.PH

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to study executive function, which includes some of the brain processes involved in willpower, such as impulse control. When you attempt to steer behavior, patterns of electrical activity in the brain duke it out. If doughnuts are on offer, one primal part of you wants to eat them because they’re a rich energy source. Another part doesn’t because you’ve set a goal to lose weight. A third negotiates, I’ll eat them, but I swear, I’m working out later.

Neuroscientist David eagleman, director of the Laboratory for Perception and Action at Baylor College of Medicine, likens your brain to a parliament, where multiple political parties struggle for control. “They all love their country,” he says. “They just have different ideas of how things should be done.” Willpower is when the party with your long-term goals in mind wins out.

Why can’t the long-term party always win? That’s hotly debated. Some scientists believe we have a limited pool of willpower that is depleted as we resist temptation. others say it’s a mind-set: You don’t think you have enough willpower, therefore you don’t.

In Bernecker’s research, students who didn’t consider willpower a finite resource made more progress on goals than those who did. Tell yourself you have plenty of power to do what’s right—then use these tricks to harness it.

test Your BodY Willpower is often compared to a muscle that requires exercise to grow stronger.

More research is needed,

but some experts theorize that forcing yourself to do less-than-ideal things is like willpower weight lifting.

Taking a cold shower, going for a run in the rain, or using your nondominant hand might help you later resist smoking or overspending.

Keep Your BellY Full It’s not that you don’t have enough mental fortitude to pass on that bear claw; the need for willpower may be driving the craving.

Although there isn’t consensus, some scientists believe sugar is willpower’s fuel, pointing to the crazy amount of energy—in the form of glucose—the brain uses for smart decision making.

Don’t start a challenging task on an empty stomach.

Keep blood sugar stable by eating carbs, including grains, beans, and fruit, throughout the day.

WatCh a rerun Planned to go to the gym but can’t get off the sofa? Stay put, and queue up an episode of your favorite show. “You get to hang out with your ‘friends’ without putting in effort,” says willpower researcher Jaye Derrick, PhD. By giving in to temptation in the short term (vegging out), your willpower resets and you’ll likely be up for tackling a long-term goal (improving fitness) after.

Change up Your time Wasters If you have a busy day, don’t play Candy Crush on your commute. A university of Illinois study found that people who played a video

game for five minutes before the gym exercised for half as long as nonplayers. The brain doesn’t differentiate the usefulness of actions, only that you’ve already acted. Do something easy for your brain, like listening to a meditation app or inspiring playlist, instead.

enjoY more sleep It takes energy to fight with yourself. one 2015 study, published in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, found that sleep-deprived people are more likely to give in to impulses, have less focus, and make questionable choices. Hit the sheets for at least seven hours a night.

Find a Friend Tempted to text your ex?

Leave your phone on the other side of the room, then curl up with your favorite book, podcast, movie, or TV show. Derrick says the characters can act as “social surrogates” who can help you fight impulses by making you feel better and more energized, the way your IrL friends do.

staY oFF soCial media… …At least until you’ve completed your to-do list. Scrolling through evidence of your fabulous life boosts self-esteem and reduces motivation to do tasks that might increase fabulosity.

In one study, subjects either updated their Facebook profile or didn’t, then did a mathematic exercise. The Facebookers gave up sooner.

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So You Wanna Get a Pet?

what a wonderful thing to come home to a sweet cuddly cutie. wait, would it really be? andrea arden, animal trainer and animal Planet’s pet expert, shares her advice.

Go for It! But First...

When a sweet baby bundle of fur gives you a whole lot of face, it takes willpower not to bring it home and start Instagramming immediately. But until you’ve given it a lot of thought, step away from the adorable animal.

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Am I ready for years (we’re talking 10, 15, even 20) of steady commitment to caring for an animal?

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Am I willing to train an animal? Pets don’t come out of the box ready to go.

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How much time do I have to devote to my pet living its most awesome life?

What’s my lifestyle, and what kind of animal will suit that best?

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Do I have the right living space for an animal?

Are the people I live with cool with a pet?

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Can I seriously afford to take care of this animal, even if it has serious health issues?

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How Much Is This Little Guy Going to Cost?

The adoption fee is just the beginning.

From food to vet visits, pet costs add up.

1. Take test-drives by fostering a rescue animal. 2. Visit a responsible breeder. 3. Meet other dogs or cats like the one you’re interested in.

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Skycycling, anyone?

TRAVEL

Destination:

davao With Davao’s strictly implemented ordinances signed into life by the nation’s iron-fisted new President, it’s easy for outsiders to assume that Davao is a quiet, “remote and dusty” town. It’s true, the landscape is less congested than most, and the

vibe more laidback than the country’s other urban centers, but Davao also boasts of plenty of commercial establishments, nature and wildlife attractions, and diverse lifestyle options—not to mention friendly, easygoing locals—to keep travelers happy and occupied during

When to Go maRCH The Araw ng Dabaw celebration typically takes place in the middle of the month, during which parties, mall sales, and various events are held.

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aUGUst Schedule your trip to catch the Kadayawan Festival, the city’s annual celebration that runs every third week of August and is marked by parades and other local governmentsupported events.

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dECEmBERJanUaRY HolidaYs Davao-born folk flock home for the holidays and everyone’s in a festive mood, so it’s always a great time to pay a visit.

Get wet and wild in the Davao River

their stay.

Discover Davao City through these travel staples that should be on every visitor’s list as well as lesserknown nooks that Davaoeños themselves swear by.

And don’t hesitate to ask locals for their personal recommendations; they’re always willing to help!

What to Do

DAYTIME: • Head to Eden Nature Park & Resort and push your adrenaline into overdrive. Be a daredevil and try the Skyrider (ziplining), Skycycle (biking on a cable), or Skyswing (swinging to a height of up to 95 feet above

ground). The view from over 2,500 feet above sea level is not bad, either.

• Have a wet and wild adventure with the fambam or barkada by signing up for whitewater rafting at Davao Wildwater Adventure.

Pile into a raft, brave the Davao River rapids, and prepare to get really soaked.

• See our regal national bird with your own eyes at the Philippine Eagle Center, also home to other rare birds, mammals, and reptiles. The nearby Malagos Garden Resort has a breathtaking nature theme park and wildlife farm that houses an orchid forest, a bird park, and a butterfly sanctuary. It’s also home WWW.COSMO.PH

(text) cheeky albay (photos) (main) Zenia libron. (insets) courtesy of respective establishments.

Beyond duterte and durian, get to know this big southern city by taking in its nature and wildlife attractions, experiencing its spine-tingling adventures, and embracing its chill, laidback vibe.

Have a feast at Blue Posts Boiling Crabs and Shrimps

e Get buzzed under th ry er leb ck Hu at stars Feed the lorikeets at Malagos Garden Resort’s Bird Park

The charming Las Casitas de Angela Hotel The Kalderobo at Rekado

Malagos Chocolate has won international awards!

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to the famous world-class Malagos Chocolate!

• A side trip to the beach is a must while you’re here.

Choose from the Island Garden City of Samal’s many resorts, hop on a boat, and get there in about 10 minutes! The Balinese-inspired Chema’s by the Sea Beach Resort or Maxima Aquafun Beach Resort, with its many watersports offerings, are good bets.

NIGHTTIME: • Stop by Matina Town Square to feel the chill Davao vibe via its homegrown bars, restos, coffee shops, and other concepts, such as Blugré Coffee, famous for their signature drink Durian Coffeeccino and durian-based desserts.

Further inside, try the halohalo at Aling Foping’s, where you can customize your own mix.

• Enjoy a food trip on the cheap at the Roxas Night Market. After gorging on street food faves such as isaw, proben, and dirty ice cream, walk on to scour ukay-ukay racks, or slow down for a massage right on the street!

• Nurse your poison of choice under the stars at the garden outside Huckleberry Southern Kitchen & Bar. Down shots of their must-try infused rum—in flavors such as mangosteen, mango, pineapple, rambutan, santol, ginger, sili, and cacao and get a solid buzz going.

• Looking to scope out local cuties? Make a beeline for Brewery Damosa, a night-

spot that sells liquor by the bottle, has beer pong tables, and features weekend DJs who play everything from EDM to throwback hits.

Where to Dine

• Taste inventive takes on local favorites at Rekado Filipino Comfort Cuisine, a bright, inviting place that’s perfect for big groups.

• Step inside the quaint, IGworthy Sea Green Café & Lifestyle Shop for healthy meals using “fresh ingredients, handmade with love.”

Grab locally-made organic food finds or knickknacks

by Davao’s artists and crafters while you’re at it.

• Seafood lovers, dig into a hearty crustacean feast at Blue Posts Boiling Crabs and Shrimps. The food here is served in plastic bags dumped straight onto your table, so feel free to use your hands and have a finger-licking good time.

• Savor sweets in a homey setting at Dulce Vida.

Don’t leave without buying their cookies and lengua de gato: pasalubong musts!

• Get your favorite brew freshly roasted at third wave coffee shop Frog Kaffee & Roastery. Sit on any of its mismatched furniture pieces and feel at home in its cocoon of dark hues and industrial details.

Where to Buy Pasalubong

• Aldevinco Shopping Center is the mother of all pasalubong shops in Davao, and has been since 1965. Traverse this honeycomb of over 100 shops to score eye-catching scarves, dresses, and batiks; delicate pearls and multicolored accessories; food products and fruits such as durian, pomelo, and mangosteen; and various souvenirs from Mindanao.

• Pasalubong Center also has a good selection of clothing, souvenirs, and fruit products. It’s located beside People’s Park, one of Davao’s most recognizable landmarks, so you can make a visit to the park part of your shopping agenda.

Enter pasalubong heaven at Aldevinco

Schedule a day trip to the Island Garden City of Samal

• Drop by Davao Dwellings at Abreeza Ayala Mall for a curated display of highquality Davao-made picks by local designers and entrepreneurs.

Where to Stay

• On a modest budget?

Crash at the charming Las Casitas de Angela Hotels where rates start at P695 for a room for two with all the basic amenities.

• Feel like you’re in a European courtyard at Legaspi Suites, an elegant boutique hotel nestled within the gated compound of Paseo de Legaspi.

• Got cash to burn? Live it up in one of the well-appointed rooms of Seda Abreeza Hotel right across Abreeza Ayala Mall, making any shopping, entertainment, and convenience needs well within reach.

• Backpacking or traveling with a big group? Green Windows Dormitel is the perfect choice for dorm-type rooms at just P188 per night!

WHAT TO KNOW BEFORE YOU GO smoKinG Ban Smokers be warned: Lighting up is prohibited in public places, except in designated smoking areas. liQUoR Ban From 1 a.m. to 8 a.m., business establishments are not allowed to serve liquor to patrons.

Better start loading up early! spEEd limit It’s 30 kph in downtown areas, and 40 kph and 60 kph in less congested areas. It makes trips a bit longer—but the roads much safer.

FiRECRaCKER Ban If you’re planning a trip around New Year, be aware that you won’t be seeing massive fireworks displays as part of the celebration. You’re welcome to raise hell with a torotot, though!

Live It Up

AT YOUR PLACE

DeCorating tips from a Cosmo girl Abbey Sy This artist and author creates a rustic space of her own that serves as an inspirational breeding ground for her masterpieces.

Use under-utilized space. At the moment, Abbey is living in the family home’s attic. It used to be the catch-all for all the family’s junk, but it’s now been transformed into her own space. “I’ve always been keen on doing DIY home stuff, so moving to the attic gave me a chance to do just that. It was during college that I decided to renovate the space and make it my own. Eventually, when I started freelancing full-time, I decided to transform it once more so now it serves as my office, studio, and bedroom.”

No walls? Use the ceiling. Instead of glow-

in-the-dark stars, stick sketches and art that inspire you. “I got the map recently from a store in Japan. The others are from Letters from ABC, a set of postcards that I published, and polaroid prints I got from abroad,” she says.

Whether you’re an artist or an aspiring one, set a table next to a window. Abbey’s tip: “Natural

light helps make your room more conducive to working— it helps you see colors and lines better than artificial or fluorescent lighting.”

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Ch oose a cozy corner of th e att ic for your bed!

Designate a digital table. In her room, Abbey has

two tables: her art table which she calls the analog desk, and her computer table aka digital desk. Dominated by her desktop, Abbey not only works on the computer in this corner of the room but also uses the space for doing other tasks. “I call it my digital desk. When I plan my schedules—I use notebooks—or if I’m eating, that’s where I stay.”

Perfum e bott le s can be used as décor too.

Write on the window pane.

Abbey set her computer table against a window pane. Instead of putting up a chalkboard or magnetic board, she used the window pane as one. Here she lists what’s inside which drawer.

Create an art corner. Abbey’s analog desk houses her art materials and other mementos. “As a traditional artist, I need a space just for drawing and painting. It’s called an analog desk because it’s used for things I do by hand that don’t require technical stuff. It’s also a mini photo studio—that’s where all the flatlays and other photos are taken.”

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Clock, P499.75, Robinsons Department Store Abbey Sy’s Letters from ABC post cards, P350, National Bookstore

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BACon FRIed RICe HoW to: Pan-fry bacon strips until crisp; chop into pieces. in the same pan, sauté onions and garlic. add butter and frozen mixed vegetables. add day-old rice, sriracha, and soy sauce. toss to combine. top with bacon and sliced chives.

CHICKen lollIPoPS HoW to: season chicken lollipops with lemon juice, salt, and pepper. deep-fry until golden brown. Mix sriracha and honey. toss chicken lollipops in honey mixture.

glAzed CASHewS HoW to: toss together cashews, sriracha, brown sugar, salt, and olive oil. spread on a greased baking sheet. toast in the toaster oven until browned and nuts are well coated.

ARABIAttA PAStA HoW to: saute chopped onions and garlic in olive oil. add tomato sauce, tomato paste, sriracha, salt, pepper, and sugar. toss in cooked pasta. garnish with basil leaves and grated Parmesan cheese.

SHRIMP KeBABAS HoW to: Marinate shrimp in sriracha, orange juice, and soy sauce. thread shrimp, orange slices, and red onions onto barbecue sticks. grill until shrimp is cooked and turn orange-pink in color.

whip it up

SRIRACHA-CHA! gARlIC BReAd HoW to: combine sriracha, melted butter, and grated garlic. spread on bread and toast until golden. sprinkle with more fried garlic and chopped parsley.

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All you need to spice up your life in the kitchen: a bottle of Sriracha! Here’s a full menu—from appetizers to dessert—that shines the spotlight on today’s hottest sauce.

CHoColAte PotAto CHIPS HoW to: combine sriracha and chocolate chips in a bowl. Melt in the microwave in 15-second intervals; mix well. dip potato chips in chocolate mixture. sprinkle with salt. arrange on a parchment paper-lined tray and chill until set.

MAyo PotAto SAlAd HoW to: Mix together sriracha and mayo. toss together sriracha-mayo with baby potatoes, chopped celery, chopped green onions, salt, and pepper.

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cancER/06.21.–07.22 stellar gifts everyone knows you’re a true friend to lean on in tough times. sometimes you overinvest in other people’s personal business.

sedUCtion stYle Quickies aren’t out, but you’re turned on by the long game. romance is all about flowing music, warm candles, and lingering touches.

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YoUr montH with the sun in your sign from June 20th to July 22nd, you’ll cast a megawatt glow. the new Moon in Cancer on July 4th will send a sparkling weekend, so enjoy it! If a project stalls, your get-it-done spirit will knock down every obstacle, brick by brick.

YoUr Year focus on the positive! this is a big year for change and transformation. remembering what you do well will steer you in the right direction as you make your vision a reality.

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08.23–09.22

the friends and family gathering commence! You’ll have great work news to share when the sun moves into your sign on July 22nd. additional waves of fortune will crash on your shores in august and clear away any tension by the 13th. sexYCast no need for hot sauce in your bag; you’re bringing the heat all on your own! the full Moon on June 20th falls into your zone of true love and fun, bringing a knee-meltingly delicious someone into orbit.

play until June 20th. when Mars goes direct at the end of the month, a project you’ve agonized over will finally have liftoff. July brings rihanna-style work as you hit the party circuit. Make a rest stop in august as your birthday nears. sexYCast July may bring surprising sweet talk from a friend. have a heart-to-heart near the full Moon on the 19th, and pinky swear that you’ll try to stay buds whatever happens. Mercury moves into your sign on the 30th, making you the life of the party. don’t hold back on august 5th, an extra-romantic day when you can come clean and get lucky.

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boundless energy during the full Moon on June 20th, when your light will draw everyone in. take a humble-brag victory lap at work around July 4th, when the new Moon enters your zone of fame and success.

In august, relax with friends, and toast to your mutual wins. sexYCast don’t give a past lover more than a passing thought. stay strong and you might meet someone adorable at a chill house party around July 13th.

on a project has yet to pay off, don’t stress. the pieces will fall into place after Mars goes direct by the end of June. Get unblocked by getting away near the full Moon on July 19th. a girls’ escape in august will be the perfect way to regroup. sexYCast the full Moon on June 20th could be redhot, but a taste of forbidden fruit in July might tempt you in new ways. that coworker you’ve been mentally undressing? anything could happen! have fun, but don’t get pulled into drama.

in your zone of privacy, you’d be wise to wait out any big moves until the end of the month. relish time with family in July, when you feel closer than ever. travel is ideal after august 5th, so plan an escape with your besties! sexYCast June drops a bliss bomb on your life near the full Moon in your sign on the 20th. Your libido will be singing by mid-July, so try experimenting with new moves that may surprise and delight a special someone.

Midas touch now. Just take care of your health near July 20th. a surprise encounter could cause you to coursecorrect your career. You’ll find a rewarding new pursuit by august 13th if you get out of your comfort zone. sexYCast Get work out of the way now so you can totally give yourself over to passion by late July. the full Moon is in your sign on July 19th, heralding one of your most special days of the year, with potential for love. seek out outgoing, decisive types who can match your energy and enthusiasm for life.

LIBRa foreCast expend your

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loVes: keeping things mellow and easygoing with old friends.

Hates: overly complicated and melodramatic scenes. dream date: a family-style barbecue in the backyard where everyone is welcome.

win Him oVer: By taking an active interest in his life and being supportive of his dreams and goals.

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don’t fret if you feel held back at work in June— enjoy the time to focus on fun. a momentum shift after July 4th will catapult you into august, a five-star month for travel. don’t underestimate new connections: an influential person you meet could give you a needed career boost. sexYCast ding, ding! You’ve won the summer love lottery! to collect your winnings, get flirty and make good on those hints when Venus moves into your zone of relationships on July 11th..

bumpy when work intrudes on fun and fun distracts from work, but you’ll straighten it all out by July. the 19th will bring in support from friends, fam, and coworkers. Use their trust in you to go for it at work and think big . sexYCast near the new Moon on July 4th, life will write up a dreamy dr. sexxian romance for you: enter fling 1 and fling 2! narrow the field by going deeper with the person sensitive enough to open up and treat you right.

you surrounded by friends.

Get everyone together for a barbecue at your place.

You’ll pretty much own July, one of your favorite months, when love and work go far in your favor, especially near the lunar eclipse on the 18th. sexYCast If your ex creeps back into your life à la the walking dead, indulge your curiosity if you must, but stay alert. Your inner domestic diva calls near July 13th, so whip up something spicy for you and a loved one.

work harsh your buzz in June—you have the power to get everyone in sync.

You’ll have plenty of time to unwind in July (the 7th will be a blast), and find the zig you need to zag into august, when your best work starts to sizzle and pop. sexYCast old drama will rear its ugly head soon when a former flame decides to blaze a trail across your path. fight the urge to relapse.

Instead, wait til august, when Venus will move into your zone of true love and everything will climax in a burst of bliss and clarity.

foreCast patience, friend.

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foreCast Concentration is key. with the sun in your sign until June 20th, you’ll find needed energy to take advantage of a big work opp near July 4th.

Unwind in early august, and clean house so any and all obstacles are out of sight and mind. sexYCast should you jump at a fling or hold out for a deeper connection? June could test you with a slick charmer. stay on love lockdown until you see his true ways near the full Moon on July 19th.

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Cosmo Quiz

Is Your LIfe one BIg PetIks? desktop at work looks like this:

a. At least 10 different files open: Excel sheets, work reports, today’s local and international news headlines, and Google Analytics. b. An excel sheet or two,

a half-typed-up work report, Facebook, and BuzzFeed, of course. You can only stare at words and numbers for so long.

c. A dummy Word document for when your boss passes by your desk, and all your must-haves: Facebook, your five favorite bloggers’ homepages, YouTube, and wait, don’t forget Tinder on your phone.

2. Your boss

asks you to make a big presentation in two days. Your MO? a. LOL, knew it! I always prepare a weekly presentation and output report in case this happens. b. Yikes! Two days?! I

guess I can’t go to that midweek inuman with the gals on Wednesday. c. Ugh, hassle. I have a gym sesh tonight and a big date tomorrow. I’ll have bad LBM on presentation day.

3. You get invited on a road trip to La Union. Everyone’s

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leaving Friday afternoon and getting back the midnight before Monday, but you don’t have VLs yet.

What do you do? a. Skip it, of course! I’ll

enjoy vacation leaves when I’ve earned them. b.Tempting… I’ll leave work early on Friday, and I’ll just sacrifice my Zzzs on Sunday night. c. Skip work, duh! My crush is going to be there so we might finally get some serious HOHOL bonding time. I’ll skip work on Monday, too—I’ll probably be nursing a serious hangover.

4. Your two-

year plan looks something like this:

a. Get promoted at least once more, and then take my master’s degree at my dream school.

I’m already studying for GMATs and taking review

classes!

b.Figure out which career path to stick with long-term, but in the meantime, stay at this meh job. I’m sure I’ll figure it out along the way! c.Upping my social media following and online persona, and scoring invites to all the major events. I don’t need job experience if I’m going to become my own personal brand!

5.

Right now, you’re most looking forward to: a. That internship you got in Singapore! All those years of being GC and slaving away as a management trainee were worth it! b. That trip with the barkada next month. You can barely afford it (read: borrowed money from Ate), but you badly need a vacation. c. Being funemployed! I just wasted another six months at a job that doesn’t appreciate my talents.

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You’re the #GirlBoss of the gang. You’ve had your career path mapped out since high school, and you’re achieving everything on your life to-do list.

Good on you for having your shit together, but don’t forget to let go and just relax every now and then. Even the best Girl Bosses need some down time.

You’re still alarmed by adulthood, but you’re slowly getting your life together. You know when it’s time to work and when it’s time to play, and you have at least a vague idea of where you’re headed. Keep trying new things, so you can continuously expand your network and your worldview— the best time is now!

Girl, it’s time to grow up. Every dream life needs hard work, effort, experience, and time. You won’t achieve your goals waiting for things to fall into your lap. It’s time to get real, get off your butt, put in some hard work, and do some real #adulting. Learn the value of taking charge of your own future.

After all, you’re not a kid anymore!

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