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OXS GALLERY, NEVADA ARTS COUNCIL:

Walter McNamara and Lynda Yuroff. Walter McNamara’s pieces in Recycled Habits are manipulated and transformed, combined with other bits and pieces, and worked into the service of visual statements. The results are personal myths that mix satire, puns and storytelling. In Trickster Ways, Yuroff’s work is influenced by the trickster figure of Native American mythology as she studies the changes that occur during the creative process—adding and removing paint, defining the object, then obscuring and re-defining the piece. M-F, 8am-5pm through 12/18. Free. 716

N. Carson St., Ste. A, Carson City, (775) 687-6680. SHEPPARD CONTEMPORARY GALLERY,

CHURCH FINE ARTS BUILDING,

UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA, RENO: Emily

Arthur. Part of Native American

Heritage Month, printmaker Emily

Arthur’s solo exhibition in Sheppard

Contemporary explores the ways in which she sees nature as an interdependent living force rather than as the backdrop for human events. M-F through 1/22. Free. 1664

N. Virginia St., (775) 784-6658. STREMMEL GALLERY: 3 Textures,

Stremmel Gallery presents an exhibition of new works by Carol Gove, Louise Forbush and Eleanor McCain. The show features the work of three artists who work in different media and use diverse artistic vocabularies. M-Sa through 12/19.

Free. 1400 S. Virginia St., (775) 7860558, www.stremmelgallery.com. WILBUR D. MAY MUSEUM, RANCHO SAN RAFAEL REGIONAL PARK: Magical

Moments Art Exhibition, The Sierra Watercolor Society’s new winter art exhibition features dozens of new watercolor paintings, from landscapes to abstracts and everything in between. Vote for your favorite painting to win the “People’s Choice” award. All art is available for purchase. W-Su through 12/13. Free. 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961.

Museums

NATIONAL AUTOMOBILE MUSEUM (THE

HARRAH COLLECTION): SpaceMobiles:

From Rockets and Rovers to Cars on Mars, This exhibit takes a look at

America’s fascination with exploring new frontiers and the machines that make it possible. M-Su through 4/11. $4-$10, free for members and children age 5 and younger. 10 S.

Lake St., (775) 333-9300. NEVADA MUSEUM OF ART: Tahoe: A

Visual History, Experience Lake

Tahoe landscapes through the eyes of 175 painters, photographers, architects, weavers and sculptors.

The Nevada Museum of Art has organized the first major art historical survey exhibition of painting, Native baskets, photography, architecture and contemporary art dedicated to Lake Tahoe, Donner

Pass and the surrounding Sierra

Nevada region. TAHOE: A Visual

History spans over two centuries of cultural and creative production related to the second largest freshwater alpine lake in the United

States. W-Su through 1/10. $1-$10. 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333, www.nevadaart.org. SPARKS HERITAGE MUSEUM: Sparks

Hometowne Artists Exhibition, The Sparks Museum & Cultural Center presents Hometowne Sparks Artists, a group exhibition of 10 local watercolor painters. The show features the work of Vicki E. Curwen, Laramie Trahern Ford, Eileen Fuller, Nancy Gunderson, Ken Heitzenrader, Erin Logan, Kathy Svets-Martin, Deborah Rife, Annette Terzo, and Kay Tietz. Tu-F,

WORK UP AN APPETITE

Scheels Turkey Trot

This Thanksgiving Day (Nov. 26) event starts and finishes in the parking lot of Scheels at Legends, 1200 Scheels Drive, at the Sparks Marina. Participants can choose from a 10K (6.2 miles) run (timed) or a 2-mile walk or run (not timed). The 10K race begins at 8:30 a.m. and will use city streets and the local bike path. The 2-mile run/ walk will start at Scheels and circle around the Sparks Marina Park. Every runner and walker receives a commemorative long-sleeve souvenir shirt, fruit and refreshments. Day-of registration is $60. Proceeds benefit Keep Truckee Meadows Beautiful for local beautification projects and the City of Sparks Youth Scholarship Fund. Visit www.cityofsparks.us.

—Kelley Lang

11am-4pm through 12/31; Sa, 1-4pm

through 12/31. Free. 814 Victorian Ave., Sparks, (775) 355-1144, www. sparksmuseum.org.

Film

THESE BIRDS WALK (2013) PAKISTAN:

The revealing, heart-wrenching account of runaway boys as they search for a real “home” in modern-day Karachi, Pakistan. Tu, 12/1, 7pm. $5-$7. Good Luck Macbeth Theatre Company, 713 S. Virginia St., www.artemisiamovies.org.

Music

CHORAL CONCERT: MESSIAH: The con-

cert features performances from the University Chamber Singers,

Symphonic Choir and Concert Choir.

Tu, 12/1, 7:30pm. $5, free for students with ID. Nightingale Concert

Hall, Church Fine Arts Complex,

University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N.

Virginia St., (775) 784-4278. L-CUBED: LOOK, LUNCH AND LISTEN

CONCERT: A noontime jazz and classical music collaborative series featuring performances by students and faculty. W, 12/2, noon. Free. Randall Rotunda, Mathewson-IGT

Knowledge Center, 1664 N. Virginia

St. University of Nevada, Reno, (775) 784-4278, www.unr.edu/arts. MANNHEIM STEAMROLLER CHRISTMAS:

Composer Chip Davis’ neo-classical electronic music project Manheim Steamroller combines holiday music with multimedia effects. Su, 11/29, 3 & 7pm. $50-$80. Pioneer Center for the Performing Arts, 100 S. Virginia St., (775) 686-6600, http://pioneercenter.com.

PIPES ON THE RIVER: The Friday lunch-

time concert series features guest artists performing on the church’s

Casavant pipe organ. F, noon. Free.

Trinity Episcopal Church, 200 Island

Ave., (775) 329-4279, www.trinityreno.org. UNIVERSITY SYMPHONY ORCHESTRA:

The University of Nevada, Reno Symphony Orchestra hosts its annual concerto competition. M, 11/30, 1pm. Free. Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Complex, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-4278.

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Sweeping beauty

My new boyfriend is messy. He drops his socks, underwear and clothing on the floor by the bed. He’s not lazy or entitled, just a spacehead. It’s no big deal for me to pick this stuff up, as I feel like I’m showing him love by caretaking. However, he says his ex said she didn’t mind, either, and then was screaming about his socks eight months later. Is that my future?

It was so much easier when we only wore fig leaves and you could just rake next to the bed. To be human is to be annoying to some other human. Like by doing that weird clicking thing with your tongue or always leaving the kitchen cabinets ajar (very helpful for any dishes prone to claustrophobia).

At first, such behaviors can seem oddly endearing—as does a new boyfriend’s abandoning his socks instead of making that harrowing 62.5-inch trek to the hamper. In time, however, a woman can start having some less-thanconstructive ideas. You know, little things, like nailing his socks and underwear to the floor or perhaps lying in wait for him to drop something and then spraying him with a water bottle like a cat on the counter.

But as your boyfriend’s letting his socks fall to the bedroom rug like snow, do you think he’s all “Ha, I’ll show her!”—or more “Pillow, here I come!”? The air bag against resenting him is love—not love as a mere feeling but love as an activity, an action you choose to take. Assuming your guy’s basically a good person who loves you, try to behave as if you haven’t forgotten that you love him. Even when you hate him a little.

Unfortunately, change is hard. Behaviors become habits, and the personality traits that contribute to them are biologically driven. However, psychologist Art Markman explains that we can structure our environment to help us reshape our behavior. In Smart Change, he advises building a reminder to do a desired behavior into your environment in a way that it can’t be avoided. Upon repeating a new behavior about 20 times, you create the beginnings of a new habit.

In your situation, this could even be fun. Each night for a few weeks, leave a sheet of paper with a different message on his pillow, maybe starting with a Magic Markered smiling cartoon hamper saying, “Feed meeee!” (One night, you could even tuck the hamper in under the covers.) Should you fail to amuse him out of his laundryleaving ways, try to maintain perspective. Consider the idiocy of some people who say they’ll do “anything” for love: move, quit, give up the British throne (sadly, a moot point for most of us). Their stance only changes once they have love—at which point “anything” involves stopping just short of picking up a small fabric item from the rug.

Minnie Mouth

I contributed to the ruin of my marriage with my big mouth, constantly sharing our intimate details with my girlfriends. Well, my wonderful new boyfriend is a private person and has asked that I not share this stuff with my chick circle, and I’ve agreed. However, my friends have gotten used to living vicariously through my drama, and they aren’t liking my new tight-lipped approach. They even seem resentful, like I don’t trust them anymore.

Him: “I think I have psoriasis on my penis.”

You, picking up your phone to text: “Ohh … that’s terr— … can you spell that for me?”

Yes, I’ve heard—privacy is supposedly dead (buried in a shallow grave with a dial-up modem somewhere in Jersey). And yes, many people treat it that way. However, though the private details of our lives—our thoughts, emotions and closed-door doings—aren’t things you can hold (like your Hooked on Phonics coffee mug), they are our possessions just like the physical objects we own. In an 1890 Harvard Law Review article, Louis Brandeis and Samuel Warren explain that privacy is a natural human right that comes out of our right to be left alone. Basically, unless you’re a public figure or you’ve done some bad thing that affects the public, the information about your life belongs to you.

Gently inform your girl posse that the info cookie jar is now closed. Explain that this has nothing to do with them and everything to do with your boyfriend’s right to pick the privacy settings on his life. And no, the fact that you and he are in situations together doesn’t change that. He’s agreed to share his life with you, not your friends, your Twitter followers, and three cranky federal agents in the “Heating and Cooling” van outside his house. Ω

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