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Malibu Sparks Pro

Some of the world’s best professional wakeboarders and wakesurfers compete for the Sparks Pro title during the third stop of the Wakeboard World Series tour. The event also features food trucks, vendors, giveaways and fun in the sun. The event takes place from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. on Friday, July 1, 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday, July 2, and 9:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. on Sunday, July 3, at Sparks Marina, 300 Howard Drive. Qualifying rounds are free to the public on July 1. Tickets are $10 for adults and $5 for children at the gate on July 2-3. Visit www.thewwa.com/ sparkspro.

—Kelley Lang

ARTE ITALIA: Italian-American Cinema:

From Capra to the Coppolas. This documentary exhibit curated by the Museo

Italo Americano at Fort Mason Center in

San Francisco features written and photographic panel displays, videos, memorabilia and graphic art. The themes upon which Italian-American filmmakers have concentrated include family, community, immigration, assimilation. Their films explore the American Dream in all its ramifications and contradictions. Th-Su, noon-5pm through 9/18. Free. 442 Flint St., (775) 333-0310. ARTISTS CO-OP OF RENO GALLERY: Metal

Magic. Artists Co-op of Reno presents a collection of metal sculptures by Larry Hunt. M-Su, 11am-4pm through 6/30. Free.

627 Mill St., (775) 322-8896, www.artistsco-opgalleryreno.com. CARSON CITY COMMUNITY CENTER: Great

Basin Native Artists. The Capital

City Arts Initiative presents a group show featuring art by Ben Aleck, Phil

Buckheart, Louinda Garity, Topaz Jones,

Jack Malotte, Melissa Melero-Moose and

Steve Nighthawk. The Great Basin Native

Artists group began in 2014 and shows their art throughout northern Nevada and northern California. M-F, 9am-5pm through 7/6. Free. 851 E. William St.,

Carson City, (775) 887-2290. CARSON CITY COURTHOUSE GALLERY: New

Crop 2016. The Capital City Arts Initiative presents artwork by five Sierra Nevada

College and University of Nevada, Reno master of fine arts candidates. M-F, 8am5pm through 9/29. Free. 885 E. Musser St.,

Carson City, www.arts-initiative.org. FRONT DOOR GALLERY, CHURCH FINE ARTS

BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA,

based artist. M-F through 11/11. Free. 1664

N. Virginia St., (775) 784-6658. HOLLAND PROJECT MICRO GALLERY AT BIBO

COFFEE CO.: Fresh Flash. David Hall’s exhibition includes drawings, watercolor paintings and painted skateboards that reflect heavy influences from American traditional tattoos, skateboarding, rock ’n’ roll music, lowbrow art and Kustom

Kulture aesthetics. M-Su, 3-6pm through 7/22. Free. 945 Record St., (775) 348-8087, www.hollandreno.org. LAKE MANSION: From the Walls of the

Riverside Artists Lofts to the Lake

Mansion. The Lake Mansion gallery, Arts for All Nevada, presents artists of the

Riverside Artists Lofts. The featured art is photography by Megan Berner and the paintings by Martin Holmes. The Artist

Lofts show also includes novels, jewelry, clothing, accessories, knickknacks and cards. Artists include Holly English, Erik

Holland, Patricia Sherer, Dianna Sion,

Catherine Sweet, Damien Cole, Maggy

Anthony, Gene Anthony, Jay Fisher and

Marilyn Fisher. 7/1-8/26. Free. 250 Court

St., (775) 826-6100. MATHEWSON-IGT KNOWLEDGE CENTER,

UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA, RENO: Media

Technology: Past & Present. A visual display of media technological leaps.

Th, 6/30; Upstart Crow: Shakespeare in

Northern Nevada. This exhibit coincides with Shakespeare 400, the national commemoration of the 400th anniversary of Shakespeare’s death. The display examines the impact of Shakespeare, both past and present, in Northern

Nevada. Materials on display range from the flourishing 1800s Virginia City

Shakespearean theater scene to the modern Lake Tahoe Shakespeare festival. Through 7/15, 9am-5pm. Free. 1664 N.

Virginia St., (775) 784-4636. METRO GALLERY AT RENO CITY HALL: In the

Edwards, Bontia Paulis, Trina Gold, Carolyn Jean Thompson, Carol Grigus, Brent Logan, Sue Perry, Heidi Reeves, Lynn Schmidt, Linda Rosenblum, Nan Lathrop and Sarah Wharton-Riggle. Through 7/29, 9am-5pm.

Free. 1 E. First St., (775) 334-2417. SHEPPARD CONTEMPORARY GALLERY, CHURCH

FINE ARTS BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF

NEVADA, RENO: Jack Pierson. Pierson’s

photographs explore the emotional undercurrents of everyday life from the intimacy of romantic attachment to the distant idolization of others. Informed in part by his artistic emergence in the era of AIDS, Pierson’s work is moored by melancholy and introspection, yet his images are often buoyed by a celebratory aura of seduction and glamour. Tu-Sa, noon-4pm through 7/1. Free. 1664 N.

Virginia St., (775) 784-6658. SIERRA ARTS: Stewart Easton. Drawing upon and using folk song, story and social history as a starting point, Easton works with the space and weight of story to create large scale wall-based pieces emphasizing the passage of time, within a single panel. Easton’s stitch work blurs the lines between craft, illustration and fine art.

Artist reception is on July 21. M-Su through 7/31. Opens 7/1; Th, 7/21, 5-7pm. 17 S. Virginia

St., Ste. 120, (775) 329-2787. ST. MARY’S ART AND RETREAT CENTER:

Summer Arts Exhibition. Artists Pete Paulos and Richard Wells are the featured artists exhibiting on all four floors of the historical building. The new Artisan Gallery features works of glass, metals, wood, fiber arts, paper and more. . F-Su, 11am-4pm through 8/22. 55 N.

R St., Virginia City, (775) 847-7774. UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST FELLOWSHIP OF

NORTHERN NEVADA (UUFNN): Looking Out—

Seeing Within. Twenty artists show their rendition of Nevada two ways: one realistic/impressionist paired with an abstract work of the same location. Opening reception is at noon on July 10. M-F, Su, 11am-2pm through 8/24; Su, 7/10, noon. Free.

780 Del Monte Lane, www.uufnn.org. WILBUR D. MAY MUSEUM, RANCHO SAN

RAFAEL REGIONAL PARK: ARTful Women.

ARTful Women make their Nevada debut in a new exhibition. Their diverse styles are represented in works of fiber and mixed media that are stitched, dyed, painted, printed, stamped, waxed, fused and embellished. W-Su through 7/17. Free. 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961.

Museums

FOURTH WARD SCHOOL MUSEUM: The

Comstock Through Time. This exhibit highlights some of the history of the Comstock through photographs and personal accounts. Then-and-now photographs help to emphasize the changes in the community and surrounding area. Books, journal entries and oral histories will give the visitor a first-hand account of daily life. M-Su, 10am-5pm through

10/31. $5 adults, $3 for children ages 6-16, free for children age 5 and younger. 537 S. C St., Virginia City, (775) 847-0975. NEVADA MUSEUM OF ART: Andy Diaz

Hope & Jon Bernson: Beautification

Machine, W-Su through 7/24; Andrea

Zittel: Wallsprawl, W-Su through 12/31;

American Impressionism, W-Su through 8/14; Anna McKee: 68,000 Years of Ice,

W-Su through 9/18; Ugo Rondinone: Seven

Magic Mountains, W-Su through 5/11; Don

Dondero: A Photographic Legacy, W-Su through 7/10; Horses in the American West,

W-Su through 7/3; The Horse, W-Su through 7/3; Trevor Paglen: Orbital Reflector, W-Su through 12/31. $1-$10. 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333, www.nevadaart.org. SPARKS HERITAGE MUSEUM: From Steam to

Steampunk. The Great Basin Costume Society explores the historical roots of the fantasy subgenre steampunk from the Industrial Revolution into present time in the museum’s changing gallery. Tu-Sa through 8/13; Geographical Divides: Finding Common Ground, The exhibit features 16 artists who were asked to explore the geographical and cultural differences in Nevada, if such differences truly exist. The assembly of printmakers—eight from the north, eight from the south—produced two prints from each collaboration. Tu-Sa through 8/13. $5 for adults, $4 for seniors, free for children 12 and younger. 814 Victorian Ave., Sparks, (775) 355-1144, www.sparksmuseum.org.

Film

MOVIES IN THE PARK: BIG: The Artown series

kicks off with a showing of the 1988 film starring Tom Hanks. There will be a special tribute to Artown co-founder Tim Jones, who recently passed away and had produced this film series for the last 20 years. F, 7/1, 9-11:30pm. Free. Wingfield Park, 300 W. First St., (775) 322-1538, www.renoisartown.com.

UNBRANDED FILM SCREENING: The Audience

Award winner at Telluride Mountainfilm and Hot Docs Film Festival, Unbranded is a soaring tale of danger and resilience, an emotionally charged odyssey that shines a bright light on the complex plight of our country’s wild horses. Th, 6/30, 6pm. $7 general admission, $5 NMA members. Nevada Museum of Art, 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333.

Poetry/ Literature

STEERING WITH MY KNEES: Cowboy poet

Paul Zarzyski performs an evening of poetry, lyrics and prose. Su, 7/3, 6-7:30pm. $15-$20. Nevada Museum of Art, 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333. .

Music

Harper & The Innocent Criminals,

Tedeschi Trucks Band, Thievery

Corporation, Joe Russo’s Almost Dead,

Dr. Dog, The Del McCoury Band, The

Chris Robinson Brotherhood, Greensky

Bluegrass, Femi Kuti & The Positive

Force, JJ Grey & Mofro, Xavier Rudd,

Leftover Salmon, Lettuce, North

Mississippi Allstars, ALO, among many others. Th-Su, 6/30-7/3. $60 and up.

Plumas-Sierra County Fairgrounds, 204

Fairground Road, Quincy, (530) 283-6272, www.highsierramusic.com. AIR NATIONAL GUARD BAND OF THE WEST

COAST: Under the command of Captain

Vu Nguyen, the Air National Guard Band of the West Coast is composed of citizen-airmen whose civilian occupations range from professional musicians and music educators to computer programmers, accountants, engineers, and law enforcement officers. F, 7/1, 7:30-9:30pm.

Free. Wingfield Park, 300 W. First St., (775) 322-1538, www.renoisartown.com. CULTURAL CONNECTIONS: AFRICAN CHILDREN’S

CHOIR: The Artown music series kick off with a concert by this choir comprised of children ages 7-10 from across Africa. The program features well-loved children’s songs, hand clapping, traditional spirituals and contemporary tunes. W, 7/6, 7:30pm. Free. Wingfield Park, 300 W. First St., (775) 322-1538, www.renoisartown. com.MIDTOWN ON MARTIN STREET: KEYSER

SOZE: The Artown music series features the homegrown band combining Jammal Tarkington’s saxophone and Rodney Teague’s trombone with inspirational vocals and hip-swaying percussions. Su, 7/3, 7:30-8:30pm. Free. Craft Wine &

Beer, 22 Martin St., (775) 322-1538, www. renoisartown.com.

MUSIC ON THE BEACH 2016 SUMMER

CONCERTS: Free live music performances featuring a variety of genres on the

North Shore of Lake Tahoe. F, 6:30-9pm through 9/2. Free. Kings Beach State

Recreation Area, 8318 North Lake Blvd.,

Kings Beach, (530) 546-9000. PIPES ON THE RIVER: The Friday lunchtime concert series features guest artists performing on the church’s Casavant pipe organ. F, noon. Free. Trinity Episcopal

Church, 200 Island Ave., (775) 329-4279, www.trinityreno.org. ROLLIN’ ON THE RIVER: RN&R’s summer

music series kicks off with music by the

R&B band The Sextones. F, 7/1, 5:30-8pm.

Free. Wingfield Park, 300 W. First St., (775) 324-4440. SOUTHWESTERN PILGRIMAGE: The group

takes its original material and combines it with songs from some of the best songwriters in the Southwest, embellishing them with tight vocal harmonies and unique instrumental interpretations. Sa, 7/2, 6-9pm. Free. Brewery Arts Center, 449 W. King St., Carson City, (775) 8831976, www.breweryarts.org. SUNDAY MUSIC BRUNCH: JILL COHN: Enjoy

live music and brunch presented by chez louie. Su, 7/3, 10am-2pm. Nevada Museum of Art, 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333, www.nevadaart.org. SWEET VIBRATIONS: RED TANGO QUARTET: The

Artown music series features the Reno/

Tahoe-based ensemble of classically trained string players. Tu, 7/5, 7-8pm. $5 donation. First United Methodist Church, 209 W. First St., (775) 322-4564. TOCCATA BOPS: TOCCATA continues its 21-concert Summer MusicFest with this program featuring the best of Broadway, opera hits, pops and patriotic selections.

This first concert of the series is part of

Red, White and Tahoe Blue. Su, 7/3, 7pm.

Free. Village Green, 960 Lakeshore Blvd.,

Incline Village; Tu, 7/5, 7pm. Free on lawn and in upper gallery, $40 in lower gallery.

Robert Z. Hawkins Amphitheater, Bartley

Ranch Regional Park, 6000 Bartley Ranch

Road, www.toccatatahoe.com. VINTAGE ROSE—A TRIBUTE TO THE WOMEN

OF ROCK: The five-piece live band tribute honoring the vision, passion and power of the women of classic rock, including Janis Joplin, Blondie, Ann Wilson of Heart, Joan Jett and Pat Benetar. Sa, 7/2,

7-9pm. Free. Wingfield Park, 300 W. First

St., www.renoisartown.com. WEEKLY DRUM CIRCLE: Bring your drum, your didgeridoo, poi, hoops and silk or just yourself and enjoy the soothing sounds of the Morris Drum Circle. All are encouraged to participate, dance and play. M, 8:30pm through 7/25. Free. Morris Burner

Hotel, 400 E. Fourth St., (775) 327-1171. WINN/LENZ/BUDISH/BROWNELL QUARTET:

University of Nevada Reno faculty pianist James Winn, Reno Philharmonic Concertmaster Ruth Lenz, Reno Chamber Orchestra Principal Violist Dustin Budish and Tahoe Chamber Music Society Artistic Director cellist Eileen Brownell will collaborate on a recital of piano quartet music by Brahms and Mozart. Su, 7/3, 2:30pm. Free. St. Patrick’s Episcopal Church, 341 Village Blvd., Incline Village, (775) 298-0075.

Sports & Fitness

3RD ANNUAL FREEDOM RUN TO BENEFIT VETS:

The annual run/walk and fundraiser supports veterans programs at the Ridge

House. Live music by Beatles Flashback.

Sa, 7/2, 7am. $10 for fun run; $20 for 5k; $25 for 10k. Idlewild Park, 1900 Idlewild

Drive, (775) 322-8941 ext. 20. GALENA CREEK GUIDED HIKE: Join a natural-

ist along one of the Galena Park trails and learn about the area. Bring water, sunscreen and hiking boots. Sa, 10am. $5 suggested donation. Galena Creek Visitor

Center, 18250 Mt. Rose Highway, (775) 8494948, www.galenacreekvisitorcenter.org. RENO ACES: The minor league baseball team plays the Tacoma Rainiers. M, 7/4, 6:35pm;

Tu, 7/5, 7:05pm; W, 7/6, 7:05pm. $8-$9.

Greater Nevada Field, 250 Evans Ave., (775) 334-7000, www.renoaces.com.

Onstage

DANCING IN THE PARK: ODC AND COMMUNITY

DANCERS UNPLUGGED: The Artown series features a performance by the contemporary dance company. Tu, 7/5, 8-9:30pm. Free. Wingfield Park, 300 W. First St., www.renoisartown.com.

DISNEY’S ALADDIN, JR.: Wild Horse Children’s

Theater presents this musical adventure based on the Disney animated film about a resourceful young hero and a wisecracking genie. F, 7/1, 7pm; Sa, 7/2, 2 & 7pm; Su, 7/3, 2pm; F, 7/8, 7pm; Sa, 7/9, 2 &

7pm; Su, 7/10, 2pm. $12 general admission, $10 students, seniors, $8 kids ages 4-12. Carson City Community Center, 851 E. William St., Carson City, (775) 887-0438, www.wildhorsetheater.com.

IMPROV AT THE BAC: Everyone is invited to participate in the skits—set-ups often featured on the TV show Whose Line is it Anyway?. First F of every month, 7-9pm

through 11/4. Free. Brewery Arts Center, 449 W. King St., Carson City, (775) 883-1976, www.breweryarts.org.

Classes

PAINT & SIP GAUGUIN’S TAHITIAN LANDSCAPE:

Transform a master painting into your own 16” x 20” acrylic painting masterpiece. Bring your own beverage/snacks.

W, 7/6, 5:30-8:30pm. $30 (supplies included in cost). Lake Mansion, 250 Court St., (775) 826-6100 ext. 2. WATERCOLOR SUBJECT PORTRAITURE: Explore

a loose approach to watercolors and how to achieve depth. This workshop is designed to make watercolor painting fun and easy. You will leave with at least one finished 8” x 8” painting and a travel watercolor set. Sa, 7/2, 11am-2pm. $90. Atelier Truckee, 10128 Donner Pass Road, Truckee, www.ateliertruckee.com.

Community

CANCER SUPPORT GROUP: This group is for

patients and families facing cancer and is facilitated by an oncology social worker who is skilled in the emotional aspects of cancer. Participants can share experiences and express feelings and concerns.

The support group meets weekly in the

Orthopedic Conference Room on the third floor of the Roseview Tower. Th, 11:30am1pm. Free. Renown Regional Medical

Center, 1155 Mill St., (775) 982-6831. CLICKETS KNITTING GROUP: Jean Peters

guides this class for knitters of all ages and levels. Yarn and needles are available. First and third Su of every month,

1:30-3pm. Free. Spanish Springs Library, 7100A Pyramid Lake Highway, located at

Lazy 5 Regional Park, Spanish Springs, (775) 424-1800. CROCHET CONNECTION: Learn to crochet or share tips with other crochet enthusiasts. Th, 4-5:45pm. Free. Spanish Springs

Library, 7100A Pyramid Lake Highway located at Lazy 5 Regional Park, Spanish

Springs, (775) 424-1800. GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP: Renown Hospice Care offers a grief support group facilitated by Fr. Karry Crites. First W of every month,

6:30-8pm. Free. Washoe County Senior

Center, 1155 E. Ninth St., (775) 982-2817, http://bit.ly/GriefSupportGroup. KNITTING GROUP: The group is open to all knitters, crocheters, loom artists and people who enjoy the company of other yarn artists. Bring your project or start a new one. Tu, 4-6pm through 7/26. Free.

Atelier Truckee, 10128 Donner Pass Road,

Truckee, (530) 386-2700. LIFESCAPES: The writing program provides seniors an opportunity to write and share their memoirs. First and third W of every month, 1-3pm. Free. Northwest Reno

Library, 2325 Robb Drive (775) 787-4100. MAN TO MAN PROSTATE CANCER SUPPORT

GROUP: Facilitated by a prostate cancer survivor, this support group is designed to help men cope with prostate cancer by offering education and support for patients during their cancer journey. The group meets in the Orthopedic Conference Room on the third floor in the Roseview Tower. First and third M of every

month, 5:30-7pm. Free. Renown Regional

Medical Center, 1155 Mill St., (775) 9826831, www.renown.org. NEWCOMERS CLUB: Newcomers Club of Reno-

Sparks is an organization welcoming all Northern Nevadans with recent lifealtering events such as a move, retirement or death of a loved one. The group hosts an informational coffee at 9:30am on the first Tuesday of each month. First

Tu of every month, 9:30am. Best Western

Airport Plaza Hotel, 1981 Terminal Way, www.newcomersclubofreno-sparks.com. THE SILVER DOLLAR CHORUS: The men’s a

cappella chorus is open to males of all ages who love to sing. W, 7-9:30pm through 3/31. Reno High School, 395 Booth St., (775) 387-0308, http://silverdollarchorus.org. SOUTH VALLEYS BRIDGE GROUP: Join Jill and

meet new friends. Basic bridge knowledge preferred. F, 1-4pm. Free. South Valleys

Library, 15650A Wedge Parkway, (775) 8515190, www.washoe.lib.nv.us. SPARKS LIBRARY KNITTING AND CROCHETING

CIRCLE: Learn the techniques to start your masterpiece. Th, 4-6pm. Free.

Sparks Library, 1125 12th St., Sparks, (775) 352-3200. THE TUESDAY NIGHT YARN CREW: All skill lev-

els and yarn-crafts are welcome. Bring your project to this “sit and knit” gathering. Tu, 5:30-7pm. South Valleys Library, 15650A Wedge Parkway, (775) 851-5190, www.washoe.lib.nv.us.

The gift of blab

My girlfriend tells her mother and her friends pretty much everything. Literally four of her friends and her mom were weighing in on her recent urinary tract infection. I just don’t get why she feels the need to let everybody know her business, and it’s the opposite of what I do. I’m very private, and I’d like us to have some things that stay between us—especially stuff that goes on in the bedroom. How would I set boundaries like this? Does this mean that we are ultimately incompatible? Being compatible with somebody doesn’t mean you’re like them in all ways. I’m an extrovert, which is to say I see a dead car battery as an opportunity to learn about some tow truck driver’s childhood in Guatemala. Contrast that with my introvert boyfriend, who recently turned down an invitation he got to this really cool event, telling me, “I already said hello to somebody this week.”

Beyond individual human differences, there are some male-female differences, like in feelings and informationsharing. Sex differences researcher Joyce Benenson explains that men evolved to be the physical defenders of the species, and it would have put a man at a deadly disadvantage to show the enemy his emotions—like if he went all scaredypants from fear: “Oh my God, is that the enemy? I’m gonna throw up.”

Women, on the other hand, evolved to build support networks and avoid social exclusion by convincing other women that they aren’t a threat. A woman does this not by hiding her vulnerabilities but by putting her problems and weaknesses on parade—à la “My ladyparts have been declared an EPA cleanup zone!”

In other words, your privacy nightmare is your girlfriend’s emotional comfort zone. But this isn’t necessarily a sign that your relationship is toast. For a relationship to make it, you and your partner don’t have to be the same. You just have to have enough in common and be loving in dealing with each other’s differing weirdass needs.

If there were such a thing as psychological catnip for humans, it would probably be feeling understood. So, tell your girlfriend that you understand it helps her to hash things out with her mom and the ladypeeps and that you think that’s great. You’re just wired differently. Explain how, and then, sweetly, make your request: You’d feel most comfortable if what happens between you stays between you—given that your idea of openness involves making people sign a 30-page nondisclosure agreement before viewing the heavily encrypted photos of Steve, your dog.

Last year’s shaggage

I’m a woman who’s had a casual hookup thing with a guy for almost two years. I want a serious relationship, and I really like him and would like it to be with him. When we’re together, we have a great time, but he can go a week or two without contacting me. Last week, he showed up late to my birthday, with no present and not even a card. I know I should cut him off, but the sex is great and there’s nobody else on the horizon. Any chance he’ll finally realize I’m a catch and come around? The guy didn’t even give you a birthday card. Even the car wash gives you a birthday card.

Any guy with an IQ exceeding the highway speed limit gets that birthdays are a big deal to most women. And if you care about birthdays and a guy cares about you, he’ll step up—at the very least by running into a drugstore, grabbing a card and checking that the pre-printed heartfelt message inside isn’t “To my very special grandson! On his very special day!”

In a hookup situation, it actually isn’t crazy to hope for an upgrade from sexfriend to girlfriend. In a survey by Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Garcia, 51 percent of the people who had hookups went into them hoping to kickstart a romantic relationship. In another survey, 9.8 percent of hookups led to committed relationships. However, there’s a progression that takes place in going from lust to emotional attachment. It has a hormonal profile and a general timetable, and, well, two years into a sex thing, the attachment train is probably well out of the station.

In other words, it’s time to take this relationship to the next level—“the end.” On a positive note, it’s possible that removing yourself from this guy’s life will make him realize that he loves you and needs you in it—leading him to start showing boyfriend-type attentiveness. Either way, you’re setting yourself up to have a man you can count on to be there for you—and not just naked and at the ready whenever his Wi-Fi goes down. Ω

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