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WHAT IS THE MOST POPULAR

HOLIDAY GIFT WINE

cedary spice. I love its texture, it has ripe, polished tannins, plenty of sweet fruit, and a great, great finish, all while staying in a relatively compact, and again, elegant package. As I’ve written in the past, it would cost three to four times the price from Napa.”

By Gina Trippi

Kith and Kin 2019: The name, Kith & Kin, is Old English for “Friends & Family.” The wine is 100% Cabernet Sauvignon sourced from all corners of Napa Valley to create an approachable wine.

Complex with aromas of violets, cola, fig and plum on the nose. The palate explodes with ripe blackberry and boysenberry, softening through the mid-palate with black cherry, cocoa, and allspice with notes of licorice and tarragon on the finish.

Wine Spectator awarded 92 Points saying: “Ripe and lush, but also fresh, with a very enticing beam of loganberry, açaí berry and raspberry fruit flavors driving through, flecked with anise and apple wood accents along the way. There’s focused, juicy energy through the finish.”

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nswer: A bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon for around $50! While we hear all kinds of requests during the holidays, including “something different”, “something low alcohol”, “something French”, or “something big and bold”, the most popular request remains a bottle of West Coast Cabernet Sauvignon around $50!”

Here are five great bottles “around $50” that all present that warm and fuzzy holiday feeling.

The Rookie: Chemist turned cop turned winemaker presents “The Rookie” from Guardian Cellars, 100% Cabernet Sauvignon from Washington State. The wine is full bodied but still graceful with notes of fresh blackberry, ripe black cherry, bay leaf, thyme, wildflowers, dark chocolate and black pepper. Aged 22 months French Oak, the blend presents balance between fruit and oak.

My Favorite Neighbor: The winery says “My Favorite Neighbor,” celebrating family and community, is meant to be shared wherever life finds you, over sunsets, quiet nights, and at the dinner table.

Robert Parker of The Wine Advocate awarded “My Favorite Neighbor” 96 Points saying: “The 2019 Cabernet Sauvignon is more elegant and focused, with medium to full-bodied aromas and flavors of cassis, redcurrants, green tobacco, and

2021 DAOU Discovery Cabernet Sauvignon: A blend of Cabernet Sauvignon with 11% Petit Verdot, 8% Merlot and 1% Cabernet Franc, matured 10 months in French oak. Deep ruby-purple color, you find intense aromas of cherry and blackberry jam complemented by dark chocolate, tobacco leaf, and desert sage. The nose also reveals nuances of wet gravel, sandalwood, and plum pudding with subtle notes of fennel, black olive and eucalyptus. On the palate, a swirl of black raspberry, pomegranate, cherry preserve, and currant melds seamlessly with crushed herbs, fig and cranberry, leaving lovely notes of boysenberry, rhubarb, graphite, and dried thyme. Robert Parker of The Wine Advocate awarded 93 Points to DAOU Discovery.

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Choose your own adventure! Interact with customers and clients by packing estates, stocking shelves, ringing up purchases. Or work in the wings sorting donations and organizing housewares, rugs, furniture, art, linens, clothing, and other hidden treasures.

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Secret 3: Getting the right amount of sleep Sleep is essential for good cognitive function and overall health. Super agers prioritize sleep and make sure to get sufficient sleep every night. They adhere to a specific sleep schedule and create an environment conducive to sleep, such as keeping a quiet and dark bedroom.

Secret 4: Finding ways to manage stress Stress is a common cause of a wide range of acute and chronic diseases that can impact cognitive function. Super agers find effective ways to manage their stress levels. They engage in activities like meditation, deep breathing, yoga, or other relaxation techniques that help to reduce stress levels, promote relaxation, and contribute to an overall sense of wellbeing.

Secret 5: Staying social

Secrets of The SUPER AGERS

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s we age, we often associate it with memory loss, decreased physical activity, and a decline in cognitive function. However, some people defy these expectations and are able to maintain their mental and physical abilities well into their twilight years - they are known as super agers. Super agers are individuals over the age of 65 who have the cognitive and physical abilities of people decades younger. So, what are the seven secrets of super agers?

Secret 1: Maintaining a healthy diet One of the most critical factors in maintaining good physical and cognitive health is through a healthy diet.

Super agers maintain a diet packed with antioxidants, antiinflammatories, and healthy fats. They fill their plates with fish, nuts, and leafy greens, which boosts mental clarity, memory, and focus. Moreover, super agers limit their consumption of processed foods, trans-fats, and sugar, which contribute to a wide range of chronic diseases.

Secret 2: Engaging in regular physical activity Maintaining physical activity is essential for good health as we age. Super agers engage in regular physical activity like walking, aerobic exercise, or weight training on a daily basis. Physical activity not only helps to keep your muscles strong but also helps to stimulate the brain. Physical activity increases blood flow to the brain, which enhances cognitive function and helps maintain mental acuity.

Social isolation can have negative impacts on both physical and mental health. Super agers regularly engage in social activities, fostering meaningful relationships with others.

Staying social is critical because it helps to boost cognitive abilities, contributes to a feeling of belonging, and promotes good mental health.

Secret 6: Maintaining an active mind Super agers are always thinking. They engage in mentally challenging tasks and engage in activities that provide mental stimulation. Such activities could include reading, playing games, learning new skills, and taking classes. These activities keep the brain active, sharpens the memory, and helps to maintain cognitive functions well into old age.

Secret 7: Learning to adapt Adaptation is a key characteristic of super agers. They are resilient individuals who are able to adapt to significant life changes effectively. Super agers understand that change is inevitable, and they respond to it willingly, making the necessary adjustments to cope with it. This, in turn, helps them maintain good mental and physical health well into their golden years.

Super agers have several secrets that contribute to their success in maintaining both good physical and cognitive health well into old age. Through healthy diets, regular physical activities, good sleep habits, stress management techniques, social engagement, stimulating mental activities, and adaptation, their secrets serve as a guide for us all to follow in maintaining good health throughout our lives. By focusing on these secrets, we can improve the quality of our lives as we age, and perhaps even become super agers ourselves.

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Ways to Ease a Nagging

COUGH

taking a hot shower, or using a towel soaked in hot water and placed over the face, can also help moisten the air and ease coughing.

Salt Water Gargle A saltwater gargle can help relieve a sore throat and ease a cough. Gargling with salt water can help reduce inflammation and irritation in the throat, making it easier to cough up mucus. Fill a glass with warm water and mix in a teaspoon of salt. Gargle the saltwater for a few seconds, spit it out, and repeat as necessary.

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oughing is a common symptom associated with colds and the flu. It is a natural reflex response of the body to clear the airways from irritants and mucus. However, frequent coughing can be uncomfortable and affect daily activities. Fortunately, there are several ways to ease a cough and alleviate its symptoms.

Stay Hydrated Drinking fluids is essential when trying to ease a cough.

Water and other clear fluids can help thin out mucus buildup in the chest and throat, making it easier to cough up. Warm fluids, such as hot tea with honey or chicken soup, can also help soothe the throat and alleviate coughing. Avoid drinks that can irritate the throat, such as alcohol and caffeine, as they can worsen a cough.

Rest Rest is crucial when trying to ease a cough. The body needs time to recover from illness, and getting enough sleep can help strengthen the immune system and alleviate symptoms such as coughing. Avoid strenuous activities and allow the body time to heal.

Humidify the Air Dry air can irritate the throat and worsen a cough. Using a humidifier can add moisture to the air and help ease a cough. Humidifiers can also help relieve symptoms such as congestion and dry skin. If a humidifier is not available,

Over-the-counter medications can help ease a cough.

Cough suppressants such as dextromethorphan can help reduce coughing by blocking the cough reflex. However, it’s essential to follow the dosing instructions carefully as taking too much medication can cause side effects such as dizziness and drowsiness. Expectorants such as guaifenesin can help thin out and loosen mucus, making it easier to cough up. Medications such as acetaminophen or ibuprofen can help ease fever, sore throat, and body aches associated with the cold or flu.

Honey Honey has been shown to have antibacterial and antiinflammatory properties, making it an effective cough suppressant. Adding a teaspoon of honey to warm water or tea can help soothe the throat and alleviate coughing.

However, honey should not be given to children under the age of one as it can increase the risk of botulism.

Avoid Smoking Smoking or exposure to secondhand smoke can irritate the throat and worsen a cough. Quitting smoking or avoiding exposure to smoke can help alleviate coughing and improve overall health. If quitting smoking seems difficult, support groups or medications can help smokers quit successfully.

In Conclusion Coughing is a common symptom associated with colds and the flu. Fortunately, there are several ways to ease a cough and alleviate its symptoms. Drinking fluids, resting, humidifying the air, saltwater gargling, taking over-thecounter medications, using honey, and avoiding smoking are effective ways to ease a cough and improve overall health. It’s essential to consult a healthcare provider if coughing persists, worsens, or is accompanied by other symptoms such as chest pain, wheezing, or shortness of breath.

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The HOSTESS with the MOSTESS

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he holiday season is upon us, and that means it’s time to start planning your Christmas party! Whether you’re throwing a small gathering for your closest friends or a big bash for your entire family, you want to make sure your Christmas party is one to remember.

Planning the perfect Christmas party takes a lot of preparation and attention to detail, but with the right mindset and some simple tips, you can create an unforgettable event that your guests will be talking about for months to come. Here are some tips and tricks on how to host an unforgettable Christmas party.

Set the Tone with Festive Decor One of the easiest ways to create an unforgettable Christmas party is to start with festive decor that sets the tone for the entire event. You can use traditional Christmas colors like red, green, and gold, or opt for a more modern and sophisticated approach with metallics or neutral tones.

Invest in some Christmas lights, because there is nothing quite like twinkling lights to create a magical atmosphere.

You can use them to decorate your Christmas tree, wrap them around your banister or use them to create a cozy atmosphere around your fireplace. Also, be sure to add festive accents throughout your home with centerpieces of pinecones, garlands, or wreaths. These simple touches will help your guests feel the holiday spirit as soon as they walk in the door.

Plan Delicious Festive Food and Drinks A great party always has great food and drinks. Set up a buffet with festive treats like sweet treats such as cookies, gingerbread, Christmas cake or fruit cake. You can also prepare special Christmas-themed drinks, such as eggnog hot chocolate or mulled wine that can be served warm. A selection of red and white wine or cocktails are perfect to wash down the night.

When it comes to food, think about having a potluck or catering a full meal. From an indulgent spread of finger foods to a sit-down meal, there are plenty of festive food options to choose from. You could even go for themed Christmas food dishes that include Christmas turkey, potatoes, vegetables, stuffing, and gravy.

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Make Fun and Interactive Activities

Don’t forget the kids

Christmas parties are a perfect time to create fun and interactive activities for your guests that will get them socializing and having fun. You can set up a photo booth with some Christmas-themed props, such as Santa hats, reindeer horns, mugs that carry Christmas messages and get your guests snapping pictures. You can also set up classic holiday games like Secret Santa, White Elephant or charades. The games will break the ice and help your guests bond over some laughs.

If you have little kids at your Christmas party event, plan some kid-friendly activities and snacks. You can set up a separate area with festive coloring books, crafting, crafting materials like markers, colored pencils, and glitter. Also, have some fun activities, including games like musical chairs, building gingerbread houses and decorating ornaments.

Play Festive Music Music is one of the most important elements of a successful party, and it’s especially important at a Christmas party as music sets the mood. Prepare a playlist that includes classic Christmas music and modern Christmas tunes. You can also have some background music playing softly in the background during meal time. If it’s a large celebration, you could even hire a DJ to create a festive playlist that matches the mood of the night.

Ensure there are also light snacks like veggie sticks, candy canes, popcorn, chocolates, and fruit punch are great items to ensure everyone is happy.

Hosting an unforgettable Christmas party could be a success with a little planning and various fun-filled activities that gets everyone involved. Don’t forget about your décor, music, food and don’t forget to add some themed activities for children to enjoy themselves. Plan well in advance and spread the festive cheer, making your Christmas party an unforgettable experience.

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The Local Music Makers

“It’s Always Been About Jazz” – Marilynn Seits

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Photo courtesy of Marilynn Seits

Photo courtesy of Marilynn Seits

Photo courtesy of Marilynn Seits

Photo courtesy of Marilynn Seits

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Photo courtesy of Marilynn Seits

ianist, accompanist and composer for many decades, Marilyn’s magical musical history tour reveals how in her own way she has shaped, witnessed and contributed to the vast and ever-evolving cosmos we call ‘the music business.’

Her taste in music is flavored predominantly with Jazz spices. But her ‘side-hustle’ in New Age music enhances her financial well-being with sales and worldwide licensing opportunities. Her knack for writing tranquil melodies resonates with bodywork and wellness practitioners and those who use music in meditation.

A Chicago native, Marilynn learned to play by ear, mimicking her self-taught father. “My father taught himself to read music. Back in the day you could go to a music store and pick out sheet music and take it into a separate piano room to play it to see if you liked it. He had such a good ear that he’d remember the tunes he liked, which was good since he couldn’t afford to buy any of them.”

Her toddler memories are strong: “I’d sit by the piano while my dad played. I could pick out melodies even though I couldn’t play chords. Family members would shout ‘hey that sounds like a real song she’s playing!’”

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By Peggy Ratusz

“I was so small I couldn’t climb onto the piano bench. I have a vivid memory of standing in front of the piano, my hands at eye level, plunking out the melody to “Don’t Fence Me In” , the first song she learned to play by heart.

Back in the 1940’s the school of thought was to wait until a child was seven years old before starting music lessons. In the meantime, she’d listen to her older sister’s big band records on the wind-up Victrola in the basement. Marilynn explains, “When my parents hired my first teacher, I’d become lazy learning music theory and all I wanted was for her to play so I could listen in order to play by ear without having to learn to read the music. By the time I began thinking about going to college, I’d picked up some bad habits.”

She spent her freshman year at DePaul University studying music education. It was the early 1960’s and Marilynn recalls, “One day during my first semester I was playing Jazz on a practice room piano and the department heads told me I couldn’t play Jazz in any of their practice rooms; that practicing Jazz was forbidden.”

Consequently, she switched campuses her sophomore year.

The University of Illinois is where she joined a fledgling Jazz band that was allowed to rehearse in the basement of an old building on campus that wasn’t being used.

Her senior year in 1964, Jazz bands in colleges were just becoming popular and only a few colleges offered Jazz Studies programs. But the bands “everybody in the country knew about” were from North Texas State and Northwestern. The International Collegiate Jazz Festival was established years prior but that year, Marilynn’s University of Illinois Jazz band won first place. “Our win forced the university to consider creating a degree in Jazz Studies, and we came up from out of the basement.”

Marilynn was so ambitious that, literally straight from her last class, she hopped on a bus to New York City, skipping her graduation ceremony the next day. “I needed to hear Bill Evans in person and I was afraid he was going to die. I left my luggage in storage and went from the bus station at Port Authority to The Metropole Café.” The Woody Herman band was playing their matinee show there.

Her roommate from college had gone to New York before her and found them both a room at a “working woman’s hotel “where they stayed until they found good enough paying jobs to rent an apartment.

“I went to a jam session which led to my first job. I asked the piano player if I could sit in and at first he told me no. I don’t know how I mustered the courage, but I made a snide comment like, ‘are you afraid I’m gonna be better than you and I’m female?’” Challenge accepted, he allowed her to play. Afterward he offered her his job for the summer while he played a residency elsewhere.

She promptly joined the Asheville Area Piano Forum and made friends with classical pianist and fellow Jazz enthusiast, Cynthia Riley. Cynthia took her to Jazz jams and Jazz orchestra shows, introducing her to the movers and shakers.

Since then, Marilynn moves and grooves on stages with all the quintessential local Jazz players.

Photo courtesy of Marilynn Seits Together with her son Sean who plays six-string fretless bass, they formed a duo called Seits & Sound playing regularly at cocktail parties, Asheville Symphony galas, senior centers and special events. You’ll find her playing solo too, performing seasonally at The Asheville Art Museum and concerts for the Asheville Area Piano Forum.

For the past many years, Marilynn has played holiday music for Christmas at The Biltmore Estate and has been a featured player for their popular Candlelight Christmas events. This year she’ll play December 1st, 7th, 15th & 21st.

Her 2008 Jazz recording “Rained Out” won best Jazz record South Florida and is available for purchase on her website along with five other superb releases. https://mseitsmusic.com/ Peggy’s December calendar:

A five night per week piano playing gig right off the bus was not bad for a bold and vivacious, passionate and talented, young Marilynn. And because it was the matinee slot, she was able to go out at night to hear more Jazz. “Charles Mingus just happened to be spending the summer of 64 playing a regular stint at the Five Spot Café. I spent several nights a week in that place. When I look back at it, it all seems like a fairy tale.”

Friday Dec 1st – The Buzz, Hendersonville with Bill Loftus & Charlie Wilkenson, 6pm

After that summer she took a teaching job in Guttenberg, NJ which jump started her teaching career that continues today.

Saturday, Dec 9th – The Pillar Rooftop Bar with Daddy LongLegs Blues & Dance Band, 6pm

Nine years ago, Seits realized that working constantly in order to stay afloat in New York was crimping her style and her happiness quotient. “I knew I had to leave because the city had changed and old New York wasn’t coming back.”

Sunday, Dec 10th – Highland Brewing Meadow with Daddy LongLegs Blues & Dance Band, 2pm

Her youngest son was living in Asheville and she was visiting him on holidays. Knowing what a mecca for Old Time, Bluegrass and Americana this area was already known for she says, “Reluctantly, kicking and screaming, I finally made the decision to move to Asheville. The voice in my head kept saying ‘there won’t be any Jazz, there won’t be any Blues and I won’t find anybody like me. And I was totally wrong.”

Sunday, Dec 2nd – Invitational Blues Showcase, One World West 4-7pm Friday, Dec 8th – Fender Bender Band & Beer Tour, Lazoom Room, 5:30pm

Sunday, Dec 31st – Sunday New Years Eve Funday, Southern Appalachian Brewery, 4pm

Peggy Ratusz is a vocal coach, song interpreter, and songwriter.

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Lifestyle & Resource guide HEALTH & WELLNESS

HEALTH & WELLNESS

Beauty Bin

Zachary S. Holcombe, D.M.D.

Dry Bar & Day Spa. Asheville’s One-Stop Shop for ALL your Beauty Needs. Helping every client look and feel as beautiful on the outside as they are on the inside. www.beauty.bin.com

General Dentistry. Whatever dentistry you’re in need of, you’ll feel comfortable with our team. Being patient-centered means that your positive experience, in every detail, is our primary concern. www.DentalAsheville.com

117 Sweeten Creek Rd, Asheville 828-417-9915

Elite Hearing Centers of America Tammie Crawford 145 Weaver Blvd, Weaverville 828-484-9201

Suite B-2, 1944 Hendersonville Road, Asheville 828-684-3939

HOME & REAL ESTATE

We carry the industry’s leading manufacturers of hearing aids at some of the most affordable prices. www.elitehearingcenters.com

Asheville Realty & Associates - Bob Ray

Ingles Pharmacy

I specialize in Senior Real Estate Representation. I am an Asheville native with 28 years experience in our market. www.ASHREAL.com Bob@ashreal.com, call, text, or email me.

Prescriptions ready when you need them, every time. www.ingles-pharmacy.com

The Lodge at Mills River

5593 Old Haywood Rd, Mills River 828-684-4857

Make your rehabilitation or long-term stay at a skilled nursing facility a positive experience. We offer our residents a warm community dedicated to seeing them achieve their health goals. www.sanstonehealth.com/lodgeatmillsriver

The Medical Loan Closet Of Henderson County, Inc. 1225 7th Ave. East, Hendersonville 828-692-9005

Days: Tuesday and Friday Only Hours: 12:30-4:30 We meet short term needs for durable medical equipment at a nominal cost. Beyond the cost savings, we strive to provide a compassionate environment which reduces the stress of inherently stressful situations for clients.

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1308-A Patton Avenue, Asheville 828-507-7853

Blue Ridge Properties Group 22 N. Main Street, Weaverville 828-658-5200

“We’ve got agents who remember encyclopedias, the Eagles and life before Netflix. They’ve kept up with technology but haven’t forgotten how to interact with real people. They have experience, extensive area knowledge and are just plain fun to work with.

Looking to buy or sell, give us a call!”

Century 21 Mountain Lifestyles - Martha Lowe 1210 Hendersonville Road, Asheville 828-777-4364

“I love homes and I love people”! My experience includes 34 years in banking as well as 20 years in real estate. I want to earn your business.

HOME & REAL ESTATE

FOOD & DINING

Century 21 Mountain Lifestyles - Owen Fields Baked Pie Company 1210 Hendersonville Road, Asheville 828-777-5447

2011 Asheville Realtor of the Year. Specializing in estate sales.

Available nights and weekends.

Norma Clayton Realty

262 S. Caldwell St., Brevard 828-384-1806

Your HomeTown Realtor in Brevard. A team of real estate professionals dedicated to helping you find your perfect place. Let us show you why we love calling Transylvania County home. www.brevardrealty.net

4 Long Shoals Rd, Arden 828-333-4366

Our pies are made daily with the freshest and highest quality ingredients. We think our customers deserve only the best! www.bakedpiecompany.com

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5 Little Monkeys Quilt & Sew 32 N. Main St, Weaverville.

828-484-7200

Quinn Anderson Real Estate Solutions

Fabric, Supplies, Longarm Quilting and Machine Service. Our passion is supporting all people in their desire to learn to sew and quilt.

I specialize in Mars Hill Real Estate. A quiet, relaxed community with a vibrant main street with shopping and dining. Home to Mars Hill University.

Asheville Cotton Co.

94 Anderson St, Mars Hill 828-206-9658

RE/MAX Results - Elizabeth Jones 115 N. Main St., Weaverville 828-226-2269

With years of experience working with Buyers, Sellers and Small Commercial it is my goal to complete transactions with well satisfied customers! I will work hard to earn your trust and build lasting relationships. Let me be your Real Estate Go-To Expert!

1378 Hendersonville Rd, Asheville 828-277-4100

With the help of a super friendly, knowledgeable and talented staff, the shop now boasts more than 10,000 bolts of quilting cotton, representing more than twenty major brands. We offer a variety of classes, bringing in both local and national teachers. www.ashevillecottonco.com

Stephens Upholstering Co.

WNC Bridge Foundation Estate Sales & Services

220 Weavervile Rd, Asheville 828-645-3422

We are a community-based charitable organization that works to provide funds to support and assist in meeting the many health challenges that face the people of WNC. www. WNC bridge.org

Thyme In The Garden

75 Fairview Rd, Asheville 828-575-2509

Get furniture upholstery, drapery fabrics, blinds, and hardware right here. www.stephensupholstery.com

190 Weaverville Hwy, Asheville.

828-658-3700

A unique garden and gift shop offering whimsy to the refined, bringing the outdoors in.

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The 5 Senses Grounding Technique: A Powerful Tool for Mindfulness and Resilience

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ife is full of ups and downs, and it is simply impossible to avoid stress, anxiety, or negative emotions altogether.

However, what sets resilient individuals apart from the rest is their ability to bounce back from adversity, to stay calm and centered despite challenging circumstances. One of the most effective tools that can help build resilience and emotional balance is the 5 senses grounding technique. This simple yet powerful mindfulness technique allows you to focus your attention on the present moment, engage your senses, and connect with your body. In this article, we will explore the benefits of the 5 senses grounding technique, how to practice it, and how it can transform your life.

senses provide a powerful anchor for your attention and help you connect with the physical world around you, rather than getting lost in the maze of your thoughts and feelings.

What is the 5 senses grounding technique?

Why is the 5 senses grounding technique beneficial?

The 5 senses grounding technique is a mindfulness exercise that involves paying attention to your sensory experiences in the present moment. By doing so, you shift your attention away from negative thoughts or emotions and redirect it to the sensations of sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell. These 14

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The origins of this technique can be traced back to the principles of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR). In both approaches, mindfulness is a key component that helps individuals manage their thoughts and emotions more effectively and reduce their stress levels. The 5 senses grounding technique is a practical application of mindfulness that can be used not only in therapy but also in everyday life.

The benefits of the 5 senses grounding technique are numerous and have been supported by research. First and foremost, the technique helps you stay present and mindful, which, in turn, reduces stress and anxiety. When you focus

your attention on the present moment, you become less preoccupied with worries about the future or regret about the past. This reduces the levels of cortisol, the stress hormone, in your body, and promotes a sense of calmness and relaxation.

Moreover, the 5 senses grounding technique can help you regulate your emotions and reduce impulsivity. When you are overwhelmed by negative emotions, such as anger, frustration, or sadness, it is easy to act impulsively and do something you might regret later on. By engaging your senses and becoming more present, you can create a space between yourself and your emotions, which allows you to respond more mindfully and in a more intentional way.

Another benefit of the technique is that it enhances your sensory awareness and appreciation of the world around you. When you pay attention to your senses, you notice things that you might have overlooked before, such as the colors of the sky, the sounds of nature, or the texture of food. This fosters a sense of curiosity and wonder, which can improve your mood and boost your creativity.

How to practice the 5 senses grounding technique?

The 5 senses grounding technique is easy to learn and can be practiced anywhere, at any time. Here is a step-by-step guide to help you get started: Pause: When you feel stressed or overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and breathe deeply. Close your eyes if that feels comfortable.

Notice: Start by noticing what you see around you. Take in the details of your surroundings and try to name the colors, shapes, and textures of the objects you observe.

Listen: Focus your attention on the sounds you hear.

Identify each sound and try to distinguish between them.

Notice the rhythm and the volume of the sounds.

Touch: Pay attention to the sensations in your body. Notice the feeling of your feet on the ground, the fabric of your clothes against your skin, or the temperature of the air on your face.

Taste: If you have something to eat or drink, take a moment to savor it. Notice the flavor, the texture, and the temperature of the food or drink.

Smell: Finally, take a deep breath and notice any smells in the air. Identify each scent and try to describe it.

By engaging your senses in this way, you reconnect with the physical world and with your body. You also create a sense of separation between yourself and your thoughts or emotions, which can help you gain perspective and reduce their intensity.

The 5 senses grounding technique is a simple yet effective tool for cultivating resilience and emotional balance. By focusing your attention on your sensory experiences, you can reduce stress, regulate your emotions, and increase your sensory awareness. The technique can be practiced anywhere, at any time, and requires no special equipment or training. So why not try it today and experience its transformative power for yourself?

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Seasonal Living

by Laurie Richardone

Nature teaches us that life moves and changes in seasons.

Flowers and trees go dormant and lose their leaves in order to conserve energy for the winter months. If trees didn’t lose their leaves, imagine what might happen during the first heavy snowfall? In like-kind, it is beneficial for us to live in alignment with the natural flow of nature. As we approach the changing of a new season we have an opportunity to create a foundation that will support us to have a smooth transition into winter.

We’re often unable or reluctant to recognize these transitions. How often have we blamed ourselves for not being creative or productive at a particular time? Winter is a time of dormancy, hibernation, and reflection. Find a way that’s natural and intuitive for you to navigate this quiet time of year.

Tips For Transitioning Into Winter With Ease • Eat and Think for Healing: Treat your body right! Start by feeding it warm, loving foods and thoughts. Remember, on a lower level, you are what you eat. But on a higher level, you are what you think.

• Create a simple practice to start and end the day: Sit in quiet meditation or do some journaling for the things you are grateful for, or for a project to launch in Spring.

• Make a list of priorities for the season: Don’t give into holiday pressures. Do the things you really enjoy and forget about the rest.

We get so busy doing, that we can forget the simple gifts we have in our lives. Moving more slowly through our day keeps us in the present moment. I love to watch the animals, and notice how their patterns begin to change. Are birds chirping louder than usual or is Nature suddenly quiet? How do the plants and animals adjust to these seasonal changes?

Remember, we are all energy beings—infinitely connected to Nature and all living beings. When our psychology and behaviors are in harmony with these rhythms, we begin to flow through life naturally and effortlessly. Take delight in the smiles and laughs from children. Savor the flavors of all your favorite holiday treats, and be kind to yourself. Each season offers an opportunity for growth. They offer resilience and can enliven our spirit.

Wishing you a Joyful & Peaceful Season.

If you are a curious person or cook join me on my Podcast ~ a taste for all seasons Listen to the latest episode ~ Forgiveness All episodes are on LaurieRichardone.com ~ or wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Laurie Richardone is an inspirational seasonal chef and certified wellness coach.

To work with Laurie, visit LaurieRichardone.com/contact

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Leek & Basil Custards

These custards are simple to make, yet elegant. Delicious for a holiday breakfast or brunch.

Serve with warm buttered toast, and a simple salad of mixed winter greens.

MAKES 6 CUSTARDS 4-6 leeks 4 eggs, room temperature 2 ½ tbsp. unsalted butter 1 bunch of basil,10-15 large leaves, reserve a few for garnish 1 tsp. sea salt 2 ounces goat cheese, or other soft cheese 1 cup organic half & half, or other milk ¼ cup white wine ⅛ tsp. fresh ground pepper 1 tsp. fresh lemon juice extra butter for ramekins dusting of nutmeg to finish METHOD : Preheat the oven to 350. Prepare 6 ramekins, greased with unsalted butter.

Thinly slice, then chop, the white parts of the leeks with a little of the pale green parts as well. There should be about 1 cup. Rinse well, and let drain.

Melt the butter in an 8” skillet. Add the leeks to the skillet, and add ¼ cup of wine. Cook gently over medium to low heat until tender, about 10-12 minutes.

Tear the basil leaves off the stems, and chop. Add them to the pan with the leeks. Sprinkle with salt and cook for 1-2 minutes. Add the half & half, and heat until warm.

Do not boil.

Whisk the eggs and fresh lemon juice well, and pour into the basil mixture. Season with pepper, and crumble in the goat cheese.

For smooth custards, puree in 2 short pulses in a food processor, or blender. Do not over mix.

Divide the mixture into the buttered ramekins, ¾ of the way filled. Dust with nutmeg.

Place on a rimmed baking sheet, surrounded by a hot water bath. About ¼ the way up the ramekins. Top each custard with one basil leaf.

Bake until custards are set, and a knife comes out clean.

About 25- 30 minutes.

Set the ramekins on plates. Serve with buttered fennel seeded toast.

Recipe on LaurieRichardone.com

Laurie Richardone is a seasonal gluten free chef and certified health coach.

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Fun Holiday

PARTY IDEAS

Secret Santa/Lucky Dip: Keep the gift-giving spirit alive with a Secret Santa or Lucky Dip. Each person brings a small gift, and names are drawn from a hat to determine who gets to choose first.

DIY Christmas Decorations: Get crafty and create some DIY Christmas decorations. This is a great activity to do with friends, and it’ll add some festive cheer to your home.

Christmas Movie Marathon: Grab some blankets, pop some popcorn, and settle in for a Christmas movie marathon. There are so many great holiday movies to choose from, so make sure to pick a few of your favorites!

Ugly Sweater Contest: Embrace the cheesy Christmas spirit and hold an ugly sweater contest. The person with the most unattractive sweater wins a prize!

Gingerbread House Decorating: Get creative and decorate gingerbread houses with your friends and family. This is a fun activity that everyone can get involved in, and the end result is a tasty treat!

Ornament Exchange: Ask your guests to bring a Christmas ornament to exchange. It’s a fun way to add to your collection, and you’ll be reminded of your friends every time you hang their ornament on the tree.

White Elephant Gift Exchange: This fun game involves bringing an inexpensive, silly gift to exchange with your friends. It’s a great way to break the ice and have some laughs.

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hristmas is a time of joy, laughter, and celebration. It is the time when people gather with their loved ones to enjoy the festive spirit of the holiday season. And what better way to celebrate the occasion than by throwing an epic Christmas party? With that in mind, we have compiled a list of the best Christmas party ideas to help you make your celebration unforgettable!

Holiday Karaoke: Break out the karaoke machine and get ready to belt out some of your favorite holiday tunes! Add some festive decorations to the stage area, and you’ll be set for a night of singing and dancing.

Christmas Cookie Swap: Bake some delicious Christmas cookies and invite your friends over for a cookie swap.

Everyone can bring their own homemade treats, and you can exchange recipes and enjoy a sweet treat with friends and family.

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Wine Tasting: For the adults in your group, consider hosting a wine tasting. Pick some festive wines and enjoy a night of tasting and socializing.

Cocktail Making Contest: Set up a mini bar and let your guests get creative with cocktail making. The best drink wins a prize!

Christmas Craft Station: Set up a craft station for the kids (and adults!). Provide supplies to make holiday cards, ornaments, and other decorations.

Christmas Costume Party: Get dressed up in your favorite Christmas-themed costumes and celebrate the holiday in style. You can have an ugly sweater contest or dress up as your favorite Christmas character.

Christmas Scavenger Hunt: Create clues and hide presents around the house for a Christmas scavenger

hunt. It’s a fun way to get everyone involved and excited about the holiday.

Hot Chocolate Bar: Set up a hot chocolate bar with all the fixings - whipped cream, marshmallows, candy canes - and enjoy a warm cup of cocoa with your guests.

Christmas Trivia Night: Test your knowledge of all things Christmas with a trivia night. Try to include questions about different holiday traditions from around the world to make it more interesting.

Fondue Night: Set up a fondue station with chocolate and cheese and enjoy a night of dipping and socializing.

Caroling Party: Get your group together and go caroling around the neighborhood. It’s a great way to spread some holiday cheer!

Christmas Charity: Finally, consider giving back during the holiday season. Host a charity party where guests bring donations for a local food bank or toy drive.

There are so many ways to celebrate the holiday season with a Christmas party. With these ideas, you’re sure to find something that suits your style and helps make your celebration unforgettable.

Happy Holidays!

Christmas Brunch: Host a Christmas brunch for friends and family. Serve up some festive favorites like cinnamon rolls and Christmas ham.

INSTRUCTIONS: Preheat your oven to 375°F (190°C).

In a bowl, whisk together the all-purpose flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt, and spices (ginger, cinnamon, nutmeg, and cloves). Set aside.

Using an electric mixer, cream the unsalted butter and brown sugar on medium-high speed until light and fluffy for about 3 minutes.

Lower the speed to medium-low and add in the eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition.

GINGERBREAD MUFFINS INGREDIENTS: 2 cups all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking powder 1/2 teaspoon baking soda 1/4 teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons ground ginger 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg 1/4 teaspoon ground cloves 3/4 cup brown sugar, tightly packed 1/2 cup unsalted butter, softened 2 large eggs 1/2 cup molasses 1/4 cup milk

Add in the molasses and mix until well combined.

With the mixer on low speed, add in the dry ingredients in three batches, alternating with the milk in two batches, mixing until just combined after each addition.

Line your muffin tin with paper liners. Divide the batter evenly among the cups.

Bake for 20-25 minutes or until a toothpick inserted into the center of a muffin comes out clean.

Let the muffins cool in the pan for about 5 minutes before transferring them to a wire rack to cool completely.

These gingerbread muffins are perfect for breakfast or as a sweet snack with a cup of tea or coffee. The combination of spices and molasses makes them especially flavorful and aromatic. Enjoy!

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BEST

Christmas Movies

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OF ALL TIME

he holiday season is here, and what better way to celebrate it than by watching some of the best Christmas movies of all time? Whether with family, friends or even alone, these films are sure to fill you with the spirit of the season and leave you feeling warm and fuzzy.

IT’S A WONDERFUL LIFE (1946) This timeless classic from the 1940s focuses on George Bailey, a man who has given up on his dreams to help others. After an angel shows him what life would have been like if he had never existed, George is given a new appreciation for all the good he has done in the world. An inspirational tale that teaches us to appreciate the blessings we have and the value of helping others.

A CHRISTMAS CAROL (1951) This adaptation of Charles Dickens’ classic novel tells the story of Ebenezer Scrooge, a miserly businessman who is visited by three spirits on Christmas Eve. The spirits show Scrooge the consequences of his actions and teach him to change his ways and embrace the spirit of Christmas.

A heartwarming tale that teaches us the importance of kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.

HOME ALONE (1990) This beloved family film follows 8-year-old Kevin McCallister as he is accidentally left behind by his family during Christmas vacation. With his parents on holiday in Paris, Kevin is home alone and must defend his house from two bumbling burglars. A hilarious and heartwarming story about family, friendship, and the importance of being resourceful.

THE POLAR EXPRESS (2004) Based on the classic children’s book by Chris Van Allsburg, The Polar Express follows a young boy who takes a magical train ride to the North Pole on Christmas Eve. Along the way, he learns about the spirit of Christmas and the importance of believing. A visually stunning and heartwarming film that captures the magic and wonder of the holiday season.

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HOW THE GRINCH STOLE CHRISTMAS (1966) This classic 1966 TV special tells the story of the Grinch, a bitter and resentful creature who attempts to ruin Christmas for the town of Whoville. However, he soon learns that the true meaning of Christmas is not about material possessions but about love and togetherness. An endearing story that teaches us the importance of kindness, generosity, and forgiveness.

A CHARLIE BROWN CHRISTMAS (1965) This beloved television special follows Charlie Brown as he struggles to find the true meaning of Christmas. With the help of his friends and a little Christmas magic, Charlie Brown learns that the holiday season is about much more than just presents and decorations. A timeless classic that teaches children and adults alike the importance of friendship, kindness, and love.

ELF (2003) Elf follows Buddy, a human who was raised by elves at the North Pole, as he sets out to find his real father in New York City. Buddy’s childlike enthusiasm and infectious energy

help him to spread Christmas cheer everywhere he goes, even in the face of cynicism and skepticism. A modern classic that reminds us of the importance of staying true to ourselves and following our dreams.

MIRACLE ON 34TH STREET (1947) This heartwarming tale follows the interactions between Kris Kringle, a man who claims to be the real Santa Claus, and those around him. Through his genuine kindness and belief in the spirit of Christmas, Kris Kringle helps to unite the community and reminds us all of the power of faith and belief.

THE NIGHTMARE BEFORE CHRISTMAS (1993) This hauntingly beautiful film follows Jack Skellington, the Pumpkin King of Halloween Town, as he discovers Christmas and attempts to bring his own version of the holiday to his spooky town. A visually stunning masterpiece that fuses the worlds of Halloween and Christmas in a unique and captivating way.

LOVE ACTUALLY (2003) Love Actually tells the intertwining stories of various individuals and couples in the lead-up to Christmas.

Through their experiences with love, loss, and hope, the characters learn to appreciate the people in their lives and the true meaning of the season. A heartwarming and romantic film that reminds us of the power of love and the joy of human connection.

These incredible films capture the spirit and essence of the holiday season. From timeless classics to modern favorites, they all share a common message of love, kindness, and compassion towards others. So, sit back, relax and indulge in some of the best Christmas movies of all time.

They are sure to leave you feeling joyful and inspired.

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How to Manage Holiday Stress

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he holiday season is often viewed as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness with family and friends.

However, for many people, the holidays can be a time of immense stress and anxiety, especially when it comes to dealing with family dynamics. Even the closest of families can experience tension and conflict during this time of year, as different schedules, personalities, and expectations clash.

Whether it’s battling crowds or trying to manage the perfect holiday dinner, the pressure can be overwhelming, making peace and harmony feel out of reach.

But you don’t have to suffer through the same patterns every holiday season. There are a number of strategies you can employ to manage holiday stress and better navigate family dynamics, so that you can fully enjoy the season without becoming overwhelmed by stress and anxiety. These are

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some of the most effective ways you can cope with holiday stress and enjoy this special time of the year.

Prioritize Self-Care One of the best things you can do to help alleviate holiday stress is to prioritize self-care. There are a number of different self-care techniques that can be particularly helpful during the holiday season, including meditation, deep breathing exercises, yoga, and mindfulness practices. Taking time to check in with yourself and engage in activities that promote relaxation and stress-reduction can make a big difference in how you feel during the holidays.

Another way to prioritize self-care is to make sure you’re getting enough sleep, exercise, and healthy food. With so

much going on during the holidays, it’s easy to forego healthy habits in favor of indulging in treats and skipping workouts.

However, taking care of your physical health can help you maintain the energy and focus you need to handle stress and stay resilient during the holidays.

Set Realistic Expectations Another source of stress during the holidays is the pressure to make everything perfect. From the perfect decorations to the perfect gifts, there are countless expectations that can be difficult to live up to, especially if you’re already feeling overwhelmed. One way to manage this stressor is to set realistic expectations for yourself and your family members.

This might mean scaling back on holiday traditions that are particularly stressful to plan or execute, or finding new ways to engage with your loved ones that don’t require as much time or preparation. For example, instead of cooking a big dinner from scratch, you might opt for a potluck-style meal where everyone contributes a dish. Or you might choose to have a smaller gift exchange rather than trying to buy gifts for every member of the family.

Communicate Clearly and Effectively Clear communication is essential when it comes to managing family dynamics during the holidays. This can be especially important if you’re dealing with difficult or tense family relationships. When it comes to communication, it’s important to be clear and direct, while also being respectful and patient.

you’re thankful for each day. You might also try starting a gratitude ritual where you and your family members take turns expressing things you appreciate about each other or taking time to volunteer or donate to a local charity.

Take Time for Yourself Finally, one of the most important things you can do to manage holiday stress is to take time for yourself. This might mean carving out a few minutes each day to engage in a hobby or activity you enjoy, or it might mean taking a break from the holiday festivities altogether and spending some time alone to recharge and refocus.

Regardless of how you choose to take time for yourself, it’s important to prioritize this time in order to maintain your mental and emotional health. Only by taking care of yourself can you show up fully for your family and enjoy the holiday season to the fullest extent.

The holidays can be an extremely stressful time, particularly when it comes to managing family dynamics and meeting expectations. However, by prioritizing self-care, setting realistic expectations, communicating effectively, practicing gratitude, and taking time for yourself, you can manage holiday stress more effectively and enjoy this special time of year with your loved ones. By implementing these strategies, you’ll be able to create a holiday season that is rich in joy, meaning, and connection, without sacrificing your own well-being.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed-out, it may be helpful to talk to your family members about your feelings.

Let them know what you’re going through and what you need in order to feel supported and valued. At the same time, be sure to listen to their concerns and try to find a compromise or solution that works for everyone.

Practice Gratitude The holiday season is a time to reflect on the things we’re thankful for in our lives, but it can be easy to lose sight of this when we’re feeling stressed and anxious. Practicing gratitude is a powerful way to shift our perspective and focus on the positive aspects of our lives.

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