Changing Lives by Eve Menezes Cunningham
he Changing Lives NLP conference was held at the Strand Palace Hotel in central London. Eelco Wisman shared his secrets for success: • “I know my goal.” Double check in any given situation – what do you actually want? • “I take massive action.” Eelco says, “Anything less than 100% is self sabotage.” • “I focus on my goal.” Eelco says, “Ask yourself if each activity supports or hinders your goal.” • “I use my flexibility.” After being turned down by 300 bankers, Disney created Disney World by staying flexible. • “I have a feedback mechanism.” Eelco says, “We all have our blind spots.” • “I control my state.” It’s up to you. • “I let go of my goal and therefore achieve it.” Do everything in your power and then let go.
Robert Smith spoke about spirituality in business. His main message was to “do what you do best and do it well”. Think about your own work. Are you struggling with tasks that don’t come naturally and deplete your energy? Take some time to figure out what you enjoy the most and delegate the rest. Ian Sellick talked about Money and Wealth. He asked if anyone had £10 for £20. I had the cash and overcame my fear of appearing greedy and grasping and “won”. The socialist in me resisted taking advantage of other money grabbing opportunities because I wanted other people to have a chance. I didn’t hear Julie Inglis or Lindsey Agness but other delegates enjoyed their workshops. Carol Talbot led the breakthrough session at the end. She wanted to show us a “metaphor in action” by getting us to break an arrow
(representing limiting beliefs) on the dip below our throat. I overcame my own limiting beliefs enough to say “No, thank you”. This was the right choice for me (I snapped the arrow with my hands and still had to put some effort into it!). The vast majority of delegates “broke through” and seemed very pleased to have done so. Overall, it was an enjoyable day and a useful reminder that, challenging as it can be, we’re responsible for our own lives and responses to everything.
The Presuppositions of NLP You already have all the necessary inner resources within you by Caitlin Collins
he NLP presuppositions are tools to help us transcend the boundaries of our limiting beliefs about ourselves and our world. The point is not to believe or disbelieve any presupposition, but rather to consider what might be the implications of acting ‘as if ’ you believed it and imagine what differences that could make to your life now and in the future. What might we mean in NLP by ‘inner resources’? NLP is big on the concept of choosing effective strategies to suit the circumstances. Does the concept of inner resources refer to strategies? What about qualities such as emotions, intelligence, sensitivity, and sensory acuity? Or attributes such as knowledge or skills? I suggest that our inner resources can include all of these – and much,
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much more. It’s said there’s nothing new under the sun. Ideas about inner resources were put forward long before NLP. There are many theoretical and descriptive models along the lines of the ‘buddha within’, true nature, true self, etc, all based on the key insight that
we can find something pretty marvellous if we just look into our own minds. Most people have experienced,
if fleetingly, the sense of being ‘in the zone’. Characterised by enhanced awareness, effortless ease, and timelessness, it’s a space of spontaneity not strategy, response not reaction, being not doing, and wisdom not knowledge. It’s no more graspable than the wind – and no less real to the experience. In that space, the universe is. In that space, in that boundless lightness of being, Shiva Natraj dances the universe into mirage-like appearance. In that space is every ‘resource’, every possible potential, here in this breath, this heartbeat. Unconditioned space can be scary if we’re unaccustomed to it – we’re so used to identifying with the conditioning that colours our concept of ‘self ’. Anything that serves as a pattern interruption
to disrupt our continuous conceptualisation can throw us into that space. A shock can do it; or, more pleasantly, a joke. A hypnotic handshake induction can do it – and the subject follows the hypnotist’s instructions as an escape route out of the scary space. (Meditators learn to be at home in the space; do handshake inductions work on experienced meditators, I wonder?) Coaches and counsellors understand the value of allowing their clients to find their own solutions rather than trying to fix their problems for them. If we really appreciate for ourselves the profundity of the axiom that we have all the inner resources we need within us, we’ll be motivated to encourage others to shift from limited conditioning into fullyempowered, authentic inner space. Then watch them take off ! Caitlin Collins www. naturalmindmagic.com
Rapport issue 12, Summer 2008