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In August of last year, we pleaded to the community that decreasing ad revenues and increasing print and distribution costs had put us in a financial crisis.

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We recently went through a complete rethink. We realized our shortcomings, recognized our strengths and threw everything on the table for change. What we are now is nowhere near what we were when we started: • We now print between 10,000 and 15,000 copies per issue • We have an incredible online presence at gaysaltlake.com • Our popular business directory is now available online at biz.gaysaltlake.com • We are appealing to a younger demographic while maintaining what our more mature demographic looks for in each issue • We have a mobile app that allows you to read news of the day, find local gay-friendly businesses and find out what’s happening in Salt Lake’s vibrant nightlife scene We are making great strides as a community.

We are proud to be a part of that progress. We have a long way to go: Many of our readers can be fired from their jobs or kicked out of their homes for being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender; Amendment 3 is still on the books and thwarts our efforts to provide for our families; our youth are at great risk for suicide, being bullied, or being left on the streets by their families.

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10 things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Washington voters likely to uphold marriage equality R&B singer Frank Ocean comes out as bisexual Frank Ocean, a rising R&B singer with the new single “Novacane” and the self-released album nostalgia, ULTRA, announced on his Tumblr page that his first love was a man. Ocean wrote: “Four summers ago, I met somebody.

I was 19. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost.

And on the days we were together, time would glide.”Ocean continues with the post: “I don’t have any secrets I need to keep anymore. … I feel like a free man.

If I listen closely. I can hear the sky falling too.”

New York marriage equality saved A New York appellate court dismissed a lawsuit targeted at the state’s 2011 law that allows gay and lesbian marriage.

The suit, presented by Liberty Council which has close ties to Jerry Falwell’s Liberty University, claimed that a closed-door meeting between Gov. Andrew Cuomo, state senators and gaymarriage supporters was illegal and that the subsequent vote should be overturned. Closeddoor negotiations are quite commonplace, and the court found that the meetings did not violate any laws.

FDA approves FIRST over-the-counter home use HIV test kit The U.S. Food and Drug Administration approved the first overthe-counter, self-administered HIV test kit. The OraQuick In-Home HIV Test is designed to allow people to collect an oral fluid sample by swabbing the upper and lower gums, then place that sample into a developer vial, and obtain test results within 40 minutes. A positive result does not necessarily mean that an individual is definitely infected with HIV, but rather that additional testing should be done in a medical setting to confirm the test result.

Maine moves toward equality More than 55 percent of Maine voters support legalizing samesex marriage and 35 percent oppose marriage equality, according to a new statewide poll commissioned by The Portland Press Herald. The proposal on the November ballot to allow gay couples to marry has broad support across geographic areas of the state.

A majority of voters in Washington support upholding marriage equality, according to a recent poll by Public Policy Polling. Fifty-one percent of poll responders voiced strong support for marriage equality and 42 percent want to stop gay and lesbian couples from saying “I do.” Marriage equality activists are also earning more donations to the campaign to save marriage equality, with more than $2 million raised in June alone.

Anti-gay group in Maryland facing financial woes An anti-gay group trying to repeal Maryland’s new marriage equality law is deep in debt and apparently unable to raise significant funds. The Maryland Marriage Alliance raised a meager $5,000 last month and owes nearly $100,000 to various lenders. The group also owes thousands of dollars in legal fees.

Gay parents too tired for sex Gay parents, like heterosexual parents, have less time for intimacy than they did before having children, and very few are overly concerned about the change, according to a study released by San Francisco State University. Nearly 20 percent of gay male couples nationwide are raising children and 48 couples from Salt Lake City and San Francisco were interviewed about the changes in their sex lives after having children.

Gay Republican loses county council primary race Former Log Cabin Republican president Melvin Nimer lost the Salt Lake County Council primary race to Joe Demma, a former staffer for Gov. Gary Herbert.

Nimer would have been the first openly gay Republican candidate for Salt Lake County Council.

Nimer earned 45 percent of the vote and Demma garnered 55 percent. Demma will face Democratic Councilman Jim Bradley in the general election this November. The Republicans currently control the council by a 5-4 margin.

Lesbian super PAC launches Women, including actress Jane Lynch and Billie Jean King, are launching a super PAC to increase the political power of the lesbian community. The group, called LPAC, will support prolesbian and equality candidates in national and local races as well as some ballot measures.

Conservative group boycotts Google After Google launched a global initiative advocating increased understanding of queer individuals and groups, conservatives at the American Family Association announced a boycott. The antigay group is asking its members to avoid all products managed and produced by the search engine and all its subsidiary sites and products. Conceding the boycott will “test the meat of convictions,” the group is proceeding with its quixotic and idiotic campaign.

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Affordable Care Act advances protections for queer Utahns by seth bracken

Now that key provisions to the Affordable Care Act, or Obamacare, have been upheld, pundits and politicians are debating the impact and affects. Locally, the law could have large implications for the queer community, particularly for those that are HIV positive.

The individual mandate portion of the law, that was upheld in a 5–4 decision, requires every American citizen to have health insurance or be fined. This requirement was necessary to require insurance companies to accept all applicants, regardless of pre-existing conditions, including HIV status. With a larger pool mitigating costs, covering everyone would become more affordable, according to the proposal by the Obama administration.

More than 1.2 million people are living with HIV/AIDS in the United States. More than 30 percent of those are not covered by an insurance provider who can currently deny coverage based on pre-existing conditions. Also, without regulations provided by the ACA, insurance companies are free to charge whatever they want.

Insurance companies routinely extort huge premiums from applicants with HIV and many companies simply say no to all HIVpositive applicants. Also, benefits are often capped and insurance providers can stop paying for life-saving procedures when costs are too high.

While there are various public programs that help thousands, the benefits vary and depend on other factors, such private and public donations. Navigating the existing system can be difficult and the ACA provides a way for all HIV-positive

Americans to receive the care they need, said Scott Schoettes, HIV project director for Lambda Legal.

“The Affordable Care Act will finally allow people living with HIV to access medical advancements made years ago but that have so far remained out of reach to many. With continuing prevention education, early detection, and quality care for everyone living with HIV, we have the power to stem the HIV/AIDS epidemic,” Schoettes said.

However, the Supreme Court ruled against the provision to the law that requires states to expand Medicaid coverage to low-income applicants. While it’s speculated most governors will expand their states’ Medicaid coverage to take advantage of federal benefits, it’s possible that some governors take an ideological stance against the law.

Without the expanded coverage, those that cannot afford private health insurance may still be unable to acquire coverage, Schoettes said.

“This is not a complete victory, because the decision allows states to opt out of the Medicaid expansion that would provide insurance coverage for many low-income people who cannot otherwise afford it.

Our continuing challenge will be to make sure that states opt to expand Medicaid so that more low-income people, and particularly those with HIV, can get the health care they urgently need,” he said.

Despite the Medicaid decision, the ACA also advances queer equality, said Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin. Along with improved protection for

HIV-positive Americans, the ACA enacts nondiscrimination policies protecting against bias based on sexual orientation and gender identity by private insurance companies. Also, information regarding health of queer Americans will be gathered and studied under the ACA. “The Supreme Court’s decision means millions of Americans — including many lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people and their families — will be better served by our nation’s health-care system.

The Affordable Care Act addresses a number of the barriers LGBT people face in obtaining health insurance, from financial barriers to obtaining affordable coverage to discrimination by insurance carriers and health-care providers. While there is a great deal more that must be done to ensure that the health needs of all LGBT people are fully met throughout Insurance companies the healthroutinely extort care system, today’s huge premiums from decision is applicants with HIV an important victory in the fight for health-care equality,” Griffin said in a statement.

Nearly all the queer rights groups that spoke about the ruling agreed it was a momentous moment and an advance in queer equality. National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey called the ruling a victory for LGBT families and said, “It is about making sure everyone has access to affordable health care when faced with injury and illness. It is based on the premise that no one get hung out to dry — to literally die in some cases — because they were denied affordable health care in one of the richest countries in the world.” Q

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Man called gay slur, attacked, outside Salt Lake City bar

A man was called a homophobic slur and hit on the head with a cocktail glass outside a popular Salt Lake City bar, sending him to the hospital on July 8. Jake Allred was outside Maxwell’s in Salt Lake City when a man approached him and asked him if he found some women in the bar attractive. Avoiding the subject, the assailant said, “you kind Jake Allred of sound like a faggot.” The attacker then slammed the glass into the side of Allred’s head.

“I was bleeding all over the place. There was blood everywhere. My pants were soaked, my shoes were soaked in blood, my shirt — everything was just caked,” Allred said. He lost a total of 2½ liters of blood and received more than 20 internal stitches to close ruptured arteries and 26 external stitches.

not as I do Mia Love would slash spending that benefited her education If elected, U.S. Congressional candidate Mia Love would propose a budget slashing more than $250 billion from the national budget, including $2 billion from Utah. Love, who is running against Rep. Jim Matheson, would eliminate food assistance for the poor, school lunch subsidies and special-education aid. She also wants to stop her own college loans, like those she used herself. She also wants to end funds to

During the chaos of the attack, Allred’s friend, Justin Little, said he saw the attacker leave the bar. No suspects have been announced yet and Allred, who is not gay, is still looking for his attacker.

Having policies in place to protect against perceived sexual orientation and gender identity is a priority for Equality Utah, said executive director Brandie Balken.

“We don’t just say these policies are in place to protect gays and lesbians. Instead, the laws protect based on real or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity,” Balken said. “Our goal, and what we always say around the office, is to achieve equality for everyone.”

The investigation is active and witnesses are still being interviewed, said Salt Lake City Police Detective Dennis McGowan.

“We take each case circumspectly and look at all angles. If the possible angle [of a hate crime] comes up in the course of an investigation, that angle will be pursued,” McGowan said. “We have no further information about the investigation we are prepared to release at this time.”

The suspect is described as a muscular

prevent homelessness, including the funds she used as mayor in Saratoga Springs. Not a single penny would be eliminated from defense spending.

Cheney’s lesbian daughter donates to Romney’s campaign Shortly after marrying her wife, former Vice President Dick Cheney’s lesbian daughter, Mary, donated more than $4,000 to Mitt Romney’s presidential bid. Mary and her wife, Heather Poe, would not be able to enjoy the legal and societal benefits of marriage if Romney and many of his fellow Re-

From the victim: He looked to be in his mid- to late-20s, had thin, blonde (almost light reddish) hair. He was between 5’8” and 6’1” tall. He has a light complexion, althletic build, like a rugby player.

His nose is prominant, protruding with a rounded end. He may also have lacerations on his right hand from the cocktail glass. Call Det. Torres at 801-7993421 or anonymous SLCPD tips line 801-799-4636.

white male, in his 20s, 5 feet 10 inches tall with short, cropped blonde hair.

Anyone with information is asked to call the Salt Lake City Police Department at 801-799-3000.

publicans had their way.

But much like conservative gay groups, such as GOProud, Cheney is hitching her wagon to Romney.

Limbaugh bluster

Jan Brewer asks Supreme Court to ban benefits for gays

“Nobody cares what the NAACP thinks because none of it is a surprise. The NAACP is just your next average leftist, extremist group.”

Arizona Governor Jan Brewer has asked the Supreme Court to overturn a ruling that allows state employees to keep same-sex partners on their benefit and health insurance plans. Brewer requested the high court to overturn a decision made by the United States Court of Appeals which stated all Arizona employees deserved equal treatment.

It is amazing that conservative radio host Rush Limbaugh still has a job, and an audience. Here are some of the most recent and most outrageous tirades he’s gone on: “I think it can now be said, without equivocation — without equivocation — that [Obama] hates this country.”

“In Obama’s America, the white kids now get beat up, with the black kids cheering, ‘Yeah, right on, right on’ … Kid shouldn’t have been on the bus anyway. We need segregated buses — it was invading space and stuff.”

“If homosexuality being inborn is what makes it acceptable, why does racism being inborn not make racism acceptable? … We are born that way. We don’t choose it. So shouldn’t it be acceptable, excuse — this is according to the way the left thinks about things.”

[To an African-American caller] “Take that bone out of your nose and call me back.”

“Have you ever noticed how all composite pictures of wanted criminals resemble Jesse Jackson?”

[When a Mexican won the New York Marathon] “An immigration agent chased him the last 10 miles.”

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Civil-union, gay marriage support rising in Utah more than 50 percent of Americans believe same-sex marriage should be legalized.

“In many ways I find [the poll] not surprising. It’s not just Utahns, but Americans, that see the prevention of rights for their neighbors, co-workers and family members as unjust. I think those conversations are helping us see changing attitudes,” said Brandie Balken, Equality Utah executive director. “It also makes sense, considering the religious background of many Utahns, that most are in favor of civil unions rather than marriage.”

Being open and honest about sexuality and gender identity in the workplace and with friends and family can make a large impact on the overall view of queer rights, she said. Changing the perception of those who oppose queer rights may take time, but is possible, Balken said.

“It’s also important that we have protections in the workplace and housing for everyone so those conversations are possible without the fear of repercussions,” she said.

Equality Utah is working closely with lawmakers to pass a statewide nondiscrimination law that would protect against bias based on sexual orientation and gender identity. To sign the petition and for more information, go to equalityutah.org/action.

Support of marriage equality is up seven points and support of civil unions is up 18 points in Utah since 2004, according to a new survey conducted by the Brigham Young University’s Center for the Study of Elections and Democracy.

While 72 percent of Utahns still oppose same-sex marriage, 43 percent support civil unions and 28 percent support full marriage rights. During Utah’s Amendment 3 election initiative defining marriage as a union between one man and one woman, 25 percent of Utahns supported civil unions and 21 percent supported full marriage equality.

More than 70 percent of Utahns now support some form of recognition for gay couples.

A poll taken the month Utah passed Amendment 3, defining marriage as between a man and a woman and restricting civil unions in the state in Novermber, 2004, 23 percent of Utah Republicans were in favor of civil unions. Now, more than 50 percent of Republicans express support.

In 2004, 31 percent of Democrats were in favor of civil unions while 55 percent supported gay marriage. Now, 72 percent of Democrats support full marriage equality for gays and lesbians. Nationally,

GAY MARRIAGE OPINION TRENDS IN UTAH SUPPORT FULL MARRIAGE RIGHTS

SUPPORT CIVIL UNIONS

NO RELATIONSHIP RECOGNITION

ALL UTAH VOTERS

2004 2009 2010 2012

21%

25%

20%

54%

43%

24%

37%

41%

28%

35% 43%

29%

DEMOCRATS

2004 2012

55%

31%

14%

72%

25%

3%

INDEPENDENTS

2004 2012

27%

27%

34%

46% 48%

18%

REPUBLICANS

2004 2012

4%

23%

72%

5%

53%

7% 8%

24%

69%

54%

38%

OTHER RELIGIOUS

2004 2012

44% 60%

29%

28% 27%

13%

NOT RELIGIOUS

2004 2012

66% 76% QSALTLAKE GRAPHIC

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By saying aloud, ‘I think same-sex couples should be able to get married,’ in a televised interview on ABC, he has sparked conversation domestically and internationally. While he is our president at home, globally he’s an icon, a symbol of the promise of America, of the promise of equality. Obama may be the most prominent man on the planet ever, given the pervasiveness of modern media and his anomalous and historic nature as the first black American president; he is surely the single most recognizable head of state on the globe.

By virtue of his unique position, his endorsement of marriage equality is not merely rhetoric. His words constitute action. On the very face of it, his statement is enormous, and has the power to move millions in a way that a statement from no other person could have.”

“

—Advocate editorial endorsing President Barack Obama

A society that is serious about marriage would gently stand up to gay people and say ‘not this, not now.’ Changes in law are hard to undo, once they are institutionalized. I did not decide to debate gay marriage, gay-marriage advocates did. I responded to the challenge. We are making a decision about how serious we are about trying to strengthen marriage as a social institution dedicated to connecting sex, babies, moms, and dads. If we allow gay marriage, the answer is ‘not very serious’ or perhaps ‘we don’t care at all anymore.’ That’s why I oppose gay marriage.”

—Former head of anti-gay National Organization for Marriage, Maggie Gallagher

42%

LDS

2004 2012

Quips&Quotes

24%

10% 20%

4%

SOURCE: UTAH COLLEGES EXIT POLL (2004), UTAH VOTER POLL (2012)

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Today is a big day for hip-hop. It is a day that will define who we really are.

How compassionate will we be? How loving can we be? How inclusive are we?

I am profoundly moved by the courage and honesty of Frank Ocean.”

—Hip-hop mogul Russell Simmons

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‘Sexy F2M Calendar’ sales to help fund reassignment surgeries After receiving dozens of submissions from transgender men, the Sexy F2M Calendar not only features some of the sexiest trans men around, it also helps raise money for a good cause. The creator of the calendar, Aaron Bain, is using the calendar to raise funds for his own chest surgery.

The fiscal calendar runs June 2012 through June 2013 and includes selections of local trans men as well as well-known trans celebrities such as Tristan Skye, the founder of TransQueer Nation and Ian Harvey, a touring trans comedian.

“Instead of asking people for money or complaining that it’s impossible, I am working on a solution that works for me,” Bain said.

The calendar shows trans men in sexy and affirming attitudes.

“A lot of people make hats, or knit scarves and sell them. But I’m just not crafty like that, so I’m doing something that works for me, and that maybe offers something to the community,” Bain said.

“This year, I’m doing this as a fundraiser for me. But I hope to make this an ongoing project and sponsor someone else’s surgery next year.”

While there are some positive outlets in the community and online, there is a lack of affirming photos and media outlets for many trans people, Bain said.

“I am so astonished at the feedback I’ve already gotten from the community. I am so excited about it and so grateful for everyone’s help,” he said.

The calendars are $20 and available through lulu.com at bit.ly/KEOGzl.

Qmmunity Q Day at Lagoon

SAGE Utah Garden Party

Attracting thousands, Q Lagoon Day is one of the best queer activities all summer.

Those attending are asked to wear red to show solidarity with the group. The event has been growing exponentially since it began, and last year it attracted more than 2,500 attendees. Discount coupons are available now at Cahoots, Club Try-Angles, Club JAM, Off Trax and QSaltLake offices.

WHEN: Aug. 5, 11 a.m. to 10 p.m.

WHERE: Lagoon, 375 Lagoon Dr., Farmington INFO: 801-649-6663 or facebook.com/ qsaltlake

Held at the historic & beautiful Memorial House & Gardens in Memory Grove, SAGE’s garden party is the group’s social event of the summer. This summer-chic event is open to all and will include a lovely brunch by Le Croissant Catering and a speech by Jim Dabakis, Utah Democratic Party chair. The event is sponsored by Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders.

WHEN: Aug. 5, 10:30 a.m.

WHERE: Memorial House, 300 E. Capitol Blvd.

COST: $40 INFO: utahpridecenter.org

Out with the Bees The Pride Softball League is inviting Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community to LGBT Family Night Out with the Salt Lake Bees, an evening of baseball at Spring Mobile Ball Park, Aug. 28, 7:05 p.m. A block of seats are reserved for participants and tickets are $10 without food and $20 with food. Fireworks are scheduled for the end of the game.

WHEN: Aug. 18, 7:05 p.m.

WHERE: Spring Mobile Ballpark, 77 W. 1300 South TICKETS: aaron.s@aggiemail.usu.edu

Pocatello Pride After more than a decade running, Pocatello Pride is moving to the Idaho State University quad with family-friendly entertainment, vendors and fun. The queer straight alliance at ISU is working with Ryan’s Rainbow Connection to make Pride a success. Applications for vendors and booths are still being accepted. There is no entrance fee, but donations are encouraged.

WHEN: Aug. 18, 11 a.m. to 9 p.m.

WHERE: Idaho State University Quad INFO: facebook.com/Pocatello.pride

by the numbers 71%

of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender adults own pets, vs.

63% of heterosexual adults

90% 64% $53 4% 2%

of gay pet owners say the pet is a member of the family of gay pet owners have bought a pet a present

billion spent in the pet industry in the United States each year

of U.S. households have pet birds

of U.S. households own horses

Source: Harris Interactive

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So long as Gayle Ruzicka and her ilk make spineless legislators tremble in their panties we will have no progress. We can’t even get them to say gay people shouldn’t be fired or evicted simply for being gay, even with Republican bill sponsors.”

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8 things we heard last month

—Issac Higham on support of civil unions rising in Utah

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QSaltLake Magazine welcomes your letters to the editor.

Please send your letter of 300 words or less to letters@ gaysaltlake.com.

We reserve the right to edit for length or libel if a letter is chosen for publication.

Well, since you can be fired in Utah just for being gay, can you blame them for not being out at work?”

—Brian Johnson on the Utah workers remaining silent about their sexual orientation

Thank you for writing about Gordon. He was my cousin, I didn’t know him but I know his family. I was 14 when it happened and I didn’t know the real story until just a few years ago. His story deserves to be told, he deserves to be remembered. At times I feel like I’m just another gay Mormon kid from Utah, but that in and of itself is something to be proud of.”

—Amie Marie writing about the torture and murder of Gordon Church

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And the world said a collective ‘Duh!’” —Ben Harvell wrote about Anderson Cooper admitting he is gay

Anderson Cooper’s response was honest and open. I respect him tremendously.”

—Jan McClintock Ibarra

Every once in awhile I’m stunned too by the progress we’ve made, especially when I talk with young gays and lesbians and see what a different world they grew up in and now live in.”

—Melvin Dean Baker

letters Howell should support marriage equality Editor, In the July issue, U.S. Senate candidate, Scott Howell, wrote about problem solving.

However, there seems to be a disconnect between what he says and what he does.

There are literally thousands of rights and privileges granted to couples upon marriage.

Yet millions of LGBT couples are denied basic freedoms — from the right of inheritance to the ability to make medical decisions — because we cannot marry. According to Mr. Howell’s website, he supports

Utah’s constitution defining marriage between one man and one woman.

Doesn’t seem like he wants to solve anything to me.

Kelly Huntington Salt Lake City

mia love a Tea-Party Bigot James Humphreys, I have always respected your work with the Log Cabin Republicans. Admittedly, I haven’t a clue how one can belong to the GOP and be queer, but that is a discussion for another day. Today I’m addressing your remarks in Issue 208 of QSaltLake regarding Republican Congressional candidate Mia Love.

I have friends who are residents of Sarasota Springs.

None of them speak of her with any respect. She rules with an iron fist and appears to have no regard for anyone who disagrees with her, or anything other than her religiously biased Tea Party bigotry.

You said, “She’s got the principles down. She is the real deal — more so than any other candidate in the state and probably the nation.”

I guess you need to play nice so the GOP will want to let you in their playground (good luck with that), but come on, really? You just lost whatever respect you once had.

Dominique STORNI Salt Lake City

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from the editor

Marriage equality moves forward

By Seth Bracken seth@qsaltlake.com

Win or

lose in November, the presidential race may not be the race to watch. For the first time ever, there are possible, even probable, victories for marriage equality across the nation — with four states voting on samesex marriage, things are finally looking up for the good guys.

Despite the six fabulous states that already recognize same-sex marriage, all 28 times the question of whether or not to ban marriage equality in individual states was placed on the ballot, marriage equality lost. From California to Maine and Hawaii to Nevada, the anti-gay groups have been well organized and well funded.

But they’re losing ground, and we’re gaining on them.

In Washington the legislature passed a marriage equality bill with the support

of Republicans and a very sympathetic governor. But anti-gay groups gathered enough signatures to challenge the law and put it on November’s ballot. In doing so, the group raised a mere $5,000 a month and racked up more than $100,000 in legal fees and other bills. In contrast, marriage equality proponents have collected more than $2 million in donations and recent polls show marriage equality leading by double digits.

Likewise in Maine, after the state legislature legalized gay marriage in 2009, the issue was challenged on the ballot and lost. But marriage equality proponents are back. Only 35 percent of likely voters said they would oppose same-sex marriage and nearly 60 percent voiced support for equality.

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and polling data doesn’t show a clear leader in the race. But Obama’s recent coming out in support of marriage equality is helping shift opinions in the state, particularly among minority voters. For the first time ever, more than half of black Marylanders said they would support gay marriage, a jump of 20 percent from surveys taken before Obama’s interview.

Minnesota voters will be facing the question of whether or not to change the state constitution to define marriage as a union between one man and one woman.

Every other state facing this question has voted to exclude gay and lesbian couples from rights and recognition. But with a traditionally liberal history and a Democratic-leaning populous, Minnesota could become the first state to defeat the bigoted measure. A recent poll indicated 48 percent of Minnesotans oppose the anti-gay initiative and only 43 percent support it.

Just six months ago, those positions were reversed.

With their time and resources limited, marriage equality opponents are stretching themselves thin this election cycle and whether we have a Romney presidency or another four years of Obama, there’s plenty to look forward to this fall. Q

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thinking out loud

A lesson in fairness by abby dees abby@qsaltlake.com

Last week

I had the privilege of interviewing Mitch and Devynn Stein, father and daughter, on L.A.’s IMRU radio. Devynn is 15 years old and has a new baby sister, Tuolomne, who Mitch and his

partner, Hugo, adopted earlier this year. They are the very example of why same-sex marriage and equal rights matter.

Several months ago, Mitch was fired from his position as assistant water polo coach at Charter Oak High School in

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Covina, Calif., for being gay.

The principal would disagree with that assertion — she’d say that he was fired for inappropriate conduct for a teacher.

It just so happens that the only thing notable about the conduct in question is that it looks kinda gay. Not kinky, not obscene, merely gay.

By all accounts, even the principal’s, Mitch is a great coach. He raised more money for the school than anyone. He led the junior varsity boys team in an undefeated season. He got the pool deck renovated through volunteer support and in-kind donations. He said that it was all to give back to the same team that taught him as a teen to believe in himself and never give up. Despite being fired, he still raises money for the water polo boosters. Devynn is even on the girls’ team.

In a state that guarantees equal rights to LGBT people in the workplace, you may wonder how flamboyantly, outrageously gay Mitch must have been to get himself canned.

He posted a picture of himself on Facebook, dressed but wearing a bit of eyeliner, with a group of lovely drag queens. Oh, and there was also a picture of him eating a hot dog on a stick. The press said it was a corn dog, but Mitch was quick to defend himself: “I don’t eat carbs.”

Charter Oak has no policy on teachers’ use of social media, and the pictures were actually posted several years ago. They came to light when a disgruntled parent, likely upset about disciplinary action taken against his son, delivered them anonymously. Mitch was fired almost immediately, with no investigation. He was told that coaches are held to a higher standard of behavior, and that was reason enough. It was about the kids; it had nothing to do with sexual orientation.

Mitch sees it differently.

“The only thing that these

pictures truly show is that I’m gay,” he told me, a point he expressed repeatedly to the principal and school board.

But their conversations went nowhere, and the school has restated its position since: the pictures were inappropriate and Mitch wasn’t fired for being gay. A court will soon determine who is right, but I’m betting on Mitch, who who’d rather have his low-paying job back than a fat check.

There’s a lot more to this story, of course, most of it pointing to the school’s blatant double standard for gay teachers. But what really caught my attention was how often homophobes use the excuse of protecting the family and children to justify behavior that is actually harmful to families and children. At the moment Mitch was fired, all he could think about was his daughter, Devynn, who was two days away from starting 9th grade at Charter Oak: “I just needed to get out of there and get to my daughter.” He considered only the repercussions this could have on her and was prepared to walk away from the whole thing and send her to a new school. But Devynn insisted that they both stay and fight. She stands by her choice today, as their fight has become publicized, and even after she endured bullying from some kids — though not the girls’ water polo team, who have been totally supportive, she said.

Mitch is standing up for the kids, as he has always done, and Mitch, Hugo, Devynn and Tuolomne all demonstrate that equality and respect are core family values. Meanwhile, Charter Oak is teaching that hypocrisy and fear are OK, and that parents can get their way through bullying too. So who’s looking out for the kids again? Q For more on Mitch check out “Bring Back Coach Stein” on Facebook.

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the straight line

Equality should not be split

By Bob Henline bob@qsaltlake.com

e·qual·i·ty

–

the state or quality of being equal; correspondence in quantity, degree, value, rank, or ability.

Reading

that definition, equality seems like such a simple notion.

Everyone, under law, has the same rights, rank, value, etc., right? Unfortunately, our society has managed to muddle up even a simple definition, allowing a concept such as equality to be sliced up into various degrees.

Think about it for a second.

We have nondiscrimination ordinances that establish employment and housing equality for people based upon race, creed, color, gender, national origin, religion, family status, etc. Some of our cities and counties have added gender identity and sexual orientation to that list, some have not. Our state government has not, nor has our federal government.

Through this election cycle I’ve heard candidates espouse their commitment to the LGBT community, claiming to support equality by supporting nondiscrimination in housing and employment and domestic-partner benefits, but falling short when it comes to marriage. It’s this contradiction that has troubled me the most, especially this election cycle. How can a person claim to support equality while splitting it into different degrees?

If you truly believe all people deserve equal treatment under the law, how can you support a law that defines the institution of marriage as a union between one man and one woman? Doing so creates an inherent inequality under the law, restricting the rights of an entire segment of society, solely upon the basis of gender identity and/or sexual orientation.

Love doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t take a genius to see there

are millions of LGBT Americans in committed, loving relationships. So why, then, does the law discriminate against those people? What have they done to warrant such treatment at the hands of society?

And how is it that a person, any person in general, but a candidate for elected office in particular, can claim to support equality but refuse to support the right of any two consenting adults to express their love and commitment to one another through marriage?

A dear friend of mine asked me if the support of marriage equality should be a litmus test for candidates. I’ve spent a good deal of time thinking it over, and while I can’t tell other people how to make their voting decisions, I can say with certainty that I can’t support a candidate that doesn’t support the full equality of all citizens under the law.

Maybe that’s idealistic of me, but we all have our values. To me, a candidate for any elected office should be committed to the basic principles of freedom and democracy upon which this nation was founded. Remember these words: “We hold these truths to be selfevident, that all men are created equal.” This nation hasn’t always lived up to those words, but it is up to us to work at building a society that does.

With that in mind, I’m encouraging everyone to take the idealistic stand with me. Equality isn’t something that can be divvied out in pieces; it’s a right that each of us shares as a part of this nation. As with all rights, there is also a responsibility we all share.

That responsibility is to help ensure that ALL of us share equally in the rights and privileges of our society. If the rights of one group of citizens can be restricted, the rights of all of us are at risk. Q

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ing home drunk and shooting his wife. He posted a $750,000 bail and was released from jail. The couple had been married for 26 years. “We just got in a fight and I screwed up and killed her with a gun,” he said.

Wife gives husband a ‘surprise’ ending An English woman is charged with luring her husband into bed and stabbing him in the heart after they had sex. Nooshin Nedjah, 30, said she was convinced her husband, Medi Sangachin, had married another woman while traveling abroad. She told her husband she would have a surprise waiting for him when he returned from vacation. After luring him into bed, Nedjah, stabbed him multiple times in the chest. She faces 11 years to life in prison if convicted.

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lambda lore

It’s all Greek to me

By Ben Williams Ben@qsaltlake.com

Well

since this is Lambda Lore, I have decided to write about Ancient Greek Mythology. After all, look at their gods! Good God, they are a bunch of randy muscle bound bisexuals! Who couldn’t love a religion like that?

I was planning on writing about the demigod Orpheus, but once I learned that he was a married bisexual and only took up with twinks when he couldn’t get his dead wife out of Hell, I settled on Thamyris. Now,he was like me, all gay because according to the Greeks he was “the first man to have loved another man” or “Homo numero uno.” (I know that’s Latin and not Greek. Shut up.)

Thamyris was a Thracian by birth, and by temperament, musical. A fashion queen, he liked to dress in the finest Greek chiton tunics to show off his legs, play the lyre and sing, and boast to the young lads who surrounded him that he had surpassed even the Muses in musical ability. He claimed to be the greatest lyre plucker, like ever. He was a true Greek Jimi Hendrix and on top of all this he invented homosexuality! God love him. The record does not show how Thamyris came to invent homosexuality, but probably naked wrestling had something to do with it. That would be my guess.

While reveling in the company of accommodating young men, Thamyris went completely bonkers for this muscular but slim, just starting to sprout a beard, Greek youth named Hyacinthus. He was a “man-dazzler.”

Thamyris, like so many older gay men do to woo younger men, started flashing his cash around. Only there was no cash in Ancient Greece. So instead Thamyris plied the young dreamboat with wine, figs, dates, mizithra cheese, and baklava. Strumming his lyre and singing in strict heroic hexameter style, the older Thamyris seduced Hyacinthus with a “bout of vigorous lovemaking.”

And bam! Greek Active was born! See Grecian Urn for details. Soon it was all the rage in Thrace as well as Peloponnesus.

Now Thamyris and Hyacinthus were going at it hot and heavy for awhile but it was not long before Hyacinthus grew restless.

A story as old as time. Hyacinthus, thinking he could do better than Thamyris, started to become flirtatious with some of the other brawny Thracians. Unfortunately for

Thamyris, Apollo, the god of male beauty and, oh yeah, the sun, also took a shine to the beautiful boy. Things got pretty hot between the two and soon sparks ignited.

Anyhow, when Thamyris heard through the grapevine that Hyacinthus thought Apollo was “just a hunk, a hunk of burning love” he begged him to stop flirting with the sun god, saying he would only get skin cancer. But Hyacinthus liked the sizzling attention of Apollo and subsequently carried on a “protracted love-affair.” It was smoking hot. The lovers clandestinely met whenever Thamyris was away performing his epic on the “War of the Titans.” What an old fool he was to leave the horny youth at home alone!

Well, Apollo decided that anyone as good in bed as Hyacinthus should be a part of his permanent posse and he schemed to take the youth away from Thamyris. Being a god with well-placed connections, he had the upper hand.

When Thamyris returned from his Atticus gigs, Apollo came over and said he wanted to throw an orgy to honor his musical genius. By appealing to his vanity, a gay man’s Achilles heel, Apollo had set a trap.

You see, the boyfriend-stealing Apollo had cleverly also invited the Muse Sisters. (See third paragraph.)

So, like everyone is dancing and singing and cavorting — getting good and drunk — when Apollo enlightened the Muses telling them that Thamyris had disrespected them by claiming he was the superior musician.

The Muses, who were mean drunks, got all up in Thamyris’ face and challenged him to a contest in which the winner chose the punishment for the loser.

Long story short, the Muse bitches won the fixed contest and deprived Thamyris of his musical talents, blinded him and laughed at his tiny penis. Thamyris was a destroyed man and gave up the beautiful Hyacinthus in despair. Poor old Thamyris, who lost his love, his sight and his music, was left to die alone. Moral of the story: Don’t invite Muses to an all gay male orgy.

So now Apollo and the pretty Hyacinthus are listed as an item in the Thracian equivalent of Salty Gossip, but not for long. As happens all too often in these stories karma intrudes, which is really weird because Karma is a Hindu concept.

You see this handsome, winged WestWind god and personification of springtime, named Zephyros, saw the lovers frolicking naked in a meadow and coveted the post-pubescent lad. To say Zephyros was smitten with Apollo’s boy toy is an understatement. He went insane for the “He’s so fine” Greek and became obsessed with the notion that he had to tap some of that.

So one day while Apollo was doing his fiery chariot thing, the West-Wind approached Hycinthus proposing a blow job.

Hyacinthus said “Sure, but don’t tell Apollo.”

So Zephyros whisked the youth up into the sky to copulate, while the entire Thracian populace watched in stunned amazement.

Those were the days before YouTube.

After the pair was orgasmically spent, Hyacinthus had second thoughts about Zephyros, who wanted him to become his regular little NSA buddy. While Hyacinthus was OK with an occasional fling, he drew the line at any kind of sexual commitment to Zephyros, asking “Can’t we just be friends?” Rejected as a lover, Zephyros blew into a jealous rage and blustered, “If I can’t have you no one can!” It wasn’t such a cliché back then.

Later, as Apollo and Hyacinthus were playing nude Frisbee, romping, laughing and frolicking, Zephyros stormed in and solicited a three way. Apollo said, “Screw you,” having witnessed his midair acrobatic antics with Hyacinthus. Apollo was blistering mad so the West-Wind fled and hid in a nearby cypress thicket, and watched in secret as the lovers resumed tossing the Frisbee.

He was kind of a voyeur. With envy and jealousy turgid in his loins, the sight of the lovers jumping and leaping and prancing and mincing was more than Zephyros could bear. He erupted.

As Hyacinthus leapt high, showing off his chiseled six-pack abs, and with perfectly formed arms outstretched, Zephyros blew on the Frisbee.

Well it’s always just fun and games until someone gets hurt, and Zephyros’ prank caused the stone Frisbee (plastic hadn’t been invented yet) to smash into the stunning brow of Hyacinthus, stunning him. Not only did it leave a mark, Hyacinthus was critically wounded! Zephyros, horrified by what he did, took off like the wind as Apollo ran to his lover. The sun god held him in his arm, fed him some ambrosia and nectar he had packed for the picnic, but to no avail. All of Apollo’s sun-drenched kisses and tears were to no purpose either. Hyacinthus was mortally wounded because, well, he was a mortal.

As Hyacinthus bled out onto the ground, Apollo, because he is a god, made a flower from a pool of his lover’s blood as a token of their good times. Moral of this story; Don’t steal other guys’ boyfriends. That flower, created from the blood of Apollo’s lover, is called the hyacinth to this very day and it blooms in spring as a reminder of the beautiful Hyacinthus.

Nobody ever named a flower for old Thamyris. Some things never change. Q

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who’s your daddy?

We’re still standing by christopher katis christopher@qsaltlake.com

On July

31, 1988 Kelly and I hiked Mineral Fork Trail in Big Cottonwood Canyon.

I remember it was really hot and we were dressed inappropriately in slacks and longsleeved shirts.

We followed a small path to a little creek, where we exchanged vows and rings before jumping over a makeshift broomstick. We were married.

And 24 years later, to paraphrase the Elton John song, we’re still standing. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

That’s good news for our kids, because they’re learning cues about their future relationships from us. And as far as I’m concerned, it’s about tolerance — our tolerance of each other. You see, after nearly a quarter of a century together, the little quirks we both have could easily become irritating to the other.

For example, I still find it charming that he labors under the fantasy that he doesn’t snore when indeed his nightly sawing can wake the dead ... in China! Or how he doesn’t like cherries because they have too much flavor. Yes, you read that right, they have too much flavor. How the hell can something have too much flavor?

And I’m sure if you asked him he’d have a laundry list of my idiosyncrasies that would drive him bananas if he didn’t love me so much. Like how at night when we’re in bed, I like to fling my arm around him and cuddle — or as he sees it, “glob onto” him. Oh, and how I pop chewing gum.

Let’s face it, these little habits can doom a relationship if you let them. We’ve all known couples, who have split up because one of them didn’t put the cap back on the toothpaste, or left the toilet seat up.

Actually, that one’s never been much of a problem for us.

But we aren’t perfect. Our boys know that. And we get on each others nerves. Our boys know that too. What they don’t know is that we once found ourselves on the brink of calling it quits.

It was probably 18 or 19 years ago. We had a fight about something — I honestly don’t even remember what it was about. But I know we let it fester. It got so bad that I grabbed a bag and started packing my things. As I tossed essential clothing into a suitcase, we began ad hoc negotiations about who was going to do what to dissolve the relationship we had worked so hard to unite.

Then, in unison, we both barked, “You have to tell Sabine!” Neither of us was willing to make the call to our best friends, John and Sabine. We knew Sabine would cry, and neither of us could handle that.

So instead, we decided to be tolerant of whatever it was we fought about, and stayed together until our love for one another was again as strong as our fear of having to tell Sabine we were kaput.

And all these years later, we’re still standing — quirks and all. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Q

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guest editorial

A mother’s viewpoint

by Leesa Myers

Jay was

in his second year at University of Utah, living on campus. He was becoming more distant and I was scared as hell! I could not figure out what was going on. I remember one Sunday night in October, taking him back to his place and he saying to me that he did not feel like he was a part of the family, my heart tore in two.

Jay and I always had a great relationship. I could not figure out what was so terrible that he would draw away from me.

About a month later, my husband Ken was out of town. It was a good opportunity to spend time with Jay. We made plans for dinner. I wanted to get to the bottom of what was wrong and try and fix it if I could.

As we were served dinner, I looked at Jay

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and could see how troubled he was; I was almost in tears when I asked him, “What is going on, why are you pulling away from the family?”

He said, “I decided that after I finished school, I would move out of Utah and not say anything, just leave.”

I looked at him and in a scared voice and almost in tears asked again, “What is going on?”

“I’m gay.”

“Is that all?”

“I don’t think you understand.”

“I have been in the beauty industry for over 15 years, I know what ‘gay’ is! How long have you known?”

“Since I was around 8 years old.”

I felt so guilty to think how he felt, that even though we had a good relationship, Jay could not tell me he was gay. I knew I had totally baffled him. But there had been times I had thought he was gay. The usual stereotypical thoughts; he hates playing sports; he was fabulous at ballroom dancing; he is so tenderhearted and absolutely creative.

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suffer and I knew my friends that are gay had been hurt and abused by others and by themselves. I did not want this for him.

I kidded with Jay for the rest of the evening, I told him when he got married, I would not be losing a son but gaining another. I asked Jay if I could tell his father and other immediate family; he was nervous but agreed. I also told him as a mother I needed to say these words. “You are in the highest risk group for AIDS and HIV and also suicide is highest among the gay community. Be careful.” As we came to the end of the evening I told Jay I wanted to keep an open dialogue with him, he agreed. It felt good to be open and see some peace in his eyes.

But, I could also see Jay wasn’t yet comfortable talking with me about being gay, and I had so many questions. I did not want to hurt him or make him withdraw from me. I had a dear gay friend that I knew I could call and he would give me guidance and answers to my questions as I supported my son on his path to being himself. Q I would love to hear your story. Leesa Myers, Positive Change Consultant, Leesa@LeesaMyers.com

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creep of the week

GOProud by d’anne witkowski danne@qsaltlake.com

There are

some folks in this world who just don’t understand gay Republicans. I am not one of them. Though, I should make clear that by “understand” I mean “acknowledge the rightful existence of” and not that I can make sense of the whole thing.

But hey, to each his own ... or her own.

Gays are a diverse lot and certainly that’s true when it comes to politics. Yes, the Democrats are “better” on LGBT issues.

Way, way better actually, though, not as great as they could and should be. And compared to Republicans, the Democrats are a non-stop Pride parade.

Still, it’s not a surprise that groups like GOProud, a conservative gay Republican group, exist. But it’s kind of surprising that

What I do have a problem with is an enthusiastic endorsement of an anti-gay president from a gay group. a group formed explicitly by a bunch of gays would “enthusiastically” endorse Mitt Romney for president. To say that Romney is anti-gay is an understatement, no matter what happened in Massachusetts on his watch. He’s renounced all of that and the folks he has aligned himself with will make damn sure he stays that way.

So what gives? Well, apparently if you’re a member of GOProud, gay-rights issues are irrelevant.

According to GOProud’s Executive Director Jimmy LaSalvia, “We think that jobs, the economy, healthcare, retirement security and taxes are all ‘gay issues,’ and on every single one of those issues, Mitt Romney is light years better than President Obama.”

Aww, isn’t that cute? Basically any issue is a “gay issue” so long as someone gay

takes issue with it. Got that?

Never mind that Romney’s policies would no doubt further hurt LGBT families. Take jobs, for instance. Romney won’t even take a stance on equal pay for women, so you think he gives a shit about employment protection for homos? As for health care, there are countless same-sex couples who cannot be on each other’s health care because they’re strangers in the eyes of the law. Retirement security for gays? Ha! They’ll spend it all on lawyer fees. And don’t get me started on taxes.

Just ask a same-sex couple committed to each other for years, even decades, what it feels like to have to mark “single” on their tax return forms.

So yeah, these issues are gay issues, but saying that Romney is better here than Obama pretty much erases the whole gay part. GOProud doesn’t really give a shit about gay issues, unless we’re talking about gays with a lot of money.

Don’t get me wrong. Money isn’t all bad and having a lot of it must be nice. But it certainly does take the sting out of the every day discrimination that the LGBT 99 percent face.

So why be a gay group at all if you don’t think civil rights are important? Granted, LaSalvia acknowledges that the election is “bigger than just one issue.” No shit. I don’t have a problem with that. What I do have a problem with is an enthusiastic endorsement of an anti-gay president from a gay group. It is indicative of some serious self-hatred and/or smug disdain for the issues that the everyday gay faces.

I can’t help but picture GOProud members emailing each other steamy Ayn Rand fan fiction featuring John Galt and Howard Roark. Gay Rights Shrugged, perhaps. And just imagine what fun they could have with a title like The Fountainhead. Who knows? Maybe it’ll become a national phenomenon: Fifty Shades of the Self-Loathing Gay. Q

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sex marriage. Massachusetts Gov. Deval Patrick officiated the ceremony as the couple promised to love one another through Democratic and Republic administrations. Frank, a Massachusetts Democrat, has been open about his sexuality since the late 1980s.

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pets for adoption Athena

Athena is the Greek goddess of wisdom, courage, inspiration and heroic endeavor.

Yep, sounds like the Humane Society of Utah’s Athena (A055283). This tortie is a 2-year-old domestic shorthair who is house-trained, good with other cats and great with kids. Athena is strictly an indoor cat.

We hope you can adopt this goddess, but if you can’t, then please share this information with your Facebook friends.

Duke Duke is a dog’s dog. He loves his canine companions and his humans. He loves them so much that he finds himself dealing with separation anxiety when left alone. This boy needs company. He’s housetrained but since he’s a bit rambunctious Duke does best with kids in their teens. Bring a tennis ball along and come meet this lovable 6-year-old chocolate lab. After all, who doesn’t love chocolate? utahhumane.org.

Personal trainer for peevish pups Move over Cesar Milan, Utah has its own dog whisperer. Owner of the Fabby Awardwinning Dogs R Us, Jeff Peay offers affordable and tremendously effective dog training.

In place of massive classes filled with smart and not-so-smart dogs, Peay offers private training to maximize success and value.

“Your dog will get more out of an hour of private training than he or she ever could in a large class at Petco,” Peay said.

Most dog trainers focus on teaching the animals to respond to treats, but there’s more to it, he said.

“Sure you can get the dog to sit with a treat in your hand. But what happens when you need him to sit when you don’t have any treats?” he said.

While not donning the label of dog whisperer, Peay has won multiple statewide awards and is just plain gifted with animals. His downto-earth personality makes him easy to work with, whether you have four legs or two. dogrusslc.com.

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For PETA’s sake, go animal free From advocating for the defunct animal testing at the University of Utah to suing Davis County to disclose the records of more than 100 homeless animals, People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals is making a difference in Utah. With more than three million supporters, PETA is the largest animal-rights organization in the world.

Locally, PETA hosts protests and demonstrations throughout the year, including protesting circuses and other occasions where it views animals as being abused or taken advantage of, said Ashley Palmer, a PETA spokesperson.

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Utahns who want to be involved can sign up for action alerts at peta.org and find information about veganism, vegetarianism and the ethical treatment of animals, she said.

“PETA’s mission is to make life easier for animals. People can make very simple changes in their own lives like going to the movies instead of the circus,” Palmer said.

PETA also offers help in transitioning to a vegan or vegetarian diet and Palmer recommends finding other people with similar values for support.

“I also think one of the most important factors is to focus on your favorite foods that you can eat,” she said. “There’s so many options that you already love. Focus on those and the process will be much simpler.”

For more information about PETA, go to peta.org.

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In memorium Honey and Steven More than six years ago, a skinny, stray red heeler came into my yard and started playing with my border collie. I adopted her and named her Honey.

She died on Feb. 28 after a short illness. She was one of the best dogs anyone could have. She is missed by everyone who knew her, dog and human alike.

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Brandon, Layne and Lexie We adopted Lexie from Robert Scott Smith and Charles Black when they sold their home here in Salt Lake City. We thought it would be a couple of years as she had been adopted from the animal shelter when she was a kitten and she was pushing 17 years old then! She is still around the house.

Maybe it’s a little spooky, but I have heard her “talk” to me

twice and both Brandon and I have caught her running down the hall, out of the corner of the eye. A neighbor wasn’t aware she had died for a couple of weeks until she asked us why Lexie was so friendly and rubbed against her when she visited. She hadn’t been so active since she had known her. She was a little shocked to find out she had died two weeks earlier.

Douglas & Solomon Sweet little Solomon was born in October 1988 and crossed over in July 2005. He was a Chihuahua that was given to me because no one would take him.

He would fit in my shirt pocket and would go everywhere with me. People thought he was a rat!

He was the runt of the litter and I bottle-fed him and kept him on a heating blanket for the first month I had him. He grew up to be a healthy, happy dog and brought me endless joy.

He was such a loyal, sweet and loving dog and he lived to be 17 years old and then I had to help him cross over. I miss him to this day and always will, but he was just in too much pain to be in his little body anymore. Can’t wait to see him again when I get over there!

Sam and Greg Today was a very spiritual day for my family, friends, neighbors and I as we shared in the passing of my beloved three-legged yellow lab, Sam. Sam was very special in many ways. I adopted him when I turned 40. Sam was six

months old and his right front leg had been amputated. Sam and I participated in the Utah AIDS Foundation Walk for Life several times and one year Sam won first place in the pets category and won second place the next year.

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Animal adoption center opens in Trolley Square For more than two decades, the Best Friends Animal Society has focused on making the world a better place for animals. With programs focusing on animals that are often deemed unadoptable, the BFAS has a new adoption center in Trolley Square in Salt Lake City. Open Wednesday-Saturday, 12-8 p.m., the center offers animals who need a new home and are currently available for adoption.

The BFAS operates a sanctuary in Southern Utah with more than 1,700 animals on 30,000 acres. While mainly hosting dogs and cats, the sanctuary is also home to rabbits, birds, goats and pigs. It’s

open to visitors and each year more than 25,000 people tour the facility and more than 4,500 volunteer.

Adoption fees are $25 for cats and $75 for dogs, with all pets spayed/neutered, vaccinated and micro-chipped.

“We want to encourage people to adopt pets either from stores that offer rescued animals, or from shelters and rescue groups. Every year millions of homeless, adoptable dogs are euthanized in shelters and we want to stop that unnecessary killing,” said Kelli Ohrtman, Best Friends campaign specialist.

For more information, go to bestfriends.org

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Inserting needles in just the right location and depth for pain release is an ancient practice — and it’s not just for humans anymore. The Utah Pet Rehab & Acupuncture Center employs various acupuncture techniques along with other therapy practices to help animal companions recover from physical ailments and neurological issues.

“You’d be surprised at how well the dogs behave. We don’t sedate them and most dogs learn quickly that it makes them feel better. Most are excited after they learn that it helps them,” said Shawna McCall, co-founder of the clinic.

The dogs are treated on a bed laid on the floor, where they don’t have to feel intimidated or nervous and each session will help with pain relief when medications are not working or are causing

undesired side effects. It’s also used when surgery is not an option. Animal companions with arthritis, sore muscles, hip dysplasia, chronic injuries, nervous-system disorders, respiratory problems, nerve injury, kidney or liver disease are perfect candidates for pet acupuncture.

The clinic also utilizes other physical therapy treatments for animals. A unique underwater treadmill helps the animals gain strength without stressing the problematic areas.

Physical therapy and acupuncture techniques have been used on humans for centuries and the same theories can be very effective when used in conjunction with an overall health approach for animal companions, McCall said.

The Utah Pet Rehab Clinic is at 5532 Lillehammer Lane, Park City. For more info, call 435-640-5451 or utahpetrehab.com.

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Put Lazy Woof under your roof Newly opened Lazy Woof is more than just a home-delivery pet food company. The company has a strong focus on social ethics and works exclusively with environmentally conscious suppliers and always with a strong emphasis on supporting the local economy.

The Lazy Woof is owned and operated by business and life partners Jennifer Rigby and Cari Johnson who have years of experience working for other pet supply stores.

“We want to offer personal service and focus on the absolute best products,” Rigby said.

While the food contains meat, it is always humangrade meat and will not just

be the trimmings or other products deemed unfit for human consumption. The Lazy Woof also has an assortment of treats for animal companions who have special dietary needs such as grainfree, wheat-free, potato-free, no additives, no colors and no fillers.

“Instead of merely shipping the products, we’ll cultivate a relationship with our customers to best fit their needs,” she said.

Eco-friendly, gay-friendly, locally owned and animalfriendly, the Lazy Woof is the perfect option for all those looking for a socially conscience pet food supplier.

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14 things you should do this month (More events at gaysaltlake.com.)

By Tony Hobday

i haven’t really been affected by the unbearable heat this summer ... well, except for the sloshing crevice between my cheeks where i found george clooney desperately trying to extract

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It’s the third Friday of the month, so there’s a fundraising evening hosted by camp-drag troupe, The Matrons of Mayhem. Here’s the lowdown on how Third Friday Bingo came to be: It’s the one window of the month through which cohostess Ruby Ridge throws out her “special visitor” and joins society.

The rest of the month she’s under her Strawberry Patch bedsheets sucking on otter pops and bawling at episodes of MTV’s Teen Mom. This month, The Matrons will raise funds for the YWCA shelter while sharing belly-dancing tips and brassiere styles for today’s active, full-bodied ladies. Don’t fret, they also give away fabulous prizes.

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7pm, First Baptist Church, 777 S. 1300 East. Bingo cards are $5.

torrent. Anyhoo, there’s ap-

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parently been a couple brush fires popping up, that have threatened homes and wildlife and mia love’s skin tone ... ok, that was just wrong,

In 1996, at the age of 19, Fiona Apple released her debut album, which has since gone triple Platinum. Two years later she snagged a Grammy for her smashhit single “Criminal.” However, it’s been seven years since her last album, but it seems not to have hurt her career. Released June 19, 2012, the new album, The Idler Wheel, debuted at No. 3 on the Billboard 200. Check her out in concert tonight, I bet it’ll be like having a piece of sweet apple pie.

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a little. Ummm, winter?!!?

Two childhood friends grapple with religion, sexuality and adulthood in ADAM & STEVE AND

THE EMPTY SEA by Matthew Greene, which will receive its world premiere during Plan-B’s 2012-13 season. In advance of that production, a staged reading will be held featuring the cast that will perform in the full production — Topher Rasmussen and Logan Tarantino — as part of OUTReach’s first annual LGBTQ Youth Summit.

1pm, Sheperd Union Bldg., Weber State University, Ogden; and 11am, Saturday, Olpin Student Union Bldg., UofU campus.

Free to Youth Summit and Sunstone Symposium attendees, or $8 at the doors.

For more info, visit planbtheatre.org.

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Back by popular demand, Broadway Rocks adds four top-notch vocalists — LaKisha Jones, Rob Evan, Morgan James and Doug LeBrecque — to the Utah Symphony, performing selections from many of your favorite modern Broadway shows.

In the spotlight are songs from rock-inspired hit musicals such as Mamma Mia, Tommy, Phantom of the Opera, Rock of Ages, Jersey Boys, Dreamgirls, and Rent. The lovely Jerry Steichen conducts.

7:30pm, Deer Valley Snow Park Amphitheater, 2250 Deer Valley Dr. S, Park City. Tickets $32–85, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

Doing their own rendition of the song “Mama Mia” is Arrival — The Music of ABBA. They are considered, in some circles, one of the best tribute bands out there, sharing an experience like no other. Hey, I just realized ABBA spelled backward is BABA, that’s K-OA! Anyhoo, I hear the band fuses two ABBA songs together

called “Does Your Mother Know You’re A Dancing Queen.” Ooooo, scandalous.

8pm, Sandy Amphitheater, 9400 S. 1300 East. Tickets $15–25, 801-4678499 or smithstix.com.

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A straight Mormon deejay who loves the gay scene ... how refreshing and hinky all at the same time, sort of like a Skip and Go Naked. Kaskade returns to Utah, yet again, to bring a little “freak of nature” to Park City.

Ten years on the scene, Kaskade knows how to set the vibe for a wet-n-wild night.

9pm, Park City Live (formerly Harry O’s), 427 Main St., Park City. Tickets $50, 801-467-8499 or smithstix.com.

You may have seen this cute boy in Shortbus or Holding Trevor (and you can soon catch him in his new flick Kiss of the Damned), but not only is Jay Brannan an actor, he’s also a singer-songwriter. He describes his music as “the sound of the angry, sad woman.” No wonder he’s on the soundtrack of Olympia Dukakis’ new lesbian flick, Cloudburst. Just sayin’! ReRea opens.

7pm, Kilby Court, 741 S. 330 West.

Tickets $13, 24tix.com.

3friday

Every year I try to buy a unique piece of artwork at the Park City ­Kimball Arts Festival.

There’s usually something made with fabulous feathers or glamorous glitter or nude dudes, but then I find myself not being able to buy groceries for a month. So, I basically spend 30 days or so staring at my new handblown Judy Garland tea set or whatever, wishing I had something to put in it.

But, I’ll keep going back because it’s just great fun!

Hours vary, through Aug. 5, Historic Main St., Park City. Tickets: $10 weekend pass, parkcitykimballartsfestival.org.

4saturday

Plan-B Theatre Company presents the Utah premiere of 8 by Dustin Lance Black (Academy Award-winning screenwriter of Milk and the 2012 Pride Parade Grand Marshal).

Presented as a reading, part of

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An emopop, punk band from Stillwater, Okla., The All-American ­Rejects was formed, in 1999, by high school buddies Tyson Ritter and Nick Wheeler. The band has since released four studio albums and sold a combined four million copies. You may remember such hits as “Move Along” and “Gives You Hell.” These boys are touring, promoting the new album Kids in the Street, and it should be a fun, high-energy show. EVE6 opens.

The men of debauchery are back ... in leather and harnesses and military boots. Gene just had his harness buffed and polished, so take heed all you submissive types, there’s a masochistic sparkle in his eye. The Utah Rebellion, in its seventh year, will host a Dark Spaces Play Party, Rebel Run in East Canyon, Alley Fair and a bar party.

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6–11pm & Saturday, Noon–11pm, Robber’s Roost, 185 W. Main St., Torrey.

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If your heart just can’t take the terrifying rides like The Bat and Gene Gieber, or if you prefer a loving brunch nestled in a beautiful garden, then partake in the annual Sage Garden Party.

SAGE Utah is a program of the Utah Pride Center dedicated to enhancing the lives of LGBT adults aged 50+ in our community.

The sixth annual Women’s Redrock Music Festival includes, along with fabulous female musicians, a songwriters workshop conducted by Adrienne Gonzalez and Natalia Zuckerman.

The lineup of artists includes American Idol ’s Crystal Bowersox, Raining Jane, Toby Beard, Deb Graham Band and Shannon McNally. Enjoy great entertainment in the high desert of Utah.

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11am–10pm, Lagoon, 375 Lagoon Dr., Farmington. Tickets $35.95 with discount coupon, call 801-649-6663 for coupons.

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It’s that time again to paint Lagoon red. QSaltLake’s Gay Lagoon Day (the Gay is silent, though) returns with another raucous group of homos screaming bloody mary on the Log Flume and in the public bathrooms.

Ah, good times, good times! Don’t forget there will be a group photo around 4pm-ish at the Pioneer Pavilion. Q Lagoon Day T-shirts, that Michael modeled so alluringly on Facebook, are for sale for $15 at the Q Towers office.

10:30am–1:30pm, Memorial House in Memory Grove, 300 E. Capitol Blvd.

Tickets $40, registration required at utahpridecenter.org or call 801-539-8800.

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8pm & Sunday, 2pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $25, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

Now, don’t think this will only be blood-pressure testing and gin rummy — I’ve heard they have activities like Jell-O wrestling, skeet shooting and beer pong.

Damn girl, if this true I can’t wait to turn 50!

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Plan-B’s Script-In-Hand Series, 8 is a docudrama inspired by the passage of Proposition 8 in California and the ensuing federal case for marriage equality. The performances include a post-show discussion with Black and Congressman Barney Frank. Also, a special photographic exhibit by Jim Ready, Frank’s longtime partner and now husband, will be on display.

7pm, Deer Valley Snow Park Amphitheater, 2250 Deer Valley Dr. S, Park City. Tickets $35–65, 435-655-3114 or ecclescenter.org.

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A Voyeur Moment

By Tony Hobday

Have you

ever concerned yourself with what really goes on behind that 28-story granite and glass “Zion Curtain” on the corner of State Street and North Temple?

Well, while likely not welcomed to witness firsthand the finely tuned cogs of the Church of Latter-day Saints daily profiteering, Allen Nevins and Nancy Borgenicht, in all their omniscience, have created a scenario of utmost possibility to the true goings-on within the hallowed halls — and rooted tunnel system — of the LDS Church Office Building.

Saturday’s Voyeur: The Mormon Moment is Nevins and Borgenicht’s

sweetest and most indiscriminate piece of historical theater ever to grace Salt Lake Acting Company’s stage. Ah hell, who am I kidding; it’s nearly identical to watching Alexis Baigue in a warbonnet taking potshots at the Mormon legacy while Church members are gathered at a fireside on the COB’s Observation Deck, chanting “Hasa Diga eebowai!”

I reference Alexis first because he’s a friend, a fine actor and a coveted SV veteran, but I’d be remiss not to mention the rest of the incredible cast of this year’s production, whose contributions to the irreverent, good-natured mudslinging will keep your interest peaked and your internal laugh track switched to ‘ON’. Honestly, liberal LDS members will even crack a smile, if not erupt into a hearty howl; I swear I saw Harry Reid in the audience chortling whilst Godzicka (“Gayle Ruzicka,” Steven Fehr) handled her breasts like a slinky.

Kalyn West (MoHanna), in her inaugural SV stint, is a force to reckon with — not only does her physique corrupt even the gayest of intentions, but her presence is warming and her singing is stellar. Likewise, there has never been a character derived that’s more suited for Austin Archer, who plays Nephi, an awkward nerdy-type, commonly referred to as an “Internet Mormon.” Plus, Archer’s ability to do a jig will fire electrical currents

through even the straightest of bodies.

With it being an election year, and with Mormon GOP Mitt Romney on the presidential ballot, of course this year’s SV would be politically driven. But that’s OK; for those who would rather try to follow a snail across the Continental Divide than try to follow politics, SV doesn’t overplay that hand, even through its decades-long plot.

To appease forlorn romantics, a systematic amorous subplot, on Sub Floor 3 — the Auditing Department, builds between Bud (Trevor Dean), a wanker (like all auditors) and Moremella (Kelsie Jepsen), Godzika’s horny stepdaughter. On Sub Floor 6 — Internal Repairs, there’s a surge of SSAs (LDS minion suffering same-sex attraction) readying for a revolt. Among the SSAs bullied to the depths of Internal Repairs is Brother Fey (Trent Cox). Ironically, and perhaps using that good-natured muddied effect, Cox, 22, also plays the role of Mitt Romney. More ironically, by the third act, Brother Fey is nothing but gone and forgotten.

Yes, the Mormon faith has been an ongoing source of SV’s satirical rant for years, how could it not, really. But you may feel a slight airiness to it this time, as if a sealed window in a stuffy, weary room is finally cracked open. It’s almost as if the show itself extends its comforting arms to the Mormons, saying, “Thank you for letting us pick on you for the last couple hours, we love you! By the way, can the gays march in the Days of ’47 Parade?” Q The show runs through Sep. 2, Salt Lake Acting Co., 168 W. 500 North. Tickets $35–55, 801-363-7522 or saltlakeactingcompany.org.

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An unconstitutional proposition.

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Like rose water and Lysol, an evening with Armistead Maupin is breathtaking according to Maupin; hence the backlash on the author for having written MTL in first-person narrative, unlike all previous incarnations of Tales. Maupin simply explained to the audience, “I wrote MTL in first person because I really wanted to celebrate my generation of gay men. I don’t regret it.”

Then, in 2010, came Mary Ann in Autumn; the eighth installment, in which we find an embittered Mary Ann returning to San Francisco seeking solace from Michael. “Who really is Mary Ann,” asked a fan, hinting to the nonfictional basis of the character, “and what did she do to piss you off so bad?”

Maupin replied with an observation about himself made by a friend: “I think that Michael Tolliver is the person you wish you were, and Mary Ann Singleton is the person you’re afraid you are.”

Maupin and Philo in Rocky Mountain National Park, day four on An astonishing cliffthe Madrigal Mystery Tour hanger in Mary Ann in Autumn, seemingly puts the ex-residents of 28 Barbary Lane on washed walls illuminating him, and read a precipice. Set among present day San from the second chapter in the ninth volFrancisco and 1936 Winnemucca, Nev., ume of his ‘Tales of the City’ series, titled The Days of Anna Madrigal, will open many The Days of Anna Madrigal — the final more windows into the beloved character, book he irresolutely stated, summoning a from her younger years in a brothel to the few dubious chuckles from the audience. ripe old age of 92.

Two decades ago, Maupin believed, after “We just came from Winnemucca, by six books, the series had reached its culthe way,” Maupin opened the evening, mination. “When I left the series in 1989, referring to himself, his husband Chris(the character of) Michael Tolliver was topher and their dog Philo, who’s named found to be HIV positive — at that time it after Philo T. Farnsworth. They were there was pretty much a death sentence. I didn’t researching for the book a place called want the series to end with which ‘the gay “The Line” — an area of Winnemucca man dies,’ because that was the scenario lined with whorehouses, he said. (Decades with so many books, so many movies, year ago it consisted of five brothels in a row, to year to year,” he pointed out. “I wanted and of which only two remain today.) He Michael to sort of be a beacon of hope. I told of the uses of Lysol and rose water, wanted to leave the series with him living “Lysol was sold as a feminine hygiene his life, consuming it and being strong.” product in the 1930s and 40s. It was also Come 2007, Michael Tolliver Lives believed to prevent pregnancy.” He also — however, the book received much suggested to the audience, with scads of criticism. This seventh book was initially enthusiasm, to google “1930’s whorehouse written as a stand-alone from the series,

By Tony Hobday

Having

been in the company of esteemed author Armistead Maupin for a short two hours, on June 23, I left with the sensation of actually having been at a party at 28 Barbary Lane. Housed in an airy gallery located in the 15th and 15th district, Maupin stood over a crowd of 100 or so adoring fans like the gay alter ego of Jesus, the white-

menu.” Which I did and wished I hadn’t.

Maupin’s stop in Salt Lake City was the first in a national tour called the Madrigal Mystery Tour, and which will eventually drop off Maupin and his family to settle in Santa Fe, N.M., via The Burning Man, he said, uprising a roar of laughter from the crowd. The announcement prompted more anecdotes — he reflected on a dinner party he attended and was seated next to “Shirl” (Shirley MacLaine), “... she said [to me] ‘I’m trying to figure out who your gorgeous husband reminds me of.’ So I had to sit there and play the guessing game with her and she finally said, ‘Christian Bale, Christian Bale!’ I said Christian Bale’s an asshole! And she said ‘No, he’s an actor.’” She then preceded to tell me that it was very important to move off the coast because something terrible was going to be happening very soon. And I asked which coast and she said ‘any coast.’”

“So I told this story to Olympia (Dukakis),” Maupin continued, “and Olympia said ‘I’m 82 fucking years old, I don’t have time for the apocalypse!’”

Olympia, whom as it became readily apparent that Maupin holds in the highest of regard, was (and is) Anna Madrigal.

Olympia played the part of the pot-smoking landlady of 28 Barbary Lane in the 1993 miniseries of Tales. “Oly, she went out and hired a transgender consultant for her role,” Maupin told us, “and talked to this women about why she did it and how difficult was it and what emotional journey did she make. She asked ‘why would you go through this process, given that you know how hard it would be to live in this society as that person?’ And she (the consultant) said, ‘all my life, I’ve wanted a friendship with women.’”

Following the reading and spirited conversation, copies of the first two chapters of The Days of Anna Madrigal were put on auction: “Who’s going to help me with the auction, I’ve never sold myself before,” Maupin joked. Auctioned off at $325 per chapter, with the total of $650 plus a percentage of the ticket proceeds benefiting the Trevor Project, the evening ended in great success.

Two days prior to Maupin’s visit to Salt

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Lake City, he was presented with San Francisco’s Silver Cable Car Award. The San Francisco Travel Association, each year, honors an individual or organization that has made a significant contribution to San Francisco’s visitor industry.

“Through newspapers, books, films and the stage, Armistead Maupin has introduced people around the world to a place that is as unique as the person reading about it. In his descriptions of people and places, he imparts a sense of acceptance and tolerance that lets the reader know that all are welcome here,” said Joe D’Alessandro, president and CEO of San Francisco Travel, during the ceremony. “It’s no wonder that so many people say they knew they wanted to visit — or even live — in San Francisco after reading his books.”

In Maupin’s acceptance he said, “I’m so happy to have this opportunity to stand here and thank you, all of you, and this city for giving me my life, for giving me my story, for allowing me to be me, allowing me to find who I was, and for continuing to do that. That’s scornfully referred to as ‘San Francisco values’ in other parts of the country. Here it’s something we’re proud of and you can see it here in this amazing amalgamation of gay and straight and ‘traveling,’ as I refer to it. I’m just so grateful to you San Francisco, thank you so much.

I will always, always consider myself a San Franciscan, no matter where I am. San Francisco made me a citizen of the world.

And I’ve learned this from people who read my books. Even people who don’t come here love it for the same reasons that those of us who live here love it. And that’s why it’s so magical. I’ve very honored.

Thank you very much.”

The Days of Anna Madrigal is scheduled to be published in 2013. Q

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Raining Jane to headline Women’s Redrock Music Festival

By Seth Bracken

Not only

are the girls of Raining Jane cute as hell, they’ve got real chops. They’ve been staples in the indie scene for more than a decade and are returning to Utah for the Women’s Redrock Music Festival, which will be held in Torrey, Aug. 10–11.

Along with local musicians and American Idol veteran Crystal Bowesox, Raining Jane will showcase their impressive lyrical harmonies and melodic musicality with the gorgeous redrock background.

Raining Jane bassist Becky Gebhardt shares her memories of the Beehive State, along with what it’s like to be an out, lesbian artist in the indie industry.

You’ve been to Utah before.

What do you remember about your visits? We have very positive memories and thoughts about Utah. The com-

munity colleges were one of the very first shows we did out of California back in 2004. We drove out there in our van in the middle of winter, so it was not only that we were warmly welcomed by the people of Utah, it was a really memorable moment in our history as a band. We were embarking on a new thing. It was sort of distinct for us. We continue to go back for shows in different cities around the state. It’s really such a beautiful state.

How did you get involved in the WRMF? We heard about it through our friends who have played it before. One of our band members was performing there last year and we think it will be a really great fit for our music.

There is a big queer and feminist presence at the festival.

Are those important causes to you and the band? We love our queer audience.

I think mostly

we love music lovers, people who want to listen and partake in the music experience and a live show. I think playing to a mostly female audience is unique and special and we love it. We love all of it. We don’t make a special effort to play to queer or allfemale audiences, but it’s really awesome when it works out that way.

Do any members of the band identify as queer or lesbian? I do. I am a lesbian. I’ve been out ... let’s see, I came out in college. There were different comings out to friends and family. I guess I came out when I was 18 and I came out to my family.

How is it being gay in the indie scene? I think it might be different for a solo artist or a whole band that identifies as a queer band. I think that it’s different for me. I don’t feel like my sexuality really affects anything. I don’t notice it professionally.

I think being a woman is more obvious. I don’t know if people interpret me as being a lesbian. I don’t know how people read me, but I think there are already challenges for women in the music industry.

How would you describe your music to those that haven’t heard your songs before? I describe us as acoustic indie with a lot of vocal harmonies. I hate trying to describe the sound because it depends on your own frame of reference. But I’d say it’s feel good acoustic indie.

What can you tell me about the Rock n’ Roll Camp for Girls Los Angeles? We started a nonprofit in Los Angeles two years ago. It’s based off an idea of a camp in Portland that was started 10 years ago. The basic concept is a summer camp for girls who form bands and learn music. They all write an original song and perform it live. The camp is really designed to empower girls through music education.

It’s sort of about encouraging girls to have a comfortable space to be loud and make noise and to collaborate with each other.

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teer core for female mentoring.

We know the music industry is still a male-dominated field.

We’re trying to provide more opportunities to learn about who they are.

Is it growing and becoming more popular? It is, we don’t have the capacity to take the number of girls who apply and we don’t even advertise. It’s a small-scale thing and we have about 60 to 70 girls attend each summer. We work out of an elementary school campus.

We really want to make it acceptable to every single girl who would wants to do it and financial support is given to half that attend. Money is not an acceptable barrier for girls to not attend. People really are crazy about it.

You work with Jason Mraz on a regular basis. How is it to work with him? We work with him on an ongoing basis, but we don’t have any songs on his new release. There’s a song we co-wrote with him called “Collapsible” that came out on a movie soundtrack for the film, The Big Fix. It’s a documentary about the BP oil spill.

We started working with him in 2007 and it’s really, really great.

We write with him, so a couple times a year, we’ll go down to his house in Oceanside and be in a studio there and just spend some time writing songs. It’s been comfortable and we have some creative collaborations.

It’s all about getting back to the basics, writing and sharing ideas.

His status is able to help us foray into a large arena.

Any last words for QSaltLake readers? We put out a record last summer called The Good Match. We’ll be playing material off that album as well as some other favorites at the show. We can’t wait to see everyone! Q For more information about the festival and tickets, go to redrockwomensfest.com.

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review ‘Magic Mike’ A shaky moneymaker?

By Tony Hobday

Opening

with a shot of Channing Tatum’s bare ass on the back end (pun totally intended) of a ménage à trois sets a deceptive tone to Academy Awardwinning director Steven Soderbergh’s highly anticipated film, Magic Mike. Though the drama, based loosely on Tatum’s brief six-month stint as a stripper at 18 before making the move to acting, addresses sex, drugs and stacks of onedollar bills in the oiled, penis-pumping world of male strippers, it doesn’t sink like a stone to its acidic underbelly. A taut drama, however sparing lightly on clichés, develops about one man’s desperation to somehow connect outside of his own existence.

Filmed effectively under a cigar-hazed Tampa sky askew the dank clamminess of a loin-ablazed strip club, Magic Mike centers around an entrepreneurial superstud named Mike (Tatum), whose mystique on the stage tends to hold him back in his personal life. Big-hearted, as Mike is though, he takes a sheltered, unskilled 19-year-old (Alex Pettyfer) under his wing, quickly finding a proverbial fresh-meat lapping on “The Kid” when he pushes him onto the stage after Tarzan (WWF’s Kevin Nash) passes out backstage, putting a damper on the evening’s all-male revue. (Didn’t something similar also set the stage in Cabaret.)

“Hey Mike, I think we should be best friends,” The Kid heartily offers in hindsight.

The Kid’s protective older sister Brooke, richly played by Cody Horn, struggles internally between being disgusted by Mike’s recruitment of her brother and intrigued by his spirited charm.

Even while becoming akin to Mike’s aspirations, Brooke keeps him at arm’s length, and still yet trusts his testimonial on behalf of her brother’s well-being. This, however, is an example of where the film is flawed. Reid Carolin, in his first produced screenplay, lacks in delineation of his main characters’ drive — and because I was so intrigued by Horn’s performance — particularly in Brooke. A string of events over a mere three month period, damages a seemingly rooted brother-sister bond with no more compassion than a shrug-off.

Plus, other than the minimal development of The Kid’s character into the dark side of stripping, and the uneven flirtation between Mike and Brooke, there is little more presented about the characters — other than Matthew McConaughey as Dallas, the owner of Club Xquisite with an I’m-hot-as-shit swagger, which obviously is not a stretch for the typecast actor (refreshingly, this time there’s a wide-eyed goofiness and a guitar used in it), the supporting cast of strippers, known as the “Cock Rockin’ Kings,” are basically nonexistent — but yes, you’ll enjoy ’em when you see ’em!

Tatum could possibly have been the defining influence over Soderbergh, who recently directed Tatum in Haywire, for taking on this project. And he is its saving grace ... well, other than Tatum’s mesmerizing presence. What I like about Soderbergh is he can get his cast to pull the rawness, the mundane, the essence out of any character and uses them as a treble, securely hooking the audience. You may not be surprised by where the story doesn’t go in Magic Mike, but you’ll nonetheless appreciate the journey to some degree ... please, hot male strippers, of course you will. Q

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Moving on up Dance prodigy Travis Wall talks new series, his first big movie and the challenge for gay dancers by chris azzopardi

So he

thought he could dance, and he can, but Travis Wall didn’t stop there. The 24-year-old has his own dance company, a start-up that’s the focus of Oxygen’s new reality series, All the Right Moves. The eight-episode stint follows Wall and his bendy buddies — Teddy Forance, Nick Lazzarini and Kyle Robinson — as they go through business challenges, power struggles and friendship drama.

We caught up with the So You Think You Can Dance contestant-turned-choreographer, who dished on his roommates, his first big movie and why gay dancers shouldn’t dance gay.

What’s it like living with these guys? We’ve been living together for two years now and it’s been something else!

(Laughs) We’re brothers from another mother, and we go through life together and support each other. Two are gay and two are straight on this show, so it’s cool to see how we live as one and how it doesn’t really matter.

Who’s the most competitive? We’re never really up for the same job, but it does get a little competitive in the house sometimes.

room. When I have time to clean, I have to clean up everybody else’s mess. Kyle’s the handyman. He’s the guy who, like, fixes the lights. (Laughs) Is All the Right Moves actually reality?

It’s our lives. [The network is] a fly on the wall. We’d have a dance company regardless of whether we have a TV show or not.

What will surprise people about the dance world that you guys are living in during this show? What we have to go through starting this dance company from the ground up with no money — you see the whole process. We have this huge goal but absolutely no way of getting it done. I saw the first episode — it’s so surreal. I was biting my nails. It’s definitely suspenseful and emotional and also there’s beautiful dancing. You get everything in one little package. It’s really good TV. How much of your relationship with Dom Palange will be part of the show? Not as much as I wanted because he’s in Miami. It’s long distance. He comes

in halfway through the season, but I definitely talk about him as much as possible.

Has having a dance company always been a dream of yours? Yeah, I always wanted one. I’ve always wanted to have my own TV show, too! (Laughs) You really have done so much for as young as you are. What new goals have you set now that you’ve accomplished your other ones? By the time I’m 31 I want to move into directing and producing and choreographing my own movies, productions, events and shows. There’s so much more room for me to grow in this industry, and I can’t wait to take those steps. And hopefully by 32, I’ll be ready for a child.

I set high goals. If someone would’ve told me seven years ago, “You’re going to have your own TV show, your own dance company, choreographing all these movies and things,” I would’ve slapped them in the face and said, “Yeah, right.” But I did.

With your new series, and ones like SYTYCD and Dancing with the Stars, dance reality shows are all the rage.

Why does dance make for good reality television? Good question. It’s emotional and [viewers] want to see what people go through; they want to see people work through

The messiest? In the beginning we were all pretty good about keeping it together, but everyone kind of gave up. Right now my room is such a mess because I’m always trying to clean up the kitchen and the living

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Many public figures stay closeted because they don’t want their sexuality to define their profession. Is that an issue within the dance community? I don’t think people think of me as “Travis Wall, that gay dancer.” It doesn’t define my work. For guys, it’s different if you’re gay and can only dance gay.

As a male dancer, you have to be strong and masculine. I think it’s terrible when a guy is dancing with a girl and the guy is dancing girlier than the girl. I absolutely hate that, and I won’t hire them.

You have to do your role as a male dancer. What you do outside of those doors is your own business and your own thing, but don’t let that define who you are as a dancer.

their problems and aggressions. And dancers are really nice to look at! (Laughs) It makes people feel good because a lot of people don’t know how to dance the way we dance, so they admire it.

With this [show], you see me 100 percent completely bare, and you see why I dance and why I choreograph, and you care about it more.

One-hundred percent completely bare? This is on Oxygen, right? (Laughs) Yeah. You know what I mean!

You got your start in the business when you were 9, in a Dr. Pepper commercial.

What do you remember from that experience? It was my first time in front of a camera, and I realized then that I wanted to be in this industry. I was more interested in what was going on behind the camera — the choreographer, the director — I loved that and I’ll never forget that. I moved to New York at 12 and did a Broadway show and I’ve been working ever since.

I really owe a lot to SYTYCD for the exposure I got on that show, which led me to so many more opportunities. I don’t know where I’d be today in my career if I didn’t get my start on that show.

What inspires your choreography? Usually personal life stories of my own. And I have really vivid dreams a lot of times and I live my dreams full out. I sometimes don’t know when they’re real or not. I dream every night, so there’s a lot of images I take from my dreams.

What’s the last dream you had that inspired a routine? For the top-10 girl piece (on a recent episode of SYTYCD), I had this dream I was lifted out of my body and I couldn’t move. It was really weird.

It wasn’t like I was dying or anything; it was just that I was paralyzed and couldn’t move my body and I was floating above toward this white light. It was pretty crazy.

Are you glad you came out the way you did? Do you think that’s the best way to come out if you’re a public figure? I don’t really know. This is what’s so crazy: I never PHOTO: OXYGEN

thought I was “in.” I never had press to talk about it. I wasn’t ever hiding anything. I guess when I got verbal about on it Twitter people were like, “Travis is out.” I’m like, “When was I ‘in’?” I did SYTYCD and disappeared from the public eye because I was working on choreography and I didn’t really ever think I was a big enough public figure to say anything. I didn’t think it was a big deal.

Have you ever felt pressure to ever stay “in” professionally? No — god no!

What did you think of Benji Schwimmer, fellow contestant on the first season of SYTYCD, coming out recently? When I heard, I texted him right away to say, “I’m so proud of you.” He’s coming out of a church; I never had to deal with any of that. To take that step to come out — and not only that, but speak about what his church says about it — I’m so proud of him, because it’s about time he did it, and I wanted him to do it for so long. I think if everyone came out of the closet these days, the world would be so much better.

Did you know he was gay when you were competing against each other? I mean, come on! You know when you know.

(Laughs) I knew on the show, and we briefly touched on it while we were on tour.

How did your part in Step Up Revolution — as choreographer — come about? Adam Shankman hired me, but the best thing is that Jamal Sims — the supervising choreographer — brought me in as a choreographer. He actually made me choreographer on this movie, and I haven’t even been an associate choreographer on a movie. To get full credit on my first movie, I was so thankful.

A lot of people in the industry wouldn’t have done what he did. I loved working on that movie. I saw it last month and think it’s completely different than every other Step Up movie.

How is choreographing for film different than choreographing for TV? I love movies, because you get to show your point of view and get the shot that you want to get — and it’s a movie! But we only had two weeks for all the routines. Here I thought, “Oh, it’s a movie, we’ll have all time to choreographer this movie!” And ... no. (Laughs) If you could choreograph for anybody, who would it be? I would love to create a visual show to Jason Mraz music. I love Jason’s music so much. And if I ever got to work with Beyoncé — it’s a lifelong dream and I would probably freak out and shake my ass.

Ass-shaking is probably part of the interview process. Yeah, probably! (Laughs) Q

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fashion

Summer music festivals: What’s a girl to wear?

Finding

a favorite local designer and shop helps your wardrobe in the most unique trends while supporting a burgeoning Salt Lake City fashion scene, said Q Clothing co-owner and operator Amber Espanet.

“We’re seeing a lot of bright colors in everything from jeans to T-shirts,” she said. “And sundresses with bright prints are perfect for a music festival,” Espanet said.

A longtime supporter of local music and queer

events, Espanet has all the best designs to help women make the most of experience at a local music festival, farmers market or date.

Stop by Q Clothing on 215 E. 300 South, or visit qclothing.com for more information. We’ve collected just some of the looks that are available at the local boutique.

So remember, go bold, go bright, go local and go shopping.

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Lingerie boutique offers sizes and environment for all Finding

a queer-friendly local shop to purchase lingerie, bras and other clothing items in Utah can be extremely difficult. Finding one in Davis County was near impossible. That was, until Pretty You Boutique opened on 11 N. Main St., Kaysville. Owner and operator Christy Allen provides a unique and inviting atmosphere for everyone, regardless of gender identity, size or shape. With custom bra and lingerie fittings and an enormous selection of sizes, styles and colors, Pretty You Boutique is an ideal shopping destination for any Utahn, especially those who identify as women or who enjoy wearing bras and panties.

“We simply offer outstanding service and a terrific collection of items,” Allen said. “We have a large variety of bras and panties that men and women can wear. You don’t have to be nervous about how you’ll be received here.”

Christy said she has some customers who identify as transgender, others who are cross-dressers and some men who just like to wear feminine underwear and bras. But none of that matters to her. In fact, she is one of the only suppliers in the

region of Homme Mystere, lingerie designed by men, for men.

“My store gives clients of all genders a classy, up-scale experience without prejudice. There’s no sneaking through the sales racks with sales people leering at you or talking about you after you leave,” Christy said. “Everyone is treated as a person who needs lingerie.

Bras are bras are bras. I don’t judge customers. It’s not my place. I just want my customers to have the best fitting lingerie possible and a large selection. Department stores don’t cater to such experiences.”

In addition to the impressive collection, Christy offers extremely personalized customer service. Focusing on size, fit and comfort, she also helps find the best colors and patterns for each customer’s taste.

A former member of the military, Christy has traveled the world and is excited to have a chance to show that Northern Utah has resources for queer Utahns.

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SOUR (Josh Jones): Mario Batali is gay and so am I. Knowing Meditrina, the bar is set high for another restaurant from Jen Gilroy and Amy Britt. They’ve survived in an unlikely location, a down economy — all while serving tapas before they were trendy.

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So we expected the same level of inventiveness and unique flavors at their new breakfast/ lunch diner, Pig & A Jelly Jar. SOUR: I’d like it to be Pig In A Jelly Jar. That pig lubricating himself up in a jelly jar, you know?

SWEET: I was a bit nervous when I thought you invited me to put my pig in your jelly jar.

Still, it was better than that supposed lunch at “Hot Dog in my Hallway” or “Teabags and a Salad Bar.” It’s not high-concept like Faustina or Wild Grape, nor is it a traditional diner like Lamb’s Café or Ruth’s Diner. It’s somewhere in the middle, with delicate ingredients like strawberry coconut jam and homemade sausages. Most condiments are done in house, even the amazing tartar sauce. SWEET, who has been known to chow down on some fish from time to time, said it was the best tartar sauce he’s ever had.

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SWEET ate it and he still has garlic burps four hours later.

(I can smell it). The bacon/ onion/jam and blue cheese, as advertised on the menu, is lost to the garlic.

The sausage in the chicken apple rosemary grinder was very good, but SOUR complained the meat was too small for the bun — that’s a problem he often has.

SOUR loves chicken and waffles, but we found the chicken to be as well-used and dry as a Republican cruising Rentboy.com while the waffle was as moist and dimply as the rentboy himself.

The maple-brined pork chop was thinly cut and excellent with a sweet glaze, sided with perfectly cooked, fresh local eggs and well-seasoned fries.

One high for SOUR (among many he’s had in his life) were the hand-cut fries that were salted and cooked perfectly. Finally, the carrot cake cupcake was both moist and delicious, (despite SWEET’s insistence that he doesn’t like nuts in his mouth).

SWEET and SOUR both agree on one thing: the service from Michael and Rachel was impeccable, knowledgeable, timely and was full of all the cheerfulness you’d want from a

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morning server.

SOUR: Wait! We’ve forgotten the most sinful item! The peanut butter, jelly and bacon sandwich.

SWEET: I’m telling you, it makes me feel like Elvis.

SOUR: Yup! It makes me feel like I’ve had regretful bathroom sex at the Trapp. So good and so bad.

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SOUR: Ultimately, Pig & A Jelly Jar is like that really good friend who is charming and smart but you just can’t get it up for.

SWEET: We’ll be back! Sooner, rather than later, and I hope the menu has become a bit more adventurous.

Price: This place is cheap!

Everything is between $4 and $12. They also have beer, wine and beer-cocktails.

Hours: Spectacular — Salt Lake City has needed a place that is open for breakfast.

From 7:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. every day. Also open 5:30–8 p.m. on Sunday evenings for Sunday Supper. Mary B. Malouf says it’s great, so it must be.

Location: Comfortably located at 401 E. 900 South SOUR’s gay-friendly meter: Palm Springs Sauna! Q

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white’s wines

food& drink

When the weather warms, keep wines cool

By David White

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the nation is still recovering from a brutal heat wave that shattered thousands of records and forced millions to stay indoors, cranking up the air conditioning. The impact of

I politely noted the sweltering heat, and suggested that guests would prefer cool wine — which would quickly warm once poured — to wine that had been sitting in the hot sun all day.

such weather on wine was on full effect last weekend, when I attended an outdoor party on a 100-degree day. I arrived to the event a few hours early, as my friend had asked if I could bring a few cases of wine.

When I pulled in, I was thrilled to spot the caterer, who was already filling large coolers with ice.

She quickly took the white wines and threw them in the coolers. The reds, though, remained on a table, baking under the hot sun. So I asked how I could help, offering to put the reds in a refrigerator or toss them in a different cooler.

She looked at me like I was insane.

“I’ve been doing this for years, and I’ve never heard of chilling reds,” she declared, incredulously.

“Well, you’re the expert,” she answered, proceeding to put the reds on ice. “But I’ve always been told that red wines are served at room temperature.”

And there it was, the world’s most pervasive wine myth. The notion that reds should be served at room temperature is why most people — and even most bars, restaurants, and caterers — serve red wines too warm.

Before the advent of thermostats, homes were much cooler than they are today. So serving red wine at “room temperature” made sense — it still made for a refreshing beverage. Today, most Americans keep their homes at about 72 degrees. At this temperature, alcohol is more obvious, which distorts the aromas and flavors of a

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wine. Warm wines generally seem rough, unstructured and alcoholic. These traits only get worse as a wine heats up.

Conversely, most white wines are consumed when they’re too cold. Most consumers serve whites straight from the refrigerator, and most restaurants serve them straight from an ice bucket. Serving any wine at such low temperatures will mask its flavors.

Fortunately, you don’t need a fancy wine refrigerator to serve wine at its optimal temperature.

If you’re drinking a red wine, pop it in the fridge for 20-30 minutes. If you’re drinking a white wine, pull it out of the fridge about 20-30 minutes before you’re going to drink it.

As wine critic Bill Ward recently explained, “Basically, all wine should be chilled, but not too much, and served between 43 degrees (sweet or crisp whites, bubbly) and 65 degrees (hearty reds).

Richer whites (Chardonnay) and lighter reds (Pinot Noir, Gamay, Cabernet Franc) fall in between.”

Temperature doesn’t just matter when serving wine, it also matters when storing it.

If you’re looking to hold onto a special bottle for a long time, most experts agree that it should be stored somewhere cool and dark — wine cellars are typically kept at about 55 degrees. This allows a wine to develop slowly and predictably, hopefully becoming more complex and interesting over time. Wines stored at higher temperatures will age more quickly and can develop off flavors and aromas.

It’s also worth noting that wine is perishable and can spoil very quickly when exposed to extreme heat. This was another concern of mine last weekend.

Like ice cream, wine can be destroyed when left outside — or even worse, in a car — on a hot summer day. If a wine is just slightly “cooked,” the damage will be hard to perceive; it will just seem a bit dull.

When a wine is more noticeably heatdamaged, it’s marked by aromas of stewed fruit and burnt sugar. When heat damage is severe, the wine will expand inside the bottle, pushing out the cork and breaking its seal, thus spoiling the wine by exposing it to too much oxygen.

Already, it looks like this might be the hottest summer in history. So keep cool.

And don’t forget to chill your wines. Q David White, a wine writer, is the founder and editor of Terroirist.com. His columns are housed at Wines.com, the fastest growing wine portal on the Internet.

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DJ Brady Turville rises through the ranks

Sexy and

new to the Salt Lake club scene, DJ Brady Turville is a guest disc jockey at Metro Bar; his infectious smile and beats are enough to bring out crowds. He’ll be spinning at Metro Bar, 540 W. 200 South, on July 21. We caught up with him to hear about his inspirations and what it would take to catch his eye (Think True Blood and Law & Order).

You’re new to the scene. How did you get started? I’ve been putting together compilation CDs of house music for years for my friends. Anybody that knew me knew my passion for remixes and music. I became really good friends with the promoters of Metro Bar and expressed to them my passion for music and made them aware that I had been practicing my disc jockey skills and that I wanted to express my style of music. I asked for one opportunity to open for Metro Bar for an hour to show

them and the community my style.

They gave me my opportunity and I (along with the bar) received amazing and positive feedback. I opened up for Metro a few more times and shortly after I was given the opportunity to have a full night set. The crowed loved my set, they loved my energy and I’ve been spinning at the club on a regular basis ever since.

my music as happy, high energy, surprising and exciting. As much as I love today’s greatest hits, I love to throw in a lot of old school songs and mixes that anybody in the gay scene will know, but they may not have heard in a while, songs that will take you back five, 10 or even 20 years, to a place and time with great memories. I love to keep old-school remixes alive.

Who are your musical inspirations? Most of my inspiration must be given to my most favorite singing group of all time, Ace of Base. After becoming obsessed with Ace of Base in the early ’90s, I had a major passion for dance music. My biggest DJ inspirations and those I admire the most would be Almighty, Cosmic Dawn, Dave Audé, Wayne G., Joe Gauthraux, Wideboys, Alex Dubbing, Freemasons, WaWa, Cahill and others.

What do you find sexy in a man? There are three major things I instantly find sexy in a man. First, someone who is older.

Second, someone who gives off a masculine vibe. And third, someone who is physically fit — into health and wellness.

How would you describe your own style? I would best describe

If you could have sex with any celebrity, who would it be and why? It would have to be Christopher Meloni from Law & Order SVU. He’s attractive, masculine, fit, older and not to mention he has a fantastic personality. Yum! Q

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Dark Side, Kelly Clarkson (Liam Keegan Club Mix)

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Hit The Lights, Selena Gomez (Dave Aude Club Mix)

Give Your Heart A Break, Demi Lovato (Alias Club Mix) Call Me Maybe, Carly Rae Jepsen (Almighty Club Mix)

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Under the sheets

By Anthony Paull anthony@qsaltlake.com

I’m not

sure what to do with my girl, Jackie. Her boyfriend recently taught her what it’s like to go anal, and now she’s convinced that she should have been born a gay man. “I get why the majority of you bottom,” she tells me. “That’s powerful stuff, the best thing to happen to my life since the morningafter pill. I feel reborn.”

To celebrate, she wants to talk about it every time we meet. I’m usually up for it, but it tends to become awkward when we’re sitting by school kids at Starbucks.

I flash Jackie a warning with my eyes.

“Please. Like they haven’t tried it,” she scoffs. “So tell me, what do the gays do to prepare for such an event?” Excited, she wiggles in her seat. “I mean, organically.”

Now, Jackie’s never been one to be PC or beat around the bush, but this type of questioning seems out of place, even for a young lady who forgets to wear panties to the office just to give her pervert manager a reason to go home and bang his wife.

(She considers it philanthropy.)

“Seriously. Can we talk about this another time?” I ask.

“Why?” She seems miffed.

“Because.” I pause for a breath. “You can’t bring up anal like it’s the weather.”

“Why not? I thought that’s what gays live for.”

I choke down my latte, eyeing our audi-

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the dating diet ence of teen and elderly coffee lovers. “Yes, but it’s not an everyday thing. Think of it like ... a holiday or a special occasion.”

“Like the sun coming up? Who are you kidding? You take it every chance you get.

Now, what’s the secret to a fast, clean ride?”

I refuse to answer, finding a reason to exit the conversation, only to receive a phone call later in the week. This time, Jackie is more subdued, able to convey what this nonsense is all about. “I know.

It’s weird. But it brought a spark back to my sex life with Ben,” she explains. She states that since the new technique, the two have engaged in sex at least four times per week in the last month. Compared to the once-a-week rhythm the couple had settled into, the sudden burst of activity has been a nice change. That is, until two days ago, when the interest suddenly died.

“It’s like he’s over it,” she confesses. “I can’t be loose in one month. Can I?” “I don’t think that’s the issue.”

“Well, what else could it be?” she questions. “Look, can you do kegel exercises with your ass?”

The next time we have coffee, she sits awkwardly, half-off her chair, like she’s in pain. Her face turns an odd shade of red.

“What are you doing?” I question.

“Clenching,” she says, breathing like she’s taking a Lamaze class. “I read about it online. It’s easy. Just like blotting your lips.

Ooh, ha, ha. Ooh, ha, ha.”

I wonder if she’s about to birth a turd.

“That’s not sexy,” I advise.

“It’s not supposed to be. It’s just prep work, squeeze and release, squeeze and release.” Her hand falls across her face, covering her eyes, as if she knows just how desperate she appears. “Don’t laugh.

I’m out of ideas, and I’m trying to save my relationship.”

I hold my tongue, fearing I’ll allow something to slip that isn’t supportive. It’s clear Jackie needs me to remain positive, so I allow a moment to pass, then plant an idea in her head, wondering aloud if there’s something she can do outside of the bedroom to bring her closer to her boyfriend. “What connects the two of you besides sex?”

Jackie ponders the thought, arriving to the conclusion that she hasn’t actually tried to learn much about Ben other than the rate at which he can ejaculate. It’s been their safety blanket, learning about one another under the sheets instead of covering the ordinary bases: play dates and excursions out of town. The two met in a pub and had sex in the men’s bathroom before last call. Following the Big Bang, busy careers have allotted them few hours of leisure, leading them straight to the bedroom when they meet up. Jackie admits she had to take a pic of Ben sleeping to prove he exists to certain family members and friends. “Sometimes, I don’t think he’s real either,” she reveals. “He’s like a ghost, only able to appear in the dark.”

To shed some light, Jackie promises to find time during waking hours to take him out. She wonders if they’ll click without dick in the equation. Can she clench his heart with more than body parts? Would he mind learning about her mind?

A week later we meet for coffee and she takes a seat, normally, chatting about her first official date with Ben. They had gone canoeing and bicycling. She’s still sore from the exercise, but this time there’s no huffing or puffing when she speaks. In fact, she only loses her breath once, when Ben surprises her with a call, asking if he could join us. Minutes later, he takes a seat at her side, meeting me for the first time. Q

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College boy, low on funds - 20 (Salt Lake City) A local Craigslist escort shares his story

By Seth Bracken

It was

an innocent start.

He didn’t think of it as prostitution — an older male companion was just helping him pay some bills.

It started like any other Craigslist hookup. Stats were exchanged, along with a couple of decent and indecent photos, and eventually Jose Alvarez met up with his date. Alvarez confessed some of his financial woes as the two shared a post-coital cigarette in a plush hotel bed.

“He handed me $20 as I left. He told me it was gas money,” Alvarez said.

He saw his friend again the next time he was in town. The gas fund went up to $50.

“I guess most people would consider me a prostitute. I don’t like it much, but no matter what we call it, it’s still illegal. I know that,” Alvarez said.

His family came to the U.S. illegally when he was 15 years old. Shortly after, his parents separated and his father moved to California, never heard from him again. Two years ago, when Alvarez was 18, his mother died and with all extended family still in Mexico, he was faced with tough decisions and mounting bills. He didn’t have a high school diploma or a social security number.

Weighing in at a mere buck twentyfive, his dark brown eyes and extraordinarily long eyelashes are deep and serious.

His slim frame exudes sexuality and he could easily be mistaken for a young Mario Lopez. Despite his shockingly good looks and congenial attitude, many accuse him of being unintelligent, lazy or a drug addict.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Alvarez is incorporated and officially recognized as a temporary executive assistant. He accepts cash, check and credit cards and his services can be billed as a business expense.

“I sell my time. Just like a secretary, accountant or businessman. What you

and I decide to do during that time is not up to anyone else, we get to decide that,” he said.

On business receipts, the LLC (limited liability company) looks official and even suspicious wives would be none the wiser, Alvarez said.

“I am happy with my life. I know people won’t understand or believe that.

But it’s true. I am very happy with me and with my life,” Alvarez said. “I just have to face some different problems than most others.”

Along with protecting against attacks and theft, Alvarez is constantly guarding himself against sexually transmitted diseases.

More than 10 percent of prostitutes in the United States are HIV positive, and in some areas, such as New York, the rate jumps to more than 55 percent, according to a study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control.

This is a tricky statistic to really nail down because it’s so difficult to track

down and test those involved in prostitution and only a fraction of those paying for services were tested, as very few are arrested. The study found some areas, such as parts of Nevada, where prostitution is legal and regulated, the infection rate drops significantly. In fact, of the 34 escorts surveyed in Las Vegas, none of them were HIV positive.

The National Task Force on Prostitution suggests that more than 1 million Americans have worked as prostitutes and about 20 percent (or 200,000) of those are men. More than 70 percent have been raped more than once in the last year and less than 10 percent of them will ever report it to authorities. The NTFP estimates that 5 percent of rapes and sexual assaults of prostitutes are perpetrated by police officers.

“The dangers on the streets and online are very real,” said Salt Lake City Police Sgt. Shawn Josephson. “I’ve seen emotional damages as well as physical damages. Those engaged in prostitution are much more likely to be involved in drugs and are often abused by others.”

While the SLCPD does not investigate or charge male prostitutes differently than females, it is becoming more and more difficult to make arrests, he said.

“Everything is online and people are even advertising in magazines,” Josephson said. “We are actively pursuing investigations and other operations, but it’s difficult.”

Everyone enters prostitution for different reasons, and not all of them are due to financially desperate times. Greg, an escort from Las Vegas, said he used escorting as a way to achieve greater independence.

“I remember my first really successful weekend where I made around $4,000 in a single night,” Greg said. “The feeling was indescribable. I’d never felt so good in my entire life.”

However, there are dangerous and un-

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usual situations, including the time one client asked him to put on a comic book character costume and act out a scene. Or the time he was caught in a strange love triangle between friends, spouses and traveling companions.

He’s also had stalkers and people try to take advantage of him during meetings. But the Ohio native and seven-year Las Vegas resident developed a system to protect himself and now he’s sharing that with others. His blog, how-to-be-a-male-escort.com is designed to help others navigate the career and avoid some of the common mistakes.

“It’s a lonely profession,” Greg said. “There’s no one you can talk to or ask questions, so I am trying to change that a little.”

Alvarez said he is constantly combating the stigma of his profession, avoiding prosecution and dealing with problems while avoiding law enforcement.

“I know it’s a bad business for some. But most of my clients are regulars who visit for business or just need a little companionship from time to time,” Alvarez said.

And Greg agrees, “It’s almost always about a relationship, not sex. The clients want to be treated like a friend. When you go out to dinner, they don’t want people around them to think they’re with a prostitute, they want them to think they’re with a friend.”

Most of the clients are wealthy, older white men and their sexual tastes vary widely, Alvarez said. Some just want a cuddle companion, others want to pleasure Alvarez but most want Alvarez to pleasure them. Oral sex is the most common and other activities come at a higher cost, he said.

“I’ve had some very strange people hire me,” he said. “I think the strangest was the guy who was willing to pay me double if I would get into farting with him. I’ve never been so creeped out.

He was totally gross.”

Role playing is common and many of the clients are into dominate and submissive styles of play.

“I’m really lucky. I’ve got a regular flow of cash and regular clients. I’ve never been arrested or raped,” he said. “There are some old guys that are not very cute. But my favorite clients aren’t the hottest. My favorites are the ones who don’t forget that I’m a person and that I deserve to be treated like I’m a person.” Q

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LEO July 23–August 22 Your friends help you look good and you’re eager to return the favor. Efforts on both sides could cause mishaps, nothing serious, but be ready to apologize for embarrassing situations. Stay in good humor.

Don’t take yourself too seriously.

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ARIES March 20–April 19 Efforts to get playful with your partner are likely to misfire. Don’t let that stop you, but think twice before acting or speaking up! The “backfire” could just be fun you weren’t expecting or a chance to clear the air.

SAGITTARIUS November 22– December 20 Misunderstandings with your partner could end up being more funny and revealing than problematic. Over-identifying with community ideals or traditions can complicate your efforts toward political progress. Here, too, confused messages can be revealing. Pay attention and keep your sense of humor intact.

CAPRICORN December 21– January 19 Some colleagues are encouraging you to bite off more than you can chew. Some of them mean well. You need to focus on your own goals and strong suits. You need to adjust your long-range strategy, but make sure you have one.

AQUARIUS January 20–February 18 Efforts at sly wit will probably anger friends. If you really think you’re so clever, write it down and save it for later. Disagreements and confusion with your partner can help draw out suppressed anxieties, helping you to understand and heal lingering old problems.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 Struggling to get ahead at work can leave you wondering who you really are.

Let the work define you for now. Perseverance will bring insights. So will mistakes, so learn from them, fix them and stay steady on.

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the perils of petunia pap smear The tale of fat-bottomed girls

The road to Lagoon is fraught with danger and excitement by petunia pap smear petunia@qsaltlake.com

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excited about the upcoming Gay Day at Lagoon, officially named “QSaltLake Day,” on Aug. 5. This is one event where I can squeal and shriek all day long and not be called a sissy.

I think it’s a great idea that we are encouraged to wear red, so as to help identify each other and feel the strength in our numbers. I remember, on one of the former Gay Days, how exhilarating it was to look down from the Sky Ride and view the veritable ocean of red shirts frolicking along the midway.

The red-shirt concept is a great idea, especially for me, since I have noticed that as I get older, the accuracy of my gaydar has measurably decreased. It was explained to me that as a queen ages, the gaydar accuracy is a function of my naturally increasing troll quotient juxtaposed to the inevitable decreasing cuteness threshold of any stud in question. Said more simply, my, “you must be this cute to ride this ride,” threshold gets lower and lower with each passing year and each additional pound.

Most of my friends love wild and woolly roller coasters and thrill rides, whereas Puff The Fire Dragon is more my speed. You just can’t imagine the carnage done to beehive hair from a ride on Wicked. It resembles the Florida coast after a Category 5 hurricane – desolate, smashed flat, lifeless and hanging only by a scrunchie. There is not enough Aqua Net in the universe to adequately secure the structural integrity of the bee-

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One time at Gay Day my friend Dave talked me into riding the Wild Mouse.

As you may know, I am no “Slenderella.”

In fact, I am what they refer to in polite society as “circumferentially gifted” or that I have an “aisle-blocker physique.”

My friend is likewise “heroically proportioned.” While waiting in line, we both had observed that the other people fit two in each car. When it was our turn, the adorably cute twink in his tight-fit, rideoperator uniform, (I’m a sucker for a guy in uniform — any uniform) timidly asked us if we wanted separate cars. Anxious about the upcoming thrill of the ride, we excitedly rushed passed him and jumped into the same car. With both of us being “bodus rotundus,” we together could not fit our “voluptuous bottoms” into the seat.

Dave’s left cheek was halfway up the side and my right cheek was similarly skiwampus. Embarrassed, Dave whispered, “We shall never speak of this again, to anyone!”

The car had already begun to move before we realized that not only would we be uncomfortable, but also it might be a horrible, terrible, no good, very bad idea.

We could not fasten the seat belt around us both. In desperation, we put it around Dave, and I instructed Dave to grab onto me if I started to fly out. Thank goodness, I was not wearing my pinwheel boobs, which would have added to my aerodynamic design.

As the car left the gate and began the agonizingly slow torturous climb to the top, we could hear the creaks and groans of metal being stressed to its near breaking point. I swear that in the distance, I could hear Freddie Mercury singing “Fat Bottomed Girls.” Oh, the indignity! As our faces were pointed heavenward during the ascent, all I could think about was me showing up at the pearly gates and Saint Peter

questioning me, “You are here early, what happened?” And I would have to admit that I was too rubenesque for the Wild Mouse and flew out of the car on the third turn from the top. Since I was not a nun, I could not fly like Sally Field, and thus plummeted 100 feet to the ground, crushing a churro kiosk. The coroner would have to go to great lengths to explain to the investigators why the deceased had received a churro enema.

As we reached the top and began the decent, the fully loaded car became a speeding blubbernaught of death, careening along the track at a supernatural velocity. I gripped the crash bar more tightly than if I had a hold of Jeff Stryker’s manhood. With each bone-jarring, hairpin turn, certain that our massive hippopotamus-like inertia would rip us from the track and send us shooting into space, I screamed until only bats and dogs could hear. Fortunately, we were wedged into the car tighter than my muffin top in a girdle, and no movement within the car was posWe were wedged into sible. The the car tighter than my packing muffin top in a girdle had the effect of being even more restrictive than a seat belt. Likewise, the structural integrity of the track and car survived our combined gravity-enhanced momentum. Miraculously, we lived to tell the tale, and a severely traumatized Dave and I pried ourselves loose from the car swearing to never ride together again.

Like always, these events leave us with several eternal questions: 1. Does Grindr contain a troll-to-twink translator?

2. Should I investigate the financial feasibility of a churro enema franchise?

3. Should Dave and I change our names to Buffet Queen and Sumo Boy? 4. In addition to the minimum height requirement, should there also be a maximum butt size limit?

5. Should I adopt “Fat Bottomed Girls” as my theme song?

6. Is packing bodies in tightly where the idea for car airbags originated?

7. Should Dave and I have received the patent for airbags?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of: The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q