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news The top national and world news you should know from last month Marriage on the march Two international developments bring marriage equality to two more countries: Austria and Australia. The Supreme Court of Austria has ruled that marriage equality will be the law by January 2019 and gave the Austrian Parliament until then to change the laws or the Court will act on its own.

After a mail-in nonbinding poll showed the majority of Australians support marriage equality, the Parliament has passed legislation to take effect

by Christmas, 2017. One ardent proponent of marriage equality took the occasion to propose marriage to his LTR during the debate on the floor of the Australian House of Commons.

SCOTUS split: Is a wedding cake art or speech?

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Colorado Civil Rights Commission arguments opened the 2017–18 term of the U.S. Supreme Court. The case regards a wedding cake baker refusing to create a cake for the wedding of two men.

Originally an argument about religious liberty, it has turned into a freedom of speech case.

The plaintiff doesn’t argue violation of his freedom of religion since a former SCOTUS ruling held that religious belief is not grounds to ignore public accommodations laws.

He now claims his freedom of speech is in jeopardy. Justice Kennedy, who wrote the Marriage Equality Opinion, is also a free speech advocate and is the key to what observers think will be a 5–4 decision.

Transgender and the autism spectrum Mounting evidence over the last few decades points to an increased correlation between autism spectrum disorder and children and adults experiencing dissonance with and the gender assigned at birth. ASD characterizes as difficulty with social interaction and communication as well as restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior.

Approximately 1-2 percent of the population is estimated to meet criteria for ASD, about twice higher in men than women. The potential link between ASD and gender issues was noted by researchers as early as 1981 when three of 30 children with a clinical diagnosis of autism had trouble answering a gender identity question (“Are you a little boy or a little girl?”). Nine additional studies since 2010, reinforced the recognized links.

Another dough-faced conservative busted A hetero-married and self-proclaimed conservative, Republican Ohio state legislator Wes Goodman has resigned after he admitted to having consensual sex with a man in his legislative office. On social media, Goodman describes himself as “Christian. American. Conservative. Republican.” Now he can add Sodomite.

Goodbye, Gomer — best thing to come out of Alabama Comedian Jim Nabors, who rose to fame in the 1960s playing bumbling Gomer Pyle on two hit sitcoms, died at the age

of 84 at the Honolulu home he shared with his husband, Stan Cadwallader, his partner of 38 years. Nabors was born in Sylacauga, Ala. He became famous when he turned a wide-eyed “rube” character he developed into Gomer Pyle on the CBS sitcom, The Andy Griffith Show during the show’s third season.

Stagnant budget threatens AIDS research The overall NIH budget for biomedical research has increased slightly, but not enough to break new ground when it comes to finding cures for diseases like HIV/ AIDS, funding for which has held steady at around $3 billion for the past three years. This discourages AIDS researchers, said Warner Greene, co-director of the University of California, San Francisco Center for AIDS Research, fearing fewer younger researchers will enter the field. The crunch in funding pits research programs against each other, explained Judith Auerbach, science and policy consultant at UC San Francisco’s school of medicine. Given HIV’s reputation as a chronic but manageable condition, it’s at higher risk of seeing funding cut in favor of other “crisis” diseases.

LGBT Republicans come out against Roy Moore The National Log Cabin Republicans issued a statement and produced a video condemning Alabama senatorial candidate, Roy Moore. LCR President Gregory T. Angelo said, “Roy Moore has spent his entire career using his bigoted brand of Christianity. Moore’s blind faith prevents him from seeing that a significant number of LGBT individuals are devout Christians themselves.

Regardless of one’s sexual orientation or gender identity, it’s time for good Christians

to do what good Christians do: Reject Roy Moore.”

Ky. Supreme Court to hear discrimination case Kentucky Supreme Court Chief Justice John D. Minton Jr. ordered a review of the case where a company cited religious beliefs in its refusal to print T-shirts for a 2012 Pride festival in Lexington.

The Lexington Human Rights Commission ruled the company violated the city’s fairness ordinance. An appeal to the Fayette Circuit Court ruled in the company’s favor and was upheld by an appellate court.

Transgender recruiting back on A federal judge denied the Trump administration’s bid to prevent transgender people from joining the U.S. military.

The Defense Department, led by confirmed bachelor, Sec. Def. James Mattis announced it would begin admitting transgender recruits. “We are now positioning to begin in-processing transgender individuals,” a military official said, using the military’s terminology for admitting the recruits almost as awkward as non-gendered pronouns.

Karma vs. Kim Davis David Ermold, a professor at a Kentucky college and director of an LGBT organization, who was denied a same-sex marriage license by county clerk Kim Davis in 2015, is running against her in 2018. Ermold married his partner of nearly 20 years in a different county after Davis refused to issue the couple a marriage license.

Davis was jailed for contempt of court during the dust-up, announced she is running for reelection. Previously elected on the Democratic Party ticket, she has changed parties, but alas, not hairdressers. Q

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Construction begins soon on new Utah Pride Center Building

BY MICHAEL AARON

out. It was initially built as a branch of Mountain America Credit Union, and most recently housed the Consulado De Mexico. Much of the bank interior remained, including teller windows and two huge vaults. The main floor has been basically cleared to the studs with the cabinet work and fixtures that couldn’t be used elsewhere donated to

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the Salt Lake Valley Habitat for Humanity’s Restore.

Several walls will be moved or removed to better accommodate the mixture of group meeting space, staff offices and the Community Counseling Center.

The main floor is taken mostly by a large, open lobby and reception area, and a 13-person conference room and 45-person meeting room. Double doors will open outside to a patio. There are also a prep kitchen and restrooms on this level.

Upstairs are staff offices, an 18-person conference room, a break room and a separated area for the counseling center with seven offices and an 18-person conference/meeting room.

The basement is mainly for youth services, including an open area that can accommodate 50 people, a 15-person group room, prep kitchen and restrooms.

An elevator goes to all three levels.

Many will be happy to hear that the building has 54 parking spaces, plus easy street parking on Main Street.

MAIN STREET

The Utah Pride Center announced earlier this year that they had sold their building on Fourth South in hopes of finding one that better suits their needs. They did just that, in a building near the Smith’s Ballpark at 1380 S. Main Street. While the exterior of the building will only need a refresh of signage, the interior is going through a fairly significant renovation.

The new building is 12,000 square feet on three levels with full ADA access through-

The old building was found to present many problems for the nonprofit organization, including lack of an elevator, mechanical issues on the main level and limited parking, especially as the parking structure was showing its age.

The new building was paid for, in part, by the proceeds of the old building, plus additional funds raised by the Center’s Capital Campaign Committee. Joint campaign directors were Jane Marquardt, Jackie Biskupski and Brett Tolman, with Beano Solomon and Bruce Bastian as honorary directors. Michelle Turpin and Laura Gray were also significant members of the committee.

Executive director Carol Gnade and her staff considered many buildings in determining the Center’s new home. Proximity to public transit, ADA compliance, building size, and complexity of the buildout to make it work for their needs were among the top considerations.

Jill Jones and her team at AJC Architects are doing the interior plan. The Center chose KNP Construction as the general contractor for the project.

The “hope-for” date is the end of February.

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Update: Judge denies appeal on SL trans boy gender marker change on birth certificate

BY JOSHUA ADAMSON-PICKETT

The last we spoke to Salt Lake City teen Lex Rigby and his family, they were reeling from Lex having been denied a gender marker change to his birth certificate by a district judge.

Judge Bruce C. Lubeck, of the Third Judicial District Court in West Jordan, ruled that despite allowing the teen to change his name to Lex on his birth certificate he could not change his Judge Bruce C. Lubeck birth certificate to reflect his male identity. Lex and his family were surprised by the decision because other trans Utahns had been able to make the change, and the state hadn’t opposed Lex’s request. What’s more, the family was horrified by some of the comments Judge Lubeck made during the hearing comparing the gender marker change to someone asking to change their name to “Hitler.”

Although the setback left the Rigbys hurt and confused, Lex’s parents, Sean and Chery Rigby, appealed the ruling on Lex’s behalf. But Judge Lubeck responded to the appeal and reaffirmed his initial decision. The family was prepared to take their case to the Utah Supreme Court but decided to wait while the requests of two other trans Utahns’ made their way to the state’s highest court. If they hadn’t waited, the cases could have been affected or delayed, according to the family’s lawyer Josh Peterman.

Peterman expects the state’s Supreme Court to rule in favor of the gender marker changes, with resulting clarification about what trans Utahns like Lex must demonstrate to the court in when making their claims. The court may not rule for another year, but the Rigbys expect Judge Lubeck may retire by then (a notion that left Lex clapping).

In the meantime, Lex applied with the federal government for a new passport showing his name and gender identity.

The application was approved within a month with practically no questions

asked or extra legal costs paid. Lex should be able to use the federal document to get a new Utah driver’s license as well.

Lex also recently passed his one-year anniversary since starting testosterone treatment, an important milestone toward feeling like his true self. As for the future, Lex plans to attend Salt Lake Community College this spring to study Japanese — a culture and language he loves. Sean hopes to take the whole family to Japan soon, and traveling should be much less stressful now that Lex’s passport matches his identity.

Still, it is difficult for the Rigbys to move on entirely without the resolution of his birth certificate. They hope to soon get a clean slate for Lex and can put the challenging experience with the courts behind them. Q

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Equality Utah to step up action on Utah’s youth suicide epidemic following Health Dept. report A report from the Utah Department of Health was released detailing the astronomical rise in youth suicides in our state, which rose more than 140 percent from 2011 to 2015. After calling in the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention to help investigate this epidemic, the UDOH published this revealing report. While there is much Equality Utah Executive to fear about Director Troy Williams rapidly growing cases of youth suicide in Utah, Troy Williams, executive director of Equality Utah released the following statements regarding the report: “Given that only 40 percent of the cases included information on the youths’ sexual orientation and 15 percent of those identified as sexual minorities, I was pleased that the UDOH recognized the need to make sure that gathering this particular information is institutionalized to better understand the unique risks

faced by LGBTQ youth. That gives us hope.”

“Secondly, the report names those protective factors that reduce the risk of suicide in young people, and it’s exactly what we know to be true. Inclusion. Acceptance. Love. That gives us hope.”

But these changes won’t come without our attention and action. In addition to collecting data about sexual identity, it’s paramount these agencies also focus on gender identity.

So, Equality Utah is dedicated to educating UDOH and others on the unique challenges faced by our trans siblings and friends and will work “even harder to create a culture that tells all young people that they belong. When all sectors of society, including schools, churches, government and families, foster a culture of deep belonging, it truly saves lives. This is the most powerful and impactful way we can reduce suicides in our state.”

“We will not stop our work until we achieve this objective. And we want to thank all community, church, business, school, elected and public officials who have proactively worked to advance inclusive policies that affirm LGBTQ youth,” writes Williams. Q

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Man given 15 years to life in Easter murder of Matthew Holt, blames meth The courtroom where the sentencing of the man who pleaded guilty to the murder of Matthew Holt, 46, was so full the judge had some sit in the witness box.

Family and friends of Holt were allowed to testify before Third District Court Judge James Blanch announced Jeffrey Ray Shepherd, 35, would spend 15 years to life in the Utah State Prison.

In an emotional display, Blanch had the courtroom, including Shepherd, sit in silence for 20 seconds to show the agony and suffering Holt experienced on the day Shepherd robbed him of his money, then shot him in the head.

For his part, Shepherd apologized to the family and, through his lawyer, explained that a meth addiction was largely to blame.

“The effect of this terrible drug has played the biggest role in what’s Jeffrey Ray Shepherd happened here,” said defense attorney Heather Chesnut.

Holt’s friend of 18 years and owner of the salon he worked at, Megan Oviatt, said he was exceptional.

“There are a lot of good people in the world,” she said. “And an exceptional one was taken from us that day for no reason whatsoever, because of somebody’s bad, selfish choices.”

“Matt was harmless. He weighed 100 pounds, and he was defenseless,” Oviatt said. “Anyone who knew Matt knew all he would have had to do was ask him. He did give him the money. He didn’t need to shoot him. [Shepherd] could have walked away and Matt would still be with us here today.”

“The hardest part — losing Matt is one thing — losing Matt to [being] murdered is a totally different ball game we’re dealing with,” Oviatt testified. “And the hardest part is closing your eyes sometimes and [knowing] that that is how his life ended. For someone who lived his life trying to make others happy — he was kind; he was generous.”

“He never even had so much as a speed-

ing ticket, never even broke the law,” Oviatt continued. “If there was someone who fought for their life to live, with all of the health problems he had, it was Matthew.

It’s just unfair.”

Oviatt had health struggles for much of his life. He spent much of his childhood as a patient at Primary Children’s Medical Center and, later in life, had two kidney transplants and an open-heart procedure — enduring 35 surgeries in all.

Holt’s mother, Maxine Holt, said the murder of her only child is exceptionally difficult as the holiday season approaches, calling the grief the family feels “crushing” and full of “deep pain and sorrow” in a “cruel and senseless act.”

The family put up a Christmas tree with the ornaments Matthew bought over the years, but Maxine couldn’t see the tree without the sorrow of missing her son.

They donated the tree to the Festival of Trees “to remember him and help other children,” donating the money raised to Primary Children’s Medical Center.

Shepherd avoided the possibility of the death penalty when he pleaded guilty in October to a reduced charge of first-degree felony murder. He admitted to confronting Holt on Easter afternoon, April 16, robbing him with a gun and demanding money.

Shepherd’s lawyer told the judge that Shepherd was addicted to methamphetamine at the time of the shooting, and said he will work the rest of his life to overcome that addiction.

“I just want to say I’m sorry for my actions and the poor choices I’ve made,” he said. “I’m truly sorry for what happened and all the pain and suffering I’ve caused.”

Prosecutors said Shepherd downloaded a police scanner app on his phone before he drove to the area of Oxbow Park, approached Holt at random and tried to rob him, shooting him in the head at close range. The entire crime took 20 seconds.

“This individual who feared death his entire life, and who beat the odds, had to experience terror and fear for that period of time before his life was taken from him,” the judge told Shepherd, who was shackled in the courtroom. “That was because of your actions.”

Blanch had everyone in the courtroom sit in silence for 20 seconds.

“He had to experience terror and fear for that period of time and that was because of your actions,” he Matthew Holt was killed on Easter said. “Society deserves to be protected from you.”

Surveillance video of the incident from a nearby business showed Shepherd approach Holt’s car with his hand under his sleeve, which prosecutors said was to keep his fingerprints off Holt’s car. After killing Holt, Shepherd collected the bullet casing, which he later melted down, and ditched the gun in a McDonald’s dumpster. One of the few leads South Salt Lake Police had in the case was the surveillance video showing Shepherd’s Chevy Sonic. An off-duty officer located the car weeks later in Tooele County, where he was arrested and eventually charged with the murder.

Holt’s parents said they appreciated hearing the apology and that they think and pray for Shepherd’s family, knowing they are experiencing a loss as well.

Holt’s family and friends embraced and cried after the sentence of 15 years to life was read by the judge.

Judge Blanch also presided over the trial of Craig Crawford, whose lawyer testified he was addicted to methamphetamine at the time he murdered his husband, John Williams, by setting their house on fire.

Blanch sentenced Crawford to life without the possibility of parole.

Blanch runs the Alternative Substance Addiction Program, one of the branches of drug court that deals with low-risk offenders that are highly addicted. In its first three years, 54 people completed the course with only three re-arrested.

Because Shepherd pleaded guilty, no testimony was heard as to motive, whether he chose his location because it was a known gay cruising area, or why it was Holt he murdered. Q

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Strength in numbers: Hate crimes bill to return in 2018 Utah legislative session

The Salt Lake City Council and Mayor Jackie Biskupski approved a resolution Dec. 5 to urge Utah lawmakers to beef up the law addressing crimes that target people because of their race, religion or sexual orientation.

“When a criminal deliberately targets a victim because of ancestry, disability, ethnicity, sex, gender identity, national origin, race, religion or sexual orientation to deprive them of their unalienable right to Sen. Daniel Thatcher life, liberty, property or to pursue happiness, other members of that community are deeply affected as is society as a whole,” the city’s resolution stated.

Salt Lake City has joined West Jordan, South Salt Lake, Beaver County, Moab and Midvale in the movement to support a bill Senator Daniel Thatcher is sponsoring in the 2018 session that would give law enforcement stronger tools to address crimes that target specific groups.

It won’t be Thatcher’s first attempt to ensure protections for LGBT and other groups. He introduced the measure after lawmakers in 2016 voted down another Republican senator’s controversial hate crimes bill, and it was met with strong opposition by the Church of Latter-day Saints. Then last year, without any involvement from the Church, legislative leaders didn’t allow a public hearing on a similar bill.

With hate crimes on an incline, Thatcher is now urging the LDS Church

to officially clarify its position before the 2018 legislative session.

“They had no position last year either, and yet there’s no shortage of people who are happy to speak on behalf of the church in the absence of an official statement from them,” Thatcher recently told Salt Lake Tribune. “So while I believe going from opposition to no comment is and of itself a position, the problem is as long as they continue to say, ‘We have no position,’ there will be plenty of people who are willing to tell you what the church’s position is. It wouldn’t be accurate, but that won’t stop them.”

Troy Williams, executive director of the Equality Utah, said it was “so encouraging” to see Salt Lake City join the effort.

“There is widespread support throughout the state to consider this legislation because it protects and includes everybody,” Williams told KSL News. “We all have a sexual orientation. We all have a gender identity. We all have a race. Many of us belong to communities of faith. And this legislation truly strikes a balance to make sure all Utahns are protected when they are targeted for who they are.”

Williams noted that in the past 20 years, not one prosecution has come from Utah’s current statute. “It’s broken. It’s not working. It is not bringing justice to victims,” he said.

While it’s uncertain whether lawmakers will be receptive to Thatcher’s bill, Williams said, “We have to persuade them to take up this issue, and we’re going to keep coming back every year until it’s passed.” Q

Provo police seek information on brutal attack in Exchange Park A 39-year-old man was left seriously injured after he was attacked in Provo’s Exchange Park in the early-morning hours of Sunday, Nov. 26. Michael Hansen suffered stabbing injuries and lacerations to his face and head and a partially severed ear during an attack by two unidentified men while the he was sleeping in the park.

Jackie Hobson, Hansen’s sister, said her brother was in a bit of a rough spot.

“The last two months of his life is kind of unknown to a lot of us, but I know he has had a hard time with employment and he has a lot of anxiety and depression, so it’s been difficult for him, so at the time he was homeless.”

While there were several people in or near the park during the attack, witness accounts, if any, are still left unreported or unsubstantiated.

Hobson also said Hansen’s memory hasn’t completely returned and they don’t have many clues as to why the attack happened. “Maybe a hate crime, I mean, we don’t know. It was just two people that jumped him; they didn’t steal anything.”

Provo police are asking anyone with information regarding this attack to call Detective Payne at 801-852-7280.

The Hansen family has set up a GoFundMe account at bit.ly/MikeEars to help with medical expenses. Q

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Openly lesbian Jackie Biskupski was sworn in as Salt Lake City Mayor with then-fiancée, Betty Iverson by her side.

Person of the Year — Misty Snow In 2016, Misty Snow made national headlines for being the first transgender person in America to win a major party nomination for U.S. Senate and the first to appear on a general election ballot.

QSaltlake chose her as our Person of the Year, not necessarily because she ran, but because she showed our community that a cashier from Taylorsville could make great change.

Councilman speaks out against gay country singer performing at So. Ogden Days event South Ogden councilman Adam Hensley voted without comment in a Jan. 3 meeting against bringing openly gay country music singer Ty Herndon to perform at the 2017 South Ogden Days event.

“I have absolutely no problems or issues with homosexuality or airing the subject of sexuality in public forums,” Hensley said in a written statement to the Ogden Standard-Examiner. “I believe that all people, regardless of sexual orientation, should be treated with respect and kindness. “I also have unanswered concerns whether or not Ty Herndon’s potential political speech would be in concert with South Ogden’s traditional community standards.”

Ultimately, Herndon was invited to and performed at the June event.

LGBT hate crime bill aims for higher penalty for crimes against minority communities Utah State Sen. Daniel W. Thatcher, R-West Valley, introduced Senate Bill 72, Victim Selection Pena Enhancements, in the 2017 General Session of the Utah State Legislature. The bill would modify Utah’s current hate crime law, which has been called a “toothless tiger” by Salt Lake County District Attorney Sim Gill and has never been successfully used.

The bill would “provide that the penalty for a criminal offense is subject to enhancement by one degree if the offender acted against an individual because of the offender’s perception of the individual’s ancestry, disability, ethnicity, gender, gender identity, national origin, race, religion, or sexual orientation.”

The bill, however, failed.

Nanny cam debunks man’s claim of self-defense in the killing of his male roommate Andrew Burke Berry IV told Salt Lake City police that his roommate threatened him by wielding a bat after he rebuffed sexual advances. Berry, 22, said they struggled and he got control of the bat and killed 39-year-old Timothy Houlihan in his bedroom Aug. 9, 2016. Berry told police he struck Houlihan “about five times.” Police, however, testified in a probable cause hearing that a ‘nanny-cam’ video of the attack showed Berry beating Houlihan 16 to 18 times.

Andrew Berry, the defendant’s father,

created a FundedJustice campaign in January 2017 to raise money for his son’s defense, pleading, “Our 19-year-old son was drugged, sexually assaulted, and hit in the head with a baseball bat by a sexual predator who pretended to be a movie producer.”

As of November, just over $1,000 of a $50,000 goal has been contributed to Berry’s defense, and Berry is currently being held in the Salt Lake County Jail on a $1 million bail.

Park City GSA raises $3200 for homeless youth Park City High School Gay-Straight Alliance students wanted to help LGBT teens who were less fortunate than they since Park City is largely a welcoming community.

They were out at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival and raised $3,200 for the Volunteers of America Homeless Youth Resource Center in Salt Lake City. Many LGBT teens, they say, end up on the streets when their families reject them.

The students held a bake sale and found filmgoers eager to pitch in when they saw the club’s rainbow flag and learned about where the money was headed.

“A large proportion of the homeless youth everywhere, but especially in Utah, is LGBT, so we thought it would be a good thing that would contribute to our cause (as a club) but also help other communities,” said Jayda Robinson, a GSA member.

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Encircle, an LGBT youth resource center opens in Utah County

3 LGBT-related bills in 2017 Legislative Session

A one-of-a-kind building in the state became a one-of-a-kind service for young LGBT people in Provo, Utah. The historic William D. Alexander House, listed in the National Register of Historic Places and thought to be the only period example of Stick Style architecture in Utah, became home to the Encircle LGBT+ Family & Youth Resource Center.

“This really is about family, about staying together as a united family. This house is the aid, the resource to keep families together,” said Steve Young, former NFL and Brigham Young University quarterback. He and his wife, Barbara, are co-founders of the Forever Young Foundation, and were one of the many early donors for the Encircle home.

The Encircle center offers workshops, free classes, wellness and awareness-raising events, mentoring and therapy.

Few bills were introduced in 2017 at the Utah State Legislature that were directly related to the LGBT community — a bill to remove the ban on teachers and school officials discussing homosexuality in a positive way, a hate crime bill that wasn’t called a hate crime bill, and a bill that will enhance penalties for certain sex crimes if the perpetrator is hepatitis- and/or HIV-positive.

SENATE BILL 196 — The bill repealing language in a Utah law that prohibits the discussion of homosexuality was passed almost unanimously and put into law.

Only Rep. Eric Hutchings, R-Kearns, voting against it in the House.

SENATE BILL 72 — A bill to address “victim selection,” aka to most people “hate crimes,” may have gotten an early start, but that’s where it sat through the entire session. The bill, which would delineate hate crimes as those perpetuated because of the victim’s perceived “ancestry, disability, ethnicity, gender, gender identity, national origin, race, religion, or sexual orientation,” was never even debated in committee.

SENATE BILL 369 — A bill that started out as one that criminalized (in the form of a first-degree felony) not making a sexual partner aware of a HIV-positive status was dramatically changed but still had some serious flaws. Activists worked on the governor for his veto, but it was strongly believed at the time he would sign it into law.

BSA welcomes trans boys The Boy Scouts of America announced it will accept transgender boys who wish to be scouts. President of the Great Salt Lake Area chapter, Bruce Hough, said the organization is already inclusive of everyone, that the transgender acceptance announcement was not a policy change, it was a clarification.

“We may not ever know [if a boy is trans]. But if we know and they want to have that discussion, then we will sit down with the parents and make sure we understand the best program for their child to participate in.”

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HIV nondisclosure bill signed into law HB 369 — Sexual Offenses and Statutory Nonconsent Amendments, sponsored

by Rep. Justin Fawson, R-N. Ogden, was first heard Feb. 22 by the House Judiciary Committee. Due to multiple concerns that were leveled by lawmakers and public commenters, the bill was held. Two days later, it was back on House Judiciary’s agenda.

Equality Utah Executive Director Troy Williams said, “Perpetrators should be punished for rape and causing bodily harm. The concern that we have is starting down a path of broadly and generally criminalizing people living with a disease.”

The bill passed the full legislature on the last day of the session and was signed

by Gov. Gary Herbert.

LDS Church, faith groups file brief against trans protections The Supreme Court announced that it would not hear the case of a Virginia transgender teen Gavin Grimm, whose school ordered him to use a bathroom that corresponds to his “biological gender.”

Ahead of the Court’s ruling, six faith groups including the Mormon Church filed a brief urging the court to rule against trans rights. In part, the brief read: “Religious denominations and their members could come under attack for selecting leaders who reflect their religious beliefs about gender. And religious Americans could find themselves increasingly marginalized for believing that gender is immutable and divinely ordained.”

While a blatant disregard for the separation of church and state, at that same time President Trump vowed to relax laws that prevent tax-exempt religious groups from directly intervening in politics.

APRIL Misty Snow announces for Rep. Stewart seat in 2018 Misty Snow announced she will run for Utah’s second congressional seat, currently held by Rep. Chris Stewart. Congressional District 2 is largely made up of southwestern Utah, part of Davis County and the north half of Salt Lake County.

‘No Promo Homo’ planitiffs at the Equality Utah Allies Dinner

Snow sees her working-class background as being an advantage that allows her to connect with average people; allowing her to understand their needs including, in part, a major increase in minimum wage. Endorsements include Equality PAC, Democracy for America and Our Revolution.

Motive unclear in Easter murder of S. Jordan man A gay South Jordan man was found shot to death in his car Easter Sunday in South Salt Lake. Matthew Holt, 46, was found in his black Mazda at about 3200 South and 900 West, according to South Salt Lake police detective Gary Keller. Police believe he was shot between 11 a.m. and 2 p.m. and that it was not a self-inflicted injury.

James Madison Park, on 3300 South and the Jordan River at about 1200 West, has long been a place where men seek sexual liaisons. While police didn’t say whether they are investigating a connection to that location, close friends say it is possible Holt was there cruising.

A male suspect was apprehended about a month later, and the incident was believed to be a robbery gone awry.

MAY LDS Church pulls older teens from BSA In an official statement, the LDS Church announced they’d be pulling out older LDS boys from the Boy Scouts of America. The reason for the move is that the scouting program was no longer fulfilling the “spiritual, social, physical and intellec-

tual development goals” of older boys.

The move could affect more than 180,000 LDS Boy Scouts nationwide, according to additional statements made by the church.

BSA officials met (not necessarily in response to the LDS Church’s decision) to discuss creating new opportunities for young women. Statements made by BSA President Randall Stephenson reflected a desire to become more inclusive, but officials did not say what changes these discussions would lead to.

Utah State Board of Education repeals ‘No Promo Homo’ law Subject to a lawsuit brought by Equality Utah and the National Center for Lesbian Rights, the Utah State Board of Education repealed a policy that prohibited discussion of anything that could be construed as “promotion” of homosexuality in classrooms.

The board voted unanimously without discussion to repeal the measure. The Utah State Legislature passed a bill sponsored by Republican Sen. Stuart Adams, which Gov. Gary Herbert signed into law.

Equality Utah and NCLR represented three unnamed students in various school districts across the state. The lawsuit claimed that LGBT students were subjected to bullying and unequal treatment in schools because teachers were forbidden from discussing their issues in a positive manner.

The bill, Senate Bill 196, removed homosexuality from existing law but maintained that Utah must teach abstinence outside of marriage. It passed with few dissenting votes.

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JUNE 40,000 attend Utah Pride Tens of thousands of people participated in the annual Utah Pride Festival, including over 50,000 participants on Sunday, the final day of the week-long event, according to organizers.

Salt Lake police also estimated between 35,000 and 40,000 people attended Sunday morning’s parade that included nearly 140 parade entries, which stretched the event to more than two hours.

In retrospect, a group of about two dozen protesters lined the beginning of the parade route, nearly blocked the entrance to the festival, and were blaring anti-gay speech through a loudspeaker.

Additionally, many of the protesters told any crowd members who would listen that things will change under the Trump administration, and anti-Muslim speech and “Make America White Again” chants were also heard. The increase in protesters led Pride organizers to work toward stepping up security for future festivals.

Utah Pride Parade director Bonnie O’Brien announced the following 1st Place winners among the 140 entries in this year’s parade.

Business: Comcast Nonprofit: QUAC School: Weber State University Small business: Club Karamba

Mormon teen comes out during church services to mixed response A 12-year-old girl who came out as a lesbian in front of her Eagle Mountain Mormon church ward was told to sit down midway through a speech in which she said she was not a “horrible sinner.”

The young girl, Savannah, said during her testimony she was a child of “heavenly parents” who had “made me to be gay.”

“I believe that if God is there, he knows I’m perfect just the way I am, and would never ask me to live my life alone or with someone I am not attracted to,” she continued. “He would want me to be happy.

I want to be happy. I want to love myself and not to feel shame for being me. I ask you …” at which point the microphone went silent and Savannah was told to sit down by the stake president.

Her mother, Heather Kester, said that Savannah left the stage in tears.

“She came off crying to me. We both

walked out of the hall, and I held her face in my hands and told her over and over that she is perfect and good, that there is nothing wrong with who she is, that she is brave and beautiful,” Kester said.

According to Kester, her daughter has since received “the most beautiful, supportive outpouring of love from allies, and members of the LGBT+ community.

She is full, happy, free, and has a fire in her soul that is ready to blaze forward.

I’m so lucky to have her, and privileged to get to watch her grow into the powerful person she has inside.”

Michael Sanders named Mr. Leather SLUT The Mr. Leather SL♥UT competition is a mission to promote leather culture in the Salt Lake community, says Andrew Love, producer of the advocacy competition.

“We are looking for leather men to act as an ambassador, working with various segments of the broader LGBTQ community as well as various segments of the radical sex communities,” Love said.

This year Michael Sanders takes the “reins” as Mr. Leather, honored during the Pride festival.

“As titleholder, I will use my visibility and voice to affect positive change. I will lobby for our civil rights, support charitable programs that serve and enhance the lives of our diverse community,” Michael wrote. “I will continue to live my life authentically and encourage others to do the same.”

JULY Finger-pointing at a samesex murder-suicide Two Taylorsville Utah women were found dead in what police called a murder-suicide. The women were in the process of breaking up their 6-year relationship.

Unified Police responded to reports of a shooting on a July morning and found the women dead from gunshot wounds.

Police believed 49-year-old Fransiska “Siska” Dastrup shot her 47-year-old ex-girlfriend, Richelle “Shelly” Horsley, who was found in a car, and Dastrup about 100 yards away.

Some friends blamed police for inaction and others blamed Utah’s mental health care system, having said the suspect was in need of treatment.

John Williams’ killer pleads guilty An arsonist’s fire in 2016 shook the LGBT, Utah business and general communities by taking the life of well-known Salt Lake City restaurateur John Williams.

Craig Crawford pleaded guilty to first-degree felony counts of aggravated murder and aggravated arson Tuesday, June 26.

Williams and Crawford were married for 20 years but had recently filed for divorce. Williams filed for a protective order on May 2, 2016, shortly before his death. Charges indicated Williams was evicting Crawford from the home, and had expressed fear of Crawford.

BYU-Idaho fires professor over pro-gay FB post A BYU-Idaho teacher was told to retract a pro-LGBT Facebook post or lose her job.

She didn’t retract the post.

Adjunct professor of political science Ruthie Robertson was told her contract for the fall and winter semesters was subsequently cancelled. She was allowed to finish out her summer course.

Church leaders have said that personal beliefs on sexuality and gender identity that might run contrary to the church’s position would not cause people to lose their membership. They didn’t say, however, how it might affect their employment.

Provo LGBT youth center booted from Freedom parade In a grandiloquent gesture, Provo’s Freedom Festival Grand Parade organizers revoked, on July 3, the pre-approved application of Encircle: LGBT + Family & Youth Resource Center to march in the July 4th parade, classifying it an advocacy group, which are prohibited from participating.

In a July 15 op-ed in the Deseret News, Kyle Chilton, a BYU employee, wrote: [Encircle’s] mission is a noble one, to “empower families to sustain the circle of their love, enabling each member to thrive.”

“We respect the decision of the parade committee and will use this as an opportunity to show Provo who we are. We will always come from a place of love and intention, never fear or reaction. We are here to be a safe space for all, which means being planted firmly,” Stephanie Larsen, Encircle’s director, said.

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States in under two years.

Since arriving in Utah, Barnabas, 35, and Apollo, 28, share an apartment as roommates in Salt Lake City and have been adjusting to life in America. They’ve made friends with LGBTQ Utahns and connected with local groups like Equality Utah and The Utah Pride Center.

SEPTEMBER KSL disses Mayor Biskupski in Days of ’47 Parade Mayors and governors are usually front and center, alongside their spouses, at annual parades. This year was the first that Salt Lake City Mayor Jackie Biskupski rode atop a convertible at the Days of ’47 Parade with her spouse, Betty Iverson.

As the pair approached KSL Television’s cameras during the live coverage, they cut to a reporter who offered up a quiz on famous Mormons.

KSL General Manager Tanya Vea told Salt Lake Tribune that the station often cuts away from parade entries that are not floats or bands, and that no slight was intended.

AUGUST

Utah ex-cop claims ‘catfished’ by underaged boy Following the arrest of a Saratoga Springs, Utah ex-police officer on July 27 for unlawful sexual contact with a minor, Officer Aaron Rosen, 46, of South Jordan, claimed he was “catfished” by the 16-yearold boy.

In the Aug. 2, Fourth District Court hearing, Rosen was charged with one count of class A misdemeanor unlawful sexual conduct with a 16- or 17-yearold, after he allegedly went to the teen’s home, kissed him and touched him inappropriately over his clothing.

Ugandan activists settle in Salt Lake City Ugandan activists Barnabas Wobiliya and Apollo Kann, left their homes in Mbale, Uganda, to seek asylum in Kenya as refugees. In 2016, the United States, which under the Obama administration had offered special protection for LGBTQ-identifying refugees, granted their wishes.

They were granted asylum in the United

Gay couple challenges Utah surrogacy law A married gay couple’s petition to enter a surrogacy agreement was denied last year by southern Utah’s Fifth District Court Judge Jeffrey C. Wilcox, who determined he had no choice but to reject the petition “because neither of the legally married intended parents are women.”

The couple then asked Utah’s high court to declare a portion of the state’s surrogacy law unconstitutional as it forbids gay men the right to have biological children through surrogacy.

The Utah Attorney General’s office, which typically defends state laws before the court, did not oppose the case. The office agreed that the district court’s order should be reversed and support a gender-neutral reading of the statutes, the brief from Assistant Solicitor General Brent Burnett said.

Youth suicides climbing in Utah The Utah Department of Health has confirmed that 425 suicides occurred in the state so far this year. Health department epidemiologist Elizabeth Brutsch said Sept. 12 that there remains a lot their department doesn’t know about what’s driving the suicide rate higher in Utah.

A coalition of experts and officials are attacking the problem on several fronts, said health department spokesperson Jenny Johnson. For instance, there’s a big focus on raising awareness about the risks of firearms, and the state Board of Education recently introduced a smartphone app called SafeUT that connects youth to professional help.

John Williams’ ex-husband sentenced to life in prison Utah’s Third District Court Judge James Blanch found Craig Crawford, husband of John Williams, guilty of aggravated murder, calling it a “cruel and vicious

crime.” Crawford had pled guilty to the murder by setting fire to Williams’ home on an early morning in August, 2016.

Williams’ family urged Judge Blanch to sentence Crawford to life in prison without the possibility of parole, to which the judge agreed.

‘No Promo Homo’ law dissolved In 2016, Equality Utah and three student plaintiffs filed a lawsuit against Utah’s State Board of Education to challenge the so-called No Promo Homo law. For nearly two decades, the law prohibited Utah students and teachers from discussing “homosexuality” in our state’s public schools.

In a nearly unanimous vote, the Utah Legislature repealed the state’s No Promo Homo law with SB 196.

The State Board of Education issued a letter Sept. 18, to all Utah public and charter schools clarifying the intent of SB 196. The letter expresses the Board’s desire to ensure that “each student in Utah public schools receives a high-quality education free from all manner of discrimination, which can take the form of bullying, based on religion, race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation and gender identity.”

OCTOBER

Mayor Biskupski honors Kendall, Bastian with Keys to the City Salt Lake City Mayor Jackie Biskupski chose National Coming Out Day, Oct. 11, to honor longtime LGBTQ activist Kate Kendall and philanthropist Bruce Bastian with a Key to the City.

In honoring Kendall and Bastian, the Mayor noted their longtime advocacy on behalf of LGBTQ in Utah and nationally.

Kendall is executive director of the San Francisco based National Center for Lesbian Rights. Bastian has taken a lead role in supporting the Human Rights Campaign and the campaign against Prop 8 in California.

Utah same-sex couple tragically part ways after Las Vegas massacre On the night of Oct. 1, 2017, a gunman opened fire on a crowd of concertgoers at the Route 91 Harvest Music Festival on the Las Vegas Strip in Nevada, leaving 58 people dead and 546 injured.

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A gay Utah man was one among the victims killed in the mass shooting.

Robinson’s boyfriend, Bobby Eardley was injured, having sustained shrapnel in his lower back.

The family set up a GoFundMe campaign to help pay for Robinson’s funeral expenses and Eardley’s hospital expenses and had raised over $35,000.

weekend of Oct. 13–15. While they were ultimately disqualified from the competition, which awarded a total of $34,500 to the top 10 couples, because contest rules require the couple to be male-female, the fact they were able to dance in the first round is considered a big move forward.

The Powwow committee and judges became aware of the couple after learning they had lied on the registration form, but allowed them to complete the dance “to honor them and their relationship.”

Subsequently, They were well received by the audience and people who have since commented on videos posted online.

Utah’s picks for LGBT-inclusive candidates won their seats in the most recent election, held Nov. 7 across the state.

Equality Utah-endorsed candidates who successfully earned their seats include Chris Wharton, Salt Lake City Council District 3; Erin Mendenhall, Salt Lake City Council District 5; Amy Fowler, Salt Lake City Council District 7; Marcia White, Ogden City Council atlarge A; Andy Beerman, Park City Mayor; Dustin Gettel, Midvale City Council District 5; Mariah S. Elliot, Ivins City Council; and Corey Thomas, South Salt Lake City Council District 2.

NOVEMBER

SLC receives poor grade on LGBT Equality Index

Two more gay city council members in Salt Lake City

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Eight was enough for Salt Lake City Councilmember Stan Penfold who decided not seek reelection after two terms.

Openly gay attorney and former Utah Pride board member Chris Wharton won the election to replace him.

Public defender Amy Fowler won the election for District 7 City Council seat, as Lisa Adams stepped down after one term. Fowler married Pidge Winburn days after U.S. District Court Judge Robert J. Shelby found Utah’s ban on samesex marriage unconstitutional.

General election results good for Utah LGBT candidates and allies Salt Lake City Council’s LGBT contingent grew by one, and eight of Equality

If Salt Lake City were in school, the grade it would receive from the Human Rights Campaign and Equality Federation Institute on LGBT equality would be a D+.

The two LGBT equality organizations released the 2017 Municipal Equality Index in November and out of a possible 100 points, Salt Lake City received a score of 69. Ogden was ranked next highest with 47 points, and Logan, Provo, West Jordan and West Valley City received an abysmal 35 points. Park City received 38 points.

One category that Salt Lake City received 100 percent was on the relationship the city has with the LGBT community, and received “extra credit” points for having openly LGBT elected or appointed municipal leaders. Q

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quotes “There are only two reasons that you hate gay marriage; one, your dumb, and two, you’re secretly worried that dicks are delicious.”

—comedian Joe Rogan

“Pick one they say. They wonder if I like men or women. I am a confusion, something they can’t put in a box. I am either not gay enough for the gay community or I’m not straight enough for anyone else. I think they’ve forgotten that love can’t fit in a box, nor does it discriminate.”

—poet Conee Berdera, on bisexuality

“You have to stay in shape.

My grandmother, she started walking five miles a day when she was 60.

She’s 97 today and we don’t know where the hell she is.”

—Ellen DeGeneres

“Gays are not interested in making other people gay ... But homophobes are interested in making others homophobic.”

—actor Stephen Fry

“If Harry Potter taught us anything, it’s that no one deserves to live in the closet.”

—Kansas City student Thomas Swartz, whose quote was removed his high school yearbook

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of year many people like to reflect on the past. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about my dad. Partly because I was recently at a memorial service, and a childhood friend of my dad pointed to me and asked my mom which son I was — telling her I looked like Gus when he was young.

But my thoughts on him are recently amplified because his birthday is in December.

When I get like this, I start wondering if I’m a good father.

Beyond the physical similarities, the older I get, the more I become my dad. I inherited his high triglycerides and lack of patience. Like him, I strive always to put my kids first. I care for my mother, and I’m loyal to my friends. Also, like him, I can have a short fuse, be stubborn beyond rationality and even be an arrogant Greek chauvinist.

Ever since I was a kid, I hated it when someone would tell me, “You’re just like your dad.”

I heard it constantly. Even my grandmother would say to me how much I reminded her of him. But I wasn’t just like my dad. I’m still not.

The big difference between us — he was straight as a man could be. But for me? Well, on the Kinsey Scale where a six is exclusively gay, I’m a 17. Whether I like it or not, the difference is important. It presents challenges for me as a father that my dad could never have imagined.

What I’ve slowly realized is that my dad’s parenting has prepared me to face these challenges — if not fearlessly, at least confidently. He taught me

to have faith in myself, stand up for my beliefs and that nothing is more important than family.

So maybe my dad has been on my mind lately because it’s time for me to recognize I have the skills I need to play the role of dad pretty damn well, too. I need to quit looking over my shoulder to see if I’m living up to an idea of what a dad should be, and simply start being that dad.

It’s a new year. And new years are all about new beginnings. So, going forward I plan to focus on all the amazing dad skills my father gave me. I will continue to do everything I can for my kids — helping them and encouraging them. I will make them laugh, and be there when they need a shoulder on which to cry. I will be proud of them — always and unconditionally.

And yes, I’m going to work on those less charming aspects of my personality that remind people of my dad. I can be more patient, and I suppose I can admit that I’m not always right. I mean I guess it’s possible. I have to think about that one.

What I really should remember about my dad is that he never thought of me as his gay son. I was just always his son.

My kids don’t think of me as their gay dad, just their dad.

I miss my dad constantly and think of him every day. I suppose that’s a testament to the kind of father he was and the relationship we shared.

Now it’s my turn to focus on creating that same sort of relationship with my kids because the only way to live up to that ideal of fatherhood is to start looking ahead. Q

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The year

BY BEN WILLIAMS

1977 was a watershed moment which marked an essential and historical change for the gay civil rights movement in Utah. In January, Commissioners of Dade County, Florida passed a gay anti-discrimination ordinance.

Anita Bryant, a Florida citrus industry spokeswoman, and former Miss America runner-up, then spearheaded an anti-gay movement called the Save Our Children Committee. They claimed that homosexuality posed a threat to America’s children as they believed that America’s youth were leading into the “deviant lifestyle.” Backed by Christian fundamentalists, Bryant as a spokesperson was able to collect enough signatures to force a ballot referendum and in June the ordinance was repealed. The Save Our Children’s anti-gay movement began a national backlash on the gay rights in many cities and states that had previously passed gay rights ordinances.

Bryant’s ties to the citrus industry in Florida made orange juice a boycott item in gay households and businesses for several years starting in 1977. A favorite Florida Orange Juice advertisement “A day without orange juice is like a day without sunshine” was changed to the slogan “A day without Human Rights is like a day without sunshine” in the gay community. The play on the Florida citrus campaign became a rallying cry in the gay civil rights movement.

In early June, a Gay Freedom Day “Human Rights Conference and Symposium” was held in Salt Lake City and was attended by nearly 500 attendees. However, without the help of Joe Redburn, owner of The Sun Club, the symposium would not have broken even. A few days before the seminar, Dade County, which included the city of Miami, repealed their anti-discrimination ordinance.

One of the keynote speakers invited to the Salt Lake conference was Leonard Matlovich, a former Vietnam Air Force Veteran. He had been excommunicated from the Mormon Church and was at the time fighting his dishonorable discharge for coming out publicly as a gay man. He had even made the cover of Time magazine.

At the opening ceremony of the symposium, a reporter noted how a few people wore “Gay and Proud” buttons, probably astonished that anyone would be so open in public about their sexual orientation. At the time Matlovich told reporters that he was in town to “continue the battle of Dade County … and we shall overcome … No longer will we be your slaves of silence. We will be free Americans just like everyone else.”

Matlovich added that gays “demand our rights but in a nonviolent way. The gay campaign centers on the ability of homosexuals to acknowledge who they are without fear of reprisal or discrimination.”

On the weekend of the

symposium, Barbara Smith, president of the LDS Relief Society of the Mormon Church, sent a telegram to Bryant congratulating her for her work to repeal the protection of homosexuals in employment and housing.

Bryant’s commendation in the message said; “On behalf of the one million members of the Relief Society … we commend you for your courageous and effective efforts in combating homosexuality and laws that would legitimize this insidious lifestyle.”

In an article, “Unnatural Without Excuse,” in the Deseret News, Mormon Apostle Mark E. Peterson claimed that “every right-thinking person will sustain Miss Bryant as a prayerful, upright citizen, for her stand.” Peterson hoped she would, “keep this evil from spreading, by legal acceptance, through our society.”

On the 8th anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion, Hugh Bringhurst, director of the Utah State Fair, announced that Bryant would be the headline entertainer at the fall event.

What the gay community’s response was to the Bryant invite was to the State Fair was to hold a meeting on July 14 to inform and coordinate plans for a protest at the fair. Only six organizations sent representatives to the meeting. The groups which participated were the Metropolitan Community Church of Salt Lake, the Gay Services Coalition, the Gay Student Union, Affirmation, Women Aware and the Socialist Workers Party. Although Integrity/ Dignity was invited, they declined stating they had reservations over joining forces with a group which included Marxists, a reference to the

Socialist Workers Party.

While Women Aware stated the purpose of any demonstration around Bryant’s appearance should be to bring solidarity to the gay community and to get media coverage, they admitted that there would only be a modest response from feminist groups. They also said not to expect much straight support for any protest. The gay community was primarily on their own.

The months leading up to the Sept. 18 appearance of Bryant at the State Fair was filled getting the word out and organizing the community. Camille Tartaglia, of the Imperial Court, had been voted chairperson of the State Fair Committee of the Salt Lake Coalition for Human Rights. The Village Idiot, a head shop, which advertised poppers as “something for your head” also sold T-shirts boasting “Let he who has not sinned cast the first orange” and “Anita Bryant Sucks Oranges.” They also sold bumper stickers with the slogan “Hurricane Anita.”

Thus the first gay protest in Utah, organized by the Salt Lake Coalition for Human Rights, was held 40 years ago at the State Fair Grounds to protest Bryant’s invitation.

Rev. Bob Waldrop of the MCC church had rented a booth at the fair which he donated surreptitiously to the committee from which the protest staged. Tartaglia organized a picket line of over 100 people at the fairgrounds.

There, gay protestors were spat upon and faced an openly hostile mob. However, the supporters of Gay Liberation silently stood their ground for the right to “co-exist on this

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planet with their brothers and sisters.” The protest march outside went without incident. Inside the arena was a different matter.

One eyewitness remembered that as Bryant sang, “thousands of foot-stomping, Bible-toting zealots, ignorance overriding good taste, filled the stadium as a handful of brave men and women picketed outside the stadium in the cause of human dignity against man’s inhumanity to man.”

However, according to Chuck Whyte, who was 19 years old at the time and inside the stadium, several gay protestors had sneaked in oranges and pelted the stage which caused Bryant’s performance to be interrupted. Security hustled Bryant

off the stage and into her limousine where she left the fairgrounds. The orange throwers quickly dispersed into the crowd and managed to go without any incident.

After leaving the fairgrounds, the protestors went to Temple Square chanting gay pride slogans and then proceeded over to Memory Grove. Tartaglia had brought in Bob Kuntz as a keynote speaker. Kuntz had led Miami’s opposition to the campaign to repeal Dade County’s gay rights ordinance.

Over 500 people attended the candlelight vigil organized

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Person of the Year: Carol Gnade

BY JOSELLE VANDERHOOFT

Each year,

QSaltLake names as its Person of the Year an individual or group who has had a substantial effect on Utah’s LGBT community over the year — for good or for ill. This year’s recipient is a familiar face in Utah’s nonprofit sector who has elevated every organization she has touched — Carol Gnade, Utah Pride Center’s executive director for the past two years.

The job, according to Gnade, was supposed to be temporary. In October 2015, the former social worker was retired from a life of activism and public-sector work and living in Torrey, Utah, when the Center was shaken by the abrupt departure of its executive director. Marian Edmonds-Allen resigned after just 11 months on the job, citing the Center’s ongoing financial problems and struggles with its board of directors.

When she read about the Center’s predicament, Gnade called up then-board president Kent Frogley, with whom she had served on the Center’s board in the 1990s, and offered her help.

Frogley, board member Michael Aguilar, and Gnade met for a candid conversation about the Center’s challenges. After a two-hour discussion in which they addressed such things as the Center’s status in the community, its funds and issues “with the building, staff and media,” Aguilar said Gnade agreed to step in for a few months “to become the ‘steady hand’

that the Center needs.”

“Well, here we are two years later,” Gnade, now 72, said, laughing.

Her decision wasn’t the only time Gnade stepped in to offer help and a steadying presence to a Utah organization. In the early ’90s, she offered her support to the Utah chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union after learning the state legislature had passed an abortion ban, despite the Supreme Court ruling the procedure constitutional. By then, Gnade, who has a background in social work, had a keen interest in public relations, advertising and nonprofit work. At that time, the chapter had only an executive director and a part-time secretary.

When that director, Michelle Parish left, Gnade took on the role and held it from 1993 to 2007. During that time, the ACLU of Utah took on several watershed cases, including East High GayStraight Alliance v. Board of Education of Salt Lake City School District and Weaver v. Nebo School District. The East High claim, filed in 1998, sought to prevent the board of education from banning gaystraight alliances at the school. The

next, from 1997, addressed the firing of lesbian teacher and high school coach Wendy Weaver because of her sexual orientation.

Working side-by-side with the board and Aguilar — who in an uncanny twist of fate became the new president of the board the day Gnade joined the staff — Gnade sought to get the Center back on track. In Aguilar, with his master’s degree in nonprofit management, she said she found a team member who worked well with her.

First, the two had to get the Center’s finances back in the black.

“I don’t think people realize how challenging it was to eliminate all of our debt,” Aguilar told QSaltLake. “We didn’t just have money readily available to pay it off — we had to fundraise for it. And we had to convince people that the [Utah] Pride Center would be good stewards of their generous contributions … we developed a fundraising plan that would engage donors in this ‘new’ Utah Pride Center.”

Their plans included the creation of a new event, the Pride Spectacular.

Launched in 2016 as an upgrade to the Grand Marshall Reception, the gala held before the Utah Pride Festival. According to Aguilar, it brings in nearly as much revenue for the Center as the annual festival does.

He said that he and Gnade also developed a new mission statement for the Center to “tell an accurate story” about it.

As part of this new mission, Gnade had to reexamine the programs and offerings in a Center that had become “kind of like an octopus.”

Gnade said it was a matter of finding out what the Center and its staff did best

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and “doing what we do well rather than trying to do all the things people in the community ask us to do.” Then Gnade realized they didn’t have the resources for it and “can’t do it well.”

However, the Center did find, she said, that it could do well at providing “great mental health” services to the LGBT community, which now employs four social workers for counseling. Youth programming, she said, is also something at which the Center excels. Under her leadership, youth events such as Queer Prom in April and its December counterpart, Masqueerade Ball, have flourished. The Center is also home to support groups for LGBT men and women and parents of transgender people.

Part of figuring out what the Center did well, said Gnade, also meant partnering with organizations that could do the things they couldn’t do as well, such as outreach to LGBT refugees and homeless LGBT youth.

And then, of course, she also had to reevaluate how the Center’s staff and the board should function.

“My skills are mainly working with people,” she said. “I love looking at an organization as a group of people who are trying to discover [things] about themselves and grow.”

The “people” issues Gnade had to tackle included “bringing back some peace and cohesiveness” to the Center’s staff, who had reported to four executive directors in a short period.

Sue Robbins, the Center’s current board chair, said she was particularly impressed by the calm Gnade brought to employees and board members alike.

“When a work environment is calm, you are more productive and it isn’t a draining experience,” she said. “Carol created that environment. She is always thinking of others and it makes her a better leader as she attracts the best in those around her.”

Aguilar said he thinks Gnade stayed so long in her “temporary” position because she was having fun. Gnade agrees and admits that she was “probably too young to retire” when she did so the first time. She said now though is a good time to leave, mainly as the Center has bought a new space and will be moving from its 255 E. 400 South address, for a fresh start.

“I don’t believe people should stay in these jobs [for too long]. I think it’s good

to have turnover,” she said, noting that she thinks she may not have the skills, particularly in social media, that a younger director may have.

“I’m going to have a gathering for my retirement and call it the Last Retirement, instead of the Last Supper,” she joked.

Both Aguilar and Robbins said they are thankful for the time they shared with Gnade during her two-year “interim” job.

“Carol is very humble about all she does and will push others to the forefront before stepping up there herself,” said Robbins. “There is no better recognition for her, as a Person of the Year should be someone that makes all people better that are around them. Carol has done that for the Utah Pride Center and the greater

Salt Lake Community.”

“There is certainly a new energy about the Center,” Aguilar said. “This is evident by the number of people who applied for Carol’s job! When it seemed like the world was falling apart at the Center — and Carol stepped in and helped save it — nobody wanted to be the executive director. But now everybody does. She did that. She created a place that is welcoming to everyone. A place where everyone wants to be.”

So, for coming out of retirement, grabbing the Center’s rudder and steering it into the right direction, and being willing to stay on until it is settled in its new home and has a new director to replace her, QSaltLake names Carol Gnade its Person of the Year. Q

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The Sundance Film Festival returns Jan. 18-28, with screenings in Park City, Salt Lake City and at Sundance Mountain Resort. Out of the 110 independent films from 29 countries, Q’s own Flick Dick (aka Detective) Tony Hobday compiled a number of this year’s movies with LGBT themes and/or by LGBT filmmakers, writers and cast members. He also added a few films that just tickled his fancy. For full list of films, ticketing, theater locations and more, visit sundance.org CLARK, ALEX TURTLETAUB)

1993: after being caught having sex with the prom queen, a girl is forced into a gay conversion therapy center. Based on Emily Danforth’s acclaimed and controversial coming-of-age novel. Cast: Chloë Grace Moretz, Sasha Lane, Forrest Goodluck, John Gallagher Jr., Jennifer Ehle. WORLD PREMIERE

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AMERICAN ANIMALS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: BART LAYTON, PRODUCERS: DERRIN SCHLESINGER, KATHERINE BUTLER, DIMITRI DOGANIS, MARY JANE SKALSKI)

The unbelievable but mostly true story of four young men who mistake their lives for a movie and attempt one of the most audacious art heists in U.S. history. Cast: Evan Peters, Barry Keoghan, Blake Jenner, Jared Abrahamson, Ann Dowd, Udo Kier.

WORLD PREMIERE

is unusually devoted to her students. When she discovers one of her five-year-olds is a prodigy, she becomes fascinated with the boy, ultimately risking her family and freedom to nurture his talent. Based on the acclaimed Israeli film. Cast: Maggie Gyllenhaal, Parker Sevak, Rosa Salazar, Anna Barynishikov, Michael Chernus, Gael Garcia Bernal. WORLD PREMIERE

MINDING THE GAP U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: BING LIU, PRODUCER: DIANE QUON)

LIZZIE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: CRAIG WILLIAM MACNEILL, SCREENWRITER: BRYCE KASS, PRODUCERS: NAOMI DESPRES, LIZ DESTRO, CHLOË SEVIGNY)

EIGHTH GRADE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: BO BURNHAM, PRODUCERS: SCOTT RUDIN, ELI BUSH, CHRISTOPHER STORER, LILA YACOUB)

Based on the 1892 murder of Lizzie Borden’s family in Fall River, MA, this tense psychological thriller lays bare the legend of Lizzie Borden to reveal the much more complex, poignant and truly terrifying woman within — and her intimate bond with the family’s young Irish housemaid, Bridget Sullivan. Cast: Chloë Sevigny, Kristen Stewart, Jamey Sheridan, Fiona Shaw, Kim Dickens, Denis O’Hare. WORLD PREMIERE

Thirteen-year-old Kayla endures the tidal wave of contemporary suburban adolescence as she makes her way through the last week of middle school — the end of her thus far disastrous eighth grade year — before she begins high school. Cast: Elsie Fisher, Josh Hamilton. WORLD PREMIERE THE KINDERGARTEN TEACHER U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: SARA COLANGELO, PRODUCERS: CELINE RATTRAY, TRUDIE STYLER, MAGGIE GYLLENHAAL, OSNAT HANDELSMAN-KEREN, TALIA KLEINHENDLER)

Lisa Spinelli is a Staten Island teacher who

U.S. DOCUMENTARY COMPETITION

THE MISEDUCATION OF ­CAMERON POST U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: DESIREE AKHAVAN, SCREENWRITERS: DESIREE AKHAVAN, CECILIA FRUGIUELE, PRODUCERS: CECILIA FRUGIUELE, JONATHAN MONTEPARE, MICHAEL B.

Three young men bond together to escape volatile families in their Rust Belt hometown. As they face adult responsibilities, unexpected revelations threaten their decade-long friendship. WORLD PREMIERE

SEEING ALLRED U.S.A. (DIRECTORS: SOPHIE SARTAIN, ROBERTA GROSSMAN, PRODUCERS: ROBERTA GROSSMAN, SOPHIE SARTAIN, MARTA KAUFFMAN, ROBBIE ROWE TOLLIN, HANNAH KS CANTER)

Gloria Allred overcame trauma and personal setbacks to become one of the nation’s most famous women’s rights attorneys.

Now the feminist firebrand takes on two of the biggest adversaries of her career, Bill Cosby and Donald Trump, as sexual violence allegations grip the nation and keep her in the spotlight. WORLD PREMIERE

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WORLD CINEMA DOCUMENTARY COMPETITION

OUR NEW PRESIDENT RUSSIA, U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MAXIM POZDOROVKIN, PRODUCERS: MAXIM POZDOROVKIN, JOE BENDER, CHARLOTTE COOK)

The story of Donald Trump’s election told entirely through Russian propaganda. By turns horrifying and hilarious, the film is a satirical portrait of Russian media that reveals an empire of fake news and the tactics of modern-day information warfare. WORLD PREMIERE

SHIRKERS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: SANDI TAN, PRODUCERS: SANDI TAN, JESSICA LEVIN, MAYA RUDOLPH)

In 1992, teenager Sandi Tan shot Singapore’s first indie road movie with her enigmatic American mentor Georges — who then vanished with all the footage. Twenty years later, the 16mm film is recovered, sending Tan, now a novelist in Los Angeles, on a personal odyssey in search of Georges’ vanishing footprints.

DUCERS: JIM PARSONS, TODD SPIEWAK, ERIC NORSOPH, PAUL BERNON, RACHEL SONG)

As married couple Alex and Greg navigate their roles as parents to a young son who prefers Cinderella to G.I. Joe, a rift grows between them, one that forces them to confront their own concerns about what’s best for their child, and each other. Cast: Claire Danes, Jim Parsons, Octavia Spencer, Priyanka Chopra, Ann Dowd, Amy Landecker. WORLD PREMIERE

DON’T WORRY, HE WON’T GET FAR ON FOOT U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: GUS VAN SANT, SCREENWRITERS: GUS VAN SANT (SCREENPLAY), JOHN CALLAHAN (BIOGRAPHY), PRODUCERS: CHARLES-MARIE ANTHONIOZ, MOURAD BELKEDDAR, STEVE GOLIN, NICOLAS LHERMITTE)

John Callahan has a talent for off-color jokes...and a drinking problem. When a bender ends in a car accident, Callahan wakes permanently confined to a wheelchair. In his journey back from rock bottom, Callahan finds beauty and comedy in the absurdity of human experience. Cast: Joaquin Phoenix, Jonah Hill, Rooney Mara, Jack Black.

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A KID LIKE JAKE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: SILAS HOWARD, SCREENWRITER: DANIEL PEARLE, PRO-

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THE HAPPY PRINCE GERMANY, BELGIUM, ITALY (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: RUPERT EVERETT, PRODUCERS: SÉBASTIEN DELLOYE, PHILIPP KREUZER, JÖRG SCHULZE)

The last days of Oscar Wilde—and the ghosts haunting them—are brought to vivid life. His body ailing, Wilde lives in exile, surviving on the flamboyant irony and brilliant wit that defined him as the

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BELIEVER U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: DON ARGOTT, PRODUCERS: HEATHER PARRY, SHEENA M. JOYCE, ROBERT REYNOLDS)

Imagine Dragons’ Mormon front­ man Dan Reynolds is taking on a new mission to explore how the church treats its LGBTQ members. With the rising suicide rate among teens in the state of Utah, his concern with the church’s policies sends him on an unexpected path for acceptance and change. WORLD PREMIERE

QUIET HEROES U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JENNY MACKENZIE, CO-DIRECTORS: JARED RUGA, AMANDA STODDARD, PRODUCERS: JENNY MACKENZIE, JARED RUGA, AMANDA STODDARD)

In Salt Lake City, Utah, the socially conservative religious monoculture complicated the AIDS crisis, where patients in the entire state and intermountain region relied on only one doctor. This is the story of her fight to save a maligned population everyone else seemed willing to just let die. WORLD PREMIERE

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adults share their childhood writings and art in front of total strangers. Based on the Mortified stage shows, books, podcast and film, this docuseries celebrates the awkward insecurities that shaped us all.

Cast: Robert Woo, Katie Westerfield, Adam Ruben. WORLD PREMIERE

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At a pivotal moment for gender equality in Hollywood, successful women directors tell the stories of their art, lives and careers.

Having endured a long history of systemic discrimination, women filmmakers may be getting the first glimpse of a future that values their voices equally. WORLD

Kyle is depressed and a weekend bike ride with his best friend, Mike, should help. Fresh air.

Camaraderie. Exercise. But Mike has something to say that might ruin the ride.

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A darkly comic three-part short film about malevolent women.

FOR NONNA ANNA CANADA (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: LUIS DE FILIPPIS)

A trans girl cares for her Italian grandmother. She assumes that her Nonna disapproves of her — but instead discovers a tender bond in their shared vulnerability.

SET ME AS A SEAL UPON THINE HEART

STUDIO 54 U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MATT TYRNAUER, PRODUCERS: MATT TYRNAUER, JOHN BATTSEK, COREY REESER)

Studio 54 was the pulsating epicenter of 1970s hedonism: a disco hothouse of beautiful people, drugs, and sex. The journeys of Ian Schrager and Steve Rubell — two best friends from Brooklyn who conquered New York City — frame this history of the “greatest club of all time.” WORLD PREMIERE

CAREFUL HOW YOU GO UNITED KINGDOM (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: EMERALD FENNELL)

THE CLIMB U.S.A. (DIRECTOR & SCREENWRITER: MICHAEL COVINO)

HALF THE PICTURE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: AMY ADRION, PRODUCERS: AMY ADRION, DAVID HARRIS)

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MEN DON’T WHISPER U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JORDAN FIRSTMAN, SCREENWRITERS: JORDAN FIRSTMAN,

After being emasculated at a sales conference, gay couple Reese and Peyton set out to do the most masculine thing they can think of - sleep with some women.

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A gay sauna encounter between a young man and an older man becomes an unexpected lesson about love.

WOULD YOU LOOK AT HER MACEDONIA (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: GORAN STOLEVSKI)

A hard-headed tomboy spots the unlikely solution to all her problems in an all-male religious ritual.

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JANE FONDA IN FIVE ACTS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: SUSAN LACY, PRODUCERS: LACY, JESSICA LEVIN, EMMA PILDES)

Girl next door, activist, socalled traitor, fitness tycoon, Oscar winner: Jane Fonda has lived a life of controversy, tragedy and transformation — and she’s done it all in the public eye. An intimate look at one woman’s singular journey.

WORLD PREMIERE

WYRM U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: CHRISTOPHER WINTERBAUER)

THE MORTIFIED GUIDE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MICHAEL MAYER, EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: DAVID NADELBERG, NEIL KATCHER

A comedic look at the biggest issues of adolescence — from first loves to fitting in — as

Wyrm has two days to get his first kiss or he’ll be held back as part of the school district’s No Child Left Alone program and forced to wear his My.E.Q. Remote Monitoring collar through high school.

I LIKE GIRLS CANADA (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: DIANE OBOMSAWIN)

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ANIMATED SHORT FILMS PLUR U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: JULIE FLIEGENSPAN)

A claymation adaptation of a series of actual voicemails received after making out with someone at a rave.

MANIVALD ESTONIA, CROATIA, CANADA (DIRECTOR: CHINTIS LUNDGREN, SCREENWRITERS: CHINTIS LUNDGREN, DRAŠKO IVEZ)

Manivald is still living at home with his retired mother. The day before his 33rd birthday a hot young wolf named Toomas comes to fix their washing machine. A love triangle develops, which leaves Manivald increasingly frustrated.

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CONCERTS

SPECIAL ENGAGEMENTS

A longtime fabulous Utah favorite, DeeDee Darby-Duffin returns in a new concert Backstage at the Grand. She’s been a staple as far back (that I recall) as the 2010 Different = Amazing benefit show, to as recent (that I recall) as the 2017 Women’s Redrock Music Festival. Enjoy a night of music that will make you laugh, cry, ponder and wonder as DeeDee takes you on a journey of Jazz, Rhythm & Blues and Soul.

She emerged from being “Patient Zero of Internet Shaming,” as she describes it, to become a scholar and advocate.

With a Master’s Degree from London School of Economics, Monica Lewinsky comes to our stage to help inform a generation of parents and kids how to tackle the “empathy crisis” of cyberbullying. Her TED Talk on the topic has received more than 11 million views. Hmmm, I just have to ask: Do you think she’ll deliver her talk from under a Resolute desk? Too soon??

Equality Utah’s QTalks is a fast-paced, high-octane LGBTQ speaker series. It creates a space where our community and allies come together and share ideas, lessons and stories in quick succession.

This month’s speakers are Alray Nelson of Dine Equality, who will be speaking on equal rights issues; Luis Garza of Communidades Unidas, who will be speaking on immigration topics and his personal story. As well as Laurie Lee Hall, a former architect for the LDS church, and Sen. Daniel Thatcher, speaking on victim targeting legislation.

The Park City Eccles Center hosts its 20th Anniversary Party featuring Pink Martini. Crossing genres of classical, jazz and old-fashioned pop, Pink Martini performances ignite incredible enthusiasm and will be returning to Park City to toast the moments of discovery and celebrate the future of the Eccles Center.

Park City Live presents Customer Appreciation Film Fest Pre-Party w/Special Guest Party Favor. Few acts have the innovative color and diverse repertoire of Party Favor, one of the fastest rising names in dance music. His edgy style helped pioneer the festival trap genre, exhilarating and thrilling audiences.

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THURSDAY — THINK ABOUT IT FEATURING DEE-DEE DARBY-DUFFIN

Grand Theatre, 1575 S. State St., 301 S., 7:30pm through Saturday. Tickets $10-20, grandtheatrecompany.com

DANCE Presented by Repertory Dance Theatre, Emerge features choreography solely brainstormed, developed and staged by the resident RDT dancers. This show sold out last season so you’ll want to get your tickets early.

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FRIDAY — RDT PRESENTS EMERGE

Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, times vary through Saturday. Tickets $15, artsaltlake.org

MOVIES Stealing from Petunia Pap Smear, the road to the 1994 Lillehammer Winter Olympics is fraught with danger and excitement. Olympic ice skater Tonya Harding supposedly had an iron rod taken to adversary Nancy Kerrigan’s kneecap by a hired hand to keep her from competing. It would have been more symbolic if a hammer had been used, just sayin’ (it can’t be too soon … it was in freakin’ 1994)! Anyhoo, “I, Tonya” will finally set the bone in place.

Ellen DeGeneres raved on here TV show about the gay love story, “Call Me By Your Name,” which stars Armie Hammer and Timothée Chalamet and both who were just recognized with Golden Globe nods for their performances. It’s a must-see!

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FRIDAY — I, TONYA

Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. 300 South, times vary. Tickets $6.75-9.25, saltlakefilmsociety.org

FRIDAY — CALL ME BY YOUR NAME Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. 300 South, times vary. Tickets $6.75–9.25, saltlakefilmsociety.org

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SATURDAY — 20TH ANNIVERSARY PARTY FEATURING PINK MARTINI

Eccles Center Theater, 1750 Kearns Blvd., Park City, 7:30pm. Tickets $50-200, ecclescenter.org — Customer Appreciation Film Fest Pre-Party w/Special Guest Party Favor Park City Live, 425 Main St., Park City, 8pm doors open, Age 21+. Tickets $10-30, parkcitylive.net.

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Eccles Center Theater, 1750 Kearns Blvd., Park City, 7:30pm. Tickets $29-79, ecclescenter.org

TUESDAY — SOMETHING ROTTEN

Delta Performance Hall, Eccles Theater, 131 S. Main St, times vary, through Jan. 14. Tickets $35–110, artsaltlake.org

UPCOMING EVENTS

Feb. 6, THE KILLERS, smithstix.com Feb. 9, PAULA POUNDSTONE, artsaltlake.org Feb. 19, WALK THE MOON, smithstix.com April 11-May 6, HAMILTON, artsaltlake.org June 16, KESHA AND MACKLEMORE, smithstix.com

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UMFA presents LGBT history and culture in the American West If you’ve ever wondered why the now un-politically correct “Cowboy and Indian Chief” were crucial figures in the gayconic Village People, a visit to the new exhibition at the Utah Museum of Fine Arts answers the question.

The two figures have been a big part of the mythology of the U.S. since, well the beginning. The portrayal of the male physique of the native American in heroic, Greek masculine style usually astride well-muscled beasts, while the cowboy depicted in chaps and

a ’70s porn mustache, both which generally would stop a gay man’s heart.

“Go West! Art of the American Frontier from the Buffalo Bill Center of the West” on view at the UMFA in the museum’s newly remodeled galleries give you a good look at the mythology.

The exhibit explores the history of LGBT in Native American culture and the Westward expansion in two lectures: DeLesslin George-Warren Queer Artist DeLesslin George-Warren presents a

lecture-performance recounting his personal history and the history of his community, Catawba Indian Nation, Thursday, Jan. 11, at 7 p.m.

On Thursday, Feb. 8 at 7 p.m., historian Gregory Hinton discusses “Out West with Buffalo Bill” a survey of LGBT history and culture in the American West.

“Our community is deeply devoted to the art of our region,” says UMFA Executive Director Gretchen Dietrich, “The remarkable quality of these objects, their art historical significance, and their cultural relevance makes this a must-see exhibition.”

From 1830 until 1930, the West was a period of settlement for Euro-Americans and one of displacement and adaptation for Native Americans.

“This exhibition lays bare the myths about westward expansion perpetuated by Euro-American artists in oil paint, ink and bronze,” says Leslie Anderson, UMFA curator of European, American, and regional art. “It explores how American Indians preserved their way of life through artistic traditions during a period of forced relocation.”

Highlights include works by iconic painters N. C. Wyeth, Thomas Moran, former Ogden resident, Albert Bierstadt, renowned painter and sculptor Frederic Remington, and one of the 19th century’s bestknown female artists, Rosa Bonheur.

The works by these and other Euro-Americans in conjunction with beautiful original objects by Plains Indian artists, who used “organic” media like, porcupine quills, tanned animal hide, dyed horse hair, glass beads and other materials will be displayed.

The exhibition was curated

by Mindy Besaw and Stephanie Mayer Heydt. UMFA curator Leslie Anderson organized the show for Salt Lake City.

GO WEST! ART OF THE AMERICAN FRONTIER FROM THE BUFFALO BILL CENTER OF THE WEST Dec 3, 2017–March 11, 2018 The Utah Museum of Fine Arts, 410 Campus Center Dr Admission includes access to all Museum galleries.

Adults: $18.95, Seniors & Youth (ages 6–18): $15.95, Children (ages 0–5), UMFA members, and U of U students, staff, and faculty: Free umfa.utah.edu/go-west

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know those friends you have in your life of whom you think back and ask, “We used to be so close?”

The memories are memorandums of past follies, mistakes and entertainment. I don’t think we ever try to lose contact with those people or people in general; I genuinely believe life happens and the direction in which we need to grow to orientate us away from each other. Growth will either keep us steered in opposite directions, close nearby or on a path that’ll realign later.

The memories of those old friends may have caused you to think, “I need to reach out to them and reconnect.” Goodness, those thoughts may have preceded actual actions toward reconnection — although, let’s face it, reaching out probably happens five percent of the time.

Case in point, how many times have we grabbed at our bodies in the mirror and vowed to “go to the gym tomorrow!” Let’s face it again, motivation in a moment only lasts as long as that moment — it doesn’t stick around to see us through. Meh, that’s a part of life I guess.

However, have you ever actually reached out to someone whom time lost? I have. And let me tell you, I’ve realized that when you try to reconnect, you’ll find two types of people in those you lose in time. The first is what I call the “Time Capsule Friend.” Those people are people you talk to, catch-up with and feel as though time never passed.

You can converse, laugh, connect and stroll down memory lane as if you just saw each other yesterday. The good news is those people are most likely to be the

ones you’ll reach out to whenever you reach out.

Be that as it may, there’s a slight chance you’ll reach out to the second type of person.

I term this person the “Gerbil Friend.” Allow me to expound on that — a childhood friend’s sister had a gerbil growing up that she neglected to pet. Whenever she’d reach her hand in the cage to pet it, it would bite her fingers and act as if it never knew her.

Gerbil Friends are those friends that once you lose contact with for any length of time, there’s no coming right back. With those people, time is utterly lost and reaching out will be met immediately with chillness, biting and weirdness. With that kind of response, who’d ever venture to reach out to an old seemingly forgotten friend? I sure wouldn’t, but I’m glad for when I did.

Despite the risk you run of sticking your hand into the proverbial cage of a potential Gerbil Friend, I still say you should reach out and try to reconnect with those whom you lost contact. What’s the harm, right?

More likely than not you’ll reconnect with someone that you realize you never disconnected with at all. A worst case scenario is you attempt to connect with a friend that’s apparently been gnawing at woodchips ever since life drifted you apart.

The connection is vital; friendship is a bond that can last beyond any other. We have the ability to see this. This insight separates us from the animals, in addition to our ability to drink copious amounts of wine, but I digress. Gerbil Friends are people too. And like gerbils tend to do, don’t let them piss on your positive feels of reaching out. Reach out. Keep going; reconnect and connect alike! Q

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BY ROCK MAGEN

I was

recently shopping on Amazon and came across a weekly planner filled with life encouragement, small handwritten advice, and jokes that, you guessed it, were all unsolicited. In our age of the iPhone, I know that the majority have traded in paper and pen for the notepad app, but I loved the idea and that the planner was bold enough to name itself “Unsolicited Advice 2018.” So, in the spirit of this planner, I am going to also share some unsolicited advice and action items about money, relationships and life.

When it comes to money, it is important to ask why you are spending money.

Is your goal to save time or to save money? If happiness is your goal, studies have shown that spending money to save time (i.e., hiring a maid or buying takeout) may

reduce stress and improve happiness. Do these things: save a little extra money each week, negotiate a better salary, figure out your retirement savings, write a financial to-do list and get professional help.

Let’s get this out of the way: There is no magic solution for having a better relationship. People aren’t perfect, couples fight, we all feel insecure, and that’s just life. However, there are things you can do to that make it easier to be in a relationship. Good relationships don’t happen overnight. They take commitment, compromise, forgiveness, and most of all you must put in the effort to show you care. Do these things: put away your phone, get more sleep. Figure out your love style, and have robust conversations before moving in together.

The world is changing. There is more opportunity than ever and with that comes the uncertainty associated with cultural and technological changes that are shaping every aspect of our lives.

It means you will need to spend time deciding and preparing to succeed in an unknown future. The world we are

entering is very different than anything we have yet experienced. Unlike previous generations, we have an incredible gift — a chance to design your college experience and to truly architect the future you want. Do these things: let curiosity be your guide, be resilient, cultivate good friendships, and embrace each day with passion and purpose.

If you have ever wondered what makes someone more successful than you, I guarantee that in most cases the difference is planning. Careful planning is essential for success. It defines you for the next 12 months, and it gives you a roadmap for success. While I will not give you more “to-do’s” I will say that when you plan correctly, you are ready for anything unexpected that may arise. You may not know the answer precisely, but you’ll at least know where it all fits in the scheme of things.

As I said when I started this article, all the advice is unsolicited. Feel free to use all, some or none. But just remember, whatever you do — make sure it’s the best for you and good luck in 2018. Q

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MAKE IT BETTER: QUAC’s Adult Learn-to-Swim Program Note from the editor: The “Make it Better” column in QSaltLake celebrates individuals, groups and businesses that make Utah’s LGBT community better in some way. Please nominate someone you think is making it better for LGBT Utah by sending an email to editor@qsaltlake.com

The Adult

Learn To Swim Program is a “self-care” program offered by the Queer Utah Aquatic Club that started in early 2017. The QUAC’s Lane 1 class takes inexperienced swimmers through the basics of freestyle and backstroke.

Swimmers meet three times a week for one hour. Practices are Tuesdays and Thursdays from 7-8 p.m., and Sundays from 11 a.m.-noon.

Three coaches volunteer each week on a rotating basis allowing swimmers different teaching skills and techniques to adapt to a variety of learning styles.

Coaches then add progress details to each swimmer’s profile. Once a swimmer has passed the five basic Red Cross Competencies and had the basics of at least

freestyle they can move up to the Lane 2 program.

“We allow new swimmers to come drop in at any time in the program. We tend to adapt to individual swimmers ability and learning speed to give each one the time and encouragement they need,” says Jake Adams, a Lane 1 program coach.

“The QUAC ALS program was welcoming and made me feel comfortable, and they are now my good friends,” says student swimmer Yutaka Yanase. “At first I worried how long I would last in the program, but since day one, I’ve been going every week. QUAC is one of the best things to happen to me.”

Another student, Marysol Almestica, adds, “ When I started the ALS Program it was a step toward self-care. Friends who heard about the program suggested it, and after the first practice, I immediately realized it was something I wanted to pursue.

I love the program.”

“People come for different reasons, and we try to adapt, but the biggest success is people becoming comfortable in the wa-

ter, and with the basics get independence they can use around water the rest of their lives,” Beginner Coach Ben Webb says.

Webb also states that it’s QUAC’s mission to get people involved in aquatics.

“Recreation in and around water is popular, which can be dangerous without knowing swimming basics, Webb says.

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book review

REVIEW BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

True Sex: The Lives of Trans Men at the Turn of the 20th Century

BY EMILY SKIDMORE C.2017, NEW YORK UNIVERSITY PRESS $27.00, 253 PP

Always Be Yourself.

Pretty much since grade school that’s what you’ve been told.

Take a breath and you do.

People like you the way you are. You don’t have to try to be someone you’re not. Always be yourself — although, as you‘ll see in “True Sex: The Lives of Trans Men at the Turn of the 20th Century” by Emily Skidmore, that may have caused gossip a century ago.

In 1902, women in the United States could not legally vote. Many couldn’t hold property or get credit, and joining the military was likewise forbidden. None of that was a concern to Harry Gorman though: well-traveled, adventuresome and married, Gorman lived in Buffalo, New York, where he was known as a good man.

Except he wasn’t. Gorman was anatomically a woman.

Surely, that came as a surprise to doctors, jailers and undertakers who discovered the secrets of Gorman and men like him, but here, Skidmore says that the opposite is true of everyday folks: as evidenced by articles in many small-town newspapers, locals often knew the “true sex” of trans men in their midst and didn’t seem to much care.

Many trans men in the late 1800s and early 1900s, says Skidmore, married, perhaps to cement their appearance as “‘good men’ to their communities.” Once discovered, they

were often known in the press as “female husbands” because the term “lesbians” hadn’t taken hold yet and, at that time, women were largely believed to be asexual or unable to be passionate. Even so, though titillated, small-town Americans then weren’t quite as naive as we might think they were.

Perhaps because the science of sexology was still in its infancy and words were lacking, many of the men explained their actions as a way to make a living, or because it was more comfortable to dress and live as a man. Some didn’t explain at all, while others said they lived as men to take advantage of the rights men had, and continued in order to avoid embarrassment by their new wives. In many cases that Skidmore found, those reasons were no matter to neighbors. But intolerance was never far away.

When one considers the attitudes toward LGBT individuals, pre-Stonewall, it’s quite eye-opening to know that tolerance was practiced well before discrimination was.

It gives you more respect for your elders — and yet, as you’ll see in “True Sex,” laissez faire attitudes weren’t widespread.

Using the tales of many trans men, as garnered from newspaper accounts of the day, Skidmore shows how smalltown residents around the turn of the last century viewed trans men and, at the same time, women who loved women. Not only are those stories fascinating, but they contain a certain quaintness that belies what’s between the lines: the newspapers had a lot to say, but there was an equal amount that they didn’t say but that readers, Skidmore believes, surely implicitly understood.

This book veers off into the scholarly now and then; even so, it’s readable by anyone who’s interested in this history. If that’s you, “True Sex” is a book you’ll want for yourself. Q

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45 Lauer, who crossdressed as Dolly Parton on Today 47 1993 title role for 53-Down 50 Strait man 52 Author Scoppettone 53 De-Lovely star Kevin 54 Rubbed the wrong way 55 Like orifices close to each other 59 Half of Mork’s good-bye 60 New Year’s song ender 61 Lesbian couples in Bambi?

62 Morales of Mi Familia 63 Cincinnati team 65 Old Spanish queen

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finding the best pleasures coming from yourself.

work with, so either tell them where to go or move on.

CANCER June 21–July 22 The idea of vacationing is tempting, even if the timing is wrong. Soak in a hot tub or go to a spa.

That might be all you need. The call of career is one you enjoy hearing, but it can be overwhelming. Remember that a deadline has a way of focusing the mind, but there is nothing wrong with putting focus on hold.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 A lull in the action is expected this time of year. Enjoy it and go have fun. Get financial matters in order and work on a personal endeavor. A work matter is boring and it won’t be long before it doesn’t matter at all anymore.

That’s perfectly fine. Life is all about changes, but the core of life will always be there.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 A sense of stability has been lost. Keep in mind that you’ve traded one sense of security for another.

Things are going better than you think.

Stay focused on a goal that is creating wishful thinking and try to keep it real.

While it is fun to imagine the possibilities, don’t lose yourself in the process either.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 Creativity hasn’t been flowing as easily as it usually does. This is due to a dulling of the senses, and it’s time for a different point of view. Take this opportunity to reexamine the world.

Come up with new ideas without trying too hard. The best visions come naturally, and the next great inspiration is just around the corner.

LEO July 23–August 22 Someone has the ability to make you mad, but it happens to be someone you love very much! There lies the conflict because you can’t shut them out like you would most adversaries. Have a frank discussion about the behaviors that bother you and see if you can teach this person how to treat you. It’s worth a shot.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 It might as well be mating season because you are running wild. Be safe. Don’t rush into a bad situation and keep your outlook light and airy. Others are going to have a good time too, but be aware that feelings are always a factor.

The more you engage, the more likely those in your life will expect more too.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 There is always much to do, and it is hard to keep track of it.

The point will come to pick and choose activities and putting people on the back burners for a while. Don’t worry about upsetting friends who matter because they understand how much variety means

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 Have faith that the best things in life will present themselves, but don’t rely on it. It’s a good time to renew your commitment to being happy. A project has been a good source of frustration, so take a break and work on making it work for you. Inner peace comes by

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS ARIES March 20–April 19 Stick to what you know and get better at it. Practice is the key to success and happiness, so pick one thing and put the rest aside. Friends will feel lucky to have you in their life, and they’ll be sure to tell you about it. Don’t become too comfortable though, because tough times are merely a part of life.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

Don’t escape from the world.

Change a bad situation instead. It may seem challenging to make it work, but have faith that it will. The longer you let ill-tempered people control you, the worse it’s going to get. Killing with kindness never works the people you

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 It feels really good to think of telling a bad friend where to stick it, but you’ll have more fun sticking it to them instead. Work off tension with good old fashioned passion and things will improve. There is a lot of baggage and worries in life right now, but not as dire as it appears. Stay strong, things will flow.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 It seems as if the people who matter most have retreated after an exhausting holiday, so take the alone time at face value and relax. There is nothing wrong with going solo for a bit. In fact, you may find it preferable. No one is going to be gone for long, so be ready for when things return to normal very soon. Q

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Justice for all

BY ORIOL R. GUTIERREZ JR.

Aaron

C. Morris is executive director of Immigration Equality, a New York Citybased immigration rights organization. The nonprofit group advocates for people from around the world fleeing violence, abuse and persecution because of their sexual orientation, gender identity or HIV status. Since it was founded in 1994, the group has won asylum for hundreds of LGBT and HIV-positive immigrants with a 99-percent success rate.

Before becoming executive director in 2016, Morris was legal director of Immigration Equality. He joined the organization in 2008 as a staff attorney after two years as a staff attorney at the United States Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit. He earned his law degree in 2005 from American University Washington College of Law. Gridlock in Congress over comprehensive immigration reform led President Obama to sign an executive order to protect from deportation at least some individuals who were brought to the United States as minors by parents who were undocumented immigrants. President Trump rescinded the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA), but that order won’t be effective until 2018.

The fate of the Dreamers – which refers to DACA enrollees who would eventually attain permanent residency if the Development, Relief, and Education for Alien Minors

(DREAM) Act bill were to become law – is yet to be determined. Add in concerns over the effects of an executive order from President Trump commonly known as the Muslim travel ban, which was challenged in court, and immigration is one hot topic.

Morris offers insights on what it all means for LGBTs and for HIV/AIDS. Tell us about Immigration Equality. We were founded with a three-part mission.

The first was to find ways for same-sex couples who didn’t have access to marriage equality to plan their families.

Unlike different-sex couples, you couldn’t get a green card yet through marriage.

The second was to establish the American asylum system as a way for foreign nationals who were going to be persecuted or tortured to stay safely and legally in the United States and have a pathway toward citizenship.

The first year that the federal government formally recognized sexual orientation as a protected ground under asylum law was 1994. The first case was with gay men, so we devoted ourselves to expanding that protection to lesbians, bisexual people, transgender and gender-nonconforming people.

The third part of our mission was to overturn the statutory ban on travel for people living with HIV to the United States. Until 2010, if you were HIV positive, you could not get a visa to come

to the United States or get a green card.

If you were LGBT and found to be here living with HIV, it was a reason to deport you from the United States.

That was blatantly anti-LGBT because they created a waiver for different-sex couples who were married, and that waiver was not available to our community.

We worked very heavily starting in the mid-2000s to lobby Congress with coalition partners to overturn that discriminatory ban. To see the parallels between the defunct HIV ban and the Muslim and refugee ban is disturbing.

All of the nations affected by the new ban are also countries from where we have clients seeking asylum or refugee status. To foreclose the possibility of offering them protection is a nightmare, and it’s a gross human rights violation.

What are some of the effects of the Muslim travel ban? The number of refugees America will accept has been reduced from 110,000 to 50,000. We reached that quota in July, so we are currently not accepting refugees from anywhere in the world, which is obscene. To reduce the number by more than half sends the wrong message.

I spoke with a Libyan man who had been resettled right before the ban was institut-

ed. He told me that one of the few things that keeps a refugee camp a tolerable place is the hope that you might be resettled out of there. The ban squashes the hope of the refugees in those camps.

A lot of people have no choice but to leave their country, so there are many judges and asylum officers who have given our clients protection based on their HIV status, but we have yet to see a case declaring HIV as a protected ground in the way we did for sexual orientation or gender identity. We’re working on it. We’ll probably get there eventually.

Give us an update on DACA. When DACA was signed in 2012, we were in a position to advise potential DACA recipients of the benefits and the risks. We did a lot of safety planning for people, but most young people wanted to take the risk, particularly since this is the only nation they’ve ever known.

The Dreamers now feel like all of their security has been pulled out from under them, that they’re being attacked, when all they did was everything right. They obtained degrees, got jobs, paid taxes, started businesses and careers.

We have a client who is midway through nursing school. He’s asking himself, “Should I finish this? Is it

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worth it? Will I get licensed at the end? What am I supposed to do with my life now?”

If Congress moves quickly in a bipartisan way, which it should because there is support throughout the United States and within Congress to solve this problem through passing the DREAM Act, then these young people will not have taken a leap of faith for nothing.

What’s happening with comprehensive immigration reform legislation? Let’s start with a brief overview of what used to happen versus what happens now. When we started heavily lobbying Congress, often it would be the queer voices in the room that were not being included among other immigrant groups.

There were various reasons.

Some of the groups were conservative or religious or just not wanting to take a

chance on adding queer people because they believed it would hurt a broader coalition. Today, it’s almost the opposite.

President Trump has galvanized a coalition of the middle and the left and even people who years ago would never have given me the time of day.

We are eager to have the biggest unified voice possible in seeking immigration reform.

Having said that, it’s always a battle. We haven’t had a real immigration reform bill since 1996. We are well overdue, but there are lots of other things that we could do to reform the immigration system that do not require a bill.

For example, there are about 300,000 immigration cases backlogged in a court that has just over 300 judges. That system is on the verge of collapse. There need to be more judges. There need to be more adjudication officers.

Another example: If you are threatening people with deportation to places where they’re going to get killed because they have HIV, they should have lawyers to represent them. The law does not provide that. It allows it only if you can pay for it yourself or if you have probono counsel like Immigration Equality.

The executive branch could do more on its own, independent of Congress, to make the immigration system fairer, more expedient and more humane.

Are the challenges LGBTs face different from those faced by people with HIV? There are logistical concerns and issues with the legal merits of a case.

When we meet people living with HIV, the first thing on their minds is often logistical, related to health care or housing or their children’s needs.

Regarding the law, if it’s

dangerous to be a queer-identified person in a country, it’s probably more dangerous to be queer and HIV positive. So in some way, it often makes the case stronger to be both.

That said, many straight people living with HIV are at risk for persecution in countries that have a lot of HIV stigma. Judges take that into consideration.

Currently, the U.S. government puts trans women in men’s detention facilities. A lot of our clients living with HIV who have been detained have had terrible health care in detention facilities.

Our goal is always to empower people, to support them and to encourage them to speak out in a safe way. Q Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr. is the editor-in-chief of POZ magazine. Find him on Twitter @ oriolgutierrez. This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, The Body and Q Syndicate, nd QSaltLake

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buying for LGBT people is difficult at best, anxiety-riddled at worst. What do you get the him, her or them who already have everything with specific tastes to boot? Play into stereotypes – that’s what. Identify where your favorite queers fall on the spectrum of zero to glittered unicorn then shop this list of cherry-picked presents.

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Raising respectful children who turn into respectful adults is harder than it looks (at least in Hollywood, and Washington, D.C., and most red states), but The Little Feminist hopes to reverse that trend with its children’s book and activity subscription focused on diversity and gender equality – a much-needed resource given that over the past five years only 31 percent of children’s books featured female central characters while a paltry 13 percent featured a person of color. Change the world one kid at a time with three- or six-month subscriptions. $105-$200, thelittlefeminist.com

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Leather-strap embossing allows you to personalize the modern minimalism of newly launched Washington Square Watches (the navy-faced Greenwich Gold is a piece to behold), or stick to tradition with London-based Oliver Coen’s polished subdial pieces presented in a signature black box. $155, washingtonsquarewatches.com; $190, olivercoen.com

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a controller for drones and robots (or so the AIs let you think). For stay-at-home console players, pick up holiday hot-tickets Destiny 2 and Call of Duty: WWII, based on the historical events of Operation Overlord and set in the European theater. $100, gamevice.com; games - $60/ each, gamestop.com

The Loveable Lush Craft beer connoisseurs can enjoy their hobby in the comfort of their homes thanks to Pico Model C, a countertop-brewing appliance that delivers five liters of liquid gold in about two hours, while the amateur mixologists on the other side of the bar whip up precisely portioned jigger-free cocktails with the Perfect Blend Smart Scale (which is great for healthy smoothies, too). $549, picobrew.com; $100, makeitperfectly.com

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gay writes

BY KED KIRKHAM

MOUNTAINS, 1

MOUNTAINS, 4

East, light contours the range in silhouette; from here soft, undulating.

The snow horse emerges out of the shadows and snow, climbing higher toward the peaks.

West, the island, Its colors indistinct; dry beds reflect no light.

Day will come, flooding the night.

Light will come, pushing the dark beyond the lake.

I cannot name the peaks, but like family, I recognize them; the elders, the wise ones encircling the crib where I was lain.

I live on the edge of the Great Basin, the eastern bench; below its canyons, above the lake.

MOUNTAINS, 2

We undo!

The Great Salt Lake, where I imagine my parents, In the keep of the island winds roam freely, finally.

I have been to the western edge, to the northern and southern limits.

I have slept in the heat, hiked in the cold, burned in the sun, gazed into the dark when I am away from the cities.

To skirt the Promontory Mountains, ride through the cut in the Traverse Mountains, to wind through the Oquirrh mining districts or summit the Wasatch passes thrills me;

Russet foothills climb to the rock face, reaching finally the dark of pine and fir, of granite and scree.

Snow in the chutes and northern slopes delineates the sharp edge, the age, of the Wasatch.

Elements of range and basin; twisting spines between canyons, spread of bench and bluff, the cut of creek and stream between fragile walls of clay, that in turn will break apart and wash away.

Never shall I tire Of the sudden overlook, Or the spreading panorama In the valleys of the mountains.

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Winds, heavy with cool and blue, clear the air; winnowing sunlight from night, carding fibers of cloud and weaving a mantilla of light to lay across the mountains.

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I know I am of the interloper; The invader.

I mourn the loss our presence incurred; So, I will keep this place sacred whenever I am able.

I will honor the water, I will restore the soil; I will protect the animal brothers And I will respect the elders, The ancient ones who live still in the mountains. Q

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the perils of petunia pap smear

Petunia’s more tales of the city

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

The road

to Beach Blanket Babylon is fraught with danger and excitement.

More events from my recent vacation trip to San Francisco and the Folsom Street Fair. After Mr. Pap Smear and myself had spent the better part of the day gawking at naked leather boys getting bound up and whipped into a frenzy, we had just enough time left in the day to tackle one of my bucket list items.

Ever since I had first viewed Armistead Maupin’s Tales of the City miniseries in 1994, I am enamored with all things San Francisco. I bought all of Armistead Maupin’s books in the series. I even hosted a series of movie nights in my single-wide trailer with polyester curtains and a redwood deck, for all us Logan Queens.

In the television version, Mrs. Madrigal takes Mona Ramsey to Club Fugazi in San Francisco’s North Beach district, in the middle of Little Italy to see Beach Blanket Babylon, the world’s longest-running musical revue. One quick glimpse of the show and I was hooked, and attending this show became a bucket list item for me. Many people in Utah take one look at my beehive hair, lighted breasticles with interchangeable blinking nipples and sequined caftans and exclaim that I am an extreme fashionista. I beg to differ. Upon doing a little bit of research, and speaking to several people who have attended, I learned that this show was a

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drag queen costume and musical EXTRAVAGANZA PAR EXCELLENCE! We arrived at the theater an hour before show time. I was so excited I could barely hold my pee. We were escorted inside by the most adorable little usher. He sat us right up front, touching the edge of the stage. Any closer and I would be part of the show. His name tag read “Deacon,” although I was sure he was old enough to be an elder. He was so cute I wanted to hide him in my purse and take him home.

I didn’t have time to ask him about his unusual name, as he was busy mincing and flitting around seating the audience and getting their drink orders.

In the program, it said that this show had been playing in this theater for 40 years and over 16,000 performances. It was readily believable because the chair I was sitting on, I’m sure still had the original padding, and was none too delicately poking my ass.

The theater looked to be ancient, with ornate woodwork on the proscenium and the balustrades. It reminded me of the fancy woodwork I saw when I was performing baptism’s for the dead in the Logan Mormon Temple, before they remodeled it and destroyed all the pioneer craftsmanship and beauty, and replaced it all with generic drywall and cinderblock.

Deacon took our drink orders and brought back the world’s smallest glass of Diet Coke. For a slight moment, I almost thought I was in a Mormon sacrament meeting, drinking Diet Coke from the sacrament cup.

The lights dimmed, and the show began. I immediately transported to Heaven. The costumes were to die for, repeatedly. Each time a new character came on stage, I was left breathless with envy.

Never in the course of human history has there been a higher concentration of sequins and rhinestones, and were applied with such skill and precision. The musical numbers were very lively, in tune and humorous. One of the actors caught my eye. OH! MY! GOD! He was pretty!

The theater gods were smiling on me because in the second musical number his costume consisted of short shorts and a tank top, and he tap-danced. Because I was sitting right next to the stage, his plentiful basket was just at eye level. And the rippling thigh and calf muscles dancing inches in front of my face. The number included a move where he faced the rear of the stage and bent over. His heavenly buns, so round and firm, perfectly framed in sequins. (Oh, sweet mystery of life, I’ve finally found you!) I was so tempted to reach out and touch. The only thing that saved his ass from my grasp was that I got distracted by all the shiny and sparkly costumes which became more elaborate with each progressive scene.

In the finale, there were several gigantic hats at least fifteen feet wide and ten feet tall. They were electrified with lights and moving parts. There was even a moving model train on one of them. The enormous wigs and hats made my twofeet-tall beehive wigs look like miniature marshmallows by comparison. I nearly passed out from overstimulation.

This story leaves us with several important questions: · Because I once lived in a trailer house, am I considered trailer trash for life? · If I had shanghaied the usher and hid him in my purse, would that be considered kidnapping? · If I took the usher back to Utah would that be “Human Trafficking?” · Is this considered to be “the slippery slope” to becoming a felon, even if I didn’t use handcuffs or chains? · If I had reached out and touched the actor’s buns, would Deacon have tasered me? · Is this how erotic electro-stimulation play came into being a thing? · Since I can’t figure out the engineering necessary to install a moving train set in my breasticles, should I just resort to making a new wig from miniature marshmallows?

These and other eternal questions shall be answered in future chapters of the Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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