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October 2016 Issue 260

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12 15 EU Allies Dinner/Voter Guide Everyday Rebels is the theme of the sold-out fundraising dinner for Equality Utah.

Big Gay Fun Bus Dolly Parton This year’s season is announced.

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leaves turn, ballots will be appearing in our mailboxes, which means the bliss of the end of this year’s political season is nigh.

You will find the results of Equality Utah’s survey of candidates from across the state on page 12. If you are going to your polling place, be sure to clip it out and take it along. If you are voting by mail, grab a cup of coffee and open your trusty QSaltLake to help understand the candidates’ beliefs on our issues.

Of course, the Big Kahuna in this year’s election is the presidential race. The crapfest will soon be over, but the ramifications could last the rest of our lives.

While many people despise both candidates, it is still important to vote in this race. It is about more than which candidate takes the helm of the oval office. It is also about which party is in charge for the next four years. Will it be the obstructionist conservatives hell-bent

on taking us back to the days before same-sex marriage and equality for gay and transgender people? Will they succeed in installing an ultra-conservative on the U.S. Supreme Court to replace Justice Antonin Scalia? What about other Court vacancies that will happen in the next four to eight years? The justices aren’t getting any younger. Will now-president Barack Obama’s executive orders stand or be stricken?

I offer this for those who are holding their nose at Hillary Clinton: Is it at all possible much of this negative spin has been the workings of the ultraconservatives and Fox News for the past decades? Is it possible that maybe, just maybe, she has done some good things in her life? Is it possible that she is not the only official who has used their own email servers?

Voting is about the best candidate, yes. But it is also about the best outcome. Please don’t make me move to Mexico. QCuernavaca just doesn’t have the same ring to it. Q

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news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Title IX for transgender people barred for now Judge Reed O’Connor ,U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Texas, has issued a nationwide injunction barring federal government from sanctioning schools for not following the Obama administration’s guidance on transgender bathroom policies.

The judge granted a preliminary injunction to Texas and several other states challenging the Obama administration’s interpretation of Title IX. He said Title IX’s text “is not ambiguous. The law specifically permits educational institutions to provide separate toilets, locker, which prohibits sex discrimination in schools, colleges and universities.” The administration interprets Title IX to include discrimination based on gender identity.

Appeals or other legal action have not been announced by the Feds.

HIV+, Cancer Survivor to play Hamilton Javier Muñoz will replace LinManuel in the role of Alexander Hamilton in Broadway’s successful show Hamilton.

Munoz has played the role for Sunday matinée, a with The New York Times describing him as the “sexy Hamilton.”

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Muñoz he is openly gay and earned praise from the NYT as a “natural” when “courting the ladies” on stage.

Munõz is also HIV positive and a cancer survivor, says he feels “healthy and well”. After battling cancer, dealing with HIV and almost giving up acting, Muñoz now gets ready to step into one of Broadway’s biggest roles in one of the most successful plays on stage today.

Is the Pope a Catholic?

Democratic vice presidential nominee Tim Kaine told the HRC recently that he’s evolved on Marriage Equality and the Catholic Churches (his faith) position on the issue will evolve as well.

Recalling the words of Pope Francis, who said “Who am I judge?” in response to a question about a gay priest, Kaine said he wants to add, “Who am I to challenge God for the beautiful diversity of the human family? I think we’re supposed to celebrate it”

PrEP Directory now on-line Researchers from the Rollins School of Public Health at Emory University unveiled a new website, www.preplocator.org, that will allow users to locate a medical provider or clinic that can prescribe Preexposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) to prevent HIV infection. If taken daily, PrEP helps prevent the transmission of HIV. The CDC has estimated that more than one million people in the United States are eligible for PrEP.

Troy Aikman, Gay Panic?

Former Dallas Cowboys QB and current Fox Sports NFL analyst Troy Aikman isn’t

happy a sports commentator, Skip Bayless who has repeatedly insisted that Aikman is gay, has a show on the same network..

Bayless first made the claims about Aikman in a 1996 book he wrote called Hell-Bent: The Crazy Truth About the ‘Win or Else’ Dallas Cowboys. Aikman has always denied the gay-rumor and said Bayless make the allegation to get attention.

As late as 2011, Aikman fumed about Bayless in an interview hinting he might get physical with Bayless if he saw him.

Props to you mawma — RuPaul’s Emmy RuPaul was awarded an Emmy for Outstanding Host for a Reality or Reality Competition Program. History was made with the award.

Other than Milton Berle, this is the first Emmy win for a drag performer. “Drag Race” airs on Logo TV — an LGBT television network not included in the traditional cable package — so the Emmy win is considered a major victory for queer visibility.

‘Bushwig’ is not a merkin, it’s afestival For five years, Brooklyn has played host queer performers what has become the biggest drag festival in modern-day NYC, Bushwig. It started as a local festival of 30 queens in 2012 now features 150 performers.

Bushwig was founded by local Brooklyn queens Horrorchata and Babes Trust which has exploded into a weekend-long festival, featuring performers, local vendors, “vintage” sales (hello Michael

Sanders) and food trucks.

Founder, Babes Trust says, “It’s a celebration of drag and the history of performance mixed with well-known DJs and icons from across the world.”

Cher turfs with TERF Cher started a Twitter war with a self-proclaimed feminist group called, “TERF” (TransExclusionary Radical Feminism). The group says they are feminists but are both critical and exclusionary of transgender people. TERFs don’t believe transgendered women are “real women” or transgendered men are “real men.”

Cher’s tweet read, “ISN’T LIFE ROUGH ENOUGH? WTF ARE THESE WOMEN? I’M ASHAMED OF THEM” Cher has long been an outspoken supporter of the transgender community, and is the mother to Chaz Bono, a transgender man.

Doing the right thing Two Orlando-area hospitals are waiving medical bills of victims of the Pulse nightclub shooting, praising the community response and saying they want to contribute.

Orlando Regional Medical Center has treated 44 victims of the shooting — more than any other hospital. A second medical center, Florida Hospital, will also be waiving fees for the 12 victims it treated The hospitals will look to private, state, city and federal funds which may be available. The hospitals will bill insurance if the patient is covered. They will not bill out-of-pocket charges other funding sources don’t pay, or for co-pays. So far the care for the shooting victims has been around $6 million.

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Utah hate crime bill to return under new name Utah Sen. Daniel Thatcher, R-West Valley, is bringing back a recently defeated proposal to beef up the state’s hate crimes law and add protections for gay and transgender people.

Thatcher said the measure would give heavier punishments to the small group of defendants who are found guilty of committing a crime to terrorize groups of people based on factors like race, gender and religion.

“Inherently, these people are more dangerous because they don’t need a motive. They’re walking around with a built-in motive,” Thatcher said. The bill boosts protections for people in all races and religions, whether those are minority or majority groups, he said.

He called his proposal a victim selection measure rather than hate crime legislation, a change that he said reflects the focus on suspects’ actions rather than their thoughts or ideas, which fall into the category of free speech.

“It’s not against the law to hate someone. You can’t criminalize that,” he said.

Thatcher faced questions from his fellow lawmakers when he introduced a draft of

the bill last week.

Rep. Curtis Oda, RClearfield, asked whether attacks on obese people or members of book clubs could be considered hate crimes.

“I don’t know of any crime that is committed out of love,” he said, except perhaps crimes of passion or mercy killings.

Thatcher countered that most crimes are motivated by opportunity, and the experience of being gay in Utah is very different than that of a member of a book club.

Sen. Todd Weiler, R-Woods Cross, asked whether the measure would prevent future crimes targeting certain groups.

Supporters acknowledged it wasn’t clear whether the change would prevent future crime, but the bill could help ease tensions and enhance confidence in the legal system.

Lawmakers also raised concerns raised about a similar bill introduced during the last session that failed after The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints released a statement urging legislators not to upset a balance between religious and LGBT rights.

The church hasn’t taken a public position on the new bill.

Dabakis pisses off the Iranians Iran’s Foreign Ministry says a Utah state senator who traveled to Iran in May did not clarify his job as senator in his visa application.

Ministry spokesman Bahram Ghasemi told reporters that a visit by Sen. Jim Dabakis was technically legal, but that he did not make his government position clear in his application and never met with any Iranian officials.

Dabakis is openly gay and reports on his visit set off a firestorm in Iran, where hard-

liners accused him of being part of a Western project to “infiltrate” the country.

Dabakis said he and his husband, Steve Justesen, traveled to Tehran and Isfahan for six days after being invited by the Iranian travel industry. He said he got a visa through the Pakistani Embassy in Washington, which handles Iranian affairs.

He added that he listed his occupation on the application as both an art dealer and a state lawmaker in Utah’s part-time legislature.

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Equality Utah Allies Dinner sells out, draws thousands The annual Allies Dinner, raising funds to support Equality Utah’s efforts on Utah’s Capitol Hill and around the state, as well as endorsed candidates, is the largest political fundraiser in the state. This year the event sold out early, in part because the keynote speaker will be Gloria Steinem — American feminist, journalist, and social and political activist, who became nationally recognized as a leader and a spokeswoman for the feminist movement in the late 1960s and early 1970s.

This year’s theme is “Everyday Rebels,” honoring those in the state who “shake things up.”

Three local rebels are being honored

EU Voter Guide Equality Utah’s developed their voter guide to help voters better understand where candidates running for office stand on LGBTQ issues here in Utah. Listed below are the full results, with the group’s endorsements noted with .

The scores were generated from data collected through a digital survey that consisted of 10 questions, including questions on extending legal protections in public accommodations to LGBT people, inclusion of transgender healthcare in employer insurance plans, banning conversion therapy in the state, law enforcement training, etc.

GOVERNOR Brian E. Kamerath, 100% Dell Schanze, 0%  Mike Weinholtz, 100% Kim Bowman, 100% ATTORNEY GENERAL W. Andrew McCullough, 100% UTAH SENATE District 1  Luz Escamilla, 100% District 6  Celina Milner, 100%

with Allies Awards: DR. FORREST CRAWFORD, who has been in the trenches of Utah activism for over 30 years.

He recently worked with Equality Utah to try to pass updated hate crimes legislation at the Utah Legislature.

MAMA DRAGONS, a group of mothers who “breathe fire” for their LGBTQ kids.

In 2014 these courageous moms started a small Facebook group that has now turned into a vast network of support for Mormon mothers with LGBTQ children.

District 7 Andrew Apsley, 100% District 10 Dan Paget, 100% District 14 Joseph G. Buchman, Phd, 100% District 19 Deana Froerer, 100% District 23 Steve Hartwick, 100% Todd Weiler, 66.67% District 27 Heidi Redd, 100% District 29  Dorothy Engelman, 100% UTAH HOUSE District 5 David Clark, 100% District 6 Donna Gibbons, 100% District 7 Floyd Handley, 100% District 9 Kathie Darby, 100% Jeremy Peterson, 0% District 10 Jesse Garcia, 100% Derryck Gordon, 66.67% District 11  Amy Morgan, 83.33% District 13 Bob Buckles, 100% District 14 Kathleen Villanueva, 100% District 16 Brent Zimmerman, 50% District 17 Christine Stenquist, 100% District 19 Kurt Weiland, 100% District 20 Jon Marsh, 100%

District 21  Rick Pollock, 100% District 22 Jamie White, 100% District 23  Sandra Hollins, 100% District 24  Rebecca Chavez-Houck, 100% District 25  Joel K. Briscoe, 100% District 26  Angela Romero, 100% District 28  Brian King, 100% District 29 Angela Urrea, 91.67% District 30  Mike Winder, 100% Frank Bedolla, 100% District 31 Elizabeth Weight, 100% District 33  Peter Tomala, 100% District 34 Jack Castellanos, 66.67%  Karen Kwan, 100% District 35  Mark A. Wheatley, 100% District 37  Carol Spackman Moss, 100% District 36  Patrice Arent, 100% District 37 Kris Kimball, 0% District 39 Paul Schulte, 100% District 40  Lynn Hemingway, 100% District 41 Chad Harrington, 83.33% District 42 Craig Janis, 100%

As everyday rebels they are changing LDS wards and stakes across the nation.

DR. RIXT LUIKENAAR, who provides affirming healthcare everyday to her patients at her health clinic Rebirth OBGYN and has dedicated her practice to providing care to the transgender community.

A wait list is currently being put together in case cancellations happen at equalityutah.org

District 43 Edgar Harwood, 100% District 44 Bruce Cutler, 25%  Christine Passey, 100% District 45 Nikki Cunard, 100% District 46 Lee Anne Walker, 100%  Marie Poulson, 100% District 47  John Rendell, 100% District 49  Zach Robinson, 100% District 53 Cole R. Capener, 100% District 59 Rachel Nelson, 100% District 60 Brad Daw, 0% Brooke Swallow-Fenton, 100% District 63 Nathan Smith Jones, 100% District 68 Cindee Beard, 100% District 69 Will James Hicken, 100% District 71 Chuck Goode, 100% District 73 Ty Markham, 100% U.S. SENATE Stoney Fonua, 83.33% Misty K. Snow, 100% U.S. HOUSE 1st District Craig Bowden, 66.67% Peter C. Clemens, 100% Chadwick Fairbanks III, 0% 2nd District Charlene Albarran, 100%

STATE SCHOOL BOARD District 4 Jennifer Graviet, 100% Brent J. Strate, 16.67% District 7 Carol Barlow Lear, 100% Shelly Teuscher, 66.67% Laurie Williams, 100% District 8 David Sharette, 66.67% Janet Cannon, 100% District 11 Erin Preston, 58.33% District 12 Dixie Lee Allen, 66.67% MUNICIPAL/CTY RACES Millcreek Mayor Phillip Archer, 100% Salt Lake Cty Mayor  Ben Mcadams, 100% Dave Robinson, 100% Salt Lake Cty Council 6 Max Burdick, 100% Salt Lake Cty Council AtLarge B  Catherine Kanter, 100% Summit Cty Council Kim Carson, 100%  Glenn Wright, 100% Davis Cty Commissioner Terry R. Spencer, 0% Laren Livingston, 0% Tooele Cty Commissioner Katie Carlile, 100% Jonathan Garrard, 0% Utah Cty Commission Jeanne Bowen, 100% Weber Cty Commissioner Jim Harvey, 66.67% Washington Cty Commission Dean Cox, 50%  Josh Warburton, 100%

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Huntsman, Urquhart, Turpin join EU Board Equality Utah announced three new members of its board of directors.

JAMES HUNTSMAN, the son of philanthropist Jon Huntsman Sr., has built his own career as co-founder and partner at Blue Fox Entertainment a global film sales company. Prior to starting Blue Fox, he spent more than 20 years at Huntsman Corporation.

In 2016, he was appointed to the Utah Art and Culture Business Alliance by Gov. Gary Herbert.

He and his wife Marianne have five children.

“I’m thrilled to be involved with an organization who represents the marginalized in our society,” Huntsman said. “We all must work together to bring equal rights and treatment to our entire diverse community.”

State Sen. STEVE URQUHART, R-St. George, who is retiring this January, comes to the board after successfully sponsoring the historic nondis-

crimination legislation SB296 in 2015 granting 55,000 LGBTQ Utahns the freedom to live and work without fear of being fired or evicted for who they are or who they love.

“As a senator, I have loved working with Equality Utah to promote civil rights for all Utahns,” he explained. “We’ve made progress, but the promise of liberty and justice is not yet a reality for LGBTQ Utahns.

There is more to do. And I am excited to continue battling as a member of Equality Utah’s board.”

Urquhart and his wife Sarah recently relocated to Salt Lake City and are parents of three children.

Local tax attorney and Equality Utah co-founder MICHELLE TURPIN also joins the board.

Turpin was also instrumental in the founding of the Utah Pride Center, the state’s LGBTQ community center.

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LGBTQ Community Endowment Fund hosts reception to honor grantees The LGBTQ Community Endowment Fund, held at the Community Foundation of Utah, awarded grants of $42,000 to 12 organizations throughout Utah who are addressing the most pressing issues of the LGBTQ community at a reception held in their honor at the S.J. Quinney College of Law building at the University of Utah.

Organized by the fund’s advisory committee, Jane Marquardt, Jim Dabakis, Carol Gnade, and Michelle Turpin, this event was created to reward the nonprofits for their efforts and to bring attention to the tremendous work that is happening to improve communities throughout the state.

“From providing shelter and other resources for LGBTQ homeless youth, to mentoring, to addressing health and educational issues, and more, the grant recipients are making a significant impact on the health and wellbeing of everyone in our state,” said Jane Marquardt, one of the LGBTQ Community Endowment Fund committee members, “Hearing of the work that these dynamic organizations are engaging in is impressive. We are honored to reward them with a token of appreciation for their efforts.”

QMmunity First Logan Pride Festival Join us for the first Logan Pride Festival to celebrate the LGBTQ community in Cache Valley. A committee of volunteers and community organizations are working together to produce the first-ever Logan Pride Festival.

There will be food, entertainment, and more. Presented by the OUTreach Resource Centers.

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 8, 11am to 5pm WHERE: 37 W Center St, Logan COST: Free, donations welcome INFO: loganpride.org, 801-564-3860

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In addition to assisting nonprofits through awarding grants and raising awareness, the reception helped to foster collaboration and provide additional support for the LGBTQ community in Utah.

After receiving grant awards, the 2016 grantees each had an opportunity to give a one-minute pitch to compete for a share of $3,000 in additional funding. Youth Futures received the most votes from the pitch contest and received an extra $2,000.

In the end, all organizations left the event with additional funding however, thanks to the generosity of an anonymous donor who offered $7,000 during the event, and demonstrating the worthiness of each of the awardees.

“The LGBTQ Community Endowment fund allows donors to not only invest in programs that are truly making a difference in the lives of all Utahns, gay and straight, but it allows donors to amplify their impact by leveraging their donations with others. As one of the more than 220 philanthropic funds we manage, we are grateful to support their efforts, which better the lives of all Utahns,” explains Alex Eaton, Executive Director of the

Friends Animal Society to help the homeless with their animal companions all year around.

They will provide them with supplies for their animal companion, health and vaccination, and micro chip clinic.

WHEN: Saturday Oct 22, 9a-2p WHERE: Liberty Park COST: $35 INFO: bestfriends.org

Sharing coming out stories October is National Coming Out Month, and Gay Men Aloud members will share their vast array of stories. Some members will be asked to share their Coming Out stories, and we will save plenty of time for others to share their stories. There is tremendous wisdom and unity in sharing these vital stories. Please plan on attending to learn, love,

Community Foundation of Utah.

GRANTS WERE AWARDED TO: Utah AIDS Foundation for the PrEP, HIV Prevention Clinic Utah Pride Center for the Genderevolution Conference Spy Hop in support of the Move the Dial initiative Westminster College for the LGBT programming intern UMOCA in support of the Out Loud Mentoring Program OUTreach Resource Centers for general operating for Ogden drop-in center Planned Parenthood for the Safe at School Program Plan-B Theatre Company for the premiere of VIRTUE by Tim Slover Bennion Community Service Center for the Alternative Breaks Program Utah Film Center for the Damn These Heels! LGBT Film Festival Youth Futures for their Shelter, drop-in services, and street outreach Brigham Young Queer Alumni Association for a Recognition Banquet

laugh, maybe even shed a tear or several. This EVENT will be a vulnerable, heart-sharing time. If you would like to share your story reach out to Charles Lynn Frost or Kent Scadlock and you’ll be placed on the list.

Refreshments will be served, and your small donation appreciated to keep the business of the group moving forward.

WHEN: Monday, Oct. 3, 6:30–8pm WHERE: First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 E COST: Free, small donation appreciated INFO: fb.me/groups/Gay.Men.Aloud

Drag Bingo to support Homeless Youth The Matrons of Mayhem return to First Baptist Church for Third Friday Bingo. Come early to get a good seat. This month’s charity

is the VOA Homeless Youth Resource Center.

WHEN: Fri. Aug. 21, 7pm WHERE: First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 E COST: $5 per card INFO: fb.me/matronsofmayhem

It’s Fall, get the bed ready A presentation on “Putting Your Garden to Bed” will be the Alternative Garden Club’s meeting during the first week of October. Members, guests and visitors will learn how to prepare the garden for winter. The presentation will cover getting ornamental and vegetable gardens ready to produce a bountiful crop of vegetables or flowers next year.

WHEN: Weds. Oct. 5, 7:30pm WHERE: Sugar House Garden Center, 1602 E. 2100 S INFO: bit.ly/altgarden or ­altgardenclub@gmail.com

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The Big Gay Fun Bus announces 2016-17 season It’s BIG, it’s GAY and it’s FUN … on a BUS to West Wendover, Nevada!

If you’ve never been before, what are you waiting for?

Drag queen bingo, $7 in free play at the casino, a free buffet … and a bus full of lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgenders, allies and bewildered others.

This year there are five runs, so hop aboard this one.

Get tickets fast, because we sell out quickly!

Season ticket buyers — now known as Pink Medallion Members — get all five trips for the price of four, PLUS priority seating and a free second bingo card for each trip and as much asskissing as state law allows.

The first bus — the Halloweenie bus — leaves from Club Try-Angles at noon on Oct.

15. Other dates: December 3 — the Winter Wonderland bus, January 14 — the New Year bus, February 25 — the Mardi Gras bus, and April 1 — the Spring Conference bus Tickets are $25 or season tickets at $100 for all 5 trips at qtix.us, or by calling 801-6496663 during business hours (9am to 6pm) or at Club TryAngles.

These are day trips to West Wendover, heading to the Montego Bay Resort and Casino. The bus arrives back to Try-Angles at about 9:30 p.m.

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Former Utahn leads Ugandan swim team to international victory

BY MIKKI ENOCH

A swim team organized by a former Utahn now in Uganda, where homosexual activity is illegal and can lead to life imprisonment if found guilty, brought home the world title in the small-team category at the International Gay & Lesbian Aquatics championship in Canada.

Nate Freeman’s journey to Uganda began with a 7,500-mile bike tour from north to south Africa to meet and understand the needs of LGBT people on the continent.

While in Utah, Freeman worked for two years clerking for judges Tena Campbell and the Robert J. Shelby in Salt Lake City. He then moved to Johannesburg, South Africa to clerk for Justice Edwin Cameron on the Constitutional Court of South Africa, before moving to Kampala, Uganda.

Police have twice stopped pride parades in Uganda in the past two months, arresting some of the participants, after a government minister declared the events illegal.

How did you end up in Uganda?

In 2015, I rode my bicycle 12,000 kilometers from Cairo to Cape Town to meet with LGBT activists and learn more about the LGBT rights movement in different countries in Africa. I connected with a human rights group in Kampala — the Human Rights Awareness and Promotion Forum — that provides free legal aid services to LGBT people and sex workers. HRAPF offered me a legal consulting position after the bike ride was over and I moved to Kampala in January, 2016.

How did the swim team come about? As part of my activities

with HRAPF, I work with over two dozen LGBT groups across Uganda to help them comply with the legal obligations for registered organizations. The goal is to strengthen these organizations against possible governmental interference. Through interviewing activists who run these groups, I’ve met a wide range of LGBT athletes who are interested in using athletics as a form of activism.

Two basketball players, who are both trans men, approached me with the idea of sending a basketball team to Gay Games 2018 in Paris. We thought it would be a good strategy to start attending other international competitions right away and to look at a broader array of sports.

We chose swimming because of interest in the community and because of the upcoming IGLA championship in Canada.

In addition, I had contacts with swimmers who had participated in previous IGLA competitions due to my time swimming with QUAC in Salt Lake City. I was impressed with the way that the team functioned as a safe space, a social space, and a space for activism amongst Utah’s LGBT community. I was proud to march with QUAC every year in the Pride parade and to swim with a group of swimmers of diverse ages and backgrounds. I wondered if we could create a similar feeling in Kampala.

What challenges did you face? Forming the team was a challenge. Although we were eventually able to open swim practices to all skill levels, our initial concern was to identify a group who could represent the team at IGLA. Many of the swimmers had

PHOTO: NATE FREEMAN FLANKED BY THREE UGANDA SWIM TEAM MEMBERS CLARE BYARUGABA, DIANE BAKURAIRA, ADEBAYO KATIITI, STANDING UNDER THE U.S. AND UGANDAN FLAGS AT THE IGLA CHAMPIONSHIPS

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never swum competitively, and those who had had been ostracized from the sport for years. We had no time for hesitation — one of the swimmers learned the butterfly stroke within a month.

The final team included several activists.

Diane Bakuraira, who survived an assault that was based on her gender identity, continues to work as an administrative officer at Sexual Minorities Uganda. Clare Byarugaba works with Chapter Four Uganda and coordinated successful efforts to overturn the 2014 Anti-Homosexuality Act, a law which aimed to increase the existing penalties for same-sex sexual activity.

Besides the swimmers who came to Edmonton, we now have around six or seven additional swimmers who attend practices — many of whom have never swum before. A newcomer’s first practice may simply involve getting over the fear of being in the water. Introducing new swimmers to the pool are some of the most rewarding practices for me.

How has the local Ugandan response been?

The success of the Uganda Kuchus [an LGBT slang word] Aquatic Team largely went unnoticed in the mainstream press.

In contrast, the LGBT community was

ecstatic and very proud of the swimmers. The swimmers’ success is especially important because one of the ministers in the government has been cracking down on the LGBT community recently and his actions have been demoralizing. In early August, the originally planned Pride week was shut down after police raided the Mr. and Miss Uganda Pride pageant. Over two dozen people were arrested, including two members of UKAT, who got on the plane to Canada just a few days later. The pride parade was rescheduled, but the same minister threatened to arrest anyone who attended. Over 100 participants bravely came to the festivities anyway only to be greeted by the police, who disbanded the event and sent everyone home.

Unfortunately, these stories of repression dominate the international media.

People in the US often hear only about the defeats of the LGBT community in Uganda, rather than the successes. The swim team’s journey to Canada and their first-place finish in the Small Teams Division offers a different perspective that highlights the strength and resilience of LGBT Ugandans. It’s been a privilege to be part of that story. Q

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“Earlier this year, I was quoted as saying I’d rather have an enema than an Emmy, but thanks to the Television Academy, I can have both!”

—RuPaul said Sept. 11 in accepting the statue for outstanding host of a reality or reality-competition show at the Creative Arts Emmys

“I’ve probably played even more military men than Patrick [Stewart]. Gandalf is a soldier, Magneto is a soldier, Richard III, Coriolanus, Macbeth. And I think the reason is because I want my revenge on them all…The people who start wars, perpetuate them and glory in them. ‘God save our gracious Queen, send her victorious?’ I’m sorry. What does that mean?… If that’s what masculinity is then I don’t want any part of it at all…. I think gay men are more masculine than straight men. Because, guess what?

They love other men!…So when bully boys say: ‘Faggot!’ you say, ‘That’s right, I’m with the boys.’””

—Sir Ian McKellen, in an interview with The Evening Standard, in which he talks about his proclivity towards warrior roles.

“Gay couples are no more discriminated against than the polygamist, the drug user, or the loan shark.”

—“Mini-Trump” Jason Lewis, who is running for Congress against openly lesbian progressive candidate Angie Craig in Minnesota.

“Oh my God – he texted me and he was like, ‘Um, I’m really embarrassed. Some photos are coming out.

Just thought I should let you know.’ And I was like, ‘Hmm… right, what were you thinking? Seriously, what were you thinking?’”

— Miranda Kerr, when asked to comment on those paddle-boarding shots of ex-husband Orlando Bloom.

“Neil Patrick Harris has made a career as playing the straightest guy on television, which is fantastic. It is sad, but there is a kind of line where people say, ‘Oh no people won’t buy him as straight anymore.’”

—Daniel Radcliffe to BBC on how Hollywood has a ways to go when it comes to equality.

“Isn’t life rough enough!?

Wtf are these women!? I’m ashamed of them” —Cher starting a Twitter war with a self-proclaimed feminist group called TERF (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism). The group says they are feminists but are both critical and exclusionary of transgender people. TERFs don’t believe transgender women are “real women” or transgender men are “real men.”

“In a relationship I am the man. As is the other man. I’m gay. Not trying to emulate a heterosexual relationship.”

—24-year-old Olympic skier and 2014 Winter Olympics silver medalist Gus Kenworthy after he came out as gay to an internet troll who asked if he was the man or the woman in a relationship.

“Perez Hilton calld me douchebag so I had my homie shoot up a gay wedding. wasnt his but still made me feel better.”

—Rapper 50 Cent on Twitter

“Instead of keeping his dispute with Perez Hilton “mano a mano,” rapper 50 Cent decided to take his frustration with the blogger out on all gay people.

GLAAD calls on 50 Cent to let his fans know that antigay violence isn’t something to joke about.”

—GLAAD’s response to 50 Cent

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who’s your daddy?

Raising a glass to quiet allies

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

When

we celebrate allies we often focus on politicians bucking their party to sponsor or vote for pro-LGBT legislation, clergy on the forefront of marriage rights, or celebrities lending their fame to fundraising and awareness campaigns. Please don’t get me wrong, these people deserve our accolades. However, as important as their support is, true equality comes from everyday people standing for what’s right.

In my opinion, these are the unsung heroes. They are not powerful. They are not influential.

They are not rich. They do not seek the limelight. They take action simply because they believe in doing what is right, and that everyone is created equal.

Take for example, my mom.

One day she went into the head priest’s office to have Gus’s baptismal certificate signed. As he began to fill out the certificate, the priest — who had not been at the baptism and had only met me casually a couple of times before — asked my mom my wife’s name. Now my mom could have answered, “Kelly” and let sleeping dogs lie. It is, after all, more commonly a woman’s name.

But she didn’t; she looked the priest squarely in the eye and said, “He doesn’t have a wife. Gus has two dads. Do you have a problem with that?” As it turned out, he didn’t, and it was he who told me this story about my mom.

You could argue my mom has a horse in the race for equality: her son. But my colleague and friend, Levy doesn’t.

In the first week of meeting her, I discovered Levy has worked diligently on LGBT issues. No, she’s not lesbian. No, she doesn’t have a gay brother or a lesbian best friend. Levy works tirelessly for gay rights because she believes it’s the right action

to take. To me, that’s the true definition of an ally.

Even more inspiring, Levy has jumped head first into other LGBT issues like the Transgender Inclusion Project, which works to build transgender power in Utah. It’s not too surprising, I suppose, that this straight ally knows far more about trans* issues than a lot of gay people — myself included.

But this type of active involvement isn’t for everyone.

It’s taken me a long time to recognize that the smallest steps can be the most powerful like my straight high school buddy Jeff — now a teacher in the rural part of the state — immediately recognizing the need to change student forms from “mom” and “dad” to “parent.”

And I see this type of silent support every day at work with my friend Julie. I think her simple support is the result of living an important tenet of her LDS faith — one shared by every religion — “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

It’s really the little steps she takes every day, like asking what she can do to help me leave the office sooner so I can be home with my family. Or always considering how anything — from the stress at work to my travel plans — is going to impact Kelly and the boys. When Kelly donated his kidney last November, Julie made sure there was a plant waiting for him from the office when he got home. Most off all, this quiet, unassuming ally always reminds me that, in her opinion, Kelly and I are great parents.

So as we celebrate our allies, I raise my glass to those with power, influence and money. But I raise my glass higher to those who make our lives better and more equal every single day by the simple action of doing what is right. Q

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BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

By now,

even if you don’t follow any kind of sportzball, you have heard about Colin Kaepernick, the San Francisco 49ers player who refused to stand during the National Anthem before a game.

His reasoning is pretty compelling. “I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color,” he said.

To me, this is bigger than football and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave and getting away with murder.”

A fair point! Because that is the sad reality of racism in America. Naturally, Kaepernick’s protest was widely respected and elicited thoughtful debate across the country.

Ha ha. No. Actually, Kaepernick hates the police and wants to kill Whitey. At least that’s the word on the street. A street where everyone who lives there is white. Although maybe a few lawn jockeys here and there for, you know, decoration.

See, white people in America are really delicate flowers who can’t handle being reminded of the total fucking atrocities committed against people of color in this country for, like, ever. Oh and saying, “But I didn’t own slaves!” is not a get-outof-racism-free card.

So, yeah, some people are really upset with Kaepernick because they fetishize the flag and that song about the flag to the point of absurdity. Like declaring that a totally valid protest is making Betsy Ross turn in her grave and why doesn’t that guy just get back to being a gladiator for our entertainment already.

Oh, and bravo to soccer player Megan Rapinoe who knelt during the National Anthem before a recent game in solidarity with Kaepernick.

“Being a gay American, I know what it means to look at the flag and not have

it protect all of your liberties,” Rapinoe said. “It’s important to have white people stand in support of people of color on this.”

Right on. Almost makes me want to watch some soccer.

Not so right on is Laura Ingraham’s response to Kaepernick’s protest. She Tweeted on Aug. 30, “Good Q: What would have happened if Kapernick [sic] disrespected the rainbow flag bef the game?”

Which is actually not a good question at all because not only did she spell his name wrong, the comparison is illogical.

As many people on Twitter have already pointed out.

Writer John Howell Harris responded, “b/c gay people have a nearly 300 year history of subjugation & institutionalized oppression of black people? Is that the Q?” Now that is a good question.

Ingraham, who has called for people to start wearing adult diapers in order to protect themselves from the possibility of sharing a public restroom with a trans person and has said that being against marriage equality “doesn’t say that you’re anti-gay people or you don’t like gay people,” is obviously not expecting an answer to her rhetorical query. She’s posing the question in order to accuse liberals of choosing gays over America, because you can’t be pro-LGBT and love your country.

Nor can you raise issues that make white people uncomfortable, which means anything related to racism, which is over because Obama, obviously.

It’s a consistent conservative trope: liberals/progressives hate America because they have the audacity to point out ways that America is not “great.” Of course, it’s okay when Donald Trump does it.

The truth is, America is a country with great ideals. It’s a shame that we still have yet to live up to them. Q

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gay writes

Through someone else’s eyes

BY DOUG WOODALL

When I

was 10 years old, the Steele family moved into my neighborhood. They were poorer and had more children than anyone else. Instead of feeling sympathy, even compassion, everyone I knew condemned them. I didn’t think there was another way to see them. That is I didn’t think there was another way to see them until my brother Eldon showed me how to look at them through his eyes.

I knew Blaine Steele the best. He was closest to my age; therefore, he was in all my church classes. Because he was held back one year in school, I saw him at school, but I didn’t have any classes with him.

When I think of Blaine, the memory that comes to the forefront of my mind is he is the most verbally and physically abused person I’ve ever known. I do not believe he had a great home life, but I believe he was safe at home.

Blaine met his worst abusers at church every Sunday. What they started at church, they continued at school.

Blaine’s worst abusers were three bullies our age.

They called him names — berated and ridiculed him.

They punched him and boxed his ears. They picked fights with him, knocked him to the ground, and screamed at him.

They blamed Blaine for what they did to him. I didn’t think I could help Blaine.

Because my birthday’s in the summer, most of the kids in my church and school classes were older than me. I was always the shortest and smallest. My worst crime against Blaine is I didn’t care what happened to him.

When my brother Eldon was a senior in high school and Blaine and I were in junior

high, Blaine and his younger brother Danny started coming to my house to ask Eldon if he could play. More times than not, Eldon stopped what he was doing and went outside to play with them. I was astounded and annoyed. I’m not sure where I got the idea, but I thought when you turned 12 you stopped playing. Then Eldon was super busy. He was a straight-A student, he worked part-time for a talented sculptor, he belonged to DECA and VICA, and he was an accomplished draftsman. Before he graduated high school, he drew plans for a house and the house was built. Also, he was a Sterling Scholar finalist.

About a month after Blaine and Danny came to my house the first time, I stayed late at school. When I got home, I found Eldon playing with the boys in our front yard. I didn’t say anything when I passed them, but when Eldon and I were alone, I confronted him.

“Why are you letting Blaine and Danny come to our house, and why are you playing with them?” I asked.

“I’ll tell you why,” Eldon said.

“Those boys have no one in their lives who makes them feel good about themselves and builds their self-esteem. I will do whatever I can to help them.”

Eldon’s straightforward and heartfelt words were all it took for me to see Blaine and Danny through his eyes. From that day on, I stopped resenting Blaine and Danny for coming to the house to ask if Eldon could play. Because I saw Blaine more than I saw Danny, I did what I could to help him. In church, I sat by him. Whenever I saw him at school, I said hello and stopped to talk to him.

When Blaine was in 11th grade and I was in 12th grade,

he went on a church youth activity to the local swimming pool. In those days, the people at the check-in desk gave swimmers a key to a locker. The key was attached to a small metal bar that had a safety pin embedded in it. That was so swimmers could pin their keys to their swimming suits. Two boys, who must be four years younger than Blaine, forced Blaine to give them his key. When they had the key, they made Blaine stand between them and try to catch his key while they tossed it to each other. After a time, one of them stepped to the deep end of the pool and dropped the key in and the two boys walked away. Blaine drowned trying to retrieve his key.

I didn’t go on the activity.

My mother told me the news the next morning. At school, most people talked solemnly, even respectfully, about Blaine.

That is they talked solemnly about him up to the lunch period. After lunch, a number of people said Blaine drowned on purpose to make us feel sorry for him.

Blaine’s death and the way my peers talked about him less than 24 hours afterward, cemented how Eldon saw Blaine, his brother Danny, and his family forever in my heart and mind. I cannot say I’m a perfect example of helping others to feel good about themselves, but I can say I try to meet all people as my equal and to do what I can to build them up.

And yes, this is one of my life lessons, but I hope all who read my words can find a lesson they need to hear and they need to put into practice. Q Gay Writes is a DiverseCity Series writing group, a program of SLCC’s Community Writing Center. The group meets the 2nd and 4th Mondays of each month, 6:308pm, 210 E. 400 South, Ste. 8, Salt Lake.

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October is LGBT History Month For the past 12 years, QSaltLake has brought the Equality Forum’s LGBT History Month to our readers, both in print and online. Following here are several of the 31 icons being celebrated this year. On our website, at gaysaltlake.com, all 31 will be revealed — one per day — through October.

VIRGINIA APUZZO Virginia “Ginny” Apuzzo is a New York native and a former nun who played a pivotal role in LGBT civil rights and the fight against AIDS during the 1980s and ’90s.

Apuzzo joined the Sisters of Charity in the Bronx when she was 26, but left after the Stonewall riots (1969) to come out publicly as a lesbian and establish herself as an activist, educator and civil servant.

“I read about Stonewall in the newspa-

per,” Apuzzo said in “Stonewall Uprising,” a PBS documentary. “Here I’d thought I was the only one ... it was as if suddenly a brick wall opened up.”

Apuzzo joined the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and served for many years as its executive director, working to include LGBT issues in the 1976 Democratic Party platform. In 1978 she cofounded the Lambda Independent Democrats.

In 1980 she became one of the first openly lesbian delegates at the Democratic National Convention when she co-authored the first gay and lesbian civil rights plank for the Democratic Party. In 1997 Bill Clinton appointed her to the White House senior staff as assistant to the president for administration and management, making her the highest-ranking out lesbian in the federal government.

Apuzzo joined the Women’s Caucus, an arm of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, with her partner, Betty Powell, who was the first black lesbian on the group’s board. The two became increasingly vocal about lesbian rights after butting heads with well-known feminists whom they accused of insufficiently embracing lesbians in the women’s movement.

PRESIDENT JAMES BUCHANAN James Buchanan was the 15th president of the United States, serving from 1857 to 1861. A lawyer and a Democrat, he represented Pennsylvania in the U.S. House of Representatives and later in the Senate.

He served as minister to Russia under President Andrew Jackson, secretary of state under President James K. Polk and minister to Great Britain under President Franklin Pierce.

Buchanan was born into a well-to-do family in Cove Gap, Pennsylvania. He graduated from Dickinson College, where he was known as a gifted debater.

During his presidency, Buchanan led a country sharply divided over the issue of slavery. The Supreme Court issued the controversial Dred Scott decision two days after he took office, asserting that Congress had no constitutional power to ban slavery

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in the territories. It forced Buchanan to admit Kansas as a slave state, which upset Republicans and alienated some members of his own party.

A lifelong bachelor, Buchanan is believed to have had a long-term relationship with William Rufus King, who served as vice president under Franklin Pierce. The two men lived jointly in the same boardinghouse in Washington for a decade and regularly attended functions together.

Andrew Jackson referred to them as “Miss Nancy” and “Aunt Fancy,” both popular euphemisms for effeminate men. Biographer Jean Baker believes that King’s nieces destroyed love letters between the men for fear that the nature of their “special friendship” might be revealed. At age 26 Buchanan was engaged briefly to a woman.

of musical styles that came to define him as an innovator.

With his first album, “The Man Who Sold the World,” Bowie helped usher in the era of glam rock, a style known for its androgynous-looking performers, make-up and flamboyant costumes.

Bowie followed his debut with a string of musical successes, notably “The Rise and Fall of Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars.” The 1972 concept album featured his gender-bending alter-ego, Ziggy Stardust, an alien rock star. The same year, in an interview with Melody Maker magazine, Bowie came out as gay. He later told Playboy he was bisexual.

In 1993 he told Rolling Stone magazine that declaring his bisexuality was “the biggest mistake” he ever made. He would later say he had “no problem with people knowing I was bisexual. But I had no inclination to hold any banners nor be a representative of any group of people.”

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LILI ELBE Lili Illse Elvenes, best known as Lili Elbe, was a transgender woman who received one of the first gender reassignment surgeries. Born in Denmark as Einar Magnus Andreas Wegener, Elbe worked as a successful artist before legally changing her name and living as a woman.

When Elbe was young,

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she studied painting at the Royal Danish Academy of Fine Arts in Copenhagen, where she met a lesbian named Gerda Gottlieb. The two married in 1904. The couple spent years traveling through Europe. Elbe was known for her landscape paintings; Gottlieb illustrated books and fashion magazines. They eventually settled in Paris, where Elbe began living openly as a woman and became a muse for Gottlieb.

While in Paris, the couple was embraced by avant-garde social circles; the two women became the talk of the town. It shocked and fascinated the public when they found out that Elbe was a biological man. Newspaper articles were written about them all over Europe.

In 1930 Elbe relocated to Germany, where she had her first surgery to transition into a woman. The process was still experimental, but she had a series of operations under the supervision of the famous sexologist Magnus Hirschfeld.

After transitioning, Elbe legally changed her name, and the Danish court invalidated the couple’s marriage. In an essay, she explained the transgender experience: “Our assumption as a society is that … people come in two types, male nature and female nature. This has no scientific basis … I try to move from the language of the two sexes are similar or different to language that means we are all different.”

and writers, Kepner joined the Communist Party. He wrote a column for the Communist newspaper, The Daily Worker, but was expelled from the party because of his homosexuality. Kepner went on to open Books on Telegraph Hill in San Francisco.

Kepner later joined the Mattachine Society, one of the earliest gay rights organizations in the country. He also began writing for One, the first gay magazine with regular circulation published in the United States. When a Los Angeles postmaster refused to deliver the magazine by mail, the case went to the Supreme Court.

The magazine won its case and continued publishing to a growing base of subscribers. The ruling also opened opportunities for other LGBT publications to enter the marketplace.

Kepner was an important force behind One, as both a writer and an organizer.

He created a research journal and events related to the magazine, turning him into one of the leading chroniclers of the modern gay rights movement. In 1956 he established the One Institute, which researched gay culture through the ages and around the world.

In 1966 Kepner launched Pursuit & Symposium, a homophile magazine. He also contributed to The Los Angeles Advocate, which later became The Advocate, the leading national LGBT magazine.

Throughout his life, Kepner collected records, souvenirs and other materials related to LGBT history. His collection, eventually the largest compendium of LGBT-related materials in the world, is housed at the University of Southern California; it contains more than two million artifacts and reference materials.

Kepner died at 74 from complications after surgery.

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For most of her life, she worked as a journalist and author. Her autobiography, “When We Were Outlaws: A Memoir of Love and Revolution,” was published in 2011.

Born in Germany of Mexican and Irish-American decent, Córdova attended high school in California, then joined the Immaculate Heart of Mary, a convent that embraced radical changes to the Catholic Church and protested the Vietnam War. Her experience there inspired her to leave to become a community organizer. At 22 she earned a master’s degree in social work from UCLA. Córdova’s advocacy began as president of the L.A. chapter of the Daughters of Bilitis, the first lesbian rights organization in the United States, where she helped open the first lesbian center in Los Angeles. She also launched The Lesbian Tide, the first American publication to use “lesbian” in its title.

Córdova went on to organize influential women’s events, including the first National Lesbian Conference. She became the human rights editor of the Los Angeles Free Press and served as president of the Stonewall Democratic Club. She worked to defeat a proposition to ban openly gay and lesbian teachers from California public schools.

Córdova also helped create the Gay and Lesbian Caucus of the Democratic Party and became one of 30 openly lesbian delegates to the 1980 Democratic National Convention. She created the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Press Association and was a founding member of the Connexxus Women’s Center, where she worked to defeat a 1986 proposition that would have quarantined people with AIDS. She was also the first open lesbian to be named in Who’s Who in America in 1978.

JIM KEMPNER Jim Kepner was a pioneering journalist who helped chronicle the modern American gay rights movement. His research led to the creation of the ONE National Gay & Lesbian Archives, the oldest LGBT history collection in the United States.

Kepner was abandoned as an infant in Galveston, Texas, and reportedly found under a bush, then adopted. By the time he was a teenager, he was already researching homosexuality, often mail-ordering gay publications and literature. A voracious reader, he studied the lives of famous gay men like Michelangelo and Walt Whitman.

In the 1940s, along with other artists

JEANNE CÓRDOVA Jeanne Córdova was a pioneering feminist and lesbian rights activist who helped lead the LGBT movement on the West Coast of the United States. She launched numerous civil rights and community organizations.

CHAZ BONO Chaz Bono, born Chastity Bono, is the only child of American entertainers Sonny and Cher. In 2008 Bono began undergoing gender reassignment procedures, publicly discussing the experience in the Emmynominated documentary “Becoming Chaz.”

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A native of Los Angeles, Bono grew up in the spotlight, often appearing on his parents’ popular variety show. Later he said he felt uncomfortable wearing dresses on TV and remembered wanting to be more like his father.

After his parents divorced in 1975, Bono split his time between them and later moved to New York City to attend college and pursue a career in music. He formed the band Ceremony, for which he sang lead vocals and played guitar and drums. The band released an album called “Hang Out Your Poetry,” which featured guest apearances by Jerry Garcia of the Grateful Dead and Bono’s parents.

By 1990 the tabloids began speculating that Bono was a lesbian. Bono came out publicly five years later in The Advocate, eventually becoming the entertainment director for the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation. Bono published “Family Outing,” a book that explores his coming out and gender issues.

In his next book, “The End of Innocence,” published in 2002, Bono provided insights into the music business and his relationship with an older woman.

Bono went public with his substance abuse problems before becoming sober in 2004.

He appeared on the reality show “Celebrity Fit Club” to address body issues, and later competed as the first transgender contestant on “Dancing With the Stars.”

After completing his transition in 2010, Bono legally changed his first name to Chaz.

He shared his experiences in the best-selling book “Transition: The Story of How I Became a Man” (2011). He also starred in a television special about his transition called “Being Chaz.” His mother, Cher, said that she initially had

difficulty accepting Bono’s sexuality, though she has since become an outspoken advocate for LGBT rights.

Bono is a leading transgender advocate and speaks out worldwide for LGBT rights.

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Born in Chicago and raised in Washington, D.C., Hemphill said that poetry became his refuge against the poverty and “otherness” he experienced as a young black man growing up in the nation’s capital.

After briefly attending the University of Maryland to study journalism, Hemphill became immersed in the Washington art scene and regularly read at open-mic nights and coffeehouses. To showcase his work and that of other modern black artists and writers, he cofounded the Nethula Journal of Contemporary Literature in 1979. In 1982 he cofounded the spoken word group Cinque.

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5 Things You Need to Do If Someone You Love Is Deeply Depressed

BY MIKEY ROX

As someone

who has experienced the devastation of suicide in mourning the loss of friends who have taken their own lives, it’s important to me to recognize the annual suicide awareness campaign.

In addition, like many of you, I’ve battled with my own demons and depression over the years, which has included suicidal thoughts. While no one can or should tell another how to think or feel, it’s critical to remember, however — especially in down times — that suicide is preventable.

Someone loves and misses you this very moment, and help is available — whether you believe that or not. Furthermore, if you know someone who is deeply depressed because you’ve recognized the warning signs, it’s your humanitarian responsibility to reach out and offer an ear that will listen, a shoulder to cry on, or a hand to hold. Here are a few other ways to help.

1

EDUCATE YOURSELF ON DEPRESSION

While you may be able to spot signs of depression in a loved one, are you confident that you’re well informed on the matter? Depression is a tricky and sensitive disorder, and it will benefit both you and the person suffering from depression if you educate yourself on the potential causes and effects. For instance, onset of depression may be triggered by a specific event or a series of events, like a string of bad luck, and it also may be linked to a brain-chemistry imbalance not connected to an event, according to Psychology Today. Thus, knowing what you’re dealing with before entering the trenches is recommended.

2

SHOW YOU CARE BY ASKING QUESTIONS

When we’re depressed, we experience feelings of loneliness or perhaps that no one cares about our predicament. But that’s not the case. In fact, friends and family are often eager to help those who are depressed, and one of the first steps to showing your support in your loved one’s time of need is to ask questions.

“Your friend may be so desperate that she’s had a suicide plan in action for weeks, or she could just be under a lot of stress at work,” writes Therese Borchard at EverydayHealth.com. “She could be having a severe episode of major depression, or just need a little more vitamin D. You won’t know until you start asking some questions.”

Some questions to ask may include: • When did you first start to feel bad?

• Can you think of anything that may have triggered it?

• Do you have suicidal thoughts?

• Is there anything that makes you feel better?

• What makes you feel worse?

• Do you think you could be deficient in vitamin D? • Have you made any changes lately to your diet?

• Are you under more pressure at work?

• Have you had your thyroid levels checked?

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PROVIDE SUPPORT WITHOUT JUDGMENT

The last thing someone who’s already at their lowest needs is to be judged for how they’re feeling or acting. Dealing with a depressed person is not always easy, granted — they’re irritable and sometimes lash out — but it’s in those moments that you should try to put yourself in their shoes.

You don’t know what’s going through their head, what stresses they’re facing that brought them to this breaking point, or the painful physical manifestation of depression they may be experiencing. So, just be there for them — without any restrictions or conditions. Let them talk, vent, cry if they need to — all the while being a sooth-

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255

IN AN EMERGENCY DIAL 911 ing, reassuring voice and pillar of strength to which they can cling.

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SUGGEST SEEKING A PROFESSIONAL WHO CAN HELP

5

TAKE MATTERS INTO YOUR OWN HANDS IF YOU HAVE TO

While providing nonjudgmental support is critical to someone who is depressed, you should together recognize that you, as a friend and likely nonmedical professional, can only do so much. If the depression is mild to severe — that is, it’s more than just a “bad week” — suggest seeking professional help. Ask family and friends for psychologist and psychiatrist recommendations — while being considerate to the person in need by keeping them anonymous — and return with those recommendations and your availability to accompany your loved one to the first appointment, if they’re open to the idea.

If your loved one’s depression is so severe that you’re afraid they may do something drastic, like commit suicide, you have every right to step in and call the proper authorities. Your friend or family member may not like you very much at that moment — in fact, you may become mortal enemy No. 1 for a while — but when the depression is properly treated and that black cloud dissipates, they will recognize that you were acting purely out love and concern and in their best interest.

You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline for advice at 800-273-8255, but if it’s an emergency situation dial 911. Q

Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with him on Twitter @mikeyrox.

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The Gay Agenda

BY TONY HOBDAY

ANNUAL EVENTS The season of the Big Gay Fun Bus erects, for the lack of a better term, with the Halloweenie Fun Bus … what are we in, the fourth grade? Is this based on the homoerotic book Michael Aaron and the Sleepy Halloweenie? If so, it’s apropos! All aboard the Halloweenie!

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SATURDAY — BIG GAY “HALLOWEENIE” FUN BUS

West Wendover, NV, 12-9:30pm. Tickets $25, qtix. us or available at Club Try-Angles, 251 W. Harvey Milk Blvd.

CONCERTS Many Baby Boomers and Gen X-ers fondly know and love the following artists. DiFranco is a multitalented singer-songwriter, musician, poet and activist for the LGBTQ community. She is in Salt Lake supporting her new album. To describe her in one term: She is righteous, babe! Ummm … for you Millenials, that is a Baby Boomer term!

Also out on tour supporting a new album are Pet Shop Boys, a British pop duo with a long list of hits under their belt. Ummm … hey Millenials, check out “West End Girls” and “It’s a Sin,” two of my faves. You’ll be instant fans.

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SATURDAY — ANI DIFRANCO

The Depot, 400 W. South Temple, 9pm. Tickets $28 Adv/$35 Day Of Show, smithstix.com

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SATURDAY — PET SHOP BOYS

The Complex, 536 W. 100 South, 7pm. Tickets $48 Adv/$53 Day Of Show, smithstix.com

DANCE The following event stinks of Joshua Jones’s doing -- ballet to the music of Janis Joplin!?!!? Talk about a cheap thrill. Anyhoo, the performance will be high-energy, and who doesn’t like melting to a glistening ballet dancer.

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FRIDAY — PIECE OF MY HEART WITH BALLET WEST II

Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, times vary, through Saturday. Tickets $29, artsaltlake.org

MOVIES Michelle Williams (love her!), Laura Dern (love her!) and Kristen Stewart (hate her!

Only because she’s had a vampire baby with Robert Pattinson.). Anyhoo, these actresses grace the screen together in a movie about … well, certain strong-willed women. Come on now, let’s just say it: They’re bitches!

Don’t get your panties in a wad, ladies! Gay boys love bitchy gals, so this film should be a blockbuster hit.

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WEDNESDAY — CERTAIN WOMEN

Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. 300 South.

Tickets $6.75-9.25, saltlakefilmsociety.org

SPECIAL ENGAGEMENTS Good grief, Parkites are so self-involved.

They are revisiting 15 years of their lives through video clips, slides (look it up, Millenials!), and behindthe-scene narratives. It’s pathetic for sure, but also makes for a good, hearty laugh.

Heralded “a rock amalgam of the likes of Queen and Led Zeppelin” and “fabulously ghoulish,” Deep Love is … well, not gay porn. But funeral attire is encouraged and my closet is dripping with veiled black pillbox hats. Yay!

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SATURDAY — DEEP LOVE: A GHOSTLY ROCK OPERA

Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main St, Park City, 8pm, through Wednesday. Tickets $35-55, egyptiantheatrecompany.com

Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, 8pm. Tickets $15, artssaltlake.org

THEATRE/OPERA Gracing the Utah stages this month are our darkest fantasies coming to life … in Ogden, of all places; our provocative fantasies coming to life through a gypsy called Carmen; our sweetest fantasies coming to life through a “gentleman caller” (no, not off Grindr, horn dogs!!); our bloodiest fantasies coming to life about prom; and our insane fantasies coming to life about women being equals ...pfft!! (Note: I’m voting for Hillary Clinton).

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FRIDAY — THE NETHER

Good Company Theatre, 260 25th St, Ogden, times vary, through Oct. 23.

Tickets $17 at the door

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SATURDAY — CARMEN

Capitol Theatre, 50 W. 200 South, 7:30pm, through Oct. 16. Tickets $21-93, artsaltlake.org

FRIDAY — THE GLASS MENAGERIE

Pioneer Theatre, 300 S. 1400 East, Uof U, times vary, through Nov. 5. Tickets $25–49, artsaltlake.org

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THURSDAY — CARRIE THE MUSICAL

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FRIDAY — MARY AND MYRA

Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main St, Park City, times vary, through Saturday. Tickets $14-19, egyptiantheatrecompany.com

Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, times vary, through Nov. 17.

Tickets $20, artsaltlake.org

UPCOMING EVENTS NOV. 4, 2016 RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 8 Winner: Bob The Drag Queen, 24tix.com JAN. 19-29, 2017 Sundance Film Festival, sundance.org

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Queens of the Deseret in Baker, Nev.

BY MIKKI ENOCH

Allies

come in all shapes and sizes. The small town of Baker, Nev., shares a unique connection with a group of gay men, lesbians, transgender people, and drag queens. In 2003, Salt Lake City resident, John Apel was approached to participate in Mardi Gras involving the whole Snake Valley community in Eastern Nevada and Western Utah. Apel, driving his Mazda Miata, escorted Grand Marshall Dean Baker while Catherine Balka drove Baker’s Mardi Gras King, Gene Skinner, and Queen, Gen Richardson, in the parade.

Mardi Gras – Baker Style received extensive coverage from the Salt Lake Tribune.

The event and parade was planned by US Veteran David Cochrane and included a fivepiece band from Eskdale High School, Parks, Fisheries and Fire Departments, and other entries.

The parade winded through the streets and alleys of Baker to engage the entire community.

T&D restaurant and bar served New Orleans style food accompanied by jazz music.

Outside, residents found games for children and adults.

Baker, NV, is home to the Great Basin National Park which includes Lehmann Caves.

Apel describes the caves as “the best caves around.” The town sits over the aquifers Las Vegas wants to ease its water needs.

With a population of 200, Baker shares the Snake Valley with Eskdale and Garrison.

Apel was joined on this adventure with Scott Stites, Emperor X of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire.

The success of Mardi Gras inspired Cochrane, Stites and Apel to begin planning the event currently known as Diversity Days Baker Style. Cochrane approached Border Inn owner Denys Koyle to host a barbecue if Stites and Apel brought drag queens and other performers from Salt Lake City to perform.

“If you can bring your gay community to us, we will have a party for you and enjoy your company; we would love to see your talent” David Cochrane stated.

In the spirit of the RCGSE, to raise money to help those in need, Apel and Stites began raising money to help the Baker schools, and eventually, the Eskdale High School Choir fund biannual trips that have included San Francisco, Branson, MO, Washington, DC, and New York City. Over the last decade, the group has raised over $33,000.

Apel de-

scribes the success of the event, “We have been doing this fundraising for 14 years and besides not making the bus trip last year, we still were able to raise $1035 from our 2nd Prom for the kids which Principal Nomi Sheperd came to Salt Lake City to retrieve last October at the home of Geri Mendoza and David Cochrane.”

Apel wants to thank so many people. He doesn’t view the success of the event as a personal or even group success but as one of the whole of both communities working together. He appreciates all of those who have joined him. For the first five years, Stites and Apel led the trip. Over the next five years, Stites and Apel were joined

by Michael Bennion, Emperor XXXVII of the RCGSE, and Michael Tragakis and known as the Fabulous Baker Boys. In recent years, the group has evolved into The Baker Boyz and Girlz.

Apel attributes much of the success of Baker’s Diversity

days to the RCGSE. Apel speaks fondly of many members but points out a select few standouts. “The first person so valuable to the Baker Experience is Emperor XXXIII Tim Hile who has given us this free bus this year so more money would go to the kids. So much food, money and support has come from this extraordinary man.”

Apel wanted to thank more people than we could include.

Want to join the adventure to Baker this year?

This October 22nd and 23rd, the Baker Bates Motel bash will definitely go down in history.

Bus tickets are $40 with rooms ranging from $65 to $85. For $20, an All-you-can-eat Steak Fry is presented by the residents of Baker. Please contact John Apel, john.apel@va.gov about ticket sales. If want to visit the Lehmann Cave, the cost is $10 additional for the morning before returning to Salt Lake City. Q More info at bit.ly/bakerdays

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My eleven minutes with Dolly Parton Queen of Country on inspiring gay family members to come out, her LGBT kinship and ‘queer’ introduction

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

There

are no angel wings.

Instead, Dolly Parton scoots into a drab backstage garage on her own two legs like a unicorn dream: kneelength canary yellow dress, rhinestones, more rhinestones, and a glow that can apparently turn even an industrial underground into heaven on earth.

But something’s off. Something is missing. Angel wings, I think.

Which, of course, you expect from a beaming Dolly Parton, even as she literally just stands in front of you. Her presence alone radiates her own healing power as she greets a mishmash of fans one by one, all of them basking in her shine.

Moms, dads, kids. An elderly woman in a wheelchair. Me, a gay man.

This woman — a country queen, a “backwoods Barbie,” the self-proclaimed fairy godmother — has united us all merely by existing. And if it wasn’t already evident, it certainly is in her midst: Dolly Parton is the only religion we may ever agree on.

For over two transcendent hours during her Pure & Simple tour, in support of her 43rd studio album of the same name, the Goddess of Goodness emerges as something too precious for this world. During her song “Little Sparrow,” the stage goes dark as screened-in birds take to the sky alongside Dolly’s silhouette — or, in this case, the Grand Rapids, Michigan arena she was setting aglow. Add “bird whisperer” to the long list of Dolly’s accomplishments, which is seemingly endless: 100 million albums sold worldwide; 25 certified gold, platinum and multi-platinum awards; 25 No. 1 songs on the Billboard Country charts, a record for a female artist; seven Grammy awards and 10 Country Music Association awards; one of only five female artists to win the CMA’s Entertainer of the Year Award; an Oscar nomination for writing the title song to one of her many films, 9 to 5, and obviously, a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.

An angel, though?

Parton demurs. “I don’t know if I’d go that far! I don’t think I’m all that!” she says,

as humbly as you’d expect, laughing the squeakiest of laughs.

Our 11-minute chat is peppered with that trademark Dolly charm (I conclude the interview by thanking her for bringing joy to my life and she responds like my mother: “Love you too!”). And yes, 11 minutes. “I don’t know where you got that odd number,” she squeaks again in her godly Southern accent, acknowledging the bonus minute her manager, Danny Nozell, has graciously given us. “He’s saying you’re getting a li’l something extra!”

Read on as Dolly blesses us with an extra 60 seconds of divinity, along with a look back on her introduction to the gay community, that time she may have gotten a contact buzz from Willie Nelson’s grass and, like any paragon of virtue, helping her own family members come to terms with their sexuality.

Growing up in the Great Smoky Mountains, did you know any gay people? If I did, I didn’t know they were at the time! (Laughs) We were just mountain people, and I did not know at that time — I sure did not.

What was your introduction to the gay community then? As I started to be a teenager there were a couple of guys downtown that everybody was sayin’ were queer, ya know?

I know they often said that about anybody who was odd or different — “they’re just queer, just strange and odd” — but the way they would talk about these two guys they would say, “Well, they’re sissies, they’re girls.” I was a teenager then. But in my early days we did not know (what gay was). It didn’t take me long to know that people were different and that was always fine with me ’cause I was different too, and I embraced and accepted them and I knew them. I knew them well. But no, in my early days I did not know. But I know a lot of them now! I have a huge gay and lesbian following and I’m proud of ’em, I love ’em and I think everybody should be themselves and be allowed to be themselves whoever they are, whatever they are.

How big is your gay circle these days? You know what, I have so many (gay) people in my companies. And later on, I did find out I have many gays and lesbians in my own family. We accept them, we embrace them.

Oh, there are some in the mountains who still don’t know quite what to make of it or how they should feel about it, but they’re ours and they’re who they are and we know they’re wonderful and they’re like us. We love the fact that they are who they are and we nurture that. We don’t try to make them feel separate or different. We embrace it.

Because you’ve always been so LGBT-affirming, are you a safe place for them to open up about their sexuality? Yes! Actually, I’ve had many people through the years who I have helped to feel good about themselves. I say, “You need to let people know who you are and you need to come on out. You don’t need to live your life in darkness — what’s the point in that? You’re never gonna be happy; you’re gonna be sick. You’re not gonna be healthy if you try to suppress your feelings and who you are.”

I have a couple of transgender people in my company who are on salary with me, so I am totally open for that. And a lot of people feel like they can come to me… and they do!

Whether it’s about being gay or whatever, a lot of people do me like they used to do my mama and come to talk to me about things.

Hopefully I’m able to help. I think I have.

When were you first aware of transgender people? I remember watching the news when I was a girl and they (were talking about the) first operation that somebody had. That’s the first time I ever heard about that, and so that was many, many years ago. But yeah, I’ve known a lot since then, though.

Throughout your career, gay people have leaned on you for musical moral support while also absorbing your sage wisdom. But what have you learned from the gay people in your life? I certainly know that the gay people I know are the most sensitive and most caring of all. I think they go through so much that they have to live with their feelings on their sleeve. They’ve had to go through so much that I think they’re very emotional and tenderhearted and more open to feelings, so I’ve just learned the same things I try to learn from everybody. I know they’re good people and I’ve tried to learn from that as well. They’re very creative, most of them.

And I think that also comes from just embracing the fact that they’re different. Most

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of the gays I know just want to make the world a more beautiful place like I do.

After 50 years of marriage, what inspired your new self-proclaimed “friends with benefits” song, “Outside Your Door”? Well, I’m married, but I’m not dead! I’m a romantic, fantasy person and I’ve felt all of those feelings. I’ve been through everything in my life. And when I don’t write about myself, I write about other people that I know and their relationships, and people I know who don’t know how to express themselves. So I gather my ideas from everything. And hell, you don’t get too old to fantasize!

There’s a 20-minute intermission during your Pure & Simple show. What do you do for those 20 minutes? It takes every bit of my time! I fly back to my bus right after intermission, and I go back and I change. I take a little breather to cool off for a minute, and then I change clothes — that’s the only change I do (during the show). Then, I change my hair, change my wig, and I touch up my makeup. And by the time I’m done with all that it’s time to go back on.

What if you have to pee? Oh, I take a pee break and drink a little bit of water. But yeah, it’s just a pee and pray break! (Laughs) You jokingly mentioned during the show that you should run for president. Say you were elected — what would be your first order of business? I would just resign! That’d be my first order if I got elected — I’d say, “No, I don’t want it, I don’t want it!” (Laughs) But no, I don’t know what I’d do. I don’t even think on those terms. I’d make this world a better place, I’ll tell you that.

During the show you hysterically joked about how you could get a contact buzz from Willie Nelson’s tour bus. Where do you get your sense of humor and sharp wit? Oh, that comes from both sides of my family. My mama’s people were hysterical; my daddy’s people were hysterical. They just had a different sense of humor, and that’s how we got through everything, with our sense of humor. And as a writer I just think funny. I try to find things to laugh about and so anyway, I just say whatever I say.

What’s the closest you’ve gotten to Willie and his weed? Oh, I know Willie really well! I sang with him on my last album. We did a duet together called “From Here to the Moon and Back” and I was singing — well, I was trying to sing and I said, “Willie, I’ll tell you, you’re the worst person I ever tried

to sing with. I mean, you’re brazen! I can’t keep up with you! I’mma need a sack of your grass! I’mma need something!” But he laughed so hard. But anyway, I love him, but he’s Willie and that’s OK. He smoked in the studio with you there is what you’re saying? Oh, yeah! Willie smokes at the drop of a hat! I probably had a contact high from that too!

You’ve been singing “I Will Always Love You” since the early ’70s. What does that song mean to you now that it didn’t mean to you when you first wrote it? Well, you appreciate things more as you get older. That song is just the gift that keeps on giving. It’s always getting licensing in my publishing company; somebody’s recorded it and we’re signing off on that.

And so the fact that people are always calling me and always wanting rights for (the song for) a wedding —I

actually rewrote it as a wedding song; it makes a beautiful song — it just makes me appreciate the fact that I’ve been able to write something that’s been that meaningful to so many people through the years. So, it does touch me. And it turned out to be the perfect song to sing to my fans — it’s the song I like to dedicate to the fans. Not the sad parts, but the good parts — especially the line of, “I will always love you” for letting me do this. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. He can proudly say Mariah Carey once called him a “daaahhhling.”

Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).

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Suddenly She Sees Is she

not to. And I get the feeling that it’s weird now for people to be kind of hung up about it — certainly in younger people I’ve met, which is such a beautiful shift. There are amazing people spearheading that, like Cara Delevingne, Kristen Stewart and and Eliot Sumner — she’s fucking awesome.

It’s not even really an issue [for them], and I’m so glad.

How do you explain your big lesbian following? Listen, I’ve been super well aware of that from day one and have been so grateful for it.

How do those people inspire you? I look at them as someone from the older generation and I just am so relieved that there isn’t as much angst. I feel less angst in this new generation of young people.

It feels that there are less and less shackles on young people to adhere to old norms and that inspires me just to be brave in

KT Tunstall on why kissing girls wasn’t just a phase, admiring gender-fluid teens and channeling her masculinity

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

or isn’t she?

Truthfully, KT Tunstall understands the confusion regarding her sexuality — she’s responsible for it, after all. Tunstall, whose breakthrough song, “Suddenly I See,” became every dreamer’s anthem after it was prominently featured in The Devil Wears Prada, opened up about those rumors — and why kissing girls was “a really important part of my formative years” — on the heels of her latest album, KIN.

How did you become aware? From day one of releasing an album where I have fucking rainbow suspenders on! (Laughs) The British album cover for Eye to the Telescope was an homage to Patti Smith’s Horses album and I loved Mork & Mindy too, and so we didn’t think about it. It wasn’t me pretending to be gay, but I’m on the front of my album with these bright rainbow suspenders on. All the gay community thought I was gay — and they still think I’m gay!

They’re just waiting for me to figure it out.

Have you figured it out? Not yet! (Laughs) Listen, I am absolutely all about no boundaries and no labels. I’m gender fluid.

(Laughs) Is that how you’d describe your sexuality? No, I wouldn’t. I am hetero, but you know, I’ve certainly — I did theater studies at college for Christ’s sake; of course I had fun with girls.

It was weird in that community

everyday life and to honor how confident and self-assured they are becoming at a much younger age than I did. I feel like I’m keeping up with teenage confidence here.

Tell me about studying theater. I wanted to be an actress when I was younger, so I started in a theater group when I was 8 years old and started performing when I was quite young. By the time I was 15, I went on this really amazing theater course called Scottish Youth Theatre and it was the first time I left home. We were living in a kind of dorm room situation, and it was people who were into all sorts of music that I hadn’t been subjected to. I didn’t go to my first show until I was 15. I grew up at a very sheltered time in Scotland.

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What was your introduction to the gay community then? It was during that time when I went to live in Glasgow. I had lived in St. Andrews — very, very straight up academic. When I went over to Glasgow for the theater course, many of the lecturers were gay, and it wasn’t that it was surprising — I wasn’t shocked by it. It was much more that I realized that there was this whole world of life that I hadn’t known about. And there was definitely a very open attitude: If you like this person, then kiss them and that’s completely normal. That’s how fucking life should be, quite frankly. Why on earth would anyone have any problem with someone enjoying themselves? It doesn’t make any sense.

And you were kissing girls then. Would you call that a phase? No; I think it would be disrespectful to call it a phase. It was part of life. It was learning about love and learning about lust and desire and sexuality and becoming an adult and experiencing people. It was a really important part of my formative years.

What’s interesting now is the gender fluidity issue, I think. That’s really exciting and something that I just personally would relate to much more had that been talked about when I was 17, 18. That’s what I would be leaning my ear into because, I mean, when I get on stage something quite masculine happens to me. I think this is also why people have questioned my sexuality. There’s definitely a kind of masculine energy, and I’ve always felt that way and that comes through me when I perform.

I think it’s also playing a guitar! (Laughs) I feel like I have a cock! The guitar is basically like a strap-on. But then it depends how you play it, because I don’t know if Joni Mitchell felt that way. There’s definitely something that happens when I take to the stage, and it’s definitely much more prevalent than when I’m walking around buying eggs in the supermarket. (Laughs) I read a really great article with Eliot Sumner — Sting’s daughter — and I was quite envious thinking, “Wow, imagine being in my youth and it not really being an issue what gender you are,” because I always felt so tomboy. I grew up with brothers, and when I was younger I always had lots of male friends — mostly male friends.

Actually, now, I have mostly female friends, and I think that I’ve kind of inhabited being a woman. I really love my femininity, but I felt like a stranger to it before.

Which track on the album do think your LGBT fans might enjoy most? Maybe “Hard Girls” because that song is really about being vulnerable and not wearing an entire tub of hair gel on your head and all the makeup in the world and just being you, authentically you and not worrying. That song is totally meant to be a celebration about just fucking not worrying too much about that stuff and letting people get to know you for who you are.

What went through your head the first time you heard “Suddenly I See” in Devil Wears Prada? I was floored! As an artist, having your song used in a movie — you never get the whole song used and you never get your song used without there being dialogue over the top of it. And the whole three-and-a-half minutes of the opening of the movie is just my song, unadulterated! I remember my manager saying to me, “Enjoy this because it’s probably never going to happen again.”

How did you feel about Hillary Clinton using “Suddenly I See” as her 2008 campaign song? It was great. I’m not American, I can’t vote, but I would always want to see the Democrats in power, so I was really happy to be able to contribute in any way to try and make that happen. I don’t know what (a campaign) song would sound like right now — it’s crazy times. I wouldn’t even know where to start. It’s like watching a game show. It’s like watching The Hunger Games or something. It’s just completely bonkers. But seeing a woman in the position of President of the United States would be an amazing thing.

And Donald Trump — many artists aren’t appreciating the fact that he’s been using their songs. Yeah, he used one of my songs.

I can’t remember where but someone tweeted that he used it. It was just fucking abhorrent and it just makes you want to have a wash. I want my work nowhere near that disgusting man.

I don’t want to classify the last album, Invisible Empire, as having a “lesbian folk” sound but... (Laughs) Listen, I was playing folk music and I was buttoning up the top button of my shirt — that’s all I need to say.

When I listen to your latest album, it sounds like a kindred spirit to your debut, Eye to the Telescope. I hear similarities between the two. Me too! It feels like the spiritual follow up to the first album. It feels like

it’s taken three records to write my second album! And it’s not to disrespect the other albums, because I love them and they’ve been really important and I’m really proud of them. But I think from a personal point of view there’s a lot of familiarity in terms of where I was at when I wrote this record, where I’m really very unselfconscious and I totally love the music and I’m just having fun. I think it’s taken me a long time to get away from that incredibly powerful gaze of millions of people looking to see what you’re going to do next. It’s hard.

When did you start feeling “that gaze”? I think after the success of the first record.

Making the second record, I was just fucking exhausted. I was so tired. I’d been literally touring solid for two years and you’re in the studio trying to make a record and it’s just like… you’re just burned.

And there’s a low possibility of you being able to make the best follow-up record that you can. I actually really loved that second record; I was just bummed because I wanted to do it garage-band style live and the record company really didn’t want to do that, so we ended up making a slicker record than I was intending on making.

But you know, I’m proud of it. I think I listen back and I love it, but I was definitely feeling the effects of becoming famous. It was very weird.

How would you describe fame? You just feel like you’re in a bit of a glass box. And I’d been fairly shy when it comes to interacting with the tabloid press. I absolutely kept my fucking head down because that side of it can be quite frightening in terms of your lack of control of how you’re perceived by everybody. I really just kept my head down and didn’t really engage. I just didn’t want to do it; I didn’t want to go there. I’d actually feel much more comfortable with it now than I did then.

Funny enough, (this album) was made in quite a similar way (to the first album). It was made in Tony Hoffer’s studio and he has this really cute, cool DIY homemade studio and — same as the first record — I played a lot of the stuff myself and I think that was important for me, for this record.

I put just as much of my undiluted self into this record because that’s where the joy comes from. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. He can proudly say Mariah Carey once called him a “daaahhhling.”

Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

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Gay couple starts funeral service to take care of end-of-life

BY MIKKI ENOCH

Matthew

Medford and Shawn Wiscombe sat in the home-like offices of Wiscombe Memorial to discuss how their funeral services are different. As the only funeral home owned by a gay couple in Utah, the pair speak about the importance of family and giving those left behind the opportunity to grieve those lost from their lives. They include the practical with the emotional and personal when they speak about the importance of their work.

Medford and Wiscombe mixed stories of past services and also spoke of their upcoming nuptials. They spoke of the importance of family during the important events that happen in everyone’s life, births, marriages, and deaths.

While many life events can be planned, death is one that is neither planned nor wanted

location, rarely were funeral services held at the mortuary.

They were held at either a church or reception center.”

Wiscombe and Medford realize that the overhead of a standalone location created costs that families were paying for even if they were not using it. With this location, warehouse and office space has been transformed into a full service funeral home including preparation of the body on site.

Using this concept, the typical costs of a funeral of $10,000 to $14,000 dollars can be handled for $5,000 to $6,000 for the same services and products.

Wiscombe is passionate to point out that even if funeral arrangements have been made at another facility, it is fully transferrable because they are a life insurance policy not owned by the funeral home. So, if $12,000 has been arranged but then Wiscombe Memorial

to face. Wiscombe states this location is the fifth location since 1991. This location is different than a traditional standalone funeral home. Wiscombe saw a need for “affordable funeral services… In the twenty plus years of owning the other

handles the service for $6,000, then the remaining balance can be returned to the family.

Wiscombe states clearly, “we need to educate families that those policies are 100% transferrable to other funeral homes.”

Additionally, Wiscombe

and Medford want to start a conversation of planning for the inevitable funeral even if not ready to start paying for it, which includes talking to friends and families about what is desired at end of life.

This allows the documents to be ready so those left behind are not scrambling to figure out what was wanted.

“I can’t tell you how many times I have sat with families and they say my loved one never talked about this… wondering if they are making the right decision,” Wiscombe said.

Medford describes the aesthetic of the facility to be as home-like as possible. Many of the pieces of furniture are from either their own home or homes of family members.

The entry to the office is like a comfortable living room. The men entered dressed in Polo shirts and slacks, not the black suit and ties of movie morticians. When a family comes in to arrange services, it is not uncommon for them to arrive in whatever they are wearing, even if it is pajamas. Their goal is to make the family feel

as comfortable as possible during this trying time. They also don’t want the end of life experience to a high pressure sales situation.

“A lot of people purchase based on value and value is a moving target,” Medford states while discussing the importance of allowing the family to choose what they desire.

Prior to the recent marriage equality rulings, Wiscombe describes situations where longterm same-sex partners were excluded from final decision making options by estranged families who would come in and take over and not only exclude the partner but also ban them from even participating in as simple of a way as attending a viewing or funeral service. Situations such as this can be less common with LGBT families having recognition under the law. Spending a life with another no longer holds the inherent risk of losing everything, including final moments with their loved one, when a death occurs. Q For more information, visit wiscombememorial.com or call 385-528-1804.

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mr. manners

United we stand

BY ROCK MAGEN

In the wake

of the terrible incidents which have continued to plague our community, and with this being the annual allies issue, I thought it appropriate to speak about being an ally. My thoughts still go out to the victims of Orlando, and recently I have been pondering the definition of an “ally.” Are they someone who is removed from your community, but yet still chooses to support you? Can allies be found within the same community?

Traditional definitions tend to remind us of the “allied forces in WWI and WWII,” which is in harmony with the thoughts I have had in regard to other communities coming to support the LGBTQ community. I am reminded of the Orlando vigil here in SLC, and the words

spoken by Lt. Governor Spencer Cox. Although this elected official does not define himself as part of our community, he speaks words which I believe should be echoed throughout SLC’s history; “You have treated me with the kindness, dignity, and respect — the love — that I very often did not deserve,” he said. “And it has made me love you.”

Moving along with my thoughts, I often wonder if we can be allies among our own communities. Another definition of “ally” defines it as “any person, group, or nation that is associated with another or others for some common cause or purpose.” This makes me smile, because I am right. We are internal allies — one to another. But, within my adventure through the dictionary, I found that ally can also be a verb, an action. To truly be an ally (a noun) one must partake in the action to ally (a verb).

As with all things of meaning in life, you must take action to make a change.

The action of being an “ally” requires “a person, group or nation that is associated

with another or others for some common cause or purpose.” Believe that issues related to oppression are everyone’s concern, not just the concern of those who are the targets of oppression. Although we are all part of the community, it still requires us to feel empathy and understand that the struggle is not uniform across our numbers. Making mistakes is part of learning any process. The key is to acknowledge and apologize for mistakes; learn from them, but do not retreat.

Without making too many references to WWI and WWII, I want to remind each of you, that in order to end those wars, it required the countries to band together. I will not say that our own war is not on the same scale, but I will say that it requires each of us to be an ally and band together to win. We have come so far in our fight for equality, and the ground we have won is precious. So, as you think about “ally,” remember, ally is a verb — actions are more powerful than words. We win our wars with love. And that is all we need. Q

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hear me out THE COMPLETE TRIO COLLECTION, DOLLY PARTON, EMMYLOU HARRIS AND LINDA RONSTADT Nowhere in the backstory notes to the The Complete Trio Collection does it say that when Dolly Parton, Emmylou Harris and Linda Ronstadt finally found time to unify their voices in perfect harmony that lives were healed and Jesus wept. If you’ve heard even pieces of this landmark collaboration, though, you know this to be only a slight exaggeration. After all, we are talking about three singing supremes working their magic on 21 songs across two glorious albums. And now, in addition to both 1987’s Trio and 1999’s Trio II, Rhino Records has collected an additional 20 songs from the ladies’ Grammy-winning sessions, some unreleased, some alternate takes of already-released Trio tunes. Among them: “Wildflowers,” Parton’s autobiographical outsider anthem split equally among the three singers, with Parton on the first verse, Harris on the second, and, finally, Ronstadt on the third (Dolly takes lead on the original, included here on the first Trio disc). “Calling My Children Home” is transcendent, as their voices unite in splendid harmony for a rich vocal experience on this previously unreleased a cappella track, a gut-wrenching song by bluegrass band The Country Gentlemen. Top to bottom, The Complete Trio Collection is a body of staggering beauty. Ronstadt will break your heart as her voice glides through “The Blue Train.” Emmy’s breathtaking lead on “When We’re Gone, Long Gone”

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will lighten your load. All their voices in collective grace on the stunning “Farther Along” will have you feeling thankful that this project, despite the years it took to get these gals together, has finally seen the light of day.

Grade: A

BRITNEY SPEARS, GLORY We love a good comeback or five, don’t we? And since burning out in the mid aughts and then blazing back with 2007’s Blackout, the indestructible institution known as Britney Spears has made a career out of comebacks, releasing a rollercoaster of peak- and plummeting-career albums throughout her two-decade reign. Perhaps her biggest music slump came just a few years ago, in 2013, when Britney Jean tanked fast and hard on the charts because her team thought the world needed a “personal” album (WTF with the shlocky EDM and chipmunk-level vocal manipulation and religious innuendo?) from someone so aloof that we all breathe a sigh of relief when she actually appears to be having a good time. The reception to “deep” Spears was ill-received, and that’s something her ninth studio album, Glory, recognizes and thankfully forgoes, opening with an ethereal lead-in that piggybacks off Selena Gomez’s hypnotic latest. As it eases into its own urban flavor, Glory delivers almost purely on the basis that Britney is best when she’s merely hawking her brand of elusiveness, writhing over suggestive come-hithers. And oh, is there writhing.

From slow and sustained (“Invitation”

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and “Just Luv Me) to the floor-dropping kind (“Do You Want to Come Over?” and “Clumsy”), Spears has a one-track mind.

This girl just wants to have fun, y’all. That giggle at the end of the swinging classic Britney romp “Private Show”? There’s actual joy present. And personality! And she’s singing! Work, bitch? This time, you bet she is. When all’s said and done, when “Liar” storms in and she’s taking that chorus to the sky, you realize the Holy Spearit has risen once again.

Grade: B+

Also Out CARLY RAE JEPSEN, E•MO•TION SIDE B What a time to be alive: Carly Rae Jepsen has released more sonic jewels from E•MO•TION, the best pop album of 2015.

And you know the “Call Me Maybe” singer is the real deal when even her b-sides sit atop most of the current pop landscape, with the chipper opener “First Time” tapping into vintage Madonna (think “Borderline” meets “Holiday”) and “Store,” a unique fusion of what seems like two songs written at different stages during the E•MO•TION sessions. Tapping into the odd sweetness of stealing your boyfriend’s bike just before he breaks up with you, “Fever” employs a catchy synth-smacked chorus and, thanks to rippled drum effects, verses that are beautifully executed for maximum melancholy.

BARBRA STREISAND, ENCORE: MOVIE PARTNERS SING BROADWAY Like any legendary singer beyond radio age, Barbra Streisand goes the duets route yet again for Encore. The twist? She’s invited her actor friends along for a pleasantenough gimmick of an album, singing show tunes you’ve heard a gazillion times with Hollywood stars not all known for their voices, as if to say, “No one is allowed to sing better than me on my album.” And no one does, duh. Not Seth MacFarlane, who at least gives “Pure Imagination” his best shot. Definitely not Melissa McCarthy, who, if anything, sounds like she’d be fun to do karaoke with. But it’s hard not to feel this fluff is a waste of Babs’ precious time. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter @ chrisazzopardi.

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positive thoughts

The HIV vaccine search

THE INTERNATIONAL AIDS VACCINE INITIATIVE MARKS 20 YEARS

BY ORIOL R. GUTIERREZ JR.

Mark

Feinberg, MD, PhD, is the new president and CEO of the International AIDS Vaccine Initiative (IAVI). He took over as head of the organization in September 2015. He leads a global team of scientists, clinicians and advocates in the search for preventive HIV vaccines that are safe, effective and accessible.

Prior to joining IAVI, Feinberg was the chief public health and science officer for Merck Vaccines. He served 11 years in total at Merck & Co. in various leadership roles, working on the pharmaceutical company’s vaccine and infectious disease efforts, which included rotavirus, human papillomavirus, shingles and HIV. Most recently, he led the company’s efforts on a promising Ebola vaccine.

Feinberg has more than 30 years of experience in HIV care and research. He was on the faculty at the University of California, San Francisco and the Emory University School of Medicine in Atlanta. He was on the medical staff at San Francisco General Hospital and Grady Memorial Hospital in Atlanta, and he was a medical officer in the Office of AIDS Research at the National Institutes of Health.

What are your thoughts on IAVI marking its 20th anniversary this year? It’s both a chance to reflect on what the organization has accomplished, as well as to think about its future. This year also marks 20 years since the advent of effective antiretroviral therapy. Before IAVI, that was a time when the most effective approaches to treating HIV had not yet been codified. However, the discussions to create an entity like IAVI predated the

biomedical success of effective therapy.

IAVI is committed to the overall goal of ending AIDS. We recognize that AIDS will only come to an end if an effective vaccine is developed, but while that work goes on, every aspect of the response to HIV needs to be maximized. That includes getting as many people as possible who have HIV to know they have the virus and getting as many people with HIV on therapy as soon as they are able. Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) should also be widely available.

When an HIV vaccine is developed, it will coexist with other treatment and prevention modalities. That creates complexity, but it also creates opportunity and is a testament to how much progress has been made in 20 years. That said, the needs remain enormous. Most people living with HIV don’t know their status, most with the virus are not on treatment around the world, and most who could benefit from PrEP have no way of getting access to it.

A vaccine would be the best possible solution to address a lot of the barriers that currently limit the impact of available interventions in protecting at-risk populations. A characteristic that distinguishes a vaccine from therapy or PrEP is that you can have a defined regimen of administration that would take place over a short period of time and would offer long-term protection.

What is IAVI’s mission? IAVI is focused on the goal of developing an HIV vaccine. That includes work that we do in our own research labs and programs.

But I think even more important than that is our commit-

ment to maximizing the success of the overall HIV vaccine field.

That means that we want to put in place resources that can support the work of investigators outside of IAVI, whether they’re from academic labs or government labs.

One example of that is a service that we provide to investigators who don’t have experience taking promising ideas from the laboratory into the clinic. That involves all kinds of complicated issues, like properly manufacturing the vaccine candidate, assuring its quality, dealing with regulatory issues and designing appropriate clinical trials. Many of the most brilliant scientists don’t have that expertise and it wouldn’t be the best use of their time to try to acquire it.

We provide that as a function to investigators. In many ways, what IAVI has designed itself to be in 2016 is an organization that seeks to identify opportunities for greater collaboration in the field. And it seeks to both identify and solve barriers that exist. We are advancing candidate vaccines that have demonstrated promise.

What are some of IAVI’s successes? IAVI, our scientists and our collaborators have made major contributions to understanding the immune response in people with HIV and to using that information to guide vaccine development. In the course of that work, we have a much more detailed understanding of the structure of the key components of HIV that will likely be the target of protective immune responses, and we have a much better idea about how to design vaccines.

Part of that work has led to the isolation of a series of mono-

clonal antibodies, both by IAVI and other investigators, that are now being explored for passive administration to prevent HIV infection. The goal would be to serve the same purpose as oral PrEP, but you might administer it once every three or six months via an injection rather than having to take a pill every day. There are lots of other, even more promising, antibodies including a number that IAVI and partners helped discover, isolate and characterize, that are also being explored as therapeutic or curative agents.

Are there other interventions, including immunologic ones like broadly neutralizing monoclonal antibodies, that could help promote clearance of infected cells that are not somehow reached by drugs themselves? Are there ways of activating the expression of HIV proteins that could then be targeted by immunologic intervention, such as antibodies, to work in concert with the antiretroviral drugs to cure people of HIV? And if it’s not a definitive cure, can you achieve a so-called functional cure? That exploratory research is going on.

Why is this process so difficult? Developing an HIV vaccine or some modality to cure people of HIV is dependent upon solving many complicated — and currently incompletely understood — aspects of the biology of HIV infection. They’re much more complicated than anything the scientific community has ever been asked to solve for before.

HIV causes an infection that the immune systems of people with the virus aren’t able to get rid of and persists in them throughout their lives. We don’t yet have vaccines that protect against infections the immune system itself is not naturally able to clear.

Making an HIV vaccine means that we’ll have to do better than the immune system normally does itself. There are a number of exciting ideas about

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how to do that. Will they work?

I don’t know. Is it important to find ways of testing them as quickly as possible? Definitely.

The main barrier is the science, but other barriers relate to how effectively people work together to address complicated challenges like this one, which involves a long-term effort.

It involves stakeholders from the public sector, the private sector, academia, government and nonprofit organizations.

We’re gratified to see increased collaboration in the field. We want to do everything we can to foster that.

What can individuals do to help? I started working in HIV in 1984. I had no idea at the time that I would be spending my entire career on it. This will outlast me for sure. One of the real challenges is the level of public attention to HIV has waned. Maintaining a durable

commitment for as long as it’s going to take to get rid of AIDS is something that I think is an important area for advocacy, not only for IAVI. Individuals can make sure that the world doesn’t forget about the importance of continuing to pay attention to this issue. Continue to advocate for the development of new innovations. In addition, there is always the opportunity for participation in research studies. There’s a lot of work that will need to be done that will require clinical trials involving both people with the virus and HIV-negative people. Without the commitment of people who have been in clinical trials to date, we wouldn’t have the modalities that we have today. Q Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr. is the editor-in-chief of POZ magazine. Find him on Twitter @ oriolgutierrez. This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, The Body and Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake Magazine.

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the bookworm sez

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

Elizabeth and Michael

by Donald Bogle c.2016, Atria $26 / 392 pages

Your closest friend really gets you.

You never have to explain yourself when you’re together; everything said (and unsaid) is understood. There may be many years between you, but it doesn’t matter. There may be differences in background, but no worries. Nothing keeps you apart, and in the new book Elizabeth and Michael by Donald Bogle, that might be because you have everything in common.

Almost from the moment she was born, Elizabeth Taylor’s life was “like something of a fairy tale…”

She was a beautiful child who grew up to be a beautiful young woman with a mother who made it her mission to ensure that Elizabeth was a star. Sara Taylor enrolled her daughter in all the best classes and was ever on the lookout for opportunity; in 1939, that insistence on fame grew when the family moved to California.

Two years later, as a result of two conversations her father had with influential Hollywood starmakers, Elizabeth , not quite ten years old, was invited to try out for Lassie Come Home.

She got the part. Her mother got her wish.

Though Elizabeth Taylor’s later life was filled with stardust, it wasn’t storybookhappy.

She would battle various issues throughout the years; so would another star born halfway across the country at about the same time Elizabeth was dealing with the death of her second husband.

Michael Jackson, the eighth of ten children, grew up in a

family that didn’t have much except themselves — and his father, Joe, insisted that it remain that way: the Jackson children were often isolated, because Joe wanted fame for his singing-dancing sons and he demanded that they rehearse nearly constantly. There was little time for anything except practice but, for Michael, practice led to stardom.

It was another star, Katharine Hepburn, who was once surprised by Michael’s audacity: eager to meet the favorite actors of his childhood, he asked Hepburn to introduce him to Greta Garbo. She declined.

And then Michael asked to meet Elizabeth Taylor…

Right there, says author Donald Bogle, is the early beginning of a friendship that many called “flat-out weird,” but that really does make sense.

As Bogle shows in Elizabeth and Michael, few others had so much in common.

If that was the only focus, though, this would be a pretty thin book. Instead, Bogle’s story moves in puddle-like circles around his subjects, and through their lives: by knowing the people who raised and influenced them, we can trace the compassion that an older Taylor possessed and we see how Jackson built his empire, detail by detail. Bogle also gives readers a vivid sense of the time in which his narrative takes place which, combined with layered anecdotes and the parallels he draws between Taylor’s and Jackson’s lives, makes for an easy, entertaining read.

Certainly, this is book is a fan’s dream but it’s also one that pop culture followers will relish, too. And if that’s the kind of book you want now, then Elizabeth and Michael is what you need to get you. Q

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9 Purple, in an Alice Walker title, e.g.

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32 Bill T. Jones’ partner Zane 33 Outfit for Richard Simmons 35 Quote as a reference 36 Sailor’s rear 37 Flying fisher 38 Musical featuring Edna Turnblad 40 Joe who played gay in JFK 41 Fruit sugar ending

42 Rupert Everett’s Ready to ___ 43 Haul ass 44 Trust in, with “on” 45 Ben Vereen forte 46 Political analyst Maddow 49 Da Vinci signature piece 54 Wife of Portia 55 Leatherwear for the hands 56 Be a ham in Hamlet 57 Buffalo’s lake 58 Vichyssoise veggie 59 Like bacon 60 Will of The Waltons 61 Biters of Marc Antony’s girlfriend

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9 Minnelli movie 10 In-your-face 11 Modern Family adoptee 12 Chili pot 13 Possible STD symptom 18 Glee character Abrams 21 Bugs or Erin

23 Hot-tempered 24 Kind of man in a Village People hit 25 Oral performances 26 Release from bondage 27 Tying-up place 28 Use the Divine Miss M’s name in vain?

29 Explode 30 Cole Porter’s “___ I Kissed My Baby Goodbye” 31 Gave head at home?

33 Be unfaithful to your lover 34 Takes advantage of pupils?

36 Dumbledore might cast one 39 Sondheim’s Todd 40 Like Jeremy Irons in The Borgias 43 Closet triangle 44 Gone with the Wind guy 45 Gus Van Sant film ____ For 46 Where a sailor may hit bottom 47 Tennessee Williams’ Summer and Smoke heroine 48 Stop bleeding 49 Swampy area 50 Marlene’s Blue Angel role 51 Lithographer James 52 Trickle through the cracks 53 Wonders aloud 55 Frat boys tap it

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BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19 A stranger will be a great help during an emotional crisis, and a new friendship will be forged. An intimate encounter is a good way to start, as it will clear tension before it can build.

Be suspicious of those who gossip, as they are likely looking for things to use against you. Instead, place trust in those with fresh perspectives!

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 A temporary phase could mean doing things out of the ordinary. A relationship could be altered as a result, leading to some frisky times.

There is a secret going around about you that is eventually revealed, which could be surprising, as it is about the way someone feels toward you. What you do with this info your choice.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 No clear path for you can be laid by anyone else. The problem is that no path seems correct. Goals may have to be adapted to conditions. This doesn’t entail sacrifice, but modification.

A long time dream is likely to come true, but prepare for the bad that comes with

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CANCER June 21–July 22 The ability to feel deeply does not always make for good times. But considering what is felt during this time, enjoyment is bound to occur.

The dynamic between pain and pleasure can lead to interesting combinations, like mixing sweet and salty. Try to enjoy work and loath your friends, just to keep things interesting.

LEO July 23–August 22 The longer an important career task is put off, the harder it will be getting what you really want. A serious sense of despair is holding you down, but will pass by taking charge.

Take the initiative. Help will come in the form of a family member who hasn’t always been reliable. Things will be different this time, so take the aid.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 A dwindling desire to hang out with a good friend stems from a sense of boredom. This would be a nice time for diversity and trying something new. Apply for a different job or meet an online friend for the first time. Life is pretty good right now, but there’s always room for change and improvement. Go out and play.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Coming in second place at work could be upsetting, but don’t give up. The grass on the other side isn’t as green as it appears. Keep up with the here-and-now and the real opportunity will present itself. Feeling neutral is boring, but there is much to be said about growing with what you have. Work on making now the best.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 You may feel as though you’ve been forgotten by someone close to you. It may simply be that you’ve been laying low these days. Don’t be offended, but try to enjoy the break. Too much of this person may have gotten on your nerves more than you know. Enjoy going solo for a bit and discover the benefits of solitude.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Summer gatherings have left you worn out but social activities are far from over. Up the game when associating with friends and loved ones with high expectations. Keep the food and drinks coming and terrific conversations will lead to some of the best times of the year. The holiday season isn’t as far off as it seems.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 A dry spell in creativity is discouraging, but this is simply the calm before the storm. An explosive period of artistic expression is around the corner, so lay low and prepare for the insane pace. Friends and family will likely be awed by your productions, so don’t let a disapproving voice deter you from continuing.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

A gift may not seem too wonderful now, but considering the current situation, it’s a vast improvement. Accept with gratitude, and better gifts are likely to come. Slide deep into a happy state and the troubles will be easier to deal with. This isn’t a great time in life, but that doesn’t mean you have to settle for misery.

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jackie beat while cruising for cock on your smart phone. I will tell you what they actually mean, and what those letters could stand for if you’re not careful. I call them...

Jackronyms!

A3

WHAT IT MEANS: ANYTIME, ANYPLACE, ANYWHERE. This is a very cute way of saying “I’m a total slut.” WHAT IT COULD MEAN: I’M AN ALIEN WITH 3 ASSHOLES. Yes, this sounds like a lot to deal with until you realize you can finger, rim and fuck this guy all at the same time.

ASAP

WHAT IT MEANS: AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Two words: “Hot Pocket,” remember? WHAT IT COULD MEAN: ALL SEMEN IS PINK. Um, I ain’t no doctor but no it isn’t, dude. You’re bleeding “down there” and I’m outa’ here.

BY JACKIE BEAT

I get it,

we’re all busy. Too busy to even leave the house and meet a person the “normal” way by making eye contact, flirting, buying them a drink, making small talk and then maybe exchanging phone numbers or simply cutting to the chase and going home with them to fuck their brains out. But thankfully we now have dating apps — or as I like to call them, the “microwave oven” of romance. I mean, when I want a Hot Pocket I want it NOW! And when most Gay men want a Hottie, they’re like that woman, Sweet Brown, who went viral after being interviewed by the local news outside the apartment fire: “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

Dating apps make it possible to sit at home while bingeing on Stranger Things — and tater tots if you’re a Bear — in your underwear while perusing photos of eligible Gay men like your straight girlfriends shop online for shoes. But even when we’re using an app, we’re like super busy. So we use “acronyms.” That’s what you call it when you take the first letter of each word in a phrase to make a cute little time-saving code. If you’ve ever been to a cheesy wedding reception you are familiar with not only one, but two well-known acronyms: RSVP and YMCA. So, let’s take a look at 20 of the most popular acronyms you may encounter

ASLP

WHAT IT MEANS: AGE, SEX, LOCATION, PICTURE. Like I said, we’re all busy. So cut to the chase and let me be as shamelessly shallow as I like please. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: ASS SAGS, LOTSA PIMPLES. It’s tragic when you’re old enough to have a saggy ass, but you still suffer from acne like a hormonal teenager.

BDB

WHAT IT MEANS: BIG DICK BOTTOM. “I’ve got a really big dick but I only bottom!” To me, this is like if Adele quit singing and just did voiceovers for tampon commercials. In other words, what a fucking waste! WHAT IT COULD MEAN: BEER, DORITOS, BURGERS. Because before I chow down on your cock or eat your ass, a manly snack would be nice.

BRB

WHAT IT MEANS: BE RIGHT BACK. The guy you’re chatting up is obviously multitasking. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: BALLS REALLY BIG. Don’t let this one get away! Unless of course, they just look really big in comparison to his dick.

HMU

WHAT IT MEANS: HIT ME UP. No, this is not an invitation to S&M. It usually simply means “I’m interested.” WHAT IT COULD MEAN: HUNG MEXICAN UNICORN. Again, don’t let this one get away!

Do you know how rare a Unicorn is? Well, imagine just how rare a Hung Mexican Unicorn is... Yes, you guessed it, it’s mucho rare!

HU

WHAT IT MEANS: HURRY UP. This is the “microwave oven” of dating, remember? WHAT IT COULD MEAN: HAIRY UDDERS. This person is letting you know that he not only has moobs, but they are delightfully furry. Enjoy!

ILYK

WHAT IT MEANS: I’LL LET YOU KNOW. Not hard to figure out. A nice way of buying a little time. You never know, something better may come along... WHAT IT COULD MEAN: I LIKE YELLOW KALE. Uh oh, you are dealing with a vegan into water sports. I am not judging... Just know what you’re getting yourself into, that’s all I’m saying.

ITAI

WHAT IT MEANS: I’LL THINK ABOUT IT. Usually only used by a wishywashy type who thinks that even answering a fucking question is a commitment. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: I TAKE ARMENIAN INCHES. Unless you’re porn star Adam Ramzi, move on.

J4T

WHAT IT MEANS: JUST FOR TODAY. They are either very existential or just extremely non-committal. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: JACK FOR TATER TOTS. This means “I will give you a hand-job for hot ‘n’ crispy potato goodness. Throw in some ranch dressing and I’ll lick your balls a little while I do it, too.”

LOL

WHAT IT MEANS: LAUGHING OUT LOUD. This seldom means the person you are chatting with is actually laughing out loud. It usually means they can’t think of anything else to type. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: LOVES OLD LADIES. You are trying to hook-up with a hardcore Golden Girls fan.

Hey, nothing wrong with that but just plan accordingly and maybe work on perfecting your Bea Arthur impersonation.

M4M

WHAT IS MEANS: MASCULINE FOR MASCULINE. Only the butchest, most-rugged real men need apply. Because there’s nothing sexier than a self-hating homosexual. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: MAD FOR MADONNA. Warning: He’s going to talk about her. All. The. Time.

MYOB

WHAT IT MEANS: MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. Very passive aggressive and rude. Something that should only be said by an 8 year-old or an irritable, dieting Kardashian. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: MESS YOUR OWN BOXERS. Two words:

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NSA

Scat queen. (Again, no judgment here...

Knock yourself out, Señor Poopy-Pants!)

WHAT IT MEANS: NO STRINGS

NBD

WHAT IT MEANS: NO BIG DEAL.

This is a very easy-going person. Quite possibly a chronic pot-smoker. Or a surfer.

Or both. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: NO BLUE DILDOS. Yes, this is very specific and I know what you’re thinking: That you will never ever see this acronym, right? But what if I told you I was once molested by a Smurf?

Yeah, now you totally get it.

NMHJC

WHAT IT MEANS: NOT MUCH HERE, JUST CHILLIN’. Laid-back.

Cool. More than likely unemployed. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: NO MORMONS, HINDUS, JEWS, CHRISTIANS. Hey, at least he’s open to Atheists and Islamists, right?

NPNC

WHAT IT MEANS: NO PICS NO CHAT. “Show me what you got or take a hike!” WHAT IT COULD MEAN: NERDY PRIEST NEEDS COCK. Hey, as long as it’s between two consenting adults, who am I to judge? I’ll let God do that.

ATTACHED. I’d like to think anyone using a hook-up app already knows this is the situation, but thanks for clarifying. I mean, we’re talking cock rings not wedding rings, right? WHAT IT COULD MEAN: NATIONAL SECURITY AGENCY. If you have a fetish for emotionless middle-aged men in black suits and aviator sunglasses you’re in luck!

SG

WHAT IT MEANS: SOUNDS GOOD. Thank God for this one, huh? I mean think of all the time you’ll save typing just “SG” instead of “sounds good” over your lifetime. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: SAW GHOSTBUSTERS. This guy saw the all-female reboot of “Ghostbusters” despite the online backlash and bad reviews. This is a good sign because it means he not only likes women, but can think for himself.

YOYO

WHAT IT MEANS: YOU’RE

ON YOUR OWN. The ultimate dis. Take the hint, it’s time to move on. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: YOU’RE ORANGE, YOU’RE OLD!

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ZZZ

WHAT IT MEANS: I’M BORED WITH YOU. WHAT IT COULD MEAN: A ZEBRA GAVE ME THE ZIKA VIRUS AT A ZUMBA CLASS! Q JACKIE BEAT is an award-winning drag queen and writer who has been wowing unsuspecting audiences for over 25 years. She has written for the likes of Joan Rivers, Sandra Bernhard, Margaret Cho, Rosie O’Donnell, Cassandra “Elvira” Peterson, Jennifer Coolidge, Ross Mathews, Kate Flannery and the one-and-only Roseanne Barr — with whom she also toured as the comic legend’s opening act.

Jackie has also written for TV and countless publications.

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frivolist 4. LESS DECORATING MEANS MORE DOWN TIME.

How to throw a big gay football party IT’S PIGSKIN SEASON! TIME TO BREAK OUT THE JOCK STRAPS AND KNEEPADS.

BY MIKEY ROX

You know

it’s football season when on Sundays your News Feed is filled with a wide range of emotional comments about your friends’ favorite teams. As someone who doesn’t even know how to throw a football — much less play the game (and I know I’m not alone) — I often feel left out of the conversation.

But just because I have no idea what I’m talking about when it comes to touchdowns and T-formations (seriously, I had to look up the definition of the latter), that doesn’t mean I can’t partake in the festivities. While I may not be a star on the field, I’m a whiz in the kitchen and an excellent host. So you can join in the weekend fun, too, here are my tips for throwing the ultimate football party — without a whole lot of work.

1. INVEST IN A SERIOUS TV. Just as (if not more) important as anything else at your football party is the television on which the game is played.

If you don’t have a sizeable screen, what’s the point? Nobody wants to squint to see the sweeps — or those tight ends.

If you don’t already have a flatscreen of at least 42 inches — and you want to host football parties — make it a point to save up for one. You’ll make your guests happy in the short term and yourself happier in the long term.

2. DON’T FUSS OVER THE FOOD. If it were any other kind of party, I would prepare homemade dishes to surprise and satisfy my guests. Luckily I don’t have to do that on game day. Football parties aren’t known for their exotic foods, but rather comforting versions of classics that soothe the soul

when the weather takes a turn for the worst. Chicken wings, chips and dips, meatballs, chili and nachos are acceptable fare to feed your fans. All of these items are fairly easy to make, too, with just a few ingredients required for each. The best part about these calorie-rich snacks is that they’re filling, so even a modest amount will go a long way — though you should probably prepare for two-adays at the gym for the rest of the week.

3. BEER AND WINE BUT NOT LIQUOR. I limit the amount of alcohol consumption taking place throughout the four quarters by eliminating liquor all together. Nobody needs to drink Jack for hours on end on a Sunday afternoon — even if they think they might. A couple bottles of red and white wine and a case or two of a domestic light beer and a more adult lager will do the trick, along with nonalcoholic soft drinks as well. Just be sure to tell your guests what’s on the bev menu ahead of time so they can bring their own if they’re not down with what you’re serving.

Trust me when I tell you that the kind of people coming to your football fete couldn’t care less whether you’ve decorated or not. OK — the queens might, but your gay “bros” won’t notice either way. Thus, if the majority of the football fans won’t appreciate the effort you put into turning the living room into a lookalike locker room, why bother? Instead, take a load off and enjoy the game (or at least the commercials) with everyone else.

5. OFFER OTHER GAMES WHILE THEY’RE WATCHING THE BIG ONE. Not all of your guests will be as interested in what’s happening on the TV as others; some of them will be forced to attend your party — because that’s the way gay love goes. For those guests, set up a nearby area where they can play cards or board games while keeping one eye on the tube if they want. If kids are attending, these occupiers are a must — even better if you have a separate room with a video game setup.

6. ENTER THE END ZONE WITH DESSERT. Time to wrap up the party?

Nothing says game over like bringing out dessert and coffee to give your guests the hint that it’s time to hit the road. For an extra special touch, serve up easy-to-make football-shaped cookies (you might even find prepackaged bake-and-serve versions at your local supermarket) with freshly brewed java or artisan hot chocolate. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.

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fitness

Looking good last minute

PHOTO: PQ NGUYEN, MODEL: TYSON DAYLEY

Fitness

BY TYSON DAYLEY

goals are often prefaced with an unrealistic time frame. The amount of frat guys asking about abs goes up exponentially as you get closer to Spring Break. Fortunately for the fitness industry and unfortunately for everyone else there are no miracle shortcuts to make you ripped overnight. But there are absolutely some tips to utilize last minute to ensure you look the best you can for your special occasions, especially if a fairly serious diet and exercise plan were already in place.

Two factors come into play when polishing off a physique before shirtless outings; carbohydrates and water. Short term, carbs affect how full or flat our muscles look. Not enough and muscles won’t “pop,” too many carbs and “spilling over” occurs; carbs aren’t retained in the muscle but are between the skin and the muscle, making you look less lean. Just the right amount will make you pop but

stay tight. A very basic way to accomplish this is by reducing your carb intake as low as possible for at least one day, about 3–5 days prior to the day you’re peaking for. Each day following that, add back about 25 percent of the carbs you would normally eat until you’re eating regularly.

Excessive water retention can make a physique appear less lean. It’s actually fairly simple to avoid. First, drink enough water everyday, starting right now.

Plenty of health benefits and it will help your body regulate dayto-day water retention. Second, avoid high sodium foods the last days before your event.

This won’t take your god-like body from Buddha to Hercules but it can let you make the most of what you’ve worked for.

Cheers to the end of pool season and the beginning of winter getaways! Q Tyson Dayley trains clients at the Sugar House 24 Hour Fitness by appointment or private training in noncommercial settings.

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princess kennedy

Inspire Me

BY PRINCESS KENNEDY

I had a

crazy thing happen to me a couple weeks ago.

It was a Sunday morning. I had gone out the night before and was a touch hung over when my alarm rang bright and early at 9 a.m. I reach for my phone and did my morning ritual of clicking open my Facebook and there was a message from someone who friend requested me that simply said, “I think he’s talking about you,” with a link to a podcast. I open it up and the headline is, “Matt Bomer credits trans woman for being comfortable to come out in Hollywood as a gay man.”

What? I can’t comprehend what I’m reading through my hangover. I click on the link and sure enough the clip being featured is from an interview by American heartthrob actor Matt Bomer, talking about how he came out late in life. In college he tried dating girls, but after his sophomore year he decided to focus on his craft and not put him or anyone else through the instability of whatever he was going through.

Suddenly he turns the tables and asked the interviewer if he had anyone on his journey of life who inspired him to come out, to which the host answered, yes but much later in life. What happens next shook me to my core and completely erased my hangover.

“You see, I did,” he confesses. “I was in my

junior year of college and I was working summer stock at the Utah Shakespearean festival in Southern Utah.” My heart started to pound! “There was a transgendered girl who was the company hair and make-up artist named Kennedy,” he continued. “ She was raised in a Mormon family and just as secure in herself as anyone.” By this time I’m starting to get light-headed. “I would listen to her talk about the trials and tribulations she went through growing up and I thought to myself, if she can live her live in her truth and be unaffected by the societal pressure then, dammit, so can I. And she is the reason I started out in tinsel town as myself, unapologetically.” I instantly started to bawl as my heart started to sing.

I remember Matt from that summer 18 years ago. He was the roommate of my best friend I made that summer with whom I’m still very close. The thing is, as the designer I was only there for two months to get the shows together and left my staff to take over for the rest of the run. Matt was the quiet boy who stood at the back of the stage and just observed everything. I’m not even sure that I had a conversation with him beyond his wig fittings and haircut, although the there was Alicia, a student from Utah State University who was the only place we could score weed, so the stoner kids would hang out with her nightly, including Matt and myself, and that’s where he must have heard my stories and held onto the pot-induced ramblings of my so-called tranny childhood.

I cried the rest of the day as I listened again and again to the interview. I was so touched by his kind words and observation and honored that he remembered my story, my name and that, so many years later

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him giving me that giant credit for such a big part of his life. Actually, I was kind of shocked because I believed he thought I was a total freak! It just goes to show that you never know who your going to inspire.

On that note, if you have someone who inspires you, please reach out and tell them, because you will make someone feel fucking awesome!

When Matt started showing on the radar, I was super excited to have known him, even in the brief and small way I did. His soap career turned into a movie role (Texas Chainsaw Massacre) into a TV series (White Collar) to Magic Mike and, most recently, playing opposite Lady Gaga in American Horror Story: Hotel.

I always wanted to tell him how exciting it is watch him grow from that cute, timid kid to this thriving actor. Now I have so much more to say to him, so if by some chance this makes its back into your hands, thank you Matt Bomer. I’m so proud of you and I and I’m truly honored and humbled by your kind words and I hope that someday we can meet again and hug and thank each other.

Next up for Matt, he will be playing a transgendered person and it is causing quite a controversy in the industry in that they didn’t hire an actual transgendered person.

Quite frankly, I think the whole cultural misappropriation thing is fucking stupid.

If I want to wear cornrows and a Native American head dress in a dashiki with wooden clogs, I will, and if any one doesn’t like it they can eat me.

On a lighter and more serious note, I need the community’s support. I am moving from the hair salon (that’s what I do in daytime realness) to George Eliot Salon in the Shops at Library Square. The goal is for me to be able to take up the lease from the current owner once it ends. As a shop in the library, we are encouraged to use our space for community good and awareness. I’ll be doing events for the homeless youth shelter, as well as working with the trans community to help make their lives a more beautiful place. I won’t be able to do it with out the support and love of all of you. Book an appointment today at schedulicity.com and look for Kennedy at Library Square and, as always, keep checking here for all my future events and benefits. Q Do you have a story or know someone who does? Hit me up at theprincesskennedy@yahoo.com or find and like Princess Kennedy page on Facebook and share the story on my wall.

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the perils of petunia pap smear

PUZZLE SOLUTIONS

This story leaves us with several important questions: • Are drag queens, like wicked witches, allergic to water?

• Do emergency room nurses really judge a patient’s underwear?

• In checking the quality of someone else’s underwear, is it absolutely necessary to first ask permission?

• Is this why I keep getting slapped?

• Is the dunk tank the gay version of performing Baptisms for the Dead?

These and other eternal questions shall be answered in future chapters of the Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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rotunditude.

Planning for a water landing, I made sure my breasticles were floatatious to help keep me from drowning, and also nonelectrical to prevent electrocution.

Last, but not least, I needed to choose which of my 23 beehive wigs to wear. Yes, I have 23, now shut up! These decisions cannot be made lightly.

It finally came down to the age-old debate — style (a beautifully styled and back-combed cotton candy beehive) versus substance (a very practical and water friendly foam wig). Me being a very practical queen, I ended up choosing substance.

I chose a nice yellow foam wig that I thought could withstand a douching.

Well, it turned out that it was a very good thing that I planned for any possible event, because the bastards at Try-Angles paid $350 to get me into the tank.

Let be begin by saying there is absolutely no dignified way for a queen of breeding to be able to mount the machine. Gene Geiber brought a step stool to help, but since I am neither a contortionist nor a rock climber, it was a vision of ineptitude.

After I was so unceremoniously placed on the trip seat, I sat dangling my toes into the water and began thinking this was not going to be too bad. The water felt cool and refreshing to my tired feet, and the first 15 balls thrown at the target missed.

Jeremiah was up to bat, and he missed his three attempts as well, so he casually stepped forward and hit the target with his hand, thus dropping the seat out from under me.

Several things happened in

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to nonprofit fund raising is fraught with danger and excitement. Last month we had the dunk tank fund raiser at Club Try-Angles on behalf of the Salt Lake Men’s Choir and we raised nearly $7,000. A good time was had by all and much needed funds were raised for a really worthwhile organization. It reminded me of the very first time I agreed to participate in dunking tank shenanigans.

It was two years ago on a very very hot August afternoon on the patio of Club Try-Angles. I knew the dunk tank was going to be used that day, so like any Queen worth her tiara, and her accumulated boy scouting merit badges, I knew that I should come prepared for any eventuality. The very first rule of preparedness in life is: always put on clean underwear. As my mother always said, “You never know if you will be in a car accident and, heaven forbid, you should have on soiled panties in the hospital emergency room.”

So I rummaged through my drawers and picked out a very festive floral print Speedo that would match the jungle print caftan I was planning to wear.

Because that is the second rule of preparedness we learned in finishing school. “The carpet should always match the drapes” even if no one ever sees. So boys, this is how you can judge a queen of quality: just reach into her skirt/pants and examine the underwear. Of course, jock straps will match with absolutely everything, no matter what color. Just saying.

Next, I made sure that the caftan had sufficient acreage to be able to cover my immense

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wig and boobs got fuller and fuller and heavier and heavier with water and it became ever more increasingly difficult and embarrassing to remount the stool. I was about ready to join Shelly in her heart attack. I had not felt this water logged since the last time I had gone to the temple and been baptized for the dead.

Finally, my turn was over.

Gene released a never-ending torrent of taunts and gibes, so I just took off my water-laden wig and put it on his head and squeezed. He was immediately drenched and silenced. I even believe that his ever-present cigarette was put out. Imagine that! And of course, I had the immediate need to pee.

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rapid succession. Newton’s law of gravity took full effect and pulled down on my colossal girth, pulling me all the way to the bottom of the tank, such that I was sitting Indian style on floor of the reservoir with my dress drawn all the way up to my boobs. Unbeknownst to me, the front of the tank was transparent so that everything could be seen. Even my enormous lily white whale blubberish tummy. Oh the horror! But thank God, my carpet matched my drapes! My glasses fell off my face, but gratefully I was able to catch them before they became forever lost.

I stood up, rising up from under the water like Godzilla emerging from the ocean depths. The yellow wig proved to be much too water friendly and sucked up at least a gallon and became very heavy to wear.

Gene was trying to help me get back up on the stool for another go. As I clamored up, tangled in my dress, large ass waving to the audience, I felt and looked like Shelly Winters in the Poseidon Adventure, right after she swims to rescue Gene Hackman, only to have a heart attack and die.

I noticed that the second time I went down, the increased mass of the water-soaked foam wig acted to keep its place in space, as my body fell out from under it, then it came crashing down on top of me. With each additional dunking, the

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