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Our need for allies continues

BY MICHAEL AARON

As the

ultra-conservative right is preparing to descend on Salt Lake City in a few weeks, I worry that many are becoming complacent and think the fight is over and there is little these people can do to stop the world from turning our direction.

We have to realize that these people are serious in their convictions. Of those coming, their livelihoods are at stake. They make bank

on the hate and misunderstanding of others.

They are so deep in their narrow views of what “should be” they have to keep going.

The problem is, if they aren’t countered in any way, we stand to lose what gains we’ve made. It’s not like the fitful child in the grocery store. They won’t calm down by ignoring them.

The other problem, is that the U.S. has become a major exporter of hate. As we shake our heads at those crazy Russians who have that “protect the children” anti-gay law and the Ugandans with their death squads, we must remember that it was our own crazies that are building and supporting those policies.

In a way, we owe it to the rest of the world to fight these people. We helped create them.

We must continue to change the hearts and minds

of those around us, as we have been doing for decades.

We must continue to develop allies who will stand with us and point out the fallacies of these people’s logic.

It is our allies that pushed us over the top on many of our important recent wins.

It is our allies who will continue to walk with us handin-hand to face the monsters.

But this also means discussions with Grandpa. Discussions with Uncle Bill from La Verkin. With Sally in ­accounting. These people

still listen to the constant vitriol of the Right coming from their radios and Fox News.

They pass around memes of manly Trans* people in their daughter’s school restroom.

They “share if you agree” some of the most hurtful and hateful messages that they think they agree with. They are playing into the hands of the folks coming to Salt Lake City in a few weeks. They are their messengers; the ones who keep them in the business of hate.

National Coming Out Day is happening October 11.

Perhaps that is a good day to have these discussions, to make another connection with someone on the “other side” and to help continue making this world a better place for those growing up now. Q

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Kentucky clerk jailed then released for not performing marriaged Kim Davis, the Kentucky county clerk who received national attention for her refusal to issue marriage licenses following the Supreme Court’s decision to legalize samesex marriage, was taken into federal custody after U.S. District Judge David Bunning found her in contempt of court. Davis spent five days over the Labor Day weekend in jail, then Bunning agreed to erase the contempt charge if Davis let the deputies begin to issue the licenses on Friday morning. The jailed clerk, however, refused the deal. Bunning decided since licenses were being issued by her office, that he would release her from jail and warned that she cannot interfere with those licences. On clerk promised that he would defy any order to not issue licenses.

Freedom to Marry to close its doors Despite the media frenzy over Rowan County Clerk Kim Davis and reports same-sex couples still can’t marry in certain pockets of the United States, the LGBT group Freedom to Marry is sticking with its plan to close down. Evan Wolfson, president of Freedom to Marry, said his organization is “very much on track to shut down” in the coming months.

“Nothing about this past week’s predictable, hyped-up clerk/Liberty Counsel/Huckabee, etc. sideshow in Kentucky changes anything,” Wolfson said. “America is a big country and it’s not surprising that there’d be a handful of isolated instances of acting out and grandstanding. But overwhelmingly, the American people have seen that marriage for same-sex couples is a good thing, and even most of those who do not yet support the freedom to marry understand that we all must follow the law.”

news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Fayetteville, Ar. votes again for nondiscrimination ordinance Voters in the Arkansas city of Fayetteville on Sept. 8 approved a proposed ordinance that would add sexual orientation and gender identity to the local anti-discrimination ordinance. KFSM reported the Uniform Civil Rights Protection Ordinance 5781 passed by a 53-47 percent margin.

The Fayetteville City Council last August approved a similar ordinance by a 6-2 vote margin. Voters less than four months later repealed it.

NOM releases donor names The National Organization for Marriage released the names of donors who contributed to its 2009 campaign that overturned Maine’s same-sex marriage law.

Seven people donated $2 million to the campaign against the gay nuptials law, including Richard Kurtz of Cape Elizabeth and the Knights of Columbus, which contributed $140,000 to the effort.

The release of the names caps off a four-year battle the National Organization

for Marriage waged against Maine election officials over the release of the names. The Maine Commission on Governmental Ethics and Election Practices in 2014 fined NOM more than $50,000 over its failure to register as a ballot question committee or file campaign-related reports.

Rentboy.com employees arrested Federal authorities arrested seven employees of a male escort website on charges related to the promotion of prostitution. Rentboy. com CEO Jeffrey Hurant and the six other men were taken into custody. by agents from the U.S. Department of Homeland Security and members of the New York Police Department.

The indictment alleges Rentboy.com violated the federal Travel Act through the promotion of prostitution. Federal authorities on Aug. 25 also seized more than $1.4 million from six bank accounts and proceeded to shut down the website.

A press release from the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of New York indicates Rentboy.com made more than $10 million between 2010 and 2015.

Pentagon set to end trans* ban The Pentagon is poised to end its ban on openly trans* service members on May 27.

USA Today reported it obtained a document that it says “lays out the road map for ending the policy and highlights some of the potential issues.” The proposed policy would allow trans service members to take a leave of absence if they are undergoing hormone therapy or sex-reassignment surgery. The document, which was sent to top Pentagon personnel, indicates the new regulations would also require officials to determine whether trans service members who are receiving the aforementioned treatments are eligible for deployment to war zones.

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The anti-LGBT parade of speakers at the World Congress of Families Organizers of the World of Congress of Families IX, to be held at the Grand America in Salt Lake City this month, insist that the Congress is not anti-gay, but actually very inclusive and loving of all. The list of speakers and awardees, however, tells a very different tale. Among them are some of those working the hardest across the world to thwart equality efforts for LGBT people. Their rhetoric of hate is undeniably anti-gay and anti-trans*. Here are a few examples among the many awardees and speakers at the event and their recent comments and deeds relating to LGBT issues:

Awardees THERESA OKAFOR

WOMAN OF THE YEAR AWARD

WCF’s African regional director, Theresa Okafor of Nigeria, who also heads the conservative groups Foundation for African Cultural Heritage and Life League Nigeria will be the first awardee of the event.

Okafor’s group backed Nigeria’s recent ban on all same-sex relationships, which included a ban on gay people meeting in groups of two or more. The ban quickly led to arrests of reportedly dozens of people alleged to be gay. In 2014, FACH joined a coalition of NGOS that commended Nigerian president Goodluck Jonathan for signing the law. FACH shared on its Facebook page videos of a press conference it organized in support of the bill in which speakers called homosexuality “abhorrent” and compared it to alcoholism.

In a speech to the World Congress of Families annual gathering in Madrid in 2012, Okafor speculated that Western countries advocating for gay rights in Africa were involved in “a conspiracy” to “silence Christians” with the terrorist group Boko Haram that was bombing churches. She also defended moves toward harsh anti-gay laws in Nigeria and Uganda and speculated that efforts to defend

LGBT rights in Africa are “another ploy to depopulate Africa.”

Okafor also recently refuted the notion that LGBT people experience prejudice in Nigeria.

“I have heard accusations that they are being discriminated against,” Okafor said, “but this is completely false because if you think deeply about it, it is not the person that is being despised, it is the conduct.”

For her anti-gay work, the World Congress of Families gave her a Lifetime Achievement Award and at this conference, they will present her with the Woman of the Year Award.

LUCA VOLONTÉ

FAMILIA ET VERITAS AWARD

Another person being awarded for his anti-gay work is Luca Volonté, who sits on the board of the conservative online campaign platform CitizenGo along with National Organization for marriage’s Brian Brown.

Volonte’s foundation contributed a significant amount of money to the organization that headed the “No” movement in Ireland’s fight for same-sex marriage and is working with Brown to create an International Organization for Marriage.

Volonté has an active Twitter feed, where he often says such things as “Non c’è paragone tra #famiglia e #queer (There is no comparison between #family and #queer.)”

ANDREA WILLIAMS Andrea Williams, chief executive of Christian Concern is being awarded as well. She lauded Dolce and Gabbana’s condemnation of Sir Elton John and David Furnish’s adoption of a child.

“Samesex couples having a baby by way of reproductive medicine are deliberately depriving a child of either a mother or a father,” she said. “Couples such as Elton John and David Furnish put their own selfish needs above that of a child. They are satisfying their own needs, not considering the child’s.”

She says that anti-bullying campaigns in schools are a “Trojan horse” designed to disallow “Christians to speak about Jesus Christ in the public space, particularly in the areas of marriage and sexual ethics.”

She flew to Jamaica to speak against the repeal of that country’s law criminalizing same-sex intercourse.

“Might it be that Jamaica says to the United States of America, says to Europe, ‘Enough! You cannot come in and attack our families. We will not accept aid or promotion tied to an agenda that is against God and destroys our families,’” she said, saying it is a “big lie” that sexuality is an inborn trait, that it is caused by the lack of a strong father figure and “sometimes a level of abuse.”

She reportedly illustrated that point by saying openly gay

Olympic diver Tom Daley was “loved by all the girls and had girlfriends” and had “lost his father to cancer just a few years ago.”

ALLAN CARLSON

RETIREMENT CEREMONY AS WCF FOUNDER

WCF’s founder has been very involved in anti-LGBT rhetoric and actions since the group’s inception.

During the 2004 WCF conference in Mexico City, Carlson declared that “homosexual marriage is a clear and present danger to the family” and that “homosexual marriage” is nothing more than a “weapon” intended to destroy the family. He testified against same-sex marriage before the Washington State Supreme Court and has written several books and papers denouncing homosexuality.

Keynote Address ELDER M. RUSSELL BALLARD Ballard was the point-man for the Church’s involvement with California’s Proposition 8, defining marriage as only between a man and a woman, which was ultimately declared unconstitutional. He also directed the Church’s fight against same-sex marriage in Hawaii back in 1997.

“We know that [the battle against same-sex marriage] is not without controversy, yet let me be clear that at the heart of this issue is the central doctrine of eternal marriage

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and it’s place in our Father’s plan,” Ballard wrote in a memo encouraging LDS members to fight for Prop. 8. “What we’re about is the work of the Lord, and he will bless you for your involvement.”

Ballard, speaking at a 2003 devotional at LDS Church-owned Brigham Young University, said that same-sex marriage threatens God’s plan of happiness for his children here and in eternity. He also helped draft the World Proclamation on the Family, which he said came in response to concerns by Church leaders over “social movements to design families in ways contrary to God’s plan.”

Noting that the Mormon Church spent millions of dollars battling same-sex marriage, he said as the “vacillating whims of convention and political correctness” march forward, “families continue to be assaulted openly and viciously,” Ballard said, with “gender being confused and traditional roles being repudiated.”

“Life is being trivialized and subjected to the vacillating whims of convenience and political correctness,” Ballard continued. “Children are considered a choice rather than a blessing. … Almost every trend indicates that we are on a slippery slope downward from God’s plan for his children.”

defund Planned Parenthood, calling it the “single most evil organization in human history.”

But her disdain is not only reserved for pro-choice activities.

In a recent speech she said she would leave the Republican Party if it were to drop abortion and gay rights as platform issues.

“The Left is unafraid and unashamed to stand up for their pet projects, abortion and homosexual activism,” she said.

“We need to have the same courage in standing up for the truth, for family, for marriage, and for life.”

“To redefine marriage as anything [but between a man and a woman] is to throw painful emotional, psychological and spiritual confusion on future generations, while publicly

affirming dangerous sexual behaviors.”

MARK REGNERUS University of Texas sociologist Mark Regnerus claimed to “prove” samesex parenting is inherently harmful to children by concocting a study that’s been thoroughly debunked as methodologically and ethically flawed, and experts far and wide — including Regnerus’ own university — have said they want no affiliation with

it. The study was paid for by a conservative think tank, a fact that a judge in Michigan said, “The funder clearly wanted a certain result, and Regnerus obliged.” That, however, doesn’t stop the Right and Regnerus from waving the study as proof against same-sex marriage and child-rearing nor his celebrity status at the WCF. Unfortunately, for lack of space, we have only been able to provide background on speakers and awardees midway through the first day.

For more information on additional speakers and background of the organization itself, Restore Our Humanity has developed a web site at ­WorldCongressOfFamilies.org.

Panelists LILA ROSE Live Action’s Lila Rose once called for abortions to be performed “in the public square.” She currently is one of the ultra-conservative activists trying to

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Utah Pride Center plans National Coming Out Day Expo The Utah Pride Center is taking the opportunity of National Coming Out Day — a day they’ve usually held an annual event — to re-launch its brand now that it is under stewardship of executive director Marian Edmonds-Allen.

To emphasize their new focus on existing organizations of Utah’s LGBT community, they will be hosting a community expo. They will also be giving tours of the newly remodeled campus, and offering a meetand-greet with community leaders.

Edmonds-Allen will also speak to her new vision of the Center.

The community expo will take place Sunday, October 11 from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. with the community presentations and performances at 1 p.m.

Organizations interested in tabling at the event can email ben@utahpridecenter.org.

The Utah Pride Center is located at 255 E. 400 South, due north of the Salt Lake City Main Library.

National Coming Out Day is an annual international civil awareness day observed each October 11 to recognize members of the LGBTQ+ community.The process of coming out involves self-disclosure of one’s sexual orientation and/ or gender identity. NCOD was founded in 1988 by Robert Eichberg, founder of the personal growth workshop, The Experience, and Jean O’Leary, head of the National Gay Rights Advocates. October 11 was chosen because it was the anniversary of the 1987 National March on Washington. Q

Obituary: Val Mansfield NOVEMBER 17, 1956– SEPTEMBER 9, 2015

Long-time gay activist Val Mansfield died Wednesday night, September 9 with family by his side.

Mansfield has been heavily involved in Utah’s LGBT community since the 1980s, once known for being the graphic designer of every Pride celebration and many organizations for decades. He still was a member and on the board of directors of QUAC — Queer Utah Aquatic Club — and traveled to international meets where he consistently placed. He also competed in the international Gay Games.

He was a trustee of the Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah, board member of the Utah Stonewall Center, member of the Desert Mountain States Lesbian and Gay Conference, Lesbian & Gay Chorus of Salt Lake City, Queer Nation, Gay and Lesbian Utah Democrats and, Utah Stonewall Democrats.

Mansfield also represented Utah at all three Marches on Washington and designed t-shirts worn by the delegation. He was the Utah Representative on the 1993 March’s steering committee. He was awarded the Dr. Kristen Ries Community Service Award in 1993.

He was preceded in death by his partner, John Flint.

Friends knew him for his dry wit and constant, quirky smile.

Q mmunity Utah Pride Center seeking mural artists The Utah Pride Center has put out an open call for artists for help in dressing up their concrete parking garage as a first project, and a front facade for the second. Artists interested in participating should bring a sketch and some information about their past experience painting murals to the Center, located at 255 East 400 South (enter from the second floor parking structure). You can also email sketches to ben@ utahpridecenter.org.

Bipolar support group forming A support group for those with bipolar disorder and those who love them will hold its first meeting this month.

Anyone is welcome to attend.

WHEN: Sat. Sept. 26, 2 p.m.

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Community discussion of porn Men Who Move is a free social group for 18+ year old gay, bisexual and transgender men in the Salt Lake City metro

area. For their second meet-up, they will discuss the positives and negatives of porn.

WHEN: Monday, October 7, 7 p.m.

WHERE: Utah Pride Center, 255 E. 400 South COST: Free INFO: menwhomove.org

Third Friday Bingo at First Baptist The Matrons of Mayhem return to First Baptist Church for Third Friday Bingo. This month, the charity is the Utah Bears.

Come early to get a good seat.

WHEN: Fri. Oct. 16, 7pm WHERE: First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 E COST: $5 first card, $3/ addl

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2015 Allies Dinner Allies Dinner tickets are on sale now with the theme Queer New World. This year Equality Utah presents Tyler Glenn of Neon Trees as the keynote speaker and performer.

WHEN: Saturday, October 3, WHERE: Salt Palace Convention Center Grand Ballroom COST: $150/individual, $1,500 for a table of 10 INFO: EqualityUtah.org

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Gender identity is not as simple as X and Y, scientist says The trans* story of Caitlyn Jenner, formerly Bruce Jenner, continues to raise discussions across America about what it means to be a man or a woman.

The simplest answer – that a woman has two X chromosomes and a man has one Y and one X chromosome – provides an incomplete picture.

What makes a fetus become a male or female is more complicated than who ends up with a Y chromosome, says Peter Schattner, a scientist and author of the book Sex, Love and DNA: What Molecular Biology Teaches Us About Being Human (peterschattner.com).

“Our sex is determined less by our chromosomes than by individual genes and the proteins that are encoded in those genes,” Schattner says.

“For example, there are healthy, although infertile, men who do not have a Y chromosome. At the same time, normal women can have a Y chromosome.”

Yet even as science show us how genes and proteins make some fetuses develop the physical characteristics of a male while others have female features, understanding what makes us feel that we are male or female is still challenging.

In fact, some people, such as Jenner, have a condition called gender-identity reversal or gender dysphoria.

“They appear on the outside to be unambiguous members of one sex, while their brains tell them they belong to the opposite sex,” Schattner says.

Science is still unraveling many of the complex questions about gender, he says, but some things have become clear, such as: • Gender-identity reversal is not the same thing as homosexuality. “Some homosexual individuals are gender-identity reversed, but most aren’t,”

Schattner says. “Some individuals with gender-identity reversal are attracted primarily to the opposite sex; others are not.”

• The prevalence of gender reversal is difficult to estimate because people with gender dysphoria are frequently reluctant to speak about it. Estimates of gender-identity reversal range from 1 or 2 per 1,000 people to 1 or 2 per 10,000, with considerable variation in different societies, Schattner says. Consistently higher estimates of transgender prevalence are found in surveys made by transgender activists than those by mainstream psychology organizations, he says. But even using the most conservative estimates, about 30,000 transgender people are living in the United States and an estimated 60,000 Americans have undergone gender-change surgery over the last 60 years.

• Not that long ago, many scientists believed a person’s gender identity was largely, if not completely, determined by childhood education and upbringing. “The view was that if you are raised as a boy, you would see yourself as a boy, and if you were raised the way girls were traditionally raised, you’d develop a female self-image,” Schattner says.

Now scientists are learning how genetics and prenatal biology play important roles in determining someone’s sexual identity, he says.

Although progress has been made, questions remain and efforts continue to understand the complete picture, Schattner says.

“The origins of human sexual orientation and gender identity,” he says, “remain among science’s most frustrating and challenging puzzles.” Q

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“It was not my intention to judge anybody or to rankle anybody, or to put myself in some kind of superior position by any means. I think if people use PrEP as part of a responsible regimen of taking care of themselves and preserving their bodies and their wellbeing and the well-being of the people they’re having sex with, then more power to them.

There was this thing that I was ‘slut-shaming.’

Anybody who knows me knows that that is the last thing I would ever do. I just think that we can’t let our guard down.”

— Zachary Quinto to HuffPost, responding to criticism he received over his comments from November of last year saying younger gay men were complacent

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The last 12 months have been very difficult for me, to the point where I became concerned with my mental health.

Because of this I am going to step away from the game at this time.”

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I’ve done some soulsearching. I’ve talked to Stefano a lot about this. I’ve realized that my words were inappropriate, and I apologize. They are just kids. You don’t need labels, baby labels. I think everybody chooses for themselves. I don’t know everything about IVF, but I love it when people are happy. It’s like medicine. Science has been put on the table to help people.”

— Domenico Dolce doing some major backpedaling five months after ruffling feathers by saying he and Stefano “oppose” gay adoptions, IVF

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What am I gonna say?

I’m not gonna go out there and pretend that I have a 12-foot dick.

It’s just not how I was raised, you know what I mean?… For a minute, the rumor was great. I saw my Twitter account rise. I was like, What is this popularity? Oh, oh, I see, it’s ’cause they think I have a massive penis.

But we all had fun with it. I certainly did.”

— Idris Elba discussing being objectified for photos that allegedly showed him to be incredibly well-endowed in his history-making interview as the first man to be featured on the cover of Maxim magazine

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Email 300 words or less to letters@qsaltlake.com.

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Accomplice

BY MARCY TAYLOR-RIZZI

I’ll admit

it, I’m don’t care for the term ally and, to a certain degree, allies themselves. Perhaps it is all the history books I like to read speaking about needing allies during wartime.

When I hear the word “ally” I am reminded of the battles we have faced and the many more coming our way. I also understand that most allies (whether in war time or in social justice movements) want something in return.

From recognition to positions on boards, allies do not come free.

I want an accomplice. A person willing to be so invested, willing to take the “fall” like the rest of us.

Accomplices attack the theories and very structure that keeps us relegated to “other” status. Accomplices are not “saving” us by simply participating in parades with banners. Nope, accomplices are willing to put in the time to understand our position and ideas and gain our consent and trust. Accomplices know they are not saving us, but rather, they are creating a better place for all to live.

I also want to be an accomplice. It is no secret that the LGB community hasn’t been a good ally to trans* communities, let alone being accomplices. How can we become better accomplices

of all the others out there? I used to tell people to educate themselves about other people’s lives, to try to understand what it feels like to be marginalized, but I think that is the wrong approach.

For one thing, it is difficult for the marginalized to have to continually recount their traumas. The biggest reason I’ve given up this approach is it doesn’t seem to be working. Instead, I think we should remember that we all bleed red.

Each person carries the same emotional spectrum, thought processes, hurt, pleasure, etc. It is vital to recognize the humanity in one another, without having to understand or employ empathy. This small act of recognizing our humanity in others is the start to becoming an accomplice.

The best accomplice I’ve ever known is Bob Henline.

If you had the pleasure of reading his articles or knowing him personally, you are a lucky person indeed. Bob would never admit it, but he risked a lot to be an accomplice, and I suppose that is the point. If you are an ally, what are you willing to risk?

If that risk is great, stop calling yourself an ally and embrace the term accomplice — we could use more of you. Q

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Is foster parenting for you?

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

Sometimes parents don’t always do the best job raising their kids. Sometimes there is neglect, abuse and, sadly, abandonment.

To help these children, the state relies on foster families. But there are too many kids in the system and too few homes.

Rich Valenza, who founded the LA-based, RaiseAChild.us, which works to increase awareness and offer support to foster families, estimates 400,000 kids are in

foster care in America and a need for 200,000 more foster homes.

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These figures are mirrored in Utah where there are only 1,300 families for approximately 2,700 kids in the foster system, according to Mike Hamblin, director of foster/adoptive family recruitment of Utah Foster Care, a nonprofit working to recruit, train and support foster families.

Valenza said, “Research shows the

two populations offering the most hope for bridging that gap are LGBT couples and single straight women.”

In Utah, foster families headed by LGBT couples became possible when the Supreme Court upheld Judge Robert Shelby’s ruling striking down the state’s marriage ban. Prior to the ruling, LGBT couples were forbidden to foster or adopt, although theoretically single gay people living alone could.

“Utah law states that unmarried couples cannot be foster parents. You have to either be married or a single person living alone. That hasn’t changed,” Hamblin said.

“What has is the right of LGBT people to marry. That has opened up the doors for more foster families in Utah.”

John Wright and Wilson Bateman, a gay couple in Sandy, are among them. Literally overnight they became the foster parents to three siblings, ages 12, 9 and 3.

Bateman told me that having an instant family has presented plenty of struggles, but far more upside surprises.

“Kids aren’t a solution to relationship is-

sues, but ours has become stronger because we share a unity of purpose. I think we fight less because we’re so busy we don’t have the time to focus on the petty stuff,” Bateman said.

“Sometimes it can be a roller coaster of emotions,” added his husband, Wright.

“We have experienced every scenario we learned about in our foster training. Plus we’ve seen firsthand well-meaning women provide unnecessary advice and help because they think nurturing is a mom’s job.”

Fostering isn’t for everyone. The “goal” for kids in foster care is usually reunification with one or both biological parents.

Becoming emotionally attached to a child only to have him returned to a formerly abusive or neglecting parent isn’t something everyone can handle.

Although the right to foster is a great victory for gay couples, what about the LGBT kids in the system?

“We do not formally track gender identity or sexual orientation for children in our care, but we do work case-by-case to place all kids in homes where they feel safe and their individual needs are recognized and met,” said Jennifer Larson of the Utah Division of Children and Family Services, which matches kids with would-be foster families. “When a child does identify as LGBT, we work with the foster family to ensure they will affirm the child’s sexual orientation or gender identity, and treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve.”

But with 63 percent of DCFS staff saying they have experience working with an LGBT kid, and 11 percent with a trans* identified child, maybe more LGBT foster parents will mean these kids can have a chance for a supportive home with identifiable role models.

Maybe that role model is you. If you’re interested in being a foster parent, contact Utah Foster Care or the DCSF. Q

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Mat Staver

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

Now that

Kentucky clerk Kim Davis served time in jail after being held in contempt of court for refusing to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, right-wing Christians are in a “we told you so” frenzy.

See, these folks have had a persecution fantasy since, well, forever, and have been screaming from the rooftops that once marriage equality became the law of the land, they’d all be rounded up and jailed.

And so Kim Davis has become a celebrity symbol of anti-Christian oppression.

Granted, she’s not being oppressed for being a Christian. She’d been jailed for refusing to follow the law. She might not like the law, but that’s too bad. I’d like to point out that for years clerks who wanted to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples could not do so even though refusing these couples went against their personally held beliefs. Davis used to be able to discriminate against same-sex couples per her religious beliefs. Now she can’t. And she ended up in jail.

She didn’t have to be in jail, mind you.

She had plenty of other options. But she’d refused all manner of compromises and workarounds that had been offered to her and so in jail she sat, collecting martyr points.

Most lawyers wouldn’t want to see their clients behind bars and would work to get them out. Unfortunately for Davis, she’s being represented by the right-wing Liberty Counsel and her lawyer, Mat Staver, seems to be very pleased that she was in jail as it helps to perpetuate his Christian persecution fantasy.

“Kim Davis’ case is exhibit A,” Staver said Sept. 2 during an interview on “Washington Watch.” “And she’s not the only one. We’ve got the baker, the florists, uh, many others, photographers and wedding chapels. We’re gonna have this happen to churches and pastors. This is just the be-

ginning. The question is, are people gonna draw a line and say, ‘Enough is enough.’

This is not the kind of America that we want to live in.”

Okay, so he’s got the butcher, the baker and the candlestick maker as exhibits B, C and D. But there is no truth behind the claim that pastors and churches are going to be forced to marry same-sex couples.

Nothing has changed in this department, folks. Churches have always been able to refuse to marry people they don’t want to marry in accordance with their religious beliefs. The Supreme Court said that same-sex couples cannot be denied civil marriages, which is exactly what Kim Davis was doing. Had Davis been a pastor at her church, for example, she’d be within her rights not to marry gay couples. But she’s not a pastor. She’s a civil servant.

Staver, however, sees something much more sinister afoot. “You know, back in

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Uh, no. Nope. All the nopes. Comparing the state of America today, a country where Christians enjoy enormous privilege, to Nazi Germany is not only insulting, it betrays a persecution complex that has gone beyond the pathological.

If I was in jail, I’d want a lawyer that had a really firm grip on not only the law, but also reality. Unfortunately for Kim Davis, she’s not only on the wrong side of the law and the wrong side of history, but she’s stuck with a lawyer who is using her to advance his own delusional agenda. You could say she’s getting what she deserves, but it’s still gross.

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guest editorial What do new nondiscrimination laws mean to LGBT Utahns?

BY LOREN M. LAMBERT

With

righteous indignation and maniacal glee, shortly after the passage of President Obama’s Affordable Care Act, an Obama-adverse relative of mine described how his boss at a failing business implemented a mass layoff. This boss talked to his supervisors about his employees’ political persuasions and he went into the company parking lot. Anyone displaying Obama bumper stickers or who

had even voiced support for him were laid off.

A lot has happened in dramatic fashion since that day.

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a backlash of discrimination against those who expressed religious, political or other opinions that were inimical to this cultural seismic shift, the Utah Legislative promulgated legal quid pro quo to Utah’s conservative community by passing Utah Code § 34A-5-112. This legislation prohibits employers from discriminating or retaliating against employees who “express … religious or moral beliefs and commitments in the workplace in a reasonable, non-disruptive, and non-harassing way on equal terms with similar types of expression of beliefs or commitments allowed by the employer in the workplace, unless the expression is in direct conflict with the essential businessrelated interests of the employer.

It further prohibits employer discrimination and retaliation against employees who engage in the “lawful expression or expressive activity outside of the workplace regarding the person’s religious, political, or personal convictions, including convictions about marriage, family, or sexuality, unless the expression or expressive activity is in direct conflict with the essential business-related interests of the employer.”

Based upon my experience as a lawyer, I believe that this legislation will prove to be very ironic in the next decade. As a native Utahn who grew up in the LDS community and has been privy to many conversations about the predominate culture’s philosophies, historical perspectives and whims, I opine that a large percentage of Utahns will perpetuate a historically ingrained disposition of recalcitrance and quiet rebellion against the new paradigm and the laws that were passed to assuage them. As the saying goes, be careful what you wish for because you just may get it.

Through the passage of Utah

Code § 34A-5-112, Utah legislators have bequeathed to Utah’s masses a law that would have allowed the laid-off Obama supporters to sue for damages and restoration of their jobs.

Lest we get too smug, I hasten to add that, given what human nature is, I recognize that business owners on the left and even members of the LGBT community have acted with the same sense of impropriety against conservatives, LDS and Republicans. Still, I suspect that the majority of successful litigants under this new law will be those who express opinions championing the rights and philosophies of the LGBT, liberal, libertarian, Democratic communities or beliefs that run counter to Utah’s LDS constituency. I further suspect that despite this new law, many Utah businesses and governmental bodies will continue, although in a more sub rosa manner, to unabashedly discriminate against the LGBT community.

Although litigation is often inefficient and imperfect and, even when successful, does not always fully rectify the wrong especially since that same segment of Utah that opposes gay marriage and has a tradition of recalcitrance against such unpopular laws, will act as judges and jurors on these cases.

Nevertheless, it is now possible to seek redress against such despicable practices.

In summary, when you learn that you are the victim of discrimination or retaliation, gather your evidence and take advantage of these new laws that have been created to protect you. Q Attorney Loren M. Lambert runs Arrow Legal Solutions Group, writes extensively as an essayist and screenwriter and is an independent film producer. He is a board member of nonprofits GreenTreeYoga and OFFER. He enjoys helping a diverse range of clients with their legal needs.

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Q health

Coping with suicidal thoughts

BY PETER STOKER

Suicidal

thoughts can happen to anyone – young and old, male and female – for a number of reasons. Usually, suicidal thoughts occur when a person is in intense emotional pain and doesn’t see a way out. The things that cause this type of pain are different for everyone.

Even though it may feel like your pain will never end, know that thoughts of suicide often are caused by a treatable health problem, such as depression.

Depression is a serious medical condition that changes the chemicals in your brain and affects your moods, thoughts, and emotions.

WHAT ARE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND SUICIDE? Suicidal thoughts are thoughts about hurting yourself or taking your own life. Suicide is the act of taking your own life.

Suicidal thoughts may include: • Feeling trapped or hopeless and like you need an escape • Feeling like it is too painful, overwhelming, or sad to continue living • Focusing on death, dying, or violence • Feeling that friends and family would be better off without you

A PERSON WHO IS SUICIDAL MAY: • Make statements such as, “I wish I were dead,” or “I wish I had never been born” • Think about or actually find ways to commit suicide, such as buying a gun • Withdraw from friends, family, and social situations • Say goodbyes to family and friends, as if they don’t expect to see them again

• Abuse alcohol or drugs, or engage in other risky behaviors • Have personality changes or mood swings

HOW CAN SOMEONE COPE WITH SUICIDAL THOUGHTS? Give it time. You do not have to act on your suicidal thoughts. Make a promise to yourself that you will give yourself time to ask for help and seek treatment.

Reach out for help. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, people want to help you. So tell someone what’s going on.

Call a friend or family member, your family doctor, or a clergy member. Or, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK).

Avoid things that trigger suicidal thoughts. These things are different for everyone, but common triggers include being alone, drinking alcohol, and doing drugs. Instead, spend time with family or friends every day. Make your home safe by getting rid the things that you used or planned to use to hurt yourself.

Take care of your health and wellness. Follow your doctor’s eating and exercise advice. Get plenty of sleep. Learn how to deal with stress. Find and do things that you enjoy. If you’re taking medicine to treat depression, take the right amount at the right time.

National Institute of Mental Health. Suicide in the U.S.: Statistics and Prevention. Accessed October 12, 2012 Peter Stoker is an HIV Outreach Educator/ Epidemiologist at Salt Lake County Health Department and can be reached at peter@qsaltlake.com

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October is LGBT History Month

BY BEN WILLIAMS

October

is one of my favorite months of the year for several reasons. Among them are National Coming Out Day and of course Halloween.

But what most excites me about October is that it is also National Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans* History Month. Yay! A Gay History Month was first proposed in 1994 by a social studies teacher named RODNEY WILSON who, as a high school teacher in Missouri, was upset about the omission of gay history from textbooks. So he set out to make a difference. He organized a grassroots network of teachers and community leaders around the nation determined to create a month of celebration that focused on the contributions of gay and trans folk. The idea quickly gained traction when it drew endorsements from major homosexual organizations. The Human Right Campaign, the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, and the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation all thought it was a fabulous notion.

However, in the first year a feeble showing of only two or three “official” proclamations from sympathetic political officials were given. But in 1995 the governors of Connecticut, Massachusetts and Oregon, as well as the mayors of Boston and Chicago, declared October National Gay and Lesbian History Month. The really big deal came in July 1995 when the National Education Association passed an amendment supporting the establishment of Gay and Lesbian History Month as part of a schools curriculum. This was huge! The concept then was modeled after, and is similar in purpose to, Black History Month and Women’s History Month. Unfortunately in Utah’s high schools, students are still ignorant to Gay History Month as educators are forbidden by law to promote homosexuality in any positive manner.

The month of October was selected for Gay History Month for several reasons. One was that it did not conflict with Gay Pride events typically held in June. Another reason was that October falls during the academic calendar year, when educational institutions are able to plan related activities. A third reason was that the first and second National Marches on Washington for gay rights were held in October of 1979 and 1987. National Coming Out Day was a created as a response to the 1987 march.

So there you have it. Gay History Month offers a chance to educate the world and ourselves, about who Gay and Trans* people are, how we live and what we have accomplished.

It provides a sense of pride for closeted gays and offers models of courage, creativity and achievement for those coming to terms with their sexual orientation or gender identity.

As such, for this month’s issue, QSaltLake is celebrating our allies. I want to honor a short list of friends of our community from back in the day when gays were generally viewed as repugnant and loathsome. Yes, Virginia there was a time when gays were not generally loved by Utah’s high society.

LEE CAPUTO and ELVIN GERRARD were business partners who opened Radio City in 1948. They knowingly allowed gay people to use the bar as a social outlet for over 50 years. It was, for its time, the most famous homosexual bar in the tri-state area of Utah, Idaho and Wyoming.

ROSE CARRIER worked at most of the gay bars during her career and became a surrogate mother to the community. In 1973 she hosted her first annual Pajama Party at The Sun Tavern. For over 40 years she listened to the cares and woes of her gay and lesbian friends who often lost their own families by coming out.

SHIRLEY PEDLER was an executive director of the Utah Chapter of the ACLU and who was the first director to publicly defend homosexual rights in Utah. In 1977 she issued a statement condemning the Hotel Utah’s actions in canceling Gay Pride’s convention facilities’ reservations. Indignant at any abuse of police powers and infringement of individual rights, she filed a class-action suit in 1980 against BYU on behalf of the homosexual students who were being unjustifiably entrapped by BYU security.

JEFF FOX, a social activist, who as director of the Crossroads Urban Center opened it for the use of Salt Lake’s gay community without remuneration. Wasatch Affirmation, The Restoration Church, Unconditional Support, Gay Fathers, and a host of other fledgling support groups either were formed there or met there for years.

DR. R. JAN STOUT was a respected professor of psychiatry at the University of Utah’s Medical Center and a popular guest speaker.

He argued the unpopular position in Utah that “the preponderance of evidence suggests that homosexuality is neither a matter of

choice nor a question of identifiable environmental factors.” Before Lady GaGa, he was saying we were born this way.

GERRY JOHNSON and LUCILLE ­WARREN, founders of “People Who Care,” were two Mormon women who in 1986 began an unofficial Mormon support group for parents of gays and lesbians. At the 1988 Fourth Annual Fordham Debate held at the University of Utah College of Law, Johnson sat on a panel as a proponent of gay rights.

TOM GODFREY, a Salt Lake City Councilman, gave the opening address, in 1987, at Affirmation’s International Conference held in Salt Lake City. In 1989, 20 years after Stonewall, he became the first Utah politician to officially address a Gay Pride Day event.

GARY and MILLIE WATTS who head Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays have been very vocal and public supporters of the rights of Gay people. Gary Watts believes that homosexuality is not a choice, but rather a discovery. He said, “We want exactly the same things for all our children, gay or straight, including the right to be with someone they love.”

ROSS “ROCKY” ANDERSON, a civil rights lawyer and former mayor of Salt Lake City, as early as 1985, was speaking out on the “dismal opportunity for political recourse” which belongs to the gay rights activists. In 1996 he was one of the few Utah politicians supporting gay students at East High. As mayor he had the first municipal nondiscrimination act in Utah.

TEINAMARRIE NELSON-SCUDERI has been a champion of LGBT people and our causes for over 25 years. She was a vivacious member of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire and threw her energy into organizing various fundraisers in the early days, primarily for AIDS. She has served on Pride Day committees and, in 2003, she co-founded Transgender Education Advocates with her husband, CHRISTOPHER and REBECCA WINTER. It would take a book to mention all the many others who opened themselves to disparaging remarks and ridicule to share in our struggle. So many stalwarts like DEEDA SEED, who sponsored Salt Lake City’s first discrimination ordinance, Officer DAVID WARD, a police liaison of the Salt Lake City Police Department, to the Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah, Sister LINDA BELLEMORE, who organized the first AIDS ward in Utah, RANDY HORIUCHI and JIM BRADLEY who passed a Salt Lake County anti-discrimination ordinance, and PETE SUAZO, a tireless proponent of a gay antihate bill in the state legislature.

These people and hundreds more stood on the right side of history. They were decent people who embraced America’s creed that all people are equal and entitled to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Q

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guest editorial

Porn isn’t the real problem

BY CHORD MARTET

Let’s

Discuss!

In response to last month’s QSaltLake editorial “2015’s biggest health concern,” we agree to disagree. I feel that, for most people, porn is a heathy sexual activity and is indeed a harmless matter of personal choice. There are a lot of ways in which I think porn can be beneficial.

First, for those who are aren’t quite straight but are in monogamous, straight relationships, porn offers a way for them to explore their sexuality while maintaining monogamy. Second, for those who have fetishes which can never be realized, porn provides a mechanism for those fetishes to be explored. If you have the hots for centaurs, you’re unlikely to have a sexual encounter with one (nod to Dan Savage). Third, for those with severe physical disabilities porn may provide a way for them to participate in a clearly sexual activity.

The suggestion that porn consumption is something that’s done behind closed doors and only by individuals is misguided. There are quite a few people, in relationships or otherwise, who enjoy porn together. What better way to spice up your things up in the bedroom than to watch porn with your partner or partners? You might be surprised to learn that there’s an annual festival which celebrates amateur porn in a large, public environment.

It’s very easy to demonize porn as the cause of a lot of problems. I would argue that porn isn’t the real problem and that it’s certainly not a “public health crisis.”

While I agree that excessive porn consumption is unhealthy, the same can be said for overeating, binge drinking, compulsive sex, etc. I think moderation is key.

I feel that excessive porn consumption is the symptom of a larger problem.

I think the author grazes the surface of that problem when he suggests that love, which he equates with sex, should be intimate. In my opinion it’s our lack of intimacy and connectedness which is the real problem. If people feel disconnected and excluded from life, they withdraw.

Lack of connectedness is the biggest health concern, not porn.

I want to thank QSaltLake and the author of the editorial for providing a great topic for discussion. If you have an

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Bill Tilden

A Project of Equality Forum This is the 22nd annual LGBT History Month and the 10th annual 31 October Icons event.

In 2006, Equality Forum, an international organization with an educational focus, took on the responsibility of promoting the month.

The goals were to teach history, provide role models, and highlight impressive contributions.

LGBT people are the only minority worldwide who are not taught their history at home, in public schools, or in religious institutions.

Without these resources, self-esteem and community pride are undermined.

LGBT History Month Check gaysaltlake.com each day for a new biography

1. Jane Addams 2. Miriam Ben-Shalom 3. Richard Blanco 4. Staceyann Chin 5. Jason Collins 6. Laverne Cox 7. Clive Davis 8. Samuel Delany 9. Elsie de Wolfe 10. Arthur Dong 11. Emery Hetrick & Damien Martin 12. Mick Jagger 13. Angelina Jolie 14. William Rufus King 15. Jackie “Moms” Mabley 16. Edna St. Vincent Millay 17. Frank Mugisha 18. Jack Nichols 19. Elaine Noble 20. Antonia Pantoja 21. Frances Perkins 22. Robin Roberts 23. Sahaykwisa 24. Michael Sam 25. Barbra Siperstein 26. Dusty Springfield 27. Tom Stoddard 28. William “Big Bill” Tilden II 29. Tim’m T.West 30. Edie Windsor 31. Evan Wolfson

is considered one of the greatest men’s tennis champions in history. He was the No. 1 player in the world for six years, from 1920 to 1925. During that time, he became the first American to win Wimbledon.

Born to privilege in Philadelphia, he first picked up a racket as a small child. By the time he was 22, he had lost both parents and his brother. Struggling with immense grief, he preoccupied himself with tennis, which became his primary means of recovery. He wrote about the game in several noteworthy books, including “Match Play and the Spin of the Ball.” By 27, he had attained championship status.

Tilden’s countless wins include 14 major singles titles: a World Hard Court Championship, 10 Grand Slams and three Pro Slams. He also won a record seven U.S. Championships. His all-time tennis achievements include a career match-winning record and winning percentage at the U.S. National Championships.

Tilden won his third and final Wimbledon in 1930 at age 37, before turning pro.

He was the oldest man to win a Wimbledon singles title. He went on to tour and was notorious for holding his own against much younger players. When Tilden was 52, he and his longtime doubles partner, Vinnie Richards, won the professional doubles championship—the same title they had won 27 years earlier.

Tilden was considered quite flamboyant. He dabbled in acting on stage and in film, and rumors about his homosexuality circulated. When he was arrested and imprisoned twice for sexual misbehavior with teenage boys, his world collapsed.

He was shunned by his fans and fellow players and banned from teaching tennis at most clubs. Questions remain about whether he was targeted because of his sexuality. At the time, homosexual sex was illegal.

In 1959, Tilden was inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame in Newport, Rhode Island.

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Barbra Siperstein

is the first openly transgender at-large member of the Democratic National Committee.

Born Barry Siperstein, she transitioned when she was nearly 50 years old. She legally changed her name in 2007.

Siperstein is currently a member of the DNC’s executive committee. She serves as deputy vice chair of the New Jersey Democratic State Committee and is the political director of the Gender Rights Advocacy Association of New Jersey.

She has been instrumental in amending the New Jersey Law Against Discrimination to protect transgender people. She also advocated for gender-identity nondiscrimination to be added to the DNC bylaws.

A U.S. Army veteran, Siperstein has spent most of her life as an advocate for equality with an unwavering dedication to transgender rights and awareness. In her home state of New Jersey, she has been involved in more than a half dozen organizations, including the New Jersey Stonewall Democrats and Garden State Equality.

She has been New Jersey’s first transgender delegate to the Democratic National Convention. She served on former Governor John Corbett’s Labor and Workforce Development Policy Group and is the co-author of The Dallas Principles, a set of eight precepts for achieving full LGBT equality.

In 2004 Siperstein received the New Jersey Personal Liberty Fund’s Honors Award. In 2011 she became the first recipient of Garden State Equality’s John Adler Icon of Equality Award. Subsequently, she was honored as a Champion of Civil Rights by the New Jersey Chapter of the New Leaders Council; she received the Stonewall Legacy Award from The Pride Network; and she was recognized with the 2015 Advocacy Humanitarian Award by the American Conference on Diversity.

Siperstein came out first to her wife, Carol. The couple remained married until Carol’s death in 2001. With her daughter Jana, Siperstein owns and operates Siperstein Fords Paints Corp., a specialty coatings supplier and home décor retailer.

She has three grandchildren.

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Evan Wolfson

is the founder of Freedom to Marry, a group that advocates for same-sex marriage rights in the United States. He is one of the first attorneys to publicly champion marriage equality and the author of the book “Why Marriage Matters: America, Equality and Gay People’s Right to Marry.” Wolfson was named one of Time magazine’s 100 Most Influential People.

As a lawyer, he argued Boy Scouts of America v. Dale before the Supreme Court.

LGBT rights became an important part of Wolfson’s advocacy early in his career.

He wrote his 1983 thesis at Harvard University on the legal question of same-sex marriage.

He also publicly debated the issue at Yale University. As a young lawyer, he wrote a Supreme Court amicus brief that helped win a nationwide ban on race discrimination in jury selection and helped eliminate the marital rape exemption.

For many years, Wolfson worked for the Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, where he directed the Marriage Project and coordinated the National Freedom to Marry Coalition. He argued the Hawaii Supreme Court case involving same-sex marriage as well as a Vermont case that eventually led to the creation of civil unions in the state.

Wolfson launched Freedom to Marry in 2001, saying, “I want gay kids to grow up believing they can get married.” He wept reading Justice Kennedy’s opinion in Obergefell v. Hodges (the 2015 Supreme Court ruling in favor of nationwide marriage equality), remembering the years of struggle, strategy, arguments and previous cases that laid the groundwork for the landmark Obergefell decision.

Wolfson is married to Cheng He. They live together in New York City.

Sahaykwisa

was a female Mohave Indian shaman (a healer with supernatural powers), who specialized in the treatment of venereal diseases. Scholars have limited information about her life. She was a

gender-nonconforming lesbian, or hwame (a female who choses to live as a male), and often told people she had been turned into a man by white man’s magic. Sahaykwisa was also a hunter and an industrious farmer — jobs typically performed by men.

She is known to have been relatively prosperous, a good provider who romanced many wives. She also courted a married woman, which was commonplace among the Mohave. While it seems most people accepted her sexuality, she was routinely questioned about her gender. As rumors of her affairs circulated, Sahaykwisa faced frequent ridicule and humiliation for her masculine appearance. The women she married were often subject to mockery and rejection.

Sahaykwisa may have posed a threat to males in her tribe. She was the victim of a brutal rape by the former husband of one of her wives. After the episode, she is said to have carried on affairs with men and fallen into alcoholism and depression. She was eventually accused of being a witch and murdered. Accounts tell of her drowning in the Colorado River.

Her story has been used to examine the lives gays and lesbians in early America, most notably in Native American tribes where transgender and homosexual individuals were in some cases accepted.

Although there are many accounts of gender-nonconforming indigenous people who lived openly and even happily, it seems Sahaykwisa suffered tragic consequences for simply being herself.

Elaine Noble

served in the Massachusetts House of Representatives for two terms starting in 1975, becoming the first-ever openly gay candidate elected to a state office.

Noble says that during her controversial, groundbreaking campaign, her windows were shot out, her car was vandalized, and she and her staff suffered ongoing harassment.

She still managed to win the election.

“I was elected in an largely Irish Catholic town,” she later said. “There was a level of animosity in all strata of society against homosexuality.” Noble’s victory came three years before Harvey Milk, the gay San Francisco supervisor, was shot to death.

In 1977 Noble was among the first delegation of gays and lesbians invited to the White House by President Jimmy Carter. She helped form the Massachusetts Women’s Political Caucus with Ann Lewis, the sister of former U.S. Congressman Barney Frank. Frank was not out about his sexuality at the time.

Noble ran unsuccessfully for the U.S. Senate and went on to work for Boston Mayor Kevin White. At the time, she was romantically involved with the writer Rita Mae Brown.

In 1986 Noble helped create the Pride Institute, an LGBT alcohol and drug treatment center in Minneapolis. She eventually moved to Florida to teach and sell real estate. She also became involved in the local Democratic Party. In 2009 she helped raise money to build the Palm Beach LGBT Center.

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Jackie “Moms”

Mabley, born Loretta Mary Aiken, was one of the first, most successful women to work in comedy. Mabley appeared on popular television variety shows like ‘The Ed Sullivan Show” and “The Smothers Brothers Comedy Hour.” A veteran of the African American vaudeville tradition known as the

Mick Jagger

is the lead singer of the Rolling Stones, a British rock band whose popularity has spanned more than 50 years.

As one of the most influential and charismatic front men in history, Jagger has received many awards and accolades. He was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 1989 and was knighted in 2003. Rolling Stone magazine names him among the top 20 on its List of 100 Greatest Singers.

Immersed in the counterculture of the 1960s, Jagger and his bandmates became famous after releasing a string of successful albums and making TV and live concert appearances around the world. They collaborated with fellow superstars throughout the ’70s and ’80s, rubbing elbows with the famous and infamous, including Andy Warhol, the gay pop artist who created a portrait series of Jagger.

During the 1970s, Jagger adopted a gendernonconforming stage persona, experimenting with makeup and glam-rock fashion. He became a fixture at New York’s famed Studio 54, often seen with gay icons like writer Truman Capote, fashion designer Halston and dancer Rudolf Nureyev.

Jagger is credited with opening up “definitions of gendered masculinity.”

In 1985 Jagger performed at Live Aid in Philadelphia, where he covered “Dancing in the Street” with David Bowie, another gender-nonconforming rock star with whom he has been romantically linked.

Jagger also launched a successful solo career and acted in several movies, most notably the 1970 British crime drama “Performance,” in which he plays a bisexual.

Jagger and the Rolling Stones have been the subject of many documentaries, including “Gimme Shelter,” filmed during the band’s 1969 U.S. tour, during which several people died; “Sympathy for the Devil” by JeanLuc-Goddard; and “Shine a Light” by Martin Scorsese.

Jagger has been married twice amd fathered seven children. He’s been involved with other women and men over the years.

Chitlin’ Circuit, the comedian overcame a tragic childhood (her parents were killed and she was raped) to become one of the raunchiest, most beloved comedians of her generation.

Known for wearing androgynous clothing, and later her signature housedress and floppy hat, she was the first comedian to incorporate lesbian stand-up routines into her act.

She recorded more than 20 comedy albums and appeared in several films, TV shows and in clubs around the country.

At one point, Mabley was the highestpaid comedian of the time, earning more than $10,000 a week at the famed Apollo Theater in Harlem. She regularly tackled controversial material often deemed too edgy for many mainstream audiences. She helped break down color and gender barriers for the next generation of comedians.

When Mabley was 75 years old, she became the oldest living person ever to have a Top 40 hit in the United States with her cover of “Abraham, Martin and John.”

Mabley was the mother of six children, two of whom she gave up for adoption when she was still a teenager. She is the subject of the Emmy-nominated HBO documentary “Whoopi Goldberg Presents Moms Mabley,” which explores her life, comedy and sexuality

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Jack Nichols,

along with Frank Kameny, cofounded in 1961 the Mattachine Society of Washington, D.C., the the first gay civil rights organization in the nation’s capital. Four years later, Nichols and other members of the organization conducted the first gay rights protest at the White House.

Nichols also participated in the Annual Reminders — pickets held in front of Independence Hall each Fourth of July from 1965 to 1969. The Annual Reminders helped galvanize the organized LGBT civil rights movement, paving the way for the Stonewall Riots in 1969.

Nichols joined Frank Kameny, Barbara Gittings and other activists in a multiyear battle with the American Psychiatric Association to remove homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses.

The APA eventually conceded, after failing to produce scientific evidence to support the classification.

In 1967 Nichols became one of the first Americans to speak openly about being gay in the documentary “CBS Reports: The Homosexuals.” Though he appeared on screen, he said he was forced to use a pseudonym after his father, an FBI agent, threatened him, fearing the U.S. government might discover his son was gay.

Nichols, along with his partner Lige Clarke, wrote the first LGBT interest column, “The Homosexual Citizen,” in a mainstream publication in 1969. The famous couple would later launch GAY, the first weekly gay newspaper in New York City.

The publication flourished until Clarke was murdered in Mexico in 1975. Nichols later became an editor for the San Francisco Sentinel and GayToday.com.

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Dusty Springfield

was an English singer and record producer best known for her sultry, soulful sound.

Born Mary Isobel Bernadette O’Brien in London (she got the nickname Dusty for playing football with the boys), Springfield was one of the most successful British female performers in history, with six top 20 singles in the United States and 16 in Europe. She was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and the U.K. Music Hall of Fame.

In 1958 Springfield joined her first singing group, The Lana Sisters, later forming

The Springfields with her brother.

She first received attention for her hit “I Only Want to Be With You,” and later with a string of solo songs like “Wishin’ and Hopin’” and “Son of a Preacher Man.” Springfield received acclaim in 1969 when she released “Dusty in Memphis,” an album that was awarded a prestigious spot in the Grammy Hall of Fame. She also became known for her blonde bouffant, heavy makeup and colorful evening gowns — a style emblematic of the Swinging Sixties.

Springfield spent many years out of the public eye, reappearing in 1987 to collaborate with the Pet Shop Boys on “What Have I Done to Deserve This,” which topped both the U.S. and U.K. music charts.

By the 1990s, Springfield’s music was experiencing a renaissance, appearing on

several film soundtracks, including “Pulp Fiction.”

During the late 1960s and early ’70s, Springfield was romantically linked to Norma Tanega, a California-born singersongwriter who wrote a few of Springfield’s songs such as “Go My Love.” During an interview in 1970, Springfield said, “People say that I’m gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay.

I’m not anything.”

She was linked to many women during her life, including photojournalist Faye Harris and singer Carole Pope. In 1982 she married actress Teda Bracci, whom she met at an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.

Though the wedding wasn’t legally recognized, they lived together for two years.

Later in life, Springfield became a camp icon, attracting gay fans and drag impersonators. In 1994 a breast cancer diagnosis took a toll on her career.

Springfield’s inclusion in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame came just two weeks after her death. At the induction, her friend Elton John said, “I just think she was the greatest white singer there has ever been … Every song she sang, she claimed as her own.” Q

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Allies Issue

Each year, in celebration of Equality Utah’s Allies Dinner, QSaltLake runs its Allies Issue to thank those non-LGBT people for being an important part of our movement.

This year, EU’s dinner theme is “Queer New World,” with neon Trees’ frontman Tyler Glenn as keynote speaker and musical performer. They are also honoring a queer man and woman as well as a high school that elected a queer boy and trans* girl as homecoming queen this spring.

The dinner fills the largest dining hall in the state — the Grand Ballroom of the Salt Palace Convention Center — with over 2,000 guests at tables of 10. It is the largest sit-down benefit dinner in the state. Glitzy projection graphics and lighting, and slick video presentations give the night a professional awards-night feel.

Money raised from the event allows the political action committee to educate and advocate for LGBT concerns and support proLGBT candidates across the state.

“Join together with friends and allies from all over Utah for an inspirational and entertaining evening to celebrate our victories this year, look to the work still ahead, and uplift our community values of love and opportunity for all Utahns,” group leaders said in a statement.

The dinner is Saturday, October 3. The opening reception goes from 6 to 7 p.m. and dinner is from 7:30 to 9:30 p.m.

Tickets are available at equalityutah.org/ allies or byu calling 801-355-3479.

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Tyler Glenn’s Facebook message to fans as he came out: Come out as YOU I don’t think I’m special for being a gay man. That’s not why I came out. I didn’t come out so all of you could say “I knew it” based on the clothes I wear or the way I dance. I never even thought I’d have to come out.

I’d be the 50-year-old living with dogs hiding my relationships living on a beach somewhere. Maybe then I’d be comfortable with it. But it was last summer, writing songs for the new album, being so fed up with “hiding” and being so ready to be “free” that I poured my heart out into music more than I’d ever had before. Music indeed was my first love. Not a boy. It was music that I had always had a torrid love affair with. I felt I owed him, the music, or her, the song. I had to be honest with that relationship.

It was the moment I let myself write about the years spent in falling for my straight friend or the song I let myself write about thinking it was OK to be alone forever because it was better than explaining myself. It was those truths that came out before I decided to. You can’t hide away forever. I don’t think I was even trying. But music never let me lie. Something always would come out in the songs.

So now you know what you may have always assumed. Good for you. How does it feel? Do you want a “gaydar” award? Do you want to be pat on the back because you can “spot them”?

It is not news. It is not meant to be salacious.

Until you know what it’s like to hide, to keep away true happiness out of fear. That’s when you truly understand what it’s like. It’s not about coming out to wave a flag in another’s face. At least it’s not for me. For me its about finding the purist of peace. The absolute settling of my soul. The clearest vision of the road I want to take.

I’m 30. I don’t want to die anymore. I want to really live. Honestly, and fully.

What an amazing place to be. For me it was a place I never cared about. Now all I want is to be honest.

That’s what this whole “coming out” thing is for me. It’s been quite a real and beautiful day to have so much compassion and love coming from strangers, fans that have been there since the beginning, new fans, family, friends. For someone like me, the eternal self deprecator, I just want to say thank you.

I guess the last thing I want to say tonight and for now is if you’re like me, a wanderer, a questioner, a soul searcher, a dreamer, or misunderstood for any reason at all: Come out.

Come out as a wanderer. Come out as a questioner. One day it won’t matter. But it still does. Come out as YOU. That’s all I really can say. That’s what I’d say to me at 21, the scared return Mormon missionary who knew this part of himself but loved God too. You can do both. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t.

All my love and hope, and for now, back to the music. XO Your friend, Tyler.

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Connell O’Donovan is a faerie

Salt Lake School of Performing Arts is an inclusive, welcoming place

The Salt

Lake School of Performing arts made international headlines when the student body elected a trans* girl homecoming queen and a gay boy homecoming king this spring.

Maka Brown, 18, said she was happy but “chill” when she found out she had been elected. The transgender teen is training at SPA for a professional career in circus arts.

She transferred to the school at age 16 from Brighton High School. She decided to make the move during her gender transition as she began using female pronouns and changed her name. She said, however, it wasn’t because Brighton was

a hostile environment for an trans* student.

“I haven’t really ever experienced discrimination or bullying. I know that sounds kind of pompous but it’s true,” Brown said. She noted that one day, a creative writing teacher accidentally used male pronouns to describe her, and “the whole class spoke up and said ‘Hey, that’s wrong.’”

Brown says she is one of four or five trans* students in the school.

Jasper Clayton, the gay boy elected prom king, said the school took the election in stride.

“The fact that Maka and I won prom king and queen was really amazing,” he said, “It

Connell O’Donovan is not one who likes to march in step with the rest of the world. Born in Syracuse, Utah, he moved to Salt Lake City in the late 80s and organized the first two Pride marches here in 1990 and 1991. He also cofounded both Queer Nation Utah and the Utah Sacred Faerie Circle.

O’Donovan also documented LGBT stories through the made huge waves in the media.

And everyone at our school was like, confused why it was in the news. No one had a second thought. It’s just normal.”

SPA is a unique public school sponsored by Salt Lake City School District and partnered with Highland High School. Students learn high-level performing arts classes taught by working artists, and a full range of academic classes, through HHS, including Honors, AP, and concurrent enrollment classes.

Students are shuttled between the two campuses by a three minute bus ride provided by SPA before and after each class period.

The school is housed in the former Rosslyn Heights Elementary School, located three blocks east of Highland near the Sugar House Park area.

Brown said she sees “more

Gay and Lesbian Historical Society and Archives of Utah and is work is often cited by scholars writing on Utah history. He also wrote a popular column in SLUG Magazine called “Positively Queer”. He moved to Moab, Utah then Santa Cruz, Calif., but has returned to the land of Zion.

His historical work is at connellodonovan.com

homosexual couples than heterosexual couples” at her high school. And even though her mom and family were unfamiliar with the idea of being transgender when she came out to them two years ago, she hasn’t had to explain herself to her classmates: “People my age, and younger kids and stuff— they just understand.”

But while Brown and Clayton both said they’d had a great time in high school, each acknowledged that it’s not as easy for everyone—especially for kids from more conservative Mormon backgrounds.

“I have friends who came out in very LDS homes, and I’ve had friends who got kicked out of their houses,” Clayton said. “But for most of them it got better. And their families were like, ‘OK, well, what is this community?’ Salt Lake is trying to become more aware and accepting.” Q

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Queer Theorist Kathryn Bond Stockton With graduate degrees from Yale University Divinity School and Brown University, Kathryn Bond Stockton is a distinguished professor of English at the University of Utah where she teaches queer theory, theories of race, the nineteenthcentury novel, and twentieth-

century literature and film.

In 2013, she was awarded the Rosenblatt Prize, the University of Utah’s highest honor.

Her most recent books, Beautiful Bottom, Beautiful Shame: Where “Black” Meets “Queer” and The Queer Child, or Growing Sideways in the Twentieth Century, published by Duke University Press, were both finalists for the Lambda Literary Award in LGBT Studies Queer theory, Stockton explains, is “If you look ‘queer’ up in the dictionary, there are two different definitions that are important to queer theory.

One is slang, usually derisive for ‘homosexuals’ (though obviously less derisive now, as gay folks have embraced it) and the other definition is simply, ‘strange’. At its most fundamental level, ‘queer’ means ‘strange.’ Queer theory likes both of those parts of the definition to be active.”

For two decades, Kathryn has inspired her students to revel in the unique elements of queer culture with all of its strange permeations. Q

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Call Me Gaybe Carly Rae Jepsen on being an LGBT ally, the sly gayness of ‘Call Me Maybe’ and how Justin Bieber changed her life

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

Carly Rae

Jepsen is calling — and no, not maybe.

This is a real-life phone date (pegged, of course, to the release of her latest synth-pop concoction, E•MO•TION) wherein the 29-year-old is bubbly over, well, just about everything: Her career. The gays. Marriage equality.

Being “the little mermaid.”

And that time Justin Bieber changed her life.

Growing up in Mission, British Columbia, in Canada, what was your introduction to the gay community? In Canada, I had tons of friends who I grew up with who are gay or lesbian. I had one friend in particular, and I saw just how hard it was for him when his family found out he was gay — they shunned him, actually. He thought he was gonna have to make it on his own and move out — it was heartbreaking for all of us.

We didn’t really understand it, and that’s probably when I began to really get angry about the pain that was caused for what I thought was no reason. Moving to the U.S. and seeing how big of an issue it is made me want to help and bring awareness to the subject.

As a steadfast ally, that’s exactly what you’ve done. Though the group has since adjusted its pol-icies on both fronts, you famously canceled a Boy Scouts of America gig due to the fact that gay members and leaders could not work and volunteer. You know what, I’ve had a couple “I think I’m gonna tell my kids about this” moments. When we got marriage equality and there was a celebration for that in New York City (hosted by Free-dom to Marry on July 9), it was an honor to be a part of that.

I can’t explain it. There are some performances that you do and you’re like, “That was cool, that was fun.” That one was different fun. It was so memorable and an incredible thing to be a part of. The band and I had a moment backstage where we all kind of were like, “Wow, this is really cool. This is a different kind of cool, to be a part of this.”

As an artist, when did you first feel the support from the gay community? We were performing during a lot of different events like the White Party, which is an amazing celebration. That’s probably one of the best times we’ve had. Everyone’s in the best mood ever! But I’ve always felt, when we go to wherever it might be — a festival or something along those lines — it’s just a different kind of energy. Everyone is so joyful and you feel all of that as a per-former.

There’s just a mutual lovefest going on for me anytime I can get in front of a crowd like that.

You immediately established yourself as an ally when you ended your “Call Me Maybe” video with a gay twist. The influence of the song’s video on the mainstream cannot be denied.

In a 2012 Huffington Post article, you were called “a poster child for the postgay pop generation.” How aware are you of the influence the video’s nonchalant approach to homosexuality had on mainstream culture? It was a very innocent video… because I am nonchalant about it! (Laughs) It wasn’t meant to have a huge impact — it actually shocked me that it did. I think there was so much going on with that video and with that song that my life was sort of being flipped upside down. I moved to LA for the first time and I was meeting all these people, so it was just a nice thing to hear that it was making a positive impact, but there was no intentional motive. It ended up being a beautiful out-come, though.

Is the gay guy you fell for in the video available?

Can he call me maybe? (Laughs) I’m sorry to inform you that I think he’s actually straight, but you can see what you can do, at least. Go for it!

Have you ever fallen for a gay man? Oh, I’m completely in love with one of my best friends, but he’s very gay, so yeah. I’m very in love with him, but it’s more of a brother/sister love. Whatever man actually does land him will be a very lucky man, indeed.

He’s everything I’d want and more.

Have you ever gone on a date with a guy where he’s like, “Here’s my number, so call me may-be”? (Laughs) I haven’t. But I actually experienced a pretty comical thing after Call Me Maybe. When I had written that song I had a boyfriend, and throughout the whole process of promoting it and touring with it, I was a taken lady. It wasn’t until I was single I had realized what a flub up I had made... because who’s ever gonna ask me for my number now?! It’s such an awkward situation. “Soooo. Here’s my number.” We’re gonna have to exchange emails or something.

Text me maybe? Text me maybe — yeah! Eh, I’m kind of screwed.

How does it feel knowing you’ll have to sing that song for the rest of your life? When I was very little, actually, my grandmother would say, “Be careful what songs you put

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out there because you might have to sing them for the rest of your life.” I bring that up to her now and again and I’m like, “Did you know? You knew!”

And yeah, it is one of those songs where I’ll be 89 and I’ll still be singing it. The thing with a song like that is, yeah, it has its moments where we’re like, “Really?

‘Call Me Maybe’ again?” — butting our heads against the wall — but you see all the joy that happens when we play it and it’s worth it. Plus, I never have to sing it alone.

For the new album, you were inspired after seeing a Cyndi Lauper concert in Japan.

What about seeing her live influenced the direction you took on E•MO•TION? This last year I had one of those “pinch me moments” when Cyndi Lauper was inaugurated into the Songwriters Hall of Fame and she actually allowed me to be the person to give the inaugura-tion speech and sing [“Time After Time”]. My parents were in town, and I don’t think I’d ever been more nervous about something. To have [Cyndi] kind of beside me, watching me, was like, “Oh god.”

I think that there’s just a timelessness to her songs. “Girls Just Want to Have Fun” is so epic; it’s one of those songs that has stood the test of time. I feel like it’s an intimidating endeavor, but I wanted to at least aim at trying to make songs that weren’t just for the moment but that could be lasting. There’s something about ’80s music that I really hooked into. Oldschool Madonna, Prince — it all jives. I didn’t necessarily want to make a complete period piece — where I’m taking you back to the ’80s — but I wanted to incorporate something ’80s into what I naturally do.

What facets of your own life did you tap into to make this album a more personal experience? Well, it depends on the song.

I think there are lighter songs, where there’s not much of me to read into.

“I Really Like You” is one of those;

it’s just, like, a hook up and it’s clearly just that. (Laughs) But I do think there are songs that speak to my more personal side.

“Warm Blood” is that for me; it’s a very intimate song. The verse came to me in the middle of the night actually, and it’s about that longing for intimacy.

Justin Bieber tweeted “Call Me Maybe” out when the single was released in 2012, you’ve toured together, and then he recently made a cameo in the video for “I Really Like You.” What’s your relationship with Justin like? I can’t describe Justin any other way than by saying he has been a life-changer for me.

He obvi-ously was the first person to shed light on my project in Canada, and I don’t know how you thank somebody for that.

I don’t know how you say, “Thank you for making all of my dreams come true.”

It’s been a really great professional relationship. He also invited me to be a part of his world tour, which was just such an experience for me and the band boys. Before Justin the biggest tour we had done was opening for Hanson in Canada; that was fun in a different way. But getting to play stadiums — there’s nothing quite like that feeling. And yeah, forever I am indebted to him. It was very fun to have him be a part of “I Really Like You.” We did a song called “Beautiful” on Kiss (in 2012) — that was a very strange day for me too. I remember flying into LA and immediately after I arrived I went to the studio to see what he was working on and he showed me “Beautiful” and asked me if I would sing on it with him. So liter-ally a half hour after meeting Justin I was in the studio recording his song. Again, it was one of those moments; I’ve had a few of them in my life where you’re just wondering if you’re dream-ing or not. It’s almost too weird to be true. I’m really happy with how the whole thing came out. It was a nice moment and memory for me.

Speaking of dreams come true: How much did getting to sing “Part of Your World” for

The Little Mermaid Diamond Edition DVD change your life?! I got a few phone calls — weird phone calls, again! — and that was one of those: “We’re getting different musicians to play the part of the princess of the decade — right now it’s gonna be Ariel — and we were wondering if you would sing ‘Part of Your World’ and there should be a video and you’ll play Ariel.” I was like, “Ummmm. You’re giving me an excuse to dye my hair red, which I’ve wanted to do for a while!”

Has fame made you feel like a Disney princess? I’m definitely not a Disney princess by any means! (Laughs) But it’s fun to play the part of it every once in a while.

If you didn’t have feet, would you trade your voice for them? I think the singing aspect would be too important, so I’d keep my voice. For true love, though — that’s a different thing. You trade anything for true love.

If you had a prince as hot as Eric… Yeah, now you’re talking!

You also played Cinderella last year during Rodger and Hammerstein’s Cinderella on Broad-way. What would you like your happily ever after to be? I have always admired people who’ve been able to make music for life and who have an audi-ence that just follows the ebbs and flows of their career, and also hopefully helps other people with the music they’re making. I know he’s not a pop artist, but James Taylor is someone I’ve always looked up to because he has such a strong core fanbase that will follow him everywhere. He can take two years off and come back with an album and be No. 1 with it. If I could be any-thing close to that career-wise, where you’re able to spend your life making music and have peo-ple — whether it’s a big group or a small mighty group — come and see my shows, that would be the dream. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@ chrisazzopardi).

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Ballet West’s lively BEER & BALLET returns for the fall edition on Saturday, October 10 from 6 p.m. to 9:30 p.m. at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center. An event unlike any other, Beer & Ballet is a revelry of art, food, dance, and drink that leaves patrons satiated and with an excitement for the ballet season to come.

Before the sneak preview of Ballet West’s Innovation’s program, patrons will enjoy craft beer from Epic Brewing and delicious appetizers in a fun, intimate setting. Following the program, choreographers and dancers will join the crowd to mingle and toast what promises to be an incredible 52nd Season for Ballet West.

Tickets for Beer & Ballet are $40 per person ($50 at the door) and will go quickly. All proceeds from this event benefits Ballet West’s educational and artistic programs. Tickets are available online at www.balletwest.org or by calling 801-869-6938

Tim Barringer, co-curator of The British Passion for Landscape: Masterpieces from National Museum Wales and the Paul Mellon Professor of the History of Art at Yale University, will give a free CURATOR TALK titled “Nature and Industrialization in British and American Art.” at the UTAH MUSEUM OF FINE ARTS. Barringer will introduce main themes in the exhibition, discuss the emergence of landscape painting as solace from the industrial world and examine the changing identity of landscape art as environmental concerns took on a modern form.

Barringer will be available for Q&A following his lecture.

Thursday, October 22. Museum admission 5-7 pm, Free. Talk 7-9 pm, free. Info at umfa.utah.edu/BritishLandscapes

Back by popular demand! One of PIONEER THEATRE COMPANY’S more “anti...ci...pated” productions of last year, back for an encore performance! THE ROCKY HORROR SHOW CONCERT VERSION You will see the show in concert format and with scripts-in-hand. This is sure to be a popular event again this year A fun-loving tribute to horror and science fiction B-movies of years ago, the show tells the wacky tale of innocent couple Brad and Janet, who meet Dr. Frank N. Furter, the “Sweet Transvestite,” a mad scientist about to reveal his latest Frankenstein-esque creation.

Four Performances: Thurs, Oct. 22nd at 8 PM, Fri. Oct. 23rd at 8 PM & Sat. Oct. 24th at 5 & 10 PM, 2015 Tickets at pioneertheatre.org

WINOS FOR RHINOS The Leonardo at Library Square October 3, 2015 6-10 p.m.

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URBAN FLEA MARKET 600 South & Main Street Parking Lot October 11 9 a.m.–3 p.m. fleamarketslc.com

IDINA MENZEL UCCU Event Center 800 W Univ Pkwy, Orem October 1 7:30 p.m. smithstix.com

STRAIGHT NO CHASER Capitol Theatre October 20 7:30 p.m. arttix.com

OWL CITY The Complex 536 W 100 South October 20 7 p.m. showclix.com

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Summer 2015

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

THE COMEBACK When HBO gave their beloved mockumentary The Comeback the dreaded cut after its 13-episode run in 2005, it was a sad, sad time for us gays.

How would we go on living without our favorite cupcake, Valerie Cherish, a narcissist we loved almost as much as she loved herself?

After the show disappeared from our lives, we were now those same Team Val fans hootin’ and hollerin’ at the end of the first season finale.

“Give her another take! Give her another take!” Then, bless them, HBO did. Yes, that’s right. Nearly 10 years later, Valerie Cherish got her much-deserved comeback. It would make sense if this was the plan along – resurrect the show nearly a decade later to further meta-ify its very title. Or maybe it was just that The Comeback finally made sense to those who couldn’t wrap their heads around the preKardashian world the show inhabited. Never one to miss an opportunity to admire herself, Valerie subtly acknowledges the latter in the first episode, noting that she was hip to reality TV before everyone else. So what now? Shoot a show about a show, cast Valerie Cherish as herself, and have her nemesis, Paulie G, direct it. Get Seth Rogen to play Paulie G. Make even sharper observations about sexism in Hollywood. Then end with some of the most perfect, tear-inducing 10 minutes to ever exist on TV, with Lisa Kudrow turning in a complex, layered performance to demonstrate that, yes, we do need to see that. And thanks to this comprehensive set, you can. Forever. With past and present commentaries from Kudrow and show co-creator Michael Patrick King, the short “Valerie at ‘Dancing with the Stars’” and the loopable queer-loved classic in its entirety (yes – both seasons!), The Comeback on DVD is probably the answer to all of life’s problems.

IT FOLLOWS Modern-day horror has not been good to us.

Every now and then a studio switches off the conveyer belt and churns out something other than a trashy sequel (see: The Conjuring, The

screen queen Babadook), but, otherwise, the genre rarely has anything new to say (yes, you, Saw 1, 2, 3, 4, 5…). When it does, it’s a big deal.

It Follows, then, is a big deal. Bigger than big, actually. Huge.

On the surface, the premise seems like yet another teens-in-peril whodunit, but writer/director David Robert Mitchell’s masterful ambiguity gives way to deeper, more provocative musing. After all, what is the “it” that’s following these kids? It could be AIDS; it could also be just the mere paranoia surrounding the epidemic’s onset in the ‘80s. Beyond its lingering storytelling, It Follows is a horror buff’s horror movie, creepy and skin crawly. And the acting? It’s refreshingly on point. So is the camera work, which is gorgeous and moody. On the whole, It Follows – as much a tribute to the classics as it is one in its own right – does just that. It stays with you. Scant supplements include a critics-only commentary that breaks down varied facets of the film, including some of its classic-horror influences. And, also, the menacing musical compositions are explored during a standalone talk with their creator because, well, without them, It Follows wouldn’t be this bloody good.

THE NANNY Fran Drescher’s nasally-voiced nanny set the bar high for caretakers everywhere – who could compete with her queerness? I mean, first of all, that garish wardrobe, which was obviously draginspired. And that mouth, unfiltered and TMI-ready. Fran Fine spoke her mind, which, of course, made it horribly awkward when a job listing brought her to the Sheffields’ swanky palace (in zebra print, naturally), where she shamelessly flirted with the widowed patriarch, Maxwell, razzed his kids, and then, during dinner, dished on a “natural digestive.”

She passed the test, got the job, got fired, then got the job again. That was 1993, when the show premiered, but eventually Drescher’s delightfully zany role as “The Nanny” was notable for more than the whiney way she talked. She lived for Barbra Streisand (remember the impersonator during the final season?). One episode was titled “Oy Vey,

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You’re Gay” and involved a lesbian pass to Fran from none other than Catherine Oxenberg of Dynasty. Also, how about that time Fran actually did drag? And, you know, her star-powered Rolodex, which might as well have been the GLAAD Media Awards guest list: Bette Midler, Estelle Getty, Elton John, Cloris Leachman, Patti LaBelle, Margaret Cho; you get the gist.

Because yes. A lot of important gay (ish) icons appeared throughout the span of the show’s six-season, 146-episode run, all of which are permanently etched on discs – with ample commentaries and flashback featurettes – so you never have to forget why you want the ’90s back.

BESSIE As the leading lady in HBO’s Bessie, Queen Latifah’s portrayal of the Roaring ’20s singer Bessie Smith is a crowning achievement. No, really, bow down; you haven’t seen Latifah this good since… maybe ever. Latifah’s Bessie is a dynamo who knew what she wanted career-wise, got it, and then became an influential force of nature in the black struggle for equality. The Queen encapsulates her empowering gumption in a rangey role that goes for miles (she goes topless, too, so you know she’s committed).

Over 20 years in the making, the pursuit of a Bessie biopic is long overdue, and out writer / director Dee Rees (Pariah) knows just where to take this story, portraying Smith as more than a divine singing voice because, well, she was. Bessie was the voice of a community. And of survival. She shut down the KKK when they attempted to set fire to her performance tent, and when a man got too handsy with her, she jabbed him with a piece of stray glass like the baddest badass you’ve ever seen. She slept with men, and she also slept with women. She was unstoppable, and Latifah’s scenes with Ma Rainey (a fabulous Mo’Nique) illustrate Bessie’s unwavering determination to be the best she could be. Rees’ film is a galvanizing slice-of-life biopic rooted in the universality of self-expression. During the extras, which cover the film’s long journey to the screen (featuring Latifah’s less-confident 1996 screen test), Latifah briefly talks about Bessie being the most challenging film of her career. A challenge the Queen meets with consummate flair. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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the bookworm sez

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

“Nothing Looks Familiar”

BY SHAWN SYMS C.2015, ARESNAL PULP PRESS $15.95 U.S. AND CANADA, 184 PAGES

And they lived happily ever after.

Even today, years after you’ve outgrown fairy tales, those words make you smile. Ohh, how you love a happy ending, even though (and maybe because) life doesn’t always work out that way. As a matter of fact, in “Nothing Looks Familiar,” a new shortstory collection by Shawn Syms, sad endings don’t always happen, either.

Worst case scenario. If it all goes well.

God willing, everything will turn out alright – but if not, life goes on. We’ll live through it, just like the people in these stories.

A job in a slaughterhouse, for instance, is just a job and while Wanda would rather work somewhere else, there’s no real rea-

son to move on. Instead, in “On the Line,” she takes lovers from everywhere but the kill floor. Nobody knows she does it, until she sleeps with the wrong man – a man whose wife is Wanda’s co-worker.

Because he had few friends (“He’d never been good at keeping” them), Adam was surprised that Shaggy wanted to hang out.

They never did much, just a little mayhem now and then, but in “Four Pills,” the tables are about to turn.

Gimli, Manitoba is a tiny town perched on the shores of Lake Winnipeg. Sammy, who’s eight years old and Cindy, who’s just a baby, might have loved it there someday, but their mother had to get them away from there. The fumes from the drugs she made were no good for the kids; neither were the people she worked with or the tiny house where they mixed. In “Family Circus,” the kids’ mother starts making plans for escape.

People didn’t have to like Brenda Foxworthy: she liked herself enough. As one of the Popular Girls, she got away with everything, including meanness to Dean and his friends, Preet and Rickie. Did Brenda hate their sexuality or their nerdiness? It didn’t matter

because, in “Get Brenda Foxworthy,” the three had plenty of other reasons for revenge.

When Sean and Kate inherited a house from Kate’s dad, they also inherited an eccentric tenant that they rarely saw. In “Man, Woman, and Child,” Les Montague was a harmless old guy… wasn’t he?

Unsettling. That’s a good word to use when describing the eleven short stories inside “Nothing Looks Familiar.” Reading this book, in fact, is a little like watching an accident that you’re powerless to stop and can’t un-see. For sure, what you’ll read here will make you squirm.

But that’s not a bad thing, oddly enough.

I found myself rather addicted to the stories that author Shawn Syms tells, even though they left me dangling, wondering what happened next. Another oddity: the characters in these stories aren’t particularly likeable, which leads to a certain amount of schadenfreude, or a smug, satisfactory feeling that things didn’t go so well for them.

These are stories that will tap you on the shoulder, days after you’ve finished the book. They’ll keep you awake, pondering. If you’re not careful, “Nothing Looks Familiar” could haunt you ever after. Q

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food & drink Props for Chef David’s Pop-Up

BY JOSHUA JONES

Recently,

a friend invited me to attend Culinary Craft’s inaugural pop-up restaurant.

One of the largest caterers in the state, Culinary Crafts has wanted to experiment with this relatively new dining concept so they could present their cuisine to new audiences.

It wasn’t until New York state transplant, Chef David Robinson, was hired that the company had the talent and resources to endeavor on this new venture. Judging by their first evening, they really should have explored this idea far earlier.

Snuck Farm was the host of the first pop-up, a beautiful hydroponic farm that is more Sonoma or Napa than Pleasant Grove, Utah.

Driving onto the property, the free-range chickens and beautiful barns slowly melted a weeks-worth of stress into the organic soil. As we got out of our car we were greeted with a watermelon puree mixed with Jackson Hole Ginger Ale, basil, and lime – refreshing and soothing (although a bit of rum would have been just that much better). As the 6 o’clock sun pierced through the fruit trees and cool air rose from the fields, we were escorted to the greenhouses for a tour. The owners of Snuck have invested millions in a sustainable, above-ground farm

which re-uses water, controls light-filters with renewable energy sources, and is growing some of the best produce in the state. The ten-course menu that night demonstrated the quality of the farm’s harvest as well as the commitment by Culinary Crafts to source locally.

Back at the barn, chefs had prepared a trio of gourmet deviled eggs (wasabi, sundried tomato and, my favorite, caviar) which they served as they casually cooked on outdoor grills. The smell of roasted meats marinated the air and a diverse group of around 50 lingered around, watching a synchronized shuffle of food coming and going as if they had been cooking in this kitchen for years.

Inside the lofty barn, a jazz trio trumpeted and crooned away as candles replaced the fading sun. I was reminded that we weren’t in Napa when I realized there would be no wine service ... but, moments later I was “tipsy” to realize we had sat at the cool-kids table where everyone had come prepared with their own bottles and ready to share — thank god.

The amuse bouche of sugarsweet corn pudding with Utah Trout, house-smoked over cherrywood awoke my palette and slapped me into realizing I would have an exquisite meal in Utah County — a first! An appetizer of tomatoes four ways was incredible in its simplicity, beauty, and taste: roasted heirlooms, tomato aspic, tomato confit on a sundried tomato cracker, and fresh slices of heirloom tomatoes with sea salt were juicy, sweet, and fragrant. These were the flavors of my father’s garden in California as a child. They were the tomatoes you dream

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about and only find for a couple weeks in the summer — delicately gussied-up as only a tenured chef can do.

A butter lettuce and beet salad and cucumber pea soup followed, but the stand-outs were yet to come – a sous vide pinwheel chicken roulade filled with peach and cashew butter with whipped cashew crème and couscous with lavender. A second entrée (yes, second entrée) of Angus strip steak served with Cremini mushrooms and béarnaise and kale sautéed with shallots and reduced carrot juice.

These flavors were much more complex. Hours of preparation had obviously gone into every ingredient and each bite proved hidden complexities in what looked like very simple (though beautiful) dishes.

Having a bit of a sweet

tooth, the corn ice cream was another stand-out. The highly sugary corn had been transformed into incredibly luscious custard and topped with cranberry crystals and fingerling limes that added a bit of contrast in both texture and sour notes, creating quite a marriage for the mouth.

Coffee, cheese plates and another dessert of grilled Utah County peaches and chocolatechip shortcake topped with chocolate whipped cream ensured that everyone would need to be rolled to their car, but would at least be extremely happy.

What Culinary Crafts and Chef David presented was a culinary event, one that you shouldn’t miss when they bring the concept to Salt Lake in October. Q

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Dining Guide

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TAKASHI

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A staple of the Salt Lake experience for more than 30 years as a neighborhood gathering place. Our American Bistro menu and fine selection of local ales and wines are complimented with a casual upscale warm environment.

259 W 900 S, 801-

 offtraxslc.com 18 W Market St 801-519-9595 Open for lunch, dinner or cocktails, Takashi has been the QSaltLake readers’ choice for sushi in Salt Lake City since the Fabby Awards were invented.

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1675 E 1300 S 801-581-0809 Breakfast or lunch in a friendly, warm and hip environment. The converted garage is now a stylish, enticing eatery. Try the eggs Benedict, French toast, custom-tailored omelets, huevos rancheros or cheese blintzes for breakfast.

dips and salads.

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OMAR’S RAWTOPIA  omarsrawtopia. com 2148 S Highland Dr 801-486-0332 Omar prepares all raw, live and organic food from scratch create amazing food that is powerfully healing for your mind, body, and spirit.

SAGE’S CAFE  sagescafe.com 234 W 900 S 801-322-3790 Sage’s Cafe relocated to the Central 9th Business District in the original and iconic Jade Cafe.

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VERTICAL DINER 2280 S West Temple 801-484-8378 Vegan diner serving down-home comfort food and breakfast all day. Specialties include fried faux chicken, blueberry pancakes, and hand cut french fries. Also serving fair trade coffee, tea, chocolate, and more.

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Taking the Panamera to Chili’s

BY JAKE KENNY

I have

spent my day being vetted by various members of a seed fund based in California. I blend uneasily into this float of crocodiles relying on the homogeny of white privilege (and a hastily procured Hugo Boss outfit from Nordstrom) to fit in. The day has gone well. Our talk of business matters and possible directions for the company they are founding is something I am comfortable discussing.

I know what I want, what I believe should be done, and I can discuss such matters, if not eloquently, a least confidently. The topic has been pretty much exhausted, when the subject of dinner comes up. The tone shifts, personal lives are mentioned, and a pantomime of the phoning of wives, running partners, and children is performed. It’s a subtle litany of normalcy, and during this strange kabuki, I’m tempted to call my parents and ask about my dog, mainly because it seems to be expected that I check in with someone.

Chili’s and its Quesadilla Explosion Salad, a mound of iceberg lettuce, Tex-Mex vegetables, and margarita grilled chicken placed atop a quesadilla is mentioned. “It’s my favorite,” I’m told un-ironically by someone who earlier in the day I discussed million-dollar operating budgets with. “I’ll drive” And with that, we are off.

We are driven down El Camino to that temple of overindulgent, Middle-American cuisine in a Porsche Panamera hybrid that costs more than my house in Salt Lake City, filling the interior with small talk and innocuous questions about what I do in my spare time, my awkward responses sounding forced along with the subtle crispness of our collective aftershaves. I’m relieved when we arrive.

We all order the salad, cutting off the waiter in the midst of his pitch for margaritas and perhaps some chips and salsa, and the talk returns to its previous path onto hobbies, homes, and children? It’s here that I feel that I stumble: I have no wife or partner. The milestones of the traditional white male seem to have stalled out in my case at a much younger stage. This is not lost on these shrewd men. That I actually have a roommate and not a code for a Boston marriage or a closeted relationship you lie to your grandmother about to avoid

an awkward conversation is out of place at this table. My relationship status is only concerning because of the lack of it. There have been several comments about the marketing director’s marriage to his husband that have telegraphed that sort of thing are not a problem. My single status and the fact that I don’t have an expensive hobby like ultra-running or biking seem to be sending up red flags to the rush committee of the fraternity I seem bent on joining.

It’s not the wealth nor status symbols on display that make me nervous or uncomfortable (the value of the watches draped casually on tanned wrists collectively cost more than most cars); I understand that these are just the trappings of men in their socioeconomic strata and in 15 years I too could, and most likely will, have them as well. Finding a partner is a much more difficult prospect and a more personal one, and it’s probably the most disconcerting. There is a social pecking order, in addition to the business one, and this hierarchy is just as important as the one listed on my LinkedIn profile, and finding someone to navigate that path with seems to be necessary.

I also can’t match the confidence these men possess. An online gaming hobby and a Lego habit don’t seem to be on par with the almost palpable aura of privilege and entitlement that these men possess. I don’t see how I will ever be able to walk through the world with such confidence. This is a much harder and more insidious interview to pass, it seems. Sure, I can follow through, I can take orders and I can work. But can I walk in step with these men? Do I have the mental fortitude to match them in their view of the world and assume that place in it? Most importantly, do I even want to?

The salads arrive, and I distract them with a discussion about Jackson Hole, Wyoming, and why I see myself retiring there. The talk moves to Tahoe, Vancouver, Park City, and we discuss winter sports and Utah Powder vs. Sierra Cement. The mood shifts slightly, and I feel like I’ve been granted a reprieve—that the trial proceeds with more discovery and I can take some more time before closing arguments. The check comes and we banter about splitting it up, what I can expense back to the company, calculating the exact amount with

tip. Though cheap, there wasn’t meanness to these men, and after the check is efficiently dealt with, we exit the restaurant.

The mood is light on the way back to the office, and I am returned to my hotel to pack for my return trip to Salt Lake.

The next morning my Uber driver babbles the entire way down Bayshore to the airport. I don’t listen or pretend to work on my phone, which is the universal sign in the Bay Area that I don’t want to talk to you. I miss the pre-sharing economy when you ordered (or had ordered for you) a town car and a professional driver and you never had to do anything but tell him what airline. I ruminate on this while waiting in line to buy a cup of coffee in the terminal, and I wonder if it’s a conscious decision to wall oneself off with privilege—to make class a weapon one wears like a suit of armor—and if it can be turned off and on.

I am tested once I take my seat in 4B. The window-seat occupant asks if I’d be willing to switch as she needed to pee frequently (her words), and she was flying for free as her daughter was a Delta employee, and so she couldn’t pick her seat, and wasn’t this fancy. Her stream of conscious nattering continued after I had agreed to the swap. Over Reno she confided angels had commanded her to buy a Chevrolet, and though she had resisted such promptings, eventually she gave in and purchased said car and just loved it. And isn’t that the way it always is? Feeling my own heavenly promptings, I put on my noise-canceling headphones and ignored her the rest of the flight. I was doing my best to mimic the men I’d dined with. Tomorrow, I thought, as I walked through the Salt Lake airport, I’ll go have a salad at Chili’s for lunch. Q Gay Writes is a DiverseCity Series writing group, a program of SLCC’s Community Writing Center. The group meets the 2nd and 4th Monday of each month, 6:30-8pm, 210 E. 400 South, Ste. 8, Salt Lake.

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mr. manners

Ally Etiquette

BY ROCK MAGEN

I will

admit that if you were to go through the viewing history on my Apple TV, you would see episodes of the series I am Cait. I am not now, nor do I foresee myself in the future as, an individual preparing to transition – however, I have watched this show as an opportunity to learn more about this subculture of our community, and learn how to be a better ally. As the show follows the journey that Caitlyn Jenner has undergone, I have relished watching Cait learn more about her own community.

From the struggles that transitioning transgender people face to employers and the communities they are part of to Cait learning how privileged she is throughout this process, is all quite enlightening and the lessons extend beyond just that one community.

Being an ally ranges within various situations; however, the message is universal: Support. In my experience, being an ally spans outside of the LGBT community, and goes to anyone who stands in need of help. As we work to continually strengthen our ties not only among our own ranks but within our greater community, we become more compassionate and understanding.

But how does one go about expressing support as an ally?

In my experience, and after doing some online research with GLAAD, HRC and other LGBT resources, I feel the following three tips can help each of us to be an ally regardless of station or situation: EDUCATE YOURSELF: If you are reading the stories of the LGBT community and building relationships, you are already on your way. Make trusted friends who won’t mind answering your questions – even the crazy ones. But don’t make a single person or group do all the work in terms of your enlightenment. Show your love by doing your own too.

CURIOSITY DOES NOT EQUATE TO OPEN-MINDEDNESS: I know that certain situations bring on questions that Google cannot even fathom to answer, but be respectful and don’t ask probing questions unless you have a close relationship with someone or they’ve made it clear they are open to answering anything.

ASK HOW YOU CAN HELP: All too often we like to use kind words and they tend to be a method we use to ease a situation but not take a call to action. Phrases such as, “I know how you feel,” “that must be difficult,” or “this too shall pass” do nothing to pacify the person struggling but rather justify the conscious of the person reciting them. The best thing you can do is to simply ask “how can I help?” or “what would make this easier for you?”

When asking “how you can help,” you may sometimes get a direct answer, while other times you may be told simply there is nothing you can do. In those moments, I am reminded of the moment from the movie Lars and the Real Girl, when the sewing circle ladies reply “We came over to sit. That’s what people do when tragedy strikes. They come over, and sit.” I admonish you to use this beyond just tragedy, but in those moments when someone is struggling, take the time to be with them and sit.

Going back to I am Cait, I enjoy the moments that reflect on her situation and how she got there. In one such moment she reminds us that “the most important thing in life is that you are true to yourself.”

I echo that sentiment and urge you to take it one step further and to use who you are to inspire others. Take the time to reach out not only to the LGBT community, but also those around us who stand in need of an ally. Be it a coworker, a struggling friend, or family member – the change starts with us, and then from there, the possibilities are endless. Q

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BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS ARIES March 20–April 19 time for fun is now, and a call for action has come. Charge into uncharted territory and try something different. A personal matter will require focus, especially if romance is involved.

Have faith in your ability to get a job done, but don’t let it go to your head.

What makes you feel special is actually quite normal.

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29 Tat word, often 32 Spread about, as rumors 33 Newt, to Candace 36 Palindromist’s exclamation 37 Character played by 19-Across 38 Like Abner, before Viagra?

39 The feminine side 40 Comes down hard

in showers 41 Versatile vehicle 42 Reactions to seeing a hottie 44 Morales of Jericho 45 Zipper problem 46 To some extent 48 Rank of von Trapp of Aust.

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12 Before, to the Bard 20 Sounds in “The Trolley Song” 21 Uses a slur 25 Slaved away 26 Responds to yeast 27 “___ little silhouetto of a man ...”

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of your goals, but don’t extend further than your reach for now.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 The squeeze of daily life is making things difficult, especially in regards to work and financials. Eliminating a few obligations, even small ones, can help ease the pressure. Find time for meaningless fun. Invest in moments that will become future memories. Fill your head and heart, and it won’t matter if the bank runs dry.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 The time for structure is important, especially when dealing with a family member or close friend. There are complications that make you wonder if a familiar person had ever meant anything at all. Only you can decide whether to back away or redefine the association. The right choice will be remarkably easy, and worth it.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

Distance from family is crucial in order to retain sanity. The hectic nature of a close relative is bound to hurt. Take a break and enjoy a peace you didn’t realize was missing. The need to construct a plan to be happy will compel some amazing changes. Romance could ensure in an intriguing way, so open your heart.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 There is definite change coming, and the time for an open-minded mentality is now. Get all the facts when making a career related decision. Remind yourself of your life goals. Change is something dealt with easy, Gemini, but surprises can throw you off. Grip hard and let someone else do the work for a while. Ride the big waves.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 A major lifestyle choice could surprise those around you, no matter how accustomed they are to your unpredictability. Give others time to adjust, but don’t let adversity derail future plans. Emotions run high with a close family member, especially if it’s a child or pet. You don’t wish to sacrifice, but compromise is vital.

CANCER June 21–July 22 A key person in life will keep you waiting, testing your patience. Instead of getting angry, offer a helping hand. You’ll find a group effort to be most enjoyable, leading to a re-organization of responsibilities. Treat yourself and let go of an old grudge. It’s not about forgetting the past, but acknowledging the current irrelevance.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 As the year enters the final months, ideas for upcoming activities run through your head.

Anticipation can be killer, so modest expectations will be rewarded. A circle of buddies will make suggestions, most of which should be given consideration.

Add your great ideas into the mix, and real magic will happen.

LEO July 23–August 22 Not everyone will be in the mood for smiles and cheers, but it shouldn’t prevent the good times you crave. Casually dismiss the downers and invite happy people to party. The longer you wait to have fun, the more irritation will prevail. Explosive encounters of the best kind are almost certain, if effort is put into obtaining them.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 Whether intentional or not, a friend or family member will express discomfort with your seemingly overbearing nature. Your intentions may simply be to help, but it’s best to provide this person space. A deeper understanding of yourself may develop.

There is no need to prove your self to others, dear Virgo.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Intense stress comes with great reward. While it isn’t clear at first what kind of pay off to expect, a big risk could be worth it. Seek out help from others, but don’t lose track of an independent attitude. The best safety net is staying close to the surface. Keep sight

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 A person with a pure and true heart will find come into your life. Don’t expect an immediate connection, but be prepared. A key project will pay off in a most unpredictable way due to an emotional intervention. An old connection will ask for a favor, but it’s not an easy one to grant. Don’t give into pressure this time. Q

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positive thoughts Trans* women are 49 times more likely to have HIV and here’s why you should care

BY DIANE ANDERSON-MINSHALL

Let me

tell you about a woman I met. Let’s call her Trina.

On the surface, we have some similarities.

A woman of color and a bottle blonde, Trina grew up feeling like she never fit in.

Shuffled between family members, she left home early in an effort to be herself, and ended up homeless at one point.

Like my husband, Trina is transgender.

Unlike my husband, who grew up in a white mid-dle-class family and has a master’s degree, doesn’t have insurance (yes, even in this age of Obamacare), worries about affording her hormones, and has had to do a lot of things to be the person she is.

That includes turning the odd trick or two.

She has HIV. When she tested positive last year, it wasn’t a surprise to her or to the other women in her trans support group, which meets at her local LGBT center each Wednes-day night. It’s one of the few places Trina feels at home, accepted, able to be honest. And many of the women are also HIV-positive.

Transgender women are 49 times more likely to have HIV than the general population. We first heard this number when The Foundation for AIDS Research (amfAR) released a report in 2014, “Trans Populations and HIV: Time to End the Neglect,” and this summer, the World Health Organization did a new meta-analysis of data from 15 different coun-tries, which again showed that transgender women were nearly 49 times more likely to have HIV than the general population.

Both studies argue that trans women are the most at-risk population around the globe. The numbers are even worse for those who are women of color; 56 percent of black trans women have HIV. That’s over half.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, transgender women in-volved in sex work have HIV rates that are almost twice that of trans women not engaged in commercial sex work. They’re also six times more likely to be living with HIV than other female sex workers.

Perhaps you’re ready to turn the proverbial page because you think women who

do sex work deserve it. They don’t.

My friend Trina gave blow jobs to help afford the hormones she needs every two weeks to continue living as a woman. Going off hormones would give her serious medical issues. The waiting list to get into her local clinic was two months. She’s had bad experiences with doctors who refused to treat her because she’s transgender.

She’s not alone: The Task Force’s 2011 study, “Injustice at Every Turn,” reports that approximately one in five trans people in the United States has been denied medical care as a result of their gender identity.

She’s also shared injection needles not for drugs, but at a pumping party, where trans women get low-cost fillers to create a more feminine look in their faces, breasts and hips.

As a once-homeless trans teen – over 40 percent of homeless teens are LGBT, according to a 2011 Williams Institute study – Trina has had to do plenty of things that put her at risk for HIV. But that’s not how she got HIV. Like the majority of HIV-positive people today, Trina became HIV-positive during a relationship that she believed was monogamous.

The man she loved was not monogamous – and he was not aware that he had HIV. Today Trina is on antiretrovirals and sees a doctor at a clinic who knows how to treat trans people living with HIV. Those are few and far between.

It’s time for all of us to wake up to this issue. As we revive the conversation around gay and bi men and HIV, it’s time to end this epidemic for trans people too.

(Note: Many of my suggestions originally appeared in “Injustice at Every Turn.”)

This is what it takes: • LGBT activists needs to care about the alarmingly high rate of HIV among trans women – and to push our organizations, political leaders and the pharmaceutical industry to do so as well. Silence can still equal death for trans people who can’t access medical care. It’s time to remind everyone of this.

• The research/medical community and pharmaceutical industry needs to stop mis-

gendering trans women in research studies.

Lumping trans women in studies about “men who have sex with men” does not give you true statistics on trans women’s needs and risks, making it difficult for concerned clinicians to properly treat trans women with HIV. We need them to ensure that trans people are proper-ly categorized in future research.

• We need to push researchers to understand that gay and bi transgender men may be at equally high risk; since there have been no studies, nobody knows.

• Medical schools and medical organizations need to start training their people to treat transgender patients properly and mandating that people do so. Refusing care to people because of their gender identity is a travesty.

• We need to elevate trans people into leadership areas in HIV organizations, in-cluding their voices when we talk about HIV. • We need LGBT organizations to take up the mantle in talking about trans people and HIV, and we need trans organizations to tackle HIV. One such organization is doing just that: The Transgender Law Center has created Positively Trans, a project led by a group of poz trans people who have launched the first-of-its-kind study seeking to determine the obstacles to care faced by trans people living with HIV. In order for all of us – poz or not, trans or not, queer or not – to do right by trans women, we have to do more than tune into I Am Cait once a week. We have to tear down and rebuild the systems that are here to care for trans and gender non-conforming people in a way that really works. We have to remove the stigma of being trans, of being positive, of seeking to take an HIV prevention treatment. That’s only one step, and there are many needed, but just that, understanding and truly caring about trans people, can take us quite a way. Q Diane Anderson-Minshall is editor in chief of “Plus” magazine and editor at large for “The Advocate” magazine.

This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, TheBody.com, Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake

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fitness

A sore subject

BY TYSON DALEY

There are

a few questions and misconceptions related to muscular soreness from working out that most gym rats have. Some of them include “how sore should I be after a good workout,” “is it bad if I stay sore for days after the workout,” and “does more soreness equal a better workout?”

To answer these lets first examine what causes this soreness after lifting weights.

Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness, or DOMS, is commonly experienced about 24 to 48 hours post workout and goes away over time after the initial onset. Lifting weights causes micro-tears in muscular tissue which when repaired is the most basic form of muscle growth. These micro tears cause soreness but how sore you feel also depends heavily on how adapted the pain receptors in your muscles are. What this means is that how sore you get and stay actually has a lot to do with how frequently you exercise and adapted your body has become to it. Elite athletes rarely encounter extreme DOMS because their bodies

are so well adapted and their pain thresholds have improved gradually through consistent training.

Beyond your training frequency; your stretching regimen, exercise, nutrition and quality and quantity of sleep will all be key factors in how sore you feel after training. If you treat your body well and help it recover, then you’ll experience less post-workout discomfort.

Soreness and pain should never be the ultimate goal of any workout. If you’re still getting extremely sore and staying sore for days and days after each workout, you should work to improve your recovery factors such as stretching, nutrition and rest. That, combined with consistent training, will end your days of hobbling out of the gym … or at least make them less frequent and more bearable. Q Tyson Daley trains clients at the Sugar House 24 Hour Fitness by appointment.

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the frivolist After-School Special: 20 Dreamy Teachers We’d Totally Take Detention For

BY MIKEY ROX

It’s back-

to-school season, and you know what that means, kids: nine glorious months of academic angst pining for that dreamboat professor.

But if you don’t have the pleasure of sizing up the hunks destined to steal your heart on campus this semester (because you’re way too old, like me), at least you have the next best thing: memories of those academic aces whose smarty pants you were dying to get into.

In tribute to your school-boy fantasies of yore (and to satisfy my own; this one’s for you, Mr. Harris!), I’ve compiled this list of entertainment’s hottest know-it-alls, plus one real-life model-turned-math teacher who’s causing gay boys around the world to break out the rulers. How do you measure up?

ERIC TAYLOR, FRIDAY NIGHT LIGHTS Firm but fair Coach Taylor is known ‘round East Dillon High as a “molder of men” – and it’s easy to see why: With his quarterback frame and sexy southern drawl, we too would fall in line at the drop of a ball. Time to hit the showers!

DAN DUNNE, HALF NELSON

SCOTT DELACORTE, BAD TEACHER

Sure, he has a nasty drug habit, but a stint in rehab would be worth it if those getlost-in-me eyes were staring back at us in class every day.

Justin Timberlake plays a “yes man” with a penchant for dry humping. Take what ya can get, bros.

JOHN PRESSMAN, ADMISSION

SAM COULSON, NEVER BEEN KISSED

I’d totally let Paul Rudd be the big spoon.

Does anybody else find the older, wiser, love-handled Rudd totally turn-up-theAC-in-here more attractive than during his skinny-mini Clueless days? Can’t just be me.

In my world, it was called Kiss Me Everywhere Right Now, which spawned the NSFW sequel Get in My Bed, You Sexy Beast.

TED MOSBY, HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER More like, How I Met Your Naked Body in the Teacher’s Lounge One Day and We Never Told Anybody About It – Not Even That Skank Who Stole You Away From Me.

TRAVIS MANAWA, FEAR THE WALKING DEAD

WILL SCHUESTER, GLEE Between sparring with ne’er-do-well cheerleading coach and glee-club-hater Sue Sylvester and lending a comforting ear to members of William McKinley High’s New Directions, it’s a wonder Mr. Schu had any time for a personal life. But by the end of the show’s run, he was married to his “high school sweetheart” Emma Pillsbury, raising son Daniel, and occasionally showing us why he’s still the only J. Crew-clad principal in Ohio who we’d let tickle our ivories.

PROF. HENRY JONES JR., INDIANA JONES AND THE LAST CRUSADE That suit. Those glasses. That whip! You’d only have to tell us to shut up and sit down once, Mr. Jones.

Mr. Manawa’s speech about man vs. nature in the context of Jack London’s “To Build a Fire” will become much more relevant to his students in later eps of AMC’s Fear the Walking Dead, the much-anticipating spinoff series to The Walking Dead. But for now we’ll just savor the setup that he’s a good dude about to have his bickering blended family thrust into the zombie apocalypse – and keep our fingers crossed that he survives long enough to take his shirt off.

ROSS GELLER, FRIENDS There was something sexy-saurus about NYU professor of paleontology Ross Geller. Even the dudes couldn’t hide their affection for him – when grades were due, anyway.

HANK MOODY, CALIFORNICATION What happens when a can’t-say-no-totemptation teacher is let loose on a college campus? Shenanigans, and David Duchovny’s bare butt in season three of this successful Showtime series.

EZRA FITZ, PRETTY LITTLE LIARS Never trust a man who dates his 16-yearold students. Unless they look like Mr. Fitz. Hey, isn’t that what age-of-consent laws are for?

COLIN FORRESTER, GOSSIP GIRL This walking Ralph Lauren ad never stood a chance with Serena with Lonely Boy in the picture. He should’ve offed him – if only to save us from seasons five and six.

PHIL WENNECK, THE HANGOVER Mention of Phil being a teacher in The Hangover is so quick you might’ve missed it. But it’s safe to assume you’d be drunk in love if he were the head of your class.

JULIAN PARRISH, HELLCATS Whether he’s playing pre-law prof Parrish in the short-lived, Bring It On-esque CW series Hellcats or devilishly handsome playboy Brian Kinney on Queer As Folk, we’d happily pull an all-nighter for Gale Harold.

THE PROFESSOR, GILLIGAN’S ISLAND I mean, who else you gonna bang on that island?

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for a gay character, don’t ya think? Neither did the rest of America; the McCarthys was cancelled earlier this year, despite a full season.

JEREMIAH LASKY, SAVED

BY THE BELL: THE COLLEGE YEARS

CRAIG ROBINSON, MR. ROBINSON Funny guy Craig Robinson gets his comeuppance starring in this school/night club-set comedy that lets him show off his sharp wit, though that’s ultimately a little too dumbed-down to last very long.

Move over, Zack Morris. There’s a new looker on campus, and he’s after Kelly Kapowski’s pom-poms.

RONNY MCCARTHY, THE MCCARTHYS Against his better judgment, Ronny accepts the assistant high school basketball coach job in Boston instead of a more exciting opportunity to spread his wings as a guidance counselor in Rhode Island.

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College London students posted a pic of him (and his Superman-like physique) to social media. As a result, he was outed as a sometimes model who specializes in computational fluid dynamics specifically as applied to the design of turbo machinery.

Say what?! Either way, we’d be the a to his b+fyesplease any day. Up, up and away. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.

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princess kennedy

Straight but not narrow bars in the 801

BY PRINCESS KENNEDY

Summer

is officially over (boo!) and it’s the time of year for us to discover the indoors again. You know me, I’m the OG party girl and I thought I take you on a downtown bar crawl that marks a path that is straight but not narrow.

I find it perpetually frustrating that we happen to have one of the largest gay populations in the country, yet only three gay bars. Oh well, even San Fran just closed its last lesbian bar. It seems that while every city has a smattering of GBs down by their proverbial tracks, the way of a bar actually catering to an all-gay clientele could eventually be a thing of the past.

I noticed at Jam the other night that even our bars are “their” bars and so goes about every bar downtown.

Here are my favorite “straight”’ hot spots:

Weekdays are made for 200 South: Hipster Lane, as I like to call it — just don’t tell the natives, they’re quite sensitive about labels — is where to be, whether you want an afternoon beer and designer dog, a fancy craft cocktail or a late-night party screen.

BEER BAR: My co-workers and I from Nick James salon find ourselves here after a long day of hair burning. The staff is ultra friendly and the wide range of beers make it the perfect place for happy hour or a trip with friends-in-town. The first time I ventured in I was fraught with past life school-cafeteria anxiety when faced with the seating, but I quickly realized the rest of the crowd was there for the same reason — good beer, a crafty hot dog and fun! If you happen to come early and stay late then venture next door to...

BAR X: I find this to be the perfect place for a starter, usually the night that Jacob (swoon) is working. I’m not gonna lie, I don’t stay long cuz a craft cocktail bar tab is a little rich for my gin-soaked blood but

what they do mix are delicious. This is the perfect place to take a date, It’s ‘scene-y’ without being overly so, perfectly dim lighting and usually quite calm, making a conversation totally possible. For a bar that used to smell like peanut shells and pee, they really have made quite a silk purse out of one of Salt Lake’s oldest watering holes.

TWILIGHT LOUNGE: This is the place to be for last call on weekdays; it’s definitely party central on any night of the week. With a Retro-rock juke box, pool and cans of Rainier beer (the new Pabst), you can star watch the creme de la creme of tattoo artists and musicians, knocking it back with their counterparts. The thing I love about Twilight is that if you do a Google search of gay bars, they are one of the first in the list. May I suggest you go and visit my good friend and bartender ANDRÉS WEINER “SNICKERS,” Salt Lake’s token Dominican. Tip this beautiful boy good and he’ll flash you his giant Dominican smile!

The Weekender ZEST: 275 S 200 West seems to be where the Friday night magic happens. This daytime upscale vegetairium turns into the the palace of all things good and house music. Featuring regularly one of my all time faves (and rooftop pride party cohort), DJ ARTEMIS, you will usually find the place packed with new and familiar faces. CASEY STAKER, owner and nightlife staple, has a selection of organic and craft cocktails that seem to fuel the gyrating dance floor quite perfectly. May I suggest the watermelon and jalapeno margarita? You’re welcome.

WOODSHED: This is were your bartender goes to party on a Saturday night! It’s a bit off the beaten path, I mean for downtown that is, but conveniently located next to Taco Time just below State Street on 800 South. The party simply named

­ ARTY HARD is the wet-brain child P of Salt Lake City brotender/wild-child BENTON LEU. You wanna go crazy? Well child, here’s your MFing excuse! The music is ... hmmm, multiple personality? Who the fuck cares, it’s totally dancible. I suggest starting with the Jäger bombs and a tequila back followed by three more and cap with copious amounts of cheap beer. The boys, honey! They are are c-u-t-e! Definately the place to go if you wanna make out with a drunk straight boy. Trouble is he’s probably gonna throw up a cigarette in your mouth or the last ‘fallen soldier’ he just pounded. They all seem a bit rough around the edges at the Woodshed, but trust me, everyone is there to have a good time. Respect the wildlife boundaries and you will certainly party hard!

Exchange Place Brunching I would be remiss not to mention my good friends at GREEN PIG and their beautiful rooftop that is accessible all year. Always a friendly face and a fun chat with owner BRIDGET GORDON. I love their brunch and their huge support of the community.

Support, support, support!

But for a bit of a change, well, exchange that is, right around the corner in the heart of Exchange Place lives an old carcass that houses the new kid. Owner of the now defunct Bar Deluxe, KACI TAKUMOTO, closed her doors and reopened the old Vortex space, I can’t remember what it was last but I don’t really care, it’s been reworked as TWIST and breathes a fresh breath of in the middle of fratland! Hosting the same formula as the former venue, they’ve added a fabulous way to cure your hangover — brunch! Perfect place to sip on Bloody Mary’s and stare at the broship hotties from behind your sunglasses.

Go fourth my little Kennedolls, open your horizon. Go to new places, go to new heights, make some everlasting allies. Q

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the perils of petunia pap smear

A tale of a big hole

chalupa, the giant shit chute began to excrete me.

Oh blessed relief as I began to pour forth from Doctor Poo. I laid on the table, spent and giddy, most likely from the Valium. I can only describe the sensation of liberation as that truly accomplished feeling you get when you’ve just completed a really decent bowel movement. Ya know?

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

The machine began to move me into the infernal Cadbury Alley. Of course, even sans breasticles, I’m a girl of bountilicious proportions, and the machine was going to be a tight fit. As my shoulders entered the Turdinator, they were squeezed into my chest. I yelled we need more lube, but that request apparently fell on deaf ears. Damn it, we didn’t establish a safe word before commencing insertion into the full moon.

I began to sweat, and no queen worth her tiara should ever be caught sweating. Just then the operator (dungeon master) turned on a fan, thus it began to feel more like being inserted into a Windward Passage. The machine began to make terrible horrible thumping and grinding noises. I thought, is every Heinie Ho this noisy? Every part of me was being squeezed way beyond comfort in the Poop Chute. I began to regret stopping at Taco Bell for a taco grande and chalupa on the way to the appointment. Just then, despite every instinct I was taught in finishing school, I farted. Oh the shame. Oh the stench. Oh the giggles I could hear.

Finally, after what seemed like an eternity, or at least exit time for my taco grande and PUZZLE SOLUTIONS

As always, these events leave us with several burning eternal questions.

1. How big would the cat need to be to be able to cough up a fur ball the size of my beehive wig?

2. Should a proper queen’s safe word be “I think it’s time for tea?”

3. Would it require a 50-foot lesbian to accommodate a Petunia-sized strap-on?

4. After this experience should I develop and market a Queen Petunia Pap Smear dildo?

5. Should it be white?

6. Should it be bedazzled with rhinestones?

7. Should the head, or handle for that matter, have a blinking light?

8. Do latex appliances have some sort of sound deafening properties?

9. Do other MRI patients ever leave a “Booty Duty” in the machine?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of: The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

Cryptogram: I SAW MY TWITTER ACCOUNT RISE. I WAS LIKE, WHAT IS THIS POPULARITY? OH, I SEE, IT’S ’CAUSE THEY THINK I HAVE A MASSIVE PENIS.

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embedded trolls (matching the jungle motif) I was ready to face anything.

Of course, Doctor Adonis’ office is clear out at Daybreak in South Jordan. On the drive, I calmed myself by realizing I had to pass by three temples just to get there. Surely I and my hair trolls would be blessed.

Upon arriving at the hospital, I swallowed a Valium in the parking lot then entered. I was directed to the x-ray department. A very no-nonsense nurse took me into a private room and interrogated me as if I was a suspected terrorist. I was informed that first of all the troll wig had to go. It would interfere with the vice that needed to hold my head still. Next she attacked the fiber-optic sunflowers. I offered to change them, but since they were held with magnets, I was instructed that I needed to remove the breasticles. In fact, she made me disrobe entirely except for my pretty panties and put on one of those infernal hospital gowns that are open in the rear.

Well, at least my exposed buns were fashionable. Flummoxed, I snuck a second Valium.

They marched me unceremoniously down a cold hallway, with the rear flaps flying open and my pretty panties showing the Muggles how they should dress.

They placed me on a narrow little slab in front of the huge white hole. I laid there feeling ever-so-much like a big white squishy dildo, about to be inserted into the world’s largest turd tunnel. Then they strapped me down to the movable plank.

Now things were getting really serious. I resembled a several hundred-pound strap-on ready for pounding the poop chute.

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to spinal health and strength is fraught with danger and excitement.

As you may know, I was injured in an auto accident last June, which has caused some damage to at least four disks in my neck. After several weeks of physical therapy with a very handsome and “hands on” physical therapist (be still my throbbing heart) my equally stunningly handsome doctor recommended that I get an MRI so he could spy on my spine.

Oh the horror! I’m deathly claustrophobic, and just the mention of being placed into an infernal MRI machine is enough to cause my beehive hair to lose it’s structural integrity and become a limp, soggy massive hair ball large enough to clog any municipal sewer treatment plant. I confessed to Doctor Six Pack my fears and he gave me a prescription for Valium. He instructed me to take one about thirty minutes before the procedure.

So, on the dreadful day, I got up early to prepare. A queen should always present her best self when going to the doctor.

After showering and shaving, I picked out the absolutely cutest panties I could find. After all, you never know what kind of a show you might be putting on. Then I chose my most comfortable bra, and though perhaps looser clothing may have been the wiser way to go, I selected a jungle-print Caftan, which I adorned with matching floral breasticles, complete with blinking flower blossoms, topped off with fiber-optic lighted sunflower interchangeable nipples. After donning my yellow beehive wig with

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