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Ireland legalizes gay marriage in historic vote Ireland became the first country to legalize same-sex marriage by national referendum, a result that highlights the dramatic pace at which this traditionally conservative Catholic nation has changed in recent times.

Just 22 years after decriminalizing homosexuality, 62.1 percent of voters approved the measure changing the nation’s constitution to allow gay marriage, according to official results by Ireland’s referendum commission. National turnout in Friday’s poll was 60.5 percent of 3.2 million eligible voters.

“With today’s vote we have disclosed who we are: a generous, compassionate, bold and joyful people,” Prime Minister Enda Kenny said, welcoming the outcome Saturday.

New law overturns Florida gay adoption ban Florida’s gay adoption ban was overturned June 11 when Gov. Rick Scott signed a bill repealing the discriminatory law enacted back in 1977. The measure is part of a larger bill that provides incentives to community-based care lead agencies and their subcontractors for achieving specific adoption performance standards. The new law goes into effect on July 1.

Before same-sex marriage was legalized in Utah, only Florida and Utah had an adoption ban targeted at gay couples.

Mich. Gov. Signs Discriminatory Adoption Bill Into Law Michigan Gov. Rick Snyder has quickly signed controversial legislation allowing adoption agencies that contract with the state to turn away prospective parents on religious grounds.

The new law takes effect immediately — in advance of the anticipated ruling by the U.S. Supreme Court on Michigan’s same-sex marriage ban.

“The state has made significant progress in finding more forever homes for Michigan kids in recent years and that wouldn’t be possible without the public-private partnerships that facilitate the adoption process,” said Snyder in a statement.

Ugandan Lesbian on the cover of Time: ‘We Are Here to Stay’ In what’s being celebrated as a monumental moment of visibility for Uganda’s belea-

news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.) guered and endangered LGBT community, one of the nation’s leading LGBT activists graces this week’s cover of Time magazine’s Europe edition.

Kasha Jacqueline Nabagesera, an out lesbian and co-founder and editor of Uganda’s first LGBT publication, Bombastic, tells The Advocate she hopes the cover will not only bring awareness to the plight of LGBT Ugandans, but help people around the world realize that LGBT people are their friends, neighbors, and family members.

“It’s a great honor for me to be on the cover because it brings attention to the global LGBT struggle,” Nabagesera tells The Advocate. “Now many people will know about the struggles LGBT people go through in Africa and the world over.

They will realize that the people they hate most are actually the people they love most when they get to read the article.

They could be hating on their beloved family and friend without knowing they are LGBT.”

South Bend, Indiana mayor comes out in newspaper op-ed With the words, “I am gay” published in his city’s newspaper, the mayor of South Bend, Indiana has come out.

Pete Buttigieg, 33, told his constituents on his own terms, by writing an op-ed in the city’s newspaper.

Named “the most interesting mayor you’ve never heard of” by the Washington Post, Buttigieg is a military veteran, and became the youngest mayor of a U.S. city with a population of more than 100,000 when he took office in 2012.

In his op-ed, Buttigieg wrote about

growing up in conservative Indiana and his duty to support city residents — from LGBT people to older conservatives — by being honest about his sexual orientation.

Straight Couple Vows to Divorce in Protest if Australia Wins Marriage Equality While many might say divorce is quickest way to destroy the fabric of marriage, an Australian couple see a bigger threat: gay couples.

In fact, Nick and Sarah Jensen are so concerned about their country’s increasing embrace of same-sex marriage, that this week husband Nick declared a bizarre protest on the cover of lifestyle weekly Canberra CityNews: if marriage equality passes in Australia, the Christian couple say they will be “forced” to divorce but will still refer to each other as “husband” and “wife,” cohabitate, have children, and raise their family together.

Though happily married to “the only woman he’s ever loved” for the past ten years, Jensen declared in his OpEd that he’s determined that ending their legal marriage may just be the only option if the “government’s regulation of marriage ... includes the solemnisation of same sex couples.”

And Jensen says he’s sure that the silent “majority of Australian people” are behind him.

Gay valedictorian disallowed from high school grad speach The principal at Peaks Charter Academy in Boulder, Colo. told Young he could not mention his sexual orientation in his graduation speech. Young, who has a 4.5 GPA and a scholarship to attend Rutgers University, was ultimately barred from making the speech to his graduation class, and was not honored as valedictorian.

The Nightly Show host Larry Wilmore, invited the high school valedictorian from Colorado to appear in his New York City studio to deliver his coming out commencement speech — which made headlines this week when he was forbidden from making it as his graduation.

Although he was never allowed to make his speech to his peers, he was able to make it to a very supportive and public crowd in his hometown, thanks to LGBT organization Out Boulder, and now, on the national stage on Wilmore’s late night comedy show.

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Young Delta, Utah man robbed, had ‘Die Fag’ carved into his arm, forced to drink bleach

BY MICHAEL AARON

A young man in Delta, Utah was robbed, had “Die Fag” carved into his arm with a knife, and was forced to drink bleach on a Saturday night in late April, but it doesn’t stop there.

Five days later, the words “Die Fag” were spray-painted on his and his family’s house.

And this week, a Molotov cocktail was thrown through his window and his house was spray-painted again, this time with “You’ll Die. Burn Fag.” Millard County police are having a hard time finding suspects, because the young man, his family and the pizzeria he and his family own have no enemies. Everyone loves them.

“Working through this has been a roller coaster,” Rick Jones of the six-month-old Grand Central Pizzeria and Grill in Delta, Utah said in an interview.

After business close on Saturday, April 25, Jones was staying late to finish up the paperwork for the Grand Central Station Pizzeria in Delta, Utah. Jones and his sisters and other family own and manage the restaurant.

Damage from a Molotov cocktail that was thrown through the bedroom window of Rick Jones, Delta Utah.

“I went out to take out the trash, and when I came back in, I thought it was strange that I didn’t hear the door close,” he said. “I turned around to shut the door, and someone grabbed me by the head and slammed me to the wall.”

What happens next, Jones is unsure because he had passed out.

“I remember waking up and I was lying on the floor,” he said. “Someone was on my chest and legs and they were trying to

force me to drink bleach.”

He was found unconscious by his sister, who also works at the restaurant and went back to find him when he did not come home. Medical teams were considering life-flighting him to Salt Lake City, but he momentarily regained consciousness. He had lacerations — the words “Die Fag” cut into his arms — and a concussion. They attended to his wounds, held him overnight and released him.

The following Thursday morning, April 30, Jones and his family woke up to the same “Die Fag” words spray-painted on their garage door.

Jones and his family remained quiet about the incidents, hoping that the sheriff’s office would find the perpetrator or perpetrators and also hoping their troubles were over. But a few days after the Utah Pride Festival, he was again victimized by a Molotov cocktail thrown through his bedroom window and, “You’ll Die. Burn Fag” spray-painted inside the restaurant.

Jones was home at the time and was able to put out the flames with a fire extinguisher before too much damage was done.

The family restaurant was also hit by burglary, theft and vandalism that morning.

Millard County Sheriff’s Office sent a press release on June 11 appealing to the community to help find the perpetrators.

“These crimes are the latest in a string of crimes perpetrated against the owners of this local business. The Sheriff’s Office is currently investigating several different leads in these cases. There is a reward available to anyone providing information that leads to the arrest and conviction of the perpetrators of these crimes. Also we would like to encourage all citizens to report any suspicious persons or circumstance to the Sheriff’s Office dispatch immediately.”

Delta is a town in rural Utah of 3,500 people. Much of the economy there is through the Intermountain Power Project, one of the largest coal-fired power plants in America that largely serves California cities. Two mines, alfalfa and dairy farmers round out much of the rest of the economy. Ninety-six percent of the town’s residents are members of the Church of

Rick Jones addresses people who showed up to support him, his family and restaurant. Scott Faucett, right, helped organize the caravan.

Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The family, who has lived in the town for 30 years, is Baptist.

Because of the family’s reluctance to put the story out, and because police wanted to keep many details away from the public, almost no media attention was given to the incidents. The police are also stretched, as they cover 7,000 square miles of land in Millard County.

After third-party tips, however, this reporter was able to find the victim on Facebook and asked a mutual friend to find if he would talk. He agreed, as just the night before, the Molotov cocktail was thrown through the window.

Once the story made it on the QSaltLake website, Michelangelo Signorile tweeted it, causing national attention. By morning, every television news station in the state was sending crews, the New York Times asked for an interview, and politicians headed to Delta.

State Sen. Jim Dabakis drove down to Delta to meet Rick and the family.

NOT IN OUR STATE “Rick is a bright, energetic young man who is coping well with the attacks,” Dabakis said. “I am convinced that Delta is not Mississippi. People here are genuinely appalled and offended by the crimes.”

Lt. Gov. Spencer Cox, who was raised in Mount Pleasant 80 miles from Delta, drove there to assure the family and the county sheriff that the resources of the state would be available to find the perpetrators.

“This will not stand,” Cox said. “I believe that over the coming days we will see an unprecedented outpouring of love and support from every corner of our great state. That is the real Utah.”

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Indeed, a group of about 50 Salt Lakers, organized by community members Edward Lalone, Terry Gillman and Scott Faucett, caravaned to Delta to support the family by eating at the restaurant, tipping generously, and offering words of hope. Local LGBT people also showed, offering free water and hugs to anyone who showed. QSaltLake and Club Try-Angles bought 17 pizzas to sell to those on Salt Lake who couldn’t attend. In all, $600 of tips were given, $440 in pizza slices were sold at Club Try-Angles.

Rick and his family were deeply moved.

“This evening as we were closing up books, we discovered that our sales for the day were twice that of our largest day. It was very emotional for me seeing all of the love and support that has been giving to me and my family. That count is not including the generous donations that people made today at the restaurant. I am overwhelmed with it all and honestly not completely sure what to say. I just want to thank everyone who has put this together and everyone who came out today,” Rick put on his Facebook wall. “I hope that we can all use what has been a sad event, and turn it into a very positive thing.

We need to make sure that we are involved in all aspects of human rights. There are a lot of people out there who need love and support. But, all in all, I just want to send a large thank you to all who have been a support financially, mentally, and emotionally.”

GOFUNDME A GoFundMe campaign started

by Faucett, has raised nearly $12,000 at press time.

The GoFundMe campaign is intended to help “cover deductibles at both the business and residence for the times they have been robbed and vandalized, any items that have not been covered by insurance, HD security cameras and systems at home and their restaurant,” wrote Faucett. “Rick and other family members may be in need of some therapy and counseling and many midterm therapies are not covered by insurance. Since this has happened multiple times, Rick and his family may have to temporarily relocate.”

The Millard County Sheriff’s Dept. has offered a reward for information leading to the arrest and conviction of the perpetrators.

The Utah Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce also announced that they are offering a $5,000 reward that was raised after three hate crimes in two weeks were reported in Salt Lake and Utah counties in 2011.

HATE CRIME Millard County Sheriff Robert Decker said that the case is their top priority. He said that state and federal agencies called the morning the QSaltLake story broke offering support, which the sheriff said he’s happy to get.

He said that Millard County doesn’t generally have biasmotivated crimes.

“This is unusual,” Dekker said. “This is the only problem we’ve had of this kind in Millard County, a hate-crime kind of thing.”

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LGBT ally Salt Lake City Police Chief Burbank forced from office Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker asked for and received Salt Lake City Police Chief Chris Burbank’s resignation over his handling of a sexual harassment case involving three women. Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans* community feels they have lost an ally.

Burbank was known for his calm demeanor in the face of turbulence. While police chiefs in other jurisdictions would send officers in riot gear to keep the public peace, Burbank showed up personally and spoke one-on-one with those involved.

Across the nation, cities are dealing with police departments with which their citizens feel at odds, but in Salt Lake there has been mutual praise between police and protesters.

Salt Lake Tribune declared Burbank “Utahn of the Year” in 2011 in part for his handling of the Occupy Salt Lake and Tim DeChristopher protests.

“He was friendly. He was chatty,” Deb Henry, a civil engineer and activist who lives in Sugar House and was involved in both the DeChristopher protest and Occupy SLC, told the Tribune. “He helped us to play it out in the way we wanted to happen.”

Henry posted on Facebook today that she felt Burbank was a “sacrificial lamb and this is a political move by Mayor Becker in an election year.”

Burbank was hired in 2006 by thenMayor Rocky Anderson to replace six-year police chief Rick Dinse.

Since then, he has been a regular at Utah Pride Parades and Festivals, personally showed up at Club Sound to talk to potential witnesses and press after a reported hate crime had happened nearby, and put officer Eric Moutsos on paid administrative leave after he refused an assignment in the police brigade at the beginning of the Utah Pride Parade. Moutsos, who also happened to be the officer who arrested two men for kissing in the public rightof-way on Temple Square, later resigned.

He is now with the ultra-conservative

Former Salt Lake City Police Chief Chris Burbank hands out stickers at the Utah Pride parade in June, 2015

Sutherland Institute and spoke against the compromise that allowed for the Utah nondiscrimination law to be passed.

Burbank also spoke, at times with his voice breaking, at a candlelight vigil in Liberty Park in response to reports of three anti-gay assaults in the city.

“Chief Burbank spoke about his best friend who had died. It was really moving for everyone,” said vigil organizer Marian Edmund Allen, “He worked hard to keep the lines of communication open with everyone. I was impressed then, and since then with my interactions with him about LGBT homeless youth. He is a good man.”

Activist Eric Ethington, who held several rallies after Proposition 8, called Burbank respectful.

“I was always impressed with Mr. Burbank’s commitment to the LGBTQ community’s rights, and more specifically our right to free speech,” Ethington said.

“On principle, I never applied for a permit to hold a rally in Salt Lake City, but Chief Burbank and his officers always stepped up in a respectful manner to ensure the safety of participants and onlookers, and I never once heard a complaint of harassment or abuse towards ralliers.”

Connie Anast-Inman, executive director of Transgender Education Advocates of Utah, lauded Burbank for involvement in the Trans* community.

“I think he wanted to make Salt Lake safer for everyone,” she said. “He didn’t hesitate to join us for Transgender Day of Remembrance in 2013, when many in law

enforcement leadership were absent.”

Facebook comments from the LGBT community were invariably in appreciation of Burbank.

“Our LGBTQ community loses a wonderful ally,” wrote Michael Sanders, organizer of blackBOOTS and former board member of Utah SAGE. “I hope the new chief understands and respects our community as well as Chris Burbank.”

“I am so sad about this,” wrote Erin Hamilton. “The best police chief ever!”

“This is tragic for our community,” wrote R. Victor Saldivar.

Those involved in women’s issues were not so glowing in their appraisal of the chief.

“I agree Chief Burbank stood tall on issues related to discrimination and violence against members of the LGBT community.

But he has a dismal record on what still can be legitimately labeled as women’s issues,” wrote Holly Mullen, executive director of the Rape Recovery Center. “I worked for nearly a year to help convince him — as did many advocates who deal with sexual assault survivors — that his department’s general treatment of rape victims is unacceptable. He had a huge blind spot in this regard, letting more than rape kits pile up in police evidence over the past decade.

He dug in his heels throughout that time, refused to turn the kits over for testing and only relented when political pressure came to bear on him. He has cultivated a hostile environment against women in his police department, and it carried over (and PHOTO - ALEX GALLIVAN FOR THE UTAH PRIDE CENTER

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“Salt Lake residents may find it significant that this mayor is acting only after the nature, severity, and disposition of the allegations of sexual harassment have become public in press reports,” Biskupski continued.

Another Salt Lake City mayoral candidate, Luke Garrott, called Burbank a scapegoat during the political season.

“The departure of Chris Burbank from the Salt Lake City Police Department comes at the end of a series of poor decisions made by both the former police chief and Mayor Ralph Becker,” Garrott said.

“As I have said from the outset, I am concerned by the timeline by which sexual harassment claims have been handled, and believe that it sets a dangerous precedent for women who work for Salt Lake City. Q

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Openly lesbian mayoral candidate Jackie Biskupski released a statement calling Burbank’s departure “unfortunate but necessary.”

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Men in jail after 13-year-old poses as 18 on Grindr in Layton, Utah Two men who agreed to meet someone they thought was an 18-year-old man traveling with his parents are in Davis County Jail after finding the blank profile was actually a 13-year-old boy.

Police say that the 13-year-old downloaded the Grindr app onto his smart phone, posed as an 18-year-old and began interacting with men, including Dakota Freeman, 20, of Clearfield and David Ellis, 28. Grindr is an Android and iOS-based app that calls itself the “largest and most popular all-male location-based social network” with a requirement that users be 18 years of age. Most men using the service are seeking sexual relations with other men, though some are seeking longer-term relationships.

Freeman showed up at the Layton Holiday Inn Express hotel, went through the lobby, and met the boy at the door of the room. The boy sneaked Freeman into the room where his parents were sleeping and into the bathroom near the door. Police

Holiday Inn Express room layout, showing proximity of the door to the restroom.

say the pair had sexual relations. The boy’s father woke up to the light and noises in the bathroom and knocked on the door.

The boy responded he was alright and the father returned to his bed. He awoke again, however, as Freeman left the room.

The father took the boy’s cellphone and learned his son was contacting other men and called police.

By the time police arrived, Freeman was well away from the hotel, but Ellis approached the room, apparently looking for the boy, and was arrested.

A jail report shows that Ellis told police

Dakota Freeman, accused of sodomy on a 13-yearold boy who presented himself as 18 on Grindr

he and the boy exchanged nude photos using the app after the boy invited him to come to the hotel where he was was staying with his parents. Ellis reportedly asked the boy whether he was looking for sex or drugs and the boy answered sex.

Freeman was booked into Davis County Jail for investigation of sodomy upon a child based on the boy’s statements to police of what happened in the bathroom.

He was being held on $100,000 bail, but on June 15 bail was reduced to $50,000 by Judge John Morris.

A person is guilty of sodomy upon a child if he engages in any sexual act upon or with a child who is under the age of 14.

It is a first degree felony punishable by a mandatory term of imprisonment of not less than 25 years.

Ellis was booked for investigation of sexual exploitation of a minor and dealing in materials harmful to a minor, though he never met the boy face-to-face. He is being held on $15,000 bail.

To be convicted of the offense of dealing materials harmful to a minor, a person must, “knowing or believing that a person is a minor, or having negligently failed to determine the proper age of a minor,” intentionally distribute or exhibit material harmful to minors. Each separate offense is a third degree felony punishable by a minimum mandatory fine of not less than $1,000, plus $10 for each article exhibited up to the maximum allowed by law; and incarceration, without suspension of sentence, for a term of not less than 14 days.

To be guilty of sexual exploitation of a minor, attorneys will have to prove that Ellis knowingly possessed child pornography.

Sexual exploitation of a minor is a second

David Ellis, accused of distributing materials harmful to a minor

degree felony, with each separate image being a separate offense, with a possible sentence of one to 15 years in prison and up to $10,000 for each offense.

Neither man has a significant criminal record.

One of Freeman’s friends says this is not what he is like.

“I do not think Dakota would ever knowingly participate in anything like that,” said Troy Smiley. “I think that Dakota is a victim of a child’s insecurity and bad parenting. I don’t care how you spin it, how are you going to not notice your 13-year-old son bringing adults into a hotel room. Dakota is a great kid I don’t think he would ever do anything so depraved.”

A former co-worker of Ellis called him a very nice guy and always polite.

“I honestly can’t see David as someone who would knowingly set this up or participate in,” Jefferson Harrison said.

“I have mixed feelings about the charges, but that being said, I feel neither party is totally innocent. I cant help but wonder though, where is the punishment for the individual who set up a false profile and lured adults into the situation? Does he get off with a slap on the wrist and his phone taken away? Doesn’t he need to be as severely punished? I truly feel bad that this situation happened, but it’s just one more reminder that we need to be very wary of hookup apps and the predicaments they can cause.”

Police said the case is still under investigation and there could be more arrests as they are looking at the boy’s cellphone to see who else might have met with or interacted with the boy.

Police also said the 13-year-old is still

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under investigation for his role, but has not been arrested and is with his parents.

The police did not question why the parents did not have parental controls on the smart phone. Police could also not answer how a 13-year-old can allow someone into the hotel room without the parents’ knowledge, why Ellis was arrested, even though he never saw the kid to determine he was under age, nor what signs the parents missed that their 13-year-old would have the wherewithal to know there was a gay sex app, what its name was, how to use it and how to lure men to his room.

Grindr’s terms of service require anyone using the phone app be 18 years of age, older in jurisdictions where the age of consent is over 18.

1. Age restriction. The grindr services are available for individuals aged 18 years or older.

1. Age restricted access. No persons under the age of eighteen (18) years (twenty-one (21) years in places where eighteen (18) years is not the age of majority) may directly or indirectly view, possess or otherwise use the grindr services.

2. Affirmation of current adult status.

You hereby affirm and warrant that you are currently over the age of eighteen (18) years (twenty-one (21) years in places where eighteen (18) years is not the age of majority) and you are capable of lawfully entering into and performing all the obligations set forth in this agreement.

Minors, however, can simply lie when asked for their age.

Grindr’s terms of service also restrict the use of the app for illegal purposes, like soliciting or selling drugs.

2. You understand and hereby acknowledge and agree that you will not engage in the prohibited conduct & uses listed below: 5. use the Grindr Services for any illegal purpose, or in violation of any local, state, national, or international law...

A recent court case reaffirmed that online services aren’t liable for third party content. In that case, a minor represented to Grindr that he was over 18. Under a federal law, called Section 230, Grindr is not liable for the information it receives from

a user, even if they are a minor, and users wanting to sue the service for problems they encounter, like arrest, will not prevail.

Another case from 2007 involving the website SexSearch dealt with a virtually identical situation. An underage user signed up for an account and represented she was over 18; a male met her offline for “consensual” sex; and then he was prosecuted for felony statutory rape. The court held that SexSearch was protected

by Section 230 for the underage user’s misrepresentations about her age when the male sued.

Congress passed laws in the 90s that required sites to keep minors from using their services. The Communications Decency Act the Child Online Protection Act were both subsequently declared unconstitutional. Efforts at “age-gating,” such as requiring a credit card authorization to prove age of consent, have also fallen short as it is easy to get around the restrictions, such as using gift cards.

Grindr has a procedure to report underaged users: 1. Favorite the user. He’ll appear in your main view even when he’s not nearby or online.

2. Describe his profile. Include his name or any details from the About section.

3. Take a screenshot. Our Review team can use this to quickly locate him.

4. Send your Grindr Account Email Address. This will help us find your profile.

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Layton City Police Lt. Travis Lyman defends the parents by saying it is difficult to keep children from downloading adult apps.

“Ten years ago parents could download software on their computers to control access for and to their kids,” said Lyman.

“Now there are so many types of mobile devices kids use that it is difficult to monitor.”

According to the Apple website, control of iPads, iPhones and iPods is as easy as turning on the parental restrictions. Parents can control a child’s ability to install apps, access certain type of content, and even the ability to change settings and accounts.

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TEA of Utah executive director resigns, Candice Metzler steps in Connie Anast-Inman, who has been the executive director of Transgender Equality Advocates of Utah since 2011, has stepped down from her position as executive director.

AnastInman was the group’s second executive director its longest running leader.

She cites ongoing health issues as her primary reason for leaving the role.

“I don’t make this decision lightly,“ said Anast-Inman. “I have devoted a great part of the last five years to TEA – it’s programs, activities, advocacy, education and the trans com-

munity. I love my trans* family.

I am proud of what we, as a non-profit, have accomplished and where TEA is poised to go in the next few years. I am even more proud of the leader who is stepping into my role as executive director.”

The role will be taken over

by Candice Metzler, who has served as the group’s board president since April, 2011.

Metzler is a PhD candidate, having completed a Masters of Social Work. A mother of two sons, she has been honored with several awards and sits on the board of Equality Utah. She enjoys the outdoors, hiking, river rafting and being with family and friends.

Anast-Inman’s wife Lindi, who has served the last four years as TEA’s board treasurer, also stepped down.

Together, the couple are

looking to the next non-profit project in Utah.

“Lindi has always had a special affinity for helping children, animals, the homeless and hunger programs,” said AnastInman. “I think we will most likely get involved with feeding people and making our communities safer places for kids. And we will always be fighting for social justice and equality.”

In the four years under Anast-Inman’s reign, TEA grew from three board members to 10, incoming donations increased five-fold, and TEA’s reach has grown considerably.

TEA partnered with the Utah Driver License Division on a training video to teach transgender sensitivity to employees and has been invited to educate Utah lawmakers, teachers, church leaders and businesses across the state on important transgender issues. TEA brought about the first job fair in Utah catering to LGBTQI* job seekers, featuring employers who

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Anast-Inman will continue working with TEA of Utah in an advisory and support capacity while continuing her career as a wedding officiant and public speaker. Board vice president Alex P. Miller will step up as board president. Other vacant positions will be filled over the course of the next few months, as TEA has an open invitation for anyone who wishes to apply.

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can enjoy bingo, the fresh air, and semi-naked athletes playing in the grass. The queens will fire up a grill and party in the Fabian Lake Pavilion right beside the lake.

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This is a firework game, so stay after the game for some extra fun!

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“Love Within Reach” is the theme of the inaugural event, and reality TV star of “The Biggest Loser,” Jackson Carter will be the “face” of 2015 Pride.

Entertainment, food, nonalcoholic beverages, vendors and activities for all ages will celebrate what organizers call the “progress and openness in Northern Utah.”

“We proudly follow in the footsteps of the Utah Pride Festival, which has become one of the foremost and largest pride festivals in the country,” said board member Gage Church. “We also have looked

to the Provo Pride Festival, which has grown in each of its five years, for advice and ideas about starting an event of our own in Northern Utah. With Provo as our model, we will begin modestly and expand with time and experience.”

Ogden Pride is a project of the Northern Utah Coalition.

Contributions can be made by check to “Ogden Pride” or electronically at their website, ogdenpride.org.

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You make me a better person and inspire me to try new things such as write my first children’s book. Above all, my beautiful sons, your love gave me the strength to live an honest life.

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and adored by me and our family and friends, it is that you can be YOURSELF. Don’t ever let anyone or anything make you feel like you can’t be your true self.

Whatever you decide to be or do, I will always be by your side. Please take strength and comfort in that knowledge and never forget it.

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first person

June, 2015 Does

BY MICHAEL AARON

anyone else feel like Pride Month, 2015 has been a roller coaster ride?

The first of June, we find out that the God Loves Gays billboards are presenting themselves in front of God and everyone in Utah County. I listened to KSL traffic reports, but didn’t hear of any delays, accidents or deaths that happened in that stretch of I-15.

Then I was heads-down for days getting ready for the Utah Pride Festival and Parade. I checked weather.com every 20 minutes to see what was going to happen that weekend and, every 20 minutes I got a new answer.

Then Pride was here. We had a beautiful Friday night at the Grand Marshal Reception and the opening ceremonies. The promised “rainbow display” was not a disappointment as a million square yards of fabric was thrown over the Salt Lake City Library arch in all the colors of he rainbow. Fire was spun, cannabis was wafting through the air, and a bicycle courier took three of us the whole two blocks to our car for just five bucks.

Then, there was Saturday.

Up early to set up the booth.

Listening to Jimmy PLEAD with people to move their cars, and watching (and helping a bit) the volunteers scramble to get the final touches taken care of before the gates opened.

A typical and wonderful beginning to Utah Pride.

And then, the downpour.

Not just rain. Not sprinkles.

A Texas-sized torrential rain.

For 20 minutes. We scrambled to consolidate everything in the booth so we could fit as many people as possible in our booth for escape. We waited for it to stop. And waited. And, yes, waited. I heard Jesse Nix ride by on

his bicycle, exclaiming, “there goes our beverage sales.” It let up a bit, but then turned to that whole thunder and lightning thing, forcing organizers to shut down the stage.

But then there was Sunday.

What a beautiful day! More sun than any city should have in a day, yet not stifling hot.

Thousands lined Second South for the parade, jubilantly waving and cheering at anything and anyone who needed waved and cheered at. The festival went off without a hitch, but for a lack of ones that caused long lines. The money pitched into the flag was never counted so fast so the ones could make it to the entrances. (You should have read QSaltLake to know that you could have gotten in through The Leonardo.)

Then, my keys were lost, but found in Harry-It Winston’s truck. Had to call in a favor and sexual favors to get her to bring them back to me. Luckily, she’s quite the lady. But the steak a Try-Angles, with the sweetest corn I’ve ever tasted, made up for all that.

Then, Monday morning, we wake up to a story of two men, thinking they were meeting up with an 18-year-old for some down-home nookie find out they were meeting a junior high student instead. With dad five feet away. Then worse, I finally find a rumored victim of a hate crime and the story is worse than I thought.

But then, our community rallies to their aid, driving over two hours to buy lots of food and leave big tips.

Funny thing about roller coasters. They always leave you right where you started. And hopefully that was a good place.

And the ride was fun. Q

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BY PETER STOKER

Skin cancer

is the most common form of cancer in the United States. More than 3.5 million cases of basal and squamous cell skin cancer are diagnosed each year, while more than 76,000 people are diagnosed with melanoma, the deadliest form of skin cancer.

Many people, especially in the American culture, think tanned skin is healthy and pale skin is unhealthy. We encourage others and ourselves to ‘go tanning’ in order to be attractive or look healthy. And to be fair-skinned means that you are unattractive or unhealthy.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states: A BASE TAN IS NOT A SAFE TAN A tan is the body’s response to

injury from ultra violet rays, showing damage that has been done.

A “base tan” only provides a sun protection factor of about three or less, which does little to protect you from future UV exposure.

TANNED SKIN IS NOT HEALTHY SKIN You are exposing yourself to harmful UV rays that damage your skin. In fact, every time you tan, you increase your risk of melanoma.

The truly healthy glow is your natural skin color.

Controlled tanning is not safe tanning.

Sensible indoor tanning is a myth. Indoor tanning exposes you to intense UV rays, increasing your risk of melanoma.

Take these steps to stay sun-safe:

COVER UP When you are out in the sun, wear clothing and a widebrimmed hat to protect as much skin as possible.

Protect your eyes with sunglasses that block at least 99 percent of UV light.

Be aware that covering up doesn’t block out all UV rays.

If you can see light through a fabric, UV rays can get through.

Use a broad-spectrum sunscreen with SPF of at least 30: Be sure to reapply at least every two hours, as well as after swimming or sweating.

Water resistant doesn’t mean waterproof.

It’s important to know that sunscreen is just a filter – it does not block all UV rays.

Sunscreen shouldn’t be used to prolong your time in the sun.

SEEK SHADE Limit your direct exposure to the sun, especially between the hours of 10 a.m. and 4 p.m., when UV rays are strongest.

A hat with at least a two- to

three-inch brim all around is ideal because it protects areas that are often exposed to intense sun, such as the ears, eyes, forehead, nose and scalp.

AVOID TANNING BEDS AND SUNLAMPS Both can cause serious longterm skin damage and contribute to skin cancer.

Tanning bed use has been linked with an increased risk of melanoma, especially if it’s started before a person is 30.

It’s natural to want to get out in the sun when the days get longer and the temperature gets warmer. Protection from UV radiation is important yearlong, not just during the summer. UV rays from the sun can reach you on cloudy and hazy days as well as bright and sunny days. UV rays also reflect off surfaces like water, cement, sand and snow.

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who’s your daddy?

Butts, boobs and art

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

There are

two talents I wish I possessed: The first is musical ability and the second is artistic ability. I accepted the former way back in 7th grade when, after slaughtering “Clair du Lune” on my viola in orchestra, my dear friend Aimz explained to me that I am tone deaf. The latter came a few years later when I recognized that no matter how much effort I put into drawing and painting, everything looked like sad, floppy flowers.

My lack of talent doesn’t prevent me from enjoying music and art, nor from

trying to introduce my kids to these pursuits. They’ve

taken art classes in the past, and Gus in particular has shown some natural talent.

Niko actually sat through most of The Barber of Seville with me when it aired recently on PBS. I’m trying to instill in both of them that art museums are amazingly fun places. Apparently I labor under the belief my two straight little boys are a couple of old women visiting the Met. They prefer to race through the art museums we’ve visited looking for gore-filled paintings. I blame Kelly; he could tour the Louvre in 15

minutes flat. Rather ironic for a man whose mother was a recognized landscape artist and exhibited in museums around the Mountain West.

My first trip with the boys to the Utah Museum of Fine Arts at the University of Utah almost caused me to abandon all hope that they could possibly become connoisseurs of visual beauty.

In fact, these several years later, I remain amazed we weren’t tossed out on our heads.

Actually, our trip started harmlessly enough. The boys were still quite young, so I knew it was useless to try to engage them in a discussion about the play of light or composition of various pieces of work. However, when we came to the modern, experimental section of the museum, Gus took a look at a sculpture consisting of FedEx boxes and correspondingly-sized shattered Plexiglas squares, and observed, “That’s just a bunch of boxes and broken glass. How is it art?” A pretty perceptive question for an 8-year-old, I thought.

Our issues began as we left the hall containing masks, boats and fetishes from the Pacific region. I had managed to dodge having to explain several ginormous phalluses on various pieces from Papua New Guinea, so I was lulled into a false sense of security. But as

we rounded the corner and entered the section featuring works from South Asia, Niko came face to butt with a dancing Shiva. He looked at the statuette’s derriere and burst into uncontrollable laughter.

Gus followed suit.

A few matronly-looking women glanced over at the dad alone with two howlingwith-laughter kids and smiled politely as if to say, “what did you expect?” For my part, I hustled the boys into the hall featuring Dutch and Flemish paintings in an attempt to squelch the giggles.

But I was doomed: the first painting we stumbled across was “The Virgin Nursing the Christ Child” from the school of Peter Paul Reubens. Niko

took one look at the painting and shouted, “Boobie!”

That in turn caused Gus to screech with laughter.

My efforts to gain control of the situation by admonishing my boys for laughing at the Holy Virgin Mary didn’t help at all. Now they were bent over guffawing.

The situation has improved dramatically since our first visit. Both boys are now looking a bit deeper at the art they see. But a certain painting of the Baby Jesus getting a squirt of milk still sends them into fits of giggles. Hey, at least they’re having fun! Q

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creep of the week

Mike Huckabee

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

I confess.

Once upon a time I thought Mike Huckabee seemed like a nice guy.

Granted I disagreed with him on just about every issue imaginable. I thought he was misinformed, kind of crazy, totally wrong on all issues LGBT, but still he seemed like he wasn’t a bad person.

That was years ago. The Mike Huckabee of today? He’s doing a fine job proving that he is, in fact, terrible. Whether he’s changed over the years or has been terrible all alone, I don’t know. All I know is

that Huckabee has apparently caught on that only openly hateful Republicans have a chance in this country.

Case in point: a “joke” he made earlier this year while speaking at the National Religious Broadcasters Convention at the expense of transgender folks.

He set up the “joke” with the premise that trannies lurk in bathrooms, presumably to molest kids.

“We are now, in city after city, watching ordinances say that your 7-year-old daughter, if she goes into the restroom, cannot be offended and you can’t be offended if she’s greeted there by a 42-year-old man who feels more like a woman than he does a man,” Huckabee says, apparently under the belief that the word “transgender” means a fleeting feeling that comes and goes from day to day depending on whether you want to watch 7-year-olds pee or not.

And then comes Huckabee’s big punch line: “Now I wish

that someone told me when I was in high school that I could have felt like a woman when it came time to take showers in PE. I’m pretty sure that I would have found my feminine side and said, ‘Coach, I think I’d rather shower with the girls today.’”

Ha ha times infinity. Are you laughing so hard right now?

Because the audience totally was.

“You’re laughing because it sounds so ridiculous, doesn’t it?” he says to the audience.

Um, no. That’s not why they’re laughing. They’re laughing because they’re idiots.

Because as far as Huckabee’s joke construction goes, this is not a “can you even imagine it” kind of joke. Huckabee isn’t presenting some hypothetical example; he’s basically using his ignorance of the transgender experience to tell us how desperate he was to see titties in high school. Granted, teenage boys wanting to see naked girls is not new or novel.

But remember that Huckabee set up his bit explaining that transgender folks were sex-crime perverts. And then he essentially says, “Man, I wish I could have gotten away with being a sex-crime pervert in high school.” Granted, he might not consciously mean that. But that’s what his little comedy bit translates to.

In case you were wondering, Huckabee stands by the “joke.”

“I take nothing back from that speech,” he told rightwing radio host Steve Deace on June 5. “I’m giving a common sense answer to the insanity that’s going on out there. Be-

cause I hear people, everybody wants to be politically correct, everybody wants to be loved by the media and loved by the left and loved by the elitists.

But, you know, I know I’m not going to be, so let’s just get it over with.”

Yes. Let’s just get the Mr. Nice Guy thing over with.

Why be “politically cor-

rect” loved by people who use critical thinking skills when you can pander to the most hateful, delusional and ignorant voters in America. Hey, you’ve gotta please that GOP base. Q D’Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer, teacher, wife, and mother When she’s not looking for creeps, she teaches writing.

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Stonewall: a great and glorious weekend

BY BEN WILLIAMS

On the

last weekend in June 1969, events on NYC’s Christopher Street led to the creation of the Gay Liberation Front. By Oct. 10, 1969, a Gay Liberation Front had even formed in Salt Lake City as well as other cities on both coasts. It was kind of a big deal.

In the evening of Saturday, June 28, a second night of rioting broke out when a crowd of street kids, homeless gay youth, once again gathered outside the now boarded up Stonewall Inn. They came to protest the previous night’s police raid.

The riot that broke out from the routine raid on the bar had caught the city’s police by surprise, who were on the defense against a hostile and frustrated community. However, the police’s Tactical Force units poured into Sheridan Square to route angry protesters who were starting fires, throwing bottles and shouting “legalize gay bars.” As crazy as it may seem under New York state laws it was illegal to serve alcohol to a homosexual.

The Saturday night battle between the police and protesters lasted nearly two hours and was half-serious and half-campy. At one point a group of gay

men formed a chorus line and began doing a can-can routine down the street while singing “We are the Stonewall Girls,” until the police armed with “billy clubs” and night sticks charged and dispersed them.

On Sunday the largest homophile organization on the east coast, the New York Mattachine Society, held a meeting to calm down the community. They hoped to channel the volatile mood of the street kids into a constructive response. Unfortunately, the Mattachine leaders were completely out of touch with the idealism and anti-establishment fervor of the 1960s.

Some young people attended, but felt that the Mattachine was more concerned with the image of vandalism than social injustice.

On Monday, the last day of June 1969, many in the village felt that some of the police were deliberately trying to provoke the homosexuals milling around Sheridan

Square. One police officer goaded a

man saying “start something faggot, just start something.” Another cop kept

shouting at the increasingly angry young people, “I’d like to break your ass wide open.” After saying that to several dozen people, one smart ass turned and said to him, “What a Freudian comment, officer!”

The cop furiously started swinging his baton, scattering the onlookers who would scatter like pigeons and then regroup.

Two cops in a cruise car started yelling obscenities at the people, obviously trying to start a fight. Another street officer stood on the corner of Christopher and Waverly, swinging his night stick as he made cracks at passersby. A “wildly fem” drag queen sneaked up behind him and dropped a lit firecracker between his feet.

It went off and he jumped into the air.

On Wednesday, July 2, the police were summoned for a third time to quell a hostile crowd of nearly 500 protesters chanting Gay Pride slogans and marching up and down Christopher Street. According to one eyewitness, the police armed with nightsticks, seemed bent on a massive retaliation. As gay demonstrators shouted “Gay Power,” the New York Tactical Force went on the offensive. They beat the demonstrators with nightsticks, leaving many bleeding in the street and some unconscious on the sidewalk.

The Village Voice wrote, referring to the police’s action, “Some seemed quite ready to depopulate Christopher Street the moment anyone would give them permission to unholster their guns.” At one point, 7th Avenue from Christopher Street to West 10th looked like a battlefield in Vietnam as the tactical force beat down the young people with clubs.

As the battle continued into the evening the composition of the street action had changed. The gays were almost outnumbered by the “Black Panthers, Yippies, Crazies, and young toughs from street gangs all over the city and some from New Jersey” who came to the Village to exploit the situation for their own ends. Looting from these outsiders

ensued. Observers in the know doubted the looting was done by gay people.

The news of the police brutality against the demonstrators horrified the leaders of the Mattachine Society and next day their newsletter had a defiant, rather than a reconciliatory tone. It stated, “We didn’t know what it was like not to be mistreated, expected to be mistreated, and accepted harassment when it came. Now we’ve walked in the open and know how pleasant it is to have self respect and to be treated as citizens and human beings. There’s no possible way to make us accept the ‘old way’ again. The homosexual community has

tired of the old ‘We Walk In Shadows’ routine. We want to stay in the sunlight

from now on. Efforts to force us back into the closet could be disastrous for all concerned.”

On July 4, about 40 New York gays boarded a Homophile Youth Movement (HYMN) charter bus to go to Philadelphia for the Annual Reminder. Sponsored by the Eastern Regional Conference of Homophile Organizations (ERCHO), the demonstration was celebrating its fifth birthday of picketing in front of Independence Hall. These New York gays brought with them a new militant self respect from the actions on Christopher Street.

It became apparent at the Annual Reminder that there was a “generation gap” between the older homophiles and the younger, new militant gays. When Frank Kameny, founder of the Mattachine Society of Washington DC and organizer of the Annual Reminder, saw two New York lesbians holding hands he ran over to them and slapped their hands shouting “You can’t do that! You can’t do that!”

“Freaked out” out by Kameny’s nonconfrontational attitude, the New York group “caucused” and then wrote on their picket signs “Equality For HomosexualsSmash Sexual Facism!!” Kameny was livid and appalled. After several hours of picketing, with many of the young gays walking hand-in-hand, the Annual Reminder disbanded for the last time. Eventually the

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Annual Reminder was replaced with the directive to celebrate the Christopher Street rebellion as the focus of an annual reminder to be held in June rather than in Philadelphia on July 4.

On July 9 Dick Leisch, founder of the the Mattachine Society of New York, and Michael Kotis, its president, organized a “Homosexual Liberation Meeting Committee.” Kotis said “right after the riots people wanted to do something…they wanted to get involved and overcome the difficulties, the oppression, the injustice.” The committee had no elected officers but Michael Brown and Martha Shelley were the acknowledged leaders.

The committee met at Freedom House, the monthly site of the Mattachine’s town meetings.

Minutes from that first meeting called for a “Gay Power” demonstration to protest police harassment but it became apparent from the start that two factions were developing. One

group wanted the committee to align with all oppressed minorities such as Blacks and women. Others wanted the committee’s goal to be law reform for homosexuals. When Michael Brown suggested joining the Black Panthers’ demonstration at the Women’s House of Detention, the Mattachine Society cut off its association with the committee. It was Mattachine policy to only be involved with issues related to homosexual liberation.

Later on July 10, 1969, the Village Voice printed a letter by Lavan Lisco entitled “Scared No More.” In it he stated, “The Stonewall raid was not the only reason for incidents occurring on the great and glorious weekend. In the last three weeks five gay bars in the village area that I know of have been hit by the police… .” His sentiments were soon shared that the Stonewall Uprising was a “great and glorious weekend” for all of us. Q

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“I Want to Stay and Help Make Change”: Amy Ray on Indigo Girls’ New Release

Coming

to Layton Utah as part of the Davis County Arts Council’s summer of music, the Indigo Girls are relasing a new album, One Lost Day. Those who buy tickets to the Layton show will be a free download of the album.

On their new release, Amy Ray and Emily Saliers take listeners to rural towns with expansive skies and throttled dreams. Flavored with Tom Petty-esque riffs and enfolded in heartland poetry and stately balladry, the songs feature the simmering politics of race and poverty. There are a fair number of mortalities—a dying marriage, the death of childhood innocence, and the passing of a family elder. The feel is mercurial, unsettled, as if to say that after more than three decades of socially conscious musicianship, Saliers and Ray, who began performing folkrock as high-schoolers in Decatur, Georgia, are still pricked and prodded by inequity in its various incarnations.

Ray, 51, has historically been a conscience of the communities she moves in. “Well, I don’t want to be, but I can’t help myself,” she said, laughing.

She spoke to me a few weeks before the independent release of Indigo Girls’ CD on June 2—their 14th studio recording. Ray called from Georgia, where she lives in the northeast foothills, a half-hour before the interview was scheduled to begin. “I am totally being neurotic,” she said, mindful that she would be high-tailing it to pick up her 1½-year-old daughter immediately after the call. Ray shares parental duties with her partner of 13 years, Carrie Schrader, a teacher at North Georgia College and a filmmaker.

Hoping Georgia will be another domino in the states that have tipped in favor of marriage equality, Ray said, “I’m holding out, because I don’t want to get married anywhere else.”

Such casual conversation about same-sex weddings is far removed from the climate Indigo Girls experienced as out lesbians in the ’90s. In 1998, administrators canceled an entire tour of free concerts at high schools around the South, simply because of their sexuality.

The pair has arguably paved the way for out mainstream musicians such as Tegan and Sara and Brandi Carlile; just as Indigo Girls benefited in an incremental way from women’s music movement forerunners such as Holly Near and Meg Christian.

Over time, the Indigo Girls audience has largely reverted to its core of queer fans.

They circled the wagons after Ray and Saliers were persistently branded a “lesbian folk duo” in the music press after they came out in 1994. But Ray isn’t bitter about being pigeonholed. “The only thing I’d change, maybe, is doing it earlier,” she said. “We weren’t being superstrategic. It was just my and Emily’s personal journey.”

A Grammy-winning act that has sold millions of records, Ray and Saliers still sell out theaters such as Radio City in New York and El Rey in Los Angeles. They also perennially attract the graying hacky sack crowd, college-age kids in tow, at summer folk festivals. Few acts have toured and recorded as consistently or for as long as Ray and Saliers.

As to how they built and now maintain their listener base, Ray said, “When we

started out, we weren’t great, but we got better as we went along. We were so young, and our crowd grew up with us. There was a moment in time when that was still allowed to happen,” she said, adding of our current era of single downloads versus fully formed vinyl projects, “It’s really hard to get a core audience like that anymore.”

As of this writing, Indigo Girls have 174,425 friends on Facebook, not bad for an act that hasn’t charted since 2006, when they recorded “Dear Mr. President” with Pink on her I’m Not Dead disc. The duo are currently inviting fans to record themselves singing a pre-release song from One Lost Day, “Happy in the Sorrow Key,” for inclusion in a formal music video. Ray and Saliers are also rolling out “behind-the-scenes” webisodes. Each installment features a song from the new release with background on how it took shape.

When she’s not on tour promoting a new CD, Ray sticks close to home, although it isn’t a simple thing being a two-mom family in rural Georgia, where she’s lived for 21 years. She points out, for example, that schoolteachers who reveal they are gay can have a hard time keeping their jobs. A lot of gay kids, she said, are still tormented by other kids and by the adults in their families.

“I have friends who don’t even agree with my lifestyle. It took a long time for [my parents] to come around,” she told me. “That’s how I feel about where I live. I don’t want to leave it because it’s hard. I want to stay and help make change.” Q The Indigo Girls will be perfoeming July 14 at the Edward A. Kenley Centennial Amphitheater - Layton, UT. Opener: Caroline Aiken. Tickets at tickets.davisars.org

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2015 Damn These Heels L G B T F I L M F E S T I V A L

The Utah

Film Center once again brings to Salt Lake City the Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival. In its 12th year, the festival will take place July 10–12 at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center.

The festival is a weekend-long celebration of independent, documentary and foreign feature-length films from around the world that explore LGBT issues, ideas and art. This year, Damn These Heels opens on July 10 with THE NEW GIRLFRIEND, a French psychosexual, trans, genre-bending film from acclaimed director François Ozon (In the House, Potiche, Under the Sand, Swimming Pool). The festival closes on July 12 with BOULEVARD by Dito Montiel (Sundance Award Winner, A Guide Recognizing Your Saints), which is a much anticipated film, featuring a standout performance by Robin Williams in one of his last roles.

Opening Night, Closing Night and First Round of Films July 10-12 | Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center

Opening Night Film

A diverse programming committee comprised of seven community members and five Utah Film Center staff has thus far received confirmation from eight films invited to the festival. In addition to the Opening and Closing Night dramas, two other dramas and four documentaries will be part of the 2015 Damn These Heels lineup. Upon confirmation from the other invited films, Utah Film Center will announce the entire festival lineup.

“The programming committee considered over 100 films to put together a compelling program that features a broad selection of films that will resonate with every member of the community, whether people identify themselves as LGBT, allies or straight-but-not narrows. Our lineup includes films that illuminate a variety of social issues, while entertaining and engaging audiences,” says Patrick Hubley, artistic director of the Utah Film Center.

Opening night film will have a limited amount of individual tickets available. After the death of her best friend, Claire falls into a deep depression, but a surprising discovery about her friend’s husband gives her a new taste for life.

Damn These Heels festival-pass holders and sponsors gain priority access to the Opening Night film. A limited number of tickets to the Opening Night film will be available for $15 (including service charge).

Ten-ticket passes are currently available for purchase for $35 online until June 10. After June 10 the pass price increases to $50.

Damn These Heels VIP Packages begin at $150. To purchase or for more information visit: utahfilmcenter.org/dth2015/pass-andpackages/ Individual tickets for all other films can be purchased for $7 (including service charge).

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THE NEW MAN

THE NEW GIRLFRIEND

UNE NOUVELLE AMIE DIRECTED BY FRANÇOIS OZON 108 MIN | 2014 | FRANCE | RATED R PRINCIPAL CAST: ROMAIN DURIS, ANAÏS DEMOUSTIER, RAPHAËL PERSONNAZ PRESENTED IN FRENCH WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES.

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BOULEVARD

DIRECTED BY DITO MONTIEL 87 MIN | 2014 | USA | NOT RATED PRINCIPAL CAST: ROBIN WILLIAMS, BOB ODENKIRK, KATHY BAKER, ROBERTO AGUIRE

A subtle and moving drama following a devoted husband and dutiful bank employee who begins to confront his own secrets when he meets a troubled young man.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL, FRAMELINE38: SAN FRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL LBGTQ

MIRCO EL HOMBRE NUEVO DIRECTED BY ALDO GARAY 79 MIN | 2015 | URUGUAY/CHILE | NOT RATED PRESENTED IN SPANISH WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES.

At the tender age of twelve, Roberto supported the Sandinista revolution in Nicaragua and fought for education and social reforms. He continued his political struggle fighting alongside the communist Tupamaros in Uruguay. Thirty years later he is struggling to live his life as a woman named Stephanía and striving to be accepted by both society and his family.

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DIRECTED BY SILVIA CHIOGNA 68 MIN | 2014 | GERMANY | NOT RATED

A thought-provoking and playful documentary that explores what happens when we challenge the rules of gender.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2015 BFI FLARE LONDON LGBT FILM FESTIVAL

OUT IN THE NIGHT

DIRECTED BY BLAIR DOROSH-WALTHER 75 MIN | 2014 | USA | NOT RATED

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York City, four young AfricanAmerican lesbians are violently and sexually threatened by a man on the street. They defend themselves against him and are charged and convicted in the courts and in the media as a “Gang of Killer Lesbians.”

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 LOS ANGELES FILM FESTIVAL, FRAMELINE38: SAN FRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL LBGTQ FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 OUTFEST LOS ANGELES LGBT FILM FESTIVAL

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Stunt planes fascinate seventeen-year-old Sangaile.

She meets a girl of her age at the summer aeronautical show, nearby her parents’ lakeside villa. Sangaile allows Auste to discover her most intimate secret, and finds herself in teenage love with the only person to truly encourage her to fly.

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DIRECTED BY JOHN MITCHELL AND CHRISTINA ZEIDLER 84 MIN | 2015 | CANADA | NOT RATED PRINCIPAL CAST: DIANE FLACKS, CAROLYN TAYLOR, CAROLINE GILLIS, SHOSHANA SPERLING, DAWN WHITWELL, VANESSA DUNN

In this hilarious, honest and romantic comedy, serial monogamist Elsie is beginning to feel restless in yet another long-term relationship. After breaking up with her girlfriend, she pursues the young DJ/ barista only to face the disapproval of her friends and family and the growing realization that she may have broken up with her soul mate.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2015 INSIDEOUT TORONTO LGBT FILM FESTIVAL, FRAMELINE39: SANFRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL LGBTQ FILM FESTIVAL.

DIRECTED BY JEFFREY SCHWARZ 90 MIN | 2015 | USA | NOT RATED

Throughout the 1950s Tab Hunter reigned as Hollywood’s ultimate male heartthrob, but the entire time he was living with a secret . In this explosive documentary feature, Tab’s dramatic, turbulent and ultimately inspiring life story is explored.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2015 SXSW FILM FESTIVAL, 2015 BFI FLARE LONDON LGBT FILM FESTIVAL, FRAMELIN39: SAN FRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL LGBTQ FILM FESTIVAL, 2015 SEATTLE INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL

Additional films will be added before the festival begins. For a full listing, go to utahfilmcenter.org/dth2015.

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THE UTAH ARTS FESTIVAL FEATURES LOCAL MUSIC HOUSE OF LEWIS, HIP HOP Like so many other artistic and creative endeavors in the state, Utah’s local music scene is deeply rooted with a rich palette fusing everything from classical and acoustic rock to Americana roots, blues and folk and to Afrobeat, world, electronic, funk, and hip-hop. And, in order to highlight the depth with the proper respect to its diversity, The Utah Arts Festival will present more than 75 local bands and performers on six stages, all of whom were selected by an experienced jury. The

musicians represent all areas and corners of the Beehive State.

In addition, local talent will be highlighted through two groups who have an extensive presence at the Festival: the Intermountain Acoustic Music Association with its Songwriter Academy and the finals for the Susanne Millsaps Songwriter Competition and the Jazz Arts of the Mountain West which is bringing a large contingent of jazz musicians to the Festival as it sponsors various performances on the Amphitheater Stage.

THU, JUNE 25, 9:15PM THE ROUND

House of Lewis is a hip-hop collective consisting of four emcees and two DJs. They’ve performed alongside some of the biggest names in hip-hop. And this year, House of Lewis won City Weekly’s Best Rappers of 2015 award.

THE TULLY CATHEY BAND, JAZZ FRI, JUNE 26, 6:15PM PARK STAGE

The Tully Cathey Band performs original jazz compositions by guitarist/composers Tully Cathey and Geoffrey Miller. Also featured are keyboardist Dan Waldis and saxophonist Jonathan Campbell.

L’ANARCHISTE, FOLK SAT, JUNE 27, 2:30PM PARK STAGE

L’anarchiste is an indie/folk/electronic band from Salt Lake City that has been active since 2012. In 2013 Salt Lake City Weekly named them “Band of the Year,” and this summer they’re releasing their debut fulllength album “Giant” on Kilby Records.

PETER BREINHOLT, FOLK SAT, JUNE 27, 3:45PM PARK STAGE

Peter Breinholt is known locally for his seasoned performance style, his recognizable songs and his distinctive voice. He will be performing with a full band.

THE NO-NATION ORCHESTRA, WORLD SAT, JUNE 27, 10:15PM PARK STAGE

Salt Lake City’s own 12+ Piece Afrobeat inspired Rhythmic Powerhouse blends tastes of Fela Kuti, Talking Heads and NOMO with their own flavor and soulful vocal top layer.

DANGER HAILSTORM, POP/ROCK SUN, JUNE 28, 4PM PARK STAGE

HIGHLIGHT PERFORMANCES: CROOK & THE BLUFF, AMERICANA THU, JUNE 25, 4:15PM GARDEN STAGE

Crook & The Bluff create a sound that is at times as huge and vast as the desert itself whose influence permeates their music and like the howling breeze in the twilight hours becomes as intimate as sharing a bottle of bourbon beside the fire. Their blend of psychedelia, blues, and folk coalesces into a singular, definitive feeling of the American West.

THE WEEKENDERS, POP/ROCK THU, JUNE 25, 8:30PM AMPHITHEATER STAGE

The Weekenders are a raw rock n’ roll band.

The fuzz groove four-piece ensemble has

honed the ability to pull from some of the best elements of rock ‘n’ roll from Muscle Shoals to Grunge. They have supported a handful of national acts including Blitzen Trapper, Band of Heathens, The Stone Foxes, Lukas Nelson and many others.

Danger Hailstorm is: Terrance DH, Van Christensen, BJ Parker, Zak Mason. The quartet, led by the prolific Terrance DH (The Stench, Magstatic), take every sub-genre of metal—including heavy doses of early-’90s pre-grunge—and mix it in a large vat of musical testosterone.

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BIG WILD WINGS, POP/ROCK

THU, JUNE 25, 9:15PM PARK STAGE

SUN, JUNE 28, 7:30PM GARDEN STAGE

“Like Peter Gabriel in a Garage” — Fictionist boasts a line-up of versatile and seasoned musicians. Since forming in 2008, the band has shared the stage with Imagine Dragons, Vampire Weekend, Neon Trees, Shiny Toy Guns.

They are in the midst of touring to promote the recent release of their self-titled LP.

Big Wild Wings is an alternative/indie rock three-piece from Salt Lake City, Utah consisting of Lyndsi Austin on lead vocals/bass, Tyler Hummel on keyboards/back-up vocals, and Chris Soper on drums. Stylistically, their music is best described as a mixture of 80s synth-pop and 90s alternative rock topped off with an ethereal yet sentimental tone. .

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UTAH ARTS FESTIVAL DAILY LOCAL MUSIC PERFORMANCE SCHEDULE THURSDAY, JUNE 25 AMPHITHEATER STAGE

8:30pm The Weekenders PARK STAGE

12pm MusicGarage 1pm School of Rock Sandy 2pm Spy Hop’s Arcane 3pm Wasatch Music Coaching Academy 4:15pm Blake & Groves 5:15pm Sugartown Alley 6:30pm Latin Roots Band 7:45pm Ryan Innes 9:15pm Fictionist FESTIVAL STAGE

8pm Salt Lake Symphony 10pm Saliva Sisters

THE ROUND/ CRESCENT WALL

8:15pm Dusk Raps 9:15pm House of Lewis GARDEN STAGE 4:15pm Crook & The Bluff 5:30pm Aspen Winds 7:15pm Savoy featuring Sam Payne 9:30pm VCR5

FRIDAY, JUNE 26 PARK STAGE

12pm Cosmic Aeroplane 1:15pm The Fabulous Flynnstones 2:30pm Ghostowne 3:45pm The Renee Plant Band 5pm Scenic Byway 6:15pm The Tully Cathey Band 7:30pm Emily Merrell Group 9:10pm John Flanders Jazz BiasSphere

FESTIVAL STAGE

8pm Salt Lake City Jazz Orchestra THE ROUND/ CRESCENT WALL

8:15pm SLAPercussion 10:30pm Unity GARDEN STAGE

4pm Trenton McKean 5:15pm Alan Michael 7pm The Joe McQueen Quartet 9pm Salty Cricket Composers Collective 10:15pm Pat Maine & DJ Battleship

SATURDAY, JUNE 27 AMPHITHEATER STAGE

8:30pm The Motown Sounds & More Tribute Show PARK STAGE

12pm The Departure 1:15pm Paul Jacobsen & The Madison Arm 2:30pm L’anarchiste

3:45pm Peter Breinholt 5pm The Souvenirs 7:45pm MiNX 9pm Chalula 10:15pm The No-Nation Orchestra THE ROUND/ CRESCENT WALL

6:00pm Sonik Beatbox 6:45pm SLAPercussion 9:30pm Juana Ghani GARDEN STAGE

1:45pm Up ‘Til Dawn 4:15pm Puddle Mountain Ramblers 6pm Jon Paul Yerby 7:45pm The Lab Dogs ROAMING

4:30pm Free Wesleyan Church of Tonga Brass Band

SUNDAY, JUNE 28 PARK STAGE

12pm MoFo (previously known as Movement

Forum) 1:30pm Gross National Product 2:45pm Shaky Trade 4pm Danger Hailstorm 5:15pm The Chickens 7:45pm Harry Lee and the Back Alley Blues Band 9:15pm Sister Wives THE ROUND/ CRESCENT WALL

9:15pm SoundMass (Theta Naught / My Education) FESTIVAL STAGE

8:15pm Joe Muscolino Band GARDEN STAGE

1:45pm The Austin Weyand Band 3pm Mark Dago 4:15pm Kate MacLeod 6pm Green.house 7:30pm Big Wild Wings 9pm Michael Lucarelli

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Frankie Grande is coming to Salt Lake on his Livn’ La Vida Grande Tour

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Frankie Grande Livin’ La Vida Grande Tour Friday, July 3, 2015 In The Venue Doors: 6:30pm Show: 7:30pm Tix: $25

contestant, YouTube sensation and Ariana Grande’s brother Frankie Grande has embarked on a summer tour and is stopping in Salt Lake on July 3.

What he’ll perform on this tour is unclear—although he’s appeared in Broadway shows like Mamma Mia! and Rock of Ages, he hasn’t released any original music.

Frankie says concertgoers will get a chance to see a bit of his “crazy life.”

“I am so excited about this tour because I get to bring all the insanity, glitter, and excitement that makes my life so GRANDE to my fans all over the country,” he said.

The tour kicks off June 27 in Los Angeles.

Grande landed his own special on Oxygen. Worst.Post.Ever: With Frankie Grande will explore the good, the bad, and the most outrageous moments on social media. Grande will break down the buzziest online posts, tweets, and selfies from our favorite social channels — Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, and whatever new technology is invented in the meantime.

“I have always dreamed about having such a great platform where I can share all of my sparkles and talents,” says Grande. “It is going to be BIG energy and will sweep you away, crying tears of laughter and delight! I’m going GRANDE and I’m so happy I get to take you all with me! I. Can. Not. Wait.”

During the special, Frankie will also craft and execute his own set of extreme social media experiments, outrageous sketches and edgy segments involving viewers from across social media platforms. Additionally, fans will have the opportunity to drive the conversation faster, and further by using the hashtag #WorstPostEver on Twitter.

The premiere of Worst.Post.Ever: With Frankie Grande will air Tuesday, August 18 at 9 p.m. MDT. Q Tickets for Frankie Grande Livin’ La Vida Grande are $25 available at inthevenueslc.com/tickets.html

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Tony’s Gay Agenda

BY TONY HOBDAY

ANNUAL EVENTS The Utah Festival Opera & Musical Theatre returns in the scenic city of Logan.

Kicking off the season is the classic opera La Boheme.

Also in the mix this year: Man of La Mancha, Carousel, How to Succeed in Business and much more. Plus there’s nothing better than carousing the local IHOP after hours.

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WEDNESDAY — LA BOHEME

Ellen Eccles Theatre, 43 S. Main St., Logan, times vary, limited shows through Aug. 7. Tickets $12-76, arttix.org

there’s Jerry Steichen; any hottie friend of Dorothy’s from Say Anything; Sinatra, ‘hellooooo”; Fire in the Hole; Pete Wentz, duh!

— FRANKIE GRANDE 3 FRIDAY

In The Venue, 2119 S. 600 West, 7:30pm. Tickets $25, smithstix. com

SATURDAY — PATRIOTIC POPS 4 WITH THE UTAH SYMPHONY

Deer Valley Snow Park Lodge Amphitheater, 2250 Deer Valley Dr. S., Park City, 7:30pm. Tickets $62-88, arttix.org

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TUESDAY — SAY ANYTHING

TUESDAY — IMAGINE 28 DRAGONS Energy Solutions Arena, 301 S. Temple, 7:30pm. Tickets $26.5066.50, smithstix.com

THURSDAY — FALL OUT BOY 30 & WIZ KHALIFA USANA Amphitheatre, 5200 S. 6200 West, WVC, 7pm. Tickets $29-69.75, smithstix.com

DANCE

SATURDAY — SINATRA 25 SINGS SINATRA Deer Valley Snow Park Lodge Amphitheater, 2250 Deer Valley Dr. S., Park City, 7:30pm. Tickets $62-88, arttix.org

10FRIDAY — AMY

Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. Broadway, times vary. Tickets $6.75-9.25, saltlakefilmsociety.org

— SURRENDERELLA 12 FRIDAY

Tower Theatre, 900 S. 876 East, 11pm through Saturday and Noon on Sunday. Tickets $5, saltlakefilmsociety.org

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There’s a little bit of everything for no matter your musical taste this month. The one thing they almost all have in common is gaiety. Now, I’m not sure if Frankie Grande flutters but just his name itself screams “hoooomo!” Then

Theaters and times vary. Tickets $6.75-9.25, fandango.com

— MR. HOLMES 17FRIDAY

FRIDAY — BROADWAY BOUND

CONCERTS

— MAGIC MIKE XXL 1 WEDNESDAY

PRIDE is dads-in-drag and other fairy tales. And Broadway is synonymous with PRIDE, so pull out your tap shows you proud homosexuals and enjoy these fabulous works from SB Dance Circus and Utah Dance Artists.

Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, 7:30pm, weekends through June 20. Tickets $19.50, arttix.org

The Complex, 536 W. 100 South, 6pm. Tickets $18.50/ advance-$21/day of show, smithstix.com

Duchovny in stilettos (wait, he’s not in this movie, but he still deserves recognition -- I would suck on that Achilles tendon), who could ask for more.

Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU, times vary, through Saturday. Tickets $12.50, arttix.org

MOVIES Male strippers (G0 LA Pride), Amy Winehouse, openly gay Ian McKellan as the infamous Sherlock, and David

Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. Broadway, times vary. Tickets $6.75-9.25, saltlakefilmsociety. org

FRIDAY — TWIN PEAKS: FIRE 19 WALK WITH ME

THEATRE All I can say is Guidos with switchblades and tap shoes, who could ask for anything more.

— WEST SIDE STORY 3 FRIDAY

Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main St., Park City, times vary, through July 26. Tickets $15-65, egyptiantheatrecompany.org

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Utah Festival Opera and Musical Theatre brings music to Logan

The Utah

Festival Opera and Musical Theatre’s 23rd season begins July 8 at the beautiful Ellen Eccles Theatre in Logan, Utah. This year they will be sharing the masterworks of Puccini, Loesser, Rodgers and Hammerstein, Carl Orff and Cervantes.

Also this year, after many years of renovation, they will unveil the historic Utah Theatre.

World Wide Wickets and wins over the hearts of his coworkers and Rosemary Pilkington. It’s a wild ride to the top featuring musical numbers like “A Secretary Is Not a Toy,” “Cinderella, Darling,” and “Brotherhood of Man.” How To Succeed is classic Broadway and loads of fun.

LA BOHÈME

BY GIACOMO PUCCINI

MAN OF LA MANCHA

BY MITCH LEIGH & JOE DARION

A prisoner of the Spanish Inquisition, Miguel de Cervantes stages a play using his fellow inmates in a bid to save his possessions including his prized manuscript. He becomes Don Quixote and wins over his comrades with hilarious antics and devotion to chivalry. Starring Michael Ballam as Don Quixote, Man of La Mancha dreams “The Impossible Dream” of the down and out – but noble of heart.

Young Bohemian Rodolfo and his friends struggle to make it as artists in Paris, but his life changes when a chance encounter with a seamstress named Mimì lights a flame in their hearts.

Will they find lasting love, or will jealousy and poverty drive them apart? La Bohème is one of the most beloved and performed operas of all time.

CAROUSEL

BY RICHARD RODGERS & OSCAR HAMMERSTEIN II

“HOW TO SUCCEED IN BUSINESS WITHOUT REALLY TRYING”

BY FRANK LOESSER

J. Pierrepont Finch is a window washer with ambition. Using advice from a self-help book, he climbs the corporate ladder at

Carefree carnival barker Billy Bigelow loses his job. Nevertheless, he marries Julie, and when she tells him she’s pregnant, he commits a robbery in desperation to provide for his family.

Little did he know of the lasting consequences. Will he get a chance to right his wrongs?

Carousel has been a Broadway favorite for 70 years, exploring themes of consequences, love, and redemption.

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The Reframing of Adam Lambert The singer opens up about his ‘outlandish’ past, the lack of LGBT pop stars and his dating problems

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

q&a

Stripped

of that glossy sheen, those painted nails and the purple mane that he famously flaunted on his 2009 post-American Idol debut, For Your Entertainment, Adam Lambert’s latest album cover isn’t even in color. His hair still reaches the same towering heights as his voice on The Original High, but otherwise, he’s unadorned.

The glam is gone.

In our recent interview, the Idol alum comes clean about how a long period of “overcompensation” – yes, the outfits – led him to the latest chapter in his life.

People are calling The Original High a reinvention. Is that how you see it? It’s not the most far off thing. I consider it more like a “reframing.” I feel like it’s still me at the heart of it. It’s still my voice, but a little more grown up, and I feel like the sonic frame around the vocals is something new.

Why tweak your sound? Because repeating myself would be sacrilege. I will not repeat myself. But I don’t know – something new. I wanted to do something fresh, and I wanted to do something that sounded like my life, and this is the kind of music that I listen to.

Do your famously passionate fans add pressure to the creative process? Because my fans are so loyal and loving, and they’re so passionate about all the things that I do, I think that they recognize that if it’s something I believe in that’s exciting, they get excited by that.

I always think about the fans, but with this album, more than ever, I’ve gone inward and wanted to make music that I have some integrity with, that meant something to me.

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Why at this point in your career? It’s time.

It was time to make a shift, to do something a little different. I went through a lot of changes last year. I ended up leaving my first label (RCA Records), and I had to change management at the end of my last album; it was just time for something fresh. I just got off the tour with Queen, which was amazing for me and felt really good, and it gave me a lot of confidence and it made me not so scared about everything. It gave me a sense of career security in a way that I haven’t felt before.

What were you scared of? You’ve clearly never had trouble being yourself. Over the last five years, right after Idol, I think there was a certain amount of overcompensation in certain ways. I was dressing really outlandishly, and it was a lot of fun and it’s definitely a part of who I am to wanna play dress up, but I think it got to a point where I was hiding behind it a bit. Behind all of that, all of everything. It was like a preemptive defense mechanism. It’s like the kid who goes to high school dressed goth and he’s actually not into the devil at all but doesn’t wanna be bothered by anybody. (Laughs) I don’t think I realized it at the time, but I can see this in hindsight now. At the time I thought, “This is who I am; this is what I do,” and now it just feels like I’m in a new place in my life. I’ve grown up and evolved and I’m in a new place, and the album – the subject matter and the sound – reflect that.

When it comes to LGBT artists, you really helped pave the way. These days, how welcoming do you think the music industry is to queer artists? I think things are definitely going in the right direction. I just wanna see more! The great thing about having more and more artists who identify as queer is it normalizes it so the media can’t sensationalize it as an idea. In the past, I felt the media painted me as someone who’s super hypersexual and someone who only wants to talk about his orientation.

While I’m very comfortable doing that, I have a lot more to talk about in reality.

So, it’s been interesting. But the more of us that are out there that provide some diversity, who can show different types of gay artists, it’ll make it so it’s not as much of a big deal. It’ll be an afterthought. We’ll get to move toward a post-gay presence.

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Hearing your collaboration with Tove Lo on “Rumors” on this album got me thinking: What do you think of doing a love song with another gay male artist, like Sam Smith or Jake Shears? It’s certainly possible, yeah.

With “Rumors,” it’s funny; you can listen to that and go, “Oh, it’s like a romantic duet,” but before we wrote it we were talking about being an artist in the industry and having to maintain a personal life, and how it’s a little tricky and how it’s not always easy to balance the two. So, that’s what we were singing about; it doesn’t necessarily mean we’re singing to each other – it just means we’re singing about this thing together. But yeah, a duet with a guy – who knows, it could happen!

It should happen. You have to carry the flag! (Laughs) Right?! Isn’t that what we’ve been saying since the beginning of your career? It’s definitely been interesting. Really interesting. When I see that there can be a ripple effect of positivity and change and helping people just because I identify as one thing or another, and I’m OK to talk about it, that’s amazing. It’s amazing that it takes that little to make that much of an impact.

American Idol wraps next year. In your opinion, what happened to the show? Why haven’t we seen another Kelly or Carrie or Adam in recent years? I’m not totally sure about that, but I do know that when the show first started it was a time in America when we needed something like that. I mean, 9/11 had just happened, so our country was looking for something to believe in. Not that American Idol healed us over 9/11 by itself, but it definitely reflected what we wanted from our entertainment at the time. It gave people hope that, hey, you can be from anywhere and you can have this dream and it can come true, and it was really positive in that regard.

It also came at a time when the music industry was really suffering. I mean, we had all the pirating that was going on; all of a sudden the Internet had taken the rug out from underneath the record companies, and they were looking for an answer. All of a sudden we’re giving so much power to the people. That was really impressive, because up until that point the labels really held the strings and decided

what the public was going to consume.

Mariah Carey recently called American Idol “fake” and had some pointed words for the show. As a former contestant on the show, how did you feel about what she said? Did American Idol ever feel “fake” to you? It’s a TV show. I didn’t feel like it was fake at all.

I knew what the concept was. Personally, if you’re blindsided by what American Idol is, then you weren’t paying attention. It’s not that difficult to know what you’re getting yourself into. That’s why I auditioned; I knew what I was getting myself into.

Essentially, it’s a strategy for a contestant. It is about talent and it is about being a good performer, but you also have to put some thought into the songs you’re picking. I put some thought into it, and that’s partially why I think I did well.

Picking a genre, picking songs that work for you, picking songs where you won’t be compared. For me, I was picking songs that are more obscure or doing them a different way.

You were crafty about it. I’m crafty, yeah!

I try to be crafty. (Laughs) And I think for the judges it’s a different game than it is for the contestants, obviously, and things shifted a bit when the show wanted to focus on the judges more than the contestants.

When we chatted in 2012, you told me a Glambert sent you a urethra rod. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done for an artist you were a fan of? I’ve never done anything like that! That was so weird when that happened. I didn’t even know what that was. Like, what the hell is this thing?

Then I looked it up and went whaaaaat? I remember saying, “That’s a thing? People do that?!”

I have to say, I’ve never been a super fanatical fan of anybody. I’ve definitely been a fan. I mean, my fans have called me out before, being like, “Oh, you’re fan-boying about so-and-so,” and it’s just because I said on Twitter, “Oh, you sound great on this song,” so I guess that’s being a fan!

How often do Glamberts stop you on the street? It happens occasionally. Maybe not so much on the street… (laughs) I know that’s just an expression.

Yes, literally in the street, in front of a car. (Laughs) “Stop! Don’t!”

I sourced a few questions out to your biggest fans, so from here on, these are straight from the Glamberts. First, what is the greatest “Original High” you’ve ever experienced? Standing on stage for the first time and singing. That adrenaline rush you get from that exchange with the audience is like nothing else. It bit me and then that was it. I was toast.

What do you think about when you go to sleep? My brain is crazy. I think a lot, so I think about everything I have to do the next day. Sometimes it’s hard for me to fall asleep because of that.

If you could do something all over again, what would it be? I don’t really have a lot of regrets, to be honest with you. I guess there have been plenty of times where I’ll meet somebody at a bar, or a friend will introduce me to somebody at a party or at dinner, and I don’t have good game. I don’t think to be outgoing or say the right thing, and then after the fact I’ll be like, “Why didn’t I just talk to that person? Why didn’t I just tell them I thought they were cute?!” I gotta say, sometimes I really don’t have very good game.

One fan wanted to know if you ever feel uncomfortable watching what’s said about you by the Glamberts on Twitter. I don’t think uncomfortable is the right word, but I’m not always the best at taking a compliment. I’m pretty hard on myself and sarcastic about things, so it’s always flattering, but it makes me feel like, “Ehh, let’s talk about something else.”

What’s the first thing that attracts you to a man you’re interested in? Charm. I think charm is an amazing thing because it can make them more attractive than they are or without it, it can make them less attractive. I think that’s something that’s developed as I’ve gotten older. Obviously, I have my set of physical things that I like, but if somebody’s a dud and they have no personality then it all goes out the window. Charm and personality are key.

What’s one question you’re glad you’ve never had to answer? (Laughs) I think I’ve had to answer every fucking thing you can think of! Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter @ chrisazzopardi

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hear me out Best of 2015 (...so far)

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

SHAMIR, RATCHET

The latest wave of gender-defying youth just got wavier with Shamir, a 20-year-old cutie-patootie from Vegas who’s tearing down rigid archetypes by way of gender ambiguity and a brazen “no fucks to give” attitude. You can read it – “it” being his convention-confronting manifesto – on his Twitter feed, and you can hear it in the spunky nu-disco dreaminess of his criminally catchy throwback debut. “On the Regular” strides with dragqueen fierceness (and cowbells!), boasting a swaggering rap about how, despite his size (“5-foot-10, about a buck twenty / Skinny as a rod but still won’t fuck with me”), he packs a powerful punch. And that’s no joke (for further proof, hear the sweetly flowing “Demon”). On the whole, Shamir’s Ratchet is a potent boundary buster with some of the year’s best, most neon-bright beats.

MADONNA, REBEL HEART

Major misfires – oh, religion and sex meet again? (Is she really sampling herself?) – kept it from breaking into the Essential Madonna Echelon, but these days, when it comes to Our Girl, you take what you can get and just hope and pray it’s not another MDNA. We made it out of the wilderness, then, didn’t we? Rebel Heart is not another MDNA; rather, and thankfully, it’s the sonic equivalent of Madonna picking herself back up after that Brit Awards fall. She stumbles a bit here, but the difference? Those mishaps are quelled by some of Madge’s most innovative, trend-bucking cuts in years. “Living for Love” rouses with “Like a Prayer” realness, “Ghosttown” works itself into a welcome moment of tenderness, and the title track is more in touch with Madonna than Madonna’s been in years.

KENDRICK LAMAR, TO PIMP A BUTTERFLY Even T. Swift has a thing for Kendrick Lamar, the urban innovator featured on the pop star’s No. 1 “Bad Blood” radio remix.

If you, too, have lost yourself in his thoughtprovoking brilliance, you understand what Taylor sees in him. The musician du jour’s To Pimp a Butterfly sits impressively outside the box, the accumulation of various genres – spoken word, hip-hop, jazz, funk, etc. – to create a cultural touchstone that grapples with heavy of-the-zeitgeist matters. Big moments abound, but it doesn’t get more ambitious than “Mortal Men,” a moving 12-minute, posthumous conversation he has with Tupac.

SUSANNE SUNDFØR, TEN LOVE SONGS

Do you know Susanne Sundfør? You don’t? You should.

The ultra-talented Norwegian songstress’ sixth release is a captivating caper through and through, reveling in brokenhearted synthpop and orchestral detours that conjure cinematic magic. An ethereal 10-minute behemoth, “Memorial” takes a drum-slapped torch song and caps it with a stunning orchestra outro, a wistful wind-down that lingers even after its last haunting note. Her pop sensibility is equally as sharp on the soulful “Fade Away,” an enveloping synth song, and on “Slowly,” an evocative, pure gold, ’80s-shimmered wallop produced by fellow Norwegian duo Röyksopp. And just when you think Sundfør’s achieved Robyncaliber pop genius, there’s the biting “Delirious,” which builds into a crushingly brilliant beat after a John Carpenter’s Halloweenesque preface. It’s one genius move among many on Ten Love Songs.

MARINA AND THE DIAMONDS, FROOT

After record execs tried to turn her into Pop’s Next Big Thing – a position, she later confessed, wasn’t for her – Welsh singer-songwriter Marina and the Diamonds gets back to basics on FROOT. Awash in the left-of-center sound that launched her career, FROOT feels like an artistic manifestation rather than a business fulfillment. Both musically personal and powerful, it begins with a paean of self-expression that suggests a newfound

professional freedom. “I sang a hymn to bring me peace / And then it came, a melody,” she sings on “Happy,” boldly easing into the album with this raw moment of piano-led minimalism. On FROOT, it only gets sweeter.

SUFJAN STEVENS, CARRIE & LOWELL “You’ll never see us again.” And just like that, Sufjan Steven rips your heart open with his seventh studio album, a gut-punch of grief-stricken emotions inspired by his mother’s passing. One such blow is “Fourth of July,” the kind of personal experience – a play-by-play of a parent’s final moments – rarely set to song.

And for all its harsh truths, what a beautiful lullaby-like tune it is. That graceful appeal extends throughout Sufjan’s wrenchingly stunning tribute to his mother, Carrie & Lowell. The lulling melodies leave their mark. Sentiments drawn vividly from the past are stark and real and relatable. But there’s light in the dark, and by the time he gets to the penultimate “No Shade in the Shadow of the Cross,” you’ll want to give Sufjan the biggest hug. You’ll also need one of your own.

BELLE AND SEBASTIAN, GIRLS IN PEACETIME WANT TO DANCE Girls in peacetime want to dance… and, apparently, so does Belle and Sebastian.

“Jump to the beat of the party line,” they urge. And we do, of course. On yet another solid release from the always-dependable Glaswegian sextet, they’re more “weeee” than twee. Producer Ben H. Allen shimmers their sound while still maintaining the band’s trademark melancholy and hopefulness. Escapist vibes run throughout “Girls in Peacetime Want to Dance,” as frontman Stuart Murdoch finally addresses their album’s motive on Belle’s most quintessential track, “Ever Had a Little Faith?,” a jangly little daydream: Basically, don’t be sad. And, you know, dance. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of QSyndicate. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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Equality Through Business

Open to corporations of all sizes, sole proprietors and independent agents regardless of sexual orientation, this is a great place to meet other professionals, make business contacts, promote your business and work for the enhancement of UtahGayChamber.org Utah’s gay and lesbian community.

A NONSEXUAL MALE NUDIST GROUP CAMPOUTS, BBQS, POT LUCKS, MORE UMEN.ORG

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food & drink Dining Guide DODO RESTAURANT  thedodorestaurant.com 1355 E 2100 South 801-486-2473 A unique neighborhood bistro with a relaxed sense of style. A staple of the Salt Lake experience for more than 30 years as a neighborhood gathering place. Our American Bistro menu and fine selection of local ales and wines are complimented with a casual upscale warm environment.

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warm and hip environment. The converted garage is now a stylish, enticing eatery. Try the eggs Benedict, French toast, custom-tailored omelets, huevos rancheros or cheese blintzes for breakfast.

801-486-0332 Omar prepares all raw, live and organic food from scratch with absolute love to create amazing food that is powerfully healing for your mind, body, and spirit.

MAZZA MIDDLE EASTERN CUISINE

SAGE’S CAFE

 mazzacafe.com 15th&15th 801.484.9259 9th&9th 801.521.4572 Enjoy fresh, authentic Middle Eastern cuisine such as Falafel, Shawarma, Kebabs, dips and salads. Vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free options.

OFF TRAX

EGGS IN THE CITY

 offtraxslc.com 259 W 900 S, 801-364-4307 Home of the Happy Hangover.

Breakfast, lunch. Sunday brunch and weekend after-hours. Gayowned and operated. Next to Club Try-Angles.

1675 E 1300 S 801-581-0809 Breakfast or lunch in a friendly,

 omarsrawtopia.com 2148 S Highland Dr

OMAR’S RAWTOPIA

 sagescafe.com 234 W 900 S 801-322-3790 Sage’s Cafe relocated to the Central 9th Business District in the original and iconic Jade Cafe.

SQUATTERS PUB BREWERY  squatters.com 147 W 300 S, 801-363-2739 1900 Park Ave, Park City 435-649-9868 Salt Lake’s original brew pub featuring award-winning fresh brewed beers, lunch, dinner and weekend brunch. Private banquet facilities available.

TAKASHI  offtraxslc.com 18 W Market St 801-519-9595

Open for lunch, dinner or cocktails, Takashi has been the QSaltLake readers’ choice for sushi in Salt Lake City since the Fabby Awards were invented. Open til 10pm Mon–Thurs., 11pm Fri and Sat. Closed Sunday

VERTICAL DINER 2280 S West Temple 801-484-8378 Vegan diner serving down-home comfort food and breakfast all day. Specialties include fried faux chicken, blueberry pancakes, and hand cut french fries. Also serving fair trade coffee, tea, chocolate, and more.

WASATCH BREW PUB  wasatchbeers.com 250 Main, Park City 435-645-0900 At the top of Main Street and a local favorite since 1989, Wasatch Brew Pub serves lunch, dinner and weekend brunch, along with award winning beers and full liquor service. Private banquet facilities available.

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Live, organic vegetarian, gluten-free food

FOR PEOPLE TO COME IN AND HAVE A BITE TO EAT.

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Next to Club Try-Angles, Half Block from TRAX in the NEW Gayborhood!

Home of the Happy Hangover Sunday Brunch 11am–2pm Q PON

Free Soda or Coffee with food purchase

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anagram AN ANAGRAM IS A WORD OR PHRASE THAT CAN BE MADE USING THE LETTERS FROM ANOTHER WORD OR PHRASE. REARRANGE THE LETTERS BELOW TO ANSWER: HINT: HELLO SENATOR

I AM ASKED JABS

_____ _______

cryptogram A CRYPTOGRAM IS A PUZZLE WHERE ONE LETTER IN THE PUZZLE IS SUBSTITUTED WITH ANOTHER. FOR EXAMPLE: ECOLVGNCYXW YCR EQYIIRZNBZN YZU PSZ! HAS THE SOLUTION: CRYPTOGRAMS ARE CHALLENGING AND FUN! IN THE ABOVE EXAMPLE ES ARE ALL REPLACED

BY CS. THE PUZZLE IS SOLVED BY RECOGNIZING LETTER PATTERNS IN WORDS AND SUCCESSIVELY SUBSTITUTING LETTERS UNTIL THE SOLUTION IS REACHED. THIS WEEK’S HINT: M=T

EW GEJKIH X AKHII LHTT, X AXAO’M IUHOA STT MFSM MXYH XO MFH GTEIHM WEK OEMFXOB. __ ______ _ _____ ____, _ ____’_ _____ ___ ____ ____ __ ___ ______ ___ _______.

PUZZLE ANSWERS ON PAGE 54

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Where Gay Means Happy ACROSS

1 Neuwirth of Chicago 5 IRS form 10 Mama’s boys 14 Top 15 Love Affair costar Dunne 16 “___ first you don’t ...”

17 Like a stereotypical wrist 18 Salami you can put in your hero 19 Katharine’s Butch Cassidy role 20 Nation where gay men are the happiest, per a Planet Romeo survey 22 2nd happiest nation for gay men 24 Buckeye State sch.

26 Seasonal songs 27 4th happiest nation for gay men 30 Rope at a gay rodeo 32 It helps you get to advocate.com 33 ___ Doctor (law degree) 34 Semen may be evidence on this program 37 “Metamorphoses” poet 38 Mullally of Will & Grace 39 Man in a skirt, perhaps 40 Porter’s “___ Out of Town”

41 Bone just over a foot 42 Carpet abrasions 43 Judy Reyes role on Scrubs 44 6th happiest nation for gay men 45 “For sure?”

48 Sentence units 50 7th happiest nation for gay men 51 3rd happiest nation for gay men 55 Seedless plant 56 Base neutralizers 59 Muscle Marys pump it 60 Fairy tale prince waiting to be kissed 61 Conductor Boulanger 62 Q to a Scrabble player 63 They come out in the lumber yard 64 Less sweet 65 In the pink

DOWN

1 “___ Hai” 2 Really big tale 3 Sammy Davis Jr.’s “I’ve Gotta ___” 4 Blew, big time 5 Register 6 Set of beliefs 7 Cock’s mate 8 Bowie collaborator Brian 9 Clark Kent portrayer on TV 10 S, in communications 11 A Tale ___ Cities

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q scopes

12 Concerning one’s coming out?

13 Chooses not to come 21 Throat-clearing sound 23 Mouthful for a stallion 25 5th happiest nation for gay men 27 West Hollywood pollution 28 Didn’t go straight 29 Cut 31 Gershwin and Levin 33 Harden 34 Italian honey 35 Tickle pink 36 Ingrid’s role in Casablanca 38 State that could describe the countries in this puzzle’s theme?

39 Maker of things you shoot off 41 Maupin story of the city 42 Country dance spot 43 Bell bongs 44 Subject of pointed rebuke?

45 Guitar motifs from Etheridge 46 Former NFL player Tuaolo 47 Straight as an ___ 49 Frasier pup 52 Diva’s piece 53 Drum sound 54 Trick joint, maybe 57 The Batmobile, e.g.

58 The Last King of Scotland character ANSWERS ON PAGE 78

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

party on the weekends.

ARIES March 20–April 19 With the heat rising, the urge to cool down may be overwhelming.

Embracing wild times and getting wet is the path to satisfaction. Hot times may still be in the cards, but in all the right ways. A small stunt by your best friend or a loved one could be perplexing, but this is an incredible time for everyone. Don’t judge harshly.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Information overload will provide headaches more often than usual. Could it be time for a break? Spend time alone to retain sanity, but make time for those who really matter. The world is a big place, and the desire to bring change is always a focus. Do what you can but don’t lose yourself in the process. Small changes matter.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 Rise to a special occasion and don’t look back. Past memories have a way of sneaking up when least expected. Have a good time with your circle of friends and stay in the moments.

The best way to overcome bad memories is create good new ones. Don’t focus too much on what you want. Go with the flow and have some fun.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 A dire consequence of a friend’s problem is weighing on your mind.

The feeling of helplessness comes from a source of caring. Sometimes, letting go is a matter of preservation. Turning your back doesn’t mean giving up, but simply allowing others to help themselves. Don’t be surprised if things turn out well.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 Though seemingly impossible now, something wanted is within reach. It might be hard to see right now, but a terrific career opportunity will present itself. Have some faith but don’t be limited to one path. You are a network of diverse ideas and thoughts, and exploration is in your blood. When the time is right, pounce!

CANCER June 21–July 22 Dry the tears and put on your best smile. This will attract the things that make you happy. Friends will apply pressure to have a good time. It could be wise to accept some invitations, but be smart. Strange inspirations could lead to confusion, but rest assured that clarity prevails. Staying cautious is the most daring act of all.

LEO July 23–August 22 What starts out as play could turn into a fight. Don’t let things get out of hand. Emotions are running high for everyone. Your best friend or lover could inspire some sexy times. Keep things simply to utilize the maximum potential for pleasure. Relinquish control but keep your foot on the brakes. Potential issues are possible.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 You can’t always get what you want, Virgo. While there is much out there calling for attention, putting aside desires will lead to a greater appreciation. This is an active time, and experiences are readily available. Material goods can’t match good experiences.

Spend time with family and friends, and

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

Your creative side is flourishing this month. Feed into your desires and let your spirit do the talking. Expression is the truest form of love, and love is what feeds your soul more than anything.

Drama with a close family member could be more taxing than you’d care to admit.

Break the mold and stand your ground.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 Fear is an alien concept to you, one that rarely overwhelms.

Use this to your advantage when an intense moment occurs. There is a clever way out of a trap to be found, but don’t let a terrifying possibility distract. This is a good time to put priorities into perspective. The heat of a moment will provide a sense of completion AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 The debate over what to do regarding a personal matter will come to an end after talking to a good friend. Perception is complicated, and it takes a good bang of truth to bring you back to reality. A fear will drive an obvious choice out of your views. No matter how difficult life gets, a last resort is never the best choice.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 Drive a case hard and the winning position will prevail. There will be many conflicts among friends right now, but malice is not intended. It’s a hectic and adventurous time for all, and the judgment of others shouldn’t impact your agenda. Stand by what is right and true and the world will seem to revolve around you. Q

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Third finger, left hand.

If you’re wearing a ring there, chances are that it means more than a bit of metal around your digit. It’s undoubtedly more precious than the sum of its parts.

It means a commitment of marriage — that is, if you can get married, because some still cannot. And in the new book “Speak Now” by Kenji Yoshino, you’ll read about a trial that impacted many an engagement.

Just before Kenji Yoshino married his husband Ron in 2009, the officiant pulled the couple aside and reminded them that, though they were really no different than any other two people in love, he could not marry them under federal law because of DOMA. As they said their vows in Connecticut, another legal drama on the other side of the country was just beginning…

Only four states recognized same-sex marriage then; California wasn’t one of them. In 2008, that state’s voters passed Proposition 8, effectively amending its constitution to allow legal marriage between opposite-sex couples only. A legal challenge to Prop 8 was filed in California in May of 2009, which ultimately opened the doors for an unlikely pair of lawyers to take the issue to the U.S. Supreme Court.

Attorney Ted Olson was famous for helping to put George Bush in office in 2000, and had worked in Ronald Reagan’s Jus-

tice Department. Though Olson was known for his conservative stance, he was friends with David Boies, a renowned, more liberal litigator. They seized the opportunity to argue this important case together, and began laying the foundation for it.

But their unusual pairing wasn’t the only uniqueness in Hollingsworth v. Perry: The judge assigned to the case was known to be gay. Lead counsel for defense of Prop 8 had once flirted with a pro baseball career.

Both sides tried to keep direct mentions of sex out of the courtroom. In the end, children played a large part.

And, though neither side wanted it, the case went to trial.

That last point, says author Kenji Yoshino, came as the biggest surprise. Issues such as same-sex marriage very seldom go to trial; both parties usually try to avoid it long before things ever get that far.

But Yoshino’s fascination — and the in-depth examination he offers on Hollingsworth v.

Perry — becomes a mixed bag in “Speak Now.” On one hand, there are heartfelt examples of people who would most benefit from the defeat of Prop 8, as told from the exciting perspective of a major courtroom drama; on the other hand, there’s a lot of legalese here that is only partially explained in layman’s terms. We’re treated to detailed, sometimes happy human-interest stories (including the authors’ own), followed by information that will send many readers scrambling for a legal dictionary. Oy. Still, despite that nearobstacle, I think this book is worthwhile — if nothing but for the significance of the case it highlights. Read carefully, don’t rush yourself, have a legal reference source handy, and “Speak Now” is a book you won’t want left on the shelf. Q

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positive thoughts

Surviving With Pride

BY JEFF BERRY

The month

of June is typically jampacked with parades, events, and festivities that bring many of us in the LGBTQ community together to revel in our uniqueness, pay tribute to our leaders, and honor achievements in our ongoing fight for equality.

For those like me who are long-term survivors of HIV/AIDS, there is even more to celebrate — the fact that we have survived long enough to be able to continue to achieve our own personal goals, have a career, or even start a family. But surviving HIV/AIDS can often come with its own set of issues, such as isolation, depression, substance abuse, stigma, and early aging and mortality.

Over the last 30-plus years I’ve lost hundreds of friends, acquaintances, and colleagues to HIV and AIDS. In the 25 years since I first tested positive and began treatment, I’ve developed strange conditions such as thrush, kidney sludge, and shingles. I’ve been poked, prodded, and bled, and made out living wills and medical powers of attorney. I’ve stood in protest lines and marched on Washington, walked marathons and participated in a bike ride.

I’ve fallen in love, and broken hearts.

I’ve probably been on 10 different drug regimens during that time, which most likely saved my life but definitely have taken their toll. My viral load is undetectable, and my CD4 T-cells and CD4 percentage are near what a normal, healthy HIV-negative person my age might be expected to have. But as the population of people living with HIV and AIDS ages (approximately 50 percent of those living with HIV are now over age 50), we’re beginning to understand that there is much more to the story than simply numbers and percentages. Underneath the surface of

the syndrome we know as AIDS lies a darker and much more sinister enemy.

Those of us who have come through the fight know that enemy intimately, and we

have the battle scars to prove it – but we need new tools and weapons to fight it.

I was first diagnosed with posttraumatic stress disorder shortly after I tested HIV-positive in 1989 and went into psychotherapy. PTSD, as defined by the Mayo Clinic, is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event – either experiencing or witnessing it.

Not everyone who experiences the event will develop PTSD. Some may just have difficulty coping for a while, but eventually they’ll adjust and get back to their “normal” life. It’s only when symptoms (which can manifest as intrusive memories, avoidance, negative changes in thinking or mood, or changes in emotional reactions) start to cause significant problems in social or work situations and relationships, that it becomes a more serious issue.

While my PTSD was related to childhood sexual abuse, it was triggered by living in the midst of a holocaust and ending up testing positive myself. The disorder was no less real to me, however, and I still struggle with the effects to this day.

Just as veterans who return from war and who may have difficulty re-assimilating, long-term survivors of HIV/AIDS can often feel out of place and useless. In a perfect world we would pay proper respect to our own soldiers, and let them know we appreciate all that they’ve been through.

Programs and services designed and tailored specific to our own unique needs as AIDS veterans are desperately needed.

It’s time for us to create the structures and support systems that will help our veterans financially, mentally , and physically, well into their golden years. They – we – deserve no less.

In June, Positively Aware magazine and its publisher, the Chicago-based HIV service organization TPAN, will launch The Reunion Project (TRP), to help longterm survivors of HIV and AIDS honor our past, examine resilience, and identify

and develop successful strategies for living – today and into the future. The Reunion Project will be a series of summits and activities happening across the country, the next one being held in Palm Springs in November.

Those now coming into young adulthood never knew a time when HIV didn’t exist, and for their entire life effective treatments for HIV/ AIDS have always been available

– in other words, for them it’s always been a manageable chronic illness, such as diabetes or hypertension. While fear motivated us to fight to survive early on in the epidemic, it’s no longer an effective deterrent or motivator for those who aren’t experiencing the same sense of loss on a day-to-day basis. The fear of death from HIV/AIDS is now a distant memory, an abstract concept.

They say that with age comes wisdom – I’m not sure if I’m the best example of that, but I do think there’s another exciting opportunity for long-term survivors of HIV and AIDS, and that is to engage the next generation to talk about some of the experiences we’ve been through, challenges we’ve overcome, and triumphs we’ve achieved, to try to start to bridge the gap that currently exists between us. And I’m sure we could learn a thing or two from those who are, or will soon be, leaders in their own right.

It’s necessary to hear and share our stories with one another, for they define us.

It’s where we come from; it’s who we are.

We have the opportunity to learn from our past, and to mentor and guide an entirely new group – while honoring our history, and the fallen. Q Jeff Berry is the editor in chief of Positively Aware magazine, and director of publications at Test Positive Aware Network. Find him on Twitter @PAEditor. This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, The Body, QSyndicate and QSaltLake. Visit their websites — hivplusmag. com, positivelyaware.com, poz.com and thebody.com — for the latest updates on HIV/AIDS.

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gay writes

Trucks and Lincoln Logs

BY RICHARD CLEGG

It was

proving to be a very bad morning—unrequited love, money owed that I didn’t have, health and vehicle collapses were involved. This was all greeted with tears, frustration, sadness and a pathetic text message to Steven who was dead now for 14 years. Does it surprise you that a waiting room in a car dealership workshop appears at this point in my tale?

The waiting room smelled of new cars.

There was a TV informing me over and over again of all the tragedies in the world, about which I didn’t want to know and at this juncture, about which I didn’t care.

Tragedies or inane advice about my aging skin or how to prevent rectal cancer.

Italian designed display racks offered glossy Lexington Avenue brochures of U.S. designed and built cars inspired by their German or Italian brothers and sisters.

“Inferior,” I thought. All this to the music of Shania Twain on the showroom sound system.

If things had been different? If I’d been as excited about brightly colored toy trucks and “rough housing” as I was about soft teddy bears and Lincoln Logs, things may well have been different. I might not be sitting here. The pure red and yellow colors were nice, but the toys were hard and angular with sharp, unpleasant-to-thetouch corners. So different from my teddy bear or the round smooth logs with which I could build things. The toys did roll and function like the real dump truck and fire engine they were meant to emulate.

I wasn’t much interested. Because I was male, they were given to me with great expectations as to my enjoyment of said “hard and angular” objects. The toys were actually my mother’s doing. She had for some time then assumed the role of both Mother and Father. The idea was sweet, but how could she have known. They were set aside and I didn’t play with them.

Alone, I fantasized castles while my older brother and father worked together on the family car, a ‘49 Chevrolet Deluxe.

Many an oil change, new spark plugs, tire rotation or a fuel pump installation were accomplished by them and done with what I interpreted as a strange sense of

enjoyment on their part. Greasy hands and dirty Levis attested to work done and the bonding between them—to the extent my father was even capable of such a thing.

That I was not what my father had expected in a son most likely had less to do with the sadness of my childhood than the sniper fire he took in his arm and leg in Leipzig in the second World War. Today he would have most likely been given treatment for PTSD rather than being sent home to his wife to raise his two boys like all the other returning WWII vets. He didn’t want a wife. He didn’t want the two little boys. He didn’t want the responsibility and manifested this in ways that were ultimately devastating to me, the second and disappointing son.

But the tiny me didn’t understand any of those larger reasons. I just knew he didn’t touch me. He didn’t hold or cuddle me as I did my teddy bear. Basically he had little to do with me and when he did, it was a belt thrashing for some major violation that I didn’t comprehend.

If I had soiled my hands and jeans with them on such auto-related projects, I might not be so panicked by dealership service shops. I might be able to change my own oil, install new spark plugs or, at the minimum, have an interest in cars other than a means to point B from point A. As I wandered about waiting and ruminating, I was surprised by my encounter with a mom, a stroller and a little boy just recently walking and not yet talking. My unexpected presence in his very new and wobbly world of delighted treading caused him to crash like a wind-up toy into the nearest wall. His mother and I gasped, expecting him to wail away from pain or just from surprise due to his unexpected encounter with the wall and resulting fall.

He didn’t. I apologized to them both and like the men in North Africa, I squatted to his side, smiled, looked into his sweet and ageless face and asked in that tone adults reserve for toddlers, “Are you OK? Did you hurt yourself?” Not yet talking, he answered with a smile, which I interpreted as “no.” He was OK. Being childless myself, I was surprised when this innocent and accepting little soul crept for only seconds

(but seemed to me like a lifetime) into some delicate region of my being. He then scampered quickly back out and about, leaving me to catch my breath.

I waited for my car to be done and for the bill. That would go on the credit card—“money owed I didn’t have.” As I paced, I glanced from the tiny male child, to the slick brochures for expensive cars, to bored faces of others waiting. Following a greater plan, my eyes were caught by and rested upon a small box of miniature brightly colored cars, buses and helicopters that were for sale. Toys. One was red; another was yellow. “Buy him a toy,” spoke a voice from that delicate just now stirred region of my being. As a loving father might have done, I agreed. Would he?

Could he enter there again? If so, $4.95 was the cost of admission.

I checked with Mom first and then asked the sweet toddler which one he would like to have. He chose the blue helicopter. As I took the toy to the counter where I would eventually pay my own bill, the little one followed. With the toy in my left hand and my right hand dangling at my side, I suddenly felt him grasp my little finger. Warm and tightly. I was stunned but delighted by his innocent trust to grab the finger of a man he had never seen before. Tragically, in our culture, only a toddler who could barely walk and talk could get away with such a loving and audacious act. I bought the helicopter for him. I squatted again and replaced my finger in his hand with the blue helicopter.

He looked at it, at me and smiled.

Like a frozen stick of butter you want only to soften, but have left a second or two too long in the microwave, the grasp of his warm tiny hand had melted a distant part of me that had never yet been touched in quite such a manner. I resisted picking him up and embracing him in my arms. I wish I had.

Had things been different? I could have been one hell of a father. Q Gay Writes is a DiverseCity Series writing group, a program of SLCC’s Community Writing Center. The group meets the 2nd and 4th Monday of each month, 6:30-8 pm, 210 E. 400 South, Ste. 8, Salt Lake.

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gaysaltlake.com | issue 245 | july 2015

the perils of petunia pap smear The tale of pride and service

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

Cache Valley AIDS Council over 15 years I was able to teach HIV Prevention to tens of thousands of students in 16 high schools in Northern Utah and Southern Idaho. One day Judd West and I were in the Cache Valley Mall, and a young lady approached us and asked if we were the same people who had given an HIV presentation at Mountain Crest High School several years earlier. When we confirmed that, indeed, it had been us, she exclaimed that she was so glad to run into us to thank us. She said, “you literally saved my life that day.” That is all the reward I need. These kinds of things are why we do community service.

And now, as is my custom, this leaves us with these eternal questions:

later another guy came along and after much explaining and coaxing I gave him a hot dog.

Then, slowly, hesitantly one by one, about three guys emerged from the trails and we had a nice little rendezvous.

The following week, the same scenario repeated, but there were about five participants. On the third week, one of the other guys also brought some chips to share and a chair of his own. It continued to build, week after week where we encouraged people on the trails to stop, have a hot dog, share a name and a story. Some weeks we would have up to 25 guys in attendance. We ended up naming our weekly cookouts, Weeny World. After several months we became bolder and we even encouraged HIV prevention by putting condom dispensers and safer sex information along the trails. There must have been a need because we ended up refilling the condom dispensers at least three times a week. Soon, dozens of lonely individuals made meaningful friendships and strengthen the community.

People often ask me why I spend so much time doing these kinds of community things? All I can do is share the following experience: As a member of the PUZZLE SOLUTIONS

1. Will Petunia Pap Smear’s beehive hair ever fit into a port-a-potty?

2. Do the police still buzz the Logan Canyon Fruit Loop looking for Weeny World?

3. When the young lady said “You saved my life that day,” did my eyeliner streak and run when I began to cry?

The answers to these, and many more questions, may be in the next Perils of Petunia Pap Smear Q

Cryptogram: ‘OF COURSE I DRESS WELL, I DIDN’T SPEND ALL THAT TIME IN THE CLOSET FOR NOTHING’.

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ley. That Bruce Barton, Bruce Harmon and my husband-tobe, Kelly Byrnes had already established the Metropolitan Community Church in Utah.

These people and all of the other community organizers before created a foundation and an environment where I was able to feel safe and choose and form a new extended family that would be a place of loving acceptance.

And helping me along the way with Weekly Coffee Klatches and movie nights, pot luck dinners, monthly Diner’s Clubs, annual river float trips and campouts, all these things were my dearest friends, Wayne Hansen, Bruce Allen and Tim Keller, not to mention the longsuffering Mr. Pap Smear.

I feel self-serving and greedy accepting this award, because for the most part, all I did was plan activities that I personally wanted to do, and then I invited the rest of the community along for the ride. For example, one time about 20 years ago, I was up Logan Canyon in the cruising area known as the “Fruit Loop,” lamenting that there was so much traffic coming and going but that everyone was so alone, plus I was hungry. I thought I could open up a hotdog stand and actually drum up quite a business.

So the next week I showed up in the Fruit Loop with a folding table and chair, a grill and some hot dogs and I set up shop in a wide spot in the trails. Many guys passed me by, and gave me a look like “are you crazy man, the police will come and get you.” Before long, I invited one of the cruisers to stop and have a hot dog, but he just moved speedily away, as if I were some kind of trap. About a half hour

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leading from a small farm in Idaho with 5,000 sheep to receiving the Dr. Kristen Reis Community Service Award on Gay Pride Day in Salt Lake City is fraught with danger and excitement.

This is not going to be my usual humor column. Please indulge me as I try to give proper and respectful thanks to the community which has seen fit to bestow such a great honor on this old has-been drag queen.

First of all, let me say that I am humbled beyond belief (No, that is not a strong enough word, I am mortified) at being given this award and having my name added to the list of the many great people who have preceded me. As they were reading off a list of things I have accomplished over the last 30 years in the LGBTQ community, I began to feel like Harry Potter, when Hermione and Ron were asking him to teach Dumbledore’s Army. Harry protested, “Wait... look, it all sounds *great* when you say it like that.

But the truth is most of that was just luck. I didn’t know what I was doing half the time, and I nearly always had help.”

And so it was with me also.

I’m so thankful to all the people who have come before me, preparing the road for a little frightened queen from Idaho, making that road a little less fraught with danger, and more filled with wonders and excitement. None of these accomplishments happen on their own, in a social vacuum.

I’m grateful that when I came out, and my family and religion rejected me, people like Norm Jenks and Judd West had already organized the Gay and Lesbian Alliance of Cache Val-

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