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UTAH’S GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDER AND ALLY

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“I’ve made out with more than one woman” Coming to Red Butte in July, we interview

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Celebrate the first anniversary of marriage equality in Utah with us at Plan-B as we share real-life marriage stories from “the 17 days,” woven together by playwright Elaine Jarvik.

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Salt Lake police officer has resigned over Pride parade According to the Salt Lake City Police Department, a written resignation from the officer under internal investigation related to an assignment at last weekend’s Utah Pride Parade has been received by superiors.

“This closes the internal case. In light of pending litigation, no further comment will be provided at this time,” the department said in a statement.

Salt Lake City police have provided security services for Utah Pride every year it has been held in city limits, said police spokeswoman Lara Jones. This year, an officer was put on paid administrative leave for refusing an assignment at Utah Pride.

“If you refuse to do an assignment, that’s going to be a problem inside the police department,” Jones told The Salt Lake Tribune. “The vast majority of officers, when they come to work, they understand that they leave their personal opinions at home and serve the community.”

This year, 30 officers are scheduled to provide security and traffic control the the Utah Pride Parade.

Dabakis, several SL City Council members will skip Days of ’47 Parade The Salt Lake City Council has decided to march in the Days of ’47 Parade on July 24, despite the fact that parade organizers have refused to allow Mormons Building Bridges, a group that supports the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. Salt Lake City Councilman Kyle LaMafa invited openly gay Sen. Jim Dabakis to join the Council in the parade, but today the senator announced that he will not take part.

I will not, after all, be marching in the Days of ’47 Parade this year. Given the controversy over ‘Mormons Building Bridges’ (a group I love and admire), I have decided that there is the possibility that my participation might divert attention away from the heroes of the parade, the thousands of volunteers who work so hard for so long to make this a one of America’s great parades,” Dabakis said in a statement.

“The Salt Lake City Council will always hold a dear place in my heart for their bold and valiant efforts, especially to Councilman Kyle LaMafa who invited me to march with him. The Councilman worked hard as a peacemaker. I also thank parade president, Craig Peterson for his efforts.

I hope one year, soon, we will be able to

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news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.) come together as a community.”

“Maybe things will work out better another year. Again, I wish the best year ever for the 2014 Days of ’47, and will be elbowing for my usual spot on Main Street,” Dabakis concluded.

North Dakota no longer the only state without a challenge to its ban on same-sex marriage The last state in the country with a ban on same-sex marriage that hasn’t seen a legal challenge is no more.

Seven couples filed a federal lawsuit today challenging the constitutional ban on same-sex marriage in North Dakota.

The lawsuit, filed in U.S. District Court in Fargo, challenges both North Dakota’s ban on gay marriage and its refusal to recognize the marriages of same-sex couples who legally wed in other states.

That means cases are currently pending in all 31 states with gay marriage bans. Judges have overturned several of those bans since the U.S. Supreme Court struck down part of the federal Defense of Marriage Act last year.

North Dakota’s attorney general’s office said it had not yet seen the suit and thus could not comment on the specifics.

Trans Pride LA evacuated due to bomb threat Two hundred people were evacuated from the Trans Pride LA festival June 14 due to a bomb threat.

The two-day event — which was due to conclude with a film screening at the LA Gay and Lesbian Center’s Renberg Theatre — was evacuated by police shortly before 9pm that day.

“We at Trans Pride L.A. regret the situation that abruptly ended yesterday’s event, shortly before it was scheduled to conclude. It saddens us greatly that the day had to end on a negative note,” organizers said in a statement. “The Los Angeles Police Department notified us that an anonymous person called in a bomb threat, identifying the Renberg Theatre as the target. It was our second bomb threat of the day, the first of which just referenced Trans Pride.

“After the first threat, police and security immediately conducted a sweep of The Village and found no reason for concern.

“The second threat came later in the evening, at a time when close to 200 people were in the theatre enjoying the Los Angeles Transgender Film Festival’s short film program.

“Out of an abundance of caution and with input from the LAPD, we made the decision to evacuate the theatre. Fortunately, a subsequent security sweep determined there was no explosive device.

“Our apologies to the filmmakers and everyone else inconvenienced by someone’s hateful and disruptive actions. We truly regret that this put a damper on an otherwise glorious day of joy and celebration.”

Michael Sam Signs Four-Year Contract With St. Louis Rams Michael Sam, the first openly gay football player to be drafted by the NFL, has officially become the first openly gay player to transcend the draft and land an NFL contract.

According to Fox Sports, the St. Louis Rams signed Sam and the rest of the Rams rookie class (11 new players) June 12, offering Sam a reported four-year, $2.65 million contract. The brand new paycheck will probably only cushion Sam’s income from partnership deals — before being drafted, he had already become a spokesman for Visa, launched a line of merchandise, and was courted for an OWN documentary.

Earlier that week, Sam told NFL.com that his transition into the NFL had been developing flawlessly. “They treat me like a football player,” he said.

After signing his contract, Sam tweeted that he was “grateful, humbled, and motivated.”

Sam’s Rams jersey was the No. 2 seller among rookies on NFLShop.com. Q

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Obama to sign executive order to protect LGBT workers After years of pressure from gay rights groups, President Barack Obama plans to sign an executive order banning federal contractors from discriminating against employees on the basis of their sexual orientation or gender identity, the White House said June 16.

While Obama lacks the authority to extend that protection to all Americans, the order being drafted by the White House would impact about 14 million workers whose employers or states currently do not ban workplace discrimination against gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender individuals. The scope of the measure was tabulated by the Williams Institute at UCLA Law School, which studies sexual orientation and gender identity law and public policy.

“This is a historic announcement,” said ACLU Executive Director Anthony D. Romero.

“President Obama’s commitment to LGBT equality will be one of his lasting legacies. This president has done more for the struggle for LGBT equality than all previous presidents combined. For more than 70 years, presidents, both Democratic and Republican, have used executive orders to eradicate taxpayer-funded discrimination in the workplace. Issuing this executive order will build upon a tradition that dates back to President Roosevelt’s 1941 order conditioning defense contracts on an agreement not to discriminate based on race, creed, color, or national origin.

Barring discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity with taxpayer funds by all federal contractors will begin to undo one of the last vestiges of legally sanctioned discrimination.”

The president has resisted signing the order in hopes Congress would pass a broader

non-discrimination measure that would apply to nearly all employers. While the Senate passed the legislation last year, the measure has languished in the Republican-led House and there is little sign that lawmakers will take it up in an election year.

“We’ve been waiting for quite a few months now for the House to take action and unfortunately there are no particularly strong indications that Congress is prepared to act on this,” White House spokesman Josh Earnest said.

The White House’s announcement was a significant victory for gay rights advocates, who widely praised Obama’s decision.

“By issuing an executive order prohibiting federal contractors from discriminating against LGBT people, the president will not only create fairer workplaces across the country, he will demonstrate to Congress that adopting federal employment protections for LGBT people is good policy and good for business,” said Chad Griffin, president of the Human Rights Campaign.

Officials would not say when Obama would sign the order or why the administration took the unusual step of previewing his plans for issuing such a measure.

The announcement comes a day before Obama attends the Democratic National Committee’s annual gay and lesbian fundraiser in New York. While the president has widespread political support among the LGBT community, advocates have become increasingly irritated with the president’s reluctance to move forward with the order.

Their frustration mounted earlier this year when Obama responded to gridlock on Capitol Hill by touting plans to take executive actions on issues that Congress would not act on. Q

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Utah Pride draws crowds, goes off without a hitch The Utah Pride Festival appeared to be the largest attendance and seemingly went off without any major problems. Attendance numbers and ticket sales were not available at press time, as they usually take about a month to finalize.

“The most cohesive and engaged group of leadership volunteers we have ever had went above and beyond to provide the biggest, best Pride Festival we have ever had here in Utah. From the Grand Marshal event, to re-worked and expanded grounds, reactions to this year’s event have been amazing,” said Utah Pride Center Executive Director Steven Ha. Concerns rose when two key Festival staff members left their positions less than three weeks before the event.

Megan Risbon, under contract as Festival Director since January 2014, terminated her contract effective Tuesday, May 20, and Events Coordinator Shannon Hagen left that same week.

Ha said that he polled members of the Festival steering committee and it was determined that the event was far enough along and that the Festival could be easily be handled by the committee, with members over separate parts of the festival.

Many of those people have been in their positions for several years.

A small hiccup came as the gates on Saturday were supposed to open as three marches approached the grounds: the Dyke March, Trans* March and Interfaith March. A delay in opening caused by communications issues with the Salt Lake City Fire Marshall led to long lines of people trying to gain entrance. Twenty minutes

after the gates were to open, the issue cleared and festival-goers were quickly ushered onto the grounds.

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streets were so filled with cheering supporter,” Ha said.

More organizations and businesses had floats this year, and a float at the beginning of the parade carried the grand marshals — the three couples named in the Kitchen v. Herbert suit that is winding its way through the U.S. 10th Circuit Court of Appeals — along with hundreds of Utah same-sex couples who have married.

Winners of the parade include Club TryAngles as best bar float for its fifth consecutive year, and Salt Lake Men’s Choir for best nonprofit float for its second year.

A group of uniformed Boy Scouts car-

This year more sponsors than ever before joined the Festival, as well as more vendor booths, parade entries and volunteers.

Those with booths enjoyed a new layout that kept much of them away from the loudest of stages — the dance stage. Organizers moved the stage and vodka bar to take up the southeast quadrant of the grounds, moving the booths to areas that were once just dead zones.

Entertainment was expanded with five stages, including one run by KRCL that brought in local acts that held crowds all weekend long.

Betty Who and Steve Grand’s performances filled the space in front of the main stage.

Spectators lined the streets Utah Pride ice sculpture at the Friday night Grand Marshal reception, along the route of the Utah presented by Le Croissant Catering PHOTO: GALLIVAN PHOTOGRAPHY Pride Parade. Those who have marched in the parade before commented ried the U.S., Utah and Pride flags under that the numbers watching the parade the direction of Geoffrey McGrath, a seemed significantly larger this year. In former scoutmaster in Seattle dismissed by previous years, one could see empty patchthe Boy Scouts of America three months es along the route, but this year, people ago for being gay, his brother Dave Mcwere crowded several rows deep through Grath who runs “Old Scouts Promise,” and the entire route. current scout leader Peter Brownstein.

“The parade set a new bar. The amazing Ha said that all leaders of the Center are Grand Marshals and married couples led thankful to the volunteers, sponsors, venoff the parade in style, and at times it was dors, marchers, and attendees who helped difficult to tell where the parade ended make the event the “most fun, colorful, and inclusive weekend in the state.” Q and the spectators began because the

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Cheer Salt Lake recruiting for the 2014-2015 season Are you they type of person who loves to have a ton of fun and help the community? Do you wish to push yourself to the extremes and take part in the one of the most physically demanding sports out there?

Do you like to cheer on and support the LGBT community?

If so, then Cheer Salt Lake has a place for you.

Cheer Salt Lake has been rocking it as Salt Lake City’s sassiest LGBT-friendly sports team since starting in 2011.

As members of the Pride Cheerleading Association, they raise money for people living with HIV/AIDS through the high-flying sport of cheer.

They accept all ages (20 and over), body times and abilities.

In fact, some of the oldest and sassiest members of our sister PCA team are in their mid 50s, and they are not about ready to stop any time soon! So if you think you are too old to cheer, think again.

This year they are looking to fill up to 10-12 spots, so they can build some impressive collegiate-level stunts and perform well above the last three years. They also have a

new uniform design that will make the team look absolutely amazing.

Their performances have included: Main Stage at San Francisco Pride Main Stage at Las Vegas Pride Main Stage at Provo Pride Opening of the Salt Lake AIDS Walk Opening of Utah Pride Cheering on the Wasatch Roller Derby & Utah Blitz Women’s football team and much more They practice every Tuesday night at the Utah Xtreme Cheer, 8531 S. 700 West in Sandy from 7:45–10 p.m. They practice stunting, tumbling, dancing, motions, jumps and everything that makes cheerleading awesome.

Whether you are gay, straight, bi, transgender or a bear, butch or femm, you really should give pride cheerleading a try! Visit cheersaltlake. org to apply for the team. They will be taking new members throughout the months of June and July, so apply now. Q

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Utah Pride parade breaks spectator, participant records The crowds lining the streets were measurably larger than any other year in Utah Pride Parade history, as 149 entries paraded by. Thank you to Ann Clark for all of these great photos.

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Q mmunity 40th anniversay celebration of the first Gay Pride in Utah QSaltLake is hosting a picnic event in City Creek Canyon to celebrate the 40th anniversary of the first “Gay Freedom Day” that happened June 27, 1974 in Salt Lake.

People are encouraged to carpool, as parking is limited. Cars with four or more people can park free. Those with less will pay $10 PHOTOS: ANN CLARK

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to park. People can bring their own picnic or purchase barbecue sandwiches and drinks at the event. Entertainment will be available, and any entertainers who want to perform should contact editor@qsaltlake.com WHEN: Saturday, June 28 3–8pm WHERE: City Creek Canyon Rotary Park “Service to All” pavilion INFO: gaysaltlake.com

Int’l gay square dancing convention comes to Salt Lake The 31st annual convention of the International Association of Gay Square Dance

Clubs invades Salt Lake, dubbed “Squeeze The Hive.” Square dancers from across the nation and around the world will be in town for classes, competitions, tours and meetings.

WHEN: July 3–6 WHERE: Grand America Hotel INFO: SqueezeTheHive.com

Bingo at Sugar House Park Third Friday Bingo with the Matrons of Mayhem will be outdoors in July and August.

WHEN: Friday, July 18 and Aug. 15, 7pm WHERE: Pavilion at Sugar House Park COST: First card is $5, $3 add’l for charity.

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Leave it to Beaver Editor, I beseech the State of Utah to cease any and all appeals relating to Judge Robert Shelby’s decision striking down Amendment 3, Utah’s ban on same-sex marriage. The whole situation is an embarrassment to Utah and will be seen as a black mark on our state’s history someday. Governor Herbert and Attorney General Reyes need a serious reality check.

Times have changed. The ’50s are over! “Leave It to Beaver”

is off the air! The writing is on the wall. Marriage equality is coming to the United States.

The sooner our leaders grasp this, the better off everyone will be. In addition, the money being allocated to fight Judge Shelby’s ruling is simply outrageous. It has been estimated that the state’s appeal will cost as much as $2 million.

Wouldn’t that be better spent on, I don’t know, our moneystarved education system? It’s time for the State of Utah to join the real world and allow the LGBT community to be

treated equally under the law, as stated in the Fourteenth Amendment, post-haste!

RYAN CURTIS Salt Lake City

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the straight line

Community building

BY BOB HENLINE

This past

weekend I was honored to participate in Restore Our Humanity’s Summer Family Carnival. As with most events these days, there was a fundraising element involved in it; but unlike most, the true aim was something much more fundamental and much more important: community building.

The event was free, funded by Restore Our Humanity and several generous sponsors. It wasn’t a $200 per plate gala; there weren’t any entry or admission fees or vendors; the various (and plentiful) activities, entertainment acts, and food were open to all; and there was not a VIP section to be seen.

What was there was something markedly different from “the usual,” something some remember from years past and places distant. There was a sense of purpose, a sense of commitment, and a sense of family. It was the epitome of a community event.

I was awestruck at the reaction of people who wandered into the carnival and asked how much the food and activities cost when they were told quite simply, “Nothing.

Please donate if you can and enjoy yourself.” The smiles on the faces of the children as they played and ate and had their faces painted translated quickly into smiles on the faces of the adults as we watched them have fun. People were open and friendly, everyone was equal, everyone was a VIP. People from all walks of life, gay and lesbian and trans*, young and old and everywhere in between, friends and fami-

lies and singles and couples, they all came together to enjoy each others’ company on a beautiful day in the park.

This is what makes victory inevitable. This is ROH bringing the dream and vision of founder Mark Lawrence into reality. This is a community coming together and growing in strength and purpose for the benefit of all. This is how we change the world.

As we await the Tenth Circuit Court of Appeals’ ruling in the case of Kitchen v. Herbert, it is imperative that we not lose sight of what this moment has brought to all of us. Restore Our Humanity has already accomplished more than most thought ever possible by bringing marriage equality to Utah for those magical 17 days. They did it without a big office, without an expensive staff, and without compromise. They did it by helping to re-establish a true sense of community and everything that entails.

It is now up to all of us to help carry that torch forward, to help continue to build and expand and support our community, our entire community.

Moving forward means that we also need to look back and make the most of the lessons of the past. It means opening our arms and our hearts to all of the downtrodden among us.

It means extending the hand of friendship and support to any who are marginalized and make them welcome within our community.

It means we’re taking big steps into the next phase of the human movement. We are building a lasting community. Q

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queer shift

Leadership— SHIFT Being a

BY CHARLES LYNN FROST

leadership coach I spend a lot of time discussing the dynamics of how people effectively lead with my clients. Some clients are local, some are from larger companies with whom I have contracted before to assist their mid-level or junior executive leaders with their organizations. Leadership, both good and bad surrounds us at every corner in today’s world, whether it be on the international, national, state, municipal, and especially the Queer community levels. I’ve met few people in the GLBT community who do not have a strong and solid penchant to complain, criticize, compare, or be competitive when it comes to leadership and the vision, strategy, and action that comes from those leaders. The traditional criticism has to do with leadership actions, decisions, or directions—or the total lack thereof. In my October 2013 Queer Shift column I tackled trust, which I believe is still at the core of why leadership does of does not work. I had focused on Trust as a topic because many I had been talking to seemed to have it as the core value they thought was missing from local Queer leadership. Here we are 9, almost 10 months later, and it appears that little has changed. As a columnist— you have a sincere desire that what you select to write about, the research time and energy you take to formulate your writing will make a difference, give the reader pause, and cause either some serious internal or external thinking, and at best create change. Change in small steps or in huge shifts within the community.

Leaders come, leaders go, some are great, some good, some just suck. Fact!

I am a TED Talk junkie. Full-blown, need to be in rehab addict level! A perfect day for me would be to sit, work, work out, cook dinner, sip wine, garden, while watching or listening to as many brilliant TED Talks as possible. And they are all brilliant!

It’s my way of giving my brain a regular boner. If you haven’t encountered TED Talks, here’s a quickie explanation. (Watch just one, you’ll be hooked too.) TED was

founded in 1984 as a one-off event. TED’s early emphasis was technology and design.

The TED main conference is held annually in Vancouver, British Columbia and its companion TEDActive is held in Whistler. TED events are also held throughout North America and in Europe and Asia.

They address a wide range of topics within the research and practice of science and culture, often through storytelling, (which is also why I adore them.) The speakers are given a maximum of 18 minutes to present their ideas in the most innovative and engaging ways they can. Past presenters include Bill Clinton, Jane Goodall, Malcolm Gladwell, Al Gore, Gordon Brown, Brene Brown, Richard Dawkins, Bill Gates, Bono, Mike Rowe, Google founders Larry Page and Sergey Brin, and many Nobel Prize winners. By 2012, TED Talks had been watched one billion times worldwide.

One recent TED Talk that I encountered was brilliantly delivered by Simon Sinek, a management theorist who posits the gigantic question—what makes a great leader? Sinek suggests it’s someone who makes their employees (or those they lead) feel secure, safe, who draws staffers (or community members) into a circle of trust.

But creating trust and safety — means taking on big responsibility. Catch it if you can, you won’t be sorry—here’s the link: bit.ly/ted-shift I am sure many of you—like me watched The Normal Heart by Larry Kramer on HBO a few weeks ago. I found it riveting, phenomenal playwriting and acting, and a superb reflection of a significant historical past of HIV/AIDS in the late 70’s and 80’s. Still today, as in the play, some have criticized Kramer for being polarizing, too radical in his leadership and desire for change. I am a true believer that great leaders like Kramer keep on giving, keep on earning it. I also feel successful leaders own their era, the movement, the issues, policies, and the thinking they are attempting to change. Great leaders tell the truth that most others do not wish to hear. Either that—or often worse they

veil in secrecy the information the people they lead are screaming to know and better understand.

Here’s a challenge to all leaders who are in charge of leading any group, community, state, and beyond: 1. As stated earlier, create a safe place for all, safety in the comprehensive sense of the word.

2. Operate so the culture, community, state, nation belongs to everybody, and is their responsibility.

3. Listen, solicit solutions that are fully representative and beneficial to the community, and then lead efforts towards fruition of the those better solutions.

Leaders come, leaders go, some are great, some good, some just suck. Fact!

4. When speaking be both courageous, tell the truth, but also be courteous in how you deliver the message of leadership.

5. Keep confidences, confront gossip, find out all the facts.

6. Openness and transparency are extremely important, a shared vision leads to success.

7. Encourage those you lead to be engaged, part of the solution, regardless of whether you personally like them. Ownership means everything for people to embrace change.

8. Operate daily with an abundance versus scarcity mentality.

9. Honesty, trustworthiness, and integrity are three values you must constantly display.

10. Collaboration, cooperation, creativity, compromise, and true celebration, are the tools of accomplished leaders.

“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson Q

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A matter of pride

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BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

We went

to Pride for the first time since returning to Utah. It was a lot of fun, and we had a great time. But I have to say, it was very different than our previous Pride experiences in San Francisco. First and foremost, it’s the first Pride parade we’ve ever attended as a family.

During the 10 years we lived in San Francisco, Kelly and I never missed Pride in “The City.” In about half of those parades we actually marched. Often times it was with political candidates like Roberta Achtenberg (whom the late Sen. Jesse Helms referred to as “not your garden variety of lesbian” during her confirmation hearing after being appointed Assistant Secretary of Housing and Urban Development by President Clinton — making her the senior-most lesbian woman in government at the time.) Other times we marched with the Harvey Milk Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Democratic Club.

And in that way, our Salt Lake Pride was very similar: our family marched with a group advocating the re-election of Sheriff Jim Winder. We were also invited to join Sen. Jim Dabakis’ contingent.

But the two events were also very different in a number of ways.

I suppose, not surprisingly, Salt Lake’s event is considerably tamer than its San Francisco equivalent. Kelly and I used to try to predict the appearance of a man we dubbed “Naked Blue Guy,” who ran the parade route completely naked, his entire body painted blue.

It was also far more organized and orderly. I’m not sure if it’s the consensus building of the Pride committee in SF or what, but every year there was confusion about the starting time, and the Dykes on Bikes would get pissed off and just go — causing everyone else to rush out of the gate to keep up.

To be brutally honest, my experiences at SF Pride — although a lot of fun — greatly influenced my decision not to attend earlier Salt Lake parades. Whereas I might find some naked dude running around shaking his blue balls — literally — amusing, but I don’t want my kids to see that.

Yet somehow, for better or worse, that tameness, that different viewpoint of “community standards” that we have in Salt Lake, created an atmosphere almost identical to what we experienced in San Francisco. It was a welcoming, embracing celebration.

When the boys ran out of Re-Elect Sheriff Jim Winder stickers, they started to offer the bystanders lined up along the streets high fives. Maybe it was the fact they’re little kids that caused old and young, gay and straight, regular attendees and curious first-time onlookers to reach out their hand and accept a slap from my kids.

Sure, we were there officially as supporters of a great sheriff, but we were there as examples of a changing world.

In the staging area, we found ourselves next to a group of Mormons, who were there to show their support for equality. Now my friend Aimz would say if they really wanted to show their support, they’d put their money where their mouths are, and quit financially supporting the LDS Church. And on the one hand I agree with her. I also think that by staying active in their church, these folks serve as examples for others, who will feel more secure in coming out as supporters of equality.

Who knows, maybe one day, in true Utah fashion, there will be a contingent of pioneer-clad parade marchers dragging rainbow-covered pull carts. But is it really too much to hope we see Naked Blue Guy running alongside them? Q

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lambda lore

Remember our History

BY BEN WILLIAMS

How real

is our sense of GLBT history in

this community?

Few in the our Gay community have a general knowledge of GLBT history and even less, I suspect, have a sense of our regional Queer Utah history.” How committed are we in the GLBT communities to remembering the people and the events that created one of the greatest civil rights movements?

How important is our history to us?

How important is it to our so-called leaders? I once heard a former director of our community center tell a reporter that she did not care about what happened in the past before her appointment but only cared about the here and now. While I realize that her comments were meant to imply that there’s a task to do here and now and we must not be hindered by mistakes from the past, I, however, thought it was not only an ignorant thing to say but it also lacked gratitude to those who made having a community center even possible.

Today, people coming to terms with their homosexuality — young and old — often enter our community without any sense of a collective identity or access to an institutional memory. We grow up in a cultural vacuum, unaware of the significant contributions made by Gay men and women in all the academic, political, scientific, and aesthetic fields of humankind, unless we are willing to do some serious researching.

What is history? It is often said that history is the collective myths, facts, and lies agreed upon, by which a people can define themselves. Be that as it may, where there is no “history,” there is no sense of group identity either.

“History” is terrifyingly vulnerable to denial,” wrote author Patricia Warren. “If one grandmother sweeps a family secret under the rug, or never shares her stories with her grandchildren, the family’s picture of itself is skewed.” This true when Gay elders do not share or write their stories, warts and all.

Many right-wing heterosexual ideologists and some liberal assimilationists

would have us believe that we are not a distinct and separate people apart from heterosexuals. To many heterosexuals, homosexuals are still simply misguided heterosexuals, although that view is rapidly changing.

Yes, love is love. However, it is obvious that we are homosexual, not by how we have sex, but by the very nature of our love for our own sex. We fundamentally know that we are different, that our Gay “love” infuses us and enriches us with a totally unique life experience from what heterosexuals can experience. It is from this experience that we, as homosexuals, view the world.

While no one would want their sexuality to be the recognized as the sole sum of their worth, the nature of one’s sexual orientation must be understood as important in writing about historical figures or about our own lives. Understanding someone’s sexual orientation is necessary, much in the same way that it is necessary to know if a person is male or female. No one would argue that the physical and behavioral components that make us male and female are not factors in how we perceive the world. However many heterosexual historians disregard homosexuality as pertinent to the understanding of how a person reacts to the world around them.

Sometimes this is known as “queer energy”

by GLBT people.

Often in our heterosexual normative world the perspective on homosexuality is generally negative. In the non-Gay world, homosexuality is seen as a moral weakness or a character defect at best and at worse a sign of a depraved or wanton nature.

Homosexuality is rarely discussed or brought to the table when studying history. This absence of the mention of a person’s sexuality implies that everyone is heterosexual by default unless proven otherwise. Therefore it is imperative that we homosexuals become historians and reclaim what is rightfully ours, our perspective and place in history.

When a majority of any type wants to negate a minority’s legitimate cultural

identity, the first thing it does is destroy their history. The Nazi’s knew this when then burned sexologist Magus Herschfeld’s immense archive on Gay and Lesbian history, including manuscripts from the times of Socrates and Sappho. If one can bury vital information, or even worse destroy an historical archive of a people or movement, one can successfully eliminate them from living memory.

Heterosexuals should not have to be relied upon to examine and explain us in a context with which we can relate. Most won’t do it for us and in reality many or most can’t. I can write Lesbian history but I cannot write it from a Lesbian perspective. We’ve got to write and preserve or histories for ourselves.

How much does the younger Queer generation know about our Utah roots? I wonder if people think that the powers that be just rolled out the rainbow welcome carpet in Salt Lake City and said, “Come On Down! We love our faggots and dykes.”

Let me tell you, we in Utah did not get where we are today by expensive fund raisers. We didn’t get where we are today by people who can write big checks. Before the master degrees in Social Work, before classes in Gender Studies, before the legion of law students took up anti-discrimination issues, there were just extraordinary people who were brave enough to withstand society’s repercussions in order to build a “community.” Times evolve and money and degrees open doors that even extraordinary people can’t today but let’s not forget our beginnings. Let’s not forget the people who opened the doors to support groups, created social outlets, created newspapers, ran our taverns, and led our protests.

Before the suburbs became accepting of Gay families, there first had to be the Gay ghettos. A line from The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert succinctly stated the importance of our ghettos.

“It’s funny. We all sit around mindlessly slagging on that vile stinkhole of a city of ours, but in some strange way it takes care of us. I don’t know if that ugly wall of suburbia has been put there to stop them

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creep of the week getting in, or us getting out.”

Our “stinkholes” were not an economic ghetto by any means, but a cultural ghetto where Gay people could live, love, and thrive relatively unmolested by those who hated us. As society’s prejudices are breaking down, new Gay pioneers are leaving for the suburbans to raise kids, cats and dogs.

I tell young GLBT people if you have never been arrested for public display of affection, if you have never been denied the right to serve your country, if you have never been criminalized for the way you make love, if you never been diagnosed as having a pathology because of your sexual orientation, you need to thank all the Gay seniors who fought for these rights for you and perhaps show a little gratitude by taking the time to remember our history.

Salt Lake City is so very lucky that many of the people who created our Gay communities in the 1970s and 1980s are still alive. Nothing was taken for granted by these pioneers who eked out a vibrant community within the hostile and harsh environment of theocratic Utah. We can still know and honor the community builders and leaders who donated their time and talent and even tears to making Salt Lake City truly the Gay Crossroads of the West.

This summer the Utah Stonewall Historical Society and QSaltLake are providing a free five-week lecture series on Utah’s fabulous history. Located in room C of the downtown City Library, June 30 through July 28 at 7 p.m. Subjects germane to our story will be presented by historians and community leaders followed by a question and answer period. Space is limited to the first 35 people interested.

Contact the Utah Stonewall Historical Society’s Facebook Page for more details. Q

Idaho Division of Veterans Services

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

Imagine

that your spouse is dead. You spent 17 years of your lives together, caring for and loving each other. Now her ashes are in a box in your closet. It is your wish that when you die, her ashes will be interred alongside you in your state’s veterans’ cemetery because you are a veteran and she is your spouse. Sounds like pretty standard end of life planning, doesn’t it?

Ah, yes. But there’s a catch.

The thing is, you are a woman.

And that complicates things.

This is, unfortunately, the situation 74-year-old Madelynn Taylor finds herself in after the Idaho Division of Veterans Services refused her request to be buried with her late spouse, Jean Mixner, because Idaho doesn’t recognize their marriage.

In 2006 Idaho voters passed Amendment 2, which reads, “A marriage between a man and a woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this state.”

And thank heavens voters added that to the state’s constitution, otherwise Idaho’s dead veterans might have to face the injustice of two dead lesbians fouling up their cemetery.

Granted, Taylor could just go be buried someplace else.

It’s not like the Idaho State Veterans Cemetery is her only option. Except for the fact that Taylor is an Idaho veteran who wants to be buried there.

“I just feel that it’s the right place for me. You know, I’m a veteran. So they should let me,” Taylor told KTVB. “In fact they would let me alone, be in that crypt…But I don’t want to be alone. I want Jean with me.”

(I’ll pause here so you can get some tissues.)

To add insult to injury, Taylor served in the Navy from 1958-1964. Coming as she does from a military family (“It’s what we did. When we were 18, you picked a service and joined,” she told KTVB), she likely would have served for longer had they not kicked her out for — you guessed it — being gay.

Taylor told KBOI that she wasn’t surprised by the state’s refusal, “I’ve been discriminated against for 70 years, and they might as well discriminate against me in death as well as life.”

Make no mistake, she doesn’t really mean the “might as well” part. Despite her friendly disposition in her TV news interviews, she’s fighting back. She’s joined the Add the Words campaign, which seeks to get “sexual orientation and gender identity” added to Idaho’s nondiscrimination law.

Hopefully, too, Idaho’s anti-gay

marriage amendment will be overturned like so many others across the country have been.

What Taylor is asking for is hardly extravagant. Her partner was cremated. She wants to be cremated.

Which means that “You know, I’m burying a veteran. So them they should let together me” is logistically very easy.

It’s not like the cemetery has to dig two sixfoot holes in the ground. All they have to do is put two containers in one drawer. Something they do for opposite sex spouses all the time.

“It’s not taking up any more space to have both of us in there,” she told KBOI. “And I don’t see where the ashes of a couple old lesbians is going to hurt anybody.” Q

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guest editorial

Marriage Equality Won’t Fix Everything

BY JONATHAN ADAMSON

As we

come closer to marriage equality being a reality for all US citizens, I often hear people speak of the LGBT rights movement as soon being resolved and over. That everything will be fixed. I want to take a moment and say — it won’t be that easy. Let me tell you a story.

One warm summer evening in downtown Salt Lake, Sean and I (my boyfriend of 3 years) were on a date. We went to dinner and parked a little ways from the restaurant to enjoy a nice evening walk.

Everyone was out. Couples were holding hands under the night light of the city. It really was a perfect evening. Naturally, we also wanted to hold hands. Every time we choose to hold hands in public we have this internal dialog that goes something like this: “It would be great to hold hands — its such a nice evening. But if we do, people might say something, laugh at us. Are we in a safe enough area that the possibility of physical violence is minimal? Yeah — we are downtown among all these other nice couples. Deep breath — okay, I want to hold his hand and I don’t care what the consequences are.”

So we hold hands. At first there is a nervousness. How will people react? Are they pointing at us and whispering? After awhile, when things seem okay, we can be more comfortable. And then, waiting to cross the street an SUV full of college aged men slows down, windows down, and they yell at us from the car. “Fags! Aww nasty! hahaha!” and drive off. Well, all of the sudden the night stopped being so perfect and magical. We cross the street, get into our car, and drive home.

I tell this story not to induce pity, but to demonstrate a few things. I am 28 years old. I came out and started dating when I was 25. I grew up in a homophobic society that shames gay people. It is in the language we use. There has never been a doubt in my mind that most people around me growing up viewed gay people as disgusting, unnatural, deviant, with a problem

that made them undesirable to society. We use “gay” as an insult to mean stupid, weak, ugly, disgusting, and any number of other awful things.

I went 25 years refusing to accept that I was that awful unwanted thing that was “gay.” I tried to hate it out of me which really just made me hate myself. It destroyed my self-confidence and my self-image.

Even today, it is extremely hard to view myself as attractive, talented, successful, and desirable. It doesn’t matter how many people pay me a compliment, there is a part of me that simply refuses to believe it. As we have grown up, the messages surrounding us have been ones of extreme shame. Today, the validity of our love and relationships are being debated on public news stations and courtrooms across America. Well-known people of power and influence like politicians, celebrities, athletes, and others continue to make statements that degrade us as human beings and our relationships and families. Our governments spend our tax money to fight every step we take towards equality. We are granted some piece of equality for a minute, only to have it retracted. Religious people tell us God hates us or that God simply cannot accept or recognize our love and family as equal and good. They view us as a threat to society and family — a cancer that will destroy our nation.

But we try anyway. Against all the odds, we try to build relationships and raise families and accomplish our dreams and desires for our image of a happy life. But sadly, most of us still carry so much shame around. It is not easy to erase decades of messages aimed at making “being gay” undesirable and shameful. Many of us deal with that shame in ways that can be destructive and then society scoffs at us for those destructive behaviors. They kick us to the gutter and then take a picture and put it on a poster to say, “see — they are filthy!” And whether those behaviors are related to promiscuity, drugs and alcohol, obsessiveness over body image,

inability to be vulnerable, problems related to intimacy, or any number of other things, one thing is very clear — Marriage equality will not fix the deep rooted shame that our society, our religious institutions, and our government have planted deep in the minds and hearts of LGBT people.

It is a battle each member of the LGBT community will continue fighting within ourselves — some more successfully than others. Many will still lose that battle.

HOMEWORK: If you are an ally, don’t ride the train into the marriage equality station and then get off. We need you to continue speaking up on our behalf. We may look strong on the outside, but many of us have a part inside that still asks, “what if they are right? What if I am disgusting? What if I am broken? Maybe I am less deserving of happiness.” Stand up against homophobia in all its forms. Learn more about the “T” part of “LGBT” and become a transgender ally. Call out any shaming you recognize and correct it. There will be someone that sees and or hears you speak up and it could shave years off the internal shame they may experience. One day, LGBT kids will grow up not knowing shame the way we did and it will be because of people like you who refuse to be silent.

If you are a member of the LGBT community, check out these videos where a psychotherapist addresses specifically some of the issues gay men experience due to the homophobia we have grown up around. Although it is specific to gay men (I know — male privilege) there are many things that can also crossover to other members of the LGBT community.

It may help you recognize unhealthy ways you deal with shame and that awareness is a great start to finding the path to healing and wholeness: bit.ly/mdempsey And this book: The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs, PhD. Q Jonathan Adamson lives with his partner, Sean Smith in Salt Lake City.

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Sarah Shines On

Coming to Salt Lake July 1, Sarah McLachlan speaks about making out with women, the public’s curiosity about her sexuality and the time she inspired a transgender kid

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

If you’re

still wondering whether the soundtrack to all your heartache, Sarah McLachlan, swings both ways because she plays the guitar and she’s earthy, wonder no more. She’s been there, done that … but not in a long time.

While promoting her first album in four years, Shine On, the singer herself broke the silence in our recent interview, revealing that though she’s “pretty straight,” she’s loved up on the ladies.

At what point in your career did you know you had a big gay following? Mmm … probably Boston 1991. (Laughs)

That’s very specific. I’m serious. Maybe 1992. It was with my second record (Solace) and I remember going to do a gig in Boston. I hung out with a lot of women after the show and, uhh, there was one bartender in particular who was really hot! And I’m not gonna say anything else, but yeah. (Laughs) Wait, no, no. You can’t just leave me hanging like that. (Laughs) She was a good kisser — that’s all I’m gonna say! That was my first sort of foray. It didn’t go past that, but that was, mmm, yeah.

I just remember there being a lot of women holding hands in the audience — and not only that, but it was a really intelligent audience. I don’t even know how I could tell that, but I just remember this feeling of, wow, this is just a great, great audience. I wish I could say why, but anyway, that was sort of the beginning of it and I think it just progressed from there.

So girls aren’t just good kissers but also super attentive? (Laughs) I can generalize with my fans in that way, and all my fans — gay, straight — are coming for the music. They’re coming for church. I say that because that’s how I feel, especially about playing live; for me, that’s sort of my church. I get to be a part of something bigger than myself and be really connected to other human beings on a real emotional and visceral level. It’s very powerful.

It’s a mutual feeling. It’s a mutual lovin’!

You mention your girl-on-girl foray in 1991, and for the longest time people have made assumptions about your sexuality. What do you think of the public’s interest in whether you’re bisexual? People are always interested in how people bend. I’ve never shied away from it. I mean, I’m pretty straight. Let me just put it this way: I’ve never had sex with a woman. I haven’t. I’ve made out with more than one woman, but it just sort of happened. And there may have been alcohol involved during one of them.

(Laughs) But not all of them? No, no. But yeah, I’m pretty much straight. But at the same time I am such a strong advocate for gay and lesbian rights because I truly believe that we are all equal. We should be able to choose whom we love and how we love, and it’s not anybody’s goddamn business, really.

Of course. I’m absolutely with you. Oh, I know you are!

I figured I’m speaking to the converted here. (Laughs) But

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it’s the same for any group that is ostracized or demonized for something that simply shouldn’t even be an issue. It’s the same with race and racism. It’s absolute bullshit.

I got involved with Lifebeat [the leading national nonprofit focused on educating America’s youth about HIV/AIDS prevention] really early on in New York. There was all this stigma around AIDS, and it’s horrific.

People are dying, they’re suffering — and it’s got nothing to do with anything except we need to help, the world needs to help.

As the modern face of feminism and someone who made a bold statement with Lilith Fair, what are your observations on the inclusion and representation of women in music today? There’s a pretty good crosssection going on, but it’s very dangerous for young women to become complacent and think that there is no glass ceiling.

Feminism has almost become a dirty word in the past 10 years, like, we don’t need that anymore; our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers did all that work and it’s done. It’s like, no, honey, there’s still growth in equality in this country, much less the rest of the world, which is even more frightening. At any moment, if we’re not on the ball, our sexual freedom can be taken away from us. You know, our freedom to choose. In a lot of states, that’s in flux. So you cannot be complacent. We have to have vigilance and keep an eye on things. Equality is still a fight that needs to be fought.

When you look out at the females making music nowadays, what do you see? I see someone like Lorde who shows pictures of herself Photoshopped and un-Photoshopped and says, I have pimples, this is who I am, don’t take that away from me; don’t try to make me something that I’m not. She’s a great example of how a young woman should talk about herself, but you know, she’s a Kiwi.

I think Adele is a fantastic representation of beautiful, powerful strong music being made by women. She’s not a stick; she doesn’t try to be. She is bold and proud and beautiful and has pretty much the best voice out there. I bow down to her.

Then there are a lot of young girls who are being overtly sexual as women have been since the beginning of time, because it is a powerful tool. It’s a powerful tool that men pretty much control, though.

I don’t think much has changed in that department. Women think they have total control, and they’re doing it because that’s what men have told them for centuries to do. I think it’s really naïve to think that it’s any different than that.

How aware are you of the role your 1993 album Fumbling Towards Ecstasy has played in the lives of many queer people?

I’ve heard that story a lot and it absolutely warms my heart. For me, some of the best validation an artist can have is to have someone you don’t know tell you that what you’ve created has had a profound impact on helping them through something. It’s absolutely fantastic. I’m typically and purposefully ambiguous [in my music] because I don’t want it to be about a guy falling in love with a girl or vice versa. People fall in love. People.

But furthermore, Fumbling was relatable to the gay community in that it was coming of age, and it explored issues of self-actualization, doubts and fears — all things gay people go through. Mmhmm, yeah. I mean, “Elsewhere” was on that record. “Good Enough” was on that record.

I know with “Good Enough” I strayed away from ambiguity and was very much talking about “she.” That was sort of about the importance of women, the sisterhood of having other people. For me, I was talking about a heterosexual relationship gone bad, an abusive male in that particular situation, and women coming to the rescue.

Have you ever been inspired to write about one of your lesbian flings (Laughs) They were so short-lived. Basically, like, one night … or two nights.

A long weekend? Yeah, over a long weekend all those years ago. (Laughs) You mentioned “Elsewhere,” and I know lots of people who connected particularly with this lyric: “Mother can’t you see I’ve got to live my life the way I feel is right for me / Might not be right for you but it’s right for me.” Absolutely. Total rite of passage. And that for me, personally, was directed toward my mother, but I met a transgender kid about a month ago who introduced me to his mom because he was involved in this program that was addressing all the issues that he was facing, which includes coming out to your family. As you know, that can be incredibly difficult. His mom was just wonderful. She gave me a big hug and said, “Thank you so much. You’ve done so much for bringing us together because I’ve connected through your songs.

He’s reached out to me and explained what’s happening and he used your music to help explain it.” She just gave me the hugest hug and I’m like, “Oh my god, come here. Come here everyone. Group hug!”

And we all started crying. Again, what a beautiful thing. The greatest gift for me

is that I get to be a part of something like that, something that is helping other people feel good about themselves, and feel whole.

Can you ever make an album like Fumbling again? I know you probably can’t recapture that time, that moment… No, no … you can’t. Because I was how many years younger? I’m hoping that Shine On is a little more like that in that it’s joie de vivre, in that it’s really open. It’s certainly speaking to a different rite of passage. This, for me, is the arc of the last six years of my life — separating from my husband, losing my father, and separating from my management and record label of 23 years ago. So all these male anchors.

And loss. Lots of loss. A lot of loss. A lot of this is the second half of my life. I’m entering into it and asking, “How do I redefine myself? What choices am I gonna make?

Is this as good as it gets?” Hell no. I wanna suck the marrow out of every day, and that’s from the title too.

My best friend and I talk so much about all the issues we’re going through. She went through a really horrible divorce a couple of years ago too and she’s like, “I don’t just wanna endure. I don’t just wanna survive. I wanna shine.” That’s where the title came from. And I’m like, “Oh my god.” I always struggle greatly over album titles, and it’s like, that’s what this album signifies to me.

I’m not succumbing to “this is as good as it gets.” I’m gonna push. I’m gonna keep pushing, keep trying, keep growing and keep discovering.

How does music help you with that? It’s huge. It’s the single most important message of expression for me. Embarrassingly, I’m not a great communicator. I’m working on that! But I am in my music. I shy away from conflict. I’m terribly conflict averse, and so a lot of things that should be said don’t get said in my personal relationships.

So, for me, writing them down and processing through songwriting has always been a great way of getting stuff out.

The difference on this latest record is the forthrightness. I’m not trying to hide personalities or ideas in parallel universes or in different people. It’s like, “No, this is me, this is where I’m at, this is what I’m talking about,” and I think it’s a lot closer to the bone. I think Fumbling was too. It was raw, simple and direct, and I feel like this record is as well. I’m hoping that. It certainly was for me. Q McLachlan will perform July 1 at Red Butte Gardens. the show, however, is sold out. Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. Reach him via his website at www.chrisazzopardi.com.

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Women’s Redrock Music Festival rocks Torrey, Utah

Since 2007,

the Women’s Redrock Music Festival has rocked the town of Torrey, Utah (population 182) with some of the hottest independent female artists in the world.

The festival was founded and organized by Carol Gnade, Jeri Tafoya, Laurie Wood, and Lu Prickett and attracts women from all over the country and many from around the world. The festival has already sold tickets to music lovers from as far away as Hungary, South Africa and Australia.

Organizers plan to keep the festival at last year’s crowd of just over 500, saying they’d rather “get better than bigger.”

“This Festival is also a gift for the surrounding small rural communities who are exposed to music and people that they might not otherwise encounter,” organizers said in a statement. “During the Festival weekend, these small towns are busy with talented musicians, and energized men and women, who enrich this community with their dollars and enthusiasm.”

The festival is an umbrella group of the local Entrada Institute, a non-profit organization that has worked in Torrey for 20 years dedicated to preserving the red rock country, the Colorado Plateau and it’s heritage through arts and education.”

This year’s lineup includes:

TOSHI REAGON In some ways, singer Toshi Reagon is a throwback to classic R & B artists, like Stevie Wonder or Prince, or an old school rock group like Led Zeppelin; she can take any style, update it, and make it her own with incredible ease. Despite (or because of) her genre-bending, Toshi fits comfortably on a stage at Carnegie Hall, or in a dirty rock club. Toshi is an artist whose known for energetic performances and a exemplary gift for writing engaging songs that provoke listeners to think and have fun at the same time.

DEAR LIZA Newly formed local band Dear Liza played at The Hotel with this spring’s Pearl Jam event and on a truck bed for the Utah Pride Parade. Band members include drummer Lynda Lee, singer Holly Henrie, Nate Allen, Secily Saunders Keating, singer Heidi Nedreberg and guitarist Ashley Danielle.

VICCI MARTINEZ A lot can happen in a few years, but if you just say yes to the possibilities, you never know where it will take you … and this is true with Vicci Martinez. In 2010, Vicci opened her horizon and started to say yes to things that were different and slightly uncomfortable but she knew she had to get out of her comfort zone to get to the next level. She started with a new management company and was

presented with the option to be on Season 1 of the new NBC show The Voice and said yes. She took all of the challenges the show brought and pushed through and thrived, going all the way to win on Team CeeLo and coming in 3rd place overall.

SHAWNEE Soul Shaker. Power Yellen. Passion Seeker.

Shawnee hits you hard using her voice as fire power that shoots clear strength and soul right at you and like the meaning of her name, her vocal ability is dangerously beautiful. Shawnee’s music is an eclectic sound of many vibes. Her punchy rock soul and country roots play their part while her catchy melody’s and lyrical stories pitch in. Refusing to be labeled “I create music in the moment and write from my heart, It’s the only way for me to love what I do”

SARAH BETTENS International alt-rock star Sarah Bettens is breaking new ground with her latest CD, Never Say Goodbye, which is the first international release from her own label, Cocoon Records. The acoustic album includes a unique mix of three new songs, favorites from her last two solo records, and covers of songs by iconic artists like Bonnie Raitt and Julie London. People who’ve heard the CD have been hitting fan chat rooms to profess how amazing Sarah’s voice sounds on the new record, as if all of the arrangements had been custom written for her voice. Sarah’s last solo CD, Shine, made news when the Belgian newspaper DeMorgen purchased 150,000 copies of the CD to be distributed in the paper — and the newspaper sold out immediately.

GOD DES AND SHE God Des & She’s energy and talent caught the attention of industry and listeners alike after they appeared on the season 3 finale of Showtime series “The L Word” and had a number one video on MTV LOGO with their smash hit “Love You Better” for 15 weeks in a row. They have toured worldwide, performing to packed venues from New York to Sweden and sharing the stage with artists including Lady Gaga, Salt n’ Pepa, SIA and many more.

ERIN & THE PROJECT Bringing high energy soulful music, while combining jazz, blues, pop, and funk elements, Erin and The Project feature powerhouse female vocals and solid grooves.

Both Erin and Paul Ezekiel began writing music together in 2005, but it wasn’t until their wedding in 2008 that they played their music live for family and friends. Shortly

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after the recession hit California, they resolved to quitting their day jobs and officially starting their music career with small Bay Area gigs and a self-titled EP. They are now touring their music around the US, playing in a full range of venue atmospheres … from loud rock clubs to wine tasting rooms.

ELIZA GILKYSON Eliza Gilkyson is a politically minded, poetically gifted singer-songwriter who has become one of the most respected musicians in folk and Americana music circles. The daughter of legendary songwriter Terry Gilkyson, Eliza entered the music world as a teenager, recording demos for her father. Since then she has released 20 recordings of her own, and her songs have been covered by such notables as Joan Baez, Bob Geldof, Tom Rush and Rosanne Cash.

BASKERY No matter where they go in the world, people tell the sisters that they’ve never heard or seen anything like it, that they have a completely unique sound and perform with what seems to be an inexhaustible energy. That’s Baskery’s aim, to never stop surprising. Baskery is a band built on what three people can do together.

The music is not to be confused with country or bluegrass just because the instrumentation involves a double bass, a six string banjo and acoustic guitar.

The trio is not bound to any genre and this is what makes Baskery a little hard to figure out just by listening to their albums. It’s all there in the live act, because it is real. The three sisters can’t recall when or why they started playing, the music’s always just been there. “Performing live has become the most natural thing to us”. That’s where the high energy level on stage hails from, a pure and reckless love to the art of performing music.

ALICIA FAITH Born in Atlanta and raised in Slidell Louisiana, Alicia started her journey into music singing at her local church at the age of twelve. Growing up in a family with five younger brothers she found peace in a hectic household through listening to music and finding comfort in lyrics. Having influences consisting of Melissa Etheridge, Whitney Houston, Stevie Wonder, George Michael and of course the late great MJ helped her natural music talents quickly grow, developing her powerful and sultry voice. Alicia’s music is driven by a comfort with her sexuality, life experiences and drawing influence from real life situations.

Tickets are available at W ­ omensRedRockMusicFest.org for $45 for Friday, $55 for Saturday or $90 for both days. Children 12 and younger are free. Shows run rain or shine Friday from 5 to 10 p.m. and Saturday from noon to 10 p.m.

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Indigo Girls will heat up Davis County

Amy Ray

and Emily Saliers are Indigo Girls.

Rolling Stone describes them as the “ideal duet partners. Their voices soar and swoop as one, alternately raucous and soothing. When they sing together, they radiate a sense of shared purpose that adds muscle to their lanky, deeply felt folktinged pop songs.” Together they write, arrange, record and perform music which

our albums,” says Ray. “So when it comes to writing new songs and working and performing with different musicians, every record and every tour feels like a completely different adventure for us.

Amy and Emily first met as fifth and sixth-graders in Decatur, Georgia and began singing together during high school.

Originally billed as Saliers & Ray, the pair adopted the name Indigo Girls during their

without pause throughout their career) headlining or supporting the likes of REM, Neil Young and the Violent Femmes.

Decades into their career, the Indigo Girls still amaze conventional pundits with their ability to grow and thrive no matter what the state of the music industry is at any given point. The duo’s constant touring, as well as staunch dedication to a number of social and environmental causes, has earned them a fervidly devoted following over the years. So many artists who launched their careers in the late 1980s have slipped from our collective memory. In contrast, the Indigo Girls stand tall, having earned the lasting respect and devotion of a multi-generational audience which continues to experience their creative evolution in the studio and on stage. The adventure may take the form of an adrenaline-fueled live CD or a warm reflective holiday album or a collection of songs that can veer from the raucous to intimate in the blink of an eye. No matter where their creative journey takes them, they hold out a hand to their listeners and we get to feel it all. Q

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ECLIPSE over the course of 25 years has become a vital part of the lives of their legion of devoted fans around the world, informing and rewarding them day to day.

With 12 original studio albums, three live records, various Greatest Hits compilations, a Rarities and a Christmas record to their credit, the iconic duo continues to challenge itself creatively, over and over again, adding to a body of work that contains such contemporary classic songs as Galileo, Shame on You, Closer To Fine, Kid Fears, Love of Our Lives, Making Promises, Get out the Map, Moment of Forgiveness, Least Complicated and Go. After numerous Grammy nominations and awards and gold and platinum certifications and decades of touring in clubs, arenas and everything in between, Indigo Girls remain active and relevant, always viewing their music as a fresh opportunity for exploration and discovery. “We really work hard to not lean on any tried and true path in making

undergraduate days at Atlanta’s Emory University. The Indigos were attending classes by day and performing as an acoustic duo in local clubs by night when they made their first stab at recording in 1985 with the single Crazy Game / Everybody’s Waiting (for Someone To Come Home) which they issued on their own label, followed by an EP and in 1987, their first full length LP, Strange Fire, produced by John Keane.

In 1988, the big-time beckoned Indigo Girls. Signed to Epic Records and EMI Music, they recorded Indigo Girls with producer Scott Litt at Ocean Way Studios in L.A. With Amy and Emily on vocals and acoustic guitars, Indigo Girls featured contributions from REM, Hothouse Flowers and Luka Bloom. The record was released in 1989 (the Boston Globe stated “The Indigo Girls have simply made the best debut album so far this year”) and the Indigo Girls began criss-crossing the country on tour (a process that has continued

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The Bacon Brothers cut loose as they kick off the St. Regis Big Stars, Bright Nights summer series on June 28. The band’s charismatic front men — actor Kevin (The Following, Apollo 13, Mystic River, Footloose) and Emmy award-winning composer Michael — put on a show that seamlessly blends hard-charging tunes with mellow, country-folk ballads.

Concert starts at 7 p.m. (gates open at 5:30 p.m.) at Deer Valley Resort’s Snow Park Outdoor Amphitheater. Lawn tickets are available (reserved seating is sold out).

As The New Yorker writes, “Hollywood hangs like an albatross around the neck of any movie star turned musician, but this duo shakes off the burden of fame with sharply executed rock that has a bluecollar, rootsy edge.”

The sibling duo first ventured into the rock star realm for a benefit concert in 1994. Since then, they have regularly ditched their “day jobs” to perform sold out shows from New York to Los Angeles. The Bacon Brothers have opened for The Band, performed alongside the likes of

Shania Twain and Wyclef Jean and released eight CDs.

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Sandy Amphitheater Announces the 2014 Summer Concert Line-up Sandy Arts’ 15th year anniversary highlights include: Peter Frampton, Boz Scaggs, America, Retro Futura Tour 2014, Vertical Horizon, Collective Soul and teen pop sensation R5 With a concert line-up of classic bands along with more contemporary bands, this is a season of entertainment connecting generations.

National Acts VERTICAL HORIZON, July 11 — Founded in the early 1990s as a duo, Vertical Horizon has sold millions of albums and has toured extensively. In 1999, the single “Everything You Want” hit #1 on both Billboard’s Hot 100 and Adult Top 40 Charts, and went on to become the most played single of 2000.

The band also hit big with “You’re a God” and “Best I Ever Had”, which became a 2005 top 20 country hit for country star, Gary Allan.

DELTA RAE, July 16 —This

six-piece rock band from Durham, North Carolina is one of the hottest new bands today.

Their debut album, Carry The Fire, came out to high praise last summer. They’ve sold out venues from coast to coast, opened for heroes like Lyle Lovett and pretty much played every festival under the sun. Playing live is where Delta Rae flourishes and there’s no better setting than the Sandy Amphitheater to see this band up close and personal.

BOZ SCAGGS, July 19 —The Boz Scaggs discography makes one thing obvious: he is both a musical seeker and a man of sizable talent as a singer, songwriter and guitarist. His latest album Memphis, was released last year and looks back musically and biographically into his past, finding songs that match his style and voice.

ARRIVAL: THE MUSIC OF ABBA, July 25 — This is the most popular show ever at the Sandy Amphitheater and the best

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ABBA tribute band on the planet! Arrival re-creates the ABBA experience like none other. Hear all the hits, “Mama Mia”, “Does Your Mother Know”, “Dancing Queen”, and much more.

DAVID COOK, July 26-After winning the Idol crown in season 7, Cook went on to sell over 1 million copies of his self-titled debut album. Cook entered the Billboard charts at #3 and the digital album charts at #1, marking the best debut from an American Idol winner since 2006. To date, Cook has two platinum singles and one gold certified single and is working on music for his 11th album.

PETER FRAMPTON, Aug.19 — Grammy Award Winner Peter Frampton remains one of the most celebrated artists and guitarist in rock music history. At age 16, he was lead singer and guitarist for British band The Herd, at age 18 he co-founded seminal rock act Humble Pie. His session work is legendary with artists as George Harrison, David Bowie and Ringo Starr. His fifth solo album, the electrifying

Frampton Comes Alive!, is one of the best selling live records of all time.

DUE WEST, Aug. 22 — When the pieces fall into place, you know it. For the three guys known as Due West, that time is now. Old friends Matt lopez and Brad Hull met Tim Gates at a party and started harmonizing and the others kept asking how long they had been a group. It’s been happening ever since as they’ve toured the country, playing for appreciative audiences along the way. Due West has fans all over Utah and especially at the Sandy Amphitheater.

Charley Jenkins, Sept. 5 — Jenkins was a top 12 finalist on NBC’s hit show, “Nashville Star”.

He has opened for such acts as Reba Macentire, Lady Antebellum, Allan Jackson, LeAn Rymes and many others. With three albums and personal twists on new and old hits, Charley puts on one heck of a show!

RETRO FUTURA TOUR 2014, Sept. 6 — The 80s are alive and well at the Sandy Amphitheater. One of the largest shows of the summer, the Retro Futura tour

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will feature Howard Jones, Tom Bailey of the Thompson Twins, Midge Ure of Ultravox, China Crisis and Katrina of Katrina & the Waves. This concert begins at 6 pm.

R5 LOUDER WORLD TOUR, Sept. 11 — Disney’s Austin and Alley star Ross, Ryker is a Warbler on Glee, along with Rydel, Rocky and Ratliff they are today’s hottest teen pop/rock band R5. They have headlined sell-out concerts all across North America, Europe and Australia.

They rocketed to Billboard’s Top 200 and hit No. 2 on iTunes Pop chart with their debut album Louder.

Sandy Arts Guild Musical FOOTLOOSE THE MUSICAL, Aug. 8-16 — One of the most explosive movie musicals in recent memory bursts onto the Sandy Amphitheater stage.

When Ren and his mother move from Chicago to a small farming town, Ren prepares for the inevitable adjustment. What he isn’t prepared for are the rigorous local edicts, including a ban on dancing and the locals eager to believe the worse about the new kid. Footloose celebrates the wisdom of listening to young people, guiding them with a warm heart and open mind.

Free-For-All concerts A series of free concerts are held on various nights throughout the summer with no tickets required. Come early for the best seat.

AMERICAN WEST SYMPHONY, June 26 Sandy’s own community orchestra, American West Symphony comes to the Amphitheater for its annual summer Pops Concert playing classical, Broadway show tunes and patriotic songs. Bring the whole family and enjoy an evening of great music under the stars.

THE COMMANDERS AIR FORCE BAND, Aug. 20 — The

Commanders, a newly-revived ensemble from the US Air Force Band of the Golden West, carries on the American musical tradition of the great big bands.

This energetic group of hightly trained professional musicians deliver the full gamut of jazz music — traditional jazz, cool, bop, swing, Broadway favorites and patriotic music.

INTERNATIONAL FOLK FESTIVAL, Sept. 3 — The international folk festival celebrates its 5th anniversary at the Sandy Amphitheater bringing local folk groups from across Utah to perform dances and music from countries around the world. Grab your family and friends and come travel the globe at the Sandy Amphitheater.

SILENT MOVIE NIGHT, Sept. 10 — Bring the whole family down to the amphitheater and watch classic silent movies projected on our huge 30-foot movie screen. Watch as the talented Blaine Gale sets the perfect mood for these classic black and white treasures with his live organ music.

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Getting Blunt with Whoopi Entertainer shrugs off gay rumors, talks being ‘claimed’ by the LGBT community

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

Never one to give a flying youknow-what, Whoopi Goldberg has made a career out of not caring. Ask her about her sexuality – to some, a lingering enigma since the ’70s, when Goldberg made lots of lesbians laugh at San Francisco comedy clubs – and she doesn’t get all the fuss. Ask her what she thinks about pot – actually, don’t even bother. She just wrote a column about it. Whoopi loves a blunt.

How do you think a black lesbian like Moms managed to have such a following in the ’20s and ’30s, a time when homosexuality would’ve likely been a career breaker? Nobody was thinking about it. If you weren’t funny, you didn’t work.

Your sexuality, who you were – whether you were a man or a woman – didn’t matter. Funny trumps everything.

You were an early ally of the LGBT community at a time when identifying as such was a much bigger risk. At that point in time, people would automatically assume an ally was someone who just did not want to come out of the closet. (Laughs) That’s what people thought! It was ridiculous. I was like, “Uh, no.” People just didn’t understand. You see bad situations or stupid situations, like folks having an issue with who you cared about, who you wanna be with, all that kind PUZZLE SOLUTIONS

of stuff that has nothing to do with the realities of our world.

The realities of the world I grew up in was: It was nobody’s business. If you’re not doing your job, then I’m gonna bitch. But I’m not gonna bitch at anybody ’cause they’re gay, or because they weigh a lot more than me.

At the time, it just seemed so stupid to me that this was what people’s issues were.

People have long speculated about your sexuality, haven’t they? (Laughs) Yeah! And it’s like, there are a lot worse things people could have accused me of – things that would really be upsetting! That’s not one of them. It never has been. I grew up in the theater. I grew up in a neighborhood where there was always gay folks. Always! So I never understood people’s freak out about it.

Considering how long people have wondered how you swing, watching Moms Mabley made me think: Should a documentary be made about your life one day, how do you want people to characterize your sexual identity? I don’t care. Don’t care!

Because I’ll probably be gone by then! (Laughs) With all the amazing people who have come out, if you’re still talking about my sexuality – I’m the one you choose – you’re not doing your job. Q

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film festival

Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival ’14 The Utah Film Center has presented the “Damn These Heels” Salt Lake City International LGBT Film Festival for years, featuring independent, documentary, and foreign feature-length films and short films.

This year, the festival runs from July 11–13 at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center. Passes are available at utahfilmcenter.org/dth14 for $45 for all three days of films. Individual tickets will be $6 each.

All screenings take place at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center, 138 W. Broadway, in either the Jeanne Wagner or Black Box theatres.The Jeanne Wagner is the main theatre on the west side of the main entrance, and the Black Box is on the east side of the main entrance.

OPENING NIGHT FILM

APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR DIRECTED BY DESIREE AKHAVAN 82 MIN | 2013 | USA

COMPARED TO WHAT: THE IMPROBABLE JOURNEY OF BARNEY FRANK DIRECTED BY SHEILA CANAVAN, MICHAEL CHANDLER 87 MIN | 2013 | USA

A hip, young Persian-American woman struggles for acceptance that eludes her from all sides: her family doesn’t know she’s bisexual, and her ex-girlfriend can’t understand why she doesn’t tell them.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 SUNDANCE FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 FRAMELINE SAN FRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL LGBT FILM FESTIVAL

Opening night film is open to festival pass holders only. A post-film discussion with Sheila Canavan and Michael Chandler will immediately follow the film. Barney Frank and Jim Ready will be in attendance.

A rare and intimate peek into the life of Barney Frank, the quickwitted, cantankerous, and first openly gay Congressman in the United States. On the verge of his retirement, Frank reflects on his 40 years in office and the role his own homosexuality played in his campaigns for social justice.

A flawless example of when the personal meets the political, with incredible “bare all” access, this documentary reveals Frank as one of the most sharp-tongued, entertaining, and lionhearted politicians of our time.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL FRIDAY, JULY 11, 2014 @ 8PM, ROSE WAGNER PERFORMING ARTS CENTER

WINNER: TEDDY AWARD – 2014 BERLIN FILM FESTIVAL; BEST FEATURE FILM – 2014 TORINO GAY & LESBIAN FILM FESTIVAL

DIRECTED BY EYTAN FOX 90 MIN | 2013 | ISRAEL

A perky group of fresh-scrubbed young Israelis finds themselves the underdogs in an international singing contest in this kitschy musical comedy.

77 MIN | 2014 | NETHERLANDS

The story in this documentary begins in 1958 Zurich when a bashful teacher and a cabaret artist meet through “Der Kreis” (The Circle), the only gay organization to survive WWII and so begins a decades long story of love and courage.

MY PRAIRIE HOME DIR. BY CHELSEA MCMULLAN 76 MIN | 2014 | CANADA

A playful, meditative, and at times melancholic journey through indie singer Rae Spoon’s queer and musical coming of age.

WINNER: BEST CANADIAN DOCUMENTARY – VANCOUVER FILM CRITICS CIRCLE; OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 SUNDANCE FILM FESTIVAL

DER SAMURAI DIRECTED BY TILL KLEINERT 79 MIN | 2014 | GERMANY

Over the course of one transformative and nightmarish night, a young policeman encounters his monstrous alter ego: a transvestite in a pristine white dress wielding a samurai sword.

DIRECTED BY STEFAN HAUPT 102 MIN | 2014 | SWITZERLAND

DIRECTED BY ANTONIO SANTINI, DAN SICKLES 87 MIN | 2014 | USA/PUERTO RICO

CUPCAKES

DIRECTED BY MISCHA KAMP

THE CIRCLE / DER KREIS

MALA MALA

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL

BOYS / JONGEN

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 SEATTLE INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2013 KARLOVY VARY FILM FESTIVAL

A unique exploration of the trans community in Puerto Rico featuring a diverse collection of subjects as they fight for personal and community acceptance.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 FRAMELINE SAN FRANCISCO INTERNATIONAL LGBT FILM FESTIVAL

Boys tells the story of Sieger, a sporty, rather quiet 15-year-old boy who discovers love during the summer holidays.

A mid-flight emergency landing brings two people together: one is hiding a big secret and the other is simply trying to find her place in the world.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 BERLIN FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 TRIBECA FILM FESTIVAL

MY STRAIGHT SON / AZUL Y NON TAN ROSA DIRECTED BY MIGUEL FERRARI 112 MIN | 2012 | VENEZUELA

A touching and entertaining story about a father who, while dealing with personal tragedy, strives to re-establish his bond with his estranged son who has recently arrived from Spain.

DUAL / DVOJINA DIRECTED BY NEJC GAZVODA 102 MIN | 2013 | SLOVENIA

WINNER: BEST IBEROAMERICAN FILM – GOYA (SPANISH EQUIVALENT OF THE AMERICAN ACADEMY AWARDS); OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 MÁLAGA FILM FESTIVAL

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DIRECTED BY DANIEL RIBEIRO 95 MIN | 2014 | BRAZIL

A coming-of-age story about a blind teenager trying to live an independent life, when a new student joins his class, plans change.

SUCH GOOD PEOPLE DIRECTED BY STEWART WADE 95 MIN | 2014 | USA

WINNER: TEDDY – 2014 BERLIN FILM FESTIVAL, AUDIENCE AWARD – GUADALAJARA MEXICAN FILM FESTIVAL; AUDIENCE AWARD – TORINO INTERNATIONAL GAY & LESBIAN FILM FESTIVAL

A contemporary screwball comedy, about a couple who find a million dollars while house sitting.

YOU AND THE NIGHT / LES RENCONTRES D’APRÈS MINUIT DIRECTED BY YANN GONZALEZ 98 MIN | 2013 | FRANCE

DIRECTED BY JENNIFER M. KROOT 90 MIN | 2014 | USA

Actor, activist, and intergalactic helmsman George Takei and his husband Brad on their playful, profound trek for life, liberty, love.

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 SUNDANCE FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 SEATTLE INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 HUMAN RIGHTS WATCH FILM FESTIVAL

TOM AT THE FARM / TOM À LA FERME DIRECTED BY XAVIER DOLAN 102 MIN | 2013 | CANADA

A young man travels to the country for his boyfriend’s funeral, where he’s shocked to find out no one knows who he is except for the deceased’s brother who soon sets the rules for a twisted game.

WINNER: FIPRESCI PRIZE – 2013 VENICE FILM FEST., PEOPLE’S CHOICE AWARD – 2014 ISTANBUL INTL FILM FEST; OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2013 TORONTO INTL FILM FEST, 2014 HONG KONG INTL FILM FEST

THE WAY HE LOOKS / HOJE EU QUERO VOLTAR SOZINHO

FRIDAY, JULY 11 8pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre Compared to What: The Improbable Journey of Barney Frank 9:30pm | Black Box You and the Night

SATURDAY, JULY 12

OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2014 MIAMI GAY AND LESBIAN FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 FILM OUT SAN DIEGO; 2014 ADELAIDE QUEEN CULTURE AND FILM FESTIVAL

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Damn These Heels Schedule

A young couple and their transvestite maid prepare for an orgy.

Their guests will be The Slut, The Star, The Stud, and The Teen.

Featuring soundtrack by M83.

BEST PICTURE – 2013 ATHEN INTL FILM FEST; BEST PICTURE – 2013 MILAN FILM FEST; OFFICIAL SELECTION: 2013 CANNES FILM FESTIVAL, 2014 INTL FILM ROTTERDAM

10am | Jeanne Wagner Theatre TBA 11:30am | Black Box Cupcakes 11:45am | Jeanne Wagner Theatre The Way He Looks 1:30pm | Black Box Appropriate Behavior 2pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre Boys 3:30pm | Black Box My Straight Son 4pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre Lady Valor

6:30pm | Black Box Dual 7pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre To Be Takei 9:15pm | Black Box Der Samurai 9:30 | Jeanne Wagner Theatre Tom at the Farm

SUNDAY, JULY 13 11:30am | Jeanne Wagner Theatre The Circle 12pm | Black Box TBA 2pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre Such Good People 2:30pm | Black Box My Prairie Home 4:30pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre The Way He Looks 4:45pm | Black Box Tom at the Farm 7pm | Jeanne Wagner Theatre Mala Mala

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hear me out

Mariah Carey

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

With the glorious powerhouse “Vanishing,” off her star-making 1990 debut, Mariah Carey couldn’t have known she’d be foreshadowing another release some 25 years later.

“If I could recapture all of the memories, bring them to life,” Carey sang, with all the fierceness of a diva-in-the-making, “surely I would.” Two-plus decades, one messy breakdown and 13 albums later, she has.

Insanely titled but undeniably a vision of love, Me. I Am Mariah... The Elusive Chanteuse (grade: A-), her oft-delayed, punctuationzealous 14th release, revels in those memories and throws back to her ’90s pinnacle, when The Voice was front and center, when Glitter wasn’t a career punchline.

Encompassing the vintage timelessness that carried her to notoriety, while also staying true to her urban evolution, Mariah’s found her sweet spot on The Elusive Chanteuse, turning out an accomplished body of

work – her best since 1997’s Butterfly. Listen to it in succession, because it’s also her most cohesive set since then. These ditties, however, are the ones that’ll have you feelin’ major emotions: ‘CRY.’ Remember those curls? The all-black attire?

A piano and little else? Singing like it’s 1990 again on this stunning lead-in, you can almost see her: It’s Mariah, alone and fully clothed atop a stool, pouring her heart out all over the stage – her hand, of course, flailing up and over and everywhere as the organ gusts into a soulful belter. And then, with that last bittersweet note, her head tilts back in a dramatic show of confidence. She just nailed it, and she knows it.

‘DEDICATED’ (FEAT. NAS) Talk about old-school – actually, Mariah will.

And she’ll do so with bestie/collaborator Nas. Like they’re hanging in Mimi’s crib and having #TBT time over a bottle of Cristal, the two friends reminisce on days gone by (and on Pee-wee Herman) with this breezy R&B groove – you know, “just for the nostalgia.” ‘#BEAUTIFUL’ (FEAT. MIGUEL) Released a year ago as the album’s first single, it’s a travesty that the sexy-chic ear-worm “#Beautiful” didn’t chart higher than No. 15 on the Billboard Hot 100. With a Motown-inspired guitar groove, its chill summer sensibility and the perfect pairing of Miguel with Mariah – exalting tingles as she goes from coo to croon – this should have been Carey’s 19th No. 1 single.

‘MAKE IT LOOK GOOD’ Flow-y and unfussy, this swaying charmer is a sonic daydream. Stevie Wonder opens with a spirited harmonica solo, which follows Carey through the hook – a flirty chorus with a

delicious “lips / hip / dip” rhyme. Note how effortless and relaxed she sounds. No longer as concerned with keeping up with girls half her age, it’s the most laid back Mariah’s been since The Emancipation of Mimi.

‘YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO’ (FEAT. WALE) Stand back. Mariah’s at the mic, and she’s having a moment. Wale, who has the nerve to mumble over her aggressive “don’t mess with Mimi” intro, can’t even wreak havoc on her divadom. Rousing the cheerful airiness of her pop-dance staples – this potential hit triggers flashbacks of “Fantasy” with Ol’ Dirty Bastard – “You Don’t Know What to Do” is a rush of splashy panache that you’ll be bumping to the next time you lace up your roller skates.

‘METEORITE’ You just know Donna Summer is smiling down on this club-lite romp. Casting an ethereal dreaminess on ’70s dance, this Andy Warhol-inspired fame musing is as sparkly as the disco ball you’ll be losing yourself under.

With a sample of Eddie Kendricks’ ’76 jam “Goin’ Up in Smoke,” Q-Tip arranges the dance-chic aura as Mariah targets celebrity culture – perhaps her own waggling career – with an ambitious-but-cautionary outlook.

‘ONE MORE TRY’ She can’t live if living is without a sentimental showstopper, the kind she knows the “lambs” – her hardcore fans – love to loop until their eyes are completely wrung out.

Enter George Michael. A wise cover choice for Carey, it assists in recapturing her classic sound. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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Red Rock Brewery

BY JOSHUA JONES

My partner

and I have been going to Red Rock Brewery at least once a month for around 13 years, so we know this place really, really well. I’m either the most well-qualified to review this establishment, or I’m the most biased. I don’t think I can win because everyone has been to Red Rock and most of you have an opinion. Those opinions however can run the gamut from awesomely awful to wonderfully awesome, depending on who you speak with. So read on — and then feel free to comment on qsaltlake.com, I’d love to hear your opinions!

I don’t know if the owners care too much what we all think, however, as they can always lean on their trophy case holding an award for the best large brew pub in the country from the Great American Beer Festival, along with awards from the North American Brewers Association and The World Beer Cup; they probably feel good with what they’re presenting every day… and I would too. But the occasional service hiccup sometimes leads to a full-on pot hole, flattening your whole experience. Many of the servers have been there a long time, and they are the best to work with, but the newbies (and they seem to rotate fresh-faces quickly) are plentiful.

With more than 75 menu options — not counting desserts and drinks — I try to cut them a little slack. Here is a pro-tip: to avoid any service issues, sit at the bar — bartenders like Chuckie and Michael have been slinging the longest and look forward to meeting you.

First off, the color and beauty of the Warm Shrimp Salad is second only to its flavor; with sautéed shrimp, watercress spinach, roasted sweet potatoes, grapefruit, toasted pistachios and gorgonzola cheese with creamy lemon pepper dressing — it is one of the most creative items on the menu. The taste profile is like ocean shipping lanes zigzagging across the Atlantic; each bite intersects another unique flavor and texture combination.

Generally, you can’t go wrong with a sandwich at Red Rock, and the recent addition of a Black Bean Vegan Burger will please the carnivore among us. It’s a house-

made patty with bib lettuce, avocado and chipotle vinaigrette on a soft bun. There is a good spice, and let’s be honest — it just sounds healthy. That’s why I order it with bacon, (kidding). The true carnivore is going to opt for the French Onion Steak Sandwich, the priciest sandwich at $17, but I believe worth every penny. Sliced New York steak and beautifully browned, sweet, caramelized onions served below toasted sourdough bread topped with a pile of golden gruyere and mozzarella cheeses. The steak is cooked to order, and ordered correctly (medium rare), it melts in your mouth. It is served with a side of stock that has been reducing for days — thick, very rich. To justify the cost of $17 for a sandwich, try splitting it. The servers are happy to do so on most items.

You might be wondering when I’ll get to the beer… well, I’m running out of space and Matt and I will have to cover that in part two. I think an institution like Red Rock, a restaurant with 20 years under its belt can easily justify two reviews. But wait — a few items to avoid: Monday tacos are a bust, I’m surprised with all the Spanish-speakers in the open-air kitchen that they don’t revolt against this abomination.

Beer crackers are fine, but there are just too many other good appetizers, including the bruschetta or calamari, both delicious and a fine way to start a meal. Pass on the spaghetti too, because … Spaghetti!?

I’ve been told when Red Rock opened in 1994 finicky Salt Lakers said it would never last because it was “in the warehouse district.” Well, people came, ate, and loved, and the city grew around it. It is now the epicenter of downtown and in the middle of some of the best culinary experiences Utah has to offer. Red Rock proudly chugs along, with new locations, expansive beer distribution, a state-of-the-art beer production facility and many more gold medals sure to be won. Q

Red Rock Brewery 254 S. 200 West 801-521-7446 Sunday–Thursday, 11 a.m. to 11pm Friday–Saturday, 11 a.m. to midnight

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dining guide 1675 E 1300 S 801-581-0809 Breakfast or lunch in a friendly, warm and hip environment. The converted garage is now a stylish, enticing eatery.

Try the eggs Benedict, French toast, customtailored omelets, huevos rancheros or cheese blintzes for breakfast.

FINN’S CAFE 1624 S 1100 E 801-467-4000 Family owned and operated for 62 years, Finn’s Cafe has been a large part of Utah’s fine dining heritage, specializing in both Norwegian and traditional dishes for breakfast and lunch.

Full barista bar, fresh

FOR PEOPLE TO COME IN AND HAVE A BITE TO EAT. COFFEE BURGERS SANDWICHES SOUPS SALADS APPETIZERS BREAKFAST BRUNCH POOL TABLE VIDEO GAMES OPEN Mon-Thur 8a–6p Friday 7a-3p AND After Bar Closing Fridays and Saturdays

259 W 900 S 801 364-4307

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squeezed juices, and inhouse bakery.

OFF TRAX  offtraxslc.com 259 W 900 S 801-364-4307 Home of the Happy Hangover. Breakfast, lunch. Sunday brunch and weekend afterhours. Gay-owned and operated. Next to Club Try-Angles.

OMAR’S RAWTOPIA  omarsrawtopia.com 2148 S Highland Dr 801-486-0332 Omar prepares all raw, live and organic food from scratch with absolute love to create amazing food that is powerfully healing for your mind, body, and

spirit.

SAGE’S CAFE 234 W 900 S 801-322-3790 Your favorite vegetarian restaurant is moving to Ninth South with a slough of other owneroperated, locally owned restaurants. Watch for their reopening in December.

SQUATTERS PUB BREWERY

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Free Soda or Coffee with food purchase

 www.squatters.com 1900 Park Ave, Park City 435-649-9868 Park City’s brewpub features breakfast, lunch and dinner daily and is a full liquor licensee, serving both Squatters and Wasatch Beers.

VERTICAL DINER

 squatters.com 147 W 300 S 801-363-2739 Salt Lake’s original brew pub featuring awardwinning fresh brewed beers, lunch, dinner and weekend brunch.

Private banquet facilities available.

Next to Club Try-Angles, Half Block from TRAX in the NEW Gayborhood!

SQUATTERS ROADHOUSE GRILL & PUB

2280 S West Temple 801-484-8378 Vegan diner serving down-home comfort food and breakfast all day. Specialties include fried faux chicken, blueberry pancakes, and hand cut french fries.

Also serving fair trade coffee, tea, chocolate,

and more.

WASATCH BREW PUB  wasatchbeers.com 250 Main, Park City 435-645-0900 At the top of Main Street and a local favorite since 1989, Wasatch Brew Pub serves lunch, dinner and weekend brunch, along with award winning beers and full liquor service.

Private banquet facilities available.

ZEST KITCHEN & BAR 275 S 200 W 801-433-0589 Zest kitchen & bar melds healthy food and fresh, hand crafted drinks within a modern, social environment.

New Location 234 W 900 S

Lunch Fast & Convenient Destination Dining Chef Tasting Menu

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Corporate Lunches Birthday Parties Wedding Receptions “Celebrating 15 years of SLC’s Best Vegetarian Restaurant”

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wine terriorist

Embracing the Rhone Rangers

BY DAVID WHITE

“Raise your hand if customers regularly come in and ask for a good cabernet.”

I recently issued this directive to a group of 40 sommeliers, retailers, and other wine industry insiders from across Washington, D.C. Unsurprisingly, just about every hand shot up.

I quickly spoke again. “Raise your hand again if customers frequently come in and ask for a good chardonnay.” Again, just about every hand went up.

“Now,” I continued, “raise your hand if a single customer has asked for grenache or mourvedre in the past month.”

Not a single hand went up.

“What about carignan? Piquepoul?” While several attendees

chuckled, no hands were raised.

The 40 industry insiders had gathered to explore the market’s support for the 22 grape varieties that hail from France’s Rhone Valley. Several dozen wine producers from across the United States who embrace these varieties were in town, so I moderated a panel discussion among eight of them.

I opened with this thought experiment to illustrate how gutsy it is to focus on unusual varieties.

Sure, oenophiles recognize that one can only drink so much cabernet sauvignon, merlot, chardonnay, pinot noir, and sauvignon blanc. But the average consumer is unfamiliar with — and intimidated by — Rhone varieties like syrah, grenache, and mourvedre.

I left with the distinct feeling that things are changing, fast.

Consider the surging popularity of serious rosé.

While consumers once associated domestic rosé with cheap, sweet “blush” wines like Sutter Home’s white zinfandel, more and more domestic rosé is dry and refreshing. Many of America’s top pink wines are produced from red Rhône varieties, mimicking the storied rosés of Provence.

Jason Haas, the general manager of Tablas Creek in Paso Robles, Calif., offered attendees his Patelin de Tablas rosé, a blend of grenache, mourvèdre, and counoise. Haas has increased production of rosé over the last several years, but can barely keep up with demand. He’s convinced that because consumers now know that nothing beats a crisp rosé on a hot summer day, they’ll become more comfortable with Rhone varieties.

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Rhone varieties.

Once upon a time, high-end restaurants employed snooty sommeliers who pushed expensive, predictable wines. Today, however, high-end restaurants are staffed with hip sommeliers who are better described as wine educators.

They listen to what consumers want. And most of these sommeliers are quite fond of the Rhone Valley and its imitators.

Last year, wine writer W. Blake Gray made a compelling case that most steakhouse patrons are looking for “a grenache/ syrah blend, but they want it to be called cabernet.”

He’s right. At steakhouses, especially, nothing pleases more patrons than a dark, spicy red, without a strong tannic structure. This came up while attendees tasted a grenache from William Allen, the vintner behind Two Shepherds.

One sommelier attending the panel discussion jumped in to argue that steakhouse patrons have always been asking for grenache, syrah, and red Rhone blends — just not by their names.

Now that sommeliers almost universally pay attention to customers, he expects restaurant sales of Rhone varieties to rise.

Virtually everyone agreed.

Trend-setting consumers are also beginning to look for wines sourced from California’s oldest vineyards, many of which include a host of Rhone varieties. While these wines are typically blends, many are just a single variety.

David Gates, who heads up vineyard operations for Ridge, brought attendees a carignan from Buchignani Ranch, a site that was planted over about 25 years beginning in 1927. Consumers are flocking to wines like this because they’re jewels of an earlier time and show that there’s more to California than chardonnay and cabernet sauvignon.

Producers who focus on Rhone varieties still have their work cut out for them. But for good reason, they’re increasingly optimistic. Q David White is the founder and editor of Terroirist.com, named “Best Overall Wine Blog” at the Wine Blog Awards.

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q scopes

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19 A time of fun and excitement is in store. Keep a positive attitude and enjoy the results of recent successes. Following a trend may lead you to a surprising place so proceed with caution. A work associate will reveal some interesting news, leading to a change of perception. Career has always been important, but don’t let it rain on your parade.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 The last thing you want to hear is bad news, but avoiding information is not a good idea.

You never know what good news you may miss. A family member will ask a lot of you, but rest assured, you’ll be rewarded. A protective nature is a defining quality of yours. Wear it like a badge of honor and slip into the role you were born for.

Mayan Culture

48 How tops like to see their dates?

ACROSS 51 Thief’s hoard 1 Secreted a fluid onto 53 Drive erratically the face 56 More of the com5 Type of market for ment bears 61 Sauteed leftovers, 10 Poet Broumas perhaps 14 Morales of Resurrec- 62 Mixed-up fruits 63 Lysol target tion Blvd.

64 Personal lubricant 15 Wall Street term ingredient 16 Madonna, in a 65 Totally absurd creche 66 Margaret Mead ___ 17 Legal wrong Me Gay 18 Bridge bid, briefly 67 Part of YMCA 19 Verb of Verlaine 68 End of the comment 20 Movie about Ar69 Pleasured orally mand and Albert 23 One goes from here DOWN back into the closet 1 Astroglide alternative 25 Ariz. neighbor 2 Kahlo’s that 26 Filmmaker Nishit 3 “What’s your sign?,” 29 Brynner of The King for example? and I 4 Support Metro30 Fez features politan Community 33 Hot temper Church, e.g.

34 Murdoch with a 5 Type of appeal flower?

6 Pick-me-ups 36 Comes to rest 7 Britten’s _Billy Budd_ 38 When doubled, and _Peter Grimes_ Mork’s good-bye 8 Elton’s light in the 39 Start of Maya wind Angelou’s comment 9 Fast food pioneer about Albert?

10 Last letter for 43 “Queen of Country” Socrates McEntire 11 Party guy, after a 44 Close of Serving in night of cruising Silence 12 Warning from Toto 46 Rilke’s I 13 Always, to Shakespeare 47 Reef buildup

21 Ziegfeld Follies costume designer 22 The A in GLARP 23 Like faint embers 24 Like Gomer’s Mayberry 27 Caribbean vacation spot 28 Mt. Everest locale 31 Sophie B. Hawkins’ “___ Lay Me Down” 32 Ben Hur novelist Wallace 35 Tans at South Beach 37 Shock everyone 40 Do-it-yourselfer’s purchase 41 Sgt. or corp.

42 Bit of resistance on the circuit 45 Enjoy some ladyfingers, e.g.

47 Prompted on Broadway 49 Main argument 50 Garbo, and others 51 Oil source 52 Cicely of Fried Green Tomatoes 54 Gore in the library 55 Eat away at 56 George Michael’s band 57 “___ Get a Witness” (Marvin Gaye) 58 Six Feet Under creator Ball 59 Type of bang 60 Barrymore of Boys on the Side

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 The road to making a good choice starts with a proper starting point. Choose your battles carefully, especially in matters of career or politics. A financial matter will require some attention. Handle it quickly to avoid distracting pressure. Take on a more passive role with a partner to ease the load. Your family will ask you for help. Consider assisting.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Energy will surge and instincts will be prominent. Inspiration will flow like a river of spontaneity.

Take friends along for a wild ride and enjoy being the center of attention.

An awesome deal will present itself, but may be too good to be true. Enjoy opportunities as they come but stay practical. Subtle pleasures will be more satisfying.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 The further you run from trouble, the more likely trouble is to find you. Sit tight and deal with issues as they present themselves. A fun romp with a buddy could leave you exhausted, so conserve your energy. Working with a family member could lead to tension if you try to control a situation. Leave hard work to someone who cares.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22– December 20.

Things seem to be spiraling out of control this month. Take a moment to realize it is you that is spinning! Take aim and fire at the target. Refocus your attention on a single moment or event. Once balance is restored, you’ll find there are many obligations that require attention. Clean house and take charge of obligations.

CANCER June 21–July 22 Problems are like dirty laundry. You need to strip the old and start fresh. This would be a good idea this month, Cancer, as you discover a new confidence in your ideas. Share what you know with close friends and family. Join in on exciting events, like BBQ’s and camping trips. You may hate getting dirty but it comes with the territory.

CAPRICORN Dec 21– Jan 19 Decisions, decision, decisions...you can’t make up your mind.

Sample a little bit of everything to gain better understanding of what you really want. Commitment is something you require of yourself. A business decision or personal matter will require you to make a choice. Take the time you need to make the right one.

LEO July 23–August 22 A deep understanding of other people may come from an exploratory mission. A work associate or boss has a great suggestion for your personal quest. A misunderstanding with a partner could lead to a surprising laugh if you can defuse the situation with a joke. Lions in the wild like to play rough, and so do you.

Have a good time.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 The strain of making a lot of grown-up decisions is taking a toll. With many responsibilities weighing you down, the time has come to adjust your load. A figurehead in your life will recognize the plight and provide much needed assistance. The inclination to break free will lead to rebellious actions. Shake things up a bit.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 Keep in mind that life is very much a “choose your own adventure” story. Anything you can imagine is possible, but know the limits of your narrative. Not all stories have a happy ending. Ask people close to you for advice when a big choice presents itself. If you find yourself making this choice alone, ride the tide with caution.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 Keeping up with a running partner could leave you breathless. It’s not a competition so don’t be afraid to slow down. An emotional attachment to a family member will have a positive effect.

An education may present itself in the form of a comparative process. Find solace in your beliefs but don’t be afraid to modify them as you learn. Q

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Cheers to Summer: Must-Have Drink Recipes to Sip in the Sun

BY MIKEY ROX

1. CHERRY POM While Southern Comfort-loving frat boys are slinging back Soco and Limes like their paddles depend on it – because heterosexuality is only 55 proof in a house with wall-towall dudes – you can take a more sophisticated approach to the New Orleans-born spirit by serving up these come-to-papa Cherry POMs poolside this summer.

1 1/4 oz Southern Comfort Bold Black Cherry 2 oz lemonade 1 oz pomegranate juice Lemon twist garnish Combine liquids in cocktail shaker with ice. Shake to blend.

Strain into large rocks glass over fresh ice. Garnish with lemon twist.

2. GREEN ICED TEA Tea sommelier James Labe – did you know there was such a thing?

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1 Numi Decaf Ginger Lemon Tea 3 oz fresh cucumber juice 1 1/2 oz tequila Splash of Lemon Juice Infuse one tea bag in tequila for 30 minutes, then remove bag, squeezing out excess. Combine and stir ingredients. Serve on the rocks.

Garnish with lime wedge.

3. SKINNY COLADA If you’re minding your beach body this summer – in hopes that someone else wouldn’t mind it, of course – you’ll want to add this simple-but-satisfying booze fix to the mix.

3 parts Vita Coco Coconut Water with Pineapple 1 part coconut rum Fill a highball glass with ice. Add Vita Coco Coconut Water with Pineapple and coconut rum. Stir, sip and enjoy.

4. PASSION XO FUN IN THE SUN SPRITZER When you can’t whisk yourself away to a tropical locale this summer, enjoy the next best thing with this fruity concoction of island flavors that’ll kick your gay staycation into high gear.

2 bottles of Passion XO Sun 12 oz reposado tequila 20 oz passion fruit juice 10 oz lime juice 4 oz agave nectar Lime wheels and mint sprigs Combine all ingredients in a punch bowl and serve over fresh ice in a rocks glass. Garnish with lime wheels and mint sprigs.

5. BERENTZEN PEAR BRAMBLE Berentzen – well known for its fruit liqueurs in Europe – has set its sights stateside with a slew of back-porch-perfect recipes ideal for unwinding on a balmy summer’s eve. If you happen to live in a place where you can pick your own berries, all the better.

1 oz Berentzen Pear 1 oz gin 3/4 oz fresh lemon juice 3/4 oz simple syrup 4 blackberries 1 pear slice Muddle three blackberries in mixing glass. Add Berentzen Pear, gin, lemon juice and simple syrup.

Stir gently and strain into large rocks glass filled with crushed ice.

Garnish with a blackberry and slice of pear.

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1¼ oz Tequila Don Julio Añejo 1/3 oz orange liqueur 1/4 tsp fresh lime juice Ginger beer Lime wedge Combine Tequila Don Julio Añejo, orange liqueur and fresh lime juice into a cocktail shaker with ice.

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When I

first came out to my mom in the summer of 1986, I was expecting to face a lot of trauma and drama. Let’s face it . . . who wouldn’t? We’re in Utah, after all, and my expectation was especially true because I was raised by an ultra-conservative mom from Latin America. So imagine my surprise when, instead of going ballistic, my mom listened and merely accepted what she heard without comment. Her only question, perhaps asked to satisfy her curiosity, was what role I played in the relationship. In other words, she wanted to know if I was a top or a bottom. I was tempted to say, “I’m a toppom,” or versatile, but since the only orifice I had used to that point was my mouth, my response was that things don’t always work out that way. We left the conversation hanging, and after several moments of awkward silence, my mom hugged me and told me that she still loved me.

My mom’s reaction was totally unexpected, but what I didn’t realize was that it was the calm before the storm . . . and when the shit hit the fan, it was messy.

My mom never confronted me directly, but she made the next three years of my life a living hell. She became a full-fledged Mormon evangelist, and she sought every opportunity to remind me that I couldn’t serve God and the devil. She reached her lowest point when she started following me around. If you think making a bad fashion choice is embarrassing, try having your mom show up out of nowhere and scaring off potential boyfriends.

Our conflict ended when I went through a particularly nasty breakup. I was only 20, but I had already grown tired of unstable relationships and what I perceived to be a dysfunctional community.

At the time I saw myself as the victim, and the only real experience I had with the LGBTQ community was the bars and hookups at several parks. I had no idea just how diverse and sophisticated the community really was, but that didn’t matter. I was over it. I wanted a different life.

That was when my mom introduced me

to LDS Social Services and the world of reparative therapy. Back then, I saw it as a Godsend, but in spite of all the therapy, my attraction to men remained as strong as ever. Over time I wanted to explore my sexuality again; to build a life of my choosing with someone I truly loved. The problem was that I still lived at home, I was active in the LDS church and my mom was convinced that I had been “cured” of my same-sex attraction. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that I was still attracted to men, that I hated myself for feeling the way I did and that I had gone out on a few dates with guys from my therapy group. I simply couldn’t walk up to her and say that aside from learning how to build healthy relationships, the only good thing I got from reparative therapy was an awesome blowjob.

As much as I hated the idea, there was no avoiding the fact that I had to come out a second time. It took another twenty years and me moving out of state to reach that point, but when I finally did, it sucked. All of the trauma and drama that was missing from the first reveal surfaced during the second round. Yet, I was prepared, and I managed to remain emotionally detached. The predominant thought I had through my mom’s tears and preaching was that at least I didn’t have to tell her that I was “versatile.”

I was no longer the timid young man who wanted to make everyone else happy.

I endured months of bickering until I initiated my own “come to Jesus” talk. That’s when I told my mom that if she truly believed in free agency, then she would let me live the life of my choosing, not hers.

The arguments stopped, but it took another year for her to finally accept my decisions and to respect the boundaries I set.

I’m happy to say that we now have a great relationship, and she loves my partner as much as she loves my sister-in-law. Now, when I think back on my experience, I’m reminded of the phrase, “Third time is the charm.” I’m glad that wasn’t the case with me. The second time was my charm. Q

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Nothing Stupid My college

BY BROCK KANAAN

theater professor was a man of few words, which was fine, because sometimes a few words are all you need.

It took me a while to grow into the actor that I wanted to be, but in times of casting castrophies I was his go-to guy in clutch situations. If another actor decided to leave a production mid-rehearsal, I’d often get the call to come and take the role - even though it may not be a role that I would ever have been meant to play.

My professor would hand me the script and send me into the show with one simple instruction: “Nothin’ Stupid.”

In this case, he just meant, “Don’t do anything eccentric.”

He didn’t need me to go out and win a Tony award; he needed me to just ensure that the show was able to continue.

It wasn’t the kind of “Go for the Glory” speech that inspired

dreams of Olympic gold, but as a piece of coaching advice, those two words have saved me many times over.

Yet “nothing stupid” isn’t as easy as it sounds. Here is a partial laundry list of dumb: Anything that happens after the fifth drink. Most of the moves you initiate after midnight.

Anything at the drive-thru that has the word “double,” “triple,” or “quadruple” in it. Anything thing you do in the he car besides look out the windshield or at your mirrors. Anything you do after saying, “Watch this...”

So here’s the single tip I propose we all remember this summer. If it sounds like a dumb move, don’t make it.

That goes for me too. Let’s pick a stupid habit and replace it with something better in return. Because just like John Wayne said, “Life is hard; it’s harder if you’re stupid.” Q

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the perils of petunia pap smear

A tale of Spandex and fence poles The road to Rio is fraught with danger and excitement.

While

watching the Utah Pride Parade last week, I greatly enjoyed the performance of the boys from QUAC, strutting their stuff in Speedos on State Street in front of God and everybody. Few things in life will cause me to risk smearing my mascara like a man in a Speedo. I confess that I have a prodigious fetish for hot guys in spandex and the QUAC boys were really feeding into my obsession big time.

It reminded me of a trip I took several years ago with a community choir to, what could arguably be considered the motherland of spandex, Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Our hotel was located right in the heart of spandex central — on Copacabana Beach, where the uniform of choice seemed to be a tight fitting Speedo and a pair of sandals. Imagine my delight when I realized that some of those Brazilian hunks even wore their Speedos on the city streets away from the beach for shopping and even work.

Located conveniently just one block from our hotel was the Alaska Theater which sported a classic male striptease show every evening. Feeling dangerously adventurous, I snuck away from the rest of the choir, bought a ticket and sat nervously in the audience. I did not understanding a word of what anyone was saying because, of course, they were speaking Portuguese, but comprehended the gist of things just because the language of sex

is international.

A full-figured drag queen mistress of ceremonies took charge. She introduced a stunningly handsome troupe of 16 Speedo-clad men who proceeded to perform a seductive group dance number before they all left the stage. Then two by two, the emcee introduced them all in eight different duo strip tease routines that were hot as hell, but to my great disappointment, just when the “goods” were to be revealed, each time they would be hidden by scenery, lighting or costuming. Talk about a woman on the verge of a nervous breakdown — at this point I was so horny that not even the crack of dawn was safe, and remember, this is coming from a prolific bottom.

Had I left the theater at this point, this horny queen had built up enough sexual tension that I’m sure that I might have tried to rape my choir roommate (though come to find out years later that he probably would have greatly enjoyed that) but as it was I was likely to hit somebody with my purse or at the very least rob a porn store.

Then to relieve the tension of not only me but the rest of the frenzied audience, the emcee called the whole troupe out onto the stage again and to our great delight, they all appeared totally naked, presenting their Full Monties. The emcee engaged in some humorous banter with the guys for about five minutes, giving us all plenty of time to get a good view of

everything, and then excused them all from the stage while she performed two fabulous lip-sync songs.

After the emcee concluded her performance, she invited the troupe back onto the stage.

All 16 of them returned, strutting proudly with their manhood at full attention, primed and ready for action. They stood in line as if preparing for the queen to review the troops.

It looked just like all the flag poles surrounding the United Nations. I can only imagine the massive fluffing session that must have been taking place backstage during the musical numbers. Oh to be a fly on that wall, or better yet a volunteer stage hand.

The emcee then proceeded to invite selected audience members onto the stage with the 16 erect men, to give them various awards. Of course this was all in Portuguese so I could only guess at what the specific awards were.

Then to my utter shock and delight, she invited me to come to the stage. While walking up on stage and past all those rigid shafts, I had to resist as my old farming instincts started to kick in, and I felt compelled to string some wire fencing between all the poles. This surreal experience made me feel as if I was Donna Reed in a porno dream sequence surrounded by a picket fence of penises, a true vision of heaven if you ask me.

The emcee gave me a golden crown to give to one of the guys. I assume that my award

was for best ass because she had all the guys turn around and flex their buns at me. So I chose some very deserving “Buns of Steel” and placed the crown on his head. She had him move over to a couch on the side and lie bum up. Through pantomime, she invited me to kiss his buns. With the audience going wild with cat calls and applause, I leaned in low over the toned and tanned ass of this Brazilian god, and I nearly passed out in excitement as I gave his left and right cheeks each a peck. Now if that isn’t enough to give a queen the vapors, I don’t know what is.

Like always these events leave us with many eternal questions: 1. Can I mc a show like that at the Villa Theater?

2. Can the Boys of QUAC speak Portuguese?

3. Does this experience qualify me to be an award presenter at the Adult Video Awards?

4. Does the Alaska Theater Troupe ever go on tour to the US? 5. How could a queen get hired to be a fluffer there?

6 What brand of fabric softener must I use for all that fluffing?

7 Did the Buns of Steel leave a lingering halo effect over me?

8. Upon returning to my hotel, could my roommate detect where I had been?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of: The Perils of Petunia Pap-Smear

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july 2014 | issue 233 | gaysaltlake.com

Beach Bums: 10 Sexy Swimsuits Sure to Show Off Your Best Assets

BY MIKEY ROX

Summer is officially here, which means that it’s time to slip into something a little lighter.

So you can spend more time soakin’ up the sun instead of scouring the Internet, I’ve compiled this list of the latest and greatest swimwear styles from your favorite brands along with a few new ones that are making a splash. Dive in.

7. KEY WEST RETRO LYCRA SWIMMER

3. A-FRAME SPEEDSTER SWIM TRUNK Who wears short shorts? If it’s you, Timoteo’s A-Frame Speedster Swim Trunks will likely pique your interest. More of a cross between briefs and a traditional trunk, this itty-bitty bathing suit covers the pre-requisites but little else. Probably not an ideal choice if you’re hung, but some people like to live on the edge. $48; timoteo.net

Printed swimwear is totally in this season, and nobody’s doing it better than Sauvage.

Cover up your valuables with graphic prints plucked straight from Key West and South Beach on shorts that pop off your bod in bright, brilliant color. Made from supersoft European nylon Lycra and outfitted with a white mesh liner and drawstring, you’re bound to field compliments from a few sunkissed admirers. $72; sauvagewear.com

10. REEF GARDEN BOARDSHORTS Not every gay is into nut-hugging swimwear – and that’s OK. For those of us who like to leave a little more to the imagination, boardshorts are the way to go, and the Reef Garden style are as fashionable as they are functional.

Made from recycled double shaka microfiber (high-five for eco-friendly!), these shorts offer a back welt pocket with zipper closure, seamless sides and UV protection. The cute octopi are just a bonus. $50; reef.com Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and blogger whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @Mikeyrox.

9. AWNING STRIPE RIO SWIM BRIEF

5. ADDICTED SQUARE SHORT SWIM TRUNK Get into a collegiate state of mind with the square swim trunks from Addicted, available in four color combinations, like juicy orange and royal blue. The short cut of these trunks will show off all that hard work you’ve put in at the gym, while the Ivy League-like styling – like a two-color contrasting waistband and the Addicted logo shield – sends a loud-andclear message that school’s out for summer. $82; escollectionusa.com

You don’t have to set up shop on Copacabana Beach to capture that loose Rio vibe. In fact, you can create your own quaint Brazilian paradise by the hotel pool with a freshly made caipirinha, a spritz of sunscreen and these South American-style swim briefs from 2(X) IST. Available in white and salsa red, they’re sure to spice things up. $55; 2xist.com

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