QSaltLake June 2014 - Pride

salt lake magazine

UTAH’S GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDER AND ALLY

June 2014 Issue 232 GaySaltLake.com FREE

PRIDE PHOTO BY DAVID DANIELS

4 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

From Single Story to FairyTale.

50 friendly communities and 100’s of dream home designs, plus…

FREE Credit Enhancement FREE Help to Pack, Move & Clean* FREE 2014 Catalogue of Homes FREE Design Services

GIVE ME A CALL BEFORE RATES AND PRICES GO UP! Tony Hamby 801-837-6596

* Some conditions apply see agent for details.

Together, we can Save Them All . ®

ONGOING MONTHLY SPECIALS Best Friends Pet Adoption Center 2005 South 1100 East Salt Lake City, Utah 84106 Monday -Saturday 11 a.m. – 7 p.m.

Sunday 11 a.m. – 7 p.m.

bestfriends.org/utah

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

MANY THINGS

DEFINE US TOBACCO SHOULDN’T BE ONE OF THEM

The Tobacco Industry doesn't see us as unique individuals. They see us as easy money—as a target audience who is 40% to 70% more likely to smoke than the general population. We didn't come out of the closet just to be labeled and stereotyped. We are artists. Dog owners.

Amateur food critics. Film buffs. Don't let Big Tobacco define us. We can do that ourselves. For help quitting, call 1.800.QUIT.NOW.

QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 5

JUNE 28 PICNIC celebrate the 40th

anniversary of Utah’s first Pride with a picnic at Rotary Park in City Creek Canyon

Drive up City Creek Canyon to the “Service Above Self” pavilion and join us in a celebration of 40 years of PRIDE in Utah.

PARKING IS VERY LIMITED Please carpool. Cars with 4 or more passengers may park at no charge.

Others must pay $10 to park.

ENTERTAINMENT • BBQ • GOOD “FAMILY” FUN BROUGHT TO YOU BY

Please drink responsibly. The canyon road is narrow and windy.

NO PETS ALLOWED — This is Salt Lake City watershed area.

Bring your own food or food will be available for purchase.

Entertainers wanted. Email editor@qsaltlake.com

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 7

8 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | STAFF

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

staffbox publisher/editor Michael Aaron

asst. editor Bob Henline copy editor Tony Hobday designer Christian Allred

Teleperformance Career Opportunities Available

Customer Care Professionals

sales Bob Henline, Craig Ogan contributors Chris Azzopardi, Lynn Beltran, Paul Berge, Dave Brousseau, Abby Dees, Jack Fertig, Greg Fox, Charles Lynn Frost, Bob Henline, Tony Hobday, Christopher Katis, Sam Mills, Leesa Myers, Petunia Pap Smear, Anthony Paull, Steven Petrow, Ed Sikov, Ben ­Williams, D’Anne ­Witkowski distribution Peggy Bon,

• Permanent full time employment • Excellent Benefits after 60 days • Casual Fun environment • Exciting contests and events • Flexible schedules to fit your lifestyles • Worldwide Career Opportunities • Paid Training • Immediate positions available for a new line of business • Spanish Bilingual Positions Available

To jump start your career apply online today at

teleperformance.com

Michael Hamblin, Jason Van Campen publisher

Salt Lick Publishing LLC. 222 S Main St, Ste 500 Salt Lake City, Utah 84101 tel: 801-649-6663 Contact emails: general: info@qsaltlake.com editorial: editor@qsaltlake.com sales: sales@qsaltlake.com

Check us out online at:

GAYSALTLAKE.COM FACEBOOK.COM/QSALTLAKE TWITTER @QSALTLAKE

QSaltLake Magazine is a trademark of Gay Salt Lake, Inc. Copyright © 2014, Salt Lick Publishing, LLC. All rights reserved. No material may be reprinted or reproduced without written permission from the publisher. 15,000 copies of QSaltLake Magazine are distributed free of charge at over 300 locations across the Wasatch Front. Free copies are limited to one per person. For additional copies, contact us at 801-649-6663. It is a crime to destroy or dispose of current issues or otherwise interfere with the distribution of this newsmagazine. Publication of the name or photograph of any individual or organization in articles or advertising in QSaltLake Magazine is not to be construed as any indication of the sexual orientation of such persons.

Printed in the U.S.A. on recycled paper.

Please recycle this copy when you are through with it.

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

A lot can happen in a year

BY MICHAEL AARON

2013

As we get ready to celebrate Utah Pride, we are proud to have won marriage equality in nine states, have state-sanctioned civil unions in eight more.

We are waiting on Supreme Court decisions in both the so-called Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8. There seems to be a slim chance that the court will rule definitively, making same-sex marriage legal across the country, but it is at least hopeful that California will be able to perform marriages once the decision comes.

There is a challenge to Utah’s Amendment 3 and other laws that define marriage as between a man and a woman, but those in the know believe it has a slim chance of winning and we are still focused on courts in other states and, ultimately (though far off), the U.S. Supreme Court.

The focus of our local LGBT organizations, as well as most of the national organizations, is on employment nondiscrimination and housing protections. In Utah, local governments across the state have passed such protections, largely through the tireless work of Equality Utah.

Nationally, the Employment Nondiscrimination Act of 2013 has passed the U.S. Senate, and is waiting to be heard by the House.

Pride will be great this year.

We hope the weather turns out great and the Utah Pride Center makes a lot of money for the services they provide.

2014

As we get ready to celebrate Utah Pride, we are proud to have won marriage equality in 19 states, have state-sanctioned civil unions in three more.

The Supreme Court decided shortly after last year’s Pride that the so-called Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional and that California’s lower court ruling on Proposition 8 stands, so same-sex couples there are now marry..

The court ruled in such a broad way that conservative Justice Scalia said it would pave the way to same-sex marriage throughout the country. Indeed, district and state courts in 12 states have since declared laws against same-sex marriage as unconstitutional. Six states currently have cases making their way through appellate courts.

Utah was the first state that a district judge declared laws and a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage as a violation of the Constitution. Over 1,300 couples were legally married in the 17 days before the U.S. Supreme Court stayed the decision.

Local and national LGBT organizations are onboard with the marriage equality fight, as well as employment nondiscrimination and housing protections.

Nationally, ENDA has passed the Senate, and has yet to be heard by the House.

Pride will be great this year.

We hope the weather turns out great and the Utah Pride Center makes a lot of money for the services they provide.

FIRST PERSON | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 9

salt lake day at

lagoon sunday, aug 10

Discount coupons available

at Jam, Club Try-Angles, QSaltLake & Cahoots beginning in July

wear red to stand OUT official shirts at qmart.gaysaltlake.com

Picnic with us all day & group photo at 4pm at the Pioneer Pavilion by Rattlesnake Rapids

10 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | NEWS

Federal Judge Strikes Down Oregon Ban On Marriage for Same-Sex Couples U.S. District Court Judge Michael McShane ruled May 19 that Oregon’s exclusion of same-sex couples from marriage is unconstitutional—paving the way for couples to begin marrying immediately.

“I am so thrilled to have the freedom to marry the love of my life. Marriage strengthens families like mine, and for me, it’s as simple as treating others as one would hope to be treated,” said Paul Rummell, one of the plaintiffs in the case. “No one should be told it is illegal to marry the person they love.”

In his ruling, McShane wrote, “I believe that if we can look for a moment past gender and sexuality, we can see in these plaintiffs nothing more or less than our own families. Families who we would expect our Constitution to protect, if not exalt, in equal measure. With discernment we see not shadows lurking in closets or the stereotypes of what was once believed; rather, we see families committed to the common purpose of love, devotion, and service to the greater community.”

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Arkansas judge rules for same-sex marriage Pulaski County [Arkansas] Circuit Judge Chris Piazza May 9 found that Amendment 83, adopted in 2004, violated the rights of same-sex couples by defining marriage as between a man and a woman.

He wrote in his ruling: “Amendment 83 singled out same-sex couples for the purpose of disparate treatment.

“This is an unconstitutional attempt to narrow the definition of equality. The exclusion of a minority for no rational reason is a dangerous precedent.”

Ban on Marriage Equality Struck Down in Pennsylvania May 20, U.S. District Judge John E. Jones, III ruled that Pennsylvania’s law banning marriage equality is unconstitutional.

Pennsylvania becomes the tenth state where a federal judge has struck down a marriage ban since the U.S. Supreme Court issued their two marriage-related rulings last year.

In the ruling, Judge Jones wrote, “We are a better people than what these laws represent, and it is time to discard them into the ash heap of history.”

Dustin Lance Black speaks at alma mater’s commencement after being disinvited/reinvited After leaders heard of photos of Dustin Lance Black having sex with his boyfriend that surfaced in 2009, Black was dis-invited to be the commencement speaker at his alma mater, Pasadena City College, in April.

“With the porno professor and the sex scandals we’ve had on campus this last year, it just didn’t seem like the right time for Mr. Black to be the speaker,” Board President Anthony Fellow told the campus newspaper, PCC Courier. “We’ll be on the radio and on television. We just don’t want to give PCC a bad name.”

The Board of Trustees then invited Pasadena Health Director Dr. Eric Walsh to be the speaker, yet he was dis-invited

after news broke of his anti-gay and antiCatholic sermons, including a claim that acceptance of LGBT people is an idea “from the pits of Hell.”

The college’s trustees issued a heartfelt apology after a 90-minute closed meeting to the Academy Award-winning screenwriter and voted unanimously to re-invite him to be the school’s commencement.

Black told the students to “let your freaky differences shine.”

Twist: Church files suit over NOT being allowed to perform same-sex marriages The General Synod of the United Church of Christ filed a lawsuit Apr. 28 in U.S. District Court in Charlotte, arguing that North Carolina laws defining and regulating marriage as being between a man and woman restrict UCC ministers from performing their religious duties and are unconstitutional.

The state of North Carolina prevents couples of the same gender from obtaining a marriage license and makes it a crime for ministers to officiate at a marriage ceremony without determining whether the couple involved has a license. The UCC says the law limits ministers’ choices, violates the principle of “free exercise of religion” upon which the church is built, and restricts the freedoms of religion and expressive association guaranteed in the First Amendment. The UCC seeks a preliminary injunction that would allow ministers to choose whether to perform a religious marriage.

NOM could pay record fine The antigay National Organization for Marriage could end up paying a record fine in Maine for failing to disclose the names of major donors to its 2009 campaign to repeal the state’s marriage equality law.

The staff of Maine’s Commission on Governmental Ethics and Election Practices released a report Monday recommending a $50,250 fine, a record for the state, against NOM for its lack of disclosure of donor names and other information, reports the Portland Press Herald. Commissioners will vote on the matter May 28.

Under Maine’s laws, NOM should have registered as a ballot committee, the staff report says. Ballot committees have to reveal the names of their officers and other decision-makers and file reports of contributions and spending on a regular basis.

TAKE A RIDE

Experience PrideFest in Denver, June 21–22. Connect with friends new and old, enjoy live music and the parade. Rent a B-cycle or pedicab and explore The Mile High City’s many unique neighborhoods featuring chef-owned restaurants, boutique shopping, and outdoor adventures. And don’t miss this summer’s worldclass exhibitions like Chihuly at Denver Botanic Gardens and Maya: Hidden Worlds Revealed at the Denver Museum of Nature & Science. Plan your Pride getaway today at VISITDENVER.COM/LGBT

SHOW YOUR PRIDE

12 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | NEWS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

Utah judge orders recognition of valid same-sex marriages A federal judge ordered the state today to recognize the marriages of same-sex couples who were legally married in Utah after a federal court struck down a state ban, but before the U.S. Supreme Court temporarily halted additional marriages from taking place.

Over 1,000 same-sex couples married in Utah during that time period.

The couples are represented by American Civil Liberties Union, the ACLU Judge Dale A. Kimball of Utah, and Strindberg & Scholnick, LLC, who sought the preliminary injunction for the marriages to be recognized while their lawsuit continues.

“Our clients, like over 1,000 other samesex couples, were legally married and those marriages cannot now be taken away from them,” said John Mejia, legal director of the ACLU of Utah. “While we await a permanent decision, we are relieved that

snaps&slaps SNAPS Recently, Salty Dinner Theater had a show in Orem to a full house with many children.

Their Orem audiences are often the most conservative. Part of the show is a contest.

And this happened: Host: You’re at the Don’s daughter’s wedding, and can ask the Don for anything.

What do you ask for?

Male contestant: To get married.

Host: Oh, is there a special lady?

Male contestant: Uh, no.

Host: A special fella?

Male contestant: Yes. Host: Is he here?

From audience: Right here!

Host: Well, good luck to you.

And the audience broke into ... APPLAUSE! The times, they are a changin’, even in Orem, Utah

our clients will receive the full recognition they deserve as lawfully married couples.”

Today’s preliminary injunction is not a permanent order, but it reflects the court’s determination that the plaintiffs’ are likely to prevail on their legal claims and would suffer irreparable harm if their marriages were stripped of recognition. Today’s order was given a 21-day stay to allow the state to respond.

In his ruling, Judge Dale A. Kimball wrote: “The State has placed Plaintiffs and their families in a state of legal limbo with respect to adoptions, child care and custody, medical decisions, employment and health benefits, future tax implications, inheritance, and many other property and fundamental rights associated with marriage. These legal uncertainties and lost rights cause harm each day that the marriage is not recognized.”

Kimball also noted that the marriages cannot be made illegal retroactively, despite a U.S. Supreme Court stay that halted same-sex weddings. “Even though the Supreme Court’s Stay Order put Utah’s marriage bans back into place, to retroactively apply the bans to existing marriages, the State must demonstrate some state interest in divesting Plaintiff’s of their

SLAPS Carlotta Trevisan from Turin, Italy posted photos of lesbians kissing two soccer players kissing in support of International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia.

Some of her Facebook friends were none too pleased. One said, “Take it down. I have young children to protect.” They also flagged the photo as inappropriate, which prompted a Facebook moderator to take a look.

Carlotta next received an email from Facebook telling her to remove the image immediately, saying it violated the “community’s standards on nudity and pornography.” Outraged, she refused to take down the harmless photos and soon her account was deleted.

Facebook says the incident was a mistake and reinstated the profile.

already vested marriage rights. The State has failed to do so.”

“We are grateful that the court has stepped in to prevent the state from stripping recognition from legally valid marriages that have already taken place,” said Joshua Block, staff attorney with the ACLU Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender Project. “The court’s decision allows these committed couples to move forward with their lives with the same protections and security as any other married couples.”

The lawsuit is separate from the original federal case challenging Utah’s marriage ban, which is on appeal before the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Tenth Circuit.

That case was brought by the law firm of Magleby & Greenwood on behalf of three other couples. The ACLU filed a friend-ofthe-court brief in that case. Q

Study: Same-sex marriage would boost Utah economy The state of Utah would see an economic boost if marriage is extended to same-sex couples, says a report from the University of California School of Law’s Williams Institute.

“We predict that 1,955 in-state samesex couples would choose to marry in the three years following an opening of marriage to same-sex couples in Utah,” the report by E.G. Fitzgerald, Christy Mallory and M.V. Lee Badgett says. “The total spending on wedding arrangements and tourism by resident same-sex couples and their guests would add an estimated $15.5 million to the state and local economy of Utah over the course of three years, with a $9.9 million boost in the first year alone.”

The boost would add a million dollars in sales tax revenue and support 268 full- and part-time jobs in the state.

“All of the findings from previous studies suggest that extending marriage rights to same-sex couples produces a positive impact on states’ economies. Similar conclusions have been reached by legislative offices in Connecticut and Vermont, as well as by the Comptroller General of New York,” the report reads. “The Congressional Budget Office has concluded that if all 50 states, in addition to the federal government, extended the rights and obligations of marriage to same-sex couples, the federal government would benefit by nearly $1 billion each year.”

The full report is available at gaysaltlake. com.

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

NEWS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 13

Utah Pride Center releases financial audit On Monday evening the Utah Pride Center held its monthly board of directors meeting and discussed the results of the financial audit performed for the 2013 calendar year. The audit was contracted by the Pride Center and paid for by a directed donation from Jane Marquardt. It was performed

by Christine Arthur, CPA of the firm Arthur and Jensen of Salt Lake City.

This disclosure comes over five months after the original promised date of November 30, 2013. Board chair John Netto publicly apologized during the meeting for making the promise upon which he was unable to deliver.

In addition to the financial information, the auditor’s report contained several recommendations regarding accounting controls and internal practices to be adopted

by Utah Pride. By unanimous vote, both the recommendations and the audit reports were accepted, though the specifics were not revealed to the public. The motions to adopt referenced “recommendations made within the report,” which are to be released to the public after Utah Pride has had an opportunity to redact anything they categorize as “trade secrets.”

UPC Executive Director Steven Ha announced that it is his goal for Utah Pride to achieve a “gold star” rating from GuideStar, an organization that maintains and publishes data from non-profits around the nation. GuideStar is the commonly accepted standard by which non-profits are evaluated by foundations and individuals for grants and donations.

It was explained during the meeting that the financial crisis that led to the lay-off of two

employees and salary reduction of remaining employees last October was the result of monies not being properly accounted for internally. Essentially, it was explained, that there was an error in accounting for in-kind donations on the new building and incorrect allocation of monies restricted to the Capital Campaign. This accounting error led management to believe that more cash was available in the operating accounts than was actually there.

The board reported that an entirely new accounting structure has been put in place and that this error should not happen again. A CPA has been contracted to provide a brief audit of the financials on a monthly basis and all departments will undergo a quarterly budget review. Ha added that at the time of the lay-offs the cash reserve was under 30 days.

Currently, that reserve is at 70 days and it is his goal to bring that reserve to 6 months before any significant expansion of programs and costs.

Additionally, the board accepted the resignation of board secretary Marva Match and elected Jon Jepsen as her replacement. They also welcomed three new board members: Greg Jaboin, Kathleen Boyd and Jason Suker.

Ha also announced new partnerships with the Utah Department of Corrections to conduct policy, advocacy, and mental health services for LGBTQ clients in the corrections system and with the Office of Civil Rights in the Department of Justice to assist in training school and district personnel in appropriate ways to respond to reported bias crimes against LGBTQ youth. Both are expected to result in fee-for-services contracts with UPC. Q

AUGUST 8-9, 2014 ROBBER’S ROOST BOOKSTORE TORREY, UTAH

Sarah Bettens

BASKERY BASKERY // Eliza Eliza Gilkerson Gilkerson Julie Julie Wheeler Wheeler // Vicci Vicci Martinez Martinez God God Des Des and and She She // Alicia Alicia Faith Faith Erin Erin & & The The Project Project // Dear Dear Liza Liza SHAWNEE SHAWNEE //

For information AND TICKETS womensredrockmusic fest.com

14 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | NEWS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

Park City HS Gay-Straight Alliance wins nat’l award The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network today announced that Utah’s Park City High School Gay-Straight Alliance will receive the 2014 GLSEN GSA of the Year award at GLSEN’s Respect Awards – New York on May 19.

The award honors a student

club that has demonstrated extraordinary leadership to ensure that all students in their school community feel safe and treated with respect regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity/ expression.

“We are proud to recognize the Park City High Gay-Straight Alliance for its impassioned work to improve the educational experience of LGBT students throughout Utah,” GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard said. “Through their tireless efforts to support, connect with and advocate for LGBT students statewide, Park City GSA students have demonstrated they are more than deserving of this honor.”

The Park City High GayStraight Alliance is provides a safe and supportive environment for all students in Utah schools by working to eradicate anti-LGBT laws,

hosting community events with prominent LGBT figures, partnering with nearby LGBT organizations, and engaging local newspapers on safe schools issues. The club is highly active on social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, using social media to connect with as

many LGBT students in Utah as possible.

“It’s not always easy in Utah, but through the community we all have in the GSA, it’s fostered a belief that it doesn’t only ‘get better’ [for LGBT youth], but rather it can get awesome,” said Park City student Cozy Huggins. “We feel as if the change will start in conservative states like Utah, and through stressing acceptance and tolerance in the state, both in rural areas and in the city, we hope to start to turn the tide.”

The news was welcome in the decidedly liberal Park City.

“To put it bluntly, our kids are helping to redeem our state’s reputation, in spite of state legislators who are still trying to roll back to a time when gender bigotry was considered acceptable,” wrote the Park City Record in an editorial titled, “Parkites take

pride in Gay Straight Alliance’s national honor.”

The Park City High GSA made headlines when they to to the streets during Sundance to raise money for Restore Our Humanity, the team who successfully got a ruling that Utah’s anti-marriage equality laws are unconstitutional. The GSA presented a $1,000 check to the organization.

The group must pay to get themselves to the ceremony, and had started a GoFundMe campaign to raise the needed money.

GSAs are student-led clubs that help to ensure middle and high schools offer a safe and affirming environment for all students. GLSEN research has found: GSAs have shown tremendous value in providing safe spaces and critical support for LGBT students. Students in schools with GSAs are less likely to hear homophobic remarks such as “faggot” or “dyke” in school on a daily

basis than students without a GSA (57% compared to 75%).

LGBT students in schools with GSAs are less likely to miss school because they feel unsafe compared to other students: a quarter (26%) of students in schools with GSAs missed school in the past month because they felt unsafe compared to a third (32%) of students at schools without GSAs. Students in schools with a GSA are more likely to report that school faculty, staff and administrators are supportive of lesbian, gay and bisexual students (52% compared to 32%).

The Respect Awards, held annually in New York and Los Angeles, showcase the work of corporations, individuals, students and educators who have made outstanding contributions as leaders in our safe schools movement, and who serve as exemplary role models to our nation’s youth.

To help the students get to New York for the ceremony, go to gofundme.com/ glsenpcgsafund

Tenn. man seeks to join ‘Kitchen v.

Herbert’ case to marry computer A former attorney from Brentwood, Tenn. has asked to be included as an additional plaintiff in the Kitchen v.

Herbert marriage equality case being heard by the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals.

Mark Christopher Sevier filed the motion with the court, arguing that he had also been damaged by Utah’s marriage ban when he attempted to obtain a marriage license for himself and a machine. In his 50-page brief, Sevier argues that “The Constitutionality of the law in dispute narrowly defines marriage between ‘one man and one women (sic),’ not ‘one man and one man,’ ‘one woman and one woman,’ ‘one man and one machine,’ ‘one man and one animal’ which violates the Due Process Clause and Equal

Protection clause of all classes of sexual orientation, not just same-sex orientation.”

He argues that if two men or two women are allowed to marry, he should be allowed to marry a machine or an animal.

Sevier’s motion, however, is without mention of sentience or consent.

Sevier’s license to practice law was placed on “disability inactive” status by the State of Tennessee due to a ruling of mental instability which made him incapable of effectively representing clients. Since that time, Sevier has faced a number of legal troubles, including being arrested for stalking country singer John Rich and a 17-year-old female employee of a Ben & Jerry’s store in Nashville. Q

NEWS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 15

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Don R. Austin, LCSW • INDIVIDUALS • COUPLES • CHRONIC DISEASE • GAY ISSUES • HIV/AIDS • ADULT MALE SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ABUSE

HAFB to host Pride month For what is reportedly the first time on a military base on U.S. soil, Hill Air Force Base is making preparations for events to celebrate Pride month in June.

They have launched a fundraising campaign on GoFundMe to help cover the cost of this event. Utah Pride Board President John Netto donated $1000 to this event as they signed an agreement with Utah Pride to become a community partner.

Colleen Mewing of Marriage Equality USA, also employed by a military contractor on the base, is volunteering on the planning committee for Pride events. So far, those events include a community fair, June 11, Pride Night, June 21, and a Keynote Luncheon, June 24.

Marriage Equality USA, Utah Pride Center, Family Acceptance Project, and Restore Our Humanity are currently slated to participate in the community fair. Pride Night will be a variety-type program featuring local artists Tami Porter-Jones, Monique Lanier and Mary Tebbs, and Renee Tebbs. The keynote address will be delivered by Kristin Beck, a former Navy SEAL who underwent gender reassign-

ment after leaving the Navy.

The Pride Month C0mmittee Chair at HAFB, Master Sgt. Terry Gilbert, explained that Pride month is a Department of Defense-recognized observance, as directed in 2012

by President Barack Obama and Defense Secretary Leon Panetta. Gilbert noted that HAFB was not singled out to recognize Pride Month, but rather this was undertaken by a volunteer committee to “ensure the challenges and achievements of all LGBT military members and DoD civilians were recognized equally alongside the challenges and achievements of all DoD personnel.

Gilbert further stated, in response to a question as to whether events would be open to the public, that the events will be “geared toward the service members and civilian employees assigned to HAFB. However, this month of recognition would not be possible without the contributions of the LGBT community of the greater Salt Lake area.” Presumably, this means only those with base access will be able to participate in the events. Q

Christopher Wharton

A  L

Questions about the 1,000+ rights and benefits of your new marriage? Call me!

Call 801-649-3529 for a free consultation Chris Wharton Law, LLC 10 W Broadway, Ste 500 chriswhartonlaw.com

Q mart is a Big Deal! qmart.gaysaltlake.com

Half off restaurants, massage, spa services, arts tickets, travel and more!

16 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | NEWS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

Mormons Building Bridges rejected by Days of ’47 parade Though this year’s theme of the Days of ‘47 Parade is “Pioneers-Pushing Toward Our Future,” that future apparently does not include gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and ally pioneers. Parade organizers have rejected an application for Mormons Building Bridges, which has marched in the Utah Pride Parade since 2012 and has grown to 5,000 Facebook members, to join in the festivities.

The group proposed an entry titled “Mormons Building Bridges Celebrates Utah’s LGBT/SSA Pioneers” to include a car with eight leaders from areas of public service, business, the arts, and the faith community, who also happen to be LGBT. MBB was notified by Days of ‘47 co-chair Jodene Smith that, “due to the subject matter and under [the parade’s] general standards, [the parade’s co-chairs] will not be able to permit your application at this time,” according to a statement on MBB’s web site.

“MBB’s proposed entry titled ‘Mormons Building Bridges Celebrates Utah’s LGBT/ SSA Pioneers’ was to include a car with eight leaders from areas of public service, business, the arts, and the faith community, who also happen to be LGBT. The entry would have aligned with current LDS church messaging of love and acceptance around LGBT/SSA issues,” MBB leaders wrote.

Parade rules say that “The Days of ’47 remembers Utah’s early and current pioneers with a variety of events [including] an all-day extravaganza with a Sunrise Service and Parade in downtown Salt Lake City ... Entry applications will be rejected if the Parade Committee, in its sole discrePHOTO: DAVID DANIELS

tion and judgment, determines an entry to be political, controversial, unlawful or otherwise inconsistent with the standards, theme or purpose of the Parade. Examples of unacceptable entries include, but are not limited to, the following: advocacy by political parties or candidates for public office, advocacy for legislative or other public policy initiatives, subject matters relating to sexuality, including polygamy and abortion, controversial religious matters and gun rights.”

MBB leaders hoped that parade officials would agree that “The entry would have aligned with current LDS church messaging of love and acceptance around LGBT/ SSA issues.”

“Although the MBB steering committee is disappointed in this decision, we hope that this can provide an opportunity to engage in a constructive and open dialogue with parade organizers about the goals and mission of the event, in the hopes of eventually being granted entry in the parade. While we understand that historically LGBT organizations have been turned down by the Days of ’47 parade, we had hoped that our Latter-day Saint identity and the way in which we consistently support our church’s principles of love and inclusion, as well as our desire to adhere to parade standards, would have led parade organizers to welcome Mormons Building Bridges into this beloved Utah tradition. We look forward to an ongoing relationship with Days of ’47 and hope to continue further dialogue about both participation in the parade and the value of LGBT pioneers to the state of Utah,”

MBB leaders said.

MBB leaders called today for supporters to contact the parade committee and sponsors to tell them what it would mean to them to have MBB in the prade. They gave links to contact pages for the sponsors on their web page.

Leaders appealed to those who contact the groups to be compassionate and loving in their response.

“Threats and anger don’t move us forward. Sharing your feelings and experience, engaging in empathetic dialogue, and genuine listening will lead to better understanding and a stronger community,” they wrote.

“As we engage our community in conversation about the Days of ’47 Parade we hope to do two things: support the beloved tradition of the parade AND communicate why we feel that a Mormons Building Bridges entry would work so harmoniously with that tradition,” the group wrote. “We encourage participants in Mormons Building Bridges and friends of the organization to reach out to the parade sponsors in the spirit of open and compassionate dialogue and tell them what it would mean to you and your community to have a ‘Mormons Building Bridges Celebrates Utah’s LGBT Pioneers’ entry in the parade.” Q

Local entrepreneurs put a new spin on convention housing Salt Lake City plays host to a large number of conventions and conferences every year.

During the larger conventions, such as the biannual Outdoor Retailer’s convention, housing becomes one of the more difficult logistical details to handle. To address the needs of convention goers, a new service has popped up in Salt Lake. “My Convention Housing is a community-based host housing program designed to meet the overflow housing needs of convention goers in the greater Salt Lake City area,” says entrepreneur Carine Henderson.

The premise is pretty simple. MCH helps to organize housing when hotels are out of space. In essence, MCH will pay people for the use of their house, apartment, or condo for up to 4 nights. In addition to cash payment, they offer to house local hosts at a resort in Big Cottonwood Canyon for a mini “staycation.”

My Convention Housing will start booking soon for the peak Outdoor Retailer nights of August 6, 7, and 8. More info at myconventionhousing.com.

NEWS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 17

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Marriage equality moves forward in Idaho On May 13 United States Federal District Judge Candy Dale followed in the footsteps of Judge Robert Shelby and several others around the nation when she ruled that Idaho’s prohibition against same-sex marriage was in clear violation of the equal protection and due process clauses of the United States Constitution. The case, Latta v Otter, was filed by three lesbian couples in Idaho, two unmarried and one married legally in another state but denied recognition in Idaho under a constitutional amendment resembling Utah’s unconstitutional Amendment 3.

In her ruling, Dale wrote “After careful consideration, the Court finds Idaho’s Marriage Laws unconstitutional. This conclusion reaffirms a longstanding maxim underlying our system of government - a state’s broad authority to regulate matters of state concern does not include the power to violate an individual’s protected constitutional rights. Idaho’s Marriage Laws deny its gay and lesbian citizens the fundamental right to marry and relegate their families to a stigmatized, second-class status without sufficient reason for doing so. These laws do not withstand any applicable level of constitutional scrutiny.”

Just before the ruling was issued, Idaho Governor C.L. “Butch” Otter filed a motion for a stay pending appeal. In the stay motion, Idaho cited the “unmitigated disaster” that occurred in Utah after Judge Robert Shelby’s ruling on December 20, 2013. Because no stay had been filed by the Utah Attorney General, Judge Shelby’s ruling went into effect immediately and county clerks around the state began issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples immediately. In the 17 day window that existed between Judge Shelby’s ruling and the time the United States Supreme Court

issued a stay in the Kitchen v Herbert case some 1,200-plus same-sex couples were legally wed in Utah. The legal status of those couples is now in limbo pending final resolution by the courts.

In Idaho, Judge Dale provided a three day window before her ruling was to take effect. In that time she denied the state’s motion for a stay, “This case involves serious legal questions, but, as the Court’s May 13 Order makes clear, Governor Otter is not likely to succeed on the merits...Nor does the public interest favor preserving a status quo that deprives individuals of their constitutional rights. The Court finds that a stay pending appeal is not warranted.”

Upon appeal, however, the Ninth Circuit Court granted the stay motion

before the effective date of Judge Dale’s ruling, which precluded any same-sex marriages from being legally recognized in Idaho. Idaho Attorney General Lawrence Wasden is reportedly working on the appeal already and it is expected to be filed with the Ninth Circuit shortly. The Ninth Circuit currently has two other marriage equality cases on the docket from Nevada and Hawaii.

There are marriage equality cases pending in federal and appellate courts around the country, fueling speculation that the Tenth Circuit Court will be issuing a ruling in the Kitchen v Herbert (Utah) and Bishop v Smith (Oklahoma) cases within the next few weeks. Oral arguments were heard by a three-judge panel at the Tenth Circuit for these cases on April 10 and 17, respectively. Q

Two men assaulted in possible hate crime Two men suffered concussions, cuts and bruises after simply saying “hello” to a man at a 7–11 at 10th West and North Temple at 1 p.m. Monday, May 5. Estevan Lucero told KUTV News’ Chris Jones that the man began calling him “faggot” while in the store and others with the man began getting aggressive. Lucero and his boyfriend Braulio Rodriguez tried to leave in their car, and the man and his friends threw fruit into the car through an open window.

Rodriguez said he tried to go into the store to get help and was punched in the face and thrown to the ground by one or more of the men. Lucero got out of the car

to help his partner, but was blocked by two of the men, Rodriguez told QSaltLake. The men punched him in the face as well.

“When [Rodriguez] fell down, I heard his head hit the pavement,” Lucero said. He rushed to Rodriguez, who was unconscious on the ground, bleeding. “His eyes were closed at first, and then he just looked at me like in a daze.”

The couple describe the men as shorter, black, one wearing black pants a white shirt and a bow tie. Another had dreadlocks. They believe the men could work at a restaurant or in catering. They left in a white minivan, with one, possibly two, women in it as well. A witness was able to get a license plate and gave it to police.

The couple asked for surveillance video from the store, but it was already in hands of the police.

Anyone with information can call Salt Lake City Police at 801-799-3000. Q

IT’S TIME FOR A COOL SUMMER STYLE Full Service Grooming with Great Pricing!

Teacup Nannies

Certified

“Little Dogs Groomed With A Lot Of Love” All Small Dogs, Teacups, Toys & Minis

Professionally Groomed With Patience & Skill

10682 South 390 East • Sandy

Call For an Appointment

801-523-0314 $

5 00 OFF

Any Grooming Service Always Hand Groomed

NO KENNELING OR CAGING, JUST ONE-ON-ONE CARE!

18 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | NEWS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

A candid conversation with Utah Attorney General candidate Charles Stormont

BY BOB HENLINE

Charles Stormont is certainly not a typical politician. He’s thoughtful almost to the point of being reserved, but surprisingly very direct and candid in his responses to questions about his candidacy and philosophy. He’s definitely not what this reporter expected from a Democratic candidate for statewide office in Utah.

The office of Attorney General has received a higher level of scrutiny this time around than it has in previous years, mostly due to the scandal-plagued one-year term of John Swallow, who resigned the office in November 2013 under the pressure of numerous ethical and potentially criminal investigations into his conduct. Since that time, the office has been headed by an appointed AG, Republican Sean Reyes.

In his short tenure, Reyes has stepped into a number of high-profile situations, including the Kitchen v. Herbert case that overturned Utah’s Amendment 3 and a suit he filed with the Utah State Supreme Court on April 9, seeking to block adoptions by same-sex couples that had been approved by state judges.

Stormont sees the role of the Attorney General differently than Reyes, who also happens to be his boss. Stormont has worked for the Utah Attorney General’s office since 2008, handling primarily civil matters for government agencies such as the Utah Department of Transportation.

His vision for the office is that it needs to function like a law firm, not a policymaking office. He stressed the need for new structures to be put in place in order

Q mmunity 40th anniversay celebration of the first Gay Pride in Utah QSaltLake is hosting a picnic event in City Creek Canyon to celebrate the 40th anniversary of the first “Gay Freedom Day” that happened June 27, 1974 in Salt Lake.

People are encouraged to carpool, as parking is limited. Cars with four or more people can park free. Those with less will pay $10 to park. People can bring their own picnic or purchase barbecue sandwiches and drinks at

to prevent the recurrence of scandals such as those that happened during previous administrations, scandals that he labeled as distractions that get in the way of good attorneys doing the good day-to-day work that the state and the taxpayers deserve to have done on their behalf.

He spoke about the state’s continued appeal of Judge Shelby’s ruling that struck down Utah’s discriminatory Amendment 3, arguing that he wouldn’t waste tax dollars to defend the unconstitutional law. Stormont stressed that not only was the law wrong, but that the state’s arguments were neither strong nor convincing, making the defense of it a waste of money.

When asked about his thoughts regarding the inclusion of sexual orientation and gender identity into Utah’s existing nondiscrimination language he again stressed that policy-making is outside the realm of what he sees as the role of the Attorney General, but that he was “baffled by how the Attorney General could advise the legislature that running a non-discrimination bill could show animus.”

In Denver in April, this reporter asked Reyes why, if he is such a supporter of strong families, he was seeking to block adoptions for same-sex couples legally wed during the 17-day window. Reyes responded that he “wasn’t seeking to block adoptions, but to clarify the law.” When asked for comment, Stormont responded, “then why did he file to block adoptions?”

Stormont acknowledged that running as a Democrat in Utah has its inherent disadvantages, and that perhaps his strong the event. Entertainment will be available, and any entertainers who want to perform should contact editor@qsaltlake.com WHEN: Saturday, June 28 3–8pm WHERE: City Creek Canyon Rotary Park “Service to All” pavilion INFO: gaysaltlake.com

Mr. and Miss Gay Northern Lights This pageant is the celebration of the 19th year of raising money for the IRCONU Pride Fund and also will be the evening to crown the 20th Gay Northern Lights.

WHEN: Saturday, June 14. Doors 7:30pm, Show 8:30pm WHERE: Roy Eagles, 5130 S 1700 W, Roy

statements (noted on his website) supporting an end to the Kitchen v. Herbert appeal and his opposition to the April 9 adoption filing, might offend some potential voters.

When asked about that, he indicated that he had written that post and debated with himself about publishing it, considering the possible political ramifications, but that his wife then showed him a video of a young woman “doing the right thing” and that hit a nerve. As his young children grow (currently 5½ and 3 years old), he wants them to understand that when the time came, he was ready to stand and fight for “the right thing.”

As far as being the underdog blue candidate in red Utah, Stormont is optimistic.

“We desperately need a new voice in Utah and a lawyer, not a politician, in the Attorney General’s office,” he said. “Utah is aware of what’s going on there, and the voters are ready to get the office back on track. I can do that. I can restore the public trust in the office.”

Charles Stormont is definitely not a typical politician. His candor and willingness to sit down and discuss issues other candidates avoid like the plague were refreshing to this reporter. Will that message succeed with Utah voters? That question will be answered in November. Q TICKETS: $6 at the door

Summer Family Carnival Restore Our Humanity and QSaltLake will be celebrating community, progress, and SUMMER! Everyone is welcome — gay and straight alike. Bring the kids, bring the neighbors, it’s the perfect time of year for outdoor games, food and entertainment! Bands, game shows, dunking booth and more.

WHEN: Saturday, June 14, 2–8 pm WHERE: Parley’s Creek Pavilion at Sugar House Park COST: The event is open to all, but a suggested $10 for singles or $20 donation per family to assist with costs.

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Atty. General candidate Andrew McCullough sickened by Reyes

BY BOB HENLINE

It’s certainly not an office one would typically expect of a successful attorney and candidate for Utah Attorney General.

It’s an office situated above Dr. John’s lingerie and adult novelty boutique in Midvale.

It’s decorated haphazardly with eclectic prints and mannequins, and I even spotted a QSaltLake logo on one wall. It’s not an office built to impress, it’s an office where people work, and work hard.

As I enter the office, Andy McCullough comes from behind the reception desk to lead me inside. He’s friendly but professional. His passion for what he does is obvious as we talk.

McCullough has been practicing law for over 40 years, mostly as a defense attorney, helping people “stick it to the man,” he proffers with a smile. He affiliates with the Libertarian Party, and his positions reflect those values.

He’s committed to ending the war on drugs, promoting equal treatment for all under the law, and for reversing the growing influence of the police state.

In ways he’s the prototypical Utah candidate — he was raised LDS, he doesn’t drink liquor or coffee, and doesn’t do drugs. Yet, he left the church years ago, having felt ostracized by the faith because he “didn’t fit in.”

He’s realistic enough to realize his candidacy is a long shot;

in fact, he holds no illusions about his chances to succeed.

That, however, isn’t the point, he says. His point is to change the debate. There are issues in society that he feels need a broader discussion and more attention.

He speaks, with tears in his eyes, about a young lady he defended years ago. She was pulled over on a minor traffic violation. The officer, because she spoke slowly due to a minor speech impediment, decided she was under the influence of marijuana and proceeded to search her and her vehicle. After finding nothing, she was taken to the county jail and subjected to a body-cavity search.

This is where, McCullough says, he made the decision to enter the political fray. As he tells it, he doesn’t do it to win, he does it because he has a voice and feels an obligation to use it. He likes to “shout from the rooftops,” and every now and then he gets in his own shot at the man.

He is committed to ending the “disastrous” war on drugs.

A war that, he argues, has caused nothing but unnecessary pain to millions. He is a fierce defender of civil liberties and fully supports marriage equality.

“The arguments presented to the 10th Circuit Court [by Utah Attorney General Sean Reyes and his outside counsel] make me sick,” he says.

McCullough hopes this is the year he’s seen as a “viable candidate” and allowed to participate in the live debates scheduled for later this year.

One thing is for certain, whether you agree with him or not, Andy McCullough is a man of passion and principle. Q

NEWS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 19

salt lake day at

lagoon sunday, aug 10

Discount coupons available

at Jam, Club Try-Angles, QSaltLake & Cahoots beginning in July

wear red to stand OUT official shirts at qmart.gaysaltlake.com

Picnic with us all day & group photo at 4pm at the Pioneer Pavilion by Rattlesnake Rapids

20 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | VIEWS

“ “

views

Only two states with gay marriage bans — North Dakota and South Dakota — haven’t been sued

quotes in the news

—Blogger Rex Wockner, JoeMyGod

We don’t realize that, okay, if 87 percent of Americans are Christians and yet we have abortion on demand; we have no-fault divorce; we have pornography and perversion; we have a homosexuality and its agenda that is attacking the nation; we have adultery; we have all of the things; we even have allowed demonic ideologies to take our universities and our public school systems while the church sits silent and just builds big churches. We are so complacent, we are so apathetic and we are very hypocritical in the church, that’s why the Bible says judgment begins in the house of God. So when we prayed at 714 we asked God and our city to forgive us for allowing these things in the house of God.” — David Benham of the Benham Brothers, whose show on HGTV was canceled and whose real estate business lost a number of contracts

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

“

Oregon recognizes a marriage of love with the same equal eye that it recognizes a marriage of convenience. It affords the same set of rights and privileges to Tristan and Isolde that it affords to a Hollywood celebrity waking up in Las Vegas with a blurry memory and a ringed finger.

—US District Court Judge Michael McShane

Lift the veil Editor, Many heartfelt thanks to you and to Charles Frost for publishing the article Power-Shift in the May edition of QSaltLake. This is such an amazing time to be alive and see the old guard, full of hate and condemnation, being swept aside. Charles’ article captured the spirit of the moment and of the movement. I imagine this is how those who lived in San Francisco during the movement inspired and guided

by Harvey Milk must have felt. It’s as if a veil of darkness

has been lifted and the light is beginning to shine. Thank you again for you words of inspiration and hope.

ROBERT RICKS West Jordan, Utah

QSaltLake Magazine welcomes your letters to the editor.

Please send your letter of 300 words or less to letters@qsaltlake.com.

We reserve the right to edit for length or libel if a letter is chosen for publication.

VIEWS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 21

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

the straight line

Five years in the making

It was

BY BOB HENLINE

five years ago this month that Michael Aaron took a chance on an unknown straight guy and gave me the opportunity to write a regular column for QSalt Lake. During the time, a great number of changes have taken place in me, in this community, and in our society.

I’ve written things that have angered some, pleased some and hopefully made some think just a bit. I’ve made some great friends along the way and I am proud to have twice been voted as “Best Columnist” in the annual Fabby Awards. The people I’ve met have inspired me to do more and to be more, and for that they will always hold special places in my heart.

I’m proud to be associated with such an amazing community, a group of people who have chosen to not only live their lives authentically, but to also do so in such a way

Job #: 091795.01 Ref #: Client: UHS Desc: Limitless Summer Print Ad Size: 7.5”x3” Color: 4C

that inspires others to do the same. These are the people who are responsible for the changes we’ve seen in our community, our state and our nation.

These are the people who make the stories. People who have carried the equality flag for years, for decades, going back to Utah’s first Pride recognition, Gay Freedom Day, which was held in June 40 years ago.

This community has grown and taken tremendous strides over those four decades. Five years ago I couldn’t image marriage equality being legal in my lifetime, but now we sit on the cusp of that moment, fueled by the dreams and commitments of a passionate community.

But the struggle is far from over. It’s still a big deal when a celebrity comes out. We still tell stories of “the first LGBT” person to reach a certain milestone. These stories, for

Notes:

now, are important. They must be told. They help other people overcome their fears and to take that first big step into authenticity. They show terrified youth (and adults) that they are not alone.

What I look forward to now is a day when those stories only matter in historical context instead of news. I look forward to the day when children ask us why equality was ever an issue. I look forward to my children and grandchildren inheriting a

world where gender identity and sexual orientation are not the labels by which people are judged.

I have a tremendous amount of love and respect for this community. The last five years have made me proud to stand as an ally, and have changed me in ways I can’t begin to describe. I look forward to reporting and commenting on the changes and growth the next five years have in store for us.

Thank you all. Q

Everyone deserves to be happy and healthy

22 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | VIEWS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

queer shift

Balance-Shift

Anti-Aging & Skincare:

• BOTOX® Cosmetic • JUVÉDERM® • RADIESSE® Dermal Fillers • RADIESSE® for HIV/Facial Lipoatrophy • PREVELLE® SilkLip Augmentation • LATISSE® Lash Enhancer • Sun Damage Removal • Acne Care & Scar Removal • Obagi Skin Transformation

Weight Loss

• HCG Weight Loss Program • B12 & Vitamin Cocktail Injections • Nutritional Counseling • Lifestyle Counseling • Appetite Suppressants

Massage

• Hot Stone Massage • Couple Massage • Joava Body Wrap • 4-Handed Massage

Hair Care Nail Care Ion Cleansers Acupuncture Facials Laser Hair Removal Chemical Peels Microderm Abrasion Yoga Classes Belly Dancing Classes Guruprasad Singh, MA, LPC presents:

• Yoga for Health & Happiness • Heal Your Addiction Now • Men Alive: Yoga & Meditation Exploration Group

A New Day Spa 3975 S Highland Drive Holladay, UT 84124

801-272-3900 anewdayspa.net

Wanting,

BY CHARLES LYNN FROST

planning, and maintaining balance in life can be one of the most challenging and tricky things we do as humans, particularly Queer humans, and especially during the busy summer.

When your life is too busy, too full, too crammed with major and minor things that eat up your time, you can often slip into a pattern of imbalance that eventually becomes more than a pattern, it becomes a normal routine.

All your energy is focused on the busyness of doing, and what you are getting never seems to be rewarding or satisfying — simply because you never leave time to celebrate, relax, and enjoy the rewards of your hard work.

It’s all too easy to find yourself imbalanced, not paying enough attention to the important people and things in your life.

While you need to have drive and focus if you’re going to get things done, taking this too far can lead to frustration, intense stress, and a pile of burnt ash. That sucks!

The winter of 2013-14 was a particularly tough one for me. It arrived with me losing a job that I was really good at doing, a job where my heart and passion were deeply invested. The winter also brought financial and emotional stress, leaving me wondering how it was all going to work out. I relied a lot on what I coach others to do — attract and allow.

Finally in early 2014 as spring approached, and my star Venus started to rise, life began to align, and the future began to look much more optimistic. So far, so good.

However, that long winter left both my husband Doug and I worn out and in much need of some major renewal, rejuvenation, and some reinvention. Luckily, I got a nice little tax return and we decided to cash in some Delta Sky miles and spontaneously went to New York City — just the two of us. Wow was that little getaway needed. We walked a lot, slept in, talked to one another more than we had for a long time. We saw five excellent plays, toured museums, ravaged Brooklyn, dined whenever we wanted, and just let it all unfold before us. Life should be like that at times, and I am a firm believer that balance sometimes cannot be planned, just allowed to happen.

I also am a firm believer that to get the life you want, you must plan and create space for it to come to you. It all starts with the roles in your life. The first one being the role to yourself, you. How do you renew yourself

physically, mentally, socially, emotionally, and spiritually every week? Is there a possibility to combine activities that renews you in multiple ways regarding these human needs? I have always found that the greatest memories I have in life are when there’s a combination of all five of these renewal areas on one occasion.

After you’ve planned for balance with yourself, think about fitting in the other important roles in your life for the upcoming week. Mine are husband, father/grandfather, executive director, friend, volunteer, and home/auto owner. These are prioritized in importance because if my week gets crazy on a spoon, the foremost roles are still renewed and I find and feel balance. After I have considered all of these roles, I ask myself the same question at the beginning of each week.

What is the one important thing I can do in this role this week that will have the most significant impact? Once I answer that, the answer results in either an appointment(s) or a mental focus in that role for the week.

If the roles in your life-approach really don’t resonate with you, consider areas of life that are important to you. For example: artistic expression, positive attitude, career, education, family, friends, financial freedom, physical challenge, pleasure, or public service.

Your own identification and combination of these (or different) things, help with prioritization and life balance.

If you want balance, it means taking action.

Fact. Where are the gaps? These are the areas of your life that need attention, if you really desire balance. Otherwise, continued overwhelm and havoc are in the long-term forecast. Remember that gaps can go both ways. There are almost certainly areas that are not getting as much attention as you’d like. However, there may also be areas where you’re putting in more effort and time than you’d ideally like. These areas are sapping energy and enthusiasm that may better be directed elsewhere.

Once you have identified the areas that need attention, it’s time to plan the actions needed to work on regaining balance. Starting with the neglected areas, what things do you need to start doing to regain balance?

In the areas that currently sap your energy and time, what can you stop doing. It takes attention, because attention ultimately is all there is.

“There’s no secret to balance. You just have to feel the waves.” —Frank Herbert Q

VIEWS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 23

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

who’s your daddy?

I’m at Jam

Proud parents Anyone

Online 45 feet away Single

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

who knows me will tell you I’m unbelievably proud to be a gay dad, and I’m insanely proud of my family. I blog about it, I post on Facebook about it, I write this column about it. And I’m not alone. For Pride this year, I asked other LGBTQ Utah parents why they are proud, and how their family makes them proud.

Here’s what your friends, neighbors and families had to say.

“I am just proud being a parent. I always had an idea in my head of what it would be like and it is so much more! I’ve never loved another human like I love my man cub. I’m proud of the little person he is and how empathetic he is to me, and tries to state the positive in everything. He isn’t perfect but I love that he tries.” —JAX VIGIL, MOM OF JAXON “I don’t think that I’m any more proud of being a gay dad than any dad would be.

I’m proud of my kids. I’m proud that they seem to be happy and well taken care of. I’m proud that they are growing, developing, learning and becoming more and more of themselves every day. If it should make me more proud because I happen to be gay then so be it, but I’d imagine those things are what make any dad proud. When it comes to being proud of my family I’m proud that we seem to be thriving despite the odds being stacked against us. In a state where security is not guaranteed, rights aren’t offered, and the road blocks to even growing your own family are strong and omnipresent I’m proud that my family exists at all.

But in light of all that I think I’m proud that we not only exist but that we are having a great time existing.” —WESTON CLARK, DAD OF XANDER AND ZOE “We’re proud to be LGBT parents because it gives us the opportunity every day to teach our children to love unconditionally and that all families are unique. Our children are even larger LGBT advocates than we, which is a big deal considering we have five children. They teach compassion in school to friends and colleagues alike.

They’re our heroes and are changing the world. I am proud of my family for sticking through adversity and speaking our truth

even when it’s not easy. In this way we inspire humanity to come together as one.”

—JESSICA FINNEGAN AND KATHRYN SHARP, MOMS OF JACQUELYN, JASMYN, JADYN, KYLER AND TAYSON “I’m proud to be a gay dad because when I came out of the closet 11 years ago, I felt a need to hide the fact that I wanted children someday. I truly believed my family and friends would not accept that. Being a gay dad reminds me of the progress we have made as a society. I’m proud of my family because of all the love we have pouring in on those little boys.”—BLAKE HOOPES, DAD OF KAEYVON AND KANYON “There are many things that make me proud to be a queer mom. First and foremost is knowing our daughter will grow up knowing that family isn’t just blood but the people who love you. When she was just four years old, she was asked why she has two moms, and answered, ‘because I’m lucky.’ Last year we took her to her first Pride, I have never seen a kid so excited to be on a float then meet ‘families just like mine’ at the festival. I am also very proud to call Tawny my wife because with all the adversity she has faced she still keeps going.

My family has given me the courage to be me, that is something truly to be proud of.”

—MAGGIE ROSE PEREA AND TAWNY INGLEDEW, MOMS OF RALENA “While I’m just a dad first, the fact that I am gay brings unique elements and characteristics that will influence my child’s life. Those characteristics are the entirety of my experience in becoming who I am today. Experiencing a lifetime of being gay has been integral to my strength as a man.

Who I am is what I can give her. As a single dad, life is busy; I am over-diapered and undersexed, and at the end of the day I can feel incredibly depleted. Then along comes my 2-year-old with a smirk or other certain look, and despite her inability to speak a full sentence, I will be checked back in to life, back into love. I am proud of her because she keeps it so simple, just by being her.” — BRETT BLUTH, DAD OF MAXX The world would be a much nicer place if we had more families like these.

Happy Pride, everyone! Q

About Perfect work/live, solar powered, new construction in the Marmalade! Each unit has a private courtyard and second floor deck, 2 bedrooms with en suite bathrooms, extra flex room, and upgraded kitchens w ith quartz counters standard in these awesome town homes Looking For Ben Matthews U2 call Ben@UrbanHomes.com Urban Utah Homes & Estates 801-842-5106

Everything from Angels to Zen

12896 S Pony Express Rd Suite 200 in Draper (just north of IKEA) 801.333.3777 www.ilovelotus.com

LotusStore

24 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | VIEWS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

lambda lore

The beginning of Utah’s Gay community

BY BEN WILLIAMS

Someone

asked me “when did the gay community in Utah begin?” I heard some suggest that it began with the battle over Amendment 3.

They are wrong and shortsighted. Was it in the 1990s when Utah high school students fought for Gay Straight Alliance clubs?

Nope. Would it surprise you to hear that Utah had a vibrant gay community before the Millennials were even born and while Generation X was still in elementary school?

Forty years ago the first Gay Freedom Day was held in Utah. Before the 1980s these celebrations were held in June to commemorate the uprising at the Stonewall Inn. Communities across the nation held marches and parties by a variety of names, but more commonly were called “Gay Freedom Day,” “Gay Liberation Day” or “Christopher Street Liberation Day.” All these names were meant to conjure up almost a militant-in-your-face image that we as an empowered minority were demanding, not asking, for our rights.

Gay liberation was formed out of the urgency to keep the spirit of the Stonewall Uprising continuing, and even had a presence in Salt Lake City as early as October, 1969.

Gay men and women from Salt Lake City’s Anti-War Movement, Women’s Liberation Movement, and the ecology movement organized and began attracting attention on the University of Utah’s campus in the early 1970s. At the same time Reverend Troy Perry founded a branch of his Metropolitan Community Church in Salt Lake City in 1972.

Thus, people began to meet to raise consciousness and awareness of what it means to be gay. In 1972, Salt Lake City’s first gay bath house opened and in 1973 gay radio talk-show host, Joe Redburn, opened The Sun Tavern on the corner of 400 West and South Temple as an openly gay bar owned by a gay man. People came to party at The Sun but also to connect with other gay people, and so began establishing a gay identity in a very hostile world. The emerging gay community was large enough in 1973 to have its first schism when gay women broke away from the Metropolitan Community Church to form an all women Grace Community Church with a female pastor.

Utah’s first Gay Freedom Day was sponsored by Joe Redburn on Jun. 27, 1974, the 5th anniversary of the New York City Stonewall Riots. A public community party was planned to celebrate Gay Freedom Day

and according to both Nikki Boyer and Joe Redburn the event was originally held in City Creek Canyon, but was moved to “Bare Ass Beach” because “the drunks couldn’t drive back down the narrow road.” So over 200 gay men and women gathered at approximately 8000 West along the southeast shore of the Great Salt Lake to continue the “kegger” and celebrate Utah’s first Gay Freedom Day. For most of the 1970s and 80s kegs of beer were legal and keggers were parties where beer flowed from half-barrel metal beer kegs containing up to 16 gallons of beer.

For the remainder of the 1970s the gay community in Salt Lake City grew exponentially. The first community protest and demonstration occurred in 1977 at the Utah State Fairgrounds, which featured singer Anita Bryant. The former beauty queen was the figurehead of an anti-gay rights movement called Saved Our Children.

By the latter part of the 1970s, a national lesbian separatist movement took root in Utah and reshaped the gay community with organizations being renamed “Lesbian and Gay” or all women groups like Women Aware. Utah was then at the forefront of anti-equal rights, with missionaries from the National Organization For Women being recruited to come to Utah to stem the Mormon Church’s interference with passage of the Equal Rights Amendment.

In the 1970s, Utah received national attention due to the fact the editor of the Advocate, a national gay magazine, was a gay man from Price, Utah. He published in the magazine, on a regular basis, news about the gay communities struggles against oppression, especially the gay students who were being tortured and persecuted at Brigham Young University.

Within the decade, from the time Pam Mayne, Ralph Place and a few friends organized Utah’s Gay Liberation Front until 1980, Utah had a thriving community. Like the Mormon pioneers before them these gay and lesbian pioneers made the desert bloom as a rose in an incredibly hostile environment.

The 1970s had a myriad of social clubs, service organizations, and support groups.

Some of them were The Gay Awareness and Consciousness Raising Group, the Men’s Support Group, the Gay Crisis Line 533-0927, the Imperial Court of Utah, the Gay Service Coalition,Women Aware, Coalition on Human Sexuality and Alternative Lifestyles, Gay

Libertarian Association, Stonewall Club, Gay Alcoholics and the Gay Student Union.

The gay and lesbian bars, and bath houses were Radio City Lounge at 147 S. State (“The original and first Rocky Mountain gay bar”), The Sun Tavern at 1 S. 400 West (largest gay complex in the Rocky Mountain area.), The Uptown Place at 15 S. 400 West (“serving the lesbian community”), The Comeback Club at 551 S. 300 West, The Rail opened east of the Sun Tavern at 363 W. South Temple, Studio 8 at 8 W. 200 South, Bogart’s at 1225 Wilmington Avenue in Sugar House, Bobby’s First Endeavor on 12th Street below Wall Avenue in Ogden.

Jeff’s Gym was located at 727 W. 1700 South, and Club 14 was at 1414 W. 200 South.

Utah was especially unique in that the newly organized KRCL FM 91 had a local gay program from the beginning called Gayjavu which would become Concerning Gays and Lesbians for the next 20 years. Stephen Holbrook, a gay man who founded KRCL, was dedicated to Utah’s gay minority having a voice.

After the Gayzette folded, another community newspaper called The Open Door printed news and events for the gay and lesbian community for nearly four years, including publishing in serial form “The Payne Papers,” also known as “Prologue” which was a scholarly rebuttal to the Mormon Church’s position on homosexuality. Eventually the Advocate would publish a condensed version of the revolutionary pamphlet for gay rights.

It was only natural that Salt Lake City would have several religious and spiritual organizations. They included The Metropolitan Community Church of Salt Lake City (“Where God does not discriminate”—Pastor Robert Waldrop), Dignity “A Catholic alternative,” Affirmation-Gay Mormons United of Salt Lake, and Integrity of Salt Lake for Episcopalians.

Utah even had several gay recreational groups in the 1970s, such as the Gay Activities Society, The Inter-Bar Volleyball League, and The Salt Lake Gay Athletic Association.

In the 1990s there was a major cultural shift away from commemorating the Stonewall Riot, as those born after Stonewall came of age. “Liberation” and “Freedom” began to be replaced under pressure from more conservative members of the community, replacing them with the nomenclature “Gay Pride.” Even that, in the 21st century as the celebration became more assimilated to mainstream, has been simply reduced to one word, “Pride.” The Greek lambda symbol and the pink triangle, once revolutionary symbols of the Gay Liberation Movement, have been “tidied up” and replaced with rainbows or the Human Rights Coalition’s generic equality symbol. No wonder we don’t know our story.

Its being erased. Q

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 25

26 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Greetings!

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 27

Thank you fo r festival, Love taking part in this year ’s Pride Fest iv accept oursel Equals Love, embraces love. Love d al celebration. The them ves to be tru oesn’t discrim ly whole. e inate and w for this year’s e must love The Pride Fe and st but also bec ival attracts many to Sa lt au celebrate th se the event provides Lake City each year, not ed on a tremendous iversity of our capital ci wonderful opportunit ly because the event is y fo fu efforts every ty year to ensu . My sincere thanks to th r us to come together n, re the succes e Utah Pride to Since I have s of the festiv Center for th b eir al. creating a w een in office, my admin istration has ay for Salt La in and caring. ke The registry City to recognize rela stituted a mutual comm tionships of beneeits. itment regist allows busin mutu ry, esses in the city to easily al commitment, suppor t determine el We have also igibility for im p le m en te employers fr om denying d anti-discrimination or identity. Man h d y were doub ousing or employment inances, which prohib it landlords tful and skep I am happy because of se an ti to followed Salt report the skeptics w cal of these endeavors an xual orientation or gen d der er Lake City’s le d e th w ei ro r im n g. plem Se ad, having p assed similar veral cities throughout entation, but I appreciate the state hav ordinances. h e working to earing your ideas, prop ge os comprehensi ther as we accompli als and hopes for the sh fu ve diversity trai nondiscrimination mu common goals whic ture of Salt Lake City, and h ning in ever n ic include imp ip al ordin y city depar lementing a tment (we ar ance and emphasizing th e I recognize w e currently in the midst of importance of e still have a this training) achieve full equality; how long way to go with a fo . cus on educa the past six ev years to ensu er, I will be celebratin ti on an d tolera g al re equal righ ts, fairness an l that we have accompli nce before we sh Enjo d dignity for j y the Pride all residents ed together in Festival! of Salt Lake City.

Warm regard s, Ralph Becke r Mayor

28 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

tors, we of Direc rd a o B d This Pride an ls Love. at Utah ve Equa o m e L a : te n o e b ti th is orn Celebra half of ement al Pride ts mov ty 4! On be u h li 1 a g n 0 u n 2 ri a q k e t il e s e e We e, a civ r our 31 marriag e to Prid our tim in us fo cludes te as Welcom Now, in e you jo own sta n that in v . r a s io u h u n o u to t in in c e d ed ld n rf it a e fo c p x n s ough e u u h s ore are s with ent 3. T progres ds; a m resonate nd min Amendm see this a n s t not to w s rt y o u a d e it mantra m h n t brough ialogue hands, opportu d t r a e u ly u o th d iq h e n n g s u rt ca throu and frie e have a . Herbe activism near. W itchen v r voice, u for us is o w the K , o s ll s fo re nue to te prog ow celebra we conti 2013. N ether to g cember to e m must y in De y lb il e we co h m S fa human y Judge wn. made b es. The will be slow do e licens nities c ruling g u ri ia m to rr m a is o h m c es e g r th in u o d iv u e le ; o rselv c a rights after re eeping ls appe n k o a ia b y m ic b m u ff li h a o rt a w rd gal Utah uest to o our p g basic re in le uous q must d n uples a affirmin e o ti c f n W o o 0 . c 0 ll a r 1,3 atters ded to d in ou these m is exten d unite resolve tah, an odness o U g s in a s ened but advance strength unity.

Festival, historic e Pride r comm k u f these s li o o f ts o a re n h a e v . T nk aw embers ration e munity for all m a ul celeb our com in rf r e s d fo e n ic equality le o ing serv r lifesty for its w e ie n -b h w ll lt d e o a n n e w a k ah er acy and r is well nsgend romote e advoc e Cente tah, tra nd to p d iv u U fe s ri a n E P ro S G rte h s A a x e Uta grow: S ing Kid more ye rovide nue to d Keep a r much e also p to conti ject an we offe nors, w d to add ro m o P o d ro n s p o u e ti ry rou ro c av e e A h v n e e r re g fe e w a e li r Qu ere We to ou ho have rvices. rvices, pace wh those w alth se s and se s new s l serve sources rogram ntal he fabulou il e p w g m t n n , a ti a s , d re th any exis program onships rapists m e ti r la th u o l re a f youth y me o bilingu health n are so m with promote campaig h progra shops to lt a rk s. e o h ie w il l s m a nta uild a ptive fa as well new me n is to b for ado sitions, g n a in tr d n d My visio o b r. d more to n c d a e n t crisis an ir a stmen cutive d healthy ily adju safe y as exe al to be f it ti o n n u for fam e te c m o p la m r l be a p e our co alize ou il rv re w e s s e u th w to o ers, elp vilege ing out, . For all s and h great pri to com s, sources l unite u re th il a d w p n t a rk e a It is my o shop services ents, w nding th center th , v fi y e ls t it a n s n n o u u ju o ti io y r s e comm e visit , celebra , profes For som g coffee lunteers ies. Com alized. n o il v tu ri m c e t a e -a ff fa c o lf re a . d r se ed by g erse sp uals an y cente support t and div mmunit r individ n o c fo ra g s ib e refuge, in v rc a lcom d resou s build be a we ices an elping u we will ive serv ner in h s n rt e a h p a re p nd be and com center a munity new com Pride!

Happy Ha Steven ctor ve Dire ti u c e Ex

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 29

LGBT CINEMA FREE YEAR-ROUND FILMS MONLTHY FILM SCREENINGS

A N N UA L F I L M F E S T I VA L JULY 11-13, 2014

ROSE WAGNER THEATRE

WWW.UTAHFILMCENTER.ORG/DTH

30 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

THURSDAY, JUNE 5 e 2014 Welcome to th

ival.

Utah Pride Fest

ah Pride to this year’s Ut lcome ever yone we to event that has ed ht an is lig l I’m de ar, the festiva ye th 40 its g arkin Festival. Now m y year. and better ever er gg bi e m beco me people with munities welco m co r ou d ded of an own nstantly remin As Utah has gr riences, I’m co pe ex d an s nd an grou County to be different back is for Salt Lake rsity. My goal ve di of e lu ed to all. va rd the spect is acco ity, in which re un m m co e siv inclu vance civil has made to ad lt Lake County Sa ss re og mmunity. pr co e viduals in our I’m proud of th milies and indi fa l al r fo y lit rk to do. rights and equa ere is more wo vances, but th We’ve seen ad Pride sors of the Utah nizers and spon ga or e ful and th ng to ni ns Congratulatio e the event mea you do to mak l al r fo u . yo nd k ity and beyo Festival. Than LGBT commun er yone in the enjoyable to ev Sincerely,

Ben McAdams ty Mayor Salt Lake Coun

Pride Interfaith Service This year’s interfaith service begins at 7 p.m., Thursday, June 5, and will be held at Wasatch Presbyterian Church at 1700 S. 1700 East.

The Utah Pride Interfaith Coalition is a piece of Utah Pride that helps the LGBTQ community practice their spirituality without judgment. The Utah Pride Interfaith Coalition believes that each person, no matter what culture or sexuality, should honor the divinity within themselves and are capable of holiness with their spirituality. The coalition’s mission is to be able to afford resources and opportunities for the LGBTQ community to express their faith regardless of personal preference or beliefs. In 2002, the coalition started holding services, and it has been a positive spiritual outlet for many participants at the Utah Pride Festival for 12 years running.

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 31

32 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

FRIDAY, JUNE 6

This year,

Utah Pride has selected six grand marshals of the Utah Pride Festival. They are the three couples of Utah’s Amendment 3 marriage equality case: Moudi Sbeity & Derek Kitchen, Laurie Wood & Kody Partridge, and Kate Call & Karen Archer.

“By standing up for what is right, they have become a beacon of hope for the Utah LGBTQ community and for LGBTQ citizens all across the nation,” Utah Pride leaders said in a statement. “Join in the celebration of the courage, determination and passion of these three couples as they all continue to work for marriage equality in the state of Utah.”

Moudi Sbeity and Derek Kitchen Derek Kitchen grew up in South Jordan, Utah and attended the University of Utah.

He remembers when Amendment 3 was on the ballot in 2004—at the time, the only thing he could do was change Vote Yes for Amendment 3 signs to say Vote No. “I was directly affected by Amendment 3. I was 16 and the only way I knew how to express my concern was to change the yard signs. It was empowering,” he said.

His partner, Moudi Sbeity, was raised in Beirut, Lebanon. He moved to Utah in 2006 to attend Utah State University. Due to their shared love of cooking and food culture, Moudi and Derek started a business called Laziz, in which they provide Utah grocery stores with packaged Middle Eastern delicacies. Though they were both afraid of media backlash harming their business, they took a chance to share their story by being a part of the Amendment 3 court case.

Though Moudi worries for his family in Lebanon, he hopes his involvement will set an example.

“My hope is that my personal story reaches Lebanese shores and can be a part

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

2014 Grand Marshals:

The Couples from the Utah Marriage Equality Case of a broader change in my home country,” he said.

Derek and Moudi were engaged Feb. 14, 2014, and their hope now is that Judge Shelby’s ruling will be upheld so they can start their married life together. They currently live in Salt Lake City with their dog, Goji.

v. Herbert case is about fostering a better community. Kody says, “There are a lot of people, straight and gay, who feel a certain level of pride in what has happened in this state since Dec. 4 and more so since Dec. 20. This is about Utah reclaiming a new reputation – a new state, a state that welcomes diversity.”

Laurie Wood and Kody Partridge

Kate Call and Karen Archer

Laurie Wood was raised in American Fork, Utah and graduated from the University of Utah. She taught in Utah County until 2004, when she moved to Salt Lake City.

She currently teaches at Utah Valley University as an associate professor.

Speaking about why she decided to join the Amendment 3 case, Laurie said, “While on the ACLU board, I closely followed Nebo District’s firing of Wendy Weaver.

She was incredibly brave; I wasn’t sure I could do what she did. But when this opportunity came along, I knew it was the right thing to do.”

Kody Partridge grew up in Montana, and moved to Utah in 1984 to attend Brigham Young University. Like her partner, Kody is also a teacher—she teaches at Rowland Hall, a private high school within walking distance of Kody and Laurie’s home in Salt Lake City. The couple was married Dec. 20, 2013, shortly after Judge Shelby handed down the verdict that rendered Amendment 3 unconstitutional.

Laurie’s and Kody’s work in the community and their connection to the Kitchen

Kate Call spent her childhood in Mexico and Wisconsin, but did most of her growing up in Provo, Utah. She graduated from Brigham Young University in 1974 and worked at University of Utah’s Rio Mesa Center.

Karen Archer was born in Maryland in 1946, but grew up in Boulder, Colo. She attended the University of Texas, where she received a medical degree. She later completed her residency as an OB/GYN at Pennsylvania State University. She later developed two serious illnesses and retired in 2001.

The couple met online in 2010, and Karen moved to Southern Utah to be with Kate. The couple faced some of the biggest legal issues facing same-sex couples who are unable to be legally married — because of Karen’s health issues, end-of-life and survivor laws are at the forefront. That’s why they joined the fight.

Kate and Karen were married in Iowa, July 7, 2011, but the state they call home refuses to recognize their marriage. “We wanted to get married in a state where it is legal so the moment marriage was legal in Utah, it would be in place,” said Kate. Q

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 33

Grand Marshals of Utah’s past Gay Pride parades 1996

2004

CHASITY BONO, the child of iconic duo Sonny and Cher. The first Grand Marshal of Utah’s Pride Parade. Is now known as Chaz Bono.

BRUCE BASTIAN, WordPerfect co-founder and philanthropist.

1997 CANDACE GINGRICH, the lesbian sister of U.S. Congressman Newt Gingrich.

1998 DEBRA BURRINGTON and CHARLENE ORCHARD, founders of the Utah Chapter of the Human Rights Campaign.

1999 Gay actor DAN BUTLER, “Bulldog” from the Emmywinning television series Frasier, was official Grand Marshal while Gary and Millie Watts were our local Grand Marshals.

2000 Utah Representative JACKIE BISKUPSKI, Utah’s first elected gay woman to the state Legislature.

2001 Then-Salt Lake City mayor ROSS C. “ROCKY” ANDERSON.

2002 Utah Senator ALICIA SUAZO, wife of Pete Suazo who championed queerrights legislation, and STEVE KMETKO, host on E! Network entertainment news.

2003 KATE KENDALL, Utah native, executive director of National Center for Lesbian Rights.

2005 Utah Senator SCOTT D. MCCOY, Utah’s first elected gay man to the state Legislature.

2006 J. BOYER JARVIS, PH.D., 83-year-old human-rights activist and ally to the gay community.

2007 JOHN AMAECHI, Utah Jazz player, first NBA player to speak publicly about being gay.

2008 RALPH BECKER, mayor of Salt Lake City.

2009 CLEVE JONES, founder of the AIDS Quilt.

2010 SISTER DOTTIE S. DIXON, a beloved fictional character portrayed by local actor Charles Lynn Frost.

2011 Actress and activist ROSEANNE BARR.

2012 Academy Award-winning screenwriter and activist DUSTIN LANCE BLACK.

2013 DAVID TESTO is an openly gay soccer player and civil-rights advocate.

34 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

FRIDAY, JUNE 6 Dr. Kristen Ries Award recipients:

At this

year’s Utah Pride Festival, the Utah Pride Center announced two recipients for the Dr. Kristen Ries Community Service Award: Fran Pruyn and Mark Lawrence. Originated in 1987, this award was initially given to Dr. Kristen Ries for her work during the AIDS crisis. Due to her amazing efforts, it was named in her honor. This award acknowledges exceptional service to the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer community in Utah. It is given to those who are committed to providing needed services for our growing and vibrant community.

Fran Pruyn and Mark Lawrence

changes people’s minds, and sometimes it is the strongest thing you can do to make a point,” Fran said.

From her varying leadership roles and community service, Fran has discovered that her strongest quality is seeing the talent in other people. “It’s recognizing others’ strengths and then putting them in a role where they can utilize them,” she said.

Mark Lawrence

Fran Pruyn Since the early 1990s, Fran has given much of her time to what is now known as the Utah Pride Center. She’s served as a member of the board, president of the board and a Steering Committee member for the Utah Pride Festival. Fran currently works at Cooper, Roberts, Simonson Architects, a Salt Lake City firm, as their marketing director. She is also the director of Pygmalion Productions theatre company, where she works to give women a voice. She’s been involved with KRCL for 10 years, while serving as the board president of the organization for five years.

Although Fran has been very successful when it comes to business, her real passion is the theatre: “It’s thrilling, and sometimes educational, and sometimes

Mark, along with a small group of colleagues, is responsible for the founding of the Salt Lake City-based nonprofit organization known as Restore Our Humanity. Due to their work, marriage equality became a temporary reality in the state of Utah. Mark continues to do his part to

establish equality for all Utah citizens: “We could never have imagined that it would go as far as it has,” he said. In 2012, a small group of devoted people — Mark included — began discussing what steps needed to be taken in order to attain marriage equality under the law.

With the help of Restore Our Humanity, attorneys Peggy Thomsic and Jim Magelby, along with the six Utah plaintiffs (this year’s Utah Pride Grand Marshals), filed Kitchen v. Gary Herbert. This lawsuit struck down Amendment 3, making it legal for same-sex couples to marry across the state of Utah.

Over 1,300 couples were issued marriage licenses in 17 days; a motion to stay was then imposed by the courts to put a stop to it.

That stay, as well as the constitutionality of Amendment 3, are the current topic of litigation in Denver’s 10th Circuit Court.

Before the creation of Restore Our Humanity, Mark’s civic activism started in 2004, when Amendment 3 was on the ballot. Inspired by other local activists, he began to see what it took to lead a charge against injustice: unshakeable leadership and the courage to put yourself in the public eye. Mark saw what happened in California’s Prop 8 case and noticed the similarities between that case and Utah’s Amendment 3.

“Proposition 8 was no different than Amendment 3. So why isn’t somebody doing that here? There wasn’t anybody else to do it so I thought, ‘Maybe it’s my time to do something,’” Mark said.

Grand Marshal Reception honors award winners The 2014 Utah Pride Festival’s annual Grand Marshal Reception will be held on Friday, June 6, beginning at 7 p.m. This year, the reception will take place on the festival grounds near the Main Stage. Light hors doeuvres and desserts by Le Croissant Catering and a cash bar will be available.

The grand marshals will be there to address the crowd and awards will be presented to the Kristen Reis Community Service Award and Pete Suazo Political Action Award winners.

Tickets are $40 and are available at utahpridefestival.org

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 35

Pete Suazo Political Action Award:

Salt Lake County District Attorney Sim Gill The Utah Pride Center will bestow the 2014 Pete Suazo Political Action Award to Salt Lake County District Attorney Sim Gill at the Utah Pride Festival. The award was created in 2001 to observe Senator Pete Suazo’s enthusiastic efforts in pushing hate crime legislation forward in Utah. It is awarded to an elected official who exhibits outstanding drive in regard to equal rights for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer community in Utah through legislation and policy.

District Attorney Gill has been a staunch supporter of the LGBTQ community for several years. He played a critical role

in Judge Shelby’s ruling on Amendment 3, which led to several same-sex couples marrying soon after the ruling was announced. Standing up for these issues comes easy to Gill: “I have an incredible sense of pride in our individual and civil liberties, the responsibility we have as citizens, and the expectation we have of government.

I have devoted my professional life to public service because, in an old-fashioned way, it means a lot to me,” he said.

Growing up in India, Gill witnessed several instances of human suffering. However, he noticed that those people remained thankful and gracious, no matter how high the odds.

He took these lessons with him

when he and his family immigrated to Utah when Gill was 10 years old. Gill would eventually graduate from Kearns High School and continue on to study law at Lewis and Clark University in Washington. In 2000, he was named chief city prosecutor after being a prosecutor in both Salt Lake City and Layton.

Gill’s belief that government should be a vehicle for helping all citizens it serves and his efforts in building a better community have earned him several other awards from publications such as the Salt Lake Tribune, as well as from institutions including the University of Utah.

However, the Pete Suazo Political Action Award has affected Sim on a very distinct, intimate level: He lost a close friend in the 1990s to the HIV/ AIDS epidemic. Before his untimely death, the two of them spoke at length about the

future. They spoke of the day when the LGBTQ community would be recognized as equal under the law and when samesex couples would be allowed to legally marry. Gill’s efforts in the Dec. 20, 2013, ruling were, in part, in honor of his friend.

“This brings the conversation full-circle and grants a sense of personal and spiritual closure for all of us,” Sim said Q

www.lecroissantcatering.com

36 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

SATURDAY, JUNE 7 The Pride 5K is back again this year with a new course through Bonneville Boulevard, which connects the Avenues to Capitol Hill through City Creek Canyon, and then into Memory Grove Park. The course is mostly shaded and the race is early, so heat should not be a problem.

START LINE AND REGISTRATION LOCATION The race begins at 9 a.m., and packet pick-up begins at 8 a.m. Participants will start the race on Capitol Boulevard and 5th north (east of the Utah State Capitol building). Day-of registration and packet pickup will be located directly south of the starting line area.

FINISH LINE LOCATION Near entrance of Memory Grove.

PARKING No vehicle traffic or parking is available inside Memory Grove. Parking is available near the start line.

CATEGORIES AND AWARDS Pride leaders have introduced a genderinclusive category.

“We value and recognize that gender goes beyond the binary to encompass many

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

Pride 5K different identities, and we will continue to represent these identities throughout the Festival, including the Pride Day 5K,” Pride leaders said in a statement.

Awards will be presented immediately following the race at about 9:45 a.m. Utah Pride Festival award packages will go to the overall male, female and gender-inclusive finishers. First place overall award packages include: Two Utah Pride Festival VIP passes, which will give the winner and a friend admission to the Festival and VIP Lounge on Saturday and Sunday, as well as two beverages each in the VIP Lounge during the weekend. Second and third place overall packages will include two Festival tickets for Saturday and Sunday.

The top male, top female and top gender-inclusive in each age group will also receive awards. Age groups will be broken down into the following categories for male, female and gender inclusive runners: under 18, 19–24, 25–29, 30–34, 35–39, 40–44, 45–49, 50–54, 55-59, 60–64, 65–69 and 70+.

COURSE DESCRIPTION/INFO Athletes will start the race on Capitol Boulevard. They will then head north

on Capitol Boulevard, veering right onto Bonneville Boulevard. This road will take athletes to the mouth of City Creek Canyon and up to 11th Avenue. Once reaching 11th Avenue, athletes will turn around and head back down Bonneville Boulevard.

(North toward the mouth of City Creek).

Immediately before reaching the mouth of City Creek Canyon, athletes will turn left onto Canyon Road, which will then direct them down into Memory Grove.

The finish line will be located near the entrance of Memory Grove (approximately 6th Avenue).

AID STATIONS Water will be provided at the mile 1 and 2 aid stations. Water and other drinks, and food, will be available at the finish area.

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 37

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Three marches kick off Utah Pride Saturday

The Interfaith March will begin at the Methodist Church on 200 S. 200 East at 1 p.m., Saturday, June 7. It will join the Trans* and Dyke Marches in progress as they head toward the Utah Pride Festival grounds for the Opening Ceremony at 3 p.m.

TRANS* RALLY AND MARCH Be seen! Be heard! Join the Trans* Rally and March, Saturday June 7. All trans* and gender nonconforming people are welcome to descend on City Creek Park to an environment designed to be safe, loving and empowering. This is an opportunity to represent your community, increase your visibility and promote acceptance of all gender-variant people.

The rally will begin at 2 p.m., and includes music, speakers and entertainment. Don’t miss step-off at 2:30 p.m., and will converge with the Dyke and Interfaith Marches for the 2014 Pride March. Join your community and march straight into the Opening Ceremonies to kickoff this year’s Pride Festival!

UTAH STATE CAPITOL

DYKE RALLY & MARCH

300 N

200 N

NORTH CITY CREEK PARK

N TEMPLE

S TEMPLE

100 S METHODIST CHURCH

200 S

DYKE RALLY AND MARCH

All marches converge STATE

300 S MAIN

Dykes! Lesbians! Gay women!

Feminists! Female Identified people of Utah! Rally on the front steps of the Capitol Building starting at high noon, Saturday, June 7. Meditations and conversations will take place on the lawn from noon

TRANSGENDER RALLY & MARCH

400 S

500 W

FESTIVAL GROUNDS

INTERFAITH MARCH MARCH 300 E

INTERFAITH SERVICE AND MARCH

to 1 p.m. Music, dancing, body painting, poster-making, socializing and such will warm you up from 1–1:50 p.m. We promise dancers to awe, speakers to unite, slam poetry — because we are cool like that — and the ever awesome DJ Jen Melcomian to emcee. No matter your lady label, come socialize and unite, demonstrate to liberate, and agitate to change the state.

March at 2:30 p.m., from the Capitol Building to the Utah Pride Festival grounds and join the Trans* and Interfaith rallies on the way. Celebrate, be heard, be seen! Q

200 E

Three marches step off seperately, but converge in the last few blocks to enter the Utah Pride Festival grounds together on Saturday afternoon.

38 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

SATURDAY, JUNE 7

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

Saturday Headliner: Betty Who When Betty Who

performs at the 2014 Utah Pride Festival, Saturday, June 7, she will be playing to a crowd with a special connection to her music. Betty Who, born Jess Newham, has a sweet Beehive State connection that includes the release of her song, “Somebody Loves You,” and an online marriage proposal that garnered more than 11 million YouTube views.

On Sept. 11, 2013, Spencer Stout uploaded a YouTube video of him proposing to his boyfriend Dustin Reeser in a flash mob at a Home Depot in Salt Lake City. The video, which featured “Somebody Loves You,” became an online-hit. The attention garnered from the video coupled with the track’s official iTunes release, led to the song debuting at #44 on the Overall iTunes Charts, as well as debuting as the #4 most viral song on Spotify. Betty Who signed with RCA Records a short time later.

Betty Who has described her sound as “taking influences from [past] music and mixing it in with the emotions I’m actually living through. We’re all secretly wrecks, and we’re all in love and all being heartbroken. Combining those things for me has been a huge tool to get the sound I want.”

Born in Sydney, New South Wales, Australia, Betty Who moved to the United States in 2007. She trained, since childhood, as a classical cellist and is self-taught on the piano and the guitar. She started writing songs at age 14 and began performing as a singer/songwriter at age 16.

Her debut EP, “The Movement,” was released in April 2013 and earned the attention of critics worldwide, including Time magazine which picked Betty as one of 14 Musical Acts To Watch In 2014. She released her second EP, “Slow Dancing,” April 8, 2014, which made it to #1 on the iTunes pop music chart.

“If I could define my artistry as anything, it would be the immediate personal connections I make with my audiences. So much of my music is a plea to love me for who I am, because that’s all I have. I still want to play Madison Square Garden, but I get overwhelmed thinking about it — there are so many people that feel connected to you and I want to give something back to all of them.” Q

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 39

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Saturday Stage Schedule 3:00pm

DJ CENTRIPETAL DANCE STAGE

Born and raised in Utah, DJ Centripetal (AKA Andrew Andreasen) is by no means low-key; his love and energy of electronic dance music permeates every moment of his downtime. His latest deep question: Why is there no more elevator music? Have we advanced so far as humans that music while moving directly vertical is irrelevant?

3:30pm

HABIBI HABIBI EAST STAGE

With over 20 years of belly dance experience, Shahravar and Troupe Habibi Habibi perform nationally for festivals, weddings and events.

3:30pm

OPENING CEREMONIES MAIN STAGE

3:55pm

ZION CURTAIN SISTERS OF PERPETUAL INDULGENCE MAIN STAGE

An order of 21st Century nuns, dedicated to the promulgation of onmiversal joy and the expiation of stigmatic guilt.

4:00pm

OPEN MIC & POETRY SLAM LIBRARY STAGE

4:25pm

MISS CITY WEEKLY MAIN STAGE

This pageant will highlight the most beautiful, talented and outrageous drag personalities in Utah as they compete for the title of Miss City Weekly 2014

4:30pm

MOKIE

EAST STAGE

Based in Salt Lake, Mokie was forged by a shared love for the master jam bands and the spontaneous musical conversations they conjure.

4:50pm

SUGAR TOWN ALLEY MAIN STAGE

Blues, Jazz, Gospel and Samba meet the American Southwest in this eclectic band. Moving effortlessly between angst-ridden

to up-beat, each song has a story to tell.

5:00pm

DJ JARVICIOUS DANCE STAGE

A self proclaimed nerd known as a purist for his flawless blends and tight cuts. 15 years of high energy performances, clear vocal presence, and the flair to read a crowd.

5:50pm

— e m i t r e m m u S t s a f k a e r b r time fo ! o i t a p e h t on

ONCE UPON A DRAG QUEEN MAIN STAGE

6:30pm

ROYAL COURT OF THE GOLDEN SPIKE EMPIRE EAST STAGE

Since 1976, RCGSE showcases drag performers and raise funds for Utah charities.

6:50pm

SHERRY VINE MAIN STAGE

Sherry Vine was born in The Amish country.

On her 16th birthday she discovered she was adopted and actually Jewish. Running away from home and she became a “show girl” in Las Vegas before relocating to NYC where she has established herself as one of the leading ladies performing her all live singing and comedy show internationally on stage, TV and film.

Open 7am to 9pm 2041 S 2100 E theblueplatediner.com

7:00pm

DJ HARRY CROSS JR DANCE STAGE

2012 QSaltLake Fabby Award winner and Saturday resident DJ at Jam, this is Harry’s fourth Pride

7:30pm

SHOW ME ISLAND EAST STAGE

Salt Lake City ska band.

8:00pm

BETTY WHO MAIN STAGE

Time Magazine’s pick for top 14 acts to watch for in 2014.

9:00pm

DANCE PARTY WITH DJ TIDY MAIN STAGE

From Idaho farm boy to metropolitan DJ fashionista, DJ TiDY not only puts on a show as he spins, but writes and plays music that would even make the Pope get up and boogie. He is the complete package. A true performer.

11:00pm

FESTIVAL GATES CLOSE

SEE UTAH US AT PRIDE !

BOOT H WS4A

215 E BROADWAY, SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH 11 TO 6, TUES TO SAT WWW.QCLOTHING.COM

UTAH PRIDE AT A GLANCE

40 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

2014 FESTIVAL GROUNDS MAP EXIT

NW BOOTHS

ATM

EXIT

NE BOOTHS

VIP AREA

SCH BOOTHS

MAIN STAGE

FREE WN WATER BOOTHS

FREE WATER EN BOOTHS

NORTH

HISTORY PET AREA BEVERAGES

WN LOOP ATM BOOTHS EXIT ENTRANCE WS LOOP BOOTHS

DINING AREA

WEST STAGE

FIRST AID

EAST STAGE

YOUTH

HEALTH

BEVERAGES

GENDER

GRASSROOTS ZONE

WS BOOTHS FREE WATER

EXIT

SW BOOTHS

DINING AREA

FREE WATER VODKA GARDEN KID ZONE

VOLUNTEER VILLAGE

DANCE STAGE

EXIT

SOUTH

Saturday Night Beaver? waxing, laser hair removal

Uncut?

The non-surgical body contouring treatment that freezes away stubborn fat.

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 41

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

ENTRANCE

THURSDAY, JUNE 5

4:30pm

1:00pm

EAST STAGE

EAST STAGE

7:00pm

4:50pm

WASATCH PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH

MAIN STAGE

FRIDAY, JUNE 6

DJ JARVICIOUS

MOKIE

SUGAR TOWN ALLEY

INTERFAITH SERVICE

ATM

7:00pm

GRAND MARSHAL RECEPTION MAIN STAGE

WRISTBANDS

SATURDAY, JUNE 7 START: CAPITOL BLVD & 5TH NORTH

EXIT ENTRANCE

BIKE VALLET BEVERAGES BEVERAGES

LIBRARY STAGE

ART ZONE

AZ BOOTHS

DINING AREA

DINING AREA

FESTIVAL GATES OPEN

MAIN STAGE

6:50pm

2:00pm

LOCAL COMEDIANS LIBRARY STAGE

7:00pm

DJ HARRY CROSS JR

7:30pm

SHOW ME ISLAND EAS STAGE

2:00pm

AFTERBURN EAST STAGE

2:10pm

SISTER WIVES MAIN STAGE

8:00pm

BETTY WHO

3:00pm

9:00pm

DANCE STAGE

MAIN STAGE

DJ JESSE WALKER

3:30pm

11:00pm

3:15pm

DANCE STAGE

MAIN STAGE

FESTIVAL GATES CLOSE

HABIBI HABIBI EAST STAGE

3:30pm

OPENING CEREMONIES

EAST STAGE

JOEY ARIAS MAIN STAGE

4:00pm

10:00am

EAST STAGE

2ND SOUTH, 4TH E TO W TEMPLE

LADY LEGS

4:15pm

VOODOO PRODUCTIONS MAIN STAGE

11:00am

FESTIVAL GATES OPEN

4:00pm

MARY TEBBS

SUNDAY, JUNE 8 UTAH PRIDE PARADE

MAIN STAGE

5:00pm

VINEGAR & PEARLS

OPEN MIC & POETRY SLAM

12:00pm

EAST STAGE

JUANA GHANI

5:15pm

LIBRARY STAGE

MAIN STAGE

STEVE GRAND

4:25pm

1:00pm DJ LISHUS

MAIN STAGE

MISS CITY WEEKLY MAIN STAGE

Obagi skin care, Injectables, Laser, Ultherapy

SALT LAKE ACTING COMPANY

3:00pm

SISTERS OF PERPETUAL INDULGENCE

Wrinkle Queen? skin care

EAST STAGE

1:45pm

DANCE PARTY WITH DJ TIDY

3:55pm

ENTRANCE

LIBRARY STAGE

HAYLEY SIMPSON, COMEDY

DJ CENTRIPETAL

3:00pm

MAIN STAGE

ATM

6:30pm

2:00pm

3:00pm

WRITING COMPETITION WINNERS

1:30pm

DANCE STAGE

CITY CREEK PARK, STATE & NORTH TEMPLE

MAIN STAGE

LIBRARY STAGE

DYKE RALLY & MARCH

TRANS* RALLY & MARCH

SALIVA SISTERS

ONCE UPON A DRAG QUEEN

MAIN STAGE

UTAH CAPITOL BUILDING

PRIDE FOOD STORE BOOTHS

5:50pm

SHERRY VINE

2:00pm

DINING AREA

DANCE STAGE

ROYAL COURT OF THE GOLDEN SPIKE EMPIRE

PRIDE DAY 5K

1:00pm 1:00pm

5:00pm

MAIN STAGE

9:00am

INFO

ROCKING JUKES

DANCE STAGE

7:00pm

FESTIVAL CLOSES

Molly Mears, M.D.

enlighten

L ASER COSMETICS

9 minutes north of downtown Salt Lake at 1560 Renaissance Towne Drive, Bountiful

801-294-9999 enlightenlaser.com

Office Hours: Monday–Thursday until 8pm, Friday until 5pm

42 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

S a lt P a la c e C o n v e n tio n C e n te r

400 E

100 S

300 E

Pride Parade

100 S

200 E

SUNDAY, JUNE 8

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

100 S

N

Want to find where a particular booth is? Use this list. NE=North-east, WN = West-north, etc. which are labeled on the map on page 40 8TH STREET CATERING. . . . . . FOOD 3 AAA UTAH. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 2A ACLU OF UTAH. . . . . . . . . WN LOOP 23 ALLIANCE FOR A BETTER UT. . . SW6A AMKHA MISKY. . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 14 ANIMAL NANNY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . WN 9A ANTHONY GRANATO. . . . . . . . . . AZ 1A APRIL RIGGS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 15A ASANA NATURAL ARTS. . . . . . . . AZ 2D ATHEISTS OF UTAH. . WS LOOP 18-19 BEEHIVE HOOKS & HOOPS. . . . AZ 3D BEST FRIENDS ANIMAL SOC..WN 10A BIG CHAIR PHOTO. . . . . . . . . . . . NW 1A THE BIG BURGER. . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 13 BIG DELUXE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 6A BISTRO 1867. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 18 BLUE SKY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 20A BLUE STAR JUICE & COFFEE. . FOOD 0 BRETT MOORE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . LS 11 BROADVIEW UNIVERSITY . . . SW 13A BROADWAY MEDIA GROUP. . NE 1-4B BROADWAY MEDIA GROUP. . NE 1-3A BYKALI . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . AZ 4B CAMP BOW WOW. . . . . WN LOOP 18 CAROL’S CRAFTY CORNER . . . . NE 13A CARTEL, LLC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 11 CAUSE FOR PAWS. . . . . . . . . . . . WN 8A CENTER BLUES FUSION DANCE. . LS 9 CENTRO CIVICO. . . . . . . . . . . . . . SCH SE CENTRO HISPANO. . . . . . WS LOOP 17 CHILE VERDE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 8 CHRIS MADSEN. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . AZ 3A CHRIST UNITED METHODIST. . . NE 4B CINDEE WHITING. . . . . . . . . . . . . AZ 2C CITY DOGS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 5 CITY WEEKLY. . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 14-15C COMCAST. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 3-4A CONTEMPORARY BODY ART.SW 15A

THE COTTON FLOOZY. . . . . . . . . . LS 12 CRUISING WITH PRIDE. . . . . . . EN 16A CRYSTAL LOPEZ. . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 7 CURIOUS COMMODITIES. . . . . . AZ 2A CURTICE PHOTOGRAPHY. . . . . . AZ 1C DABAKIS FOR SENATE. . . . . . . . EN 11A DESARAE LEE ILLUSTRATION . . . . LS 5 DIAMOND SPRINGS WELLNESS CTR. . . . . . WN LOOP 3 DOLLS & GENTS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 8A DOMINIQUE HOLIDAY. . . . . . . . . AZ 3C EBAY . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 9A EMPOWERMENT SVCS. WS LOOP 14 EQUALITY UTAH . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 1-2B EURO WAX CENTER. . . . . . . . . . . . LS 10 FEDERAL CREDIT UNION. . . . . SW 9A FINISH LINE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 16-18A FINISH LINE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 4-6C FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH. . . . . SW 10A FRIENDS N NEED. . . . . . . WN LOOP 19 GATEWAY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 1A GE HEALTHCARE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 8A GENERAL DISTRIBUTING CO. . . . . . . . .

GLOBAL TRAVEL NETWORKS.EN 11C GODELIO PALOMINO. . . . . . . . . . AZ 3B GOOD TIMES BOWLING. . WS LOOP3 GOT KILT. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WN 17A GUTTER HELMET. . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 2E HEALING MTN CRYSTALS. . . . WN 12A HEALTHY PETS MTN WEST . . WN 14A HENNA GIRLS. . . . . . . . . WN LOOP 6-7 HIGH DEF SATELLITE. . . . . . . . . SW 2B HIMALAYAN ARTS. . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 8C THE HIVE GALLERY. . . . . . . . . LS 13-14 HOME DEPOT. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WN 18A HOT & NERDY DESIGNS . . WS LOOP 8 HOUSE OF GRUNT . . . . . . . . . . . . AZ 1B HOUSE OF TIBET. . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 6 HUMAN RIGHTS CAMPAIGN .EN 1-3C HUMANE SOCIETY . . . . . . . . . SW 2-3D HUMANISTS OF UTAH. . . . . . . WN 16A I SHIRT COMPANY. . . . . . . . . . . . NW 6A IMPERIAL COURT. . . . . . . . WN LOOP 2 IN THE EVENT. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WN 11A ISLAND STEAK GRILL. . . . . . . FOOD 16 JAMAICA’S KITCHEN. . . . . . . . . FOOD 9 JANI FOR STATE SENATE.WN LOOP 22

JEFFERY KIMBER. . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 4B JENNIFER SEELEY ART. . . . . . . . . AZ 4C JOSH FRANCIES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . LS 7 KAT MARTIN . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 10C KHAN CURRY HOUSE. . . . . . . . FOOD 2 KIMBERLY CLARK. . . . . . . . . . . . SW 7A KING’S ENGLISH. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . LS 1-2 KRCL. . . . . . . . . . NEXT TO EAST STAGE KUER 90.1. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 2A LAF VENTURES/EQUITY UT. . . NW 2A LAZIZ FOODS. . . . . . . . . . LOCAL FOOD LGBT RESOURCE CENTER.WS LOOP 5 LGBTQ AFFIRMATIONS . . . . . . . . EN 9C LIVEQUAL. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 18A LUDOS LOUNGE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . NW 7A LYNIV. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 8A MARK MILLER SUBARU . . . . . . . . UPPER LEFT HORSESHOE MEMORIAL CEMETARIES. . WN LP 13 MEN IN THE KITCHEN. . . . WS LOOP 2 MORMONS BLDG BRIDGES. . . . EN 4A MUSIC MAKE MUSIC. . . . . . . SCH WN NAMASTE SKIN & LASER. . . . . WN 15A NERIUM INTERNATIONAL . . . . SW 1B NORMA’S RAINBOW. . . . . . . . . . EN 12A OCURRANCE TELESERVICES. WS 14A OGDEN OUTREACH. . . . . . WS LOOP 6 ONE OF A KIND TYE DYE. . . . . . SW 4A OPEN LEGAL SERVICES. WS LOOP 13 ORGANIZING FOR ACTION. . . WS 11A OVERSTOCK. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 15A PAUL MITCHELL. . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 2A PEACH TREATS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 5A THE PEACOCK . . . . . . . . . WN LOOP 20 PEOPLE WITH AIDS COALITION/ OUR STORE. . . . . WN LOOP 24, 25 PETA. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS LOOP 1 PETCO . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PET ZONE PFLAG. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 1C PIBS EXCHANGE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 9A THE PIE PIZZERIA . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 12 PJ’S SNO SHACK. . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 15 PLANNED PARENTHOOD. . . . . WS 8A POST MORMONS. . . . . . WN LOOP 5, 4 POWER PLAYERS INTL. . . . . . . . . . . LS 8 PRIDE PUBLIC SAFETY COMMITTEE. . . . . . . . UPPER RIGHT HORSESHOE

STATE

BOOTHS

MAIN

W TEMPLE

200 S 200 S Kick off the Sunday celebration of the Utah Pride Festival by going to the the ! t 10a m Pride Parade. Be blown away by the r ts a S ta e floats, the marchers and the diversity as ra d Pa our entire community converges on Salt 300 S 300 S 300 S Lake to celebrate our allies and ourselves.

This moment is for all of Utah. You will not catch a more exciting, fun-filled, joyous, or gigantic parade in Utah than the one on Sunday, June 8 at 10 a.m., but get there early! This is a celebration, and you’ll want a prime spot to watch the festivity. Afterward, continue the celebration at Washington Square for a day of fun and entertainment on the festival grounds.

PRIDE SOCKS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 7A PROGEXION . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 1E PROVO PRIDE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 5B PUBLIC INTEREST COMM. . . . . . . WS 3 Q CLOTHING . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .WS 4A Q SALT LAKE . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 6-7A QUEENS TEA. . . . . . . . . . . LOCAL FOOD RANDY LAUB PHOTO. . . . . . . . . . AZ 2B RAY COOK. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . LS 3 READY FOR HILARY . . . . . . . . . . . . . LS 6 RECREATION OUTLET . . . . . . . . NW 8A RED NATION TACOS. . . . . . . . . FOOD 4 REDDIT GIFTS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 16 RELAY FOR LIFE. WN LOOP 14, 15, 16 RESTORE OUR HUMANITY. . . . NE 14A ROLLING MTN BISTRO. . . . . . . FOOD 1 ROYAL COURT GSE. . . . . . WN LOOP 1 S.J. QUINNEY OUTLAWS. . WS LOOP 9 SACRED LIGHT OF CHRIST. . . SW 14A SALSITAS MENDOZA . . . LOCAL FOOD SALT LAKE ACTING CO.. . . . . . . NE 11A SALT LAKE CITY CORP. . . . . . . NE 5, 6A SALT LAKE CITY POLICE.WN LOOP 10 SL CTY ANIMAL SVCS. . . . . . . WN 5-6A SALT LAKE COUNTY LIBRARY . SW 2C SALT LAKE CTY YOUTH SVCS. . SW 3C SALT LAKE DREAM TEAM. . . . . SCH SE SAMPAN. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 10 SCENTSY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . LS 4 SCOOPOLOGY. . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 19-20 SEAR’S HOME PRO . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 7A SECOND CHANCE FOR HOMELESS PETS. . . . . . . . . WN 13A SECOND HAND COAST. . . . . . WS 13A SIMMY CRAFT. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NW 3A SIMPLY COOL WINDOW FILM . . . WS 10A SKIERMON. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WN 19A SKINWORKS SCHOOL OF ADVANCED SKIN CARE. . . SW 16A SLC HEMP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 1A SLCC WRITING CENTER. . . . . . . . . LS 16 SNOWBIRD. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 12A SOLOMONA . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 11A SOULPRO. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 3B STARBUCKS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 9A SUMMIT COUNSELING CTR. . WS LP 7

SUN TREASURES. . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 6B SUNNY MTN MIDWIFERY. . . . . SCH SE SUU CERAMICS GUILD. . . . . . . . . AZ 4A T-MOBILE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 3B TEA OF UTAH . . . . . . . . . . WN LOOP 17 TELEPERFORMANCE. . . . . . . WN 1,2B TIFFANY MALIA. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . AZ 4D TRAIN WALK POOP. . . . . . . . . . . WN 7A TREVOR PROJECT . . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 7C TRINAS LBGT DESIGNS . WS LOOP 15 TWISTED ROOTS. . . . . . . . . . . . WS 12A UOFU HEALTH & SEXUALITY. . . . . . . . . . . . WN LP 21 UPSTATE EMPIRE. . . . . . . . . . . . WS 15A US BANK. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 10A USARA. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SCH WN USU ACCESS & DIVERSITY.WS LOOP 4 UTAH AIDS FOUND. . . . . . . . NW 9-14A UTAH BEARS. . . . . . . . . . . WS LOOP 10 UTAH COALITION AGAINST SEXUAL ASSAULT. . . WN LOOP 11 UTAH DEMOCRATS. . WS LOOP 11-12 UTAH DOG PARK. . . . . . . . . . . . . NE 12A UTAH GAY & LESBIAN CHAMBER OF COMMERCE. . . . . . . . WN LOOP 12 UTAH GAY FATHER’S ASSN. . . . NW 4A UTAH HERITAGE FOUND.. . . . . SW 3E UTAH OCA. . . . . . . . . . . . . WS LOOP 20 UTAH PAGEN SOCIETY. . . WN LOOP 9 UTAH PARTY PIX . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 4E UTAH POLYAMORY SOCIETY. . SW 1A UTAH SATSANG ECKANKAR SOCIETY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 3A VA MEDICAL HOSPITAL. . . EN 13, 14A VEGAN BOUNDARY. . . . . WN LOOP 8 WE THE PEOPLE CLOTHING.SW 1, 4D WEILENMANN PHOTO. . . . . . . SCH SE WEST ART POTTERY. . . . . . . . . . . AZ 1D WESTGATE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . SW 5B WILD EARTH GUARDIANS. . . . SW 5A WINDER FOR SHERIFF. . . . . . . . WS 5A WINDER FARMS. . . . . . . . . . . . . WS 19A YOGURT STOP. . . . . . . . . . . . . FOOD 17 YOUNG AUTOMOTIVE. WN 1, 2, 3, 4A ZEN MERMAIDS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . NW 5A ZIONS BANK. . . . . . . . . . . . . EN 12, 13C

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 43

Design your own ring or choose one from our hundreds of exclusive designs

The Wasatch Bracelet

JEWELRY REPAIR WATCH REPAIR WEDDING BANDS & JEWELRY DIAMONDS

A stylized representation of the Wasatch Mountains designed and Crafted by Hansen Co. Jewelry

3177 S HIGHL AND DR IVE • 801-487-9341 • H ANSENCOJEW ELRY.COM

Pride Counseling

Jerry Buie MSW, LCSW

By appointment only

801-595-0666 801-557-9203

OFFICE CELL

jerrybuie@mac.com

pridecounseling.tv

1174 East Graystone Way Ste 20-E, Salt Lake City

801-308-2050

www.jonjepsen.com

44 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

SUNDAY, JUNE 8

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

Sunday Headliner: Steve Grand

It was

almost one year ago that singer/songwriter Steve Grand released his self-made single, “All American Boy,” on YouTube. The Illinoisborn artist maxed out a credit card to make the country-western ballad that tells a story of yearning, heartbreak and unrequited love.

“I wrote it from the most ... genuine place in my soul. It’s not about being gay, it’s about that longing for someone,” Grand said in an interview with Good Morning America.

At the time, the video, lauded as groundbreaking for departing from the standard boy-girl romance story, had received more than a half-million views.

When Grand takes the stage at the 2014 Utah Pride Festival,

“All American Boy” will likely have been viewed three million times. Grand’s record-breaking Kickstarter campaign – aimed at helping the self-made artist produce a record without the backing of a major record label – raised $326,000. The final tally of the campaign, which concluded in March, included 4,905 backers and quadrupled the original goal of $81,000.

“I’m overwhelmed. Grateful beyond measure. Truly moved by what you’ve done,” Grand wrote in a message to his supporters. “But most of all,” he said, “you made it 100 percent clear to the world that united we will make our voices heard. We will spread our message of love and inclusion to an even wider audience. And yes, as you said, we will change the world one song at a time.”

In addition to being a musician, Steve is an active figure in the equality movement.

He has performed at Pride events around the nation and has partnered with causes such as The Human Rights Campaign, the Anti-Violence Project, Bailey House, the GLSEN Respect Awards, OUT & Equal Workplace Advocates and the March on Springfield for Marriage Equality.

Born in Chicago and raised in Lemont, Ill., Steve struggled for many years to accept himself as a gay person. Always feeling like an “outsider,” he turned to music for comfort and strength, taking piano lessons, and learning to play the guitar and flute.

Grand grew up active in Boy Scouts and sports. “Growing up that way, only to learn I was gay, which is not something everybody includes in the idea of what it means to be ‘all-American,’ I became very inspired to broaden the idea of what it means to be ‘all-American.’ ” Steve completed his freshman year of college in the music program at Belmont University in Nashville, Tenn., and put his college career “on hold” in 2011 to focus on writing and recording original music.

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Sunday Stage Schedule 12:00pm

JUANA GHANI MAIN STAGE

Gypsy music that bounces along on a persistent, driving brass bass, with a bewildering cast of multifarious characters providing a dazzling array of instrumentation, voices and dance moves.

1:00pm DJ LISHUS DANCE STAGE

Musical navigator DJ Lishus was so loved at his first Utah Pride three years ago that he had to play an extra hour in his set.

1:00pm

ROCKING JUKES EAST STAGE

1:00pm

SALIVA SISTERS MAIN STAGE

The Saliva Sisters are an unnatural act. Who would have supposed a girl group singing parody songs about fiber, bidets and bras would have survived, let alone flourished in Utah? Gay-Oh!

1:00pm

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 45

rock to all-out dance band, the Sister Wives defy the conventional norms typically set for all-women bands with the range and depth of their musical energy and virtuosity.

3:00pm

DJ JESSE WALKER DANCE STAGE

As a celebrated DJ, designer, artist, and gentle ambassador to the city, Jesse has helped shape underground dance music, design, art and culture in Utah for the past two decades.

3:00pm

MARY TEBBS EAST STAGE

Mary Tebbs has been called the Ellen DeGeneres of singer/songwriters. It’s not unusual for her off-the-cuff, quick-witted and endearing performance style to have you laughing in one moment and crying the next.

World-renowned New York City cabaret/performance-art/drag icon revered for his stage show featuring drag and standards from such artists as Billie Holiday

EAST STAGE

1:30pm

One of the best funk bands around, Lady Legs plays across the state

1:45pm

SALT LAKE ACTING COMPANY MAIN STAGE

The purveyors of Saturday’s Voyeur will bring snippets of this year’s show to the stage

2:00pm

LOCAL COMEDIANS LIBRARY STAGE

LADY LEGS

4:15pm

VOODOO PRODUCTIONS MAIN STAGE

Unusual professional entertainment, top caliber circus, cabaret, and specialty act production, guaranteed to inspire and awe.

5:00pm

VINEGAR & PEARLS EAST STAGE

Mary Tebbs put a band of her favorite local performers together and the result is the delicious Vinegar & Pearls.

5:15pm

STEVE GRAND MAIN STAGE

SISTER WIVES

“All American” Steve Grand grew up in Illinois as a Boy Scout and blew up the internet with his allgay “All American Boy” premiere video. He hasn’t stopped since.

MAIN STAGE

7:00pm

2:00pm

AFTERBURN EAST STAGE

2:10pm

Ranging from soulful blues to fiery

You want to help with political, environmental, and social causes — consider Public Interest Communications. We need customer service representatives with a background in fundraising, activism, and/or customer service.

For over 30 years, PIC has been the voice behind the nation’s most successful progressive non-profit organizations. If you have what it takes, become part of our winning team.

QUALIFICATIONS: • Outstanding reading, interpersonal, and listening skills • Ongoing awareness of current events • Proficient computer skills • Ability to follow through when given instructions • Ability to maintain a goal-oriented attitude • Background check required

FESTIVAL CLOSES

WE OFFER: • Hourly guarantee ($11.00 Office Avg) • Paid Training • Flexible Hours • Health care/401K Plan • Wide variety of Bonus Opportunities • Supportive atmosphere Work in Downtown — On bus line — Near U of U — Plenty of parking.

See us at the Pride Celebration June 7 and 8 in Booth WS-3

MAIN STAGE

LIBRARY STAGE

“Hayley brings the humor of Tina Fey, the gayness of Ellen Degeneres and the awkwardness of a fat hamster stuck in a toilet paperroll and includes the audience in a journey that makes them question their own choices in life. But what do I know, I’m just her mother” — Karen Russell (Mother)

Walk the Walk

JOEY ARIAS

4:00pm

LIBRARY STAGE

Help PFLAG, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Lambda Legal, Human Rights Watch, DCCC, DNC, NARAL

3:15pm

WRITING COMPETITION WINNERS HAYLEY SIMPSON, COMEDY

Talk the Equal Rights Talk

PUBLIC INTEREST COMMUNICATIONS

See us online: Monster.com or www.pubintcom.com Phone: 801-364-2345

46 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

What Pride means to me Pride was like Christmas morning: Quac asses, gyrating gigolos on tractor trailers, and paying no attention to pulpit preachers… Of course, all of that came AFTER a Pre-Pride Parade Party where people thought mixing last night’s martini with this morning’s champagne was a good idea. Grey hair came and friends got separated and displaced, and our routine doesn’t require the parade anymore; but we still mobilize that ‘family’ once a year and cocktails are still shaken before 10am… and I can’t wait to see everyone again. — Josh Jones

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

Today’s fight for equality requires pride, yet everything we have been told about pride is a lie. That it is a Mortal Sin. That it comes before a fall. That it is loud and saucy. That the devil wipes himself with it. That’s vanity, not pride.

Pride roars. Pride stands tall.

Pride is fearless. Pride fights for the right. Pride demands sacrifice. Pride destroys prejudice.

Pride is a shield against hate.

Pride nurtures love.

Wear your pride on your breast like a badge. Keep it polished, never let it tarnish. Pride makes for a better world. Be proud, never ashamed.

— John Wilkes

Pride is the one time of the year to hang out downtown and be yourself with other Gays and Gay friendly people and our families that come to join us.

See friends that you may not have seen all year or being with friends you see a lot all year round.

Celebrating the past, looking forward to the future and being in the present.

—Danny Thomas

I get so excited for Salt Lake City Pride to come every year. It’s a place to make memories with all of my friends as well as celebrate with my partner of 6 years. SLC Pride is also special to me because every year, Pride lands on my Mom’s birthday and what a fantastic way to celebrate. My family comes from Idaho every year to show love and acceptance toward me and the LGBT community. My mom said there is no other place that shows such love and celebration and would not want to be anywhere else for her birthday.

—Jeramy Johnson

—Alison Martin

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 47

Pride parking guide Trax Utah’s commuter train provides two stops near the parade route and festival grounds. Parking is free at the Trax stations on 2100 South and 1300 South in the well-policed parking lots. Also, Club Try-Angles, at 251 W. 900 South, is offering free parking in its lot, as festivalgoers can take Trax from the 900 South station to the grounds. The Trax fare is $2.50 for a one-way ticket or $5 for round trip. To arrive at the festival grounds on Saturday, ride the Red Line-University of Utah to the Salt Lake City Library stop. This will put you on the northeast corner of the festival. The trains will run until 1 a.m. On Sunday morning, in order to arrive at the parade route, take the train that will arrive at the 2100 South station at 9:20 a.m. and get off at the 200 South stop. You’ll arrive around 9:30 a.m., plenty of time to find a spot to watch the festivities. For full scheduling information, go to RideUTA.com.

Our 30th year of making customers happy!

GREEN

Parking Meters Salt Lake City has more than 2,000 metered parking spaces along the streets, including many that are near the festival grounds and parade route. Saturdays and Sundays are free. However, on Saturday there is a two-hour time limit from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. Sunday parking is free all day, but spaces will fill up extremely fast. New parking meters now accept credit cards, cash and coins.

Parking Lots There is a huge selection of pay-to-park lots throughout the city and while rates may vary, expect to pay between $7 and $10 for the entire day. Here’s a list of some of the most conveniently located parking areas: AMPCO PARKING, 45 E. 300 South, 133 E. 200 South, 270 S. West Temple KILOWAT COMMONS, 175 S. West Temple REGENT STREET, 150 S. 50 East PIERPONT STREET, 163 W. Pierpont Ave., 150 W. Pierpont Ave.

Affordable STD screenings at Planned Parenthood. Walk in.

Insurance accepted.

1.800.230.PLAN PPAU.ORG facebook.com/ppacofutah

fun & fr lic consignment shop y o u r r e n e w a b l e r e s o u r c e f o r f u n - l o v i n g , e a s y - l i v i n g g e a r, c l o t h i n g & a c c e s s o r i e s

We automatically mail out our consignors’ checks once a month,

saving thousands of gallons of gasoline a year.

Fun & frolic consignors don’t have to drive to our shop to pick up their payments. Just one more reason to consign with us.

801.487.6393 2066 South 2100 East - SLC

Detailed info about our Community & Conservation efforts and consigning with us can be found on the web @ myfunandfrolic.com updates on facebook @ “fun & frolic consignment shop”

48 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

History of Utah Pride Celebrating

was the first attempt at bringing people together to celebrate the emergence of an openly gay community in Utah. More than 200 gay men and women celebrated Gay Pride along the shores of the Great Salt Lake at, what was once known as, Bare Bum Beach.

The first official community-sponsored Pride celebration was called Gay Freedom Day and was held June 1, 1975. Sponsored by the Gay Community Service Center, it was held in City Creek Canyon where PRIDE IN THE 1970S festivities included free beer, food, soft A “Beer Bust Kegger,” sponsored in 1974 drinks, volleyball, an all-day talent revue

by Joe Redburn, owner of the Sun Tavern, and sing-a-long, games for prizes, and a white-elephant auction. A shuttle service from local gay bars provided additional transportation.

Over the next TM three years, Gay Freedom Day was promoted mainly by the Gay Service Committee and the Salt Lake Coalition Third Friday Bingo • 7 PM of Human Rights.

First Baptist Church • 777 S 1300 E • Salt Lake City The most ambitious Charitable donations graciously accepted promotion was a festival and conferfacebook.com/matronsofmayhem.slc/about ence held in 1977, which featured Sgt. Leonard Matlovich as keynote speaker.

Matlovich was an ex-Air Force sergeant and recipient of the Bronze Star and Purple Heart, and also a gay Mormon.

As the heady gay power days of the 1970s began to wane, a fragmented community ravaged by the onslaught of a conservative

Pride in Utah is part of a directive originated in 1969 when the Eastern Regional Conference of Homophile Organizations adopted the motion to hold “parallel demonstrations on the last Saturday in June to commemorate the rebellion on Christopher Street.” The reference to the rebellion, of course, refers to the Stonewall Inn riots in New York City.

Utah has celebrated Pride nearly 40 years.

Matrons of Mayhem

The

Drag Queen Bingo for Charity

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

backlash tried to hold scaled-down celebrations. Without widespread support, the spirit of Pride was kept going by individual groups such as the Tavern Guild and Affirmation.

PRIDE IN THE 1980S In 1983 members of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire met to revitalize the true concept of a Pride. Tim Leming, Marshall Brunner, Larry Pacheco and Mel Rohland, among others, formed a committee and put together an event billed as a Basket Social held in Fairmont Park.

This Pride Day committee had sponsored the event over the next three years, and was the first to adopt a national Pride Day committee’s theme. The chairs were Marshall Brunner, Nikki Boyer and Michelle Beauchaine.

Beauchaine was the last chairman during these years and held Gay and Lesbian Pride Day in Pioneer Park in 1986.

In 1987 the newly formed Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah took over the responsibilities of Utah’s annual event. Donnie Eastepp, Emperor XII of the RCGSE, was elected chair of the Pride Day Committee. He created a community service award, which was presented to Dr. Kristen Ries for her efforts treating AIDS patients when no other doctors in Utah were willing to do so. The award was established to recognize outstanding service to the gay and lesbian community. Eastepp also moved the location of Pride to Sunnyside Park - where it remained until 1989.

Floyd Gamble, Steven Lloyd, Julie Pollock, Curtis Jensen, Kevin Hillman, Deborah Rosenberg, Antonia Dela Guerra, Kyle Kennedy, Kathy Matthews and Julie Hale were the chairs and co-chairs of GLCCU’s Pride Day Committee over these seven years. They provided Utah’s gay community a consistently successful event celebrating Utah’s sexual minorities.

The Kristen Ries Community Service recipients were Rev. Bruce Barton, KUTV Channel 2, Chuck Whyte, Nikki Boyer, Becky Moss, Ben Williams, the College of Monarchs of the RCGSE, Craig Miller, Ben Barr, Val Mansfield, Kathy Worthington and Kim Russo.

PRIDE IN THE 1990S In 1990, on the 21st anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion, the Salt Lake City queer community held its first Gay and Lesbian Pride March. Nearly 200 people gathered on the steps of the state Capitol and heard speeches from Connell “Rocky”

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 49

SUMMERHAYS HALIBUT ’N CHIPS 4870 SOUTH HIGHLAND DRIVE HOLLADAY, UTAH 84117

RECEIVE A

YOUR FULL SERVICE DOG STORE DAYCARE . BOARDING . GROOMING . BATHING PICK-UP/DELIVERY . TRAINING . PET SUPPLIES

801.485.7387 1458 S MAIN ST, SLC – WWW.DOGSRUSSLC.COM

FREE CUP

OF OUR HOME MADE CLAM CHOWDER WITH THIS COUPON NO PURCHASE NECESSARY, TAX NOT INCLUDED

Equality Through Business

JOBEN MASSAGE Professional Massage Therapy Jose Ben Barahone, (801) 631-2085

Open to corporations of all sizes, sole proprietors and independent agents regardless of sexual orientation, this is a great place to meet other professionals, make business contacts, promote your business and work for the enhancement of UtahGayChamber.org Utah’s gay and lesbian community.

LMT

Swedish, Deep Tissue, Cranial, Relaxation Flexible hours. Private Studio. Voice/Text (801) 631-2085 Jobenlmt@gmail.com or iPhone App UNWIND

TOGETHER ...

we are the JCC

50 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

O’Donovan, Becky Moorman, Angela Nutt and Robert Austin. The Pride festival was held at the Northwest Community Center.

Under the direction of Kevin Hillman and his co-chairs, Pride Day expanded, and in 1991 it was moved to the Salt Lake County Fairgrounds in Murray. The 1991 Pride committee added to the festival a pride guide, an art show and contest, sponsored by Angela Nutt and David Thometz, and a Utah Gay and Lesbian Film Festival, created by Marlin Criddle.

They also brought in a nationally syndicated columnist, Dell Richards, as keynote speaker. For entertainment, Lynn Lavner, a lesbian singer performed, with interruption by a contingency of neoNazi skinheads who marched into the celebration and were met by Anti-Violence Project founder Michael Aaron. While no violence occurred, it was a tense situation.

Dozens of festivalgoers surrounded the skinheads and turned their backs on them, making them invisible to the crowd and, thus, negating the reason they were there.

They left after 10 minutes.

O’Donovan’s second Pride march was also disrupted by neo-Nazis who stood on the east steps of the City and County Building taunting the marchers rallying at Washington Square.

The tradition of an annual pride march and rally ended when O’Donovan left Salt Lake City in 1992. No one came forward to organize a third, and it would be two years before Bruce Harmon and Rev. Bruce Barton, along with then-Pride chair Jeff Freedman, stepped forward to reinvent the march and rally, transforming it into something even greater: the Pride Parade.

Pride Days under the direction of the GLCCU transformed the celebration from simply a day in the park to a major annual event where Salt Lake City’s politicians began to attend, and the quality of entertainers and speakers increased.

With the election of Freedman as chair of the GLCCU’s Gay Pride Day committee, the organization began its transition from being simply a committee to being GLCCU’s sole entity when the organization collapsed in 1995. Freedman and co-chair Julie Hale were the last formally elected chairs of the Gay Pride Day committee under the direction of GLCCU. Freedman, a former emperor of the Royal Court, served longer than any other Pride volunteer in Utah. His vision of Pride encompassed the entire spectrum of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender

and straight allies communities. The Pride events of the latter half of the 1990s were thus stamped indelibly with Freedman’s concept that Pride was a community party.

He brought professionalism to the job as he endeavored to ensure gender parity.

Freedman’s co-chairs were Hale, Carrie Gaylor and Kim Russo.

The Kristen Ries Award recipients during Freedman’s era were Bruce Harmon, Clariss (Doug Tollstrup) Cartier, Charlene Orchard, Barb Barnhart, Rev. Kelly Byrnes, Jeff Freedman, Maggie Snyder, LaDonna Moore and Dr. Patty Reagan.

In 1994 the first parade was organized as the kick-off event to Pride. The late Emperor XV, Bruce Harmon, assisted by his partner Rev. Bruce Barton, established the annual parade that continues to this day. Bruce Barton nearly single-handedly, on his own sewing machine, created the 100-foot rainbow flag that is carried annually in the parade.

In 1996 Freedman, Gaylor and Harmon invited Chastity Bono, daughter of Sonny and Cher and spokeswoman of the Human Rights Campaign’s National Coming Out Project, to be the first grand marshal of Utah’s Gay Pride Parade.

Freedman and his committees also invited Candace Gingrich, Deb Burington, Charlene Orchard and actor Dan Butler to serve as grand marshals.

Freedman was instrumental in getting corporate sponsorships for Pride and moving it to downtown Salt Lake City – first to the Gallivan Center and later to Washington Square. Freedman’s last act of the period was organizing Pride Day, Inc. as a separate entity from the defunct GLCCU.

PRIDE IN THE OUGHTS With the new millennium came controversy as Pride Day began to expand exponentially. Kim Russo became director of the new corporation for two years, assisted by co-chairs Adam Frost and Billy Lewis.

During the Russo years, Utah State Rep. Jackie Biskupski and Mayor Rocky Anderson served as grand marshals for the parade, and Marlin Criddle, Brenda Voisard, Laura Milliken Gray and Brook Heart-Song were honored with the Kristen Ries Award.

Unfortunately without the community’s oversight, fiduciary problems surfaced during 2001.

Pride Day 2002 was run by a committee headed by Sherry Booth, with Chad Keller as chair of the parade. Steve Kmetko, host of E! News Live, was grand marshal and the tradition of a Grand Marshal Reception

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

was started. Additionally in 2002, the Community Volunteer, Organization of the Year and the Pete Suazo Political Action Awards were created to recognize contributions to the community. The Utah Pride Interfaith Service was also added.

The 2002 committee tried to rebuild the image of Pride Day, but because Pride Day, Inc., had found itself in serious debt, the committee elected to be absorbed by the Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Utah, a move that generated much controversy in the community because of the secrecy surrounding the move.

The Utah Pride Center has provided direction for the event for the past decade and even changed its name to reflect this.

Under the auspices of the former Gay and Lesbian Community Center, the volunteer position of director of Pride Day, Inc., became salaried for the first time in 2003.

The same year a Dyke March was added to the annual Pride Day Parade. Donald Steward was the parade coordinator for three of those years.

In 2004, the Salt Lake City Film Center was asked to curate a series of films during Pride week that reflected the best in gay cinema. The Damn These Heels film festival was held annually thereafter.

2005 saw Pride Day organizers charging a first-time $5 admission fee for the events on Library Square and Washington Square.

This move generated considerable discontent, but eventually provided for higher quality performers at the celebration.

In 2009, Cleve Jones, during a rally at the Utah Pride Festival, called for a March on Washington to coincide with National Coming Out Day and kick off a grassroots campaign for equality in each of the nation’s 435 congressional districts to launch a new chapter in the gay-rights movement.

The grand marshals chosen under the direction of the Center were Kate Kendall, Bruce Bastian, Utah State Senator Scott McCoy, J. Boyer Jarvis, John Amaechi, Mayor Ralph Becker, Cleve Jones, Sister Dottie S. Dixon, Roseanne Barr and Dustin Lance Black.

The Kristen Ries Award recipients were Doug Wortham, Lucia Malin, Jane and Tami Marquardt, Utah State Rep. Jackie Biskupski, Doug Fadel, Stan Penfold, Walter Larabee, Mark Swonson, Michael Aaron and Valerie Larabee.

By 2010 Utah’s Pride Day Parade was listed as Utah’s second-largest parade and, in 2011, more than 100 float entries were listed. Q

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 51

Evans and Early Mortuary Serving all Faiths & Communities Since 1890 with affordable dignified services

Summer Never Sounded So Good!

Take a tour of our beautifully renovated facility 574 East 100 South, Salt Lake City, UT

801-355-5323 / Fax 801-355-6177 www.evans-earlymortuary.com evansandearly@gmail.com

Let My Experience Make Your Real Estate Experience a Great One! It’s My Pleasure!

My Partner and I sell property from Ogden to North Salt Lake and in Park City.

Selling Residential and Commercial Real Estate since 1991.

Call me for personal,professional,friendly service.

I love selling homes and the people I meet doing my job.

check out the full lineup at

WWW.REDBUTTEGARDEN.ORG

52 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

Dr. Kristen Ries Community Service Award recipients through the years

The first

9 4 2 6 1 8 7 3 5

8 5 1 7 3 2 6 9 4

6 7 3 9 5 4 1 8 2

3 9 5 8 4 7 2 1 6

2 1 7 3 6 9 5 4 8

4 6 8 1 2 5 9 7 3

5 7 2 4 3 8 6 9 1

9 4 3 1 7 6 2 8 5

6 1 8 5 9 2 7 4 3

3 4 2 5 9 1 7 8 6 3 1 5 4 2 9 8 3 1 7 6 5

5 9 1 7 6 8 2 3 4 8 6 9 5 1 7 6 4 9 3 8 2

6 7 8 2 4 3 1 9 5 2 4 7 8 3 6 5 7 2 1 4 9

6 4 3 1 5 7 2 9 8 4 5 3 6 1 2 8 7 9

7 9 8 4 2 6 5 3 1 9 8 7 4 3 5 6 2 1

2 5 1 3 9 8 6 7 4 1 2 6 8 7 9 5 4 3

3 6 4 9 1 5 8 2 7 2 3 9 1 8 6 4 5 7

9 7 5 2 8 3 4 1 6 7 1 5 3 2 4 9 6 8

1 8 2 7 6 4 9 5 3 8 6 4 9 5 7 3 1 2

Saving Lives, Transforming Communities

Cryptogram: THE ONLY QUEER PEOPLE ARE THOSE WHO DON’T LOVE ANYBODY.

Anagram: STEVE GRAND 1 8 4 5 9 6 3 2 7 9 5 4 1 6 8 3 9 2 5 4 7

801.686.4528

PUZZLE SOLUTIONS 7 3 6 2 8 1 4 5 9 6 8 1 3 7 2 8 4 5 6 9 1

Find us: facebook.com/OUTreachResourceCenters OutreachResourceCenters.org info@OutreachResourceCenters.org

1987 — Dr. Kristen Ries, M.D. 1988 — Rev. Bruce Barton 1989 — KUTV Channel 2

5 2 9 4 7 3 8 6 1 7 2 3 9 5 4 7 1 6 8 3 2

OUTreach Youth Resource Centers provide services to LGBTQ youth in Ogden, Logan, Tremonton, Brigham City and Clearfield. These centers offer basic needs supplies such as food, clothing, hygiene items, and camping supplies. Each week, youth participate in programming including education and employment programs, healthy sexuality classes, mentoring, Trans* & mental health support groups.

RECIPIENTS

8 2 6 4 7 1 3 5 9

Domestic Violence & Suicide Prevention Training

4 1 3 2 5 9 7 6 8

Life Skills Youth Mentoring Program

7 9 5 6 8 3 2 1 4

Education & Employment

6 3 7 1 2 4 9 8 5

Safe & Sound & Anti-bullying programs

2 4 9 5 3 8 1 7 6

5 Youth Drop-in Centers

1990 — Chuck Whyte 1991 — Nikki Boyer, Becky Moss, Ben Williams 1992 — The College of Monarchs of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, Craig Miller 1993 — Ben Barr, Val Mansfield, Kathy Worthington 1994 — Kim Russo 1995 — Bruce Harmon 1996 — Clariss Cartier (Doug Tollstrup), Charlene Orchard, Barb Barnhart 1997 — Rev. Kelly Byrnes, Jeff Freedman, Maggie Snyder 1998 — LaDonna Moore 1999 — Dr. Patty Reagan, Ph.D. 2000 — Marlin Criddle 2000 — Brenda Voisard 2001 — Laura Milliken Gray 2001 — Brook Heart-Song 2002 — Kevin Hillman 2003 — Doug Wortham 2004 — Luci Malin 2005 — Jane & Tami Marquardt 2006 — Jackie Biskupski 2007 — Doug Fadel 2008 — Stan Penfold 2009 — Walt Larabee 2010 — Mark Swonson 2011 — Michael Aaron 2012 — Valerie Larabee 2013 — Brandie Balken and Charles Lynn Frost 2014 — Mark Lawrence, Fran Pruyn

5 8 1 9 6 7 4 2 3

OUTreach Youth Services

Utah Pride community service award was created

by Donny Eastepp, Emperor XII of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, while serving as Gay Pride Day chair in 1987. The award was established to recognize outstanding service to the gay community.

It was presented to Dr. Kristen Ries, M.D., for her humanitarian efforts in dealing with the AIDS crisis. The community service award was afterward named in her honor.

It is the highest honor our community can bestow.

The Kristen Ries Community Service Award recipients, while seemingly diverse, have the love of community in common. They have, in their own unique ways, given time, money, service and commitment to building or supporting the gay and lesbian community. They are positive role models, and as with Dr. Kristen Ries, “exemplified everything that the award has stood for: compassion, leadership and courage.”

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 53

uchstone

When you want more than a wedding, you want...

Financial Expect Great Things

• Loans the banks and credit unions can't do.

• Much better rates than the competition • Help rebuild your credit • Convenient and flexible terms

Rev. Connie Anast-Inman Non-Denominational Wedding Minister

• Personal loans up to $10,000 for auto or other expenses • Bill Consolidation • Auto/Home Repairs • Quick Service-Answers in about an hour.

• Even apply online!

801-294-4169

Apply online at: www.touchstonefinancialloans.com

STREET GALLERY: MAY 16 - SEP 27

NEW GENRES GALLERY: MAY 16 - JUN 28

In Motion

Melik Ohanian

A group exhibition that offers alternative representations of the U.S./Mexico border.

The Utah desert as a precursor for Mars exploration.

BORDERS AND MIGRATIONS

WELCOME TO HANKSVILLE

20 S WEST TEMPLE • 84101 | UTAHMOCA.ORG TUE–THU & SAT 11AM–6PM • FRI 11AM–9PM

801-604-0341 RevConnieAnast@gmail.com

www.TheRevConnie.com

Weddings ♥ Vow Renewals ♥ Baby Blessings ♥ House Blessings Life Remembrances ♥ Special Events

Since 2007, hundreds of couples agree, Rev. Connie will deliver Your Perfect Moment!

54 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

Gear Up For Pride The Utah

Pride Festival is only a week away, making it the perfect time to rock a pink boa, leather harness and platforms while sashaying with a full-size rainbow flag down Main Street. But finding the glam and glitter gear necessary to bedazzle

best shops, boutiques and gift stores to stock up on everything from jewelry and T-shirts to tutus and rainbow collars for you and your animal companions.

Cahoots: This adult store and gift shop is a staple in the Utah gay community, conveniently located in one of the

and amaze during the most fabulous weekend of the year can be such a chore! No need to fret, because QSaltLake is recommending some the

queerest areas of town, the 9th & 9th District. From rainbowcolored socks to coffee mugs and all the gay magazines, Cahoots is a one-stop shop for all your Pride gear. The Pride selection is available all year, but is really beefed up during the early summer months. Feather boas, T-shirts, adult toys, lube, bracelets, belt buckles, beer cozies and other trinkets are available at this queer-affirming store.

Cahoots is located at 878 E. 900 South. It’s open daily, 10 a.m. to 9 p.m.

Cabin Fever: This eclectic store has an enormous selection of gifts, cards and other fabulous items. Pride flags, pins and other items are available. Located in Trolley Square in the building next to Whole Foods, Cabin Fever is one of the best options for rainbow-shopping

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

in Utah.

Cabin Fever is located at 700 East and 600 South. It’s open Monday-Saturday, 10 a.m.-9 p.m., and Sunday, noon-5 p.m.

Pride Clothing: Nothing says pride like a rainbow T-shirt or a “Legalize Gay” tank top.

While shopping for all the other gear, stop by Hot Topic in the Gateway or Fashion Place malls, American Apparel in Trolley Square, and Our Store in downtown Salt Lake for all the queer-themed clothing.

Unhinged: The local boutique-style clothing and vintage store for men and women will transport you out of Utah and into a place where well-dressed individuals are the norm and the stores aren’t all corporations. Think Urban Outfitters, with a shop-local Utah twist.

Stop by for bright-colored jeans and other adorable handmade and locally made items. It’s located at 1121 E. 2100 South.

Underwear: Nothing says Pride like strutting around in

a pair of low-cut Andrew Christian briefs or a rainbow-colored pair of Calvin Kleins. For a great pair of undies to show off your “pride,” visit Spark/Cockers and Mischievous Pleasures. From jockstraps to wrestling singlets and all the latest designer briefs and swimwear, these two locally owned stores are just chock full of pride. They’re both great for stocking up on lube, condoms and other pride necessities.

Spark/Cockers is located in Trolley Square at 700 East and 600 South.

Mischievous Pleasures is located at 559 S. 300 West. Q

june, 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 55

young, old, gay, straight, bi, trans, married, partnered, single, divorced, looking, sinner, saint, seeker, d o u b t e r , b e l i e v e r , agnostic, spiritual but not religious, native, immigrant, citizen, alien, got-it-all-together, life-long screw up, black, brown, white, pink, pacifist, militarist, addicted, convicted, conflicted, recovering, discovering, life-long member, just walked in the door, strong, weak, scared, confident, parent, child, male, female, not sure, loner, cool-kid, geek, tree hugger, jock, rich, poor, in the middle, republican, democrat, green party, tea party, young, old, gay, straight, bi, trans, married, partnered, single, divorced, looking, sinner, saint, seeker, doubter, believer, agnostic, spiritual but not religious, native, immigrant, citizen, alien, got-it-all-together, life-long screw up, black, brown, white, pink, pacifist, militarist, addicted, convicted, conflicted, recovering, discovering, life-long member, just walked in the door, strong, weak, scared, confident, parent, child, male, female, not sure, loner, cool-kid, geek, tree hugger, jock, rich, poor, in the middle, republican, democrat, green party, tea party, young, old, gay, straight, bi, trans, married, partnered, single, divorced, looking, sinner, saint, seeker, doubter, believer, agnostic, spiritual but not religious, native,

Jesus didn’t turn people away

LDS and LGBT? I can help you I am an LDS LGBT affirming therapist, trained and specializing in helping those experiencing sexual, religious & social conflicts, including LDS individuals.

Hollie Hancock

Neither do we.

M.S., CMHC

(385) 242-3529

First Baptist Church

43 W 9000 S Suite B1 Sandy, UT 84070

Not what you expect, but maybe what you are looking for.

www.firstbaptist-slc.org 800 S. and 1300 E.

A down-to-earth law firm that aims for solutions, not fights We help you develop the most cost-effective strategy to meet your goals for your case.

Our mission is to give a voice to underrepresented people and to empower our clients through a wide variety of legal services.

Our tool box includes cooperative negotiation and aggressive advocacy, depending on what the situation calls for.

Danielle Hawkes, Esq. Hawkes Legal Services, PLLC 801-243-5669 10 E. Exchange Place, Suite 622 Salt Lake City, UT 84111 danielle@hawkesjustice.com ww www.hawkesjustice.com

ESPAÑOL, PORTUGUÉS

New Location 234 W 900 S

Lunch Fast & Convenient Destination Dining Chef Tasting Menu

Craft Cocktails - Sustainable Wines Local Beers - Champagne Brunches

Private Dining The Jade Room

Corporate Lunches Birthday Parties Wedding Receptions “Celebrating 15 years of SLC’s Best Vegetarian Restaurant”

wwwsagescafe.com

Nuevo!

We practice Family, Criminal and LGBT Law

56 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | UTAH PRIDE GUIDE 2014 PULL-OUT SECTION

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june, 2014

Look for the NEW 2014 QPages

Available at Pride, at over 200 locations across the Wasatch Front and qpages.com

FABBY AWARDS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 57

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Q2014

RUNNERS-UP: KEVIN GUZIK, ALEX DAVIDSON

salt lake

Best Lawyer

FABBY

AWARDS

There has not been a FABBY Award edition that hasn’t had some level of screw-up since the dawning of the FABBY. This year’s was a doozy.

The entire Services section left out of the May issue. The good news is — this is the PRIDE issue! More readers, more exposure, more suckup-edness from staff.

Services

RUNNERS-UP: THE DOG SHOW, TEACUP NANNIES

Best Piercing Studio

Best Gym

When asked about church attendance, most of us say we are regulars. Of course we mean going to the gym. 24 Hour Fitness brought a Pacific Coast gym atmosphere to Utah almost 15 years ago opening in Sugarhouse. Now we can sweat it out at 7 full service fitness clubs from Provo to Trolley Square.

RUNNERS-UP: THE GYM, PLANET FITNESS

Best Pet Groomer

Whether it’s daycare, grooming, boarding or training, Dogs R Us is a fun place for dogs.

The canines can play In a big play area outside and lounge in a climate controlled indoor play area.. The team at Dogs R Us will give your dog the best possible care for whatever service you choose

In an artsy looking corner building on 11th East and 9th South is the home Fabby Koi Piercing. Huge selection of bangles and bobbles to decorate every body part. A very hip and friendly staff do their thing in a very nice, clean, safe environment.

Best Real Estate Agent

Mary means it when she says, “My success is measured by your satisfaction.” She works hard for the money and the community — board member of both SAGE and Utah Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. Did we mention she’s the associate broker at Influence Real Estate?

RUNNERS-UP: KELLY FAVERO, BABS DE LAY

Best Counseling

Jerry Buie has been providing counsel-

ing services to LGBT community for over a decade. “Gay clients should not have to educate their therapist about their mindset or validate their lifestyle,” he says on his web site.

This is probably one of the reasons he’s won a FABBY in this category for as long as there have been FABBY Awards.

RUNNERS-UP: DON AUSTIN, UTAH PRIDE CENTER

Dani is a partner at The Salt Lake Lawyers, whose mission it is to provide efficient, creative, cost-effective services and solutions to their clients. She has won many awards and has been recognized for her pro bono work. She co-founded Rainbow Law, a free legal clinic focusing on LGBT law in Salt Lake City, and was president of OutLaws, S.J. Quinney’s queer student group.

RUNNERS-UP: CHRIS WHARTON, JESSE NIX, PEGGY TOMSIC

Best Photographer

We might as well name this award after him.

David (or Dav.d) is at many, many gay functions with a camera glued to his eye. He likes to shoot events and weddings of all kinds and portrait work in interesting settings.

RUNNERS-UP: CAT PALMER, ALEX GALLIVAN

Best Caterer

If you are at a swank event in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and ally community, you are most certainly enjoying the food of Le Croissant Catering.

The family team of John and Kelly Lake, Chris Lake, Christopher Sanchez and the rest of the team know how make your event the talk of the town, from incredible food to

creative presentation.

Remember the Love Elevated Mass Wedding Reception? Wouldn’t have happened without Le Croissant. Next up: Utah Pride Festival’s Grand Marshal reception.

Best Insurance Agent

Jon Jepsen gives back to his community, and people see it.

Jepsen is on the Utah Pride Center Board of Directors and was on the Salt Lake City Human Rights Commission, was Equality Utah Allies Dinner Chairman and has many initials after his name on his business card, which reads his title as “Insurance Artist.”

RUNNERS-UP: STEVEN FISHER, JANET SILOTTI

Best Chiropractor

In just a few short years, the Joint has become a major part of the community — and not just LGBTQ. Sugar House is a better place because of owner James Adelman’s leadership in the Sugarhouse business and cultural community. It’s a formula which works, The Joint has been at the top if not the top location in the nationwide franchise.

Best Massage

Joni is a leader in our community and helps rub your cares awayeither in her Murray/Holladay studio or at your place.

Check her Facebook page for specials.

Winner

2013 and 2014

Fabby Award

“Best Chiropractic Clinic”

no appointments convenient hours chiropractic physicians

1126 E. 2100 S Sugar House in Whole Foods Center

(801) 467-8683 M-F 10-7, Sa-Su 10-5

6910 S. Highland Dr Cottonwood Heights in Whole Foods Center

(801) 943-3163 M-F 10-7, Sa 10-4

saltlakecitychiropractor-thejoint.com *Offer valid for first visit only. Member rates start at $12.25 per visit. Initial visit includes consultation, exam and adjustment. - Dr. Sean Smith, Chiropractic Physician

58 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 2014 FABBY AWARDS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

Tony’s Gay Agenda A On

26thursday — UTAH

the heels

ARTS FESTIVAL

of Utah Pride hoarding the grounds of Washington Square, this festival attracts shiny, sparkly art, baby strollers, dogs, smokers incognito and heavenly scented mobile facilities...much like Utah Pride, and who doesn’t want to herd through it all twice in one month.

Hours vary, through June 29, Washington and Library Squares. Online Tickets $8 or $30 weekend package, uaf.org.

SPORTING EVENTS The Pride Softball League is in full swing and today Team Try-Angles squares off with the Utah Film Center. A bar team against a bunch of movie buffs, the anticipation of who will win is ball-scorching.

But please, a bar team playing softball at 10 am on a Sunday?!!

That’s just cray-cray.

1sunday — PRIDE SOFTBALL LEAGUE: TEAM TRY-ANGLES VS. UTAH FILM CENTER Sunnyside Park, 1735 E. Sunnyside Ave., 10am. Free, prideleague.com

SPECIAL ENGAGEMENT The Imperial Rainbow Court of Northern Utah lights up the night with glitz and glamzillas. This should be just as fabulous as RuPaul’s Drag Race Reunited. Well, wait a minute, I don’t think it could top Chaz Bono dissing one of the finalists. That hussy!!

14saturday

— GAY NORTHERN LIGHTS PAGEANT Fraternal Order of Eagles, 5130 S. 1700 West, Roy, 7:30pm.

Tickets $6 at the door.

CONCERTS There a little something for everyone this month: A Provo-based band with a gay, Mormon lead singer; an icon in R&B and jazz music; a symphonic tribute to America; and, an alternative prop-rock band.

16monday — NEON TREES The Complex, 536 W. 100 South, 6:30pm. Tickets $22, 24tix.com

24tuesday

— NATALIE COLE Red Butte Garden, 300 Wakara Way, UofU, 7:30pm. Tickets $42-47, redbuttegarden.org 27friday — Patriotic Celebration at Sundance Sundance Resort, 8841 Alpine Loop Rd., Sundance, 8pm.

Tickets $18, arttix.org

29sunday

— ICARUS THE OWL Metro Bar, 540 W. 200 South, 8pm. Tickets $6, 24tix.com (21 and over)

MOVIES Two inspirational flicks set in California….that scorched slice of the American dream.

2sunday —

TRANSVISIBLE: THE BAMBY SALCEDO STORY City Library, 210 E. 400 South, 2pm. Free, utahfilmcenter.org 13friday — THE CASE AGAINST 8 City Library, 210 E. 400 South, 7pm. Free, utahfilmcenter.org

DANCE Inspired by the memoir “Just Kids” by Patti Smith (on the Bohemian lifestyle), this program by SB Dance company is a “dance circus spectacle.”

6friday — THE

PUSHERS Black Box Theater, Rose Wagner Center,138 W. 300 South, 8pm through June 15.

Tickets $15, arttix.org.

A&E | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 59

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Mary Tebbs’ Landscape Of Love

BY GIANNI PIETRELLA

There are

singers, and there are songwriters.

One of my pet peeves about the music industry is that songwriters so rarely get their due credit, whether it be in the area of recognition, money, or sometimes actual credit for writing the song. Quick side note, without looking it up, who wrote “Tainted Love?” Not Gloria Jones who first recorded it in 1964, although it is by far my favorite version. And certainly not Marc Almond of Soft Cell who sold over a million copies of the single written by…Ed Cobb.

At the heart of it, Mary Tebbs is a songwriter, and a very good songwriter at that. But she is a gifted and talented singer as well. This also puts her into the silly and unfortunate category of “singer songwriter.” (That’s like calling a chef a “cooker eater.”) With Mary however, while she is singing her own songs, she is dabbling from genre to genre without ever getting too comfortable in any one groove. If this “album” were a house, it is a house of many windows of all shapes and sizes. That’s what makes her latest CD, Landscape of Love Vols. 1 & 2, so appealing. It is appropriately titled, as it is a landscape of the many things in the picture as opposed to a portrait with

a central figure or theme.

That’s more than likely also the reason for the two volumes on this one CD. There are 18 songs on Landscape of Love, enough to easily fill two discs. This brings up the obvious question that the old 70’s double LP always asked… “Is it two albums or one album with a bunch of extra songs nobody wants to hear?”

The answer here is yes; it’s two albums in one disc that does not have a bunch of extra songs nobody wants to hear. Quite the contrary, as most all of these songs stand alone in breadth and range while pinpointing each ones purpose of story.

Volume 1 opens with “Missing You” that touts great lines like “There’s no one to blame for the pain that I hold onto, but I hold it tight cause it’s all I have of you.”

She opens each window in this house one at a time, with differing and varied degrees of passion, intimacy and soul bearing pain. Some are opened to let something in, and some are opened to let something out. Nonetheless you can’t just open or close any of these windows and just look.

You have to listen and let it happen. Let the story unfold.

Some of the stories are about her, while there are several different songs that are tailored to different people; Lovers, friends, past and present, and not just to the obvious gay woman audience, (there are several people she’s singing about and directly to) but to anyone who has been in, and thusly

struggled at times in a relationship. Along with that struggle though are the moments of happiness, love and true feelings. Some are not always understood but put to words in Mary’s unique sculpted way as in the song “Beautiful” which starts Volume 2, “My lips try to shape the words, my heart’s pounding out loud and clear.”

Who hasn’t been in love, true deep love and struggled for the words to match the precise beauty of someone you have fallen for? That’s one of the great mysteries of life and why people (whether they admit it or not) love to fall in love.

Mary Tebbs has clearly dug deep with these songs. This isn’t a cup of coffee and an mp3 download. This is a bottle of wine and an evening of soul searching. After all, that’s what love is, isn’t it? We humans are searching our hearts to find, experience and understand the many textures, levels and nuances of love.

That is the other reason why I say this album is appropriately titled. It’s about the Landscape of Love. It’s about being nervous, needing someone next to you, giving into passion, sex or partnership. It’s about loving someone who is gone, or having to say goodbye to someone you still love.

It’s about feeling vulnerable and scared.

It’s about feeling knocked over with pure excitement about, you guessed it… love.

Mary performs at Pride on Sunday, June 8 at 3pm on the KRCL stage. Q

60 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | ARTS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

interview

Gee Golly, It’s

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

When Dolly

Parton calls you, greeting you by name with her unmistakable Tennessee twang, it’s a good idea to immediately establish that the lady on the line is the actual legend herself.

“Am I talking to the real Dolly or is this an impersonator?” I ask, just to be sure.

Proving she’s as sharp as the icon she’s become over the last six decades — easily the most honored female country music artist of all time, inspiring drag queens galore — Parton is quick with her comeback: “Oh, there’s no such thing as a real Dolly. I’m as real as you’re gonna get!”

Very real, as it turns out.

Currently promoting her 42nd studio album, Blue Smoke, Parton talked about the country music community evolving beyond labeling gay people “perverse,” addressed rumors of her recent lesbian wedding and dished tit tips to drag queens (more stuffing, girls).

Outside of the rhinestones and big platinum hair, why do gay people identify and empathize with you? Did you say empathize or sympathize? (Laughs) I think there’s some of both! Actually, I’ve been around so long people just kind of feel like they know me. They’ve seen me enough. I’m more like a favorite aunt or an older sister or somethin’, so I just think people know so much about me they just feel like I’m part of them. I hope that’s what they think. That’s what it seems like!

I see you as our fairy godmother. (Laughs) Yeah, I do look like the fairy godmother!

You’ve acknowledged that you felt like an outsider since you were a kid. “Coat of Many Colors” really is about feeling different. What role has that feeling of being an outsider played in the relationship that you have with the gay community? Well, I do believe that I have a lot of gay fans because I think they do accept me as I am — the differences in me — and I think they know that I see that and love that in everybody else. I am not a judgmental person. I’m a very loving and accepting person. I try to see the good in everybody, and I don’t care who people are as long as they’re themselves, whatever that is. That old saying “to thine own self be true” — no truer words were ever spoken, and I’m just honored and proud to be accepted.

It’s more than just you being non-judgmental. You said growing up you felt different, something many gay people can empathize with. Do you sense that relationship? Yes, I do. I’ve always felt that.

I’ve always felt that’s one of the things that’s drawn my gay fans to me. They do know that I do feel different, and all of my life I will be different. I always have been.

But I enjoy and appreciate and respect that difference in myself just like I do in other people. God made me the way that I am and it’s my business to be true to that.

If everyone was free of judgment like you are, what might the world be like? It’d be a lot better, I can tell you that. But people love to hate, and it’s just unfortunate but that’s the way it is. People like to judge, they like to condemn, they won’t accept anything they don’t understand — that’s just too bad. We have to work at those things anyway, but most people are not willing to. A lot of people are just blind and they’re not seeing through the spiritual eye, and we need to look that way and then we would be more forgiving, more loving and more accepting.

ARTS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 61

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

You were one of the first major country artists to advocate for gay rights. Why did you decide to take that step and stand up for LGBT equality? Why wouldn’t I stand up for everybody, for all people?

In the country field, we’re brought up in spiritual homes, we’re taught to “judge not lest you be judged,” and it’s always been a mystery to me how people jump all over things just to criticize, condemn and judge other people when that is so un-Christian — and they claim to be good Christians!

We’re supposed to love one another. We’re supposed to accept and love one another.

Whether we do or not, that’s a different story. But that’s what we’re supposed to do.

What are your thoughts on the progress the country music community has been making as a whole when it comes to embracing its gay listeners? In defense of a lot of people, they didn’t have as true of an understanding as they do now. Now people really see that this is real, these are real people with real feelings, that this is who they really are. I think a lot of people, anytime you talked about gay people, thought “perverse.”

Now, they’re being more educated that this is who people really are. There’s just been so much made of [gay rights] in the last two or three years, and it’s been brought to the front so people can really see it and be like, “Yeah, I guess there are a lot more gay people than we ever knew!

I have a better understanding of it now.

I know that these people are for real.” I think they’re getting that now.

I think it was just a lack of knowledge.

And when you’re with someone, of course you should have your rights. You’re gonna be with who you’re gonna be with even if you starve to death and have no privileges and no rights. I think people understand that more now.

You’ve been such a wonderful ally to us ... so much so that people have actually mistaken you as a lesbian yourself. (Laughs) Well, you know what, it’s true. In fact, there was some story recently (in the National Enquirer) where I was supposedly marrying my longtime friend Judy [Ogle] and that my husband was OK with it! I thought, “Where did they come up with all this?” I am not gay, but if I were I would be the first one running out of the closet.

And right into Judy’s arms? Yeah, who knows! I might’ve said, “Judy, you wanna get something going with me?” (Laughs) But our friendship is just a precious friendship.

What do you say to “From Here to the Moon and Back,” your love duet with Willie Nelson on Blue Smoke, being used for the first dance at a gay wedding? I would be honored. That would be a beautiful wedding song, “From Here to the Moon and Back” — wow! People often use “I Will Always Love You” — I wrote “I Will Always Love You” as a wedding song too — and it really kind of speaks to that, but yeah, “From Here to the Moon and Back” would be a beautiful wedding song.

If you get married, you can play it!

What is something about your life that people would be most surprised by? I can’t imagine a thing that people don’t already know about me. I think people would be surprised at how really at-home I am. I look like a party doll but I’m very home-lovin’. I’m a homebody, and I’m family-oriented. I don’t get out much unless it’s a special occasion. So I guess people might be surprised at just how calm I really am.

When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? I see ways to improve myself. I’ve never been a true beauty and I’m always thinking, “I need to do this, or I

could look better than that,” but I guess we all have that.

You’ve said that drag queens do you better than you. Have you learned anything about yourself from watching people impersonate you? Most of the drag queens are about six feet tall already ... and then they put on those high heels! I ain’t big as a minute, so I always think, what I’ve learned about myself is, I’m not tall. I’m definitely even shorter than I knew I was!

But actually, I am very honored when the drag queens all do their thing because I think it’s a big compliment. I get a big kick out of some of them. Some of them are really good! Some of them are … comical.

Some of them are so good you once lost a look-alike contest that you were in. (Laughs) I entered one of the Dolly look-alike contests down on Santa Monica at one of the gay clubs down there — I lived right up the street — so I just kind of over exaggerated myself and went and joined the party and walked across the stage. I got less applause than anybody. It’s pretty bad when I lose a Dolly Parton lookalike contest!

If you were a drag queen, what would be your drag name? P. Titty … like P. Diddy!

What tips do you have for drag queens who want to get your bust size just right? Oh heavens ... I’m so little is why my boobs look so big. But [drag queens] are already big! They’re gonna need to really do some paddin’! I’m larger than life, so just get them boobs the way that they fit into proportion to your body. Put it out there, whatever your imagination is of me. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

62 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | A&E

10 practical wedding gifts for your gay buddies

BY MIKEY ROX

Wedding season unofficially kicks off this month, and with more and more states deeming same-sex marriages legal you’re bound to receive an invitation to your friends’ fabulous nuptials any minute. And that means you’ll need to buy a gift.

Instead of sticking to the registry, however – do they really need more stuff? – think outside the Crate and Barrel box.

1. MOVING CREW Remember the last time you moved and you swore you’d never do it again without the help of (preferably hard-bodied, shirtless) movers? If your just-married pals are relocating soon, do them a solid and hire the same for them. Granted, this can be quite pricey, so if you can’t afford to hire several hours of full-service moving, get your best group of gays to commit to helping the couple start anew.

The only cost of going this route is time and energy, plus you’ll get in a great workout without having to go to the gym.

2. DANCE CLASSES If the two who are saying “I do” have four left feet, present them with a prewedding gift of dancing lessons. Attending several sessions a few months before the wedding will give the rug-cutting duo more confidence on the dance floor when they take center stage as husbands or wives for the first time.

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

3. HOME REPAIR SUPPLIES

8. FRISQUE GAY BOX MEMBERSHIP

Home repairs (even small ones) start to add up quickly. Gift painting essentials – trays, rollers, brushes and drop cloths – with a gift certificate to a nearby hardware store so they can choose their favorite colors to freshen up their home.

There are numerous sextoy subscription services available these days, but most of them cater to the hetero crowd. Enter Frisque Box, a sensual subscription service that caters specifically to gay and lesbian couples. Boxes filled with bedroom toys and other pleasure products to keep the spark flickering and frolicsome are sent bimonthly, discreetly to their doorstep, for $55 per cycle. If you don’t want to commit to a year’s worth of service, there’s also a Frisque Honeymoon Box, which is a onetime only purchase.

9. Deep Cleaning Service We gays like to keep a clean house (most of us anyway), and while weekly spot cleaning is a breeze, the twiceyearly deep clean is a burden. Help ease it for your freshly married friends – who should be spending their first year having fun under the sheets instead of sweeping behind the stove – by surprising them with several hours of cleaning services scheduled for the beginning of spring and fall. Q

4. COOKING LESSONS Cooking isn’t everyone’s favorite hobby, but it’s one of those few daily opportunities of which spouses can take advantage to grow closer by creating something they’ll both savor. If your friends aren’t exactly kitchen savvy, introduce them to the wonderful world of from-scratch satisfaction with cooking lessons. Private lessons can be held in their home, or you can find a local establishment that offers lessons.

5. HOME-BREWED CRAFT BEER If your pals are known beer lovers, add a personal touch to one of their favorite beverages by brewing a case of homemade suds. To add even more flair, dress the bottles with custom labels that you can order online that celebrates their wedding day.

7. HITCHSWITCH GIFT CARD It’s not as common in gay marriages as it is in straight unions for one partner to change their last name to the other partner’s, but plenty of LGBT couples are traditionalists – and more power to them. To make the name-changing process stress-free, set them up with HitchSwitch, an online name-changing service that removes all the hassle of assembling, filling out and filing forms for just $50.

Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and blogger who lives with his husband and their cuddle-buddy furbaby. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.

GARDEN | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 63

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

June Gardening Tips If you didn’t do so in May, begin planting very tender plants such as cantaloupe, eggplant, lima bean, pepper, pumpkin, tomato, watermelon and winter squash.

Start spraying fruit trees.

Treat trees and shrubs for borers.

Thin apple, peach and apricot trees.

Fertilize annual flowers and vegetables.

Make sure soil is getting watered deeply by checking down 4-6” with a garden trowel.

Start building compost for your yard.

Apply the second application of pre-emergent to lawns to control pesky summer annual weeds such as crabgrass and spurge.

Mow the lawn 2 ½ to 3 inches high, and water with about 1 ½ inches of water per week.

Begin spraying cherries to control worms once the cherries turn from green to a pinkish color, and continue spraying according to pesticide directions.

Watch for fire-blight in pear and apple trees and remove any infections before they begin to spread.

Prune spring-blooming shrubs such as lilacs, and forsythia after they bloom.

15 to avoid problems with Mexican bean beetles.

Plant peppers in the vegetable garden once the weather has heated up.

Give corn an extra shot of nitrogen when or if the lower leaves turn slightly yellow.

Fertilize and apply a systemic to roses.

Deadhead all faded perennial blossoms.

Apply a registered fungicide to Jonathan-type apple trees and others that are susceptible to powdery mildew.

Plant green beans after June

Utah State University Botanical Center

Millcreek Gardens

64 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | FOOD&DRINK

food & drink Live Organic Vegetarian Gluten Free Food

Try Our Bean Burrito!

2148 Highland Drive

801-486-0332

www.omarsrawtopia.com

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

Whiskey Street JOSHUA JONES AND MATT ANDRUS

Drinkers

will know what I’m talking about. In Utah, a schism exists between our restaurants and bars. There are great restaurants that offer an unsophisticated drink menu, and there are bars which serve lackluster food. It reflects where the owner’s passion’s lie as well as Utah’s bridled and archaic liquor laws. There are certainly places trying to bridge this gap like Beerhive, Bayou and Garage, all of which are terrific, but Main Street’s Whiskey Street is a beautiful hybrid with artful food, an incredible drink program, all served in a delightful ambiance.

It was Brigham Young who gave Whiskey Street its name, well not exactly, but he did refer to this portion of Main Street between 200 and 300 South as Whiskey Street until 1906 when it was officially changed to Main Street. From the owners of Bourbon House, Whiskey Street has a more polished presentation both in food and design. The gorgeous and masculine 72-foot-long Cherry-wood bar looks like it has been there forever but was built in just two weeks before opening. But it’s the drinks they are concocting behind the bar that are the real stars. Stylish and classic cocktails like the Sazarac and a Pimm’s Cup are hand-crafted and made with love.

From the specialty cocktail list, The Brown Derby with Bourbon, honey syrup and grapefruit juice is a perfect balance of bitterness, sweetness and acidity.

A novel addition to the menu is a liquor and beer pairing where you might want to try 1.5 ounces of Cazadores Repasado Tequila paired with Park City Brewing’s Baja Especial… it should go without saying that these combinations sneak up on your lucidity as well as your wallet pretty quickly.

An approachable wine list accompanies a comprehensive beer selection from around the world. But it is the whiskey selection that will delight any brown-liquor drinkers. I counted around 145 options from Pappy Van Winkle to Johnnie Walker’s King George V. I wanted to try something new and the bartender led me to Pig’s Nose, a single malt from the lowlands with a light touch of peat. I was impressed by the bartender’s knowledge as well as a gift to translate my yearnings into a perfect evening drink.

The food menu is equally interesting with a great variety of small appetizers to entrees that are serious appetite-quenchers. The bourbon, bacon, caramel popcorn and the curried cashews, Moroccan spiced peanuts and pecans are a great place to start the mulling of the menu. Both offer complex flavors that pair nicely with a cocktail. On a cold afternoon the Jack Daniels black bean buffalo chili was a source of warmth and big flavor; it is meaty, spicy and is topped with fontina and a cilantro lime crème fraiche. On another visit a bright, classic chopped salad with prosciutto, brined chicken breast, red onion and Kalamata olives was topped with an extra-creamy blue cheese dressing.

The sandwiches and entrees will not leave you disappointed either. The Cuban with braised pork belly, house-smoked tasso ham, was served with bubbling gruyere and a spicy-sweet mango mostarda on a ciabatta bun. The sandwich was more complex than your typical Cuban while remaining true to its roots. Sophisticated entrees like seared scallops, steak au poivre, and a blackened ahi served with chevre chile relleno and a smoked tomato cream cemented our party’s feeling that Whiskey Street is aiming much higher than Bourbon House, or really, anything else on Main Street.

Whiskey Street is a delightful space for after-work drinks and appetizers but a bit of warning that the room fills up quickly and it doesn’t take long before its standing room only. At this point, the service can slow considerably as waiters are playing ping pong with the patrons. My advice is to arrive early to ensure you’ll get a table; you’ll want to make an evening of it anyway, as you work through those 140 whiskeys.

WHISKEY STREET 325 South Main whiskeystreet.com

FOOD&DRINK | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 65

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

dining guide FINN’S CAFE

Trolley Square 600 E Side 801-363-1000 Quick cuisine using as much local and organically grown ingredients as possible. With a 100% plant-based and 100% gluten-free menu, the community can enjoy a refreshing meal and drink to stay or on the go.

EGGS IN THE CITY 1675 E 1300 S 801-581-0809 Breakfast or lunch in a friendly, warm and hip environment. The converted garage is now a stylish, enticing eatery.

Try the eggs Benedict, French toast, customtailored omelets, huevos rancheros or cheese blintzes for breakfast.

FOR PEOPLE TO COME IN AND HAVE A BITE TO EAT. COFFEE BURGERS SANDWICHES SOUPS SALADS APPETIZERS BREAKFAST BRUNCH POOL TABLE VIDEO GAMES OPEN Mon-Thur 8a–6p Friday 7a-3p AND After Bar Closing Fridays and Saturdays

259 W 900 S 801 364-4307

www.offtraxslc.com

1624 S 1100 E 801-467-4000 Family owned and operated for 62 years, Finn’s Cafe has been a large part of Utah’s fine dining heritage, specializing in both Norwegian and traditional dishes for breakfast and lunch.

Full barista bar, fresh squeezed juices, and inhouse bakery.

OFF TRAX  offtraxslc.com 259 W 900 S 801-364-4307 Home of the Happy Hangover. Breakfast, lunch. Sunday brunch and weekend afterhours. Gay-owned and operated. Next to Club Try-Angles.

OMAR’S RAWTOPIA  omarsrawtopia.com

2148 S Highland Dr 801-486-0332 Omar prepares all raw, live and organic food from scratch with absolute love to create amazing food that is powerfully healing for your mind, body, and spirit.

SAGE’S CAFE 234 W 900 S 801-322-3790 Your favorite vegetarian restaurant is moving to Ninth South with a slough of other owneroperated, locally owned restaurants. Watch for their reopening in December.

SQUATTERS PUB BREWERY  squatters.com 147 W 300 S 801-363-2739 Salt Lake’s original brew

Next to Club Try-Angles, Half Block from TRAX in the NEW Gayborhood!

Home of the Happy Hangover Sunday Brunch 11am–2pm Q PON

Free Soda or Coffee with food purchase

pub featuring awardwinning fresh brewed beers, lunch, dinner and weekend brunch.

Private banquet facilities available.

SQUATTERS ROADHOUSE GRILL & PUB  www.squatters.com 1900 Park Ave, Park City 435-649-9868 Park City’s brewpub features breakfast, lunch and dinner daily and is a full liquor licensee, serving both Squatters and Wasatch Beers.

VERTICAL DINER 2280 S West Temple 801-484-8378 Vegan diner serving down-home comfort food and breakfast all day. Specialties include fried faux chicken, blueberry pancakes, and

hand cut french fries.

Also serving fair trade coffee, tea, chocolate, and more.

WASATCH BREW PUB  wasatchbeers.com 250 Main, Park City 435-645-0900 At the top of Main Street and a local favorite since 1989, Wasatch Brew Pub serves lunch, dinner and weekend brunch, along with award winning beers and full liquor service.

Private banquet facilities available.

ZEST KITCHEN & BAR 275 S 200 W 801-433-0589 Zest kitchen & bar melds healthy food and fresh, hand crafted drinks within a modern, social environment.

New Location 234 W 900 S

Lunch Fast & Convenient Destination Dining Chef Tasting Menu

Craft Cocktails - Sustainable Wines Local Beers - Champagne Brunches

Private Dining The Jade Room

Corporate Lunches Birthday Parties Wedding Receptions “Celebrating 15 years of SLC’s Best Vegetarian Restaurant”

wwwsagescafe.com

Nuevo!

CAFE SUPERNATURAL

66 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | FOOD & DRINK

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

wine terriorist At Wine-Focused Restaurants, Embrace the Unknown

BY DAVID WHITE

“Representing

real people who make real wine has always been very important to me,” explained Danny Fisher, the general manager and beverage director of Ripple, a wine-focused restaurant in Washington, D.C. “When you’re drinking wine — or any kind of beverage, really — you want to know that someone has put time and effort into it. It shouldn’t be mass produced, toyed with, or manipulated.”

Fisher and I were chatting about the wisdom — or foolishness — of loading up a restaurant wine list with small-production, unfamiliar offerings.

Sure, Americans have fallen for wine. We surpassed France as the world’s largest wineconsuming nation in 2010 and have been drinking more each year. But consumers still feel most comfortable with major grapes like Cabernet Sauvignon, Chardonnay, Pinot Noir, and Sauvignon Blanc. And most stick with easily recognized brands, like Duckhorn, Kendall-Jackson, and Chateau Ste. Michelle.

In restaurants and wine bars across the country, however, a growing number of courageous sommeliers are eschewing these obvious choices and gently guiding patrons outside their comfort zones. These efforts are having

an impact. Thanks in no small part to people like Fisher, Americans are beginning to embrace the unknown.

Consider Ripple’s by-the-glass list. It’s home to 40 different wines, including an unusual blend of Vermentino and Grenache Blanc from maverick California vintner Steve Edmunds; an orange wine from Channing Daughters on Long Island; and a Teroldego from superstar Italian winemaker Elisabetta Foradori.

“From the beginning, one of our biggest things was that we wanted people to be able to taste different wines — and that’s why we have so many by the glass,” Fisher explained. “It’s so our customers can explore what different wines taste like with foods.

You can do half glasses if you want; it’s all about tasting and seeing what you like and maybe discovering something new.”

The focus on food is echoed

by David McCarus, the propri-

Deer Valley Resort, Riverhorse on Main

What are you craving?

Find it here > ParkCityRestaurants.com Your complete guide to Park City area dining — an easy 35-minute drive away.

etor of a boutique wine distribution agency in South Carolina.

While the general manager and beverage director of FIG, an award-winning restaurant in Charleston, he focused on the interaction of wine with food and the role wine should play at the table. And he saw how eager consumers were to learn.

When McCarus moved to Charleston from San Francisco in 2012, he wasn’t sure he would find a receptive clientele.

“I didn’t know if there was an appetite in town,” he explained.

“But I had a strong enough belief that people would understand the wine program if it made the food taste better. Consumers might not know what they’re looking for. They might not really know what they want. But if the wine and food can combine into this organic dance — and it makes sense while it’s happening — people will be comfortable.

And people will come back.”

McCarus saw his patrons come back again and again. A successful wine program satisfies virtually every customer, of course, so McCarus made sure to always have something for everyone, even if it was obscure and didn’t match the exact request.

“My point was always, ‘why don’t we try this?’” he continued.

“So If someone comes in and asks for a glass of Pinot Grigio, we can say, ‘no, we don’t have a glass of Pinot Grigio, but we have this beautiful Erbaluce from Piedmont made by this great producer and it’s really delicious and it will be really good with your fish.”

What McCarus and Fisher have done isn’t unique. Nationwide, more and more sommeliers are showcasing small-production, interesting wines — and providing opportunities for people to try things that aren’t available at the local supermarket. They’re acting as educators, eager to share their palates and preferences with their customers.

The wine world is vast. And thanks to this work, Americans are beginning to make all sorts of discoveries. Q David White is Terroirist.com

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

A&E | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 67

May 22-25 June 12-13

JIMMY WEBB June 14-15

June 27-28 T H E AT R E

328 Main Street, Park City

ParkCityShows.com

435.649.9371

68 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | COMICS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

anagram AN ANAGRAM IS A WORD OR PHRASE THAT CAN BE MADE USING THE LETTERS FROM ANOTHER WORD OR PHRASE. REARRANGE THE LETTERS BELOW TO ANSWER:

Singer/Songwriter

GENTS RAVED

_____ _____

cryptogram A CRYPTOGRAM IS A PUZZLE WHERE ONE LETTER IN THE PUZZLE IS SUBSTITUTED WITH ANOTHER. FOR EXAMPLE: ECOLVGNCYXW YCR EQYIIRZNBZN YZU PSZ! HAS THE SOLUTION: CRYPTOGRAMS ARE CHALLENGING AND FUN! IN THE ABOVE EXAMPLE ES ARE ALL REPLACED

BY CS. THE PUZZLE IS SOLVED BY RECOGNIZING LETTER PATTERNS IN WORDS AND SUCCESSIVELY SUBSTITUTING LETTERS UNTIL THE SOLUTION IS REACHED. THIS WEEK’S HINT: A=P

Theme: Rita Mae Brown:

GRI CSVN MWIIZ AICAVI JZI GRCFI ORC TCS’G VCYI JSNLCTN. ___

____

_____ ______ ___ ___

_____ ___’_

____ _______.

PUZZLE ANSWERS ON PAGE 54

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

COMICS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 69

70 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | ADVICE

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

q scopes

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19 Someone may overstep their boundaries with you, but a forgiving nature will sweep over you this month. Don’t fret the small things, Aries, for you will find a great gift in forgiveness. Your circle of friends and associates will seem be a support this month. Hold hands, dance a little and make everyone your center for a while.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 Your self -image will be distorted a bit by a jarring friend. Though you may be left questioning their opinion, their words will no doubt leave you changed for a time. It’s a good time to re-examine what really matters in your life. A child or pet will provide much comfort. Settle down and let your mind relax; you really need it.

Gay Morning America

46 Water threesome 47 Janitor’s tool 49 Good da. in Lent 50 Partner of Robin Roberts 53 Sty cry 55 “___ Hai” 56 Use a beeper 57 From the top 58 Cathedral of Hope collection 59 Stats from A League of Their Own 60 Sitcom with a crossdressing corporal 61 Bed support piece 62 Prepares Easter eggs

12 With style 20 It may be picked up in a bar 21 Freshly painted ACROSS 25 Get juice from a 1 Otello villain fruit 5 Italian wine city 27 Judy’s daughter 9 Sound of Music Lorna escape route 28 Italian sports car, 13 Sling mud at briefly 14 In those days 30 Not so exciting 15 Neeson of Kinsey 31 Distribute sparingly 16 Etcher’s fluid 33 Joan of Arc, and 17 Vidal’s Rocking the others ___ 34 Second fruit eater 18 Peru native 35 Plath poetry collec19 Type of transplant tion received by Robin 36 Bubbles seen at the Roberts beach 22 Lang. of Hedwig DOWN 37 Robin Roberts 23 Rupert of Stage 1 Novelist Miller anchored a series Beauty 2 Room recess of reports on this 24 Ready for action, for 3 20-shilling piece for hurricane guys Oscar Wilde 40 R. E. Lee’s nation 26 Rock-bottom 4 Info for waiters 42 In a mound 27 Toward the side 5 Opportunity for Billy 43 Queen bee’s locale 29 American Idol judge Bean 44 Some Jamaican Paula 6 Martin of Father of music 32 Open to the breeze the Bride 45 James, who shot off 33 In 2012 Robin Rob7 Shed item in Gunsmoke erts received this 8 Bernadette Peters’ 47 Aunt of Bart SimpWomens Bastketball ___ the Woods son honor 9 Will Smith title role 48 Limp body part, 36 TV listings 10 Drag queen’s intiallegedly 38 Place to become mate wear 51 New corp. hires wife and wife 11 Robin Roberts drove 52 Bouncer for Amelie Mauresmo 39 Canal concern? this for the 2010 54 Meas. of electricity 41 Writer Saikaku Indianapolis 500

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Seek the answers you crave.

A great source of wisdom will present itself in the form an unlikely alliance. This is a time of personal reflection so use a clean mirror to get the best possible picture.

Look to your best friend or partner for support on a personal journey.

Treasures are in store at a thrift or antique store.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 The most obvious solutions are often the least desirable until you try them. Contain your reservations for another time; now is the time to experiment. Your friends will ask things that will threaten your secrets. Consider opening your mouth a little and find yourself receiving a lot in return (if you stay honest).

GEMINI May 21–June 20 Overwhelming times have been a constant lately. Find moments of quite time in your hectic life-narrative. A poetic mindset will be beneficial during what could be a mundane month. Make time for events and spend time with groups.

Intimate times are also encouraged, but only with a fun friend or lover.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22– December 20.

You may not be able to tell the future, but you can see where you are heading. And you like it. A friendly competition will have you questioning your personal motives. Animosity is usually a sign of a resisted attraction. If you want to enjoy yourself, indulge in some tough interaction with this person. It could be fun.

CANCER June 21–July 22 A turn for the better can only happen if you turn your head. Look into broadening your understanding of the possibilities. Your career leaves you wishing for a new horizon. Get your priorities in order.

Your faith in others could be shaken by some discoveries, but keep in mind that perception is a fragile thing.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 Dominate in a career interaction with an overbearing co-worker. You don’t have to be mean to get your points across but make clear that your ideas are the right ones. Spend time with a loved one or close family member to clear you head. This is the start of a fun time for all; start gearing up for it.

LEO July 23–August 22 An unlimited power will seem to overtake you when having a good time. It will feel good to laugh and let your hair down.

Financial matters will leave you spending more than usual. Have a great time but don’t forget to protect yourself. The deeper you go, the farther you have to get out. A fascinating trip is in store for you, Leo.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 No matter how much time you think you have, it never feels like enough. Set a schedule for yourself but don’t be afraid to minimize your agendas. Less is certainly more. Moments of peace will be found in your home life. Enjoy these moments, and embrace the challenge of getting a grip on yourself.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 Your stubborn streak will be most prominent this month.

Use this to your advantage in your professional dealings. A boss will respect you but don’t let it go to your head; it’s your humble persona that is getting the most admiration. Dive into a big mess you’ve been avoiding and clean it up. Then reward yourself gratuitously.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 The inclination to find adventure will be the result of friendly interaction. Spend time with those who make you laugh. An interaction with a work associate could get sticky so handle with care.

Don’t spend more than you can afford to lose on personal gamble.

There is nothing wrong with turning down a bad bet. Q

PUZZLES | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 71

june 2014 | issue 232 Each Sudoku puzzle has a unique solution which can be reached logically without guessing. Enter digits 1 through 9 into the blank spaces. Every row must contain one of each digit, as must each column and each 3x3 square. Qdoku is actually five separate, but connected, Sudoku puzzles.

Q doku

Level: Easy Medium

8 9 6

7

1

3 9

4

9

8

4 7 9

9 8 4 5 6

9 4 2 3

4 9 8

6

9 2 4

2 8

3 1 9 7 6 8

9 1

1

2 3

8 9 3

7 9 1 6

6

3 5 4 1 5

4

1 6 7 4 1 8

6 3 2 4

5

8

2

6 9 8 8 1 3 2

4 1 7

2 9 8 7

8 6 4 1

4 5 9 6 9 7 5 8 6

4 9 8 4

1 6 9 6

2 4

2 4 3 9

2 8

7

7

6

5 8

3 9 6

8 6 4 7

QUALITY SERVICE

CLEANING4U RESIDENTIAL • COMMERCIAL ONE TIME/WEEKLY/MONTHLY We bring cleaning supplies or use yours. References. Free estimates.

801-898-2960

9 1 8 8

classifieds

4

7 6 3

DEALS! GET up to half off dining, spa, arts, more and support QSaltLake at the same time!

qmart.gaysaltlake.com

M4M LOCAL SEX DATE 1-888-788-8989. 18+

S&M TELECHAT 1-866-710-1022

MEET GAY/BI MEN

801-595-0005

TAROT Forecasting, answers and solutions to your life’s questions at Gaea Univers Tarot. $20/60 mins. or $10/30 mins.

801-916-7142

ALL MALE HOT GAY HOOKUPS! Only 18 and over. Try it free. Call now:

800-644-9784

QSALTLAKE TWEETS @QSaltLake JEFF WILLIAMS 801 .971.6287 801.

webshots.com/user/jeffcab

SUMMER’S COMING – TIME TO GET NAKED

Utah Male Naturists is a nonsexual social group for gay, bisexual and gay-friendly straight men that holds naked deck parties, game nights, camping events, cocktail parties and more. Info at

umen.org

GETTING MARRIED? Gay wedding officiant Michael Aaron 801-856-5655

SAVE $$$ ON AUTO INSURANCE from the major names you know and trust. No forms. No hassle.

No obligation.

Call READY FOR MY QUOTE now!

CALL 1-888-540-7390

MEET FUN, SEXY LOCALS!!

Browse & REPLY FREE!

801-595-0005

Use FREE CODE 2632, 18+

MEDICAL GUARDIAN

Top-rated medical alarm and 24/7 medical alert monitoring.

For a limited time, get free equipment, no activation fees, no commitment, a 2nd waterproof alert button for free and more — only $29.95 per month.

800-961-4048

72 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | PETS

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

OUR PETS | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 73

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

Pet of the

Month

EXCEPTIONAL CARE FOR EXCEPTIONAL PETS • ER SERVICE 24 HOURS A DAY, 7 DAYS A WEEK, 365 DAYS A YEAR • AAHA Certified Veterinary Hospital • Full Service Grooming • Certified Boarding • Award Winning Dog Training • Premium Pet Foods & Supplies PET TAXI – PICK UP AND DROP OFF PETS FOR ALL ONSITE SERVICES

PET

Freddy 5 years old Neutered Male Black and White Domestic Short Hair I am a handsome and friendly young man looking for my forever home! I love attention and affection but, really enjoy lounging around and finding a nice place to take a nap.

As you can tell I am a larger than life friend and because of that I am on a special diet to help me lose weight. Maybe you can be the one to get me back into shape, what do you say? Q More info on Brando can be found at BestFriends.org or by calling 801-574-2417.

•

CENTER

NEW CLIENT SPECIAL OFFER Receive One (1) Free Health Exam for Your Pet on Your First Visit

*Please present coupon at the first appointment to receive discount.

Limit one coupon per client.

Excludes puppy and kitten program visits.

Not to be combined with any other offers.

NOT VALID ON SUNDAYS OR FOR EMERGENCIES Expires July 31, 2014

coupon code: QMAG

2055 E Creek Road VISIT OUR WEBSITE FOR WINTER & SUMMER HOURS

WILLOWCREEKPET.COM

801-942-0777 OPEN 7 DAYS A WEEK

SCAN TO FIND US ON FACEBOOK

74 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | A&E

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

gay writes

Cruising for a community

BY KED KIRKHAM

GAY COMMUNITY.

Can you imagine these signs 50, 25, 10, 5 and then every mile out? Irritating yellow background, bold-black lettering: “Services.” “Entertainment.” “Lodging.”

“Curio Shop.” “Open 24/7.” The gay community has never been a destination like those roadside attractions, nor a charming hamlet appearing on a scenic byway: “ENTERING GAY COMMUNITY, Do Your Part To Keep It Clean.”

If there were such signs, what would we expect at the end of that last mile? What would we find?

A community develops from shared objectives, values and needs.

What are this community’s needs? What values, ethics and morality? Identity? Is membership a mark of community?

IDENTITY IS VALID. I still say Gay while LGBT has become our community identity.

Some would have us add Q (Questioning from one camp and Queer from another).

In some ways, we are trying to fit ourselves into an identity chosen for us; partly from an antagonistic perspective. Is the Q-word the new N-word, the slur, the identity?

Is having an agenda or a cause part of community? Gay Agenda has been bandied by our detractors, but is there one? Is there only one? Are we a single-issue group?

Have we kept to the agenda?

MEMBERSHIP. Am I a member of a

gay community, of the Gay Community?

How do we make up community? Once identified, are we all the same; having the same needs, values or objectives? Are there membership requirements? Prerequisite courses? Tests? How do these questions sound when applied to other historical communities such as the Deaf Community or the Black Community?

Here is a list of issues from today’s news that point to concerns of a community, any community: Marriage. Suicide. Bullying.

Housing. Health and employment discrimination. Does Scouting fit in here? Do religion, education or parenting? Dare I suggest reproduction? Death and dying laws?

MARRIAGE. This has certainly been a hot topic. Such actions as the Defense of Marriage Act seem to me to be an oxymoron. Marriage, having become an expedient only a few hundred years ago to establish monarchies and land inheritance, is again claimed for the ruling class. We desire it for the same reasons as our neighbors, our siblings. We will treat it as reverently as all others have. I’m sure.

SUICIDE. Often declared a permanent solution to a none-permanent problem. We certainly do not want our young people to choose death over life when living can be so worthwhile. Any of our youth! Neither do we suggest it for the aged or infirm when there is so much they can teach still with their living. A community needs to show that we value them for what they have.

Bullying is just shy of being institutionalized. You cannot tell me that my state’s legislature is not bullying those who hold diverging ideas. Gerrymandering bullies the voters. Closed-door committees bully

the system. Listen to “talk” radio! How different is that from the school lunchroom or school bus?

Healthcare for the elderly is being derided as an entitlement. Friends of mine chose to access their health needs as a couple. When Tom was experiencing health changes that left him weak and off balance, John arranged their schedules so that they could see the doctor together. On one occasion, the doctor asked if they needed home-health services, to which Tom, about 89 at that time, said that John could hold him up. “But who is holding John up?” the doctor asked. They were fortunate ones.

In other places, I read of genetic families separating such couples in the guise of caring. An especially disturbing case recently was of a municipal agency doing so.

LGBT people have always been in public safety, the military, education and elected positions. We are citizens. Gays have always been in Boy Scouts, and many went on to earn—that’s right, earn—their Eagle award and have been inducted into the honor societies such as Order of the Arrow. They have received God and Country awards. And yes, there have been lesbian, gay and bisexual missionaries. That they were not openly gay, refer back to the institutional bullying.

Membership has its privileges; it has its opportunities. Membership also has responsibilities. Knowing that divided we are weak while together we are strong, I must wonder why I still question if this is the community I am seeking. What have I done to find a community, specifically the LGBT Community? What have I done to make it My Community? Q

Turn it on hormone optimization enlighten

Low testosterone?

L ASER COSMETICS Molly Mears, M.D.

9 minutes north of downtown Salt Lake at 1560 Renaissance Towne Drive, Bountiful

801-294-9999 enlightenlaser.com

A&E | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 75

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

mr. manners

Summer Luvin’

Sundays 9am until 2pm 9th West and 10th South

BY ROCK MAGEN

DEAR MR. MANNERS, I have been out of the dating game for a few years, and now I am trying to once again find love. I recently mustered up the courage to ask a guy on a date, but it has been so long since I have gone on a date that I don’t even know what to wear! What is the best way to make a good first impression?

Help!

—Business and Pleasure Dear B&P, Before you begin thinking about the date, consider the subtle yet critical difference between “dressing” and “wearing.” This distinction is the single most important factor in looking great, no matter what your day’s plans are —date or not. The first one is simple; well-informed selection is key.

The latter notion involves — quite literally — doing nothing: Dress well, and then don’t think about your clothes until he takes them off.

Everyone has heard the old cliché, “don’t try too hard.” I disagree. First of all your appearance, at least to him is an indicator of respect for both him and the date. Second, no matter how hard you try, when you show up to meet him, you’re just you. He doesn’t know how you normally dress

(although hopefully your look isn’t too dramatic a departure from your usual style.) So relax.

He’s not going to think you’re a virgin because you’re wearing a suit.

You probably shouldn’t wear a suit.

Opt for a dark pair of wellfitted pants with a slightly shortened hem —something that implies you’re taking a break from an important job and busy schedule to make time for him. So throw on a dress shirt — nothing too busy, top button undone — and a slightly loosened tie on the narrow side.

If this sounds too dressy, your right: you want to show that you’re an adult but also that you’re capable of having fun. Nothing takes the edge off in style quite like a cardigan with a nice texture — keep it dark, and extra points for subtle details like cool buttons.

Last, and anything but least, come the shoes. Assuming that he appreciates the Jordan 3s as much as you do is a gamble you can’t afford right now, so opt for a pair of well-polished dress shoes instead. And not that you wouldn’t anyway, but pick up the check when you’re done. Q Have a question for Mr. Manners? Email askmrmanners@qsaltlake.com

mart Qqmartstore.com

www.9thwestfarmersmarket.org www.facebook.com/peoplesmarket June 1st Yard Sale Day Bring your

June 15th Free Kids craft Fathers Day projects

sell at the market

The 4th Annual

Urban

Flea Market Monthly

sunday Market

In Downtown Salt Lake City!

May 18 • JUNE 8 • July 13 • August 10 September 14 • October 12

» free for public to attend! » 80 vendor spaces available!

sponsored by

600 SOUTH MAIN sTREET f r o m 9a m u n t i l 3 p m v e n d o r & e v e n t i n f o at :

F L E A M A R K E T S LC . CO M

GET HUNKY @ THE TAV! SUNDAYS KARAOKE

MONDAYS BINGO KARAOKE

TUESDAYS

POWERBALL KARAOKE 9PM-12AM COME EARLY FOR YOUR CHANCE TO WIN

WEDNESDAYS DUELING PIANOS

THURSDAYS DUELING PIANOS

FRIDAYS

DUELING PIANOS

SATURDAYS DUELING PIANOS

Non-Smoking Corner of 3rd S and 2nd E 801-519-8900 www.tavernacle.com

78 | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | FINAL WORD

gaysaltlake.com | issue 232 | june 2014

the perils of petunia pap smear

WARNING HOT GUYS!

A tale of insensible shoes

Salt Lake City

(801) 595.0005 FREE to listen & reply to ads!

FREE CODE : Q Salt Lake 1-888-MegaMates

For other local numbers call:

TM

24/7 Friendly Customer Care 1(888) 634-2628 18+ ©2013 PC LLC

MegaMates.com

2580

utah gay date .com

If you’re serious about dating or just looking for gay social networking, then UtahGayDate.com is for you!

GET ON TO GET OFF. OFF TRY FOR FREE!

800-644-9784 18+

The road to the Utah Pride Parade is fraught with danger and excitement.

It was a

hot and steamy night 44 years ago when the police made one of their frequent and routine raids on a gay bar. Apparently even a severe “man in uniform” fetish was not enough to prevent cops from fraying the very last nerves of the drag queens at the Stonewall Inn. As legend tells, the police, after checking identification, were letting most of the bar patrons go, but were arresting all the men who were wearing women’s clothing. One of the queens being loaded into the paddy wagon decided she had had enough when the officer shoved her roughly and she hit him over the head with her purse and screamed to the gathering crowd, “Aren’t you going to do something?”

Before anyone had time to say, “We’re not in Kansas anymore Toto,” another queen kicked off her stiletto heels and, thrusting them like a bayonet, yelled, “Get ‘em girls!”

The cops were flabbergasted and confused. The fairies had never fought back before. The queens were fighting the hardest. They formed a kickline and sang: “We are the Stonewall girls/ We wear our hair in curls/ We don’t wear underwear/ We show our pubic hair” to combat the jack-booted goons in riot gear marching to “squash the fairies.” The cops didn’t stand a chance. So began the modern Gay Right’s Movement. And our Pride Parade is in memory of that night.

I try to participate in the parade every year. I’m sure most of you have never noticed me because I try to be inconspicu-

ous and blend into the crowd. I count walking the entire parade route as my annual quota of aerobic exercise. My doctor would be so proud. It is not an easy feat for a gravity-enhanced Hippoglottamus Buffet Queen to walk the entire Pride Parade distance. While preparing this year’s parade ensemble, in the quiet moments when I’m not being burned by the hot glue gun or shooting a staple gun through my Lee Press-on Nails, I am left to ponder memories of past Pride parades.

The first time I marched in the parade, I had just obtained a brand new pair of 5-inch platform ruby slippers that I thought I needed to wear.

They looked incredible, but made my stride as unstable and gangly as a newborn giraffe. So as always, it came down to a choice of style versus function, and of course style won out. I was sure that my twirly-whirly breasticles would have enough of a gyroscopic effect to help stabilize me.

About halfway through the parade route, there arose an oncoming breeze, sufficient enough to cause the breasticles to begin spinning rapidly before my eyes, slightly hypnotizing me and making me dizzy. I felt my ankle give way as my left heel twisted out from under me and so began a horrible, terrible, no good, very bad, great and torturous fall from grace.

I stumbled and, to my amazement, caught myself before I went down. Just as I was breathing a great sigh of relief, I stumbled again. To add insult to injury, the heel on my right foot got caught up in the hem

june 2014 | issue 232 | gaysaltlake.com

of my hoop skirt. At this point the scene on the street held a very close resemblance to the Hindenburg disaster, though much less graceful. Bystanders were running for their lives to avoid being crushed. Resigning myself to all hope of remaining upright was lost, I screamed, what witnesses later described as a “death squeal,” on my way toward the pavement.

God does indeed watch out for little children, fools and, apparently, drag queens with insensible shoes, because just before my lips met the road, I felt someone throw their arms tightly around me and return me to the land of standing upright.

Amazed that someone was strong enough to pick up my Bodus Rotundus, and grateful at being saved from becoming smeared on the street, I slowly turned around in order to thank my savior.

I became aware that I was being held in the arms of an Adonis, wearing only a dazzlingly white smile, a perfect sun tan stretched over a rock-hard six-pack, and a pair of short shorts. Surely he had just come from the film set of a Falcon video.

I nearly swooned. He seemed to think I was still stumbling, so he kept holding on to me. Who was I to correct this beautiful “Boy Scout” as he performed his good deed for the day? He kept his big, strong arm around my waist, and walked with me the rest of the parade.

Side note to God: Please, please, please don’t let me have a fatal heart attack while I’m wearing my Pride Day pinksequined dress with the twirling beefcake breasticles. It may look fabulous with a capital F, and would send all the other angels into fashion hell, but it chafes and I don’t want to spend eternity chafing.

Besides, it is next to impossible to sit demurely on a cloud while wearing a hoop skirt without giving a very indiscreet view of the family jewels. Anthony Weiner would be so jealous.

As always, these events leave us with several burning eternal questions: 1. Should I consider this as my very own episode of Touched By An Angel?

2. If I had crashed to the pavement, would the front-page headline of the Salt Lake Tribune read: “Parade halted due to massive Pap Smear”?

3. What kind of street cleaner would be required to remove lipstick from asphalt?

4. Would my crash have left a crater?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

SEX | QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE | 79