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Te’o hoaxer admits to being gay The man behind the Manti Te’o fake girlfriend scandal admitted to being “confused” about his sexuality. Ronaiah Tuiasosopo told Dr. Phil that he was in love with Te’o and that’s why he created the persona. Te’o was a linebacker for Notre Dame and a runnerup for the Heisman Trophy.

Throughout last season he spoke of a girlfriend who became ill and eventually died.

However, the girl never existed but was instead Tuiasosopo, who says he’s a devout Christian and is trying to “recover” from his homosexuality.

“It takes a lot of courage to recover from homosexuality and this type of thing and coming back to your real life.

As hard of a task it is, I’m going to do all I can to live right,” Tuiasosopo said.

Te’o admitted to being duped and misleading the public in some ways. But he adamantly denies being gay himself.

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“This is America and if someone wants to be gay, they can be gay. It’s their right. But I didn’t make any video,” Brooks said.

USA Today then told Brooks that they had the video they could show him.

“I don’t remember that. I think if I made a video, I’d remember it,” he responded.

Only after playing the video did he admit to his involvement but insisted he didn’t know it was for gay teens.

NFL players deny making ‘It Gets Better’ video Two San Francisco 49ers players denied their involvement in making an It Gets Better video, despite their video going viral.

Linebacker Ahmad Brooks and nose tackle Isaac Sopoaga were asked about anti-gay statements made by a teammate and denied ever being involved in the anti-bullying public service announcement. Although they are two of four players to appear in the video that is viewable on YouTube and hundreds of websites, Brooks and Sopoaga told USA Today that they didn’t make the video.

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Tennessee lawmaker introduces new “don’t say gay” bill Tennessee Sen. Stacey Campfield is re-launching his efforts to ban teachers from even mentioning homosexuality in schools. But his new bill includes a provision that would require teachers and counselors to tell parents if their children are gay.

The bill was originally introduced last year and

cleared the Senate but died in the House. The bill banned all teachers from discussing homosexuality in sex education courses in classes between kindergarten and the seventh grade. The bill lost traction when lawmakers were told there were no sex education courses before the eighth grade. Campfield is reinforcing his efforts in what he calls an attempt to protect families.

Gay marriage foes face financial woes One of the major backers of anti-marriage equality campaigns is facing serious financial woes. ProtectMarriage is defending Proposition 8 in the court system and for the third consecutive year, the group is reporting a financial shortfall. It is asking donors for $700,000 to make up for lacking funds to pay for its battle to keep a ban on gay marriage in California.

“Unless the pace of donations starts to pick up right away, we could soon be forced over a financial cliff,” the group emailed to donors.

Diminishing donations also means the anti-equality crowd has less to spend on state battles”like those they lost in Maryland, Minnesota, Maine and Washington State.

In Washington, gay marriage opponents raised $2.8 million in 2012, compared with $12.6 million for gay marriage supporters.

3 charged in Chicago anti-gay attack Three people have been arrested and charged for attacking a gay couple outside a Chicago bar. On Jan. 6, the unnamed victims left Time Out Sports Pub and looked for a cab. Susan Patton, 31, allegedly threw a drink at the gay couple and a female friend. When the three victims tried to walk away, Patton and two other men, Stephan Bolt, 31 and Christopher Miner, 30, allegedly began punching and kicking the two men while shouting anti-gay slurs. Police are unsure what prompted the attack or if the assailants knew their victims.

All three were arrested and face charges of assault.

Wharton reaches out to queer students The Wharton School, one of the nation’s top business schools is reaching out to the queer community and trying to improve school diversity. The school is improving diversity policies, anti-bias policies and making a concerted effort to attract queer students and teachers.

“We were looking to have sexual orientation mentioned a few more times and – we wanted to have gender identity added as a form of diversity,” said Frank Wolf of the Wharton Alliance, a pre-professional organization for LGBT students.

“For us, it was an unprecedented type of initiative that we’ve taken on,” Wharton Alliance president Eddy Bueser said. “Historically we’ve never really talked to the administration directly about their plans, and this is the first time that we as an organization have bridged the gap with the administration and the LGBT community.”

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Gay men face less stress, study finds

Gay New York school teacher found dead in his apartment A New York man was discovered dead in his apartment and police suspect his killer may have been someone he met on a gay hookup site. David Rangel, 53, was found strangled to death in his home in Queens. Investigators removed a computer from the school teacher’s apartment where they found the information about his online dating.

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Straight men are more likely to be stressed than their gay counterparts, according to a study published is Psychosomatic Medicine. According to the study, gay men and women were less stressed and faced less anxiety after coming out.

It also found that heterosexual men had higher-than expected systemic stress than all other groups.

“Interestingly and contrary to our hypothesis, gay and bisexual men had significantly lower depressive symptoms and allostatic load levels than heterosexual men,” wrote McGill University neuroscientist and lead author Robert-Paul Juster.

The study speculated that, because indexes for stress include measures of body weight

and fat, it is possible that gay men focus more on maintaining thinness and muscularity than straight men.

Wyoming House rejects domestic partnership bill The Republican-controlled Wyoming House of Representatives blocked a bill that would have allowed legal domestic partnerships in the state. In a 25–34 vote, the House rejected the legislation, making it the first time lawmakers in the Equality State voted on a measure related to marriage equality. The bill faced a difficult committee hearing where opponents argued the domestic partnership registry would harm the moral fabric of the family. A measure to pass full marriage equality was also proposed but was not considered by the House.

NOM president receives $500k salary National Organization for Marriage President Brian Brown receives a $500,000 annual salary, according to tax forms. Activist and former presidential candidate Fred Karger attempted to retrieve all tax forms from the organization but was denied access. However, he was able to recover other tax documents and found that Brown is paid nearly a half-million dollars for leading the organization that opposes marriage equality measures around the nation.

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Utah Pride Center gears up for 2013 Pride Festival With hundreds of volunteer positions to fill, the Utah Pride Center is launching its Pride 2013 season. The theme for this year’s festival is Gotta Be Real – Equality, and the Center needs hundreds of Utahns to make contributions in various positions to help the festival be as successful as previous years. The event will take place from Thursday, May 30 to Sunday, June 2.

Planning for the festival takes hundreds of hours and discussions about grand marshals, entertainment and the development of goals and themes.

The Pride Festival officials and the Utah Pride Center programs are focusing on attracting and offering resources for members of the queer community and its allies from around the state, not just Salt Lake City.

Pride Festival organizers are also accepting applications for vendors, parade participants and booths in the festival. In order for the festival to be successful and seamless, applications are accepted as early as February. Also, prices are cheaper for those that make an earlier commitment.

In order to accomplish the expansion goals and have a successful festival, the Center is seeking hundreds of volunteers.

With more leadership positions than ever before, there’s a way for everyone to get involved in the festival and make an impact in the community.

Open positions include beverage stations, servers, parade volunteers and general-admission workers. Volunteer orientation is already underway and

leadership positions will meet every other Wednesday beginning in March. utahpridefestival.org.

Utah Pride taking award nominations Organizers of the 2013 Utah Pride Festival are calling for nominations for two annual community awards to be presented at the 2013 Utah Pride Festival: Gotta Be Real: Equality. Nominations are being accepted for the following awards:

The Dr. Kristen Ries Community Service Award Established in 1987 this award was first presented to Dr. Kristen Ries for her humanitarian efforts in dealing with the AIDS crisis, and forever named in her honor. This award recognizes outstanding service to the greater lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community in Utah, and is given to individual(s) who are dedicated to continuing that legacy of service. Those who receive this award are role models for Utah’s LGBTQ community, and like Dr. Kristen Ries “exemplify everything that the award has stood for: compassion, leadership and courage.& The recipient is chosen by past winners of the award.

Recent winners include Doug Fadel, Rep. Jackie Biskupski, Doug Wortham, Luci Malin, Jane and Tami Marquardt, Walter Larrabee, Mark Swonson, Michael Aaron, and Valerie Larabee.

The Pete Suazo Political Action Award: Established in 2002 in honor of Senator Pete Suazo’s tireless attempts to pass Hate Crimes legislation in Utah, paired with his continual efforts to remind the Utah State Legislature of the great diversity found in our state. This award is presented to an

elected Utah official who has demonstrated an exceptional commitment to equal rights for the LGBTQ community of Utah through legislation, policy or declaration.

The recipient is chosen by a committee including leaders of Equality Utah, Stonewall Democrats, Log Cabin Republicans, Human Rights Campaign and the Utah Pride Center. Recent winners include Mayor Rocky Anderson, Rep. David Litvak, Sen. Karen Hale, Mark Shurtleff, Paula Julander, Rep. Carol SpackmanMoss, Governor Jon Huntsman Jr., Rep. Christine Johnson, Mayor Ralph Becker, and Mayor Ben McAdams.

Award recipients will be recognized during the Utah Pride Festival’s annual Grand Marshal Reception and Awards Celebration, which will happen on Friday, May 31. Recipients will also be honored at the annual Utah Pride Parade on Sunday, June 2.

Nominations for both awards are due

by Sunday, March 3 at 5 p.m. Nominations can be made online at www. utahpridefestival.org or by sending an email to awards@utahpridefestival.org.

Nominations should include the name and contact information for the individual making the nomination, the name of the individual being nominated, the name the award the individual is nominated for and a narrative (100 words minimum) to justify the nomination.

For questions, please email awards@utahpridefestival.org.

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Study: Half of men who use dating apps engage in unprotected sex Nearly 50 percent of gay and bisexual men who use Manhunt, Growlr, Grindr and Scruff admit to practicing unsafe sex, according to a study

by New York-based Community Healthcare Network. The study, which surveyed 725 men who use dating applications, found 47 percent of respondents admitted to risk-taking activities, including unprotected anal intercourse. Most of those who did said they were aware of the risks but chose not to use protection.

“The survey findings show a clear disconnect between the reasons why men engage in unprotected anal intercourse and the way prevention initiatives attempt to address risk behaviors,” said Renato Barucco, CHN’s transgender program manager.

While many respondents offered varying reasons for not using protection, 84 percent said condoms decreased the pleasure and 73 percent cited impulsive sexual behaviors.

About 80 percent of respondents said they were aware of the risks of having unprotected sex and knew how HIV can be transmitted. Nearly 70 percent of respondents said they were afraid of becoming infected and said it is a serious issue for the gay community.

Although a vast majority acknowledged the risks of having anal sex without using a condom, nearly half of respondents admitted to barebacking always, often or sometimes versus 53 percent who said they never engage in unprotected anal intercourse.

“Clearly, we’ve come a long way in educating

people about HIV and AIDS. Yet among certain populations, HIV and AIDS is on the rise, and that’s alarming. We conducted this study as a result of a seeming correlation between an increasing use of mobile social networking apps designed for men to meet each other and an increase in HIV infections among (men who have sex with men),” said Freddy Molano, assistant vice president of HIV programs and services at CHN. According to the CDC, there are nearly 2,700 people living with HIV/AIDS in Utah. However, the CDC also estimates that approximately 20 percent of those infected are unaware of their status.

There are various testing and prevention outlets in Utah and the Utah AIDS Foundation hosts free testing Mondays and Thursdays, 5–7 p.m. at the UAF offices, 1408 S. 1100 East, Salt Lake City. The Utah Pride Center also hosts free testing every other Wednesday from 5–7 p.m. at the UPC offices, 361 N. 300 West, Salt Lake City. Planned Parenthood has low-cost HIV testing and information. For more information, go to utahaids.org, utahpridecenter.org and plannedparenthood.org/Utah.

“We must address the complicated psychological, emotional, and behavioral variables that come into play during sexual encounters and that predispose target population to barebacking,” Barucco said. “Otherwise, the number of new infections among young gay and bisexual men will likely continue to rise.”

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With more than 100 participants, an unscientific QSaltLake online poll found:

60%

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said they always use protection when meeting someone from a dating application.

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Davis School District officials agree to keep book about lesbian moms on library shelves Davis School District officials agreed to keep a book about a family with samesex parents on the shelves of elementary schools. The agreement settles a lawsuit filed by the American Civil Liberties Union and the ACLU of Utah on behalf of a mother with children in the district that had remained pending after the book’s return. District officials had already agreed to put the book back on school shelves after having it removed.

Parents may still use the library’s normal procedures to prevent their children from checking out particular books without removing those books altogether, but the school agreed not to remove the book from the shelves just

not as i do Catholic priest convicted of assaulting altar boy A Pennsylvania Catholic priest was convicted of molesting an altar boy in the 1990s. The case is similar to a cover-up scandal for which a Catholic official was imprisoned last year. The jury found Charles Engelhardt guilty on several counts, including assault on a minor, but could not come to an agreement on a count of indecent sexual assault. Also, Bernard Shero, a former Catholic teacher, was found guilty of rape and indecent sexual assault. Engelhardt’s conspiracy charge was tied to Edward Avery who was accused of assaulting the same boy, who was 10 years old at the time of abuse.

Avery pleaded guilty in March 2012.

Anti-gay activists says gays are to blame for suicides Family Research Council President Tony Perkins is blaming military suicides on gay and lesbian soldiers.

The leader of the Christian group said a recent uptick in active-duty military suicides could only come from gay and lesbian soldiers being allowed to serve openly.

“The stress in our military, when you look how they have used the military for their social experimentation:

because it features a same-sex couple.

The school further agreed not to remove any book from the shelves for containing “homosexual content.”

“I am happy that all parents will now have the chance to make their own decisions about their own children,” said Tina Weber, the mother who filed the challenge. “Nobody should be able to tell other people’s kids what they can and can’t read.”

In Our Mothers’ House, by acclaimed children’s’ author

driving Christianity out, putting homosexuality in, the suicide rate is going through the ceiling,” Perkins said.

Aside from neglecting to cite any sources, studies or research regarding his claims, he fails to mention that gay youth are five times more likely to attempt suicide than their straight counterparts, according to a Journal of Pediatrics study. Perkins has a history of attacking gay groups and causes and the FRC is a registered hate-group by the Southern Poverty Law Center.

Republican senator selectively opposes disaster relief funding Republican Sen. John Boozeman demonstrated a lack of foresight when he opposed disaster aid for Hurricane Sandy victims but asked for money to help his Arkansas constituents to cope with winter storm costs. However, shortly after seeking those funds, he voted against the same pot of federal relief money going to cover storm costs in the Northeast. While opposing the relief funds for some areas he said in a letter that if the federal government makes any contributions something else has to be cut – unless that aid is going to Arkansas, apparently.

Patricia Polacco, was initially placed in the Easy Reading section of Windridge Elementary School in Davis County. After some parents complained the book “normalizes a lifestyle we don’t agree with,’’ the school district instructed librarians to put the book behind a counter and to lend it only with written permission from a parent. This decision also applied to the three other school libraries with copies of the book.

When the school district restricted access to In Our Mothers’ House, it asserted that leaving the book on the shelves would violate Utah’s sex-education law, which prohibits instructional materials containing “advocacy of homosexuality.” The school now agrees that library books are not covered under the statute and that including books in the library depicting families with same-sex parents does not constitute endorsement or “advocacy of homosexuality.”

“We’re glad that the school agrees that they can’t remove a book from the shelves just because some people don’t agree with its content,” said John Mejia, legal director of the ACLU of Utah. “Children shouldn’t be discouraged from learning about different families or cultures by keeping books behind a counter as if there was something wrong with them.”

Polacco was inspired to write the book after attending a school assembly where a girl with same-sex parents was not allowed to read an essay about her family because a teacher said, “You don’t come from a real family.’” The Davis School District does not censor any of Polacco’s other books, which focus on families of different backgrounds and cultures.

“Schools shouldn’t make children with samesex parents feel as if their families are something that should be hidden,” said Joshua Block, staff attorney with the ACLU Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender Project. “Kids from all kinds of families attend Davis County schools, including families with same-sex parents. We’re glad the school will never again keep books that portray these families out of sight.” Q

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Quips&Quotes

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Same sex marriage probably will pass this year. You’ve got a preponderance of Democrats who support it in both houses, you’ve got the Congressional delegation, you’ve got our governor.”

—Republican Hawaii Sen. Sam Slom

I am a God-fearing woman. My faith is very fundamental to everything I do and think. I am a member of the Church of England, a Christian, and my faith is very, very important to me. I think [same-sex marriage] is absolutely consistent with my beliefs. For me, as a Christian, I see it as about justice, equality, fairness, ending discrimination and opening up marriage to more people on the basis that marriage is a very special institution.”

—Conservative Member of Parliament Helen Grant, speaking in advance of Britain’s marriage equality bill

“

Why aren’t the president and the LGBT community also vigorously fighting for marriage rights for the polygamist who claims his love for more than one woman is equal to all other loves? Why aren’t they fighting for the incestuous woman who claims her love is misunderstood and that her romance with her brother is a love worthy of marriage? What about the man who loves someone underage – a child? No one who is thoughtful can possibly believe that something as unnatural as the act of a man placing that part of his body which was designed to project life into that part of another man’s body meant to expel death could possibly be a healthy lifestyle under any circumstances.”

–Pastor Mark Creech, writing for the Christian Post

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We ain’t got no gay people on the team.

They gotta get up out of here if they do.

Can’t be with that sweet stuff – Nah, can’t be – in the locker room, man.”

— NFL player Chris Culliver

If they’re going to talk about a dating relationship, it recognizes there is such a thing as public morality. We don’t look the other way and say there aren’t standards that apply to any situation prior to marriage.”

— Rep. Lavar Christensen attempting to amend the Dating Violence Bill

I reject the institutionalization of discrimination that is present in this amendment.”

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— Jennifer Seelig, D-Salt Lake City, the sponsor of the Dating Violence bill

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Job search discrimination: A trans* Latina shares her story When Jessee Jeppsen started looking for a new job after being laid off, she knew it would be difficult. Although she had a college degree in psychology and nearly two decades of experience as an executive secretary and project manager, she knew the difficult economy would make the job hunt a rigorous process. She just didn’t know how tough it would be.

Jeppsen identifies as trans* and has been living happily as her authentic self for more than 10 years.

“I remember when I told my old employer that I was going to transition from male to female, I received so much support.

Of course, that was while I was living in California, but I was shocked at the level of support I received. They let me have time off for recovery and the office sent me cards and flowers. While I was away, the human resources department helped switch all my records to make coming back to work that much simpler,” she said.

But after the engineering firm where she worked went through a restructure, she was let go. With an outstanding array of references and an impressive resume, she set out to find a job as quickly as possible. Bills began to pile up as she faced some health issues and the job search was becoming increasingly fruitless.

“My resume is strong. My experience is solid and I’m a good worker. But when I show up to interviews, it is almost always humiliating,” she said. “I realize that I may not blend in as well as I’d like sometimes.

I know that sometimes people look at me and immediately begin to judge me. I just wish they would judge me off of my merits, not whether I wear a skirt or slacks to work.”

Jeppsen has had no shortage of interviews, but she describes a bleak scene for many.

“I was asked to leave immediately after I entered an interview with a marketing firm in Salt Lake City. I could hear them laughing as I walked out in tears,” she said.

“Another time I was told my values obviously don’t reflect the company culture.

They told me that before they even had a chance to ask me any questions. They take one look at me and think they know me. My resume is strong enough to get me an interview, but when they see me, they

don’t want to hire me, just based on the way I look.”

There is little legal recourse for Jeppsen and according to a study by Equality Utah, 67 percent of transgender Utahns report experiencing job discrimination. About 43 percent of gay and lesbian Utahns report a similar experience. Equality Utah also reports receiving four to five complaints each month from LGBT people experiencing discrimination in the workplace. Even if she files a complaint with Salt Lake City or Salt Lake County and the interviewing companies are found at fault, Jeppsen will receive no monetary compensation.

Instead, the company will face a fine.

“I looked into filing a complaint and decided it wasn’t worth the stress or the heartache,” she said.

Although nearly 75 percent of Utahns support passing a statewide nondiscrimination ordinance to protect against bias in the workplace and in housing, state

lawmakers have stalled all efforts from gay and allied lawmakers.

Equality Utah and Democratic lawmakers will work with Republican co-sponsors to help move the bill out of committee and onto the floor for a debate and vote, said Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken.

“I always feel a great sense of anticipation for the legislative session, and this year I also feel cautiously optimistic,” she said.

Trans* people who are also Latinos and Latinas face even more discrimination on average, according to a 2011 report by the National Center for Transgender Equality.

The study found Hispanic trans* people have an unemployment rate of 20 percent and 54 percent report being harassed or sexual assaulted at work. Nearly one-third of respondents reported being homeless at least once.

“I’m not looking for anyone’s sympathy.

I am not trying to be an activist. I’m not trying to cause problems. I am just trying to find a job and live a quiet life at home with my kitten and my books. I don’t need pity. I need a job,” Jeppsen said. Q

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Singing Valentines snub gay high school students A form for singing telegrams for Valentine’s Day at Copper Hills High School raised the eyebrows with gay and lesbian students and some educators when it proclaimed, “Sorry — no same sex delivery.”

Educator Kim HackfordPeer posted on the school’s Facebook page, “As an educa-

tor, a parent, and someone who cares about the rights of all students, I am deeply disappointed in your current “Singing Valentines” campaign, which states that there will be “No same sex delivery!”

Principal Todd Quarnberg was quick to respond.

“We are aware of the perceived discrimination and I have been talking to students all afternoon. My choir students who are sponsoring the singing valentines did not write the handout correctly,” Quarnberg wrote in response

to Hackford-Peer’s post. “The choreography of these singing valentines made some of the kids uncomfortable with the delivery, which is why the handout was worded the way it was. There will still be same sex deliveries of all other offered valentines. I have talked and met with the GSA and the choir group and they have worked things out and are happy with the outcomes.

We do not want anyone to think that CHHS discriminates based on sexual preferences.

We love all our students. We appreciate your concern and help in making CHHS a better place for everyone.”

The school’s Gay-Straight Alliance Club co-president, Dylan Lukes, was pleased the principal took the issue seriously and addressed it as quickly as he did.

“It was quickly fixed,” Lukes said, adding that the school’s GSA is treated as “just another club.”

While he hears anti-gay slurs in the hallways of the school, he says he feels safe there, in part because of the club. He says only about one percent of the student body is homophobic.

The singing telegrams were a fundraiser for the school’s choir.

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Anti-bias bill has good chance of passage, EU director says With a young freshman class of legislators who are focused on fiscal issues, queer-rights supporters are in a unique position to pass a statewide nondiscrimination law this year, said Brandie Balken, Equality Utah executive director. She spoke at a town hall meeting where more than 150 people gathered to learn more about this year’s efforts to extend anti-bias based protections in the workplace and housing to all Utahns.

“I cannot be more clear. I want this bill to pass. So we’re going to do everything we can to accomplish that,” Balken said.

This is the fourth year the

bill protecting against bias based on sexual orientation and gender identity has been proposed. It will begin in the Utah Senate, where it will be heard by the Rules Committee and recommended for a standing committee. While similar bills have been unable to receive the necessary votes to move out of committee and receive a vote by the entire body of the Senate or House, this year is different, Balken said. For the past six months, Equality Utah has worked with various politicians and lobbyists, including Republican lobbyist and former Speaker of the House Greg

Curtis, to ensure the bill has enough votes to pass.

“This is going to be a squeaker. We’re going to need all the votes we can get,” she said.

Approximately 70 percent of Utahns support passing a measure that would protect against bias based on sexual orientation and gender identity in workplace and in housing. For this reason, Equality Utah has focused time and energy into moving the ordinances forward both in municipalities and in the legislature, Balken said.

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would make the network of laws more uniform, she said.

There are various aspects to releasing the law and finding the right sponsors, co-sponsors and supporters, said Max Green, Equality Utah’s director of advocacy. But with a younger, possibly more openminded class of legislators, Utah is poised to make history and pass the measure, he said.

“I’ve spoken with every member of the Utah Legislature and most of them aren’t sure why we’re even having this conversation, why it’s even necessary,” Green said. “We’re in a very unique position this year.”

Along with the nondiscrimination bill, Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck is sponsoring a second-parent adoption bill that would allow unmarried partners to jointly adopt children. This issue only has about 30 percent approval from Uthans and is much less likely to pass, although it is still a very important issue, Balken said.

In order to keep the public apprised of all the nondiscrimination bill specifics and when it reaches committee hearings, Equality Utah is launching a new website and will be asking for help through that platform.

The site, utahvalue.org, will help voters connect with legislators, which will be instrumental in passing the measure, said Alejandro Mora, the associate of development and communications for Equality Utah.

Of particular importance is encouraging family members and friends who live outside of Salt Lake County to contact legislators to let them know the issue is important, Mora said. While the conversations can be difficult, it is paramount that legislators receive emails, letters and phone calls from constituents asking them to support the nondiscrimination bill. While nondiscrimination measures enjoy support from Democratic lawmakers, in order for it to be passed, the efforts need to reach across party lines, he said. Q

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PSL is holding registration for the upcoming season scheduled to run between April and August. Teams are allowed up to 20 players and must consist of both sexes.

Team registration fees are $250 and $25 per player. Registration will be Thursdays, 6–8 p.m. at Mo’s Neighborhood Grill, 358 S. West Temple and Saturdays, 4–6 p.m. at Club Try-Angles, 251 W. 900 South.

Individuals are also encouraged to join existing teams or form a new team, and those interested should email Aaron Smith, at psl@prideleague.com.

The earlier that individuals send email requests to join a team, the more likely they are to be placed.

The games are held Sundays through the summer and because there are three fields of play, competing at the same time, there is a congenial atmosphere. People often bring picnics and coolers and hang out to meet new friends and enjoy the summer afternoons, league commissioner Jarrod Ames said.

The same registration dates and times will also be available for those who are looking to join the newly created kickball and soccer leagues. The queerfriendly teams are new this year but have the same level of organization and support as the softball league. All ages and abilities are welcome to sign up for a team. The cost to join a kickball or soccer team is $25.

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Could it ever be possible for us to have equal rights in this theocracy? What a coup that would be.”

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With so much education provided about HIV and other STD’s and especially with the impact it’s had on the gay community, I find it sad that anyone would still practice unsafe sex. A one night stand is not worth your life or the lives of others. Just horrible.”

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I work for a company with the highest ranking possible by the HRC CEI, Wells Fargo, here, in Utah. In fact, they’ve ranked one of the highest for many, many years and have been listed by the HRC since 1987. Surely A. Scott Anderson of Zions has work to do. Wells Fargo may not be based here, but they offer a large number of jobs in this state, and I don’t just mean working at a store (branch), I mean all sorts of positions in service, technology, operations, insurance and investments. I never feel like a second-class citizen at work, in fact, I feel valued every day. Wells Fargo employs more people than the 2,700 Zions employs in Utah and supports the communities it serves. If they don’t consider this an HRC index Utah employer, then I don’t know what is.”

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It really wasn’t so long ago that Brigham Young had 55 wives, fully sanctioned by the [LDS] Church.

Not to mention Joseph Smith’s (alleged) 27 wives and countless episodes of infidelity. The LDS Church should be ashamed to even comment on the definition of marriage.”

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What’s this “one man and one woman” thing?

Have they forgotten about Brother Joseph and Brother Brigham?”

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Wasn’t there a time when Utah defined marriage as between a man with as many women as possible?”

–Paul Joncours

I am so looking forward to watching the Proposition 8 ban be overturned and enjoying the pleasure of thinking of all the bigots who sent their cash to screw over my adopted state. With a little luck, who knows? it could backfire completely on them and the high court could overturn all marriage bans.

Unlikely, but who knows?”

–Melvin Dean Baker

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Thank you for exposing this bigotry. DOMA must fall as it goes against certain other inalienable rights that we all have: To love, to be ourselves and to be a part of our community.”

– Sophia Hawes

Drag your feet all you want.

The tide is turning, and the momentum can’t be stopped.”

– Natalie Dicou

So very sad. When will people wake up?”

–Judy Grange about a double suicide in Salt Lake City

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from the editor For Mormon Church, change will not come from within

by Seth Bracken

Like many

gays in Salt Lake City and throughout the world, I went on a twoyear Mormon mission. While in Buenos Aires, I learned about faith, religion and my place in both. Although I returned an agnostic pessimist, I do not discount my experiences as a soldier for Jesus Christ.

One experience in particular stands out. I was serving in a small town on the outskirts of the capital city. While there, I was a member of the bishopric for the local congregation. I could barely hold a conversation in Spanish, but I was required to help lead a group of 20 or so new members of the faith. There was one woman in particular, Sister Acevedo, who could cause problems for the local clergy. She never took anything for granted and every Sunday she had a new set of questions. One week she had to know why tithing was to be 10 percent of all her income. The next week she insisted that until she met the president of the church, she wouldn’t be able to assess his ability to lead.

Most other missionaries avoided the good sister with a wide berth. But she was kind and patient with my terrible accent and lacking vocabulary.

But I still remember when she pulled me aside and asked when she would be allowed to hold the priesthood. Now, for those who don’t know, for Mormons the priesthood is literally the power of God and only men are allowed to use it. The tale goes that the first woman in the Garden of Eden, Eve, disobeyed God and ate the

apple first. As a result she and all her female descendents are required to obey and follow men who have the ability to act with God’s priesthood.

I tried to explain the doctrine but my naiveté and lack of fluency in Spanish resulted in very fruitless discussions.

Instead, Sister Acevedo took her concerns to the entire congregation and asked them to begin a letter campaign to the prophet demanding they be allowed access to the priesthood. She was immediately ostracized, laughed at and openly mocked by the other members.

She couldn’t understand why women should be relegated to second-class and was even more shocked when she realized she would be laughed out of the church for believing the way she did.

The kind and ambitious woman was certainly not the first quasi-activist within the Mormon religion. And she wasn’t the first who failed miserably. Many of the Mormon Church’s beliefs and practices have been controversial. From polygamy to ingrained racism, some of the strangest and most offensive practices have been changed.

But the change has never been a result from a ground swelling within the faith – quite the contrary. The religious tenants only change when it becomes impossible to continue with the current paradigm. Blacks were allowed to receive the priesthood only in 1978 when the stance became so unpopular it was seen as archaic. Polygamy was officially abolished only after

the state was unable to join the Union due to the practice.

There are many good members of the faith who are working to change the official stance of the church concerning gay issues. But I fear they will be no more successful than dear Sister Acevedo. History tells us it is so.

The Mormon Church faced enormous backlash from their stance on California’s Proposition 8. The financial donations from the members resulted in protests, documentaries, exposés and a huge setback for Mormon public relations. Church officials have since backed off of other similar marriage equality measures and appear to be trying to make grounds with the queer community, however small.

But the vitriol is still there.

And Mormon officials recently

filed a brief with the U.S. Supreme Court pleading the justices to rule against equality and against the rights of millions of Americans.

Until the Mormon Church’s vast bank account is damaged by their stance on gay issues, their attitude and actions will not change. The church is avoiding other marriage equality debates not because the leaders feel it’s the right thing to do, but because they saw how badly their participation tarnished their image.

I have many friends and family members who are Mormon, and I love them very dearly. But no matter how much they support me and my right to chose whom I want to marry, they will never change the minds of the 12 old, white men who believe they have a mandate from God. Q Su ga S r H po ou nso se r o Ar f tW al k

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thinking out loud

Is the Constitution passé?

by Abby Dees

On the

precipice of big change in LGBT rights, perhaps it’s time for a rethink.

Despite my radical spirit, my committed feminism and deep distrust of old establishments, after I went to law school I became a fawning, dorky fan of the U.S. Constitution. It’s normal for lawyers to do this. We see in the Constitution all this promise of equality and justice, even though we know all too well what a problematic document it is, and how very bloody its failings have been. We will fight for it like rabid dogs.

I was, therefore, gobsmacked to hear esteemed constitutional law professor Michael Seidman calling it “an ancient and outdated document” on CBS Sunday Morning last week. I almost threw my cereal at the TV. I refrained, and instead, continued to watch while suppressing a twitch. OK, he made some sense. His question was why are we so beholden to a

bunch of dead guys?

Come to think of it, is there really a good reason for the Electoral College or a two-year term for members of the House other than, “because the it’s in the Constitution”? All those provisions have done for us is Bush II and unending campaign robocalls. Even beyond its pragmatic failings, Seidman points to the gun-control debate to illustrate our misguided obsession with what people thought 200 years ago.

Instead of discussing the role guns should play in our society today, we get bogged down on what the framers meant in 1790.

One”s opinion on the matter then becomes needlessly elevated to a litmus test about who”s most patriotic, all because of the 2nd Amendment, written back when guns coughed out a lead gumball. At this point, forget rational debate.

I can”t really argue with him, but I”m not willing to concede so quickly, especially since this year promises to be a turning

sanctity of marriage Utahns marry, divorce more than average Utah boasts four of the top five metropolitan and micropolitan areas in the percentage of households headed by married couples, according to 2010 census data. Provo is at the top of the list with 69.6 percent and St. George is No. 2 at 66.6 percent. While more couples marry in Utah, there are also more divorces.

According to the census data Utah is eighth highest in divorce for women with 12.7 per 1,000 versus 9.7 per 1,000 nationally. Approximately 63 percent of Utahns identified as Mor-

mon, a faith that has challenged marriage equality in Utah, the U.S. and countries around the world. Church officials have said that gay marriage threatens the sanctity of the institution.

Ga. man charged with shooting newlywed wife A 45-year-old Georgia man is charged with shooting his newlywed wife. Marcus Hoskins had been married to Danielle Hoskins, 37, for 19 days when he allegedly shot her four times. Police say the shooting occurred after the couple visited their daughter who was recovering from surgery in an

Atlanta hospital. Police say Hoskins called 911 after the shooting and led authorities to her body.

Ghana man kills wife over some missing eggs Ama Jejeba, 26, was allegedly beaten unconscious by her husband, Kojo Tawiah.

She was pronounced dead at a local hospital. The attack took place in a rural region of the country which outlaws gay sex. Police said the man accused the wife of taking eggs from their hencoop without telling him. The argument took place in a public area and although local residents tried to intervene, they were too late and the woman hit her head on a drain and died.

point in LGBT rights. There”s no doubt that the Constitution got many things profoundly wrong – for example, the notorious provision that counted slaves as three-fifths a person, or the fact that only rich white men got to vote. Whoops.

I also see in it, though, a good faith attempt to be enlightened, to be better. The framers understood that it was inherently flawed and subject to the prejudices of the times. Thomas Jefferson probably embodied this contradiction as much as any of the founding fathers: he was a seeker of truth and also slave owner. I make no excuses for this, but he was at least somewhat aware of his failings. He wrote, “I am not an advocate for frequent changes in laws and constitutions, but laws and institutions must go hand in hand with the progress of the human mind”.We might as well require a man to wear still the coat which fitted him when a boy as civilized society to remain ever under the regimen of their barbarous ancestors.”

There is nowhere else in our legal canon such a document that allows for improvement to our collective wisdom or marks so well where we’ve been. The 3/5ths provision still exists in the text of the constitution, but it has been superseded by the extraordinary historical moment of the 14th Amendment (1866), recognizing the equality of all American citizens. And we’ve bumped along toward full equality for women, despite the failure of the ERA. The Supreme Court, as interpreter of our Constitution, has enshrined our biases, and then at other times, pushed us well out of our national comfort zone. In recent history, we only need look at the shameful Korematsu case of 1944 in which the internment of Japanese-Americans was held to be lawful.

Then, just ten years later, the Court declared segregation on the basis of race to be unlawful in Brown v. Board of Education.

My point is, the Constitution isn’t a crumbling piece of parchment; it is, like lawyers are fond of saying, a “living document.” In that spirit, LGBT rights are poised to be the next logical step in its – and our – growth. I’m all for deleting the Electoral College text, and who cares about the “framers’intent” if it can’t guide us today.

But I still have faith in the Constitution’s unique power to urge us forward. Absent a better alternative, I’ll keep it. Q Abby is a civil rights attorney-turned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for over 25 years. She can be reached at queerquestionsstraighttalk.com

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the straight line

Kinder, gentler Mormons?

by Bob Heniine

A few

years ago, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints took a public relations beating with its financial and ecclesiastical support of California’s Proposition 8, a ballot initiative that enshrined bigotry into California’s constitution much like Amendment 3 has done in Utah. Since that time, it seemed to many that the LDS Church was entering a new era, a kindler, gentler era in which they were taking a softer stance on LGBT issues.

First, a church spokesman openly endorsed non-discrimination ordinances in front of the Salt Lake City Council.

Next, they remained mostly quiet during the marriage equality debates in Colorado, Washington, and North Carolina. Recently they even launched a new website, mormonsandgays.org, which took a much softer tone than the previous rhetoric, although many (including myself) view that as more of a PR stunt than an actual softening of position.

If you were wondering about this kinder, gentler Mormonism, you can stop wondering. It’s still the same old bigotry.

On January 29, 2013 Von Keetch of Kirton McConkie filed a brief with the United States Supreme Court on behalf of LDS, Inc., defending California’s Proposition 8 on the grounds that, “Marriage defined as the union of one man and one woman is an axiom of Western civilization…” I guess that whole period of Mormon history where one man was married to several women

didn’t really happen?

The brief argues that the LDS Church, along with several other bigoted “faiths,” consider heterosexual monogamous marriages to be the cornerstone of society.

It further argues that allowing same-sex couples to wed not only interferes with their religious freedom, but also spells the doom of modern civilization. They bring out all of the old, tired rhetoric and discredited studies in arguing that children of heterosexual married couples in which both are the biological parents are somehow more stable and welladjusted.

But this is not an attack on gays. Oh, no. Arguing that same-sex couples are inherently unworthy of being parents should not be construed as insulting. No, this is just Mormons (and other evangelicals) exercising their freedom of religion. To “redefine marriage” as they claim, this would be allowing gays and lesbians to destroy their faith. Makes me wonder just how strong that faith is.

So now the LDS apologists will come out of the woodwork: not all Mormons are bigots. Of course, they’re right.

There are Mormons who aren’t the bigots that their leadership obviously is. I reached out to a couple of these groups: Mormons Building Bridges, the LDS Democratic Caucus, and Mormons For Marriage Equality.

Crystal Young-Otterstrom, Vice Chair of the LDS Dems responded to my request for comment with: “LDS Dems doesn’t get into

that issue…”

Mormons Building Bridges responded with: “Thanks for your inquiry.

Mormons Building Bridges has no comment on this matter.”

As of publication, I have not received any kind of response from Mormons For Marriage Equality.

The LDS Church is not softening its stance. It is a hate group hiding behind a perverse interpretation of 2,000 year-old fairy tales. We can try to play footsie with them, try to negotiate and even celebrate their sham “concessions,” but at the end of the day the “church” is nothing but a bunch of bigoted

old men hell-bent on oppressing this community. Even these “ally” groups that have formed within the LDS Church are afraid to take a stand when the mother ship sends out the control codes.

It’s time to call out LDS, Inc. for the institution of bigotry and hatred that it is. While we’re at it, perhaps the IRS needs to be looking into their political involvement with relation to their tax exempt status. The LDS leadership responds to two things: negative PR and declining revenues.

It’s time to hit them where it hurts. Enough is enough. Q

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lambda lore

How I became radicalized

by Ben Williams

In the

summer of 1989, I traveled to New York City for Pride because I wanted to be where it all began some 20 years before. At Sheridan Square, in front of the former Stonewall Inn, a mock reenactment of the raid, which had set off the Stonewall Riots, was taking place. Hundreds were jammed along the front sidewalk yelling at the fake cops who were pretending to be hauling off bar patrons and drag queens.

Handed foam yellow bricks to throw at the cops, the crowd called out, “pigs!” and, “pink, oink!” The taunting felt like I was transported back in time. So I joined in and enthusiastically yelled, “Gay power!”

Wasn’t that what this night was truly about, liberation and taking back our power?

As a chorus of ”Gay Power” joined me, someone yelled out, “Let’s take back 7th Avenue!” Spontaneously, hundreds converged into the intersection of Christopher Street and 7th Avenue. We lifted the police barricade and held it aloft so that the joyful, constrained crowd could move on down to the next intersection. Immediately the police arrived on the scene, but cautiously watched as the crowd swelled to several hundred chanting, “Arrest us! Just try it! Remember Stonewall was a Riot!”

The police had the common sense to keep a respectful distance as we danced in the street, chanting our slogans, “Hey, hey! Ho, ho! Homophobia’s got to go!”

The playful crowd was now more than 1000 strong and with the increased numbers, the silliness of the earlier revelers turned serious. I stayed with the young, urban radicals who were carrying the confiscated police barricade, stopping traffic and working up the crowd. The event was taking on a life of its own.

At one intersection, someone in his car tried to run us down. We streamed over to the police department where people demanded that the police do something.

Angry at the officers who would not address us, some of the young hot-heads began jumping on police cars parked out

front and banging on the police station’s front doors, which had been locked in case the crowd really turned ugly.

Several American flags were set on fire in front of the police station and finally the cops came out with a bull horn to address the crowd that had filled the street.

Some self-appointed spokesperson stated that gays in the Village were outraged over the recent killings of two gay men, but when the police officer said that the murders were not gay related, a chorus of “bull shit!” interrupted him. The crowd began to shout, “No more lies!” and, getting nowhere with the police, retreated after pelting the police station with condom packages.

Leaving the station, we headed for the West Highway along the Hudson River where the gay men were murdered.

Practicing civil disobedience, we sat down in the middle of the highway and blocked the Saturday night traffic along this major thoroughfare. We declared our sit-down space Queer Nation.

The sit-down, blocking a main traffic artery, brought the police out in full force to deal with a potential volatile situation.

However, they simply re-routed traffic rather than take on a crowd of thousands of gay radicals.

With no more traffic to hold up, we left the West Highway and went back to the streets where the gay bars were located.

We were now at least 10,000 strong and our one voice, shouting, “Gay power!” echoed down the narrow streets of Greenwich Village. As we slowly and aimlessly walked along the streets of the village, cars on cross streets were immobilized by the endless procession. Most people sat in their cars smiling and waving, being very supportive, but some looked very bewildered by it all, even scared and some, really mad.

At side street intersections, several of us acted as a human barricade. However, at one particular intersection, a brand new red automobile had stopped in front of us. It was full of young guys and they

started yelling at us, “Faggots get out of the fucking way!” Immediately, the car was surrounded by people pounding on the car to let the occupants know we weren’t taking heterosexual crap tonight. The driver flipped us off and plowed right into the human barricade, knocking down about five before speeding away.

Immediately a chase arose, and through the narrow streets hundreds ran after the car. I ran as fast as I could but kept getting passed up by the younger and stronger ones who were intent that this one would not get away. It was bedlam as the car drove up on the sidewalk, hitting some more gay people until cornered and surrounded.

The cops finally arrived Handed foam yellow to disperse bricks to throw at the angry and frusthe cops, the crowd trated crowd. called out, “pigs!”

But rather and, “pink, oink!” than just getting the hell out of there, incredibly the car backs up and tried to run down more people.

The crowd was intent on revenge now – cops or not. The car was surrounded and under siege by a tumultuous angry crowd of hundreds. Only after a squadron of cops put a stop to the melee were the visibly shaken and scared guys pulled from the car by the police. The car was trashed. The car really took the brunt of pent-up rage.

Meandering down the road to get back to Christopher Street, a young lesbian triumphantly exclaimed to me, “I use to be a yuppie but I’m an anarchist now!” and she proudly showed off a section of the red plastic tail light that she had ripped off the car. She held it like some trophy or treasured memento of a heroic battle. I suppose it was.

Exhausted, I sat down in the middle of

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the intersection of Christopher Street and 7th Ave. along with a gay man I met, named Michelle. He was the first one hit by the car but he said he was OK. We sat in the middle of the street with our arms around each other and drank in the scene of thousands milling around us on the warm June night. We both felt lucky and grateful to have taken part in the Second Stonewall Riot and were able to re-enact the magic of 1969. It was like being given a second chance to be a part of the most significant event in gay history.

There we were, 20 years after the real Stonewall – two strangers, locked in each other’s arms. Michelle informed me that he had just gone off of his AZT AIDS meds because they wren’t doing him any good. As we shared our stories, I reflected on my life and thought, “Here it is, midnight and I’m sitting in my white shorts on a dirty New York City intersection, holding a gay man who is dying of AIDS.” I was extremely grateful for every minute of it. Q

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now: “If I knew you were coming I’d have baked a cake. Unless you’re gay, unless you’re gay…”

That’s the theme song of Sweet Cakes bakery in Gresham, Oregon who will not make you a wedding cake if you’re getting gay married because: Jesus.

Granted, their website states three separate times that Sweet Cakes makes cakes “for ANY occasion.” Just not gay occasions, apparently.

On Jan. 17, Sweet Cakes owner Aaron Klein told a potential lesbian customer that his business was not interested in her lesbian money and would not make a lesbian cake for her lesbian wedding. According to news reports, the lesbian’s heterosexual mother had gotten her own hetero wedding cake there for her hetero wedding. It’s the kind of referral many business owners would be happy to have.

But not Klein who, according to him, told the ladies he was sorry for wasting their time, or according to the ladies, told them they were “abominations unto the lord.”

Either way, he refused their business solely because they were gay. (Although, in the bakery’s defense, their homepage says, “NO BOX CAKES!” which could be interpreted as anti-lesbian).

And so the couple filed a complaint with the state attorney general’s office because Oregon, unlike many states, includes sexual orientation in their non-discrimination law, which says a business can’t deny “full and equal accommodations” to people just because the owner thinks God is telling him to.

“I believe marriage is a religious institution between a man and woman as stated in the Bible,” Klein told The Oregonian.

“When someone tells me that their definition is something different, I strongly disagree. I don’t think I should be penalized for that.”

That’s how laws work, right? We pick and choose the ones we want and don’t want to follow according to what we

“strongly disagree” with? Which means since I strongly disagree with the law against marriage equality in my home state of Michigan, I can totally just abracadabra be legally married to my wife because I said so.

Not surprisingly, Klein’s refusal and the resulting legal action has received a lot of outrage both in favor of the baker and in favor of the lesbian couple. People are all, “Just go to a different bakery.” And, “I’m going to buy and eat all the Sweet Cakes cupcakes I can fit into my gay-hating mouth.” And, “You show “em, ladies! Stick it to the homophobes.”

It’s true that there are plenty of bakeries in Oregon who’d happily bake lesbians a cake as fast as they can.

It’s also true He’d rather go out that Klein is of business than entitled to his opinion. make cakes for But he isn’t same-sex weddings entitled to break the law and discriminate based on sexual orientation, just like he isn’t entitled to refuse to make a cake for a Bat Mitzvah because he believes the Jews killed Jesus or something.

And don’t try telling me it’s not the same thing, as if one is just exercising your first amendment rights and the other is “real” discrimination. To make that claim is to devalue gay and lesbian people and sanction the discrimination they face.

During a TV news interview Klein told the reporter that he’d rather go out of business than make cakes for same-sex weddings. That certainly is his choice to make. And in a state with just laws, that is a chance a business owner who discriminates against gays and lesbians should have to face. Discrimination should have consequences.

As for the Sweet Cakes supporters who are devouring pastries in a show of antigay solidarity, I could’ve sworn the Bible said something about gluttony. Q

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a mom’s view

Does bullying start at home?

by Leesa Myera

November

29, 2012, a 14-year-old student from Bennion Junior High School in Taylorsville took his own life in front of classmates and parents. Student’s said it was well know that he was bullied; people said he was gay and would make fun of him for it.

We have all heard the statistics. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, each year approximately 157,000 youth between the ages of 10 and 24 receive medical care for self-inflicted injuries at emergency departments across the U.S. and it is reported LGBT youths are five-times more likely to attempt suicide than other teens. Talking with other parents of gay and lesbian children, this is our biggest fear we have for our children.

Moms who have transgender children also are especially concerned about attacks from other people.

It is very clear to see that suicide rates are skyrocketing and behind many of those suicides are acts of bullying.

I think that it is fair to say that a Where is a safe high majority of us were zone if not at bullied – not home? only LGBT, but the overweight, those with glasses, short, tall, religious, ethnic, boys, girls, braces, grades, single parents, divorced parents, poor, rich and the list goes on.

There is bullying at church, work, school and even at home. The hardest is at home, because where is a safe zone if not home?

Where?

I was raised with three brothers; two were six and seven years older and one was younger. My second-to-oldest brother

would tease me and tickle me until my oldest brother would intervene. Since I was a girl, my brothers did not want me around. I felt alone. Where we lived there were two young girls my age, but I did not live in a nice home and my parents were divorced.

I was the second tallest in my school and was teased there. I hated me and my life.

I got married and had two children, I think about the words I would use when yelling at my daughter, spoiled, brat, why can’t you do anything right. I cringe at the words and have apologized over and over, but relationships are fragile and easily broken like a dish. When glued back together, you still see the cracks.

My daughter has four children. My oldest grandson, Zac, is 16, and granddaughter, Alyssa, is 15. They fight. They are jealous of each other and, at times, very cruel to each other. Zac is overweight; Alyssa is athletic and good at all sports. My daughter yells at Zac because he sits around or is always playing video games. Zac has been bullied because of his weight at school. My daughter has even gone to school to the talk with the counselor. Where is the safe zone? For Zac, the safe zone is his video games and reading. I tell Zac how much he is loved and pray that he will feel that love. Zac also makes choices that cause him more pain and stress, but he does not see it.

We are concerned about the bullying at school, but we have to start by having a safe zone at home. Suicide is escalating.

There is more violence in TV shows, movies and, especially, video games. I believe this reflects the violence that is going on within us. I ask you to take a hard look at how you treat yourself. For all our sakes, let us each strive to uplift others. Let us support others by saying no to bullying and violence. Q Leesa@LeesaMyers.com

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Ala. teacher accused of making anti-gay, racist remarks An Alabama teacher is under investigation for anti-gay slurs and condoning racist remarks.

A student allegedly recorded Bob Grisham the Rogersville High School football coach, who also teaches psychology, spewing anti-gay slurs and condoning racist attacks on Michelle Obama in his classroom.

The investigation includes a recording of Grisham asking students if they know who is behind a push to make school lunches healthier.

“Fat butt Michelle Obama,” he said. “Look

at her. She looks like she weighs 185 or 190.

She’s overweight.” Male voices interject referring to Michelle Obama as a “fat gorilla.”

Grisham also said he believes the country is going in the “wrong direction” and tells students, “get pissed off at me or not. You can go tell the principal, call the superintendent and tell her. I don’t believe in queers.

I don’t like queers, I don’t hate them as a person, but what they do is wrong and an abomination against God.” Grisham later tried to backtrack and said he harbors no hatred toward any group.

The Lauderdale County School Board voted to suspended Grisham without pay for 10 days and attend sensitivity training for four days. Grisham was also removed

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Oregon teen takes own life after bullying A 15-year-old gay Oregon student was taken off life support after hanging himself in a school playground. Jadin Bell, 15, took his own life after he faced intense bullying from other students. He was a member of his high school cheerleading team and volunteered at an assisted-living facility. Other students say his sexuality made him an easy target for bullies at the school and online.

“He was different, and they tend to pick on the different ones,” said family friend Bud Hill.

like Petition to repeal nondiscrimination ordinance fails A coalition of conservative and religious groups failed in their effort to repeal an antibias law passed by the Omaha City Council. The effort to repeal the ordinance and launch a referendum needed 11,400 resident signatures but failed to report any petitions.

The Omaha Liberty Project, the sponsor of the petition effort, blames the failure on getting a late start, not on public opinion.

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A new immigration policy proposal from President Barack Obama includes provisions to protect binational gay families. In addition to tightening borders and going after companies that hire undocumented workers, Obama’s plan streamlines the process for foreigners to live and work in the country.

The proposal treats same-sex

couples as families by granting U.S. citizens and permanent residents the ability to seek a visa on the basis of a permanent relationship with a same-sex partner. There is also broader discretion for agents to waive requirements in cases of hardship.

‘Gomer Pyle’ actor marries partner Actor Jim Nabors married his boyfriend of 40 years, Stan Cadwallader. Nabors began his career on The Andy Griffith Show and then his own show, Gomer Pyle. The actor revealed the couple married in Washington.

“I’m 82 and he’s in his 60s and so we’ve been together for 38 years and I’m not ashamed of people knowing, it’s just that it was such a personal thing, I didn’t tell anybody,” Nabors said. “I’m very happy that I’ve had a partner of 38 years and I feel very blessed. And, what can I tell you, I’m just very happy.”

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who’s your daddy?

Me and Sarah Palin

by Christopher Katis

Parents

find themselves doing all sorts of activities they never thought in their wildest imaginations they’d do before kids were in the picture. One former neighbor of ours once told me about his experience at a Wiggles concert.

He said the words “surreal” really didn’t do the encounter justice.

Well, on any given Saturday, you can find me sitting in the bleachers at the ice rink watching youth-league hockey. It’s not exactly what you’d expect

Gradually, watching my kid play hockey, I’ve seen a growing aggression in myself. for a member of a community that popularized brunch, but it’s my reality.

To be fair, I like hockey. I went to some professional games when we lived in California, and many of our friend’s league games. In fact, both of the boys’ godfathers are hockey players – one even played in the minor leagues.

So, I guess maybe hockey for Gus was unavoidable.

But hockey changes a guy.

I don’t know about players, but it definitely changes their parents. Now that I’m a hockey dad, I understand Sarah Palin a lot more than I did when she was a mainstay on the nightly

news. I still don’t get how she thinks she can see Russia from her front porch, but I understand why she seems so agitated all the time.

When the season started, I was very glad to hear the coach tell the parents that in this league that they focus on skills, sportsmanship and character development. I was excited to hear him talk about cheering for all the kids and building them up.

And then the kids hit the ice. True, none of the parents on our team has ever yelled or badmouthed any of the other players. There’s never been harsh words spoken among the parents – and I’m truly grateful for that. But that very first game, I applauded as enthusiastically when the other team scored as I did when our team scored.

Not so much anymore.

I’ve always labored under the hopeful notion that all people conduct themselves in a similar manner. We’ve always tried to instill in the boys a certain degree of decorum when playing sports. Good-natured trash talking is encouraged; poor sportsmanship is not. And seriously, from what I’ve seen, there can be a lot of what I’d consider poor sportsmanship in hockey.

Honestly, before I became a dad, I just assumed that every parent expected their children to act in a similar manner. I know my naivety is charming.

Gradually, watching my kid play hockey, I’ve seen a growing aggression in myself.

No, I’m not about to scream at someone else’s kid for a missed

goal. No, I’m not going to yell at another parent. But, I have to admit, seeing my kid get intentionally tripped repeatedly – in a league that works to discourage such behavior – really pissed me off. And yeah, I did yell at the referee from my seat.

What I have done is told my son that it’s OK for him to be aggressive back. No, I don’t ever want him to check someone or trip them, but it’s OK to be a little more aggressive when need be. And that’s when I had my epiphany about Sarah

Palin. We’re both just a couple of mama bears protecting our kids.

That’s where the comparison ends, but I do understand where she’s coming from a lot better now.

I’m glad Gus plays hockey.

It’s something he really enjoys.

And I’m learning to balance the realities that come with my son playing a potentially hard-hitting sport and my personal philosophy of decorum. Besides, it beats going to a Wiggles concert, dontcha know. Q

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Spring Arts Guide While our space heaters are still going full-blast, at least we can dream of upcoming events in the spring. Here is our list and highlights of what’s out there.

Plan-B’s ‘Eric(a)’ highlights humanism behind transgender experience Some

dramatic characters take on a life of their own and Eric is one of those characters.

Plan-B Theatre Company’s performances of Eric(a) will feature Teresa Sanderson as Eric, a transgender man who falls in love with a woman, as a man, for the first time.

The play is a one-actor performance that obliterates the fourth wall and audience members will feel as if they are at a transgender event. In place of other actors and sets, Eric simply shares his story of transitioning and living a fuller, more authentic life. He tells how he met and married his husband before he transitioned and the

effect the transition had on his daughter and family life. But the central conflict revolves around meeting and dating his first female love, Addie.

As Eric wrestles with the decision about when to come out as transgender to Addie, he’s also excited about the prospect of passing with someone he finds very attractive, both physically and emotionally.

“The play isn’t a transgender play. It’s a play about someone who happens to be transgender,” said Plan-B Producing Director Jerry Rapier.

While many of the central conflicts and dramatic elements revolve around Eric’s

gender identity, there is much more to the play than trans issues.

“We’ve all faced issues of honesty in relationships, especially new relationships,” Sanderson said. “I think that’s what makes Eric so relatable and a perfect allegory.”

While writing the play, Matthew Ivan Bennett went through multiple drafts and Eric was included in a three-part play and a draft where he was part of a quasiparallel universe. Through all the re-writes,

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readers and friends were most interested in Eric’s story and wanted to hear more, Bennett said. Eventually, the excess storylines were discarded and the result of more than a year’s work and research was Eric(a).

“I became fascinated with Eric and researching his story. I used internet chat rooms, discussions with trans people and read several books,” Bennett said. “I was always very accepting but I had never really faced the question head-on.”

Eric(a) is written for a broad audience and those who are familiar with the trans community and those who aren’t will find the play to be informative and poignant.

While tackling subjects such as gender reassignment surgery and family rejection after coming out as transgender, the underlying themes are a basic, human story, Bennett said.

“I think that whether you’re a trans man or cisgender, there are always issues of what it means to be a man,” he said. “We have conceptions of masculinity but it’s not just trans men who wonder what it means to be a man.”

The character has some flaws, but ultimately is learning how to be live life authentically and what it means to be honest, Bennett said. He’s still new to his life as a man and he’s learning how to handle some of the difficult decisions.

In writing, Bennett took examples from friends and trans people to offer a more authentic picture. One of the more affecting stories was Eric’s recollection of purchasing pants secretly from the Salvation Army to avoid the dresses Erica’s mother purchased. The amount of research Bennett did shines through in small and large details. From language to personal experiences, the story rings true and fits perfectly into the design of the production.

The witty dialogue and literary devices help to engage the audience and give permission to laugh at a very serious subject.

And as time passes, many transgender people are able to recall past events with humor, Bennett said.

While preparing for the role, Sanderson spoke with friends and become more acquainted with the transgender community. She asked all the tough and intimate questions and nothing was out of bounds, Sanderson said.

While she has played leading roles and worked with Bennett before, this is her first time in a single-actor play. However, Rapier assures that Sanderson is the best character actor in the region and is up for the challenge.

“This role was written for her and I think there will be people coming to the

show just to see what she can do with this role,” Rapier said.

While the subject matter may seem progressive for Utah, both Bennett and Rapier said they aren’t nervous about people shying away. Instead, they are looking for the best stories to tell and the best people to tell them, Rapier said.

“If I could accomplish even just one thing, it would be to have people walking to P.F. Chang’s after the performance asking the important questions,” Bennett said.

“What if I were trans? What would I do?

I don’t want people to just talk about the play. I want them to ask those questions.”

The show runs Feb. 28-March 10. For tickets, go to planbtheatre.org.

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‘Shrek: The Musical’ brings fairy tale creatures to Salt Lake City With Shrek, Donkey, Fiona, Pinocchio and the other fairy tale creatures, Dreamworks has moved its hit movie from the silver screen to the stage. After being nominated for eight Tony Awards, including Best Musical, the nationwide tour of Shrek: The Musical began. The stunning production, complete with the Tony Award-winning costumes and sets will stop in Salt Lake City, Feb. 26-March 3 at Capitol Theatre.

To learn more about how the musical was moved from movie to stage, we chatted with Tony Johnson, the actor who plays Pinocchio about the production, the music and how he makes his nose grow.

When did the tour start? We went into rehearsals last year and opened in October.

We’ll continue until May 7. Right now we’re in Dayton, Ohio, for about two weeks. We opened in Alaska and were there for about two weeks.

How has the tour been going? It’s been wonderful. Shrek is its third year on tour and has seen a lot of cities. This is kind of the last stretch before the rights are released for regional productions. We’re on the last leg of the tour and we’re hitting a lot of one-nighters. Every audience is very packed and full of people that have all been waiting for Shrek to come to their city.

For those here in Utah that aren’t familiar with the adaptation, how does it move from movie to stage? The story of the musical follows the first movie. It will feel pretty familiar; Shrek, Donkey and Fiona face off against Lord Farquaad. The musical is great because it gets to elaborate on the characters and add so much more.

The musical has an entire cast of fairy tale creatures. The musical allows you to get to know the colorful and crazy characters.

What are the biggest challenges in production? I think audiences are expecting it to be different because it is a musical.

But I think it’s a challenge to loosen audience members up, at least at first.

But the show is so smart and so funny.

It extends to children and adults and the humor is perfect for kids of all ages. I think people really take to it.

The production quality is amazing. The costumes are unbelievable. It’s really visu-

ally stunning. The dragon looks exactly like the dragon from the film and I think people start to love it very quickly.

How would you describe the atmosphere and feel of the music and production? I think the atmosphere is really grand. It depends what theater we’re playing, but when we’re able to employ all of the things that are traveling with us it’s amazing.

Just recently we had a rehearsal and when I looked over and saw the dragon I couldn’t help but notice how amazing she really is. The props, costumes and sets look just like the movie

How would you describe the music? It’s very creative.

I wish I could compare it to something you might already know. It’s all over the place.

Every number has a different feel ‘ there is Broadway, country, rock, just a little bit of everything. The music hits a lot of genres so the audience doesn’t get tired of the sound.

It was written by Jeanine Tesori, who has done so many great works, including Thoroughly Modern Millie. The music is just very well done. The lyrics are smart, funny and witty.

Do we get to see a little more of Pinocchio in the musical? Yes, you get to see more of him. He has funny bits in the musical and is a well-featured character.

He is definitely silly and pretty outrageous.

In the musical he is the center of the fairy tale creatures’ story. The creatures get evicted from their homes and are taken out to the swamp. He struggles with self acceptance and wondering if he’s a wooden boy or a real boy. He has some pretty big musical numbers, including ‘Let Your Freak Flag Fly.’

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Does Pinocchio’s nose grow in the musical? The nose grows twice. I have a battery-operated pack and I wear a harness that attaches around my chest and a battery pack in right leg with a cord that runs down my arm. I have a little lever in my hand and all of that is attached to the nose on my face.

It seems like a lot of work, but that’s the point, every detail is taken care of in the show.

Why should adults go and see the show? A lot of times people think it’s just a kid’s show and think it’s only for families. But the humor extends itself to all ages. It’s smart, fun and everyone will love it.

I think the parallel between Shrek being an ogre and learning to accept it as his identity draws some interesting parallels for sexual orientation, as well.

Do you have any advice for young, gay aspiring thespians in Utah? I guess just accept who you are and live your life and make your choices. Meet new people and go to new places. Go to New York. It’s a wonderful, wonderful place where you will find what you need to start a career.

“Shrek: The Musical” plays Feb. 26–March 3 at Capitol Theatre. Tickets are available at arttix.org

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Spring Arts Calendar

From Taylor Swift to Lord of the Dance and Jersey Boys, this spring’s entertainment calendar has something for everyone. Follow gaysaltlake.com for more fabulous arts and entertainment news and events.

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Grand Theatre

Sugar Space

Evil Dead: The Musical March 29–30 La Cage Aux Folles May 9–25

198 Inches of Awesome Feb. 28–March 2

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Hale Centre Theatre

Plan–B Theatre Company

Chitty Chitty Bang Bang Feb. 15–April 13 No Time for Sergeants April 23–May 25 Ragtime June 5–July 27

Eric(a) Feb. 28–March 10 Suffrage April 4–14 SLAM May 4

halecentretheatre.org

planbtheatre.org

Pygmalion Theatre Company pygmalionproductions.org

Theater & Dance Ballet West balletwest.org

Cinderella Feb. 14–23 Jewels April 5–13

Cheat Through March 10 A Night with the Family April 25–May 12

Fiddler on the Roof June 24–July 20

Dark Horse Theatre Company Assassins Feb. 28–March 3 Reefer Madness–The Musical April 19–28

Repertory Dance Theatre

Odyssey Dance Theatre odysseydance.com

saltlakecity.broadway.com

Shrek: The Musical Feb. 26–March 3 Lord of the Dance April 2 West Side Story April 16–21 Jersey Boys June 4–16

Centerpoint Legacy Theatre

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Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat March 4–30 The Secret Garden April 22–May 18

Desert Star Theatres desertstar.biz

Kicking the Hobbit Now through March 23 The Lone Stranger March 28–June 8

Empress Theatre empresstheatre.com

Big: The Musical Feb. 28–March 2 Anything Goes March 15–April 13 Young Frankenstein April 26–May 18 Night at the Wax Museum May 31–June 22

one hundred thousand April 25–27

ririewoodbury.com

theatre.utah.edu

U of U Modern Dance dance.utah.edu

Spring Concert March 28–30 Modern Dance Senior Concerts I & II April 11–20

Doctor U Now through March 16 Peter Pun and the Pirates April 5–May 11

Gallery Art

Pinnacle Acting Company

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Clybourne Park Feb. 15–March 2 The Odd Couple March 22–April 6 Les Miserables May 3–June 1

Spring Awakening April 12–18 Once Upon a Mattress June 21–July 7

Reasons to be Pretty March 19–24

Off Broadway Theatre

pioneertheatre.org

theatre.utah.edu

Women of Valor: In the Spirit April 11–13

Ririe–Woodbury Dance Company

Pioneer Theatre Company

U of U Babcock Theatre

U of U Studio 115

Shut Up & Dance March 5–18

Betrayal May 3–12

The Comedy Of Oedipus March 22–30 Die Zauberflote (The Magic Flute) March 28–30 Orchesis Dance — Spring April 4–6 The One-Act Play Festival April 9–13

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Broadway Across America – Utah

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Salt Lake Acting Company

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How to Make a Rope Swing Now through March 3 The Exit Interview April 10–May 5 Saturday’s Voyeur 2012 June 26–Sep. 1

SB Dance

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Of Meat & Marrow June 15

Art Access accessart.org

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New York art legend Joey Arias makes Salt Lake City debut

It’s not

often that one of the New York’s art scene legends comes to Utah. But on Feb. 28, Joey Arias will perform with Kristian Hoffman at Urban Lounge in Salt Lake City. For those not familiar with Arias, his quasi-drag, gender-bending performance art has influenced many other artists, including Lady Gaga and he’s been a staple of the New York art scene since the 1980s. His style is shocking, distinctive and touching. Arias’ deep, Billie Holiday-esque voice is soothing and haunting all at once.

But Arias is much more than just a singer. He’s an artist with a surprising talent for showmanship. His new show, Lighting Strikes, will be hitting cities all around the nation and Salt Lake’s show is sure to be special.

“We called it Lighting Strikes because we’ll be all around the country hitting here and hitting there. And lighting is so powerful, it hits and creates light, it’s

shocking and it’s beautiful,” Arias said. “I’m so excited to come back to Utah and get to spend a little more time than my last visit.

Everything there looks so beautiful and I can’t wait to see it a little more.”

Arias’ show will feature his signature style with passionate vocals and his beyond-drag persona.

“I’m a performer, I’m a singer. I use different elements. And since the ‘90s I started donning the dress. I don’t even need tits anymore. It’s about a silhouette, the essence of Joey Arias. I’m otherworldly, a witch, a chameleon – truly one of a kind,” Arias said.

Moving beyond drag, Arias describes his identity as the Z chromosome. Complete androgyny and performance, Arias is more than a simple drag caricature.

Arias has many film credits to his name and is also a trained visual artist. He originated Cirque du Soleil’s Mistress of Seduction in the Zoomanity performance

at the New York, New York Casino in Las Vegas and wrote two original songs for the show.

“I’m an artist. But when people ask what I do, I tell them I am a singer. I think that’s where I am and what I do,” Arias said. “I can’t say I’m a commercial success because I’m not like Madonna or Prince. But I have a great following and I can say I’ve achieved legendary status in the underground world.”

Being a performance artist is a dream come true for Arias and he said he hopes he can help inspire others to follow their own dreams, especially queer youth.

“If I could say one thing to young people in Utah, it would be to be honest with yourself and live authentically. I would tell them to be open, be true and follow what they believe and it will all work out, even if it’s difficult at first,” he said. Q Tickets for Arias’ show are $10 and available at 24tix.com.

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Mummies of the World exhibit comes to Utah

by Seth Bracken

The nationally

recognized Mummies of the World exhibition is making its regional debut at The Leonardo in Salt Lake City. The presentation shows its astonishing collection, including a 6,420-year-old mummy from Peru, the famous Detmold Child. This particular mummy dates back more than 3,000 years before King Tut. The New York Times called the presentation “magical and mythical” and it has been touring the country for three years. Exhibitions in Mummies of the World include collections from around the world and that span the eons of history. There are more than 150 specimens and objects, making it the largest exhibition of real human and animal mummies ever assembled.

The exhibition takes a unique interactive approach through multimedia design. It reveals how mummies provide a window into the lives of ancient people and civilizations.

The display also demonstrates that mummification has taken place all over the globe.

“The Leonardo has the unique ability and mission of bringing major educational experiences like Mummies of the World to the people of Utah and the Intermountain West,” said Alexandra Hesse, executive director of The Leonardo. “Thanks to modern tools from biology and chemistry, medical imaging, DNA science and even 3D animation, young people and adults will gain a deeper understanding of people, cultures and environments of the past. In doing so, we hope to instill a sense of curiosity and wonder in each visitor.”

In addition to the Detmold Child, the rare and ancient objects presented in Mummies of the World include the Vac Mummies, a mummified family from Hungary believed to have died from tuberculosis; the Baron von Holz, a German nobleman found tucked away in

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the family crypt of a 14th century castle wearing his best leather boots; an ancient Peruvian woman naturally mummified in the warm desert air with mysterious tattoos on her face and chest and long black hair intact; and a howler monkey from Argentina, with its fierce expression and adorned with a feather skirt and headdress.

“We are excited to bring Mummies of the World to Salt Lake City,” said Marc Corwin, president of American Exhibitions, Inc. “Most people think mummies come from Egypt and are wrapped, but mummies come from all over the world. The exhibition is changing centuriesold perceptions about what the general public thinks about mummies and providing insight into the lives and cultures of these ancient people. Inside every mummy is a story waiting to be told, and Mummies of the World is here to tell those stories.”

The concept for the exhibition began with the rediscovery of 21 specimens within the Reiss-Engelhorn Museums of Mannheim, Germany in 2004. A consortium of mummy researchers, known as the German Mummy Project, used DNA analysis and other research techniques to learn more and engaged the cooperation of 21 world-renowned museums, organizations and collections in seven countries to make this innovative exhibition possible.

Mummies of the World will be on display at The Leonardo now through May 27.

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’8’ to debut at UVU

Most are

familiar with California’s Proposition 8, the state’s ban on gay marriage. Most are aware that various courts have considered its constitutionality and it’s even made its way to the U.S. Supreme Court.

But until recently, most were unable to view the court proceedings. Video cameras were removed from the courtroom and only transcripts were released.

Playwright and former Utah Pride Festival Grand Marshal Dustin Lance Black used transcripts and interviews with journalists, lawyers and participants to create a reenactment of the proceedings. His work, David Beach 8, opened on Broadway and later in Los Angeles where the star-studded cast reading was broadcast on YouTube for the world to see. The broadcast included actors Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Jamie Lee Curtis, Matthew Bomer, Kevin Bacon and many others.

The rights to the play were released so colleges and community theaters could perform the work free of charge. Utah Valley University student David Beach started a grassroots campaign to obtain the rights and perform the play at the Orem school.

The play will run March 29-30 and tickets are available at UVU Campus Connection.

We spoke with Beach, who will direct the play, about how he got involved and why he decided to bring it to UVU. How did you get involved in the project? I saw the live YouTube stream of the Los Angeles Cast of 8. There was this beautiful moment between Kris and Sandy and at that moment I said I would direct that show. It put the whole Proposition 8 controversy in a different light. All of a sudden it wasn’t about gay marriage or gay love; I realized it’s about love and commitment.

That night I got on the 8 website and saw the rights were available. I immediately

applied for them then got in contact with the Spectrum Club (the queer-straight alliance) at UVU. Why did you decide it was important to have the play at UVU? The story of 8 has a beautiful message. I wanted to share that beauty with my fellow classmates and hope that they will be moved as I was.

UVU also has a reputation and nickname of BYU-Orem.

By doing this on campus, I hope to remind students that there is a different point of view on campus and unify the student body.

about the play’s content? We had a little bit of pushback right at the beginning, but we’ve had more positive support more than anything. Every professor I have mentioned it to has been excited about it. I think they have realized that we are using it as an educational tool and a chance to open up a much needed discussion. UVU is

Was it difficult to get the rights to perform it? Not at all. They were so excited we applied for them especially when they did a little research on the school and a few key people in the administration.

Who is sponsoring the play? UVU Spectrum Club is the official sponsor, but other clubs and individuals throughout the community have stepped up to the plate: UVU Gender Studies, BYU Understanding Same-Gender Attraction, the [UVU] Theater Department, just to name a few. The Matrons of Mayhem helped us through their February Third Friday Bingo.

Is the performance more for UVU students, the Utah County community, all of the Wasatch Front or a blend? Anyone who wants to attend is welcome to participate, whether as a cast member or just coming to see the reading.

UVU is no stranger to controversy on campus. Was there difficulty in getting administrative approval? That’s where things got a little tricky. I approached the Spectrum Club about doing it. So rather than running through an academic department and the administration, it ran through UVU Clubs and UVU Student Affairs.

Have you seen or do you expect backlash

a public institution and there isn’t a reason not to let it happen.

I would like to thank UVU President Holland for allowing us this opportunity to be engaged in the learning process.

When can we see it and how do we get tickets? The readings will take place in the UVU Science Auditorium on March 29 at 7:30 p.m. and March 30 at 2 p.m.

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The New York Times calls it “magical and mythical.”

Mummies of the World, the largest exhibition of mummies and related artifacts ever assembled, presents a collection of naturally and intentionally preserved mummies at The Leonardo.

Through May 27. The Leonardo at Library Square, 209 E. Fifth South. Tickets $18-22.50, theleonardo.org or 801-530-9800

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Here to Stay is a multimedia concert tribute to George and Ira Gershwin, one of the greatest songwriting teams in American music history. A cast of amazing performers guide us with song and dance through the legacy of Gershwin favorites, including Porgy & Bess, Crazy for You, Rhapsody in Blue, An American in Paris, I Got Rhythm and many more.

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, Presidents Circle, Univ. of Utah. Tickets $25-45, $5 for UofU students, tickets.kingsburyevents. com or 801-581-7100

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his corned beef and cabbage to celebrate.

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, Presidents Circle, Univ. of Utah. Tickets $22.50-49.50 or $5 for UofU students. tickets.kingsburyevents.com or 801-581-7100.

Open 2pm to 2am, Club Try-Angles, 251 W. 900 South

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Join a current patient, a caregiver, a social worker, a doctor, a nurse, and a chaplain to help in the discussion. Followed by classical music and discussion.

The annual AIDS Awareness Week benefit concert, Live! for Life, features live performances from talented gay and straight people to raise money for the RCGSE AIDS Awareness Fund, which provides special assistance to local individuals and organizations in need. Bring some extra cash to tip the performers, who donate them to the charity.

6pm Social Hour, 7pm Concert. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 261 S. 900 East. $5 at the door.

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The story of Rev. Gene Robinson, the first openly gay Episcopal priest whose induction has caused ripples across the worldwide Anglican Communion, Love Free or Die will go live on all digital outlets, including Netflix and iTunes. Macky Alston’s film won a Special Jury Prize for an Agent of Change at the 2012 Sundance and QSaltLake helped bring it to Salt Lake last Fall.

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Don’t worry. Be happy. Bobby McFerrin celebrates the transcendence of the American spirit with joyful new takes on familiar tunes. The 10-time Grammy Award winner will transform a concert hall into a playground, a village center, a joyous space.

7:30pm, Peery’s Egyptian Theater, 2415 Washington Blvd, Ogden. Tickets $33 at smithstix.com or 801-689-8700

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Holi is the Festival of Colors, a traditional Indian holiday celebrated in our own innovative fashion. By far their biggest festival of the year, during Holi 2012 65,000 revelers flooded the temple and grounds for two days day of brightly colored powder, mantra, music and a bit of “holi” mayhem.

Sat. 10am to 8pm, Sunday 11am to 4pm, Sri Sri Radha Krishna Temple, 8628 South Main St., Spanish Fork. Tickets $3 at the gate.

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Comedian

takes on Jodie Foster, “disgusting” reality shows and voices in the night Sandra Bernhard has never been one to mince her words. The saucy comedian – who’s been performing her audacious standup since the “70s “ wasn’t about to change her ways during our interview, where she says gay people need to get over Jodie Foster’s emotional coming-out (or whatever it was) and why she’ll never do a reality TV show.

In a review for your current show, The New York Times says the “meanness has largely evaporated.” Is that true? I just think it’s transformed. As an artist and performer, you constantly transform your emotions in a different way. Certainly I’m still fueled by the same things that I have always been concerned about or fascinated by, but you just can’t stay locked in the same mentality your entire life. That just shows absolutely no evolution as a person.

So the meanness isn’t completely gone. I don’t think I’ve ever been mean, per se. Some people who are intimidated are gonna think I’m mean or scary; other people are just gonna think I’m ballsy. In terms of being strong and forthright and saying what’s on my mind, I don’t think that’ll ever change.

Is writing standup now easier than it was at the beginning of your career? No. My material has always just come from casual conversation. It just comes to me in a very melodic way. I don’t sit down and write material that way. A lot of my ideas are offthe-cuff, and I develop them from there.

Of all your passions – music, comedy, politics – is there a specific one that you find most fulfilling? Everything is in tandem with the others. Being a mother and being in a relationship with somebody for almost 14 years is sort of my bedrock.

And my dog George, who’s a rescue pup.

These are all things that anchor me day to day, and then I kind of go out from there.

If you don’t have a solid base for your life, the rest of it doesn’t even have any impact after a certain point. So I think all that stuff melds together and it’s all exciting to me. It’s exciting to me that I can go out into the world and talk about all of it and experience it and retreat from it. I think that’s what keeps people sane and healthy.

When we spoke four years ago, you mentioned looking for a regular TV gig. I still am.

Is it difficult to find roles or are you just picky? Well, it’s kind of a combination of both. There are certain things that I just wouldn’t be happy doing. But there are just not that many roles that are right, either. I also have completely new representation in the last year that is really on top of it in a different way, so I’m feeling much more confident. In fact, I just did a guest-starring role on The Neighbors.

How about for the rest of the year? Any major TV gigs in the works? Yeah, I’m looking at them. It’s pilot season now, so as soon as that kicks into high gear, I’m sure I’ll be auditioning for several different roles and hopefully landing something ‘ and hopefully that show will get picked up. It’s a big process for all that to happen.

I don’t think people realize that. No, they don’t. They think it’s all magic.

As one of the first gay characters on television as Nancy Bartlett on Roseanne,

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what do you think of the strides we’ve made on TV as far as inclusivity? It’s kind of stalled out. Some of it’s grotesque.

Modern Family is fabulous and fun; The New Normal is over-the-top and awful and stupid and doesn’t really hit anything important.

Which is ironic, because it’s Ryan Murphy – who’s gay! I know. That’s my point.

They’re usually the worst perpetrators of that – Stereotype? Yeah. I think black people haven’t progressed very much in film and television, either. I just think it’s a white person’s medium, and unfortunately, a lot of people never get to experience the success they should.

If you were to play Nancy now, in a time that’s much more progressive than it was in the early ‘90s, would her character be different? No, that wasn’t Roseanne’s take.

They lived in a small town and it was all about what happened in a small town, and things have changed in small towns. I don’t think Roseanne could exist anymore on TV, so I don’t think Nancy would have a place.

The way Roseanne presented small-town life doesn’t even make sense anymore.

How long do you see yourself doing standup? Forever.

Some comedians, like Kathy Griffin and Joan Rivers, go on to do reality shows.

Does that interest you at all? No. You think they haven’t asked me to do that a million times? Absolutely not. From day one, that was destined to be crap. I don’t want to exploit my life or my family. It’s not what I got into this business for. You keep those two worlds separate. To show it in this disgusting, exploitive way – what is that? It’s nobody’s business how I live my life. I protect my daughter and my family at all costs. They’re not there for exploitation. My daughter didn’t choose to become exploited on television in some sleazy show. It’s just out of the question.

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ter’s speech at the Golden Globes? I just think that it’s terribly sad that she’s spent her whole life holding down her emotions and repressing them, and of course I find it totally absurd that when you finally decide to tap into them, it’s in front of the entire world at the Golden Globes. Have your catharsis with your therapist and the people who are important to you, and _then_ bring the results of that to the world.

I don’t think that (the Golden Globes) is the place to work it out. I don’t like maudlin in front of large groups of people.

But I don’t think she thought about it. I just think it all came spewing out. I guess it’s all people who are in her life. I mean, her life has been the movies since she was 3 years old, so I don’t think she has much connection to reality, in a certain way.

When you came out it wasn’t so much an issue for you, right? I’ve never really come out. That’s never been my thing. I never made a definite statement about my sexuality. Obviously, I’m the torchbearer for people just to be comfortable in their own skin, and that’s what my whole philosophy has always been. I never needed to come out, because I came out as a person with many different facets to her personality since the beginning of my career. And that’s what I stand for.

I remember a YouTube video you shot encouraging people to just be who they are. Yeah, and fortunately or unfortunately, now you sort of have to beat people over the head with the obvious. My whole point of view has been subtlety, nuance and sophistication – that’s just not the world we’re living in anymore. Maudlin is the end of civilization.

Rupert Everett is making news again for restating that gay celebrities shouldn’t out themselves if they want to maintain a successful career in the entertainment business. What’s your take? Do you think coming out affected your acting career?

Did you miss out on roles because you’re gay? No! I’m still an actress. I think my attitude and my kind of approach to who

I am as a performer has affected it more than my sexuality. People perceive me as being tough and one-note, and sometimes that’s limiting – but hopefully you find that role that breaks the cliché. I don’t think anybody cares about the sexuality aspect, to be honest with you.

What helped you gain the confidence to be so forthright with who you are? I was just always that way naturally. That’s how I was as a kid and as a teenager, and I kept evolving over the years as I peeled away layers of myself – the onion that I live in. We’re all peeling away things as we go through life and revealing more of ourselves to ourselves and to those around us. If you stay grounded in the world and in your life, you’re just gonna keep evolving and also enjoying your life as you go. I mean, otherwise, what’s the point?

Do you think Jodie’s speech warrants all the fuss from the gay community? Do you think we’re being too persnickety? What was the response from the gay community?

Some people say it’s too little too late. I mean, does it really matter? Do we need Jodie Foster to legitimize our cause? I mean, who fucking cares?

We do. You know how we look to other people in the gay community as examples. Ah, I know. That’s what I don’t like. Don’t expect any one person to be the role model for the entire community.

Everybody needs to do that for themselves.

That’s always been my point of my view. If you don’t feel confident, if you don’t feel good, then you figure it out. Don’t wait for somebody else to do it for you.

We look for all these other voices to speak _for_ us. Yeah, I know, I know.

These voices that come to us in the night.

I know.

You mean to tell me you never have voices come to you? I tell them to shut up and I go back to sleep. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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The Family Jewel

By Chris Azzopardi

Jewel’s

life is the best kind of It Gets Better story. Even though the famed music-maker recorded a video to offer hope to struggling teens, she didn’t need to; to be inspired, one only has to look at how she went from living out of her car — and almost dying — to being a Grammy-nominated, chart-topping singersongwriter. Jewel became so unbelievably successful, in fact, that she recently released a Greatest Hits, a collection of songs going back to her first mega 1996 single “Who Will Save Your Soul” and spanning her entire multi-genre career.

We caught up with Jewel to chat about the queer-cowboy reality show she wants to make, how she threatened to kill the man who became her gay “manny” and the time she performed a not-so-conservative song for a group of Republicans.

Pieces of You was released 18 years ago. Do you relate to that album anymore, or does it feel like a stranger to you? I never go back and listen to any of my albums ever.

Once they were mixed and mastered, I’ve never gone back. But it feels like yesterday.

I remember it so vividly. It’s such a big part of my heart.

And a big part of your career. A huge part of my career. Having moved out at 15, and being homeless at 18, I should’ve been a statistic. The fame should’ve just fueled every insecurity I had. Thankfully I was

aware of that, and I worked really hard at trying to manage my neuroses and my insecurities so that fame didn’t completely act like fuel to the flame.

That (album) really is just an honest portrayal of who I am and was at that time. I was accepted for who I was for the first time, and it was on a mass level.

What a strange thing to go from being an outsider your whole life to suddenly having the whole world say, “We value your thoughts.” It wasn’t that people thought I was pretty, it wasn’t that people thought I was clever or cool; people actually valued what I was thinking and they valued my emotions and they valued my earnestness, and that was pretty remarkable. It was actually very healing and it changed my life. I can’t even tell you in how many ways: not just psychologically and emotionally, but financially. It changed everything for me.

Your entire life really is an It Gets Better story. Aww. Yeah, it’s really true. You can’t live without hope. You can live without money, you can live without so many things, but you really can’t live without hope. It’s so hard to be able to look down the road and see that there are possibilities.

As long as you feel like there’s a possibility, there is hope. It’s important for people to feel that.

I know what it’s like to get stuck in those moments, but sometimes it’s the littlest things. For me, sometimes it was somebody smiling at me kindly for no reason when people usually just looked at me like I was a leper because I was homeless.

You never know what will touch somebody and give them that little something to keep going and keep fighting for what’s unique about them.

What in your life made you feel less like an outsider? Was it music? It was writing. Reading authors that were really honest and didn’t use art as propaganda to make themselves seem more perfect; they showed their flaws. At age 14, to hear somebody talk about being less than perfect made me feel a lot less alone. You do find people you feel accepted around, and then you get out of high school and life goes on and the weirdos are always the ones who end up influencing pop culture — so god bless us! (Laughs) Who was your first gay friend? Doug.

I think we were in eighth grade. I was so terribly in love with him. He was the only

guy who smelled nice and dressed good and was actually kind. I kept trying to turn him straight but it never worked. (Laughs) Doug’s parents kicked him out when he came out and I had one friend — this black guy — and he hated gays. He said, “I’m not gonna let you be friends with Doug.” I saw Arthur, the black kid, years later walking on the beach — holding hands with a guy!

Isn’t that typical?

“Pieces of You” really resonated with the gay community — especially the line, “You say he’s a faggot, are you afraid you’re just the same?” — but some people missed the point of that song. I can’t tell you how many people walked out of a room for, like, a political abstaining without getting the freaking lyrics. (Laughs) Well, the word “faggot” carries a lot of weight. People really thought you were homophobic then, didn’t they? It’s hard to think that anybody earnestly thought it, but I was written up during New York Fashion Week. When I sang “Pieces of You,” you could hear forks dropping. Half the audience was gay and the other half was Jewish — and then there were pretty girls there. Nobody actually listened to the lyrics, and I was written about the next day as homophobic. It’s just so funny to me. But for the most part, I think people really got it. I wrote it from a very personal standpoint.

What inspired the “faggot” line? All of my gay friends. Not anyone in particular. It just made me look at the nature of hate. It was a personal exploration of trying to figure out the root of my own insecurities — and, actually, that was right around the time my friend Arthur walked down the beach.

Would you ever write a song as socially charged? I had a song called “Jesus Loves You” that was kind of like that. I had just written it and I had a private gig where I was hired, but I forgot it was a very Republican room that I was in. I was in Austin and I sang that song not thinking it was that political and then I realized it was a Jesus song that’s completely offending everybody there and I was never asked back again. (Laughs) And so there was that!

I don’t know. I’ll just have to see. But that song is definitely probably the most shocking of mine, and it’s probably harder to get away with that nowadays. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate and ­c­­hris-azzopardi.com.

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A taste of Peru at Del Mar al Lago

The travel

experts are now hailing Peru as the world’s top vacation destination, in part because of its rich, ancient history, but in no small part because of its cuisine. Peruvian cuisine reflects a true melting pot of cultures — probably even more than anywhere else in the world — from Chinese and Japanese to Spanish to African and Italian, not to mention Peru’s own Incan decendents. Each culture can be found in nearly every dish.

If you’ve ever sought out Peruvian food in Salt Lake City, you probably found a dingy strip mall cafe with poster art and little other ambiance. You also wouldn’t get a great appreciation of the cuisine, because the food was rather pedestrian.

About a year ago, that all changed when Del Mar Al Lago opened up in the Times Square business park on Third West, across from the huge R.C. Willey store.

While I wondered at first about their location, I remembered that another of my favorite Salt Lake restaurants, Meditrina, is flourishing in an odd location not too far away.

Pisco sours On my first visit, I was with my Peruvian partner, so we ordered his favorite dish, lomo saltado. With strips of soy sauce-marinated beef, sliced tomatoes and onions and fried potatoes (Peru is home to the International Potato Center and boasts 3,800 different types of potatoes, so most of their dishes will feature at least one.

Take that, Idaho.), you can taste the Asian influence. Served over rice, it is hearty and rich and will satisfy any meat lover.

We wanted more tomatoes in the dish and perhaps more soy sauce, but overall it was

Tiradito good. My partner just says he makes better.

Of course.

On my most recent trip with QSaltLake account manager Bob Henline, however, general manager Holandra Arroyo ordered up several dishes of their true specialties — those of the sea. Del Mar al Lago translates to “from the sea to the lake,” and cebiche (some of you may know it as ceviche) is the most popular dish in Peru. After a recent expansion, Del Mar opened a full cebiche bar, as well as full liquor service.

Oh, speaking of liquor service, Holandra saw our desperate need as we walked in the door and said we appeared to be in the need of their signature pisco sour and pisco with passion fruit. Some call this the Peruvian version of a margarita, but that name doesn’t nearly do justice to what we put to our lips. Pisco is a brandy produced from Peruvian grapes from vines planted

by Spanish settlers in the 1600s. But the prize here goes less to the pisco and more to the flavors chef-owner Fredereick Perez concocts the mixer from. I have tasted (and paid dearly for) excuisitely spiced cocktails that made me weak in the knees at The Chandelier in Las Vegas, but until that night I had never had anything similar in Salt Lake. While the passion fruit drink was Bob’s favorite, I have to go with the sour (and did so again on my trip for Valentine’s day).

Later in our meal, Holandra brought out their sangria, which was also spiced to perfection, as well as a taste of pisco straight up. I am a brandy lover, and I truly enjoyed it. At Utah liquor stores, however, Peruvian pisco is a special order item. It’s also beyond my $9.95 a bottle spending limit.

Oh yeah — the food. Holandra’s father, Wilmer Arroyo, was slaving away in the kitchen preparing us more food than I generally eat in a week.

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Our first dish was a tiradito — the Peruvian version of sashimi. I’m a bit squeemish with raw fish, mostly because of the texture, but this was exquisite. On our first bite, Bob and I looked up at each other in complete, wide-eyed surprise. We were served the tiradito de lenguado en crema de aji amarillo, and the sauces danced around the tongue and played for as long as you could keep them there.

We also tried the plantanos fritos, basically plantain fries, which were smartly served in a paper cone and had a refreshing sweet taste to balance the tartness of the tiradito.

Next, we were served the cebiche de mixto — fish of the day (we had grou-

Cebiche per again) calimari, shrimp, scallops, and octopus, served in a classic leche de tigre (tiger’s milk), which is a citrus-based marinade that cures the seafood. Bob and I couldn’t get enough of this dish. There was also Peruvian corn and calimari, fried to perfection, on the side.

I am so over my allotted space to talk of the other dishes Del Mar also offers, including the fish kabob for those who like their fish cooked a bit more, fried seafood dishes and pastas. But I wanted to make sure you heard about the desserts.

Perez specializes not only in mixology, but also in the desert kitchen. The desserts rotate daily, but we were served up a passion fruit flan, a chocolate mouse and a strawberry trifle. De - lish.

Del Mar al Lago is a “definitely yes” on my “would you recommend this restaurant to your friends” Yelp question. I know I sound a bit gushy over the place, but it has seriously moved into my top five favorite Salt Lake restaurants list. Q Del Mar al Lago Cebicheria Peruana is located at 310 W. Bugatti Ave (2250 South). Entrees: $9–17, Desserts $4–6.

Lunch specials. delmarallago.com, 801-467-2890.

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by Ed Sikov

“¡Oh, Pancho!”

“¡Oh, Pisco!” I knew I was being annoying, but that only spurred me on. “¡Oh, Pancho!” “¡Oh, Pisco!” My Mexican accent was becoming broader and more offensive with every iteration. “¡Oh, Pancho!” “¡Oh, P...”

“Stop it. Now. If you say that irritating thing one more time I swear I’m going to pick you up and defenestrate you.” Despite his excellent word choice, this was a surprising threat of violence coming from Dan, who usually assumes the Longsuffering Husband perspective and simply sighs with resignation.

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1940? Even you, Methuselah, are too young for The Cisco Kid.” “No need to turn personal,” I chided. “If it weren’t for me and my nerdy friends, the entire history of television would evaporate just like this.” I made a dramatic poofing sound and looked outraged.

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and quickly headed to his computer. Having had my audience walk out on me, I had no choice but to return to the kitchen and resume my exploration into the liquor called Pisco.

Pisco is a type of brandy that is fermented only in Chile and Peru. These two nations have been feuding with each other for literally centuries over which one may claim to be the original birthplace of the brandy. Pisco Punch, which is made of course from Pisco, comes to us however from San Francisco, where it had the reputation of being the most fashionable of that city’s cocktails in the late 1800s. You may also have heard of the cocktail called the Pisco Sour. It was invented in Lima, Peru, and there appears to be no international kerfuffle over that fact.

I began my own Pisco explorations by drinking it by itself, neat. Pisco Portón, the brand I chose, is fine enough to drink solo; I can’t vouch for any rotgut Piscos one

might find at the local liquor store in the States or some roadhouse in Peru.

It’s got a kick to it, this Pisco stuff!

Reminiscent of grappa, it’s got a healthy burn when it hits the mouth, but it immediately blossoms into a faint fruit taste; in this case, the Muscat grapes, which serve as the liquor’s source. It goes down easy, if you like it a bit rough. I mean to say, Pisco is a drinking person’s drink when consumed by itself. It’s the kind of thing of which people remark, “That’ll put hair on your chest.” I’ve been counting new ones on mine all week.

Pisco Neat Just pour a healthy amount of roomtemperature Pisco into a liqueur glass or brandy snifter. I recommend Pisco Portón. Q Ed Sikov is the author of the e-book, “The Boys’ and Girls’ Little Book of Alcohol,” a novel with recipes based on his Cocktail Chatter column.

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ground as opening and guest disc jockey at Club Metro on Saturday nights, DJ Jacob Garcia is starting to make a splash in Utah’s gay nightlife. He opens for DJ Justin Hollister, but his beats and style are hardly second-place. We caught up with DJ Jacob Garcia to hear about how he got started and a little about some of his intimate celebrity crushes.

How did you get started as a DJ? Listening to my favorite DJ, DJ Seth Cooper is what really got me into learning.

I thought it would be badass if one day I could mix music like he can. The guy is amazing. With the help from my best friend DJ Supa Mario (Club Hotel) and DJ Roto Kantus (Rory Kalmar) I started to get into it. I would spend hours and hours, days after days on the turntables practicing as much as I could. I recorded mixes of my favorite songs and listened to them to see how I could improve. After I bought my equipment I would DJ for my friends and at random house parties. After a while, I ended up giving a few mixes to club promoter Robbie Rob from Club Metro, he decided to give me a shot by opening up for DJ Justin Hollister. I did that for a few months and then he decided to give me a shot. Ever since then I’ve been the guest DJ at Club Metro. Whenever I play I make

sure I have a variety of high energetic dance/house/circuit/pop music to keep everyone moving. I want the crowd to get as wild as they possibly can.

If you could bump uglies with any celebrity, who would it be and why?

Chris Evans, no explanation needed, I mean, look at the guy.

Who are your favorite artists right now?

A few of my favorite artists out right now include Ciara, Far East Movement, Julissa Veloz, Beyonce and Rihanna.

What do you find sexy in a partner?

I’m a sucker for tall, blonde hair, blue eyes and someone I can feel completely comfortable with.

Do you have any guilty pleasure music?

My guilty pleasure music would have to be random country love songs. I don’t like to admit it but yeah, country.

Where can we catch you next?

You can catch me at house parties and also I’ll be the guest DJ at Club Metro this March. Q

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hear me out could’ve done with this on their own. The title track almost has enough edge to sound like a good Green Day song, and the heartfelt apology “Ami, I’m Sorry” is a throwback to her girl-with-guitar days. Those days when her life was a fairy tale.

And it was, but even princesses can’t be pretty forever.

Grade: C-

Lisa Loeb, No Fairy Tale

Emmy Rossum, Sentimental Journey

Justin Bieber, Believe Acoustic Justin Bieber’s not just stripping down to his boxer briefs like he recently did in Miami. The 18-year-old’s getting sonically naked on this set of acoustic tracks from Believe, his grown-up third studio album released last year. This lo-fi vibe might show off his passionately maturing voice, but, without a surging dance beat to distract you, it also spotlights the silliness of his still-boy lyrics. I mean, did we really need an acoustic guitar version of “Beauty and a Beat,” sans Nicki Minaj? Hasn’t the world suffered enough? “As Long As You Love Me” would seem just as ridiculous – seriously, some of those come-ons are straightup cheese – if it weren’t for his nimble flow when he takes on the Big Sean part. “Boyfriend,” paired with just some gentle strumming, is pretty damn sexy as it slinks about into an almost hypnotic state. It actually almost works better than the original, and not just because it sounds like Bieber is right there, singing to you. Two of the three new “acoustic” songs aren’t bad (“I Would,” a pick-me-up, doesn’t

With the release of her 2007 debut, singer-actress Emmy Rossum seemed ready to turn pop music on its head. Her old soul, though, had different plans.

Six years later and the Shameless actress is slipping back to the mid-1900s, capturing the vintage sounds of cabaret, ragtime and Broadway for this DIY classiccovers concept album. It’s a direction that fits Rossum’s refined opera-trained voice; “I’ll Be With You in Apple Blossom Time” is an understated beauty, and her exquisite “Autumn Leaves” could fool people into thinking it’s the ’50s all over again.

Swing Out Sister, Private View Andy Connell and Corinne Drewery know how to go all out for an anniversary. They mark 25 years in music – their debut, It’s Better to Travel, dropped in 1987 – with a true must-have for fans of the chill-pop duo: a package that includes a CD of reimagined classics and rare gems, an all-access live-concert DVD and a glossy photo book. The “Fabulous Party Mix” handle on one of their biggest hits, “Breakout,” is a sly bit of sarcasm: In its reincarnation, the song is a jazzy livingroom version of the celebratory original. Cheers to that – and to another 25 years.

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Lisa Loeb will forever be defined as an artist of a bygone decade. (Boy, reality does bite.)

But it’s not like she doesn’t already know this; “The ’90s” is a hand-clappy/ooh-ooh pop song off her seventh studio album that fondly reminisces on her career-high – when the ubiquitous “Stay (I Missed You)” became an MTV mainstay – and also asserts that she’s ready to move on from those glory days.

“Sure, I liked it then, but I don’t want to go back,” she sings, suggesting that popularity is overrated and that this project is a new start for the singersongwriter. Because it’s her first album of non-children’s music since 2004’s The Way It Really Is, it is. Otherwise, this is the same geeky girl singing the same girly song. Produced by Loeb and New Found Glory’s Chad Gilbert, No Fairy Tale revels in pure ’90s nostalgia (so much for leaving that decade behind). It’s also a sad reminder as to why “Stay” was Loeb’s only major hit. The songs are stuck in retro mode, sounding like half-baked demos with elementary arrangements and just a few grabby hooks; not to mention, her writing – seemingly culled from somewhat cleaned-up diary entries – is void of any soul and spirit. Some of it is truly dreadful (read: “It’s OK to show them that you’re well ... if they can’t take it, they can go to hell”). “A Hot Moment,” one of two songs written by Tegan and Sara, isn’t bad, but you can’t help imagining what the twins

follow the acoustic theme), but “Nothing Like Us” is a clear standout – one of his most tender confessionals and a song that could really only be about one person: Selena Gomez. He wrote it, and it’s just piano and his sad, sad voice. If Biebs hadn’t already proved that he’s growing up with the original Believe release, he does so here, in just a few minutes of ripened woe.

Which answers a very important question: He must be getting hair down there.

Grade: B-

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anagram An anagram is a word or phrase that can be made using the letters from another word or phrase. Rearrange the letters below to answer:

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tuted with another. For example: ECOLVGNCYXW YCR EQYIIRZNBZN YZU PSZ! Has the solution: CRYPTOGRAMS ARE CHALLENGING AND FUN! In the above example Es are all replaced

by Cs. The puzzle is solved by recognizing letter patterns in words and successively substituting letters until the solution is reached.

This week’s hint: J = T

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Keep the Lights On “Gay film” doesn’t have to be the routine coming-out drama or inflated vanity project, as 2011’s Weekend demonstrated with its understated romance about a bittersweet gay fling. Now we have further proof that queer cinema can overcome such

triteness: Keep the Lights On, a four-time Independent Spirit Awards nominee, is an explicit and sensitive exploration of love — and the burdens that drive us out of love — inspired by director Ira Sachs’ own past relationship with literary agent Bill Clegg. Sachs’ very personal story is conveyed through long-term boyfriends Erik (Thure Lindhardt) and Paul (Zachary Booth), a crack addict who up and leaves his partner without any mention of his whereabouts. Years of this flightiness, and a particularly tragic scene in which a meth-influenced Paul screws a stranger in front of the partner he seems to have forgotten about, unravels with rawness and devastating reality. That authenticity is palpable in large part because of Lindhardt and Booth’s subtly powerful performances. Extras are abundant: a making of, Sachs commentary, audition clips and some sexy deleted scenes.

Killer Joe One of the most under-recognized films of last year involved Gina Gershon’s bush, sexually abused fried chicken and a plot so unbelievably bizarre it makes A Clockwork Orange look like a Disney flick. Matthew McConaughey as the electrifyingly creepy Joe, a detective who moonlights as a hit man, leads an ensemble of unhinged performances in this hardcore stage-to-screen dark comedy from William Friedkin (director of Al Pacino’s gay thriller “Cruising”). Joe’s latest kill involves murdering a woman so her deadbeat family can inherit the life insurance to pay off drug debt.

Things go wrong. People die gruesome deaths. McConaughey shows more skin than in Magic Mike. It all comes to an absurdly crazy head so disturbing that if any film deserves its NC-17 rating, it’s this one. Aside from the film itself, the other real thrill here is hearing Friedkin’s insight and rambles during the commentary.

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In All the Right Circles

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ask mr. manners

Bedroom blues

by Rock Magen

Dear Mr. Manners, I am writing because I need some advice. I am not a Utah native and I’ve been here for about three years (god, has it been that long?). Anyway, I’ve been seeing the most adorable young exMormon man for about a year. I am originally from San Francisco where there’s more access and knowledge about some more diverse interests in the bedroom.

I’ve broached the subject of taking things to the next level a little in the bedroom (always safe). But when I do, things get tense. What do I do? How should I get my boyfriend to break out of his shell?

– Blue Balls Boy Dear BBB, To quote a fortune cookie I once received, “Do not dwell on differences with a loved one. Try to compromise.” Addressing any bedroom matter can be a sensitive subject, however, like all delicate subjects your success is in the approach. That being said, it sounds like the two of you need to sit down and really talk the situation through. On the topic of conversation, a gentleman never beats around the bush. But I believe that mantra is best followed by, “a gentleman never knowingly insults another person; neither does he revel in the embarrassment of others.” The relationship that you describe sounds solid, so I wonder if your partner’s insecurity in your desire to “explore more” comes from just a general lack of exposure to what you have seen in your life – Utah is not San Francisco.

When attempting to have this lover’s conversation, you have two options. You could

jump right into it and continue your pattern of making your partner uncomfortable, or you could use the art of persuasion.

Not to sound cliché, but we all know the neck turns the head.

And in this case it sounds that both heads are having a problem. Maybe this is a chance to

q scopes ARIES March 20–April 19 A co-worker tries to help you with a problem, but creates confusion instead. Don’t get frustrated; it won’t help. Just work together to resolve the problem.

Love is in the air at the end of the month. A friend of a friend reveals his or her true feelings for you.

Scorpio plays an important role.

TAURUS April 20–May 20 Your tendency to keep quiet pays off in the beginning of the month. A close friend needs to talk and reveals personal information. Your confidence will be appreciated.

When it comes to romance, you’ll have to make a decision. Think about where you stand in that special relationship.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 Be patient at work this month. While your boss may seem too conservative for you, he or she really has your best interests at heart. You need to look out for yourself when it comes to your personal life. It will feel like everyone is against you. Be cautious when making decisions.

CANCER June 21–July 22 Don’t be the first to volunteer for a new project at work. Wait to see everything that’s involved, because it

work together and come to a common solution. Is there any way to try and start bringing some of these other practices into your normal play without making them seem foreign or overwhelming? Now, by no means am I Dr. Ruth, but I do know that compromise brings results, and that famous last words have began with the phrase, “let’s just do it!”

As a final note of caution, make sure you are picking your battles wisely. Do not let something that makes your partner feel uncomfortable spiral out of control. Beneath

your bedroom habits, hopefully lies something much deeper – something worth making compromises for. Why do we close our eyes when we pray, cry, kiss or dream? Because the most beautiful things in life are not seen, but felt only by heart. Bedroom compatibility is extremely important, but don’t let it override all that you have fought to build in the relationship.

As for your concern about being in Utah so long, I have no definite answers. For you see, I too am in the same boat, and that ship refuses to set sail! Q

may be more than you’ve bargained for. However, you should take a chance when it comes to romance.

Don’t wait for that intriguing person to ask you out. Make the first move.

will resurface and want to begin a relationship. Follow your heart.

LEO July 23–August 22 Your sympathetic side will be called on early in the month. A loved one needs you to listen and give moral support. Be honest, but caring. Give in to your desires and shower yourself in luxury this month. It’s going to be a hectic one at work, so you deserve it.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 While you usually like to be alone, working as a team at work this month will make things so much easier. You’ll share a lot of good ideas and actually make some close friends. Loved ones will rely on you to take care of a family matter.

Aquarius is involved.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Seek harmony in the workplace this month.

Don’t become involved in an office disagreement. Family matters become hectic this month. Loved ones will look to you for advice and support. Take a deep breath. You’ll be able to help everyone out and still have time for yourself.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Follow your instincts in the business world this month.

It’s your nature to tell the truth, so stick to it. Don’t be tempted to embellish; it will backfire. Love takes center stage as the month draws to a close. An old friend

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22– December 20.

Be frank when a close friend asks for your opinion. While the truth may not be what s/he wants to hear, it’s what s/he needs to hear. Your romantic life slows down this month, but don’t get discouraged. This break will give you time to relax and focus on yourself.

CAPRICORN Dec. 21– Jan. 19 Now’s your chance to shine at work. You’ll be given the opportunity to lead a new project; your intelligence and efficiency will shine through. Don’t be shy when it comes to meeting new people. Your sweet, sensitive side will endear you to someone with a lot of connections.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 Let your practical side lead you in your decision making as the month begins. It may seem like a good idea to make an impulsive purchase, but don’t do it.

Finances will be tight. A relationship moves into high gear when you realize how much you have in common with that special someone.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 Slow down this month, because it will feel as if your entire world is closing in on you. A few days off of work will help you relax and time with loved ones will show you that you’re still in control of your life. Virgo and Sagittarius play important roles.

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the dating diet

Cream of the Cropped

by Anthony Paull

I once had

a prominent politician say I was more of a publicity whore than a journalist. I was insulted, taking offense at the superfluous word “publicity” until I found myself drunk in an Irish pub scribbling “Anthony Paull gives good head” on the bathroom wall. It felt right until I posted the pic to Facebook like I was famous, only to get called out by a friend who was familiar with my handwriting. Yes I knew my behavior was pathetic but I loved it because I knew the episode would lead to my name in people’s mouths. Does he spit, swallow – shoot out a spout like Shamu?

In the end I kept mum, having learned it’s best to remain a mystery. That’s what people really want – the truth blurred.

I wonder if that’s why some men consistently shove their iPhones down their pants, spreading poorly formatted penis pics on the Internet.

It’s like wow, look at my half-limp dick. It can get hard’so hard I can fuck you. I’m-a-gon-

mirror shot of the month

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na-do-it. I’m a-gonna-fuck-you with my veiny, gross developmentally delayed dick that makes me super special even though most dudes and certain chicks have the same thing.

It only gets worse when complete strangers begin passing the pics off as their own. That’s what happened to my friend Jake. He was involved in an online romance with a gentleman named Ross for three months before he had any idea of who or what was on the other side of the computer. It was all Picasso pics of Ross’ naked body – blurred images and talk about being cultured before excuse after excuse as to why Ross could never meet. He kept late hours at work. He was a paid intern at the modern art museum. He had a dog.

Jake was on the verge of ending things until one night when Ross got brave enough to come over after one too many Mai Tais.

“But first, I need to tell you something,” Ross said. “I have scoliosis.”

Jake thought, no problem, I can love him diagonally – I can make it work. Isn’t that what you do in a relationship – find beauty in a fault line to rise above?

An hour later Jake heard a bang outside, opening the front door to find Ross had crashed his electric wheelchair into the house while trying to press the doorbell.

No problem, Jake thought. Scoliosis, handicapped or whatever this is – love is love. That is until Ross began driving circles around Jake’s living room, dropping his iPad and running it over.

“It’s no big deal,” Ross slurred. “It happens all the time.”

Jake shook his head, confused. “You getting drunk?”

“No, me dropping loads.”

Still perplexed, Jake slowly handed the iPad to Ross, who quickly turned it on, changing the subject to the arts – an interest the two shared.

Flipping through Instagram pics, Ross flaunted pop art images he’d taken at the museum. It was all Ben-Day dots and cartoon characters until a real pic of an

unflushed toilet came along. Ross glanced over it but Jake couldn’t let it pass.

“Um. Was that a toilet?” he asked, as Ross continued to scroll.

Ross lingered, gaging Jake’s reaction.

“Yes,” he said, casually. Jake maintained a neutral expression as Ross paused to explain. “Look. I have something to tell you,” he began.

“Again?” Jake said, bracing himself. “You know, usually when somebody tells me they have something to tell me it’s usually not followed by something good.”

“I’m into turds.”

“Turds?”

“Poop.”

Jake flinched, recalling their previous conversations, how the Lichteinstein pop art of yesteryear compared to the Banksy street art of today, how much they both favored the dark literature of Palahniuk to Thoreau. Yet at no time during these spirited conversations had the exchange of words on art and literature turned to scoliosis, a wheelchair or–poop. But the relationship sure did.

I guess what Jake forgot to remember during his pop-art penis affair was that a picture may speak a thousand words but there are approximately 249,000 words left in the English language, leaving a lot unsaid. No Instagram or Photoshop app can sugarcoat a real person. A pic is only part of the equation that will never add up to the ideal mate that you have in your mind. The whole story of a person requires an entire collection – the good, the bad, and the ugly portraits. Jake got caught up in the good for so long he forgot all that came with it. As for me, I find it humorous when I hear of guys on sites refusing to meet unless they see an X-rated pic. My question is would they have the nerve to request the same thing of a guy in real life?

Would they even know how to say hello?

These days, I find myself, more and more, reflecting back to a time when that’s how a relationship developed. Q

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the perils of petunia pap smear

A Tale of the Kindness Of Strangers

by Petunia Pap Smear

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resulting in a long loud attention-getting honk as if the alarm system had been engaged. I adjusted the seat back as far and excitement. as it could go. My breasticles still would It was a dark and stormy night. Okay, it not clear the steering wheel. I was forced wasn’t stormy but it was indeed dark and to recline the seat about one quarter of as cold as if Hell had finally frozen over. I the way down so that the boobs rose and was all aquiver with anxious anticipation pointed up over the steering wheel. My as I made my final preparations to attend toes were barely able to touch the gas and the New Year’s Eve party at Club Trybreak pedals. If I stretched really hard, my Angles. I don’t want to ruin any fantasies fingertips were just able to make contact that readers may have, and this may come with the steering wheel. Since I was semias a shock to most of you but, in order for reclined, my line of vision was through the me to go out on the town, some assembly is gap in the steering wheel. Of course, any required. thought of using a seat belt was totally out I checked all 18 batteries required for of the question. the night’s outfit to make sure they were I began to drive very slowly. My turns fully-charged. There is nothing worse than were very jerky because I could only turn to have one of your nipples burn out halfthe wheel about four inches at time. I way through an evening. I decided to wear prayed that I would not pass a police car, my best princess glitter gown, with silver as I was sure that I was breaking about 20 breasticles. And for the piesta résistance, laws. The lights flashing off of my boobs for my interchangeable nipples I chose reflected off the inside of the windows rotating multi-colored disco balls, perfect further obscuring my view. for welcoming in the new year.

During the torturous 20-mile drive into With breasticles blinking and nipples Salt Lake, as cars would pass along side spinning brightly, I looked out of the winQueertanic, the occupants would casually dow to make sure that no neighbors were glance over, and upon seeing my blinding watching. I sneaked from my house and vision of beauty behind the wheel, would began to climb into Queertanic II, my 1996 be overcome and immediately swerve danCadillac land yacht for the drive to Trygerously. All I could do was offer a queenly Angles. As I began to sit my ample Bodus wave to the gawkers and hope they moved Rotundus into the driver’s seat, it became on. apparent that I had not fully thought I was finally able to arrive at the Trythrough the logistics of the evening. I Angles parking lot without major incident. turned and tried to face forward.

When I extricated myself from QueerMy boobs, which protruded eighteen tanic, my left boob caught the door frame inches to the front, collided with the horn and the spinning, Cryptogram: Every wedding I officiate has a cover charge puzzle solutions blinking disco ball and a two-drink minimum.

Anagram: SAINT PATRICK flew off the end of my boob, crashed to the pavement and broke apart. I learned as a little princess in Boy Scouts to always be prepared. I took the double-stick tape I always carry in my purse for emergency facelifts and was able to Club Try-Angles is fraught with danger

to perform a reconstruction of my left boob. Viola!

It was a glorious party. I had a great time using my testicle tester on all the hunky party goers. At about 1 a.m., I could sense that some of my batteries were beginning to fade. I decided it was time to go home. I went out to the parking lot and unlocked the door to Queertanic.

I was alone in the parking lot. I decided that I did not want to repeat the difficult experience of driving while boobed on the way home, so I stood behind Queertanic’s open trunk lid and began to get undressed.

It was below zero degrees and steam rose into the freezing air as I removed my boobs, and wig and placed them into the trunk. Try as I might, I could not reach the zipper in the back of my dress. In desperation, I looked around for some assistance. Fortunately, a very handsome young man was walking toward the bar.

In my best Scarlet O’Hara voice I called out to him and said, “I have always relied upon the kindness of strangers. Could you help a damsel in distress and unzip me?”

Surely, there was never a better pick-up line ever spoken in recorded history! The young man looked a little wary as the horrible specter of a large, steaming, wig-less queen emerged from between the cars and presented him with her backside. I’m surprised he did not run, screaming into the streets, crying of the return of Godzilla.

With forced kindness, he gently unzipped me while muttering, “I don’t know nuthin’ ’bout birthin no drag queens.” I gave him a quick, thank you peck on the cheek and sent him into the bar. Shivering from the cold, I climbed into Queertanic, wearing only my underwear and glittering shoes for the frigid drive home.

Like always, these events leave us with several eternal questions: 1. Should I film some driver safety videos for driver’s educations classes?

2. Since my boobs had silver garland on them, if I were pulled over by police, would I be cited for “Driving Under the Tin-fluence”?

3. How large a tip should a queen give to a bouncer who performs “zipper duty” for departing club patrons?

4. Is asking for an unzip from a stranger in a parking lot how most hookers get their start?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of: The Perils of Petunia Pap-Smear Q

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