Brides & Weddings July 2024

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Here at Brides & Weddings, we spend a lot of time talking about weddings, looking at weddings and writing about weddings. We include content from all over the globe to help inspire you as you plan your wedding.

Our website, www.bridesandweddings.com, is the go-to resource for Northern Virginia brides and grooms. There, and here you will find the people and places to make your perfect wedding day. You can use keywords that reflect your wedding vision in our search bar and discover the best in Northern Virginia wedding professionals. Or, you can sign up for our newsletter to receive special offers and calendar of events — from bridal shows to bridal shops. Read our blog, enter contests and follow us on social media for the latest information.

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planning successful and less stressful, showcasing some of the top wedding professionals in Northern Virginia for your convenience.

But the best part about Brides & Weddings are the relationships! We are your friends and neighbors — large enough to have resources, but small enough to provide personal service. Our commitment to engaged couples is to make the journey to your wedding day as smooth as possible, by sharing ideas, resources and maybe a little bit of inspiration for your celebration. This is the first day of the rest of your lives. What matters is that you are creating not just a day, but a lifetime together.

Thank you for taking the time to be a part of the Brides & Weddings community. Best wishes for a beautiful wedding and a happy marriage.

Rebecca Barnes

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CONTENTS WEDDING BLOGS

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7 THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN SELECTING A WEDDING VENUE

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14 QUESTIONS FOR YOUR CATERER

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RECEPTION GUIDE

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WEDDING CAKES WITH STYLE

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HERE COMES THE BRIDE

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How to use wedding blogs to plan your big day

A handy list of things that you should consider when choosing a venue for your wedding.

Ensure your food will be unforgettable.

Find the best venue for your event.

Get the one that suits you.

Where to find the dress of your dreams.

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Weddings at Laurel Hill Golf Club

• Stylish ambiance 9,400 square foot clubhouse • Friendly, dedicated event planners • Experienced catering staff • Pristine greens create timeless memories • Minutes from airports, lodging and our nation’s capital • Also available for rehearsal dinners, parties and showers 703-324-8563 TTY Va. Relay 711

Weddings at Twin Lakes Golf Course

• Two beautifully landscaped, 18-hole championship golf courses • Elegant clubhouse • Full, in-house catering service • Spacious banquet room can accommodate up to 160 people • Custom bar and beverage plans 703-324-8563 TTY Va. Relay 711

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CONTENTS

58 THE SHAPE OF YOU

See real brides wearing the most popular wedding dress silhouettes.

FLOWER 66 WEDDING REALNESS

From bouquets & boutonnieres to ceremonies & receptions in flowers.

70 TO FIRST LOOK OR NOT Best areas and ideas for outdoor shoots in Northern Virginia

75 PHOTOGRAPHY TIMELINE Tips for planning your wedding timeline that will maximize your photography

80 HOMEGROWN HONEYMOON Keeping it closer to home for your honeymoon.

85 DIRECTORY OF SERVICES Publisher................................................................................................... Rebecca Barnes Social Media Manager....................................................................... Katherine Gotthardt Digital Media Coordinator.............................................................................Carole Keily Art Director....................................................................Alison Dixon, ImagePrep Studio The Staff..................................... David Lezcano, Diane Puigdomenech, Lisa Beth Miller Cover Image by.............................................................................Rob Jinks Photography Brides & Weddings is published twice yearly and distributed free of charge through area jewelers, bridal salons, venues and bridal shows, as well as NoVA Macy’s and Bloomingdale’s bridal registries. Find us online at www.bridesandweddings.com.

For advertising opportunities, call 703.847.7412 ext. 1 or email sales@bridesandweddings.com. www.facebook.com/bridesandweddings Copyright 2024 Brides & Weddings

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HOW TO USE WEDDING BLOGS

TO PLAN YOUR BIG DAY

By Amanda Baity

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hen you’re newly engaged (or anticipating getting engaged), it can be easy to fall down the rabbit hole of wedding blogs. After all, there are so many great blogs out there, and they’re full of gorgeous images! Many brides find themselves spending countless hours scrolling through these blogs and becoming overwhelmed by all of the weddings they see published and by the imagined pressure to recreate those images or to compete with them.

Don’t worry – we’re not going to tell you to stop looking at wedding blogs! In fact, we are going to help you use them better! Here are some specific ways to use wedding blogs so that they inspire you rather than adding stress:

1. Learn to identify your wedding style.

When you begin planning your wedding, you may not know what your wedding style is, other than “beautiful.” Wedding blogs provide great descriptions and definitions that can help you understand and better refine what wedding style appeals to you. You might find that you love boho weddings with whimsical touches, or you may discover that regal elegance in a garden setting is precisely right

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for you. Whatever your style, wedding blogs can be an excellent way to find it before you make any non-refundable décor decisions.

2. Connect with vendors, designers & shops.

One remarkable thing about wedding blogs it that they tend to be great about crediting vendors. When you see an incredible gown on a wedding blog, the chances are good that the

post will also tell you the designer and possibly the boutique. By utilizing the vendor credits, you’ll likely also be able to track down the planner, florist, cake artist and more. This is particularly useful when you find posts that share weddings from your part of the country.

3. Encounter new ideas and trends.

Season to season and year to year, the wedding industry is changing and evolving … but trends don’t always hit every part of the country at the same time. There may be a fab new trend that hasn’t made it to your circle yet. Since wedding blogs are worldwide, they can expose you to ideas you wouldn’t otherwise encounter. When you come across an awesome new trend, pin it or add it to a “to research” list so that you can decide if it’s right for your big day.

4. Find sources of inspiration, not duplication!

This is a huge, important point that we hope stays with you as you go on to click and scroll through wedding blogs—wedding blogs are there to help you find inspiration for your celebration, not to get you to recreate someone else’s wedding!

Each image you see on a wedding blog is the record of a specific moment and is the product of a unique set of circumstances. With the millions of variables involved, it is nearly impossible to precisely recreate someone else’s image … and why would you want to? No matter how hard you and you vendors try to create exactly what you saw on that blog, it will at best be a mimicry of someone else’s work at someone else’s wedding. If you choose to go that route, you’re missing out on the opportunity to make your wedding the unique celebration of you that it could be.

So instead of attempting to exactly imitate someone else’s wedding, use what you see and learn from wedding blogs to discover what you love and to inspire your own vision! When you communicate that vision to your vendors and then trust them to be creative, you’ll adore your special and custom-to-you wedding day!

Visit bridesandweddings.com to view our blog, full of real wedding features and advice from experts.

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By Amanda Baity

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ot every bride is the same, so why should their engagement rings be? In fact, you may even find that your hopeful bride-to-be doesn’t even like diamonds. Diamonds aren’t mandatory in engagement rings or wedding bands as the featured gem. There are so many stunning gemstones out there that limiting yourself to just the diamond could be a disservice to your one-of-a-kind partner. If you want something a little bit more unique for your ring, here are some options that are quite gorgeous for you to consider.

Sapphires

There are a lot of reasons why you may want to consider a sapphire instead of a diamond. First of all, it’s almost as hard as a diamond, ranking just behind this more popular gem on the Mohs scale. And there are so many different color variations that you can buy — sapphires may be most famous for being blue, but they can also come in green, yellow, pink and white.

Amethyst

Garnet

Garnets are great for a few reasons. The color is unique and gorgeous, which makes it stand out against a ruby. Another is because they’re inexpensive and look richer than they are. If your bride loves the vintage look, this is the gem you should be looking at.

Ruby

Speaking of rubies, these are also a great option.

If you place a larger ruby with some accent diamonds, you are going to create a great ring.

Rubies have the same hardness and properties as sapphire, so this gem will last a lifetime.

Onyx

Onyx is a gorgeous gemstone that most commonly comes in black, though there are other varieties that you can enjoy. If you want something that’s modern and unique but very chic, the onyx could be an excellent choice.

Moissanite

Amethysts are beautiful, purple gemstones that add flair to your engagement ring. They’re another durable gem that can be worn on a daily basis without issues. They’re not quite as durable as a sapphire or diamond, but they’ll stand the test of time with some extra care.

Cubic zirconia and other diamonds get a bad rap, in part because they’re easily dulled and scratched and won’t stay perpetually shiny like a real diamond. Enter moissanite, a crystal that naturally occurs in meteorites, is nearly as hard, dense and scuff-resistant as a diamond and has greater brilliance and fire.

Emeralds

Man-Made Diamonds

With the gorgeous deep-green color found in an emerald stone, this is a timeless gem that offers a stylish and luxurious touch to your ring. These may not be as popular as they once were, but you can get something that’ll really create a magical piece, especially when used with a modern setting.

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Man-made diamonds are physically and chemically identical to natural diamonds.

White diamonds that have been grown in a laboratory typically cost 15-20 percent less than comparable natural diamonds, and colored, labmade diamonds can be a whopping 80 or 90 percent cheaper than their mined equivalents.

The fact that mined diamonds are literally millions (and sometimes billions) of years old is certainly romantic, but it’s wrong to call a labgrown diamond “fake.”

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Forever

a diamond is

The following merchants are happy to assist you and your fiance in finding the perfect engagement and wedding rings. Please let them know that you found them in Brides & Weddings of Northern Virginia.

Achikian Goldsmiths 140 Church St. NW, Vienna (703) 255-2255 www.achikian.com

Daniel Roberts Fine Jewelers 10254 Main St., Fairfax (703) 951-0070 www.danielrobertsfinejewelers.com

Adeler Jewelers 772-E Walker Road, Great Falls (703) 759-4076 www.adelerjewelers.com

Eternity Jewelers 267 South Van Dorn St., Alexandria (703) 823-0691

Ashby Jewelers 9407 Main St., Manassas (703) 368-4653 www.ashbyjewelers.com Belle View Jewelers Belle View Shopping Center, Alexandria (703) 768-4900 www.belleviewjewelersva.com Boone & Sons Jewelers 1320 Old Chain Bridge Road, McLean (703) 734-3997 www.booneandsons.com

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Express Jewelers 1101 S Joyce St., Pentagon Row ej.jewelershowcase.com (703) 351-7481 Hartman Jewelers 36 Main St., Warrenton (540) 349-4123 www.hartmanjewelers.com Hunt Country Jewelers Custom Bridal Jewelry Specialists 105 East Main St., Purcellville (540) 338-8050 www.huntcountry.com

Ketterman’s Jewelers 212 Catoctin Cr, Leesburg (703) 777-0033 www.kettermans.com May Jewelers 8032 Leesburg Pike, Tysons Corner (703) 448-0866 www.mayjewelers.com Mervis Diamond Importers 1900 Mervis Way, Tysons Corner (703) 448-9000

Quinn’s Goldsmith Custom Jewelry Designs 14901 Potomac Town Pl, Ste 170 Stonebridge at Potomac Town Center (703) 878-1622 www.quinnsgoldsmith.com Waldin Jewelers 21100 Dulles Town Center, Ste 195, Dulles (703) 421-0030 www.waldinjewlers.com

1700 K St. NW, Washington DC (202) 293-0600 1775 Rockville Pike, Rockville (301) 231-0030 www.mervisdiamond.com Princess Jewelers 529 Maple Ave. West, Vienna (703) 255-5050 www.princessjeweler.com

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TYING THE KNOT IN NORTHERN VIRGINIA

The legal age for marriage is 18 years old. Couples under 18 must have parental consent. Blood tests are not required. There is no waiting period and licenses are valid for 60 days. Both parties must be present to apply for and sign the marriage license. Identification (i.e. driver’s license or military ID) must include a photo and social security number. Divorce/death information regarding previous marriages must be provided under oath. Call your location for office hours and costs.

ALEXANDRIA CITY Alexandria Circuit Court, Clerk’s Office Marriage License Division, 3rd Floor, Rm. 307 520 King St., Alexandria 703.746.4044 Alexandriava.gov/ ClerkOfCourt#MarriageInformation ARLINGTON COUNTY Arlington County Courthouse 6th Floor, Room 6700 1425 North Courthouse Road, Arlington 703.228.7010 Arlingtonva.us/Government/Department/Courts/ Circuit-Court/Marriage

LOUDOUN COUNTY Loudoun County Circuit Court Clerk’s Office, 3rd Floor 18 North King St., Leesburg 703.777.0270 loudoun.gov/1162/Marriage-Licenses PRINCE WILLIAM COUNTY Clerk of Circuit Court Room 305 9311 Lee Avenue, Manassas 703.792.6019 pwcva.gov/department/circuit-court/marriage

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FAIRFAX COUNTY Clerk of the Circuit Court Public Services Counter, 3rd Floor 4110 Chain Bridge Road, Fairfax 703.691.7320 FairfaxCounty.gov/ClerkofCourt

FAUQUIER COUNTY Fauquier County Circuit Court Clerk’s Office 40 Culpeper St., Warrenton 540.422.8100 faquiercounty.gov/circuit-court-clerk

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7 THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN

SELECTING A WEDDING VENUE If you close your eyes right now and picture your wedding, you probably see your fiance beaming at you, the ring slipping onto your finger and your loved ones happily gathering together. But where is all this merriment taking place?

After the decision to get married, a location is usually the next big choice that newly engaged couples make. But even though selecting the venue is an early and important decision, that doesn’t mean it’s an easy one! Here is a list of things that you should consider when choosing a venue for your wedding.

Capacity

Space is a crucial consideration when selecting a wedding venue. Before you begin your search for the perfect venue, it’s a good idea to have an estimate of how many guests you plan to invite. This often means creating a rough draft of your guest list. If your guest list is expansive, many churches and banquet halls may not have the capacity to fit everyone.

And if your guest list is small and intimate, you don’t want to be rattling around in a huge space! Knowing a rough number of guests you want to invite will help narrow down your search from the beginning.

Style

To some extent, you’ll be bringing your aesthetic into the venue when your vendors set up for the wedding, but the inherent nature and style of a venue is a foundation that cannot be changed. It’s best to choose a venue that fits with the style and feel that you’re envisioning for your wedding day. For example, a cathedral ceremony and ballroom reception might not be the best fit if you crave a whimsical wedding, and a barn venue will not be a great option if you have your heart set on an elegant, formal affair.

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Budget

Unless you are working with an unlimited wedding budget, money is another factor to consider. If you have a wedding planner, they will be able to steer you toward venues that are a good fit for your budget initially. Beyond that, make sure you ask a lot of questions as you tour each venue to get a good handle on what’s included and what features will incur additional costs so you can try to compare apples to apples when considering multiple venues.

Upkeep

One thing to pay attention to when touring venues is their cleanliness and general maintenance. Is the landscaping well tended?

Are the bathrooms clean? What kind of staffing will there be on your wedding day to keep everything spic and span? The condition of the venue on a touring day will tell you a lot about the management and their standards. Make sure that those standards match with your own!

Packages

Depending on the venue, they may offer different packages for events. Look into each venue’s catering packages to see whether they suit your needs. Some locations will provide tables, tablecloths, cake stands and other things that will save on your bill with an outside rental company, while others provide only the space.

Neither is right or wrong, but you need to be sure you know what you’re getting before you book the venue.

experience might bring. Make sure you feel a connection with the staff and that you trust them — they are going to be the ones who ensure your day runs smoothly. As you tour different venues, take note of whether they are listening to you and whether you will feel comfortable working closely with them throughout the months leading up to your wedding day.

For many couples, their wedding is the only time in their lives that they will ever book an event venue. So, it’s OK if you feel a bit out of your element and experience a steep learning curve! We encourage you to check out online photos of other weddings at the venue.

Seeing other people’s weddings can give you inspiration and a better idea of what the space looks like in all its glory.

It’s also a very good idea to check out reviews or talk to other brides about their experiences with the business! And as we mentioned before, a good wedding planner can be a huge help in guiding you toward the venues that will suit your wedding best!

Permits & Privacy

If you’re planning to have your wedding outside or in a public place, permits may be required. Do your research and get the necessary documents ahead of time. Another thing to consider is whether other people will have access to the area during your wedding.

Holding a wedding in a public place can lead to a lot of onlookers, so consider how important your privacy is to you on your big day!

Management

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Venue Coordinator or Event Coordinator

By Lisa Beth Miller

What is the Difference?

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s you plan for your big day and search for your dream venue, it is important to pay attention to what assistance is offered at each venue. If the venue itself provides a coordinator, you may not need to hire a separate event coordinator. Confused about the differences between the two types of coordinators? Here are some tips regarding the roles of venue coordinators and event coordinators:

Venue Coordinators:

When you’re picking out your wedding venue, one of the first things you should ask is whether or not there is an on-site wedding coordinator at your disposal. If your venue offers a coordinator as part of its package, that means there’s no added cost for this added benefit.

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A venue coordinator works for the venue, not directly for you. They’ll act as a liaison between you and the venue’s operations team, which means they’ll show you the venue, help coordinate any services offered on-site (from in-house catering to valet parking), and process the final invoice.

They’ll typically deal with the logistics of a wedding on the day of, like giving vendors access to the site for setup and breakdown, setting up tables and chairs, ensuring the power and plumbing works, cleaning the space before and after the event, and keeping things safe.

Make sure you have a firm understanding how much the venue coordinator is willing to do for you. If they will ONLY handle the big picture

elements of your big day, then you need to consider who will help with the little details.

Perhaps your wedding party and reliable family members can help with minor decorations and details, but it might be wise to hire a wedding planner to tackle these tasks.

Event Coordinators:

If the venue you’re considering does NOT offer an on-site coordinator, you may want to hire an event coordinator. This person is separate from the venue and will be hired directly by YOU, which means you’ll need to factor this expense into your budget. It’s an added cost but could prove to be a very worthwhile one.

An event coordinator is a wedding planner, so they’ll help you plan the details of your big day. If you hire someone from the very start, they’ll be present for every major weddingrelated decision you make and will help turn your dream into a reality. If you’d rather plan the wedding yourself but want someone present to help with the day-of details, a day-of coordinator will help carry out your vision on the actual day. Whether you bring someone on from the start or at the last minute, a planner will be an advocate for YOU. There’s usually no limit to what an event coordinator will do for you. They’ll handle a moody bridesmaid, track down a missing

vendor, tie some bowties when the groom suddenly realizes NO ONE knows how and generally ensures everything you planned comes to fruition. Your event coordinator will travel with you from wherever you’re getting ready for your ceremony and then on to your reception. Your event coordinator will also act as the liaison between you and ALL of your vendors in order to make sure everyone is on the same page at all times.

Your event coordinator’s goal is to make sure you are able to enjoy every moment of your wedding without worrying if the right people are in the right place at the right time or about whether or not you’re sticking to the schedule.

Consider them your big day BFF, there to guide you and your partner through the whole process as smoothly as possible. After all, they’ll be by your side from the moment you start planning until you make your grand exit.

Unlike a full-service wedding coordinator, a “Day-of ” coordinator is for brides and grooms who want to do most of the planning themselves, but when their wedding day arrives, they need a professional to execute all of their hard work. This type of coordinator is less expensive and is less involved in the planning stages of the event. Instead, she takes responsibility for everything running smoothly on the day of the wedding.

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WEDDING WORD GLOSSARY

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ARBOR: An arch of branches, vines and/or flowers that the bride and groom stand under to say their vows. Also sometimes called a “wedding arch.”

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BUSTLE: Fastening the wedding dress in back to lift the train off the ground. This is usually done for the reception to allow the bride to move and dance more easily. Bustling the dress is often accomplished with hidden buttons, hooks and/or strings.

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DAY-OF PLANNER: A wedding coordinator who works with you primarily on the day of the wedding to make sure everything goes smoothly (as opposed to a full-service planner who works with you throughout all of the months leading up to the wedding).

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DESTINATION WEDDING: A wedding that takes place away from the couple’s home.

Often, a destination wedding takes place in a dream vacation spot.

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ELOPE: Long ago, eloping meant getting married without telling your family, usually because they didn’t approve. Now, eloping has evolved to mean any wedding that takes place with only the bride, groom and officiant.

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ESCORT CARDS: Cards that display the guest’s name and indicate the table they have been assigned for the reception.

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FIRST LOOK: When the bride and groom see each other privately in their wedding attire before the ceremony.

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GRAND ENTRANCE: The moment when the bride and groom are announced and enter the reception. The grand entrance often leads directly into the first dance.

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PROCESSIONAL: The part of the ceremony in which the wedding party and bride walk down the aisle. This can also refer to the music that plays during this time.

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RECESSIONAL: The part of the wedding in which the newly married couple, followed by the wedding party, walk back down the aisle after the ceremony.

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SIGNATURE COCKTAIL: A specialty drink chosen just for the wedding. The recipe or name often has meaning for the couple.

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STATIONERY SUITE: All of the stationery for the wedding: save-the-dates, invitations, RSVP cards, envelopes. This is sometimes also called an “invitation suite.”

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TABLESCAPE: The arrangement of the place settings, centerpieces, table numbers and other decorations on the reception tables.

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TROUSSEAU: The clothes, linens and other items that a bride saves for her wedding and new married life. Often includes pretty lingerie.

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TRUNK SHOW: A special sale where wedding dress designers travel to a store and offer their gowns directly to the customers. It often includes a discounted price or the ability to purchase gowns that are not otherwise available.

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WONDERFUL WEDDING WEEKENDS

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n this modern day of transient lifestyles, wedding guest lists contain relatives and friends traveling from both coasts. To make the most of the time couples can spend with their friends and family members, brides and grooms are planning wedding weekends and hosting multiple events in unique venues.

The wedding weekend consists of numerous parties and activities centering around guests getting to know each other while enabling the bride and groom time to relax and enjoy catching up with friends and family. A wedding weekend agenda typically goes like this: The Ice Breaker This party is usually held on the Thursday evening prior to the wedding. This dinner has replaced the traditional rehearsal dinner as it is often the first time the bride and groom’s families meet. It’s a good idea to keep this event on the casual and fun side, incorporating themes like a barbecue or Hawaiian luau.

Bridal Party Outings These events are designed to allow for some relaxation before the big day, and again, give guests a chance to make new acquaintances and renew old friendships. Outings can include trips to a spa for the feminine side of the bridal party, golfing for the groom and his buddies and sightseeing tours and excursions to local wineries for wedding guests.

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Rehearsal Dinner This event is held the night before the wedding and now includes not only the bridal party, but family members and out-of-town wedding guests. It is not unusual to have a guest list of 50 attendees. More couples are utilizing interesting venues, such as wineries, for these events.

The Wedding & Reception By now, your guests have had some time to get to know one another better, so let the good times begin. Relax and enjoy the day, whether it’s an elegant ballroom event, a trip back in time at a historic bed & breakfast or a casual catered affair in the countryside.

Post-Festivity Brunch This is the perfect opportunity for the bride and groom to thank out-of-town guests, friends and family members, and to open gifts. Put the emphasis on hospitality and relaxation.

The wedding weekend allows you time to relax and enjoy visiting with all of your guests.

Use venues that offer many opportunities for different events for your guests while keeping their traveling time to a minimum. With a wealth of historic sites, B&B’s, wineries, shopping outlets, spas and golf clubs, Northern Virginia is the perfect place to hold your wedding weekend.

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1 4 Q U E S T I O NS TO ASK YOUR CATERER

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ood and catering typically comprise one of the largest portions of a wedding budget.

Whether it’s a local vendor who provides cuisine specific to your wedding theme or a full-service caterer equipped to help make your day seamless, asking the following questions can help to ensure your wedding food and reception will be unforgettable for you and your guests: Do you specialize in a certain type of food or serving style? Whether you’re looking for a certain serving style or a specific cuisine to coordinate with your wedding theme, it’s important to find out how your caterer typically handles receptions. Ask if menus are set or if there’s the option for customization.

Can you make a family-favorite recipe for our reception? Some caterers are willing and able to recreate the dish on a large scale for all of your wedding guests if you provide them with the recipe.

Have you previously worked at our wedding venue? Many venues provide a list of preferred or exclusive caterers while other locations may not have any restrictions. Make sure the caterer has at least done a walk-through at the site to know how the kitchen is set up, where their staging area will be and how the reception will be laid out. And if you’re still on the hunt for the perfect wedding venue, your caterer may be able to point you in the direction of a location that can accommodate your guest list and wedding theme.

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Are you licensed and insured in the state of ___? Some venues require proof of insurance for outside vendors and/or a liquor license if there is going to be a bar. You will want to make note of this early and discuss this requirement with your caterer prior to booking.

Will someone be there to oversee the event? On the day of the wedding, it will be important that someone experienced is there to coordinate the event from set up to break down to ensure that everything runs as planned.

Can you break down the anticipated costs of our reception? It is crucial to determine what is included in the cost per person, any staffing and/or set up expenses and whether or not equipment rentals are included. When discussing rentals, be sure to inquire about color options to customize your event and match your color scheme.

What are your payment policies for deposits, cancellations, overtime and gratuity? Figuring out the company’s payment methods and policies will help to make sure you’re both on the same page when it comes to securing your wedding date, as well as financial expectations.

Do you provide any additional services to help coordinate on the day of the wedding? Catering companies vary greatly in terms of their additional services. Some are associated with restaurants and/or specific cuisines and provide food service

only. Others may act as full-service caterers who provide optional services such as event coordination and/or design, as well as assist with finding and booking other vendors, such as florists, DJ’s or bands, photo booths and chocolate fountains.

Can we provide our own alcohol? Is there a corking fee? If your venue and/or caterer allow you to provide your own alcohol, stocking your own bar can be a great cost-saving solution. Just make sure to ask about any fees that may drive up the cost.

Is the wedding cake included in our package?

Some catering companies provide beautiful and delicious wedding cakes that are perfect for couples who appreciate a good “one-stop shop.”

But if you have a specific baker in mind, be sure to address this early in the planning. If you are providing your own cake, ask about a cake cutting fee so there are no last minute surprises.

What is the usual ratio of staff to guests? The answer depends on the size of the event, serving style, menu demands and equipment needs.

However, by asking up front, you’ll have an idea of what to expect and understand how

the caterer works to ensure a smooth dining experience for all of your guests.

Is it possible to set up a tasting? Most catering companies provide some sort of tasting experience for their clients either prior to booking or before the event to finalize your menu choices. When arranging your tasting session, inquire how many food options will be available, if there are any associated costs and how many guests can participate.

When do you need a final head count? This will help you to determine when you need your RSVPs so you have time to contact any stragglers and submit your final numbers to the caterer in time for preparation for your event.

What happens to the leftovers? Unfortunately many couples do not get the opportunity to enjoy as much of the delicious food because they’re so busy mingling with their guests.

Having the catering team package any leftovers for you and your new spouse is a great way to make sure you get to have your cake and eat it too!

Michael Evans is the owner of Helga’s Caterers in McLean. To schedule a consultation, call 703.556.0780.

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ocial media is embedded in our day-to-day life; for most of us, social media facilitates the majority of our daily interactions with others. We use social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter to stay in touch, share updates and celebrate milestones; it’s only natural that social media has found its way into wedding celebrations. That said, before uploading a photo of the happy couple saying “I Do,” it is essential to remember your social media wedding etiquette.

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HERE COMES THE HASHTAG A particularly social couple may utilize social media to engage and communicate with their guests from the first RSVP to the last thankyou card. While the majority of couples still choose to mail out paper invitations, many opt for electronic RSVPs: a cheaper, more environmentally friendly option. It’s also a more efficient option for guests. Wedding websites and blogs are also commonly used to share updates and information about the wedding day, the registry and anything that wasn’t covered on the invitations.

Social-savvy couples may also request and encourage their guests to upload photos taken at their wedding to a photo-sharing site such as WedPics or Wedding Party. Alternatively, a unique hashtag may be provided for guests to categorize pictures posted on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. Digitally cataloged photos enable the couple to revisit the unique (and sometimes hilarious) moments the days after their wedding. Similarly, guests can swap stories and re-hash inside jokes long after the last dance-off.

WEDDING COUPLE TIP If you would like your guests to share photos with an app or website, make sure this information is communicated clearly and in advance either through your wedding website or via signage at the reception. Otherwise, you may end up with several hashtags and many irretrievable photos. Something as simple as, “If you are sharing photos, make sure you use our hashtag: #PWLivingWeddings.” This will let guests know how to upload photos with the group.

GUEST TIP While it may be tempting to capture every moment through your device, remember to look up and experience the wedding. You wouldn’t want to miss a big moment because you were applying the Valencia filter to your latest photo on Instagram. After all, it was you and not your social media followers who were invited to share in this special day. Your followers can wait.

PRIVACY, PLEASE While many arguments are endorsing a webbased wedding infused with social media, it isn’t uncommon for a couple to go one step further and request their guests be present and refrain from using smartphones and other electronic devices. Before you gasp in horror, we could all learn something from the unplugged wedding. If a couple has discouraged the use of smartphones, odds are they are more concerned with ensuring guests enjoy the evening than with ensuring guests have updated their social media. Simply put, the emphasis is placed on the guests experiencing the wedding through their eyes, not their phone. While your wedding day is a special occasion, “checking in,” tweeting and photo sharing may be daily (if not hourly) routines for many of your guests.

WEDDING COUPLE TIP If you would prefer photos and details from your wedding not end up on social media sites, politely ask your guests to refrain from doing so. Just like weddings involving social media, signage can be particularly useful in delivering this message. For example, “We ask that you visit with your friends here today. Do us a favor and please put your phones away.”

GUEST TIP Pay attention to the wedding correspondence you receive. Has the couple specifically requested guests refrain from using their phones during the wedding and/or reception?

If so, be respectful — the couple has asked you to share in one of the most important days of their life. Be a guest first, photographer/ blogger/tweeter second.

When we think of wedding etiquette, we may think of toasts, attire, glass clinking and perhaps even dance moves. Today, we must also think of social media. Photos, videos, tweets, and check-ins are fluid in our society.

While we can control what we share about ourselves, we can’t always control what others share about us. When planning your wedding, it is important to determine how you feel about social media: what role, if any, will it play? Regardless, we must all be reminded to be social first, media second. bridesandweddings.com |

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edding stationery may seem like a minor wedding detail, but it is actually an important part of your overall event concept. Wedding stationery is a couple’s first opportunity to delve into the “personal branding” of their big day. Sounds overly serious and corporate? It isn’t. Personal branding just means that the engaged couple is closely planning the overall look and concept of their wedding day, and that they are making sure that every aspect of the day is appropriate and recognizable.

Generally speaking, the “save the date” cards are a wedding guest’s first glimpse into the style and personal branding of the engaged couple. These are traditionally sent out very early (well before the invitations), making it critical for the bride and groom to develop their personal branding well in advance. For example, if a bride and groom are planning a

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lush, tropical-themed wedding featuring hot pink and orange flowers and exotic palm trees, the save the date cards should reflect this look.

In this instance, sending out sleek black and white save the date cards will not help to build

the excitement surrounding the event like theme/color–based ones could.

Of course, not every wedding has a theme but the overall look and vibe must still be considered. For example, before ordering stationery consider the following: Color scheme: Be sure the wedding stationery reflects the exact color scheme of your event.

Everything should tie together flawlessly.

Font: Be choosy about your font. Fonts have the power to create a mood and a style. Some are fun and whimsical, others are elegant and simple.

Formality: Your stationery should give guests a clue about your event. A beach wedding should have beachy wedding stationery. An elegant black tie affair should have traditional and classic stationery.

Texture/fabrics: Many couples are now using wedding stationery with a bit of texture, whether it be upscale fabrics or eco-friendly recycled papers.

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Personalized touches: A popular trend is to incorporate personal photographs into the wedding stationery. Use a fun engagement picture on the save the date cards.or thank you cards, pose on the day of the wedding holding signs that say “Thank” and “you!” for an adorably stylish and thoughtful touch.

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edding cakes are a centerpiece for the reception — they balance a bridal couple’s style, palette, theme and creativity.

And couples are now mixing tradition with contemporary elements to create unique designs. Here are some helpful tips when choosing your wedding cake.

Find your comfort zone: It’s important to be comfortable with your wedding cake vendor, whether it’s a full service bakery or dedicated wedding cake specialist. You should be offered a consultation where you are able to taste various flavor combinations, browse through a portfolio of their work and begin to create your cake.

Celebrate with style: Gone are the days in which wedding cakes had to be round and covered with a thick white icing with

tons of piping. Brides and grooms are now incorporating color, shapes, sugar flowers, height and even cupcakes. Consider having a square cake with each tier slightly off-set and decorate it with very delicate piping to highlight the squares like custom gift boxes. Think about using taller round cakes with vibrant-colored sugar flowers for extra height and attention. Defy gravity with a “topsy turvy” cake that looks ready to topple over. Try adding brushed embroidery to a traditional round cake to awe your guests. Or change things up a little and make each tier a different shape, color or design. Have some fun with cupcakes and create a cupcake tower with a small cake on top for tradition. Create your own statement!

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CAKES WITH STYLE—CONTINUED Look good and taste good: The wedding cake is usually one of the first items guests see when they enter the reception.

They admire it all evening and, finally after much anticipation, get to have a slice.

Make those bites memorable — the cake should taste divine! Ask when your cake will be baked to ensure freshness. Use seasonal flavors such as mango with fresh berries (summer), pumpkin or apple spice (fall), peppermint or gingerbread (winter) or carrot or lemon (spring).

You can even mix up some classics to create your own combination. Try a vanilla sponge cake layered with chocolate ganache and raspberry mousse topped off with vanilla whipped cream, or a devil’s food cake with chocolate buttercream filling and iced with vanilla buttercream. Or surprise your guests with red velvet cake filled with Chantilly cream and fresh strawberries! Different tiers can be different flavors to make for variety. And for your guests with special dietary needs, there are bakers who can make sugar-free, gluten-free and even vegan (egg and dairy-free) cakes!

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The “icing on the cake:” Fondant is dough-like icing made with sugar, glucose and glycerin. Because of the ingredients, fondant is usually a very sweet icing. It is beautiful for covering cakes because of its ultra smooth and glossy finish. Fondant is also great for designs involving draping, hand painting, brushed embroidery, stenciling or embossing. If you are not using those elements, most skilled cake decorators are able to achieve a smooth, almost fondant-like look using a soft icing such as whipped cream or buttercream.

Groom’s cakes: Most people think of the bleeding armadillo cake from the movie Steel Magnolias when they hear “groom’s cake.” While you may want to tease your new husband, you can also surprise him with a special cake made with just him in mind. If he is a huge football fan, have the baker recreate his favorite team’s helmet. For the avid fisherman, how about creating a bass boat?

You can also recreate his night out with the boys with a complete poker table. This cake can be served alongside the wedding cake, or at the more intimate rehearsal dinner.

The final touches: What will you do with the top tier of the cake? Think about using some fresh or sugar flowers to enhance the colors and design of your wedding cake.

Monograms are also very popular, as are the traditional bride and groom. And the details don’t stop there. Once the cake is delivered to your reception site, how will it be displayed?

Cover your table with a beautiful linen and complementary overlay. Elevate your cake and place some votive candles around for ambiance. Or how about flooding the table with rose petals? Your wedding cake vendor will help you find the best way to highlight your cake.

Remember to choose a reputable cake professional who you are comfortable with, one who can accommodate your needs and will not be affected by weather, staffing or “Plan B” on your special day. Keep all this in mind as you prepare to eat (cake), drink, and be married!

Emily Wu and her sister Victoria are the owners of Cakes by Happy Eatery, a full service bakery.

To see their cake designs and learn more about the bakery, visit www.cakesbyhappyeatery.com.

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advice from real brides

“Embrace all of it... it goes so quick.... step back and soak it all in with your husband for a few minutes. You will never get that time back... don’t sweat the small stuff... your wedding is going to come whether you are ready or not. Have fun, and love everyone your with they are all here for you!”

—Jessica H “Keep it simple and smallish. Do little things that are unique, but allow your family and friends to enjoy the day. Also allow yourself to enjoy the day. Its worth it to budget a day of coordinator that will help with set up and take down. We got to be present on our wedding and greet every guest during the reception without feeling rushed. We remember every moment and had so much fun with minimal stress. It was such a great day.”

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“After all the decisions have been made try not to stress and enjoy the day because it goes so fast!”

—Sarah A “While planning and the details are important and sometimes fun to do, don’t let that be your main focus. If you find yourself going off budget or getting frustrated with your fiancé or others, take a step back from planning. Go enjoy a good meal or activity. Don’t forget why you are doing all of this in the first place.”

—Anna S “Plan your wedding with items and things that surround and make up your everyday life.

That is, if you enjoy the things that make up your every day life. Do not always go with what is most popular or what is in season. Try not to stress about things, even though stress is pretty inevitable. Just remember that you cannot control every detail of the planning and what the outcome will be. “ —Courtney E bridesandweddings.com |

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Real Brides & Weddings KIERA AND JAKE Bright, Light, and Heartfelt!

TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT YOUR STORY: Q: How did you two first meet, and how did your relationship develop over time?

A: We have known each other since we were kids (born ten days apart!) as our moms were best friends from high school. Although we didn’t grow up in the same state, we became close friends when we were younger and eventually started dating after college. At first, we were long-distance and took many trips across the country from NYC to San Francisco for three years until we finally found a place where we could both work, Cleveland, Ohio.

Q: What was transitioning from a longdistance relationship to living together like?

A: We lived in Cleveland together for a few years before moving to the DC area for work.

I think we always knew we’d eventually get married, but we were so excited to be living in the same place that getting married wasn’t the biggest rush for us. We took our time, and after seven years together, Jake popped the question while we were on a walk along the Anacostia River with our dog Cado.

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A: We had our attire be “garden casual,” and I think that sums up our theme. Very relaxed, fun colors and florals, and nothing too fancy.

We wanted our guests to feel relaxed and like they were at one of our many hosted nights at our home.

Q: What inspired you to pick that theme?

A: We love the outdoors and being near nature, which is why we chose the location and felt that garden vibes really fit our personalities.

WEDDING COLORS: Q: Did you have a specific color scheme or palette for your wedding?

A: We chose not to have a wedding party so we had no set colors, but if we were to pick something, we’d say bright summer colors!

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parents’ local farm in Upstate NY, so they picked what was in season at the time, and we made up all the vases with the help of our families the day before!

THE DRESS: Q: Tell us about your wedding dress and the experience of finding it.

A: My dress color was called “oatmeal,” so it was more tan and ivory than pure white. It had tiers of tulle, a sequined floral motif, and a strapless corset top. My mom came down to DC to visit, and she and I just went to Anthropologie one morning, and we picked it out together. It was a very relaxing experience as I loved my dress, but it wasn’t my top priority for the wedding, so it took the pressure off. I had picked out a few dresses in advance, but this dress actually wasn’t one of them and caught us by surprise. We both knew it was the one by the look my mom and I gave each other.

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FAVORITE DETAIL: Q: What was your favorite detail or moment from your wedding day?

A: The ceremony was really special to us and our guests. We pieced together the script ourselves, and one of our best friends officiated the ceremony. We gave our four sisters the opportunity to speak and share a story about us throughout that really brought the ceremony together. It was so touching for us to hear their words, and they added a unique touch to the day.

DESCRIBE THE FIRST DANCE: Q: How did your first dance go, and what song did you choose?

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ANY ADVICE FOR OTHER BRIDES? Q: What advice would you give to other brides planning their wedding?

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the wedding norms. The day goes by so fast, so cherishing the quiet moments you have with your partner is some of the most special. Really try your best to stay in the moment!

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hanging your name after the wedding is a personal choice. If you do decide to make the traditional change, it is important to be organized and thorough in this endeavor.

Where to start?

STEP FOUR: Update your bank accounts.

Request the change in person at your local branch (bring your new driver’s license and marriage certificate). Ask for new checks and debit and credit cards, as well.

STEP ONE: Get your marriage license.

An original, or certified copy, of your marriage license will be required before you speak to other agencies. Call the clerk’s office where your license was filed to get copies.

STEP FIVE: Apply for a new passport.

The fees and process change depending on whether your current passport was issued within the last year. Except to wait 4-6 weeks for processing.

STEP TWO: Change your social security card.

Fill out the Social Security Administration’s application for a new card. Take or mail your application and required documents to your local SSA office.

What else? Additional details vary by person, but you should update records for your payroll. Email accounts, insurance policies, utilities, legal documents, doctors’ offices, school alumni offices, credit cards, checking account, loans, and social media accounts are some others to consider.

STEP THREE: Update your driver’s license.

In most states, this must be done in person, so prepare yourself for a trip to the DMV. Bring your original license, your marriage certificate and your new Social Security card.

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Wedding Gowns:

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f you are addicted to reality wedding TV shows like I am, you probably think that it is obvious when you put on the “right” wedding gown. Some think it is a special hunch, while others claim the bride will most definitely shed tears when she sees herself in the correct dress.

Some brides just do not experience this moment of clarity and never really feel one-hundred percent confident. Why?

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Well, for starters, many brides simply overshop. They feel they cannot allow themselves to relax and feel confident in a dress (no matter how perfect it truly looks) until EVERY dress option has been seen. This attitude often leads to marathon shopping sessions to multiple boutiques.

This accomplishes very little because each visit to a new boutique starts the entire process from the very beginning, and consultants are trained to have each bride try on a variety of styles. By visiting 20 boutiques, the bride is wasting time and failing to narrow her choices at all.

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beading or your maid of honor wants you to show more skin. Too many shopping buddies lead to a bride being totally distracted!

So, what is the ultimate test to figure out if your dress is “the one”? Try it on, then join your bridal consultant at the mirror. Close your eyes and envision your wedding venue.

Where will you be standing at the exact moment your dress is revealed? Now open your eyes. Is this who you want your guests to see? If the answer is “yes”, you have found your dress!

Another obvious clue: if you are in no hurry to change out of your dress and want to test it out by sitting in it, dancing in it, posing in it, or even just standing around in it, you may have found your dress!

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Select your wedding fashions from the finest bridal salons in Northern Virginia.

Gowns, bridesmaids dresses, formal wear, accessories and shoes — it’s all there at your full-service independent bridal shop. For a custom-designed gown, check out the area’s bridal fabric retailers and designers. And don’t forget to shop for your trousseau!

Anna’s Bridal 8804 Pear Tree Village Ct, Alexandria (703) 360-4272 annasbridalcouture.com

Eternity Bridal Boutique 6531-A Little River Turnpike, Alexandria (703) 354-9330 eternity-bridal.com

Best Bridals & Tailoring 4300 Chantilly Shopping Center, Chantilly (703) 378-3222 bestbridalsva.com

Global Bridal Gallery 689 South Washington St., Alexandria (703) 739-2743 globalbridalgallery.com

Elegance by Roya Bridal 1311 King Street Alexandria, VA 22314 (703)838-9282 www.elegancebyroya.com

Trousseau 306 Maple Ave. W, Vienna (703) 255-3300 trousseaultd.com

Ellie’s Bridal Boutique 225 North Washington St., Alexandria (703) 683-8697 elliesbridal.com

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lmost every fashionista loves a fabulous shoe. Selecting shoes for your wedding day should simply be one more opportunity to add an amazingly stylish touch to your look.

Shoes for your wedding day should not be a last-minute decision. The shoe should be coordinated with your gown color (it could even be a unique contrast), your jewelry, your bouquet and your basic style. They must be selected carefully! Talk to the style consultants at your bridal boutique for ideas.

Once you have found the correct pair of wedding-day shoes, here are some additional tips to keep in mind: In order to prevent blisters and discomfort, start wearing your shoes about a month before the wedding to break them in a bit. Even just walking around in your shoes for 15 minutes each evening will help your comfort level!

Be absolutely sure that you have your shoes (and all of your wedding day accessories and undergarments) before your first appointment with your seamstress. Your wedding gown alterations will not be appropriate unless the

seamstress has a full vision of your complete look! So shop early!

Avoid the whole “dyed to match” concept.

Allow your bridesmaids to select a metallic shoe instead. These are neutral and can be worn again. If you absolutely insist upon dying the bridesmaid shoes, treat the girls to a second shoe makeover and dye their colorful shoes black.

Remember—if everyone in the wedding party loves their shoes, it won’t be necessary to distribute flip-flops or slippers at the reception.

Simply don’t do it! Your wedding is your one day to be stylish and fabulous, so keep the standards high! An exception may be made to this rule if your wedding and reception are literally on the beach.

If you love dancing, consider shopping for a brand that actually specializes in well-structured, comfortable shoes! One great company that I adore is Angela Nuran.

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Most tuxedo shops work with out-of-town wedding members; don’t let that be an excuse for tardy measurements. Here’s a crash course in Tuxedos 101 to ensure you pick the right look for your wedding party.

For starters, have all of your men measured as soon as you pick out the tuxedos. (The ring bearer should wait until one month out to ensure his growing body fits his tuxedo).

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LESSON 1: TUXEDO JACKETS

When selecting a tuxedo jacket, pay close attention to the number of buttons and the lapel. Basic styles will have between one to three buttons. Two-button styles are most common due to their ability to look great on a number of body shapes and sizes. The most common lapel choices are notched and peak.

Peak lapels are very popular on the red carpet right now but notched lapels are still most common in weddings. Next, pay attention to the detail on the coat. Traditional black is most popular followed closely by a shadow stripe detail. Chocolate tuxedos have emerged in full force and gray tuxes have also recently

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become popular. Sand is another color option and is great for beach weddings!

LESSON 2: SHIRTS

When selecting a shirt, pay attention to the collar. A laydown collar is most common with a long tie but the wing collar is also an option. You also usually have the choice of a white, ivory or black shirt.

LESSON 3: TIES

When selecting a tie, you must choose between a bow tie or long tie. The long tie, typically a Windsor (typical suit tie) instead of an ascot, is the most popular choice. Traditionally most long ties worn for weddings are solids but now many offer striped and other patterns.

LESSON 4: VESTS

Most vests are 5 buttons and are either a fullback or bib style. Bib styles work well with some jacket styles. Some wedding parties are opting for patterned or metallic vests, designed to coordinate with bridesmaids’ dresses. Cummerbunds are a less popular choice, but they are usually available in a limited color selection.

LESSON 5: OTHER ACCESSORIES

Shoes and cufflinks are also commonly included with tuxedo rentals. Be sure everyone in your party rents shoes to keep a consistent look. A mixture of patent leather and matte

finish shoes will be noticeable by your guests and visible in pictures. Pocket squares that coordinate with the vest and tie are also a popular accessory that finishes off a tuxedo.

LESSON 6: THE RULES

All tuxedos should be rented from the same vendor. Any man who will be in many of your wedding pictures should be in a tuxedo to ensure a consistent look across your wedding party and in the pictures you are taking to create memories. This means if grandfathers will be in many of the pictures, they should wear a tuxedo, too. It is a good overall look for any man with a role in the wedding to be in a tuxedo.

The groom’s vest, tie and shirt color usually match the bride’s dress color, usually white or ivory. The groomsmen’s vest and ties match the color of the bridesmaids dresses. The ring bearer matches the groom or flower girl. The ushers, fathers and grandfathers typically don vests and ties in black or silver. This is to avoid too many different colors in a small group.

Again, think of how the wedding photos will look.

Traditionally, the bride and groom request that each groomsman pays for his own tuxedo.

Be sure to make this clear to groomsmen so they are prepared when they are asked for payment during their initial measurment.

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THE SHAPE OF

KNOWING YOUR WEDDING GOWN SILHOUETTES

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o, you are engaged and ready to shop for the perfect wedding gown. You arrive at your very first appointment at a bridal boutique and the consultant suggests that you try on classic wedding gown silhouettes. I know…you are thinking, “Ugh. I already know what I want! Look, I have a huge pile of pictures of my favorite dresses!”

Your best bet in this situation is to trust your bridal consultant! She knows exactly what she is talking about and will show you options that may not have occurred to you. Since most women do NOT try on formal wedding gowns throughout their lives, most do not actually know what gowns will work with their body type. As you look through your huge pile of pictures of gowns that appeal to you, try to keep in mind that the model wearing the gown in your beloved pictures is most likely almost six feet tall and around a size 2. Be sure to give yourself the chance to find a dress silhouette that is perfect for your own size and shape!

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A-line

This style is slim on top, fitted through the waist, and softly flares away from the body.

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The fullest, most formal style—a traditional ball gown features a boned and fitted bodice and a full skirt supported by layers of crinoline. The shape here is similar to A-line but is fuller and more structured. Extremely petite brides could be overwhelmed in this style.

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A sheath gown has a narrow and straight cut that flows straight down from top to bottom without a defined waist. This style skims the body.

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Mermaid

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This style hugs the torso then flares out from the knee or just below. This style works well for short-waisted brides.

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BRIDAL ATTIRE CHECKLIST B

ridal attire is more than just a gown.

This handy checklist, courtesy of Trousseau Ltd., will keep you – and the ladies who play a key role in your wedding day – looking great from head to toe.

Personal Attire: o Tiara, Hairpins, Headband or Comb o Bridal Veil o Bridal Jewelry o Garter o Bridal Foundation Bustiers and Shapewear to Look Your Best! o Hosiery o Shoes o Handbag or Make-up Pouch o Handkerchief o Gloves o Wedding Night & Honeymoon Lingerie o Get fitted with Trousseau’s Bra Expert Bridal Attendants: Foundation Dyeable Shoes and Handbag Jewelry Hair Ornaments Photo by Seth and Beth - Wedding Photography

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Mothers of the Bride and Groom: Foundation Dyeable Shoes and Handbag Jewelry and Hair Ornaments

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Stationery: Save the Date Cards Wedding Invitations Thank-you Notes & Personal Stationery

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o matter how organized you are and how much planning you’ve done before the wedding, you should always expect the unexpected. And an emergency kit for your wedding day is the best way to prepare.

If building your own kit, start at least two or three months before the wedding so you can gather the items over time. This allows you to consider the possible needs of your close friends and family. Designate someone to be responsible for the emergency kit, bringing it from location to location and keeping it readily available.

Suggested emergency kit items: • • • • • • • • • •

Band-Aids Blotting papers Bobby pins Bottle of water Clear nail polish Deodorant Nail file Feminine products Hairspray Hand lotion

• • • • • • • • •

Hand sanitizer Lipstick or lip gloss Mints Pain reliever Q-tips Safety pins Small lint brush Super glue Tissues

• Tums/Rolaids • Sewing Kit with scissors • Granola bars or other easy-to-carry snacks • Straws (you don’t want to mess up your lipstick) • Chalk, tied for easy packing, hides scuffs and marks on white leather and fabrics.

You will also want to make a list of items to carry in your purse.

• Cell phone • Mirror • Handkerchief or tissues • Nail file • Lip gloss or lipstick to match makeup • Perfume One of the great advantages to hiring a day-of coordinator is the extensive emergency kit this professional brings to every wedding. Your coordinator will carry glue and staple guns, floral wire, hundreds of safety pins, fasteners, packing tape, lighters, scissors and more – there is nothing the kit can’t handle!

So remember, either put your emergency kit in the hands of a professional or start putting yours together early and you’ll be prepared for anything!

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WEDDING FLOWER

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Photo by Alexandra Wallace

Enjoy this collection of beautiful wedding flowers.

Recently featured on our blog, these bouquets and blooms all came from recent, real weddings.

Visit our website to see more real weddings and get inspiration for your day.

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PLANNING YOUR FLOWER BUDGET

By Lisa Beth Miller

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hen planning your wedding, it would be difficult to avoid spending a large sum on flowers, as they are woven into many aspects of the celebration. Flowers and decor traditionally take up around 15% of the wedding budget. This, of course, is flexible, depending upon how much the couple chooses to utilize flowers!

Here are a few ideas to consider as your budget:

Bridal bouquets and toss bouquets are fairly traditional and necessary. Brides who love flowers can go all out with an extravagant bouquet, while minimalists can certainly keep it simple! Brides could even opt to use the “real bouquet” as the toss bouquet to save a few dollars. Just keep in mind that the bride’s bouquet is one of the most photographed floral arrangements of the day! Don’t skimp too much!

Bridesmaids’ bouquets are also a must, but certainly, do not need to be as extravagant as the bridal bouquet. The girls could carry a single flower or a petite nosegay. Be strategic with color so the bouquets stand out in pictures!

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party. The parents of the bride and groom should also receive these floral tokens. The groom’s boutonniere should coordinate with the bridal bouquet and should be distinct from the flowers worn by the groomsman.

The cost of the ceremony flowers will vary greatly depending upon where the wedding ceremony will take place. Some churches allow couples to decorate both the aisle and the front area of the church, others may discourage this.

Regardless of how much you decorate the ceremony location, talk to the florist about moving these flowers to the reception location to save money!

Reception flowers: If flowers are the main decor at the reception, you will need a centerpiece/arrangement for each table, at a minimum. Flowers could also be added to the cake table, cocktail tables, bar, buffet tables, entrances, and restrooms. Keep costs down by specifically asking the florist what flowers are in season at the time of the wedding!

Another money-saving tip is to add unique props to the reception flowers (jars, candles, antiques, photographs) so that smaller arrangements may be utilized.

Good luck, blushing brides!

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Floral CHECKLIST

To keep you on track with your floral needs, here is a brief checklist: r Bride’s Bouquet r Best Man’s Boutonniere r Maid/Matron of Honor r Ushers’ Boutonnieres Bouquet r Ring Bearer’s Pillow r Bridesmaids’ Bouquets r Ring Bearer’s Boutonniere r Flower Girl’s Bouquet or r Altar or Chuppah Flowers Basket r Aisle or Pew Decorations r Floral Headpieces r Reception Room Flowers r Hostesses’ Flowers r Head Table Centerpiece r Mothers’ & Grandmothers’ r Guest Table Centerpieces Corsages r Cake/Buffet Table Decorations r Fathers’ & Grandfathers’ r Toss Bouquet Boutonnieres r Groom’s Boutonniere bridesandweddings.com |

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To first look or not...

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o first look or not to first look, THAT is the question.

“First look” is a term that has developed in the modern age of wedding photography to describe the moment when a bride and groom see each other on their wedding day before their ceremony. Whether or not to have a first look is a decision that many couples struggle with.

In the past, the groom waited to see his bride on the wedding day until she walked down the aisle. This tradition originated with arranged marriages. When a couple was chosen for one another they were not allowed to see each other until the ceremony so that they wouldn’t have the chance to back out once they saw what each other looked like.

Eek! Not the most romantic origin! Even though couples marry for love today, some still like to uphold this tradition. But more and more couples are deciding to spend more time together on their wedding day … which means seeing each other before the ceremony.

Here are a few reasons a first look may be a great choice for you and your partner: 1. You get a chance to connect with one another before the craziness of the day takes over.

2. Your stress and anxiety are dissolved before the ceremony.

3. Portraits will be as quick and painless as possible.

If you see each other before your ceremony, you can get all of your formal portraits out of the way so that you are free to do what you and all your guests really want to do after the

ceremony—celebrate and enjoy your cocktail hour/reception! Consider these two options.

Portrait schedule if you see each other before your ceremony: • 2.5 hours before ceremony: First look and Bride & Groom portraits alone together • 1.5 hours before ceremony: Portraits with bridal party • 1 hour before ceremony: Portraits with families • 1/2 hour before ceremony: Completely done with portraits as your guests begin to arrive—giving you time to go inside & freshen up.

Portrait schedule if you don’t see each other before your ceremony: • 1.5 hours before ceremony: Portraits of Bride with bridesmaids • 1 hour before ceremony: Portraits of Groom with groomsmen • 1/2 hour before ceremony: Temporarily done with portraits as your guests begin to arrive—giving you time to go inside & freshen up.

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YOUR WEDDING

Photography Timeline Photo by Rob Jinks Photography

By Rob Jinks

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here is nothing better than looking back on photos full of stories, emotion, and memories from your wedding day. However, without a proper understanding of how photography interacts with your wedding timeline, you risk running behind in your schedule, leaving your guests unattended, and missing out on the photos you want most. Today I want to give you tips for planning your wedding timeline in a way that will maximize your photography and help get you the images you want most.

Plan more time than you think you need.

Many weddings have some aspect of their day take longer than expected. Plan extra time in your schedule and know that things might take a little longer than you thought. Plan extra time for travel, for hair and makeup, for extra portraits with the best light of the day.

Give yourself buffers throughout the day to help you relax and not feel pressured.

I also suggest that my clients be done with any official photos 30-45 minutes before the ceremony. Downtime is important, your wedding isn’t all about photography and you need time to rest, enjoy the day, and be with your friends and family.

To first look or not?

An important question to ask is, should I have a first look or should we see each other for the first time at the ceremony? While I love the tradition of not seeing each other until the ceremony, there can be some big benefits to a first look. Seeing each other before allows you to capture images with each other, your bridal party, and family before the guests arrive, giving you more time to spend with your guests at cocktail hour. Just make sure you aren’t missing out on…

The best light of the day.

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that means a first look would have to take place roughly between 2:00 and 3:00 p. m.

Afternoon summer sun is high in the sky, casting deep shadows under the eyes and overall giving you unflattering light. Good photographers can work in any lighting condition to give you amazing images, but it can be helpful to plan some of your photography to happen during the best light of the day. Check when sunset will be on your wedding and try to schedule time during the hour or two before sunset, when the light is at a lower angle, to capture portraits together.

If your photographer is up for it, leave a few minutes to capture a night portrait during the reception. Taking a few minutes to capture photos with starts or city lights can give you very unique images and will give you a few moments rest before going back to the party.

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send out my schedule to all the vendors after talking with my clients two to three months before the big day. My biggest priorities are to talk with your hair and makeup artist to confirm when you need to be ready for photos, and with the DJ or band to understand the flow of the reception.

Let it all go.

Know that no matter how much you plan, not everything will go exactly how you thought, and that is ok! Find someone else who can push the day forward, don’t try to be the coordinator. Forget about the details and let it happen. Soak in every moment and focus on being present with your friends, family, and your spouse-to-be!

I hope this helps you get started on your wedding day timeline! Should you have any further questions feel free to reach out to me via at rob@robjinksphoto.com or on Instagram at @robjinksphoto, or visit robertjinksphotography.com. I am here to help!

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By Lisa Beth Miller Your wedding adventure isn’t truly complete until the last thank you note has been dropped into the mail. We all know how important it is to be gracious and show wedding guests that we appreciate them! As couples tackle the task of writing notes of gratitude, it is important that they avoid a few possible etiquette mistakes.

Most Common Thank-You Note Mistakes: I get it. You’re busy. After you get married, your life usually goes through a lot of changes.

First you’ve got the honeymoon. That’s at least two weeks. Maybe you’re moving in together or to a different city altogether.

It matters not. You have to find the time to get those thank you notes in the mail. Your guests bought you gifts, and helped to make your special day special. Sending out your thank you notes needs to be at the top of your priority list. How long is too long? Emily Post says three months, and I’m inclined to agree with her. If you can’t get it done in three months, you’re not busy, you’re putting it off.

You don’t want Aunt Patty looking down her nose at you come Christmas time. Just get it done.

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pasta maker they got you. Make sure your spouse is sharing the load, and it won’t take too long.

Not Handwriting Them You may not have touched a pen in years, but you’re going to have to pick one up for your thank you notes. It’s OK if your handwriting hasn’t improved since 5th grade. It just needs to be legible.

Why is hand writing your note so important?

Simply put, hand writing is more personal. I still keep every handwritten letter that I receive.

You can glean so much more by looking at someone’s writing. You can see the patience and care that went into the note.

Thank you notes may be the last remaining form of communication where handwriting is important and necessary.

Forgetting Someone No one likes to be forgotten. If Jack and Jill Jones gave you the box set of The Office for your wedding, your thank you note to them needs to read “Dear Jack and Jill Jones”. If it just reads, “Dear Jack Jones,” don’t be surprised if Jill starts skipping out on your dinner parties.

Unlike the rest of the faux pas on this list, this one usually occurs by accident. But, accident or not, you want to avoid it at all costs. It would be better to not send a note at all, than to omit someone who cared enough to attend your wedding and buy you a gift.

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Hawaii

Turtle Bay Result, located in Hawaii, is one of the best honeymoon destinations.

But don’t be fooled by the intoxicating views and romantic sunset swims. This place is full of adventure from SCUBA, hiking, fishing, and whale watching just to name a few. Located on Oahu’s North Shore you are close the action with seclusion and relaxation.

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Wadmalaw Island

Despite its expansive size and proximity to the major tourist destinations of Charleston, Kiawah Island, Seabrook Island, and Folly Beach, Wadmalaw Island is a refreshingly unpopulated, quiet, and authentically local realm of the South Carolina region, with just a couple of surprises for visitors hidden under acres of live oaks. Home to the Bolt Farm Treehouse, you can escape the bustling world by relaxing in this luxurious getaway while being close to all the South Carolina coast has to offer.

St. Simons Island, GA is home to fabulous beaches, golfing, charter fishing, spas and salons, and a variety of restaurants, and entertainment for everyone. The unspoiled beauty of St. Simons and its distinctively charming beach lifestyle that is unhurried and under-developed are what make it so special. It’s no wonder St. Simons Island was recently voted among the most romantic destinations in the U.S.

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National Parks The National Parks are a perfect place for a relaxing honeymoon. Bring a book, camera or just a good pair of binoculars for this honeymoon. The National Parks are a great place to unwind from a busy wedding day and with no cell service, you will have plenty of time to spend with each other. Plan a short road trip, rent a few cabins or camp. Exploring nature’s beauty is a great way to relax and start your adventures as a married couple.

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ere in ethnically diverse Northern Virginia, H multi-cultural marriages embody the best of customs and traditions. Here are just a few:

CHINESE

The color red is considered a symbol of happiness and luck. It is often used on invitations.

GREEK

The bride carries a lump of sugar to ensure a sweet life. Ivy in her bouquet represents endless love.

HINDU

Prior to the wedding day, the bride is tattooed with henna on her hands and feet, known as Mehndi. She wears a red sari embroidered in gold to symbolize abundance and fertility.

PERSIAN

During the ceremony, married women place a white satin cloth above the couple’s heads. Two cones of sugar are placed in the cloth and rubbed together to represent snowflakes of sweetness and joy.

LATIN-AMERICAN

A cord called “el lazo” is placed around the couple during the ceremony, signifying they are bound for life.

ITALIAN

On her wedding day, the bride does not wear any gold as it is thought to bring bad luck.

JEWISH

At the end of the wedding ceremony, the groom breaks a napkin-wrapped wine glass under his foot as remembrance of the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem.

AFRICAN-AMERICAN

To pay homage to ancestors from days of slavery, couples “jump the broom” to sweep away the old and embrace the new.

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Directory BANQUET VENUES

Sweeney Barn (703) 282-3033 sweeneybarn.com

Laurel Hill Golf Club (703) 493-8849 (See pg. 5) fairfaxcounty.gov/parks/golf/events

BRIDAL SHOWS

(See pg. 41)

Twin Lakes Golf Course (703) 324-9701 (See pg. 5) fairfaxcounty.gov/parks/golf/events

Love Loudoun visitloudoun.org/weddings

TRose International www.trosebridalshows.com

(See pg. 13)

COUNTRY CLUBS

UNIQUE VENUES Briar Patch Bed & Breakfast (703) 327-5911 www.briarpatchbandb.com

(See pg. 7)

The Mount Vernon Inn (703) 799-6319 mountvernonrestaurant.com

(See pg. 11)

Washington Wedding Experience weddingexperience.com

(See pg. 23)

(See pg. 33)

CAKES

Cakes by Happy Eatery (703) 530-8898 www.cakesbyhappyeatery.com

(See pg. 37)

Portuguese Center (703) 330-2136 (See pg. 41) virginiaportuguesecommunitycenter.com bridesandweddings.com |

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CATERING

PHOTOGRAPHERS

Cakes by Happy Eatery (703) 530-8898 www.cakesbyhappyeatery.com

(See pg. 37)

Helga’s Caterers (703) 556-0780 www.helgascatering.com

(See pg. 25)

DESTINATION WEDDINGS Berkeley Springs (800) 447-8797 berkeleysprings.com

(See Back Cover)

ENTERTAINMENT

Firedog Entertainment (571) 248-1126 (See pg. 23) www.FiredogEntertainment.com

FAVORS

Cakes by Happy Eatery (703) 530-8898 www.cakesbyhappyeatery.com

(See pg. 37)

GUEST

ACCOMMODATIONS Briar Patch Bed & Breakfast (703) 327-5911 www.briarpatchbandb.com

(See pg. 7)

HONEYMOONS Berkeley Springs (800) 447-8797 berkeleysprings.com

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Rob Jinks Photography (703) 401-7695 (See pg. 74) www.robertjinksphotography.com

TRANSPORTATION Rolls Wedding Limos (703) 440-3651 RollsWeddingLimos.com

(See pg. 21)

WEDDING PLANNERS Heartfelt Events (703) 996-9890 heartfelteventsva.com

(See pg. 23)

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Only 90 minutes from Northern Virginia, Berkeley Springs is the perfect wedding destination.

Our wide range of lodging options, venues and vendors have all of the perfect ingredients for your special day.

Learn more by visiting www.berkeleysprings.com