At Saint Mary’s College in Notre Dame, Ind., Megan Hester of Bayonne was named to the Dean’s List for the spring 2012 semester. Hester is the daughter of Denna and John Hester. To earn academic honors at Saint Mary’s, students must achieve a grade point average of at least 3.6 on a The F.A. Mackenzie Unit 165 of the American Legion Auxiliary of Bayonne recently sent two 4.0 scale, have at least 12 graded credit hours, no local girls to the 2012 Jersey Girls State Program. This year’s program was held at Georgian Court incompletes, and no grades lower than a C. University in Lakewood, N.J., and was held on June 17 to the 22. The girls who were selected to attend were Shannon O’Brien and Liana Novembrino, and they are both junior students at Holy Family Academy. They participated in the week-long program and learned about the state government in a hands-on matter. This program is open to junior girls and is held every June. All high school juniors are eligible to attend. The selection process for next year’s program begins in March 2013. For information, Loyola University Maryland recently announces the contact Unit 165 President Linda Harris at lmastromon1969@yahoo.com or call (201) 436-8474. members of its spring 2012 Dean’s List. In order to qualify, students must have a grade point average of at least 3.5 with a minimum of 15 credits. The following the Dean’s List, a student must attain a grade Bayonne students have achieved this honor: Jacob point average of at least 3.5 of a possible 4.0. Blicharz, Class of 2012; Michael Blicharz, Class of Fairleigh Dickinson University’s College at 2014; and Jamie Grasing, Class of 2015. Florham Campus, located in Madison, has Fairfield University has announced that the announced that Jonathan Stachiw of Bayonne following Bayonne residents have been named was recently inducted into Phi Alpha Theta, the to the Dean’s List for the spring 2012 semester: American honor society for students of history. Joseph Karczewski and Alexander Long. FDU’s College at Florham is located on the forFairfield University is a comprehensive Jesuit mer Vanderbilt-Twombly estate in Morris university in Fairfield, Conn. To be selected for County.
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Loyola announces Dean’s List students
Bayonne students achieve honors
GRADUATE – Lisa Marie Sofranko, a lifelong Bayonne resident, graduated with honors from New Jersey City University on May 16. She was one of over 1,600 graduates. She will be attending Monmouth University in the fall to obtain her master’s degree in literature. Her ambition is to become a professor of English.
BHS announces honor roll
Principal Richard Baccarella has proudly announced the students who achieved honor roll for the fourth marking period at Bayonne High School. They are as follows: PRINCIPAL’S HONORS Gr ade nine: Heidi Elashal, Basem Elashal, Casey Harrigan. Gr ade 10: Marina Bastawross, Katelyn Nuccio, Nancy Said. Gr ade 11: Su Jin Cappello, Mamdouh El Mallah, Abanoob Tadrosse. Gr ade 12: Sarah Martinez, Erin McDermott, Tia Sessoms. FIRST HONORS Gr ade nine: Christian Acosta, Jacqueline Alcantara, Kiran Ali, Hannah Argul, Abanob Ayoub, Nicholai Azucar, Alyssa Baez, Makary Brota, Mackenzie Brown, Cynthia Cabreja, Mariam Chaudhry, Iryna Chorniy, Trysten Davis, Samantha Garcia, Mariam Goubran, Mena Hasaballa, Carlos Jimenez Mendoza, Marina Kerellas, Arsany Khalel, Benjamin Kim, Merna Lewiz, Christopher Mundell, Teresa Organisciak, Osamha Osman, Andrea Pacifico, Varsha Ramsumair, Ashlee Reyes, Rosy Rofail, Arnan Romua, Abdelrahman Said Abdalla, Francisco Sanchez, Jeannie Santamaria, Monica Sarmiento, Kayla Sarria, Sabrina Scarpa, Sanya Shurn, Nicole Smallze, Amir Soliman, Jessica Sulima, Emily Szymanski, Marina Tadrosse, Sara Talaat, Ignacio Torres, Christian Uraga, Wasam Youssef, Walena Youssef, Lijie Zhang. Gr ade 10: Timothy Amin, Ashley Areopagita, Maria Batista, Joseph Belmonte, Asadullah Bhutta, Lin Chen, Tristan Cotto, Karina Cuadro, Kyle Diaz, Kaan Esendemir, Adonis Estrella, Barsis Faris, Kristin Gerges, Kelly Kennedy, Clara Khalel, Arsany Makkar, Hannah McMullan, Milesia Morcos, Mariam Moustafa, Merna Nassim, Alia Naz, Abdel Rahman Noubani, Nicholas Petriello, Michaela Pissott, Rita Portenti, Muzammil Rauf, Dina Sadek, Marina Said, Jodi Sclafane, Samantha Serrano, Yusteena Shehata, Robert Smarz, Monica Soliman, Chrystal Spencer, Robert Suarez, Tasfia Tasnim, Martina Zaki. Gr ade 11: Sharif Abdelbaky, Maged Abdelmalek, Farida Abdelmonsif, John Antisz, Jan-alfred Aquino, Aya Badawy, Michael Baranok, Katarzyna Bezrudczyk, Kasey Bonilla, Anthony Carone, Joseph Casais, Charmaine Castro, Matthew Chiaravalloti, Hanan Dabdi, Nadine Elebrashy, Erica Gentile, David Girgis, Shawn Gironda, Anthony Golden, Wilberto Gorczycki, Clara Hanna, Mina Henaen, Thomas Hilinski, Mark Ibrahim, Tawfiqul Islam, Ali Ismail, Aziz Khalil, Mike Kosmala, Marina Makram, Hedra Mansour, Alinson Martinez-Gomez,
LET’S GO, YANKEES – Henry E. Harris School grade two student Anthony Nowinski recently won four Yankee tickets during a school-wide fundraiser. The raffle proceeds will benefit the Mickey McLaughlin Reading Garden. Jane Pestkowski, Harris teacher, donated the tickets for the cause. Pictured: Principal Tom Fogu, Anthony Nowinski, and Mrs. Pestkowski.
Alfonso Dio Miranda, Khadija Misbah, Sarah Molina, German Monzon, Amanda Novielli, Laura Pachon, Shivangi Parmar, Julie Petulla, Omar Rafa, Zavvia Ramos, Sarah Said, Samantha Salaverria, Maureen Samy, Laiba Shah, Mina Shnoudah, Reinaldo Singh, Danika Tablante, Anastasia Turin, Gloria Ugwu, Heather Venice, Daniel Veronese. Gr ade 12: Jerry Aigner, Antonia Alburtus, Mariam Aqeel, Kristelle Joy Capistrano, Linda Cruz, David Del Valle, Manar Eldeeb, Adam Elgammal, David Elias, Jossyan Fouad, Alejandra Gomez-Saavedra, Dannica Javier, Olivia Kalinowski, Christopher Kennedy, Cassandra King, Steven Lebron, Khasyiere Jade Maala, Christopher Martinez, Molly Massarelli, Bianca Melendez, Zaryn Melendez, John Meys, Andro Mossad, Abigail Mota, Juliette Munoz, Kamil Nawrocki, Jose Orellana, Youri Paul, Lyndsay Post, Elizabeth Prudent, Tamala Ramkirath, Samantha Rasmussen, Angel Roman, Lisa Rovatsos, Anissa Ryan, Mark Said, Rania Said Abdalla, Rachel Seecharan, Chelsea Stirone, Jamie Szeada, Kelsey Trebour, Jeong Yun, Giovanniantonio Zodiaco. SECOND HONORS Gr ade nine: Francisco Argenal, Bassant Attia, Kerlos Awad, Jeffery Barsolona, Arlette Beato Tineo, Alizette Bedoya, Gabriella Bestard, Kasper Bielawiec, Brett Bodayle, Abanoub Boules, Xinru Chen, Emma Christie, Edwin Chung, Aerika Corpuz, Seanjared Cruz, Youssef Dawood, Daniel Derowski, Mahmoud Elzonkoly, Brendan Fifer, Emelin Flores, Olivia Gonzalez, Abanoub Habib, Kerolos Hanna, Martha Hanna, Shawn Hartrum, Faakirah Hendricks, Pierre Ibraheem, Cashmeisha Johnson, Natasha Khan, Humazah Khokhar, Ileana Kovacs, Katherine LaCroix, Marina Martinez, Mostafa Moawad, Shady Nossier, Abigail Ostorva, Jessica Ozuna, Meng Pan, Celine Pascual, Joshua Persaud, Matthew Piskura, Mikaela Ponce, David Quinn, Amr Ramadan, Alisha Ramessar, Carlos Romero, Marten Salah, Julian Sangillo, John Schumacher, Abanoub Shehata, Beshoy Shokralla, Kelly Sweeney, Freddy Szubak, Samiha Taseen, Valeriemae Torres, Kimberly Vidal, Veronika Vira, Marcus West, Jesse Wolleon, Kelly Wu, John Yarosh. Gr ade 10: Gostan Abdelmesih, Ariel Asciolla, Khalood Ashraf, Asma Bakar, Julia Bilotta, Justin Brujan, Chad Buczkowski, Cody Callahan, Adrian Carter, Ye Chen, Daniel Chowla, Sade Coleman, Sarah Cowell, Franklin Cruz, Jorge Cruz, Matthew Devera, Kassandra Ferma, Lora Gawargi, Anthony John Geremonte, Maria Guerra, Shady Kaleny, Avery Kelley, Mariana Kelliny, Angelo Lucciola, Christina Manderano, David Markowski, Kyle Martinez, Abderrahim Mechtemel-Belkadi, Jose Mena, Ismenia Mercado, Marian Mikhail, Christine Gayle Mira, Sara Naghash, Estela Nieto,
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Hester named to Dean’s List
GRADUATE – Christina Ramdat recently graduated from the College of the Holy Cross with a bachelor of arts degree in psychology, with a concentration in women and gender studies. Her activities at Holy Cross included Relationship Peer Education; Multicultural Peer Education; Fusion Hip Hop as the cochair; the All Saints Youth Program; and the BSU Fashion Show and Multicultural Performances. She will continue her studies for her master’s degree and doctorate. Her parents are Sewpersaud and Leila Ramdat, and siblings are Michael and Chelsea.
Winslow Paul, Margaret Peretti, Jorge Pereyra, Daniela Ponce, Joanne Punongbayan, Benjamin Quintos, Princess Ruiz, Helana Saad, Arman Sandhu, Rebecca Semeniak, Evelyn Shokry, Fatma Siddique, Julian Sweezer, Analiz Vasquez, Stephanie Vazquez, Mone Yelverton, Brian Yepez, Balal Zaman, Kirolss Zarzour, Aleksandra Zukowska. Gr ade 11: Sarah Abbas, Maryanne Abdelmesih, Ana Addesso, Caitlyn Aguirre, Christian Alfonso, Jessica Angerstein, Viviana Araujo, Cristaly Argenal, Nourhan Baradaaji, Kevin Baranok, Anastasia Barsukova, Manuel Batista, Gregory Bednarowicz, Angelique Borke, Fares Botrous, Daniel Brown, Anthony Castlegrande, Kevin Cleveland, Tiffany Csincsi, Mark D’Agostino, Marcella De Venuta, Hadasha Dela Rosa, Emile John DeSalvo, Chaz Deveney, Jacklin Elbadry, Ahmed Elsayed, Jennily Eshak, Elaina Estrin, Maria Ghaly, Amanda Gonzalez, Abanoub Goudha, Brianne Gunsiorowski, Romel Halim, Barbara Hanna, Diana Hanna, Karol Hernandez, Zachary Hyman, Rebecca Jaglowski, Mansi Joshi, Kathleen Kessler, Michelle Klejmont, Emily Krupski, John Long, Antonio Martinez, Mariam Masoud, Rachael Mazzarella, Marisol Medina, Merna Milad, Gabrielle Nalewajek, Celina Nieves, Amanda Pacheco, Nicole Piskura, Joshua Quiles, Omar Ramdan, Nelsa Richardson, Rosa Rodriguez-Perez, Dajahne Rogers, Ahmed Sana Ullah, Amanda Sarria, David Segobia, Elle Serkin, Milton Siguenza Campoverde, Jessica Sroczynski, Natalie Strucinski, David Strum, Yasmin Taylor, Edward Tettamanti, Alexander Vaillant, Michael Whitney, Nyeema Winn, Neda Yeganeh. Gr ade 12: Yeny Albanez, Kalysse Anthony, Sabeen Aziz, Jacqueline Bourdett, Konrad Budny, Crystal Cabreja, Richard Calderon, Richard Charles, Mujtaba Chohan, Kamil Chojnowski, Francesca De Ros, Abigail Durak, Sarah El Naggar, Safiya Elkomey, Zenab Fakih, Bishoy Fanous, Nicholas Felix, Tara Flynn, Kholla Ghayur, Joseph Girgis, Carlos Gonzalez, Jaclyn Hansen, Samantha Hitchell, Alexis Holloway, Paulina Jerzak, Jenny Johnson, Nasr-kyrillos Kelliny, Marta Komisar, Ava Janina Lichauco, Leanne Manetta, David Marko, Pedro Marte, Brenda Melendez, Charles Melley, Dileydi Mendoza, Alexandra Micek, Samantha Micek, Sandy Morcos, Matthew Mullin, Jorge Murillo-Callejas, Kirsten O’Keefe, Edgar Ong, Alexandra Ostolaza, Amy Paraskeva, Reema Patel, Michael Pellagatti, Kimberly Plaksin, Samantha Puja, Michael Rivera, Alexandria Rodriguez, Angelique Ruiz, Nabel Santana, Stephen Schumann, Olivia Shaker, Aneika Smith, Mina Soliman, Sarah Strumeier, Nicholas Toolen, Melissa Travelino, Rebecca Urbina, Gabrielle Urciuoli, Michael Vida, Michael Vida, Johanne Vidal, Nicholas Wisniewski, Rebecca Witkowski, Nadiyah Wright, Sara Wulffen, Magid Youssef.
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Mayr makes Marist Dean’s List Marist College recently announced the students who achieved Dean’s List standing for the 2012 spring semester. The list included Scott Mayr, a resident of Bayonne and member of Marist’s Class of 2013. He is majoring in English with a concentration in writing.
White makes Dean’s List Clearwater Christian College recently announced that senior student Joseph White of Bayonne received the Dean’s List Award for his scholastic achievement during the 2012 spring semester. In order to be recognized for this award, honorees are required to earn a grade point average between 3.50 and 3.90 on a 4.00 scale. White, majoring in general studies, is a homeschool graduate. He is the son of John and Eileen White.
ESSAY CONTEST WINNER – Pictured is Bayonne High School senior Barbara Hanna, third from left, who shared first place as a winner in the 2012 Sister Rose Thering Essay Contest. Also pictured, from left, are her teacher Deirdre Hurley; her mother Awatif; her sisters Helena and Martha; and Karan Oleckna, trustee of the Sister Rose Thering Fund for Education in Jewish-Christian Studies and chairperson of the essay contest. Hanna’s winning essay was selected from more than 200 submissions from high school students throughout the state and addressed the relationship of the documentary film “Sister Rose’s Passion” with an experience in her own life. The essays were evaluated on relevance to the topic; eloquence of style, and structure. The fund recognized 10 students at an event held recently at Seton Hall University.
Dundas makes Dean’s List At the University of Delaware, Gabrielle Dundas of Bayonne has been awarded Dean’s List for the 2012 spring semester. To meet eligibility requirements for the Dean’s List, a student must be enrolled full-time and earn a grade point average of 3.33 or above on a 4.0 scale.
Drew University names Dean’s List awardees For the spring 2012 semester, Drew University has named the following students to the Dean’s List: Carmela Ali, Sana Riaz, Vincent Maggio, and Marisa Portenti. All students are residents of Bayonne. In order to qualify for the Dean’s List, students must earn a grade point average of 3.4 or above, which is equivalent to a “B+” grade or better.
STUDENT OF THE MONTH – Angel J. Perez is in Mrs. Era’s first grade class at P.G. Vroom School and was named Student of the Month for April. Proud parents are Melissa and Angel Perez, little brother is Rylan Perez, and grandparents are Donald and Patricia Rutan and Debra and Jose Pagan.
SCHOOL SPIRIT – Henry E. Harris School students were ready for fun at their annual Field Day, recently held at Dennis P. Collins Park. They dressed in their new blue Field Day shirts, donated by the Harris P.T.A. Pictured are the grade six students.
ESSAY CONTEST WINNER – Pictured is Bayonne High School junior Chrystal Spencer, center, who was awarded second place of the 2012 Sister Rose Thering Essay Contest. Also pictured are, from left: Spencer’s parents Geoffrey Spencer and Helena Hayes; teacher Antoinette DeLuca; Louis Izzi, trustee of the Sister Rose Thering Fund for Education in Jewish-Christian Studies. Spencer’s essay was selected from more than 200 submissions from high school students throughout the state that addressed the relationship of the documentary film “Sister Rose’s Passion” with an experience in her own life. The essays were evaluated on relevance to the topic, eloquence of style, and structure. The Sister Rose Thering Fund recognized 10 students at an event held recently at Seton Hall University.
INTERFAITH RECOGNITION – Pictured is Bayonne High School junior Julia Bilotta (center), who was awarded first place in the 2012 Sister Rose Thering Essay Contest; and, from left, her parents Joe and Anna, brother Luke, sister Anna, teacher Antoinette DeLuca, and trustee of the Sister Rose Thering Fund for Education in Jewish-Christian Studies Louis Izzi. Bilotta’s winning essay was selected from more than 200 submissions from high school students throughout the state, and addressed the relationship of the documentary “Sister Rose’s Passion” with an experience in her own life. Each essay was evaluated on relevance to the topic, eloquence of style, and structure. At Seton Hall University, Bilotta and nine other students were recognized at an awards ceremony.
POSTER CONTEST WINNERS – Three Bayonne students recently won the State Fire Safety Poster Contest. The theme was “Protect Your Family From Fire.” Pictured from left: Morgan Zygmund Murphy, Division 4, first place, division winner; Alissa May Garilao, Division 3, first place, grand prize winner; and Xavier Marquez, Division 1, first place, division winner. Garilao’s poster will be reproduced and distributed throughout the state. All winners received a computer and a printer, and were honored at a luncheon in Woodbridge.
STUDENT OF THE MONTH – Pictured is Abigail Czapla, a kindergarten student in Mrs. Quinonez’s class at Nicholas Oresko School, who was awarded Student of the Month for June. She is the daughter of Joseph and Dawn Czapla and the sister of Julian.
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Summer Sounds features Cliff Perkins & Soul Generation, Jazzique
Mayor Mark A. Smith has announced that the City of Bayonne’s Summer Sounds by the Bay concert series will continue on Aug. 1, weather permitting. On Aug. 1, sit back and enjoy the smooth, sultry sounds of Cliff Perkins & Soul Generation. Then get up and move to hot 1970s dance hits performed by Jazzique. The concert site will be the amphitheater on the lower level of DiDomenico 16th Street Park at 7 p.m. Audience members are asked to bring their own chairs. In the event of rain, the City of Bayonne will attempt to reschedule the concert for a later date that will be announced. On concert days, in the event of inclement weather, call (201) 471-7590 after 4 p.m., or visit www.bayonnerec.com to check on the status of that night’s concert. The City of Bayonne has thanked BCB Community Bank, Inserra Shop Rite, and Kenrich Chemicals for sponsoring the concert series. The City welcomes additional sponsors for Summer Sounds 2012 and future special events. Concerts are scheduled for every Wednesday through Aug. 22.
“The Muppets” to play at library
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On Wednesday, Aug. 1, at 1 p.m., the Bayonne Public Library will present “The Muppets” in its Movies at the Library series. “The Muppets” is a 2011 musical comedy. In the film, the Muppet characters reunite. With the help of three fans, the Muppets plan to raise $10 million to save their old theater from being destroyed by a greedy oil tycoon. The film won an Academy Award for “Best Original Song.” The film is rated PG and has a running time of 103 minutes. The Movies at the Library films are presented in the O’Connor Gallery, located on the second floor of the library, which is located at 31st Street and Avenue C.
SYREN NATION – Syren Nation, a classic rock cover band that plays a wide variety of rock hits, will perform at the 16th Street Park Amphitheater on July 25 at 7 p.m. as part of the city’s Sounds by the Bay summer concert series. Pictured from left: Joe Garofalo, Greg Bukshowany, Michele Spina White, Phil Romano, and Sean Piersen.
MEMORIAL DAY PARADE – On May 29, the Dennis A. Roland Chapter of the American Merchant Marine Veterans participated in the Bayonne Memorial Day Parade. Pictured with the life boat preparing to enter the parade are, from left, front: Joe Kubala, John Dziekan, George Murphy, Jack Strangfeld. Back: Harry Dircks.
RELAY FOR LIFE – The families of the Moms of Bayonne group participated in the Relay For Life event at Veterans’ Stadium on June 16 for the fight against cancer. It was a great day and night for a great cause. The group raised over $3,000 for the event and their fundraising will continue until the end of August. For more information, visit www.relayforlife.org and click on “Team – Moms of Bayonne.”
RELAY FOR LIFE – Pictured are the 2012 Bayonne Relay For Life Teams Potter and Crumbcake. The teams participated in the event held on June 16 and 17 at Veterans Stadium. They raised over $11,000 in support of the American Cancer Society.
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inner conflicts. We might even ignore or deny a part of ourselves we dislike. This inability to accept ourselves leads to symptoms such as perfectionism, idealism, inability to tolerate weakness or negative feelings, low selfesteem, anxiety, panic, depression, eating and substance abuse disorders, sexual addiction, nside all of us there is good and bad, neganarcissism, guilt, relationship issues, and/or tive and positive, strengths and weaknesses rage. that we must deal with. It is often difficult to In order to accept all the parts of ourselves accept all of our qualities, both good and bad. and resolve these inner conflicts, it is important When we don’t accept ourselves as a whole to make a conscious effort towards acceptance person, we suffer from the effects of these and integration. The first step is to confide in someone and confess guilt, pain, shame, anger, or any other uncomfortable thoughts or feelings. It is important to choose a trusted person, such as a friend, therapist, clergyman, God, or a family TIRED OF UNCOMFORTABLE CPAP MASKS? member. In Alcoholics Anonymous, this person is usually the sponsor. In See one of our Respiratory Sleep Specialists trusted AA, part of the recovery process is Step for a COMFORTABLE Solution Five, which states, “Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the • CALL FOR A FREE APPOINTMENT exact nature of our wrongs.” This is such • PHYSICIANS PRESCRIPTION REQUIRED a key component to recovery as it helps the person let go of the guilt and shame • MD RESPIRATORY SERVICE • caused by past “wrongs” while still tak6 West 21st Street • 201.823.3100 ing responsibility for their actions. People
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in recovery often report that this process is painful, but the most difficult part of the process is the forgiveness of self. This forgiveness of self is also essential in accepting ourselves. In addition to confiding and confessing, processing and integrating negative feelings of anger, sadness, and fear are an important part of resolving inner conflicts. All people experience these emotions as they are a part of being human. Anger signals that something is wrong, such as the possible danger of losing something that matters or experiencing injustice. Sadness signals hurt and loss. Fear signals danger, whether real or imagined. These emotions can alert us to danger or pain. It is important to pay attention to these feelings and use the information they provide. It should be noted that people who act out aggressively when angry are not accepting and processing their anger. Instead their inability to accept their emotions leads to the inner conflicts that cause rage. Another important step towards resolving inner conflicts is to explore your strengths and weaknesses. Accept new challenges and try new things. Find out what you are good at and what you have difficulty with. Listen to
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Every Monday that the library is open, there will be a “Healthy Bones” class from 10 to 11:30 a.m. upstairs in the gallery of Bayonne Library. There will be training for balance, weight training, and health and nutrition information. For questions, call (201) 436-1928. Zumba classes will be held at the Mary McLeod-Bethune Life Center (134-150 Martin Luther King Drive, Jersey City) for $5 per class for adults ages 15 and up. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays from 6:15 to 7:15 p.m., and 7:15 to 8:15 p.m. Members may join for $40/month also. For more information, contact instructor Denise RoseBooker at (201) 455-4736 or (201) 858-0263; or Liz Pesantes at (201) 362-6028. VITAS Innovative Hospice Care of New Jersey North seeks volunteers for hospice care. Volunteers visit patients and provide support. To register for a free volunteer orientation class or for more information, contact Barbara Adams-Plyer, VITAS volunteer services manager, at (973) 422-5343 or email Barbara.adamsplyer@vitas.com.
positive feedback from others. Everyone has talents, so identify yours. It is also important to be aware of your weaknesses. In exploring your strengths and weaknesses, it is essential to acknowledge your expectations of yourself and others. Do you expect perfection from yourself and those around you? Or maybe you have low expectations because you have no confidence in yourself. Instead, try giving yourself grace. Allow yourself and others to make mistakes. Challenge yourself but leave room for error. Let good enough be good enough. Being overly critical or having distorted expectations hurts you and those around you. It is a barrier to self-acceptance. Finally, challenge your own distorted thinking. Thoughts such as, “I am unlovable. If they knew the real me, they would reject me. I am unforgivable. I have no strengths or talents. No one feels the way I feel,” are distorted ways of thinking. Instead of buying into these distortions, check them out with someone you trust. Chances are, others share the same pain, guilt, and anger that you experience. For a more in-depth study of the process of resolving inner conflicts and self-acceptance, I recommend the book Changes That Heal by Dr. Henry Cloud, which inspired this article.
Dr. Golson is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in therapy with children, adolescents, and families. She has been working with families in crisis and traumatized adolescents in New York for over 10 years. Her private practice office in Bayonne is located at 325 Avenue C. Dr. Golson looks forward to answering any questions you may have regarding family issues, child behavior, or developmental concerns. You may submit questions or make an appointment with Dr. Golson via email to drgolson@yahoo.com or by calling (201) 230-8660. You can also follow her on Twitter @drgolson.
The JCC is offering mid-day Zumba classes on Tuesdays from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m.; and Thursdays from 1 to 2 p.m. All Zumba classes are part of the JCC’s $5 fitness program. For schedules and details, call (201) 4366900 or come to 1050 Kennedy Boulevard. Is your teen struggling with identity or selfesteem issues? Dr. Robin Golson will begin an adolescent therapy group focused on these issues. For more information, call (201) 230-8660. Have a drinking problem? Call A.A. at 1800-245-1377 (available 24 hours a day). Have a gambling problem? Call Gamblers Anonymous at (888)-GA-HELPS or visit www.gamblersanonymous.org. The Depression Bipolar Support Alliance offers peer group support sessions every Tuesday of every month at 7:30 p.m. at the Morristown Unitarian Fellowship (21 Normandy Heights Road, Morristown). For more information, visit dbsanewjersey.org/morristownarea or call (973) 644-1143 or the New Jersey Self-Help Group Clearing House at (800) 367-6274. Do you experience anxiety, stress or panic attacks? The Panic Attack & Anxiety Program will show you how to overcome panic and anxiety, manage fear, experience high self-esteem and live life to the fullest. Learn how the “IDEAL” program can make an immediate difference in your life. Live phone workshops are held on Wednesdays at 7 p.m. To participate in the next workshop, visit www.panicreliefinc.com or call (732) 940-9658.
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Look here too: Beyond state treasuries, here are some other agencies you should check for lost loot, along with a few resources that can help you search. IRS: Each year, thousands of refund checks totaling millions of dollars are returned to the IRS by the post office. To look for lost tax refund checks, visit irs.gov and click on “Individuals,” then on “Where’s My Refund,” or call (800) 829-1954. U.S. Treasur y: To find out if there are any savings bonds your parents didn’t claim dating back to 1974, go to treasurydirect.gov and click on “Check Treasury Hunt to see if you own matured savings bonds.” For older bonds or those still drawing interest, use for 1048, which you can download at www.treasurydirect.org /forms/sav1048.pdf. Pension Benefit Guar anty Cor p.: If you or your parents worked for a company that went out of business or ended its defined benefit pension plan, you may be entitled to some of their benefits. Check at pbgc.gov and click on “Missing Participant Search.” The National Registr y of Unclaimed Retirement Benefits: To search for lost 401(k) plans, try unclaimedretirementbenefits.com, where plan sponsors, administrators and custodians register missing participants who have unclaimed retirement funds. Feder al Deposit Insur ance Cor p.: Search for unclaimed bank accounts at firms that were shut down between 1989 and 1993 by visiting www2.fdic. gov/funds. State treasuries hold assets from shutdowns after 1993. Social Secur ity: To find lost Social Security benefits, including the $255 death benefit, call (800) 772-1213. Amer ican Council of Life Insurer s: If you think your parents had a life insurance policy, try missingmoney.com, or for more tips, visit acli.com and click on “Missing Policy Tips.”
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Dear Savvy Senior, I’ve heard that there are resources available that can help people look for lost or forgotten money left behind by their deceased relatives. When my mother and father passed away, their financial affairs were in such a mess. I’m wondering if there was anything I overlooked. What can you tell me? Searching Son