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Dear David
When I came out, I was mainly a top. Then after about six years, I met this guy who was very well- hung, who proceeded to turn me on to bottoming – I actually got so into it, that I didn’t top for years even after we stopped seeing each other. Now, I’m feeling like topping again, but after experiencing what spots a really big d**k can hit, I am suddenly very self- conscious about my own average-sized erection. I have even had problems getting hard when presented with a willing bottom! I have never gotten any negative feedback (except for those who block you on the apps for simply being ‘average’), but I find myself doubting if I can ever please a man like that again. Please help me get out of this negative loop!
The first thing you need to do – like your sphincter when you met that big dom top – is to relax! Try and flip your argument around for a minute: Although you enjoy getting it from a well-endowed guy, I bet you still find a lot of pleasure getting f*cked by someone who matches you in size. So you know from expe- rience that size doesn’t matter that much. For your feeling of insecurity, put on a cock ring or take ED meds to ease your mind. You also need to bear in mind that although you en- joyed getting those deep spots tickled, all guys aren’t built like you, so they may very well get sent over the edge by what you have to offer. Trust your own experience in this area! When you hook up with a guy, don’t go for a pushy bottom, but instead go for a guy who identifies as vers or mostly top – that way, it isn’t poten- tially all about you topping. Plus, a lot of those guys who rarely bottom tend to be so hungry for it, that they get off a lot quicker, so you don’t have to perform like a porn star on the first go-around.
