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Annually on MLK Holiday Weekend, Atlanta’s LGBTQ community produces various events in honor of the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and the King Family’s support for Human Rights.

Known to some as Atlanta Winter Pride, Queer people of color, in particular, gather together to enjoy a variety of cultural celebrations.

All events conclude on the King Holiday with the Annual Bayard Rustin & Audre Lorde Community Breakfast, the official signature event of Southern Unity Movement, Inc., a longstanding Atlanta-based Black LGBTQ advocacy organization. This historic event returns after a two-year hiatus to the Loudermilk Conference Center in downtown Atlanta on January 16, 2022, with doors opening at 9:30 AM.

importance for future generations. With a percussive opening, musical offerings, spoken word, a youth art space, and a drag performance, the artistry, historical resistance, and totality of Black LGBTQ people will be front and center.

Community legend and event co-founder R. Darlene Hudson envisions this year’s breakfast as a testament to what makes Atlanta’s Black LGBTQ community an integral part of the continuation of the civil and human rights movements in Atlanta and abroad.

“Like A Phoenix, Rising into Our Collective Power!” is the returning theme for the breakfast. It is symbolic of the resilience of Atlanta’s Black LGBTQ community as it rises from the disruption of the COVID-19 pandemic to continue the cherished 22-year tradition.

The breakfast is named after two trailblazing Black gay civil rights activists: Bayard Rustin (Dr. King’s advisor and Architect of the historic March On Washington 1963) and Black lesbian Poet/activist Audre Lorde. The initiative directly aligns with Dr. King’s vision of the “beloved community” while acknowledging the contributions of LGBTQ people in the quest for equality.

This year’s event will be hosted by the founder of Meak Productions, Inc. and industry pioneer Miko Evans, along with pioneering queer activist, entertainer, and founder of Southern Fried Queer Pride, Taylor Alxndr. Both figures have been long-time supporters of the Rustin Lorde Breakfast and understand its

The event is free and open to the public; however, RSVP is required. Please refer to the online version of this article for the link to register.

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There Might Be a Better Way But This Is the Queerest Way

By Eve Kucharski Photo: HBO Max Glitz, glam and, oh, just the small matter of changing hearts and minds. That’s a tall order for anyone, and the basic setup of every episode of the HBO show “We’re Here.” But of course, once again in Season 3, drag queens Shangela, Eureka O’Hara and Bob the Drag Queen use their skills to deliver on that recipe and then some.

On the surface, “We’re Here” is a show about drag queens teaching their craft to queer and allied people in small, conservative towns across middle America.

However, look past all of the costumes, makeup and dance numbers, and it becomes clear there’s a deeper message of acceptance running through each episode.

Drag becomes the conduit for the queens’ drag kids to not only build up, and sometimes actualize, their confidence in deeply anti-LGBTQ+ environments, but it calls attention to the intricate and nuanced realities of small-town life for queer people — all while putting on a once-in-a-lifetime show in the unlikeliest of places.

Bob the Drag Queen and Eureka O’Hara, two-thirds of the iconic drag trio, joined me for an interview about the show’s latest season. They discussed the importance of giving patience to those who want to listen, how spirituality and queerness can intersect, the political environment during each season, and much more.

Every time you head into a new town there is a bit of resistance, but I felt like this season it was especially bad. There were hostile threats on social media, and then there was the Utah council that was working to cancel your filming permit. Did you feel that way?

Bob the Drag Queen: We’ve had resistance before. I mean, we even had the cops called on us in Season 1.

Several times, actually [laughs]. And having a whole town try to shut us down, I don’t know if that’s a

reflection of where we are now or if it’s a reflection of where we were at the time, physically. But the political climate has changed. Each season has been a different world. Season 1 was pre-pandemic; Trump was still president. Season Two was a very tumultuous election year, and we were in the middle of an election year.

And now, [with] Season Three, we were ramping up to midterms, we had a new president and we are getting back out into the world in terms of coming out of lockdown.

Eureka O’Hara: Yeah, I agree. Bob hit it on the nose.

Maybe some of the resistance you faced this time around was partly because more people are aware of the show than before.

Bob: Well, I still wonder if they watch our show.

What the hell do they think we’re doing? What are you protesting? What do you think is going on at these shows? Do you think that it’s some kind of orgy? What do you think is happening on stage? Who could protest this?

Eureka: That’s true. It’s wild. It’s just people being misinformed and not understanding. Misunderstanding is one of the biggest causes of discrimination. Honestly?

I find most of the time that the people that fight against our show the most have not seen an episode of our show. They’ve just heard rumors or they see drag and they automatically make assumptions. There’s no facts behind their fear tactics; it’s all assumptions. I would love to test these people and say, “Why don’t you watch an episode and see what we’re showcasing before you combat us?”

Eureka, at the Fourth of July parade in Granbury, Texas, there was a man holding up a sign with antiLGBTQ+ scripture and he said, “I just want to show that there’s two sides of the story here,” and you were clear that queer people see his message every day.

judge and pick and choose.

Eureka: Yeah, I’m like, in your home, you say these things every day. The people that you live with already know you feel this way. People in your world know this is how you’re feeling. It just frustrates me because I’m like, “No, you want to create this circle of innocence around what you’re doing.” And you want to be like, “Oh, I’m just doing this because of the grace of God.” Well, I also do everything in my life, as a Christian person, as a spiritual person, by the grace of God as well — she’s a Goddess. She’s the God that I believe in, and I was raised Southern Baptist Christian, and I still believe very heavily in that faith. And how dare you tear me down for how I decide to live and for how I decide to praise? It just goes against everything you say you believe in.

Bob: [Laughs.]

Bob: And as someone who is absolutely not religious in any regard, I want you to know that if you’re reading this, you do not have to justify your life based on anyone’s religion.

Eureka: Work! And the reason that me, as a spiritual person, is on Bob’s side when he says something like that is because that’s the truest and most honest way of thinking: allowing people to have their own free will.

I’m not God. I don’t get to play that part. I don’t get to

That’s an interesting point, and at least those people actually stopped to try and listen to you, Eureka. Bob, you were just trying to cross the street in one of the episodes, I think you were looking for ice cream—

And this guy just started shouting at you.

Bob: Yeah, and that’s when I realized that guy didn’t actually want to talk. It wasn’t about God. It was about him. It was about his ego. And even if it was about God, I don’t believe in that, so why do I care? [Laughs.]

You can’t come at me with your religion, telling me that I need to live my life by some rules that you don’t even know what they are. You and your own parishioners can’t agree, and now you want me, someone who doesn’t even believe in it, to go by a set of rules that y’all motherfuckers can’t come up with? [Laughs.]

I don’t have as much grace for religious bigots as Shangela and Eureka do. I have actually no grace for religious bigots. None whatsoever. I want to say, “Fuck you, don’t tell me who to believe in. Mind your fucking business,” but I didn’t say that on television. [Laughs.]

This show got me thinking about the social pressures that exist in small-town communities and the niceness to your face but the lack of overall kindness to those who are outside the status quo. Do you think that’s why even large and vibrant queer communities are forced to be silent even within their

necessary that it has to be this. It doesn’t have to be this, it could be something else. But this is what we do.

This is what me, Eureka, and Shangela do and happen to be very, very good at. I don’t want to be egotistical and say, “It has to be this, and it has to be us,” because there’s a lot of people doing a lot of stuff. But I know that what we’re doing is effective. People tell me all the time, “I watched the show with my mom, and my mom used to be extremely homophobic, extremely transphobic, extremely racist, and now we’re actually having conversations about it.” And goddamn it, I like doing it this way. [Laughs.] It’s fun and it’s glitzy and it feels fantastic, quite frankly.

Eureka: And Bob just loves saying goddamn it.. own spaces?

Bob: Goddamn it.

Bob: I always ask myself, “Do you want to be a nice person, or do you want to be a good person?” And every good person isn’t nice, and every nice person isn’t good. You know what I mean?

Bob, lastly, I loved the dichotomy of you being out and proud in “BLACK” and the very demure and controlled version of your responses to hate in “We’re Here.”

Eureka: True.

Bob: Well, thank you, and I would love for you all to go and check out my music video for “BLACK.” I’m really, really proud of it. It’s me, Basit, Ocean Kelly, and it’s directed by Marvin Brown, one of the creative directors of “We’re Here,” and I love it. Check it out.

Bob: I think that a lot of times, people do feel completely silenced in these communities, especially because it’s even harder to combat hate when it’s thinly veiled as love. Because people say, “Well, we just want to protest because we love you and we don’t want your soul to go to hell.” And then you think to yourself, “Wait. Is it really because they love me? Are they really here just to save my soul?” And then you have to take a step back and you go, “No, no, no. That’s none of their business.”

Was there something positive about meeting these lovely queer and allied people that you were surprised by this season?

Bob: There’s always something surprising to me. I’m always shocked and gagged when I see the amazing things that our drag kids can do. You know, everyone is remarkable at something. Isn’t it wild? Not just kinda good, but remarkable at something. And sometimes we get to see that not just on stage but in their communities, and in how their fellow townspeople see and revere them. I got to see it with my drag kid, Micah, in St. George, Utah, where the community was just like in awe of how remarkable of a person they were.

Eureka: Same, honestly. We got a chance to work with some really interesting youths, the people that are the new generation. Especially this season, I had an experience with several young people who are a part of the generation that’s coming behind us that wants to create change and they want to promote progression and equity. It just gives me so much hope in the world.

It’s really hard to go into communities that don’t accept you even when you’re trying to spread love.

Bob, you said that it’s not really about the drag, but it’s about giving voice to these queer people. Is that what motivates you both to come back to “We’re Here” season after season?

Bob: Let me be very clear — I sound like Obama, “Let me be clear.” There has got to be an easier, softer way than rolling into a town with a bunch of drag queens [laughs], putting on a show, making costumes, blood, sweat and tears. This is not the easiest way to be doing what we’re doing. I don’t even believe that it’s

Eureka: Sponsored by Eureka, too, with two big thumbs up, honey. It is big, old, fat, white, pussyapproved, honey. [Laughs.]

Eureka, anything that you’d like to leave readers with?

Eureka: Send love to everybody, let them know that [my new song] “Big Mawma” is coming out, and it’s about caretaking for others and lifting each other up in need and it’s about celebrating each other, and it’s about body positivity. And, more than that, it’s celebrating the big, fat, juicy heart of big Mawma and also celebrating me and my voice and the gender expression in my voice. I used to be really afraid to sing with my male vocals because I always wanted to be feminine and I really celebrate my natural male talents as far as stereotypically male vocal talents. And it opened my eyes to loving another little piece of myself, so, hopefully, the [audience] can, too. Everything’s always so much deeper with me. I’m like a poet and didn’t know it, you know?

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DJ J Warren @ The Heretic January 13, 10 pm - 3 am International DJ sensation DJ J Warren has just returned from his worldwide tour to play at the Heretic where Mike Woodside will also celebrate his birthbay bash.

MLK Holiday Weekend @ The Hideaway | January 13-16 The Hideaway celebrates the holiday weekend with a lineup of DJs that from Friday to Sunday. There is no cover all weekend, and the bar will be open to 3 am Sunday night.

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Indie Sleaze @ Ammazza January 14, 11:30 pm – 3 am Bring back a moment in nightlife and music where a generation of happy hipsters, partiers, and artists would escape their lives to dance on the unlikeliest of dance floors in a shared, friendly, beautifully-chaotic experience.

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Freak Show @ My Sister’s Room MSR | January 15, 9 pm – 12 am Ivana Humpalot is gets her freak on with Freak Show – the sexy Sunday drag and burlesque show. Come out for some sexy performances or enter the two contetst for a chance to win $$$.

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So, I am a happy, giving bottom and always have been. I discovered early that I have a natural talent for taking it long and hard. But lately, I have found that I am no longer that tight ‘back there’, and sometimes I even get little leaks in my underwear, which is really gross, right? I have tried not to have sex to have everything sort of tighten back up, but I am really not good at not having sex for longer periods of time! I told you, I am really good at it bottoming! So what can I do since not having sex is obviously not happening?

You can compare your sphincter to a rubber band–the more you stretch it, the looser it gets.

And if your sphincter loses some of its elasticity, it can be hard for it to serve its primary purpose: to keep your ass shut! You can do something to regain the elasticity with kegel exercises: tighten your anus like when you are stopping the flow of urine, hold the tension for a few seconds and release. Normally, you only need to do them for a few minutes a day, but in your case, I suggest you start a little exercise program for about 10-15 minutes a day.

The good thing about these exercises is that you can do them without anybody else knowing it– just like Samantha in Sex and the City when she goes “I’m doing mine right now” mid-brunch and mid-conversation. All kidding aside, you need to do something to regain some strength back there, because the alternative is that you will have more than just leaks in your underwear, and eventually, you will need to have a more extensive surgery, and no matter how much you like having someone enter you, that is not going to be a pleasant experience. So start clenching!