ParentsCanada magazine - Summer 2017

REAL TALK

REAL CHOICES REAL LIFE

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SUMMER 2017

LEGALIZING MARIJUANA It’s time to have “THE TALK” again

SUMMER FIRST CRUSHES TO FIRST BREAKUPS

STARTING SOLID FOODS

THE RULES KEEP CHANGING

ARE YOU ON YOUR PHONE DURING YOUR CHILD’S ACTIVITIES?

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CANADA IS 150! GET OUT THERE AND EXPLORE THE COUNTRY.

SUMMER 2017

FIRST & LAST 4

EDITOR’S LETTER First love.

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TODDLER MELTDOWNS During a full-blown meltdown, what is happening inside a toddler’s head? We take a guess.

CE L E B R AT IN G 14

OH CANADA! 150 THINGS TO DO THIS YEAR Experience all the country has to offer, from coast to coast.

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UP F RONT PARE NTING

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE We explore the ups and downs of being in love, from kindergarten to high school.

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Canadian books, debunked stereotypes and summer boredom busters.

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ASK THE EXPERT What are pinworms and why do we get them?

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TIME OUT Entertainment Tonight’s Cheryl Hickey talks child rearing and our must-have Canadiana products.

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CHEW ON THIS New rules for starting solids and the cookbook nook.

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WHAT’S IN STORE? Celebrate Canada with these foodie favourites.

TOUCHY SUBJECT Should you be on the phone during your kid’s activities?

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PC COOKS: A BUSHEL AND A PICK Strawberries, raspberries, blueberries and more – summer berries have arrived!

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HELP ME SARA Letting go of sentimental objects.

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NEED IT, WANT IT, GOTTA HAVE IT Summertime fun.

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MOVING ON UP Moving can be stressful for kids. Here’s how to help.

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BABY On your marks: Infantile hemangiomas are tiny red “birthmarks” that will disappear with time.

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TODDLER Time-out tactics: When it comes to discipline, do time-outs really work?

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PRESCHOOL Circle of friends: Are cliques good or bad?

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SCHOOL-AGE Safety first: The rules and tools you need to stay safe this summer.

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TWEEN Going to pot: Marijuana may soon be legal. Time to have the “just say no” talk again.

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MARIJUANA IS NEARING LEGALIZATION. IT’S TIME TO HAVE “THE TALK”.

TRY OUR SUMMER BERRY RECIPES, INCLUDING STRAWBERRY ICE CREAM.

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TODDLER MELTDOWNS HAVE TWO SIDES TO THE STORY!

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AND THEY CALLED IT PUPPY LOVE...

COOK ONCE/EAT TWICE Planked salmon and roasted veggies become a yummy pasta salad.

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DO YOU HAVE A HARD TIME SAYING GOODBYE TO MATERIAL THINGS?

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FAMILY LIFE Happy birthday, Canada!

Now is the time to discover all our country has to offer! Amanda Bloye gives you 150 reasons why you should travel across our great country. Page 14

Planning a move? It can be rough on kids, especially if they have to switch schools. Julie M. Green offers helpful moving advice. Page 24

Psst...

I have a crush on you.

Berry, berry good. It’s berry

season! Whether you love strawberries, raspberries or blueberries, Julie Van Rosendaal has a receipe that will tempt your taste buds. Page 30

The legalization of pot is all over the news. Seems like it might happen soon. With all this chatter, Rosalind Stefanac says it might be time to revisit the “just say no” talk with your kids.

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I can remember my first crush like it was yesterday (it was actually 33 years ago). His name was David and he was a blond cutie with blue eyes and a charming smile. We were in junior kindergarten and during snack time we would spread our towels on the floor beside one another and gaze into each other’s eyes. I am not joking when I say this actually happened.

I can still remember the butterflies.

My teachers told my parents that even they could see it – the way we would play and tease and smile. When I look back on it, I wonder if he really was my first love. It sure felt like it.

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My daughter has sworn me to secrecy when it comes to her boyfriends and crushes. As a senior kindergartener, she apparently has a line of suitors. One boy, in particular (who shall remain nameless), causes her to blush and giggle like, well, a schoolgirl.

I go back and forth on this. On one hand, it’s adorable as all heck and I love to see her smile when she says his name. On the other hand, I want to tell her that she has plenty of time for crushes and puppy love. So I follow her lead. Some days, she doesn’t want to discuss him. On other days, she happily tells me that she will marry him when she grows up. If she appears to be annoyed or embarrassed, I stop the romance talk.

However, the other day, I couldn’t help it; I busted out the “Eleanor and ‘boyfriend’, sitting in a tree...” She had never heard that song before. She covered my mouth so I couldn’t finish the lyrics, but then her face went red, her eyes lit up, and she said, “OK! Say it!” She put her hands over her excited face as I sang the rhyme from start to finish. Not gonna lie, she seemed pretty pleased.

This, I am sure, is just the beginning. There will be more crushes to come, first love, first breakup, and all the drama that happens in between. I will admit that I am looking forward to it. Love certainly is a roller coaster, but I’m excited to see her find that special someone and enjoy the ride.

Read more about the ups and downs of being in love on page 20.

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DR. JANINE FLANAGAN

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itch TO SCRATCH? Don’t freak out.

Itchy bums are pretty common.

PINWORM: Some children with pinworm don’t have symptoms, but most do get itchy around the anus (and vagina in girls) especially at nighttime.

Infected children are restless during sleep and will scratch their bum during the night. This is because the pinworms live in the rectum and at night the adult worm crawls out of the anus and lays eggs on nearby skin. When a child scratches the bum, eggs get under the fingernails and then are ingested when hands get put in the mouth.

Infected fingernails can also leave eggs on toys and other areas where indirect transmission can occur. The eggs can be very persistent, living for up to two weeks outside the body on clothing, toys, objects and bedding before being ingested by another child.

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tummy pain or weight loss. They are more of a nuisance and irritation. Pinworms are tiny (1 cm long), wiggly, white and thread-like sized.

You may or may not see them. We used to ask parents to go looking for pinworms at night or use tape to collect eggs over the anus, but this is not necessary and can cause undue distress to the parent/caregiver and child and is not always successful. If you don’t see anything it doesn’t mean your child doesn’t have pinworms (similar to going fishing – just because you don’t catch any fish doesn’t mean there aren’t fish in the sea).

Pediatricians recommend treating your child if they have symptoms. There is over the counter (OTC) medication you can get without seeing a doctor, which is very safe and effective. Because 30 percent of children get pinworm, medication is readily available to treat your child quickly. If you see a doctor, they will recommend the same OTC medication or they may give you a prescription.

Your child takes the medicine and then repeats the same dose in two weeks due to the life cycle of the worms. It is recommended that other young children get treated, but adults don’t need to take the medication unless they are symptomatic.

You can reduce transmission by washing your child’s hands thoroughly after using the toilet and keeping fingernails clean and short. Discourage thumb sucking and nail biting.

PERIANAL STREP: A second cause of an itchy bum is perianal strep (streptococcus). Yes, this is the same kind of bacteria that causes a strep throat, but this time the bacteria infects the other end of the gi (gastrointestinal system). Children may swallow the bacteria, which then descends to the anal area or they may digitally contaminate themselves from an infected throat or other sites of strep infections (eg. impetigo around the mouth). In addition to itchiness, children may complain of rectal pain and occasional blood-streaked stools can be seen. When examined, the anus is bright red in colour with a rash that can extend up to 3 cm circumferentially around the perianal area.

If left untreated the rash can spread to the vulva or onto the scrotum and anal fissures can develop causing the blood seen alongside the stools.

A rapid strep test around the anus using a swab can be done in your doctor’s office (similar to checking strep in the throat). If positive, then a 10day course of oral antibiotic therapy will clear the infection. Topical preparations are not effective.

Janine Flanagan is a pediatrician at St. Joseph’s Health Centre and The Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto.

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When it comes to itchy bottoms, a bath might be the quick fix. Diapers, sweat and dirt can all cause irritation (not to mention playdates in the sandbox). Sometimes creams and soaps can aggravate the skin and be the problem.

Occasionally, the itch does not resolve and it’s something more. Two of the most common causes of an itchy bum are pinworm and perianal strep.

Don’t panic; these two entities are very common and are not caused by poor hygiene.

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KIDS: JAXSON, AGE 7, NYLA, AGE 4

How you spend your alone time: I take a bubble bath and work on mompreneur projects.

What makes you scared: The thought of my kids turning 18.

One thing you can’t live without: Tumbler to-go travel mugs.

Kid splurge: Extracurricular activities.

Favourite thing about parenting: Getting to be a kid again – brings out the silly.

Least favourite thing about parenting: Midnight vomiting and night waking.

Favourite family vacation spot: Anywhere warm.

Approach to tantrums: I treat the kids like adults and allow them to articulate their emotions.

We have a conversation.

5 parenting items you can’t live without: Baby monitor, a wicked stroller, to-go cups, coconut oil, Boogie Wipes.

Favourite celeb parents: Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell (because they’re just so much fun!), Chrissy Teigen and John Legend (because they stand up for what they believe in), Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds (because I find them to be very genuine and down to earth), Michael Bublé and Luisana Lopilato (because they are strong).

Rate your cooking skills: 3 stars, but trying to improve.

Best meal you make, according to your kids: Pistachio crusted salmon.

Jaxson loves crushing the pistachios.

What makes you laugh: Watching blooper videos of people falling. DJ Diaper (AKA my husband wearing a diaper on his head).

The number of shoes that you own: Hundreds – too many to count!

What makes you cry: When my kids achieve personal goals and show pride in what they’ve accomplished.

Favourite way to stay active: Pilates and Plyometrics.

Favourite beauty products: Skin care lasers, coconut oil, vitamin C serums, anything in Suzanne Mackay’s (ET Canada’s makeup artist) makeup case.

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HOLD THE PHONE

Is it OK to be on the phone during your child’s activities?

KRISTI YORK :: I can honestly say that I have never looked at my phone during my children’s activities. To be fair, that’s because I don’t own one. If I did, I’m sure I would be tempted to check it on the sidelines, and would give in to that temptation repeatedly. That’s exactly why I’m grateful to be smartphone-free.

I realize this is likely to be an unpopular viewpoint. I’m not judging those with smartphones, nor am I trying to portray myself as more devoted than any other parent.

Obviously, there are work-related responsibilities and other urgent situations where phone use is necessary. Every parent has a right to make his or her own choices about how to manage the never-ending demands of work and family in our high-tech society.

I am, however, in a unique position to share first-hand the benefits of being a phoneless spectator. I like that I’m seeing every detail of what my kids are doing. Even if the overall outcome isn’t a success, I can praise them for the little things they did well, like running extra hard after a ball that got away from them. I can pick up on their subtle behaviour cues and observe how they interact with coaches and teammates. If they look over and smile at me, I won’t miss the chance to return the favour with an overzealous mom-wave. I’m glad I can show my kids with my actions, as well as my words, that I value their participation in something that is healthy and active. I’m glad that I have this time, in a world full of distractions, to be entirely present for them.

Mostly, I’m glad that when they come off the field, they never have to ask: “Mom, did you see me?” They know I did.

LIZ HASTINGS :: After graduating from parent-and-tot and mommy-and-me and kanga-and-roo, I’m no longer required to hold my daughter’s hand during activities. Instead, I am sitting in the back row of the waiting room at my sevenyear-olds’ gymnastics lesson, visiting with other parents.

The front row spectators are practically levitating off their chairs, faces inches from the glass, kids falling from the bars because they are turned backwards, never losing eye contact with their number one fans. It occurs to me that our kids are performing for the benefit of the parents, not their own enjoyment – a completely counterproductive exercise.

I use these 90 minutes to catch up using the free Wi-Fi. I connect with friends, organize my week and even play the odd game of Scrabble. This is time to get things done while my child explores, swings, waits in lines, follows directions, fails and succeeds on her terms, under the guidance of someone other than me. It’s a step towards independence I’m thrilled to be a part of – from a distance.

Last year at Chloe’s first Hip-Hop dance session, I foolishly sat behind the window that separated the waiting area from the dancers. I noticed Moms trying to peek through the wrapping-paper-covered window, desperately trying to catch a glimpse of their tiny dancers. The front desk lady was our only lifeline to our children. She explained, “You will see them after the 10th week and you’ll be amazed at their progress. They will be so excited to show you what they’ve learned.”

Coaches/instructors/teachers are tired of overzealous, hyper-engaged parents becoming too involved in the courses they’ve designed that were meant to meet the needs and wants of our kids – not ours.

My daughter’s swim coach has asked parents to stop coming to watch practices. The distraction is too high and kids perform better when they are focused on their own goals, rather than on praise or fear of punishment from parents.

Use this hour for yourself. Get some work done. Play on your phone. How many of those minutes do you get in a day?

Expert Advice Part of a child’s athletic development is the emotional engagement that parents provide them. How we interact and engage, positively or negatively affects a child’s love for the sport. Put down your phone for an hour and witness your child’s victories, big or small. Think honestly about how your engagement impacts your child’s feelings and motivation. They look to you for support and praise.

Sure, a distraction might be necessary if it helps an overzealous parent refrain from over-heating, getting angry or causing an embarrassing situation – a little phone break can help in some cases. But above all, show your kids that you’re excited to be there.

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THROUGH TH E AG E S

LET IT GO, LET IT GO

Sometimes, it’s hard to part with sentimental objects.

BY S A R A D I M E R M A N

I must confess. Lurking in the back of my garage, amongst boxes of books from my daughters’ childhood, is a clear plastic bag in which a large stuffed monkey and big bear hibernate. Every year, as I clear out my garage, I pause momentarily as I consider letting go of them.

When I was 15, my family and I emigrated from South Africa to Canada and as you might imagine, were not able to bring all of our possessions with us. In the process of packing, I imagine that my mother might have thrown out some items that were sentimentally valuable to me. I’m thinking this because I don’t recall being too involved with the packing and can’t imagine ever throwing out the round purple cushion I knitted in home economics class, for example. The one that my first boyfriend cuddled when he was over, leaving only the scent of his Brut cologne behind.

So, it’s no wonder that I have always been particularly vigilant about checking with my daughters before throwing anything of theirs away in case it means something more significant to them than I might think.

Having said this, I realize and help others recognize the importance of clearing clutter, living in the present and not hoarding just in case. I also recognize the importance of learning to let go.

When children are younger, even items that appear insignificant to us, can mean the world to them. A stick he finds in the park, the outer shell of a snail she finds in your backyard, the old sweater he’s outgrown but refuses to part with. Items such as this, despite being material objects, become associated with other significant memories such as spending time in the park with you, going on scavenger hunts in your backyard or the warmth he felt in your embrace while wearing the sweater.

Many children also like to create collections. A different shape or sized rock wherever she goes begin to fill a large shoe box, favourite character figurines from the latest Disney movie become her coveted possession over time.

Collections are significant because they may represent feelings of accomplishment as she watches her collection grow, may be symbolic of wanting to hold onto fond memories from the past and are great ways to help with organizational and analytical skills.

Parents will often ask their children to get rid of the dusty collection, or a random item such as a stick from the park, before their children are ready to part with it. And when

they don’t, you might consider just tossing it in the garbage when she isn’t looking or hiding it away for a while until you can safely guess that it has been forgotten about. My suggestion is not to do this.

Learning to let go is a life long process. It begins with saying goodbye to a decaying piece of wood or pile of wrapping papers and continues through to being able to say goodbye to a parent who has died, for example. So, helping one’s child let go, while important, should not be rushed or imposed.

My advice is to take one small step at a time and to offer strategies along the way. So, for example, as you go about helping your child organize his room, or tidy his drawers, you may suggest putting aside a pile of items he no longer uses or wants and then helping him figure out what to do with them – maybe donating them to charity, for example.

Be considerate and respectful of his feelings if he’s not ready to let go of something quite yet. Help him to evaluate the significance of random or worn out objects.

Authors have written books on how to declutter and some recommend holding an object in one’s hand and tuning into one’s bodily reaction while asking, “Does this object bring me joy?” for example. If yes, then put it back where it came from or find a different resting spot.

Another suggestion might be to put items that your child recognizes as no longer useful or of value, but is not quite ready to let go of, in a box with the date on it. Offer the suggestion to keep the box for a period of time, after which time to let go of – without looking inside.

My guess is that your child will one day be ready to let go of most of the objects that are no longer useful or are just collecting dust.

Rushing that process may actually cause him to hold on to objects longer than he might otherwise have.

And yes, I do believe that one day, like so many thousands of other objects and all the significant people I have let go of, I will be able to say goodbye to my two stuffed animals in the large plastic bag in my garage.

Sara Dimerman is a psychologist, author and parenting expert in the Greater Toronto Area. Read more at helpmesara.com.

PRESCHOOL Watch as your child finds wonder in the smallest of objects in her environment and then wants to keep them close. Wanting to take a little piece of that experience home is not unusual for preschoolers.

At this age, an object that is like gold one day, but may be forgotten about the next. Either left behind without a second thought or mourned over for a few minutes, preschoolers are very good at living in the moment but then easily move onto the next treasure.

SCHOOL AGED School aged children are more inclined to create collections and have a harder time saying goodbye. Since they are learning all about sorting and classifying objects into groups at school, collections can help with this. In addition, there’s the thrill of the hunt as the child discovers another item to add to his collection and there’s the social aspect of maybe even trading items with a friend who has a similar collection. So, holding onto material objects at this age is quite common and forcing a child to part with it or them should be dealt with sensitively.

TEENS Teens are a mixed bag. Some are very casual when it comes to giving their material items away while others hold onto a torn pair of jeans because it reminds them of a special occasion. Some appear to never know where their possessions are, while others have a difficult time sharing with others.

Some of this has to do with their individual temperament, with the way in which letting go of an object was handled in earlier years and also by the kind of modelling they’ve seen from the adults in their world.

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I have a harder time than my kids! I let them keep anything that means something to them, even if it seems silly to me.

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BRITISH COLUMBIA DEFY HEIGHTS (AND REASON) AND WALK 70 METRES ABOVE THE CAPILANO RIVER AS YOU CROSS THE CAPILANO SUSPENSION BRIDGE.

2/ Rent a bike and explore the 400-hectare natural West Coast rainforest along Stanley Park's Seawall.

18/ Venture to the top of Sulphur Mountain on the Banff Gondola and dine at one of the summit’s restaurants.

3/ Shop, sip and play through Granville Island’s Public Market.

4/ Soar above the Douglas Fir trees as you travel on Grouse Mountain’s Skyride, North America's largest aerial tramway system.

19/ Hike along the Sulphur Mountain Boardwalk to Sanson’s peak, following in the footsteps of Norman Sanson.

5/ Observe animals in their natural habitat at the British Columbia Wildlife Park in Kamloops.

8/ Take a spin on Bug Whirled, Dizzy Drop or The Flutternbye, three of Playland at the PNE’s new 2017 rides.

9/Start at Mile Zero in Dawson’s Creek and take an epic roadtrip on the Alaska Highway.

10/ View the beautiful Canadian Rockies by train with Via’s Jasper to Prince Rupert Line.

11/ Enjoy your morning coffee on the water as you paddleboard from Squamish to Britannia Beach.

12/ Spend an afternoon in awe strolling through Butchart Gardens in Victoria.

13/ Stop in for a pint and a chicken taco (or two!) at Four Winds Brewery.

14/ Indulge in a sweet treat with Nanaimo’s namesake, the Nanaimo Bar.

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20/ Watch the Calgary Stampeders on home turf at McMahon Stadium.

6/ Take a glimpse of privileged life in the 1890s at Craigdarrich Castle in Victoria.

7/ Soak in the sun at Kitsilano Beach.

17/ Walk through the abandoned ghost town Wayne, deep in Alberta’s badlands.

21/ Shop, learn to surf or skate your heart away at the West Edmonton Mall.

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DISCOVER SOME OF THE WORLD’S RAREST INSECTS AND ARACHNIDS AT THE VICTORIA BUG ZOO.

22/ Camp in comfort in a yurt at Pigeon Lake Provincial Park.

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WATCH THE RODEO, TAKE IN A CONCERT OR TRY YOUR LUCK ALONG THE MIDWAY AT THE CALGARY STAMPEDE. (JULY 7–16) ORDER A CAESAR WHERE THIS CANADIAN OBSESSION BEGAN – AT THE WESTIN HOTEL IN CALGARY.

23/ Stroll the catwalks of Johnston Canyon.

24/ Capture instagramworthy photos at Maligne Lake in Jasper National Park.

25/ Experience the Rockies like never before as you drive from Banff to Jasper on the Icefields Parkway.

26/ Beat the heat at Sylvan Lake Aqua Splash.

27/ Discover the difference between stalactites and stalagmites as you tour caves in Canmore.

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GRAB A COCKTAIL AND WATCH THE SUNSET AT THE FAIRMONT LAKE LOUISE.

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31/ Take a selfie with Mac the Moose, the tallest moose on Earth, in (where else?) Moose Jaw.

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32/ Enjoy an afternoon picnic among the Crooked Trees of Alticane.

33/ Navigate through 12 acres at the Bulldog Park Corn Maize.

34/ Score fresh veggies and home-baked goods at the Yorkton Farmer’s Market.

61/ Skate along the Red River Mutual Trail.

62/ Don’t miss the CP Holiday Train!

63/ Head to Assiniboine Park for the 31st Teddy Bears’ Picnic, benefitting the Children’s Hospital Foundation of Manitoba.

SPEND A NIGHT AT THE DELTA BESSBOROUGH IN SASKATOON. KEEP AN EYE OUT FOR THE GHOST OF A SMILING, OLDER MAN WHO WANDERS THE BANQUET HALL AT NIGHT.

64/ Spend a day on the slopes at Asesseppi Ski Area & Resort.

65/ Discover what life was like for pioneers in a prarie community at Fort la Reine Museum.

35/ Watch stock cars, modifieds and hobby stocks race for glory at Estevan Motor Speedway.

36/ Bounce the day away at Dino Bouncers in Regina.

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37/ Give your train-loving tots a treat with an afternoon at the Saskatchewan Railway Museum.

38/ Celebrate Canada Day at Fort Battleford, complete with an amazing fireworks finale.

SEE CANADIAN ROCK ROYALTY, BRYAN ADAMS, IN REGINA AS HE TEAMS UP WITH OUR LADY PEACE AND JOHNNY REID FOR REGINA ROCKS MOSAIC STADIUM.

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39/ Saddle up for a horseback riding adventure at Reesor Ranch in Cypress Hills.

40/ Lose yourself in The Great Sandhills of Southwest Saskatchewan.

41/ Learn about the cultural and historic importance of the First Nations at Wanuskewin Heritage Park.

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GET WET AT KENOSEE SUPERSLIDES.

TREAT YOUR TASTE BUDS TO THE FAMOUS BERRY BARN WAFFLE AT THE BERRY BARN, JUST SOUTH OF SASKATOON.

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47/ See a film at TIFF. 48/ Learn about Canada’s role in the battles and wars that have shaped the world at the Canadian War Museum in Ottawa.

STAND ON THE GLASS FLOOR OF THE CN TOWER OR TAKE IT ONE STEP FURTHER WITH THE EDGEWALK.

51/ Explore Canada’s wartime history on the HMCS Haida.

52/ Learn about ancestral homeland of the Huron Wendat nation, a branch of the Iroquoian family at Sainte-Marie Among the Hurons in Midland.

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55/ Board the Maid of the Mist as it tours through Niagara Falls.

56/ Indulge in a day of relaxation at Le Scandinave Spa in Blue Mountain.

69/ Spark kids’ creative learning at the Manitoba Children’s Museum.

70/ Go snowshoeing.

71/ Give geocaching a go and explore Manitoba’s great outdoors.

72/ Relive Prairie life at Fort Whyte Alive – A Prairie Legacy: The Bison and its People.

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DISCOVER POLAR BEARS IN THEIR NATURAL HABITAT FROM A WORLD-FAMOUS TUNDRA BUGGY IN CHURCHILL.

50/ Prep for dinner with friends and buy local at a farmers’ market.

54/ Learn more about Canada’s part in the Underground Railroad at Sandwich First Baptist Church, just outside of Windsor.

68/ Watch Little Limestone Lake change colour with the heat of the sun.

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49/ Enhance your senses at O.Noir, Toronto’s “dine in the dark” restaurant.

53/ Bike the trails of Sleeping Giant Provincial Park in Thunder Bay.

67/ Go glamping at Riding Mountain National Park.

CHECK OUT THE COLLECTION OF MARINE REPTILE FOSSILS AT THE CANADIAN FOSSIL DISCOVERY CENTRE IN MORDEN.

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46/ Indulge in sweet macarons at Nadege in Toronto.

66/ Visit the Winnie the Bear statue at Assiniboine Park’s Nature Playground.

58 EAT A BEAVERTAIL AND SKATE (OR WALK) ALONG THE FROZEN RIDEAU CANAL.

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PUT YOUR CAR IN NEUTRAL AND COAST UP BURLINGTON’S MAGNETIC HILL… IF YOU DARE .

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First recorded UFO sighting in North America: New Minas, Nova Scotia, in 1786.

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QUEBEC 81/ Wander the streets of Old Québec surrounded by 400 years of history.

82/ Feel the spray on your face at Parc de la Chute-Montmorency, a waterfall 30 m higher than Niagara Falls.

83/ Hit the slopes at one of Canada’s most well-known ski destinations, Mont Tremblant.

75 TREAT YOURSELF TO A NIGHT OF LUXURY AT THE HISTORIC LE CHÂTEAU FRONTENAC.

76/ Leave the kids with the sitter and sing your heart out to the hottest music of 2017 at Osheaga (August 4–6, Montreal).

77/ Eat frozen maple syrup in the snow at a local sugar shack like Montreal’s Cabane à sucre Au Pied de Cochon.

78/ Munch on a corned beef sandwich at Schwartz’s, a Montreal staple since 1928.

79/ Visit the Plains of Abraham and learn about how the battle changed the fate of Canada as we know it.

80/ Take in the Canadian leg of the Formula 1 Canada Grand Prix at Circuit Gilles Villeneuve.

84/ Indulge your inner foodie with food tour in St-Roch.

85/ Turn a page. Visit Morrin Cultural Centre – this ex-prison is now home to 25,000 books!

86/ Take in the view from the 31st floor of the iconic MarieGuyart building at the Observatoire de la Capitale.

87/ Shop ‘til you drop along Sainte-Catherine Street West in downtown Montreal.

88/ Take a guided night hike at the Fjord du Saguenay.

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WALK THE OCEAN FLOOR DURING LOW TIDE AND TAKE A PHOTO BESIDE THE HOPEWELL ROCKS.

NEW BRUNSWICK 90/ Drive across the Confederation Bridge, the longest bridge over open water in the world.

91/ Visit The Bay of Fundy for high and low tide, which occur approximately six hours apart.

SPEND THE NIGHT IN MONTREAL’S HOTEL DE GLACE (ICE HOTEL).

92/ Grab lunch at the Saint John City Market, Canada’s oldest farmers’ market.

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93/ Have a bonfire on the beach and sing until sunrise.

94/ Ride and splash at Magic Mountain amusement park in Moncton.

TAKE A SELFIE WITH THE WORLD’S LARGEST LOBSTER IN THE LOBSTER CAPITAL OF THE WORLD, SHEDIAC .

95/ Leave the kids at home and stop by Port City Royal for one of the best cocktails in the province.

96/ Rent tubes for the family and float down the Miramichi River.

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SATISFY YOUR TASTE BUDS (AND ANGER YOUR ARTERIES) WITH THE GENIUS CREATIONS AT BURGEROLOGY.

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101 100 GET UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL WITH A PUFFIN IN ELLISTON, THE TOWN ONCE KNOWN AS BIRD ISLAND COVE.

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TAKE A SIP OF ICEBERG BEER, A LAGER BREWED WITH 25,000-YEAR-OLD ICEBERG WATER, AT QUIDI VIDI BREWERY.

LIVE THE LIFE OF A LIGHTHOUSE KEEPER, HEAR THE CALLS OF HUMPBACK WHALES AND DISCOVER THE BEAUTY OF GLACIAL ICEBERGS WITH A PRE-PLANNED TOUR.

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105/ Explore what remains of both French and British Fortifications at Castle Hill National Historic Site.

106/ Check out houses of every colour as you stroll down St. John’s iconic Jellybean Row. 107/ Cruise around a freshwater fjord or hike a rare exposed piece of Earth’s mantle at Gros Morne National Park.

102 GET SCREECHED IN AT CHRISTIAN’S BAR ON GEORGE STREET. TAKE A SHOT, RECITE THE LINES, KISS THE COD AND YOU, TOO, CAN BE A LOCAL .

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104/ On December 9, grab your favourite long johns and your aunt’s best 42D bra and get “rigged up” for the Mummer’s Parade, a pre-holiday tradition.

108/ Brave the wind and hike up Signal Hill for a lesson in St. John’s history and a killer view of the Atlantic.

109/ Dine on traditional fish and chips at the Duke of Duckworth pub.

110/ Climb up the stone tower of the Cape Bonavista Lighthouse.

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Skate, toboggan or take in a show at Shipyards Park in Whitehorse.

112/ See where the hopes and dreams of our ancestors began at Pier 21.

113/ Eat a lobster dinner – fresh from the Atlantic!

114/ Pay respect to the unclaimed victims of the RMS Titanic sinking at Fairview Lawn Cemetery.

VISIT THE MARITIME MUSEUM OF ATLANTIC TO LEARN ABOUT THE FRANKLIN EXPLORATION, THE HALIFAX EXPLOSION AND HALIFAX’S CONNECTION TO THE TITANIC.

119/ Head to the Bay of Fundy to witness the highest tides in the world.

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Explore historic buildings and spend time in the heart of the Klondike in Dawson City, Yukon.

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Experience a destination that few ever have the chance to explore: the floe edge of Admiralty Inlet, at the north end of Baffin Island in Canada’s Arctic.

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See the Northern Lights from the Canadian North in Whitehorse, Yukon, Yellowknife, Northwest Territories and/ or Iqaluit, Nunavut.

Discover Iqaluit, Canada’s “coolest” city, with a weekend arctic getaway.

SPEND THE NIGHT IN A WOOD-STOVE-HEATED TEEPEE IN AURORA VILLAGE, YELLOWKNIFE.

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121/ Stroll along one of Nova Scotia’s beautiful white sand beaches at sunset.

122/ Go whale watching.

115/ Visit one of Nova 123/ Allow the kids to get Scotia’s 150 lighthouses. a little dirty as they race the day away in the Not 116/ Hike to the top of Since Moses Basket Run the Skyline Trail for a on Saturday Aug. 12. birds-eye-view of the Cabot Trail.

124/ Make a wish and gaze up upon starry 117/ Sample some ales skies in Ellenwood at Alexander Keith’s Lake Provincial Park.

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118/ Watch strong men from around the world showcase their talents at the 154th Antigonish Highland Games.

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P R I N C E E D WA R D I S L A N D 136/ Check out live theatre at its finest with The Charlottetown Festival’s 2017 line-up.

137/ Hike, walk, run or bike along the Confederation Trail.

125 SNAP A PIC WITH THE WORLD’S LARGEST FIDDLE IN SYDNEY.

SCRAMBLE OVER THE GIANT ROCKS AT PEGGY’S COVE.

138/ Jump and play at Off the Wallz Trampoline Park (ages three and up).

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GOLF, COTTAGE OR CAMP AND TAKE IN THE VIEWS AT STANHOPE BEACH.

139/ Test your wits with three floors of spooks and surprises at Haunted Mansion.

133/ Indulge in fresh fish and chips.

134/ Sip a raspberry cordial at the Anne of Green Gables Museum in Park Corner.

135/ Love country music?

Listen to fan favourites and up-and-comers at the Cavendish Beach Music Festival.

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GRAB A DOUBLEDOUBLE FROM TIM HORTON’S AND HEAD TO THE RINK FOR EARLY MORNING PRACTICE.

GO CLAMMING DURING LOW-TIDE. MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE LOCALS TO DISCOVER THE BEST PLACES TO DIG OR TAKE A TOUR.

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ENJOY A VISIT AT THE CANADIAN POTATO MUSEUM AND MAKE YOUR OWN POTATO FUDGE FEATURING WORLD-FAMOUS PEI POTATOES.

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ROMANTIC LOVE

Kids begin developing an understanding of romantic love at an early age. From then on, it’s first crushes, first heartaches and first breakups. Here’s the lowdown on what love means to kids at different ages, and how parents can navigate the ups and downs.

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By Kate Winn

“Mrs. Winn, Abby is my girlfriend!”

“I see. Does she know this?”

“No. But I love her.”

Kindergarten WHAT IS LOVE: Children this

age are already beginning to form a concept of romantic relationships from watching their parents or other adults, as well as absorbing messages from the media, such as fairy tales and TV shows. According to Dr. Karen Bax, clinical psychologist, Managing Director of Western’s Research and Education Centre at Merrymount and Assistant Professor at the Western University Faculty of Education, “If you ask kids this age what a boyfriend or girlfriend is, their definition usually relates to personal closeness.” This is why they may want to marry daddy or insist that their babysitter is their girlfriend, simply because they want to spend time together.

THE COMMON CONCERN: Kin-

WE ASKED KIDS…

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE IN LOVE?

dergarten children may begin to mention a peer being their boyfriend or girlfriend, and might either discuss it enthusiastically, or become embarrassed by any mention of their new “love”.

THE LOVE LESSON: “Along the

“You hug and kiss people.”

“I don’t know, look it up online.”

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MARTIN, 13

“Being nice.”

“Seeing a black and white world in beautiful colour.”

DECLAN, 5

ELLA, 16

“Hearts.”

AUDREY, 8

“To put the other person before yourself.”

“Mushy gushy.”

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EVAN, 10

“You find the perfect somebody.”

“Having a best friend and significant other all in one.”

GREGORY, 10

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whole developmental spectrum I would encourage parents not to tease or make a big deal out of these sorts of relationships,” advises Dr. Bax, “and instead be curious about them.” She suggests asking your child what they like about that particular friend, opening the door to future conversations. Mom of three, Jennifer Desmond* from Kingston, Ont., says, “At this age, I tried to steer my kids away from the crush concept, acknowledging that they are going to have special friendships, but at this point it’s just friendship.” .com

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HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE? “Yep. With Jackie. I want to marry her, but she wants to marry someone else.”

HARRY, 4

“Yes, I love my mommy.

I was born and she fed me, and I turned 1, then 2, then 3, then 4, then 5.”

DECLAN, 5

“No, but Brooke and Sally are in love with me.

They chase me.”

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Middle School

“I’ll say no, even though that may or may not be the truth.”

PHILIP, 10

WHAT IS LOVE: As kids begin to go through puberty, sexual

feelings may start to emerge, leading to the beginning of an exploration of sexual attraction and their own sexuality.

As well, kids at this age develop a better understanding of what love means in our western culture. “While relationships may still be about status at this age, they may start to have feelings for someone who is supportive, or whom they share a hobby, interest or emotional connection,” says Dr. Bax. THE COMMON CONCERN: Unrequited love, and how to sup-

port your heartbroken child after a breakup, or when their affections are not returned.

THE LOVE LESSON: According to Dr. Bax, breakups are a huge challenge at this age, and parents need to be nonjudgmental and acknowledge that this is a loss for them. Listen and respect their feelings, while at the same time helping them to look forward. “For adolescents, the moment is everything and their emotions are so strong. It’s important to help put the relationship into context for them.” Encourage them to go out, to spend time with other friends (it’s important to make sure they are not isolated), and maintain schoolwork and hobbies.

“If I tell you, I’ll have to end you.”

KYLE, 11

High School WHAT IS LOVE: While we may assume relationships at this

age are still “puppy love”, Dr. Bax stresses that there’s no magic age where you can definitively fall in love. “There are some adults who have not learned what love really is! It’s more about being capable than it is about age, and having the important components: the intimacy, mutual support, companionship and wanting to be together. When it’s more about care and commitment and less about status achievement, I think that’s when love occurs.” For teens, their capacity for this depends on their maturity, previous experience in relationships and their relationship role models.

THE COMMON CONCERN: Many parents worry about the misconceptions about love that their children see in the media. Hannah Long, mom of three teens, says, “I think my biggest fear for my kids is that the Internet is the first place they go for advice and information, and what is portrayed as love online and in the media is often misleading and unrealistic.” Adds the very insightful 16-year-old Yolanda: “Falling in love is not the same as in the movies.”

THE LOVE LESSON: While Dr. Bax recommends limiting media use and making sure what your child watches is developmentally appropriate, she stresses that it’s also important to have discussions about what your child is seeing, even asking them if they think the magical and transformative messages about romantic love are realistic. She also points out that “while media is a strong force, our children can also be influenced greatly by the adults in their lives, and it’s important to realize that what they see in relationships, whether in their own parents’, their friends’ parents’, or even how a teacher or other adult talks about their partner in passing, also has a very strong influence.” *names changed

“I have had the privilege of being in love. It is seeing the best in each other and working through hard times together.”

FARRAH, 16

“Maybe infatuation, but not love.”

ANNA, 16

“Yes, and I wish I could know how he would answer this question. I want to tell him I love him!”

KYLA, 16

THE EXPERT ANSWERS:

WHAT IF YOU DON’T LIKE THE OBJECT OF YOUR CHILD’S AFFECTION?

DR. BAX: You close the doors of communication when you take a hard stand with your kids about their romantic relationships or their friends. Ask them what they see in that person; sometimes parents can be surprised because what they see isn’t the same.

Talk about qualities that make a good mate. In clinical practice, when a teen is in a serious relationship that we might be concerned about, I like to ask, “Do you see yourself with this person in 10 years?” Adolescents feel like the here and now is the most important thing, so sometimes helping them look to the future gives them some perspective and they realize that a long-term commitment with that person might not be what they want.

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movin ’ onup A NEW HOUSE SOUNDS EXCITING, DOESN’T IT? FOR KIDS WHO DON’T LOVE CHANGE, MOVING IS MORE SCARY THAN ANYTHING, PARTICULARLY IF IT COMES WITH A NEW SCHOOL.

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THE WALLS HAVE BELLY BUTTONS ON THEM? For Jackson, this was a totally legitimate fear about the house we just purchased. After all, belly buttons represented all that was currently terrifying in his world. So it made perfect sense that navels should figure in his misgivings about moving. While my husband and I could barely contain our excitement, my eight-year-old son was having nightmarish visions at the prospect of such major change. I say, “major” because although our home was not the only place he’d ever lived, it was the only one he remembered. And here were his trusted parents, pulling the rug out from under him, almost literally.

When it comes to stressful life events, moving is up there with death and divorce. And no wonder.

Even though kids aren’t the ones packing boxes and contacting utilities, it’s often the little people who feel the uncertainty and chaos of relocation most acutely. Not only do they have to adjust to a strange new bedroom, they may also be leaving behind the only school and community they’ve ever known.

For kids who thrive on stability and predictability, moving can prove a downright traumatic experience that elicits a mixed bag of emotions: apprehension, eagerness, sorrow, dread, even resentment. A UK study from Warwick Medical School suggests that kids who switch schools frequently may experience “feelings of low self-esteem and a sense of social defeat” as well as mental health concerns later in life – particularly, adds another recent study, if the move occurs during early adolescence.

That’s why it’s so crucial for grown-ups to stay upbeat and positive, says therapist and leading parenting educator, Alyson Schafer. Moving naturally makes kids feel insecure. They need reassurance about what the change will mean for them.

Will I still see grandma? Will I go to the same school? Can I see my friends? Will the dog come, too? Even if kids don’t ask such questions outright, Schafer urges parents to address potential concerns to help children “feel a sense of control and to anticipate what will happen”.

No two kids are alike, of course. While relocating can be tough on kids like Jackson, some remain utterly, pleasantly oblivious. Still, others appear resilient at the time, only to reel from the impact later on.

In cases where separation necessitates the sale of the family home, such upheaval is exacerbated.

When his parents broke up, six-year-old Aiden* was suddenly forced to adapt to two new homes, two distinct routines, and, ultimately, his parents’ respective new partners. Although Ottawa mom, Janet Morrison, did her best to help her son navigate the transition (showing him pictures of the new apartment and allowing him to decorate

his new room), she wasn’t involved in his father’s move. Aside from clinging more to his stuffed animals before and immediately after the move, Aiden adapted easily to the transition – even better, joked his mom Janet, than her.

“As long as he could play and have his belongings with him, he seemed to deal well with our move, whereas I would often feel sad and nostalgic.” At one point, Aiden even said, “Mom, it’s just a house,” reminding her that it’s not the physical structure that makes a home, but the people who live there.

As our own move drew near, Jackson’s mounting anxiety grew alongside the sealed boxes, piled high in the living room. We rhymed off the virtues of the pad, and gushed at how his new bedroom was so much better than his current one. Twice we took him to visit our dream house, hoping some of our enthusiasm would rub off on him. Both times he refused to set foot past the sitting room, and buried himself in his iPad. The hard sell clearly wasn’t working, so we backed off.

Sleepless nights followed, for all of us. Our collective anxiety spilled into the school day.

Jackson was irritable. Any little trifle set him off. I explained our situation to his teacher so she would cut him some slack while he wrestled with difficult feelings. At home I made a concerted effort to listen more and talk less. I won’t lie; it was hard.

When moving day finally rolled around, we were all relieved and deeply exhausted. One of the first things I did was put fresh sheets on Jackson’s bed, and hung familiar pictures on the bare walls of his room. See, I told him. All your stuff is here.

I bought a new bin and organized his toys while Daddy put up his bookcase.

By the end of the week Jackson was easing into the new digs and adjusting to the routine, which included a different route to school.

At bedtime I overheard my husband ask my son which house he preferred. I held my breath, afraid to hear the answer. It’s too soon, I silently chided my hubby. Then Jackson exclaimed, “This one. I love this house!”

Good, I thought – feeling worry seep out of me like a slowly deflating balloon – because I’m not moving again for another 20 years. * Names changed by request.

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TO SUPPORT AND PREPARE CHILDREN OF ALL AGES FOR THIS MAJOR, OFTEN INEVITABLE, TRANSITION, SCHAFER HAS THE FOLLOWING ADVICE: Provide information to help kids anticipate what the new place will be like. Show them pictures and if possible, arrange a walk-through of the space.

Explain how the week of the move will go.

For example, will they be at a babysitter’s, or travel in the car with mom and dad?

Allow children to pack (and unpack) a box of their favourite things so they feel a sense of control during the process.

Set up their bedrooms first to give them time to settle in.

Explain that it’s normal to feel upset and anxious during a move.

Share any personal stories you may have from your own childhood moves.

Emphasize the aspects of their lives that will remain the same.

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ASK A DIETITIAN I understand the recommendations of what to feed babies and toddlers has changed. This includes first foods and foods that can cause allergies. Can you please clarify the current guidelines?

THERE HAS BEEN A REAL SHAKE-UP IN the recommendations of what to feed babies and toddlers. For decades, there was a standard order of introducing cereal, in particular rice cereal, as the first solid food, followed by vegetables, then fruit and so on.

The new advice, called Nutrition for Healthy Term Infants: Recommendations from Six to 24 Months, is a joint statement of Health Canada, Canadian Paediatric Society, Dietitians of Canada and Breastfeeding Committee for Canada.

Notice the age group in the title. Not only have the suggested foods changed, but also when to begin feeding solids. Rather than starting at four months of age, parents can enjoy watching their young ones eat solids for the first time at six months.

Iron-rich choices, such as meat and alternatives like pulses (lentils or kidney beans for example) and iron-fortified cereals should be the initial solids introduced at this time. But these selections should be complementary to the breast

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or formula feeding. Other foods can then be introduced in any order and can depend on what the family is eating.

Offering a variety of shapes and textures, from lumpy and pureed to finger foods, before nine months of age may help to prevent your child from developing into a picky eater. Avoid choking hazards such as whole grapes, whole nuts or seeds, nut butter on a spoon or thickly spread and pieces of raw hard fruits or vegetables like apples and carrots.

There’s a big change, however, in the area of potentially allergenic foods. Rather than holding off on their introduction, research is showing that feeding options such as eggs, cow’s milk, wheat, fish, soy and nuts and seeds earlier may decrease the risk of allergies. It can take a day for reactions to occur, so it’s best to introduce new foods at a slower pace of not more than one new food over a two-day period. If there’s no reaction, these selections should be included regularly to keep up the tolerance. But for those with food

Rosie Schwartz is a consulting dietitian in private practice in Toronto and author of The Enlightened Eater’s Whole Foods Guide (Viking Canada). Read more at rosieschwartz.com.

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What started as a "what if" conversation between Lindsay Anderson and Dana Vanveller during a camping trip in Squamish, BC, resulted in a culinary road trip that spanned 36,767 km to all 10 provinces and three territories over a fivemonth period.

What is "Canadian" food any way? With the flip of a page we are collecting sea water in Tofino and making our own sea salt, then we head to the Laurentians to make an authentic Tourtiere. Why not whip up some Sri Lankan Curried Shrimp, or Bison Sausage Rolls, or Traditional Arctic Char 'Pipsi' (which is Char that has been dried in chunks), or Scottish Oatcakes from New Brunswick?

I love this book – I love the melding of traditional Native Canadian recipes with those brought to our shores through wave after wave of immigration. What greater way to celebrate how beautifully diverse we are as a nation, than to connect through the uniting act of breaking bread together.

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allergies, parents should consult their healthcare professional.

Believe it or not, it’s also time to forget the sippy cup. An open cup helps infants to develop mature drinking skills and doesn’t encourage prolonged bottle feeding.

There are a few other recommendations that still stand. Breast is best is still the mantra. However, when cow’s milk is introduced, it should still be homogenized milk, not fat-reduced, until the toddler is two years old. For breastfed babies, 400 IU of vitamin D is also recommended. Another long standing rule is to avoid feeding honey to an infant under one year of age as there is a risk of botulism poisoning at this age.

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THE FIRST MESS COOKBOOK: Vibrant Plant-Based Recipes to Eat Well Through the Seasons By: Laura Wright I’ve been following Laura Wright’s blog for awhile now and was eagerly anticipating the arrival of her first cookbook. Happily, this visually stunning book has inspired and encouraged both myself and my daughter to explore more plant-centric meals for our family. Laura provides an incredible array of ideas, tips and recipes (120 to be exact) to help introduce this way of cooking and eating to your household. Her recipe for Butternut and Pesto Cream Lasagna will leave your tastebuds satisfied…and your tummy happy. The addition of white beans to the basil pesto adds heft and creaminess normally achieved with ricotta and cream.

Trust me – you will not miss the dairy in this delicious lasagna.

My daughter particularly loves the versatility of the Burrito-Stuffed Sweet Potatoes – basically a deconstructed burrito using a sweet potato as the base. My personal favourite recipe is the Garlicky Winter Vegetable and White Bean Mash with Mushroom Miso Gravy.

The combination of celeriac, cauliflower and parsnip makes for a sweet and light puree-and the addition of miso to the mushroom gravy was pure genius.

The First Mess is a great guide to delicious plant-based meals that your entire family will enjoy.

For more on healthy eating go to ParentsCanada.com/nutrition

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When strawberries, blueberries, raspberries and blackberries are at their peak, abundant in backyards and at youpick farms across the country, take advantage!

Incorporate as many into your daily meals as possible. Packed with nutrients and fibre, and low in calories, berries of all kinds are perfect for packing in picnic baskets, tossing into salads and turning into smoothies. Store them in the fridge with a paper towel to absorb excess moisture, or freeze in a single layer, then transfer to freezer bags for longer storage.

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Quick Skillet Jam It’s a myth that preserves need to be made in large batches – with a basket of berries on hand, or a few that are starting to get too squishy to eat on their own, you can mix up a single jar of jam to keep in the fridge and dip into for a few weeks. With a larger surface area, a skillet helps it cook more quickly – you can make a micro batch in minutes. Measurements are approximate – if you want to wing it, go for about a third as much sugar as you have mashed juicy fruit, and cook until it’s thick and jam-like.

3 cups (750 mL) fresh berries, hulled and trimmed if needed 3/4 cup (185 mL) sugar, or as needed 1 tbsp (15 mL) lemon or lime juice (optional)

Berry Cookie Pizza A giant cookie makes the perfect vehicle for berries in season; serve it in slices like a pizza – if you want to be fancier about it, call it a tart.

COOKIE DOUGH: 1/2 cup (125 mL) butter, at room temperature 1 cup (250 mL) sugar 1 large egg 1 tsp (5 mL) vanilla 1 1/2 cups (375 mL) all-purpose flour 1/2 tsp (2 mL) baking soda 1/4 tsp (2 mL) salt FROSTING: 1/4 cup (60 mL) butter, softened 1 1/2 cups (375 mL) icing sugar 1 tbsp (15 mL) milk 1/2 tsp (2 mL) vanilla 2 cups (500 mL) fresh berries (or as needed) fresh mint (optional) Preheat the oven to 375˚F.

Roasted Strawberry Ice Cream Strawberries make the ultimate summer ice cream – roasting them first coaxes out their juices, intensifying flavours for an even more spectacular scoop. Whisking together a simple base of sweetened berries and cream means there’s no need to prepare and chill a custard.

1 lb strawberries (about 3 cups), hulled and halved if large 1/2 cup (125 mL) sugar (divided) 1 tbsp (15 mL) lemon juice 1 cup (250 mL) heavy (whipping) cream 1 cup (250 mL) half and half cream Preheat the oven to 350˚F. In a medium bowl, toss the strawberries with 1/4 cup of the sugar and lemon juice, and then spread out on a parchment-lined

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In a large bowl, beat the butter and sugar for 2–3 minutes, until pale and light. Beat in the egg and vanilla.

Add the flour, baking soda and salt and stir or beat on low speed just until the dough comes together. (You may have to use your hands to shape it into a ball.)

On a piece of parchment paper, roll the dough into a circle or oval 1/4 inch thick and about 12 inches in diameter. Pinch any cracks around the edges closed with your fingers. Transfer the sheet to a baking sheet and bake for 10–12 minutes, or until pale golden. Transfer to a wire rack to cool.

To make the frosting, beat the butter until creamy, add about half the icing sugar along with the milk and vanilla and beat until smooth; beat in additional sugar until you have a spreadable consistency.

Spread over the completely cooled cookie and top with berries. Garnish with fresh mint, if you like. Serves 12.

PER SERVING: 300 calories, 11.3 g fat (7.5 g saturated fat, 3.2 g monounsaturated fat, 0.6 g polyunsaturated fat), 46 mg cholesterol, 46.6 g carbohydrate, 2.5 g protein, 1.4 g fibre.

Set a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add the berries and cook, mashing with a fork, spoon or potato masher, until chunky. Add the sugar – you should have about a third as much as you have fruit – and cook, stirring with a wooden spoon or heatproof spatula, until the mixture bubbles and thickens.

Cook until the spoon leaves a trail on the bottom of the pan when you draw it through the jam. Set aside to cool and store in a jar in the fridge for up to two weeks. Makes about 1 1/2 cups.

PER TABLESPOON: 31 calories, 0 g fat, 0 mg cholesterol, 7.9 g carbohydrate, 0.1 g protein, 0.6 g fibre.

Fresh Berry Salsa Berry salsa bursts with colour and flavour – it’s quick to stir together and delicious served over grilled chicken or fish, or served with tortilla chips.

1 cup (250 mL) diced strawberries 1 cup (250 mL) blueberries 1 mango, diced 1 small avocado, pitted and diced 2 tbsp (15 mL) chopped fresh mint or cilantro 1 tbsp (15 mL) fresh lime juice 1 tbsp (15 mL) honey In a medium bowl, gently combine the berries, mango, avocado fresh mint or cilantro, lime juice and honey, tossing to coat. Serve immediately or refrigerate until needed. Makes about 3 cups.

PER 1/4 CUP: 56 calories, 1.7 g fat (0.3 g saturated fat, 1.2 g monounsaturated fat, 0.3 g polyunsaturated fat), 0 mg cholesterol, 10.6 g carbohydrate, 0.7 g protein, 2 g fibre.

rimmed baking sheet and roast for 30 minutes, stirring once or twice, until darkened and juicy. Set aside to cool completely.

In the same bowl, whisk together the creams and remaining sugar. Scrape the roasted berries, along with any juices that have accumulated on the bottom of the pan, into the cream and stir to combine.

If you want it more uniform, pulse the mixture in a blender or food processor until as smooth or chunky as you like.

Freeze the mixture in your ice cream machine according to the manufacturer’s instructions, and transfer to a container to store in the freezer. Makes about 1 L. PER 1/2 CUP: 208 calories, 13.8 g fat (9 g saturated fat, 4.2 g monounsaturated fat, 0.6 g polyunsaturated fat), 51 mg cholesterol, 19 g carbohydrate, 1.9 g protein, 1.1 g fibre.

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SALMON: walk the plank Planked salmon is simple to prepare, the plank acting as a buffer between the delicate fish and intense heat of the grill while infusing the meat with flavour as it smoulders. Untreated cedar planks are inexpensive, and can be found in the seafood department of most grocery stores. Coat any veggies you have on hand, like asparagus, broccolini, peppers and zucchini, in oil and grill them alongside the salmon. Leftovers can be tossed into a quick pasta salad for lunch or dinner the next day. B Y J U L I E V A N R O S E N D A A L

MAPLE CEDAR PLANKED SALMON + VEGGIES Soak your plank for half an hour or so beforehand, then place it on a preheated grill until it starts to smoulder. Place your fish on the plank – use your favourite marinade, or just sprinkle with salt and pepper – cover and cook for about 20 minutes, until the edge of the fish flakes. It’s a good idea to have a spray bottle of water on hand in case of flare-ups.

1 1/2 lb (750 g) salmon or steelhead trout filet fresh asparagus, peppers, broccolini, zucchini or other veggies olive or canola oil salt and pepper GLAZE (optional): 1/3 cup maple syrup 1 tbsp lemon juice 1 tbsp soy sauce 1 garlic clove, crushed 1 tsp grated ginger Soak an untreated cedar plank in water for at least half an hour. This is easy to do in the sink – just place a pan or other object on the plank to keep it submerged. Trim your veggies and toss with oil to coat; sprinkle with salt and pepper.

In a small bowl, stir together the glaze ingredients (if you’re using a glaze) and spread over the surface of the salmon.

Otherwise, sprinkle it with salt and pepper.

Preheat your grill to medium-high and place your plank on the grill for about 5 minutes, or until it starts to smoulder. Place the filet on the plank. Close the lid and cook for about 10 minutes, lifting the lid occasionally to check for flares. Place the veggies on the grill alongside and cook for another 5–10 minutes, opening and closing the lid as you need to, until the fish is cooked through (fat will rise to the surface, and the edge should flake with a fork) and the veggies are tender-crisp. Serves 4.

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Substitute steelhead trout for salmon, it has a similar look and taste.

Toss leftover cold flaked salmon with cooked chunky pasta, any leftover grilled veggies, grape tomatoes, crumbled feta, fresh herbs and balsamic or red wine vinegar vinaigrette. Or make an Asian-style pasta salad with carrots, pea pods, blanched broccoli and sesame-ginger vinaigrette.

For more leftover ideas go to ParentsCanada.com/quickmeals

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On your marks Infantile hemangiomas, or “strawberry marks”, will fade over time.

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When Shivali Bhatia gave birth to identical twin girls, Aditi and Avani, it was easy for visitors to identify them correctly. Both babies developed an infantile hemangioma, but in different spots; Aditi’s strawberry-red mark appeared on the back while Avani has a prominent one on her cheek. “We didn’t notice anything when they were born at 31 weeks,” says Bhatia, who lives in Toronto. “They were in the NICU and on the third day, I saw a small, pimple-like spot on Avani’s cheek. The next morning, it had grown to a pea-sized boil. Every day, for the first few weeks, it grew a little more until it was the size of a bright red strawberry.”

Dr. John Freedman, pediatrician at the Thornhill Paediatric and Adolescent Clinic, says that a strawberry hemangioma is a growth formed due to an abnormal collection of blood vessels and gradually fades away on its own. “It usually starts developing inside the uterus. It starts evolving and becomes most prominent when the baby is three to five months of age. In 90 percent of the cases, the hemangioma doesn’t need to be treated and goes away on its own.” The name of the hemangioma, also known as a strawberry mark, is self-explanatory because the surface looks bright red like the fruit.

Bhatia and her husband Raj were assured by nurses at the NICU that strawberry hemangiomas are generally harmless and can be left alone. However, they were given the option for a consultation at SickKids Hospital in Toronto. “Since our twins were preemies, we wanted to make sure there was nothing to worry about. The doctors at SickKids assured us that strawberry hemangiomas of this kind are pretty common and are best left alone.

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There was always a chance of scarring if we tinkered with it, so we decided to let it be.”

Aditi and Avani are now four-and-a-half years old, and while Aditi’s mark on the back is nearly gone, Avani’s still remains visible. “The hemangiomas started shrinking when the girls were a year old. Now, Avani’s can barely be seen. Aditi still has it but the colour has changed from a bright red to brown so it is blending with her skin,” says Bhatia. “It has always been a topic of conversation.

Whenever people would visit them as babies, it came up often because Aditi’s hemangioma was so prominently located on the face. At birthday parties and when the girls started preschool, it was always noticed. Some hesitate to ask while others are too outspoken and make it their first question. Little ones sometimes get curious and want to touch it.” Bhatia has also been told, often by complete strangers, that her daughters are considered very lucky because they have birthmarks.

According to Dr. Freedman, all hemangiomas fade by age five or six and are completely gone by age 10. “Unless the hemangioma is in a spot where doctors feel it will interfere with body function, there is no treatment needed. In severe cases, where internal organ functions are involved, a medication called Propranolol is administered,” he says.

For Aditi, the strawberry mark has become a part of her identity, and what makes her unique. When she draws a picture of her family, she ensures her face has the birthmark.

A prominent strawberry birthmark can attract unwanted attention, but there are several ways to address the situation. says Dr. Shudeshna Nag, a pediatrician specializing in pediatric dermatology.

Deal with questions from others directly, and using appropriate terminology.

For example, “It’s a hemangioma, a type of birthmark that is going to fade away over time.” As your child gets older, teach them to address questions from curious children in the same manner. Remember, a hemangioma may be more bothersome to you than to your child.

Have a positive attitude.

Your child’s own attitude towards it will generally reflect yours so avoid continually drawing attention to it or implying that you can’t wait for it to disappear.

Emphasize to your child that it is a natural and harmless spot on the skin, and that everyone has differences about them that make them unique.

Talk to your doctor if you’re concerned. While most hemangiomas are harmless, some (about 12 percent) are problematic in terms of location or skin breakdown, or may simply have a very bothersome appearance to you or your child. Ask your doctor if treatment is a possibility. Topical and oral treatments are available to speed up the disappearance of a hemangioma, and may be prescribed by your child’s pediatrician or a dermatologist. Remember that some treatment options have side effects and may not be advised in your child’s situation.

Learn more about your baby at ParentsCanada.com/Baby

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HOWEVER YOU SLEEP, YOU’RE PROTECTED.

Time-out tactics A cooling off period, along with communication, can go a long way.

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Infant beavers are called kittens.

because you keep pulling the dog’s tail”. Stick to your guns and ignore any crying. If your child leaves the time-out area, start the timer again.

Dr. Mary C. Lamia does examine the downside to time-outs in Psychology Today.

“Time-outs teach the child that one should separate oneself from others and from the problem, rather than remain connected and work it out,” she says. So be sure to keep the lines of communication open, rather than just immediately banishing your child to the timeout chair/area.

Andrea says that after time-outs with her son, they always hug it out. “It’s not about him being a bad person; it’s about him demonstrating that he can’t be in whatever situation he is in and showing me he needs a break. And every action has a consequence.

Good actions have good consequences (which I try really hard to remember and acknowledge) and bad actions have bad consequences, like a time-out.”

Encourage mindfulness and deep breathing techniques as your child cools down. And while time-outs won’t fix unwanted behaviour overnight, the hope is that you’ll see some change over time.

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I’ve never really given my daughter time-outs.

Part of the reasoning behind this is that she takes it upon herself to do so. If we are having a bit of a battle and her emotions get the better of her, she simply goes to her room to cool off (and to prove she is angry at me). This has worked for both of us – I’m not the bad guy and she gets the space she needs to chill out.

Andrea Miller, a Hamilton, Ont. native and mom of two, agrees that space is key. When she instructs her son to take a time-out in his room, “the understanding is he can read or colour (there are no toys in his room) or snuggle or whatever. Or rage, if it feels better to let it out.”

The bedroom time-out can be up for debate, however. Andrea says, “I’ve struggled with using his room for time-out because I want that to be his safe place where he can go when he needs space and not see it as a jail cell.”

According to SickKids Hospital, time-outs need to be given consistently and in the right place. “Time-outs should last about one minute per year of the child’s age, to a maximum of five minutes. Time-outs should not be near a TV, computer or other forms of entertainment,” according to aboutkidshealth.ca.

The time-out in itself isn’t enough, however.

When a time-out is given, your child should clearly understand why it is happening.

Explain, for example, “You are on a time-out

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Circle of Friends

Children form “cliques” at a young age; but is that a bad thing?

It seems inevitable that, as young as gradeschool level, we gravitate toward kids with whom we share similar interests. I had friends in the drama club and school newspaper because those were the social groups that I was involved in. However, now that I’m a mom to a four-year-old, I’m amazed to see that, even in daycare, the kids are segregating themselves into their own little groups.

And I wondered, is this a good thing?

On the one hand, my son was extremely enamoured with his core circle of friends (whom happened to all be girls), so I was relieved – he seemed to have nice kids to hang out and play with, and despite the odd toddler spat (“So-andso didn’t play with me today because I couldn’t sing the song from Trolls”), they all got along beautifully.

But, at the same time, I didn’t like to think that maybe he was excluding other kids by being in his newfound “clique”. It’s nice to have friends, but what about the kids who haven’t yet found friends or cliques – maybe he should be encouraged to play with those children too?

Jacqueline Sanderson is an RECE (Registered Early Childhood Educator) at a YMCA daycare program in Guelph, Ont. She said that kids start forming cliques from a very young age, and that it’s neither a good thing nor a bad. “It’s not a positive or a negative – it’s the natural flow to forming personalities,” she explained. “The children are just deciding what they’re interested in and finding kids who are into those same things.

As they get older and start to become exclusive and maybe stop letting others join in, then you can have a conversation about having empathy for those around them.”

For now, she monitors how the children Bluebirds cannot see the colour blue.

interact with their peers who are outside their designated cliques. “I’ll listen for a few minutes to see what is being said… if I hear, ‘I don’t want to be your friend because you pushed me,’ then they’re kids having a conflict and they will work it out,” she said. “But if they say, ‘I don’t want to be your friend’ and walk away, I’ll ask what happened. But generally, kids are very friendly.”

Dr. Yaniv Elharrar is a child psychologist and one of the founders of the West Island Therapy Centre, located just outside of Montreal, Que. He, too, said that cliques are a part of growing up and learning social skills within friendships.

“Establishing friendships are key and important when kids are young – that’s when kids develop those skills of making friends, understanding what friendships entail, and they do so by playing and being together with friends,” he said. “By itself a clique isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Children will have an affinity for certain kids over others because they have common interests or are at their development level. But unless the child seems unhappy with their peer group, adults shouldn’t intervene. Let it occur naturally.” After all, he pointed out, we wouldn’t want someone dictating to us who we’re allowed to be friends with.

The important thing to ensure as parents is that our children are in healthy peer groups, where they’re content and allowed to be themselves without compromising who they are. “If they’re not learning inappropriate behaviour, that’s great,” Elharrar said. “It’s healthy to be in those groups because they will learn what it is to socialize and learn how to socialize well. In the end, there are a lot of benefits to cliques.”

Learn more about friendships at ParentsCanada.com/makingfriends .com

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FIRST AID FIRST

Keep a fully-stocked first aid kit in your home. Take it with you camping or cottaging, and create smaller versions to keep in the car or to carry on hikes. Here’s what you need, according to the Canadian Red Cross. › Sterile gauze pads to place over wounds › Adhesive tape › Bandages to hold dressings in place or to make an arm sling, plus adhesive bandages in assorted sizes

Safety first!

Provide the tools (and rules) for a safe and happy summer.

› Scissors, tweezers, safety pins › Instant ice packs

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› Disposable non-latex gloves,

Children need time to explore, create and play independently – as long as it in a safe environment. Use these general summer safety tips, go over them with your kids, then let them have a little fun.

course, always having an adult present. Those are just a few to start. For full water safety rules, visit redcross.ca.

Remember that kids should not be left unattended in a pool area, even for a moment.

› Flashlight, with extra batteries in a separate bag

1. SLATHER ON THE SUNSCREEN Sunscreen isn’t just for sweltering, sunny days; there are harmful UV rays lurking about on cloudy days, too. Use a minimum of SPF 15, but don’t go too crazy – stick to a maximum of SPF 60. It is easy to miss spots if you are using a spray sunscreen, so be sure to spray every area of exposed skin. Use lotion on the face rather than spray to avoid inhalation of the sunscreen. Use water-resistant sunscreen and reapply after water activities.

4. SUIT UP A proper helmet is needed for biking, scooting, roller blading or skateboarding. Be sure that your child’s helmet is certified by the Canadian Standards Association or the Consumer Product Safety Commission and fits properly.

It should not fall over the ears or eyes. Chances are, your kiddo will need a new helmet each year to achieve that perfect fit. Skip the used helmets. A secondhand helmet may be old and damaged. Sure it’s nice to save a few bucks, but it’s better to be safe.

Don’t forget the kneepads, elbowpads, wristguards and gloves – particularly for rookie two-wheel riders and skateboarders.

› Emergency blanket

3. PRACTISE POOL SAFETY According to redcross.ca, you should establish a set of pool rules, even for your own backyard. Rules can include swimming with a buddy, entering the water feet first, keeping the pool deck clear of toys and debris, and, of

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5. RESPECT THE ENVIRONMENT Mother nature can get pretty crazy in the summer, so show her some respect. Rainstorms can be fun to splash around in, but avoid being outdoors as soon as you see lightning – especially when in the pool, on a lake, on a baseball field or on a golf course.

Rivers, lakes and creeks can become very dangerous during heavy rain, with strong currents and flooding.

Even “expert” swimmers should avoid all bodies of water during a storm.

› Pencil and pad › Coins for pay phone (plus important numbers for family, friends and emergency services) FOR THE CAR › A battery-powered radio and flashlight, with extra batteries › A blanket › Booster (jumper) cables › A fire extinguisher › Bottled water and highenergy foods that won’t go bad (watch expiry dates and replace when necessary) › Maps of the area › A shovel, flares, matches and tire repair kit Keep your home safe and sound. Visit ParentsCanada.com/safety

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2. STAY HYDRATED It’s always important to drink plenty of water, but this is even truer during the summer months. Before you head to the park, or even the backyard, pre-hydrate. Gather the family and toast with a big glass of cold water. Keep water bottles with you on hikes and bike rides, and offer fruit as snacks through the day. After high-energy activities like soccer or even swimming, rehydrate.

› Antiseptic wipes or soap

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TAKING the HIGH ROAD

Going to pot

With so much talk about legalizing marijuana, it’s time for the drug talk again.

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In Canada, marijuana is currently legal for medicinal purposes only. But as our federal government expands regulations to include recreational use – and more and more retailers set up shop in anticipation of selling it – the reality is that marijuana use will be much more mainstream in the future.

And now, kids hear the word “legal” or catch wind of the fight for legalization and assume this means it is safe.

Given this new era of legalization, talking about drug use with your tweens/teens and dispelling the myths from facts may be more critical than ever. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, about 45 percent of teens have used marijuana before they graduate high school. But more concerning is that those who begin using the drug before age 18, are up to seven times more likely than adults to develop problem use.

A leading expert on alcohol and drug policy, Frances Harding is the director of the Center for Substance Abuse Prevention at the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), an agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. She says the “ideal” time to broach the subject of marijuana with your child is as early as possible.

“If your child is asking questions or if you overhear a conversation they’re having about it with friends, sit them down afterward and give them the facts,” says Frances, adding that parents need to educate themselves beforehand.

“Kids often don’t understand how marijuana gets into their brain and affects decision-making and emotion, and they perceive it as having the lowest risk among illicit drugs.”

Margaret*, an Ontario mother of two, knows just how wrong this perception is. Her son, once a star athlete with a bright future in sports, tried marijuana for the first time

in Grade 9 and now smokes it daily at the age of 23. In his second year of university, his marijuana use brought on a psychotic episode that caused him to drop out of school entirely.

“It’s really not something his brain can handle and it has done a lot of damage,” says Margaret. “He has had other mental breakdowns since and it’s a vicious circle.” Multiple studies have shown that marijuana-induced psychotic episodes tend to happen in the late teens, while the brain is developing.

By now, we all know the signs to look for when it comes to drug use: changes in mood, blood shot eyes, memory impairment, lack of coordination and strangely smelling clothes (or the sudden use of incense or room deodorizers).

Plus, posters, clothes with pot leaves on them may seem harmless, but consider why your child is glorifying marijuana. Have the talk before you notice any of these things.

On a positive note, Frances says research shows that tweens actually do listen to their parents contrary to popular belief. “It may not seem so immediately but it does stay in their thinking,” she says. “That’s why you want to be direct, have a serious tone and treat this topic like anything else you would perceive as dangerous for your child.”

Make it clear that, like alcohol, the word “legal” does not mean healthy or appropriate for kids.

And if you suspect there is drug use even after multiple discussions, Frances advises seeking help from a healthcare professional. “I’d rather parents make a mistake and overreact than let it go,” she says.

Similar to other drugs, the effects of taking marijuana depend on multiple factors such as the drug’s potency (determined by the amount of THC), how it’s taken, a person’s biology (e.g., genes) and even gender. Someone taking marijuana with a high concentration of THC for the first time, for example, may have a greater chance of a negative or unpredictable reaction. Some typical effects include: › euphoria or a “high” as the THC activates the body’s reward system resulting in a release of the chemical dopamine › memory impairment as the THC alters how information is processed in the frontal cortex of the brain › physical changes, such as bloodshot eyes, increased appetite and heart rate, or sleep issues › potential anxiety, fear, distrust or panic, particularly in people new to the drug or taking it in a strange setting (Adapted from the National Institute on Drug Abuse)

*Name changed to protect privacy

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Make the most of the summer by exploring all Toronto has to offer.

Or, venture outside the city for mini vacations that won’t break the bank.

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William Beasley/ Centreville Theme Park CENTRE ISLAND, TORONTO centreisland.ca/centreville If you haven’t ever been to Centreville, then there’s no better time than now! On July 6, 7 and 8, from 11:00 am to 4:00 pm, Centreville hosts KidsFest!

The activities are free for all to participate in and deliver fantastic family fun! Centreville’s Amusing Race combines trivia questions and roadblocks to send you on an exciting journey through Centreville and Far Enough

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Canlan Sportsplex Mississauga MISSISSAUGA, ONT. canlansports.com/Mississauga The FLASHFIT Kids camps are designed to introduce fun sports and games that will create a base for lifelong enjoyment of physical

activity and teamwork. Sports and activities vary each week of camp so that kids will participate and learn a variety of sports skills and stay motivated. Full-day camps include Friday pizza day and a free pedometer for first FITKIDS camp. Spaces are filling up quickly so register soon!

Ontario Science Centre 770 DON MILLS ROAD, TORONTO ontariosciencecentre.ca There’s so much to see and do for all ages at the Ontario Science Centre! From May 18 to September

4, step into the rescue effort with those who dedicate their lives to Wildlife Rescue. Explore the unique ways used to capture, raise and release endangered species back to the wild in the Species Recovery Centre. In honour of Canada’s 150th birthday, check out the brand new installation the whole family will love, Canada 150: Discovery Way – it focuses on the Canadian stories behind transformational inventions and innovations. Plus, don’t forget the summer camps! Ticket prices and exhibit dates vary. .com/Toronto

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Harbourfront Centre 235 QUEEN’S QUAY WEST, TORONTO harbourfrontcentre.com There’s always something new going on at Harbourfront Centre. This summer’s camps include Camp Reptilia, Survival Camp, and Paddle Sports Camp. Check their calendar for event updates for music, art, workshops and festivals throughout the summer.

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I love cheese.

When my mom was grating some, I snuck a couple of pieces, but it was crunchy and basically the worst cheese ever.

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Aria sure was disappointed when she discovered I was grating carrot.

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The best part of toast and jam?

Obviously the jam.

But I turned away for one second and BOOM!...no jam anymore. The question is, who took it? I will go crazy until I uncover this mystery.

-DAYNIAN, 2

His toast flipped upside-down. I turned it back over.

Mystery solved.

-KATRINA, MOM OF DAYNIAN

My mom is normally a great cook. I mean, really top notch. But today she served a lunch that was truly terrifying. I mean it really shook me up. These are tears of fear.

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Who knew that smiley-face fries were “too mean” to eat. Oops.

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I’ll admit it: I am a neat freak. I enjoy cleaning and washing my hands. My mom seems to have a problem with this though.

-ELIZABETH, 2

I’m happy she likes to be clean. I just don’t want her to wash her hands with toilet water.

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When I sleep, I like it completely dark.

It really is the only way to get a good night’s rest. My mom refused to turn out all the lights. © Shutterstock.com

-LORELAI, 2

Lorelai was wearing glow-inthe-dark pajamas.

My parents are no fun.

All I wanted to do was jump in a puddle, but my mom totally freaked out and my dad pulled me back before I could even get a toe in the water.

-AYLA, 2

I was pregnant and my water broke.

-JAYNE, MOM OF AYLA

-ASHLEY, MOM OF LORELAI

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