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By Kari Hanson The battle with screens for our kids’ attention is nothing new, but artificial intelligence is changing the game. It’s not just a screen to stare at; it’s permanently patient and ready with instant answers to our kids’ endless questions. It’s understandable that a kid could start viewing AI as a friend. And it’s easy for parents to rely on this new powerful tool to provide those answers and even educate and entertain our kids. But should we?

Are we at risk of replacing essential connections kids need with AI? I recently had the opportunity to ask Dr. Dana Suskind — a pediatric surgeon, developmental researcher and author of the new book “Human Raised: Nurturing Connection, Curiosity and Lifelong Learning in the Age of AI” — questions about what this means for kids and families. She shared some actionable, guilt-free advice on how parents can use AI to make our lives easier without accidentally outsourcing the real human connection our kids need most.

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ParentMap: What worries you most about AI and young children? What makes it different from previous technologies children have grown up with? Dr. Dana Suskind: What worries me most isn’t really that children will use AI. They likely have or will, in some capacity or another. It’s that AI can begin to take the place of human interaction during a period when children’s brains are literally built through relationships. Phones and tablets can certainly crowd out interaction. We’ve seen that for years. But AI introduces something different: It can respond to a child, personalize itself to a child, praise a child, answer every question patiently and correctly, and potentially become a pretty appealing social partner. That makes it much easier for technology to cross the line from something a child uses to something a child attaches to. Developmentally, that distinction matters. Children don’t just need information. They need the messy, reciprocal, unpredictable experience of being with other human beings — learning to read facial expressions, tolerate frustration, negotiate, repair misunderstandings, take another person’s perspective, and discover that other people have thoughts and needs of their own. PM: You make a distinction between AI that enhances parenting and AI that replaces human interaction. How can a parent tell the difference? What parts of parenting should never be outsourced? DS: My basic test is: Does the technology make it easier for the parent to be present, or does it make the parent less necessary? If AI helps me organize the family calendar, brainstorm a dinner from what’s in the refrigerator, translate information, or take some administrative burden off my plate so I have more time and energy for my child, that’s wonderful. That’s AI enhancing parenting. But if I’m using AI to answer my child’s questions so I don’t have to engage, or to soothe my child instead of comforting them myself, to entertain them whenever they’re bored, or to provide companionship when what they really need is a relationship, we’re moving toward replacement. Some things should remain fundamentally human: comforting a frightened child, celebrating their discoveries, helping them navigate conflict, setting boundaries, listening to their stories, tolerating their big emotions, teaching them how to repair a relationship and simply being there.

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PM: Can you explain what you mean when you talk about ‘good enough parenting,’ and why it can actually be good for kids? DS: “Good enough” parenting is one of the most liberating concepts in developmental science. Because it turns out, children don’t need parents who respond perfectly to every need, never lose patience, never miss a cue and create a frustration-free childhood. In fact, our imperfections are developmentally beneficial for our kids. Children actually develop resilience through ordinary experiences of mismatch and repair. I might misunderstand what my child needs. I might be distracted. I might say the wrong thing. What matters is that we reconnect, repair and keep going. Those little moments teach children something incredibly important: Relationships can survive imperfection. They learn that frustration is tolerable, that problems can be repaired and that they don’t need the world to respond perfectly to them. That’s particularly important in an AI age, because AI can create the illusion of perfect responsiveness. Human

“The goal isn’t to keep children away from technology, but to make sure technology doesn’t crowd out the human experiences developing brains need most.” beings aren’t like that, and children need to learn to coexist and collaborate and relate with other human beings; our future as a species literally depends on that. PM: Parents are already overwhelmed by advice about screens, social media and technology. How do you suggest we talk about AI without giving parents another reason to feel guilty? DS: Guilt doesn’t belong in the equation, honestly. Parents don’t need another impossible standard. Instead of asking, “Am I letting my child use too much AI?” I want parents to think about, “What is this technology replacing?” If AI is replacing a tedious household task and giving me 20 minutes to read with my child, that’s a win. If it’s replacing the conversation we would have had at bedtime, that’s something to reconsider. And we should remember that parents are making these decisions in a world where tech is designed to capture kids’

“‘Human-raised’ can’t be a status symbol. Human connection is a biological necessity, not a luxury good.” attention and keep it. This can’t be an individual parent’s burden alone. We need better products, better design, better research and sensible guardrails. I don’t want parents to feel guilty about technology. I want them to feel empowered to be intentional about it. PM: In your book you raise the possibility that human attention could become a kind of luxury. What do you mean by that and why does it matter? DS: You can easily imagine a world where families with resources can pay for people, schools and environments that provide children with rich, sustained human interaction, while everyone else is increasingly offered AI substitutes — AI tutors, AI companions, AI entertainment, AI caregivers. That would be deeply concerning because human connection isn’t a luxury good. It’s a developmental necessity.

We have to be careful that AI doesn’t create a two-tier childhood, where some children get abundant human relationships while others get increasingly sophisticated technological substitutes. The rise of ultra-processed foods offers a cautionary parallel: UPFs have been linked to dozens of health conditions, including obesity, Type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease, and the harms fall disproportionately on families with the fewest resources. Because higher-income families can increasingly opt out, by turning to “clean,” minimally processed and organic food. The danger is that AI could follow the same path: a technology that disproportionately crowds out the human experiences children need most among those least able to protect them, while affluent families quietly buy their way back to human connection. PM: How do we avoid turning ‘human-raised’ into another

parenting ideal that’s easier for families with more time, money and resources to achieve?

DS: This is incredibly important to me. “Human-raised” can’t be a status symbol. Human connection is a biological necessity, not a luxury good. So we protect against that by understanding the fundamental ingredients children need to develop: responsive relationships, conversation, play, curiosity, movement, sleep, opportunities to struggle, the experience

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of being known and loved by other human beings. And then being incredibly intentional — in our own parenting choices, in our advocacy work, in our conversations with our children’s teachers and administrators — about preserving those things. We also need to recognize that parents don’t all have the same choices. A single parent working two jobs has a very different set of constraints than a family with abundant time and resources. We shouldn’t turn developmental science into another tool for judging parents. In fact, I think the opposite should happen: We should use this knowledge to demand systems that make human connection easier for every family. PM: If AI gets better at answering questions, creating things and solving problems, what ‘human’ skills should parents intentionally cultivate? DS: I love this question. The more capable AI becomes, the more valuable the skills that aren’t simply about producing an answer become. I’d focus on curiosity, critical thinking, creativity, empathy, collaboration, communication,

“When a machine can produce an essay, generate an image or answer a question in seconds, we have to ask what is uniquely valuable about being human.” perspective-taking, frustration tolerance and the ability to navigate ambiguity. Capabilities that used to be dismissed as soft skills will become sought after. I call this phenomenon the Human Edge. The empathy to read a room before anyone speaks will go farther than ever. The critical thinking to question what AI confidently gets wrong will become essential, as will the moral judgment to decide what AI should do, not just what it can. The World Economic Forum’s Future of Jobs Report 2025, which surveyed more than 1,000 employers, identified empathy, resilience and creative thinking as the fastest-rising skills in the global economy. Those are also, not coincidentally, the skills with zero substitution potential from AI.

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PM: What are you most optimistic about when you think about children growing up alongside AI? DS: What makes me optimistic is that the things children need for healthy development haven’t changed. AI may transform how children learn, work and create, but it doesn’t change the science of a developing brain. Children still need to be talked to, played with, comforted, challenged, listened to and loved. They still need to experience boredom, frustration, curiosity and the joy of figuring something out for themselves. In fact, I think AI could ultimately help us see the value of those human experiences more clearly. When a machine can produce an essay, generate an image or answer a question in seconds, we have to ask what is uniquely valuable about being human. I’m optimistic that this moment gives us an opportunity to be really conscious about that answer. Rather than allowing technology to determine what childhood becomes, we can decide what we want to protect. We can use AI to eliminate some of the drudgery and give adults more time and bandwidth for the things machines can’t provide. PM: What should a parent do tonight to protect the human connection in their family? DS: Put down the phone and do something ordinary together. Have dinner. Take a walk. Read a book. Let your child tell you a story. We can get really focused on finding the perfect technology rules, the best tutor and so on. But some of the most powerful things parents can do are incredibly simple: look at your child, listen to them, follow their curiosity, give them your attention. And if you want one practical AI rule tonight, I’d make it this: Identify one moment in your family’s day that will remain unapologetically human. Maybe bedtime, breakfast, the walk home from school or the first 10 minutes after everyone gets home. No AI, no phones, no multitasking. Just people. Protecting childhood doesn’t mean creating a completely tech-free home. It just means making sure the tech never becomes more important than the relationships it’s supposed to serve.

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Parents often ask me, “What’s the right thing to say?” I understand why. Whether your child has lied, cheated, experimented with substances or faced heartbreaking news, as parents we want the perfect words. We imagine that if we can just find the right sentence, everything will fall into place. After decades of working with families, I’ve come to a different conclusion. Hard conversations rarely succeed because of one brilliant sentence. They succeed because of how parents enter the conversation. When our emotions are running high, we naturally want to fix, reassure or correct. We move quickly toward our own agenda. Children come to these conversations with different needs. Before they can truly connect with us, they need to feel secure. They need to know that you, as their parent, understand what the situation feels like to them. Meaningful guidance has a much better chance of taking root after children feel understood. Parents often tell me, “I need to nip this in the bud.” I understand the impulse. But most significant parenting challenges are less about pruning a bad bud than tending a garden. Brave conversations enrich the soil. They strengthen trust and the parent-child relationship so that later Alexander conversations have fertile By Gemma ground in which to grow.

The anatomy of a brave conversation With topics like school problems, substance use, sibling conflict, mental health or another difficult topic, the content of the conversation changes. The underlying anatomy of a brave conversation does not. Before you begin, here are six considerations worth carrying into almost every difficult conversation.

Before trying to influence your child, pause and imagine what it has been like to be them. 1/ Begin with yourself. The first conversation is always the one you have with yourself. What emotions are you bringing into this moment: fear, anger, disappointment, urgency? After calming yourself enough to get your heart rate down, you will be able to do what I call opening up your satellite dish. Like tuning into a wider universe within our brains, thinking about our values, goals, strategies and options expands our intelligence. It makes us wiser. We become better able to pull in everything we know about this particular child instead of reacting to the problem in front of us.

2/ Your child lives in their own emotional world. By the time you decide it’s time for the conversation, your child has often been living inside the emotional climate surrounding the issue for quite a while. They may have been struggling with a challenging temperament, wrestling with a friendship, wondering whether they disappointed you or feeling pulled by peers long before you knew there was a problem. Before trying to influence your child, pause and imagine what it has been like to be them. What story might they be telling themselves about this situation? 3/ Ask and listen with humble curiosity. Children are the experts on what it feels like to be them. Ask questions that feel safe rather than threatening. “Help me understand,” “Tell me more,” and “What’s that been like for you?” are all great sentence starts you can use. Listen longer than feels comfortable. Resist the urge to persuade, correct, defend your position or argue with your child’s experience. Your goal is understanding before influence. 4/ Help your child feel understood. Research on validation consistently shows that children become much more open to guidance after they feel seen and understood. Validation isn’t agreement or approval of a behavior; it

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conveys understanding of their emotional perspective. “Given who you are and what you’ve been experiencing, I can understand why this feels the way it does.” Feeling understood lowers defensiveness. It helps children reflect out loud instead of protecting themselves from us. 5/ Build for many more good conversations. Children grow through many conversations, not one. Some conversations are about understanding. Others are about values, teaching, limits, problemsolving, agreements, monitoring or consequences. Resist the temptation to accomplish everything today. Good conversations don’t replace the rest of parenting. They prepare the ground for it. The relationship you strengthen today becomes the foundation for all the conversations that follow. 6/ Leave the relationship stronger than before. When the conversation ends, your child doesn’t have to agree with you. The problem doesn’t have to be solved. But if your child walks away feeling supported, understood, accepted and connected, you’ve accomplished something profoundly important.

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one child comes into the world with a temperament that requires much more attention, coaching, supervision and emotional energy than another sibling. That child naturally receives more reminders, more correction, more limitsetting and more negative reactions simply because life is harder for them. The more adaptable sibling is praised for being patient, flexible, dependable and “so easy.” Parents don’t think of one child as “bad” and the other as “good.” But children notice patterns, and over time both begin drawing conclusions that no parent ever intended. Sarah’s situation Sarah (not her real name) came to see me after her 7-year-old son George burst into tears decrying her preference for his sister Rachel (the “easier” of the two). Sarah realized she wasn’t simply trying to help George manage his emotions anymore. She needed to change the stories both children were beginning to tell themselves about who they were in the family.

Limits, consequences and firm guidance have a better chance of taking root when the ground has already been enriched by respect, understanding and trust. She reminded herself that George hadn’t chosen his temperament any more than another child chooses asthma, dyslexia, autism, ADHD or food allergies. He came into the world with a nervous system that ran hot. His powerful emotional engine made life harder for him, but it also fueled many of the qualities she treasured most: his curiosity, enthusiasm, creativity and wholehearted engagement with life.

Sarah reminded herself that Rachel’s adaptability was a blessing, but also a risk. Easy children can gradually become pleasers, learning that family harmony depends on asking for less than they need. Her goal wasn’t to make George less intense or Rachel less of a pleaser. It was to help both children feel deeply understood and equally cherished. Sarah’s approach A few days later, Sarah had her opportunity. George exploded when his elaborate block city came crashing down and he hurled blocks across the room, striking Sarah. Without thinking, she snapped, “George! I’ve had it with you! I can’t take this anymore!” George froze. Then he screamed, “I hate myself! And you hate me too!” Rachel stood silently in the doorway, then turned and walked back to her room. Sarah knew they would eventually have to talk again about throwing blocks and hurting people. But this wasn’t the right moment. Later Sarah found George sitting on the back steps. “Can you help me understand what happened for you?” George shrugged. Sarah waited. Finally he spoke. “Everything was going so good. I wanted to build the biggest one ever. And then it fell apart.” Sarah nodded. “You get so excited about things. You throw yourself into them with your whole heart. Then when something goes wrong, your feelings overflow. Sometimes I wonder what it’s like to have such a big engine inside you.” “It goes too fast,” he said. “It’s an engine that sometimes gets away from you. That’s where Dad and I come in. Our job is to help you learn how to drive it and put the brakes on earlier.”

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Almost whispering, George said, “I hate my engine.” “Oh, sweetheart, I love your engine. It will take a while before you learn to shift gears. That’s okay. We are all works in progress.” Later that evening, Sarah talked with Rachel. “Sometimes it’s really hard having George for a brother.” Rachel nodded and said, “He gets all your time.” “Sometimes he does,” Sarah acknowledged. “And I never want you to think that means your feelings matter less. I’m going to do a better job making sure we have time that’s just ours. And if I don’t, I want you to tell me. Your voice matters in this family.” Sarah hadn’t solved George’s emotional intensity or erased Rachel’s frustration. She had done something just as important. She had begun changing the stories both children were telling themselves about who they are in their family, and she had made it more likely that the next hard conversation would begin with trust instead of fear.

Scenario: Finding a vape A father I know has only one rule about difficult parenting conversations: Never have an important conversation during the first 10 minutes after you’ve entered the “red zone.” Another mom Melissa (not her real name) learned this lesson the hard way. While doing laundry, she reached into the pocket of her 15-year-old daughter Tate’s jeans and pulled out a nicotine vape. Melissa had always known experimentation might happen someday. She just wasn’t prepared for “someday” to arrive this early.

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Her first thought was immediate: I have to stop this. Then she paused. She took some deep breaths. She reminded herself of the considerations she wanted to carry into this conversation. She knew it wasn’t realistic to end Tate’s relationship with nicotine in an afternoon.

substances during high school because we care about your health and your future.” Then Melissa asked the question she had practiced asking instead of launching into a lecture: “Help me understand what you like about vaping.”

She reminded herself that Tate had always been a confident, novelty-seeking, adventurous kid. The very qualities that made her willing to organize scavenger hunts, invent elaborate games and enthusiastically try new things also made experimentation more tempting than it might be for another teenager.

Tate shrugged. “It kind of relaxes you. But it also gives you a little zing. It’s fun at parties.”

Melissa knew she couldn’t change Tate’s temperament. She also knew what researchers have documented for years — that the combination of high authority along with warmth, responsiveness and supporting independence was the kind of parenting that results in positive outcomes for kids. So she chose the part of herself that Tate was more likely to talk to — the accepting, open and understanding part. The warmth and understanding would open the door, and the authoritative rules and guide rails could come later.

“I guess … you could get addicted.”

After Melissa told Tate she had found the vape and thrown it away, Tate immediately pushed back. “That was my friend’s, not mine. I can’t believe you threw it away! It’s no big deal. It wasn’t drugs.” Melissa could feel herself entering the red zone. Instead of continuing, she waited until the next day. When they were both calmer, she sat down beside her daughter. “Before we talk about the vape, I want you to know something first. It’s been wonderful watching you blossom in high school. You’re adventurous, creative, funny and willing to try new things. We love you dearly. Finding this vape doesn’t change that.” Tate relaxed just a little, so Melissa continued. “Our hope is that you’ll choose not to vape or use other

Everything inside Melissa wanted to explain nicotine addiction. Instead, she stayed curious. “What do you think the downsides are?”

“How much do your friends think about addiction when they’re vaping?” Tate laughed. “Not much.” Now they had something real to think about together. Melissa felt the familiar temptation to keep going. Instead, she stopped. They were ending the conversation feeling connected, and she wanted to quit while she was ahead. Melissa hadn’t solved vaping. That was unrealistic. She had done something just as important. She had made it more likely that Tate would continue thinking with her about the increasingly complicated decisions that lay ahead.

Scenario: Frenemies. When the friendship hurts, but your child won’t let go Few things are harder than watching your child repeatedly get hurt by someone they desperately want to keep as a friend. Mom Denise (not her real name) described her dilemma this way. “My seventh-grade daughter, Cassy, comes home upset about Isabelle at least once a week. One day they’re inseparable. The next day Isabelle ig-

nores her, excludes her or says something cutting in front of the other girls. Every time I think Cassy is finally done with this friendship, she goes right back.” Denise realized she had two very different goals she could pursue: One was convincing Cassy to end the friendship. The other was helping Cassy become wiser about friendships. She chose the second. Denise found Cassy reading in her room. “Can I start by apologizing for something? I think I’ve been too quick to focus on the parts of your friendship that worry me. That’s the mama bear in me. I hear how hurt you are, and I want to protect you. But I also know that isn’t the whole story. You have a lot of fun with Isabelle. You choose to spend time with her. I don’t think I’ve spent enough time understanding that part. So can we back up? I’d really like to hear about your best times with Isabelle. What do you enjoy most about being with her?”

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Cassy smiled. “She’s hilarious. Everybody wants to be around her. She’s really confident. She’s always coming up with fun things to do. She’s just … exciting.” “I can understand why you’d be drawn to someone like that. When you’re with Isabelle, when do you feel most like yourself?” “When it’s just the two of us.” “And when do you feel least like yourself?” “When the other girls are there.” “What changes?” “I start worrying about saying something stupid.” Denise let the silence do some work. “I’ve noticed something. Sometimes you come home from being with Isabelle happy and energized. Other times you come home wondering if you’re good enough. I wonder what you make of that.” “I don’t know.”

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“You don’t have to figure it out tonight.” Denise stopped there. She didn’t campaign against Isabelle. She didn’t build a case. She didn’t try to persuade Cassy to dump her friend. Instead, over the next few months she continued asking thoughtful questions. What felt good? What didn’t? What did you notice about yourself? Gradually Cassy began making observations her mother never could have talked her into: I don’t like who I become around her; I always feel like I’m trying to impress her; I don’t think I trust her. Those insights belonged to Cassy, and because they were hers, they had the power to change the friendship. Denise hadn’t solved middle school friendships, but she had done something just as important. She had made it more likely that Cassy would continue thinking with her about friendships.

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tional system — one that helps them decide what is healthy, safe, wise and consistent with the person they are becoming. The ultimate test of a good conversation about difficult matters isn’t whether you resolved the problem that day. It’s whether your child trusts you enough to come back for another one.

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Would You Know If Your Child Was Being Bullied? Here’s a surprising fact: kids and teens who are being bullied sometimes choose not to tell their parents. To explore this idea, let’s start by reviewing some basics of bullying. There are all sorts of rude, mean and hurtful behaviors — but they’re not all bullying. Bullying refers to unwanted, aggressive behavior that is repeated (or has the potential to be repeated) over time. Bullying also includes an imbalance of power — the one who bullies uses some form of power to control or harm the person they are bullying. There are four types of bullying: • Physical bullying includes attacking (hitting, shoving, poking) or using body motions or facial expressions (clenching fists, pointing, glaring) to suggest an attack may happen. • Verbal bullying includes threatening, taunting, teasing and name-calling. • Social bullying includes gossip, humiliation and rumor-spreading. It often involves purposely excluding someone from a group and encouraging others to do so. • Cyberbullying is verbal and social bullying via digital devices like phones, computers and gaming consoles. It can occur through calls, texts, emails, personal messaging, chats, games and social media. So, why do kids who are being bullied sometimes withhold this information from their parents? Even kids who are usually

open and talkative may stay silent because they’re embarrassed it’s happening to them. They may fear they’ll somehow be blamed or shamed for their role in the bullying. Or they may assume that their parents will not take any action — or overreact and embarrass them or cause the bullying to get even worse.

happened, and avoid either minimizing or dramatizing the situation. Role-play scenarios so your child can practice how to safely stand up to bullying. Work with their school to create a safe action plan. Consider using a school counselor or a mental health therapist to help your child process their feelings.

You can help ensure your child confides in you. Talk about bullying, even when you have no reason to suspect it’s happening. Call out bullying when watching movies or shows together. It can be a good way to start the conversation. Even when a child says everything is fine, be watchful for sudden changes in their mood or sleep habits, their school performance, or their willingness to attend school or group activities.

Remember that kids are more likely to open up about any problem when parents listen carefully and validate their feelings — rather than lecturing or jumping in to fix the problem. Compassion, patience and wisdom will always reinforce your parentchild bond.

If your child tells you they are being bullied, praise them for being open. Reassure them that the bullying is in no way their fault. Remain calm, acknowledge what has

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Poison Prevention: Young Kids and Everyday Substances Washington Poison Center (WAPC) operates a poison helpline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. WAPC gives free, confidential treatment advice for poisonings, medication mistakes and overdoses.

Prevent Flu Flu is a contagious respiratory illness caused by influenza viruses. These viruses spread easily through the air and infect the nose, throat and lungs. Illness can range from mild to very serious — including death. The best way to prevent flu is to get the flu vaccine each year. The flu vaccine is safe and effective. For both completely healthy kids and those who already have health problems, the vaccine reduces the risk of death from flu by about 80%. Last flu season, 191 pediatric flu deaths were reported in the U.S. During the 2024-2025 season, about 90% of children reported to have died from flu-related causes were not fully vaccinated against flu. Protect your family by getting everyone ages 6 months and older vaccinated against flu. Flu season in the U.S. usually begins in December and lasts until April or May. For the best protection, get vaccinated by the end of October. If you have questions, ask your child’s doctor. SCAN TO LEARN MORE

In 2025, more than one-third of the calls to WAPC were about poison exposures in children ages newborn to 5. For these helpline calls, the most common substance groups were household cleaners, cosmetics and personal care products, and pain medicines like ibuprofen (Advil) and acetaminophen (Tylenol). For calls regarding medicines, a common fear of parents and caregivers is that they have accidentally given too much. This serves as a reminder to keep children’s medicines in their original containers, double-check the dosing instructions, and use the measuring tool that came with the medicine. Keep anything that could poison a child out of their sight and reach. If possible, lock up these items. In addition to the substances mentioned above, other high-risk items include: prescription and over-the-counter medicines; vitamins and supplements; tobacco, nicotine and vape products; marijuana edibles; magnets and button batteries. If you suspect there’s been a poison exposure or a dosing mistake, contact WAPC right away; don’t wait for symptoms to develop. Add the helpline numbers to your phone now. For phone calls: 1-800-2221222. For texting: 206-526-2121. WAPC also offers a live chat option at www.wapc.org. SCAN FOR HOME SAFETY TIPS

Glimmers: A Way to Share the Positive Have you heard of glimmers? They are everyday external cues that create feelings of joy and relaxation in our bodies. Glimmers can be anything we see, hear, smell, taste, touch or sense that causes us to feel safe and comfortable. Think of glimmers as powerfully positive triggers: a vivid rainbow, rain drumming on the roof, the aroma of cookies baking, the sweet zing of a crisp apple, the warmth and softness of a pet’s fur, or the stillness of a lush forest. Glimmers can calm our nervous systems and boost our mental wellbeing — and when we tune in to our senses, we notice them all around us. Try having your family members share their favorite glimmers of the day at the dinner table or at bedtime. This ritual will help everyone discover the ‘everyday magic’ that surrounds them and notice how it affects them. Plus, sharing meaningful personal experiences helps family members feel even more connected! SCAN FOR MENTAL WELLNESS RESOURCES

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Preventing and Treating Headaches Headaches can be common for kids and teens. Dehydration, poor nutrition, lack of quality sleep, stress and eye strain are some of the top headache triggers.

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Preventing headaches can be as simple as changing behaviors. Be sure your child drinks plenty of water and limits or avoids caffeine — especially ‘energy drinks’ that contain extreme levels of caffeine and other stimulants. Support your child’s efforts to eat a well-balanced

Your child or teen may need professional help if their headaches continue despite addressing triggers and taking the right dose of pain relievers when their headache starts. And when headaches make it diffi cult to attend school or take part in normal activities, professional medical care is needed. In these cases, your child’s doctor may recommend specialty care such as the Seattle Children’s Headache Program,

Well-child visits or ‘checkups’ are a time for your child’s doctor to perform screenings, assess your child’s growth and development, provide vaccines and give safety information. These visits are focused on prevention. They’re also a time for you to get your questions answered. The appointments go by fast, so prepare for them. Write down your questions on your phone or a notepad and bring them with you — and rank them in order of importance so you can ask your most pressing questions first. Encourage your child to ask their own questions about their health. Starting this practice at a young age helps kids build confidence and take ownership of their bodies and their wellbeing. SCAN TO LEARN MORE

diet, prioritize sleep, get regular exercise and practice relaxation techniques. Have their vision checked if you suspect there’s an issue. Sometimes, headaches happen even when kids practice healthy habits. For example, the menstrual cycle or illness can trigger headaches. In these cases, pain relievers such as ibuprofen (Advil) or acetaminophen (Tylenol) taken in the correct dose can help. While headaches can often be managed at home, it’s sometimes necessary to see your child’s primary care provider. The headache symptom tracker linked in the QR code below is a great tool to decide what action is needed. Scan QR Code

where pediatric experts diagnose and treat headaches using the most up-todate and evidence-based therapies. Rarely, headaches can signal a serious brain problem that needs urgent evaluation. Get professional medical help right away for headaches with ‘red flag’ symptoms that: • Repeatedly wake a child in the middle of the night or occur first thing in the morning with vomiting. • Coincide with weakness in the arms or legs, or with facial drooping. • Coincide with changes in walking, speech or balance. • Are sudden and very intense. SCAN TO LEARN MORE

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PARENTING CLASSES Behavior Basics Learn about this free, on-demand, self-paced class for parents and caregivers of children ages 5 to 12 with disruptive behaviors at seattlechildrens.org/classes. Conversations About Autism A series of 60-minute sessions created for providers and caregivers of children with autism. Find a link to view past sessions at seattlechildrens.org/classes. Introduction to Autism Video Series These videos provide science- and evidence-based information about autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Watch at seattlechildrens.org/clinics/autismcenter/patient-family-resources/videos. Finding Mental Health Care in Washington State: A Class on Where to Start This free, on-demand, self-paced class is available in English and Spanish. Learn more and watch a recording at seattlechildrens.org/classes.

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EVENTS Alyssa Burnett Adult Life Center Classes and Outings Check out the lifelong learning opportunities for people 18 and older with intellectual and/or developmental disabilities. Visit seattlechildrens. org/clinics/alyssa-burnett-adult-life-center. Free Car-Seat Checks Seattle: Check website for date Bellevue: Second and fourth Tuesday of every month Federal Way: Second Thursday of every month Skyway: Oct. 7 and Nov. 4 Learn how to install and use your child’s car seat or booster seat in your car and learn about general road safety from child-passenger safety experts. Parents and caregivers with kids of all ages are welcome. Registration required. Learn more and register for an appointment at seattlechildrens.org/carseatchecks.

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“Chicka Chicka Boom Boom: The Musical.” Photo by Truman Buffett

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Musical theater dominates the family arts calendar for good reason, and this season is no exception, with a full slate of productions from touring Broadway shows to local youth performances. But there’s more to see on stage: From panto to puppet shows, and circus acts to classical ballet, this fall has got it all.

J.M. Barrie came to write the beloved children’s book “Peter Pan.” While the actual historical events may have been more complicated, “Finding Neverland”’s story about the transformative power of imagination is delightful for all ages. Location: ManeStage Theatre, Puyallup Dates: Oct. 9–25

Musical theater “Finding Neverland” Based on the film of the same name, the musical “Finding Neverland” is inspired by the backstory of how

“Young Frankenstein” Few aspects of culture become dated as quickly as comedy. Movies our parents find hilarious often leave us cold, or worse, offended. Mel Brooks’ movies

are a prime example, but the silliness of “Young Frankenstein” is a timeless exception. Find out if your kids will cackle at the story of the mad scientist’s grandson returning to Transylvania to inherit the infamous castle and its laboratory. You can test their taste with the 1974 movie, but Studio East’s production of the musical stage version with teen actors is a pretty safe bet. Location: Studio East, Kirkland Dates: Oct. 30–Nov. 8

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few specifics with the holidays experienced by our contemporary Pacific Northwest kids (Do they even know what Ovaltine is?). The story remains a relevant classic because it captures the intensity of hope and heartbreak that are part of every childhood. Location: Tacoma Musical Playhouse, Tacoma Dates: Nov. 20–Dec. 13

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“How to Train Your Dragon The Musical, Jr.” Two casts of fifth to 12th grade performers rehearse for months to produce this live musical adaptation of the hit animated film, “How to Train Your Dragon.” At only an hour long and supplemented by songs, the story of the young Viking Hiccup who befriends the scariest dragon that attacks his village has near-universal appeal. Equally universal is the question: How are they going to pull off Toothless, the catlike dragon at the center of the story? Location: Black Box Theatre, Edmonds Dates: Nov. 6–8 “Mary Poppins, Jr.” Vashon Center for the Art’s Teen Musical Theatre presents the magic of “Mary Poppins,” with its unforgettable songs, playful adventures and heartwarming moments. In this kid-friendly condensed, all-ages-appropriate adaptation, imagination, mischief and possibility arrive courtesy of young performers. Location: Vashon Center for the Arts, Vashon Island Dates: Nov. 13–14

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“Chika Chicka Boom Boom: The Holiday Show” This holiday version of one of SCT’s most popular musical plays explores the alphabet, imagination and togetherness – now with a Christmas tree that needs decorating. Geared toward a crowd yet to attend kindergarten, expect lots of audience participation with clapping, singing and dancing. Location: Seattle Children’s Theatre, Seattle Dates: Nov. 19–Jan. 3, 2027 “A Christmas Carol, The Musical” Running the length of your average movie with no intermission, the Broadway musical version of Dickens’ holiday classic is no humbug! The story is well known to all, but it’s time for a new generation to fall in love with the irresistible music of Alan Menken and Lynn Ahrens. Location: Wade James Theater, Edmonds Dates: Nov. 20–Dec. 19 “A Christmas Story, The Musical” The midcentury Midwestern Christmas depicted in “A Christmas Story” shares

“Shrek The Musical” It’s hard to believe that the original “Shrek” movie predates Instagram and the all-consuming drive to present an idealized, aesthetic version of ourselves to an anonymous audience. Now more than ever, we need stories that boldly proclaim it’s better to be our authentic selves than to strive for a fairy tale. Location: The Buxton Center for Bainbridge Performing Arts, Bainbridge Island Dates: Nov. 27–Dec. 20 “The Wizard of Oz” One of the first and most influential of American children’s books and a musical film adaptation that popularized technicolor, “The Wizard of Oz” was bound to become musical theater. While not technically a holiday movie, this classic story is full of courage and heart, sharing the message that there’s no place like home. It suits the season perfectly. Location: 5th Avenue Theatre, Seattle Dates: Nov. 27–Dec. 27 “Beauty and the Beast” Members of the original Tony Award-winning creative team that adapted Disney’s “Beauty and the Beast” for the stage reunited to refresh their 1993 production with new sets and costumes. But the original songs from the movie that you’ve been singing since you were a kid are still part of the magic. Location: Paramount Theatre, Seattle Dates: Dec. 22–Jan. 3, 2027

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Stage productions and plays “Leonardo! A Wonderful Show About a Terrible Monster” “Holiday show” usually means Christmas. Halloween shows are far less common, and allages Halloween shows are incredibly rare because Halloween is supposed to be scary. But Leonardo is bad at being a monster — he can’t scare anybody. This Halloween, he goes looking for a scaredy-cat, but he just might end up making a friend instead. Based on the book by Mo Willems and staged with hundreds of puppets and elaborate props. Location: Seattle Children’s Theatre, Seattle Dates: Oct. 1–Nov. 1 “I’ll Be Your Superhero” A world premiere made possible through the BIPOC Superhero Project, “I’ll Be Your Superhero” is about 10-year-old Xavier, who has to go live with

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his uncle. His uncle is going through some major changes of his own. Their discovery of a mutual love of superheroes may be the key to learning how to live with each other, and themselves. Location: Seattle Children’s Theatre, Seattle Dates: Oct. 15–Nov. 1 “Arsenic and Old Lace” Murder and mayhem might not seem like all-ages topics, but somehow the screwball wins out against the black comedy in “Arsenic and Old Lace.” A drama critic dealing with a family of elderly murderers and deluded siblings is goofy enough that delicate sensibilities remain unoffended. (If you’re on the fence, test your kids’ reactions to the Cary Grant film, available on Amazon Prime and Apple TV, before committing to tickets.) Location: Tacoma Little Theatre, Tacoma Dates: Oct. 16–Nov. 1 “A Sherlock Carol” What do you get when you mix up whodunnit with a Christmas classic? When Tiny Tim (now an adult) asks Sherlock Holmes to investigate the death of his old mentor Ebenezer Scrooge in “A Sherlock Carol,” the answer is a heartwarming holiday treat for the whole family. Location: The State Theater, Olympia Dates: Nov. 27–Dec. 24 “Where Blooming Flowers Meet The Sky” Written by local playwright Darryin B. Cunningham as part of the Civil Rights Legacy Tour program, “Where Blooming Flowers Meet The Sky” follows a young poet striving to find her voice. She is visited by historical figures from the civil rights era who each impart their wisdom. They help her see that heroism comes from speaking truth because every voice carries the power to make a difference. Location: Lakewood Playhouse, Lakewood Dates: Dec. 4–19

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“It’s A Wonderful Life: The Live Radio Play” Bringing Frank Capra’s classic film to the stage as a live 1940s radio broadcast, this adaptation tells the heartwarming tale of one of Jimmy Stewart’s most iconic characters, George Bailey, as he reflects on the significance of his own life one Christmas Eve. Location: Sammamish Valley Grange Hall, Woodinville Dates: Dec. 4–19 Dance performances Whim W’him: “Choreographic Shindig” A dancer-curated program showcasing the individual approaches of three choreographers to movement, storytelling and creative process. Do not underestimate kids’ ability to appreciate contemporary dance. It’s the closest art form to what kids themselves do when they feel the music, and youth tickets are free. Location: Vashon Center for the Arts, Vashon Island Date: Sept. 16 “Men In Dance” festival There is an unfortunate stereotype that dancing is feminine and ballet lessons are only for little girls. Attending any professional dance performance will prove otherwise, but “Men In Dance” was established specifically to highlight choreography by and for male dancers.

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Contemporary choreographers sometimes include mature themes or partial nudity in their work. Once the festival program is finalized, it’s best to review the specific show descriptions to make sure it is appropriate for your family. Location: Erickson Theatre, Seattle Dates: Oct. 2–4 Dance Theatre of Harlem World renowned Dance Theatre of Harlem is committed to enriching the lives of young people and adults around the world. This fall, they are bringing their multicultural, technically brilliant contemporary ballet to Seattle. You don’t want to miss it. Location: Paramount Theatre, Seattle Dates: Oct. 30–31 Hung Dance: “Birdy” “Birdy,” an original work from the Hung Dance company of Taiwan, blends contemporary dance with elements of Chinese opera, Tai Chi and myth using props like rattan poles and pheasant feathers. The bold choreography is sure to capture kids’ attention, even if they don’t identify its themes: the tension between freedom and constraint, and the strength it takes to navigate it. Note: Children younger than age 5 will not be admitted. Location: Meany Hall, Seattle Dates: Nov. 19–21

George Balanchine’s “The Nutcracker” Pacific Northwest Ballet’s annual production of “The Nutcracker” is a long-standing holiday tradition. Literally hundreds of local children made their stage performance debut as part of “The Nutcracker,” and it has been the introduction to ballet for thousands more. Combining George Balanchine’s classic choreography with sets and costumes by Ian Falconer, the creator of the Olivia picture books, PNB’s production could become an annual tradition for your family. Location: McCaw Hall, Seattle Dates: Nov. 27–Dec. 27 “The Nutcracker” Presented by Tacoma City Ballet As much a South Sound tradition as PNB is to Seattle audiences, Tacoma City Ballet presents its 71st annual “The Nutcracker” at Pantages Theater. The cast will include local professional

Ana Sophia Scheller as Clara. Artistic director Vera Altunina based her choreography on the original 1892 production by Marius Petipa, the foundational artist of the Russian classical ballet tradition. Location: Meydenbauer Center, Bellevue Dates: Dec. 11–23 Dance Theatre of Harlem. Photo courtesy stgpresents.org

dancers, company dancers, children from the Tacoma City Ballet School and adult character performers from the Tacoma community, accompanied by a live orchestra. Location: Pantages Theater, Tacoma Dates: Dec. 11, 12, 13, 19, 20 “The Nutcracker”: A Traditional Holiday Spectacle Now in its 26th year, International Ballet Theatre presents the Eastside’s production of “The Nutcracker” featuring guest lead, the Argentinian ballerina

Family-friendly concerts “The Music of Studio Ghibli” Seattle Symphony performs Joe Hisaishi’s iconic music for Studio Ghibli’s classic animated features, with selections from “Howl’s Moving Castle,” “My Neighbor Totoro,” “Kiki’s Delivery Service” and “Spirited Away.” Local indie folkster Tomo Nakayama will provide narration. Location: Benaroya Hall, Seattle Date: Sept. 16 “Buon Natale – An Italian Christmas” Seattle Choral Company’s Christmas concert celebrates the richness of Italian sacred and holiday music.

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Expect to hear a mix of traditional folk songs, Romanticism, and early 20th-century choral works. The highlight is Ottorino Respighi’s sacred Christmas cantata “Lauda per la Natività del Signore” but the bestknown work on the program is probably “Ave Maria.” Location: St. Mark’s Cathedral, Seattle Date: Dec. 5 Location: Trinity Lutheran Church, Lynnwood Date: Dec. 6

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“Holiday Favorites” Tacoma Symphony’s annual familyfavorite holiday concert will feature timeless holiday classics, Christmas movie scores and some unique pieces that are less familiar. With more than two hundred performers from the combined symphony, Symphony Tacoma Voices and Tacoma Youth Chorus filling the Pantages stage, kids won’t need a cinematic backdrop to feel the drama. Location: Pantages Theater, Tacoma Date: Dec. 6

Disney on Ice: “Jump In!” More than 50 favorite Disney characters perform world-class figure skating and aerial acrobatics accompanied by special effects as hosts use their magical Mouse Pad to jump into stories from “Moana 2,” “Inside Out 2,” and “Zootopia.” (Pro tip: Bring ear protection for the kiddies; ice shows are notorious for extremely loud music.) Location: Angel of the Winds, Everett Dates: Oct. 29–Nov. 1

Seattle Symphony’s holiday kids’ shows Designed for children 5 and younger, “The Strings” is a “string-along” of holiday classics in a bite-sized half hour concert that introduces kids to stringed instruments. An annual tradition for the elementary school set, “The Snowman” combines a screening of the animated holiday movie with live music. Arrive early for free activities before both shows. Location: Benaroya Hall, Seattle Dates: Dec. 11–12, “The Strings” Date: Dec. 5, “The Snowman”

“Aladdin, a Holiday Panto” Panto is a British Christmas tradition that is more about comedy than Christmas. Usually presenting irreverent adaptations of European fairy tales, Centerstage Theatre’s version this year puts a panto twist on Aladdin’s story from “1001 Nights.” Although it’s a Middle Eastern folk tale, it’s safe to expect Disney references. Location: Centerstage Theatre, Federal Way Dates: Nov. 28–Dec. 20

Try something different “Bluey’s Big Play” “Bluey’s Big Play” is the first live adaptation of the Emmy award-winning children’s television series, and it’s a musical puppet show. Large puppets of Bluey and her family sing original songs while they do their best to get Dad off the couch (or beanbag chair) for Sunday fun and games. Location: Paramount Theatre, Seattle Dates: Oct. 2–4

“Scrooge!” If you think “A Muppet Christmas Carol” is the best Christmas movie (and rightly so) then you’ll definitely want to see “Scrooge!,” a musical adaptation of the Dickens’ classic that lets humans and puppets share the stage. Location: Renton Civic Theatre, Renton Dates: Dec. 4–20

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“Black Nativity” A song-play is something between a concert and a musical, but whatever genre you call it, “Black Nativity” is a powerful experience. Written by Langston Hughes and directed by Valerie Curtis-Newton, it’s a soulful version of the Christmas story that demands more feeling than faith. The pageantry includes 30 performers, a live band, a full gospel choir – and you, singing along to your favorite carols. Location: Broadway Performance Hall, Seattle Dates: Dec. 9–27 “Peter Pan” A holiday tradition in Britain, and a quirky surprise in the States, Christmas panto (an abbreviation of pantomime, but don’t expect to see mimes — there’s plenty of songs and dialogue) is a hoot wherever you find it. This year the Fremont Players are presenting a panto “Peter Pan” in all its wackiness. Location: Sunset Hill Community Hall, Seattle Dates: Dec. 12–Jan. 3. 2027 “A Magical Cirque Christmas” The circus is not generally considered synonymous with Christmas. But when you pair world-class performers defying gravity with their acrobatics, displaying feats of strength and agility, laugh-out-loud comedy, and magic with a soundtrack of modern holiday hits, you get a one-of-a-kind Christmas experience. Location: Washington Center Mainstage, Olympia Dates: Dec. 27–28

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Should You Help Your Kids With Their Homework? By Tanni Haas Here is a scenario most parents can relate to: It’s late afternoon and your children come home from school exhausted, weighed down like turtles by school bags full of homework. Do you insist they do their homework or cut them some slack? Do you sit down to help them with it, or encourage them to do it on their own? The answer to the first question is a resounding “Yes! Make sure that your children do their homework.” The best available evidence shows that the more conscientious children are about doing their homework, the better they do academically. They retain more factual information, understand the material better and even get higher grades. More generally, research shows that by doing their homework on a consistent basis, children develop good study habits and skills, learn how to plan and manage their time, and become self-directed and self-disciplined. The answer to the second question is “it depends.” In the most comprehensive summary of the scientific literature to date, researchers from Duke University concluded that whether or not parents should help their children with their homework depends on three things: 1/ The grade level of the children. 2/ How knowledgeable parents are about the subject matter of the homework. 3/ How parents go about helping their children with it.

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Before you sit down with your children to help them with their homework, you should consider their age. Researchers have consistently found that homework assistance is beneficial for children in elementary and high school, but not for middle-school-aged children. So if your children are in middle school, you are better off letting them do their homework on their own.

Researchers believe that parental assistance with homework for children in elementary school helps because they are young and impressionable. Parental help is about more than just completing the homework: You are also teaching them how to study in the first place. Also, since their homework is still simple and straightforward, as a parent you are unlikely to make any mistakes when you help out. The situation is quite different when it comes to high-school-aged students. Here, researchers speculate that your involvement adds value because you are only likely to help out when you have particular expertise to share. When you know little or nothing about the subject matter of their homework, you are more likely to let your children do it on their own. As Judith Locke, a clinical psychologist at Queensland University of Technology in Australia

succinctly puts it, “Parental assistance with homework should slowly reduce as a child gets older.” Why, then, would it be detrimental for you to sit down with your middle schoolers to help them out with their homework? Here, researchers think that the issue is their specific developmental stage. As budding teenagers caught between childhood and adulthood, middle-school-aged children have a strong need for autonomy and are likely to resist any effort on your part to interfere in their affairs. As Erika Patall says, “It’s probably because it’s a time when kids are trying to be independent. … Even if a parent is effective at helping a child develop skills, there’s a psychological barrier.” Before deciding whether or not to help your children with their homework, you should also consider whether or not you are qualified to do so. Researchers have discovered that the more parents know about the subject matter, the more children learn from getting help with it. However, when you know little or nothing about the topic, your children are likely to get frustrated by your inability to help out, and you might even make mistakes in their homework. Helping when you can and where appropriate is important, but it is even more important that you stay within the proper bounds of involvement. One of the most consistent findings is that children benefit the most when parents support them in their own efforts to do the homework rather than help them out every step of the way. Linda Cameron, a homework researcher at the Ontario Institute for Studies in Education in Canada, says, “Be at the elbow but don’t hold the pen.”

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Big Screen Debut A helpful guide to your child’s first movie theater experience By Kari Hanson

Do you have special memories from the movie theater when you were a kid? No, I don’t mean the ones that took place in the back row with your high school crush. I’m talking about a big-screen moment that moved or impacted you in a way that rarely happens when we watch something on the small screen at home. For me, it was when I was 16 and saw “The Shawshank Redemption” at the “nice” movie theater in my small hometown. The theater was packed, people were crying and I have never forgotten that film.

It’s no wonder that as parents we are eager to share these movie-going experiences with our kids. But since seeing a movie in a theater is a shared experience, deciding when to take your child to their first showing can feel tricky. When should I take my child to a movie theater? Children have their own sensitivities, likes and fears. There is no hard and fast age where kids are ready for a movie theater. However, many parents take their child to their first movie between ages 3 and 5. At that age, children are generally able to pay

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attention to an entire movie and can understand behavioral expectations like sitting still and being quiet. Is it too much screen time? If you are worried about screen time (what parent isn’t?), a movie theater might be a reasonable way for your child to spend their screen-time minutes. While a movie is longer than a 15-minute YouTube show, in a theater kids are intentionally watching something with a clear beginning and end, rather than engaging an infinite video stream.

sit in your lap or hold your hand until the movie gets going and their eyes adjust to the dark. • Is my child sensitive to loud or sudden noises? Sometimes movies can be very loud. If your child is sensitive to sound, consider bringing noisecanceling headphones or earplugs.

• How does my child react to scary or sad movie scenes at home? Can they recover once something has spooked them, or will it be time to leave if they get upset or scared? There’s no right answer, but be prepared to do what your child needs, without feeling disappointed that you didn’t make it all the way through.

A movie theater also offers fewer distractions than a phone or tablet. The early childhood development organization Zero to Three recommends screen experiences without a lot of distractions for kids. This means “no ‘extra’ sounds or pop-ups on the screen that take your child’s attention away from the story or activity. Often children can be distracted by tapping or swiping to make things happen on screen.” More importantly, your child will be watching the movie with you. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents “consider the quality of interactions with digital media and not just the quantity, or amount of time.” Watching a movie together can be a chance to connect, laugh and talk about what you saw after the lights come back up. What are some signs my child is ready for a movie theater? If you feel like a trip to the movies might be in your near future, here are a few questions to keep in mind before you buy tickets: • How does my child handle a closed, dark space? Is it going to feel too scary when the lights go out? If so, do you have a plan? Maybe they can

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You can find some that dampen sound, but do not block everything out. (I have a pair of earplugs I always take with me to the theater after a shockingly loud action movie I recently suffered through.) • Can my child sit in one spot for an hour or more? Try watching movies at home first to see if your child is ready to sit and pay attention to a feature-length film. Ninety minutes can feel like an eternity when you are trying to wrangle a wiggly kid in a small space.

• How long can they go without a bathroom break? This is a good one to keep in mind when your kid is begging for drinks from the concession stand. That large lemonade might seem fun, but will you be getting up multiple times in the next few hours? Drinks or not, make sure you arrive early enough for everyone to make a trip to the bathroom before the movie starts so they can enjoy the experience comfortably. • Can my child understand the basic etiquette of a movie theater? While

most people do not expect children to behave perfectly, kids do need to be able to follow social norms so that people around them can enjoy the movie. This means no kicking or bumping the seat in front of them, and staying relatively quiet and still. To get ready and learn the rules, try turning the lights down and playing “movie theater” at home while you all watch a show together. It’s a low-stakes way to help your kid learn movie theater expectations.

Since realistic movie scenes mirror everyday life, they often trigger more distress in kids than fantasy violence or monsters. What should I keep in mind when deciding what to see? It is, of course, important to consider what your child will be seeing when the lights go down. Sometimes parents are caught off guard by what scares their children. These fears can be related to brain development and how children understand fantasy versus reality. For example, it may be obvious to you that the events in “The Lion King” are not real — that Simba’s father wasn’t really (spoiler alert) trampled in a wildebeest stampede. But to a child, that scene can be terrifying, and feel very real. The study “Is It Real or Is It Fiction? Children’s Bias Toward Reality” found that “the process of classifying items into real versus fantastical categories develops at least until children are 7 to 8 years old.” Yet, it’s not only fictional situations that kids have a hard time distinguishing as fantasy. Research has shown that children’s prefrontal cortex has to work much harder to make a judgement

about real events. They found that “children may require more cognitive resources and also mainly rely on their own personal experiences” when trying to understand events they see in a movie. For example, if they see a scene in a movie where a child is lost in a grocery store they may conclude: “I go to the grocery store with my mom. Kids can get lost there. This is happening right now, and it could happen to me.” Since realistic movie scenes mirror everyday life, they often trigger more distress in kids than fantasy violence or monsters. I experienced this firsthand

the day on select Saturdays the lights will be turned up and the volume turned down. Guests are free to move around and no one needs to be worried about making noise.

Tips for a successful first trip to a movie theater • Head to an early show. Some theaters have showings as early as 10 a.m. Choose a morning or weekday matinee when theaters are more likely to be quiet and less crowded.

when my oldest son watched Harry Potter. He was not scared by Dementors, but when the kids were sneaking around and breaking rules at Hogwarts, he almost started to cry. Be prepared to talk with your child about whatever they find upsetting, whether it’s dragons, monsters or possibly getting a detention at school.

• Sit near the aisle. Many theaters let you reserve specific seats when you purchase tickets online. If you can, reserve seats on the aisle so you can easily step out for a bathroom break or if your child gets restless.

Where can I find kid-friendly theater experiences? If you want to dip your toes into the movie theater experience but aren’t sure if your child is ready, consider one of these family-friendly options:

• Skip the trailers. Trailers can be fun, but they add extra sitting time, and are sometimes more intense than the movie you are there to see. Consider arriving 10 to 20 minutes after the movie’s start time to avoid long, loud commercials and previews.

• Cartoon Happy Hour at Central Cinema, Seattle. Every Thursday from 5–7 p.m. enjoy family-friendly cartoons at Central Cinema. This weekly event is free; no tickets needed. Kid-friendly snacks are available for purchase. • AMC Theatres, Sensory Friendly Films, various locations. On the second and fourth Saturday, AMC turns the lights up and the sound down during a family-friendly movie. It’s okay to move around, dance or even sing. Trailers are not shown, so be on time so you don’t miss the beginning. • Regal’s My Way Matinee, various locations. During the first showing of

• Bring ear protection. Movie theaters can be surprisingly loud. Bring child-sized headphones or earplugs in case the theater’s surround sound is too much. • Go with the flow. It’s okay if you end up leaving early if your child feels overwhelmed. There is always next time!

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Ages and Stages Guide to Washington’s Top Travel Destinations By Tiffany Doerr Guerzon

Traveling with kids can be, well — difficult. While it’s great to get away and make memories, family trips often end with keyed-up kids and parents who need a vacation from their vacation. Finding the right destination for your family can make all the difference. I’ve scoped out five popular Washington vacation destinations for your next family getaway, along with the ideal age to visit each. For babies and toddlers, it helps to have a room you can easily get back to for naptime and meltdowns, a fridge for snacks

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and a microwave for warming up kid meals and bottles. For preschoolers and little kids, lots of kid-friendly activities keep your crew from getting bored. Big kids will love pools with slides and outdoor activities, along with supervised programs that give parents some much-needed downtime. For tweens and teens, I’ve stepped up the adventures so you can consider skiing, snowmobiling or whitewater rafting as a family. I’ve also included a destination that works for families who need to accommodate a wide range of ages.

Best with babies and toddler: Alderbrook Resort and Spa, Union When vacationing with babies and toddlers, you want as little hassle as possible. A smaller resort where you can walk around and use a stroller or baby carrier beats constantly having to wrestle with a car seat. Alderbrook is described by reviewers as being peaceful and laid-back, exactly what parents of very young kids need. Location: 10 E. Alderbrook Dr. Resort accommodations: Rooms and cottages

The resort offers hotel rooms (many with refrigerators), as well as cottages. Most cottages have kitchenettes — great for heating up a bottle or making a kidfriendly meal — and some are pet-friendly. Cribs are available upon request. Dining options Alderbrook offers multiple dining options: a lounge for cocktails, a restaurant serving cuisine made from locally sourced ingredients, a spot for coffee, snacks and grab-and-go food, as well as seasonal outdoor dining.

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Activities There is a heated indoor saltwater pool, which is comfortable for kids and offers adult-only hours for parents who want a quiet swim. Outside, large grassy areas are perfect for kids to crawl or toddle about, while parents sittervise as they lounge nearby. There is also a playground that has been recently updated and short on-site hiking trails for getting the wiggles out. Kids will love the small beach where they can explore sea creatures, shells and rocks. Pro tip: Pack water shoes because the beach isn’t sandy and there could be sharp shells.

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Inside the lobby, you’ll find a Lego tinker table where little kids can play while parents pick up a beachcombing guide or get details about the on-site scavenger hunt. S’mores kits are available day or night and the firepits that are lit in the evening make a great spot to roast a treat or watch the sunset. The spa Alderbook’s spa was completely revamped a few years ago and it’s one of the big draws for families with very young children. Parents can book a spa service during nap time (tag-team parenting at its best). Try a massage, mineral bath or facial to make your stay extra special.

Best for little kids (ages 4–8): Semiahoo Resort, Blaine Just two hours north of Seattle, the Semiahoo Resort sits on the spit between Semiahmoo Bay and Drayton Harbor. Surrounded by sparkling water, with views of Mount Baker and the Canadian shoreline, this is an iconic Pacific Northwest getaway. The resort offers plenty of activities and relaxation for both parents and kids. Location: 9565 Semiahmoo Pkwy. Resort accommodations: There are a variety of guest rooms and suites to choose from, and almost all offer something for families. To take full advantage of the resort, book a room with a water view if you’re able. Some patio rooms have walkout beach ac-

cess while others lead to the marina walkway and beaches on the east side of the property. Dining options The rooms include a mini fridge and microwave for preparing kid-friendly food and snacks. There are two restaurants at the resort and another just three miles away at the Semiahoo Golf and Country Club. Grab-and-go options are available for families on the move. Activities There is an indoor/outdoor heated pool and hot tub, board games, lawn games, as well as pickleball and tennis courts. The whole family can rent bikes, from toddler push bikes to adult beach cruisers, as well as kayaks and paddleboards. The Semiahoo Spit is walkable with a stroller or you can ride bikes. Reviewers say that there is a lot to see, from seals and eagles to sea creatures at low tide. At night, families can pick up a s’mores kit at the front desk to enjoy at the communal firepit. Best for big kids (ages 8–11): Suncadia, Cle Elum Just 90 minutes from Seattle, Suncadia Resort is a popular vacation spot for families. Located in Cle Elum with Roslyn right next door, the resort is a beautiful spot in the Cascade mountains. Location: 3600 Suncadia Trail, Cle Elum Accommodations: Hotel, condos and houses

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Stay at the lodge at the heart of Suncadia, where most rooms include kitchens and washer/dryer units. If you want to stay someplace smaller and closer to recreation pavilion events, grab a room at The Inn. There are also Trailhead condos and vacation homes available for rent. Dining options At the resort, there are two restaurants (The Source Plates & Pours and The Stovehouse) and four more casual eateries. The Source is popular for its s’mores experience served right at the table. For more options, head into Cle Elum or Roslyn for a bite. Activities With over 40 miles of trails for walking, hiking and biking, you won’t run out of things to do at Suncadia. You can rent gear for many of the on-site activities at the resort if you didn’t bring your own.

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The whole family will enjoy the indoor/ outdoor pool with a waterslide. When you get the kids out of the pool, head to Nelson Farm, where you’ll find a BMX pump track and a playground. The village is walkable, plus there is a shuttle service for getting around. Suncadia also offers many seasonal events. Winters brings a magical element with snow tubing, winter holiday celebrations and even an ice-skating rink at select times. In peak season (June 19 through Labor Day), parents can get some time off while the kids join the Cedar and Sasquatch program, which includes nature activities and arts and crafts for kids ages 5–12. Pro tip: Be sure and ask what activities your reservation includes (pool, Nelson Farm, etc.) when reserving your room to avoid surprises. Best for tweens and teens: Leavenworth The Bavarian-style alpine village just two hours from Seattle is a great place to take teens and tweens for family adventures in summer or winter. As you wander the cobblestone streets while viewing the mountains and Bavarian buildings with balconies overflowing with flowers, you will feel like you’ve been transported to Germany. Accommodations Families will find every possible accommodation combination in Leavenworth. Choose from bed and breakfasts, vacation rentals, cabins, lodges or hotels. Downtown is packed with hotels so you can ditch the car and stick to shopping, eating and enjoying the Riverwalk during your stay. The Enzian Inn, Icicle Village Resort and Bavarian Lodge work well for families. Further out, Sleeping Lady Mountain Resort and Spa offers quiet mountain solitude and cozy cabins (some with kitchenettes) if relaxing is your goal.

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Dining options Known for its German fare, there are a variety of restaurants serving up German favorites from soup to schnitzel. Tweens and teens will get a kick out of the Andreas Keller Restaurant, with its Hobbit hole tables that feel like you’ve crawled into a wooden barrel. Munchen Haus is another option that may be especially appealing to families with older kids — they serve quick bites so you can keep the teens happy. There is plenty of other cuisine available as well.

has rock climbing and an Alpine Coaster. My teens enjoy river floats on the Wenatchee River, but you can also try whitewater river rafting if you are looking for more adventure.

Shopping Check out fun German shops like the Kris Kringl store where it’s Christmas all year, Krampus Kave for comics and Marvel merch, The Nutcracker Museum and more.

In the winter, Leavenworth offers the ultimate snowy adventure. There is a ski hill located just minutes from downtown for skiing and snowboarding. Leavenworth also offers miles of groomed trails for Nordic skiing and snowshoeing. Those who prefer to ride can try out snow tubing or a horsedrawn sleigh ride. For adventure seekers, book a backcountry snowmobile tour. And don’t forget that Leavenworth is lit up with a half a million lights after Thanksgiving through February to add to the storybook atmosphere.

Activities In the summer, hike trails ranging from easy to difficult, or hop on a bike to try the Leavenworth pump track in Enchantment Park. There are also e-bike rentals and tours, making it a little easier to view all of the outdoor beauty Leavenworth has to offer. The popular Leavenworth Adventure Park

Best for all ages: Great Wolf Lodge, Centralia This indoor waterpark in Grand Mound is a great place to take the family for a weekend, especially if you have kids in different age groups. Many families stay just one night because you can access the waterpark starting at 1 p.m. on the day you check-in. You can continue

to use the waterpark all day the next day, even after you check out of your room. That being said, staying at least two nights can allow for more activities. Location: 20500 Old Highway 99 S.W. Accommodations: You can book a standard or themed suite with a separate bunkbed area for the kids, offering a bit of separation for kids and adults. Each room is different, and most offer a microwave and mini fridge. Dining options Dining options include sit-down restaurants serving kid-friendly items like hamburgers and pizza, mobile ordering through the Great Wolf Lodge app, grab-and-go food and more. Reviewers recommend that you bring your own snacks and even breakfast, just confirm before going that your room has a mini fridge. You can’t bring outside food into the waterpark itself, but you can go back to your room

throughout the day. Activities The huge indoor waterpark is kept at 84 degrees, making it perfect for any time of year. The waterpark offers fun for all ages, ranging from the thrilling Howlin’ Tornado slide for big kids to Cub Paw Pool for toddlers, which features miniature waterslides and an 18-inch deep end. Reviewers praise the number of lifeguards throughout the facility, allowing parents to enjoy a relaxing time as well. Life jackets and towels are available, but reviewers recommend bringing your own beach towels and/or robes for walking back and forth to your room. When your pack is done playing in the water, there is plenty of dryland entertainment. Free events include kids yoga, story time, meeting the characters of the wolf pack, movies, arts and crafts,

family dance parties and more. You can also go on a Magiquest. This costs extra and is a sort of scavenger hunt throughout the levels of the lodge. To play, you wave a wand at a sensor to get a series of clues. They offer bundles which include the cost of a wand and the game, and you can bring the wand back to play the next time you visit. There is also an arcade, glow mini golf, a mirror maze, Builda-Bear and a ropes course. You can purchase packages that bundle different experiences together at three different price points.

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Tiffany Doerr Guerzon is an essayist, book author, freelance writer, writing instructor and mixed media artist. She received a Gold award in General Feature Writing, issued by the Parenting Media Association for an article, “Free Range Challenge,” published in ParentMap.

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By Julie Dodobara

Have I been stocking up on candy and spooky décor now that October has arrived? You bet I have. I’ve also been compiling a list of ways to treat the whole family to fall fun! From Halloween haunts to a new season of children’s theater, Oktoberfest delights, and harvest and salmon fests — there’s plenty to fill these crisp, autumn days.

� Treat your crew to a frighteningly good time at the final Wild Waves’ Fright Fest as the theme park prepares to close its doors forever. Thrill seekers of all ages will have a good time with options for two sizes of scares: terrifying and tot-friendly! Familyfocused Booville runs Saturday–Sunday, Sept. 26–Nov. 1. Frights by Night take place Friday–Sunday, Oct. 2–Nov. 1. Admission is $41.99–$69.99, with discounts available online. � Seattle Children’s Theatre’s season opener,“Leonardo! A Wonderful Show About a Terrible Monster,” makes for a fun outing during the

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Halloween season. Tots will delight in this non-scary monster tale based on a popular Mo Willems book. Tickets are $20 and up for performances on select dates Oct. 1–Nov. 1.

� Bluey and the Heelers

return to Seattle in “Bluey’s Big Play” at The 5th Avenue Theatre. Based on the popular children’s series and brought to the stage as life-sized puppets, this theatrical production features an original story by the show creators and runs for 50 minutes with no intermission. Bring the whole family Oct. 2–4, tickets $55.10 and up.

� Indulge in Bavarian

delights like brats, giant pretzels and beer at an Oktoberfest in West Seattle. Admission is free with food and beverage for purchase. Head over to Ounces Taproom and Beer Garden Friday–Sunday, Oct. 2–4. Pro tip: Bring the kids on Sunday when special activities including a Kids Stein Hoist Competition are planned.

� Trot on over to Kelsey

Creek Farm in Bellevue for wagon rides, barnyard animals, kids crafts and fun with pumpkins. Admission is free; some activities require a fee. Saturday, Oct. 3, 11 a.m.–4 p.m.

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Issaquah to make your way upstream with our local salmon and celebrate their spawning journey at Issaquah Salmon Days. Watch the community parade, enjoy music, kids games, inflatables, salmon hatchery tours, dock dogs and more. Be there for “Stars, Stripes & Salmon,” Saturday–Sunday, Oct. 3–4, 10 a.m.–6 p.m.

� Pluck the pumpkin of

your dreams by consulting our roundup of great local pumpkin patches. As luck would have it, our guide also highlights the best farms for harvest fun, from hayrides to corn mazes throughout Puget Sound. Grab your boots and shears and get picking! Through Oct. 31.

� Young readers of all ages

can meet their favorite authors, get books signed, join a story time and discover new titles at the Bigfoot Kids’ Book Festival. Held at the Redmond Senior Community Center, Saturday, Oct. 10, 10 a.m.–4 p.m. It’s the perfect place to find a new favorite read! Free.

� Hunt for a new batch of

Dambo Trolls, the whimsical giant structures made from upcycled materials by artist Thomas Dambo, starting Oct. 15. Twelve new trolls are gracing us with their monumental presence as part of a traveling exhibition, “Trolls: A Field Study.” Eight trolls will

be hosted at Northwest Trek and four at Point Defiance Zoo. Searching for these friendly giants is included with admission through Jan. 24, 2027.

� Our ParentMap Talks series

welcomes pediatric surgeon and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Dana Suskind to help parents navigate the challenges of raising kids in the age of AI and maintaining human connection. Register and join us Thursday, Oct. 15, at noon or receive a recording to watch anytime. $10 per talk or $50 for the entire eighttalk series. Members of partner schools join for free.

� Press apples into cider,

build a scarecrow, and enjoy live music and other fun activities at Issaquah Goes Apples, held in historic downtown Issaquah. Saturday, Oct. 17, 9 a.m.– 2 p.m.

� Bring your family to

experience the tradition of honoring your departed loved ones at the Día de Muertos Festival, part of Seattle Center’s Festál series. Check out the community altars, performances, sugar skull workshops and more. Free. This Day of the Dead celebration takes place Saturday–Sunday, Oct. 31– Nov. 1, 11 a.m.–6 p.m.

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Kaleidoscope

Oct. 3, 2026 Kaleidoscope kicks off Tacoma Arts Month’s 25th anniversary Oct. 3, noon-4 p.m. at Tacoma Public Library Main Branch. Art, performances, family fun. tacomaartsmonth.org

Bigfoot Kids’ Book Festival

Oct. 10, 2026 Meet kids book creators at the Bigfoot Kids Book Festival! A free, opento-the-public event featuring book signings, read-a-louds, drawalongs and more! bigfootkidsbook festival.com

Halloween Spooktacular

Oct. 31, 2026 Put on your favorite costume and trick-ortreat at the symphony! Enjoy spooky music, the mighty organ and fa-boo-lous family fun. shorturl.at/p6E60

Julie Dodobara is ParentMap’s calendar editor.

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