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ifteen-year-old Isaiah Gonzalez was a soon-to-be sophomore preparing to start his Texas school’s ROTC program. Then, in July, his father found him dead in his bedroom closet. Nearby, a propped-up phone broadcast Gonzalez’s suicide online.

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What’s happening?

likely culprit for the spike in teen suicides is teens’ increased access to technology. Internet use is linked to suicide rates in the U.S. and worldwide; as rates of internet use increase, so do deaths by suicide. While research shows that news reports of suicide deaths are linked to increased suicide rates, it’s internet use in general that’s linked to more suicides. That’s troubling news considering that smartphone ownership is up 29 percent since 2011 and that 73 percent of teens own a smartphone, per the Pew Research Center.

These livestreamed tragedies are the public face of a troubling trend, says Dr. Cora Breuner, an adolescent medicine specialist at Seattle Children’s Hospital. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), suicide is the second-leading cause of death for teens and young adults ages 15–34. Rates for teens 15–19 are rising fast: Between 2007 and 2015, deaths by suicide increased 31 percent for boys and doubled for girls. The CDC reports that more than 22 percent of girls and 11 percent of boys seriously considered suicide, and 13 percent had a plan to die. That But why? gender gap in suicide deaths is less about intent The internet gives teens an onramp to pro-suicide and more about the method, says Dr. Christopher websites and chatrooms that give step-by-step Famy, a Seattle psychiatrist who studies suicides. instructions for self-harm, says Jennifer Barron, He says males tend to use guns — lethal 85–90 director of training at Forefront, University of percent of the time when used for suicide — while Washington’s suicide prevention program. females tend toward pills — lethal 20 percent of Even when social media doesn’t point toward the time. suicide — and, of course, not all social media does What’s driving this steep increase? It’s easy to — it can make it easier for vulnerable teens to feel point to media flashpoints like the buzzy series “13 constantly victimized, says Barron. Reasons Why,” a Netflix drama about the reasons a “It used to be that kids getting bullied at teenager decided to end her life. But the show and school could go home and escape,” she says. its surrounding hype aren’t to blame, says Breuner; “Kids who weren’t popular in class could still the CDC data is from 2015, two years before the pal around with kids in their neighborhood show debuted. and be a different person. Now, Rather, “13 Reasons Why” and there’s no escape.” “splashy films like 2016’s “Suicide “Between 2007 Even for kids who seem wellSquad” and 2011’s “Suicide and 2015, deaths liked, there's pressure from social Room” are more a reflection of media that previous generations a trend than that trend’s driving by suicide didn’t have to deal with, says force, she says. Still, Breuner Rosalind Wiseman, author of worries that a glamorized view of increased 31 “Owning Up: Empowering mortality can mislead vulnerable, percent for boys Adolescents to Confront Social depressed youth into magical Cruelty, Bullying, and Injustice” thinking about death — namely, and doubled for and founder of Cultures of Dignity, that death isn’t truly final. In “13 a social justice education and Reasons Why,” for example, the girls.” training organization. plot depicts the main character “We’ve been telling kids for postmortem, yet vibrantly alive. years that if you make a mistake on social media, “In reality, you don’t get to see your friends you will never get into college, never get a job, or anything that happens after you die,” Breuner says. “Once you’re dead, you’re gone, and the show [that] your life is over,” Wiseman says. “Especially doesn’t make that point.” with kids who have worked hard for things and Television and movies aside, experts say a more make a ‘mistake,’ I really worry that they truly >>

4 Myths About Suicide MYTH: Asking about suicide puts the idea into kids’ heads. “Simply saying the word ‘suicide’ doesn’t increase a child’s suicide risk. Suicide is on television shows, in pop music and in movies, so kids have heard about it, whether you talk to them about it or not. Like any other big topic, would you rather they discuss it with their friends, or with you?” — Dr. Cora Breuner, Seattle Children’s Hospital MYTH: Mention suicide to a health care provider, and they’ll lock you up. “Not true at all. The vast majority — well over 90 percent — of teens who go to the emergency room for suicidal thoughts aren’t admitted to the hospital.” — CB MYTH: Suicide help lines aren’t anonymous; they’ll use your phone number to track your location and tell your parents, teacher or doctor. “The National Suicide Prevention Line is completely anonymous. So is the Crisis Text Line and its Facebook Messenger inbox. Youth can call in with or without their parents, and it won’t be reported to their parents, teachers, doctor or anyone else.” — Jennifer Barron, Forefront at the University of Washington MYTH: If someone wants to kill themselves, there’s nothing you can do to stop them. “Suicide is rarely about wanting to die. It’s about wanting to escape unbearable pain. Talking about it can make the difference.” — JB

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believe they have nothing left to live for.” She points to the suicide of Marcus Wheeler. Arizona State University’s second-ranked crosscountry runner, Wheeler died by suicide in 2015 after losing his full-ride scholarship for smoking pot. In 2016, fellow athlete Mitchell Warnock died on the same campus after losing his pole-vaulting scholarship for drinking. While neither Wheeler nor Warnock specified that these incidents led to their suicides, Wiseman says they’re clear examples of the kind of pressure kids are under. Social media fuels the pressure to be perfect, for both boys and girls, Wiseman adds. In social media’s hyperconnected world, each teen lives in a fishbowl, isolated yet constantly on display. Life’s ups and downs seem magnified, and teens can lose perspective. Plus, social media allows all of this shift in perspective to play out in an environment where teens can be publicly or privately urged toward acts of self-harm, often out of a parent’s view. That means kids can spiral deep into suicidal thoughts, actions and even pacts without parents having a clue, says Barron. Even when parents know their teen is having self-destructive thoughts, they may not know enough until the teen acts on those thoughts Olympia mom Lena* wasn’t a stranger to suicide. Her niece died by suicide five years ago and her 16-year-old son was prone to bouts of depression. He’d mentioned suicide when he was angry, but Lena didn’t think he’d map out a plan to die. Then, in April, she found a noose in her garage just days after her son’s best friend died by suicide. There may have been a pact, Lena says, but she doesn’t know for sure. “My son was angry and depressed, and I was worried, and then his friend died,” she says. “All of their friends have struggled for months. They are depressed; they’re using drugs and alcohol. They have no ambition and they talk about wanting to die before 30.” She’s scared for her son, but feels powerless to help. “We’ve been dealing with the effects [of the suicide] ever since it happened.” She takes her son’s mentions of suicide at face value now. 14 • November 2017 • parentmap.com

What you can do

direct questions will actually prompt a teen to consider suicide, but it’s a myth I hear it all the time,” As cruel as people can be on the internet, the Breuner says. Research shows that the most effective medium also has the power to connect and heal. questions are simple: Are you depressed? Are you According to research published in the “American having as much fun now as you used to? “These Journal of Public Health,” social media can aid are the diagnostic questions practitioners use, and suicide prevention efforts by connecting teens to they’re what’s proven to work well,” Breuner says. help, be it to counselors, resources Use your teen’s answers to guide or other forms of support. The your next steps, she says. If your “Suicide is Crisis Text Line offers free crisis teen tells you they’re depressed counseling via Facebook Messenger or if they show signs of social rarely about and apps like My3 connect suicidal withdrawal, sudden academic youth to support. wanting to trouble, extreme mood swings The best prevention, though, or self-destructive acts, call the die.” is analog: Talk to your teen, says National Suicide Prevention Breuner. The stigma around suicide Line (1-800-273-8255) or your dissipates if you talk about it like pediatrician right away. The bottom line: When any other health issue. Here, too, media can help. your teen mentions suicide, take it seriously. “If your teen is watching ‘13 Reasons,’ watch Though direct communication is best, experts it with them,” she says. “Don’t binge-watch. A like Barron also recommend staying in touch with megadose of a death-themed programming is too your child’s life on social media. Have regular intense to digest in one sitting. Instead, use every conversations about digital citizenship, check episode to start a dialogue. Ask how [the main social posts regularly and restrict smartphone use character] could have reached out for help [and] at night. Some caregivers might consider apps that how the other characters could have handled help track kids’ social media use, such as Limitly, things differently.” PocketGuardian and Bark, particularly for younger Teens may not suffer a long discussion about teens who are just learning to navigate social suicide, so get to the point. Ask direct questions media. For the most part, these tracking apps don’t about your teen’s inner world. “It’s a myth that give caregivers access to what’s been posted, but

Resources you can use Connect with crisis counselors for free and completely anonymously at the resources below. For all immediate threats of selfharm, call 911 or take your child to the ER. • Crisis Text Line: Text 741-741 or use Facebook Messenger (facebook.com/ crisistextline) • National Suicide Prevention Line: 1-800-273-8255 • Lifeline Crisis Chat: crisischat.org • Suicide intervention for LGBTQ teens: thetrevorproject.org • Suicide intervention for trans youth: translifeline.org

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y son is suicidal. I say that now like I say that he is 17 years old, or that he’s tall and handsome, with broad shoulders and an easy laugh. No matter how much I’ve wished it would vanish, his struggle with suicide has become a part of him, like his sense of humor or his love of history. When he wants to die, my son never comes to me. Instead, he texts his friends or his girlfriend. The first time one of his friends texted me and said my son wanted to die, I couldn’t wrap my mind around the idea. My son is outgoing and social. Everyone who meets him loves him. He was only 14 years old, and I couldn’t conceive of a life cut so short. I took him to counseling and told myself he was better now. The next time that same friend told me my son wanted to die and that this time, he was making plans to kill himself, I took him to the hospital, still convinced it must be a mistake. But when we got there, he sat down in a room devoid of anything you could use to harm yourself — even a garbage can — and calmly told the nurse about his suicidal thoughts. My son was admitted into the psychiatric ward that night. I sat in the parking lot screaming into my steering wheel, and I drove home blinded by tears. I blamed myself for not knowing something was wrong, and I blamed myself for not being the person he confided in. I blamed myself for everything because if it was my fault. I could fix it. I could be a better mother. I could keep him alive. I know better now. I take him to counseling and refill his prescription for antidepressants, but I’ve forced myself to let go of my need to keep him alive. It sounds strange to say that as a mother — perhaps even neglectful. But I’ve had to figure out how to parent a suicidal teenager on my own. No one tells you what to do when your teenager

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wants to die. The psychiatric hospital staff tells you to lock up your ibuprofen — even though your son says he wants to jump off a tall building and could buy ibuprofen at the corner store. Then they send you home. When you get there, you realize there’s a world of ways to die and none of them are preventable. There’s no one there to console you or help you manage your own fear. It’s easy to let it take over. And I did — for months. Every time I called down the stairs and he didn’t reply, I imagined I’d find him dead. When he began skipping school, I was too scared to ground him. I let him get away with more than I should at home, too. All I could think about was keeping my son alive for another day.

My son’s suicidal thoughts didn’t go away after his first hospitalization. The next time, I found myself pulling into a parking lot to read the frantic texts from his friend. I drove home as fast as I could, and told him to get in the car. I didn’t tell him I was taking him to the psychiatric ward because I knew he wouldn’t want to go. When I finally admitted where we were going, he threatened to jump out of the car. But my heart was beating in time to my fear, and there was no room for negotiation. My decision left scars I never imagined. For months afterward, my son panicked when I asked him to get into the car. He was angry I didn’t directly ask him if he was in crisis before I made >> parentmap.com • November 2017 • 17


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voice Protecting My Suicidal Son continued from page 17 the decision to take him to the hospital, and he was convinced I’d take him to the hospital again if he opened up to me about his feelings. “Why should I talk to you now?” he demanded, and I had no answer. I wanted the best for him, but instead I placed a wedge between us that’s yet to be removed. It’s a small wedge, wrapped in good intentions and a mother’s love, but it’s a wedge nonetheless. When he told me how angry he was at me for taking him to the hospital, I wanted to scream at him that it was the best I could do. I wanted to tell him that his death would destroy me. I wanted to beg him to stay alive for me, even if saying that is toxic and manipulative because his life means more to me than right or wrong. But that’s not what my son needs. So I try harder to create a safe space for him to be

vulnerable. I vow to respect his boundaries by giving him a say in his own treatment, and work harder to regain his trust. I even promise him that I’ll never take him to the hospital without telling him again. He met me halfway and said that if we talk first and I’m still convinced he needs to go to the hospital, he will get in the car — even if he doesn’t want to go, even if he doesn’t believe he needs help. It took six months to learn he was again planning to die by suicide; this time the school nurse told me. I had begun to relax, but I felt the familiar fear rise as she offered me resources to hep. “This isn’t my first rodeo,” I said, before thanking her and hanging up. I thought desperately of the hospital and its promise of safety, but I knew I had to do better by my son. I had to stop inflicting trauma in the name of

saving his life. I waited for him to get home from school, and I met him at the door. “We need to talk,” I said. He told me he wasn’t in crisis, but his medication wasn’t working. We made a safety plan together, and for the first time he was open with me about the depths of his depression. My son didn’t die that day, or any other day since, and he’s begun to trust me again. We went to the doctor together, and he agreed to try a new antidepressant. This one works, he tells me, and I hope the threat of suicide is behind him. But if there is a next time, I will keep my promises. My son needs to live, but he also needs a mother he can trust — even if that means putting his needs ahead of my need to protect him, even if it means letting go of the promise of safety, even if it means holding my breath until the next crisis passes. n Jody Allard is ParentMap’s managing editor.

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Let’s Play: Little Red Hen. OFT invites little ones to enjoy an excitement-filled show, just the right length for young attention spans. Nov. 6, 9–11; 10 a.m. $5. Ages 0–5 with caregiver. Olympia Family Theater. olyft.org Pajamarama! Evening Story Time. Get cozy in your jammies and bring your favorite stuffy to wind down with bedtime stories and songs. Mondays, 6:45–7:30 p.m. FREE. Ages 3–6 with adult. Shoreline Library. kcls.org ONGOING EVENT

Reading with Rover. Kids gain confidence reading aloud to trained therapy dogs. First and third Tuesdays, 6:30–7:30 p.m. FREE. Ages 5–10. Half Price Books, Redmond. readingwithrover.org ONGOING EVENT Reading Buddies. Little kids love to read to big kids. Teen volunteers read with littles. Tuesdays through Nov. 14, 4:30–5:30 p.m. FREE. Ages 4–8. Pierce County Library Gig Harbor and University Place branches. piercecountylibrary.org

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Amazing Animals. Touch (or taste!) insects, pet ponies and more at this mash-up of Burke events Bug Blast and Meet the Mammals. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. $7.50–$10; ages 4 and under free; buy timed entry tickets online. Burke Museum, Seattle. burkemuseum.org The Fluffy Tale of Adventure. What or who is The Squolf? Find out in this cute play about friendship. Saturday–Sunday through Nov. 12. $12. Ages 5–12 with families (Sunday shows are all ages). Second Story Repertory, Redmond. secondstoryrepertory.org

Lil’ Diggers Playtime. Kids dig digging in the giant indoor sandbox. Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, 9:30–11 a.m. or 11:30 a.m.–1 p.m. $8. Ages 5 and under with caregiver. Sandbox Sports, Seattle. sandboxsports.net ONGOING EVENT Animal Viewing at Kelsey Creek Farm. Stop by Bellevue’s city-owned farm park to see pigs, ponies, sheep, chickens, rabbits and goats, then play at the playground or wander the trails. Daily 9:30 a.m.–3:30 p.m. FREE. Bellevue. farmerjayne.com ONGOING EVENT

Indoor Playground. Tots play with push buggies, climbers, trikes and more. Tuesday, Thursday, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. $3. Ages 9 months–5 years with caregiver. North Kirkland Community Center. kirklandwa.gov ONGOING EVENT Play to Learn. Kids and caregivers gather for community play and circle time. Tuesdays, 10–11:30 a.m.; additional weekly times and locations. FREE. Ages 6 and under with caregiver. Charles Wright Academy and Puyallup Public Library. playtacoma.org ONGOING EVENT

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Piper’s Creek Salmon Celebration. Welcome chum and coho salmon back to the creek and mark the occasion with kids’ activities, music and more. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. FREE. Carkeek Park, Seattle. govlink.org/ watersheds Fantasy Lights Walk. Take in the amazing light displays by foot, the only chance to walk, not drive, through the park. 5–8 p.m. $4 per person. Early bird discount available online. Spanaway Park, Tacoma. co.pierce.wa.us

Hoppy Hour. Bounce time for energetic kids to get the rainy day (or any day) wiggles out. Monday–Friday, 10 a.m.–12:30 p.m. $6–$9. Ages 1–8. Elevated Sportz Trampoline Park, Bothell. elevatedsportz.com ONGOING EVENT Kitty Literature. Kids practice reading skills with a supportive audience of shelter cats; sign up for a 20-minute session. Monday–Friday, times vary. FREE; preregister. Ages 5–10. Seattle Humane, Bellevue. seattlehumane.org ONGOING EVENT

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Santa Train. Ride a vintage train to visit Santa and have a treat. Select dates Nov. 25–Dec. 17; special departure for families with special needs on Nov. 26. $24; under age 2 free. Northwest Railway Museum North Bend Depot. trainmuseum.org ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas. Start off the season right with this delightful holiday show filled with good cheer and Christmas carols. Friday–Sunday, Nov. 24– Dec. 3. $10–$15. All ages. Bellevue Youth Theatre. parks.bellevuewa.gov

Providence O’Christmas Trees Christmas Carnival. View the gorgeous trees and rock out to Caspar Babypants and other performers. 3–7 p.m. FREE. The Westin Seattle. washington.providence.org Zoolights. Revel in the dazzling light creations — hammerhead sharks, a polar bear family and more. Nov. 24–Jan. 1, 5–9 p.m. (closed Dec. 24). $8.50–$10; ages 2 and under free. Point Defiance Zoo & Aquarium, Tacoma. pdza.org/zoolights

OmTots Play Gym. Bounce around, swing from the ceiling and play like monkey. Monday–Friday, 9:30 a.m.–noon. $14; discounts available. Ages 1–5 with caregiver. OmCulture, Seattle. omculture.com ONGOING EVENT Garden d’Lights. Plant and critter shapes created from over half a million lights sparkle and amaze. Daily, Nov. 25–Dec. 31, 4:30–9 p.m. $5; ages 10 and under free; check online for select free admission nights. Bellevue Botanical Garden. gardendlights.org

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Toddler Gym. Toddler play times and tot gym times are now FREE at Seattle’s neighborhood community centers. Monday– Saturday, various times. Ages 5 and under with caregiver. Seattle. seattle.gov/parks ONGOING EVENT Tool Time Tuesday. Get busy with tools, hammering a nail or sawing a board. Tuesdays, 3–4 p.m. Included with admission. KidsQuest Children’s Museum, Bellevue. kidsquestmuseum.org ONGOING EVENT


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FREE Friday Night at HOCM. This Friday is filled with fall fun, crafts and autumn-inspired activities at Hands On Children’s Museum. 5–9 p.m. Ages 10 and under with families. Olympia. hocm.org Family Bingo Night. Bring your family and your own marker or dauber and get in on some bingo fun with great prizes. 6:30–9:30 p.m. $5 includes 6 bingo sheets; ages 3 and under free; preregister. All ages. Meridian Habitat Park, Puyallup. piercecountywa.org

Totally Kids Only Race. Let the kids loose to run around the lake! One- and two-mile course options. Parents are welcome to run, but not required as the course is supervised. 9–10:30 a.m. Ages 14 and under. Wapato Park, Tacoma. metroparkstacoma.org The Pied Piper of Hamelin. Last weekend to see this classic story with a heartwarming message. Friday–Sunday through Nov. 5. $10–$15. All ages. Bellevue Youth Theatre. parks.bellevuewa.gov

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Tugboat Story Time. Cozy up on a real tugboat for stories of the sea. Second and fourth Thursdays, 11 a.m. FREE. Ages 1–8 with caregiver. Center for Wooden Boats, Seattle. cwb.org ONGOING EVENT Critter Club. Enjoy animal stories, handson exploration and a real-live surprise. Nov. 9–10, 30; 11 a.m. $13–$15; preregister. Ages 3–5 with adult. Point Defiance Zoo & Aquarium, Tacoma. pdza.org

Tots Welcoming Shabbat. All are welcome to share singing, prayer, challah and juice in a joyful environment. Fridays, 11:15 a.m.–noon. FREE. Ages 0–5 with caregiver. Temple B’Nai Torah, Bellevue. templebnaitorah.org ONGOING EVENT Veteran Appreciation Days. Point Defiance Zoo & Aquarium and Northwest Trek offer free admission to active-duty military and veterans, and half-price for their immediate families. Friday–Sunday, Nov. 10–12. Tacoma, Eatonville. pdza.org, nwtrek.org

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Baby Gym. You and your baby explore with coach guidance at this FREE drop-in group class. Wednesday, 9:30–10 a.m. Ages 4–12 months with caregiver. Advantage Gymnastics Academy, Woodinville. advantagegym.com ONGOING EVENT Kidz Bounce Drop-In Time. Grown-ups get a breather while the little ones get their workout. Tuesday–Thursday, 9:30–11 a.m. or 12:30–2 p.m.; Thursday, 5–6:30 p.m. $8. Ages 2–10. Kidz Bounce, Preston. kidzbounce.com ONGOING EVENT

Family Nature Class. Explore learning stations about nocturnal animals and get outside for a short hike. Thursday–Saturday, 9:30–11:30 a.m. $19 per adult/child pair; preregister. Ages 2–5 with caregiver. Washington Park Arboretum, Seattle. botanicgardens.uw.edu Kaleidoscope Play and Learn. Meet and play with other families. Thursday, 10:30–noon. FREE. Ages 0–5 with caregiver. Third Place Commons, Lake Forest Park. thirdplacecommons.org ONGOING EVENT

Mercer Slough Night Walk. Learn all about nocturnal animals in the lab, then head out for a guided night walk. 7–9 p.m. $15; preregister. Ages 6 and up with adult. Mercer Slough Environmental Education Center Center, Bellevue. pacificsciencecenter.org FREE Admission Night at Imagine. Let off steam for FREE at this popular museum. 5:30–9 p.m. Ages 1–12 with families. Imagine Children’s Museum, Everett. imaginecm.org

Yulefest. Partake in Scandinavian Christmas traditions with music, tasty treats, craft marketplace and Santa. $5; ages 12 and under free. Saturday–Sunday, Nov. 18–19. Nordic Heritage Museum, Seattle. nordicmuseum.org Disney’s Newsies. Enjoy this Tony Award-winning musical romp about the newsboy strike of 1899. Nov. 9–Dec. 31. Two performances today: 2 p.m. and 8 p.m. $37–$82. Ages 8 and up. Village Theatre, Issaquah. villagetheatre.org

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Seattle Turkey Trot. Join your community for a scenic 5K jaunt that finishes at Golden Gardens and benefits the Ballard Food Bank. 9 a.m. $15–$40. Golden Gardens, Seattle. seattleturkeytrot.org Norpoint Turkey Trot. Move your body before stuffing your belly; try the 5K run, 2-mile run/walk or kids’ trot. 9 a.m. $15–$35. Center at Norpoint, Tacoma. metroparkstacoma.org

Youth Appreciation and Water Safety Day. Dive in to enjoy swimming, water safety demos and more. 12:30–2:30 p.m. $7; ages 12 and under free. Bellevue Aquatic Center. bellevuewa.gov Hook. Follow Peter’s return to Neverland as an adult — to save the day — in this Spielberg classic. Free inflatable swords while supplies last. Nov. 24–26. Price TBD. Rated PG. SIFF Film Center, Seattle. siff.net

Greet the Season. Celebrate the season with music, dance, crafts and more; bring new socks to donate to a homeless shelter and get $2 off admission to MOHAI. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. FREE. Lake Union Park, Seattle. mohai.org Holiday Tree Lighting. Gather with the community for this traditional welcome of the season; get tickets to see Cirquetacular’s “Snowkus Pocus” beforehand. 5 p.m. 9th and Broadway, Tacoma. broadwaycenter.org

Ballard Church Indoor Play. Neighborhood church opens its doors for families with tots to play out of the rain. Tuesday– Thursday, 10:30 a.m.–1:30 p.m. FREE. Ages 0–8 with adult. Ballard Church, Seattle. ballardchurch.com ONGOING EVENT Low-sensory Evening. KidsQuest invites kids to play with a bit less noise and light, and fewer other guests. 5:30–7:30 p.m. FREE; preregister. Ages 1–10 with families. KidsQuest Children’s Museum, Bellevue. kidsquestmuseum.org

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Winterfest. Marvel at the massive model train display (control trains during special hours with $2 suggested donation) and enjoy the seasonal skating rink. Performances on select dates. Nov. 24–Jan. 7. Train viewing FREE; skating requires fee. Seattle Center. seattlecenter.com Snowflake Lane. It’s a nightly holiday parade with lights, drummers, dancers and more. Daily, Nov. 24–Dec. 24, 7 p.m. FREE. Bellevue Way and N.E. 8th St., Bellevue. snowflakelane.com

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very holiday season, we’re reminded of the importance of volunteering, but we don’t need seasonal reminders to realize people are in need. Take our area’s biggest city. You can’t go a block in Seattle without seeing someone without a home (a reality reflected in the startlingly statistic that the number of people living on the streets in King County has jumped 21 percent since last year). While we can — and should — talk with our children about what that statistic means, a whole new level of learning happens when families volunteer together to help those in need. Christine Craig of North Seattle recalls her 6-year-old daughter’s reaction to volunteering at Wellspring Family Services. “She said, ‘I thought we were helping homeless people. They look just like us,’” says Craig. Suddenly, Craig’s kids knew homelessness didn’t fit inside a stereotype. “To realize a homeless person could be anyone and not just a person they saw panhandling on the corner drove home the lesson that you need to be kind to everyone at school, because you can’t tell what’s going on in their lives,” says Craig, who started volunteering with her four children when they were preschoolers. Creating such learning experiences is just one of many reasons family volunteering is beneficial, but how to do it? Here are the whys and hows of volunteering together — whether it’s addressing our area’s critical problem with housing or supporting our community in others ways this holiday season.

Why it’s worth it While our instincts often tell us to shield our kids, volunteering helps kids deal with the world and its problems. After volunteering to help the homeless, one of Craig’s kids became worried that their family would lose their home. But it wasn’t the volunteering that caused that

concern; rather, volunteering allowed that concern to surface, says parenting expert Sarina Behar Natkin. Children are thinking thoughts like this all the time, but don’t know it’s okay to say them aloud until they’re presented with opportunities to talk, she says. Volunteering creates such an opportunity, says Rachel Murray, volunteer engagement manager at United Way of King County. “[It allows] dialogue with family members about the community they live in, the issues the community faces and the great work that is going

on to work towards solving those issues,” Murray says. It’s also a tangible way to build a sense of compassion and empathy for those less fortunate than ourselves, she adds. Doing good is also a huge boost for young kids struggling with behavior issues. “The added responsibility and the act of volunteering give a child the sense that ‘I matter,’” says Natkin. “When we feel connected to something, we’re more cooperative.” Volunteering as a unit also strengthens family bonds. “Getting outside of ourselves and our individual problems and doing this as a family builds cooperation, collaboration and connection,” says Natkin. Her own family’s best family meeting happened after volunteering together, she notes.

How to make it happen If you want a recipe for disaster, go from zero volunteering to four hours every Saturday without getting your kids’ buy-in and not prepping them beforehand. “I’ve had parents bring their kids in, saying they forgot to tell them what they’re doing today. That is a hard sell,” says Nichelle Hilton, community resource coordinator at YWCA Seattle-King-Snohomish. The first tip for success: Start small. Perhaps build a care kit at home. This small care package often includes practical items that will be of use to someone without a regular home. Online, you’ll find plenty of ideas about what to include in the package; socks, snacks, and hotel-size shampoos and soaps are popular items. Families can also ask nonprofits what the organizations would like in a care kit. >> EDITOR’S NOTE: Join ParentMap on a yearlong conversation to explore how families and schools can nurture empathy, mindfulness and kindness. parentmap.com/raisingkind Sponsored by the Community of Mindful Parenting

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How this Dupont military mom channeled her grief

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isa Hallett is on the run — literally. On the day we met, Hallett was busy shuttling her three kids to camps, fielding emails as the executive director of a nonprofit she cofounded and training for her next race, an Ironman Triathlon in Arizona. It’s a daunting schedule, but for Hallett, it’s a familiar and comforting routine. Hallett turned to running after her husband, Army Capt. John Hallett, was killed in action in Afghanistan in 2009. “My world was upside-down,” says Hallett of that time. She learned of her husband’s death with her 3-week-old baby on her hip — a baby John never got to meet. Hallett had long used running as a way to cope with her husband’s deployments and the family’s frequent moves, but following his death, she found new solace in the activity. She recalls a run she took with friend Erin O’Connor through their Dupont neighborhood in the days immediately following the news. Soon, others joined them in a show of support. Eventually, in the parking lot of a nearby Burger King, her nonprofit was born. What is it about running that you think helps a family dealing with absence or grief? When you’re training for a run, you have this purpose to move forward — literally and figuratively. The first time we met, we didn’t know what this looked like, where we were going or what we were doing, but we just knew we had to do [it] … and we [ran] around the airfield. And then the following week, we said, “We should say their names,” and so we started to say the names of the men and women who had been killed so far in that deployment. It all felt very out of our control, but when we gathered on those weekly runs, it was something we could control, and even if it was only for that moment, it was something we could do. We could keep their stories alive in our steps, and we could grow stronger in the experience — literally and figuratively — as we tackled each of those runs. Everyone has a place in this community. There are days we give strength and days we receive strength. What are you looking forward to right now? I’m really excited about the second year of our Gold Star Youth Mentorship Program, which is in partnership with Big Brothers Big Sisters of Southwest Washington, through the support of USO Jermaine Kearse 15 to 1 Programs. [ This local foundation was started by former Seattle Seahawk Jermaine Kearse to support children in military families.] [In the Gold Star Youth Mentorship Program,] each child is

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Wear blue: run to remember has four chapters around the country and 45 regular meetups; Hallett and O’Connor officially founded it together in 2009. Each chapter hosts a weekly run where participants gather in a circle and say the names of those for whom they run. That mission of remembrance carries over to wear blue: run to remember events. Runners honor fallen service members during the “wear blue Mile,” a mile of the course along which supporters wave American flags in front of large posters showing the photo of a fallen service member. (Wear blue members don’t have to be connected to the military; all are welcome to participate, Hallett says.) The goal? Create “a living memorial for our country’s fallen military members” and, in doing so, support the families left behind by getting them moving in a new direction. n

Maegen Blue is the editor of “Sounds Fun Mom” (soundsfunmom.com), a blog for South Sound families. She lives in Puyallup with her husband and two boys. matched with an active-duty service member who has been screened by the Big Brothers and Big Sisters organization. Then, they train for a race together. It’s just wonderful for these children who have sacrificed so much to get to have this relationship and something just for them. Many of our Gold Star children [had] parents who passed away before they really had a chance to be exposed to a life of service and to really know their parents. For example, my husband, John, was killed three weeks after Heidi was born, so she never really got to know her daddy and she never got to be a military kid. In this program, we’ve been able to illuminate John’s life by illuminating a life of service.

You and your husband grew up together in California. Why did you choose to make the Northwest your home? We have always had tremendous community support [in the Northwest]. I have a neighbor who brought my garbage cans up — not for days or weeks, but for years. I finally had to tell him the kids were old enough to do it. I like that this is a part of the country where we can live the social ideals we value; we’re also a very active family, so I love that we can hike or get outside whenever we have time. Are all wear blue runners athletes? Can anyone join in? Athletes or future athletes! We run in Dupont every Saturday. Come join us!


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