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In like, in love As I reflect on the multi-faceted theme at the center of our annual February issue — love! — I am anticipating a visit from Mo, a childhood friend of my longest acquaintance who is touring Seattle University with her eldest daughter.

So much of how we learn to love begins with the extraordinary ordinariness of childhood friendship and its uncomplicated but sturdy base metal: pure like. As kids, we like the people we like because we like them — we don’t strain ourselves to scrutinize their faults (a particularly ungenerous habit of adults). Children are naturals at like.

What Mo and I learned at the home-based preschool operated by big-hearted Rita Kelly: reciprocity, silliness, manners and loyalty. I would go so far to say even criminal conspiracy, for Mo was my first partner in a caper so inept and disastrous that its humiliating discovery fundamentally put us both on the straight and narrow path of decency at the very precocious age of maybe 4 or 5.

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From the bedrock like of childhood friendship, many of us enter the blast furnace of “falling in love” during adolescence. Friend and former ParentMap colleague Natalie Singer-Velush writes about such a first real love in her beautiful essay about the life-changing experience of summer camp on p. 16.

From quicksilver yearnings of young love, we flit from one form of attraction to the next, distilling phases of intimacy and commitment as we mature. We begin to mine golden nuggets of kindness, generosity, trust and forgiveness from the less refined ore of our infatuations, petty selfishness and heartbreaks. Slowly, we forge the alloy of compromise, solidarity and responsibility that is required if an important relationship is to endure. To a greater or lesser degree (and depending on the day), the satisfactions and benefits that our partnership furnishes hopefully mostly distract us from the pain of our own emotional evolution.

But then, a child comes into our life, and the arc of love is forever altered. The love we feel for our child engulfs us with an unforeseeable intensity. We discover (maybe for the first time ever) that it is actually quite natural and transformative to empathize with another person.

And even when it feels like a labor (!) to love our child, we are compelled to do so — by nature and by destiny. We become the person we truly are: a person who knows how to love.

Within the pages of this month’s issue, you’ll find dozens of nifty notions for celebrating your favorite loved ones, from family-friendly fun (Play List, p. 18) to low-key and offbeat Valentine’s Day date night ideas (p. 21) to a PNW pilgrimage that is all about geek love (Destination: Funko HQ, p. 25). If you only read one thing in this issue, let it be our feature by ParentMap’s own Kari Hanson on ways all of us can help children experiencing foster care (Fostering Connections, p. 8).

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Wellness Well Child The importance of routine primary care for children’s healthy growth and development

By Gemma Alexander There are many reasons why people avoid seeing their doctor until someone gets sick.

But regular checkups are a powerful line of defense that can prevent illness in the first place. Regular health care is especially important for young children.

“Well-child visits focus on growth, development and preventative care tailored to the child’s age,” says Andrea Donalty, M.D., medical director of the Mary Bridge Primary Care Network for Mary Bridge Children’s Hospital. When you take a sick child to the doctor, the doctor may not be able to perform early-detection screenings or provide preventive care, such as vaccinations. Skipping well-child visits also delays the opportunity to build a long-term relationship with a care team who understands what is normal for your child and who knows your family’s medical history.

Prioritizing routine care Although we call it routine, a lot of preventive care is age-dependent and individualized. Even routine elements of a wellness visit — such as measuring height and weight — are checking for a healthy trajectory of growth over time that is unique to your child.

For newborns and infants, routine visits can teach parents and guardians about healthy feeding and sleep practices, and what symptoms may warrant an emergency visit.

As children grow, well-child visits include a variety of age-appropriate screenings that can catch many health concerns before they become serious. For example, mental health screenings are becoming standard for older children and teens. The U.S. Preventive Services Task Force recommends that children ages 8–18 be screened for anxiety, and children ages 12–18 be

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screened for depression and suicide risk.

“We have seen a huge rise in anxiety and depression in adolescents. We try to identify these things early so we can get them connected with the right help and prevent more significant health concerns from developing in the future,” says Donalty.

Well-child visits can also include screening for lifestyle determinants of health, such as traumatic events, food insecurity and even caregivers’ mental health. Health-care providers can provide coaching, resources and referrals for concerns ranging from postpartum depression to hunger.

The importance of routine preventive care and an ongoing relationship with a care team is nowhere more evident than vaccination. If the same provider can’t be seen, sharing the previous medical records or out of state/country immunization records with the new provider in advance of the next visit can help inform medical history and keep the conversation and momentum going toward healthy development.

Standard vaccinations The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices maintains the standard schedule of basic vaccinations.

The result of decades of research to identify the safest and most effective way to protect children from disease, the schedule is endorsed by the American Academy of Family Physicians and the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Getting your child vaccinated not only protects them, it protects others, too. “The higher the vaccination rate in the community, the more protected the vulnerable can

be.” Keeping up to date on vaccination is the best way to prevent serious illness from childhood diseases. Vaccinations are even more strongly recommended for immunocompromised children, because their risk from infections is higher.

“Vaccines are safe. They are effective, and we don’t see a lot of these illnesses anymore because of the success of vaccines.

It is so immensely important for people to get in for their well-child visits and to stay on schedule with their vaccines.

It’s advantageous to have that trusting relationship with your primary care pediatrician, family physician or nurse practitioner to be empowered towards vaccinations,” says Donalty.

Safeguarding against flu The flu vaccine is recommended annually for everyone ages 6 months and older. In homes with infants younger than 6 months, vaccinating the rest of the family can help protect the infant by reducing exposure to infection. Although the flu vaccine does not guarantee that an individual will not contract the flu, it does reduce the chances and intensity of infection.

“Not only does it lessen the course of the disease, greatly reducing the risk of hospitalization, but it provides some carryover protection from year to year,” says Donalty.

Even if someone has already had the flu this season, it is possible to catch another strain. Getting vaccinated now will protect against other strains of the virus.

(Learn more about protection for the flu at KnockOutFlu.org.)

COVID-19 vaccinations While available COVID-19 vaccinations may reduce the likelihood of infection, they are

no guarantee against becoming sick. Donalty notes, “You get the COVID-19 vaccine to prevent significant health issues from infection.” Vaccination decreases the risk of hospitalization or death from infection and may also reduce the risk of long COVID. The current recommendation is that everyone ages 6 months and older complete their primary vaccine series and stay up to date on eligible booster doses.

There are different brands and doses of each vaccine, so the exact number of injections and timing for receiving them will vary. The timing of a dose may be adjusted to leverage natural immunity for people who have recently recovered from a COVID-19 infection. Communicate with your primary care provider to work out the best COVID-19 vaccination schedule for you and your family.

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It’s time to catch up on checkups

Making healthy choices Healthier choices to prioritize good nutrition, adequate sleep and exercise are the foundation of overall health.

But when it comes to avoiding viruses, it’s about following “things told to us when we were little,” says Donalty.

Wash hands well and frequently, and use hand sanitizer when you can’t wash. Cover your coughs and sneezes, and avoid touching your face. Stay home when you’re sick. The only recent addition to the recommendations is masking to prevent the spread of germs.

Building the routine of going to well-child visits not only prevents illness through vaccination and early detection, it can result in better-informed parents and guardians who build habits that keep the whole family healthier.

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Fostering Connections Everyone can help children who are experiencing foster care Before I became a foster parent, foster care was one of those things that I had heard of but never gave much thought to, thanks in large part to my privilege of being a white, married, middle-class, heterosexual, cisgender person. For me, foster care was a storyline in movies and TV shows (sometimes portrayed accurately, sometimes not), or a news story that popped into my social media feed every once in a while.

But for thousands of families in Washington state, navigating the foster care system is a daily reality. There are approximately 8,000 children living in out-of-home care in our state. While that is a high number, there are a couple of reasons to be optimistic: • The number of youths experiencing foster care in Washington state has been trending downward for the past several years.

• Almost 44 percent of youths in foster care in Washington are placed with a relative (called kinship care). While there is room for improvement, this percentage is higher than the national average.

Youths in kinship care have more positive outcomes than those who live

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with a nonrelative foster family, including minimized trauma, connection with siblings, and improved behavior and mental health outcomes. Hopefully, the percentage of youths placed with family will continue to increase.

In Washington, approximately 77 percent of youths enter foster care due to neglect, which is often the result of the trauma and challenges their parents are dealing with.

Many of these families could benefit from preventive services and support, which would perhaps eliminate the need for their children to be removed.

Recent laws such as the Family First Prevention Services Act of 2018 and the Family First Transition Act of 2019 allow states to use federal funds for preventive services, rather than for foster care expenses only. While this shift toward prevention and support may be occurring, it is happening slowly. In 2020, Washington spent $188.7 million on foster care, compared to just $10.7 million on preventive services such as substance abuse treatment, mental health care and parental skills training.

Within three years of entering foster care, approximately 57 percent of children will be reunified with their parents; 16 percent will be adopted; 5 percent are placed with a guardian; 3 percent become emancipated; and 16 percent remain in foster care.

The average time a child stays in foster care is 15–18 months.

The impact is not equal Foster care does not impact all children and families equally. Native American

By Kari Hanson children are nearly three times as likely to be placed in out-of-home care than white youths; African American children are twice as likely to be placed in out-of-home care than white youths.

LQBTQIA+ youths are overrepresented in foster care as well, and are also often experiencing family rejection in addition to other trauma. If a youth who identifies as LGBTQ does not feel supported in their foster home, they are more likely to run away, and therefore more likely to experience homelessness. In fact, 40 percent of youths experiencing homelessness identify as LGBTQ, and 33 percent of Washington youths who have spent time in foster care experience homelessness by the time they turn 21.

While youths from any socioeconomic background can, and do, experience abuse or neglect, children are removed from their homes more frequently in lower-income communities. Keeping youths experiencing foster care close to their schools, churches, friends and other sources of support is critical for their success. However, often foster families are not available in the communities from where children are most frequently removed, resulting in children being placed far away from their support systems. Placing children outside of their communities also presents an extra challenge for parental visits.

Reunification is the goal The goal of foster care is for children to be able to return home to their parents; this is referred to as reunification. Nearly 60 percent of youths who experience foster care in Washington state are able to reunify

with their parents. Only about 16 percent of youths who experience foster care wind up being adopted by a nonfamily member.

Foster parents can support the goal of reunification in a number of ways, including by: • Making sure the child is available and ready for visits.

• Establishing a relationship with the child’s parent(s).

• Communicating regularly with the child’s parent(s).

• Speaking in a positive way about the child’s parent(s).

Of course, reunification is not always possible, and sometimes adoption does become a child’s permanent plan. Organizations such as Northwest Adoption Exchange (nwae.org) work to find adoptive homes for youths experiencing foster care in Oregon, Washington and Alaska.

organization licenses and supports foster parents and kinship providers, and works to promote and support connections between foster parents and parents whose children have been removed from their home.

The Family Connections Program brings parents whose children are placed in out-of-home care and those caring for the children (foster or kinship caregivers) together to have a facilitated, collaborative, child-focused conversation. These conversations allow parents and caregivers to connect and make a plan to work together to support the child(ren) they all care about. Nicole Mazen, Amara’s chief program and policy officer, explains, “We are working toward a system that supports a community approach rather than an individualistic one.”

Youths experiencing foster care often

struggle with dual loyalties. Even though their home life may have been challenging, kids love their parents. But at the same time, they might also discover happiness in a foster home — holding both of those feelings at the same time can be a big challenge. They may wonder if it’s okay to tell their foster parent that they miss and love their mom. They may feel nervous telling their parents about a fun activity or outing with their foster parent. When they are able to see their parents and their foster parents communicating and working together, the “us versus them” feelings may subside.

If you do end up adopting a child through foster care, maintaining that connection to their family is incredibly important. Children need to know where they come from, as well as the truth (in age-appropriate terms) about their past and history.

Connection is key The foster care system can often seem like a bunch of individuals in various silos focused on their own role in the larger process. Social workers deal with paperwork and the legal side of cases. Foster parents and kinship providers address the day-today care and needs of the children placed in their homes. Parents attend meetings, court hearings and parenting classes, trying to jump through all of the hoops presented to them so that they can reunite with their children.

Too often, these key players are not given the opportunity to connect and figure out how to work together toward the goal of reunification. Connection is what’s often missing, and connection is key.

Luckily, programs exist to help build connection and break down barriers built up by fear.

One such program is the Family Connections Program at Amara (amarafamily.org). Amara is located in both King and Pierce counties, and it has been supporting foster youths and families for more than 100 years. The

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Sometimes parents feel like they are protecting children from information that is hard to hear, but when children lack this information, they tend to make up stories, which can oftentimes be much more exaggerated than the truth.

It is important to remember that, like any other relationship, the connection you have as a foster parent, kinship provider or adoptive parent with a child’s family will change over time. Situations and people change over time, and remaining open to that change is critical.

There are different ways to get involved While reducing the number of youths who are removed from their families in the first place and relying on kinship care as much as possible are best, there is still currently a need for foster parents. According to

data from the Washington State Department of Children, Youth & Families (DCYF; dcyf.wa.gov), there has been an overall decline in the number of foster homes across Washington state. In March 2019, there were 5,061 licensed foster homes; as of September 2022, that number had fallen by 16 percent, to 4,257. Keep in mind that this is the number of licensed homes, which is smaller than the number of homes that have an opening for a child entering foster care. Some of those homes are already full, some are not taking new placements for a variety of personal reasons, and some became licensed to provide care for a specific child. This lack of foster homes makes it incredibly hard for children to be placed in a home that can meet their specific needs, in their specific community.

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Mazen notes, “Throughout our work with families, we ensure that they are gaining the necessary skills to provide open, affirming, loving and relationship-focused homes. We expect that our families will be able to meet the unique identity needs of youths they welcome into their home: This includes their cultural identities, their SOGIE [sexual orientation, gender identity and expression], their identity as a youth in foster care, and their relationships with their parents and extended family.

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Foster Care Myths Myth: Kids are in foster care because they are bad. Reality: Children enter foster care because they are in an unsafe situation that is outside of their control, not because of something they did. Youths experiencing foster care are exactly like any other child you’ll encounter. Some of them are dealing with different traumas, but they are just kids who need love, patience and support.

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Myth: I can’t be a foster parent because it will be too hard to have a child leave my house. Reality: Yes, reunification can be painful for foster parents. But that’s okay — that’s part of the deal. Your job as a foster parent is to provide a safe, loving home for a child until they can go back to their parents.

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Myth: I can’t be a foster parent because I’m single/LGBTQ/don’t make enough money/ don’t own a home, etc. Reality: There is a need for diverse foster parents to help meet the needs of diverse foster youths. The thing you think might hold you back from being a foster parent is probably actually an asset!

You can rent an apartment or own a home, be married or single, be heterosexual, gay, pansexual, transgender, etc., and be a foster parent.

Myth: I will just adopt the first child placed in my home. Reality: Only 16 percent of kids who experience foster care are adopted by a nonfamily member. It does happen sometimes, but it is not the norm, and should not be your goal as a foster parent. If you are interested in adoption only, check out Northwest Adoption Exchange (nwae.org) or AdoptUSKids (adoptuskids.org). These organizations work to find adoptive families for kids who cannot reunify with their parents.

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Becoming a foster parent There are several different ways you can go about becoming a foster parent in Washington state. You can become licensed directly though the State of Washington by applying through the DCYF website, where you will find more information, including the (many) forms you’ll need.

Another route to becoming a foster parent is to work with a private agency, known as a child placement agency (CPA). CPAs hold about 33 percent of the licensed foster homes in the state. People often choose to become licensed through a CPA because the agency is able to offer higher levels of support and guidance to foster parents. You can find a CPA that is a good match for you by filling out a quick form on the Washington Fosters website (foster.wachildrenandfamilies.org).

If you would like to learn more about becoming licensed with Amara, the first step is to attend an orientation meeting (Amara information meeting, or AIM).

You can find a list of upcoming meeting dates and times, on the website; you can also register there.

Other avenues of support for kids experiencing foster care If it’s not the right time for you to become a foster parent, there are other ways to support foster kids and families in your community. Organizations such as Treehouse (treehouseforkids.org) need donations and volunteers to support youths experiencing foster care with their education goals. The organization also provides items, such as clothing and toys, to foster families for children placed with them. Visit Fostering Family (fosteringfamilywa.org) for other ways to get involved — from volunteering to supporting foster youths or taking legislative action.

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Summer Camp Changed My Life Sending your kids to sleepaway camp is a gift

By Natalie Singer-Velush Summer camp changed my life.

I still can’t say exactly what it was about camp that turned me into a different girl every summer. But somewhere between the sweaty city limits of my boring urban childhood universe and the mountainous, leafy world north of my hometown of Montreal, a switch flipped. Suddenly, I wasn’t a not-very-popular girl whose parents were divorced, who was laden with homework and a mortifyingly uncool coat, waiting for the bus in the slushy, frigid winter.

I was free, mixing with a different crowd of kids from dozens of different schools. The usual cliques were nowhere to be seen. I had a duffel bag full of awesome camp gear: desert boots, unionsuit pajamas with a rear that unbuttoned (!), a yellow raincoat, plaid lumber jackets and wool socks, all purchased on the cheap from an Army surplus store. And there were no parents — the only authority was our counselor staff, whose members were just a few years older than the campers and so very cool.

It didn’t look like much when you first arrived, my camp: a weathered wooden archway, a dirt path, just wide enough to admit a maintenance truck — or an overheated school bus, its windows yanked down to circulate a warm summer breeze, the chatter of 70 kids flying out into the dusty country air.

Right now, countless parents are weighing whether enabling their children to live away from home for a spell at sleepaway camp is valuable, doable or wise. What trouble will they get into away from parental supervision?

But as I had considered when to send my two girls for their first overnight camp experiences, I’d argue that camp teaches the kind of values and character development that parents most want for their kids. Kids learn to function and thrive independently, developing skills that might make the difference between your kid succeeding in life after high school despite challenges and ending up back in your basement after “failing to launch.”

The time and space to explore boundaries, and to learn to manage freedom smartly and safely, is priceless. Give your kid time away, and they will give it back down the road tenfold. It will help them become leaders, develop grit and character, learn empathy for others and tap into their dreams.

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on my own. My first bout of homesickness. My first time acting in a play. And during my last summer, my first real love. We zeroed in on each other at the Saturday-night social that first week, my heart thumping nervously, his drumsticks sticking out of the back of his jeans pocket. That sweet first romance, under the impossibly bright stars of a mountain summer, will be with me all of my life.

But I also did things I never would have done in real life: I completed multiple five-day canoe trips — mini-excursions away from regular camp and into the true wilderness, navigating past a suspicious moose, building a fire and cooking meals over it. I tackled my fear of bodies of water. I wrote chants and led teams and wore body paint and tried archery. I opened myself up to some of the deepest friendships I have ever known. I learned to shower next to spiders.

Most importantly, I tapped into a community — a family — that stretched back long before me, that helped anchor me to my own life: The family of my camp, with its generations of wooden plaques and rustic rituals, its dirt paths and canvas tents, and its magical grasp on my heart.

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February Play List Fun ways to celebrate the month of love

By Nancy Chaney Check out many more happenings online at parentmap.com/calendar.

February is the bridge between the dead of winter and the verdant promise of spring, signaled by the first crocuses busting up through the cold ground to show their colors. Just like the crocuses, we’re busting out of the gray to celebrate Black History Month, make a date with our favorite people, spot some eagles and much more. Mark your calendar with these top events for family fun and learning time this month!

� February is Black History Month, an excellent time to visit Seattle’s recently reopened Northwest African American Museum (NAAM). Housed in the beautiful and historic Colman School building, NAAM showcases the history, art, voices and experiences of our local Black community.

Open Wednesday–Saturday, 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Admission is $10 for adults, $5 for ages 4–18, and free for ages 3 and younger. facebook.com/NAAMNW � It’s also the month of love, when Valentine’s Day prompts us to appreciate our romantic partner, if we have one. It’s

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also a good time to plan some one-on-one time with your kids. Check out our outing ideas for awesome and sweet dates for parents and kids. parentmap.com/vday

� Frolic in a winter wonderland before spring is upon us! Plan ahead to snag your spots on free guided snowshoe walks for families at various sites in the mountains. Locations include near Stevens Pass, near Snoqualmie Pass and at Mount Rainier. Walks take place Feb. 3–5, 10–12, 17–19 and 24–26. parentmap.com/snowshoe � February offers a special enticement to make the jaunt

to phenomenal Northwest Trek Wildlife Park in Eatonville.

During Kids ’n’ Critters Weekends, up to two kids ages 12 and younger enter the park for free with each paid adult admission. Applicable dates are Feb. 3–5, 10–12, 17–20

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� Dive into a whole different world of cinema with imaginative and thought-provoking feature films and shorts from around the globe. This year’s Children’s Film Festival Seattle offers in-person movie screenings at Northwest Film Forum and streaming from home as well. The festival runs Feb. 3–12.

Showtimes, workshops and ticket prices TBA. parentmap.com/film-festival � Celebrate the Year of the Rabbit with the community at local Lunar New Year fests.

Gather at Hing Hay Park in Seattle’s Chinatown– International District (10 a.m.– 3 p.m.) or at the Seattle Asian Art Museum in Volunteer Park (11 a.m.–2 p.m.) for thrilling lion dances, cultural activities and more. Saturday, Feb. 4. Free. parentmap.com/lny � Hunt for bald eagles — and

by “hunt,” of course, we mean look for and admire — where they gather in winter to feast on salmon. Head to Howard Miller Steelhead Park in the Skagit County town of Rockport to join a free guided nature walk, offered twice per day, Saturday–Sunday, Feb. 4–5 and 11–12. Call ahead (360-8537626) to reserve your spot. parentmap.com/eagles

� Mini Breaks dance classes are back! Local breakdancing legend Anna Banana Freeze welcomes tots ages 2–6 to learn super fun and authentic breakdancing moves. Sign up in advance for individual classes

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taking place Saturdays, Feb. 4, 11, 18 and 25 at The Beacon dance studio. Various class times. $20 per session. parentmap.com/mini-breaks

� The Year of the Rabbit has dawned. Join the South Sound community to celebrate Lunar New Year in person with games, activities, demos and live performances representing many Asia-Pacific countries and cultures. Samoa is the featured country this year.

Saturday, Feb. 25, 11 a.m.– 6 p.m. Free. parentmap.com/rabbit

� Visit the fascinating Cedar River Watershed and gather ’round the fire for a story time with friends. No registration is needed, but show up early to snag a spot, and be sure to save some time to explore the grounds. Fireside Storytime takes place in the education center on Saturdays at 11 a.m., Feb. 4, 11, 18 and 25. Free. parentmap.com/fireside � Who doesn’t want to be part of a happy couple? Tune in for this month’s ParentEd Talks event featuring author and researcher Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., who will share secrets for putting some zest into your relationship. Tuesday, Feb. 7, 2–3 p.m. Free; preregister. parentmap.com/live � Citizen science needs you every February! Rule the roost by tallying all the birds you see — from your yard, the park or any other locale — during one 15-minute time span, then log your findings with the Great Backyard Bird Count. Friday– Monday, Feb. 17–20. Free; preregister. parentmap.com/bird-count � Follow Carmela through the

streets of her neighborhood when she finally gets to join her brother to run errands as Seattle Children’s Theatre brings a beloved story to the stage in “Carmela Full of Wishes.” Best for ages 5 and older. Opening Feb. 17. Tickets $15–$45. sct.org

� Explore a familiar Pacific Northwest landscape in a whole new light. Or should we say whole new dark? Gather on the beach to explore low-tide revelations at night with the help of a Seattle Aquarium beach naturalist. Bring your flashlight or headlamp and step lightly at this free, drop-in program Saturday, Feb. 18, 8–10 p.m. parentmap.com/beach-walk

� Puck drop! It’s Kids’ Day with the Seattle Kraken as Matty, Eberle, McCann, Gruuuuuuu and all your favorite players take on the Toronto Maple Leafs.

The first 5,000 kids through the door at Climate Pledge Arena earn the Kids’ Day giveaway of a team Rubik’s Cube. Purchase tickets through Ticketmaster for the game on Sunday, Feb. 26, at 4 p.m. parentmap.com/kraken-kids

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Holiday Call the Sitter: This Is Not Your Average Valentine’s Day Date

By Gemma Alexander

If a fancy dinner and a suite at the Sorrento is your style, more power to you.

But for a lot of parents, pulling off that kind of splurgy date sounds more stressful than romantic. You’ve already successfully wooed your partner, so take advantage of these low-key and offbeat Valentine’s Day date ideas for enjoying each other’s company. (And if getting a sitter isn’t an option, most of these ideas are casual and corny enough for the whole family to enjoy together.)

A trip to the movies Going to the movies is the ultimate datenight cliché. Now that you have kids, actually watching a movie uninterrupted makes the old standby refreshing. But you

can add an extra layer of fun by avoiding the standard movie experience. Watch a silent movie accompanied by live music at The Paramount Theatre’s Silent Movie Mondays (stgpresents.org/smm). On Feb. 13, catch a screening of the 1927 romantic comedy “It,” starring Clara Bow. Central Cinema (central-cinema.com) not only sells alcohol, pizza and small plates,

it screens cult classics in “Hecklevision,” where you can use your smartphone to send smart-alecky comments to the screen. Sing-alongs, movie trivia nights and free family cartoon nights are other draws. The 21-and-older venue Big Picture (thebigpicture.net) has full bar and food service, with fare delivered to your armchair seat.

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Dorky sports If you’re both athletic, by all means, make a date to play tennis or pickleball, or challenge each other to a game of one-on-one basketball. But even if you’re both card-carrying couch potatoes, “old-man sports” such as bowling and pingpong can be a fun date. Try curling, or geeky options such as quidditch or Racket: Nx (whatnerd.com). Any version of golf works, too: the classic game (there are indoor virtual options, now), miniature golf or disc golf.

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Dorky sports generate gift ideas, too — consider a pair of red vintage bowling shoes, pickleball racquets à deux or a personalized curling stone. Even if you don’t stick with the sport, the gift will be a keepsake of a memorable date.

Play in the snow If you really want to splurge, it’s hard to top a weekend getaway to one of the Northwest’s best snow towns (parentmap.com/snow-towns). If you know how to ski or snowboard, you already know that the worst day on the mountain is better than the best day anywhere else. But even if you have no skills, playing in the snow is a rom-com trope for good reason. Tubing and sledding (parentmap.com/sledding), snowshoeing (parentmap.com/snowshoeing) or even just a good old snowball fight offers fresh air and exercise (endorphins!) while creating shared memories. Whether you go with the kids or just each other, bundle up and bring snacks and a thermos of hot chocolate or cider to take away the chill. You’ll get bonus points if you can work a hot springs dip (parentmap.com/hot-springs) or a hot tub into the excursion.

Make a morning of it Sometimes when your kids are young, a night on the town is not worth the lack of sleep. If your kids have trained you to wake up before the crack of dawn, take advantage of the early hours you’re forced to keep with a morning date. Take the dog for a sunrise walk together. Go for a run or a bike ride and wrap things up with a breakfast you didn’t have to cook. Feel free to skip the outdoor activities if the weather is foul and head straight to your favorite restaurant or coffee shop together. And if finding a morning babysitter is too hard, hand the kids the TV remote and a box of cereal for once. Then enjoy a breakfast (made ahead of time) in bed.

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conversations that dig a little deeper than “Sesame Street” plots and jokes that don’t start with “Knock, knock.” If you’re in the mood for adult entertainment of the cerebral kind, consider an author reading at your favorite indie bookstore, or attend a ParentMap (parentmap.com/live — shameless plug!), Town Hall Seattle (townhallseattle.org) or Seattle Arts & Lectures (lectures.org) event. Seattle Art Museum (seattleartmuseum.org) hosts public education talks on a variety of art-related topics, and its Gardner Center hosts the Saturday University series of lectures on topics related to Asian arts and history (another good option for a morning date).

Seattle’s theater world is rich in options for both all-ages theater and shows you wouldn’t want to take the kids to. In February, consider Seattle Rep’s “Metamorphoses” (seattlerep.org), Oscar Wilde’s “A Woman of No Importance” at Taproot (taproottheatre.org) or “Into the Woods” at The Fifth Avenue Theatre (5thavenue.org). For lighter-hearted fare, enjoy a night of comedic improv or burlesque — clubs around town often have special Valentine’s Day shows. Teatro ZinZanni’s limited-run engagement “Coming Home” (zinzanni.com/seattle), has been extended through March 12.

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More time together If Valentine’s Day is the only night of the year that you go out together, you need more than just plans for an evening. Make time together a priority by committing to a recurring event. Refresh those dance lessons you took for your wedding, learn to cook a new type of cuisine by attending cooking school together, buy two season tickets to the ballet, the Macha Theatre Works’ Distillery Series (machatheatreworks.com) or Seattle Kraken (nhl.com/kraken). Join a bridge club or a bowling league together. It can be any kind of ongoing commitment, as long as you are both interested in it.

Bonus: Still can’t find the perfect idea? Peruse one of The Adventure Challenge books for couples (theadventurechallenge.com) and let it be your guide.

It includes a key so you can pick a date based on time of day, whether you need a sitter and other considerations.

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Destination: Funko HQ The perfect place for Disney-obsessed littles, middle-school-age Marvel fiends, teens infatuated with anime and cult classics — and their parents, who love it all

By Jenna Vandenberg

Maybe you could call Funko HQ (funko.com) a toy store. There are plushies to squeeze, board games to peruse and legions of figures in boxes to covet. But all of the jovial adults and grinning teenagers negate the toy-store vibe. This place is far more than a toy store.

Here, you’ll find different worlds to inhabit and giant Funko statues ready to be featured in selfies. You can sit in the Batmobile, peek inside Hogwarts or explore a snow-covered “Star Wars” landscape — all while choosing which Funkos to buy.

Whatever your pop culture interest might be, there is likely a Funko figure for you.

Fans of “Friends” or “Stranger Things,”

K-pop or anime can buy a Rachel Green or Eleven, a Jimin or Ginshi Shirazu Funko.

There are Funko Pops! of U2, Boyz II Men and Daveed Diggs (as Thomas Jefferson).

Sports stars, “Star Wars” characters, Disney princesses and Marvel superheroes can all be found inside this menagerie of ultracute figurines.

Funko lore More than a toy store or a museum, Funko HQ is a haven for collectors — called “Funatics,” naturally. Pop culture enthusiasts from all over the world make the pilgrimage to Wetmore Avenue in Everett for a chance to shop near the place where it all began.

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This purveyor of pop culture started in 1998, when Funko founder Mike Becker and founding artist Rob Schwartz bonded over their love of swap meets and roadside Americana vibes. They began Funko by designing bobbleheads — which they called Wacky Wobblers — and securing licensing deals with brands such as fast-food chain Bob’s Big Boy, cartoon character Betty Boop and New Line Cinema’s sequel to the spy spoof “Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery.”

Soon they were creating Wacky Wobblers of all kinds of characters and shipping out toys from their office in downtown Everett. A cult following burgeoned, and in 2002 Funko hosted its first fan event: Funko Funday.

Now, Funko Funday is hosted for one night during the San Diego Comic-Con. Impossible-to-get tickets for the event sell out in nanoseconds.

The instantly recognizable Funko Pop! figures — giantheaded, big-eyed replicas of fan-favorite actors, characters and other notables from the pop culture zeitgeist — debuted in 2010, when the company began working with DC Comics. First designed to be a plushie, the block-head design was configured in vinyl instead and debuted at the 2010 Comic-Con. Although some old-school fans initially hated the design because it wasn’t a bobblehead, more women and kids started buying Pops! and a global sensation was born.

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Planning your visit to Funko HQ With all of Funko’s worldwide fame and obsessive fans, it’s a bit miraculous that the company’s headquarters, one of only two dedicated retail spaces, is located in Everett. It’s practically our duty as Pacific Northwesterners to pay homage to the place.

Every morning, a gaggle of Funko fans queues up to await the store opening in hopes of getting their hands on new or exclusive figures. Arriving early and joining this crowd can be fun, as you are likely to get an earful about the joys of finding a hard-to-get item. Exclusive Funkos are typically released on Mondays, Wednesdays or Fridays. However, if the Funatic whisper network telegraphs an exciting new release, long morning lines can accumulate at a moment’s notice. Check out the company’s Facebook page (facebook.com/funkohq) for updated hours, peeks at exclusives and news about special events.

If you can’t make the trek to Everett until a weekend or school holiday, be prepared to wait in a line that snakes around the building. You could easily be standing there for an hour. Karl’s Bakery and Cafe (facebook.com/karlsbakeryandcafe) is next door,

should you require caffeine or sustenance.

The streets surrounding Funko feature free 90-minute parking, and it’s usually pretty easy to find a spot.

Cash is not accepted at the store. Backpacks and water bottles aren’t allowed, but lockers are available to stash your belongings. There are bathrooms inside the store, but no food or drink options are available. There is neither a fee to enter nor a time limit once you get in.

Once inside Remember that line you stood in? You’ll appreciate that crowd-control protocol once you enter the store. Not only are fewer folks breathing and sneezing in your vicinity, but your attempts to take pictures of your kids next to the Princess Tiana statue won’t be thwarted by people walking through your photo shoot.

If you venture in a counterclockwise

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direction, you’ll first wind through Wetmore Forest, where mossy trees drape over woodland creatures. Next up is a pop culture and Marvel section, featuring a Batmobile to sit in and Godzilla to pose next to.

There are toy safes tucked into the walls with levers to pull and gears to turn as kids try to crack the code. You’ll next navigate a 1950s-inspired section of Funko Vinyl Soda displays, featuring mini statues tucked inside soda cans, in front of a “Jeopardy”-style TV show showcasing Funko-related trivia questions. Then there is a Disney castle to walk through, complete with the Hulk busting through walls and Spider-Man clinging to the roof.

The “Star Wars”–themed area presents a

snowy landscape from “The Empire Strikes Back.” In the last world, you’ll be greeted

by Harry, Hermione and Ron at Hogwarts.

A standard Funko Pop! is reasonably priced at $12, so it is possible to leave the store with your bank account relatively undented. However, if you are in the mood to spend hundreds of dollars, there are scads of gift sets, pins, plushies, games, T-shirts and Loungefly backpacks to choose from. Plan to spend about an hour in the store, although if you want to examine every shelf or take a series of selfies, you could easily spend a couple of hours inside.

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SJCS students plant daffodils to honor victims of the Holocaust and current humanitarian crises today.

Jewish Day Schools Offer Students Many Ways to Make an Impact on Their Communities One of the central tenets of Judaism is doing good in one’s community and in the world at large. Such acts of contribution are reflected in the words of Judaism’s prophets, sages and ancient texts: There’s tzedakah (charitable giving), gemilut hasadim (acts of kindness) and one of the most widely known phrases, tikkun olam (repairing the world). These values are especially important when it comes to fostering the next generation of Jewish changemakers.

The call for help came while the group was on a service trip to New Orleans with NCSY Relief Missions (reliefmissions.ncsy.org), a Jewish teen relief organization. The organization learned that there was a severe shortage of volunteers and staff to work with hundreds of children ranging in age from newborn to 16 years. As a grantee of the Samis Foundation, NYHS immediately reached out for a grant to support as many students as possible with the opportunity to join the Romania mission.

Going beyond a focus on academics, Jewish day schools immerse students in a curriculum that nurtures and fosters community-minded engagement, around the world and right here at home in Washington state.

“We’re proud of the students for responding to this call for help, and we, at Samis, were honored to play a small role in supporting the mission,” says Eli Genauer, Samis Foundation board chair.

Jewish day schools creating change around the world

Teachers leading by example

From providing service to the local community through volunteer work and fundraising to international mission trips to help people in need, Jewish day school students are learning firsthand what it means to be a global citizen.

At the Jewish Day School of Metropolitan Seattle (JDS; jds.org), cultivating “upstanders,” or people who will proactively stand up for good in the world, is central to its mission. Teachers at the school lead by example to demonstrate the upstander ethos. JDS teacher Nance Adler spent this past summer as a scholar in residence in Germany.

After Adler taught a class on Jewish resistance and the rescue of Jews by non-Jews during the Holocaust, German teachers at the institution highlighted a recent instance of bigotry at the school. Following Adler’s class, the call to be upstanders was invoked in a staff meeting to encourage administration and faculty to take a united stand against expressions of hate and bigotry.

This past year, after receiving a call from the Jewish Ukrainian orphanage Tikva Children’s Home in Odessa (tikvaodessa.org), seniors from Northwest Yeshiva High School (nyhs.org) took their educational values and translated them into action by flying to Romania with only 10 days’ notice. Their purpose was to support hundreds of children who had been displaced by the war in Ukraine.

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JEWISH DAY SCHOOLS ARE CREATING MODELS FOR DISTANCE LEARNING AND BUILDING STRONG COMMUNITY CONNECTIONS

When Gov. Inslee’s March 12 announcement prompted school closures across Washington state, local Jewish day schools were already prepared for distance learning. By that day, Seattle Jewish Community School, along with other Jewish day schools in the Seattle area, had soft-launched their remote learning program, seeking feedback from students, parents and teachers and getting everyone up to speed.

“It was like I had hired 12 brand new teachers despite the decades of seniority and experience they had,” says Head of School Ron Waldman. “In this format, all bets are off. None of our educators had ever been trained for this type of teaching and learning, and not all children can easily adapt to continuous learning.” Even though they’ve had their challenges, Seattle Jewish Community School — along with Northwest Yeshiva High School, Jewish Day School and NYHS seniors assist with of a home damaged duringimportant Seattle Hebrew Academy —the arereconstruction making it work, teaching students Hurricane Katrina. lessons and forging strong communities at the same time.

It started with surveying everyone’s needs. On their first day, NYHS held an orientation for distance where all isclasses met for 15 minutes each While global change learning, is impressive, there also plenty of work to be done and there was a check-in to make sure students had access to technology. right in our own backyard. And Jewish day schools are getting in on the They also conducted troubleshooting with teachers so that the following day action there, too. regular classes could start.

Schools are continuing to Supporting the local community through of kindness seek acts feedback throughout this have crisis.poured According Emerging from the pandemic, local Jewish schools countlessto Waldman, SJCS their is sending hours into building community and offering services to ensure out surveysand at responsileast once a students and families feel a stronger sense of connection week, while JDS is adjusting bility. Providing meaningful experiences through volunteer work is one practices as they go. “We way the schools are strengthening bonds. Working with the Seattle Parks have made revisions to our and Recreation department this past year, students at the Seattle Jewish remote learning schedule Community School (sjcs.net) planted hundredsand of daffodil bulbsalong to the instruction honor the memory of children who perished in thebased Holocaust and tofrom call way, on feedback families, ” says JDS Head attention to those suffering in humanitarian crises today.

Students had theof School Vivian Scheidt. “Our opportunity to aid local wetlands in the process. teachers have reached out individually to each family At MMSC Day School (mmscdayschool.org), giving back comes in the form to get their input on how of spreading joy. Students routinely craft holidaytheir cardschild and giftisbaskets doing for with the elderly and those in need. remote learning.”

The schools, already participated in a tech cohort Community of Practice Similarly,which at Seattle Hebrew Academy (seattlehebrewacademy.org), every led by Dr.students David Wicks, PacificFamily University’s chair of Digital to Education year partnerSeattle with Jewish Service (jfsseattle.org) combat Leadership, also made sure they had the right tools to conduct classes, including food insecurity by participating in multiple food drives as part of the Zoom, Edpuzzle, Google Meet, Kahoot!, Camtasia, Screencast-O-Matic and school’s mission to prepare future generations to lead lives of service and Seesaw. Since traditional teaching won’t work on these platforms, NYHS Head fulfill Jason mitzvotFeld (commandments) in Seattle,teachers Israel and Sharing in of School says they’ve encouraged to worldwide. come up with exciting mission“The is Torah School of was Seattle (tdsseattle.org) and Derech new this methods. chargeDay to the faculty to be brave in experimentation (derechemunah.com), where students provide service to the comand Emunah to really let learning objectives drive the technology, not the other way around. ” Teachers at NYHS drawnmarrow on what they learned during Seattle’s munity by hosting bloodhave and bone drives.

2019 “Snowmaggedon,” such as using flipped instruction, a blended learning strategy that allows the students to see the material before the class and then Increasing access dive deeply into it with their classmates during school hours. “That experience To increase accessibility and participation in high-quality experiential really did serve us quite well in preparation for this year,” says Feld.

Jewish education for youth in Washington state, the Samis Foundation launched its Day School Affordability Initiative in 2022.

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SHA Head of School Rivy Poupko Kletenik emphasizes that learning is the focus, but community building and engagement are vital as well. SHA has To make Jewish day schools in the Seattle area more accessible to famiorganized a drive-by food drive and held virtual events for Jewish holidays and lies are juggling important financial priorities, the program ensures daysthat of remembrance.

Each of the schools is engaging with people inside and that for families earning up to $350,000, K–12 tuition will not exceed outside of their school community by hosting open virtual classes, celebrations $15,000 per year per child or 15 percent of the family’s adjusted gross and commemorations. income, whichever is lower. This initiative is aimed at aiding families that “Our qualify Jewish for daytraditional school partners have an incredible job of making don’t financial aid been and asdoing a result, are priced out sure students stay connected and continue receiving exemplary academic giving their children a day-school education. instruction in these unprecedented times,” says Connie Kanter, CEO of the Samis Foundation, an organization that provides grants toheritage, support K–12 The opportunity to immerse themselves in their unique Jewish Jewish education in Washington state and initiatives in Israel. Samis supports traditions and community, and emerge with an education that instills the scholarships, tech education, special needs and professional development value of giving back bothin a local and global should has put a for seven Jewish dayfrom schools the Seattle area.perspective, The foundation be availableemphasis to every student.

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