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Overnight Camp SET THE STAGE FOR CHILDREN TO GROW AND DEVELOP

6 Tips to Prepare

FIRST-TIME OVERNIGHT CAMPERS

Benefits of Special Needs Summer Camps GIVE YOUR CHILD A CHANCE TO SHINE

How to Foster Healthy Sibling Relationships

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SET THE STAGE FOR CHILDREN TO GROW AND DEVELOP

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FIRST-TIME OVERNIGHT CAMPERS

30 Benefits of Special Needs Summer Camps

GIVE YOUR CHILD A CHANCE TO SHINE

WHAT’S INSIDE 8 Good to Know

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32 How to Prepare for your Child’s IEP Meeting

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Your Teen Should Be a Camp Counselor

By Janeen Lewis

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id your teenager love summer camp as a child? Does he or she need a job but can’t work during the school year because of homework and activities? Maybe you’re ready for your teen to get employment experience but still have some carefree time outdoors away from electronics. Day or sleepaway camp is the perfect place for teens to transition to the world of the employed. The paycheck is nice, but being a camp counselor has other rewards, too.

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The Gift of Responsibility

As much a teens sometimes protest about it, learning responsibility is the gateway to more independence as they grow into adults. Camp is an ideal place to build accountability because teens are in charge of other kids or activities, but they are still

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being supervised. If they work at a sleepaway camp, they must keep their cabin quarters neat and guide younger children to do the same. If they work at a day camp, they must show up on time, care for children and lead activities. Working at camp is fun, but it also gives teens a glimpse into the adult world with the guidance they still need.

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The Opportunity to Be a Role Model

Do you remember a teen you looked up to when you were a kid at summer camp? Maybe he or she helped you perfect your back stroke, taught you how to throw a curve ball or gave the perfect advice for dealing with disagreements between friends. Teens can connect to kids in ways that adults sometimes can’t, and when teens work at camp, they experience the fulfillment of helping younger kids meet their goals and develop new skills.

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ment parks and museums which are usually covered by the camp.

Granted, these covered expenses do require responsibility and work, and are not solely carefree outings, but they are positive perks for a summer job.

getting chores done for inspection, counselors and campers have to work together. Being able to do this teaches teens to hone their communication and interpersonal relationship skills. Some camps even offer staff communication trainings and morale building activities before camp starts to increase awareness and create discussion about how to get along with others.

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Time 4 Improved Management Skills

Teen counselors have to be on time to meals, the morning meeting at the flag pole, and the activities they lead. They’re also responsible for gently prodding their campers to be punctual. If they are in charge of a lesson, craft or game, they must plan ahead and make sure they have all the supplies ready and set up on time.

These time-management lessons will benefit them as they enter college and the work place.

Away from 5 Time Technology

Most day camps and sleep away camps either have a no device policy or have only short scheduled times with technology. Camp is the perfect place to do a “digital detox” and get back to nature, sports and face-to-face socialization.

Preparation for 6 Being Away at College

If your teen works at a sleep away camp, he or she may get a taste of what college life is like. He or she will be responsible for meals, getting up on time or using a coin laundry. These are all valuable lessons that will prepare him or her for college. Also being away from home for an extended period of time for the first time 12

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can take some adjusting to and it can create some homesickness. Teen camp counselors have experienced these feelings and dealt with them before they go to college.

Chance to Share 7 ATalents and Skills

Is your teen an athlete? An artist?

A nature enthusiast? Can he or she dance, write or program computers? Camp is an ideal place for teens to share strengths. I served as a camp counselor when I was in college, and it was the first time I realized I had a knack for teaching kids. It was the gateway to me becoming a teacher, even though I was a journalism student at the time. Camp introduces teens to opportunities that maybe they hadn’t considered. It builds confidence and opens doors to future careers.

on Summer 8 Saving Expenses

One of the advantages of working at an overnight camp is that in addition to a pay check, meals and lodging are usually provided by the camp. Staffers’ work and life all happen at the camp, so gas use is minimal. Teen counselors chaperone camp trips to amuse-

Resume Building

Working at camp is great experience to put on a resume when your teen is ready to enter the adult world of work. Camp experience is beneficial if your teen wants to teach or coach, but working at camp also builds communication, collaboration and problem-solving skills, all worthy resume additions that may catch a future employer’s interest.

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A New Appreciation for You

Being a teen counselor is indeed hard work. It involves stamina, patience and responsibility. Oh, and teen counselors must also teach, guide and care for children younger than themselves. It sounds a tiny bit like parenting, right? Teens who are camp counselors may begin to recognize how hard parenting is. With that recognition, they may have a new appreciation for all their parents do by the end of the summer.

Being a camp counselor is a great start for teens who want to join the world of work. If your teen is interested in beginning the adventure that comes with being a camp counselor, you can find more information at the American Camp Association website at https://www.acacamps.org/staff-professionals/ job-center r Janeen Lewis is a freelance writer with a degree in journalism and elementary education from Eastern Kentucky University. She also served as a camp counselor when she was in college.

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It is a universal thing, this overall boost in confidence and greater sense of self that children gain from being away from home. How does such individual growth happen in such a group-focused environment? And how does living, working and playing so closely with other campers in groups benefit children as individuals? The answer in short: Camps excel at providing optimal environments; everything about camp from the staff who are hired to teach children to the activities available to the physical environment sets the stage for children to grow and develop.

SUMMER CAMP WORLDS ARE DEDICATED EXCLUSIVELY TO CHILD DEVELOPMENT. In fact, it’s so exciting and inspirational to help children learn in the unique setting of summer camp, many educators dedicate their careers to teaching there because of its experiential education focus and natural setting.

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Separation from their children changes the perspective of parents/guardians.

Going off to an overnight camp is often the first long-term independent experience outside the family for a child, even if it’s for a short session of a week or two and the child is accompanied by a friend. It’s that separation that influences the child to grow up in several important ways and provides the family with the chance to notice and appreciate that growth.

Children grow and change daily; when you don’t see them for multiple weeks, change is easier to see and

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appreciate. While they may look taller or larger, physically, most campers also look fitter from all the walking and exercise, not to mention the fresh air and sunshine. Physical growth is just one way that overnight camp can change a child. Social/emotional growth happens, too, and it’s just as apparent.

Camp staff and professionals expect children to strive and achieve when skill building.

Campers rise to those expectations, generally speaking, and give their best. It’s the pervasive growth mindset of the camp culture that creates an environment that is so conducive to learning. The power of strong role models. Watching the adults in the community as they constantly learn inspires campers to want to keep improving and learning, too. Learning happens everywhere at camp! And, there is no shortage of people to cheer your child on as they advance program skills and social/emotional competencies.

Resolving a conflict and showing leadership on a project are celebrated as much as learning to water ski or swimming across the lake.

Camp staff expect children to do as much as possible for themselves.

Camp environments and programs are engineered for optimal child development through life-skill building. Systems and practices for living in the cabins, bunks, tents or other dwellings help children to be independent. The counseling staff backs them up, but this happens differently than at home. Whether it’s gathering the necessary equipment for an activity (swimsuit, beach towels and sunscreen) or keeping things organized in the cabin, counselors do less for children than parents tend to do. There are reminders and help when needed, but counselors don’t do for children what they can (and should) do for themselves.

Other campers can be a big inspiration and influence.

Living so closely with other children has some great advantages. Your child might see a cabin mate who is doing independently what you’ve been doing for him/her or nagging your child to do – like hanging up a wet towel on the clothesline or folding sweatshirts on a shelf. At camp, people of all ages can be leaders, children included. Role-modeling is a powerful way of leading and other campers will inspire yours.

There is a context for doing chores and taking care of tasks that children often rely on adults to do at home.

For instance, if a group is planning to go on an overnight camping trip, there’s a lot of work to do.

Even though the project is childsized, adults are supervising and supporting it. Once children understand what tasks are individual (like packing their own gear) and which are group tasks (like planning, shopping for and packing meals and equipment), they can understand how both individual and group tasks fit together. While on the trip, campers discover how they can contribute to the group. Maybe they’re cooking or cleaning up. Perhaps they are tasked with running the talent show or the story slam during the night’s campfire.

Parents can be shocked to learn the complexity of tasks and challenges children are encouraged to undertake at camp. Campers are willing to work hard for group and individual goals that they buy into. The chores and jobs they are asked to do at camp are not random. Rather, they are connected to the activity, adventure or experience and campers can see why they must be done.

Time, space and safety to try out new skills and behaviors.

The stakes can be high at home and time can be limited for trying new things. Camps specialize in providing appropriate challenges for campers and a safe culture where campers take risks. With the backup of the staff and the support of other campers, it’s amazing how campers will push themselves out of their comfort zone to take a risk – physical or emotional.

Not only can they go down the zip line or challenge themselves physically with the support of their camp “family,” a camper can also try other new things, from public speaking to speaking up for themselves during a conflict or disagreement with a peer.

Children make more choices and decisions at camp than they are used to making at home.

Campers have the chance to make small and large decisions as appropriate. Some of these decisions are individual while others are group decisions, like what dinner to cook over the fire on

that campout, what to wear, whether to try out for the play, reach out to a new friend or go to an activity with a friend or independently. Deciding alone, with others and with adult guidance helps build solid decision-making skills that come in handy at school and college, around the neighborhood and in the future.

Success! Pure and simple, succeeding at challenging tasks, multi-step processes and group challenges is thrilling.

Camp invites children to approach challenges with grit and it rewards them mightily when they master something.

Imagine hundreds of people clapping and whistling for the canoers who have just returned from white water rafting on the Allagash River or at the end of a carefully rehearsed play or musical! In both tiny and enormous ways, camps provide the experiences that boost children’s competence. “I did it!” moments abound here. Skill mastery and competence builds confidence.

Campers benefit from coaching, receiving authentic, honest feedback and from the power of the debrief (processing and evaluating how the group has performed).

Camps excel at getting groups to work together. It requires trained facilitators who can help discover, process, discuss and understand why a group succeeded at an initiative or task and/or why they may have failed.

Debriefs happen formally on ropes courses, but they happen informally through the course of the camp day in many areas of programming and cabin living.

Debriefing delivers the chance to ponder unique ways that campers fit and contribute to the group and their success. It highlights campers’ unique attributes.

Because of debriefing, campers often leave with specific knowledge of what they bring/offer to a group and they can use this knowledge with family or school groups.

Group experiences at camp give children key information about themselves within the context of a group.

Immersion in the unique group experience of camp builds selfesteem, enhances self-discipline, increases self-advocacy skills and helps children work toward self-efficacy, which is critically important to a successful adulthood. Consider sending your child to overnight camp for a life-changing group experience that will contribute mightily to an emerging sense of self. r Provided by the American Camp Association.

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By Bud Copeland

Tips to Prepare W

hether your family has a long tradition of summer camp or this is the first camper from your clan, once you’ve made the decision to send your child to camp, the real work begins.

Directors in our membership have shared thoughts on first-time, overnight campers, and below are 6 tips for preparing those campers.

TRY SLEEPOVERS. Some first-time campers have never slept away from home before. While camp is a great place for young people to adjust to being away from home and family, it’s not the best place to begin the experiment. Slumber parties, going to a relative’s house for the weekend, or spending the night at a friend’s house, are all good practice for dealing with that unfamiliar feeling prior to night one at camp.

INVOLVE THE CAMPER IN THE PROCESS. From the first conversation about camp, it is a family affair. Including the camper in these preparations and decisions lays the foundation for a positive camp experience. Finding camps, taking tours, talking to directors, planning communication, packing, etc. and anything the family can involve the camper with, they should. The more a camper feels ownership over this experience, the better.

“Buying in” isn’t always the easiest for first-timers, so start early, keep them involved and informed, and empower them throughout the process.

SET AND MANAGE EXPECTATIONS. It’s easy to tell campers everything is going to be fine, and they are going to love camp.

Odds are, you’re telling the truth. However, experience teaches us that love for camp often comes over time.

Campers may experience homesickness, anxiety, or other unfamiliar feelings for the first time at camp. It’s important to talk about these feelings, communicate how normal they are, and brainstorm strategies to cope and continue having fun.

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COMMUNICATION IS KEY. Camps have policies and procedures for communication during the summer. Some camps allow phone calls, some print e-mails for the campers, and almost all still encourage snail mail. Learn camp’s policies regarding camper communication and review them with your camper. Set realistic expectations for if, when, and how they can share the fun their having at camp. Also, prewrite a few letters and send them ahead of time for your camper. Hearing their name at mail call is one of camp’s thrills!

BE HONEST WITH CAMP. Prior to camp, parents should communicate any and all pertinent information that could influence their child’s summer. Whether it’s family dynamics at home, new developments at school, or recent health changes, sharing this information openly and honestly with your camp sets up all parties for success. Things such as bedwetting, new medications, or having a camper whose sister who’s going away to college after the summer, can all be useful in helping camps prepare for your child.

GO DO SOMETHING (THE PARENTS).You’ve done due diligence finding a camp. You’ve packed, practiced and rehearsed arrival day, and the time has come to drop off your camper. Once at camp, don’t stick around too long. When you depart, the magic of camp truly begins.

Take this time and enjoy it. That could mean reading a book you’ve been putting off, getting together with other parents who are summer empty-nesters, or doing any number of things that the joy of parenting forces you to delay. Remember that your child is off making new friends and facing new challenges in a safe environment.

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Enlist older kids in food prep or baking to keep grocery runs and takeout orders to a minimum. Use the last few shreds of chicken on tomorrow’s salad or that last bit of spaghetti sauce as a base for homemade pizza.

FEEDING KIDS WELL DURING COVID: How to encourage healthy eating without turning into the pantry police.

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long with reducing kids’ physical activity, the ongoing pandemic is affecting what, when, and how much kids eat. With healthy food in shorter supply for many families, children are making up the difference with empty, junk-food calories, says Phuong V. Truong, RDN, clinical dietitian with the Odessa Brown Children’s Clinic at Seattle Children›s Hospital.

“At this time the most dire need is access to healthy food. Kids no longer have access to meals at school, and we have families who no longer have access to food drops because of COVID.” The negative health impacts could take years to reverse, particularly for children in lower-income households, those with one caregiver at home, or those already struggling to put food on the table before COVID, says Truong. While local school districts have made school lunches available during remote schooling, many families can’t get to the pickup location at the right time. “Families who rely on public or shared transportation aren’t going to be able to get to the school or pickup location, which puts an added strain on the food supply at home,” she says.

For families with kids learning at home, finding time to shop for fresh foods is a problem, especially if parents also need to work while they supervise remote schooling. “Either parents need to find childcare just to go shopping for food, take young kids to the store, or pay extra for grocery

delivery, which can be costly. And food costs are rising, so dollars don’t stretch as far as they used to,” says Truong.

Free and low-cost sources of nutritious foods like community vegetable gardens and local fresh-food markets are less active during the winter, so access to nutritious food probably won’t improve over the next few months. “I’m seeing kids with health conditions like obesity and fatty liver disease worsening, with less physical activity and no change in sight,” Truong says. “It really scares me, because we’re still in survival mode at this point. We haven’t had time to evaluate what’s going on, let alone intervene, so this isn’t even being addressed.”

CREATE MEAL PATTERNS You can’t control global food supply, but you can protect your own stash. Keep kids from devouring an entire weeks’ worth of groceries in a sitting by setting up boundaries: Stick to regular meal and snack times, with only water offered in between. Schooling at home should not mean children have unrestricted access to food throughout the day, notes Truong. Constantly hitting the cabinet or fridge for snacks racks up unneeded calories and strains the family’s food supply.

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ESTABLISH NON-FOOD COMFORTS, REWARDS, AND “FIDGETS” Lots of kids are overeating out of stress, boredom, or to pass the time during long remote learning sessions, says Truong. Break out of these budget-busting ruts with non-food alternatives. Rewards could include a family drive or walk, a movie, or an at-home mani-pedi night; a bath, music, or playtime with a pet can relieve stress; fidget spinners or a sketch pad and pencil can keep hands busy without snacking during Zoom meetings.

STRETCH FOOD DOLLARS FURTHER Food costs may be rising, but fresh produce and bulk foods are still budget-friendly bets for families, says Truong. Shop the perimeter of the store first to fill your cart with low cost foods like fruits and vegetables, then skim the aisles for healthy packaged items like popcorn, oatmeal, canned fruit packed in water, frozen vegetables, beans, and pasta.

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imes are tough, but Tprograms federal and local are available to help: The federal government is funding hunger prevention through the Family First Coronavirus Response Act and the Coronavirus Aid, Relief, and Economic Security (CARES) Act. The federal Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) provides food support for those who meet income qualifications.

More information about SNAP and other federal food support programs is available online.

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COOK TOGETHER INSTEAD OF ORDERING OUT Establish a regular COTR (clean out the refrigerator) night to ensure that leftovers are eaten instead of tossed; stir-fries, curries, and soups are easy ways to use leftover meats and vegetables. Use low-cost convenience foods like salsa and salad dressings as cooking aids: ½ cup of salsa adds flavor to a pot of black bean soup, a dash of your family’s favorite salad dressing turns boiled diced potatoes into a hearty, healthy side dish. Use the last few shreds of chicken on tomorrow’s salad or that last bit of spaghetti sauce as a base for homemade pizza.

Enlist older kids in food prep or baking to keep grocery runs and takeout orders to a minimum. You don’t need a vigorous sourdough base, a bread machine, or even a talent for baking to make simple, low-cost bread for sandwiches or toast. Buy active dry yeast in bulk and stock up on flour to bake up toasty fresh bread that can be served alone or alongside comforting, nourishing homemade meals. r Malia Jacobson is a health and family journalist.

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How to Foster Healthy Sibling Relationships

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s a mom of six kids, I have witnessed my fair share of sibling disagreements. I have also had the pleasure of witnessing the heart-melting moments when siblings stick up for each other, cheer each other on, and generally love being together. While sibling fights are normal, and even healthy, as kids learn to work through disagreements in an appropriate way, most parents want to foster strong sibling relationships that will stand the test of time. Here are some tips to help your kids build healthy, lasting friendships with one another.

Encourage teamwork

Working towards a common goal can help people feel connected and build stronger relationships. This is why companies spend time doing team building exercises with their staff.

The same is true in families. Give the kids a project, like cleaning the toy room or freshening up the landscaping in the yard and have them work on it as a team. You can even try making it a competition such as challenging the kids to clean a room faster than their parents. Playing board games or backyard sports with teams can also have the same team building effects.

Have fun together

Spending time together as a family doing things that you enjoy is a simple way to build sibling bonds. Pick something that everyone can participate in such as a bike ride, a movie night, or a fun outing that builds memories and relationships. “My kids love having sleepovers in each other’s rooms each weekend.” says Stephanie Loux, mom of three. “It makes a mess and it’s not always convenient for us as parents, but we love and encourage their excitement for spending time together.”

Healthy conflict

Settling disagreements in a healthy and respectful way is a tool that all of us need to learn to be successful.

A sibling is usually the first person in our lives that we disagree with on a regular basis. This gives parents an opportunity to teach kids how to handle conflict. “We teach them to tell each other when they are hurting emotionally

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or physically.” says Abby Vanden Hull, mom of four. “In the beginning that means helping them find the words and talk to each other kindly. It also means stepping back and letting them sort out their problems whenever possible.” Teach your kids to listen, take turns speaking, use kind words, refrain from criticism or physical violence, and come to a compromise whenever possible.

These skills will serve them well in all areas of their lives.

Do not compare

As parents, it can be difficult not to compare children. Each child has their own unique gifts to foster and challenges to face as they grow. Try to focus on acknowledging and appreciating their gifts and encouraging everyone in the family to do so. When they are struggling with behaviors that other kids may not have found challenging, be patient and help them work through it as a family. When kids feel like their parents are comparing them, it can cause jealousy, competition, and resentment. Alternatively, when they feel like their gifts are cultivated and appreciated, they feel loved, valued, and secure. It also helps kids to understand that all of us are different and that is okay.

The importance of family

Our siblings are our first friends. They have a unique perspective and relationship to us because they have experienced nearly everything we have during childhood.

This often leads to a relationship that includes deep understanding and support for challenges we may face in the future. This concept is difficult to explain to small children, however the importance of family is something that can be shown through actions rather than explained using words. Do you have a good relationship with your own siblings? Do you support them in times of need and enjoy spending time with them? Your kids will notice. Over time, they will realize that there is nothing like a sibling who is also a friend. r

Sarah Lyons and her husband, Justin, have been married for 14 years and have six children together.

Visiting the Emergency Room

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By Suzanne Niro, BSN, CPEN

isiting the ER with a sick child is stressful for any parent. It can be even more challenging for parents of a special needs child or one with behavioral issues. Many of these families have navigated through the ER multiple times for various reasons but each visit can be quite unique. These patients are often dealt with by staff unfamiliar with their extensive histories and complex medical and emotional needs. In addition, prolonged waiting times expose them to other sick children, which can be very problematic.

SOME TIPS FOR PARENTS BEFORE COMING TO THE ER • Check in with your child’s primary health care provider before heading to hospital. Often an ER visit is unavoidable and children with chronic conditions subsequently require admission to the hospital at high rates (24% to 38% of the time).

Consulting with their primary care provider may save the child a trip to the ER, depending on the severity of the complaint. The primary caregiver may be able to arrange an outpatient specialty visit or even see the child themselves to determine if an ER visit is absolutely necessary.

• If an ER visit is unavoidable, make sure to bring the child’s medications or, at minimum, an updated medication list including doses and times given. A quick summary of the child’s complex history is also valuable, including names and numbers of clinicians who are involved in the child’s care. Patients with complex medical needs are often on multiple

medications, doses are frequently being changed and some med changes may not even be updated in the patient’s medical history. In addition, some meds may not be immediately available in hospitals, in which cases exceptions can be made and families may give meds from home.

• Be sure to bring any personal items such as blankets for comfort, or security items such as teddy bears, etc. Although one may anticipate a quick visit, some may last hours, depending on wait time, even if admission is not needed. Having a security item can help the child feel more secure in a stressful situation. In addition, many hospitals offer Child Life services. These clinicians are highly trained individuals who specialize in helping families cope with the visit. They can provide valuable distraction during unpleasant procedures as well as explain to the child and family what to expect during their stay and how the staff can best accommodate their unique needs.

• If your child requires special formula or is on a special diet be sure and bring these with you.

Although many hospitals can accommodate these needs on inpatient units, they may not be readily available in the Emergency room.

Given these challenges, improving the delivery of patient and family centered care in the ER requires collaboration between the parents and health care clinicians. Being a strong advocate for you child is essential for an ER visit. Clinicians are trained to “listen” to your valuable advice and expertise regarding your child’s unique and individual needs. r March 2021 | ParentsPress.com

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With our focus on social skill-building and with our specialized staff helping to guide social interactions, many of our campers leave having made lifelong friendships.

Up to this point, Kim had lived a pretty sheltered life, her mother Ruth Kelly explains. “Because she has a hearing loss and an orthopedic problem, it was natural for me to want to hold her close.” By bringing Kim to camp, her mother realized two things: “My daughter needed to learn to do things on her own, and I needed to let go a little.” For the Kellys, it was a positive experience.

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(a program for young adults) at Camp Kodiak in Ontario, Canada, a therapeutic, residential summer camp for children and teens with and without diagnoses like Attention Deficit Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Asperger Syndrome. “Our goal is to provide all the fun of a traditional camp, but in a safe, supported setting,” Van Huss says. “Campers with special needs typically thrive in a structured, predictable environment with as few changes in schedule as possible.”

Heidi Haldeen, summer program specialist for an Easter Seals Camp, agrees. “At a special needs camp, kids have the same opportunities they have at traditional camps. The only difference is the activities are modified according to the campers’ needs. This gives them a chance to shine.”

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At a special needs camp, kids have the same opportunities they have at traditional camps. The only difference is the activities are modified according to the campers’ needs.

This gives them a chance to shine.

That’s what 9-year-old Tiffany Wells found as a camper. During the school year, Tiffany, who has cerebral palsy and asthma, played on a soft ball team and in a community bowling league; but because none of the children she played with were disabled, the competition wasn’t always equal.

“Attending a special needs camp allowed Tiffany to compete on more even ground because all the other kids were playing with some kind of disability,” reports her mother Linda Wells. The result? “Tiffany saw that she could actually win and come out on top.”

According to Van Huss, “Camp Kodiak is a place where you are accepted and supported, and where you have the chance to grow. We offer as many different activities as we possibly can, everything from sailing to high ropes to waterskiing to the theater arts, with the hopes that they will find an activity they can continue at home. Seeing the growth in a camper socially, academically and functionally, as well as the growth in confidence – from the time they arrive at camp to the time they board the bus or climb into their parent’s car to go home – is truly amazing.”

Such was the case with Kim. When she first attended camp, she was afraid of the water. “She cried just getting her face wet,” her mother says, but “by summer’s end, she was jumping in the deep end and had received her first American Red Cross swimming certificate.”

While some parents and caregivers choose a summer camp for their children’s fun and recreation, others use it to continue education and therapy goals, and teach life skills.

This is accomplished one step at a time. “It may mean being 10 minutes late for breakfast so Timmy can learn to tie his shoes by himself,” says Haldeen.

Developing new skills isn’t the only thing kids glean at a special needs camp. They learn about friendships, too. Last year when Tiffany went to camp, there was

a girl in her cabin with a more severe case of cerebral palsy than Tiffany. Because Tiffany had spent her whole life with people helping her, she naturally wanted a chance to help others. “When we went to the dance, I got to push my new friend around in her chair,” says Tiffany. “I also got to help her eat.”

Van Huss notes, “Many of our campers have trouble making friends and maintaining friendships in their home environments. Just knowing there are other kids out there, just like them, is comforting. With our focus on social skill-building and with our specialized staff helping to guide social interactions, many of our campers leave having made lifelong friendships.”

When camp is over, what do the children take with them? For some, new skills. For others, new friends. And for many more, simply a fond memory of having had a break from their routine at home.

“Our campers look forward to returning year after year,” says Haldeen. “For many, we are their summer vacation. The minute they drive away, they are making plans to return next year.” r

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HOW TO PREPARE

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By Sarah Lyons

n individualized education plan (IEP) is a key component of your child’s special education plan. By law, schools are required to provide services to kids who qualify.

An IEP meeting is where goals will be set and which services will be provided are decided on by both educators and the child’s guardians. This can be very intimidating for parents. With preparation and research prior to the meeting, parents will feel more informed and confident during the meeting.

The time spent before will lead them to be better advocates for their child while developing a plan that will help the child have more success in school while keeping everyone happy. Below you will find 6 steps to help best prepare you for your child’s IEP meeting.

TALK TO THE TEACHER It is important to talk to your child’s teacher to determine how things are going at school. The teacher can help identify your child’s strengths and challenges and may suggest what services would be helpful to them. If possible, observe your child in the classroom to get a feel for how social inter32

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actions and classroom learning are going. Knowing this information, as well as their current math and reading levels, will help you assist in setting goals during the IEP meeting.

READ UP The school should send home a notice of meeting that states who will attend the IEP meeting, the reason for meeting, and, if applicable, goals set in the previous IEP meetings. Carefully read the information sent home so you understand what to expect. You may also consider studying special education laws that pertain to your child’s needs so you know what services you can legally ask for.

There are many websites and books available to help parents prepare for IEP meetings as well. The more knowledge you have, the more confident and comfortable you will feel during the meeting.

SET GOALS Prior to the meeting, write down questions you would like to ask at the meeting. This is also a great time to consider what visions and goals you have for your child and make note of them. Bring your notes with you to the meeting so you can refer

It is important to talk to your child’s teacher.

Carefully read the information sent home.

Consider what visions and goals you have for your child.

Collect any paperwork you need or would like to bring to the meeting.

It can be helpful to bring an advocate to the meeting with you.

You know your child best and are the best person to represent their needs, challenges, and successes. to them throughout the process. Having a list of questions and an idea of goals you would like to see your child reach will help you make sure that you cover everything you had hoped even if the emotions of the meeting make it more difficult to remember your questions and concerns. Don’t be afraid to ask for additional services for your child. The school may not provide everything you had in mind but it never hurts to ask.

GET ORGANIZED Collect any paperwork you need or would like to bring to the meeting and gather it in one place so it is neat and organized for the meeting. Bring your notes from your observation, your list of questions and goals you would like to set, and any medical paperwork that pertains to the IEP meeting. If you have had any private evaluations done, bring copies of those as well.

BRING AN ADVOCATE Because IEP meetings can be intimidating, it can be helpful to bring an advocate to the meeting with you. This could be a lawyer or, simply, a spouse or co-parent. Having a person there both for support and to be another advocate for your child can be a good boost of confidence for the parent to help ensure you meet the goals you would like for your child. Be sure to let your school know, in advance, who will be attending the meeting with you.

bring the documents and notes you prepared, and speak confidently and lovingly about your child.

Your preparation and concerns will be apparent to everyone at the meeting and you will have the reassurance that you were prepared and did your best to help your child be successful in school. r Sarah Lyons and her husband, Justin, have been married for 14 years and have six children together.

Books to Help Prepare for Your Child’s IEP Meeting Here are a few books to help you understand and prepare for your child’s IEP meeting.

The Art of Advocacy: A Parent’s Guide to a Collaborative IEP Process by Charmaine Thaner Better IEP Meetings Everyone Wins by Cynthia M. Herr and Barbara D. Bateman Wrightslaw: All About IEPs by Peter W. D. Wright and Pamela Darr Wright Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy: The Special Education Survival Guide by Peter W.D. Wright and Pamela Darr Wright

BE CONFIDENT You know your child best and are the best person to represent their needs, challenges, and successes. While it can be emotional and overwhelming to address issues your child is facing when it comes to learning, setting goals and ensuring the proper services are provided is the best thing you can do for your child’s success in school. Dress appropriately for the meeting, March 2021 | ParentsPress.com

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By Kerrie McLoughlin

hat’s the first thing you think of when you hear about obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)?

Maybe you think of the TV show “Monk,” of someone who washes their hands over and over, of someone who loves a schedule and hates germs. Did you realize that as many as 1 out of every 200 kids or teens has OCD? For most of us, it’s easy to keep ourselves from performing an action over and over. Sure, I might really want that third piece of cake, but I stop myself. There is no voice in my head egging me on and telling me I simply must have it or that I might die if I don’t get it … or that something bad could happen to my family or myself if I don’t eat it.

So when my 7-year-old son could not stop himself from going up and down our stairs in a specific pattern one day, I was worried. He was crying while he was on the stairs but said he couldn’t stop. He had done quirky things in the past like walking in a pattern or stepping over cracks, but these things had never made him upset.

As his symptoms got worse, I went into Mama Bear mode. I got on the phone and Internet to navigate the world of insurance, therapy visits, typical treatment length and costs. A therapist came to our house for the first visit, and I bought the book “Talking Back to OCD” by John S. March so I could be doing something in between weekly therapy appointments and know what was ahead.

Kids and teens with OCD feel compelled to perform an action (e.g., washing their hands dozens of times or tapping out a pattern

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on the table hundreds of times) or something bad might happen, and they become obsessed with performing the action to obey what their brain is telling them to do. Their brain is essentially telling them that they will feel better if they perform the specific action. In reality, obeying the action sets the brain so that it wants to do it even more frequently.

What works well for many kids facing OCD is Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) treatment. In essence, it’s like having to face one’s fears. If a child’s compulsion is being afraid to go up stairs because he always has to perform the same debilitating rituals, then he doesn’t avoid the stairs (exposure). Instead, he faces the stairs head-on and might keep a chart of how many times he performs the ritual on the stairs and how many times he is able to stop (response prevention) so he can see his progress.

If you suspect your child or teen has OCD, you are certainly not alone. Make an appointment with a reputable therapist and see what she has to say. OCD can definitely be treated. r Children’s books about OCD: “Up and Down the Worry Hill: What to do When Your Child Has Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: Strategies and Solutions”

By Aureen Pinto Wagner Ph.D. “Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: A Powerful, Practical Program for Parents of Children and Adolescents” By Tamar E. Chansky Kerrie McLoughlin, mom of 5 great kids, can be chased down at TheKerrieShow.com.

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