Kink-E Kulture October 2022

Tokyo

CONTENTS

Oz Kink Fest returns for 2022 4-5

Mz Mallice Editorial 6

Launch Party 7

Fetish Expo and Stallholders 8-9

Fetish Expo Fashion Show 10

Fetish Expo After Party 12

Hellfire Resurrection 13 Weekend Intensives 14 Klub Kunst 15

What's New 17-20

Mindful Consent Trivia Night Extra Workshops

Sydney Fetish Expo 22-23

Sydney After Party 24-25

Weekend Workshop Intensives Schedule 26-30

Weekend Workshop Intensives Course Outline 31-38

New to Kink? Try these Tips 41

Control, Obedience & Fear Article by Kim 42-43

Kink-E Tees. Pre-order here 44

Oz Kink Fest Munch 45 Photoshoot by Dirt Dust Light 46-53

Choosing Sex Toys for Men Article by Dr Christopher Fox 56-57

Our Workshop Presenters & Performers 60-69

Autism and Kink: Why Are So Many Autistic People Kinky? Article by Talisan Switch 70-71

Mindful Consent Article by Mistress Tokyo 72-73

The Reality of Kink Parties 79 Ms Melbourne Rubber 80-81

Big Ted Interview 82-83 Zen Rope 84-85

Ticket Prices 88-89

Stallholders October 2022 92-102

Why We Love Feet 103

FESTIVAL SPONSORS

A huge thank you to all our supporters...where would we be without you!!

Oz Kink Fest is an annual festival for the alternative and kink community of Australia based in Melbourne or Hellbourne as we like to call it. This event spans over 10 days and offers a variety of opportunities for likeminded people to be a part of, there is something for everyone! The aim of the festival is to support the community we are all part of through events that raise a sense of community spirit and help to support the many businesses and community organisations we have.

Oz Kink Fest creates a unique trading and socialising environment for the Australian alternative lifestyle and fetish communities. We have put together an event that people enjoy coming to at a price that offers great value for money and in doing so we have created a safe and welcoming environment for both guests and stallholders alike.

Our aim with Oz Kink Fest is to provide an event that grows with its communities and evolves to remain fresh and exciting.

Event Schedule

• OKF Launch Friday 14th October

• Fetish Expo Saturday 15th October

• Fetish Expo After Party Saturday 15th October

• Hellfire Resurrection Friday 21st October

• Klub Kunst Saturday 22nd October

• Weekend Workshop Intensives Sat 22/Sun 23 October

EDITORIAL

MZ MALLICE

After 3 years away, it’s with huge excitement, much anticipation, and massive relief that we welcome you back with wide, open arms to OZ KINK FEST. This is the fifteenth festival we’ve run, and it continues to evolve and grow – along with the events you know and love, we also have a number of ‘firsts’ on this year’s program.

Oz Kink Fest always aims to create an engaging event for people into kink and sexual exploration. We want it to be daring, inclusive, and provide the freedom to embrace who you are. Across the festival we provide a variety of fun social and educational opportunities in safe, inclusive spaces for players of all levels and persuasions, including the newly curious. This year we feel we’ve found an excellent balance between social, educational, and entertaining experiences. Over the course of the 10 days we will present 48 weekend workshops, several mid-week workshops, a Consent Forum facilitated by Mistress Tokyo, four epic parties and an official munch, not to mention our unforgettable Fetish Expo, which will feature something new.

Famous for the array of stallholders, performances, and Grand Fashion Show, this 2022 expo is shaping up to be huge. This year we can boast close to 60 stalls with an amazing array of fashion, toys, accessories, kink paraphernalia, and educational opportunities. Every year there are new stalls which makes the event something different each time, and this year is no exception as we welcome quite a number of first-time stallholders. Likewise, our Fetish Expo performers are a mix of past favourites and brand new talent we can’t wait to showcase. And as always we will be winding down our staged entertainment with our jaw-droppin, eye-stoppin Grand Fashion Show. And this year we have a new addition to our stage.

We’re also thrilled to announce that Oz Kink Fest is proud to be a major sponsor of the Ms Melbourne Rubber competition, hosted by Melbourne Rubber. Melbourne Rubber is a not-for-profit social group for rubber enthusiasts and people who wish to learn. The Ms Melbourne Rubber competition is a fun and engaging event to celebrate your enthusiasm for rubber. The competition also provides an opportunity for potential community leaders to come forward. As a group who welcomes, affirms and celebrates diversity in all its forms we are enthusiastic supporters, and welcome their participation in the Oz Kink Fest program. Entries for the competition open on September 1st, 2022 via the Melbourne Rubber website. (www.MelbourneRubber.com).

The finalists will be competing on the Fetish Expo stage, and the winner announced on the day! This is going to be huge, and we can’t wait to celebrate the rubber Ms’s amongst you.

Oz Kink fest is never an easy undertaking, and even though the lockdowns and drama are over, producing a festival of this size in these unique times is definitely a challenge. Without our major sponsors and supporters this event would not get off the ground, so we send a resounding thanks to the teams at Aphrodite’s Pleasure, Lucrezia and de Sade, Adult Match Maker, and Eagle Leather. They always have our back and provide an incredible foundation for us to build this experience.

Sometimes we don’t know what we’ve got til it’s gone. The lack of OKF definitely left a huge gap in our lives, and we recognise many of you felt the same. So thank you all for your passion and support, and consistent engagement throughout the difficult times. All of you have helped Oz Kink Fest grow into a much-loved staple of the Australian kink calendar. We need to celebrate that.

Let the countdown begin!

Celebrating our 15th year with the launch of the festival. This is your opportunity to meet some of the presenters and performers and connect with the community before a bumper festival!

Sponsored by Lucrezia De Sade your ticket price includes a free drink of sparkling or beer (non-alcoholic options available) as well as some light finger food

Hosted by some of Melbourne amazing community minded kinksters and international presenters Sinclair Sexsmith, Thista Minai and The Carnie DJ Cruise

FREE Drink & Finger Food

Dress to impress as the Paparazzi will be there ! www.ozkinkfest.com

Fetish Expo takes over Collingwood Town Hall and Town Hall Reserve with a unique shopping and socialising experience brimming with entertainment and education.

Why not buy some chaps and have a chat?

Learn about Looning while having a laugh? Grab a whip while watching the puppy and pony parade?

Fetish Expo boasts over 50 specialty stalls, live DJs, demonstrations, performances, parades and the opportunity to meet and mingle with those from, arguably Australia’ s most diverse and non- judgemental community.

Whether you are just dipping a toe in…. or the whole foot you are certain to find something for your bedroom (or dungeon) at Oz Kink’s Fetish Expo

Claws and Clamps

• Aphrodite's Pleasure

• Sasha Von Plundercat

• Mpact Mplements

• Tenticle Spine

• Kindly Kinky

• Rubber Be Mine

• EmmJays Toys

• Ferals with Hooves

• Pen and Kink

• AdventurousCouple69

• Nickers N Nails

• Leather By Hadrian

• Exotic Footwear

• G-Spot Adult Shop

• Eagle Leather

• L & D's

• Fantasy Fair

• House of Hella

STALL HOLDERS

• The Art of Rope

• The Club

• Rogue Design

• Kirgis Creations

• Wolf Custom Leather

• Latex 42

• Get Lingeried!

• Cathedral Latex

• Hedon House

• Creative By Crispy

• JuJu Jezebelle

• The Obtainery

• Allure Collection

• Oz Gaga

• Fancy Steel

• Personable Shibari

• Black Peach

• BrickNetty

• Hares & Hyenas

• GrownUp Leathers

• Rose Foxes

• Blush n Fluffs

• The Wrath of Kath Couture

• KZ Creations

• KINKYsundays

• Primal Desires

• Penn Gabona Leather

• Hell for Leather

• Campy Claws

• Drip Feed

• Kick in the Eye Jewellery

• Tattoo Last

• Littles Delights by Miss Kitty

• Tainted Press

• Melbourne Candle Co

• Australian Queer Archives

• Star Health

FETISH EXPO FASHION SHOW – 4 PM

10 amazing designers with over 100 models this is the largest and most amazing fetish fashion show in the Southern Hemisphere! With Susan Illingworth, our Fashion Director at the helm, her 12th year, this promises to be one out of the bag (or should we day off the the rack!). Don’t miss this!

The Fetish Expo hopes to help patrons explore their desires and fantasies in a safe and informative environment.

Strap yourself in and prepare for the ride of your kinky life!

After Fetish Expo the ballroom will transform into the home of the Saturday night After Party complete with chill out zone, dancefloor and uber dark corners!

Share the fun and meet people who are just like you, wanting to connect on a deeper level and be a little bit naughty... or maybe a lot.

The After Party is play party/dungeon party that gives kinky people the opportunity to engage in BDSM play at a public event. It is a chance to watch others interact, to meet and possibly play with new people, and show off your kink in an accepting environment. Filled with Dungeon furniture such as bondage crosses, spanking benches, padded tables and other furniture.

Everyone brings their own portable toys.

Performances: Ms Polyfilla, Sparx & MissRubyrouge, Zen Rope, _M_ & Paul Competition for best outfit cash prizes sponsored by Adult Match Maker

Venue: Collingwood Town Hall 140 Hoddle Street

Ticket Prices: $30 Pre Sale $35 at the door plus transaction fee

Sunday 16th September 5:00 PM – 9:00 PM

the 5th year!

A great way to unwind after the opening weekend of Kink Fest. Meet the crew, presenters, stall holders, attendees in a great venue.

Usual munch rules apply - look for the Pink Cowboy Hat on the table.

Come and chill with fellow kinksters at a great Melbourne venue by the Yarra on a Sunday evening

politics or protocols

TBA

Cost: Pay for your own meals and drinks

Dress code: Vanilla please

This is undoubtedly one of the best fetish nights in Australia! An unrepentant celebration of fetish culture featuring internationally renowned performers. Inspire your passions with intense visuals, couture fetish fashion, and wild stage performances from entertainers who have been featured at the world’s biggest fetish parties, An ambiance of true bliss awaits you! if you like your parties extreme, we are the right night for you...... we create multi roomed fantasy with full on dance floors, eclectic second rooms, dungeons and more…….

Large cash prizes for the best dressed from our event sponsors Adult Match Maker & Lucrezia DeSade

DJ : SVETA

Dazzle us with the colourfulness and fantasy or surrender to the excess of the latex, leather or PVC, rubber, wetlook, vinyl, fur, fishnet, lace, velvet, animal mask/cosplay, kilts, or nothing at all if you’re brave enough at this pint-sized frolicsome filth-fest!

PERFORMANCES:

• The_Carnie (USA),

• Sparx & MissRubyrouge,

• Mistress Tokyo,

• Sparkarella,

• Captain Ruin

• More TBA

Dress Code: Strict fetish

Venue: Chasers Nightclub

386 Chapel St, South Yarra $55 Pre Sale $70 at the door plus transaction fee

Oz Kink Fest Intensive Workshop Weekend, 50 workshops over 2 days and you get to choose 6 from the amazing variety of topics!

What does my Workshop pass get me?

A choice of 6 workshops over 2 days…Entry to Klub Kunst Stay Play Party on the Saturday Night.

A unique opportunity to learn and socialise in an amazing venue.

The weekend starts on Saturday 22nd October 2022 at 11 am

There will be 9 workshops running consecutively 3 times

It will be followed by Klub Kunst in this amazing fully equipped venue which is included in your weekend workshop pass

And continuing on Sunday 23rd October which commences at 11 am and there will be 9 workshops running consecutively 3 times

Venue: Second Story Studios

222 Johnson Street, Collingwood

Ticket Prices: $250 Non-Members $220 Members

A filthy dirty, dressed-up, messed-up hardcore players’ night!

Klub Kunst will appeal to the hardcore players who appreciate a night surrounded by like-minded kinksters, who know their boundaries and how to push them. Klub Kunst is about dressing up … we want to play with you or watch you play with each other. It’s a night of unrestricted play where anything goes!

This year we have a new venue which is intimate, sexy and best of all unrestricted. We will have a large dungeon for the players filled with equipment and plenty of space to swing a whip!

There are intimate playrooms filled with luscious Furnishings and play equipment ready for action!

With some lovely social areas and outdoor access for smokers this event caters for everyone

Dazzle us with the colourfulness and fantasy or surrender to the excess of the latex, leather or PVC, rubber, wetlook, vinyl, fur, fishnet, lace, velvet, animal mask/cosplay, kilts, or nothing at all if you’re brave enough at this pint-sized frolicsome filth-fest!

Dress Code: Strict fetish

Venue: Second Story Studios 222 Johnson Street, Collingwood Ticket Prices: $55 Pre Sale (No Door Sales)

OKF WEEKNIGHT WORKSHOPS:

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

Weekend Workshop Timetable already booked up? Or just can’t make it over the weekend? You need to come along to our Weeknight Work shop Intensives at Second Story.

Join the internationally renowned Sinclair Sexsmith as they deliver a selection of their most popular workshops over a course of TWO nights. Come to one – come to all! But don’t miss your chance to absorb some of Sinclair’s well-honed knowledge – we don’t have them for long.

Monday Oct 17th: 6 – 7.30pm

Fucking With Gender

Sure, we can theorize gender down to a nonexistent social construction — but that’s not the only way to define gender. Our bodies are part of almost everything we do, and humans use gender as a major categorization — why not have some fun with it? While the everyday sexism and stifling gender roles can tie us in knots, finding liberation in expression and in teraction can be freeing. Changing the sexist and heteronormative systems of sex and gen der is going to take a while, but we can make changes in our own personal relationships to those systems now. This workshop explores different components of gender, internal and external, and encourages us to break our eyes open to the myriad human gender expressions. Partly strategizing to mess with the gender bi nary, and partly validation of each other’s gen der expression as a piece of our erotic lives, we’ll dive deep into the intersection of sex and gender, and all the complexities they arouse.

Monday Oct 17th: 8 – 10pm

The Sexual Politics of BDSM

We all have some ideas about what it means to be a top or a masochist, but what does it mean to be a feminist dominant or an empowered submissive? And why do we assume that sub missives are unempowered, anyway? What’s the difference between BDSM and abuse? Is it healthy to engage in kinky sex play?

Sinclair thinks so. BDSM is the pursuit of giv ing and receiving pleasure through bold sensa tion, the consensual exchange of temporarily giving up power or taking on authority over another. In this workshop we’ll explore how consent and agency are key issues in femi nism, and how they work in the exploration of BDSM. We’ll discuss different kinds of topping and bottoming, as well as theories to enhance your personal BDSM skills.

Wednesday Oct 19th: 6 – 7.30pm

Non-Binary In Theory and Practice

“Non-binary” is a noun, label, and identity, sure—but it’s also a subset of skills and aware nesses that queers can harness and use as tools for liberation. In insular communities like radical college campuses or small queer groups, it’s possible to create and have our non-binary identities validated. But when we get out into the “real world,” it’s often totally different.

In this workshop, we’ll dive into pronoun usage, coming out as genderqueer to friends, family, and institutions, navigating legal forms, arguing with the reality of the gender binary system, and day to day microagressions (like groups of AFAB genderqueer folks being called “ladies” in every restaurant or cafe ever). Everyone can queer up the gender binary system—let’s use it for liberation, elevating intersectional activism, and deep acceptance of ourselves and others.

Wednesday Oct 19th: 8 – 10pm

No Limits: Why People Play With Edgy Sex.

Blindfolds. Handcuffs. Ice cubes and hot wax. Spankings. Obeying or giving orders….

From the simplest display of something like being pushed up against a wall, to the more elaborate contracts and safewords in films like Fifty Shades of Grey, kinky sex is gaining more and more visibility. But explorations of edgy sex date back as far as we have history, and the roots of the current kink culture are with rebels, outlaws, and activists. There are safe, sane, and consensual ways to explore all sorts of new erotic terrain — let’s discuss the how’s and whys of sadomasochism, power exchange, fetishes, and more.

THISTA MINAI

FETISH EXPO SYDNEY EDITION

PART OF PRIDE AMPLIFIED

THE ULTIMATE GLBTIQA+ SEXUALITY SHOW... everyone welcome!

Fetish Expo takes over Paddington Town Hall with a unique shopping and socialising experience brimming with entertainment and education.

Why not buy some chaps and have a chat? Learn about Looning while having a laugh? Grab a whip while watching the puppy and pony parade?

Fetish Expo boasts over 40 specialty stalls, live DJs, demonstrations, performances, and a Grand Fetish Fashion Show.

Whether you are just dipping a toe in.. or the whole foot you are certain to find something for your bedroom (or dungeon) at Oz Kinks’ Fetish Expo.

Saturday 4th March 2023 11 am - 7 pm

FETISH EXPO AFTER PARTY

SYDNEY EDITION

PART OF PRIDE AMPLIFIED

Strap yourself in and prepare for the ride of your kinky life!

After Fetish Expo the ballroom will transform into the home of the Saturday night After Party complete with chill out zone, dance floor and uber dark corners!

Share the fun and meet people who are just like you, wanting to connect on a deeper level and be a little bit naughty... or maybe a lot.

The After Party is play party/dungeon party that gives kinky people the opportunity to engage in BDSM play at a public event.

It is a chance to watch others interact, to meet and possibly play with new people, and show off your kink in an accepting environment.

Filled with Dungeon furniture such as bondage crosses, spanking benches, padded tables and other furniture. Everyone brings their own portable toys.

Performances: Ms Polyfilla, More TBA

Competition for best outfit cash prizes sponsored by Adult Match Maker Venue: Paddington Town Hall

Saturday 4th March 2023 8.30 pm - 12 Midnight

WEEKEND WORKSHOP INTENSIVES SCHEDULE

SCHEDULE

The weekend starts on Saturday 22nd at 12 noon (Arrive NO later than 11.30 am)

There will be 9 workshops running consecutively 3 times over the course of the day

Following the Saturday workshop series this is your chance to stay, play and experiment with all the things you have experienced during the day or just simply socialise and soak up what an amazing opportunity the festival has been with likeminded kinksters (PLEASE NOTE IF YOU HAVE PURCHASED A WEEKEND WORKSHOP PASS THIS EVENT IS INCLUDED)

The Sunday commences at 11 am and there will be 9 workshops running consecutively 3 times

If you have purchased a VIP Pass or Full Weekend Pass it includes Klub Kunst entry on Saturday night

PLEASE NOTE KLUB KUNST WILL HAVE A BAR –THERE IS NO BYO

We ask for you cooperation in making the experience nice for everyone by turning up before your workshops start and not leaving once, you’re in.

You can only do 1 workshop at a time. ie Stream 1 = 1 Stream 2 = 1 Stream 3 = 1

If you have multi booked do the right thing and cancel the workshops you don’t want to attend

If you have not booked a place in the one you want, you can check out the one you want to move to once the attendees are in and join if there is space. Just be respectful of the presenter and the other attendees.

HOW IT ALL WORKS

Please arrive around an hour earlier than the commencement of the workshops so you can familiarise yourself with the layout of the venue and the structure of how the workshops will be presented - check in at the door - collect your map and explore!

Be at your first workshop area at least 10 minutes before the commencement and check yourself in. (they are lock down and you cannot enter if a workshop has commenced)

Wear comfortable clothing

Make sure you have everything you need as it is not a conducive learning environment if people are uncomfortable or get up to leave a workshop - bad etiquette.

CATERING

There is very little available close to the venue and very little time to leave the venue to get food. You are welcome to BYO food. We will be catering so to assist us in preparing food please pre-order your lunch

Catering Options Book HERE coming soon

Meals available on the weekend: Saturday lunch $15 / Sunday lunch $15 / Both Days $25

We will provide free coffee/Tea/Water

There are 3 options

Meal Day 1 Saturday Meal Day 2 Sunday Meal Both Days

BOOK HERE: Coming soon

Menu ; Spicy Chicken Wings, Sushi, Wraps – Roast Beef, Turkey, Ham, Cheese, Assorted Sandwiches – Chicken, Egg Mayo, Roast Beef, Ham & Cheese, Salad – Rocket, Feta & Beetroot, Salad – Green Mixed, Tomato, Cucumber, Capsicum, Salad –Potato, Fried Rice, Quiche, Bread Rolls, Fruit Platter

Vegan options coming soon

**There will be a bar however the consumption of alcohol during workshops is strictly forbidden

***The workshop schedule is subject to change every effort will be made to deliver the program as advertised however we retain the right to make changes

KINK-E | an alternative

WORKSHOP SCHEDULE

SATURDAY 22ND OCTOBER STREAM 1 - 12 NOON - 2.00

PRESENTER TOPIC

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVEX Ritual Kink

THE_CARNIE

401 BioHazard Bootcamp: an advanced training for DMs & Concerned Citizens

ZEN ROPE Exploring intimacy with Shibari

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

Fucking with Gender

THISTA An Introduction to Needle Play

MISTRESS ZOE DEMURE Caning

Mistress Misty & Alex Boi

PENELOPE DREADFUL

Strap-ons and Anal fisting for beginners

Yes, Please, More - Predicament play, pain, and joyful sadism

VIC & BEXI Scene creation both small and large scale:

SATURDAY 22ND OCTOBER STREAM 2 - 2.30 TO 4.30 PM

PRESENTER

TOPIC

MISTRESS TOKYO Caning

The_Carnie

SPARX, EMERALD & MISSRUBYROUGE

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

101 Safety & How to Engage in Play Piercing

Introduction to shibari

Art of Ownership

THISTA Having Fun With Needles

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVEX Flow and Switch

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOi

PENELOPE DREADFUL

MISTRESS ELECTRA

Vagina fisting- Understand the pelvic region

Would you like cries with that? Playing for catharsis

‘Stand to Attention!’ - Slave Positions

WORKSHOP SCHEDULE

SATURDAY 22ND OCTOBER STREAM 3 - 5.00 TO 7.00 PM

PRESENTER

TOPIC

MISTRESS TOKYO HEAVY CBT

THE_CARNIE 102 Needle Play

SPARX, EMERALD & MISSRUBYROUGE Yes! its a TK class

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

NO LIMITS: WHY PEOPLE PLAY WITH EDGY SEX

THISTA Blood Painting: Needle Play Body Art

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVEX Kink Emergencies

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI

Catheterisation (Male, Female and inclusive of all gender expressions)

VIC & BEXI Gender diverse littles, pups, subs and curious

MISTRESS ELECTRA Impulsive Bondage & Play

SUNDAY 23RD OCTOBER STREAM 4 - 11.00AM TO 1.00 PM

PRESENTER

TOPIC

MISTRESS TOKYO Mindful Consent

THE_CARNIE 201 Ouch, Needles hurt!

ZEN ROPE Deeper into intimacy with Shibari

SINCLAIR SEXMITH Consent & BDSM

THISTA Tiny and Vicious: How To Be Mean With Little Needles

MISTRESS ZOE DEMURE Caning

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI

PENELOPE DREADFUL

Catheterisation (Male, Female and inclusive of all gender expressions)

Hit Me Baby One More Time! Face slapping for fun and effect

VIC & BEXI Empowered through Kink –Woman’s only workshop in a safe space

WORKSHOP SCHEDULE

SUNDAY 22ND SEPTEMBER

STREAM 5 - 1.30PM TO 3.30 PM

PRESENTER

TOPIC

MISTRESS TOKYO Heavy Sensory Deprivation

THE_CARNIE 202 Riskier Needle placements

SPARX, EMERALD & MISS RUBY ROUGE Suspensions 101 SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

The sexual politics of BDSM

THISTA Needle Predicament Bondage SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVEX Intentional Shibari

SURJACK Artistic Wax Play

PENELOPE DREADFUL

How Deep is your Glove? Anal play for Every Body

MISTRESS ELECTRA Impact Play & how to use each Implement

SUNDAY 22ND SEPTEMBER STREAM 6 - 4.00PM TO 6.00 PM

PRESENTER

THE_CARNIE

TOPIC

201 The Cutting Edge, Body Modification

MISTRESS TOKYO TAKEDOWN BONDAGE

SPARX, EMERALD & MISS RUBY ROUGE Partial suspension semenawa

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

THIISTA

The Protocol Game

Pretty Needles for the Risk Averse

Vagina fisting- Understand the pelvic region VIC & BEXI Fire Play, Fisting, Fucking and Restraint

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI

MISTRESS ELECTRA

Switching it up - exploring both dynamics

SURJACK Heavy Impact Play – No Holes Barred

COURSE OUTLINES

STREAM 1

Sai Jaiden Lillith & EveX Ritual Kink

Incorporating sex magick and ritual into BDSM can lead to powerful, transformative and deeply connective experiences. From ordeal paths to gentle transmutations, there is incredible potential in harnessing the power of our libidinal energies and creativity to heighten play and create amazing containers. Join us as we explore ways of tapping into the sublime.

Level: beginners to advanced

Partner not essential but highly recommended

Equipment required: BYO toys, not essential

Contents: dropping into ritual space, applying a variety of simple practices as examples ie: impact play, rope, power exchange, tantric techniques

THE_CARNIE (USA)

401 BioHazard Bootcamp: an advanced training for DMs & Concerned Citizens

We all want to be proud of our dungeons. When it comes to the added risks associated with medical, piercing, and blood play, how confident are you about the cleanliness and protocols of your community play space?

This class will be equal parts interactive, fun, and gross. Come prepared for graphic slide shows, very unsexy role playing, and group exercises to hone your critical thinking skills.

Topics covered include:

• blood born pathogen and the communal play setting

• sharps containers, ew

• acceptable surface cleaners

• how to handle a blood spill

• what to do in the incident of fainting

• preventing cross contamination of the play space

• -how to spot and respond to inappropriate practices

• group consent in a potentially biohazardous setting

This class is a must for all DMs and blood play enthusiasts. It will bolster your ability to Appropriately and intelligently respond to concerns regarding this

type of play and give you a plethora of resources for further developing your skills.

ZEN Rope - Ash Snare (he/it) & Harley Okami (he/she/they)

Exploring intimacy with Shibari

From a foundation of best practice safety methods, couples will engage in floor based shibari craft. Utilizing connective energetic practice and hands on body manipulation techniques as a vehicle on this guided exploration of connection and intimacy. No previous experience is necessary to participate, this workshop is suitable for all skill levels.

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

Fucking with Gender

Sure, we can theorize gender down to a non-existent social construction — but that’s not the only way to define gender. Our bodies are part of almost everything we do, and humans use gender as a major categorization — why not have some fun with it? While the everyday sexism and stifling gender roles can tie us in knots, finding liberation in expression and interaction can be freeing. Changing the sexist and heteronormative systems of sex and gender is going to take a while, but we can make changes in our own personal relationships to those systems now. This workshop explores different components of gender, internal and external, and encourages us to break our eyes open to the myriad human gender expressions.

Partly strategizing to mess with the gender binary, and partly validation of each other’s gender expression as a piece of our erotic lives, we’ll dive deep into the intersection of sex and gender, and all the complexities they arouse.

THISTA

An Introduction to Needle Play

Are you intrigued by needle play, but not sure where to start? Do you find needles a bit intimidating, and want information to help you feel more comfortable? In this 101 class, we’ll discuss some of the dreadful delights and sexy scenes needles can offer. Then we’ll learn how to prepare, play, and clean up safely, and we’ll cover the basics of placing and removing needles

MISTRESS ZOE DEMURE

Caning

The cane is one of kinks strongest symbols, and its wielder a powerful archetype. Presented by Cane Connoisseur, Mistress Zoe Demure, this workshop

is not to be missed. Covering both the theory and practice of caning, the workshop delves into the wide selection of canes available, their respective uses, and shows you how to determine the quality of a cane. In order to ensure everyone follows best practice in safety protocols, Mistress Zoe will explain how to negotiate for a caning scene, including a discussion about anatomy and physiology in respect to caning. During a live demonstration you will observe proper caning techniques, anatomical safety, and examine the different techniques for building play from light to heavy, while learning how to avoid or correct common mistakes like wrapping. You will also have the opportunity to see various styles of caning including sensual, punishment, and judicial, and discuss the different dynamics and requirements for negotiation strategy.

If the time and space permits, participants will be given an opportunity to practice their caning skills

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI

Preamble: All of our classes aim to be LGBTQ+ inclusive, all genders are welcome, and we will endeavour to use safe language by using neutral medical terminology if binary language causes discomfort or dysphoria for participants. We hope other participants respect each other on this matter as well. LGBTQ+-phobia is not condoned in our classes. Consent is of utmost importance in our classes as well, there might be opportunities for demonstrations or guided practice on each person’s play partner, if participants consent to it.

Strap-ons and Anal fisting for beginners

We will discuss anatomy, the risk of strap-ons and anal fisting, and risk management. We will discuss negotiations, consent, warm-ups, lubes and tools required. Everything you need to have for a successful fisting/pegging.

PENELOPE DREADFUL

Yes, please, more predicament play, pain, and joyful sadism

Intermediate level – some experience anticipated.

Join Sydney’s very own smiling sadist exploring one of her favourite personal perversions. I fucking love predicament play – it is imaginative, terrifying, giggly and wriggly, and full of novel ways to use and abuse willing partners. It is bondage without a single tie, a carefully loaded question, a burning desire to please met with a desire to burn things because it’s fun! Sadism doesn’t have to be scary and predicament is one of the most joyful of all ways to explore it.

• sing language to engage, baffle and bemuse

• Tie-free bondage – the beauty of situational predicament

• Compression in S&M – the beauty of the Happy Mistress Face

Discussion, Q&A, demonstration of concepts throughout

VIC & BEXI

Scene creation both small and large scale

• Designing your plan and theme

• Recruiting and interviewing Tops and Bottoms

• Planning, logistics and risk reduction

• Setting the scene

• Living out the fantasy

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MISTRESS TOKYO

Caning and Corporal Punishment

“There is a good deal more to caning than one person simply hitting someone else with a stick.”

A cane can be used mildly, even sensually, by a reasonably skilled and self-controlled Caner. But the mystique and the appeal of The Cane, as opposed to any number of other long thin things you can hit with, is that it is used for intense, deliberate and severe corporal correction of miscreants. Psychologically, it can be highly fetishized and formal. Physically, it places great demands on the Canee’s resolution and fortitude. For the caner it is almost an equally challenging exercise in concentration, technical skill, and psychological dominance.

THE_CARNIE

101 Safety & How to Engage in Play Piercing. Play piercing is done for the purpose of enjoyment (or pain) rather then permanent body decoration. It can be a form of self-expression, ritual, self-discovery, sexual pleasure, and entertainment. The endorphin high from play piercing can create a variety of sensations. This class will demonstrate safe practices and techniques for those interested in exploring this kind of play. You will be coached on the connections that can be established between the piercer and pierced. We will also discuss the more extreme form of piercings specifically pertaining to Energy Pulls and Flesh Hook Suspension. This class is part lecture and part handson.

SPARX, EMERALD & MISS RUBY ROUGE

Introduction to shibari - What is Shibari? where did it come from? How can we use it? Learn some information and basics about this diverse and amazing BDSM play, as well as get practical and practicing with rope.

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH Art of Ownership

“Non-binary” is a noun, label, and identity, sure—but it’s also a subset of skills and awarenesses that queers can harness and use as tools for liberation. In insular communities like radical college campuses or small queer groups, it’s possible to create and have our non-binary identities validated. But when we get out into the “real world,” it’s often totally different. In this workshop, we’ll dive into pronoun usage, coming out as genderqueer to friends, family, and institutions, navigating legal forms, arguing with the reality of the gender binary system, and day to day microagressions (like groups of AFAB genderqueer folks being called “ladies” in every restaurant cafe ever). Everyone can queer up the gender binary system—let’s use it for liberation, elevating intersectional activism, and deep acceptance of ourselves and others.

THISTA

Having Fun With Needles

What makes a needle scene fun for both the bottom and the top? What types of fun do needles offer? Once you get the needles in, then what? Come learn how to create a needle scene that all participants will enjoy, from the very first poke to the very last pull. We’ll briefly review safety and setup, then cover placement, aesthetic options, manipulation, sensation, and removal.

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVE X

Flow and Switch

Many of us don’t exist on a binary of Dominant or Submissive, or perhaps we aren’t comfortable or desirous to having a strict power dynamic in place. Eve X and Sai Jaiden Lillith are lifestyle switches who enjoy the fluidity of their personal dynamic. Through negotiation, sensitivity to nuance and fun role play scenarios they can help you to craft scenes where this energy can really flow, as well as being able to feel into the energies that you need to embrace in the moment.

Level: beginners to advanced Partner not essential but highly recommended Equipment required: BYO toys, not essential Contents: role play, advanced negotiations, learning how to flow

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI

Vagina fisting- Understand the pelvic region Preamble: All of our classes aim to be LGBTQ+ inclusive, all genders are welcome, and we will endeavour to use safe language by using neutral medical terminology if binary language causes discomfort or dysphoria for participants. We hope other participants respect each other on this matter as well. LGBTQ+-phobia is not condoned in our classes. Consent is of utmost importance in our classes as well, there might be opportunities for demonstrations or guided practice on

each person’s play partner, if participants consent to it.

This class is designed to inform and empower the curious. Why would/should I consider this? Is it safe? Would I enjoy this? We will discuss common myths, questions and answers to demystify vaginal fisting.

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Would you like cries with that? Playing for catharsis

Intermediate to advanced – experience anticipated, emotional labour.

Catharsis play is intimate, delicate and divine. It offers a vulnerability that needs to be met with responsibility and respect, regardless of which side of the slash you identify with. Playing with catharsis can be one of the most beautiful, courageous and present moments of your connections, and it can open up whole new worlds of experience to you. I will provide tips and pointers (and very pointed questions) that I have collected in the last decade of My experience here and abroad.

• Know thyself – know what you’re asking for, ask for what you want

• Soul food – prepare for play and for personal care

• Hair-trigger – emotional stress responses under duress

• SURPRISE! What to do when the unexpected happens

Discussion, demonstration, Q&A plus troubleshooting

MISTRESS ELECTRA AMORE Stand to Attention! - Slave Positions

Many slave positions stem from history and has become entwined within the BDSM sceneover the years.

During this workshop Mistress Electra Amore, is going to guide / order you

through some of the popular positions, the intention being to demonstrate the advantage of each position for both parties involved.

This is an interactive workshop, with discussions, feedback and input from all who attend with the aim to allow you to build a set of slave positions to add to your own tool box of knowledge and tweak the positions to your own needs and desires as you see fit.

This work shop is suited to those who wish to learn about slave positions as an instructor orrecipient. I request you be open minded and also up for a little bit of fun along the way as we move into each position and explore its purpose and possibilities.

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MISTRESS TOKYO HEAVY CBT

“If a Saturday afternoon of recreational torture sounds just like your sort of “ball sport”, then forget the football and come along to experience as many styles of CBT as I can include in 90mins! I’ll cover the basics of CBT, from the gentle to ball-breakingly intense, and show you how I structure a scene from the first touch - to the petit mort!”

THE_CARNIE

102 Needle Play

Now that you get the basics of needle play down, this class teaches best safe practices while fine toning your piercing techniques. Bring your kit, and let’s talk about why you have what you have in it and consider the other materials one should have if engaging in needle play often. This is a hands on with guided instruction class

SPARX, EMERALD & MISS RUBY ROUGE

Yes! its a TK class - Kanna ryu is known for its control, precision, sadism, and technical aspects. Take the time with Sparks to look closely into the techniques and thought processes behind the TK tied by Nawashi Kanna, who has taught so many of the world’s best. Also looking at adaptions for purpose depending on time availability.

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

No limits: Why people play with edgy sex Blindfolds. Handcuffs. Ice cubes and hot wax. Spankings. Obeying or giving orders. From the simplest display of something like being pushed up against a wall, to the more elaborate contracts and safewords in films like Fifty Shades of Grey, kinky sex is gaining more and more visibility. But explorations of edgy sex date back as far as we have history, and the roots of the current kink culture are with rebels, outlaws, and activists. There are safe, sane, and consensual ways to explore all sorts of new erotic terrain — let’s discuss the how’s and whys of sadomasochism, power exchange, fetishes, and more.

THISTA

Blood Painting: Needle Play Body Art

Do you love the idea of aesthetically pleasing needle scenes, but struggle with creating perfect designs in steel? Do you want to create something beautiful without using a ton of needles? Do you just really love blood? Come learn how blood painting uses impact and palette knives to give you a new way to make stunning art with your needle scenes.

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVE X Kink Emergencies

In BDSM it’s not IF something is going to go wrong, it’s WHEN. All BDSM is a form of edgeplay - we’re doing things that have the potential to cause harm. This workshop is all about adding an additional layer to your negotiations, harm minimization techniques, how to deal with mistakes ETHICALLY as well as emotional / psychological triage when things go wrong.

• Level: beginners to advanced

• Partner not required

• Equipment Required: none

Contents: workshopping a variety of situations and best practices in handling kink emergencies ethically and effectively through compassion, communication and preparation

MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI Catheterisation (Male, Female and inclusive of all gender expressions)

Preamble: All of our classes aim to be LGBTQ+ inclusive, all genders are welcome, and we will endeavour to use safe language by using neutral medical terminology if binary language causes discomfort or dysphoria for participants. We hope other participants respect each other on this matter as well. LGBTQ+-phobia is not condoned in our classes. Consent is of utmost importance in our classes as well, there might be opportunities for demonstrations or guided practice on each person’s play partner, if participants consent to it.

The class will cover aspects of catheterisation for kink play, how to set the scene, OH&S (including urethra anatomy, contraindications and its associated risks), equipment required (and the difference between various materials/ Fr sizes, for different anatomical bits), setting up, the process of insertion, how long it is recommended for a catheter to be left in, removal and cleaning up and aftercare (medical red flags, safety and precautions etc). Everything you need to know to make catheterisation safe and enjoyable

VIC & BEXI

Gender diverse littles, pups, subs and curious

• Creating a safe and inclusive space to explore your personal kink

• Safety, trust and negotiation

• Headspace and exploration

• Letting go of fears and expectations

• Needs, wants and desires

• The diversity of play – Kinks, multi dimensions and fantasy

MISTRESS ELECTRA AMORE

Impulsive bondage & play - all levels of experience welcome

Impulsive play is one of Mistress Electra’s fortes.

To weave a session with what is at hand is what she excels in.

Her artistic nature loves the challenge of creating a play scene utilising what she has around her.

Even though the idea of having all the nick and knacks of a play space is enticing and exciting. Electra is fully aware that not everyone has a dedicated room nor the budget to indulge in such pleasures.

Hence why she has created a skill share that she can share with you some of her tips & tricks. How to make the most of what you have around you for those impulsive moments of kink play that do occur in our life.

This workshop is great for people who wish to be impulsive.

It is an interactive workshop, where Electra will be demonstrating first then allowing space for people to practice and play. If your preference is to sit and watch then you are also welcome to do so.

This workshop may include some level of nudity.

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MISTRESS TOKYO Mindful Consent Coming soon

THE_CARNIE

201 Ouch, Needles hurt!

If causing pain is what you’re looking for this class is for you. After understanding the basics of safe needle practices, we go over how and where to inflict pain with needles using some techniques like Stacking, Zippers, Twisting, and many more for your sadist minds. Part lecture and hands-on.

ZEN ROPE - ASH SNARE (he/it) & Harley Okami (he/she/they)

Exploring deeper intimacy with Shibari

From a foundation of best practice safety methods, couples will engage in floor based shibari craft. Utilizing connective energetic practice and hands on body manipulation techniques as a vehicle on this guided exploration of connection and intimacy. No previous experience is necessary to participate, this workshop is suitable for all skill levels.

SINCLAIR SEXMITH Consent & BDSM

Consent & BDSM Pop culture depictions of BDSM rarely capture the nuance that happens behind the scenes — consent and negotiations in the kink communities that are taught, encouraged, and applied.

Often, BDSM fantasy scenes seem coercive, fearful, or even damaging, but these practices attempt to keep everyone involved safe. Negotiation techniques, safety tips for playing with new people, and concepts such as safewords encourage personal empowerment and are built with everyone’s best interests in mind. While safety is never guaranteed, concepts like “RACK” and “SSC” are widespread, and the communities, conferences, and clubs are constantly striving to orient new members and deepen the conversation as it continues. Come talk about how to apply consent and equal negotiation — regardless of whether you are part of the kink communities or not, they are useful tools for everyone.

THISTA

Tiny and Vicious: How To Be Mean With Little Needles

Wanna have a good time with little holes? Come learn how to make your sadistic needle play excruciating at any gauge! Discover locations, techniques, patterns, and manipulations that are sure to elicit some delightful screams, all at 20 gauge and smaller… because it’s not the size that counts, it’s how you use it.

MISTRESS ZOE DEMURE Caning

The cane is one of kinks strongest symbols, and its wielder a powerful archetype. Presented by Cane Connoisseur, Mistress Zoe Demure, this workshop is not to be missed. Covering both the theory and practice of caning, the workshop delves into the wide selection of canes available, their respective uses, and shows you how to determine the quality of a cane. In order to ensure everyone follows best practice in safety protocols, Mistress Zoe will explain how to negotiate for a caning scene, including a discussion about anatomy and physiology in respect to caning. During a live demonstration you will observe proper caning techniques, anatomical safety, and examine the different techniques for building play from light to heavy, while learning how to avoid or correct common mistakes like wrapping. You will also have the opportunity to see various styles of caning including sensual, punishment, and judicial, and discuss the different dynamics and requirements for negotiation strategy.

If the time and space permits, participants will be given an opportunity to practice their caning skills

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MISTRESS MISTY & ALEX BOI Catheterisation (Male, Female and inclusive of all gender expressions)

Preamble: All of our classes aim to be LGBTQ+ inclusive, all genders are welcome, and we will endeavour to use safe language by using neutral medical terminology if binary language causes discomfort or dysphoria for participants. We hope other participants respect each other on this matter as well. LGBTQ+-phobia is not condoned in our classes. Consent is of utmost importance in our classes as well, there might be opportunities for demonstrations or guided practice on each person’s play partner, if participants consent to it.

The class will cover aspects of catheterisation for kink play, how to set the scene, OH&S (including urethra anatomy, contraindications and its associated risks), equipment required (and the difference between various materials/ Fr sizes, for different anatomical bits), setting up, the process of insertion, how long it is recommended for a catheter to be left in, removal and cleaning up and aftercare (medical red flags, safety and precautions etc). Everything you need to know to make catheterisation safe and enjoyable

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Hit Me Baby One More Time! Face slapping for fun and effect

Intermediate level – some experience anticipated. Partnered practical content.

Don’t be scared, face slapping can be super hot when you do it right. We will talk about the risks – detached retina, blown ear drum; practicalities –neck support, trouble-shooting; what makes it hot – intensity and intimacy; and how we can change it up to suit our scenes.

• First, do no harm – a practical look at how to minimise risk in a risky activity

• Look into my eyes – turning up the volume with deliberate intensity

• Use different positions, scents and movements to create and enhance our scenes

• Demonstration and practical. It will be hands-on (hahaha)

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VIC & BEXI

Empowered through Kink – Woman’s only workshop in a safe space

• Understanding what Kink can give us

• Sexual empowerment through Kink

• Challenging body image and sexual oppression

• Feeling sexy, desired and in control of your sexual gratification

• Kink and it’s gifts to positive mental health

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MISTRESS TOKYO

Heavy Sensory Deprivation

Mistress Tokyo will take you on a broad yet focused journey of heavy sensory deprivation bondage, touching on aspects of rubber and leather play.

She’ll explain the meditational experience that total enclosure bondage can be and show you how to safely explore this fascinating, immersive and downright hot form of play.

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202 Riskier Needle placements

With the use of best safer practices this class dives into the naughtier and more challenging places to do needle play on. Placement of the needles in face, neck, nipples, and genitals will be the area of focus. This lecture includes demonstrations of the various area.

SPARX, EMERALD & MISS RUBY ROUGE

Suspensions 101

Getting into suspensions can be a big step. What gear to use, when and why, structures, uplines etc. go through various techniques and safety aspects while we learn how to build suspensions with strong fundamentals to kick start your journey into flying with rope

TK pre-requisite

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

The Sexual Politics of BDSM

We all have some ideas about what it means to be a top or a masochist, but what does it mean to be a feminist dominant or an empowered submissive? And why do we assume that submissives’ are unempowered, anyway? What’s the difference between BDSM and abuse? Is it healthy to engage in kinky sex play?

Sinclair thinks so. BDSM is the pursuit of giving and receiving pleasure through bold sensation, the consensual exchange of temporarily giving up power or taking on authority over another. In this workshop we’ll explore how consent and agency are key issues in feminism, and how they work in the exploration of BDSM. We’ll discuss different kinds of topping and bottoming, as well as theories to enhance your personal BDSM skills.

THISTA

Needle Predicament Bondage

This intermediate class explores how to create delightfully devilish predicaments with needle play. Whether you’re binding your bottom in challenging

postures, or tying them to other objects, needle bondage offers a variety of unique physical and psychological challenges.

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH & EVE X

Intentional Shibari

There are so many patterns to learn in rope that it’s easy to lose sight of the reason for tying - the journey and connection. Sai and Eve X are highly intuitive practitioners who will share with you a wealth of soft skills and practices that can help you to connect deeply with your rope partner/s. This workshop is not about patterns, but about how to use the skills that you already know.

Level: beginners to advanced

Partner not essential but highly recommended

Equipment required: Rope

Contents: rope bondage practices, sharing touch, tantric practices, soft skills

SURJACK

Getting hot and sticky with Candle Play

“Artistic Wax Play”

Artistic wax play uses a combination of energy, intuition and movement along with the coloured wax and instead of canvases, we use human bodies. We are perverts after all and it’s also a form of sensation play, which generates an energetic exchange between the ‘artist’ and the ‘canvas’ - if there’s no response from the ‘canvas’ we don’t enjoy it!

No candles in this skillshare but LOTS of wax. This skillshare is very much a participation event. We will have a 15/20 min info session and then the practical hands on stuff begins PENELOPE DREADFUL

How Deep is your Glove? Anal play for Every Body

Info to follow

MISTRESS ELECTRA AMORE

Impact Play & how to use each Implement – - all levels of experience welcome

Impact Play is an area that Electra is very skilled in. Tawsing a client’s hand was her first experience in using a traditional style implement and since then has handled hundreds of different types of implements.

During this skill share Electra will be discussing the differences between implements and how and were to administrate an accurately safe stroke.

Starting off with the riding crop, Electra will demonstrate how this popular implement can be

used in a sensual to stern manner. Then moving onto paddles and straps, discussing how the different mediums deliver different sensations of impact. Touching on whips, floggers and single tails. And finishing up with her favourite the cane.

There will be backside nudity in this skill share and the participants will be invited to partake with the demonstrations.

This skill share gives anyone who has an interest in impact play an insight into the different implements, how to wield each one and the best positions for your bottom to be placed in to receive an accurate and measured stroke.

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SINCLAIR SEXSMITH

The Protocol Game

Creating, implementing, and enforcing protocol in M/s dynamics can be hard. But it can be easier. Come create your own Protocol Game and create, implement, and enforce 52 protocols in the next year. In this workshop, you’ll learn: how to create a “training wheel” of categories that will drive your protocol, how to implement new protocol so it actually sticks, and how to enforce new protocol with the minimum of effort. And you’ll walk away with your own Protocol Game to play.

201 The Cutting Edge, Body Modification: Branding, Scarification, Cuttings, Removals & Mutilations.

Body modification is not really so strange within a culture where identity is often expressed through appearance—in mainstream society includes fashion consumption, cosmetic surgery, and Botox. This is about intentional permanent or semipermanent alterations of the living body for ritual, folk medicine, aesthetics, or corporal punishment. This class we will cover that broad spectrum of why people do it pertaining to the various techniques of such an alteration.

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Pretty Needles for the Risk Averse

Needle play offers fabulous opportunities for aesthetic creativity, but each technique comes with its own considerations for safety. This class explores how to create fabulous art with string, feathers, beads, and more, all while minimizing health risks. Come learn how to create beautiful needle art within a conservative risk profile.

SPARX, EMERALD & MRS RUBY ROUGE

Partial suspension semenawa

Go through a number of different ties in partial suspensions designed for discomfort and that painful pleasure. Learn how play with different

aspects, use lines, precisely control everything we do to our desired effect and the safety behind them.

MISS PENELOPE DREADFUL How Deep is your Glove? Anal play for Every Body

IN PROGRESS

Discussion, Q&A, troubleshooting, demonstration of butt stuff breathing exercises to assist in sphincter training.

MISTRESS ELECTRA AMORE

Switching it up - exploring both dynamics Switching it up is a chance for you to explore and play with the different power dynamics that BDSM is based on. Focusing on the dynamic of Dominant, Top and submissive, slave, bottom archetypes.

This skill share allows for the participants to play with the different archetypes while Electra takes you through several exercises where you will be given the opportunity to experience switching between role and exploring the dynamic of being in control to surrendering to another person.

Electra will be starting the workshop with a discussion on the elements of power exchange. The focus will be on establishing self-connection first with our own energy. Then moving into playing with an assortment of techniques in solo and partnered exercises to establish an understanding of how we each use and respond to the dynamics of playing with switching between roles.

This workshop is designed with the intention to cater to people who are wanting to deepen their own relationship with how they use and respond to the power dynamics and to establish a healthier balance.

VIC & BEXY

Fire Play, Fisting, Fucking and Restraint

• Preparation and safety

• What do you need to get started

• Incorporation into scene play

• Practical demonstration of fire play, fisting, fucking and restraint

MISTRESS TOKYO Takedown Bondage

In this workshop, I’ll draw from my experience as a Takemusu Aikido practitioner and lover of Hojojyutsu (the Japanese martial art of rope tying on prisoners) to show you some techniques I employ in My scenes to get your sub on the ground and keep them there!

We’ll cover takedown from an Aikido perspective, pressure points, equipment, and Hojo inspired boxtie harnesses.

Attendee requirements: This is a pair-based, hands-on workshop format. Please wear comfortable clothing, bring rope and be prepared to go to the ground!

Those without a partner or who just want to observe are also welcome.

SURJACK

No Holes Barred “Advanced Impact Play”

“The Tale Of Two Floggers” Well not really, I use over a dozen floggers, several canes, paddles, straps, quirts, whips and various other weapons of mass destruction.

This skillshare offers a tapis coving Advanced/heavy impact play with numerous toys and techniques covered. Master Jack and his partner, lover and slave saffireblue will be only too pleased to advise, discuss and help anyone with just about anything. If you would like to participate in the practical side of this workshop, then it’s advisable to bring along your own bottom/ crash test dummy.

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New To Kink? Try These Tips

Do you have a fetish you want to explore? Are you wanting to kink up your sex life? Is there a curious desire you need satiated? The best way to get into kink is on your own terms, but that can be hard when you’re still trying to work out what it is you want, or who you want it with. Of course, the internet is the general place to start – in fact I sometimes wonder how people even identified and communicated their kinks prior to 2000 –but how to you make the move from online kinkster to real life connections.

Social Media:

There are a tonne of options for socials for fetish kink and BDSM. There are platforms like Fetlife specific to kinky people, and groups and pages within larger platforms like Facebook where kinky people can share info and chat. These groups are your best chance for discovering events that you’re comfortable attending. Being BDSM/fetish specific, Fetlife is almost a must for keeping up with events. Due to Facebook community standards, adult events of a sexy or kinky persuasion (even within private groups) can come under scrutiny, so it’s not super reliable for information, and horrendous for censorship. Twitter can be a good option too, as there is no requirement for a real name, and you can get access to a lot of NSFW content. Many kink educators and events have Twitter accounts and you can keep up with them with a simple follow.

Munches:

So your socials are activated, you’re chatting a bit, and you’re ready to meet a few people in a relatively chill environment. You need a Munch. (Okay. But what IS that?!) Munches are a meeting of kinksters in a mainstream setting – no gear, no BDSM dress-ups, no play. They are casual, public get-togethers – mostly for people to catch up and hang out with likeminded people. Some munches are organised by fetish or BDSM role – submissive much, leather munch, littles munch – but they’re more commonly listed by location, so finding one in your area shouldn’t be too hard. If it’s your first-time, get in touch with the organiser and let them know. It’s nice for them to know a new face is heading along, so they can have some time put aside to get you welcomed and comfy. Now why not put the Oz Kink Fest munch in your calendar?

Workshops and Skillshares:

Workshops and skillshares are terms often used interchangeably, the definition coming down to the event organiser and the term they prefer. Although workshops can tend to be more theory-focused, and skillshares more ‘hands on’, both are valuable learning opportunities for any kinkster, but particularly those new to the scene. Educating yourself is probably one of the best things you can do. When we learn about the things we love our confidence grows, and as our confidence expands so too does our ability to connect with others. Workshops and skillshares provide an opportunity to learn some valuable, tangible skills and develop your kink play, but they also a great chance to engage with other kinksters about their play.

Fetish Events:

Or why not jump right in? Think of a nightclub, then imagine everyone decked out in their kinkiest finery – leather, latex, lingerie… cuffs, collars, crotchless clothes. And yes, there is dancing. There are certainly bodies moving. But are they dancing to the music, or the flogger? Do they move to the beat in their ears, or the beating of their bum? There are fetish events running in every major city, and again, it’s your social media network that will point you in the right direction. There are also an array of events on offer – club nights, private(ish) parties, balls, and dungeon events – some of which offer sex on premises, but the majority is for kink play only. Be sure to check out the dress code for these events – some will accept basic black, but if you’re going to a latex party, there’s a good chance you’ll wanna wear latex.

We’re all new at some stage, so don’t let that hold you back. The kink world holds so many beautiful possibilities so make the most of Oz Kink fest this October – there’s sure to be something for you.

MisKnickers

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Control, Obedience and Fear

My name is Kim.

I am a collared slave, living in a 24/7 consensual M/s (Master/slave) relationship. I am also known as MJ's girl. We live in rural Australia.

I have been writing articles since mid 2004, and after having so many requests for copies, and such positive feedback, we decided to make them FREELY available on a larger scale.

There are other websites like mine (click here to get to my site), but a lot of them insist on a paid membership - for me this is about giving back to people, not about taking their money.

This year we celebrated our 16th Collaring An niversary and our 13th Wedding Anniversary!

We have had a very difficult year with many health issues for both of us so not much has changed on the site, however I will be making an effort to update it with more writing in the coming months.

It has now been 18 years since I started my re lationship with Master Joe. In that time, I have gone from thinking I am a submissive in a D/s re lationship, to understanding that I am a slave in an M/s relationship. Much of what is written on this website is a reflection of my early years with my Master, in essence nothing has changed, just my perception and my knowledge of what I am, not what I thought I was. I could change all of my articles to reflect my current view but I believe everything here is still relevant, no matter which label I place on myself. I hope you enjoy reading my work.

Obedience: The act or practice of obeying –dutiful or submissive compliance

Fear: A feeling of unease or apprehension, agitation or anxiety.

The subject for this discussion is Obedience, Ap prehension and Control, but I’m going to change it around to Control, Obedience and Fear - which is another word for apprehension.

In order to discuss how these elements fit into a Power Exchange relationship, it’s necessary to know what they actually mean.

The dictionary’s basic definitions are as follows: Control: To exercise an authoritative or dominating influence over someone or something.

It’s pretty easy to see how control and obedience fit together in a relationship – one person is the leader and one is the follower – one is in control, one is not, so the dominant person exercises au thority over the submissive person, who obeys or complies with the dominant person’s wishes.

In a 24/7 power exchange relationship, the levels of control and obedience can be pretty high. The dominant person, is the one who makes the deci sions, and the submissive person is the one who abides by those decisions. When you choose to become a slave, you are making a choice to let someone else control your life – decisions are not yours anymore unless your Master gives you per mission to make them.

Successful Power exchange or M/s relationships are built on trust, honesty and good communica tion, and therefore there would have to be a lot of discussion around how much control is exer cised by the one in charge. Some have complete control over every aspect of the relationship, and some don’t. For example, there are a lot of things in our relationship that I make decisions on, but that’s because Master Joe gave me that responsi bility – therefore he is still in control and I am still

obeying/complying with his wishes. The excep tion is anything to do with my son – he does not interfere or try to control any decisions I make in regards to him.

Trust must be a defining factor when dealing with fear, especially bad fear. If you have a high level of trust, then even if you are scared, you know you are safe.

Can fear impact the level of control and obedience in a power exchange relationship?

I don’t think it should but I can see how it could. Even if you are scared, as long as you trust each other, then the fear should not impact on the re lationship, however if there is a high level of fear all the time, then in my opinion there’s something unbalanced within the dynamic.

Perhaps the Master has unrealistic expectations and therefore the slave cannot meet them, and fails all the time. The slave then becomes fright ened or apprehensive about any task or order, knowing that to fail will most likely mean punish ment.

So, control and obedience are linked – we need one to have the other – it isn't really possible to have control without obedience, at least not in my opinion.

And that brings me to Fear or apprehension, which is the third element for discussion .

I think fear is something that we all deal with at different times in our lives. There’s bad fear and good fear – bad fear being something that scares the hell out of you, good fear being something that scares you but excites you too.

Is there an accepted level of fear in a power ex change relationship?

I think there’s probably a fair amount of good fear, especially when a relationship is just begin ning – speaking from personal experience I can remember being terrified of playing with Master Joe for the first time, but so very excited that I almost had a car accident on the way there!

Everything in a newly established relationship is new – you may have been spanked or flogged be fore, but not with this new person, so I believe there would always be a level of fear or appre hension – but it’s good fear.

If there are moments of bad fear present then the level will be high at that particular moment. For example if you know you are going to be pun ished for something, you may be completely ter rified not knowing what the punishment may be. This is not good fear, this is bad fear.

This could also cause the slave to question the re lationship, or to misbehave knowing that punish ment is imminent anyway. This kind of situation can lead to anxiety, depression and a constantly unhappy emotional state and in most cases, the relationship cannot survive.

But, if there is a healthy level of good fear, and the occasional moment of bad fear, these elements can be kept under control. When that happens, the relationship is balanced - there is control, obedience, fear, trust, honesty and good commu nication and the rewards are fulfilling.

The Master knows that they are in control, that the slave is obedient, and the slave knows that they are pleasing the Master and that leads to harmony between the two.

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Choosing Sex Toys for Men

One of Aphrodite’s Pleasure’s customers, let’s call him John, has asked after reading the last column, “Well how do men choose a sex toy then?”

So the challenge has been laid and here I go as I (try) to explain how to choose sex toy for men. The variety of toys available for men is extensive. Many of the adult toys available at Aphrodite’s Pleasure has been chosen as they have a use in the treatment of some of the sexual issues I deal with in my practice at Sex Life Therapy. That said, the adult products are also selected as they pro vide fantastic pleasure to the user or users. Like, the women’s toys, the men’s toys are also select ed based on recommendation by our “panel of selectors”.

What do you want it to do?

Sex toys for men have improved in the selection of adult toys available and also the manufacture of these adult products. When selecting a sex toy you need to think about what you want the adult product to do. Are you wanting to stimulate or help create erections, or longer lasting erections, or delay ejaculation and even create extra stimu lation to assist with ejaculation? Another aspect men need to consider when selecting a sex toy is which area of your body you want to stimulate: your penis shaft and glans, your perineum, your prostate or a combination of areas. You also need to reflect on what and how you want to stimulate the area, whether through vibrations or massage or in the case of P-spot (prostate) manual stimula tion.

Male Sex Toys

In this column I will explore and explain the four keys groups of adult toys for men stocked at Aph rodite’s Pleasure: cock rings, masturbators, P-spot and anal toys, and penis pumps.

Penis Rings or Cock Rings Cock rings and penis rings are the same deal. Penis rings is sometimes used as it appears to be a “politer” term. Cock rings are designed to either be worn around the base of the penis or around the penis and testicles. Worn either way, a cock ring, restricts the blood flow out of the penis meaning a firmer (harder) erec tion. It may help to also slow ejaculation. Many men experience greater penis sensitivity when wearing a cock ring.

There are variety of penis rings at Aphrodite’s Pleasure. These range from the Perfect Fit or Toy-

nary through to the Lucrezia and de Sade’s leather and stud variety. If you are new to using penis rings, I would recommend either the Perfect Fit cock rings (multi pack – 3 sizes) or the Lucrezia and de Sade’s leather stud clip cock straps. These two brands can be put on either flaccid or erect. The Perfect Fit and Toynary has three different size rings – the small and medium rings may be used around the base of the penis, the larger (or even the medium) may be stretched around the penis and testicles. The L&D cock strap is designed to be placed around the penis and testicles. Another advantage of wearing cock rings is that it pushes the “pubic package” out and enhances the look of size under clothes.

For the more adventurous try the Ovo Vibrating Cock Ring or for the top of the line vibrating rings Lelo’s Tor. This will enhance sex with your partner through the vibrating section being designed for stimulation of both partners or even when mas turbating.

Masturbators Male masturbators are fun toys for men. At Aphrodite’s Pleasure we have a selection of male masturbators to help men achieve a more pleasurable experience masturbating. Of course good masturbation is a technique which all men could learn (See Boxed Text – Mindful masturba tion for Men).

Although I am talking about the pleasures of mas turbators, there are also therapeutic uses. For men with ejaculatory control issues, like prema ture ejaculation, or cumming to quickly, a mastur bator can help train you to last longer and better tolerate sensations. For men who experience de layed ejaculation, or find it difficult to ejaculate, a masturbator can assist bringing sensation back into your arousal and decrease the time to ejacu lation.

The staff at Aphrodite’s Pleasure have selected a number of masturbators. The most popular range is the world leading Tenga ™ range. A Japanese brand which is sleek, innovative and taking the world by storm. There are three elements in the Tenga range: Tenga Eggs – which contain a sleeve and can be used a few times; the Tenga Cups – a cushioned cup, with each cup a different designed inside (with proper cleaning and condom use you can get up to 12 uses from the cups) and the top of range (and our biggest seller of all male prod ucts) the Tenga Flip Hole. Each of the products in each of the Tengas have a different design for different experiences.

Alternatives to the Tenga masturbator range is the Baller Spiral – similar to Tenga Cups; or the Vibra tex Sidekick Sleeve. The Sidekick is a sleeve made out of body-friendly material and is smooth one side and has ticklers on the other – so two sensations for the price of one. Just turn the sleeve inside out to change the experience you desire. Tenga also produce their 3D range of sleeves.

If you want an experience to really stimulate and blow your mind have a look at Fun Factory’s Cobra – the only vibrating masturbator at Aph rodite’s Pleasure. Another popular product with the panel of selectors and customers. The team at Aphrodite’s Pleasure only carries the one vibrat ing masturbator as they believe it is best on the market.

P-Spot and anal toys

The prostate, or p-spot – is the man’s equivalent to the g-spot. The prostate plays an important role in our arousal and stimulation. The anus also contains many nerve endings and can be pleasur able. Anal masturbation, or stimulation during sex, is considered more pleasurable for men than women because of the presence of the prostate gland which women do not have. (Women have an analogous Skene’s gland, which serves a simi lar function but is not in the same place as the male prostate.) The prostate can be found ap proximately 5cm inside the male anus. Stimula tion of the prostate will result in more intense and better orgasms.

Anal toys can be categorised into four categories: prostate massagers, butt plugs, anal beads and dildos. Aphrodite’s Pleasure carry a number of prostate massagers. Lelo’s Bob is a joy to be hold while the Duke from Fun Factory is one of biggest sellers and voted most popular by our panel of se lectors. Pipedream also produce a p-spot stimula tor called the Vibrating P Spot Spiral.

If you are looking for anal beads you cannot go past Fun Factory’s Bendy Beads, or Pipedreams Beginner Bead Set. The butt plug range at Aphro dite’s Pleasure include Pipedream’s 1 and 2 Finger Fantasy plugs or Fun Factory’s Boosty and Bootie Anal Plugs. If you are looking for a dildo-style anal toy try Lelo’s Billy or Fun Factory’s Stronic Eins or Stronic Zwei Pulsator . The FF Stronic Zwei is rec ommended by staff at Aphrodite’s Pleasure and definitely not for the feint hearted.

If you are new to anal play Pipedream has the Anal Beginners Collection and Pipedream pro duces several different anal toys for beginners. Browse through the Anal toy category and find a toy right for you.

Pumps

A penis pump is first and foremost a toy to en hance your masturbation or sexual experience. Many men ask do penis pumps increase size. From speaking to “pumpers” the answer is yes if used sensibly and a sustained pumping regime is maintained – yet the size is not permanent. Penis pumps are also useful for men who experience erectile dysfunction, especially after prostate sur gery. It is important to not over pump your penis as it can cause damage. A penis pump, or erection vacuum device, increases an erection by drawing blood into the penis through the use of vacuum and increasing the erection.

The Hydromax Bathmate is a penis pump designed to be used in the bath (or shower – it can be used without water). It is the new kid on the block so to speak and is proving very popular internation ally. At Aphrodite’s Pleasure the team also stocks the Dr Joel Kaplan Penis Pump and Redline Penis Pump from Seven Creations. Penis pumps can be fun when used appropriately. Stronger and firmer erections can be a great result.

Selecting the Toy

Understand what areas of the body you want to stimulate. Explore and understand your body. When selecting your toy read the description, watch videos (not a reference to porn here guys…) and read any reviews. Consider the mate rial the toy is made from – how does it feel? Is it vibrating or pulsating? How strong is the vibra tion? Choose your toy according to your needs. Do the research. Know what you want to do with toy. Ask questions – email me or the team at Aph rodite’s Pleasure.

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In future columns I will be to explore different aspects of men’s and women’s sexuality in more detail and talk about how toys can be a great ad dition to your sex lives.

Most importantly, remember a healthy life in cludes a healthy sex life, and a healthy sex life is sane, sensible and sensual.

Enjoy!

Dr Christopher

Dr Christopher Fox is a Psychosexual and Relation ship Therapist at Sex Life Therapy in Melbourne. He has clinics in East Melbourne and Frankston.

Disclaimer: The information contained in this docu ment should be read as general in nature and is only to provide an overview of the subject matter covered. Please read product packaging carefully and follow all instructions.

Mindful Masturbation – An Exercise for Men to Get to Know Their Tackle

This exercise is one I often use with men to assist them to get to know their tackle – genitals. As men we begin masturbating to ejaculation during our teen years and develop a technique which, for many men, never or rarely changes. We learn many of our sexu al techniques during these important formative years including behaviours like masturbating only in the shower, or having to be quick. This exercise is too encourage men to get to know their genitals better and also to identify new ways of enjoying masturba tion. It is not task but an exercise in self-pleasuring and enjoyment.Begin by lying comfortably on the bed or sitting in your arm chair. Ensure you have the time and privacy. It is not a rush job, nor is it fun to be caught. If you have a mirror where you can watch how your body responds and reacts all the better. Start by taking a few deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Relax. Empty your mind of distracting thoughts. To begin with let your hands stoke your over your body. Notice your nipples. Touch them.

Maybe use a little spit on your thumb and rub them, or squeeze them gently. Many men never play with their nipples, yet a man’s nipples have as many nerve endings as a woman’s nipples. Let your hands travel down your torso and stroke your thighs and focus on inner thighs. Do not worry about your penis yet. Touch your testicles and scrotum. Tickle them with your fingers, squeeze them gently and roll them about. Bounce them up and down on your finger tips. Maybe you would like to stretch your scrotum downwards, or even encircle the top of your scrotum and stretch your scrotum and testicles downwards. Do be gentle guys – do not be over zealous. Next touch your perineum. The “notcha” or guiche area – the bit of skin between your scrotum and anus. Tickle this area. This is a highly sensitive area. Allow a finger to encircle and play around your anus. You don’t have insert anything just tickle the area. Now return to your penis and being to touch and then stroke your penis lightly. Use your fingers to trace along the penis. As you become more erect begin to masturbate your penis. Change hands. Also return to playing with your nipples, testicles and perineum and/or anus while masturbating your shaft. Stroke your body, thighs. Experience the sensations of your body. If you are uncircumcised pull your foreskin back. Now focus on your just rubbing your glans. If your routine is doing a “dry wank” add some lu bricant. If not try a different lubricant. Use different stroke techniques. If you are masturbating in front of the mirror, note how your body changes. Where you flush. What your testicles and scrotal skin do as you become more aroused. Be mindful about how your body responds. Hopefully you have better idea of what areas you want to stimulate.

OUR PRESENTERS AND PERFORMERS

To be seen at various events across the festival. More amazing talent on the way...images and bios will be added as they arrive..stay tuned

SINCLAIR

SEXSMITH (USA)

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a writer, speaker, and performer specializing in queer sexualities, genders, and relationships. Since 1996, they have been building queer and feminist online communities through writing and expressive arts. Their experience with queer culture, sexual politics, gender and identity, and embodied sexuality makes Sinclair a skilled presenter, facilitator, and speaker, and they have traveled all around North America, presenting at universities, conferences, community organizations, and retreats. Their topics include relationships, gender, writing, sexual skills, BDSM, and personal liberation.

They have produced the award-winning website Sugarbutch: Queer Sex, Kink, Gender, and Relationships at www. sugarbutch.net since 2006.

Contributing to more than twenty anthologies, including Best Lesbian Erotica, Persistence: Still Butch and Femme, and Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, Mx. Sexsmith is the guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and editor of Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both from Cleis Press. Their full-length collection Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut was released in 2014 from Maverick Press. Since 2022, they have been the editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series, including Volume 4 (2020), Volume 5 (2021), and the forthcoming Volume 6 (2022).

They have been recognized in Go Magazine’s 100 Women We Love list (2010), DapperQ’s 100 Most Stylish (2013), Kinkly’s Sex Blog Superheroes, Top 100 Sex Bloggers, and more.

Sinclair holds dual bachelor’s degrees in Gender, Women, and Sexuality studies and Creative Writing from the University of Washington, Seattle, graduating in 2005.

Their thesis was on the psychological identity development process and its correspondence to the evolution of the lesbian novel in the 20th century, which is available on academia.edu.

In 2022, Sinclair and their boy rife ran for and won the Northwest Master/slave title, and went on to compete and win the International Master/slave title in 2020. While they no longer use the words “master” and “slave” to define their dynamic, they still live in a 24/7 authority exchange dynamic that is rooted in the lineage of leather queers.

Sinclair grew up in the temperate rainforest of southeast Alaska, and have lived in Seattle, Brooklyn, and Oakland, and calls the Pacific Northwest home.

THISTA MINAI

(USA)

Thista Minai is an educator, author, priestess, ordeal facilitator, and gleeful sadist. She uses her professional background in education to create high quality classes on a wide variety of topics, including sacred sexuality, the ordeal path, catharsis, impact, and needle play. With more than fifteen years of experience in designing and conducting rituals, Thista travels the country championing the value of spirituality and empowerment in kink and BDSM.

THE_CARNIE

(USA)

Tom Hill aka The_Carnie is based in Chicago, IL however has travelled all over the world. He has degrees in Art, Communication and Theatre, Certified Teacher, Certified Entertainment Rigger, Certified in BloodBorne Pathogens Training & Healthcare BLS/AED & First Aid. Previously has taught at Northwestern University, Lillstreet Art Centre, Beverly Art Centre, and more. Even though Tom has been performing on a professional level since he was a teenager in college is where he delved into performance art creations of experiential environmentally controlled happenings. Tom founded a performance arts and entertainment company called The Carnival of Curiosity & Chaos, where him and his creative team built “WOW” happenings for various nightclubs and venues.

Tom has exploded out on the scene for his artistic hook suspension performance pieces. Tom is an experienced and licensed professional that has been working in the industry performing body piercings and body modifications since 2010. Tom has toured all over the USA with national tattoo conventions, as well as lectured on Hook Suspension and Needle Play showcasing those skills nationwide. To him, it’s not just another piercing, it is an unique and personal experience. Therefore, the specifics and details of each person in which Tom modifies are not only important, but is the basis of the quality work and open-minded attitude when providing the fine body art. With absolute procession Tom skilfully executed needle piercings to create a complex and elaborate line work. The body is a resonating anchor point for the lines. His artistic vision crosses over into the care and attention to details with his piercings and needle play work. The connections are deeply evident when he works, tending to the safety and health of those who he suspends

ZEN

ROPE

Founded by artists Ash Snare and Harley Okami, Zen Rope is a collective working to create safe spaces and transformational experiences in the realms of connection, consent, intimacy and personal growth. Drawing on the practice of traditionally-informed Japanese rope work (shibari / kinbaku), the collective engages like minded entities seeking alternative lifestyle exploration.

Founding partners of the Zen Rope Dojo of Melbourne, ash snare and harley okami join us to share their intimate knowledge and esoteric understanding of the ineffable art of shibari.

ASH SNARE (HE/IT)

Ash lives for the study of intimacy, impermanence and Other. Fascinating on the texture between things, the tension of moments, lines that lead to the unknowable places.

His lifelong contemplations: power, trust, connection and separateness crystallise in the art of shibari.

HARLEY OKAMI

(HE/SHE/THEY)

This gender chaotic creative weaves traditionally informed Kinbaku, aerial circus and human form to explore the conundrums of connection, power exchange, fluidity and gender. Often finding an emotionally purgative nature to the process, Harley expresses an ability to emote a raw, authentic depth of vulnerability and truth rarely found so honestly shared.

MISTRESS

ELECTRA AMORE

(WORLD NOMADIC)

Mistress Electra Amore is one of Australia’s accomplished Professional Dominatrices, and known for her Intense, Sensual and Dominant nature.

The depth of Electra’s knowledge, skills, and experience is enthusiastically shared when she teachers. Allowing for her participants to learn in a manner that sculpts their mind, broadens their horizons, and brings a sense of joy and safety when learning the art of BDSM, fetish, kink, and role play techniques.

Electra was trained in the traditional style at the House of Domination in Melbourne, by the original owner Mistress Britt, during the mid 90’s.

What started out as fulling her curiosity and finding a space for her dominant nature, Electra has made a career out of being a Dominatrix. Which has led her to work in many areas of fetish around the world including the UK, Europe and Australia.

Mid way through her career Electra undertook additional study in Urban Tantra, Somatic Sexology and the Wheel of Consent to enhance her ability to understand herself first and foremost which then led her to understand her subjects to a deeper level.

MISTRESS TOKYO

(SYD)

Mistress Tokyo is an intelligent, articulate Dominatrix in Sydney, Australia. With over 15 years’ experience in professional and private BDSM she enjoys light to heavy play in most areas.

Mistress Tokyo specializes in all forms of bondage, most particularly Japanese Shibari rope bondage. Mistress Tokyo adores heavily fetishistic scenes involving latex and leather.

There is no doubt Mistress Tokyo is also a total sadist, relishing in anal play, CBT, NT, WS, slave training, medical procedures, torture, spanking, corporal punishment, caning, martial arts scenes, takedown, extended scenes and BS.

Although she has accrued diverse interests in her professional career, she describes herself as a highly fetishistic bondage Top with a strong sadistic streak who enjoys intense and invasive scenes.

Mistress Tokyo prides herself on being highly creative and original, as she is often told by her regular slaves. “I keep them guessing - even after years of seeing each otheAfter many years of living her passion, Mistress Electra Amore is transitioning from being an independent Dominatrix, into working as a Emotional Clearer & Spiral Practitioner. Where she explores the subconscious mind and the roots of her clients conditioning with the intention to help them to clear the pathway to the person they seek to be and to lead the life style they wish for.

SPARKS & MRS RUBYROUGE (SA)

Sparks began tying together with Emerald where they soon both found a passion for rope. Learning quickly both locally and travelling interstate at every chance to further knowledge. Sparks began taking on an educational role and not long thereafter they began teaching and performing interstate. Rope then carried through to travelling to Japan to further continue his education.

In February of 2020, during his trip to Japan, Sparks was then accepted into the position of deshi to Nawashi Kanna Sensei and recieved his teaching certificate in the style of KannaRyu. And with further development has been called a ‘shihan’ instructor under kanna ryu.

His early trouble shooting, and un-canny memory enables him to modify and skilfully adapt ties to each model. The deep intimacy and connections conveyed through rope is what Sparks enjoys most about shibari. This along with the precision and control imbedded into Kanna ryu, is how he shapes his ties, and create experiences, each unique to itself just as the next.

SAI JAIDEN LILLITH

Sai Jaiden Lillith is a Melbourne based gender fluid prodom/ me, escort, activist, creator of visual erotica, artist and Shibari addict. Known for their gorgeous and creative rope work and performances, love of exploring taboo and transgression, Sai returns to OzKinkFest to teach their wicked ways.

Social Media: Twitter - @jaidenlillith

Instagram - @saijaidenlillithart / @saijaidenlillith

Facebook - @Sai Jaiden Lillith

Official Website - fieldsoflillith.com

Eve X is a Shamanatrix, Bizarrlady and flesh artist based in Melbourne. An erotic guide, pornographer and activist,

Eve integrates esoteric arts into experiences of ecstasy and ordeal. A polyamorous, pansexual, genderfluid switch, Eve is fascinated by power, desire and shame, and the hidden wisdoms of the body.

Social Media: Twitter - @theevex Instagram - @the_eve_x Facebook - @theevexproject Official Website - theevex.com Eve and Lillith have created beautiful content and performances together, and conspire constantly to dance along the edges of light and dark, sensuality and sadism, sex and magic.

ALEX BOI-

Alex is a junior doctor by day, kitchen bitch by night, proud trans advocate (*including non-binary and all gender expressions) all day, every-day. If anyone has kink- related medical questions, he will always be happy to help to the best of his knowledge, as he loves to incorporate evidencebased medicine safely into kink. Many things interest Alex, but he is particularly into pain, impact, sharp things + blood, and will always be up to a challenge to escape from any form of bondage.

Alex is neurodiverse and an introvert, but when he isn’t busy running around hospitals, you can usually spot Alex hidden behind a screen doing research for trans health, daydreaming about the next kink event or he will be home drinking scotch and cuddling their 3 cats.

MISTRESS MISTY

Misty is a professional dominatrix and has been working for over a decade at the oldest BDSM dungeon in Melbourne. She is passionate about teaching and helping individuals explore their own sexuality in a safe space. Misty has been on her own kink adventures around the world- she previ ously performed in the 10th Montreal Fetish weekend in Canada, worked with Serious Bondage in San Francisco and played professionally in London and Canada.

In Australia, she is also proud to be working with her fellow Dommes at Domina parties. Most recently she worked with Demasque magazine and performed at ATOMICA.

Having a professional scuba dive-master and rescue diver training has aided her to cultivate prudent BDSM play. She loves incorporating these skills into her classes. Her other interests are: pain, power dynamics, coffee, breakfast, lunch and dinner.

SIDNEY SADAH

Sidney Sadah is a 22 year old Melbourne-based rigger. Using her skills gathered as a young and upcoming Melbourne artist she has spent the last five years working on developing her rigging skills and techniques both online and in-person.Sidney has been practicing with a strong focus on sharing a spiritual experience with bonded participants with the intention to explore a deeper self through Shibari.

Since 2021 Sidney has been sharing the art of shibari in her interpretation through performance and will continue to with ms nighteyes in the coming years.

As of recently, Sidney has been running a female only rope jam to help others discover the artistic beauty and connection that Shibari can bring in a safe and welcoming environment.

You can find her on Instagram as @sidneysadah

MISTRESS

ZOE DEMURE

Mistress Zoe is a professional Dominatrix, currently working at Fetish House. She completed her apprenticeship in 2014 and has been facilitating sessions that span the spectrum of BDSM ever since. Zoe specialises in Corporal Punishment, and Her primary interest is caning. Prior to Her kink career, Mistress Zoe worked in the not for profit sector as a motivational speaker and workshop facilitator. She is currently enjoying her role, running training workshops for new professionals at Fetish House and is excited to continue sharing Her love of caning with the wider community.

POLLYFILLA

Pollyfilla AKA Colin McLean is one of New Zealand’s foremost drag queens. In a career that has now lasted for over 20 years, she has devised and performed sell-out live shows, been hailed as a “Wellington icon” by the city’s mayor, hosted various pageants, acted as the mistress of ceremonies at the annual Wellington Gay and Lesbian Fair, appeared in films and television shows. For the last 15 years, she has resided in Melbourne, Australia, where she has continued to build her reputation and entertain crowds with stunning live shows. Australians have taken Polyfilla to their hearts, and in 2018, she was inducted into the Melbourne Drag Awards Hall of Fame.

McLean was born in Wellington in 1978. He began performing in drag after dropping out of college and getting a job with the mail service. Short on money, he made his own costumes, and as they became more complex, he enrolled at Wellington Polytechnic to study fashion. Before long, however, he’d dropped out and instead furthered his design skills at the Bowerman School of Design. After a short spell working in a fancy dress shop, he took the plunge and became a freestyle costume designer and drag performer.

After moving to Melbourne, Polyfilla joined one of the city’s leading drag troupes, New Sensation. When they disbanded, she found plenty of work on the drag circuit, first starring in a production of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert and soon developing popular shows of her own, including Sex and the City (a show designed to tie in with the release of the film of the same name) and Pollywood.

SURJACK

has been in the public BDSM scene for over a dozen years. In that time, he’s researched and implemented new and exciting forms of play to the scene in both Australia and New Zealand. He further developed wax play into an artistic form. Master Jack introduced micro-branding to the Melbourne scene, is head of the house of Ashkor and a member of the AlphaCarn Leather Family. He is also producer and organiser of the Australian Master slave Contest (AMsC) and on the committee of Victorian Leather Inc. Master Jack can often be found out and about doing what he does best, pushing boundaries and perceptions and playing hard in the BDSM scene.

VIC & BEXY

Vic has been an active member of the Australian Leather Community for the past 20 years. She is currently the President of Brisbane Leather Pride and is a well respected advocate for alternate relationships and lifestyle. Vic has been the President of The Order of Seven, Dykes on Bikes and The Independent Company. Vic is a founding member of her leather family ‘Krave Kink’ and she regularly provides educational workshops on all things kink and alternate lifestyles. Vic is one of the resident DM’s at Haven and has DM’d at many major Leather events. Vic is the current title holder of Queensland Ms Leather and formally trained as both a Submissive and Dominant.

PENELOPE

DREADFUL

Miss Penelope Dreadful – a professional pervert of international repute – is a delightful deviant who can resist everything except the temptation to incorporate wordplay into Her biographies… okay so She doesn’t so much resist as welcome temptation with open arms and introduce it to some other interesting excuses for bad habits.

Miss Penelope has toured Australia extensively and most recently the parts of the world comprising the UK, the US, New Zealand and Japan and believes there is always a way to mix pleasure and business. As She now has 10 years of professional perversion under Her belt, this is a well-tested hypothesis.

Miss Penelope has presented classes on Spanking and on Sharps play in London, and has attended DomCon in Los Angeles and New Orleans as a Special Guest, Mistress of Ceremonies and Guest of Honor (sic). She coordinates a monthly impact play skill share and demonstration in Sydney – The Drum, and runs Domina Parties Australia. She is thrilled to be joining Oz Kink Fest as a presenter in presenter in 2022

Bexy was born with a creative risk-taking adventurous nature and a highly sensual sexual drive, kink has always been in me. I am a hedonistic switch and a devoted sub in a 24/7 D/s relationship, being collared has allowed me the freedom to safely spread my wings and deeply embrace the BDSM lifestyle. I have worked as a GRM for 18mths at one of Australia’s most beautiful Fetish Clubs, which in turn gave me a regular platform to meet and play with kinksters from all over the world. Having found not only a lot of fun but also healing within kink play I take great joy in meeting new people, sharing experience, guiding with knowledge and trying new things; cause who knows what Pandora’s Box will next yelled?!

Visit www.zenrope.com or find us on social medi at zen_rope

PAUL

Rigger Paul comes from 7+ years in the Kink community as a regular shibari and impact scene organiser. He’s most known from his bi-monthly performances at variousvenues in Melbourne with his friendly and approachable style to kink. Studying the better part of 6+ years from various rope masters in and around Australia, Paul brings an energetic, sensual and many-sided approach to his performances, whether heavily in rope or using flame arts.

_M_

Coming from a stage musical, film and Martial Arts background, M brings a fiery approach to her performances with a simple mantra: keep it sexy, keep it memorable, make it sizzle. With 6 years in the local scene, M has established herself as a variable and mixed performer, focusing on bringing a hybrid combination of performance styles into kink, to create an eclectic and engaging storytelling experience for the audience.

“A SENSUAL & PROVOCATIVE INNER MONOLOGUE TO ROPE”

“A Fiery fusion of Rope, Urban Blues and Suspension”

-A provocative Rope, Pop, Soul hybrid

SPARKARELLA

Being a Leo with a natural ability to show off, along with an absolute passion for dancing & expression, a love of being on stage and of dressing up – what else was Sparkarella supposed to do other than entertain?

After stepping on stage aged five, classically and contemporary trained for many many years in New Zealand, Sparkarella packed up and left for London. Here she became involved in circus arts and fused with abstract contemporary performance danced & hightailed it throughout England and Europe with Zoid Induction. Huge costumes, hanging from cranes, fire, power tools, and dangerous & twisted movement were all in a days work.

On relocating to Melbourne in 2001, Sparkarella quickly emersed herself in the performance scene and founded acrocontemporary troupe Hektix. Then, soon after, the notorious “Queens of Neo-Burlesque” The Voodoo Trash Dolls were born, of which Sparkarella was co-founder. It was here, in amongst a fiery frenzy of metal sparks and burning flesh that the signature angle-grinding show was born.

DJ SVETA

From Sydney’s fiercest and dearest club nights through to the underground parties that line New York City’s sub-cultures and beyond, DJ Sveta has been socking it to audiences fresh from behind the decks for almost two decades.

Pioneering club nights such as Queer Central and Sissy, this homegrown DJ and Producer is considered spinning royalty in her hometown of Sydney and has worked every veritable corner of the scene — both above ground and below — to master a sound that is quintessentially Sveta.

The company this unique talent keeps is testament to her work. Regularly on demand, Sveta continues to work the stage with both legendary and emerging DJs who share her passion for breaking new ground.

CAPTAIN RUIN

(AUTOCANNIBAL, CIRCUS OZ, TORTURE GARDEN)

@CAPTAINRUIN

This shellshocked punk rock clown hit every stair on his way down as he fell from the stages of the world and landed in the gutter with the stars. Smashing together fetish clowning with performance art, previous audiences have been heard to say ‘wow!’, and ‘why?!’. Returning to Hellfire Resurrection for the first time since a blood soaked performance in 2017, this promises to be an act to remember. Or forget - your choice.

PETEROTICA

Gayer than Elton Johns bum bag and filthier than a public toilet peterotica is here to replace that toy in the dresser. Having lost their husband in 2018, Peterotica has found the courage to start performing again, but this time on their own terms. With performances designed to shock the senses, stir the loins and make you wet. They’re ready to show you how far they’ve come (pun intended)and welcome you into their world of kink and fetish with open legs.

LOOSE MOOSE

The Loose Moose is a drag and burlesque performer specializing in confused arousal & questionable decisions. They are the lure that coaxes you to work-night kick-ons. The lust driving you to hit send on that “you up?” text. The thirst insisting one more shot won’t hurt and you should flash the bartender to get it. Crawling forth from the browser history you should have deleted, please welcome The Loose Moose!

Autism and Kink: Why Are So Many Autistic People Kinky?

By Talisin Switch

Authors Note:

You’ll notice that throughout this piece I use identityfirst language, ie: autistic person, as opposed to personfirst language ie: a person with autism. The community prefers this way of referring to autistics as autism is often an integral part of our experience of being in the world.

I also talk a lot about kink in the sexual sense. Of course, many people, both autistic and not, engage in kink in non-sexual ways, and all things spoken about in this piece are applicable in sexual and nonsexual settings.

A 2018 study on the BDSM community found that the autistic population in kink is five times more prevalent than the amount in the general population. What’s more striking, when finding participants for the study, there was no mention of autism in any of the advertis ing materials (Boucher, n.d.).

Society at large has a long history of infantilising au tism and other disabilities, insisting on the idea that anyone who isn’t able-bodied and neurotypical is na ive and couldn’t possibly be a sexual creature at all!

The fact that there is such a high percentage of au tistic people in the BDSM community not only shows this idea as mythology, but also shows this community as somewhat attractive to autistic people.

To understand the appeal of kink to an autistic, you need to understand what autism is and how it affects us. Autism or Autism Spectrum disorder is a lifelong developmental disorder. The fifth edition of the Di agnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) describes some key experiences of autism are:

Deficits in social communication and interac tion

Restricted, repetitive behaviours, interests, or activities

Sensory aversion or sensory-seeking behav iour.

As it is a spectrum, autism looks different in every one (just as no allistic [non-autistic] is the same). With this in mind, let’s break down some of the factors that make kink particularly inviting to autistic people.

Explicit Communication

More often than not, there is a sense of subtlety in vanilla people – innuendo and metaphors are com monly used to describe (and ask for) what you’d like to do with another person. For many autistic people, this communication style is practically useless; some of us may be more skilled in these social nuances, but many of us find the non-direct language of vanilla courtship

a minefield to navigate. Here is an all-too-common conversation that may happen when an allistic tries to invite an autistic to have sex.

Allistic: Would you like to come inside and have some coffee?

Autistic: Oh, thank you, but it’s too late for coffee for me - I won’t be able to sleep.

Allistic: Oh... Okay… Would you like to come inside anyway? We could watch a movie?

Autistic: Um… We just finished our date, so I’m gonna have to say no this time; maybe we can watch some thing next time?

Allistic: Uh, okay.

What happened here was the allistic wanted to have sex without saying, ‘Would you like to have sex?’ and the autistic did not pick up on this. Instead, they took the questions for their literal meaning.

This kind of beating around the bush does happen in BDSM relationships, but plain and honest language is also highly valued in the community when discussing what you want to do. Negotiating a scene lays out all the pieces for the autistic mind; there is no question of ‘Okay, you say we’re gonna hang out and “chill”... What does that mean?’ Instead, it’s ‘Okay, so you’d like me to spank your ass and then degrade you ver bally while pegging you. What things do you like being called when being degraded?’ And so on, and so forth.

Stimulation

A significant factor that draws many autistic people to kink is that it allows for the incorporation of more stimulation or less than you might see in vanilla inti macy.

Autistic people use self-stimulatory behaviour – com monly known as ‘stimming’ – as a way to self-regulate emotions and sensations (Kapp et al., 2019). Everyone does this, including allistics: think of a time that you were impatient with someone in front of you, and you found yourself bouncing your leg or foot to get some of that impatient energy out; that’s stimming! For au tistic people, it’s a physical need to self-regulate, and often we need to do it more than allistics. Stimming presents differently but some common presentations are making noise, body movement, listening to things, looking at visually interesting things, or feeling certain textures. And kink is a very fun and sexy way to meet these needs.

The rhythmic hits in an impact scene are perfect for someone who may need more bodily sensation.

Repeating degrading or praising phrases over and over can be so satisfying to someone who verbally stims.

Watching hot wax drip on the body can be a mes merising visual stim.

The connection to stimulation doesn’t end there. All lovers of sensory deprivation know that what can be given can also be taken away. Autistic people take in a dizzying amount of information all the time; because of this, sounds can be too loud, light too bright, and bodily sensations too much. We get overstimulated

easily, and in vanilla, intimacy this can be challenging to navigate when things are feeling way too much to handle. BDSM provides easy, accessible, and accept ed ways to reduce that input through blindfolds and headphones, and what is bondage if not a sexier ver sion of a weighted blanket?

Acceptance of Inappropriateness

Due to many reasons, autistic people may not react to things in the same way an allistic person might. Those of us with flat affect may not express our feelings on our faces very well, many of us are non-verbal or have periods of going non-verbal, and our stims may cause us to move or make a noise that is unexpected in the context.

Within the kink community, it’s well understood that people will react to things differently. The noise some one makes when having a fantastically great time may sound exactly like another person’s horrible time. If someone goes non-verbal after a scene, it’s hardly ever questioned other than a check-in to ensure they’re okay, as we know people need different things.

As someone with a fairly flat affect at times, I’ve per sonally noticed very different reactions from kinky al listic people when I explain this as opposed to vanilla allistics. Kinky people have taken it on board and es tablished ways of checking in if my lack of facial ex pression concerns them. Vanilla people have followed up by asking if I even like them if I’m not going to emote with my face when having sex.

Obviously, these examples are very general and are only some people’s reactions, and not all kinky peo ple will be understanding of these things, and not all vanilla people will be put off. Everyone is different, and communities are full of very diverse experiences. Considering that autistics are represented five times more in the BDSM community than in the general population it would make sense to assume that some thing draws us to this community. Also, suppose we continue to grow as a community with autistics as a significant population factor? In that case, the com munity will continue to develop to be more socially, emotionally, and practically accepting of autistic ways of expression.

With all this in mind, it’s not hard to understand why autistic people find themselves drawn to the kinky side of life.

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Sources:

Boucher, N. R. (n.d.). Relationships between character istics of autism spectrum disorder and BDSM behav iors [Undergraduate senior honors thesis.]. Ball State University.

Kapp, S. K., Steward, R., Crane, L., Elliott, D., El phick, C., Pellicano, E., & Russell, G. (2019, Feb ruary 28). ‘People should be allowed to do what they like’: Autistic adults’ views and experiences of stimming. Autism, 23(7), 1782–1792. https://doi. org/10.1177/1362361319829628

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The Mindful ConsentTM Model and Process Mistress Tokyo

Consent separates BDSM from assault, but beyond repeating phrases like “Risk Aware Consensual Kink” and “Safe, Sane and Consensual”, how do we ascertain whether an action, person or situation is right for us in that moment? We tend to rely on intuition and gut in stinct, but beyond that there is not much structure to guide us.

The Mindful ConsentTM Model:

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To remedy this, I created a consent model called Mind ful ConsentTM. I believe the model can assist people to understand where they’re at as to whether an ac tion is right for them in the moment of decision-mak ing, or even whether it’s a good time for them to make a decision. The aim of the model is to help people bet ter identify what they are feeling in the moment when faced with a decision, whether they are in a state of “yes”, “no” or needing “time out”. Through using the model, I hope people can develop a better relationship

The three aspects are the process dimensions of your experience. I believe these need to be in balance for you to be in the best state to say “yes”, “no” or “time out” when making a decision about an action, person or situation. When the aspects are in balance, I call this state the “Consent Zone”.

The Model in balance:

How do you know if the three aspects are in balance? For me, if I feel “safe enough” across the three process dimensions - whatever that looks like for me as an in dividual - then I believe I am in my Consent Zone and in my best state to make a decision about an action –whether it be “yes”, “no” or that I’m needing “time out”.

Using the Model to ascertain your state in relation to your Consent Zone:

For me, this looks like pausing before making a deci sion and analysing my thoughts, feelings and what is happening in my body. My own process involves us ing mindfulness techniques - slowing down both my breathing and my actions and taking some time to my self, ideally in private. This helps me think more clearly (Thoughts Aspect), to get a hold of my emotions (Feel ings Aspect) and ascertain what type of sensation my body is expressing (Body Sensations Aspect). I then make a call as to whether I think I am in my sympa thetic nervous system Window of Tolerance or if I am leaving that state and approaching a state of fight, flight, freeze or appease. I believe I am in my nervous system Window of Tolerance if my three aspects are in balance – in my Consent Zone – my optimal state for making a decision. I feel they are in balance if, for ex ample, my thoughts are not catastrophising, I am not feeling emotions like anger or anxiety, and my body does not exhibit unusual stress or tension brought about by the decision. Therefore, I know I am “safe enough” to proceed with my decision, whether it is “yes” or “no”.

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with themselves and others when co-creating deci sions based in mutual consent.

What does the Model look like?

The model has three aspects, with a total of four parts; Aspect 1 - your Thoughts in your head, Aspect 2 - your Feelings in your heart, Aspect 3 - your Sensations in your body, and The Consent Zone - where they bal ance

If I believe I am NOT in my nervous system Window of Tolerance because one or more of my three aspects are OUT of balance, then I know I am NOT in my op timal state for making a decision. This means I could abstain from making my decision and that I could consider not saying “yes” or “no” but taking time out instead. If I can’t take time out, I could use a mindful ness exercise and then see if that puts me back into my Window of Tolerance of my nervous system, or my Consent Zone. I then could use the model again to analyse my experience across the three aspects of thoughts, feelings and body sensations to see if I am

back into my Window of Tolerance/my consent zone. From here, if I was STILL not back in my Consent Zone, I would abstain from making the decision all together until I can collect myself.

The crux of the Mindful ConsentTM decision making process is: (see page 53)

When contemplating a decision...

SENSE your thoughts, feelings and body sensations and use MINDFULNESS to downregulate yourself

ANALYZE your thoughts, feelings and body sensa tions in relation to your fight, flight, freeze or appease response

JUDGE whether you are “safe enough” to make a deci sion – whether you’re in your Consent Zone

If you are SAFE ENOUGH, make your decision – yes, no or maybe/take time out

If you don’t feel SAFE ENOUGH, or if your answer is a MAYBE, consider doing another mindfulness tech nique then go through the decision-making process again

A limitation of the Mindful ConsentTM model is that we need to develop a habit of using it as an interven tion. This is because we may be in a state of dysregu lation and outside of our Window of Tolerance when contemplating a decision. We may be in a state of hy poarousal, such as dissociation, or hyperarousal, such as being highly anxious, and not be able to remember the model in our toolkit of interventions to self-soothe because we are unable to think clearly. Here, the mod

el has the same limitation as any other intervention.

Additionally, use of the model may be contraindicated if people with a trauma history find mindfulness trig gering. If you are one of these people, please consult your therapist before using the model and decision process.

I believe the Mindful ConsentTM model centers our experience when making a decision regardless of whether our bodies are often dysregulated, regardless of whether we have histories of trauma and abuse, and as people who often experience external and internal pressures when making decisions involving consent. I hope people such as kinksters, who regularly engage in activities requiring greater levels of interoception across consent, find the model and process particu larly useful. I hope the model clarifies our experience of decision making, and our experience of ourselves during decision making, to build relationships of soli darity with our own embodied truth.

If you are interested in hearing more about the Mindful ConsentTM model and decision process, I’m releasing a course on Udemy in Sept 2022. Email me at info@ mindfulconsentmodel.com for more information.

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Twitter: @ConsentModel

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The reality of kink parties

The fetish scene is often cloaked in mystery, and as much as this is what attracts some people, it’s also the thing that makes others nervous to take the plunge. So let’s settle some of those nerves as we break down some common mis conceptions.

SOMEONE MIGHT SEE ME:

One of the main reasons people are tentative about heading out to a kink event is fear they’ll bump into a neighbour, col league, or (fuck forbid!) a relative. This is one fear that rarely comes to fruition.

From a purely business perspective kink events must pro vide discretion – if a safe space is not. Just remember, if you do see someone from your “vanilla” life at an event there’s every chance they will be just as surprised as you are.

The other brilliant thing about kink events is that masks and hoods are welcome. If you are really adamant no one knows who you are, you won’t look out of place BEING anonymous.

WHAT TO WEAR:

There’s an idea that you have to spend a small fortune on outfits just to get through the door, or that people won’t ac cept you if you don’t have the required ‘look’. In most cases, you won’t even have to wear ‘fetish’ gear. Yes, there are dress codes, and even themes on offer for those who re ally enjoy the dressing up, but these are not rules on how to dress – merely suggestions. If you can dress in basic black, or even your favourite club or night wear more often than not, you’ll be fine. Keep in mind that some parties and events do have high protocols for their dress code, these are generally fetish-specific parties, eg. leather, latex, nudity and those wanting to attend are fetishists more than happy to invest in their passion. Be sure to check the dress code for your chosen event, and do your best.

KINK IS CODE FOR ‘ORGY’:

Ummm… Sorry. Nope.

Most people attend kink events to catch up with friends, so cialise with like-minded people, wear something shiny and participate - even simply as a viewer - in kink.

There are kink parties that do allow sex on premises, and if this is on your To-Do list be sure to check out our monthly Provocation event.

DO I HAVE TO PARTICIPATE IN PLAY:

Consent is the key to kink play. You never have to play at a kink event. No means No and any coercion – be it subtle or overt – is unacceptable. You are absolutely empowered to decline in no uncertain terms, and more often than not, that ‘no’ will be met with respect.

There are always Dungeon Monitors (DMs) at kink events and their job is to ensure safe and respectful interaction throughout the event. They are there for the safety and sup port of the patrons, and know how to deal with disrespectful players.

But do keep in mind, participation doesn’t have to mean be ing spanked, flogged or suspended from the rafters – a lot of kink play is sensual and slow. Participation could be a foot massage, a back rub, or braiding hair! There really is some thing for everyone.

The only way you’re going to know what kink events are re ally like is by heading along. With everything on offer at Oz Kink Fest, there really is no better place to start. Take it slow at the Fet Expo and After-Party, or dive in deep at Hellfire Resurrection – with such an array of events on offer there is a perfect place for YOU.

MisKnickers

First published on the Adult Match Maker blog FULL ARTICLE here

Fetish Expo

INCORPORATING THE INNAUGURAL MISS MELBOURNE RUBBER COMPETITION

Saturday 15 October 2022 during the OzKink Fest Fetish Market at the Collingwood Town Hall

Building on the success of the now annual Melbourne Rubberman competition, Melbourne Rubber is proud to announce that in 2022, with support from Oz Kink Fest, we will host the inaugural Ms Melbourne Rubber competition.

The Ms Melbourne Rubber competition is a fun and engaging event to celebrate that enthusiasm for rubber. The competition also provides an opportunity for potential community leaders to come forward.

The Ms Melbourne Rubber competition will be held on Saturday 15 October 2022 during the Oz Kink Fetish Market at the Collingwood Town Hall. Our hosts will be:

• Mistress Tokyo – Sydney based rubberist, Professional Dominatrix and educator, focusing on BDSM and consent, Mistress Tokyo developed and launched her online consent education course “Mindful Consent” in 2022

• John Cheshire, Melbourne Rubberman 2017 and Mr International Rubber First Runner Up (MIRXXI)

Ms Melbourne Rubber is a competition hosted by Melbourne Rubber.

The competition is open to female identifying Australian residents over the age of 18 years, residing in the state of Victoria.

Entries are open from now until 30 September.

To enter the competition, visit www.MelbourneRubber. com

There are great prizes too, including the major prize of $1000 provided by Oz Kink Fest for the winner of the competition. Latex 42 is providing a $1000 voucher and is making the winner’s sash; and Eagle Leather is providing a $500 voucher.

Melbourne is one hell of a kinky city. Maybe there’s something in the water, or maybe the ‘four seasons in one day’ that Melbourne is famous for, makes Melburnians always on the lookout for something different – or willing and able to accept difference and change. Regardless, we are very fortunate to live in a city with such amazing fetish events, world class fetish shops and makers of kinky clothing and toys, with a populace that likes to celebrate and accept diversity, inclusion and kinky fun.

In early 2017, Melbourne had no idea what was coming, when it allowed three rubber lovers to find each other in the same place, at the same time, with the same dream. The three kinksters in question?

Liam Clark - the inaugural Melbourne Rubberman (2016) and first Australian Mr International Rubber Runner Up (MIRXX),

Martin Memo - who just returned to Melbourne after two years enjoying the European and London Rubberman communities, and

Jason Pearce - who had just decided to pack up his life in Perth, and bring his partner, his cat, and his love of latex to Melbourne.

In their kinky travels, they had seen what can only be described as a global rubber renaissance, and each knew that Melbourne needed a social latex community. With all three now sharing the same city, the same goal, and same values - they joined forces and established the Melbourne Rubbermen community that stands today.

Melbourne Rubbermen took off instantly. The group grew quickly to include a team of people from all over Australia as well as organisations such as Eagle Leather, The Laird Hotel and Down an’ Dirty.

Slick Week - our annual event celebrating all things rubbery drew a massive international crowd, and the Melbourne Rubbermen community rallied! This took us to the next level, as our quickly growing group of

friendly and welcoming rubberists became the talk of the fetish town - from Manchester to Chicago, Taiwan

Between then and now we have marched in Pride, launched our famous birthday parties at Eagle Leather, held Melbourne Rubbermen socials across the globe, been featured on Recon Fetish App, ran community information sessions and demonstrations, and brought rubber out of the darkrooms and onto

In February 2020, Melbourne Rubbermen proudly adopted their new identity as Melbourne Rubber. This new name and logo had been chosen both by the

been a long time in the making. It represents a new direction, embracing an inclusive approach to our rubber fetish, inside and outside of our community.

We respect our history and value the important role of Rubbermen groups worldwide. We will remain aligned with our brother groups and our histories. Inclusivity is not about turning our back on men. We saw our future as enriching our community. With this change we hope to embrace a wider group of rubberfetishists to continue to grow our community.

Melbourne Rubber is a not-for-profit social group for rubber enthusiasts and people who wish to learn. Melbourne Rubber welcomes, affirms and celebrates diversity in all its forms.

Melbourne Rubber acknowledges that rubber, regardless of the form that rubber takes, is appreciated by enthusiasts for a range of reasons. Whether fetish, fashion, sensuality or aesthetic, if rubber matters to you, you are welcome in Melbourne Rubber.

For more information or to enter the competition, visit www.MelbourneRubber.com

DIRTY BIG TED BEAR’S ALL

DIRTY BIG TED

K. Well Ted Oz Kink Fest seems to be getting bigger every year and 2022 looks like it will be no different. What were your personal highlights from OZF 2019?

DBT. Every year Fetish Expo is Ted’s time to shine. I am so happy to be the official mascot and I get a really good spot to see everything that goes on throughout the day. I do a lot of perving you know. Ted sees things. From where Ted was sitting he could see right up some of those really short skirts that Miss Polly Filla wears. Well did Ted cop an eye full last year. I love Miss Polly Fila. She has so many really pretty frocks but I think there is something a bit “funny under the bonnet”. Ted’s theory is that New Zealand girls are made a bit different to Australian girls. Something a bit extra. I am gunna have me a closer look this year when Polly does those wonderful high kick and see what I can make out.

Ted’s a tit-and-arse kinda Bear but a nice set of pecs and muscle get me just as hot under the rug too. It is such a wonderful day but its all over too quickly. Last year Ted helped with set up for the first time. Well, I tried to help but I am a bit big and clumsy. When I was new to the scene, I would arrive like a celebrity but now Mistress Malice makes Ted work like a slave. Sometimes she treats Ted like a flokati rug. She walk all over Ted and just wipes her Ugg boots on my bum. I love it though and when you see Mistress Malice huffing and stomping around the Town Hall with that clip board, her cheeks are flaming red oooh la la …. and she is growling at this one and growling and that one. It is so darn hot. I love it when she growls at me. Ted would love to growl that honey pot right on back hmmm.

It was all very exciting though. It is just like being behind the scenes of a dirty movie. Sex toys and sexy people were buzzing around (literally) everywhere. All throughout the Town Hall. I have never seen so many dongs in one place at the same time. I was so turned on when the stalls were all set up and the stall holders started to all get dressed up in their fetish gear. There was pots and post of flesh, pvc and leather everywhere. It was like Ted vision of heaven. I had to sit on my paws just to make sure I stopped my Dirty-Big-Self doing something really naughty. That position sure didn’t stop Ted doing a tiny bit of self-gratification though. Miss Nina caught me and said if I didn’t behave, she would peg my fuzzy ears back. It wasn’t my ears I wanted pegged. If one little claw could feel so good I could only imagine how much Ted would love a pegging.

K. Last year was the first time you participated in a number of other event during Oz Kink Fest apart from Fetish Expo. I understand you went to several of the workshops. Were they informative and did you learn new things?

DBT. OOhh yes I sure did. I did have an all-time favourite though and she was GEORGOUS. She had a soft spot for Ted. I know that because I got to paw it. I am so lucky with the sexy, kinky people that I have met since that day when Mistress Malice adducted

Ted from Costco. I was just Big Ted then. Now I am a really dirty, dirty bear. I am still a bit shy and some of the people still scare me a bit but they scare me in a dirty horny way that makes me sweat honey out of every pour.

Last year was just the best. Wayne finally let Ted go to events other than Fetish Expo. I was the super star of the Dirty Big Teddy Bears picnic did you know? The girls and boys loved Ted. There was some big girls and big boys at the picnic. Renee told me it’s the hormones they put in the chickens these days. Well I loved it. They all wanted to play with Ted and rub themselves all over my fuzzy body. That was so fun and my first visit to Q Space.

Because it was so much work getting Ted’s great big arse up the stairs to Q Space Wayne let me stay for some of the workshops. I got to meet Wayne’s friend Girl Ange. Ted gave her the nick name Growl Ange since that was all I could think about. Did you know she was International Miss Leather? It was so exciting to be in the presence of leather royalty and she was really pretty. Ted could get enough of the sweet buttered corn smell of her boobs. Angela was so nice to me. She invited me as her special guest to her workshop. Such an honour. I sat right at the front so I could smell Angela’s boobs. She didn’t tell me it was a workshop for couples though. “Don’t worry Ted, you can practice on me if you would like”. What an honour. I didn’t know at the time, but the workshop was about Fisting and Squirting. It wasn’t very long before Ted was the one squirting. Let me tell you.

Yep I blew my biscuits right there and then. I didn’t even have to touch myself I was so excited. Oh my lordy what a mess I made. I had to buy 7 of Angela’s special bandanas just to clean myself up. It was lucky I was in the front row. I was so embarrassed but Angela was lovely. What a picture she was laying back on that baby blue yoga matt naked as a newborn from the waist down and just as smooth. She gave Ted the longest wink I have ever seen and said, ever so gently… “now let’s practice big boy”. Ted nearly fainted. I think it was from the loss of fluids.

K. Is there anything extra special that you are looking forward to this year during Oz Kink Fest? What is Dirty Big Ted’s “Hot Picks” for 2022?

DBT. After Ted’s Winter hibernation I am hornier than a cane toad. In fact, I can hardly keep my paws off my junk just thinking about all the events that make up Oz Kink Fest. I have realised since I started Mascoting at Fetish Expo that rope really lights Ted’s fire. Wayne doesn’t know but I found a piece of rope in the back yard at L&D’s where I hibernate. When no one is around I sometimes bind up the old little Ted. I wrap it good and tight around those fur balls and then good firm loops right down where little Ted meets the Big Ted. I get harder than a discount at Sax Fetish just thinking about it. Oooohh it feels so good. The slightest touch and that little fella is leaping about like a frog on a lily pad. Wayne said if I am really good I can watch that nice Mr Knight perform his rope art. I have seen pictures of his art. He is so clever. I would really love some rude pictures of Ted looking all sexy tied up in rope for my Growler profile. I wonder if I will be able to keep the little Ted in my cod piece though.

The performances at Hellfire Resurrection were just the bees’ knees last year and I cant wait to see what Mistress Malice has in store for 2022. I bet its going to be good and sexy, and dirty and yummy.

DBT. Oh yes indeedy there certainly is a hot pick at Hellfire Resurrection this year. Hot, hot, hot in fact. I saw the most wonderful performance at Hellfire Resurrection last year and I can’t wait to see her on stage again. She was an Amazonian Goddess in 7” stiletto heels. Her name is Mistress Tokyo. Wayne said she comes down from Sydney specially for Oz Kink Fest. I was mesmerised by her. She must be like 7 foot tall and so sexy shiny. Mistress had blazing red lips like a bon fire on Mars, ice water ran through her veins and her skin was pure alabaster.

Mistress Tokyo and her special rope friend did this really super show which combined ariel performance with shibari. They were swinging back and forth across the stage like a horny metronome. It wasn’t long before Big Ted was swaying in rhythm to these air-bourn beauties. It didn’t notice at the time but it was so sexy I had popped my cod piece. When I finally looked down there was the little Ted swaying along too. So happy.

I have to confess though I was really really bad that night and I was taught a big lesson. Maybe it’s good to air my secret shame since in involves the same beautiful Mistress. I was in such awe of Mistress Toyko I really wanted to tell her how much I loved her show. I saw her striding through the crowd after she had performed. She was so tantalizingly close so, like a silly fat bear I reached out and grabbed her arm so I could introduce myself. If being grabbed by a giant Bear startled her it didn’t show. Kapowee – Mistress delivered one almighty karate kink to Ted’s googlies with the point of her heel. I can say Mistress’s aim is deadly. Ted hardly had time to let out a YELP when Mistress Toyko delivered a cracking slap across Ted’s face. I was dazed and all I can recall was hearing the word “consent”. I tried to make amends and I handed Mistress a $100 note. She slapped my face again, this time even harder, and then strode off through the crowd. Oh my stars it was the best $100 dollars I have ever spent. My balls ached for a month. It was so hot. After that incident Wayne sat the Ted down and explained acceptable behaviour. I will never be disrespectful again.

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I n 2 0 1 9 t h e b o o t s w e r e h u n g u p , s i g n i f y i n g t h e e n d o f a 1 3 y e a r c a r e e r i n t h e m i l i t a r y T h e r e w a s a n e w m i s s i o n t o t a c k l e t h e h a r d s h i p s t h a t w e f a c e i n o u r d a y t o d a y l i v e s ; h o w t o b e r e a l , a c c e p t i n g , v u l n e r a b l e a n d f r e e T h e s e w e r e c h a l l e n g e s H a d r i a n s a w o n a d a y t o d a y b a s i s , i n w a r a n d p e a c e t i m e . I n o t h e r s a n d h i m s e l f . I t w a s t h i s l a c k o f v u l n e r a b i l i t y t h a t h i n d e r e d r e a l h u m a n c o n n e c t i o n a n d a s a r e s u l t , h a p p i n e s s

T a k i n g t h e s k i l l s a c q u i r e d o v e r a l i f e t i m e o f A D H D h y p e r f i x a t i o n , L e a t h e r b y H a d r i a n w a s b o r n , c r e a t i n g t h e b e a u t i f u l t o o l s o f c o n n e c t i o n t o h e l p o t h e r s d o j u s t t h a t .

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Why W e LOVe feet!

The feet are one of the most highly fetishised body parts. We see this time and time again with how much effort kinksters put into their footwear. Known as ‘podophilia’ there’s research suggesting close to 50% of people who fetishize a body part, fetishize the feet - quite incredible when you consider how small a percentage of the body they constitute. But for the small space they take up, our feet do a tremendous job. An average day of walking can equate to hun dreds of tonnes of force on the feet – yep. TONNES!

Our feet contain a quarter of the bones in our body, and contain more nerve endings and sweat glands per square centimetre than any other part of the body. They are incredibly sensitive and hard-working body parts, so it’s no wonder so many of us want to pay them some extra attention. And if feet weren’t worshipped enough, objects associated with the feet – footwear, pedicures, hosiery – have an even higher rate of fetishisation with stats suggesting around 65% of fetishists desire podophilic objects.

Being one of the most common fetishes, podophilia has been relatively easy for both psychologists and neurologists to study. There’s a tendency for psychol ogists believe that all our strong passions and desires have their roots in childhood, and the wiring is estab lished early. There’s a belief that, as small children, we focus on the feet, both our own and others.

Prior to walking, much of our focus is on controlling our feet and observing how others utilise theirs. Si multaneously we are also learning how to connect with others and have our needs met on some very basic (and vital levels). In this way we make a deep connection between our feet and our needs. Neu rologists also speak of a connection to reason why so

many people fetishise the feet. Studies have noted that within the brain’s body map, the genitals and the

feet are adjacent to each other. Neurologists suggest that cross wiring in this area connects the genitals and the feet resulting in the podophilic fetish.

As much as the ‘why’ might be fascinating, we may never have a definitive answer – just more theories. All our kinks are complex, and the reasons for partak ing are more than likely different for everyone, de spite how common they may be. But when it comes to our feet we can probably agree they deserve some love – even if it’s just a snuggly pair of slippers.

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First published on the Adult Match Maker blog FULL ARTICLE here