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26 FASHION Pictured HERE & ON THE COVER: BEXNYC • bexnyc.com 8 • Navigating benefits for LGB military families 10 • Still Serving In Silence 12 • In the Navy: A Look Back at Retro Gay Military Movies 13 • Bleed Like Me: A Couchsurfing Seduction 14 • SAGEWorks Offers Older LGBT Job Seekers Support 16 • The Lesbian Socialite: On The Importance of Self-Denial 20 • Cuisine: Bohemian Biergarten 22 • Film: Love is Strange 24 • Calendar 34 • Transfixed on Fashion 35 • From Fashion to Function: The battle for uniform supremacy rages between the four US military branches 37 • Radioactive Vision: Sew What?

38 • Marketplace 40 • Beauty: Thread Carefully 41 • Auto: Wheels for the Modern Fashionista 42 • Bar Tab 44 • Ask the Sexpert: The Great Outdoors 45 • Heinzesight: Suffering in Silence 4

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NAVIGATING BENEFITS FOR LGB MILITARY FAMILIES Kristin Ziegler

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hile we don’t know exactly how many military personnel identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, with nearly 40,000 active military personnel in Colorado Springs alone, there are guaranteed to be more than a few out servicemen and women in our great state.

These out servicemembers are guaranteed numerous protections for themselves and their families, but as policy has shifted and marriage laws hang in jeopardy, there is often confusion over what is actually accessible.

Before the 2011 repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, members of the United States military could not serve openly and, as such, could not apply many of their benefits to the families they made with their same-sex partners. As the ban was lifted, so was a considerable amount of stigma, but the Defense of Marriage Act left many couples in legal limbo.

(DOMA severely restricted the benefits the federal government could offer its LGB servicemembers.)

Fortunately, DOMA was struck down in 2013, and the federal government acted swiftly in implementing protections for LGB military families.

“The Department of Defense remains committed to ensuring that all men and women who serve in the US military, and their families, are treated fairly and equally,” Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel said in a memo issued in August 2013. “This will provide accelerated access to the full range of benefits offered to married military

couples throughout the department, and help level the playing field between opposite-sex and samesex couples seeking to be married.”

Still, many LGB families faced hurdles in securing benefits and protections for their same-sex partners and family members. Later that year, Texas, Georgia, Louisiana, Mississippi, Oklahoma, and West Virginia refused to follow Hagel’s order that LGB families be entitled to the same benefits as their heterosexual peers. The states claimed Hagel’s memo was contrary to their own state laws that banned same-sex unions. Hagel again was quick to reaffirm his commitment to LGB servicemembers. “[Denying same-sex spousal benefits] causes division among the ranks, and it furthers prejudice,” Hagel responded to the states’ actions, adding that they were in direct violation of federal law.

Such hurdles were not faced by those in Colorado, where officials complied with the ruling.

As Colorado’s own marriage laws have entered a legal gray zone, it’s important that our lesbian, gay, and bisexual military personnel know what they are entitled to.

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STILL SERVING IN SILENCE

Though the US military lifted its 17-year-old Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy in 2011, transgender servicemembers are still prohibited from serving openly — but the ban could soon come to an end.

Mike Yost “You suffer from isolation,” says Krista Whipple, president of the Gender Identity Center of Colorado.

“You feel you can’t talk to anybody about it. You’re very closed off. It’s not a comfortable way to live for anybody.”

Krista joined the Marine Corps in June of 1998 shortly after she graduated high school. Trained as a computer technician, she was stationed at Okinawa, Japan for two years before transferring to the Marine Air Ground Task Force Training Command at Twentynine Palms, California.

Though Krista found some support outside of the military at nearby Palm Springs, she was reticent to share her transgender status with others.

“I wasn’t really out about my situation while I was in the military,” says Krista, “with the exception of a few close friends who were also in the military at the time.”

Even after she left the Marine Corps to work for Lockheed Martin, Krista didn’t escape her seclusion.

When a transgender contestant was featured on a nation-wide talent show, she was inundated by her co-workers with discriminatory and ignorant comments regarding the transgender community.

“I absolutely felt trapped,” says Krista. “It was excruciating, because on one hand, you really want to stand up and say, ‘You guys are being stupid.’

But on the other hand, it’s about self protection.”

According to a Palm Center study released in March of this year, there are 134,350 transgender veterans, and an estimated 8,800 active duty transgender servicemembers with an additional 6,650 in the Guard or Reserve.

For those thousands of military members, coming out as transgender — or being discovered — means the end of a military career. In April, The Washington Post featured a story on Landon Wilson, who was booted out of the Navy after it was discovered he was born female.

But the very next month, Secretary of Defense Chuck Hagel stated in an interview with ABC’s “This Week” that the military should review its ban regarding transgender servicemembers.

“Every qualified American who wants to serve our country should have an opportunity if they

fit the qualifications and can do it,” Hagel says. kind of discrimination or violence, it might work, “This is an area that we’ve not defined enough.” but again you’d have to have enough people in the Krista approaches Hagel’s statement with cau- situation who are supportive, who could challenge tious optimism. “I appreciate the anyone who doesn’t support it.” sentiment. I think it’s great we In addition to the growing have people in power who have momentum within the military itself, there are clear signs that the ability to make these decisions and make these changes, a progressive shift in perspecbut I don’t think it’s one that we tive is taking place within should look at lightly.” private companies that work on Transgender organizations military bases as government were very critical when Don’t contractors.

Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) ended, “I transitioned at Schriever emphasizing that transgender AFB, which is kind of out there in the middle of nowhere,” says personnel are still serving in Krista. “There’s a lot of military silence, but Krista reiterates there are issues that must be and former military, and I origiaddressed before lifting the ban. nally expected I wasn’t going to “I’m not big on the [DADT] be able to transition on the job.”

Krista Whipple decision,” says Krista, “but I But when she approached Lockheed’s human resources kind of understand why it may be better currently to keep the [transgender ban] department in 2011, she was told the company in place. If I go into boot camp, and I identify one had helped other transgender employees before. way and they put me in an opposite group, how Starting this year, Lockheed has begun coverdoes that work? Or on the other side of the case, ing surgeries under their health program for if I go in as I identify, and I’m put in with a group transgender employees.

Krista knows that not everyone has had the that matches my identity, how does that play out?”

Krista adds that although protecting military same positive experiences, and she encourages personnel from harm is top priority, especially those who silently endure discrimination to find during boot camp, the safety of military members support in the community and within. cannot be guaranteed all the time.

“Ultimately, it’s about finding solace and “There’s still a lot of hateful people who don’t strength within yourself,” says Krista. “Transition have a problem using violence to express their should not be a burden, it should be a wonderful point of view. It’s just not a safe environment.” thing. It should be about becoming the real you But Krista is hopeful that Hagel’s insistence to and allowing yourself to be that person. And if review the ban will address those issues. “It’s a you have that in front of you, something to look step in the right direction. If it’s handled with care forward to, that’s going to help you surpass the and it’s handled in such a manner that it keeps obstacles you’re currently facing.”

Krista is confident that the military’s ban on people protected and safe, then absolutely I’m all for it, obviously.” transgender personnel will one day be removed, One strategy is to review the military policies but only if everyone works in solidarity to impleof other nations. There are as many as 12 coun- ment that change. “It’s not a matter of the trans tries that allow transgender servicemembers to community banding together and stepping out serve openly, including Canada, Israel, Australia, and saying we want these things changed. It’s and England. more a matter of everybody who’s not trans “It’s all about education,” says Krista. “If every- standing up and saying we want equal rights for body was taught that there’s no tolerance for any them as well, and we’re here to support that.” 

Military Families continued from Page 8 EMERGENCY NOTIFICATION Servicemembers have “DD Form 93,” which names family members to be contacted in the event of injury or death during deployment. This form also designates a “Person Authorized to Direct Disposition” for the handling of remains. This person may be a same-sex spouse, so long as the couple is legally married. The military will accept a valid marriage license from any jurisdiction, so Colorado couples legally married elsewhere are entitled to list a spouse as the PADD. FAMILY AND CHILDREN Same-sex spouses and children of same-sex couples are eligible for a military ID card. This card allows access to military bases, including admission into base commissaries.

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Children of same-sex couples are recognized, be they biological, adopted, fostered, or stepchildren. These children are eligible for medical and dental health insurance, as are married same-sex spouses.

If a servicemember with minor children is deployed, he or she must have a Family Care Plan to ensure the minor child is cared for. Military members may list a same-sex partner, even if unmarried, as the caregiver for their child. This partner may not necessarily be eligible for other benefits, including an ID card, but might receive a letter of authorization allowing him or her to buy goods for the child at a military commissary. 

If you have any further questions regarding your family’s available military benefits, or have been denied of your rights, please visit OutServe-SLDN, an organization that provides legal services to gay and lesbian service members: sldn.org 

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IN THE NAVY: A LOOK BACK AT RETRO GAY MILITARY MOVIES Kristin Ziegler WITH MOST OF THE WESTERN WORLD LIFTING BANS and embracing lesbian and gay service members, we can expect military narratives to become something of a staple at LGBTQ film festivals in the years to come. But for nearly as long as there have been motion pictures, men and women in uniform have always been a part of gay film iconography. From the good to the bad to the Tom Cruise, check out these retro armed forces flicks.

WINGS William A. Wellman, 1927 When Jack Powell and David Armstrong are billeted together after enlisting as combat pilots in World War I, the two hometown rivals can hardly stand the sight of one another. After all, they had already been at war with each other back home, battling for the affections of the same girl. But as the reality of war begins to kick in, the two men seem to have fixed their sights on each other.

Although the relationship between Powell and Armstrong is portrayed as heterosexual — with legendary silent actress Clara Bow serving as a love interest who comes between them — the homoerotic subtext is undeniable. “Wings” went on to win the very first Academy Award for Best Picture, solidifying its significance with mainstream and queer film critics alike.

FIREWORKS Kenneth Anger, 1947 Infamous director Kenneth Anger famously remarked that his experimental 14-minute film “Fireworks” was “all I have to say about being seventeen, the United States Navy, American Christmas, and the Fourth of July.”

“Fireworks” tells the story of a dreamer who goes on a surreal journey, one of seamen and BDSM, to get some satisfaction. Its explicit depictions of desire did not sneak by the censors unnoticed: A 1958 obscenity lawsuit regarding the film made it to the California Supreme Court, where the film was ultimately determined to be of artistic merit. Hooyah!

REFLECTIONS IN A GOLDEN EYE John Huston, 1967 “Reflections in a Golden Eye” stars the iconic Elizabeth Taylor and the bisexual screen legend Marlon Brando as a doomed husband and wife duo, torn apart by affairs and Brando’s character’s desire to be with a man. The supporting cast lead equally dramatic lives, as the film explores loss, self-harm, and stalking.

To say the critics abhorred this 1967 melodrama would be a gross understatement, but its unsympathetic portrayal of homosexuality, coupled with the casting of Brando (who came out as bisexual in the 1970s) leaves this film a fascinating relic for LGBTQ film fans.

TOP GUN Tony Scott, 1986 Now, now. We’re not insinuating anything about Tom Cruise (we’d get sued), but “Top Gun” is the stuff “accidental” gay classics are made of. The 1986 film, which received quite the mixed bag of reviews, has a title suitable for porn, a then-closeted Kelly McGillis as a smoking-hot flight instructor, a bleached blonde and tanned Val Kilmer, a bromance, that song by Berlin, and, of course, Tom Cruise (again, not implying a thing).

The film is about two Navy members given the chance to train at the Navy’s Fighter Weapons School. It’s a lot of mainstream military-movie/been-there-seen-that, but it’s got enough cheese to keep its viewers sated.

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The One Colorado Education Fund hosted the 2014 Ally Awards on August 16 at The Cable Center. The event honors straight allies who work to advance equality and make a substantive difference in the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Coloradans. This year’s award winners included Rabbi Steven Foster, State Senator Joyce Foster, Revered Mike Morran, Maria Garcia Berry, former Army Staff Sergeant Izzy Abbass, former Marine Sergeant Will Glenn, and Former Air Force Senior Master Sergeant Dennis Mont’ros. This year’s People’s Choice Award winner was Boulder County Clerk Hillary Hall. The event also featured live music, guest speakers, entertainers, a hosted bar, and hors d’oeuvres. | Photos by Charles Broshous

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A COUCHSURFING SEDUCTION

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turned out that even after our platonically naked hang out, his sights weren’t so set on me. Rather the man he really wanted was Luke, which ironically turned me on even more. Thus Luke and I had to band together to resist all temptation.

But the more we resisted, the more aggressive Tyler got. For the remainder of their trip, he made seduction his couchsurfing mission. Tyler would text us late at night asking if he could come join us in our bed. He would snap naked selfies in our guest bathroom and send them to Luke daily. Meanwhile his boyfriend, Bryan, remained clueless that any of this was happening.

By the end of their trip, we were glad to see them go. Luke and I didn’t want to be caught in the crossfire of whatever relationship disjuncture these guys were experiencing. And we were proud of the fact that we properly maintained sexual integrity in the face of some tempting bad behavior.

Nonetheless I found it fascinating that the guy who seemed most appalled by our open status was quicker to break his own monogamous beliefs. And all I could think of was that Shakespeare quote: “The lady doth protest too much.”  Scott McGlothlen is a cultural columnist on life as a HIV-positive gay man. See more of Scott’s columns online at ofcnow.co/scott or contact him at scott@outfrontonline.com.

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THROUGHOUT COLLEGE, I lived on a tight budget and therefore utilized the concept of “couchsurfing” whenever I traveled. Years later, I convinced my partner Luke to give it a try with me in order to save money on a trip to NYC. It worked brilliantly and we decided that in order to properly participate, we should also open our own home to travelers from the couchsurfing website.

Most of our travelers were gay men who were happy to get a real bed and bathroom to themselves. In January of 2014, we hosted a young gay couple named Bryan and Tyler. Bryan was about 27, made money as a professional poker player, and had a sexy “pre-bear” kind of look. Tyler was only 22 and aspired to be the first successful, openly gay rap artist. His many tattoos helped counteract the twink-factor of his lean hairlessness.

Upon settling into our home, Bryan noticed a book on our shelves on learning how to create and sustain open relationships. He brought it up as the four of us hung out. Luke and I talked openly about our difficult journey to figuring out an open relationship but how it served us incredibly well.

“I think that is something I would like to try one day,” Bryan said.

“Umm, not me,” Tyler interjected. “I would never have an open relationship. If you love someone, that should be enough!” Tyler continued to rant on why open relationships were awful while I internally I rolled my eyes.

By the third night of their stay, we noticed an

odd pattern. Once bedtime hit and Bryan passed out, Tyler would come hang out with us… wearing nothing but his boxers. In fact, he kept adjusting his boxers to sit even lower on his hips.

With Luke needing to go to bed early too, Tyler and I hung out one-on-one and his near nakedness had me fully hooked and intrigued. Since we had an earlier conversation about a couple of us experimenting with nudism, I suggested that we strip down and hang out in our birthday suits. This way I could enjoy the views without the touch. Tyler seemed more than excited by this idea.

So at one o’clock in the morning, there we sat: totally naked and drinking tea while Tyler laid down some of his hardcore raps for me. Out of all the obscure naked things I have done, this was probably the strangest. But he actually was quite a talented rapper.

“The difference between me and other rappers,” Tyler said, “is that I sing about stuff that really happened to me. Like … I really was addicted to painkillers once.” To me, that didn’t sound like an authentic thug life, but who was I to judge?

After a while, I called it a night, but while getting ready for bed, Tyler sent a text. He apologized for being such a tease. “I would just like to do something with the both of you is all,” he wrote.

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SAGEWORKS OFFERS OLDER LGBT JOB SEEKERS SUPPORT Rex Fuller These days it can be challenging for anyone who’s looking for work, but older workers face extra challenges that some younger job seekers may not face — and members of the LGBT community may face even greater difficulty.

Hiring managers often assume an older applicant isn’t up-to-date on the latest technology.

An older applicant might be passed over for a job because he or she is viewed as overqualified.

Openly gay or lesbian candidates may face discrimination on the job or may feel the need to closet themselves in order to find adequate employment.

According to a recent study by the National Center for Transgender Equality, transgender people experience unemployment at twice the rate of the general population. More than four in ten transgender people who are currently working are underemployed compared to their level of education and experience. Transgender workers are also nearly four times more likely than the population as a whole to have an annual household income of under $10,000.

SAGE of the Rockies at the GLBT Community Center seeks to address these problems through SAGEWorks, a national job-readiness program sponsored by The Walmart Foundation. Designed for LGBT job seekers over 40, SAGEWorks offers community members the chance to explore new career opportunities, build job-seeking skills, review resumes, and practice job interviewing.

“It really is for people who are unemployed or underemployed,” says Reynaldo Mireles, program manager for SAGE. “We are also trying to help people who have a wide skill set, but are finding it difficult to find a job or change careers.”

SAGE (Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders) is a national organization with affiliates across the US. Each SAGE affiliate has developed its own version of SAGEWorks, creating locally-based

programs that fit the needs “He came in not believing he of each SAGE community would be able to find a job appropriately. At The Center, because of his age. He ended Reynaldo has developed a up finding a part-time job four-week program that helps that has been very fulfilling people focus their search and — something he couldn’t have find success. “We start off with imagined happening before.” our own job-readiness assessSAGEWorks has been ment to determine what each able to help participants find person needs,” he says. The success without changing assessment is an opportunity jobs. A transwoman came to to explain what the program SAGEWorks seeking support. can offer and to make certain She was undergoing transiit will be a good fit for the tion and was afraid that participant. she wouldn’t be accepted at Once a week, participants her company. meet as a group in an open “She participated in format to develop the skills SAGEWorks and also worked needed for a successful job with support programs develsearch. “We examine goal oped through our transgender setting, revise resumes, help program,” Reynaldo says. “By participants develop an ‘elevaspeaking with her peers and tor speech’ that describes their receiving career counseling, skills succinctly, and explore she was able to return to her Older workers face extra how social media can be part work and have the tools to challenges that some be open about who she is. of an effective job search,” younger job seekers may not Reynaldo explains. “At the What was more surprising is face — and members of the that her boss and her human conclusion of the four-week LGBT community may face program, participants have resources department were even greater difficulty. the option of speaking with right on board. They helped a career coach to develop get training for other employplans for moving forward.” ees and helped this individual SAGEWorks also works in partnership with Denver have a smooth on-the-job transition because they Public Library to offer free training on various valued her contributions to the company.”

SAGEWorks is starting up a new cycle of procomputer skills such as Microsoft Office and other grams in early September.  programs.

Reynaldo is proud of some of the success stories that are emerging from the program.

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IT’S BEEN A HECK OF A SUMMER — FULL OF TRIUMPHS AND TRAGEDIES — and I created them all. I have been challenged by not honoring who I am.

I can say that a great deal of my challenge has been overextending myself. I run in so many directions. I see the opportunity to participate or contribute and I am ready to do it today. When I do this, my schedule and the people on it all pay the price. I overbook, double book, over-promise, and overtax my brain. From here forward, I am saying, enough. I give. “Uncle.” I vow to find a way to put order to my chaos, without diminishing my creativity.

I realized that’s been the crux of my issue up to this point. Order equals boring, chaos equals creativity — at least that’s what I thought. I have felt the frenetic need to continually create something new, something different, continually striving to be the most amazing me. There is a great deal of expectation involved with being amazing all of the time. Periodically, the rocket runs out of fuel, or a bulb goes out on your spotlight at the worst time possible. (Then again, when is it ever a good time to run out of gas?)

Every creative person you see portrayed on film is usually in chaos; people running around screaming, firing people, generally creating havoc. Then when you see the true masters, they’re always surrounded by serenity. When you watch Annie Leibovitz on set, it’s peaceful, harmonious, relaxed. This is why she got to photograph The Queen. I experienced that same serenity backstage with fashion greats Bill Blass, Oscar de la Renta, and Ralph Rucci.

Instead of a whirling dervish of creativity, they were all serene, calm, and sure. In fact, they were considerably more exacting when they slowed down.

When people would marvel at my stamina, I never understood what they were talking about. I’m used to being continually in motion. Then it happened: I slowed down and all of the stuff in motion behind me came crashing down on my head. The pace I was striving to keep was artificial at best and catastrophic at worst. I needed to slow down and take a knee.

Then a quiet voice in the back said, “What’s your hurry? You are who you say you are. If you need to take time for yourself, that’s okay.” In case you couldn’t guess, the voice is my wusband. Just kidding. Though she did say something similar a couple of times, she was really only repeating the voice inside me all along.

Once I actually slowed down to experience other parts of my life, it was a challenge getting back to the things I had to do. It was my time away from the schedule of perpetual motion that made me realize I was a slave to it.

The funny thing is, I’m the one who created it and I’m the only one who can change it.

If I am to become a master at being me, I must learn to master saying no to me. I must be honest with myself about how much work I really want to put into a project. I must only promise what I know I can deliver. I must pay attention to the warning signs that I’m asking too much of myself, of my marriage, of my schedule. I will be calmer, more serene. Just call me the Socialite Master.  Robyn Vie-Carpenter is a social columnist on the local and national LGBT community. See more of Robyn’s columns online at ofcnow.co/TLS or find her on Twitter @TheLesSocialite.

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Domestic Violence: Not Always What You Think Domestic violence arrests are common in Colorado, but it may surprise you to know that “domestic violence” is not a crime itself, but is rather a sentence enhancer that may be added to any crime when the victim and the defendant are, or have been, in an intimate relationship. Also, the underlying crime must have been committed for purposes of coercion, control, punishment, intimidation, or revenge to qualify for the “domestic violence” enhancer.

Also, while many people may believe that domestic violence charges only apply to crimes committed by men, they are actually gender neutral.

Thus, the enhancement may be applied regardless of the sex of the defendant or the victim, and includes same-sex couples.

It does not take visible injuries, multiple witnesses, or any physical evidence whatsoever for a domestic violence charge to be brought. In fact, despite the name, the act itself does not even have to be violent.

Telephone calls, texts, and purely

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Choose your words carefully!

A domestic violence conviction brings serious consequences. It can result in long-term domestic violence treatment, termination of the right to possess a firearm, and possibly jail time. A mandatory restraining order is usually put in place that may forcibly restrain you from your home, prevent you from using any drugs or alcohol, and bar you from having any contact whatsoever with the alleged victim — even if the victim initiates contact.

If you are arrested for a crime involving domestic violence, it’s critical that you hire an experienced domestic violence attorney immediately to protect your rights. The ramifications of a conviction are simply too severe to try to do it alone. Call Bloch & Chapleau today at 303-331-1700 to speak to our aggressive domestic violence defense attorney Todd Narum, or visit us online at DenverDomesticViolenceAttorney.com.

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BOHEMIAN BIERGARTEN delightful Colorado varieties that have taken to the old styles. Depending on the brew, you can I LIVE IN BOULDER: that vegan-chowing, get your pick in half-liter or liter pours, which chakra-chanting din of collegeness. It is its own should do you for quite a while — especially if juxtaposition at times — the you have a tumescent wurst calling your name. moneyed haunts of Mapleton Hill sloping down from the Speaking of, the food is no Flatirons alongside raggy sand“I-suppose-we-must” throwwich stops on the Hill across away. A sausage grill will do from campus. But Pearl Street your bidding, with names is where it all converges. You and link sizes too dizzying have dusty bookstores hawking to tally — though I must say, European café-au-laits to the the beef-and-pork-plumped whistle of moustached hippies; Knackwurst is a beautiful trendy dining destinations at match for a potato pancake. the corner of Popular and My all-in-one fix has to be the Cutting-Edge; and avant-garde Currywurst, which is married upstarts, beers-in-hand, with to an onion relish and finished nothing more than a mission with a side of toasty fries that for good food and brew.

I’m convinced literally stick to So it makes sense — but your ribs. it doesn’t — that just off this Did I mention this isn’t Music is definitely a draw at this menagerie of a mall sits a dietetic? All things in modBoulder social hub — including German haunt, aptly named eration, but if you wanted the likes of some foot-tapping a sausage-and-brew indulthe Bohemian Biergarten. polka — but it’s also the venue It is what imagination gence on a Tuesday evening, for some killer comedy shows, conjures at the thought of Bohemian Biergarten is happy feather-capped German youth to accommodate. Just find a game nights, and most recently, frolicking with steins as big as bench in your own corner World Cup viewings. Thursdays of the tchotchke-laden hall their heads. (Minus the lust, of are big nights for entertainment, and examine the climbing course.) But step inside this so keep that in mind, but DJs brick-faced curio and you’ll wooden beams, the foreign spin when the spirit moves, so see Germany in spades: roughwords scrawled on brick, always be ready for a party. hewn wooden benches, legs Czech posters peaking behind slung over them like saddles; suspenders, and hefted steins a backlit bar with lanky, suspendered bartend- standing at attention until somebody drops by to take ers toiling through pours; and at the back, the your order.

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But the proof is in the pint, so let’s get straight to Nobody’s counting. And while it might seem that sipping. What’s on tap? Ah, just the usual Deutscher I’m advocating gluttony and alcoholism, it’s just not biermeisters: Paulaner (their Doppelbock is sin- true; I’m simply asking you to connect with your fully delicious, a tad sweet, and better than sex), inner German, because, as we all know, everyone Hofbrauhaus, and the gang, partnered with some is a little bit German.  Jeffrey Steen

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LOV E I S ST RA N G E my films have been about lies and what is hidden and, for the most part, this is not that film.“ He continues, “Love Is Strange is more about ut director/co-writer Ira Sachs’ thoughtful, wistful film, “Love is Strange,” concerns a responsibility and what we choose to do with other couple — George (Alfred Molina) and Ben (John people. How much we are there for the people we Lithgow) — who have been together 39 years. are closest to. I really try not to judge anyone in The men marry in the opening moments, but the film, nor myself, for the complicated questions: spend most of the rest of the film apart. After the Who do we take care of? Who do we take in? What wedding, George is fired from his job at a Catholic is our responsibility?”

Sachs’ points about caring and responsibility school, which causes them to lose their apartment.

Watching these men who love each other, but who extend to the depiction of George and Ben’s marmust live apart, forms the emotional core of this riage in the film. Gay marriage here is used more to authentic, observational drama. define the couple’s union and their lives together, “It’s a film about intimacy, and about the and less as a legal act, despite the conflict caused possibility of love to grow with time,” says the by the Catholic Church. soft-spoken Sachs “It’s called ‘Love Is Strange’ for “‘Love Is Strange’ is about two people who a reason: Every intimate reface conflict and thus grow lationship is different from stronger together. It’s a the next. Every stage of our drama of separation,” Sachs lives, we experience love in insists. “What they were a different way.” separated from was being The writer/director in bed together: physical emphasizes character and intimacy in private space. mood over plot, a narraSo when you do see them in tive strategy that keeps the bed together, it reveals the audience engaged. A series history more than anything of lovely scenes depict how else.”

George, Ben, and their He concluded, “It’s a film about the beauty of friends and family members Director/Co-writer Ira Sachs interact. The filmmaker love. I wanted the audience depicts what he calls “the to get a laser sharp view of seasons of life” in his chamber drama, and he the history of this relationship, and understand in expresses empathy for all his characters. a moment that it had its passages and its acts. The “These are good people who can still manage heart of the film is about intimacy, the structure of to hurt each other,” Sachs observes. “That is the building a life together with another human being. texture that I am most interested in, the nuance Love is not simple, and intimacy is complex.”  of intimacy. All my previous films are about the nature of relationships and the likelihood of rela- "Love is Strange” opens September 12 at the Chez tionships destroying everyone involved. A lot of Artiste, 4150 E Amherst Ave, Denver.

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ELUSIVE PARISIAN STREET ARTIST TO PERFORM IN DENVER Described as “powerful, daring, and explosive,” elusive Parisian performance artist Sabine Danze is bringing her fiery talent to Denver for one night only. On Friday, September 19th, the Mike Wright Gallery will host the internationally esteemed, multimedia painter and performance artist’s first solo exhibition in North America, giving Denver the rare opportunity to see and hear Danze in the throes of creation.

She’ll perform for attendees from 6 – 10pm, but her art will appear through the month of October at the gallery’s 1412 Wazee Street location. For more, visit MikeWrightGallery.com.

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DOUBLE INDEMNITY @CHEZ ARTISTE THEATRE, 4150 E. AMHERST AVE., DENVER 2PM & 7PM Gay icon Barbara Stanwyck stars in this Billy Wilder-directed dark classic; A film noir at its finest, “Double Indemnity” has murder plots, a sexy femme fatale, and a brilliant, sharp script. Check it out on the big screen one day only at Landmark Theatres’ recently remodeled Chez Artiste.

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Entering its fourth year, Fashion’s Night Downtown Boulder proves the little “granola” city can rock both hiking boots and haute couture. This fashion walk takes place up and down the fabulous Pearl Street Mall, and will feature food, drinks, live music, makeovers, and an abundance of hot fashion. From Steve Madden shoes to Athleta gear and Buffalo Exchange vintage, everyone is bound to find something just their style.

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R EV E R E N D YO L A N DA @FIRST CONGREGATIONAL CHURCH, 1128 PINE ST, BOULDER • 7PM The higher the hair, the closer to Jesus! Rev. Yolanda is bringing her raucous, uplifting gospel movie event to the congregation Friday. Part Dolly, part Mrs. Doubtfire, she’s got a hymnal, honey, and she ain’t afraid to use it.

Visit her online: yolanda.net

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A high-flying, acrobatic, surreal musical that could have only been born of the 1970s, “Pippin” is the story of a young prince who sets out to find his life’s purpose amidst a colorful and quirky backdrop. See the Tony Award-winning show as it comes back to the Denver stage for a magical two-week run.

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The annual Lokusdor Productions Fetish Ball is anticipating its biggest and hottest year yet, with the event looking at hosting a crowd of more than 1,000 fetish fiends and the filthy friends who love ’em. EXDO will be transported from a nightclub and event center into a kinky festival boasting entertainers, DJs, live musicians, artists, kink demonstrations, and vendors.

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The 11th Annual Pridefest will feature vendors, live entertainment, a beer and wine garden, youth and family area, a VIP tent, and much more! Boulder Pridefest commemorates the many successes and ongoing struggles of the LGBTQ community. Through celebration, community activities, and fabulous events, our local community comes together every September to elevate awareness and visibility in our continuing journey toward social justice. Live performances from local favorites Gora Gora Orkestar, Giddyup Kitty, and Hotel Radio!

Get involved at outboulder.org

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PERFUME GENIUS @HI-DIVE, 7 S. BROADWAY, DENVER • 8:30PM

Out musician Mike Hadreas is the tortured, yet harrowingly beautiful, mind behind Perfume Genius. The singer/songwriter first captured the attention of LGBT audiences with his single “Hood.”

The music video, an understated and intimate piece that featured Hadreas romancing the late pornstar Arpad Miklos, caused controversy when YouTube was accused of removing the video for its gay content.

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Perfume Genius will be touring through Denver in support of a new album, Too Bright.

John K. Harrell ,“16th Street Overture”

@BRUSHSTROKES STUDIO-GALLERY, 1487 S. BROADWAY, DENVER OPENING RECEPTION: 5 – 8PM Nationally renowned local artist John K. Harrell explores “grittier, edgy urban landscapes” and “stunning, colorful Italian landscapes” in a new exhibit, Breaking Boundaries. The recipient of numerous awards, the new show will be the artist’s first in Denver in more than 20 years. A must for the Colorado collector.

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@PEPSI CENTER • 7AM Strap your sneaks on and pound some pavement for Susan G. Komen’s latest fundraising venture. Komen Colorado serves 22 counties in CO and aims to ensure quality care for women battling breast cancer. With a 5K race and a family fun walk, it’s good, all-ages fun for a great cause.

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@EXDO EVENTS, 1399 35TH ST., DENVER • 6PM

Please join Out Front in celebrating LGBT and allied activists who made a powerful difference in our community this year.

Headliner Blake Lewis will be performing live! Don’t miss this powerful evening of music, fun, and community.

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@SEAWELL GRAND BALLROOM, DENVER PERFORMING ARTS COMPLEX • 5PM It’s been 15 years since the untimely passing of Matthew Shepard and the Matthew Shepard Foundation intends to honor his memory yet again in their annual Honors Gala. As if dinner and an auction weren’t exciting enough, this year, the brilliant, multi-faceted, and outand-proud Stephen Fry will accept the Making A Difference Award for his thirty years of LGBT advocacy.

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BEXNYC Pretty in Kink Whether at the head of the board room, or under the head board in the bedroom, femme dominance is in. Leather, lace, and everything naughty make for the unapologetically sexy female. Founder Rebecca “Bex” Szymczak is a veteran to the industry, with global brands (see: Nike, DKNY, and Playboy) under her garter belt. Her pieces have been spotted on Hollywood hotness and were featured at Lady Gaga’s latest album launch. The two current collections, Exhibition Noir and Voyeur, are available online.

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Tomboy Exchange Inc. The Tomboy Exchange woman grew up bucking trends. She preferred Levi’s over Halston, Converse over Keds, tube socks over leotards. Daring, confident, and playful, TomboyX was created by tomboys for tomboys.

Their collection is made in the USA, and a portion of their sales are given to AIDS/LifeCycle’s Ride to End AIDS. TomboyX.com

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GOLDYN Founded in 2007, Goldyn started out as a Denver-based online boutique carrying a curated mix of “it” brands and up-and-coming designers. Now its brick-and-mortar boutique is a Highlands neighborhood hotspot for well-curated fashion statements.

Join them September 6 for the opening of John Varvatos’ Pop-Up Shop, featuring a collection exclusive to Goldyn. Shop all day from noon – 8pm, with a cocktail reception from 6 – 8pm. Please RSVP for this special event to courtney@shopgoldyn.com.

Viktoria Modesta photographed by Rosemary Williams. Crystalized leg and Ryan Seary photographed by Omkaar Kotedia.

More online at ShopGoldyn.com • 2040 W. 30th Ave., Denver

Sophie de Oliveira Barata’s Alternative Limb Project instills an artistic approach to prosthetic limb design creating unique and personalized prosthetics for amputees. Working with metal, plastic, and wood, Sophie is masterful in blending form and function for her clients. Her renderings are surreal, unreal, and bewilderingly realistic — art that restores confidence in those who’ve suffered the trauma of losing a body part.

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Guerra Denver’s own Mondo Guerra — Colorado’s darling of “Project Runway,” you’ll recall — showed his sass in a collection made specifically for Urban Peak, a local non-profit that assists young people in their struggle to overcome the hardship of poverty. The charitable conduit of couture also gave Out Front a moment to fashion a few questions about what he’s been up to.

Concerning the Urban Peak collection [pictured]: [It’s] inspired by moving forward and by growth, and I really focused on application — exploring print techniques, applique, and hand embellishments. I [used] the silhouettes as a canvas.

Is the line available to the public, or is it just catwalk?

[This is] an artistic release, so the collection for the Urban Nights Runway is pure exhibition, but you will definitely see similar silhouettes from the show in my S/S 2015 collection.

How has Denver changed in the last few years and where do you see it going?

I feel Colorado-based designers are continually working together to make progress in fashion.

Apart from the collaboration with Urban Peak, what have you been up to lately?

I’ve been very active in HIV/AIDS advocacy. I’m a spokesperson for Merck’s “I Design” campaign, which underscores the importance of people living with HIV/AIDS to work with their physicians on important treatment goals. I’m also a part of Subaru’s Dining Out for Life, which is an annual fundraising event where restaurants across North America donate a portion of their sales from one special night of dining to their local AIDS service organization.

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Adatto There isn’t an Adatto store — a consultant and suit stylist comes to you. You choose the fit and fabrics you’re after, and once your precise measurements are taken, the suit scientists of Adatto work their magic back at the lab and ship your suit within four to six weeks.

Build a custom suit from more than 175 suit or blazer fabrics, an eye-popping range of colors, patterns, and weights, and more than 125 shirt fabrics to start. Then get devilish in your details with thread colors to accent your button holes, six different styles of cuffs for your shirts, nine collar options, and a marvel of materials and cuts for accenting with suit with piping and lining.

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Suitsupply Behold the wonder of a suit store with inventory that rivaled Armani in blind studies, but dazzled the European market with modest pricing — and its first American store is right here in Denver.

Every sales associate at Suitsupply was flown to NYC for extensive training on everything from custom fitting to fabric matching. In fact, within seconds of crossing the threshold into their exquisite boutique, the associates can eyeball your size from top to bottom and get you started on a literal one-of-a-kind suit.

Unparalleled selections of accessories (see their towering wall of neckties and elegant selection of pocket squares) combined with a fresh take on the basics (their serpentine rack of blazers and jackets ranges from ‘casual summer’ to ‘night at the opera’) make for an experience in quality, value, and true attention to detail that’ll stick with you for as long as you can fit the suit.

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Porcelain Warriors From Prose, the designer: “The starting point was a cast iron optic. To give the accessories a modern look, I used patent leather in combination. I liked the idea of creating a modern warrior, but with feminine and elegant attributes.”

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THE ANTIBES COLLECTION Sea, sun, and the glamorous world of the French Riviera in downtown Denver? As you wish.

Designer Laura Figueras channels antics in Antibes, a French resort town known for being playground for the rich and famous, counting among its ranks of frolickers Coco Chanel, Audrey Hepburn, James Dean, and Picasso. Calling upon the Breton stripe and clean lines of the 20s and 30s, the collection provides subtle glam for the modern woman, inspired by the sights and sounds of the south of France.

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Soul IN THE Haus Soul Haus has been a well-established Denver icon since opening its doors in 1999. Originally one of Denver’s first fashion houses to offer small-tag, Denver-made, and independent labels (remember House of Soul?), the mission of Soul Haus has stayed the same: Do business honestly and ethically while serving the community. Soul Haus has donated a portion of every purchase to regional non-profits since their grand opening. Now located in uptown, Soul Haus offers attire and accoutrement to adorn your urban soul.

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“No one calls you a crossdresser if you’re a woman in men’s clothing,” Ann, a right fashionable friend of mine observes over lunch. (She’s a transwoman who’s been through the fashion wringer.) “You’re either a tomboy, a lesbian, or both. But if you’re a man in women’s clothing in our patriarchal society,” her eyes roll with sarcasm, “there’s obviously something wrong with you.”

Jo, a polished transman, agrees. “[That] actually makes it harder to pass [as male] because the intent is not as clear.” Too look at him — even with down-to-the-thread scrutiny — you’d have a hard time believing anyone ever doubted his authenticity. That’s exactly what paying close attention to presentation will do. “It’s all smoke and mirrors,” Ann says. “Fashion is an illusion.”

So I’ll just let them rain down some knowledge on points to ponder for newly transitioning individuals entering the fascinating fields of fashion.

Draw the eye away from your trouble areas.

For transmen, prominent hips can mess with the look. A nice-fitting overcoat (think blazers and jean jackets) helps straighten the lines of your frame. Go for dark, solid colors in your button-ups and splurge on a good, breathable binder if you’re well-endowed up top. For height, Jo recommends Doc Martens boots. “They add about an inch to your height,” he says.

In transwomen, troublespots are commonly feet and/or hands, so wear boot-cut jeans or any type that flares a bit. Skinny jeans + large feet = the illusion of bigger feet. Also, there’s a huge market for feminine footwear in flats. Big hands? Avoid jewelry that calls attention to them.

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Be discerning.

Sometimes foxy, excited new transwomen go overboard right from the jump. There’s often a “making up for lost time” that includes “tween” and “lady of the night” attire: patent leather skirts, five-inch heels, plunging necklines that put a push-up bra’s prizes front and center, animal print, bright red lips, and a visible thong. (You see where this is going.) If that’s your thing, honey, you do you. For others who aren’t into wolf-whistles and intensely sexualized spotlights, Ann recommends checking out Gap, Banana Republic, or Ann Taylor catalogues for a modern ensemble that blends you into Denver’s sexy, career-woman landscape.

Hair’s the thing …

For many new transmen, facial hair isn’t an option. “There’s not a good way to fake facial hair honestly,” Jo says. “It all mostly looks fake.” How you can get your hair-swerve on? “Go to a real barber and get a stylish cut by someone who is a pro with mens’ cuts,” he tells us. “That helps.”

“We owe a debt of gratitude toward drag queens,” Ann says. “They’ve taught us a lot.” For example? “For example, how to hide the 5-o’clock shadow.” She says that in reality, the darkness of soon-to-sprout facial hair translates as green to the eye when it’s still beneath the skin. “Using red lipstick as a base neutralizes the green — then you put your foundation over that and you’re back in business.” Genius!

But no matter what style you choose, rock the hell out of it, brothers and sisters, for who better to create an illusion than your own inner magician? 

F R O M FA S H I O N T O F U N C T I O N

The battle for uniform supremacy rages between the four US military branches linen or wool breeches, stockings, and leather BDUs were replaced by ABUs or Air Battle shoes. Officers wore ruffled shirts with a red sash Uniforms with a singular Air Force digitized tigert’s 5am, and even though the sun has yet to break to distinguish them from the enlisted men. stripe pattern. But these uniforms proved inadequate above the horizon, I’m already sweating under the In World War I, with the advent of aerial in combat areas, and airmen in the field were issued thick blanket of Mississippi humidity. I’m standing photography and trench warfare, the US Army ABSGs or Airmen Battle System Ground “tactical enat attention in formation at Keesler Air Force Base designed uniforms meant for consembles” which were fire resistant, with other airmen as a staff sergeant carefully cealment with drab-colored green lighter, and used zippers for pockets jackets and black boots. inspects my BDUs — my Battle Dress Uniform. instead of buttons.

If the boots are not exquisitely polished so In 2002, there were largely The Army developed UCPs or that you can bounce laser beams off the tips, two types of BDUs: the standard Universal Camouflage Pattern uniforms, combining shades of it’s pushups. If the sleeves are not ironed with pattern of green, black, brown, and creases so sharp you could slice tomatoes, it’s more tan and desert BDUs consisting of tan, gray, and green, but they were pushups. And God help you if there is a single various shades of tan and brown. anything but universal and couldn’t loose string hanging from one of the cargo pockets. But the war in Iraq and Afghanistan be worn in Afghanistan. The Loose fitting for mobility and featuring numer- brought with it a war of uniforms Army then developed Operation between the branches, ous pockets on the shirt and pants to Camouflage Pattern uniforms, or carry equipment, BDUs were designed cultivating a plethora of OCPs to be issued next year. to be worn in combat rather than to camo patterns.

So who won this uniform battle? make a fashion statement — but that The Marine Corps As difficult as it is for me — a flyboy wasn’t always the case. designed their own — to admit, the Marine Corps’ The author in his BDUs As America was fighting for its inpixelated camouflage MARPAT seems to be the most efdependence from England, they faced design called MARPAT fective at concealment, with every a very fashionable foe. Blindingly red (MARine PATtern) complete with the other branch attempting to mimic the same pattern.

MARPAT regimental coats and tall bearskin hats, Marine Corps symbol of an eagle, In addition, the Marine Corps only spent the uniforms of the British grenadiers globe, and anchor embedded in the $319,000 developing the new uniforms, compared were a source of national pride. digitized pattern of the uniform, ensuring no other to the Air Force dropping more than $3 million The Colonial army, however, was largely made branch could copy the design. on development of the Air Battle Uniforms which up of militia men who wore what they owned — Not to be outdone by the Marines, the Navy couldn’t be used in battle. And the Army spent $5 usually white linen hunting shirts with wool coats issued their own digitized camouflage Navy Working billion on development and distribution of their from blue to scarlet to green.

Uniforms (NWUs) of blue and gray. Many criticized UCPs, only to replace them less than a decade after It wasn’t until 1779 that the US Congress created that any unfortunate sailor who was thrown over- they were issued.

At least there’s no more red sash.  a standard brown uniform with wool overalls, board would be camouflaged in the water.

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I didn’t have a sewing machine in my dorm, so I waited for Thanksgiving break to get home to my mom’s sewing machine and whip up my pachyderm.

“Do you make all your own outfits?”

As luck would have it, at the same time I decided to gay it out at the sewing That’s the question I get a lot as a drag queen. When you have three machine, my dad decided it was time for an oil-changing lesson out in the boobs, you can hardly buy things right off the rack. And honestly, the rack garage. My brother Mark was on that like tread on a tire. He loved taking usually is filled with so much boring. What’s a drag apart machines and putting them back together. queen to do? I do make some and I almost always I politely declined; I had an elephant that needed When you have three boobs, you embellish the rest. stitching and stuffing. can hardly buy things right off the I learned how to sew in Catholic high school semiMy father was none too pleased. To diffuse the rack. And honestly, the rack usually nary, making tails. My best friend Mark (who later tension, my mom interrupted my angry sewing and is filled with so much boring. turned out to be a flaming ’mo) and I were assigned suggested I head into the garage and learn how to the task of sewing up dragon tails for the comedy change some oil. I reluctantly agreed, sat through production of “The Thwarting of Baron Bolligrew.” The knights proved their the lesson, and then dashed back to my pachyderm project.

Bill loved his new elephant. He unwrapped it at Christmas at home with prowess at slaying dragons by draggin’ home dragon ass. The tails were his family, then sent me a picture of himself and the beast frolicking in a simple enough — just oversized pillows stuffed with batting.

It was the only tail I was getting in high school. My inner gay was still Nebraska snowdrift.

And as for oil changes? Well, I have changed the oil in every car I have in the closet. There I was, at an all-boys boarding school and my gay would not come out and play. What a waste! (Pun intended.) owned ever since. I guess there’s a little butch inside every drag queen.

When I finally did come out in college and fell in love with my first Sometimes it just takes a dad to coax it out.  boyfriend, I put those sewing skills to good use. Christmas was coming and I decided to make Bill a stuffed elephant with some gray pinstriped suit fabric Nuclia Waste, the Triple Nipple Drag Queen of Comedy, can be reached 1 6/3/14 12:14 PM through her website at www.NucliaWaste.com.

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I AM STRANGELY PROTECTIVE OF MY EYEBROWS. Like, “MamaBear looking over her cub” kind of protective. Criticize my clothes or my hair, fine, but say one bad word about my brows and things get real.

So it’s a given I would be skeptical of any kind of grooming program that would dare to tinker with the “archways to the soul” (seriously, I’ve heard them called that before). Waxing seemed way too messy, and the thought of giving someone free reign of the tweezers sent me into waves of control-freak hysteria. But eventually my own grooming didn’t cut it. I needed an expert to tame my brows, but it couldn’t be with the traditional tools of hot wax or tweezers.

My friend suggested threading, the practice of using a thin piece of cotton thread to form a loop that catches a hair and removes it. I was admittedly a little weirded-out when I first witnessed this practice (where did all Threading causes relatively the plucked hair go?), but decided no redness, as it doesn’t tug that I could first experiment with at the skin like waxing. It’s a the rowdy hairs between my brows good alternative those with — the arch would come later. sensitive skin.

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With a little research, I learned that threading (like most beauty treatments) can also have unwanted negative results. Some technicians can rush the process, which can lead to sloppy work. If you’re as protective of your brows as I am, I recommend asking around for the best threading service in your area. Though many don’t require appointments, scheduling one ahead of time can help you avoid those pesky waits if the salon is busy. 

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Shows are Tuesday through Sunday from 10pm until 1:45am. Out Front stopped in to check out the action on August 22. A capacity crowd filled the main bar to enjoy a few cocktails and some of the eye candy. Happy Hour specials can be found Monday through Thursday from 3pm until 8:30pm and from Friday through Sunday from noon to 8:30pm. | Photos by Charles Broshous

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THE GREAT OUTDOORS Dear Shanna, Here in Colorado, it seems like all the queer folk are really into the outdoors — camping, hiking, hot springs, etc. Do you have any tips for getting it on in the most satisfying way possible while enjoying The Great Outdoors?

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The Denver Gay and Lesbian Flag Football League held their Jersey Party for the 2014 fall season at the X Bar on August 16. Players gathered to meet their teammates, pick up their jerseys, take photos, and present themselves to the rest of the league.

The event also featured drink specials and free food provided by the DGLFFL and supporting sponsors. The new season kicked off on Sunday, August 17 in Cranmer Park.

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Dear Unsure About Mother Nature, I’m with you. I’m not really an outdoorsy person myself — to me, communing with nature is dependent on a visit to the Denver Botanic Gardens, or based upon what unsuspecting bug has deigned to enter our home. That being said, I recently decided to challenge myself and agree to present at an outdoor camping-and-kink event held in the wilds of Washington State.

Here are some things I have learned — I hope they help you as well.

• Flavored lube smells and tastes good to people. It also may have the same effect on wildlife or, more specifically, bugs. Consider sticking with water- or silicone-based lube and save the sweet stuff for the confines of home.

• If you’ll be bonking in the sunshine for any period of time, make sure to apply sunblock to any exposed bits. Sun burned nose? That sucks.

Sun burned junk? Worst idea EVER. Apply regularly … make it a fun foreplay game if needed, just make sure you’ve got everything covered.

• Stay hydrated. As most Coloradans know, staying hydrated is crucial any time of year in the great Rocky Mountains. As most f*cking folk know, staying hydrated is the name of the good sex game. Put these two items together, and you definitely need to ensure that your water intake is above and beyond what you regularly drink. Dehydration from camping sex is probably not a story you want to share with all your buddies.

• Use some of the wide world of nature. Are you kinky and like a little pain? Thistles or stinging nettles can be fun for flogging and spanking.

Like to tie someone up or try new and exciting positions? Use interestingly shaped trees and rocks to mix up your sexual repertoire. Just stay away from poisonous snakes, poison ivy, and anything else that might seriously cause harm.

• Tent sex can be naughty-feeling and fantastic, but a wet spot in a sleeping bag is even more of an annoyance than when it is on your bed. Bring an extra towel, sheets, or Fascinator Throe (ofcnow.co/throe) to absorb an additional moisture, so you’re not stuck in a sexed up, super-sweaty sleeping bag come nightfall.

Best of luck with your camping adventures and, of course, make sure to leave only footprints — take any safer sex supplies, toys, etc. back with you when you’re done connecting with the wilderness.

Shanna Have a question you’d like to ask Shanna (anonymously)?

Email shannakatz@gmail.com.

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A very good friend of mine told me one of the greatest gifts you could give someone is the ability to ask for advice or support. It shows a level of admiration you have for this person since you care enough about his or her sight, experiences, and friendship. It shows a level of trust between the two of you, especially when you aren’t known for sharing those types of things. This can also strengthen a relationship between people getting past difficult situations and building good connections together.

Unfortunately, admitting that we desire assistance, support, or a shoulder to cry on brings up a variety of feelings. These include distrust, self-loathing, insecurity, feeling like a whiny bitch, or not wanting to be seen as a weak person. It also causes us to experience feelings of anger

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While getting help from It also helps us challenge supporting people in our those deep-rooted ideas which tell us that asking lives, continue to focus on for help diminishes our developing problem-solving ability to handle situations skills, tenacity, self-reliance, in our lives. and the ability to truck forward when things get One difficulty in beginning this process is chal- rough. Use all your resources to get through when lenging ideas developed very early in our lives and life gets big, bad, and ugly.  are often reinforced through our life experiences.

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