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Dear Pharmacist

Suzy Cohen

4 Simple and Potentially Life-Saving Breast Cancer Tips

Few things are more painful to bear than a diagnosis of breast cancer and all that goes with it.

I have three close friends who are breast cancer thrivers today, although my mother-in-law died from it. The suspicious spot on her scan did not receive follow-up imaging, and by the following year, it was too late. She died in 1996. I miss her, but I get to love her son.

We’ve learned so much since then. I will share the new research now. There is a more comprehensive version of my article with more tips at my website (www.suzycohen.com).

1. Bone loss treatment may need to be reevaluated. According to a paper published in Medical Hypothesis (2010), alterations in the serum-

calcium-toand thus are magnesium generally prescribed ratio could calcium lead to and vitamin increased development D, but not magnesium.” of new So as well as when you recurrent take high breast cancer amounts of (due to low calcium all magnesium levels, by itself for osteoporosis, relatively it may be speaking).

October is Breast Cancer better for The paper Awareness Month you to add states, “Most women with supportive minerals, such as magnesium and/or hormone-sensitive breast cancer are recommended to take aromatase vitamin D. Talk to your doctor. inhibitors, which cause bone loss,

2. Natural folate from salads and greens is incredible for you.

Eating folate-rich foods appears to reduce breast cancer risk. This was determined when researchers evaluated the diets of 367,993 women recruited from 10 European countries.

The researchers used data from the European Prospective Investigation into Cancer and Nutrition (EPIC) study.

Eating a diet rich in dietary folate may be associated with a lower risk of sex hormone receptor-negative breast cancer, at least in premenopausal women.

3. There are natural SERMs (selective estrogen receptor modulators). SERMs can block estrogen-mediated breast cancer growth and help to maintain bone

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density in postmenopausal women.

You know the drugs as tamoxifen (Nolvadex) and raloxifene (Evista) and others.

A paper in Phytomedicine 2016 found that rhodiola rosea acts a bit like a SERM by binding to estrogen receptors, counteracting TNF alpha and protecting bone cells (osteoblasts) from hydrogen peroxide.

You should discuss the risks and benefits with your physician, but it seems that with SERM activity, natural rhodiola might help mitigate or delay menopause-related discomfort and support breast health.

4. Eating rosemary is powerful.

This herb contains natural compounds, such as rosmarinic acid,

that are protective of our reproductive organs.

Another spice called spica prunellae (xia ku cao in Chinese medicine) contains this rosmarinic acid. There are studies on rosmarinic acid that are important to breast cancer survivors; for example, one found it can slow or inhibit bone metastasis from breast cancer.

There are more tips at my site. For now, consider putting rosemary sprigs in everything you eat. It’s easy, simple, and provides many other health benefits.

This information is not intended to diagnose, prevent, or treat your disease.

For more information about the author, visit SuzyCohen.com

Facts about the Bills in Your Wallet You don’t have to be a millionaire to know the value of a dollar. Here are some facts about paper money from the U.S. Bureau of Engraving and Printing website: • The first $1 bill was issued by the government in 1862 with a picture of Treasury Secretary Salmon P. Chase.

George Washington’s portrait first

appeared on the $1 note in 1869.

• Dollar bills account for approximately 45 percent of all U.S. currency production.

• The lifespan of a $1 Reserve note is about 21 months. Other bills have different life expectancies.

• The first $2 bill was issued in 1862 and featured a picture of Alexander Hamilton, the first

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• The first $100 bills were issued in 1862, with a picture of the American bald eagle. Benjamin Franklin’s portrait first appeared on the Series 1914 Federal Reserve Note.

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Toll-Free Numbers American Lung Association (800) LUNG-USA

Property Tax/Rent Rebate (888) 728-2937 Insurance Apprise Insurance Counseling (800) 783-7067 Nursing/Rehab Homeland Center 1901 N. Fifth St., Harrisburg (717) 221-7902 Personal Care Homes Greenfield Senior Living at Graysonview 150 Kempton Ave., Harrisburg (717) 558-7771

Bureau of Consumer Protection (800) 441-2555

Homeland Center 1901 N. Fifth St., Harrisburg (717) 221-7902 Pharmacies CVS/pharmacy www.cvs.com Services Dauphin County Area Agency on Aging (717) 780-6130

Meals on Wheels (800) 621-6325 National Council on Aging (800) 424-9046 Social Security Office (800) 772-1213 Veterans Affairs (717) 626-1171 or (800) 827-1000 Transportation CAT Share-A-Ride (717) 232-6100 Veterans Services Lebanon VA Medical Center 1700 S. Lincoln Ave., Lebanon (717) 228-6000 or (800) 409-8771

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national anthem.

After her two sons were grown, Keller reentered the It’s been six years since Peggy workforce and revived her Kurtz Keller stood rooted on musical pursuits, earning stage in overjoyed delight after roles in community theater hearing her name announced and performing for service as the winner of On-Line organizations, senior groups, Publishers’ 2011 pa state Senior and holiday parties.

Idol competition, her bright “At 60 I think I’m feeling smile the only means of escape more confident and beautiful for the joy ricocheting through Photo credit: Pavan Kumar (www.pavans.photography) inside and out—I feel like I her body.

Keller performed can do pretty much anything,” The Central Pennsylvania “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” Keller said. native has been no stranger to a during the talent portion of the During the Ms. Pennsylvania stage in the meantime.

2017 Ms. Pennsylvania Senior Senior America event, which “I’ve been doing a lot America competition. was held at the Red Lion Hotel of entertaining: a lot more in Harrisburg, five judges senior groups, retirement evaluated Pennsylvania’s 12 communities, singing the contestants on four categories: national anthem at the inner beauty, evening gown, Harrisburg Senators and philosophy of life, and talent.

Reading Phillies—a little bit “Peggy was what we call the higher up in the food chain,” ‘triple threat’ in competition,” Keller said. “So I’ve been quite Denise Russo-Caiazzo, Ms. busy with my entertaining since Pennsylvania Senior America Senior Idol.” state administrator, said.

Keller, 60, can now happily “She had exceptional add another notable title to her confidence in her interview and entertainment resume: that was well spoken and intelligent. of reigning Ms. Pennsylvania She radiated her enthusiasm Senior America. for life with her millionOn July 30, Keller won the Photo credit: Pavan Kumar (www.pavans.photography) dollar smile,” Russo-Caiazzo 2017 statewide competition, From left, Keller’s niece, continued. “She was poised and an annual talent and “inner Grace Kurtz; mother, Evelyn Kurtz; regal in her evening gown and beauty” pageant that strives to Keller; husband, Mike Keller; and very articulate as she gave her “emphasize and give honor to sister-in-law, Marie Kurtz. heartwarming ‘philosophy of women who have reached the life.’” ‘age of elegance,’” according to “It was so much fun,” Keller its website (www.senioramerica. said of the competition. “It was org). a very similar kind of vibe as As a result of her Senior Idol Senior Idol because we all were win, Keller said a representative kind of in the same boat. We from Ms. Senior America had were all mature women … we checked in with her regularly, all just wanted the opportunity eager for Keller to turn 60 to show that women over 60 can to meet the minimum age still be entertaining, productive, requirement for the pageant. and beautiful.”

“I just love to entertain so For the talent portion, much that I felt [the pageant] Keller won the 2011 pa state Senior Idol competition with her rendition Keller—who favors the would give me another of “Summertime.” “standards” and big-band opportunity to meet a whole music of the 1940s and ’50s— group of individuals that I intended to perform what she calls her “signature could expose [my music] to; it would open up some song”: George Gershwin’s “Summertime” from Porgy doors for me,” Keller said. & Bess. It is also the song that also clinched her pa Keller’s knack for performance dates back to her state Senior Idol title in 2011. childhood, where in high school she won the local But another contestant had already chosen Junior Miss Pageant and frequently performed the www.50plusLifePA.com

“Summertime,” so Keller went with still have a lot of life and a lot to give “Somewhere Over the Rainbow,” society.” another of her favorites. In the end, She will also represent Pennsylvania the second-choice song selection didn’t at this year’s national Ms. Senior matter.

America pageant, to be held Oct. “I was so overwhelmed [when] I got 15-19 in Atlantic City, New Jersey. a standing ovation,” Keller, a fulltime Keller’s husband will join her for the OB-GYN triage nurse, said. “I felt three-day competition, as will about really good about the day; I knew I 15 friends and family offering their did the best I could do, and I could support. not have done anything differently.”

Pennsylvania has never had a Singing wasn’t the only talent on national title holder, Russo-Caiazzo display that day, however. Keller’s said. fellow contestants, who ranged in “We at Pennsylvania Senior age from 60-89, exhibited skills America feel that Peggy can break as wide ranging as pie that streak and become baking, singing, Pennsylvania’s first dancing, and national winner readings of and carry home Peggy Keller’s original the crown as “Philosophy of Life,” poetry.

Ms. Senior as presented to Thirteen America Ms. Pennsylvania friends 2017,” Senior America judges: and RussoAs I live each day, I know that I will family Caiazzo be faced with daily challenges that will members said. “She teach me and allow me to grow. As I came certainly reflect on the day’s events, I ask myself, out to has “Have I given all of who I am today?” If support all the in my heart of hearts, I know that to be Keller qualities true, for what more can I ask? in the of a My all today may be different than audience. national yesterday or even tomorrow; however, “They winner!” if I have given all that I can be, taken the lessons learned, and entertained were If Keller new ideas and thoughts from screaming does take others, I will become a more and yelling home the complete woman. and carrying national crown, on,” she her duties and laughed. “It was opportunities will really kind of one be similar to those of of those things where the state winner but on a the energy was really high and grander scale, with country-wide contagious.” recognition and exposure.

Her supporters weren’t the only “She will continue her crusade to ones in need of a good holler. After help educate seniors and show the the judges announced their decision world that seniors are the foundation and Keller received the crown, sash, of America, and they are still going and flowers, she paused before the strong,” Russo-Caiazzo said. “The sky outdoor photo shoot and turned to is the limit for the national winner.”

Russo-Caiazzo.

Keller said she plans to take the “As soon as I got outside, I said to October competition in stride, but Denise, ‘Is it OK if I scream now? I that doesn’t mean she isn’t headed just feel like I have to scream!’” Keller to Atlantic City with her eye on the said. “So I screamed. It felt really prize. good.”

“I’m going there for the fun of the As the state winner, Keller “will whole experience,” she said, “but I represent women over 60 and help have that competitiveness about me, educate the public about senior life, and I’m sure as shooting going to do while dispelling the myths of ageism,” the best I can with the intention that Russo-Caiazzo said. “She will make I’m going to come away a winner.” appearances throughout the state, Cover photo credit: Pavan Kumar (www. spreading the message that seniors pavans.photography) www.50plusLifePA.com

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I had to smile when I received an Chuck and his wife lived in email from Chuck, a widower, in Charlotte, North Carolina, and Lancaster. south Florida for 37 years before “I just can’t see myself using those moving to a senior living community dating websites, so what can you in Lancaster. He tries to work out do to help me meet another love of every morning and reads “anything” my life before I run out of money or nonfiction. air?”

This gentleman has quite a resume.

My reaction was: “I like to see A widower with a new places. [I] have sense of humor. A visited or lived in widower in his 70s all 50 states and who doesn’t want over 100 countries,” to use “those dating Chuck said. “[I] websites.” I bet we can am a volunteer for help him.

Road Scholar, the Chuck had largest nonprofit obviously read my travel company, most recent 50plus and SCORE, where LIFE article (August I mentor small2017) about Steve, business owners. also a widower, who Also, I have been a lives nearby in New Rotarian for over 50 York state. years.

Chuck S., of Lancaster, I wrote back “Who can I use wants to continue his to Chuck, saying for matchmaking extensive travels—and I needed more now?” he asked. doesn’t want to do it alone. information about I smiled and him. said, “Well, “Over a year ago, I lost the love of networking through friends and my life to multiple myeloma cancer,” acquaintances is the best way seniors Chuck said. “We were married 54 can meet potential mates. Maybe years. We have three children and six our newspaper can increase your grandchildren. network.”

“I would like to meet a widow I learned a bit more about Chuck. in her 60s or 70s who had a He has an undergraduate degree happy marriage and who wants to from Notre Dame and an MBA from share good wine, fine food, great Washington University in St. Louis. conversation, educational travel, and He was an officer in the Army. He who likes to snuggle in the winter or was a president of three companies. travel to south Florida.”

Even though Chuck has traveled I needed to clarify the comment extensively, he says he’d like to see “… who likes to snuggle in the new places, and he doesn’t want to winter.” see those places traveling by himself.

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Expo & Job Fair Honors, Supports Capital Area Veterans

By Megan Joyce “Any company organization that supports veterans—that draws me here.”

Douglas Musheno, a recent Messiah College graduate and 20year active-duty Army veteran, was navigating the recent Veterans’ Expo & Job Fair in Camp Hill.

Clad in a suit and tie and with a resume-filled portfolio in his arms, Musheno was facing head-on the challenge confronting so many veterans and transitioning military: finding civilian employment.

“As veterans, we offer a lot,” Musheno, of Mechanicsburg, said. “I mean, we have experience, leadership, management, and we’ve been in certain situations as veterans …”

Public admission was free for the Veterans’ Expo & Job Fair – Capital Area, presented by OLP Events.

Composed of both an expo and a job fair in one location, the event welcomed hundreds of transitioning military personnel, veterans, and their families to the Radisson Hotel Harrisburg on Aug. 29.

The Veterans’ Expo connected active and retired military members with benefits and resources available through local businesses and organizations.

Exhibitors included community service providers, healthcare professionals, VA benefits counselors, education/training providers, and business startup assistance, as well as businesses covering everything from home improvement, legal services, and finance to retirement living and insurance.

Along with a focus on helping today’s military, the event also paid homage to those who served under conflicts further back in the nation’s history.

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Catherine Courreges and Kim DiJoseph from Quilts of Valor presented quilts to two local veterans.

Jay Snyder, of Lower Paxton Township, served in Vietnam in the 1st Cavalry Division and Golden Knights, U.S. Army Parachute Team. Chuck Kline, of Harrisburg, served in the U.S. Navy in the South Pacific during World War II. The quilt is a lifetime award bestowed upon deserving veterans and active service members for their service to the nation.

“Our quilters know that our freedom is not free; the cost of our freedom is the dedication of men and women such as all of yourselves,” Courreges said. “This quilt is meant to say, ‘Thank you for your sacrifices.’”

At the Job Fair, veterans and employers met face-to-face to discuss available positions.

Company representatives were looking to fill openings in sales, labor, management, tech, medical services, transportation, clerical, manufacturing, engineering, construction, retail, financial services, and more. “[We’re here] to let the veterans know that we support them … and to help anybody who’s looking to further their education in the trucking industry,” Tracy Hockenberry, education consultant with McCann School of Business and Technology, said.

Also at the Job Fair, a Resource Center provided assistance with resume writing, information on VA benefits and Medicare, and mock interviews.

Like Musheno, Darlene Irving, Army veteran from Harrisburg, was at the event scouting job opportunities. Irving is looking to reenter the workforce after some personal time away.

“It is good to browse and look at the various tables where the employers have displayed the job openings that they have [and] ways to apply for the position, and also some of the hiring managers are right here on site,” Irving said.

The Veterans’ Expo & Job Fair will return Thursday, Nov. 2, at Spooky Nook Sports in Manheim.

For more information, call (717) 285-1350 or visit www.veteransexpo. com.

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Support Groups Free and open to the public Mondays, 6:30-8 p.m.

Grief Support Group Mohler Senior Center 25 Hope Drive, Hershey (717) 732-1000

Oct. 11, 6-7 p.m.

Alzheimer’s Support Group Brookdale Harrisburg 3560 N. Progress Ave., Harrisburg (717) 671-4700

Oct. 4 and 18, 7-8:30 p.m.

ANAD Eating Disorders Support Group PinnacleHealth Polyclinic Landis Building, Sixth Floor Classroom 1 2501 N. Third St., Harrisburg (717) 712-9535

Oct. 16, 6:30 p.m.

Support Group for Families of Those with Memory-Related Illnesses Frey Village 1020 N. Union St., Middletown (717) 930-1218

Oct. 5, 7-8 p.m.

Fibromyalgia Support Group LeVan Chiropractic 1000 Briarsdale Road, Suite C Harrisburg (717) 558-3500 Oct. 10, 6-7 p.m.

Alzheimer’s Caregivers Support Group Greenfield Senior Living at Graysonview 150 Kempton Ave., Harrisburg (717) 561-8010

Oct. 18, 2-4 p.m.

Parkinson’s Support Group The Residence of the Jewish Home – Second Floor Library 4004 Linglestown Road Harrisburg (717) 697-2513 Oct. 19, 6 p.m.

Alzheimer’s Support Group Country Meadows of Hershey Second Floor Training Room 451 Sand Hill Road, Hershey (717) 533-6996 astoner@countrymeadows.com

Senior Center Activities Oct. 19, 6-8 p.m.

Harrisburg Area Parkinson’s Disease Caregiver Support Group Giant Food Stores – Second Floor 2300 Linglestown Road Harrisburg (717) 580-7772 Oct. 25, 7-8 p.m.

Connections Support Group: Families of Memory Impaired Ecumenical Retirement Community Building 3, Second Floor 3525 Canby St., Harrisburg (717) 561-2590

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Oct. 8, 1:30-2:30 p.m. – Tree ID Walk, Wildwood Park Oct. 14, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. – Volunteer Work Day, Wildwood Park Oct. 19, 9-11:30 a.m. – Detweiler Park Hike, Detweiler Park

Community Programs Free and open to the public

Oct. 5, 7 p.m.

Central Pennsylvania World War II Roundtable Meeting Grace United Methodist Church 433 E. Main St., Hummelstown (717) 503-2862 charlie.centralpaww2rt@gmail.com www.centralpaww2roundtable.org Oct. 12, 7:30 p.m.

Central Pennsylvania Vietnam Roundtable Meeting Vietnam Veterans of America, Michael Novosel MOH Chapter 542 8000 Derry St., Harrisburg (717) 545-2336 centralpavietnamrt@verizon.net www.centralpavietnamroundtable.org

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Rutherford House – (717) 564-5682, www.rutherfordcenter.org Mondays and Fridays, 11 a.m. – Chair Yoga Tuesdays and Thursdays, 9:30 a.m. – Art Class Wednesdays, 9 a.m. to noon – Computer Assistance

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Library Programs East Shore Area Library, 4501 Ethel St., Harrisburg (717) 652-9380 Oct. 19-21, times vary – East Shore Area Library Book and Media Sale Oct. 25, 6 p.m. – C omputer Classes from Start to Finish: Basic Internet I Elizabethville Area Library, 80 N. Market St., Elizabethville, (717) 362-9825 Oct. 5, 6:30 p.m. – F riends of Elizabethville Area Library Meeting Harrisburg Downtown Library 101 Walnut St., Harrisburg, (717) 234-4976

PARKS & RECREATION

Oct. 4, 7 p.m.

World Culture Club of Central PA Meeting Penn State Hershey Medical Center Fifth Floor, Lecture Room B 500 University Drive, Hershey www.worldcultureclubpa.org

Friendship Senior Center – (717) 657-1547 Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, 8-9 a.m . – Light Aerobics Wednesdays, 12:30 p.m. – Mah Jong

Oct. 21, 10 a.m. to 2 p.m.

“Sew Much for Charity” Needle Arts Event Trinity United Methodist Church 210 Main St., Hummelstown (717) 561-9964 Oct. 25, 7 p.m.

Piecemakers Quilt Guild of Middletown St. Peter’s Lutheran Church Spring and Union streets, Middletown (717) 915-5555 gsk1308@gmail.com Oct. 31, 6 p.m.

Susquehanna Rovers Volksmarch Walking Club Bass Pro Shop – Hunt Room Harrisburg Mall 3501 Paxton St., Harrisburg (717) 805-9540

Hershey Public Library, 701 Cocoa Ave., Hershey (717) 533-6555 Johnson Memorial Library 799 E. Center St., Millersburg, (717) 692-2658 Oct. 12, 6:30 p.m. – Adulting 101: Keeping it Clean Oct. 16, 6 p.m. – Mixed Media Art: All for Fall Kline Library, 530 S. 29th St., Harrisburg (717) 234-3934 Oct. 5, 6:30 p.m. – Adulting 101: Keeping it Clean Oct. 18, 6:30 p.m. – Writing for Beginners Madeline L. Olewine Memorial Library 2410 N. Third St., Harrisburg, (717) 232-7286 Oct. 16, 6 p.m. – Food for Thought Book Discussion McCormick Riverfront Library 101 Walnut St., Harrisburg, (717) 234-4976 Wednesdays in October, 11:30 a.m. – Midday Getaway Oct. 17, 6 p.m. – Zendoodle Northern Dauphin Library 683 Main St., Lykens, (717) 453-9315 Oct. 13, 6 p.m. – S pooky Movies: The Mummy (1932) and The Amityville Horror (1979) Oct. 19, 3-7 p.m. – Blood Drive William H. & Marion C. Alexander Family Library 200 W. Second St., Hummelstown, (717) 566-0949 Oct. 11, 6 p.m. – Second Wednesday Cinema Oct. 23, 6 p.m. – Crazy for Coloring

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Plant Easy-Care Daffodils Now for Added Spring Beauty

By Melinda Myers Daffodils have a cheery presence in the spring garden and are a surefire way to chase away the winter blues.

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This variety’s Cassata has Photo Credit: Longfield-Gardens.com a ruffled white-andUnique daffodil varieties like Lingerie offer yellow split orange double flowering. cup and blossoms white petals. Lemon Beauty’s shorter have a gardenia-like fragrance.

Miniature daffodil Baby Boomer split cup is adorned with a yellow star.

These are just a few of the many has five to 10 flowers per stem. After blooming, the grassy foliage quickly choices that are available for gardens, fades away, allowing nearby perennials containers, and spring bouquets. Most to take center stage. daffodils are hardy in growing zones 3-8. In warmer zones, look for heatSplit-corona daffodils have an tolerant varieties, such as Thalia and unexpected beauty and are lovely

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DAFFODILS from page 9 start with proper planting. Plant bulbs in mid- to late fall, any time before the ground freezes. Dig a hole and position the bulbs 6 inches deep with the pointy side up. Cover with soil; apply a low-nitrogen, slow-release fertilizer; and water thoroughly.

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As a grade schooler in the late 1950s, I really missed my dad on Saturdays. Dad would close down his dental practice at noon, come home, and then jump into a car with Grandpa and a few racing pals and head to the local horse track.

From Mom’s grumblings, I got the idea that the so-called Sport of Kings was sleazy, so why would Dad play horses instead of playing catch at home?

I later understood why when he said he bought the Boston Record American newspaper because of its racing charts.

The 1960s, though, ushered in a new Dad. We joined a nearby country club, and Dad became fascinated with the backswing instead of the back stretch.

I was happier now on Saturday because I could occasionally join Dad at the pool or the 19th hole grill.

Unlike the mysterious touts, I got to know Dad’s golfing partners.

Dad and I even started to play a

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few holes together. This was a great father-and-son bonding activity once I learned how to replace divots. We both got the mini-workout exercise of trekking the hilly layout of the club.

Undoubtedly, Dad thought this was better than watching horses exercise.

One round when I was 15 was transcendent for both of us. It was the father/son club tournament. This one day, Dad’s advice stuck: I didn’t pick my head up, and my shots went airborne. It was a bestball format, and we used my crushed drive off the seventh hole.

We shot 46, good enough to win. It was a highlight reel for us then and forever, as it was our lone joint trophy.

Dad, though, accumulated numerous trophies over the next four decades along a raft of golfing buddies. Eventually he left the country club but then moved to a new home, a couple of stiff threewoods from the Brookline Municipal

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Traveltizers

By Andrea Gross

Falling in Love with Bergen: Norway’s Cultural Capital

I can’t say we weren’t warned.

When we told our Norwegian friends we were going to Bergen, they looked at each other and smiled as if wondering whether they should let us in on Bergen’s secret.

“A beautiful place,” he said finally.

“A city of culture.”

“A city of rain,” she interrupted.

“Rainiest spot on the continent.

Rains 250 days a year — summer, fall, winter, and spring.”

In other words, it always rains. Is this a place my husband and I really want to visit?

Well, yes. A city that’s been deemed a “European City of Culture” (an honor bestowed by the European Union upon select cities that have contributed mightily to the culture of the world) and has also been named a UNESCO World Heritage

City because of its enduring cultural significance is most certainly a city that is worth a few drops of rain.

On the first morning we look out our hotel room window and see sun—bright, happy sun shining down on buildings that shimmer with color. We’ve won the weather lottery.

Peaked roofs covered with orange, gold, black, and sometimes red tiles sit atop walls that may be light gray or ivory but are more often vibrant gold or soft blue.

Off in the distance a church topped with delicate pinnacles and spires stands guard over the haphazard streets. I later learn that this church — Johanneskirken in Norwegian, St. John’s in English — is the largest in Bergen and dates back to 1894.

Homes in Bergen line the hills and surround lakes.

Oslo may be Norway’s political capital, but Bergen is its cultural capital.

Bergen is Norway’s second largest city.

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Bergen is home to fishing boats, sightseeing boats, and cruise ships of all sizes.

Violin virtuoso Ole Bull is one of many renowned artists who was Bergen born and bred.

Three hours later, the clouds obscure the sun. Four hours later, we’re drenched. That’s when I remember that my friend told us a proverb she learned from her grandmother: There’s no such thing as bad weather in Bergen, just inappropriate clothes.

My husband and I race back to the hotel and grab parkas for our bodies, dry shoes for our feet, and myriad plastic bags for his camera. Then, outfitted appropriately, we set out to imbibe some culture.

We begin in the center of town, which 1,000 years ago was home to the medieval town of Bryggen.

Many of the original buildings were destroyed by fire during the 1700s and subsequently rebuilt on the old foundations, meaning that the footprints and often the function remained the same.

The reconstructed buildings are lined along the wharf, facing the water that made Bryggen an economic powerhouse — in medieval terms, of course. Today the terms have changed. Bergen is still an economic powerhouse, but it deals in tourists instead of fish.

We spend the better part of a day strolling along the cobblestone streets and planked walkways of old Bryggen and exploring repurposed buildings, now crooked with age.

We see trolls in every size and shape in the souvenir shops, admire handmade knits with Nordic designs in the galleries, and eat ...

Oh my, we eat. First we down a sandwich laden with shrimp, crab, and salmon.

Then we warm up with a sjokoladerdrikk (hot chocolate) from a Starbucks that’s housed in a building that looks like a giant wedding cake,

complete with a frosting of white.

Two hundred years ago this building was the town’s meat market.

A few blocks away, an old bakery has been turned into a new McDonald’s.

Thoroughly sated, we visit the Hanseatic Museum, where we take a guided tour that helps us better understand Bergen’s history. Then we wander over to the wharf to see some of the ships that take nearly a halfmillion passengers a year on trips to the spectacular Norwegian fjords.

Some of these ships, which number more than 300 a year, are mega-ships, each carrying thousands of passengers to the larger ports along the coast. Others, like those operated

by Hurtigruten, are smaller vessels that combine cargo stops to small towns with passenger amenities for cruisers who want a more unusual voyage.

The next day passes too quickly as we try to absorb the city’s art and music scene. It’s a large scene — one that encompasses both past and present.

Music aficionados can visit the home of Norway’s most famous composer, Edvard Grieg, as well as the villa of violin virtuoso Ole Bull, while art enthusiasts can explore Bergen’s Art Street, an impressive row of galleries and museums that borders Lake Lungegårdsvann.

As we walk back to our hotel, we feel the soft drops of an evening rain, but this time we hardly notice. We’ve fallen in love with Bergen.

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The Party No One Wants to Plan People rarely like to dwell on the fact that they or a loved one will die someday, even though it’s an inevitable part of life.

From a practical standpoint, we would make preparations to ensure that survivors aren’t placed in financial jeopardy and that they know the deceased person’s final wishes.

“But the reality is that people procrastinate because the topic is too painful to think about,” says Susan Alpert, author of Later is Too Late: Hard Conversations That Can’t Wait (www.susanalpertconsulting.com).

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she believes it’s time for people to make a change in their thinking and planning about death.

“No one wants to admit that life has an end, but picture your spouse, your children, your parents, or anyone else you hold dear,” she says. “What would their lives be like if you died and hadn’t properly prepared your estate and legal documents?”

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“Making arrangements for your own funeral may feel surreal,” Alpert says. “But imagine the pain others will have dealing with that if you don’t step up and do it for them—and take care of the cost now if possible.”

The good news, she says, is that despite the emotion involved, preparing for death can be handled over time and at your own pace, although it does require motivation and organization.

Among the things to consider: Collect important documents and details in one place. Some of the personal information that should be gathered together include names of your doctors, your bank accounts, Social Security information,

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make decisions about funerals or memorial services while they are still grieving. Just 23 percent of people over age 50 have planned for their funeral or burial, according to the AARP. Meanwhile, funerals come with a hefty price tag that keeps rising, with the average cost in 2014 at $7,181, according to the National Funeral Directors Association.

86: The approximate percentage of funeral homes in the United States privately owned by families or individuals. The remaining 14 percent are owned by publicly traded corporations. $7,181: The national median cost of a funeral with viewing and burial for 2014. If a vault is included, something that is typically required by a cemetery, the median cost is $8,508. The cost does not take into account cemetery, monument, or

marker costs or miscellaneous cashadvance charges, such as for flowers or an obituary. $6,078: The national median cost of a funeral with viewing and cremation in 2014.

The cost does not take into account vault, cemetery monument/marker costs, or other miscellaneous cashadvance charges.

50.2: The percentage of Americans who chose cremation in 2016, up from 48.5 percent in 2015, while 43.5 percent opted for burial, down from 45.4 percent in 2015.

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life insurance policies, a will, and anything else that’s critical to your estate.

Having all the important personal information in one place makes a huge difference in reducing stress and making the process easier for the person or persons left behind.

Plan that funeral. It’s not a pleasant topic, but it’s natural to wonder how our lives will be honored

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after death. Our vision might not be the same as our family members’, Alpert says, so it’s important to decide how and where your final resting place will be and whether there should be a funeral or a memorial service.

Do you want a burial or cremation?

Do you prefer an old-fashioned obituary or a simple social media announcement?

Hire experts. “There is a business

for every need, and the arena of death is no exception,” Alpert says.

Try contacting a team of professionals—attorneys, accountants, financial advisers—who can help sort through all the financial and legal details ahead of time so there are fewer challenges to face at the time of death.

“The best way to honor a loved one’s legacy is to ensure that his or her wishes are carried out after death,”

Alpert says. “But that shouldn’t happen at the expense of a budget when you’re grieving and can’t make clear decisions.”

Susan Covell Alpert, author of Later is Too Late: Hard Conversations that Can’t Wait (www.susanalpertconsulting.com), is a lecturer, consultant, entrepreneur, and frequent guest on national radio and television shows. Alpert is also the author of Driving Solo: Dealing with Grief and the Business of Financial Survival.

How ‘Trick or Treat!’ Took Over the World Wherever you live, chances are that on Oct. 31 you’ll be visited by pirates, ghosts, princesses, and monsters crying, “Trick or treat!” at your front door. Costumes and going door-to-door for treats can be traced back to pagan and Christian rituals from the Middle Ages.

In Britain and Ireland, poor people would beg for food door-to-door in exchange for prayers for the dead on the day before All Souls’ Day (Nov. 2).

This practice, called “souling,” evolved from a European pagan tradition.

The wearing of costumes and masks originates in Celtic traditions of attempting to placate evil spirits by

copying them.

Immigrants from Scotland and Ireland brought the tradition of “guising” to the New World, with children going through their neighborhoods requesting food and coins, usually in exchange for a dance or poem.

The term “trick or treat” in print was seen in Alberta, Canada, in 1927, and in the Oregon Journal newspaper in 1934: “Other young goblins and ghosts, employing modern shakedown methods, successfully worked the ‘trick or treat’ system in all parts of the city.”

Trick-or-treating had become

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It Was 50 Years Ago Today

‘Soul Man’ Randal Hill

In their shows, Sam Moore and Dave Prater became a freewheeling bundle of collective energy, joyfully bobbing, weaving, and gyrating, and all the while singing at full throttle.

Popular among the many nicknames the duo earned was “The Sultans of Sweat,” as every highenergy performance left actual tiny lakes of perspiration onstage.

In Rhythm and the Blues, Atlantic Records’ Jerry Wexler said, “Their live act was filled with animation, harmony, and seeming goodwill.”

Oh? That “seeming” goodwill apparently wasn’t directed at each other, as the pair endured a tumultuous partnership for the two decades they performed together.

Moore and Prater would often arrive at concert venues separately, each demanding his own dressing

room. During to Prater, Moore concerts, they never liked much anyway. usually managed to Tenor Moore avoid eye contact and baritone/tenor with the other.

Apparently the two Prater rose to fame as the quintessential once went a dozen American soul act. years without even Both had come from speaking to each Southern church other offstage. backgrounds.

Each artist had Moore once sang his own litany of complaints about with a doo-wop “Soul Man” group called the the other. Moore Sam and Dave Majestics but later said he abhorred October 1967 switched to such Prater’s drug usage gospel outfits as the Gales and the and constant griping about wanting to do a solo act with new material.

Mellonaires. Prater had sung in his church choir and eventually became Prater, in turn, groused that it was Moore who wanted to work alone and part of the gospel-based Sensational Hummingbirds. stop performing the Sam and Dave When the pair met by chance catalogue of hits—which, according at a Miami club, they soon found themselves performing together, their onstage chemistry delighting appreciative audiences who only saw two African-American men having fun and loving their work.

In 1967, Sam and Dave recorded their biggest hit, “Soul Man,” on the Memphis-based Stax Records label. It reached No. 1 on the soul charts and No. 2 on the pop lists, and it won a Grammy the following year.

“Soul Man” had come about when co-writer Isaac Hayes was inspired by a 1967 TV newscast of a Detroit riot. Many black-owned buildings had been marked with a single, boldly lettered word: SOUL. This inspired Hayes and his writing partner, David Porter, to develop the Sam and Dave classic.

“It was the idea of one’s struggle to rise above his present conditions,” Hayes explained in the book Soulsville USA. “It’s almost a tune [where it’s] kind of like boasting, ‘I’m a soul man.’ … It’s a pride thing.”

In November 1978, the Blues Brothers—comics Dan Aykroyd and John Belushi—performed “Soul Man” on Saturday Night Live. When they cut their own version of the classic song, retaining the original blaring horns and stinging guitar licks, the hit remake on Atlantic Records reached a whole new audience.

Despite their career-long personal turmoil, Sam and Dave were elected to the prestigious Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, which tacitly acknowledged the duo’s masterful transition of gospel music’s elements into the popular music mainstream.

Randal C. Hill is a rock ’n’ roll historian who lives at the Oregon coast. He may be reached at wryterhill@msn.com.

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his sweet spot of conviviality, with his athleticism gone. But, bottom line, I was honored to inherit the clubs.

If Dad had stayed with the dubious Sport of Kings and fashioned a life at the track, I’m sure that his parting memento to me would have been a box full of losing pari-mutuel tickets or other heartbreaks.

Bill Levine is a retired IT professional and active freelance writer. Bill aspires to be a humorist because it is easier to be pithy than funny.

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The Beauty in Nature

Suburban Food Chains Clyde McMillan-Gamber

Common, everyday house sparrows are abundant in cities, towns, and farmyards the year around in southeastern Pennsylvania and across most of the United States and other countries around the world.

They are small, plain, and unknown, ignored or despised by most people because of their omnipresent abundance, the “dirt” they create with their droppings and nest materials, and their pushing native birds out of nesting sites to use those spots themselves.

But the adaptable, assertive, and prolific house sparrows, which are Old World weaver finches, are part of human-made habitats and food chains.

Adult house sparrows mostly consume grain, weed, and grass seeds in fields. This species has spread around the world in great numbers

because of its adult house adapting to sparrows killing invertebrates agricultural as large as practices in the Japanese beetles last 10,000 years.

But this and annual cicada grubs species also to feed their ingests what is young. easily available, A variety including cast-off of city and food in garbage Adult house sparrow. suburban cans, dumpsters, and parking lots. predators catch and eat house sparrows, mainly They also feed on seeds in birdfeeders housecats, blue jays, crows, Cooper’s and pick out chewed, but undigested, hawks, sharp-shinned hawks, and bits of corn from manure strips in merlins. fields and horse droppings on rural roads.

I’ve seen blue jays kill weaver finches a couple of times. Jays don’t have sharp Adult house sparrows feed proteinpacked invertebrates to their offspring claws to quickly grab and stab their victims, so they bludgeon their prey to in their nurseries, which causes those death with their heavy beaks. youngsters to grow rapidly. I’ve seen

I saw a sharp-shinned hawk catch a house sparrow on our lawn during a snowfall. The sharpy quickly killed the sparrow with its talons and ate its victim on top of the snow while snow fell around the hawk. After the hawk had eaten and flew away, snowflakes quickly covered the sparrow’s remains.

Cooper’s hawks regularly prey on house sparrows on our lawn through each year. Coops even dive into and scramble through shrubbery to catch their prey. Those hawks perch on trees to consume their catches, while the victims’ feathers float to the ground.

House sparrows are small and disliked by most people, but they are big in the impact they have on wildlife in cities, suburbs, and barnyards. They are part of several food chains of who eats whom.

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Savvy Senior

How to Pick a Medicare Advantage Plan Jim Miller

Dear Savvy Senior, I’m approaching 65 and am interested in a Medicare Advantage plan to cover my healthcare and medications. What tips can you provide to help me pick a plan? – Medicare Shopper

(hospital insurance) and Part B (medical insurance) coverage. Some plans even offer extra benefits like vision, dental, and hearing, and most plans include Part D prescription drug coverage too.

You also need to know that the monthly premiums for many Advantage plans are cheaper than if you got original Medicare plus a separate Part D drug plan and a Medigap policy, but their deductibles and co-pays are usually higher.

That makes these plans better suited for healthier retirees.

Dear Shopper, Medicare Advantage plans have become increasingly popular among retirees over the past 10 years, as more than 30 percent of Medicare participants are now enrolled in an Advantage plan.

Here are some tips and tools to help you pick a plan that fits your needs.

How to Pick First, let’s start with a quick review. Medicare To help you pick a plan, a good first step is to Advantage plans (also known as Medicare Part C) are government-approved health plans sold by call the office managers of the doctors you use and find out which Advantage plans they accept and private insurance companies that you can choose in Medicare Open Enrollment: place of original Medicare. which ones they recommend.

Oct. 15 to Dec. 7 Then go to the Medicare Plan Finder tool The vast majority of Advantage plans are at www.medicare.gov/find-a-plan and type in managed-care policies, such as HMOs or PPOs, your ZIP code or your personal information to compare health plans with drug that require you to get your care within a network of doctors. coverage in your area.

If you join an Advantage plan, the plan will provide all of your Part A This tool also provides a five-star rating system that evaluates each plan based on past customer satisfaction and quality of care the plan delivers. When Stories of ordinary men and women comparing, here are some key points to consider:

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Total costs: Look at the plan’s entire pricing package, not just the premiums and deductibles. Compare the maximum out-of-pocket costs plus the copays and coinsurance charged for doctor office visits, hospital stays, visits to specialists, prescription drugs, and other medical services.

This is important because if you choose an Advantage plan, you’re not allowed to purchase a Medigap policy, which means you’ll be responsible for paying these expenses out of your own pocket.

Drug coverage: Check the plan’s formulary—the list of prescription drugs covered—to be sure all the medications you take are covered without excessive co-pays or requirements that you try less expensive drugs first.

Dental, vision, and hearing: Some Advantage plans come with dental, vision, and hearing benefits, but these are often limited. Get the details on what exactly is covered.

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How to Enroll Once you’ve selected a plan, you can enroll either on the www. medicare.gov website, over the phone at 1-800-MEDICARE, directly with your chosen plan, or through an insurance broker.

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Also see the HealthMetrix Research Cost Share Report at www. medicarenewswatch.com, which lists the best Advantage plans based on health status.

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Gray Divorce: Splitting Up in Later Life

By Linda Hershman, LMFT, MS

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Alan and Joan* threw a big bash to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary. Surrounded by their children, grandchildren, and friends, the champagne flowed as they toasted a life well lived.

A month later, Joan shocked everyone by moving out of the house and filing for divorce. Everyone wondered: Why now?

“We don’t want the same things anymore,” Joan said, when asked.

“Alan is a great guy, but once the kids left, I realized we weren’t going to have much to talk about for the next 20 years.”

While the divorce rate in the U.S. has dropped slightly since the 1990s, “gray divorce” among baby boomers and seniors has doubled, according to a March 2017 Pew Research Institute study.

Cris Pastore, esquire, co-founder of Main Line Family Law Center, a Philadelphia-area mediation firm, has been conducting divorce mediation exclusively since 2008. He reports that the firm’s main demographic is couples between the ages of 40-60, with a slight uptick in recent years of the 50-55 group.

According to Pastore, these couples tended to marry and have kids in their 20s.

“They see their lives split in half,” Pastore says. “They spent the first half raising kids. Now they want something different.

“Women initiate gray divorce more often than not,” Pastore continues.

“They are coming to the (mediation) process more empowered than ever.

They can be true to themselves and to their spouses about what they want for themselves.

Many have careers and don’t need financial support from their husbands.

In the past, they were more reticent to tell the spouse how they felt.”

Pastore believes the aftermath of 9/11 has increased older adults’ willingness to divorce.

“I look at 9/11 as having completely turned things upside down. People are living more for today than they ever were before,” he says. “They don’t want to wait for tomorrow—they’re less willing to wait around for anything.”

Life expectancy plays a role in the decision to divorce. Many, like Joan, expect to live longer and remain in good health and wish to fully engage in their lives for as long as possible, even if it means doing it without a partner.

Not all gray divorce is a result of a long marriage that has run its course, however. Many are second marriages, which carry an even statistically higher divorce rate.

Often, people remarry without having worked through their own issues that contributed to the first

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divorce.

Blended families present unique challenges.

And, having been through it already and knowing they will survive, it becomes easier to leave, especially when there are no children to consider.

Although today’s older women are more likely to experience the financial independence that allows them to leave an unhappy or unsatisfying marriage, divorce is costly.

“In almost every case, divorce results in a financial hardship for both spouses. Financial reasons usually are in consideration of staying together, rather than getting a divorce,” Pastore says.

Fortunately, options exist today beyond hiring opposing counsels who may escalate the battle and win the spoils of the war. There are divorce professionals, including attorneys and therapists, who are committed to making the process as financially and emotionally healthy as possible.

Divorce mediators, such as Pastore, help the couple obtain a peaceful, cost-effective divorce without the need to hire attorneys. The divorce mediator does not take sides but empowers both parties to negotiate a fair and equitable settlement outside

of the court system.

Couples who wish to remain amicable while being represented by attorneys can consider collaborative divorce, a process of voluntary dispute resolution in which parties resolve issues without litigation.

Experts—such as mental health therapists, parenting experts, and financial professionals—may be engaged as part of a problem-solving team.

Deciding to divorce can be a gut-wrenching process. One or both spouses may struggle with the choice of whether to stay or go.

Before contacting a lawyer, these couples should consider discernment counseling.

Usually within one to five sessions, a discernment counselor will help couples choose one of three paths with clarity and confidence: stay the course and do nothing at present; move toward separation and divorce; or agree to commit to marriage counseling with a qualified, licensed professional.

Even if you don’t want to squander the rest of your life with someone who has become the wrong partner, take time to educate yourself about your options. Life is short, but a bitter divorce feels interminable.

Linda Hershman, MS, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in Berwyn, Pa. She is the first therapist in the Delaware Valley to have obtained certification in discernment counseling. For a free consult, contact her at (610) 889-2089 or www. stayorgocounseling.com. *not their real names

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Columbus’ Anchor Salvaged from the Depths Captained A team

by Vicente of explorers Pinzon on believes it has one of the discovered “minor an anchor voyages” of from one of Columbus’ Christopher third Columbus’ expedition ships in the to the New Caribbean.

World, the According ship sank in to a story on a hurricane the Fox News near the website, an Columbus Day is analysis of the Turks and Monday, Oct. 9 Caicos Islands anchor shows in 1500. that it dates In addition to the anchor, the from somewhere between 1492 and 1550. It weighed 1,200-1,500 pounds team brought up other artifacts at the shipwreck site, including and probably belonged to a 300-ton grappling hooks used for salvaging vessel, typical of Columbus’ time. cargo from shipwrecks, as well as The anchor is believed to come pieces of pottery and an olive jar from a fleet of smaller ships called caravels, which included the Pinta. painted with indigo.

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I love other dogs and get along great with them. My foster mom takes me for walks, during which I am pretty good and get quite excited when she picks up the leash. Car rides are also pretty awesome, too!

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