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Where We Belong: Journeys that Show Us the Way Terri Schlichenmeyer
You have to be somewhere today. There’s no hurry or schedule to follow, but you must get there on time. You don’t have a map or itinerary and the destination might be a surprise, but once you arrive, as happens in the new book Where We Belong by Hoda Kotb (with Jane Lorenzini), you’ll be in exactly the right place. It’s natural: a turn of the calendar, and you’re feeling some inner restlessness. It’s OK to admit it, says Kotb: You sense that there’s more to life, and you yearn to find it. The good news is that it’s never too late to start working toward that perfect spot in your world; in fact, here, Kotb introduces readers to people who did. Michelle Hauser grew up in Mason City, Iowa, living sometimes with her mother and sometimes with her
father. By age 10, she skillfully ran a household; at 12, she landed a paying job because she sensed a need for self-sufficiency; at 14, she worked in a restaurant, where her love of cooking was cemented. She ultimately became a chef, but throughout her life, she always harbored a dream of being a doctor. It would be even better if her two passions could unite … Craig Juntenen
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grew up in the lap of luxury with everything she wanted—except parental attention, which she longed for. Her parents loved her, that was a fact, but they were busy with careers and had little time for her. Eventually, she fell into the same situation, but a move halfway across the country helped her find the “family” she needed. And for successful businessman Lindley DeGarmo, the move away from a sales career meant moving toward a job closer to his heart—and to his soul. So where’s your turning point? It won’t be identical to the ones you’ll find inside Where We Belong, but you’ll get a lot of inspiration just the same—you’ll also get a lot of same. Indeed, the stories here are all very similar and, with one exception,
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preexisting wealth shows up quite often in the tales. That may turn a few readers off. And yet, who doesn’t struggle with New Year’s resolutions? If you’ve made ’em, then you probably do, and author
Hoda Kotb (with Jane Lorenzini) offers something here that’ll energize you: true, encouraging stories. If those everyday people can identify, find, and accomplish lifechanging goals, surely you can, too.
And so, in the end, I mostly enjoyed Where We Belong. It’s a happy book, perhaps just what’s needed to start a year with myriad possibilities. And if you’re eager for that, then this book belongs in your hands.
The Bookworm is Terri Schlichenmeyer. Terri has been reading since she was 3 years old and she never goes anywhere without a book. She lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 14,000 books.
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Dear Savvy Senior, exposure to sunlight, especially supplements in tablet or soft gel Is macular degeneration if you have light-colored eyes; form over the counter for around hereditary? My mother lost her certain genetic components; a $20 to $30, but be aware that not vision from it before she died a few family history of AMD; high all eye supplements contain the years ago, and now at age 65, I’m blood pressure; obesity; and being proper formulation. Choose either worried I may get it. What can you Caucasian. the PreserVision Eye Vitamin tell me? For anyone over the age of 60, AREDS Formula, PreserVision – Nearsighted Susan it’s a smart idea to get your eyes Eye Vitamin Lutein Formula, examined by an ophthalmologist PreserVision AREDS2 Formula, Dear Susan, every year. They can spot early or ICAPS AREDS. These four Having a parent or options contain the right sibling with macular formula mix. degeneration does indeed Other lifestyle increase your risk three to adjustments that may four times. help prevent or delay But the good news AMD include eating is there are things you antioxidant-rich foods, can do to protect your such as dark-green, leafy eyesight and a number vegetables and cold-water of treatments that are fish for their omega-3 available if you do fatty acids; protecting happen to get it. Here’s your eyes from the sun what you should know. by wearing UV-protective February is Age-Related sunglasses; controlling high What is AMD? Macular Degeneration Month blood pressure; exercising Macular degeneration, regularly; and if you also known as age-related smoke, quit. macular degeneration (or AMD), signs of AMD before vision loss is the most common cause of occurs. Wet AMD Treatments vision loss in people over age Early signs, however, may For wet AMD, there are several 50, affecting about 10 million include shadowy areas in your effective medications (Lucentis, Americans. central vision or unusually fuzzy Avastin, and Eylea) available that AMD is a progressive eye or distorted vision. The Amsler can stop vision loss and may even disease that damages the macula, grid (www.amslergrid.org) is a restore it. These medications are the part of the eye that allows good tool to check your eyes for given by injection into the eye us to see objects clearly, causing AMD. and repeated every month or two, vision loss in the center of your perhaps indefinitely. vision. This affects the ability to Preventing AMD Note that each of these three read, drive, watch television, and While there’s currently no cure drugs works equally in treating do routine, daily tasks, but it does for AMD, there are some things wet AMD, but there’s a big cost not cause total blindness. you can do if you’re high risk. difference. Avastin costs just There are two types of AMD: One option is to talk to your $50 per month, compared with wet and dry. Dry AMD, which doctor about taking a daily dose $2,000 for the other two. So affects about 90 percent of all of antioxidant vitamins and experts recommend Avastin as people who have it, progresses minerals known as AREDS: the first choice for most people slowly and painlessly over a vitamins C and E, plus copper, with wet AMD, especially if you period of years, while wet AMD lutein, zeaxanthin, and zinc. don’t have supplemental Medicare is much more aggressive and can Studies by the National Eye coverage. cause severe vision loss in a matter Institute have shown that AREDS of weeks or months. can reduce the risk by about Jim Miller is a regular contributor to the NBC Today show and author Factors that can increase your 25 percent that dry AMD will of The Savvy Senior Book. www. risk of getting AMD include age progress. savvysenior.org (60 and older); smoking; excessive Most drugstores sell these eye www.50plusLifePA.com
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Certain antidepressants, decongestants, and painrelieving narcotics can alter heart rhythm. Sometimes potassium deficiency contributes to heart problems. If your doctor has told you that you’re low in this mineral, check in your medicine cabinet because some medications are drug muggers and can actually reduce potassium levels. This information is not intended to diagnose, prevent, or treat your disease. For more information about the author, visit SuzyCohen.com
Arginine – It’s an amino acid that the body makes on its own. You can buy it too. In 2009, researchers at the University of Virginia found that it could help people with heart failure. Ribose – It’s a naturally occurring sugar that the body uses to make ATP, your energy molecule. Ribose improves blood flow and provides much-needed oxygen to the heart. Hawthorn – It’s an herb that increases the amount of blood your
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Tips for Safely Shopping Online Abby Stokes
You can’t see or touch the merchandise, so what makes online shopping so appealing? Well, the following three aspects, for starters: 1. Comforts of Home: You don’t need to leave your home (or office) to shop. Therefore, no parking hassles, no waiting in long lines, and no fighting for the last iPhone on the shelf. 2. Global Access: Stores all over the world are at your fingertips. 3. Savings: Online retailers save on personnel and other overhead costs. They often pass the savings on to you. Start with the Familiar Get your feet wet with a visit to the
look for Contact Us, Customer Service, or About Us. Scroll to the bottom of the page. Sometimes, what you seek (and they hide) is in very small letters at the end of the webpage.
website of a “brick-and mortar” store you frequent in your area. If you shop at Home Depot, visit their website: www.homedepot.com. Is Macy’s one of your shopping spots? Visit www. macys.com. Or you could pop into the website of a catalog that you patronize. Perhaps you are a Crate & Barrel (www.crateandbarrel.com) fan or a Harriet Carter (www.harrietcarter. com) loyalist.
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No one can save you from your own bad shopping habits, online or otherwise. Step away from the mouse when considering the 1980s sweater that glows under black lights. It wasn’t a good idea back then, and it certainly isn’t a good idea now. Do you really need another circular saw? Aren’t two enough? Yes, I know it was a great deal, but stand firm. The convenience of the Internet can definitely feed the
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Art & Antiques by Dr. Lori
Loving Our Collections Lori Verderame
Love is one of the most common reasons why we collect objects or hand down objects. Objects come with emotions. Most people will not part with a particular item or group of items if they were handed down or amassed by a loved one, family member, or friend. I feel this way about my father’s nutcracker collection and my mother’s canister set. I wouldn’t part with them no matter what! And when someone stops collecting or is no longer able to collect, sometimes the collection is handed down. If you can retain a collection for the long term, historically, that collection will increase in value over time. So, hold on to the collection if you can. And, add to the collection when you can and start to familiarize yourself with the collection by learning
A vast collection of duck decoys becomes a late collector’s passion and his widow’s problem.
about its history and market value. For many, the love of collecting is not only commonplace, but also comforting. At other times, a collection can be a burden and present new problems. When a collection comes
to you from a deceased loved one, the situation may prove difficult. For instance, when Frank, a longtime collector of duck decoys, passed away, his collection became the property and project of his widow.
Like most widows of collectors, Irene was happy that Frank enjoyed the process of collecting throughout their marriage. Now, with no children or interested relatives to take over the collection, Irene is left in a quandary. She doesn’t want the duck decoys. Reason No. 1 is that she can’t bear to display the duck decoys as they prompt heartache. The emotional collection reminds Irene of Frank’s passing. Reason No. 2 is the overwhelming number of duck decoys now stacked in the basement. Also, the vast collection is unfamiliar to Irene, a non-collector. She can’t identify the decoys’ sculptors, she can’t identify the regional characteristics of each decoy, and she is uninformed and at the mercy of anyone
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with information about decoys and their market value. She knows these buyers may take advantage of her. She realizes that auctions may not be the best place to sell the collection because Frank got many of his best decoy bargains by buying at auctions. If a buyer at an auction is getting a bargain, then the person selling the decoy at auction must have lost money on the transaction. Since Irene can’t tell one wooden duck from another, she begins to worry. She doesn’t like the idea of
having strangers come into the house to make her an offer on the decoys. She doesn’t know what a good offer looks like, either. If someone wants to make a killing on this collection and buy it for a song, she is in a vulnerable position. Now, Irene doesn’t know how or if she should get into the market, and she doesn’t want to keep the collection. Like many other families of collectors, Irene never thought she’d be left alone with this vast collection. Tips for this common collecting
problem include choosing one or two favorite decoys to keep as a remembrance in honor of Frank’s years of collecting. Get an appraisal from an appraiser who does not have any financial interest in the decoys—doesn’t want to sell them, doesn’t want to buy them. Be prepared to pay that appraiser for their expertise and time. Ask the appraiser to tell you the retail value of the decoy collection, not an auction value or insurance value of the collection.
Take some time to consider the market information and then make a decision about how you will act. Don’t be hasty. Get information so you can make a good decision. Celebrity Ph.D. antiques appraiser, author, and former museum director, Dr. Lori hosts antiques appraisal events worldwide. Dr. Lori is the star appraiser on Discovery channel. Visit www. DrLoriV.com/Events, www.Facebook.com/ DoctorLori, or call (888) 431-1010.
Celebrating the History of Black History Month History) in 1915, and a year later We owe much of our greater founded the widely respected Journal understanding of black history to of Negro History. Carter G. Woodson. Then in 1926, he launched Negro Born to former slaves, Woodson History Week, the worked hard and precursor to Black against the tide of History Month, as prejudice to obtain an initiative to bring his own education. national attention In earning his to the contributions doctorate from of black people Harvard, Woodson throughout American was disturbed to history. find that during February was his studies, history books virtually chosen as Black History Month for ignored the the significant events black American and people who population. So he figured prominently decided to take Carter G. Woodson in black American on the challenge history. of writing black For example: Americans into the history books. He established the Association for the Study of Negro Life and History Feb. 23, 1868: W.E.B. DuBois, civil rights leader and co-founder of the (now called the Association for the NAACP, was born. Study of Afro-American Life and
Feb. 3, 1870: The 15th Amendment was passed, granting blacks the right to vote. Feb. 25, 1870: The first black U.S. senator, Hiram R. Revels (1822-1901), took his oath of office. Feb. 12, 1909: The National Association for the Advancement of
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Salute to a Veteran
Robert D. Wilcox
In World War II He Flew for the Yanks … and for the Brits
At age 94, Richard Boyd is a clear reminder of Hollywood’s handsome Errol Flynn. And he has a dashing past to match, virtually all of which was devoted to aviation. The exploits started for him in 1941 in his native England, when he was 19 and volunteered for service with the Royal Air Force (RAF) as a crewmember. He was selected for pilot training and began flying the Tiger Moth single-engine biplane. And just before he was to solo, his whole world changed. The chief of the U.S. Army Air Corps, “Hap” Arnold, had proposed that a limited number of British young men be trained in our aviation cadet program. Boyd was one of five picked from his group and soon was on his way to the U.S. via a holding base in New Brunswick, where a
The Lancaster bomber in which Boyd flew his missions.
Flying Officer Richard E. Boyd in 1945.
group of soon-to-be cadets was being assembled. Then, in 1942 he was sent to
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Albany, Ga., to join the aviation cadet class of 42-I, flying the Stearman PT-17. Did he wear an American uniform? “All but the forage cap, which earmarked me as a Brit,” he says. In succession then followed basic flying at Macon, Ga., and advanced flying at Valdosta, Ga., where he
got his U.S. wings and RAF rank of pilot officer (the equivalent of our 2nd lieutenant). He then shipped to Toronto in 1943, where he most memorably met and dated the winsome Rita Mary O’Gorman (more on that later). It was there that he also was unexpectedly picked to be one of five pilots from his group of 60 to go to Texas to attend the Army Air Corps Central Instructors School at Kelly Field. Having completed that instructor training, he was assigned to Ellington Field in Houston, where he served as an instructor pilot in AT-9s and AT-10s. In December, he was called back to the RAF, and he shipped from New York for Europe aboard the Queen Mary. What was that like? With a chuckle, he says, “It was
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a madhouse. With 16,000 troops aboard, there were bunks stacked everywhere. Mine was actually on the bridge of the vessel.” The Queen Mary was the largest and fastest troopship during World War II. In her seven years of wartime service, she ran an unescorted, zigzag course for 569,429 miles as she carried 765,429 troops across the Atlantic to England. Arriving in Liverpool, Boyd was sent to Scotland to train to fly the British way. He laughs at the way a sergeant pilot said, “I understand that you trained in the American Air Force.” When Boyd agreed that he had, the sergeant said briskly, “Ah … we’ll soon correct that.” That was followed by flying the twin-engine Wellington, then the four-engine Stirling, and finally the formidable, four-engine Lancaster. That amazing bomber could carry almost its own weight with 33,000 pounds of fuel and bombs. It was the only plane that could handle the RAF’s giant, 22,000-pound, specialpurpose bomb, the Grand Slam. While we think of the Brits as bombing in the night while we bombed by day, the RAF bombed a lot by day, as well. Boyd, for example, flew 11 missions by day and 22 at night. At night, he was four times picked to be “marker crew,” which dropped flares to light up the target. He remembers one night when he had a problem with his radar over Dresden and had to face the flak during three runs over the target to hit it. He also recalls a daylight mission when they were to bomb German troops at the east end of the Remagen Bridge over the Rheine, only to be called away at the very last minute upon learning that the Yanks had now crossed the bridge and actually were the troops below them. For his wartime service, Boyd was awarded the Distinguished Flying Cross. On V-E Day, Boyd was at home on leave and was assigned to transport
command, where he flew Stirling bombers that had been converted to carry troops and equipment to Karachi, India, to fight the Japanese. What was the closest he ever came to buying the farm? Scratching his chin, he says, “That has to be the time after the war when I was flying in a York transport plane as an observer. We crashed on landing, and I spent six months in the hospital in a full-body cast. That’s a time I don’t even want to think about.” Leaving the RAF in 1947, Boyd worked as a flight operations officer for British Overseas Airways. He had been corresponding regularly with Rita, that girl in Toronto, and only then when he had a real job did he feel that he could send the letter that said, “Will you marry me?” along with a one-way ticket to England on the Queen Mary. Even though they hadn’t been together in person in four years, she came, they quickly married, and for 68 years have never regretted the decision. In 1951, Boyd joined the Dutch airline KLM for five years before Swissair asked him to work for them and open a New York City office. To do that, he and Rita came to New York, where they lived on Long Island. Boyd became operations manager, North America, in 1969 and retired in 1986 after 30 years with the company. With his complimentary airline tickets, he and Rita have literally traveled the world. They came to Central Pennsylvania in 2013 to live in one of its retirement communities. And Boyd is proud of the space it gives him for a “war room” in which he keeps a treasure trove of aviation books, pictures, documents, and awards … all that reminds him of the lifetime he’s been privileged to spend in the cutting-edge world of aviation. Colonel Wilcox flew a B-17 bomber in Europe in World War II.
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Support Groups Free and open to the public Feb. 1, 4 to 5 p.m. Caregivers Support Group Messiah Lifeways Meetinghouse 1155 Walnut Bottom Road, Carlisle (717) 243-0447 Feb. 2, 6 p.m. CanSurmount Cancer Support Group HealthSouth Acute Rehab Hospital 175 Lancaster Blvd., Mechanicsburg (717) 691-6786 Feb. 2, 6 to 7 p.m. Alzheimer’s Support Group Senior Helpers 3806 Market St., Suite 3, Camp Hill (717) 920-0707 Feb. 4, 6:30 p.m. Too Sweet: Diabetes Support Group Chapel Hill United Church of Christ 701 Poplar Church Road, Camp Hill (717) 557-9041
Feb. 9, 6:30 to 8 p.m. Carlisle Area Men’s Cancer Support Group The Live Well Center 3 Alexandria Court, Carlisle (717) 877-7561 sirbrady12@gmail.com Feb. 10, 1:30 p.m. Parkinson’s Support Group Bethany Village West – Springfield Room 325 Asbury Drive, Mechanicsburg (717) 877-0624 Feb. 16, 1 p.m. Caregiver Support Group Mechanicsburg Church of the Brethren 501 Gale St., Mechanicsburg (717) 766-8880 Feb. 23, 6 p.m. Multiple Sclerosis Support Group HealthSouth Rehabilitation Hospital 175 Lancaster Blvd., Mechanicsburg (717) 486-3596 apcoulson@comcast.net
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Feb. 10, 11:30 a.m. NARFE West Shore Chapter 1465 VFW Post 7530 4545 Westport Drive, Mechanicsburg (717) 737-1486 www.narfe1465.org Visitors welcome; meeting is free but fee for food. Feb. 11, noon Mass of Healing and Anointing of the Sick Holy Spirit Hospital Chapel 503 N. 21st St., Camp Hill (717) 763-2118
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Library Programs Bosler Memorial Library, 158 W. High St., Carlisle, (717) 243-4642 Feb. 2, 9, 2 3, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. – Upstairs Stitchers Embroidery Group Feb. 5, 7 p.m. – Music at Bosler Feb. 26, 1 to 2 p.m. – Just Mysteries! Book Club New Cumberland Public Library, 1 Benjamin Plaza, New Cumberland, (717) 774-7820 Feb. 4, 1 0:15 a.m. to noon – Ruth’s Mystery Discussion Group: Mystery Books Made into Movies Feb. 9, 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. – Book Review: Killing Lincoln by Bill O’Reilly Feb. 13, 10:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. – Write-On Writers’ Workshop
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Greetings, Introductions, and 10 Tips for Finding Love
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I am honored, especially on Valentine’s Day, to be introduced to your newspaper. I have a warm spot in my heart for Pennsylvania. My mother was born in Erie. My column started when two female editors in Dana Point, Calif., gave me my first writing assignment. I had just gone through a divorce and thought dating would be easy. It turned out to be difficult, and I wrote about the frustrations of a single guy in his early 50s trying to date again. I complained and whined that younger women wouldn’t go out with me and women my age expected me to pay for dates. The editors felt that the single women in Southern California would have a field day taking potshots at my woe-is-me message.
They were right. When my first column ran, a woman said: “Who is this sniveling puke?” Another said, “Get the boy a crying towel.” Women told me my writing became less controversial when I started dating my life partner, Greta. I’ve written approximately 3,500 articles and newsletters on finding love in the later years, and writing on this topic has been good to me. I’ve published three books and have
been interviewed by Matt Lauer on the Today show and Diane Sawyer on Good Morning America— very humbling. My writing scope has broadened to: “On life and love after 50,” as older singles deal with life issues often beyond the scope of just dating. My advice is applicable to anyone age 50 to 90. Yes, I know people in their 90s who have found love. While my articles target singles,
approximately 35 percent of my readers are married. Many tell me that reading about the hardships singles endure encourages them to appreciate their spouses more. My advice to married couples is usually pretty simple: Stay together and work out any issues. Let’s have fun together. Maybe we can help some older singles find love. But to continue writing about senior dating, I need input from readers— your questions, comments, and stories about life and love after 50. Email me at tompblake@gmail. com and I will respond within a day or two, unless I’m traveling overseas. Who knows? We might include you in a column. One thing is certain: As more and more people become single later
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in life, there are always new and challenging issues. People often tell me, “I never thought I’d be single at this stage in my life.” My hope is to help as many of them as possible. Tom’s 10 Tips for Finding a Mate My life partner, Greta, and I had dinner with a widower friend of ours after Christmas. As we were leaving the restaurant, he said, “I don’t want to be alone anymore. But I don’t know how to meet a potential mate. What do you advise?” I put together a list that would help him get started. I call it Tom’s 10 Tips for Finding a Mate. The tips apply to both men and women. 1. Let friends, family, and acquaintances know that you’d like to meet other singles. That’s what Ken did with me. He let me know that he was rejoining the human race and wanted to meet new people. The more people he gets the word out to, the better his chances of finding someone. It’s called networking. And it works.
A week after Ken asked for advice, I received an email from a single woman in his city. I asked each one of them separately if they’d like to correspond. They said yes. Had Ken not mentioned his situation to me, I wouldn’t have thought about introducing them. 2. Get off the couch and out of the house. You won’t meet anybody sitting at home. You need to be where you will meet new people. Sure, it takes energy and time, but it will give you a purpose. Attend weddings, reunions, church activities, dances, and accept all invitations to events. Volunteer. Another widower I know volunteers at a nearby hospital twice a week and helps feed the homeless at his brother’s church twice a month. He’s met single women at both places. 3. Go out to enrich your life and meet new people. Do not go out solely to find a mate. People looking too hard come off as desperate and end up turning off the opposite sex. Often, it’s when we
aren’t looking that we meet someone special. 4. Pursue activities you enjoy where both sexes are involved. For guys repairing old cars, you likely won’t meet a potential mate. Ditto for women who are quilting. 5. Get the body moving. Walk and exercise. Be friendly to folks you see along the way. Offer to walk with them if appropriate. 6. Keep expectations in check. Meeting a potential mate won’t be easy, but don’t give up. It takes time. 7. Internet dating is one method of meeting potential mates. For people living in remote areas, online dating may be a necessity to meet new people. For people 50-plus, online dating is risky. There are scammers and evil people looking for vulnerable and lonely singles. However, it has worked for lots of couples. If a guy online sounds too good to be true, he is. Trust your instincts. Don’t be naïve. 8. Smile and be friendly, positive,
and upbeat. If you are in a post-office line, or a grocery-store line, be assertive by striking up a conversation—but don’t be overly pushy about it. 9. Check out the website Meetup (www.meetup.com). There is no cost and they have clubs and groups across the U.S. that cover all kinds of special interests. Pick some different ones and attend them. You will be enriching your life and making new friends. 10. Subscribe to my weekly On Life and Love after 50 e-newsletter at www. FindingLoveAfter60.com. There is no cost. More than 1,000 singles ages 50 to 90 from across the country share their experiences, frustrations, and successes. Above all, recharge your batteries and get out and meet new people. I’m betting our friend Ken will be up and running in no time. For dating information, previous articles, or to sign up for Tom’s complimentary, weekly e-newsletter, go to www. findingloveafter60.com.
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