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Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together we are ONE TRIBE. What I Learned About ‘Building A Better Business Brain’ From The Garbage Man: A ‘Love’ Note. Dr. Brynn Winegard You Are The Designer Of Your Dream Life Nina Sadlowsky Be Your Body’s Biggest Cheerleader Karyn Holt The Love Camera Burt Kempner How Marie Kondo Changed My Life Stephanie Conway The Power Of Now Christine Schlonski Assassin’s Creed Dawn Bates Coming Home To Your Soul Juliette Wells A Journey To Wholeness And Completenes Winnie Mabena What To Do When No One Showed You How To Have Hot Sex, Love And Closeness Joanna Intara Want To Be A Positive Thinker 3 Things You Really Need To Know Robert Landau The Formula For Success Begins With A K.i.s.s Vanessa Louise Birt Meditation Sandra G. M. Jarvis Looking Fo Butterflies Andy Ferguson & Larry Rosenberg, Phd Words Matter Jennifer Thorp My Story Christina Bartlet Healing Your Inner Children Through Your Journaling Journey Charmaine Barber The Halt Phase Mercy Juma If Only You Could LISTEN Lyn Halvorsen I Was Scared To Be Happy Samantha Caroline Lavallée
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Our cover features the fabulous Nina Sadlowsky (above) International Results Coach & Speaker, Yoga Instructor, Essential Oils Lover from Munich, Germany. You can read Nina’s inspired article ‘You are the designer of your dream life’ on page 8. One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LIVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you find a happy, rewarding and fulfulled life. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 23 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media
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What I Learned About ‘Building A Better Business Brain’ From The Garbage Man: A ‘Love’ Note. Dr. Brynn Winegard | 04 You Are The Designer Of Your Dream Life Nina Sadlowsky | 08 Be Your Body’s Biggest Cheerleader Karyn Holt | 12 The Love Camera Burt Kempner | 15 How Marie Kondo Changed My Life Stephanie Conway | 16 The Power Of Now Christine Schlonski | 20 Assassin’s Creed Dawn Bates | 24 Coming Home To Your Soul Juliette Wells | 26 A Journey To Wholeness And Completenes Winnie Mabena | 30 What To Do When No One Showed You How To Have Hot Sex, Love And Closeness Joanna Intara | 32 Want To Be A Positive Thinker 3 Things You Really Need To Know Robert Landau | 34 The Formula For Success Begins With A K.i.s.s Vanessa Louise Birt | 36 Meditation Sandra G. M. Jarvis | 40 Looking Fo Butterflies Andy Ferguson & Larry Rosenberg, Phd | 42 Words Matter Jennifer Thorp | 46 My Story Christina Bartlet | 46 Healing Your Inner Children Through Your Journaling Journey Charmaine Barber | 48 The Halt Phase Mercy Juma | 50 If Only You Could LISTEN Lyn Halvorsen | 52 I Was Scared To Be Happy Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 54
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Dr. Brynn Winegard | Business-Brain Expert
Ranked 4th in the world for human behavior experts working in business, Dr. Brynn is an award-winning professor, professional speaker, and expert in business-brain sciences. After a decade in corporate marketing and a career as a business professor, today, Dr. Brynn can be found year-round on stages and screens all over the world departing frontier insights from brainscience in order that you can be better in all you do, personally and professionally. Dr. Brynn combines real-world experience with frontier research to deliver impactful programming that will be sure to elevate your daily business. Dr. Brynn has worked with the world’s top organizations – Google, Coca-Cola, Toyota, Pfizer, Johnson & Johnson, Nestle, USAA, Franklin Templeton, Raymond James, Georgia Pacific – among hundreds more. When Dr. Brynn isn’t speaking, she is a regularly featured expert commentator in television, radio, and print.
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‘Building a Better Business Brain’ from the Garbage Man: A ‘Love’ Note.
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‘hustling’ in what can sometimes feel like thankless, lonely, never-ending, potentiallyboring, patience-draining, challenging endeavors - I say bravo, and keep at it: I see you, value your efforts, and believe you deserve all the rewards that will inevitably come to you through your labors. You give me hope, faith, life - thank you for doing it, for trying so hard, for perfecting your craft, for keeping at it when no one was watching or asked you to.
Today I witnessed a sanitation engineer doing a fantastic job of picking up what was a sloppily piled, leaking set of gross looking bags at one of his stops: he carefully handled each one, placing each in an orderly fashion in the back-compaction area of his truck, stopping at one point to re-tie a bag curb-side, so it wouldn’t leak on its way as he placed it in. About 15 feet away, at his next stop, he opened a bin, threw the un-bagged contents into the back and carefully and specifically re-lidded the cans and organized them neatly in a straight line so as to keep them out of the pathway of future pedestrians or vehicles and in a position for much easier hauling by their owner(s) at day’s end. Like you, I’ve probably seen a hundred refuse collection agents pick up thousands of bags of trash in my lifetime, and I’ve almost never stopped to really observe their methods; though I have on occasion idly remarked what a hurry they were in; how haphazardly they threw the trash bin back onto the owners lawn; what disarray they had left behind in their hurry; perhaps that they had missed a bag or item or two; etc. Though all was forgiven: It’s likely a hard job to love and harder still to do to everyone’s liking - everyone’s a critic, aren’t they? Tiring, smelly, thankless, repetitive and never-ending - being a waste management professional seems to have more cons than pros. Which is why, this trash removal specialist was remarkable to me: for no extra pay, while he believed no one was watching, for no direct personal gain, to his greater expenditure of effort, attention, and time, he was doing a fantastic, thoughtful, orderly, conscientious job. And this got me thinking... I love when I see ordinary people doing an extraordinary job of something - when they really apply themselves; try hard; pay attention; give their whole head, heart, and soul to something - it gives me renewed faith in life, and hope, and civilization, and it gives me that all-over-tingly feeling - the ‘warm and fuzzies’ - that I just love. In my head I refer to this self-application, labor, effort, pride of craftsmanship, ownership, attention to detail, initiative, and energy as ‘hustle’ and in my mind’s definition it doesn’t include qualities like ‘used-car-salesmanship’, ‘taking advantage’, ‘forceful action’, ‘applying ‘spin’’, ‘enforcing undue influence’ or ‘hurriedness’ - it means just good old, old-fashioned, elbow-grease and hard work. And as my late Grandmother instilled in me, there’s absolutely no shame
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I’m on your side, but so is the relevant research: as it turns out, research corroborates that those with the cognitive wherewithal, discipline, focus and patience to do a good job for the purpose and satisfaction merely of having done so are *much* more likely to succeed in this world - with or without formally recognized ‘talent’ and ahead of the non-hustling ‘talented’ folks for sure. in hard work, no matter what that hard work is - even and especially in rubbish removal. It all got me thinking - why do I like ‘hustle’ so much…what about just plain and simple raw talent? Why does hard work tickle me so pleasantly while ‘talent’ has been known to prickle? I’m reminded here of Einstein’s assertion “Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration”...
It turns out you really do create your own fate and success - one effortful, laborious, difficult, challenging moment at a time; one foot in front of the other even when the going gets rough. I hear you, I see you, I thank you, I’m with you: and here’s to you Mr. Garbage Man! To help you along as you shoot for the stars, today, I leave you with these wise words from other people:
In my work as a professor, researcher, expert, professional speaker, ‘talent’ is often taken to mean intellectual capacity - formal intelligence - the ‘smartness’ of the naturally ‘superior’; while ‘hustle’ is the labor, repetition, work, and effort of more normal folk.
“The world belongs to the energetic.” – Emerson
But here’s the rub: the most successful people I know or have ever met, and indeed the ones comprising the subjects of the vast majority of ‘great’ biographies I’ve read, weren’t, aren’t, the most ‘talented’ folks.
“The ones who say you can’t are just afraid you will.” – Unknown
The most successful people were and continue to be the hardest working - the ‘hustlers’, according to the above definition: the longest suffering; the ones who got knocked down 8 times but got up 9; the ones who kept at it with consistency, patience, focus, pride of craftsmanship, self-discipline, responsibility, ownership, self-application, psychic investment, attention to detail, interest, task absorption even in the face of doubt, trial, tribulation, obstacles, nay-sayers, limited resources, low probabilities, no visibility, no hope of extra compensation ...traits that could easily be ascribed to the debris collection administrator I witnessed today. So, to him - and to all of you out there
“Without labor nothing prospers.” – Sophocles “Hustle in silence. Let your success make the Noise.” – Frank Ocean
“Hustle isn’t just working on the things you like. It means doing things you don’t enjoy so someday you can do the things you love.” - Unknown “Success is never owned, it’s rented. And the rent is due every damn day.” - Unknown “Opportunity looks a lot like hard work.” – Ashton Kutcher “Hustle beats talent when Talent doesn’t hustle.” – Ross Simmonds
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Designer You are the
of your dream life.
Nina Sadlowsky | International Results Coach & Speaker, Yoga Instructor, Essential Oils Lover.
Have you ever felt really good, inspired and energized? Have you ever thought that you would love to keep this feeling as long as possible? And have you ever wondered how you could recall and repeat this feeling?
And this is where we are able to design our life the way we truly want to live it. Healthy, happy and authentic. I made it happen and I still do every day. Because the transformation doesn’t stop here, it continues, it grows us so much, that we are not only transforming ourselves, but others, as this feeling of alignment, this light and power just magnetically transfers onto the people around us.
Yes, exactly, so I started asking myself the following question when I felt good and full of inspiration and energy: “Is this what it feels like when we are aligned?”
So, always remember:
In order to answer that question, I observed my thoughts and feelings intensively over days, weeks, months and even years. How? By being fully present, by meditating, moving my body, practicing yoga and having my coaches by my side.
“You hold the power to make this shift happen.” These past years, I have observed my thoughts, I have observed my feelings, I have questioned them, I have tracked them back, I have allowed myself to truly feel Nina fully without avoiding, without fearing, without ignoring. Now, I understand even more, how important it is to give things time.
And I’ve come to understand that “Yes, that’s it, this is what feeling aligned means to me.” These last two words, however, are critical, as you will experience that powerful feeling of alignment differently than I do.
“Because time is a good revealer of what’s really true.”
Nevertheless, I want to share my perspective on this feeling of alignment, as I’ve been able to experience it in such a positive and transformational way. I noticed that my thoughts are simply the children of my emotions, meaning when I’m in a positive mood and emotion, my thoughts tend to be more positive. However, it also works the other way around, being in a negative mood means I’ve been thinking more negative thoughts. It is as simple as that. Now, here’s the problem of this vicious circle, so let’s turn it around. If I have negative thoughts, a negative emotion is very likely to follow, and again it also works for my positive thoughts inducing positive emotions. The conclusion: “Be aware of your thoughts. They are the children of your emotions.” 8 | OneTribeMagazine.com
I happily noticed that • We always hold the power to shift our thoughts and hence our emotions. • We can decide to think positively at all times. • We have to actively and consistently practice mind and body work to allow these shifts to happen. • Once we do give ourselves that permission, we will experience true alignment and transformation.
To clarify, if you are caught up in a situation that annoys you, if someone makes a comment that triggers you, if you feel angry, sad or confused, I encourage you to not instantly react anymore (there are exceptions of course, we are just human). But, do your best instead to let this feeling run through you and to give it time to rest. When this feeling really settles somewhere within you and you cannot let go of it, you can still react at a later stage with a much clearer mind whilst speaking from your heart; but if this feeling doesn’t settle, then why would you react, right? Because every reaction requires your valuable energy, so why don’t you just step back for a bit to find out if it really messes up with your
alignment or not? This should make clear that not every situation or person requires your (immediate) reaction and is worth your energy. “Be aware of your energy.” Another thought I have around feeling aligned is that I truly believe that things happen for a reason. If something unpleasant happens in my life, I really do my best to remind myself that there must be a good reason for this happening, that this is a sign of the universe that something even better is just waiting for me around the corner. So, I decided to stop feeding the fires that drain me and that I cannot change anyways, and instead to focus on the things that I can change and feed them with love. “Stop feeding the fire. Feed love instead.” The quicker we accept the universal power, the quicker we accept our power, the more aligned we will feel, the more we can transform ourselves and the more we can design our dream lives. Another very important factor in designing our dream lives is the practice of letting go. Letting go of being right, but rather remembering that your reality is different than mine, that our realities differ. So, the term ‘being right’ doesn’t appear
reasonable anymore, as it is always a matter of perspective. That’s it. Don’t hold on to thoughts, emotions, things, people, opinions; they change, they evolve, they flow, they develop, but they never stand still, so instead of focusing on being right, let’s shift our attention to the associated feeling in the moment, and to what comes afterwards, which is alignment, space for the new and the freedom to design our life. Also, and I know it may sound ironic, but most of the time when I cannot let go, it is definitely time to let go. “When you cannot let go, it is definitely time to let go.” Letting go is closely connected to the feeling of alignment. I perceived that if something is aligned with me, be it a job, money, a house, a partner or a friend, it will stay. It will simply stay! It’s all about trust. When we trust life, when we trust the universe, when we understand that we are all connected and not on our own in this beautiful world that we live in, then the universe conspires to bring us lightness, happiness and positive transformation. In a feeling of trust, we don’t have to cling to people or things, we don’t have to control everything, we can simply let go and trust that with letting go, our lives will start shifting to the better and to a life by design.
“If it’s aligned, it will stay.” When I’m feeling aligned, I refer to a feeling of greatness and inspiration, of feeling strong and energized. In a state of alignment, I trust that everything will come to me when the time is right and when I’m ready to receive it. When feeling aligned, I feel the power within me that I am the designer of my dreams and my dream life. And I know that you have the power, too, to be the designer of your dream life. Align, transform and design your life for the results you desire. “You are the designer of your dream life.” May you live it healthily, happily and authentically! Yours, Nina
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When I’m feeling aligned, I refer to a feeling of greatness and inspiration, of feeling strong and energized. In a state of alignment, I trust that everything will come to me when the time is right and when I’m ready to receive it. – Nina Sadlowsky
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