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Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together we are ONE TRIBE. Soften Women,Soften – It Looks Good On You Linda Liv Doktar A Work Of Art And A Masterpiece Lenny Hadassah Zulu A Painful State Is Only Temporary Vanessa When You Are Thinking About Calling It Quits, This Game Changer Is All You Need Joanna Intara How We Can Use Perspectives To Understand Other People Charmaine Barber Rantings Of A Passionate Writer Samantha Caroline Lavallée Working 9-5 As A Sensitive/Empath Nicola Debley-Richardson Next Year Christine Saunders A Fable Burt Kempner How To Find Balance When Everything Around You Is Out Of Balance Kelsey Ward Putting The Nomad Into Digital Nomad Dawn Bates Personal Development And Community Andy Ferguson Why Failing Is A Good Thing Robert Landau When You Tell Yourself That You Are Not Lovable Liva Levica Don’t Respond To Rudeness. When People Are Rude To You, They Reveal Who They Are Not Who You Are. Don’t Take It Personally Ingrid Meijerink The Hero’s Journey – A Roadmap For Personal Development Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson
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If you do not see yourself as a masterpiece, you will sell yourself short on the black market of life because you do not know your value. – Lenny Hadassah Zulu
Our cover features the fabulous Lenny Hadassah Zulu (above), a Blogger / Writer who is Passionate about empowering young women in Zambia. You can read Lenny’s inspirational article ‘A work of ART and a MASTERPIECE’ on page 10. One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you FIND YOUR HAPPY. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 29 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine. Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. Articles in this magazine are for entertainment and do not substitute any medical advice. ©2020 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media
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Contents Soften Women,Soften – It Looks Good On You Linda Liv Doktar | 4 A Work Of Art And A Masterpiece Lenny Hadassah Zulu | 8 A Painful State Is Only Temporary Vanessa Louise Birt | 10 When You Are Thinking About Calling It Quits, This Game Changer Is All You Need Joanna Intara | 12 How We Can Use Perspectives To Understand Other People Charmaine Barber | 14 Rantings Of A Passionate Writer Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 16 Working 9-5 As A Sensitive/Empath Nicola Debley-Richardson | 18 Next Year Christine Saunders | 20 A Fable Burt Kempner | 23 How To Find Balance When Everything Around You Is Out Of Balance Kelsey Ward | 24 Putting The Nomad Into Digital Nomad Dawn Bates | 28 Personal Development And Community Andy Ferguson | 30 Why Failing Is A Good Thing Robert Landau | 32 When You Tell Yourself That You Are Not Lovable Liva Levica | 34 Don’t Respond To Rudeness. When People Are Rude To You, They Reveal Who They Are Not Who You Are. Don’t Take It Personally Ingrid Meijerink | 36 The Hero’s Journey – A Roadmap For Personal Development Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson | 38
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We now live in a world where women have taken on more of masculine roles in life. We have turned into ‘lady bosses’, ‘boss babes’, and powerful leaders and said - “I’ll do it all myself, I don’t need a man in my life.” This in turn has emasculated the men and created imbalance and disharmony in relationship dynamics. Men have felt unworthy and not needed, and feeling needed is naturally part of their essence of masculinity. Women have lost touch of their femininity, sensuality and magnetism. We have lost touch of our natural essence and radiance. We have disconnected from our playfulness and pleasure, and as a result we have began to find it difficult to receive. So many women now live life completely disconnected. We run around multi-tasking and doing everything for everyone else, and we put ourselves last. We take care of the children, the housework, the bills, the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning and all the rest. The moment we wake up we attend to everything else apart from our own needs. And now, the day already runs us. It also saddens me to see women empowerment being spread with a masculine approach. It saddens me to see so many women empower other women about feminine embodiment while being out of alignment with their own true natural essence. Where did it get so twisted? Where did we get it so mixed up? There is nothing feminine about being so “empowered and sure about ourselves” that we tell the rest of the world to get lost. There is nothing feminine about a potty mouth that sends a ‘get lost’ vibration into the world. There is nothing feminine about such posture that reflects changing the world with superhero attitude. It is time for a paradigm shift where us women do the work to return to our natural state of being. It is time for us to soften and return to 6 | OneTribeMagazine.com
our divine essence and nature, to embody feminine magnetism and open up to receiving. It is time for us to do the deep work to re-align and bring more balance and harmony back into relationships so that we can be better mothers, daughters, leaders and partners for our men. It is time to embody all that it means to be a woman, so that we can be women and the men can be men. It is time to soften, and as a result allow the feminine and masculine to merge back into perfect harmony. Being a woman is about gentleness, humbleness and leaning into softness. It is a power that stems from BE-ingness and IS-ness, not from try-HARD-ness. Yet so many women are now taking a stance in this world to show and prove the world how powerful they are. Being a powerful woman is not about proving ourselves or taking a stance with a sword in the ground. The divine feminine superpower is her IS-ness. She doesn’t have to try, she just IS. She receives from flow and she is empowered from within, and not led by external validation or approval. She owns and embodies her essence and archetypes equally. She is a nice girl, wild girl, queen, mother and maiden. She is a huntress, goddess, warrioress and a sensual lover. She is a mystic, a healer and a wise woman. And now, it is time for us women to soften and return to our natural
essence of the divine feminine. Our softness is what heals, holds and changes the world. Our gentleness is what leaves a true mark. Our humbleness is what attracts magic into our life. Our magnetism is what allows us to receive from flow. Our IS-ness and BE-ingness is what allows us to receive. Women are creators. We birth life into this world. We already are powerful beyond measure. There is no need to prove our power. Our softness IS our power and our magnetism is what allows us to receive in life, business and relationships. It is time to crack open the hard shell and hang up the masculine bossy boots. It is time to return to our natural state of being and embody our true divine feminine essence. Because when we return to our softness and connect to our sensuality we become magnetic and regain our confidence. It is time for us to play, be present, and connect to the art of surrender and receiving. And from this place we return into perfect balance, and as a result we allow the feminine and masculine to merge back into perfect harmony in this existence. Soften women, soften – it looks good on you.
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It is time to return to our natural state of being and embody our true divine feminine essence.
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A work of ART and a MASTERPIECE Lenny Hadassah Zulu | Blogger / Writer Passionate about empowering young women to discover their worth and value.
nothing will ever be good enough for you, you will always see the cup as half empty, you will always see yourself as just plain old art and not the masterpiece that you truly are.
You are a work of art. A masterpiece. You’re one of a kind because there’s only one you. You are unique, everything about you is unique; your voice print, fingerprints, DNA, eye print, yes you’re that special. You’re a very special and unique human being, now these are some real super powers.
When you realize you’re a masterpiece, you will come to know that you are enough. Yes, just you without any additions. What this means is everything you will ever need to become who you’re supposed to be is inside you; you don’t have to go searching for it in others because it’s right inside you. So, search deep within yourself. Get to know yourself, discover you, go on an adventure to conquer new territory within yourself. Discover the treasure buried deep within you. Chart uncharted places inside you.
You need to come to the full knowledge of just how special and unique you are, the world needed one of you. When you finally come to the knowledge of who you really are, you will feel good about yourself, you will walk with your head held high, you will want everyone you have an encounter with to feel good about themselves too. Bitterness begets bitterness, when you are bitter and angry that is what you will give birth to, something that’s exactly like you. Therefore, when you’re sweet on the inside that is what you will give to others because that’s exactly what you have on the inside. Since you are a work of art, it’s hard to compare you to anyone else, because they can never be you. Have the sense that you are irreplaceable because we can never find another you, no matter how hard we try, even identical twins are not exactly the same. If you do not see yourself as a masterpiece, you will sell yourself short on the black market of life because you do not know your value. Valuable things are sold for less on the black market. Being a work of art has nothing to do with how others see you, what matters most is how you see yourself. This all starts from your head, your mind; who are you really in your mind? Do you beat yourself up in your mind? Do you talk down to yourself in your 8 | OneTribeMagazine.com
mind? Are you a pauper in your mind? You need to understand that you can never outrun your mind, you may try to but eventually it will catch up with you. Your mind runs faster than your good intentions ever will; have you ever come across the saying that goes like “Where the mind goes, the man follows”? This is so true, you will always end up where your mind goes. Endeavor to work on how you see yourself in your head. Once your mind is free, the rest of your life will follow. The good news is, you can control your mind, because it’s yours, so own it, never allow your mind to own you. It’s not the best master, especially if it’s a negative one. With a negative mind,
Becoming a work of art will require work on your part, inner work. Like a diamond you’ll need to be polished. Never shun inner work. That’s what conquering new territory within yourself entails, inner work, that’s how you become a work of art. So we’ve established the fact that there’s only one you, now don’t you think that’s worth celebrating? We should probably throw you a party, or maybe there’s no need to because “you are the party”.
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yourself. Get to know yourself, discover you, go on an adventure to conquer new territory within yourself. Lenny Hadassah Zulu
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