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Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together we are ONE TRIBE. How To Find Your Purpose In Life & Live The Life You Want Anushka Swalef The Journey Into Healing Addictions Linda Liv Doktar Your “Inner” Leader Robert Landau They Say We All Have A Story Right? Bec Mcmillan I Have No Time Carmelle Crinnion A Letter From The Universe Katie Moriarty Have Yourself A Mindful Little Christmas Hannah Galliers You Won’t Believe It But This One Thing Made All The Difference In Getting Me Close To My Hubby And Him Close To Me Joanna Intara Poppy Or Sunflower Which One Are You? Dawn Bates Vulnerable? You Bet! Kerri Lake I Release You Burt Kempner It’s What You Do Ariaa Jaegar How To Rewrite A Limiting Belief Emily Formea You Can’t Rush A River Samantha Caroline Lavallée You’re A Hopeless Control Freak Vanessa Louise Birt Natural Ways You Can Treat And Avoid High Blood Pressure During The Festive Season And Beyond Helen Nachintu All Limitations Are Self Imposed Charmaine Barber Trauma Is Not Linear Christine Saunders From Pleading To Commanding Mercy Juma Crystal Love - Mother Earth Energies Neenna Kaur Reimagineering Andy Ferguson
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Our cover features the fabulous Bec McMillan (above), Mental Health & Multidimensional Mentor currenlty living in Queensland, Australia. You can read Bec’s inspirational story ‘They say we all have a story right? ’ on page 14. One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you FIND YOUR HAPPY. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 26 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine. Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. Articles in this magazine are for entertainment and do not substitute any medical advice. ©2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media
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How To Find Your Purpose In Life & Live The Life You Want Anushka Swalef | 04 The Journey Into Healing Addictions Linda Liv Doktar | 06 Your “Inner” Leader Robert Landau | 12 They Say We All Have A Story Right? Bec Mcmillan | 14 I Have No Time Carmelle Crinnion | 20 A Letter From The Universe Katie Moriarty | 24 Have Yourself A Mindful Little Christmas Hannah Galliers | 26 You Won’t Believe It But This One Thing Made All The Difference In Getting Me Close To My Hubby And Him Close To Me. Joanna Intara | 30 Poppy Or Sunflower Which One Are You? Dawn Bates | 32 Vulnerable? You Bet! Kerri Lake | 34 I Release You Burt Kempner | 37 It’s What You Do Ariaa Jaegar | 38 How To Rewrite A Limiting Belief Emily Formea | 42 You Can’t Rush A River Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 46 You’re A Hopeless Control Freak Vanessa Louise Birt | 48 Natural Ways You Can Treat And Avoid High Blood Pressure During The Festive Season And Beyond Helen Nachintu | 50 All Limitations Are Self Imposed Charmaine Barber | 52 Trauma Is Not Linear Christine Saunders | 54 From Pleading To Commanding Mercy Juma | 56 Crystal Love - Mother Earth Energies Neenna Kaur | 60 Reimagineering Andy Ferguson | 64
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What if there is more to life than just being born, educated, career, marriage, children, daily routine and die? What if there is a reason why each and every one of us is here with a purpose? What if that purpose is larger than just you but how you can use your unique talent and passion to serve, spread love, kindness and happiness for the benefit of others? My name is Anushka and I’m a Life Fulfillment Mentor. I help people get unstuck and live the life they want aligned with their talent, passion and purpose. But only a few years back I was in a completely different mindset and had a completely different life. I was a Dutch diplomat working for the United Nations. I moved to Switzerland to join my (then) husband and worked in a draining corporate job until I found my purpose. How did I do that and how can you too? I am one of the exceptionally lucky people who had a loving childhood. I did everything I was supposed to according to my upbringing and education: studies, career, marriage. On the day of my 30th birthday, I got a phone call from my employer telling me they were sending me to Rome, my first foreign posting as a young diplomat. I did a happy dance as this was a dream come true! Moving to Rome was indeed a dream but the job at the Embassy was not. I realised that you can be living in the most beautiful place in the world, in the best conditions, but if you are working in a toxic environment not aligned with your values you can be very unhappy. I had joined the diplomatic corps, after studying International Peace & Security, thinking I was helping people but I realised diplomacy was all about power politics and personal status. I left diplomacy, moved to Geneva, Switzerland, to get married and chose to work in the corporate sector. Life was fine and I got pregnant. But at six months pregnancy, I was told the baby would not survive. I had to give birth to a stillborn baby boy and my life changed completely. My values changed; the way I saw life changed. I went on a self-
development quest seeking answers to questions like “what is happiness?” and “what do people have who do not have the career, partner, child, but have inner peace and happiness?”. I said yes to every experience that made people happy: yoga, meditation, creative courses, retreats, articles, books etc. Then one day, an inspirational speaker coach waltzed into my life, called Mahima. She propelled me forward on my path to happiness. She helped me unravel my fears, limiting beliefs, understand selflove, the ego mind vs intuition, and spoke to me about your purpose and mission in life. As I have been highly educated, I always used my analytical mind to understand the world. I felt great resistance to what she was telling me. I didn’t know how to go inside. I listened to my intuition and signed up for a 12-month programme. I went on the journey inside with her and a group of others we call our tribe. We created a safe place and connected on a deeply human, soul-centered level. Six months into the programme magic happened … I remember it so vividly. Not one, not two but four tribe members spoke out and said that because of me they had found their purpose! It may only have been a question I asked which gave them an insight, or something I shared or said. Each time I was in tears … I had finally found my purpose to help people live a better life. Not by being a diplomat and working at the UN in development cooperation but by serving the people around me in finding their purpose and living the life they want. Since then I have had to learn how to become an independent entrepreneur, having your own business, defining your niche, creating the clients you want. The beginning was a roller coaster of ups and downs. I realised that the only way I was going to create anything and be successful was by grounding myself first. So I did and still do every day with my morning routine of yoga, meditation and affirmations.
force on what I call my rainbow. I am serving my clients in a way that touches me deeply when I hear how they are transforming their lives. I work locally and internationally 1:1 with clients all over the world, organise retreats, workshop, speak at events, will do a TEDx talk and am writing my (first) book! Our world is full of people who have gone through burnout, take painkillers, alcohol or drugs to escape reality which is all in their mind. Unfortunately, it takes major trauma or illness before we wake up and start living! People in my corporate job were always talking about the weekend or their next holiday. Like we all need a break from life! This is YOUR life and the time is NOW. Don’t wait for your retirement from a draining job before you start living. The first step is choosing to do the inner work and say “Enough! Now I want to find out who I am and what makes me happy”. Find a coach you connect with, go on this transformational journey, understand who you are – as the Greek philosophers said “Know Thyself”. This is the essence of life, of your purpose on earth. Find YOUR purpose and live the life YOU want! I would be happy to serve you on your life fulfillment path.
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Addictions Linda Liv Doktar Embodiment Coach for High Achievers
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“If you can’t be without it for a few days, it’s an addiction.” Someone once said to me many moons ago when I was in the midst of facing my addiction shadows. This was so confronting to hear that I chose to brush it under the carpet. I had no desire to believe in this statement. Yet it never left my mind… I knew it had some truth to it. I knew I was addicted. I was addicted to escapism. In this paradigm when most people refer to addictions, they refer to excessive behaviour and substances, such as; drugs, alcohol, gambling, cigarettes, pharmaceuticals or sex. However, where addiction can also show up is with food, sugar, coffee, exercise, energy drinks, chewing gum and so on. I speak of ANYTHING that we think we “can’t be without” for more than a day or two. In fact, most likely the thought of being without IT (the thing) even for a day may encounter some suffocating anxiety? Once upon a time I resisted this concept as I knew I could go without ‘the thing’ for a few days. I had willpower and I knew I could do anything, therefore I also believed that I wasn’t addicted. I know those days of “going without” all too well…. The constant fight with my inner being. The facing of my shadow states and uncomfortable parts of myself. Yet I was still committed to proving to myself and to the world that I wasn’t addicted. So my willpower won, therefore I perceived myself as a winner. Truth is, anyone’s willpower can ‘win’ short term. But willpower itself is NOT the solution to healing the root cause and origin of our addictions. Otherwise, this ‘willpower’ would have kept more of us free from ongoing and over-indulgent substances and behaviours. This may be a little confronting... I know this all too well as I battled with my own addictions for more than two decades. My entire life I have fought severe addictions. It started from an early age. I 8 | OneTribeMagazine.com
remember binging on sugar when 3 years old. Having two ice creams instead of one. And eating all the cakes and sweets at the other kids birthday parties instead of playing with the other children. As I grew a little older I began to self-pleasure from the age 11 or 12. I found my parents intimate magazines and movies, and sooner than later this had also become and addiction for me. My whole childhood I was exposed to various heavy addictions. Dad was severely addicted to alcohol and mum was addicted to coffee, and she also enjoyed her 2 beers or ciders every single night. So in my world, this became a daily normal. And before I knew it I was addicted to food, sugar, binge drinking, drugs, partying, sex, self-pleasure and all the rest. My addictive behaviours sent me into a downward spiral and later I also found myself heavily addicted to crystal meth. I knew I had a severe problem, yet I even numbed the knowing of that fact.
Truth is, anything can be perceived as ‘healthy’ until the meaning and intent changes. Generally speaking, we see addictions as “problems”. Hence, we have huge resistance and shame around this concept and reality. Addictions are not problems, addictions are solutions. Addictions are solutions to escaping our inner being and our uncomfortableness that we aren’t willing to face. They are immediate distractions, numbing mechanisms and selfmedication processes. It is time to stop judging the substances and behaviours, and to cease labelling them as ‘the devil’. This will only make us resent our reality which causes tremendous amount of self-loathe, self-hatred and self-judgement. Love and judgement cannot exist in the same place at the same time. The more I hated and resented my behaviours, the more I stayed in my addictive cycles to numb the uncomfortableness.
As I awakened to more self-inquiry and realisation of my own inner being, I managed to let go of the meth in a drop of a hat. I knew how destructive it was and since then I have never returned to using this substance, not even once in the last 7 years since I quit. Now I had let go of all drugs, binge drinking, and constant addictive self-pleasure and sex patterns. I even decided to take a year off being intimate with men as I had made a commitment to myself that I was going to break all of my addictions.
I had to learn to love myself deeply in order to let go. And as they journey of deep self-love has brought me to where I am today, I have been able to let go and heal so many of my addictive patterns. And healing from addictions is not about eliminating the substance/ behaviour for the rest of our lives - unless we choose. Healing form addictions is not about carrying our past limiting identities for the rest of our lives - unless we choose. Healing from addictions is an inward journey into being with what we have kept running away from.
I did whatever it took to let go of my unhealthy patterns and kept eliminating them one by one. But what I didn’t realise at the time was that each addiction was simply transferred to the next. I then found myself rotating between sugar binges and exercise binges. I lived a story that sugar was ‘nothing compared to ice’, and that exercise was healthy!
And on the journey of healing, holding onto labels like ‘recovering alcoholic’ only makes us hold onto shame and guilt from our past. I never chose a label of ‘recovering ice addict’ as that is not who I chose to be. I didn’t desire to keep judging my past, so I chose to fully re-create myself. Now, as a powerful Expansion & Embodiment Coach I know and understand that we
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keep creating our reality based on the beliefs and identities we carry. And we manifest reality through our emotions. When we escape our emotions, we also escape all the goodness and bounty that is our birthright. Addictions can also lay dormant and hidden in our daily routines and we may be completely unconscious to our distractions. It is not the substance or the behaviour that is a ‘problem’ per say, it is the distraction and escapism from our own inner being. This year I realised I had carried a dormant ‘cycling addiction’ where I had relied on one of three socially normal and acceptable substances; coffee, ceremonial cacao or sugar. On several occasions I didn’t touch one or two of the three for weeks. Yet when I joined a 10-week health journey to re-set my body I had made a decision to approach this journey being as “clean’ as possible, as well as heal my gut and re-set my adrenals. This meant no coffee, ceremonial cacao or sugar during this time. As I let go of all three, I noticed myself panic. I caught myself ‘looking for something’ each and every day. I had an urge to reach out for one of the three, and in the moment, I didn’t care which it was. I approached this from a space of curiosity and dug even deeper within myself. What emotions and inner states did I still want to run away from? With my destructive addictive past I had made a pact and a lifelong commitment to myself that I would do whatever it takes to heal and to stop running away from the uncomfortable parts of me – no matter how long it took. Because I know that this was planted in my path of soul work to also help others heal from addictions. So of course, I had to first experience and heal my own. This purpose work has found me deep in the realms of emotional alchemy and embodiment – the exact ‘medicine’ that helped me heal and let go. I also had to learn to love myself unconditionally and heal the relationship with my body and my emotions. I learnt to release guilt and shame and learnt to be at peace with all parts of me. This changed everything for 10 | OneTribeMagazine.com
me, and I have also been able to impact thousands of others with my soul work and by sharing my own experiences. The journey into healing our wounds and addictions is a journey we must choose to take ourselves. Healing is a choice, just like remaining in a wounded place filled with addictions is also a choice. I chose to heal. And I still do. But I don’t heal from a place that “I’m broken”. Because I am not. And neither are you. I heal to let go of what doesn’t serve so that I can keep expanding into the highest level of Self and reality of what I desire to hold within my life. We don’t receive what we want, we receive who we ARE and who we BE. Let’s learn to let go of the guilt, shame and disempowering labels and identities. Let’s also keep doing the work to get to know and be at peace with our emotions, and to re-create ourselves so that we can vibrationally align to receive what we truly desire. Willpower does not heal addictions. Healing equals feeling. And the only way to… IS THROUGH.
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