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Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together we are ONE TRIBE. Featuring: How Do You Choose To Show Up In Life? Nina Sadlowsky Billy Joel: Piano Man And Divorce Coach Esther Mccann I Walk Naked With All My Imperfections & Darkness Feela Light April Showers Bring May Flowers Christine Saunders How To Heal Holistically Audra Oakes Be With Someone... Samantha Caroline Lavallée Freedom And Happiness Winnie Mabena The Conundrum Of Choice Andrew Gregory The Best Ways To Get Through Life Robert Landau My Story James Roberts The Key To Beating Jealousy Kate Caddle Be Willing To Look At The Inner Parts That Don’t Want You To Be Happy So You Can Be Fulfilled Joanna Intara The Ripple Effect Dawn Bates Let’s Give Our Children The Gift Of Awareness Jenaya Huxter The Power Of Zing – Part 1: Putting More Spice In Your Life Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson What Does A Collaborative Team Look Like? Gill Tiney A Woman Of Substance Vanessa Louise Moore A Walk In Springtime – Lifting Our Mood And The Rhythm Of Life Lyn Halvorsen How Being Visible Has Been The Most Healing Experience For My Inner Growth Juliette Stapleton Groundhog Day? Andy Ferguson The Power Of Zing – Part 2: How To Become A Master Zinger Larry Rosenberg My Top 10 Inspirational Quotes (May 2019) Alice Landry When I’m Gone Burt Kempner
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If you too are on a yellow brick road, just click your heels and say: There’s no place like finding myself.
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Our cover features the amazing Esther McCann (above), a highly respected Intuitive Manifestation Mentor from Bristol, England. You can read Esther’s insightful article ‘Billy Joel: Piano Man And Divorce Coach’ on page 8. One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you find a happy, rewarding and fulfulled life. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 20 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media
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Contents One Soul Tribe
Love
World
Self
How Do You Choose To Show Up In Life? Nina Sadlowsky | 04 Billy Joel: Piano Man And Divorce Coach Esther Mccann | 08 I Walk Naked With All My Imperfections & Darkness Feela Light | 10 April Showers Bring May Flowers Christine Saunders | 12 How To Heal Holistically Audra Oakes | 14 Be With Someone... Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 18 Freedom And Happiness Winnie Mabena | 20 The Conundrum Of Choice Andrew Gregory | 22 The Best Ways To Get Through Life Robert Landau | 24 My Story James Roberts | 26 The Key To Beating Jealousy Kate Caddle | 28 Be Willing To Look At The Inner Parts That Don’t Want You To Be Happy So You Can Be Fulfilled Joanna Intara | 30 The Ripple Effect Dawn Bates | 32 Let’s Give Our Children The Gift Of Awareness Jenaya Huxter | 34 The Power Of Zing – Part 1: Putting More Spice In Your Life Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson | 38 What Does A Collaborative Team Look Like? Gill Tiney | 42 A Woman Of Substance Vanessa Louise Moore | 44 A Walk In Springtime – Lifting Our Mood And The Rhythm Of Life Lyn Halvorsen | 46 How Being Visible Has Been The Most Healing Experience For My Inner Growth Juliette Stapleton | 48 Groundhog Day? Andy Ferguson | 50 The Power Of Zing – Part 2: How To Become A Master Zinger Larry Rosenberg | 52 My Top 10 Inspirational Quotes (May 2019) Alice Landry | 54 When I’m Gone Burt Kempner | 56
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How do you choose to
show up in life? Nina Sadlowsky | International Results Coach, Yoga Instructor, Essential Oils Lover. And you are a beautiful person inside out, you are unique and perfect in not being perfect.
Do you know these moments in life when you feel like being in the mud? Those times when you feel low in energy, demotivated, overwhelmed and simply exhausted? When you question the things you are doing?
So, if perfectionism is such a deal breaker to our expansion and growth, why is it that we have this idea of perfectionism in our head? We all know it’s not coming from our heart.
Yes, the mud comes in many facets, in different shapes and forms, yet it always leaves us feeling stuck. And it’s not easy to pull yourself out of the mud, right? I feel you. Over the last years, I have felt stuck in the mud more than once, but I also understood more with every single day of my life that it is only up to me, whether I’m stuck or free, tired or energetic, bored or motivated, exhausted or active. Maybe you disagree thinking that certain life situations put you into that mental and emotional state and that you can’t do anything about it. But let’s be honest here. It’s always up to you, me and us! We all have faced the muddy times in our lives, yet what really matters is the answer to the following question: “How do you show up when you are in the mud?” Isn’t there a temptation to make excuses, to be lazy and to hide from that situation? Yes, I hear you, but what I believe we do is we actually hide from our own life. Because, we all have tough times and although I sometimes wish we didn’t, I truly believe they are part of our life and that they do serve a specific purpose. The purpose of reflection, change, expansion and growth. So, let me ask you: “When you are in the mud, which excuses are you reaching for?” 4 | OneTribeMagazine.com
Why do we keep using perfectionism as an excuse? Why do we sabotage ourselves to live in expansion and growth? I encourage you to write them down, not only now, but whenever you are in the mud, with the objective of deepening your awareness for the excuses you are reaching for. • Are you tired? • Is perfectionism getting into your way? • Do you not have enough time, money or knowledge?
I think the answer is simple: We are scared. We are scared of not being enough. We are scared of showing up as ourselves. We are scared of not succeeding, yet also of succeeding. Because we don’t know what comes after the success, right? Maybe we are not ready. Maybe we don’t know how to deal with it all. Maybe we worry about the opinions of others.
I am certainly more of a perfectionist than I am not, but thanks to my well established, daily awareness practice, I observed that my perfectionism has probably been one of my biggest excuses.
But let me tell you that you are always in charge of your life.
What does perfectionism mean?
• You can choose to grow into your best self. In every moment of the day.
To me, perfectionism means I’m choosing to be less of myself. Nobody is perfect, never has been, never will. Neither will the conditions ever be perfect, that’s just not going to happen and we all know that! I also reflected on the impact that perfectionism has on our lives and I found that it is the biggest thief of joy. It also stops our actions, it keeps us from progressing and it hinders us to fully show up as ourselves.
• You can choose to pull yourself out of that muddy situation. • You can choose to live in expansion and growth.
• You can choose to see a tough time as a massive opportunity to catapult yourself massively forward in life and in business. “Are you courageous enough to play with the mud?” Life is a beautiful playground, a space where we experience the good and bad times, the light and tense moments, love and fear, expansion and throwbacks.
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Life is a beautiful playground, a space where we experience the good and bad times, the light and tense moments, love and fear, expansion and throwbacks. – Nina Sadlowsky
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In order to play with the mud and use it for our own expansion and growth, I believe we need to lovingly and playfully look at all the layers within ourselves that don’t serve us any longer. This is a constant process that - when played out fully - will help you tremendously in removing your fears, the fears that make you reach for excuses, such as perfectionism, and that will eventually prevent you from expanding and growing. “Now, how can you turn this around?” Ask yourself, how you can use your revealed fears to transfer them into impactful habits. I have found that the best solution is to stay in action every single day. No, I don’t mean the hustle; I talk about taking consistent action every day without the hustle, the busy-ness and the perfection. Know that taking action can be gentle, too, but ensure you take some kind of action. And be aware of the word “sometime”. You can do something consistently in part time or full time, but never ever even think about taking action some time. Or it will kill the action altogether. Show up consistently for your life and take action every day, if you want to get your desired results. Think about which morning and/or evening activities serve you to take consistent action, actions that keep your energy levels high, that make you gain good momentum, that keep you riding that wave of momentum, that make you choose expansion and growth. So, do you choose to live in expansion and growth?
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Show up consistently for your life and take action every day, if you want to get your desired results. – Nina Sadlowsky
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Choose a journey of authenticity; you are responsible for your happiness, your time is now to create that life of fulfilment. – Esther McCann
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Billy Joel: Piano Man and Divorce Coach Esther McCann | Manifestation Mentor I’m going to tell you a tale and I have to warn you it gets worse before it gets better. Like how Snow White is toast and in the glass box until the prince appears. So bear with me. Once upon a time, there was a girl (who was pushing 30), on her morning commute. Her noble steed was actually a car, that also serves as a dustbin and karaoke bar on wheels. It is where all McDonald’s drive-thru wrappers are laid to rest and where she holds regular concerts for 1. That girl, not yet a woman, is me. It was a grey morning; the month doesn’t matter much because, in England, grey is a colour for all seasons. I heard “The River of Dreams” on the radio in my car; I had heard it many times before but had compartmentalised it in my mental discography along with “Hakuna Matata” and “The Lion Sleeps Tonight”. I didn’t know the lyrics and at that point, it was still in that section of the library. Later that day a friend recommended it as a song I should try to cover. I thought this an odd coincidence, but at the time I had little understanding of synchronicities and universal signs. So I went home and started to lyrically listen to the song that was going to change my life forever. Rewind to a few months earlier. For quite some time I had known my marriage was in trouble. I had tried to suggest marriage counselling but that always fell flat on its behind. When I entered my marriage I felt confident and used to express myself through various mediums. But quite quickly, whoever I was got quashed and she took a big yellow taxi to anywhere I wasn’t. She wasn’t gone forever, but she changed her number and blocked me on Instagram so I couldn’t find her. I had been compromising on being myself for years and more than anything, I just wanted to be loved. This is the part where you say “awwww”. I listened to the song, slowly the lyrics washed over me. That was the turning point when I hired Billy Joel to coach me through my divorce. Billy isn’t aware
of this, so I hope he won’t send me an invoice for the number of hours he put in because I’m sure he’s not cheap. I went straight into a deep depression. Sorry, Billy and everyone reading this. For two weeks from 7 am to 11 pm, he was in my ear, giving me grief and pushing me to do something about the inevitable. I would walk to the school gates but in my mind, I was walking with Billy down to the river and he would say “it’s too hard to cross”. I would reply “you’re damn right its too hard Billy, why are you showing me this?”. How was I ever going to make a stand for what I deserved? It felt utterly impossible and hopeless. And there was the incessant question of what was I looking for?? I wasn’t sure what that was either but I knew something more existed and I needed to find it. Billy told me that he’d lost a part of himself and it wasn’t intentional, he’d lost “Something somebody stole”. I felt so angry that I’d allowed my light to be extinguished and I was living somebody else’s dream. I felt like an empty shell and I was tired of not being myself. It felt like my solution and destination were both in thick fog and I didn’t know where to start. One day, I decided to Google “how to leave your husband”. It’s like that song “50 ways to leave a lover” by Paul Simon. Except when you’re a mum and you have equity in a house, you can’t just hop on the bus Gus and drop off the key Lee. You have to get yourself together and have a plan, Stan. Google has all the answers, it knows when you have a fungal infection and it knows ways to leave husbands. I found a forum where a lady had written her husband a letter. I thought this would suit me down to the ground because I hate confrontation, usually chicken out, or the words come out wrong. I thought a letter would give me a chance to explain how I truly feel and when I’d given it to him I could hide behind the sofa like a kid during a horror movie.
At the end of the forum post, the lady had signed off. Her name was “Esther” too. I knew it was another sign so I followed her advice. I wrote my letter and carried it around in my handbag, like a piece of forgotten homework, all the while listening to Billy and trying to find my courage. I was hoping the Wizard of Oz might show up and bestow some on me but he never came. You have to be your own heroine sometimes if you want to live happily ever after. Fast forward and today, the girl (in her 30s), lives in the house of her dreams with her daughter and her dog. She has the relationship she longed for, and a career that sets her on fire helping others manifest their desires too. You create your own reality. I have been asked several times where I found the courage to give over my letter and what was the turning point. Being brave doesn’t look like slaying the dragon, or pushing the witch off a cliff; being brave is choosing to love yourself. You are allowed to feel scared and uncertain, as long as you know that you always deserve to be unapologetically you. Choose a journey of authenticity; you are responsible for your happiness, your time is now to create that life of fulfilment. Only settle for the dream that lights you up. If you too are on a yellow brick road like mine, just click your heels and say “There’s no place like finding myself”. Thank you to Billy Joel for mirroring my journey through your words and for coaching me to cross my river. “We’re all carried along by the River of Dreams”. Billy Joel
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