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Was The Year That Was Kenny Ball Free The Nipple Bianca Spears Self Love 101 Isik Tlabar How I Overcame Depression In A Day And Became Free Preparing Your Vortex For Living Your Best Year Yet Vanessa Louise Moore 12 Prompts To Feel Instantly Fulfilled And Alive Jessica Cleverley Do This Before You Leap Into 2019 Amanda Bellia Wish I May Wish I Might Christine Saunders What Men Wish Women Knew About Men Samareh Rahnavardi I Am Shy Before, I Am Confident Winnie Mabena Why The Need For An Instant Gratification Is Killing Your Success Juliette Stapleton Believe You Deserve Universe Will Serve Neena Kaur The Art Of Love Is So Simple Yet We’ve Made It So Complex Samantha Caroline Lavallée 3 keys To creating An Extraordinary 2019 Theodore Treveil Just Before Midnight Andy Ferguson Free Choice Of Energy Jennifer Thorp Joanna Intara
Saying it and preaching it while hiding wouldn’t be living in alignment with my values. rs Bianca Spea
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Our cover features the amazing Bianca Spears (above), a highly respected Author and Empowerment Coach from Australia. You can read Bianca’s insightful article ‘Free The Nipple” on page 6 – One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you through life’s many challenges. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 16 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media
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Contents One Soul Tribe
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That Was The Year, That Was Kenny Ball | 04 Free The Nipple Bianca Spears | 06 Self Love 101 Isik Tlabar | 14 How I Overcame Depression In A Day And Became Free Joanna Intara | 16 Preparing Your Vortex For Living Your Best Year Yet Vanessa Louise Moore | 18 12 Prompts To Feel Instantly Fulfilled And Alive Jessica Cleverley | 20 Do This Before You Leap Into 2019 Amanda Bellia | 22 Wish I May Wish I Might Christine Saunders | 24 What Men Wish Women Knew About Men Samareh Rahnavardi | 26 I Am Shy Before, I Am Confident Winnie Mabena | 28 Why The Need For An Instant Gratification Is Killing Your Success Juliette Stapleton | 32 Believe You Deserve Universe Will Serve Neena Kaur | 34 The Art Of Love Is So Simple Yet We’ve Made It So Complex Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 36 3 keys To creating An Extraordinary 2019 Theodore Treveil | 40 Just Before Midnight Andy Ferguson | 42 Free Choice Of Energy Jennifer Thorp | 44
New Year New You MA GAZINE
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MA GAZINE Wherever you are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together are ONE TRIBE. Kenny Ball | Editor & Creative Director
That was the year, that was.
always seeking answers on the far side of complexity but ignoring that the answer lies on the near side of simplicity. So for me in 2019, my intention is not to complicate life, but move forward, take regular action, and most of all keep it simple. Remember complexity leads to procrastination.
As we enter a new year and reflect on the past one, what lessons can we carry forward to help us live authentically every day? For myself, it’s been a year of mixed emotions from great sadness after losing my dear mum at the end of January 2018, to great joy in seeing my children grow into the remarkable independent human beings they are today. I have also come to realise that the choice is within us all to become whatever we want to be and that there is no final destination, but with a lifelong pursuit of personal development, you can live a life of wonder and absolute amazement. Publishing this magazine over the last year has allowed me to meet up with
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some fabulous souls both virtually and inperson who have all been instrumental in moving One Tribe forward in 2018. Thank you to all and every one of you. I am so humbled to be in this position of trust to deliver such powerful life-affirming messages to the world through the global phenomenon that is One Tribe Magazine. No doubt you may have been like me,
So at the end of my days when I’m looking back and saying, ‘that was my life, that was’, I can smile in contentment and be at peace with myself as having lived the most joyful, rewarding and fulfilled life I could with the resources to hand. The One Tribe team wish you a Happy New Year and all the very best for 2019.
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The Unveil Experience is all about being witnessed in your vulnerability and absolute beauty in communion with nature, discovering the depth of self worth and love you have within you.
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Playing in the waves and dancing in the setting sun, natural, the way I was born felt right, it felt natural. 8 | OneTribeMagazine.com
FREE the nipple Remove the taboo that we place on women’s nipples Bianca Spears | Empowerment Coach & Author Early in my pregnancy, I held back in sharing any bump photos on social media or even with family. I’d barely even taken any because I felt a bit weird with the changes going on in my body. My bump looked a little like a gut at times, and perhaps even, as my dad had joked, looked like I’d “had a few too many beers”. I think that proportions played a huge role in that; at five weeks pregnant, I was bursting from my bra and at seven weeks I had gone up 2.5 cups from a D to buying an E and and F bra (because the E was not going to last long)! I was suddenly back at the bra size I’d been was when I was sixteen, my emotions and mind re-entering that time and place where shirts hung awkwardly off my chest like some kind of verandah to my body below, where I had to go into the fugly-granny-bra section or spend a fortune on nice lingerie, where I could not buy matching bikinis, I had to find separates. Back then, I was known (of the two Biancas at school) as “the one with the big boobs”. The boys loved to watch me sprint on sports day, and not because I was quick, but because of the Baywatchlike bounce that occurred when I ran down the track. My friends laughed when I stood above lights in the pavements, because my face was fully shadowed while theirs looked like they had a torch shining up on it from below.
change and fluctuate with weight and pregnancy etc. throughout my life. I knew that I was young and that I had not finished growing, and I actually did grow another cup size or two after the surgery. It was interesting to notice how fourteen years later, as a pregnant 30 year old adult, the mindset and habits of the teenage me crept back in. I was right back there with the frequent awkwardness of choosing what to wear and the tendency to try to hide them; this time, taking comfort in knowing that I could kind of “blame” the size of them on the pregnancy, that they would not be defined by others as a part of the “normal” me.
Don’t get me wrong, I was confident and definitely not tormented or traumatised by this, but it was an identity I wanted to get away from. I did not want me or my life to be defined by my breasts. I remember talking to my Mum and her friend about the idea of getting a breast reduction one day, in what seemed to be casual conversation. I didn’t think at the time that anything would come from it, though just a few weeks later, we were at the surgeon’s having a consultation. I made the decision and had the reduction within six months of that, knowing that they are breasts – they would grow and
As confident as someone may be, we can all have hang-ups about little things, and those little things can consume our time, thoughts and energy. They can hold us back from doing what we want to do and being who we want to be. A few months further into the pregnancy, there I was, naked on a beach in Melbourne, with photographer Vienna Chiron snapping her shutter on the rawness and realness of me in my skin. The body that had stretched and grown as it grew a new human within it, the scars, the lumps, the bumps, the little hairs standing on end in the cold... it was all on display, and I felt so free.
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Playing in the waves and dancing in the setting sun, natural, the way I was born felt right, it felt natural. The shots that Vienna captured were truly gorgeous, I was in love with them...but then, when I thought about sharing them, the stories of our culture crept into my mind: “I shouldn’t share them, it’s wrong to share them, my Dad and uncles, my friends and people I didn’t even know should not see them. They don’t want to see them. What would my Dad think? What would my partner think? I should be ashamed!” I felt confused. Were these thoughts and beliefs were mine or whether they were borrowed from society? If I believed them, why? and did I need to believe them? The thought process continued: well maybe if I cropped the images so it’s not showing any bits it’d be OK, maybe if I darkened the silhouette and you couldn’t see the outline/colour of my nipple it’d be OK…so basically if I hid, it’d be OK, acceptable, shareable, understood, accepted. Thankfully Vienna, who doesn’t airbrush her images and only edits to bring the colours and clarity back to what was originally there in the moment, wasn’t going to be part of that. She told me in no uncertain terms that if I was going to edit or filter the images, “don’t tag me”. I got that message loud and clear. I totally understood that it would misrepresent the very nature of her work and the Unveil Experience, which is all about being witnessed in your vulnerability and absolute beauty in communion with nature, discovering the depth of self worth and love you have within you. In fact, I’d be undermining the
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very reason I wanted to work with her in the first place. I sat in this uncomfortable, undecided limbo for a bit, during which I read a post by Vienna about the ban that Instagram has on female nipples, and that one of her posts (which showed only a sliver of a woman’s nipple) had been removed. She called to the audience to “Free the Nipple” and remove the taboo that we place on women’s nipples, while men’s are obviously fine to be shown in public. It got me asking myself: Why are men’s nipples G-rated and somewhat familyfriendly, while women’s breasts, despite being the bearers of the rich milk that gave us sustenance as babies, are considered X-rated in media? I totally agreed that women’s and men’s nipples should be considered equal as far as exposure goes. I agreed with every cell in my body, yet I felt dread in my gut, knowing what that meant for me. If I believed that, saying it was not enough. Saying it and preaching it while hiding wouldn’t be living in alignment with my values. Saying it wasn’t enough to lead the way and to create actual change within myself or the world. When we hide, we are playing into fear, and as a human, as a woman, as a leader and a Mum, I choose to live bigger than that.
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A few months further into the pregnancy, there I was, naked on a beach in Melbourne, with photographer Vienna Chiron snapping her shutter on the rawness and realness of me in my skin.
Photographer - Vienna Chiron
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