Feng Shui and the Art of Start Over

TEN WAYS TO DEAL WITH THE PAIN OF SEPARATION AND START A NEW LIFE

By OMTimes

While some couples are getting to know each other, starting to date, getting married, or planning a future together, others have been through good phases but have encountered painful crises that have ended love. Not all relationships last forever. In reality, eternal loves are rare, and we need to accept this reality for it to hurt less. Here's how Feng Shui deals with relationship crises and what to do to soothe your heart and move forward in a new life.

These tips are for people who have just separated or broken up from a stable relationship and find themselves without direction. Feng Shui deals firmly and securely with this moment. For some, it may even seem too severe. However, Chinese wisdom teaches that strength and courage are the best remedies to escape sadness, dispel pain, and joyfully carry on with single life.

Some people abandon their own life after separation: they skip work, miss important commitments, ignore children and friends, close themselves off in their own world, and stay there, distilling pain. Of course, we all need a moment alone to think, reflect, and even cry if we feel the need. But don't let your life pass by while you suffer. The world will not be sympathetic to your pain forever. You must know how to separate your personal, professional, and emotional life. Your children need you, your job will not wait for you to recover, and your friends will eventually give up insisting on seeing you. Cried everything you had to cry? Now it's time to continue your life and set a new course for your destiny. Follow the tips below that will help you end this pain.

Was something left unsaid? Was an issue poorly clarified with your ex? Seek them out and describe everything. We know this is not easy, often requiring us to overcome our pride in seeking the person, but it is necessary. It is important to put a final point so that later a poorly resolved issue does not torment you, making you want to seek out your ex when it is time to recompose yourself. It may hurt, but it's better to clarify everything, without fights or judgments, without throwing anything in their face, just ask what you want and say what you think is necessary, ending the romance respectfully for the good times you lived together.

Do you have photographs of your ex at home? Remove all of them. From the computer, from the picture frame, from the wallet, wherever they are. You don't need to think about what to do with them now, collect everything and put it in a place where you won't see them frequently, then you can decide if you will keep them or throw them away, at this first moment the important thing is to remove them from your sight.

Everything that reminds you of your ex should be returned to them or thrown away if it is an item with no emotional or financial value. Having objects that remind you of them will only harm you. Remember: the house is all yours, it should have your things, important to you, that shows your personality. They are no longer part of your life; nothing should be around them.

After a separation, changing the house's energy is necessary, or every corner of your home will remind you of moments from and relationship. It's time for a change, so take the opportunity to rearrange furniture, swap out decorative items, change the color of the wall, and rearrange your home. Bring new energy into your home, fix everything that's broken, and add more lighting and items that bring joy and peace to your new environment.

Often, we know this isn't easy for various reasons: a mattress is expensive, the couple's bed may be recent, you don't know where to put the old mattress, etc. The best thing is to change it! Free yourself from all the couple's energy trapped in that mattress. If possible, Feng Shui recommends the change. If not, change all the bed linen urgently, and don't use the old ones.

It's time to focus on you and your life. Put photos of you with your friends and family around the house, on the computer, and on the phone. Be careful with photos when you are alone. One or two is fine, but don't use many solo photos as you may close off and become lonely.

When we're in a relationship, it's natural to distance ourselves from our social circle. Reactivate it immediately. Get in touch with friends and family, host meetings and dinners at your home, go to places you haven't been to for a long time (to the cinema, concerts, theater, bars, etc.) and get moving!

Meet new people, it will do you good.

If you are religious, sprinkle holy water in every corner of your house to purify it and blessedly start your new life. If you're not religious, you can purify your home's energies with lavender, spreading this aroma with incense, air fresheners, or essential oils. See here the main benefits of lavender.

The energy of gratitude is the best remedy for pain. As difficult as it may be, thank the Universe for all the good moments you had with your ex-partner, all the learning you had together, everything you could achieve by his side, and how you grew as a person during that relationship. Even the most difficult relationships can leave a positive balance, even if that balance is just for you to learn not to be as you were in your past relationship. Thank the good things and try not to remember the bad things. Your heart thanks you.