LONGINTHERUN
By CHARLIE UPSHALL
ANGER: ANEGATIVEEMOTION
“Howmuchmoreharmfularetheconsequences ofangerthanthecircumstancesthataroused theminus.”
~MarcusAurelius
“Anypersoncapableofangeringyoubecomes yourmaster;hecanangeryouonlywhenyou permityourselftobedisturbedbyhim.”
~Epictetus
“Whateverisbeguninangerendsinshame.”
~BenjaminFranklin
In2000,afteratightelectioncampaign,the votersofMissourielectedtheirstateGovernor totheUSSenate.Threeweeksearlier,hehad perishedinaplanecrash.Hisdeathhad occurredtoolatefortheballotstobereprinted.Hiswidowwasappointedtotheseat afterhewonthevote–51%to49%.The defeatedcandidaterefusedtoprotestthe electiondespiteimmensepressurefromhis party,statingsimplythatthepeoplehad spoken.
Itisonlyalittleovertwentyyearslater,butcan youevenimaginesomeone,inasimilar position,havingthegracetodothattoday?The politicalworldisstokedbyanger,meanness andviolence.
Peopleseemtofeelthatitisacceptabletolash outinanger,evenonsubjectstheyknowlittle about.Whyaresomanysopronetoactout, especiallyonbaselessinformation?Weare livinginanageofvastdiscontent.
Ifallofus,attheindividuallevel,lookwithin ourselves,canwedoabetterjobofmanaging ourangerandourquickreactionstoanything thatdispleasesus?
In1955,Iwasasixerinacubscoutpack. Regionaljamboreeswereahighlightforcubs everywhere.Boyswenttothemforadventure, toseenewplaces,tomeetnewpeopleandto participateinchallengesincompetitionwith otherpacks.Iwentprimarilyforonereason–to win.Mystrongestrecollectionisofonebig jamboreethatsummer.Eachofuscould participateinarestrictednumberofevents.So IwaslimitedinhowmuchIcouldpersonally influencetheoverallresults.Thatinitselfputme onedgeandIbecamefrustratedwhenourpack wasnotdoingaswellasIthoughtwecould.It boiledoverandIgotangryatmembersofmy ownpack,whichincludedsomeofmyclose friends.Myparentswereinattendance,aswere manyothers.Itwascompletelyevidentto everyonethatIwasoutofline.Mymom marchedmeoffawayfromalltheactivities.She walkedmequicklyovertoourcarandordered metogetinandstaythere–period.Shethen wentback,joinedmydadandwatchedtherest ofthejamboree,likelycheeringandsupporting everyoneelse.
Thattookplace67yearsago.Thelessons learnedresonatewithmetothisday.Iamnot thecentreoftheuniverse.Iwascompletely selfishandnotincontrolofmyemotions.Ihad somuchtolearnaboutbeingagoodhuman. Mymomwassternandunequivocalwithme.At thesametime,shehadthecapacitytonotlet meruinherdayassheleftmealonetothink abouthowIhadacted.Whatatreasuredand poignantmemoryitallisforme.Momdiedthe nextyear.
Muchlater,asateacher,oneofmygoalswasto notlosemytemperwithanystudentduringthe schoolyear.SomeyearsImadeit;someyearsI didn’t.ButIalwaysworkedtowardthatgoaland Ikeptgettingbetteratseeingthebigpicture.I stillhavetobecarefulattimes,butIrarelylose mytemperanymore.
Certainly,angerisanormalemotionandalmost everyoneexperiencesitatleastoccasionally. However,ifoneoverusesitorisnotableto controltheurge,problemswilllikelyresultin relationshipsandatwork.Thequalityofone’s lifecanbeadverselyaffected.
Angerisanintegralpartofthebody’snatural “fight,flightorfreeze”systemwhichhelps protectusfromdangerorthreat.However,high levelsofanger,especiallyunresolvedanger,can haveanegativeimpactonourhealth.Infact,it
Whatarethemaincausesofanger?Aperson mightbecomeangryiftheyfeel:frustrated, disrespected,unfairlytreated,deceivedor threatened.Circumstancesthatmaytriggersuch feelingsinclude:certainmemories,personal problemsthatcauseexcessworrying,physicalor psychologicalpain,unpleasantenvironmental conditions,thefeelingthatgoalsare unachievable,personaloffenceduetosomething unfair,frustratingeventsorproblemsthat someonehascausedforthem.Angercanalso playaroleingrief.
Whatcanapersondotocontrolthefeelingof anger,asopposedtohavingthefeelingcontrol them?Trytorecognizethewarningsignsin yourself,pausebeforereacting,listen,finda distraction,workonchanginganypersonal negativethoughtpatterns,andperhapsuse relaxationtechniques.Ineverysituation,thereis aspacebetweenthestimulusandyourreaction. Itisuptoyoutocontrolwhathappensinthat space.Thatispartofthequesttobethebest personyoucanbe.
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