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PROCRASTINATION “Procrastination is the thief of joy.” ~ Edward Young “Never put off ‘til tomorrow what may be done the day after tomorrow just as well.” ~ Mark Twain

As I was cleaning out my desk in preparation for my upcoming move, I came across a big project on birds from elementary school. I turned in a fine effort, for which I received an A. The class had been given directions and a deadline, weeks in advance. I confess, what stands out the most for me is that everyone in my family, including my younger brother, helped to research, illustrate and produce the report for me to copy in its entirety, all on the final weekend. When I was in high school, I was the only person I knew who stayed up all night studying for the next day’s Grade 13 Chemistry final exam. While I was attending University, my stepmother was invariably corralled to type my essays at the last minute, often page by page, as I raced to finish them on time. I would then go and slide them under professors’ office doors after hours. As a teacher, I recall one time when my wife Juta worked through the night with me, transcribing my student reports, one after another, as I created them. I finished up that ordeal by writing the kids’ names on the envelopes as I was driving to school on hand-out day.

So I have life-long experience with procrastination. One form in which it has carried on to this day is in writing articles for the HUB. Dave always gives me a deadline date well in advance, but the actual writing comes down to the last couple of days.

I have always felt that procrastination is one of my flaws. It is counter-balanced by the fact that I am very efficient when I am bound by an imminent,

inflexible schedule, and I try not to lower my standards just in order to finish on time. So procrastination can work for me. However, it comes at a cost and sometimes with real disadvantages. Once, on the final day before my report cards were due, I had to miss an end-ofhockey season team celebratory pig roast and party. We were the league champions, and I was the captain. Several times during the evening, team members phoned to entice me into coming.

I didn’t go. It was my fault, and I had to own it.

Much of the anxiety and difficulty with writing takes place in the act of not writing. It’s the thinking about writing that’s difficult. The dread of doing the task uses up more time and energy than doing the task itself. That is the perplexing thing about procrastination. Although it seems to involve avoiding unpleasant undertakings, indulging in it generally doesn’t result in happiness.

However, what if I could learn to look at the entire, often repeated cycle in a new, more positive way so that my happiness would not be impacted? Could it be true that the trait of procrastination might be beneficial for me? I would like to eliminate the feelings of guilt and stress related to my lifelong habit.

Procrastination can be beneficial. It can grant you the space to take inventory of your life. It can give you opportunities to be curious and learn.

Urgency forces you to get into a state of hyperfocus where you can do your best work. The lastminute panic to get a job done can trigger an adrenaline surge, giving you a major energy burst. As I’ve mentioned, it definitely makes me work more efficiently when the deadline can’t be pushed back any further. Doing something under a sense of pressure can also give you a bigger

dopamine boost when you do complete it.

With that comes joy. If you look at it in a different way, procrastination gives you a chance to take a break. It allows you to relax.

When you are relaxed, the periods of leisure are more likely to lead to your creative breakthroughs. Trying to push through and get something done is sometimes the least productive thing you can do. Good ideas rarely come in the middle of tedious work.

Delaying tasks gives your brain a break, which can be valuable for creativity and problem-solving. Don’t think you are slacking off; you are probably unconsciously doing the hard part of the work – coming up with the ideas and figuring out how to approach them. Amazingly, it is said that Mozart wrote his opera Don Giovanni the evening before opening night, composing the music in his head.

By allowing and approving space for procrastination, you can use the free time for other activities. Scheduling time for procrastination can stop the feelings of guilt you associate with it. Planned procrastination breaks help with cognitive function, creativity, focus and the elimination of burnout. They give your brain a chance to wander and have free time.

Try to view procrastination as part of the creative process rather than

something to be avoided. A study published in Psychological Science found that participants who were asked to daydream before completing a task used more creative problem-solving. Everyone needs and deserves breaks. Give yourself time to think, dream and plan because that time is so valuable. All that being said, if you, too, are a procrastinator, it is fortunate if you have a friend, as I do, who knows your nature and is highly skilled in the fine art of nudging.

There, I feel much better now! Hopefully, my article next month, whatever the topic happens to be, will be completed anxiety and stress-free. And on time!

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We are at risk of loss of access to products and supplements, huge and crippling cost increases, levies, and fees imposed that will force many natural health product companies out of business as well as a catastrophic domino effect on each of us, whether as individuals, exercising our rights and choices to access proactive and preventive health care solutions, or as professionals, doing our best to provide our assistance.

Bill C-47 is an Act to implement certain provisions wrapped within the 2023 Federal Budget. Health Canada has included some sweeping, irrevocable proposals. This Bill has already gone through two readings.

Those of us who wish to defend our right to make choices for our own health, for whatever our reasons, are not burdening the Health Care System. We are already paying out of pocket. These are intentional choices, from the foods we eat to the products and supplements we use in and on our bodies.

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Manager Leo Durocher of the Brooklyn Dodgers uttered these words to describe baseball's great Mel Ott and his Giants team when they were in last place during the 1946 season.

It is a phrase that was commonplace in society for a long time. I have heard a few coaches use it over the years and often wondered why they would even consider saying it.

In an intense game, I guess in the heat of the moment, they may have said it to instill a killer instinct in a group of athletes.

Growing up in the 70s and 80s culture of sports, I think some of us took it as gospel, too young to understand that you could be both a nice guy or girl and win or lose.

I always figured that if you practised and played hard, continued to learn the game, and played respectfully of the other team, all the rest would take care of itself.

The idea of any coach is to first help develop good people, be they, kids or adults. Understanding their mindset and skill set and doing it in a positive format to learn and become an excellent allaround person. If winning is your only concern, then you are sorely missing out on the positive aspects of life.

It was in an era where few understood the word empathy, which is the ability to sense other people's emotions, coupled with being able to understand or imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling. It is empathy which, once you can comprehend its value within the sport, be it winning or losing, changes the perception of "nice folks finish last" to "humble folks appreciate all."

My last point on this topic is that we need to be able to win and lose and understand that we will learn positive lessons from both outcomes. Sure, the winners may get the trophy this time, and you go home emptyhanded, but that may drive you to learn from your mistakes (or your opponent's techniques), work harder and develop more skills for the game.

We don't always win every aspect of life, but we learn, move on, and look forward to the next challenge. Folks, you may win or lose and sometimes even tie in life, but never doubt you want to be the best version of yourself that you can be. Friendly folks always understand!

Hello, I’m Kevin, and I'm here with Lori and Mask, the cow, from Purposefully Unplugged!

Where are you located?

We are located at 1214 Bell Mill Side Road, Tillsonburg.

On a map, however, you will see we are located at the North West border of Norfolk County.

What does Purposefully Unplugged stand for?

My therapy business is located on a 5-acre section of the farm in the woods. My office has no water, no Wi-Fi and no hydro. My office offers a client a location to purposefully unplug from their day and the stress that they are living with.

I develop a therapeutic relationship with a client before we go into the pasture and interact with Mask. Clients can walk in the woods, sit in the woods or sit near the pasture as we meet.

When did you get started?

I have been building the business since 2020.

How many cows do you have?

Several cows and calves are in this pasture, but Mask attunes to client interaction.

How do you promote what you do?

I promote through the HUB with a monthly podcast and on Psychology Today, as I am a Registered Psychotherapist.

What qualifications do you need in order to be able to do this?

I have a Master's in Arts Counselling Psychology to work as a therapist and completed training as an Animal Assisted Therapist to work specifically with Mask as an associate.

Do you have any volunteers?

I do not have any volunteers as the work is very specific. I have an Animal Handler who works in the pasture during a therapy session.

Is it seasonal?

I operate all year around, as there is a small What are you hoping to see in the future? Is there office with heat for the winter months. room to expand?

What type of cows do you use for therapy?

There is a great deal of room to expand. Mask I have one animal associate, her name is Mask, has a heifer calf named Hope, who will likely be and she is a Simmental. an animal associate in the future.

Together we offer a very unique Why do you use cows rather than other animals? therapeutic environment on purpose!

Mask developed a relationship with me and offers connection to clients.

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Marriage is a big step for everyone and is an ongoing learning process that requires attention to all the details. With such high divorce rates all over North America, I decided to chat with Lori Broughton, Registered Psychotherapist from Purposefully Unplugged, and see what steps can be taken to help folks along the marriage path.

Lori: Well, one of the keys, Dave, is just a couple having shared activities and shared meaning. That's often where couples find joy. So perhaps an activity they do together, as they have children, animals, shared joy, shared meaning, consistency around communication, consistency around intimacy, consistency around time together. Those really seem to be the top keys.

Dave: Is it early in the marriage where, in many cases, you find that bumpy road? When starting out, everything's new and exciting, but simultaneously, you're trying to understand the other person, to show respect and compatibility.

Lori: Well, there are different stages that a couple will often go through. So, in the beginning, it's the euphoric stage. Usually, we are fairly happy. We are getting to know each other. We are finding joy in the differences that we notice. But at some point, that shifts for most couples. It could be six months. It could be a year. Generally, you see a shift that first year in and then you get closer to attachment. It's the identification of what you like, what you love, this close connection with the person. But then Dave, by year five we're hitting crisis. We're kind of disillusioned. We've got some decisions to make. Those things that we thought were really cute and lovely when we started dating and got married may not rub us the same way at that point. But then the good part of the story is by year seven, the relationship deepens again. By ten, and by fifteen or twenty, usually, couples say that they love wholeheartedly. This means that there's acceptance of each other's imperfections.

Dave: Many people will go through career changes during a marriage, and kids come along. There's quite a diversity of things you must navigate as a team if you need to be on the same page. In many cases, if you are not, things can fall apart.

Lori: They can fall apart, but they can also come back together again. So I'm glad you said it that way. If you look at John Gottman's research, he indicates that sometimes in marriage, when things break down, one of the best steps to do is just to kind of back down and ease around and listen and appreciate the other person. It's not always about winning. I like that because when I talk to anyone about conflict, I'm like, can't conflict be a win-win, not a win-lose? Why does someone have to lose in a conflict?

Dave: You've got to straighten out your own stuff before you can sit down with another person in your relationship and figure out those problems. Am I close?

Lori: It's a good idea to have some grounding in where you're coming from, grounding in what you're thinking, and really just reflect on that if you can first. So that's one way. Sometimes couples go directly to couples' therapy, and that works too.

Dave: I realised that the most significant part of marriage was the we (not the I). Guys often struggle with that a little because we are independent, we like to do our own thing. When we become part of a relationship, that's one of the things that probably takes us longer to figure out, the we. You have to understand that it's a team concept now, and that's the only way it's gonna work successfully.

Lori: As part of reviewing, I looked at marriage.com, the top 10 things that couples argue about.

Number one is communication, and number 10 is poor listening skills. So in the top 10, we targeted two different pieces of communication. That is part of we, because when we communicate like that, we can develop the we.

Dave: Thank you for your time, Lori. How do folks get in touch with you?

Lori: The cell is (226) 934-7425.

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