Divorce: another way

Divorce can be a painful battle; carving up assets and childcare creates unhealthy communication and toxic memories doesn’t it? Sushma Kotecha of Holistic Family Mediation disagrees. “It doesn’t have to be,” she says optimistically as we sit huddled over a warm coff ee with torrential rain pouring outside.

With a warmth that refl ects her approachable, friendly energy, Sushma immediately makes you feel like you’re in good hands – and the trust and sense of safety she emits is instantaneous.

When I tell her this, she replies: “Well, that’s what I hope for with the clients I serve through their divorce journey. Of course, there is professionalism but also, alongside that, there is a true understanding of what they are going through.

“As a result, I’m passionate about helping clients through the process, using a variety of holistic methods that support a new way of approaching divorce – methods that result in a more amicable, compassionate divorce, paving the way for improved relationships.”

Mediation does this though, right? “Well, in part it does, yes, but sometimes things can’t be resolved in mediation, and so court is the only option. However, why should this part be toxic? Why can’t it be amicable? Or at least, less painful for all parties.”

At the peak of her professional career, she left law and took a leap of faith to start Holistic Family Mediation, a service that helps clients cut up to 90% of legal fees, reduces confl ict and nurtures healthier relationships.

So how does she do it? “It’s a heart-centred service, that aligns with my core values: integrity, humility and compassion, with a focus on dispute resolution as the fi rst port of call; supporting separating and divorcing couples by providing a comprehensive holistic approach.”

With her expansive knowledge and experience, Sushma carries out pragmatic and transformative mediation sessions with her clients. Her website, for a start, provides tools and resources for clients to support the process – and she explains that it’s a free portal for those who need it.

Sounds like a better, healthier way of doing things, doesn’t it? And it is, according to Sushma.

Striving to expand her knowledge, she’s undertaking further education to add ‘Holistic Divorce Coach’ to her services, and her book – penned to off er further support to the clients in the New Year – is an exciting addition to the plethora of skills she already has. The thrill she expresses for the book further reinforces to me that Sushma is on the right path.

When I refl ect this thought to her, she says: “Oh, I know that I am. I get so much from doing what I do. The professional and personal experiences I have all inform how I approach and support each and every divorcing couple that I work with. It’s the path I am supposed to be on, and I am very grateful.”

It’s a path that we are grateful she’s on too, that’s for certain.

Book a free Discovery Call with Sushma via her website: holisticfamilymediation.co.uk/ services to fi nd out how she may be able to support you.