Greater Reading Wedding Planner

wedding planner Greater Reading

2012

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You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.

Dr. Seuss

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4 getting started master budget planner

8 engagement

12 Pl anning your wedding month-by-month checklist wedding day itinerar y

20 the wedding party bridesmaids groomsmen wedding party responsibilities

24 The Ceremony

selecting the perfect location choosing an officiant

28 The Reception selecting a reception location dining options cocktails rentals 36 cakes & bakeries

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Parties & celebrations engagement party bridal shower bachelor/bachelorette parties rehearsal dinner

44 Invitations & stationery options additional stationer y items the guest list 48 Gifts registr y wedding favors wedding party unique ideas

52 Wedding Attire bridal dress accessories bridesmaids' dresses groom’s & ushers’ attire ideas for parents attire 58

health & Beauty hair & makeup spa ser vices health & fitness

62 Flowers & decorations ceremony reception

66 Music & Dance ceremony cocktail hour reception

70 Photography & videography

74 Transportation

76 guest information & Accommodations

80 traditions 84 Etiquette finances family

86 honeymoon 90 Directory

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We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Sam Keen

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Niemczyk Hoffmann Group, Inc., Publisher Tracy Hoffmann & Megan Zettlemoyer Creative Directors Andy Kachel, Susan Shelly & Laura Goodman Writers Tom Plasket Sales

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Getting Started

This day I will marry my friend, the one I laugh with, live for, dream with, love.

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Planning your wedding is one of the most exciting and meaningful tasks you’ll ever undertake.

It may be the largest event you ever plan, and you'll need to do it with little or no prior experience. There are no 'do-overs' with your first wedding.

Intro Checklist Items There is no single source for all the information you‘ll need to plan a successful and joyous wedding G et ideas for different types of wedding styles by reading magazines, visiting online resources and using this Planner to compile your growing ideas.

Organize your wedding planning for less stress  P repare a notebook, binder or pocket folder to keep all loose notes and printed pages, and refer to the Planner to help you stay organized with the many wedding planning details you’re about to tackle.

Pick styles, colors and themes that make you happy  I t’s your wedding so you need to do what’s right for you, whether it’s formal or casual, a destination wedding or a backyard barbecue, or anything in between. We’ll help you get there with sanity in check.

If money were no object D ecide who’s paying for your wedding, choose a budget that’s right for you and stick to it. You’ll be much happier if you navigate the process with open eyes and the budget checklist provided here.

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All eyes will be on you and your fiancé as you create that first impression as Mister and Misses. Your wedding paints a picture of who you are, what’s important to you, and the future you’re anticipating together.

From the rings you select, to the clothing you wear, to the gifts you buy for others, your wedding and reception signify and celebrate your commitment to one another in a manner that reflects your personalities and values. While others will offer input and advice, it’s up to you and your fiancé to create a day that you’ll treasure for the rest of your lives.

Your wedding and reception can be as simple or as elaborate as you choose, but it should be meaningful, beautiful, and truly yours. Whether you’re just beginning to plan, have partially completed planning, or your wedding day is almost here, you no doubt are immersed in thoughts of everything wedding. At this point, you may be feeling overwhelmed by details, unclear about when certain tasks should be completed, or concerned about keeping within a budget.

The Greater Reading Wedding Planner has been carefully designed to make your life easier and lessen the stresses of handling the details and tasks associated with planning your wedding. It's a step-by-step guide to help you understand the many facets of wedding planning. This planner will provide information you can use right now, wherever you are in your wedding preparations. Read through the book, but remember to refer back to the different sections as you get ready to meet with the respective vendors and service providers, as that will help you remember what questions to address.

Booking early is of the utmost importance to guarantee open rooms for your guests. For hotel receptions, scope out available hospitality rooms before booking. Is the area comfortably furnished? How’s the lighting? What activities does the space provide? One final necessity is finding a committed, passionate staff to execute a perfect wedding. Choose wisely. � Robin Lebengood, Crowne Plaza Reading Hotel

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With checklists for budget and tasks, spaces for writing notes, useful and memorable tips, suggestions for other sources of information, and advice from experts, the Greater Reading Wedding Planner covers everything from your engagement to your honeymoon. It is a resource you’ll turn to again and again as you plan for your day, and it will be an everlasting keepsake through all the years of your marriage.

Each section of the book contains a place for your notes, along with a task or budget checklist for items pertaining to that section. Make planning and budgeting easier by entering the amount you’ve spent, or committed to spending on each item as you check off your accomplishments, then tally the final totals into the Master Budget Planner in this section. Adjust your actual and budget master amounts as you work through the process. We've provided a breakdown of a typical wedding budget to better help you allocate your resources.

Your wedding requires significant investments of time, energy, attention, and money. Let the Greater Reading Wedding Planner help you maximize those investments as you plan a wedding as special as the love you share.

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Master budget Planner TOTAL WEDDING BUDGET CEREMONY (5%)

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Ceremony site fee, Officiant's fee, Officiant's gratuity, Guest book, Pen, Penholder, Ring bearer pillow, Flower girl basket WEDDING ATTIRE (10%)

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Bridal gown, Alterations, Headpiece/Veil, Jewelry, Garter, Shoes, Hairdresser, Makeup artist, Manicure/Pedicure, Groom's formal wear PHOTOGRAPHY (9%)

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Bride & Groom's album, Parents' album, Extra prints, Proofs, Negatives/Digital files, Engagement photos, Formal bridal portrait VIDEOGRAPHY (5%)

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Main video, Titles, Extra hours, Photo montage, Extra copies STATIONERY (4%)

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Invitations, RSVP's, Reception cards, Ceremony cards, Pew cards, Seating cards, Rain cards, Maps/Directions, Ceremony programs, Announcements, Thank-you notes, Stamps, Calligraphy, Napkins/Matchbooks RECEPTION (35%)

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Reception site fee, Hors d'oeuvres, Main meal, Caterer, Liquor/Beverages, Bartending/Bar set up fees, Corkage fee, Fee to pour coffee, Service providers' meals, Gratuity, Party favors, Disposable cameras, Rose petals/Rice, Gift attendant, Parking fee/Valet services MUSIC (5%)

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Ceremony music, Cocktail hour, Reception music BAKERY (2%)

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Wedding cake, Groom's cake, Cake delivery/Set-up fee, Cake cutting fee, Cake topper, Cake knife, Toasting glasses FLOWERS (6%)

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Bride, Tossing, Maid of honor, Bridesmaids, Hairpieces, Bride's going away corsage, Family member corsages, Groom's boutonniere, Usher boutonnieres, Family member boutonnieres, Altar, Aisle seats, Reception site, Head table, Guest tables, Cake table, Cake, Cake knife, Toasting glasses, Floral delivery/Set-up DECORATIONS (3%)

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TRANSPORTATION (2%)

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RENTAL ITEMS (3%)

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Table centerpieces, Balloons, etc...

Bridal slip, Ceremony accessories, Tent, Dance floor, Tables, Chairs, Linens, Chair sashes, Tableware, Heaters/Fans, Lanterns, etc...

GIFTS (3%)

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Bride's gift, Groom's gift, Bridesmaids' gifts, Ushers' gifts PARTIES (4%)

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Bridesmaids' luncheon, Rehearsal dinner MISCELLANEOUS (4%)

Newspaper announcements, Marriage license, Prenuptial agreement, Bridal gown preservation, Bridal bouquet preservation, Wedding planner, Taxes, Online wedding planning services GRAND TOTAL 6

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Congratulations! You and your fiancé already have, or are preparing to announce your love for one another to the world.

The coming months will be busy and exciting, filled with preparations and parties and, yes, a certain amount of stress that seems to inherently accompany wedding planning. You’ll need to take care of yourself and each other as you make hundreds of decisions concerning where you’ll get married, what type of ceremony you’ll have, who your attendants will be, where to hold your reception, what to wear – the list goes on and on!

For now, however, as you’re preparing to make your engagement official, or are in the first weeks of your engagement, you’ll want to focus on a few important issues, such as your proposal, how to let others know that you’ve become engaged, and, of course – the engagement ring.

Choosing an Engagement Ring Ever since the Gemological Institute of America (GIA) developed the 4Cs and the GIA International Diamond Grading System in the 1940s and 50s, diamond buyers have been considering carat, clarity, color, and cut when looking at engagement rings.

Choosing a ring for your fiancé, or working as a couple to choose a ring, is an exciting experience. There are lots of resources available to help you get a beautiful ring that is within your budget. If you’re not sure about what your fiancé will like, seek advice from a trusted friend or family member. Take notice of the type of rings she admires on other people or when passing by a jewelry store. If the ring isn’t going to be a surprise, shop together to make sure she gets exactly what she likes. Brides-to-be can help out their fiancés by pointing out or talking about the kinds of rings they like.

Your best resource, and one of the most readily available, is a reliable, reputable jeweler. Some, but not all jewelers and people who work in jewelry stores are members of the GIA or other associations such as the American Gem Trade Association, Jewelers of America, or the American Gem Society. Don’t be afraid to ask about a jeweler’s credentials if you’re considering buying a ring from him or her. Someone who is certified as a Diamond Graduate of the GIA, for instance, has received extensive training in all aspects of diamonds.

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rice...determine how much you can spend on a ring, and then start P checking selections in jewelry stores to get an idea of the engagement rings available in your price range.

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onsider the four Cs... carat, clarity, color, and cut as you begin to C look at diamonds. Find out more about the four Cs on the GIA’s website at www.gia.edu/index.html.

S ettings... Ask a jeweler to explain different ring settings, such as solitaire, prong, channel, or setting. The shape of diamond you choose, whether you buy a single stone or many, and other factors will help to determine the type of setting you choose.

S hapes... Diamonds come in various shapes, including princess cut, brilliant-cut, emerald, heart shaped, or pear shaped. Be sure to consider all the possibilities before choosing a diamond.

etals... Consider different types of precious metals available for bands.

M Yellow gold in 14, 18, or 24 karat is traditional and popular, but platinum is also widely used.

S tones... Engagement rings do not have to be diamonds. Some brides opt for other precious stones, such as rubies, sapphires, or emeralds.

When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

Nora Ephron, “When Harry Met Sally”

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Look at several options before selecting your perfect engagement ring. The style you love may not end up looking the way you thought it would once it is on your finger.

Caroline Hill, Van Scoy Jewelers Greater Reading Wedding Planner

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The Proposal Proposals are as individual as the people offering them, and can be as traditional or non-traditional as you’d like. While it’s still traditional that a man proposes to a woman, those rules also are changing as we rethink the terms and definitions of marriage. If you’re getting ready to make a proposal, keep these tips in mind: �

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ake it a surprise... Even if she’s anticipating a proposal, she’ll want to M be surprised at how and when it happens. ick a great location... The site of your first date, a beautiful beach, or P a romantic, moonlit night is a good pick. Unless she’s a sports fanatic, a baseball or football game is not.

now her preferences regarding an engagement ring... Sure, you K know her well, but it doesn’t hurt to get input from her, a good friend, or family member about the type of ring she’ll love. Keep this in mind when considering the size and quality of the stone, as well as the style and design. And, don’t be tempted to propose first and shop later. She’ll want to show everyone her ring when she shares the good news. alk to her folks... Sure, she’s an independent 21st century woman, T but most women report they’d like for their husband-to-be to consult with her parents before proposing.

ake sure your proposal is sincere and heartfelt... and whatever M else you say, finish it with the words, “will you marry me.” Also, dropping to one knee before you begin can’t hurt.

Announcing Your Engagement You’ve taken the plunge and want everyone to know. While it’s traditional to place an announcement in your local newspaper, more and more couples are using electronic options to share their news with family and friends. You might consider posting a video on You Tube or sending out a video eCard, setting up a Facebook page, or sending an announcement out to your email list. Regardless of how you decide to share your news, be careful to include everyone who will want to know.

If you and your fiancé don’t live in the same community and you decide you’d like to have the engagement announced in your local paper, remember to send the notice to papers in both communities.

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Engagement Checklist Items  Engagement Rings…Come in all shapes, sizes and price ranges.

Make sure you have it properly sized and don’t forget to have it appraised and insured.  Tell the World…Consider announcing your engagement through video e-Cards, Facebook and traditional newspapers. You may wish to have engagement photos taken for this memorable time.  Selecting Wedding Dates…It’s important to discuss dates and times with family, close friends and relatives before setting the actual wedding date. You might be disappointed if certain people were unable to attend due to extenuating circumstances. You’ll also need to confirm availability of officiants and facilities before locking in that special date.  Wedding Bands…Reflect on that special bond between future husband and wife. Take time to review what it means to you before choosing.

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Chances are you’ve never been happier than you are right now. Maybe you’re still waiting, but you know that magical question, “Will you marry me,” is coming soon. Or, maybe you’ve recently gotten engaged and, as happy as you are, you find yourself constantly preoccupied with thoughts of guest lists and bridesmaids and dresses and . . the list goes on and on.

The months ahead will be filled with arrangements, preparations and planning. You’ll want to do a great deal of research to become familiar with what’s available and find the best values. You’ll be getting recommendations for the best products and services, and making a great many decisions, at times on a daily basis.

Regardless of whether you’ll be planning every detail of your wedding on your own or hiring a professional wedding planner to help you, you will greatly benefit from staying as organized as possible throughout the process.

Determine what method works best for you, and begin now to get and stay organized. You can use a spreadsheet, a binder notebook, folders, or whatever method works best for you. The point is to keep track of everything you do related to planning your wedding, and to store all paperwork in one place.

You’ll want to keep all receipts, order forms, bills, and notes in a manner that makes them easily accessible and organized, and file notes regarding caterers, photographers, florists, and so forth.

To be honest, all of this planning will not be accomplished without some stressful moments. You’re almost sure to encounter some problems or obstacles as you navigate the world of wedding planning. You and your fiancé, you mother, your best friend, or one of your bridesmaids might disagree on a location, or a guest list, or a color. It’s likely there may be moments when you’ll feel frustrated or overwhelmed.

If you’re planning to work with a wedding coordinator, you should start looking for one now. Ask for recommendations, and be prepared to interview several planners before deciding who to hire. You can view and download a list of questions to ask potential wedding planners at www. herecomestheguide.com/weddingparty-ideas/detail/questions-to-askwhen-interviewing-potential-weddingplanners.

You can, however, minimize those moments and assure that planning for your wedding will be a thoroughly enjoyable and exciting experience by taking care of a few extremely important tasks right now.

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Regardless of whether you’ll be working with a wedding planner, it’s up to you and your fiancé to determine a wedding style and theme.

Get to know your timeline and stick to it as you plan, book events, and reserve various locations and services. This will help to assure that you secure the accommodations you want and are not disappointed.

� Meggan Kerber, Toscani Events by ViVÁ

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Will your wedding be formal, semi-formal, or informal?

Will it be held early in the day, late afternoon, or in the evening?

Do you and your fiancé prefer classic, modern, vintage, chic, or another style? o you want a special or memorable theme, such as sports tailgating, picnic D barbecue, social awareness, or others?

Do you like to think outside of the box or do your own thing?

These factors will help you determine your style and stay on course during the planning process.

Also, think about colors you wish to use. Choosing your colors now to complement your style and theme will go a long way in helping to make decisions concerning attire, decorations, flowers, and many other details.

Getting organized, determining your wedding style, and committing to a budget now will ease the way for the remainder of your planning experience.

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BUDGET CHECKLIST–MIscellaneous  Newspaper Announcements $  Prenuptial Agreement $  Online Wedding Planner $  Wedding Consultant $  Marriage License $  Taxes $ TOTAL $

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Things to consider  Planners & Coordinators…You’ll need to decide if you want to do it all with family and friends or choose a professional to help you through the many choices.  Get Fit…Think about how you want to look on your wedding day and decide if a fitness and nutrition regimen are right for you. If so start early.

 Food & Reception…The largest expenses will be food and reception. You’ll want to look at your many options to find the best location and the best menu. Guests always remember the ceremony and reception but seldom recall the food.

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month by month checklist Mark the boxes after you've completed the tasks

9 TO 12 Months  Reception Facility…Decide your reception style and look for a perfect location match. Book it as soon as you agree it’s perfect and available for your date  Reception/Catering Contract…Confirm that your reception/catering contract includes everything that you discussed, sign it, and submit deposit  Menu…Plan your menu with reception facility or caterer  Officiant…Identify and select ceremony officiant and/or premarital counselor who meet your needs and personality  Engagement Party… Set date, guest list, and order invites  Wedding Guest List…Discuss approximate count with parents and request their ‘guest list’  Finalize Guest List  Ceremony Location…Identify a ceremony site if not already chosen  Bridal Party…Discuss bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer.

Also think about family and friends for ceremony readers, guest book attendants, candle lighters, etc.  Colors & Themes…Lock in wedding colors and themes with regards to ceremony decor, reception space, and your wishes

 Rentals…Review your needs (linens, chairs, dance floor, tent, etc.)  Invitations…Review options and ideas  Ceremony Planning…Talk to your officiant about regulations, requirements, or counseling  Research Photographers…Discuss you thoughts and wishes  Hair & Make-up…Think about styles and select a salon  Registry…Open registries at your favorite locations 6 to 8 Months  Select Photographer…Decide on packages, sign contract and submit deposit  Schedule Engagement Photos  Select Florist…Reserve services, sign contract, and submit deposit  Bridesmaid Dresses…Search options and photos and discuss with your bridesmaids  Buy Wedding Dress…Finalize options and submit deposit  Cakes & Bakers…Discuss your desires and begin your search  Book the Band or DJ…Sign the contract and submit your deposit

 Wedding Dress Thoughts…Start looking at styles in magazines and online

 Music…Select Ceremony Music/Musicians

 Wedding Dress Shopping…Head out to bridal salons to review options

 Dress Selections…Finalize Bridesmaids

 Customs & Traditions…List and discuss family thoughts and wishes to incorporate into your ceremony or reception

 Out-of-Town Guests…Select hotel and set aside rooms

 Reception Music…Identify options and begin sampling bands or DJs

 Select Your Baker…Choose the design, sign the contract, and submit your deposit

 Flowers…Schedule appointments to research wedding florists

 Honeymoon Selection…Discuss, confirm, and book

 Registry Updates…Update and expand the list (bridal party ideas)

 Send Save-the-Date Notices…Don’t forget to include family and bridal party members  Confirm Bridesmaid Dress Orders…Confirm that all necessary measurements have been submitted and orders have been placed  Finalize Ceremony Music…Confirm and submit deposit  Rehearsal Dinner…Review locations and options for dinner  Invitations…Select wording and designs  Finalize Receptions/Catering Menu  Wedding Insurance…Research and purchase if desired  Floral Centerpieces…Research and place order  Order Invitations & Announcements 4 to 5 Months  Flower Details…Revisit floral styles, choose wedding flowers and confirm contract  Groomsmen Attire…Decide on style, from formal wear to casual, based on wedding style  Place Groomsmen’s Order…Buy or rent as necessary and schedule fittings  Finalize Rental List…Confirm items for ceremony and reception

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 Book Rehearsal Dinner…Provide estimated attendance numbers and special requirements  Wedding Night Hotel Room…Book it now!  Honeymoon Reservations…Book and confirm flights, rooms, and plans A ddress Invitations…Decide on calligraphy or start addressing to avoid crunch 2 to 3 Months  Send Invitations…Three months before wedding date M arriage Contract…Select based on your religion or culture  Identify Bridesmaid Accessories…Shoes, jewelry, etc. and share the info  Beauty, Nutrition & Fitness…Make appointments to begin the final preparations. Consider facials, massages, teeth whitening, weight management, and tanning  Ceremony/Reception Decorations…Buy or rent last minute items not included in other contracts

 Special Photography…Schedule boudoir, formal portraits, day-after or rock the dress session  Bridal Shower List…Provide guest list to party host

 Purchase Wedding Bands…Send for engraving

 Reception Bar…Identify desired beverage requirements and confirm or stock if it’s not included in contract

 Attire Confirmations…Make sure all attendants have purchased or rented necessary attire and accessories

 Wedding Day Transportation…Make and confirm arrangements for all attendees

 Wedding Favors…Select items and provide extra time for any customizing  Gather Honeymoon Documents…Organize now for less stress later (passport, birth certificate, visa, vaccinations, etc.)  Visit Tux shop for final measurements  Schedule Three Dress Fittings…First should be six weeks before wedding date  Dress Fitting Preparation…Have all under-the-dress garments ready for fitting  Confirm Dress Delivery Date  Parties & Celebrations…Notify maid of honor and best man about prewedding party plan.  Finalize Ceremony Song... List and Readings with Appropriate Parties

6 Weeks  First Dress Fitting…Six weeks and counting. Have everything you need!  Reception Parking…Confirm arrangements  Ceremony Vows…Time to get to work  Wedding Veil…Confirm and purchase veil and shoes prior to next fitting  Ceremony Programs…Time to think about your schedule and what you want to say  Newspaper Announcement…Time to submit if you desire  Marriage License Planning…Know where to get it (Register of Wills), and when (up to two weeks in advance of wedding). Mark your calendar  Confirm Hotel Guest Reservations…Do you need more rooms?  Wedding Party Gifts…Buy gifts for all wedding party participants

 Confirm Bridesmaid Dress Delivery Date

 Bridal Shower Thank-You Notes…Get started to stay ahead of the crunch

 Insurance Policies…Review and prepare health, home, life, and auto policies to reflect future marital status

 Hair Appointment…Visit salon to run through desired wedding day look

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3 TO 4 Weeks  Second Dress Fitting…Bring shoes, veil, and undergarments

 Paperwork for Name Change

 Finalize Ceremony Vows

 Bride's Final Haircut…Give it time to grow just right

 Guest Book…Decide how you want to collect memories

 Start Thank-you Notes…Saves time later

R ehearsal Dinner Invitations…Send them to all desired guests

 Communicate with Wedding Party…Cover duties, dates, times, and other details for rehearsal and wedding

F inalize Ceremony Programs…Send to printer

 Reception Seating…Begin arrangements

 Wrap Wedding Party Gifts W edding Night & Honeymoon Final Confirmation A ccessorize for Final Look  Wedding Rings…Pick up and confirm inscriptions  Finalize Ceremony…Cover any last details or changes  Ceremony Music Confirmation…Review and confirm with participants  Confirm Wedding Day Schedule…Confirm who is responsible for transportation, return of items, gown pick-up, etc.  S elect Customs to Include

1 TO 2 Weeks  Final Wedding Dress Fitting…Pick it up two weeks before wedding  Get Marriage License  Organize Receiving Line…Determine your order  Guest Confirmation…Call those who have not yet responded for the wedding or rehearsal dinner  Reception Communications…Confirm access details for all wedding vendors and party members  Wedding Day Assignments…Confirm responsibilities with bridal party and others  Pick up Veil or Headpiece  Walk in Your Bridal Shoes  Confirm Vendor Instructions…Place final call to baker, caterer, florist, decorator, photographer, DJ, musicians, transportation contacts, and others to confirm head count, delivery times, pick-up schedules, and other critical details  Prepare Wedding Toasts  Wedding Day Photo List…Create list of VIPs for your photographer  Honeymoon Preparations…Be sure to have everything you‘ll need.

Shop and pack now  Confirm Final Vendor Payments…Make sure you’re still on budget  Groom's Final Haircut…Plan two weeks prior so you’re looking good  Wedding Day Directions…Distribute directions, schedules and contact list to parents and bridal party  Designate Vendor Contacts…Assign coordinator or close friend to manage all vendors on wedding day  Pack Overnight Bag…Be prepared. Gather clothing, tooth brush, hair essentials, and miscellaneous items that you’ll need for the morning after your wedding, and ask one of your close friends to deliver it to the hotel for you  Wedding Day Gifts…Make plans for receipt and transportation of cash and gifts delivered at the wedding  Confirm Reception Music Play List  Honeymoon Itinerary…Leave it with your parents for emergency contact

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 Manicure & Pedicure…Plan a day or two in advance of wedding and enjoy  Final Vendor Payments…Prepare final payments and tips and designate bridal party or family member to take care of this business wedding day  Wedding Day Eve Plans…Make specific plans to enjoy your evening with friends and family

Day After  Wedding Cake…Make plans for your anniversary celebration. Have a friend retrieve your wedding cake layer and get it to the freezer  Wedding Dress Retrieval…Make plans for family or friends to gather your gown and assorted bridal items from the hotel  Tux Return…Make plans to have your family or friends return your tuxedo and assorted rentals

Day Before  Re-confirm Honeymoon Travel Plans…Including transportation

 Family Time…Be certain to thank all who helped you make your wedding day memorable

 Pack for Wedding…While still fresh, gather all wedding day attire

Now…Get going!

 Ceremony Rehearsal…Have run-through with officiant and bridal party  Rehearsal Dinner…Have fun, enjoy family and friends, and relax  Guest Book…Make plans for someone to deliver guest book and pen to reception facility  Set Alarm Clock…You don’t need any additional stress Wedding Day  Confirm Reception Toasts…A friendly reminder never hurts  First Dance…Have bridal party member bring back-up of your cherished songs. It wouldn’t be the first time a DJ forgot it  Private Time…Set aside 10 to 15 minutes between the ceremony and reception to savor the moment together as husband and wife

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Incorporate talented, experienced wedding artists who understand your vision and with whom you bond well.

Avoid vendors who treat you like a number. Remember, you’ll be spending a lot of time with each business.

Developing a comfortable relationship will ensure a fun planning process and a smooth, beautiful wedding.

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While many of these questions will be outlined below, it’s important to remember that this is your wedding. You know the members of your bridal party intimately enough to make the decisions. Therefore, consider their feelings and the important part they played in your life, and mold your big day to fit their unique personalities. Reflect upon the following advice as you consider what tasks your friends and family would enjoy.

Bridesmaids Bridesmaids share an important role in helping the bride carry the burden of event planning—you won’t be able to enjoy a sizeable wedding without them. The most important of these is the maid or matron of honor. She is tasked with appearing at all bridal affairs and keeping abreast of all important appointments. Choosing a maid or matron honor should not be based upon the person’s ability to plan events. However, you should share your expectations as her inability to invest time may lead you to look for another maid or matron of honor. �

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I f thinning the herd to get a smaller group of groomsmen is becoming stressful, consider limiting your scope to only siblings and relatives to avoid hurt feelings.

e strongly recommend asking your fiancé’s brothers to be groomsmen, W if you anticipate that not doing so would cause a problem. oming up short with guy friends to include as groomsmen? It’s never C too late to make new friends.

sk your best man to practice his toast in front of some friends to help A him stave off embarrassment on your wedding day. on’t let age hold you back in choosing groomsmen. You may wish to D consider anyone who has been a mentor in your life.

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WEDDING PARTY CHECKLIST  Maid of Honor  Best Man  Bridesmaids

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 Ring Bearer

 Flower Girls

 Officiant  Marriage License Date:  Wedding Date:

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Wedding Party Responsibilities The friends and family you choose to stand with you at your ceremony are not ornaments—although their attire should look stylish—everyone has a unique role to play. The following is a list of helpful responsibilities that you should delegate to your bridal party.

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Holds the bride’s wedding ring for weddings without a ring bearer

Returns his attire and the groom’s attire if they are renting tuxedos Teaches groomsmen how to greet and usher for the ceremony

ccompanies the bride and groom when they apply for a marriage license A to act as a witness Gives a speech at the rehearsal dinner and at the reception meal Plans the bachelor party

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GroomsMen � The groomsmen can be available to help the mothers gather wedding supplies, serve as the set-up team for the ceremony, or run errands.

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Ten or 20 years after your wedding, you may not remember what salad or first course was served at the reception, or the exact number of guests who attended, or every variety of flowers in your bouquet. Hopefully, however, the details of your ceremony will remain vivid, as it is central to not only your wedding day, but speaks to the life you and your fiancé are planning together.

You’ll want to consider your ceremony options carefully, and plan according to your personal views and preferences.

You’ll need to decide whether you’ll write your own vows, use vows that are traditional to your cultural or faith traditions, or perhaps script a combination of the two. You’ll also need to consider readings and music for your ceremony, which you’ll read about later in this Planner. First, however, let’s consider how to go about finding a place to hold your wedding ceremony.

selecting the Perfect Location Your wedding ceremony may be held in your place of worship, on the top of a mountain, in your living room or back yard, or in the same venue as the reception. While location is crucial to some couples, others feel that it’s the ceremony itself that is critical, regardless of where it is held. If you’re not locked into a location, feel free to explore ideas for a site that suits your personalities and comfort levels, as well as your budget. Consider your guest list when choosing the location for your ceremony, however. If it’s very important to you that your grandparents attend, a mountaintop ceremony may not be practical. If the location requires extensive travel, you might lose guests who don’t have the logistical or financial ability to attend.

If your wedding will be close to home but not held in a religious setting, you have a variety of options available in the Greater Reading area. Hotels, bed and breakfasts, restaurants, country clubs, events facilities, outdoor locations, historical sites, and halls are among your choices for your wedding ceremony.

Sites and locations can be found online, but start looking early, as you’ll want to be sure to get the site you choose reserved for your wedding date.

Most event planners recommend reserving a location for your ceremony at least 12 months prior to the wedding. When determining where to hold your ceremony, consider a space that provides ease of access relative to the reception, and in which you and your fiancé feel at home and comfortable.

Once you’ve selected a location, learn all you can about any rules, restrictions, or issues that might come into play. Some things to consider include: �

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Is there a denominational affiliation?

What equipment, such as speakers or microphones, is available?

Who is responsible for setting up and clearing up the site?

Once you’ve locked into a location, establish contact with a key person there who you can contact with any questions or concerns you might have.

Choosing an Officiant If your ceremony will take place in a church, synagogue, or other place of worship, it’s likely that a minister, priest, rabbi, or someone else associated with the facility will serve as your officiant. If your ceremony is held outside

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of a religious setting, you’ll need to choose an officiant. If you want a member of the clergy to perform the ceremony, contact a house of worship with which you’re familiar or check the Internet for suggestions.

�eremony If you’re not looking for a clergy person, consider a judge or district justice. County clerks or their appointed deputies also may perform wedding ceremonies, as can mayors of cities and boroughs. Private wedding officiants can be located on line.

Current Trend… A current trend is to have a friend or relative conduct the wedding ceremony. There are free and fee-based ministerial certifications online that enable almost anyone to become ordained and perform weddings and other ceremonies. However, once ordained, the person must register as an officiant with the county clerk and will need to present physical proof of his/her ordination status. A popular ordination site is the Universal Life Church Monastery at www.themonastery.org. You can get ordained for free on this site, but will need to buy proof of your ordination from the site’s store.

Don’t wait until the last minute to start looking for an officiant, as you may encounter conflicts. And, make an effort to get to know your officiant so that you can establish a relationship and have clear communications well before the ceremony.

I dreamed of a wedding of elaborate elegance,A church filled with family and friends. I asked him what kind of a wedding he wished for,He said one that would make me his wife.

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Your Wedding Vows Your wedding vows are central to your ceremony, and set the tone for your life together as a married couple. If you plan to write your own wedding vows, talk to the clergy person or other officiant who will conduct your ceremony. He or she may be able to offer suggestions and guidelines for what to include and how to write them. Also, be aware that some congregations, such as Catholic and Episcopal, may require you to recite traditional vows. Keep the following suggestions in mind if you’re planning to write your own vows: �

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F eel free to share your fondest memory of your fiancé, when you first realized you were in love with him or her, a touching moment you’ve shared, how your mate has made your life better, and so forth, but don’t allow your vows to ramble. rite in your own voice. Don’t use words you’d never use in conversation or summon flowery W sentences from other sources if you would not normally speak in those terms. nce the vows are written, practice saying them out loud and time yourself on how long it O takes to say them. You probably want both sets of vows to take about the same time to recite, and that shouldn’t be more than a minute or two.

Readings and Traditions Many couples include special passages of scripture, favorite poetry or song lyrics, or another special reading in their wedding ceremonies. Usually, these are read by a member of the wedding party, family member, or a friend. You also might consider incorporating meaningful traditions into your ceremony, whether they are religious or secular, such as a unity candle that symbolizes the joining of two families.

Obtaining Your Marriage License In Pennsylvania, the Marriage License Bureau is part of the Clerk of the Orphan's Court and Register of Wills. To apply for a license, you’ll need to go to the Clerk of Orphan’s Court in the Berks County Services Center in Reading. You can apply for the license up to 60 days before your wedding, but no later than three days before your wedding, as there is a three (business) day waiting period before the license is issued. You’ll need to know your Social Security number and present a photo ID when making your license application. Find out more about applying for a marriage license in Pennsylvania at http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/pennsylvania/index.shtml.

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BUDGET CHECKLIST  Ceremony Site Fee $  Officiant's Fee $  Officiant's Gratuity $  Guest Book/Pen/Pen Holder $  Ring Bearer Pillow $  Flower Girl Basket $  Ceremony Accessories $ TOTAL $

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While a wedding ceremony is likely to be emotional and poignant, the reception should be fun, fun, fun! Regardless of where it’s held, how many people attend, or how much it costs, your wedding reception is a time to celebrate with people you care about and who care about you. It’s a time for good food, toasts, music, dancing, and being congratulated and photographed.

It’s a time you will want to remember forever.

A reception typically consumes about onethird of a wedding budget, meaning that it’s definitely a big deal. When planning your reception, consider all available options and remember that there are many ways you can trim costs if that is a concern.

Where to Have Your Wedding Reception There are many location choices for wedding receptions within the Greater Reading Area, ranging from beautiful, outdoor settings to cozy, indoor locales.

When choosing a location, consider your personal preferences, budget, and the number of people you’ll need to accommodate. Basically, there are two types of reception sites – those that charge a per person fee that includes almost everything you’ll need, and those that charge a room rental fee, with you responsible for providing almost everything else.

If you’ve got an outdoor reception in mind, check for venues that facilitate, or better yet, specialize in, outdoor events. You will need to work with a site representative who can give direction regarding what will be provided and what you’ll need to rent, such as a tent, dance floor, tables, chairs, linens, and so forth.

Keep in mind that outdoor receptions, while beautiful and festive, come with some special challenges that you’ll want to thoroughly address in advance.

Most popular venues for wedding receptions fill up far in advance, meaning that booking your reception is something you’ll want to do early in the planning process. You can focus on decorating and other details after you've reserved your location.

After you’ve determined the type of reception you want, narrow your search to a few places. Take time to compare features and ask some questions before making a final decision. Be sure to consider the following: �

I s the location the right size for your guest list? If you’re having a large gathering, is it big enough to comfortably accommodate all your guests? If your reception is more intimate, consider if the space might be too large for your guests. You might want to consider a facility that offers a bar/lounge area away from the dining tables, giving guests who wish to do so a chance to move around and spread their wings a bit.

�eception Unless you’ve already decided on a place for your reception, you’ll want to do some research to see what’s available. If the ceremony and reception are in two different locations, most couples prefer to hold them fairly close to one another. When thinking about a location, remember to consider all the possibilities.

Wedding receptions can be held in all kinds of spaces, ranging from public buildings to private homes. Locally, wedding receptions are held in museums; art centers; historic mansions, hotels, and inns; private clubs; outside groves and parks; ballrooms; restaurants; and at historic sites. Look for locations that will accommodate and enhance the style of your wedding, considering the level or formality, whether you’ll be there during the day or at night, the colors involved, and other factors.

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Will there be other events at your location on the same day or at the same time? This doesn’t have to be a deal breaker,but consider the possibility that you’ll be sharing space with people from another party. If the place you’re considering will have multiple events on your wedding day, try to visit the location on a day there is more than one event there to see what it’s like before you agree to rent it. Pay attention to noise, traffic flow, and so forth.

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oes the location match your budget? You’ll be given a rental fee, D and then it’s time to start investigating. Ask what deposits are required, what sort of payment plan is in place, and what the cancellation policy is like. Find out if there are extra fees for parking, security or janitorial services, and so forth. Many facilities include basics such as tables, chairs, and linens, but be sure to clarify exactly what is included in the fee and be sure to factor in all costs involved before signing a contract for the location.

Is the site convenient for you and your guests? If a third of your guests are from out of town, will they need overnight accommodations?

If so, it may make sense to consider a location with overnight facilities, such as a hotel, inn, or bed and breakfast. Is there adequate parking for guests? Is it handicapped accessible? Are there adequate spaces for photo opportunities?

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ill you be able to add your personal touches to the location?

W If the hall or other location is already decorated, will you be able to make changes or additions to match your wedding style and colors? Ask to see photos of other receptions held there to get some ideas of what types of decors are possible.

hat’s the situation with food and catering? Some locations require W that they provide all food services, while others allow you to arrange for whatever catering services you want. Also, be sure to ask about the alcohol policy.

I s the facility known for excellent service? You don’t want to end up worrying about details on your wedding day. Choose a place that’s known for excellent service. Work closely with representatives ahead of time to assure that all details are covered so you can relax and enjoy your day.

Dining Options While many brides and grooms choose a reception with a sit-down, served dinner, that is just one option available as you plan your event. There are no rules here. Depending on the time and style of your wedding, you could consider a brunch, buffet, tasting menu, food stations, or even a picnic lunch with menu options that match your wedding theme. The Greater Reading area has no shortage of good food and dining options – the difficult part may be selecting what you want from among them.

Some reception venues require that you use their catering services. As long as you’ve sampled the food and know that it’s what you want, this is a fine option. If your venue doesn’t include catering services, you’ll need to make those arrangements yourself. Be sure to do plenty of research and ask a lot of people for recommendations before choosing a caterer. Let’s take a closer look at some dining options. �

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uffet dinner. A buffet meal is simply one with a variety of foods that B guests select and either serve for themselves, or are served to them at the buffet table. Some wedding venues offer buffet service while others offer only sit-down options, so be sure to ask.

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Items for both Men's and Women's Baskets  Tylenol/ Advil  Body spray  Comb  Toothpicks  Brush  Cups for mouth wash  First aid kit - Band-Aids,  Sewing kit — needles, threads, buttons, antiseptic wipes, gauze snaps, tape measure, scissors  Safety pins (assorted sizes)  Lint roller  Chap-stick  Static cling spray  Lotion  Blotting papers  Hair-spray & gel  Nail clippers  Shout wipes & Tide to go Pen  Tweezers  Gum  Breath strips  Breath mints  Scissors  Tissues  Alka Seltzer  Nail file  Immodium AD  Mouthwash  Baby Powder  Dental floss  Shoe polish  Tums  Q-tips  Spray deodorant  Contact Rewetting Drops

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S erved dinner. This is probably the best option for a formal event, and some guests expect to be served at a wedding reception. This is normally the most expensive dining option. If you’re on a tight budget you'll really need to stick to a plan.

ood stations. These themed serving stations are a hot reception trend.

F Generally, food stations are located at various places in the reception hall and serve one food or one food variety. You could, have a seafood station, a cheese station, a pasta station, a carving station, or whatever else you can imagine. The idea is to keep guests moving around and mingling, and food stations offer the advantage of allowing you to offer a wide variety of foods.

amily-style serving. Some bridal parties like this option because it’s less F formal and assures that guests will interact with one another as they pass plates and bowls of food.

o-Go Containers. Consider To-Go containers for the many leftovers that T might otherwise go to waste. Talk to your caterer or reception hall staff in advance to make this convenient for your guests.

Again, your dining options will be determined by your budget, the type of venue you choose, your wedding style, and your personal preferences. Whatever you choose, just be sure to pay attention to details and hire reputable caterers and service providers.

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BUDGET CHECKLIST  Reception Site Fee $  Hors d'oeuvres $  Main Meal/Caterer $  Liquor/Drinks $  Bar Set-up/Bartending Fees $  Corkage Fee $  Coffee Pouring Fee $  Service Providers' Meals $  Gratuity $  Party Favors $

 Disposable Cameras $

 Rose Petals/Rice $

 Gift Attendant Fee $

 Valet Services/Parking Fees $  Tent/Canopy $

 Dance Floor $

 Tables & Chairs $

 Linens/Tableware $

 Heaters/Fans $

 Lanterns $

TOTAL $

Cocktails Cocktails are a traditional aspect of a wedding reception, as they are considered celebratory. If you choose not to serve alcohol, you can keep your reception festive and happy by serving sparkling punches and juices, flavored waters, fruit smoothies, and so forth. If you will be serving alcohol, there are some guidelines to keep in mind.

An open bar is a fully stocked bar from which guests are free to get whatever, and as many drinks as they wish. This, of course, is your most expensive option. Other possibilities include an open bar for a limited portion of the reception, and just beer, and wine and non-alcoholic drinks available after that time. Or, you could offer just wine and beer, and opt for a cash bar, at which guests pay for their own cocktails.

If you don’t have a bar at your reception, you might consider a champagne toast at the table, just before dinner is served. This is when someone, typically the best man, proposes a toast and guests drink champagne to wish you well.

Another option is to provide wine for guests to enjoy with dinner.

If you serve alcoholic beverages, estimate on about one drink per guest per hour for budgeting. Your wedding consultant, caterer, or venue representative will be able to help you decide what liquors and beverages to have on hand.

The most popular are vodka, rum, gin, scotch, bourbon, white and red wine, champagne, and beer. Some wedding parties offer a signature cocktail, such as mojitos or martinis, supplemented by wine and beer, instead of a fully stocked open bar. Punches, either with or without alcohol, also are popular.

Rentals If you hire a reception site that is all inclusive, you won’t have to worry about renting equipment and accessories for your reception. If you’re renting a venue that simply charges a room fee, you’ll need to pay close attention to what you need.

Most facilities at least include tables and chairs. You’ll need to make sure there are enough for your guests, however, and make arrangements to rent more, if necessary. Other items to consider renting include: � � � � � �

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Work with your wedding consultant, caterer, or a site representative to determine exactly what you’ll need to supply and where you can get it. There are various party rental places in the Greater Reading area.

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Location Ideas for My Wedding Art Gallery Ballroom Banquet Hall Barn Beach Golf Course Grove Hilltop Home

Hotel Inn Island Lake Landmark Mansion Museum Private Club Park

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Choosing a Look and Style for Your Cake Think about cakes early in your planning process. You’ll want to confirm your baker about four months in advance of your wedding day. Do not, however, select a cake until after you’ve confirmed your wedding themes, colors, and décor. It’s all about complementary styles. And be certain to confirm any policies your reception venue may have concerning cakes, as some venues require that you use their bakers or pay additional slice fees.

Regardless of who bakes your cake, you’ll want to get some design ideas by visiting wedding and bakery websites to view the hundreds of cake images. Cakes can be traditional or modern, with a great variety of looks and styles. You’ll find photos of polka-dot wedding cakes, square cakes, round cakes, monogrammed cakes, and cakes with icing that looks like lace or ruffles.

Having a good idea of the type of cake you want will help move things along when you start interviewing bakers, so invest some time to educate yourself first.

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Wedding Cake Alternatives Cupcakes have become extremely popular, either as an extra dessert or in place of a cake. Choosing cupcakes as an alternative allows you to mix and match flavors, which can be fun and appealing for guests.

Other alternatives or add-ons to a wedding cake include chocolate covered strawberries, cannolis, or chocolate fountains.

If you’re not a traditionalist, you might consider swapping out a cake for something more expressive of your personality, wedding style, ethnic background, or so forth. Bite-sized s’mores, that classic combination of graham cracker, marshmallow, and chocolate would be fun for an outdoor, casual summer wedding, while tiramisu would reflect your Italian ancestry. The options are endless.

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This will help you to narrow your search. Many bakeries offer tastings when prospective clients can visit to sample different kinds of cakes and icings, view portfolios, and get more information. While you’re there, learn as much as you can about options for cakes, icing, fillings, and toppings. Ask about costs, and confirm delivery schedules. It’s important that you know as much as possible.

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Does the price include the top tier or layer?

Are you licensed to bake wedding cakes?

Can you provide references?

Once you’ve selected a baker, share your ideas and preferences, and provide photos of some of your favorites. It’s best if you share your budget, and ask your baker what he or she can do to help you keep costs down. Most wedding cakes are priced by the slice, so you’ll need to have a fairly good count for number of guests.

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BUDGET CHECKLIST  Wedding Cake $  Groom's Cake $  Cake Set-up/Delivery Fees $  Cake Cutting Fee $  Cake Topper $  Toasting Glasses/Cake Knife $ TOTAL $

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Prenuptial events are organized to have close family members and friends from both sides of the aisle have a chance to learn more about one another as you’ll be bringing all of them together for your special day and, perhaps, throughout your married life. Your future as a married couple is new territory for everyone. While you can’t dictate the future of all these relationships, you can plan for successful harmony on your wedding day by following one practical rule of thumb - make sure all pre-wedding activities share a common purpose to build goodwill and friendships.

Engagement Party Engagement parties can be held at clubs, restaurants, and even bigger venues, but no one is expecting you to make this event as elaborate as your rehearsal dinner or reception. You may choose to have a more intimate engagement party that includes only your parents, or your closest friends and family in celebration of your future wedding. Regardless of whether you share the joy with many or few, visit a warm, inviting restaurant, hire a caterer to cook and serve at your home, or have a barbecue or dinner at one of your parent’s homes, your engagement party should be a time to look forward. �

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P lan events that both your families will enjoy, giving your in-laws a comfortable environment in which to become better acquainted with your family and friends.

on’t jump the gun. The newly D engaged couple may want to slowly reveal their plans to friends and extended family. Throw this event one month out from the engagement.

good rule of thumb is to plan to invite your engagement party guests to A your wedding. Invite family first and then friends.

Use email or Facebook to invite guests. Save printed invitations for later.

Bridal Shower Bridal showers can be conducted in many different fashions. The hostess, usually a bridesmaid who is a non-family member, plans the event with input and guidance from friends and fellow bridesmaids. However, please ask your hostess to thoughtfully consider your tastes and not pursue her own preferences as you and your expected guests do not wish to be placed in awkward situations.

lso, stay organized. It’s easy to forget A what gifts were presented by which guests.

Consider assigning tasks to track gifts as this will help you with thank-you notes later.

Game Ideas Two Truths and a Lie…A great way to break the ice for friends and family who have never met. Play by having all guests tell three “facts” about themselves. Guests then guess which statement is false and which two are true.

Arts and Craft…A fun way to mingle while working on a project—especially if you and your friends are artsy. Choose a project that can be beneficial to your wedding, or something that your guests can keep. Your guests may need aprons to keep their clothing clean.

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Toilet Paper Dress…Begin by dividing your guests into two or more teams.

Allot a limited amount of time for one member of each team to be wrapped in a toilet paper dress. When time runs out, choose a winning team based on the creativity of the dress or the team's ability to use the entire roll.

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Rehearsal dinners do not have to be formal or stuffy affairs. A good restaurant will work with you to provide the atmosphere and Wedding type of dinner you desire, whether it’s for 10 people or 50. Pick a restaurant that has some significance for you and your fiancé, or �tip reflects the flavor of the Greater Reading area.

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Bachelor Parties Bachelor parties have received bad reviews for as long as we can recall. However, most are little more than a day or night of manly fellowship and good ribbing that takes place far from the risqué venues of storytelling lore. Men usually spend most of their time talking about sports, playing sports, or watching sports during this time of fellowship. It’s typically meant to signify the future groom’s last day or night of bachelorhood, and nothing more. �

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Choose activities that are also comfortable for your father and father-in-law. A golf course is often a great place to start the activities.

a bachelor party that is both fun and safe. Athletic events, a game of cards, or an Plan outdoor trip are just a few of many options.

Take time to relax and don’t preoccupy your time with worrying about the wedding.

Be sure to thank the guys for their thoughts and support.

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Bachelorette Parties Your bachelorette party is another opportunity to unwind with friends and family. You can choose a hostess, help plan the guest list, and share ideas for the events. Typically, all attendees cover the bride’s expenses for the activities. �

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on’t give out costly gifts at the bachelorette party. To remember the D night, shirts or small trinkets will suffice.

gree upon a comfortable budget to spend on the party as not all of your A bridesmaids may be comfortable with a costly bachelorette party.

ridezilla may want to rear her ugly head, but don’t let her. Take this time to B enjoy the many events your bridal party is planning for you. They may not be exactly what you had in mind, but enjoy the company of good friends.

Rehearsal Dinner A rehearsal dinner is an intimate gathering between the wedding couple’s families, their closest friends, and all members of the bridal party before the busy events of the next day. Rehearsal dinners are usually celebrated in conjunction with the ceremony rehearsal, and are another occasion for your separate families to spend time together. Wedding events are busy happenings because your guests require your attention. The rehearsal dinner is one last chance to enjoy food and good cheer alone with your friends and family.

Most bridal parties celebrate this occasion in a restaurant, where guests can either enjoy pre-selected appetizers and entrees or choose from menu selections. You’ll want to visit some restaurants as a private patron well in advance of your wedding to determine the quality of food, service, and atmosphere firsthand. You may desire a private room for your rehearsal dinner, so ask your host what size party can be accommodated. For bigger families, consider a larger venue. The Greater Berks County area offers venues of all sizes.

Food for Thought Size…What type of space is available for small or larger parties (8 to 80), and is it open or private?

Menu…Will you select from a limited menu, the full menu, or will the facility prepare anything you desire?

Special Requests…Can the facility accommodate special dietary needs?

Pricing…Will the restaurant offer fixed pricing with alcohol, and are there any additional fees?

Time…How long will you be able to use the space?

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BUDGET CHECKLIST  Bridesmaids' Luncheon $  Rehearsal Dinner $  Engagement Party $ TOTAL $

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The look and feel of your invitations and stationery should reflect your wedding style. Generally, there are three types of wedding invitations: formal, contemporary, and informal. Your choice should correlate to the type of wedding you’re planning.

A very formal wedding, for instance, may call for a formal invitation, with a response and reception card included. Both are usually white with black ink, or another dark color. Invitations for contemporary or informal weddings can be more reflective of your personal preferences, perhaps incorporating color or even graphics.

Your wedding invitation is the first impression your guests will receive, and you want it to be a good one. It sets the tone for the event, as well as relating important information. Begin the process of selecting invitations, wording and design six to eight months prior to your wedding date. If you choose to hire a calligrapher, do so four to five months prior. If you’re addressing the invitations yourself, begin the process in plenty of time to avoid a last minute panic, as your invitations should be mailed two months prior to the wedding.

Options for Printing There are several printing methods available for your wedding stationery. They include Engraving, Letterpress, Offset, Digital, and Embossing. Each offers benefits and drawbacks. That’s why it’s important to choose a good printing partner when selecting your wedding stationery package.

Engraved printing is typically used for elegant invitations and tends to be quite costly. It also requires more time to print than other options. Offset printing, on the other hand, is one of the most popular types of wedding printing.

It produces quality imaging that can be applied to a large variety of papers.

Letterpress, as the name implies, is text pressed into paper creating a textured feel. Many years ago, letterpress offered fewer type styles because each machine came standard with letter stamps, however, with the invention of modern polymer plates, couples now have a wider variety of design and type styles to select. Digital printing is the least expensive option and could be a good fit for lower quantity, lower complexity jobs. Embossing is the rarity in wedding printing and is sometimes used to imprint a monogram on your invitations.

Many couples choose a combination of letterpress and offset printing.

Ask your printer to show you samples of invitations with each of these methods so you can get an idea. Most printers have portfolios or sample books of invitations. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and have the printer explain the various printing processes.

Calligraphy If you decide you want your invitations or other stationery items to include calligraphy, which is the art of handwriting in a manner that appears decorative and somewhat formal, locate a professional calligrapher well in advance.

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Additional Stationery Items While you’re ordering wedding invitations, you’ll also want to think about ancillary stationery items. The invitation itself can contain several pieces, including a response card, reception card, ceremony card, pew card, rain card, and map or directions to the ceremony and/or reception. Not every invitation contains all of these pieces; again, it depends on the formality of the event and your personal preferences. You will, of course, need to include a response card on which guests can write whether or not they’re able to attend the wedding, and an addressed, stamped envelope in which guests can return the response card. Ask your printer to show you examples of these pieces and decide what you want or need.

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Choosing the wording for your invitations is not as straightforward as it once was, as family structures can be somewhat complicated and a wider variety of wording is considered acceptable. For a list of suggestions for wording invitations for a variety of family circumstances and wedding styles,visit any number of online resources. For tips on compiling and mailing wedding invitations, see www.emilypost.com/weddings/weddinginvitations-and-announcements/339-addressing-sending-weddinginvitations.

The Guest List Unless your wedding is very small and you and your fiancé are making the guest list yourselves, you’ll need to work with both sets of parents to determine who will be invited. After you’ve decided on a maximum number of guests, to be determined by your budget and personal preferences, ask each set of parents to give you a list of who they want to invite, as you and your fiancé make your own list. Some wedding parties divide the number of guests evenly between the two families, while others allow more for the family bearing more of the wedding costs. Keep the following tips in mind when working to compile a guest list.

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BUDGET CHECKLIST  Invitations $  Response Cards $  Reception Cards $  Ceremony Cards $  Pew Cards $  Seating/Place Cards $  Rain Cards $  Maps/Direction Cards $  Ceremony Programs $  Announcements $  Thank-You Notes $  Stamps $  Calligraphy $  Napkins $  Matchbooks $ TOTAL $

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Include a space for the reception table number and for gifts received.

This allows you to record when an invitation was sent and when you mailed thank you notes for gifts.

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You see a lot of current trends in color and pattern popping up on paper. Other recent trends include coordinating postage, gorgeous textures, and heavy paper stocks. But ultimately, your invitation and coordinated stationery package are more than just pieces of paper — they are keepsakes. Most importantly, they are your guests’ first glimpse of your big day. Always remember… first impressions make lasting impressions.

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Bridal registry The idea of running through a store with a barcode scanner and choosing whatever items your heart desires might sound like fun, but let’s get practical.

You’ll want to register first for gifts that you need and will use. A sterling silver serving platter or a complete set of crystal stemware might be beautiful, but if you’re the type of couple who enjoys camping, hiking, and traveling the world, chances are those are not practical choices for you.

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egister online. There are various websites that allow you to register R online with different stores, giving you, as well as your guests, a much larger selection. It’s also convenient for your guests, especially those from out of town. Registering online also allows you to check your registry and update it often, which is good to do to ensure that your guests always have a variety of gifts to choose from. reate your registry together. The gifts are for both of you, so talk C about what you have, what you need, and what you want. Have fun with the process, and don’t forget to compromise!

S elect gifts for different price ranges. Be sure to hit all of the major price points from $25 to $200. You don’t want to make anyone feel as though they can’t afford your registry.

S kip tradition. Don’t be pressured into registering for kitchenware or typical household items. If you want a new DVD player, register it! You may also wish to consider unique crafts, artwork, or collectibles if that’s your style. Just be clear when indicating choices, locations, and ideas. e polite. If it’s money that you want, you can register for gift cards at B stores you like.

onsider Charity. If there’s nothing you need, or you’re already feeling C cluttered with “stuff,” consider registering through a charity so that your guests’ generosity can go to someone in need. Some non-profit organizations offer online charity wedding registries. Couples can choose from thousands of national charities and will be notified when guests donate.

I nclude your registry card in bridal shower invitations. If you are using a wedding website, you may be able to email your registry to friends and family. All gifts received should promptly be followed with a handwritten thank you card.

uests should receive thank you cards within two months. Be G sure you specifically name the gift when you write the note. For monetary gifts, feel free to share how you plan to use the money.

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Wedding Favors Wedding favors are thoughtful mementos for wedding guests, and have become a fun tradition in American weddings. The bridal couple provides favors–small tokens of appreciation–to guests for sharing in the wedding day.

You could consider sweets, such as candies and cookies, or opt for more personal gifts like picture frames, personalized candles, or packets of flower seeds. Some couples give favors that reflect their wedding themes, such as sunscreen with personalized labels or paper fans for a beach wedding. Guests will appreciate something that is usable.

The possibilities are endless, so decide on a wedding favor that is meaningful to you and your fiancé. You could search the Internet for ideas and deals or visit the many shops and boutiques in the Greater Reading Area that offer fun and unique items.

Gifts for the Wedding Party Traditionally, the bride and groom select special gifts for members of the wedding party in order to express their appreciation for their loyalty and help. You’ll need to consider both your budget and the expense of your wedding when deciding what wedding party gifts to buy. Some brides choose to give their maid of honor a more generous gift because she normally is the person who plans the bridal shower and bachelorette party.

Choose gifts that may have significance to you, but also may be significant to members of the wedding party. Be sure that the gifts reflect your appreciation for the time, effort, and support that your bridesmaids and groomsmen have put into your wedding preparations. Be sure to include a handwritten note of appreciation with the gift.

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Don’t forget about your ring bearer, flower girl, and any other special people who have been supportive throughout the wedding planning process.

These gifts often are presented at the rehearsal dinner, but some brides choose to do so at their bridal luncheon instead.

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P ersonalized golf club covers & golf towel

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You, after all, are the star of the show, and everyone, including the groom, will be anxiously waiting to see what you look like as you enter the room or begin your walk down the aisle. You’ll want to find a gown that is not only stunning, but comfortable to wear and reflective of your personality.

The bridal gown, however, is not the only wedding attire to be considered.

The groom will want to be looking his best, along with members of the wedding party – both male and female. You’ll need to consider the sizes and styles of all of your attendants to select attire that is flattering to everyone.

Let’s start, though, with the main attraction – the bridal dress.

The Bridal Dress Bridal gowns are available in a variety of styles, colors, lengths, and fabrics, some of which will be more flattering and comfortable for you than others.

Selecting a bridal dress can seem like an overwhelming task, as there are thousands available in many different styles. Some brides select a designer they like and limit their search to those dresses, while others choose based on a particular style. When shopping for your bridal dress, you should consider what type of silhouette and neckline you prefer, the length of the gown, and the sleeve length and style. Then consider what fabric works best for you. �

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I f you are tall and thin… A shirtwaist or natural waist style with a full skirt would work well. Consider adding flounces or tiers if you want to minimize the impression of height. Satin and lace work well in these styles.

I f you are short and plus sized… Select a princess or A-line style dress. Avoid knit fabrics, choosing instead a chiffon, which helps to camouflage weight.

I f you are tall and plus sized…A princess or A-line style in satin, chiffon, or lace is recommended. An Empire dress with a skirt that starts just below the bust can be attractive for plus-sized figures.

I f you are pear shaped…Look for a skirt that flares gently from the natural waist. A sturdier fabric, such as taffeta, would be a good choice because it doesn’t cling.

I f you are apple shaped…Choose a dress that hugs the smallest point on your waist line, then flares gently in an A shape.

�eddin Other styles to consider, depending on your shape, include mermaid, baby doll, and sheath. Once you’ve selected a basic style for your gown, consider various types of necklines. Choose from scoop, halter, strapless, sweetheart, modest, V-neck, square, sheer, off-the-shoulder, and more. Your choice for neckline style could depend on your height, shape, and comfort level. There also is a variety of sleeve styles, including cap, sheer, puffed, fitted, bell, and detachable. You can see examples of all of these styles, and more, on bridal websites.

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Dress Length The length of your dress is another factor to consider. Generally, short dresses or tea-length dresses are considered appropriate for informal weddings, while semi-formal and formal weddings call for floor-length gowns. It’s your wedding, however, and your dress should be exactly what you want it to be.

Dress Color and Skin Tone While most brides prefer the traditional white or off-white wedding dress, some like to mix it up by choosing a gown in a different color or adding colorful touches to a white dress. When thinking about the color of your dress, consider what your skin tone is likely to be at the time of your wedding. Do you anticipate being tanned? Remember that lighter colors enhance medium to dark skin tones, while off-white, cream, and tan are better for very fair tones. Be sure to ask the bridal shop attendant if dresses you like come in colors other than those in stock.

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Timing Begin shopping for your dress at least nine months before your wedding day – preferably 12 months. This is necessary in order to select and order a dress and have enough time for alterations and fittings. If you don’t leave sufficient time, you’ll limit your options for which dresses will be available. Locate a reputable bridal salon that’s easily accessible, as you’ll need to visit numerous times. Ask other brides about their experiences with bridal shops and choose one that comes highly recommended. accessories Narrow your choices for style and fabric before you start shopping as it also impacts your selections for accessories. Having an idea of what you like and what suits your body type will help you avoid being overwhelmed by choices.

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Jewelry, which can range between $60 and $2,000 Stockings, between $10 and $20

Lingerie, between $30 and $100

There are numerous ways to reduce spending on a wedding dress. If necessary, consider renting a dress, or look for discounted styles and brands.

Be alert for clearances or sales, or consider locating a bridal outlet store.

If you’re dealing with a bridal salon, don’t be afraid to ask about sales or less expensive options for dresses.

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Bridesmaids' dresses While the bridal dress is all about the bride, bridesmaid dresses require some collaboration and flexibility. Chances are that your bridesmaids come in varied shapes and sizes, making it challenging to find a dress that everyone likes and is comfortable wearing. Plus, personal preferences vary, sometimes making it even more difficult to find a dress that everyone loves.

You’ll take a lot of stress off yourself by being flexible regarding bridesmaid dresses. One recent Berks County bride selected the designer and color of dress she wanted, and allowed her five bridesmaids to each select the style and length they preferred. She didn't want her bridesmaids to have to buy something they really weren’t happy with and wouldn’t be able to use again.

Some brides prefer to have different colored bridesmaid dresses (within your overall color scheme), while others insist on the same color or varying shades of the same color. As with the wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses can be floor or ankle length, tea length, knee length, or even mini. While the bride should initiate the bridesmaid dress selection, it’s important to ask your attendants what they like and give them some choices regarding the dress.

Flower Girl Dresses If you have a flower girl, her dress can mirror either the bridal gown or the bridesmaids’ dresses. You might consider a white or cream dress that matches yours, accented with a sash or ribbons that match the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses. A flower girl’s dress does not need to be as formal as that of the bride and bridesmaids.

The Groom’s and Ushers’ Attire The groom’s and ushers’ attire will depend largely on the formality of the wedding. Traditionally, tuxedos are worn for semi-formal and formal weddings. A business suit with a dress shirt and a tie is acceptable for a more informal event.

While most brides and bridesmaids purchase their attire, many men prefer to rent a tuxedo or suit. Point your fiancé toward a wedding website with photos of different types of suits and tuxedos, and let him browse to get an idea of what’s available. After that, you and he can visit some reputable tuxedo rental stores to look at styles, colors, costs, availability, and other concerns.

Some grooms enjoy getting involved with this process, while others may require a little more encouragement. If your fiancé isn’t overly interested in selecting wedding attire, you might consider narrowing his search by selecting a particular designer or color. If he’s doing the choosing, remind him that the men’s clothing must blend with the rest of the wedding look.

The groom’s suit or tuxedo can be the same or different as those worn by his groomsmen. Be sure that all the groomsmen are informed about what tuxedo shop to use, how to order the clothing they’ll need, when to pick up and return the clothing, and so forth. In addition to the actual tuxedo or suit, many rental shops supply shirts, vests, cummerbunds, shoes, cufflinks, bow ties, and more.

Ideas for Parents’ Attire Your wedding day is nearly as special for your parents as it is for you and your fiancé, and they will want to look their best. Talk to parents about the general color scheme and style of the wedding so they have some direction when they start to look at attire. It’s best if everyone’s clothing is the same level of formality, and in colors that complement – not clash with one another.

Many bridal and fine women's wear shops offer dresses for mothers of brides and grooms, and some department stores stock special collections. Moms should wait until the bride’s and bridesmaids’ dresses have been selected before choosing their attire in order to complement styles.

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Ideally, you should address health and beauty issues well before your wedding day, especially if you’re hoping to lose weight or modify other physical conditions. You’ll want to consult your ophthalmologist, dermatologist, dentist, trainer, and/or nutritionist six to 12 months in advance, if possible, as you’ll want to provide plenty of time to successfully acclimate to your desired outcome.

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airstyles…When considering hairstyles, start by surfing the web. Be H realistic. Is your hair long, straight, or curly enough for the styles you like? Select a few photos and take them to your stylist for a trial run.

Schedule this appointment three months before your wedding in case you need to grow your hair longer. If you don’t know whether you’ll wear your hair up or down, think about the style that best fits your face shape, and don’t be afraid to ask your stylist for advice. Consider what style will be most comfortable for you on your wedding day.

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etermine if you need to grow your hair out for the hairstyle you choose, D and improve its condition with treatments. Change the color a few weeks ahead of time if you’d like, but don’t wait until the day before in case it doesn’t turn out how you’d hoped. on’t shampoo or condition your hair on the big day. Instead, wash it D the night before. If you are wearing your hair up, you can put it in a high pony tail at bedtime.

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Hair, makeup and salon services are cornerstones to your perfect day, so reserving your salon 12 months in advance of your wedding date is highly recommended. A reputable salon will have experience with weddings and will offer a free consultation to ascertain your needs and desires for your wedding day. It’s also a great idea to book a trial run to assure that your expectations are met, with no surprises on your wedding day.

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Spa services Some brides take advantage of spa services shortly before their wedding day to help them relax and remain focused. Simple services such as scalp or body massages have been proven to not only relax you, but also help you sleep better. Many also choose to have manicures and pedicures on these visits.

Some brides plan a spa night at home with their bridesmaids weeks before the wedding, during which, they exchange manicures, pedicures, facials, and massages, while sharing stories and dreams. It’s a great bonding experience.

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If you’re going to take advantage of spa services, choose the spa you’ll use well in advance, and make reservations to avoid the stress of having to find a place just before the wedding.

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health and Fitness For many brides-to-be, an engagement ring is a signal to get into shape. If you’re already in great shape, congratulations and keep up the good work. If you’d like to lose some weight or simply improve your overall health and muscle tone, you should begin doing so as far ahead of your wedding as possible.

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etter Health… If your goal is to lose weight, you might consider consulting a professional B trainer or nutritionist to help you establish a plan. He or she could help you set realistic goals and provide information regarding the nutritional values of various foods, portion sizes, healthy and unhealthy fats, and so forth. Additionally, you could visit some of the many websites available to help you understand these issues.

Avoid the temptation of trying a diet that is extremely limiting, or promises results that sound too good to be true. A well balanced diet that allows you to enjoy reasonable quantities of a wide variety of food, allows you to lose weight in a controlled manner, and keep it off. Moderate exercise is extremely important, as being physically active will help you shed those extra pounds and keep you energized, especially during the stressful months leading up to your wedding.

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Like all other elements, the flowers and decorations you select for your wedding ceremony and reception should be reflective of your overall style and color scheme. As you think about what flowers and decorations you’ll choose, remember they will help to carry your wedding theme from the ceremony to the reception. They will be one of the first things your guests will notice when they enter the site of the ceremony, and one of the last things they’ll see when leaving the reception.

Flowers are one of the most photographed elements of a wedding, so you’ll want to be sure you find some that you really love.

They can signify a meaning or tradition that is special to you. If the first bouquet your fiancé ever gave you contained white roses, for instance, you might choose the same flower for your bridal bouquet. If you’ve always had a special fondness for purple iris because your grandmother had a garden full of them when you were a child, you might incorporate them into the centerpieces on the reception tables Your florist will work closely with you to find the flowers you love that fit your style – and your budget. Let’s look at the most popular flower arrangements used in wedding ceremonies and receptions.

Ceremony Flowers Bride’s bouquet… Complements your dress and your bridesmaids’ dresses, as well as takes into account the season, style, and formality of your wedding.

There are literally hundreds of flowers to choose from, some that carry centuries of symbolism. If you have a favorite flower, you can build your bouquet around it and include it in all other arrangements.

Large or cascading bouquets generally pair better with a simple gown or a tall or big bride, while smaller bouquets are complementary to petite brides or very ornate gowns. If you want to preserve your bridal bouquet, but still want to have a bouquet to toss at the reception, ask your florist about having a smaller, less expensive bouquet made for that purpose.

Bridesmaids’ bouquets… Smaller in size than the bride’s bouquet, but complementary in color, shape, and style. A maid or matron of honor might have a slightly larger bouquet than the bridesmaids. If you want, insert a special

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flower that carries significance into the bouquet of each bridesmaid to tell her how she is special to you. A flower girl could carry a small bouquet, or a basket filled with rose blossoms and decorated with flowing ribbons.

Boutonnieres… Boutonnieres generally consist of a single bloom, but can also be fashioned from small clusters of flowers. The groom; ushers; family members including fathers, grandfathers, and brothers; and male officiants often wear boutonnieres.

Altar flowers… If your ceremony is in a church or synagogue, altar flowers are traditional, and serve to draw the attention of guests to the front of the ceremony space. If your ceremony is held outside or in a different setting, flowers often are used to decorate an arch, gazebo, or other structure. Jewish ceremonies incorporate a Chuppah, a structure placed at the altar and covered with greens and flowers, under which vows are recited.

Aisle pew decorations… Flowers, candles, or ribbons can be used to add color to pews or chairs, or to mark pews that are reserved for family members or others.

Reception Flowers Head table… Use a large, dramatic bouquet in the center of the table, or smaller ones along the length of the table.

To save money, place your bouquet and the bridesmaids’ bouquets along the front of the head table instead of having additional arrangements prepared.

Guest tables… Flowers are nice on guest tables, but a variety of options can be combined with flowers or used instead to decorate. A wreath of greenery, live plants in baskets, fruits or vegetables, berries, pumpkins or gourds, candles, and other items can be used in place of flowers, if you’d like. This is an opportunity to get creative. You may wish to incorporate items that complement your theme, such as memorabilia; sea shells; personal craftwork, such as pottery or glass vessels; or sports items.

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event at this location. If you do want flowers here, avoid strong, fragrant varieties, which can compete with the food.

Punch table or cake table… These would be smaller arrangements in colors and styles complementary to the rest of your flowers.

Embrace your floral budget… It's easy to have unrealistic expectations, as you've no doubt seen gorgeous–and very expensive–flower arrangements on wedding sites and television shows. Embrace your budget and work within it.

While flowers are traditionally an important part of a wedding and definitely add to the beauty and elegance of an event, brides vary on their importance. Use your judgment when deciding what type and how many flowers you want, and remember to set a budget and stay within it, as the cost of flowers and decorations can add up quickly. A good florist/decorator will keep your style and theme consistent while staying within your budget, as some blooms and special items are much more expensive than others.

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Decorations A variety of decorations can be used at both your wedding ceremony and reception. As with flowers, they should reflect your style and theme. There are hundreds of ideas for wedding decorations available online. Work closely with your decorator to achieve the desired results for your special day.

Some ideas to get you started � Buy rolls of fabric, such as organza or tulle, to wrap posts or poles or create chairback decorations �

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BUDGET CHECKLIST  Bridal Bouquet $  Bride's Tossing Bouquet $  Maid of Honor Bouquet $  Bridesmaids Bouquets $  Any Floral Headpieces $  Bridal Going Away Corsage $  Family Member Corsages $  Altar $  Candelabra $  Aisle Seating $  Reception Site $  Head Table $  Guest Tables $  Buffet Table $  Punch Table $  Cake Table $  Cake $  Cake Knife $  Toasting Glasses $  Floral Set-up/Delivery Fees $  Table Centerpieces $  Balloons $  Bridal Bouquet Preservation $ TOTAL $

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Music creates the mood for our lives. Could you imagine watching your favorite movie void of a musical score? That’s why it’s important to choose appropriate music for your wedding. Rap n’Roll might not fit your ceremony, but it will rock your reception. Aside from the obvious choice of live versus canned music, you’ll have many decisions and price ranges.

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relude Music…Played before the wedding party makes its grand P entrance. It’s the first piece of music that guests hear as they’re being seated. It’s typically soft or ambient to set the mood.

rocessionals Music…Played for the bride’s grand début. It’s P typically more dynamic than the prelude music, and it’s a key for your guests to recognize the program is ready to begin. ecessionals Music…Played to announce the end of the ceremony.

R You can jazz it up to dance down the aisle or select a more serious, romantic choice to bring tears of joy to the crowd.

If you choose live music for your ceremony you may wish to consider pairing complementary instruments together for that classic touch. You might choose to incorporate vocals, or instruments including strings, harp, flute, piano, or even a saxophone.

That’s often a difficult choice that’s decided by two factors…budget and command. Every good reception needs a great entertainment director to guide the event to a successful conclusion and keep your guests entertained.

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Cocktail Hour A cocktail hour provides the opportunity for your guests to enjoy drinks and hors d'oeuvres while your reception dinner is being prepared. This event is almost always held at the same place as the reception and can include live music—usually something light on the ears so guests can converse comfortably. You may wish to consider a solo guitar player.

Reception Music Do you go with the live band or the DJ? This is often a difficult choice that’s decided by two factors - budget and command. Every good reception needs a great entertainment director to guide the event to a successful conclusion and keep your guests entertained.

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You may love a certain band that performs well in the clubs but will they be able to perform the necessary reception duties like introducing the bridal party and playing the typical wedding favorites? On the other hand, some DJs know how to program the songs you want but may not be the energetic entertainer that keeps your crowd on the dance floor all night long. The right choice will bring good times and great memories for all who share in your joyous day.

Wedding Day Dancing You’ve spent thousands of dollars to look like a million. Why not complete the picture? Maybe you’ve never given much thought to movin’ and groovin’, but when it’s time for that first dance you don’t want to be short on moves. Consider booking dance lessons before your wedding day so you can look smooth and feel great in front of all your friends and family. You can select private instruction, join group lessons, or invite your parents and bridal party for private sessions. It can be a fun activity with friends and family, and might even help dad with the father/daughter dance. You’ll be amazed at how all eyes will be focused on you as you glide effortlessly across the dance floor on your wedding day.

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Tips Recommendations…Ask your friends if they’ve seen or heard of any good musical acts that might be appropriate for your wedding and reception.

Research…Before contracting a DJ or live band research their previous gigs. View their work on YouTube or request a copy of past performances.

Feeling the Vibe…If you’re not feeling the love during the interview or a visit to see a current performance, move on. Your instincts are usually on the money.

Clear Communications…Be clear when communicating your dates, times, and expectations, and make sure the band or DJ knows how and when to gain access to the venue to set up in advance of your reception.

Back-up Plans…Bring your favorite songs just in case the DJ doesn’t have them on hand, especially a copy of your first dance songs.

It wouldn’t be the first time music was missing from a DJ’s library.

Do We Dare…The Macarena and The Electric Slide can be heard at almost any reception. If you don’t want to include them, however, consider adding them to your ‘do not play’ list.

The Contract… Read what you sign! A DJ or band should be bound by their contract to show up on time, perform the necessary rituals, and play only songs that you’ve chosen.

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There are few pieces of your wedding planning that are more important than photography and videography. You’ll want to make sure you hire the best photographer you can in order to assure you get photos you love to keep and to share. You’ll also want to find a videographer who understands your wedding style and what you hope to accomplish with your video in order to make it truly reflective of your event. While many couples hire a photographer for the day of their wedding and reception, you may want to consider documenting your love for one another from the time you become engaged until after the wedding.

Photos taken shortly after you become engaged begin the story of your nuptial journey in a setting that is special to you and your fiancé. You also could have a photographer capture the fun of an engagement party, the drama of trying on dresses, the joy of a bridal shower, the uncertainty of your rehearsal, and all the other emotions and events that highlight your engagement period.

Creating a Story Your love may never be published in words, but it can be documented in pictures. Wedding photography is all about creating a story. From the first days of your engagement to the last minutes of your wedding reception, photos will capture precious moments you’ll want to share and savor forever. These are the photos you may someday show to your children, and perhaps to your grandchildren. They’ll place you forever in settings you love, and with people you love.

Selecting a Photographer to Preserve Your Memories There are a number of professional photographers in the Greater Reading Area, some of whom are particularly known for wedding photography. You can begin narrowing your search for a photographer by visiting websites, most of which contain portfolios, information about the business, services offered, pricing, and, perhaps most importantly, testimonials from past clients.

Your journey to marriage culminates on the day of your wedding, during which your photographer will create and capture beautiful photos – both posed and candid – to record this day that you’ll want to remember forever.

Once you get an idea of what’s available and what you like, you can begin contacting photographers for more information, and to see more of their work.

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uality and style of work. Some photographers are more Q traditionalists who are most comfortable with posed and arranged shots, while others prefer to take mostly unscripted shots that capture the natural flow of the day. Most are somewhere in the middle of those styles and do both posed and natural photos. Talk to photographers about their styles and keep style in mind when you look at various portfolios.

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ecommendations from others. If you know four people who got R married within the past year, all had the same photographer, and were thrilled with his work, chances are you’ll be happy, as well. Conversely, if you know several people who weren’t pleased with a particular photographer, you probably want to look elsewhere.

our comfort level. Ideally, you should not only like a photographer’s Y work, you should like the photographer, as well. Remember that you’ll be working closely together, and you need to have confidence that the person you choose is the best for the important job he’ll be doing.

It may be that a friend or family member has a nice camera and will offer to take wedding photos for you. If that person happens to be a professional photographer with a great portfolio for you to peruse, you probably want to extend an enthusiastic “thank you” and start making plans for photo sessions.

If, as is most often the case, that well-meaning person is not a professional photographer, think carefully about what your wedding photos are worth to you. A professional photographer, unlike a friend or your cousin, has training and experience in arranging people for posed images. He understands lighting,

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exposure and camera angles. He carries extra equipment to overcome problems, and he owns equipment necessary to get the best images under all kinds of conditions. He knows what type of images to look for, and how to get them in an unobtrusive, professional manner.

By all means, encourage friends and relatives to take pictures during your reception, and the ceremony, if permitted and applicable. You’re likely to get some shots that you love. However, think very carefully before agreeing to have a non-professional photographer be the sole source of your wedding photos. Consider the following factors: �

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P rofessional photographers provide professional prints. Having your photos on compact discs is great, but consider that, as technology advances, CDs have the potential to become a relic of the past. Also, there’s the possibility that the CD could get scratched and become unreadable. professional photographer who has been taking wedding photos for an appreciable amount of time A has encountered nearly every type of situation. Bad weather, a ring bearer meltdown, a key relative who is late to the ceremony – these are all situations a pro has encountered and knows how to handle. Little problems don’t become big problems for someone who has been through them and knows how to react. hile many people have a nice digital camera, few own, and know how to properly use, the extensive W equipment that professional photographers own.

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Videography Videography is a recent, and popular development. A high-resolution DVD copy of your wedding can be duplicated numerous times with good results, allowing you to share the most special moments of your day with loved ones.

The point of a wedding video is to capture the personality of your wedding by filming portions of the wedding that define it – that make it uniquely yours. A good videographer will record not only the essential ingredients like vows, the ring exchange, and cake cutting, but will capture the spirit and style of your event. If you ask the videographer to provide a condensed three-to-five minute, low-resolution version of your wedding video, you can email it to friends and family. Keep the following suggestions in mind when considering a wedding video and choosing a videographer. �

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Traditionally, the bride and groom travel separately to the wedding ceremony, accompanied by their respective members of the wedding party.

It is customary for the bride to ride with her father in a separate car from that used by other members of her wedding party. This time provides an opportunity for the bride and her father to review last minute plans, reminisce, or just be together.

The bride’s mother and other members of her wedding party can ride in one or more cars, or, alternately, a limousine hired for the occasion. If the wedding party is large, you might consider hiring two limos – one for the bride’s attendants and one for the groom and his groomsmen.

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What type of guarantees does it offer regarding timeliness, courtesy, etc.?

How many vehicles are available for rent?

What types of vehicles are available?

How many drivers does the company have available?

How do drivers dress for wedding transport?

Does the company have backup vehicles and drivers available?

There are a number of limousine service companies in the Greater Reading area, some of which also can provide stretch limos, buses, luxury cars, and other vehicles. Companies have various rates and billing structures, so be sure to investigate before deciding which to hire. Some offer wedding packages that may be beneficial.

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While limousines offer the advantages of extra space and worry-free travel, some couples prefer other means of transportation. If you’re lucky, your father, aunt, or brother might be a collector of classic cars, and willing to provide transport for you and your bridal party. If classic fits your wedding style better than limos, there are sources available for renting classic, vintage, or other specialized vehicles. Or, of course, you can opt to use vehicles that you, or members of your wedding party own or borrow.

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With a little research, you may be able to find companies or individuals that offer horse-drawn carriage rides, classic trolleys, or other non-traditional forms of transportation. Remember, the transportation you choose should fit your wedding style. Brides and grooms have employed transport as untraditional as boats and helicopters, so don’t be afraid to think outside of the box. Of course you could always walk if the ceremony is close to the reception.

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Can the wedding party bring its own snacks/beverages on board?

Is there a minimum amount of time required for renting a vehicle?

What is the cost per hour?

I s there a separate cost per hour for the vehicle and the driver, or is it one fee?

What is the payment policy?

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For your guests Some hotels may also offer transportation packages based on the number of rooms rented, so be sure to ask when you book reservations. If the hotel does not include shuttle service, consider hiring vans or buses to transport guests from the hotel to the ceremony site, the ceremony to the reception, and back from the reception to the hotel at the end of the day or evening. Hotels may also offer free transportation for the bride and groom if you book the honeymoon suite for your wedding night.

If you’re planning to rent one or more vehicles, you’ll want to get some information and then compare the services of several different companies.

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Once you’ve decided on a transportation provider, get a signed contract with everything in writing. The important thing is that you, members of your wedding party, and your guests arrive where you need to be safely and on time.

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Your wedding day might feel like it’s all about you and your fiancé, and, to a great extent, that’s true. Because your wedding guests are an integral and important part of the day, however, you’ll want to make sure they’re feeling the love, as well.

It is your guests, after all, along with family members and close friends, who are offering you and your soon-to-be-spouse their love and support for your married life. They are the people with whom you’ve chosen to spend this very important day, so you’ll want to make it as wonderful for them as it will be for you.

Keeping Guests Informed A successful wedding is like a well-directed and much-rehearsed play. Every actor knows what’s expected at any given time during the performance. To assure that your guests know what’s expected, don’t leave anything to chance, whether it concerns guest attire, who’s invited, directions to locations, and more.

What are guests to wear? Most guests will dress appropriately without any direction from you. However, if your wedding is formal or very themed, you might want to note that in your invitation.

You could use the wording “black tie optional,” or “black tie invited,” to let guests know that tuxedos and long dresses are appropriate. That wording, however, allows for those who don’t own or want to rent a tux the opportunity to wear a nice suit, instead. On the other hand, if your reception is very casual or themed, such as a picnic or beach theme, you might suggest somewhere in your invitation that guests are encouraged to dress comfortably.

Exactly who is invited? Clearly state who is invited to various parts of the wedding.

If children are welcome at the ceremony, but the reception is adults only, be sure that’s stated on your invitation or reception card. If it’s a smaller, more intimate wedding, you may also wish to clarify who may bring guests. You may run the risk of offending some invitees, but it’s better to manage expectations upfront than create issues later.

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Are there recommended activities between the ceremony and reception? Sometimes, for reasons you can’t avoid, there may be a delay between the end of the ceremony and the beginning of the reception. If this is the case, it’s nice to provide guests, especially those from out of town, with some suggestions for filling that time. You could suggest a coffee shop that’s near the reception site, a bookstore, mall, park, local historical site, museum, or any other pleasant, convenient, and accessible site.

What are the directions? Include directions to the ceremony, and from the ceremony to the reception. If guests are coming into town from different directions, you should provide driving instructions from various highways or interstates.

Is parking an issue? Make sure guests have an idea of available parking areas near your ceremony and reception sites. You might note, for instance, that the hotel includes an attached parking garage, or that street parking is available in an area behind the church. Parking can be of particular concern in urban areas, so be sure to ease any anticipated concerns of your guests.

What’s there to do in the Greater Reading Area? Some out-of-town guests may extend their visit by a day or two. A thoughtful gesture would be to provide them with some suggestions for interesting places to visit while they are here. You might suggest an area historical site, a shopping opportunity, some good restaurants, or antiquing opportunities to make their trip more rewarding.

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Think about other possible opportunities to clarify information for guests. If you prefer for some reason that guests do not bring gifts to the reception, for instance, make that clear, along with suggestions for an alternative drop-off site. If you know that a particular guest or guests may have trouble getting up steps to your ceremony site, you might include a note that a side entrance is available. Be thoughtful, and anticipate what your guests might need or wish to know.

Guest Accommodations Most weddings include at least a few guests from out of town, so you’ll need to address the matter of guest accommodations. The Greater Reading Area offers a variety of lodging options, from full-service hotels to historic bed and breakfasts. Many offer wedding packages that may include special services and reduced rates for the bride and groom, the wedding party, and blocks of rooms for out-of-town guests. You may also wish to inquire about transportation packages associated with your reservations.

If your reception is in a hotel or resort that includes guest rooms, it makes sense to recommend that your guests stay there. Once you have an idea of how many guests you anticipate, you can reserve a block of rooms with the hotel. The rooms will be held at a special rate until a set date, by which guests must make their reservations. Stay in touch with the hotel as your guests are reserving their rooms so that you’ll know whether you might have to increase or decrease the number of rooms in your block.

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Consider blocking off hotel rooms for your out-of-town guests in an area close to your venue. You’ll get a better rate because of the block, and your guests will appreciate your extra efforts. Also, ask your hotel if there will be any renovations taking place during the date of your wedding.

There is no reason to risk an unpleasant stay. � Melissa Hadfield, Hampton Inn at Wyomissing

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If your reception is not in a place that includes lodging, you’ll want to provide guests with some recommendations for places that are close to where the reception is held. Since guests may have varying budget constraints, try to offer suggestions of places with varying costs. Just be sure that all the places you suggest are reputable, clean, and comfortable. If you can, visit each place and ask to see some of the guest rooms. A place that is proud of the quality of its facilities will be happy to accommodate you.

Let guests know your recommendations well in advance of your wedding date, so they have time to decide where to stay and make reservations. Be sure to inform them of any hotel policies that might affect them, such as arrival and checkout times, smoking policies, pet policies, and so forth. Your guests will greatly appreciate your gestures of caring and gratitude.

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Many wedding behaviors and traditions are passed along from one generation to the next. These traditions, including the positions in which the bride and groom stand, rituals performed during the ceremony, and guest responses, all symbolize a bride’s and groom’s cultural, social, and/or religious affiliations.

Consider the following list of traditions, and consider if any seem appropriate for your wedding.

The Bouquet Originally, brides carried spices or garlic to ward off evil spirits. As time went on, women lost the scent bags and began carrying bouquets containing flowers.

Many flowers carry symbolism for things such as faithfulness, love, and purity.

The Veil Symbolizing purity and virginity, the veil was used to hide a young woman’s eyes from her fiancé. Engagements of old were arranged, so for many, the wedding was the first time a groom set eyes upon his bride. prosperity toss Rice was thrown in honor of a newlywed couple’s fertility, and also to wish for a good harvest. Today, other items often are substituted for rice because of its potentially negative effects on wildlife. Consider having your guests blow bubbles, which can also double as wedding favors, or throw petals or sunflower seeds.

Breaking the Gl ass The Jewish wedding tradition of breaking the glass is steeped in tradition.

Although interpretations vary, tradition states that, at the end of a Jewish ceremony, the groom steps on the glass (wrapped in a cloth) and the audience shouts, “Mazel Tov.” The many shards that the groom’s action produces represent the hope that the couple’s love will be as plentiful. Other interpretations suggest that the broken glass also symbolizes the need to foster love because it is a fragile virtue, or the end of the couple’s lives as singles.

Old, New, Borrowed, and Blue Something old is an object that symbolizes a bride’s kinship to her family.

Something new represents a bride’s union with her husband’s family, and her new future. Something borrowed is intended to be an object from a friend of the family who enjoys a successful marriage; chosen in hope that the newlywed couple will also enjoy a strong marriage. Something blue represents purity.

These trinkets might be given to the bride by her family or she may have ideas for what she wants to use.

Catholic Weddings Catholic weddings are conducted under the instruction of an elaborate liturgy.

The service is typically performed in English, or preferred languages of the bridal party, moving through six distinct stages. The audience is uniquely involved in this ceremony tradition.

White Aisle Runner A white aisle runner symbolizes walking on sacred ground. Plan ahead before using one outside—wind and wet weather can ruin this tradition.

Doves For Christian-Judeo cultures, doves symbolize peace and fidelity. Doves are monogamous birds and are used to symbolize the union of a couple. Releasing doves at your wedding can add ambiance and grace to your ceremony. If you’re planning to incorporate doves in your wedding, plan ahead. Businesses that offer dove releases will cancel in windy, rainy, or snowy conditions to protect their birds. Butterflies could always be substituted for doves.

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During the rehearsal dinner, the bride and groom traditionally toast their guests. This is the time to thank your parents and attendants for all they’ve done to help you. Prepare a speech ahead of time if you anticipate being nervous about toasting, and don’t forget to bring thank you gifts for your bridesmaids and groomsmen; they’re traditionally given out at the rehearsal dinner. � Tina Grande, GNA Ristorante

The Wedding Rings A circle has no end. The ring represents a couple’s eternal and endless love for one another and it is given to symbolize faithfulness. More importantly, many ancient civilizations believed the ring finger held a vein that led directly to the heart. Placing a ring on the fourth finger was a way of connecting the promise of faithfulness to the heart.

Kissing the Bride The kiss is a way for a couple to publicly seal their marriage. This act symbolizes a sharing of souls. It’s also where we get the saying, “sealed with a kiss.”

The Couple Pronounced as Husband and Wife When an officiant pronounces a couple “husband and wife,” he is doing so to declare a definite point in time when a marriage began. It is spoken to establish the validity of a union.

Signing a Guest Book Marriage is a covenant between two persons and a guest book is a way for witnesses to establish their witness of a union. Many sources say the book should be signed after the wedding. In much simpler terms, a guest book is a great way to remember everyone who attended your wedding.

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Even the most frugal weddings require some money, so start saving early. Add tax refunds, gifts, and bonuses to your wedding fund and keep it separate from daily expenses.

Saving for your wedding is great practice for married life.

� Merra Lee Moffitt, Money in Marriage Coach

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The Receiving Line The receiving line is an opportunity for the couple to greet all guests, and for guests to offer congratulations and good wishes. Parents of the bride and groom also stand in line to receive blessings and congratulation from guests.

Father Daughter / Mother Son Dances This is a traditional way of honoring your parents before you take your first steps into the world as husband and wife. These dances are conducted during the reception, and are often performed to songs that hold special meaning.

Speeches Traditionally, speeches are given by any member of the bridal party who wishes to verbally honor the bride and groom. While this seems like a nice gesture, speeches sometimes can get cumbersome and long – even boring to guests.

Traditionally, the father of the bride, best man, and maid of honor deliver orations. A special time can be reserved for speeches during the reception.

Speeches should be kept positive, short, and polite.

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Family Etiquette Members of both families are expected to behave diplomatically toward one another in order to avoid hurt feelings or awkward situations. Wedding etiquette is essential in creating good will between families and assuring that the wedding is a pleasant event. The tips below can get family members started with forming good relationships. For more suggestions, refer to Emily Post’s Book of Etiquette. �

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S tay fit, eat well, and improve your physique before your wedding day— create a fitness routine that will continue well into your marriage.

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Greet and speak with all your guests during the reception.

Expect the best and plan for the worst—Murphy’s Law is universal.

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From the picturesque mountains of Europe to the dynamic landscapes of Australia and New Zealand, the world is at your doorstep. You can travel to a topical beach, a world-class city, an exotic foreign land, or a remote wilderness area. With all those honeymoon choices, then, how can you possibility decide where to go? In this section, we’ll explore some ideas for honeymoons, and offer tips for choosing and planning.

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S taying Home or Going Abroad...Decide if you’ll stay in the United States or travel to a different country. If planning to travel out of the country, check the weather. Some countries experience rainy seasons, intense heat, or other conditions during certain seasons.

Picking the Ideal Location If you and your fiancé are planning a honeymoon for very soon after the wedding, you’ll need to plan it as you plan the wedding. Some couples, for various reasons, postpone their honeymoons until a time past the wedding.

This could be due to wanting to have some time to regroup and get organized after the flurry of wedding activity, or perhaps because of financial constraints.

Regardless of when you plan to take your honeymoon, you should think about what you want from the trip, and what you’re able to afford.

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As a couple, do you see yourselves being pampered at a resort and spa, relaxing on a beach chair on a tropical island in the Caribbean, or strolling through England’s countryside? Your answers to these questions, along with how much money you have for the trip, will ultimately decide the type of destination you’ll choose. Some tips for narrowing your search and identifying desirable locations are listed below.

While many people enjoy researching, planning, and booking travel online, a full-service travel agency can be a huge help in locating activities, flights, rental vehicles and hotels that fit within your budget. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by wedding planning, you might consider using the services of a travel agency to help you plan your honeymoon. Alternately, the person who is less extensively involved in the wedding plans could pick up most of the honeymoon planning.

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Make your first day as husband and wife as stress free as possible.

Avoid booking a 6 a.m. flight to your honeymoon destination.

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Preparing for Travel Once you decide where you’ll be traveling, make sure you make the necessary preparations to avoid being disappointed or inconvenienced. As you know, travel has become more difficult within the past decade. You’ll want to be sure you have everything in order before embarking. ook plane and hotel reservations well in advance, especially if you’re B planning on traveling to top honeymoon spots such as the Bahamas, Jamaica, or Cancun.

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What and When to Pack Unless you’re headed for the wilds of Greenland or some other remote area, you’ll be able to purchase toiletries or other items you might forget to bring along. That means you don’t have to obsess about taking everything you might possibly have a need for.

There are some things, however, that you definitely do want to stash in your suitcase. In addition to copies of identification, reservations, receipts, and so forth, be sure you pack battery chargers for cameras, phones, iPods, and other electronics; adapters and converters if the electrical system will require them; and a travel alarm if you’re not sure your cell phones will be in service.

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Tell the world you’re honeymooners!

Don’t be bashful about your status, because you’re likely to enjoy special treatment such as a complimentary dinner or a gift basket in your room.

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Travel guides and foreign language dictionaries are good ideas, and don’t forget to take ample supplies of any medications you take. Zip-lock bags in various sizes come in handy. Once you’ve got these essentials, you can pack up your favorite outfits and other items.

If you’re leaving for your honeymoon on the day of your wedding or the day after, do not, under any circumstances, put off packing until after the reception. Have everything ready in advance so it doesn’t add any stress to your wedding day.

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The Visitors Bureau has all the information about special things to do and see in Greater Reading. It’s their job to connect you to the right resources and guide you all along the way.

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�irectory Accommodations Courtyard by Marriott 610-378-1137 www.courtyardreading.com/

Celebrations & Parties The Barn at Flying Hills 610-775-3351 www.flyinghills.com

Golden Oaks Golf Club 610-944-6000 www.goldenoaksgolfclub.com

Dans Restaurant 610-373-2075 www.dansrestaurant.com

Hampton Inn 610-374-2076 www.readingwyomissing.hamptoninn.com

Emily’s 610-856-7887 www.emilysrt10.com

Reading Crowne Plaza 610-376-3811 www.readingcrowne.com

GNA Ristorante 610-376-1155 www.gnaristorante.com

Yellow House Hotel 610-689-9410 www.yellowhousehotel.com

GoggleWorks 610-374-4600 www.goggleworks.org

Bakeries GNA Ristorante 610-376-1155 www.gnaristorante.com Kupkake Kouture 610-334-7668 www.idreamofkupkakes.com Redner’s Markets, Inc. 610-926-3700 www.rednersmarkets.com Catering Celebrated Occasions, A Division of Penn Square Catering 610-775-5749 www.celebratedoccasions.net Dans Restaurant 610-373-2075 www.dansrestaurant.com GNA Ristorante 610-376-1155 www.gnaristorante.com Reading Crowne Plaza 610-376-3811 www.readingcrowne.com Toscani – Events by ViVÁ 610-685-3900 x400 www.VivaGoodLife.com

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Golden Oaks Golf Club 610-944-6000 www.goldenoaksgolfclub.com Jimmie Kramer’s Peanut Bar 610-376-8500 www.peanutbar.com Reading Crowne Plaza 610-376-3811 www.readingcrowne.com Reading Public Museum 610-371-5850 www.readingpublicmuseum.org Toscani – Events by ViVÁ 610-685-3900 x400 www.VivaGoodLife.com WCR Center 610-898-0850 friendsofchambermusic.homestead.com/hall.html Yellow House Hotel 610-689-9410 www.yellowhousehotel.com Ceremony Venues The Barn at Flying Hills 610-775-3351 www.flyinghills.com Emily’s 610-856-7887 www.emilysrt10.com

GNA Ristorante 610-376-1155 www.gnaristorante.com GoggleWorks 610-374-4600 www.goggleworks.org Golden Oaks Golf Club 610-944-6000 www.goldenoaksgolfclub.com/ Jimmie Kramer’s Peanut Bar 610-376-8500 www.peanutbar.com Reading Crowne Plaza 610-376-3811 www.readingcrowne.com Reading Public Museum 610-371-5850 www.readingpublicmuseum.org Toscani – Events by ViVÁ 610-685-3900 x400 www.VivaGoodLife.com WCR Center 610-898-0850 friendsofchambermusic.homestead.com/hall.html Yellow House Hotel 610-689-9410 www.yellowhousehotel.com Dance Instruction Louise Lamar Dance Studio 610-488-1714 www.lamardance.com Etiquette Coach Leslie Zimmerman 610-926-5815 CameronSchoolOfEtiquette.com Event Pl anning Lovely Events & Occasions 610-670-6502 www.lovelyeventsandoccasions.com Toscani – Events by ViVÁ 610-685-3900 x400 www.VivaGoodLife.com

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Financial Pl anning Merra Lee Moffitt 1-888-920-2030 www.moffitt.com

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Flowers & Decorations Arts N' Flowers 610-373-8804

Van Scoy Jewelers 610-374-9330 www.vanscoy.com

Rentals Fancy Seats 610-763-2569 www.fancyseatweddings.com

Photography Dave Zerbe Studio 610-376-0379 www.davezerbestudio.net

Travel CK Tours and Cruises 610-916-2923 www.cktours.com

The Floral Studio 610-670-8450 Gifts Cigars On The Avenue 610-670-5259 Dunkelberger’s Fine Jewelry & Gifts 610-683-7011 GoggleWorks 610-374-4600 www.goggleworks.org Golden Oaks Golf Club 610-944-6000 www.goldenoaksgolfclub.com Hair On The Avenue 610-927-3772 www.hotasalon.com Reading Public Museum 610-371-5850 www.readingpublicmuseum.org Scentsy 610-698-1966 jeaninec.scentsy.us Sorrelli 800-876-7735 www.sorrelli.com

Sorrelli 800-876-7735 www.sorrelli.com

Searfoss Designer Portraits 610-670-9674 www.searfossphotography.com Secoges Photographics 610-927-3577 www.secogesphoto.com Reception Venues The Barn at Flying Hills 610-775-3351 www.flyinghills.com Dans Restaurant 610-373-2075 www.dansrestaurant.com Emily’s 610-856-7887 www.emilysrt10.com GNA Ristorante 610-376-1155 www.gnaristorante.com GoggleWorks 610-374-4600 www.goggleworks.org

Yellow House Hotel 610-689-9410 www.yellowhousehotel.com

Spa Services Hair On The Avenue 610-927-3772 www.hotasalon.com Stationery Design & Printing Penmerry Design 610-916-3899 www.penmerry.com Keystone Instant Printing 610-378-1107 www.keystoneinstantprinting.com Vision Enhancement Berks Eye Physicians & Surgeons 610-372-0712 www.izzovision.com Visitor Services Greater Reading Convention & Visitors Bureau 610-375-4085 www.readingberkspa.com

�irectory Van Scoy Jewelers 610-374-9330 www.vanscoy.com

Health & Beauty Berks Eye Physicians and Surgeons 610-372-0712 www.berkseye.com Hair On The Avenue 610-927-3772 www.hotasalon.com

Jewelery Dunkelberger’s Fine Jewelry & Gifts 610-683-7011 GoggleWorks 610-374-4600 www.goggleworks.org

Reading Public Museum 610-371-5850

Golden Oaks Golf Club 610-944-6000 www.goldenoaksgolfclub.com

Jimmie Kramer’s Peanut Bar 610-376-8500 www.peanutbar.com Reading Crowne Plaza 610-376-3811 www.readingcrowne.com

Reading Public Museum 610-371-5850 www.readingpublicmuseum.org Toscani – Events by ViVÁ 610-685-3900 x400 www.VivaGoodLife.com

WCR Center 610-898-0850 friendsofchambermusic.homestead.com/hall.html

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Make it memorable.

Make it a masterpiece.

Mix and mingle in the radiance of Degas’ The Laundress and Dupre’s The Balloon, dine with friends under the twilight of the midnight sky, enjoy the company of close family in a lush botanical garden.

The Reading Public Museum can offer you all this and more as the backdrop for your wedding.

Edible Luxury A delectable alternative to the traditional wedding cake.

From our Planetarium to our Art Galleries, The Museum provides the most unique environments for your wedding in the Greater Reading area. Our rental spaces come in every size and ambiance, and are the perfect setting for ceremonies and receptions.

If you’re looking for a venue that will impress, no need to spend big dollars or travel long distances. The most memorable spot is right next door at the Reading Public Museum. Make it your masterpiece.

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Revel in the splendor of an outdoor wedding ceremony and reception on the deck at Emily’s, or indulge your fancy with the intimate and cozy atmosphere at Yellow House Hotel, including quaint overnight accommodations.

Contact us today to discuss your bridal party plans.

Yellow House Hotel 6743 Boyertown Pike (Rt. 562 & 662) Douglassville, PA 19518 610.689.9410 www.yellowhousehotel.com

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Can you imagine a Wedding Day moment where you have the opportunity to tell each other uninterrupted Words of Passion when you see each other the first time on your wedding day? Some of the most romantic photographs are often captured following this "romantic private time" prior to the ceremony! This tender portrait experience allows ample time for creative and dreamy portraits of you without interfering with natural flow of your wedding day. After all, isn't this when you feel and look your very best? ďż˝ Kerri and Mark Searfoss, Searfoss Designer Portraits

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